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| 6 | Uncle Vasya’s Guide to Outcome Independence or Welcome to Level 99 DGAFI've improved my life in many ways, but cold approaching is still something I struggle with from time to time. You just go up and say anything, its a conversation with a girl not a mathematician-make it an emotionally charged one with humor and some raunchy humor (that's what I do). Whatever you end up saying, make it congruent to your personality. If you wait until you "feel" attractive enough, you will never approach. It's just fun man, not that serious, worst she does is say no and you move o… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/07/18 07:06 PM |
| 146 | Uncle Vasya’s Guide to Outcome Independence or Welcome to Level 99 DGAFYou internalize outcome independence when you have abundance, and you gain abundance when you’re outcome independent. Since I started hooking up with more girls, have a FWB, go on swipe apps, talk to girls in person, in the day, at bars, everywhere, it becomes easier and more fun. Once you internalize the fact that the worst that can happen is she’ll say “no”, you realize you have nothing to lose. Instead of dreading “the approach”, you feel excitement. When you do approach, the girl gets fluste… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/07/18 04:01 PM |
| 2 | It's finally happening and it feels good.The people who think this post is bullshit either: 1) Never put in the work themselves. 2) Haven't experienced a drastic shift in their realities, so this is "unattainable" given the lack of work they've put in. Great job bro, and never forget that all this shit doesn't just fall into your lap. You had to work to build it, and now you have to work to maintain it. | /r/TheRedPill | 23/06/18 01:07 PM |
| 22 | Blue Pill Guy Pays For Food, Car Parts, etc for GF's "Cousin" Who Lives With Her And Shares A Bed...Surprise! It's Her Ex.This is a classic beta bux situation to a RP man. The gf was fucking her ex and hamstered it as "other guys turned her down" for the living situation to him. Then, she finally found a poor sap willing enough to bankroll the situation. Even after she TOLD HIM that it was her ex, he couldn't see the elephant in the room so he posted on reddit. When the BP conditioning runs so deep and scarcity mentality is all you've known your whole life, this is what you're left with. | /r/TheRedPill | 23/06/18 12:37 PM |
| 1 | The Essence of StoicismThe ideal can never be achieved, but it is always there to indicate whether or not we are moving in the right direction. This is what a perfectionist needs to internalize, especially if you started beta. You will consistently improve, but it will feel as if it's never enough. Once you get to a point where you realize you will never reach the ideal, you learn to improve while accepting who you currently are. | /r/TheRedPill | 22/06/18 12:30 AM |
| 7 | Stoicism is an evolutionary defense mechanism in men. It is designed to protect us.Brother, you are likely older than me and more experienced, but let me tell you something from my experience. NEVER, and I mean NEVER fucking let a girl question your reality. You know who you are at your core, you know how you got to where you are today. You were vulnerable and wanted companionship and support, that’s not fucking BP, that’s being a human being. I hate when this place has a black and white way of thinking. Many times, you’ll see posts here hating on girls, calling them all bitch… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/06/18 03:05 AM |
| 287 | Stoicism is an evolutionary defense mechanism in men. It is designed to protect us."It’s not falling in love that deters a man. It’s the excruciating pain of the discrepancy between reality and our imagined expectations." This is what all newcomers and guys in the anger phase need to internalize. While this sub is meant for sexual strategy, many guys still make girls out to be monsters. If we didn't project fantasies and preconceived realities onto a girl, our expectations would be in line with what reality is. Then, when your turn is over or the plate breaks, there isn't a ma… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/06/18 01:44 AM |
| 1 | Where to find the fine line with girls & TRP?She just broke a boundary 10 mins ago. She's not gonna guilt trip me about fucking, she's gonna guilt trip me that I want to see other girls/drop because she crossed a boundary. Yeah, I'm gonna start gaming other girls now. | /r/askTRP | 16/06/18 11:32 PM |
| 1 | Where to find the fine line with girls & TRP?Fuckkkkkkk, I think this is the same situation I’m in. I know for a fact she was talking to 2 guys before me (1 orbiter horribly BP guy and 1 guy was another guy she was dating), she branch swung to me. She was probably a slut before, but now she’s a huge slut for me. I was about to dump her a week ago because of some shit, sex got ramped up, and now I’m back to square one lol. I feel the same about the RP resolve. I think a part of me is scared to lose the pussy too. This is why RP preaches to … | /r/askTRP | 16/06/18 01:39 AM |
| 2 | Where to find the fine line with girls & TRP?About to be 24. I was BP most of my life. Now that I have frame, game, high SMV, RP aware, every fiber in my being is telling me to spin plates and develop abundance and have fun. However, social conditioning and friend circle are urging me to stay in a relationship, monogamy, etc. I also feel a little scarcity right now, because I’m not actively pursuing/gaming multiple girls. | /r/askTRP | 16/06/18 01:10 AM |
| 2 | Where to find the fine line with girls & TRP?Basically she has a good family life, decent friends, etc. The effort on my end is very low, she feels more like a FWB than a relationship, but we’re exclusive. In addition to good sex, she’s cooked, brought me food, folded clothes for me, etc. good housewife stuff. However, I have seen RP truths and I can’t unsee that now. She has orbiters, trickle truths, etc. I don’t think she’s a total slut, but I think she would cheat once and never bring it up. My whole issue is that I want to fuck other g… | /r/askTRP | 16/06/18 01:08 AM |
| 1 | Where to find the fine line with girls & TRP?Thanks bro. I was seeing another girl at the same time as this one and I dropped her to be exclusive. The thing that I am unsure about is whether or not I'm not ready, because it's actually getting serious (my last relationship was with a BPD), or because my gut is right and I just need to spin plates and have that abundance again? It doesn't help that I've seen AWALT on many occasions. | /r/askTRP | 15/06/18 11:40 PM |
| 1 | Hold Frame Everywhere, No Matter WhatThat’s why when you first learn about TRP, it’s a bitter pill to swallow and you go through the phases. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/06/18 09:39 PM |
| 2 | Hold Frame Everywhere, No Matter WhatIt’s because of the ego. When you challenge someone’s worldview/everything they know, they feel a lack: as if they’ve been lied to their whole lives or an inferiority complex (how can he have done X when I was in the same circumstance and I thought it was impossible??). A famous philosopher once said: “the only thing I know, is that I know nothing.” There’s so many possibilities and perspectives out there, it’s useless to think yours is always right. A frame backed by ego will crumble. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/06/18 07:22 PM |
| 2 | Hold Frame Everywhere, No Matter WhatThis is something I've been mulling over recently and I've come to the conclusion that it is worth being objective about a "defect" that you can work on and actively change. You hit the nail on the head with doing careful analysis to see your own faults and triggers. Personally, emotional triggers are big for me. A lot used to trigger me, but since I started this journey, very few things do now. Many people cannot take an objective look at themselves/their lives and assess what needs to be impro… | /r/TheRedPill | 03/06/18 09:20 PM |
| 1 | Hold Frame Everywhere, No Matter WhatHahaha I love it bro. It sounds like you’ve done something similar. I definitely talk bullshit with the main guy more than work stuff. I tried to set the protege frame from the start, not to kiss his ass, but he’s a genuinely chill guy. He’s very RP when it comes to work, but I BP at home (he married a single mom lol). However, if the whole purpose of this is to demonstrate abundance, I already give that off. They know I’m charming, charismatic, and funny so I can score another job with relative… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/06/18 09:33 PM |
| 2 | Hold Frame Everywhere, No Matter WhatI’m not looking to push it just for the sake of pushing it, because I’ve already turned it up a lot and get 95% of things I want. I do things at my convenience, I’ll take vacation with short notice if I need to, go to doctors appointments last minute, they know I prioritize my health and well being before anything. I agree, the most senior guy even said “you should host X meeting, convince your class of recent hires of Y”. Most people at work are PLAGUED by social conditioning, they dare not roc… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/06/18 03:47 PM |
| 1 | Hold Frame Everywhere, No Matter WhatAll within 2-3 months of being hired: Demanding changes in my schedule, saying no to extra work (at least 5x) asking for a change back to the original schedule, staying home at least 5-6 times without approval, coming late and leaving early 5+ times without telling anyone. After 4-6 months: getting in a huge fight with a manager which caused tension on the team for 2+ months, saying I feel like I’m being singled out, emphasizing that I’m never working more than 40 hours to the most senior person… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/06/18 01:25 PM |
| 1 | Hold Frame Everywhere, No Matter WhatSometimes I say “I want X” implying that I want her to do it for me. Other times, I ask “can you do X”? I don’t think I ever say it like she’s a dog. My ex gf, I talked to like that because she was mentally fucked up. My new girl is more stable, comes from a good family. I’ve tried that approach and it doesn’t work. If she says no, I convince her and make the task seem fun. I noted in the original post: she WANTS to do these things for you if you’re a high SMV guy & always make menial tasks into… | /r/TheRedPill | 02/06/18 01:16 PM |
| 4 | Hold Frame Everywhere, No Matter WhatThat’s the way I perceive it, because Imposter Syndrome is you looking for chinks in your armor. You could physically be Chad, but be a wreck on the inside. That’s you shit testing yourself. Those voices of doubt are you testing yourself. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/06/18 03:36 AM |
| 5 | Hold Frame Everywhere, No Matter WhatThanks bro, glad you thought so. I think the problem with guys when they first start here is that they’ve been beta most of their lives, so even SPRINKLING in beta behavior is a HUGE no to them. Not only would it feel incongruent to what they’re trying to become (alpha, asshole, douchebag); they would probably get unconsciously triggered from any beta behavior. These are the guys that are “faking it” to make it. Showing affection and comfort is important for longer stints with girls. It’s still … | /r/TheRedPill | 02/06/18 03:25 AM |
| 1 | Hold Frame Everywhere, No Matter WhatThanks for the kind words. Stay on your path, keep working hard, and stay consistent. The mindset builds over time. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/06/18 03:14 AM |
| 3 | Hold Frame Everywhere, No Matter WhatSometimes,I tell stories of doing absolutely crazy shit and getting away with it. People either think I’m making it up, think I’m retarded, or revere me as a God. What do all of these have in common? The stories are so disconnected from the individual’s reality, that they cannot fathom the outcome that I tell them being a possibility. That’s why often times when I read stories on this very forum, I thought people were just writing random bullshit on the internet. Once you experience a lot of it … | /r/TheRedPill | 01/06/18 07:55 PM |
| 2 | Hold Frame Everywhere, No Matter WhatAt times, yes, if it’s something I have an ego about. Most of the time, hell no. That’s how I got to where I am right now. You can’t ever improve without evaluating where your faults lie, or by fucking up. If you’re completely changing your life around, dropping old habits for new hobbies, doing things WAY outside your comfort zone-you will fuck up. You will fuck up over and over again. How do you get better? By admitting you fucked up and evaluating how and what you could’ve done better. Be ver… | /r/TheRedPill | 01/06/18 07:48 PM |
| 2 | Hold Frame Everywhere, No Matter WhatExactly, know your value in ALL aspects of life. Abundance isn’t a concept that exists only in the world of girls. There’s abundance everywhere, for everything you desire. If you wouldn’t stay with a shitty/abusive plate or relationship, why stay in a toxic workplace? Because of scarcity mentality. | /r/TheRedPill | 01/06/18 04:10 PM |
| 1 | Hold Frame Everywhere, No Matter WhatExactly. We have the physique, girls, career, social circle, status to prove it. But as I highlighted in the post, none of that shit matters if your mindset is not there. There is an inverse relationship between how long you’ve been that guy and the frequency of with which the voice pops up. Stay the course and eventually it’ll silence. | /r/TheRedPill | 01/06/18 04:05 PM |
| 1 | Hold Frame Everywhere, No Matter WhatFrame. I’m the cocky/funny guy who only cares to self amuse. It’s a stressful job at times, but I’m always joking around, lightening the mood, being playful. When it comes time to work, they know I’ll work and get shit done. Within 2 months of getting hired, I had already gotten special treatment, approval to change my hours, etc. Keep in mind this is a professional corporate job in a F500. I came in with the attitude of what I will do (work 40 hours, not 1 hour more because I value life outside… | /r/TheRedPill | 01/06/18 12:26 PM |
| 2 | Hold Frame Everywhere, No Matter WhatThanks for the kind words. Good to hear you’re improving your frame. In the beginning, you will have to consciously remind yourself about your frame and who you are. Over time, it’ll be internalized and you’ll have other people step into your frame. Frame is key in all aspects of life, you won’t even believe what a strong frame will allow you to do/get for you at times. I’m still working on mine, strengthening with each lifting session, each interaction. | /r/TheRedPill | 01/06/18 12:18 PM |
| 30 | Hold Frame Everywhere, No Matter WhatHolding frame is understanding that reality is subjective. What I mean by this is: the way you see reality is not the way the person next to you does. This is why when 2 people are looking at the same thing, one perceives it as a “glass half full” circumstance, and the other as a “glass half empty” circumstance. When you hold frame, you realize that your reality, is the only reality that matters. If you’re a noob or fat guy going to the gym and fear others are judging how much weight you’re push… | /r/TheRedPill | 01/06/18 12:15 PM |
| 2 | Hold Frame Everywhere, No Matter WhatAppreciate the kind words. First off, congrats on your newfound success and changing your life. I was thinking about this the other day and what causes it. If you’ve been a victim of social conditioning for most of your life, 1-2 decades+, then the internal change won’t happen overnight. The best thing you can do is take the actions that you know will turn you into the man you want to become. At first, it’ll be very hard. But as you continue along your journey, the internal struggle will happen … | /r/TheRedPill | 01/06/18 12:08 PM |
| 23 | Hold Frame Everywhere, No Matter WhatThis is what the crux of frame is. What I mean by EXPECTING these things from my girl is the following: 1) Right from the get go I asked her to do small things for me here and there. For example, before we even went on our first date, she knew that when I go out with a girl, the girl always pays for the first date (drinks), and she happily did. 2) I asked her to do little things here and there (tie my shoes when we went ice skating, bring her vape pen over, cook me breakfast at her place). Even … | /r/TheRedPill | 01/06/18 12:00 PM |
| 2 | Cycle of extreme confidence to doubtYeah exactly, also any progress is progress. I used to be totally autistic with girls and now if I know a girl is kind of into me, I can game the shit out of her. I think when we have our little fuck ups, it brings back memories of who we USED to be, even though we aren't that person anymore. Maybe it's just me, but I'm becoming more accepting of any mistake, because everyone, even the natural born alpha chad, makes mistakes. | /r/askTRP | 29/05/18 11:12 PM |
| 1 | Cycle of extreme confidence to doubtYou should read the entire thing. Your answer is kind of applicable though, because I do feel extreme depression for no reason from time to time. | /r/askTRP | 29/05/18 08:09 PM |
| 1 | Cycle of extreme confidence to doubtI used to have imposter syndrome REALLY bad. I mean I couldn’t objectively assess how far I’d come. Now I only feel it once in a blue moon. I guess 1.5 years of improvement on a couple of decades of BP conditioning isn’t enough. I have noticed serious progress though, so in another 1.5 years I’ll likely feel this even less frequently. I don’t jerk off so it’s not that. | /r/askTRP | 29/05/18 08:08 PM |
| 2 | Cycle of extreme confidence to doubtI meditate everyday. Yeah, I always think towards my accomplishments and how far I've come. However, now that I've gotten this far, this is the new norm and I have even higher goals set for myself. I'm still not sure what's causing this/how to resolve. Usually the next day things are good, but I'm not sure why I feel like this in the first place. | /r/askTRP | 28/05/18 11:57 PM |
| 1 | Am I incapable of a relationship?That's what happens when you're high SMV and have game. Once you blow through a couple of shit tests, the girl will become heavily invested/latch on. I haven't tried the distance thing, but I'm going to try to reduce our meet ups to 2x a week, max 3. She's a lot of fun, but I wanna game others. | /r/askTRP | 20/05/18 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Am I incapable of a relationship?There's plenty of instances where the guy and girl are dating/LTR and the guy soft nexts and starts treating LTR like plate; they do so knowing that the plate will eventually break. | /r/askTRP | 20/05/18 06:09 PM |
| 1 | Am I incapable of a relationship?Why can't I downgrade her? I agree with your point, that's why I want to downgrade her so I can game other girls and get a couple plates going. | /r/askTRP | 19/05/18 10:00 PM |
| 1 | How to treat girl like LTR?Thanks, good idea. I’m gonna start talking to other girls too. | /r/askTRP | 14/05/18 05:53 PM |
| 1 | How to treat girl like LTR?The whole point of this post is that I do want to make her my gf, but I treat her pretty poorly most of the time: how do I find the balance between maintaining my natural cocky/funny, teasing style and do well with comfort? | /r/askTRP | 14/05/18 11:43 AM |
| 1 | How to treat girl like LTR?Solid advice. To add to what you said, I've read many tales of guys in LTR who became betaized and their game was shit after they broke up. I like to game because it's fun. I don't even go out of my way, I'll game at work, on the street, meeting new people, etc. It's not even "gaming", it's just self amusing and drawing people into my frame. Thanks for the advice! | /r/askTRP | 14/05/18 03:29 AM |
| 1 | How to treat girl like LTR?Thanks, that's good advice. I read TRP a lot, have learned a lot, and have shifted my perspective thanks to this place. What you said just now really spoke to me-managing expectations. Sometimes I think very black and white and expect the girl to be perfect (which is unrealistic), everyone has flaws. She has been great 80% of the time, and a lot of fun, so I think I'll keep it rolling. And yea, I expect her to get hit on, she's HB8 when dressed up with make up. | /r/askTRP | 14/05/18 01:36 AM |
| 2 | How to treat girl like LTR?That's what I do, and it's not even intentional. I'm naturally cocky-funny, push-pull, like to tease, have fun, playful. I know she loves it, because she goes from hating me, to fucking me, to telling me how much she cares about me, to not texting me, to blowing up my phone when I get mad. I care, because we said we were gonna be exclusive, she wanted to commit to me and because she does all of this shit for me. It's not oneitis, but I am emotionally invested because I'm only seeing her; she's d… | /r/askTRP | 13/05/18 10:58 PM |
| 6 | Going radio silence for few daysIdk where to start here..... let's see: First of all, she gave you LMR; you should've backed off, done something else, and escalated again. "She was pissed, she was upset" that doesn't mean she didn't wanna have sex. You guys were in your underwear and making out, what do you think she wanted to happen next? "At the park she proceeds to tell me everything wrong with her life and all her issues she has while my arm is around her." Congrats, you managed to go from (in her eyes) Chad to emotional t… | /r/askTRP | 12/05/18 06:08 PM |
| 1 | How do you let go of issues from your childhood?Thanks so much for the response, I agree. Idk why, at times I just feel overwhelmed and get bogged up on this thought. | /r/askTRP | 06/05/18 01:38 AM |
| 1 | How do you let go of issues from your childhood?Yeah, I feel like I'm much more independent, less needy, and own my shit more. Instead of victimizing I take action. Most guys I meet don't have a mission, don't work on themselves, etc., which is strange, because I thought they would have that male guidance to do so. Thank you so much for the response bro, I appreciate it. | /r/askTRP | 06/05/18 01:38 AM |
| 1 | Am I Getting Oneitis/Losing Frame?It's gf shit + sex. Lol yeah, I know it can seem that way, but honestly those types of girls are boring. Plus the SMV disparity was way too high and I could be doing much better, so I dropped her. I'll try to get another girl in the rotation and see how things change. | /r/askTRP | 05/05/18 10:43 PM |
| 1 | Am I Getting Oneitis/Losing Frame?But like I said in the post, I genuinely like her (from time to time). Maybe I just want a relationship, idk. On the other hand, I don’t wanna become betaized, that’s for sure. I’ll see how it goes, thanks. | /r/askTRP | 05/05/18 01:55 PM |
| 1 | Am I Getting Oneitis/Losing Frame?Yeah, I actually felt bored with her today, so we definitely need some distance. Once a week is LOW, probably twice like the guy above said. It's not even about plates, honestly I want to focus on my shit and have a consistent supply of pussy. That's it, and I'm getting bored which is unfortunate. | /r/askTRP | 05/05/18 06:02 AM |
| 1 | Am I Getting Oneitis/Losing Frame?Other side bitch was too needy, literally did what I wanted all of the time, not challenging, but gave bomb head. That's a good point; like I said in the post, I like spending time with her. She cooks, cleans for me. Helps with laundry, etc. Basically does all of the shit a gf does, with the emotional tether of a FWB. | /r/askTRP | 05/05/18 06:01 AM |
| 2 | When she's sick of your shit.Same, today I felt similar things, and even posted something in askTRP. Idk what's going on with me, but I'm not feeling like myself lately. | /r/TheRedPill | 05/05/18 05:56 AM |
| 5 | plate says I am "manipulative" and "play games"Great and spot fucking on comment. I had/have a similar experience with a girl I'm currently seeing. | /r/askTRP | 05/05/18 05:30 AM |
| 1 | Mood Crash After Sex?I’m aware of it, I’ve read think and grow rich and believe it to be true. One time I went 75 days+ without fapping and I was very productive, and very intense. It sounds like I need to find a healthy balance between orgasms for myself. | /r/askTRP | 02/05/18 12:21 PM |
| 1 | Mood Crash After Sex?Yeah I do, it’s been 1 girl I’ve been consistently banging. | /r/askTRP | 02/05/18 12:19 PM |
| 2 | Mood Crash After Sex?This is my theory: it is from a huge, sustained spike in dopamine, followed by a crash. | /r/askTRP | 02/05/18 01:52 AM |
| 3 | Continuing my LTR - am I just addicted?It's not your responsibility to "stabilize" her and provide comfort. If the roles were reversed and you were going through the struggle, she would've likely cheated/dumped if you showed weakness. That being said, TRP provides tools for navigating the SMP, maximizing your SMV, etc. Part of TRP is LTR game. If you are truly happy with her (not addicted, not oneitis) then there's no reason to just dump her. If you don't NEED her, but enjoy her company, care for her, have good sex, which it sounds l… | /r/askTRP | 02/05/18 12:20 AM |
| 2 | Number closed at the gymI intentionally acted autistic after asking for her #. I did the awkward hand shake into fist bump into half hug, into "woah that's too far" into handshake, and finally hugged her like a normal person. It doesn't matter what you do lol. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/05/18 12:13 AM |
| 1 | Number closed at the gymIrrational confidence is often times fake; when you work on yourself, build your life to what makes you truly happy, YOU ARE THE PRIZE. It doesn't become some nonsense mantra you repeat. When Leonardo DiCaprio approaches a model, do you think he's being "irrationally confident" or approaching with normal confidence and just being himself? When you become that high SMV guy, there's no reason to dub it irrational, it's just who you are. | /r/TheRedPill | 02/05/18 12:09 AM |
| 3 | Number closed at the gymNa I just go to the gym to lift and it's one of my favorite places. I don't care if a girl rejects me, because in my mind my SMV is way above hers (good looking, fit, confident, GROUNDED energy, had the balls to approach, etc.); it's her loss, not mine. Good point on the "save your # in my phone". On dating apps that's how I am, I tell them to just give me their #. I will work to transition that to in person game, thanks for that! | /r/TheRedPill | 30/04/18 12:56 AM |
| 2 | Number closed at the gymThanks for the advice bro. I will try that line, usually I just ask to work in with them or something. Funny thing is, I'm young, graduated college a year ago, and got my first full time job some months after that. I moved to a completely new area 1 month ago, know no one here, and have nothing to lose myself ;) . I am nearing the point of not giving a fuck. I mean even at work, I just do and say shit that I want, curse, crack jokes at inappropriate times, and people respect me more for it. I ha… | /r/TheRedPill | 30/04/18 12:53 AM |
| 1 | Number closed at the gymYeah, that's the ultimate goal and you are 100% right. That's VERY difficult though, and breaching enlightenment territory (which is one of my long term goals). | /r/TheRedPill | 30/04/18 12:50 AM |
| 5 | Number closed at the gymThanks! Already having a FWB, multiple prospects, and not giving a fuck because I am too into my own shit helps. It's what caused me to go into the interaction with abundance mentality and why I was outcome independent. | /r/TheRedPill | 29/04/18 07:39 PM |
| 11 | Number closed at the gymHey bro, thanks for the feedback. I actually look like I lift, looks are great, good face, good height, etc. If this turns out to be nothing, that's fine. The point of this exercise is to build momentum, just like with anything else in life. In the gym, you don't just start lifting heavy ass weights, you start light and build on it. I used to be terrified of cold approaching, but doing it once or twice and seeing success (getting a number, even if it doesn't turn into anything), builds a positiv… | /r/TheRedPill | 29/04/18 07:37 PM |
| 1 | Is she BPD?I didn’t understand the power of withdrawing attention for a long time, because I never had the balls or abundance to do it. Just this week, for some shit she pulled, I didn’t respond to texts/snaps/calls for 36 hours, and she was putty in my hands the next day. Some girls REALLY need an emotional rollercoaster... | /r/askTRP | 28/04/18 01:52 PM |
| 1 | Is she BPD?I'm gonna FaceTime her, because I don't want her to pretend to forget. Looks like it's gonna be back to the drawing board lol. | /r/askTRP | 28/04/18 01:56 AM |
| 1 | Is she BPD?She does smoke pot and literally always rambles what's in her head. Actually now, that I think about it my ex-gf did the same thing. She just couldn't sit still in silence and often said nonsense just to get attention, everyone that knew her said the same thing. | /r/askTRP | 28/04/18 01:41 AM |
| 1 | Is she BPD?Dude wasn't home because he works a FT job and I was home and heard him come in after work. So unless he took a random run (he doesn't exercise). Not completely make up small shit for no reason. Why even bother saying that? That's why I'm so adamant, because if people think this is, then it's not worth the hassle. | /r/askTRP | 28/04/18 01:40 AM |
| 1 | Is she BPD?Yeah but completely fabricating a story is. I'd rather get out, I don't need that shit. | /r/askTRP | 28/04/18 01:27 AM |
| -4 | Girls and PersonalityMy bad, she said she didn’t like the taste of Reese’s because it’s PB and chocolate mixed. She did say it was too heavy too, but she said the taste thing initially. Then, I said I love Reese’s and she said “#metoo”. And finally I looked at her as if she had autism. | /r/TheRedPill | 26/04/18 11:28 AM |
| 1 | Girls and PersonalityI meant more in a group setting. “Where are we going out to eat?” You hear the betas/low SMV guys/girls mumble to themselves “I’m down for whatever....” and the hot girl is usually annoyingly indecisive, and alpha firmly states what he wants, which is usually where the group goes. I noticed this at work. My group had 5 people in that day: 2 low SMV guys, 1 low SMV girl, 1 hot girl, and me. The 3 low SMV people said they’re down for anything. The hot girl said “oh how about this Italian pizza pla… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/04/18 03:15 AM |
| 23 | Girls and PersonalityShe was the best thing that ever happened to me, and not in the gay BP way. After that breakup it was sink or swim: continue on the path of pothead, video game, TV show binge watching, autist, or re-invent myself into something I knew I was born to be. To the guy above: not literally mental problems, but yeah, a bit of a challenging girl. The ones that do whatever you say from the start are fucking boring and provide no growth. | /r/TheRedPill | 26/04/18 02:03 AM |
| 4 | Girls and PersonalityI felt sick to my stomach because this is yet another hot girl, social media whore, who probably has 100s of betas lined up ready to shower her with compliments, and even THAT external validation isn't enough to just be herself and have a fucking personality (yes I know beta validation is not worth much, but still). She'll reframe her own desires and reality, just to fit mine. There's no authenticity in it; now I'm beginning to understand why many guys say women are just good for their warm hole… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/04/18 12:02 AM |
| 10 | Girls and PersonalityYou are correct. With guys, it's not nearly as pathetic unless they're super beta or incel. But when you have high SMV and strong frame and confidence, you can make other people believe your reality is truth. I especially liked the way you phrased it: As long as you're higher value and more powerful, they will rationalize any behavior. I used to be the agreeable guy too. However, now that I'm on this side of things, reality is making me feel sick at times. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/04/18 08:22 PM |
| 89 | Girls and PersonalityMy first girlfriend and the girl I lost my virginity to , when I was BP, was BPD. On top of it, she was a hot blonde with blue eyes, lifted, and had an amazing body. Needless to say, I was destroyed afterwards, and she’s the one who led me to TRP. Relationships and girls are pretty easy now, but unless the girl has some mental disorder, massive insecurities, neediness, I get bored pretty quickly. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/04/18 05:43 PM |
| 26 | Girls and PersonalityI think if the SMV disparity is too large, or there’s too much dread and not enough comfort, this will always be an issue. It’s not blue pill to want a fucking girl with a personality, don’t take TRP so literally. It’s not always either alpha or beta, RP or BP. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/04/18 05:40 PM |
| 1 | Being aloof/an asshole with my oneitis (that I am plating) feels unbearableMy suggestion would be to find other plates and slowly phase this one out. If she has that strong of a pull on you, and you can pull other girls (you fucked 5 others), then I would create distance. However, if you guys actually like each other and you've vetted her (she has good character, goals, is driven, submissive, doesn't withhold sex, benefits you outside of the bedroom)-then you shouldn't be opposed to a relationship. But, if she brings up the relationship talk, then you definitely can't … | /r/askTRP | 24/04/18 08:20 PM |
| 1 | Swallowed TRP, did a 180, need helpI get that, but now when I come across a guy with higher SMV, or a quality that’s objectively better than one of mine, I see opportunity. Maybe I could learn something from him, maybe he works harder, maybe it’s a natural gift. I don’t immediately feel uncomfortable and if I do, I realize that the only person worth comparing yourself to is your past self. I don’t expect everyone to think this way, and I’m not some aging guru, I’m 23. It’s just kinda depressing. You think that when you become Cha… | /r/askTRP | 23/04/18 05:01 PM |
| 2 | Swallowed TRP, did a 180, need helpI just finished meditating and writing in my journal and came to a realization. I've been on this track and kind of a non stop "grind" (which I now realize 99% of people would call it), but to me it's simply a lifestyle, for 6+ months. Lifting, reading, hobbies, working, gaming/getting girls-it didn't happen overnight. What I just realized is that most people don't bother with half of this shit, so they see it as something "extra" or "out of their way". For me, this IS the way to my destination.… | /r/askTRP | 23/04/18 01:12 AM |
| 17 | Wake the Fuck Up and Start Taking Massive ActionI just made a post that emphasizes the role fear plays on human beings and how to overcome them. I looked at the newest threads to see if it posted successfully and I see this. What a "coincidence". | /r/TheRedPill | 22/04/18 04:14 AM |
| 2 | I never thought I'd be that guyI never went to the doctor/chiropractor for it. I just kept lifting and worked around it. I wasn't able to bend forward more than a couple of inches initially, then it healed with time, and around a year and a half later it felt perfect. I could do DLs/Squats now, but I choose not to. | /r/TheRedPill | 19/04/18 01:30 AM |
| 1 | I never thought I'd be that guyI have messed my lower back up before and I realize that there is no need to do those exercises in order to have nice legs/back. Best of luck on your journey. | /r/TheRedPill | 19/04/18 01:03 AM |
| 2 | Unattainbles - A Core Element of MasculinityThis was a great post and really resonated with me. Yesterday, I was writing in my journal and wrote down my VERY long term goals I will work towards each day in all areas that are important to me (physical, mental, spiritual, financial, social, etc.) Being specific, having an exact description of what you want, and thinking about it multiple times a day, will help keep you on track to conquer those goals. When you accomplish the "unattainable goals", you will create new goals that will seem "un… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/04/18 02:57 PM |
| 2 | Frame is EVERYTHINGNever lol, it's the stereotypical nerd game that came to mind. | /r/TheRedPill | 18/04/18 02:43 PM |
| 15 | Being A People-Pleaser: what it actually means, and how to rid yourself of this disgusting conditionBeing a people pleaser is selfish and often an attempt at manipulation. When people try to please others, it often stems from insecurities they have (I have to do X to make them like me, what if they judge me for doing Y). There's nothing inherently wrong with trying to please people, but it depends on the place it's coming from. If you are doing something nice for validation, in hopes that someone will like you, or with an expectation of getting something in return, that's "Nice Guy" syndrome. … | /r/TheRedPill | 18/04/18 02:41 PM |
| 4 | Frame is EVERYTHINGHey man-I know this well, because I experienced it too. What I said in one of my other posts was to just keep working on yourself. You'll reach a point where you are objectively further than how you see yourself (your mind and thoughts will be holding you back instead of propelling you forward); it will feel like "imposter syndrome", because for most of your life, you felt like a loser or unworthy. However, if you keep up with the improvement and living to your highest truths/mission, your minds… | /r/TheRedPill | 18/04/18 01:40 AM |
| 17 | Frame is EVERYTHINGYou just exemplified my point-it doesn't matter what the fuck you say. Like you, at times I'll have an opinion in mind and say the complete opposite with conviction and people will believe me. When you have a strong frame, you bend other people's frame. They will literally step into your reality, because you sound like you know what the fuck you're talking about. It's how you say it. Please don't go full autist and take this as "oh so if I say I eat turds everyday others will agree right ha ha".… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/04/18 07:46 PM |
| 67 | Frame is EVERYTHINGWorking on your insecurities is one thing. However, the important take away is while you are working on your insecurities, to be comfortable with them and own them. You should also ask yourself if it's even worth being insecure about (is it something like height you can never change, or being fat which you can change?) Also, realize that everyone has insecurities. I know TRP likes to be all "stoic about everything, insecure about nothing". Being human means having an insecurity or two, getting o… | /r/TheRedPill | 17/04/18 07:43 PM |
| 1 | A moment of mourning for the loss of a great contributor /u/Heathcliff--Heathcliff was a great contributor to this community. I especially enjoyed his writing style; it was informative, had a storytelling vibe, sprinkled with humor, and articulated VERY well. His healer/tank post yesterday highlighted some realities that I had known, but never consciously thought about (the part about applying to a "job" of being a wife). Another reason I really loved the posts, was because he wasn't a natural born alpha, bred to be alpha or TRP. I come from a similar place, and it … | /r/TheRedPill | 15/04/18 04:38 PM |
| 21 | The Healer and the TankMost men and women are brainwashed nowadays. Men are brainwashed into thinking it's sexist to not have women working at their level (merit, work ethic, past experience, education) DOES NOT MATTER. Men can be more qualified than girls for the job, but it would be sexist not to hire the girl. Women have been brainwashed into thinking that they need to be "strong, independent women", and make themselves miserable climbing the corporate ladder. Look at it from an evolutionary standpoint: Men are fig… | /r/TheRedPill | 14/04/18 03:48 PM |
| 14 | Fortis Fortuna AdiuvatThe hotter a girl is, the more you can push: teasing, playfully making fun of her, things that take away validation. This is because she’s hot, and she knows she’s hot: you doing this PLAYFULLY, will let her know you’re not putting her on a pedestal just because she’s hot, before you even know her. This has to be calibrated with pull: usually after many pushes, I’ll give a compliment: that’s a nice necklace you have, I like your hair/perfume, whatever. If you use these sparingly, in addition to … | /r/TheRedPill | 14/04/18 02:14 PM |
| 117 | Breaking down bitchy behaviorI have a thing for those bratty, bitchy princess types. They’re usually the hottest and have been on a pedestal their whole life. Then, I roll through teasing, negging, push/pulling (and with these it’s 80% push), taking away validation, and they have no idea what to do/say. These types really need a daddy. | /r/TheRedPill | 12/04/18 01:23 PM |
| 2 | The Five Stages of Red PillPeople who don’t come out, will go on living a blue pill life. They will hope to find a “unicorn” or, find someone that will do disrespectful things, run the relationship, and potentially cheat on them. For some, it takes much longer than others to swallow; others may never come to terms with it. I started TRP in June of last year, so almost a year ago. My life has improved substantially; this place isn’t a good resource just for sexual strategy-it gives you advice on how to be a man. It teaches… | /r/TheRedPill | 12/04/18 01:19 PM |
| 1 | I never thought I'd be that guyGirl who comes over to blow me is a 6, girl I'm fucking is an 8. Met both through Bumble. If you have high SMV, dating apps work well. I've met girls at bars and the gym before too. Like I said, I'm a bitch when it comes to approaching, it's an area I need to improve on. Even though my SMV's good, and don't need to "approach and game", I want to get better at cold approach. | /r/TheRedPill | 10/04/18 01:36 AM |
| 1 | I never thought I'd be that guyI started reading in June, implementing (really working on myself, game, etc.), October-November of 2017. 23 now, sex life is good. I have 2 plates, probably have time for 1 more MAX. 1 I fuck multiple times a week and actually really like her. The other, literally comes over just to blow me and cuddle. Interactions are completely different; if there's one key piece of advice I can give you, it's this: Girls are not men, turn off your logical brain when speaking with them. You need to get in tun… | /r/TheRedPill | 10/04/18 01:19 AM |
| 2 | I never thought I'd be that guyDisclaimer: Before I begin, I'm going to give a disclaimer-this is going to be a fucking essay with no TL;DR. All of the soyboy, ADHD, fidget spinning kids will and should skip over it. However, those who read through, will find innumerable value in it. Intro I am a 23 year old "low SMV " race guy (Indian), who has done a 180 with his life. 1 and a half years ago, I was a virgin, skinny fat guy, played a lot of video games, binge watched TV shows, did not even have the attention span to watch a … | /r/TheRedPill | 10/04/18 12:30 AM |
| 11 | The Five Stages of Red PillI highlighted these stages in my most recent post. For most guys, I think depression is the most drawn out stage. Once you learn "game", which is basically your natural instinct from when you were a kid (not take girls seriously, tease them, have fun), you will quickly power through the denial and anger stages. You will begin to see success, get dates, makeouts, blowjobs, lays. Once the veil lifts, you will become jaded and your previous worldview will be shattered. All you have known your entir… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/04/18 11:52 PM |
| 2 | Water fasting for High SMVI want to get shredded for the summer, I'm not fat (13%). I feel the issue with something like this (or getting down to single digits), is that when you try to do it naturally, your test/sex drive take a dip. My blood test results came back at 950+ test (HIGH) and don't want to risk it dipping unnecessarily. There are diminishing returns with trying to get shredded. Personally, I feel my sex drive drops off a cliff if I'm cutting hard and lifting heavy. How does the water fast influence your moo… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/04/18 11:38 PM |
| 3 | The Art of FemininityThis needs to be made into its own post, pointed, or gilded. This is a very abstract post, but has immense value and truth to it. As you grow more into your masculinity, you will see the polar opposite of the sexes. Men take risks, actions, create, build, lead. Women are submissive, receptive, and take form of the man she is with. As I worked on myself more and more, I find myself wildly attracted to the extreme feminine type, the more emotional, the better. | /r/TheRedPill | 08/04/18 05:04 PM |
| 2 | How did you guys become more talkative, funnier/wittier and the likeThe way to become the life of the party is to have full confidence in yourself and speak unapologetically and with conviction. In my social circle, at work, meeting a new group, or even on a date-I say what I want to say. I say the things that will make me laugh, amuse me, what I find interesting. A lot of the shit I say is controversial and out of context (i.e. inappropriate jokes in a professional corporate environment). Before you go on calling me a sperg, this has become part of my character… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/04/18 04:23 PM |
| 1 | I never thought I'd be that guyMy towel was in the next room, but I was so horny I didn’t care. | /r/TheRedPill | 08/04/18 03:22 PM |
| 3 | I never thought I'd be that guyI used to lift more often, I miss lifting 5-6x a week. I do heavy push, heavy pull, heavy legs. I don’t bench, squat, or deadlift in the conventional sense. I do 3 sets, 5-8 rep range. For push day: I would do incline dumbbell press, incline machine, OHP, skull crushers, flies, many variations of lateral raises (this shit gets broad shoulders), then some tricep machine or rope pushdown. For pull day: weighted pull ups with 60 lb dumbbell, dumbbell rows, hammer curls, shrugs, lat pulldown variati… | /r/TheRedPill | 08/04/18 03:21 PM |
| 1 | I never thought I'd be that guyI’ll talk about it because I don’t give a shit what people think; plus it’s extra lubricant. | /r/TheRedPill | 08/04/18 03:13 PM |
| 1 | I never thought I'd be that guyI have the last post saved on my computer. It’s even longer than this one-you still want it? | /r/TheRedPill | 08/04/18 03:12 PM |
| 1 | I never thought I'd be that guyThanks bro, I’ll definitely drop some nuggets of wisdom from time to time. | /r/TheRedPill | 08/04/18 03:11 PM |
| 3 | I never thought I'd be that guyI think depression is the longest phase for anyone who’s gone through them all. The whole reason you start this journey (not self improvement, which is part of the scope of TRP), but the gaming and learning sexual dynamics, is to get girls. Once the veil lifts, you see how easily you can get them, and you understand their true nature, it’s undoing a lifetime of social conditioning. Beta males & ugly fat girls will hate your newfound confidence and frame, but you won’t care. Eventually, you will … | /r/TheRedPill | 08/04/18 03:10 PM |
| 8 | I never thought I'd be that guyRSD is real social dynamics, it’s a group that posts on YouTube. There’s massive value in their infield footage, speeches, and spirituality related videos. | /r/TheRedPill | 08/04/18 03:07 PM |
| 11 | I never thought I'd be that guyI agree, I don't have script memorized or anything. This is what came to mind when I actually sat down and analyzed what had happened. I go on to say these interactions are actually fun. | /r/TheRedPill | 07/04/18 10:56 PM |
| 6 | You don't know your true potentialIt doesn't make people a piece of shit, but consistently smoking weed (not once in a while with the boys, or a girl, or for spiritual purposes), when it becomes a "habit" or "hobby", will make you comfortable with things you otherwise wouldn't be comfortable with. I had skin issues, ED, and questionable hormones. Instead of confronting them, I smoked and watched Twitch streamers, and I was okay with this, because it wasn't really me, it was me when I was high. It's when you realize you have issu… | /r/TheRedPill | 31/03/18 04:46 PM |
| 9 | You don't know your true potentialOne of the most important aspects regarding self consciousness is perception of self. If you see yourself as someone who is good looking, genuinely work towards it, and just fucking try (haircut, clean up face, lift, fitted clothes), others will as well. You will begin to carry yourself with the confidence you develop from doing those things; at first you will feel like an impostor, because all you have known your whole life is lacking confidence, being self conscious, and caring what other peop… | /r/TheRedPill | 31/03/18 04:41 PM |
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