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It's funny, I had read things like that, including FDS! It's one thing to know it, another to apply it consistently. I didn't waste time with an explanation when I left my ex just a month or so before I formally cut off my friend. A part of me still had hope for him, I think because he was never malicious like my ex, just very ignorant and emotionally immature. Goes to show it doesn't matter what their intent/reason is. To explain your actions of self preservation is to imply it's up for debate,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 09:57 PM
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I have definitely known both men and women who let their life stagnate due to fixating on/prioritizing gaming. It's much less common in women, I think, but definitely something to keep in mind. I'm starting school up again soon, and I know the time I'll be able to use to unwind with gaming is going to be waaaay more limited than it is presently. That's life. Sometimes you can afford to just enjoy life for a bit, indulge in escapism, and other times you have to buckle down and grind (the former a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 10:49 PM
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Agreed on the yellow flag bit, anytime a man self identifies as a gamer I immediately think "oh no" and engage with some healthy skepticism and extra precaution just by virtue of how overwhelmingly toxic Gamer Boys are. There definitely are some highly addictive games, but those play more like gambling simulations with extra steps than good wholesome games where you adventure with friends in a fantasy setting imo. In all things there should be balance :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 10:37 PM
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Respectfully, I have to ask. Is it really gaming which is making you worry your boyfriend would neglect your hypothetical children? Or do you feel neglected for a variety of reasons, with his gaming rubbing you the wrong way because it's the most obvious aspect of him not having his priorities in order? Does he leave household chores and responsibilities undone to game? Does he ignore your emotional needs to go game? I have a clean house and am able to stay in tune with my partner despite gaming…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 04:30 PM
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Ooh absolutely! I've poked at this and the response is usually "well it's not even challenging" lmao okay and?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 04:16 PM
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Before I had the good sense to drop the creep, I had a NVM friend who was attractive enough to have women trying to sleep with him. 2 of my friends slept with him, and he was half chubbed at best for both. He was young and fit, there was no reason for him to be impotent. Both my (pickme) friends had multiple occasions where it seemed like he was going to make a move but then made some excuse to not until one night he got them drunk while he stayed fairly sober (this wasn't a three way to be clea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 08:32 AM
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That's the way to do it. Say what you need to show you're not a pushover then get out of there. No point wasting your energy on people who think they can do no wrong!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 09:04 PM
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Very common. A lot of men, particularly narcissists, may express emotions only to manipulate and they assume that's what you're doing. My ex loved to insult me on a variety of things he knew I was self conscious about and then call me manipulative for crying. He would laugh or smirk or roll his eyes when I was upset, frustrated, hurt, whatever emotion I had was a joke to him. "It's impossible to listen to you when you take that tone. How can you expect me to take you seriously when you can't eve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/22 08:54 PM
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Not trying too hard to impress you, is simply confident he will impress you when you observe the evidence. Doesn't take it to heart when criticized or laughed at because he's self assured.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 07:47 PM
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This is going to be the reason somebody ignores red flags and ends up getting killed. Pickme's are going to buy into this "it's just a joke" (which obviously, to most of these scrotes it is a joke, because they don't take the dangers women face seriously), but it's not always going to be a joke. There's a man out there right now who is violent and hateful and will think it's his fucking destiny to marry a Madonna or kill a whore if he is "tricked" into dating one, and he's making these jokes rig…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 07:31 PM
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Energy vampirism is rampant amongst men. "Oh you're happy about something while I'm a stagnant, miserable little git? Let me just offload all my negative emotions, my anxiety and 'rEaLisTiC cOnCeRnS' with you right now so you feel sad and exhausted instead of savoring your well deserved happiness"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 08:34 PM
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I understand why you feel this way. You seem to be coming from a place of wanting to support other women and be a united front against men because that's how it feels against us. I do think cultural context really matters in this. Where I live, getting a divorce is very common and most of the time only a minor setback in life. In other cultures I understand a woman getting divorced for her infidelity means losing rights, losing her support system, possibly even losing her life. In those cases, I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 06:01 AM
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I'm so tired of my friends bringing their LVM around. I'm tired of having to act like they aren't irritating the fuck out out of me. How do I tell my friend she's dating a smug dumb ass LVM and she can do so much better (just not in this town) without her getting pissed at me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 04:38 AM
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I had this abusive boyfriend I was in an on and off relationship with. The last cycle of abuse after I had moved out and he seemed to have a spiritual awakening, he was practically a different person. He was so much more in tune with his emotions (so I thought), acknowledged that he treated me "poorly and was toxic" (though he never actually said "I'm sorry" for anything, but I was so thrilled and willing to believe that he had changed for real this time it wasn't until I reflected later that I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 02:49 AM
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HVM will pay attention to your body language in sex and notice when you're not having a good time, provided you're either a terrible actor or (preferably) genuine in your responses. He'll try new things, he'll take note of what you respond positively to, he'll ask questions if he needs to. You don't need to hand him a script or direct him, he will proactively seek an education in your body, he'll try to learn things even you didn't know about you because he is passionate about you. The process w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 04:00 AM
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"He never used to be this way" Words from almost every victim of domestic abuse. This woman has been manipulated and groomed for this. Our culture helped groom her for this. She has been bullied into thinking that kink shaming her husband is worse than being degraded, hit, and raped by her husband. I hope she's looking into escaping that nightmare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 07:18 AM
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I know you're hurting and disappointed and want to believe it will turn around. I know you want to believe that it can be logically waved away with "he's stressed out right now because xyz reasonable sounding excuses". There's always stressors in life. There's going to be worse things giving him stress later, too. And he's not going to improve his behavior because it's working for him. Know that you can do the hard thing, because it's right for you and even though you are feeling low and your se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 07:07 AM
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I think you misunderstand what is meant here by "male attention". You like being found attractive by men, and there's nothing wrong with that, that's part of your sexuality. If you want a specific person to find you attractive, you might put in extra effort when you see them, and there's nothing wrong with that either. The problem comes when so many women revolve their style, their self expression, and too often large aspects of their personality around the hope of attracting the attention of me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 05:32 AM
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Oh man I remember leaving my jacket at home when I was a teen cause I thought it would "ruin my aesthetic". Thought I looked cool, but really I just looked cold lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 06:44 PM
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Young girls and pickme women wanting male attention but knowing it conflicts with their beliefs found a way to convince themselves they can have both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 03:37 PM
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"Why does he do that? Inside the minds of angry and abusive men" Is a must read, if you haven't already. I wish I had read it sooner. Written by a psychologist who has spent years doing the grueling work of counseling men who have been convicted of domestic violence (most of them attending due to court orders). It goes into the various types of abusers, their strategies of manipulation, how they might fly under your radar, how to spot early warning signs and how to get out. Not to mention going …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 03:32 AM
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"wow lol you mean a man violating your sexual boundaries is a deal breaker for you?! enjoy being single" thank you I will enjoy having non-negotiable self respect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 02:45 AM
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She did that for a long while, actually. It led to her becoming absolutely exhausted and disheartened. She has a hard time saying no to sex (high libido) so the men she was just trying to get to know turn into FWB and then these himbos play games and she's already got those chemicals in her head x__x Dating with intention has been better for her self esteem and she wastes less energy on men now than she used to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 12:47 AM
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That model has issues too, the places with those laws in place don't distinguish between sleazy hourly landlords and the apartment of the sex worker, and don't distinguish between say, a sex worker's hired security guard and a pimp. Sex workers are made homeless because landlords can kick them out without notice, bank accounts wiped because the bank is "profiting off of sex work" which is illegal. While theoretically good, the execution still ends up putting women in danger, and does not help th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 12:31 AM
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I think it's a complex issue with no easy solutions. As long as there are women in desperate financial situations somewhere and men willing to exploit that for easy sex, there will be sex workers. Making it illegal isn't going to help those women, there needs to be regulation and oversight to prevent further exploitation. They need to be able to seek out resources to get out when they want to, they need to be able to report criminal behavior, abuse, and human trafficking's they witness without f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 11:52 PM
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"geriatric priest with chapped lips" holy hell that hit, that had me cackling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 09:43 PM
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Male, 29, would be 6ft if I had a spine. I want to be your dad and you to be my mom. And by "be your dad" I mean I want you to call me daddy and let me boss you around. By "mommy" I mean therapist who also makes me food because I'm soooo bad at cooking :'-( I hoard useless shit collect things as a hobby, and I will endlessly entertain you by talking at you about my interests. I do this quirky thing where I quiz your knowledge on the topics I obsess over and then correct you because I'm super sma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 08:49 AM
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She seeks to improve herself, but is wary against attempts to change her from external sources. She is perceptive and empathetic, but saves that empathy and insight for those who deserve it (including herself). She is kind and patient, but the LVM in her life wouldn't agree with that description. She's collected and calm, but her negative emotions are never suppressed. Her high self esteem is built on the solid foundation of her accomplishments, not from the praise of others (in fact, praise fro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 12:53 AM
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The atmosphere in geek businesses radiate LVM energy. I play card games like Magic the Gathering and Pokemon casually, and if the nasty smell of sweaty fat losers doesn't make me turn around and leave immediately, I'm laughed out of shops for some "pleb casual" comment such as "Ooh I've never seen that card before, neat!" or to dare ask if they play the pokemon card game "hahaha maybe 10 years ago! That shits for casuals". And heaven forbid they find out I play D&D, lest they try to give me unso…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/20 06:38 AM
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