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​ Mission is locked down. As imagined, when I spend time in it, things are fine and manageable. Back when I still had stupid thoughts encroaching on my happiness, this would be the answer. Notice I'm being a bitch, get to work on Mission. Action changes thinking and feeling both swiftly and radically ime. I think it’s more than just wanting the divorce to be over or thinking that all of my problems will be solved with the divorce. This is kinda what I was trying to (provocatively) say. You thoug…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/22 05:24 AM
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You might be our generations realstevemcqueen or whatever his name was, taking the torch from the now departed redbackedbadger/protoworm. Emotionally nuking your marriage without having done the with, with no plan nor rudder, and then surprised when life isn't magically solved by divorce. Do you have a Mission?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/22 05:56 PM
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You seem fairly switched on, and thus you ought to find very soon that there is only downside to staying legally married. If/when you do, be very careful you don't let pussy distract you from getting the divorce executed. Look at u/northernfacing for a cautionary tale of making it hard on yourself because of inaction. In any event, get 100% divorce prepped quick stat. Pure upside no matter which way you go.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/22 06:09 PM
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Probably? Do you have one example of this working to counter balance the thousands proving it's not only ineffective but actually detrimental to any goal a man might have?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/22 05:00 AM
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Again. It isn't the how but the what that's the issue here.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/22 04:15 PM
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As per your other comment. "Ready" for what? Throwing sand in his wife's pussy? My bet is he already does plenty of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/22 04:14 PM
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Fmofy doesn't work, being here this long you ought to know this. If you want to tell the bitch that you are withdrawing your monogamous commitment, then I'd just say that.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/22 07:01 AM
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I'm curious. Why do you encourage this circle jerk on how to word a fmofy when you of all people in this world knows that negotiating desire is ineffective at best and counterproductive at worst?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/22 06:57 AM
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You won't be annoyed with others not meeting your needs if you take responsibility for having them met. To use a classic "your wife gets first crack at your libido, not sole custody."
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/22 09:14 PM
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Why?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/22 08:38 PM
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One resulted in a hand-job, the other two failed pretty hard, And I played the good husband role for a little while Doesn't compute.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/22 03:00 PM
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Go on GSLP, gain 30lbs and get your PL total to 1000ish during the next six months. During that time, hammer NMMNG, WISNIFG, read up on and practice game while being as selfish as you can possibly stand. Continue to OYS about what you did on these fronts, and a quick note on how much you fucked. I'd initiate daily. And give/withdraw attention commensurate with the fucking (or lack thereof). Don't brood on it, just go lift, run, hang out with buddies, play with your kids, whatever you find fun. T…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/22 02:58 PM
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Relationship 2 years (38), no kids. I may have asked this already, but why ignore Iron Rule 7?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/22 02:50 PM
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Did you fuck?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/22 02:51 PM
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Hallelujah. Now back to frame, game and looks in order to fix your fucking.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/22 03:58 PM
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Behold! The power of the Hamster! I will remind you. This was the section you commented on: Life is a game, I am a player in it, and I have the real (red pill) rules laid out to me. I don't have to play by, and be victim to, the (blue pill) rules I was taught and I don't have to explain myself or my strategy to anyone. The power is with me to play the game how I want and I don't need to be fearful of losing. So it's dude saying. "Hey! I figured out how intersexual dynamics work and that I am my …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/22 05:37 PM
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I trust you know what you're doing. Why would you? I'm honestly curious as to your reasoning. Legal marriage is pure downside for the man no matter his goals.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/22 01:51 PM
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Often being too smart for my own good as well, I can relate to the hamster kicking up a storm blinding you to the obvious. So I'll spell it out for you. Speaking in platitudes will blind you to the obvious, as your dry dick would tell you if he could, poor bastard. There are unbendable, law-of-gravity like rules of the game of intersexual dynamics, just as dude said. Bitches get wet from frame, game, looks. And dry from simping, negotiating and asking a fucking therapist to act as the authority …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/22 04:29 AM
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Quiet desperation indeed.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/22 06:53 AM
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Having a hard time imagining what that would look like, I remember once being so Nice that I couldn't fathom how setting a boundary would look. It's amazing how your brain can blind you to the obvious when it really wants to. As a thanks for the reminder, here's a freebie: Take her by the hand, pull her into wherever you want to fuck her. Push her onto the bed/couch/her knees/whatever. Pull her panties down/to the side. I hope even you know what to do from there. Respect a hard no of course. If …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/22 05:37 PM
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There are no rules, friend. Especially not "red pill" rules. No wonder your results suck as much as they do.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/22 05:31 PM
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I'm interested in a girl's stories on a first date and I like having fun with a new person. I'm poking around her life and being a grown ass kid. I'm sure that energy comes across and she feels accepted with no judgment. I'm big into being aware of the sexual tension with new girls. “Wear running shoes” is innocuous but we both know it establishes the pattern of her taking my commands. This should always be the case, not just on day 1. This may explain a lot of your issues. This is a symptom of …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/22 04:17 AM
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You are off base here. A bitch knows exactly how to please you. And if she is invested she will get off on doing so. This usually means she gives you things you didn't even knew you wanted. And if she's useless with no girl game, at the very least she will be enthusiastically up for anything you want to do to/with her. None of this involves talking, even if some verbal direction when fucking and/or dirty talk can be useful.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 07:55 PM
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Is it platonic conversation with some teasing? I don't have platonic conversations with bitches. I don't need more friends. I just leave the kiss hanging in the air, but build tension in all other ways, escalating both conversation and touch. I picked the tip up somewhere and just implemented. At one point I might A/B test K-closing on the 1st date for funsies, but so far I haven't had to. Bringing bitches to an F-close on date 2-3 has been ridiculously easy so far. Yeah, it might be Blue, I giv…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 06:31 PM
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Got married, I needed the new wife to have medical consent powers and all that which is a pain in the ass apparently if you're not married. Impressive hamster that can convince you that avoiding a bit of annoying paperwork is worth entering into the draconian legal arrangement that is marriage again. I would think long and hard about this. It probably isn't too late to get it annulled. For real. About the avoiding death stuff I can relate. Few notes. Buddhist practice or even just mindfulness me…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/22 06:13 PM
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About time you showed up. After u/useful_walk4 left the building, we've had to rely on the resurgence of u/resolutions316 to carry the burden of being the big neon warning sign of what happens to dudes who wont sack up but end in eternal purgatory. How's the fucking?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/22 06:16 PM
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Komodo bite+remove attention works well for punishment.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/22 04:46 PM
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You would be fucking ten times as much if you'd put as much energy into doing things as you do into reading, pondering and writing about it on Reddit.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/22 05:50 AM
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What about you? Pretty much the same. I take a 1-1.5H test run (coffee, drink, walk, whatever), and if she passes, then next date is usually at mine and on a rare occasion hers. I rarely K or F close first date, even if it's there. It seems to build anticipation really well. When it's a new girl, I try to see her twice that week, sometimes even 3 days after first lay. Just to let her know through actions that I like fucking her and it wasn't a one night type deal. I never sensed fidgety though. …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/22 05:45 AM
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If you don't have a dog, get one. Training it is 1:1 transferable to training human bitches. Praise the stuff you like and want more of. Ignore or (less often) punish the stuff you want less of. It'll help you stop this CC nonsense and become natural pretty fast.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/22 05:17 AM
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You are no doubt right that some of this is blue. Like you I tested things out and essentially managed to: turned a couple of Fuck Yes’s into ghosts while testing it out myself— which included letting them spend the night and telling them about my awesome life freely. Which indeed was caused by my desire to live in Blue fantasyland and be more open I've found the testing valuable. Some lessons you just have to learn the hard way. That said, I think I mentioned recently getting very good mileage …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/22 04:23 AM
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First of all - useful discussion for me as well. There's several things going on here, I'll try to clarify. A lot of it might be based on being older and thus having slightly different preferences. Having not been actively dating apart from sidechicks on the low since you graduated kindergarten, since the divorce a year ago I have been testing shit out and making some mistakes to learn from. Based on current evidence what I call anxiety management might just be hamstering away counterproductive …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/22 08:15 PM
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I have a fear that praise will let off the pressure that I view as necessary to get compliance. I had this shit mental model in my marriage for way too long. It was one of the dumbest things in my MAP. Praising sexual performance is pure upside for you. And it goes beyond that, though. Praising things you like, and particularly things you've taught her to please you, is Bitch Training 101, you can go look up the guide again. I still suck at it myself, this is a nice reminder.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/22 05:15 AM
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Hello, ego, fancy seeing you here. I've probably said this before but get on GSLP and gain 25lbsish and a 1000lbish total over 6 months or so. Then cut the fluff.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/22 05:12 AM
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I really appreciate the note, how long do you keep them on for? I've replicated this myself, but find it is different after the three-five month mark. In particular older bitches (epiphany phase and beyond) get fidgety if kept in the fuck-only box for more than that. u/bussiinesstravel did a nice sum-up of out-of-the-box plate spinning RP tactics, and it apparently works for him, including the 1 year fuck-only trial period. My sample size is still like 10, so I can be way off base here. You are …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/22 04:26 AM
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Of course you are projecting. All good advice on here is projection. Is this something you're currently working out, or something you fucked up, course corrected and now life is better? I am not sure I completely agree, but I will re-read those articles and think more about this. Perhaps make it a focus next OYS. One of the areas for growth for me is indeed male friendships. Good poke, especially the one calling me an "Eat, Pray, Love girl". Not too far from the mark, maybe I should read the boo…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 05:12 PM
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Do stuff. Fuck some of it up. Introspect, analyze, calibrate. Do more stuff. That's pretty much how you learn. My point was merely that I'd spend 10% of the time processing the lessons and the rest of the time doing, and many dudes do the opposite. Again - yours is a special case, not being fully divorced yet, so use common sense here.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 11:48 AM
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This is a good question. I was referring to overall investment from the girl, not a bit of playfulness and fun as foreplay, which I can totally see. That said, I honestly rarely see LMR. With newer bitches it is yet to happen and with the ex it didn't until I blew everything up. And even in the depths of divorce proceedings resistance was rare and more token than real. I guess I just always took sex for granted as a bare minimum, even back when I was blue and dumb. Something to think about, thou…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 11:46 AM
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So once a week on average, cool. And the age range?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 06:29 AM
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I am going to be doing a surplus Good. Add 10lbs of BW over say 6 months and then REALLY BE DILIGENT about getting your total up as well. if this is really how you want to talk to your husband... something to that effect Did you even read WISNIFG? This indirect shaming language is girl-speak. I'd just nuke. "Shut up." is surprisingly effective. You may have to broken record, once delivered and/or walk away. I know I did, bitches can be stubborn.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 05:40 AM
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I told my wife I would not put up with x, y, and z again and if she did any of those things I would be handing her divorce papers. While I can 10/10 recommend getting a divorce, doing so unprepped, based on emotions and even handing your bitchy wife control over timing seems dumb. Better come back next week with a lawyer-checked plan or you're about to get fucked, just ask Redsfsfsfsplus, NorthernFacing, Amphibian et. al.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 05:34 AM
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I'd say you are in the position to really push for what you want in the bedroom. Push until a hard "no" each time. And when you get it, stop completely and go do something else. A note: With my ex I found it incredibly useful, when I got some form of "no" to simply say "Are you sure?". Sometimes then that'd break the resistance. Other times she'd say she was sure, I'd stop and go do something else, and she'd come running back to blow me or whatever it was I wanted a couple of minutes later. Bitc…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 04:58 AM
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I will say this though, I have gotten pretty good with keeping long-term plates (1 to 2 years) and all of my texting with them is logistics only. With my main plate of almost 3 years, it's strictly logistics only when it comes to our schedules. Fascinating. What age range are these multi-year deals, how often do you see them and is the relationship about more than just fucking? Everything comes down to what you value. As Archwinger once said, you can't fuck a woman through a phone. Very much. Ri…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 04:51 AM
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I'm sorry dude, but you aren't special. Lift, STFU, sidebar, OYS every week for a year like the rest of us had to. Then you will be fucking and not writing stupid posts about being awesome, except for the eunuch thing. It will be fun for the rest of us to follow how well this weird intermittent hysterical bonding holds up.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 04:37 AM
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Hah, cool take. I guess there is scarcity. Attention and time are my most precious and finite resources. Like with bitches I'm in the great position that I have abundance here. And like with bitches, I've been letting myself sink time into subpar relationships. This bit is there to document that I've been pursuing the best ones, being mindful about how I spend my time and attention. Something that could slip, now I've relocated. I don't know how that's strange, but I might be missing the point?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 03:56 AM
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Interesting perspective, which runs counter to the other guys I compare notes with in 2022. First off, We agree on getting out and actually meeting bitches in stead of swiping and texting. I spend 5-10 texts before a meet, tops. I tested out texting more and it actually lowered the conversion rate. And I'm sure you're right about the age thing, it was just speculation on my side that it could theoretically be different for older bitches. I don't date over 30 myself, so I wouldn't know. But on th…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/22 03:51 AM
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I cant decide if what I like more her doing what I say or a woman going nuts when we fuck. Why choose? Variety is the spice of life. I need to... Stop this shit. Write about what you DID. And it better include some stuff on being less fat. Still getting the emasculation stuff. How does this look concretely? Nuking the fuck out of it might indeed be the right course of action, depending what we're talking about. Shitty attitude and shit tests are not the same and you use different tools for each.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/22 07:22 PM
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How's the fucking?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/22 07:18 PM
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Got my T levels checked - 400 so on the lower end of the range but not low enough to use as an excuse for not making progress in the gym But definitely low enough to seriously consider TRT. Your lifts are fine, but the mental benefits of higher T are substantial and might fix many of the problems you have. Also good on you for ordering the bitch around during sex, taking responsibility for having the sex life you want. Remember, every time you "make" her do something, she wets herself. Escalate …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/22 05:57 PM
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Lucky bastard. 😂😂 In that case you can waste six months just building smv an figuring out that you should nuke. Remindme! 6 months
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/22 04:07 PM
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Are you legally married?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/22 02:23 PM
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Married 2 years - no kids I have probably asked before, but I'll try again. Why ignore IR7? Especially as this: Now I’ve got to figure everything out for both of us? Fuck sakes. ...does not need to be the case. There is a very good case to be made for going quite far down the reprogramming/guiding/leading route once kids enter the picture and if your base material isn't complete shit. But in your situation you are free to restart with better raw material and setting a better frame from the get-g…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/22 01:12 PM
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Nice one, I've had a bit of a wobble on this and lost the drive - but I'll check myself if it lasts too long. Getting pretty good at self-regulating this stuff. I locked up my dick for a year (except for ex) knowing I'd nuke, so far be it from me to promote fucking during divorce. Just look at NF and others for cautionary tales of not keeping your eye on the ball. My point is just that some dudes seem to keep looking inward, when we all know that action is what changes thinking, not the other wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/22 12:09 PM
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OYS 40s 6’ 188 1000+ PL total, divorced, kid Mission: Explore and experience everything the world has to offer. Overall: Happy, excited about starting a new chapter of my life. Work + Money Just started the new job, and it’s been hectic. It’s been fun to get out and chase some professional goals. Also in a very concrete day-to-day way the new gig has a lot of the type of activities I find fun. Good shit. Early days, but learning curve feels less steep than expected. Money I’m still waiting for t…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/22 11:07 AM
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Social - Have a close group of 2-4 friend (‘fire team’ from military / Way of Man model) that I contact weekly or arrange meet ups with every 2-3 weeks if they are local, 2-3 months if they aren’t. Is this from the book(s) or something you came up with? Seems pretty legit and doable. A note: I fucked my ex a bit during the process even after signatures, but can't say it was very fulfilling. On balance I'd say it isn't make or break either way. Another note: The ONLY way you will deal with your s…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/22 11:04 AM
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Lucky bastard. You can fucking crush if you stick around, lift read and oys every week for a year. Include hsp bitch management guide in your reading. That's how you find your next ltr and set the right frame from the get go.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/22 02:51 PM
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jealousy/shit testing would be far more extreme. If it is above board (I share your experience with doing it covertly) this can easily be swatted away, and thus would be not at all a bad thing. "The partner who harnesses the gale storm of jealousy controls the direction of the relationship." to quote Roissy. At least that's what I've found in non-mono so far. In terms of desire and behavior once the bitch submits and initial testing dies down (it will probably be nuclear, maybe a good time to ge…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/22 06:20 PM
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I agree. A note: I had no idea why I was here at least the first six months. Was even poked with "why are you here" consistently. Yet the paint-by-numbers of lift, read, stfu, OYS every week worked for me in figuring it out and answering that elusive but all-important "what do you want?". Even made me able to hold onto it, despite some very insistent poking to question it. Sometimes paint-by-numbers works. Maybe it will be the same for you, u/guerillajayne - if it isn't, then you know and can ru…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/22 04:23 PM
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How would it be?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/22 03:49 PM
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Great comment that can be applied to non sexual actions as well, I would argue.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/22 12:10 PM
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Honestly, I don’t think that would bother me at all. If it did, I’d just end it. Then I can't see a downside. It might even be a wakeup call. For the peanut gallery, in case it did wake the bitch up, it would be because that isn't the motivation. This only works, of course, if you aren't too Nice and sign over most of your money to save the whamen and children. Repeated for emphasis. If you're gonna plow 110% then things get a bit dicier. Even then, seriously run the numbers. You will be surpris…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/22 03:50 PM
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This is useful and a lot of it resonates. Being quite a nasty fucker (literally and figuratively) myself, I've on rare occasions found this just intimate and very immersive. Minimal in some ways. hits on the EVI pretty well, as an alternative to hardcore shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/22 02:35 PM
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​ Game stuff. You got friendzoned, not plated. I was halfkidding about the R9, hope it lives, because some "she" is sometimes necessary to write a good play-by-play FR, which this iteration was. Now just act as if you're actually RP - validation ain't free. You need a female friend as much as you need a hole in the head. Further, I am currently implementing the "hell yes" school of thought. No bitch would get me to jump through so many hoops. As you've inspired me to read more Rollo, I just rece…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/22 01:59 PM
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Two strategies for lackluster performance: Caveman - as you have been. Zip up and leave mid thrust. Not upset, just kind of "meh". You don't have to say anything, and if you do something like "This isn't working for me, I'm gonna make a sandwich." Or even "You don't seem really into it, we'll get after it later." As for her not keeping up physically, if you're dead set on saving this particular hoe, there is a road to take in commanding. This would mean her submitting fully and you then guiding …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/22 01:27 PM
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For whatever it’s worth, I am enjoying the sex itself more. It feels less anxious, less urgent, less metaphorical for everything else. It’s not a test of loyalty or attraction. It’s just a slice of pleasure that I experience, with a physical and emotional dimension. I am more immersed. I choose how far to lean into each, and how uncomfortable to make myself, and where to push her. Some things that I want, I don’t get. Some things that I didn’t know that I want, I do get. More ahead to discover. …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/22 01:17 PM
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I like this OYS. You should write febrile posts more often. Three notes: Masturbating can help take both sex and bitches off the pedestal while you work on you (divorce prep, gym, reading etc.). It sucks as a cope for staying in purgatory, but you can monitor for that - if you veer off this course, then stop again. Opening up the marriage in the current situation would likely mean she gets herself some strange. Personally I can't give two fucks about that shit, but it seems to be agony for most …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/22 01:15 PM
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So I’ve decided to borrow enough money to make it happen. No more prioritising other distractions while this casually ticks over and delays moving on with my life. Living situation (couch surfing) will be the next priority. I often do this myself. Allow "decisions" to be included in the "things I did" and thus enter OYS. Be careful with it, as it gives that stupid mental thing where it emotionally feels like you are moving, where in the actual real world nothing has changed. Game Inb4 rule 9 her…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/22 12:22 PM
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I think we agree on the goal, if "hierarchy of goals, process, structure" and whatnot are meant to say: 1) become top tier 2) figure out what you want 3) replace/upgrade your relationship(s) to best achieve 2. Or "live for you and fuck it", to quote u/sea-tease's sum-up of my approach to sexual strategy. I think we then disagree whether the two lifers we have on the show this week can make that mental leap without doing something radically different in the real world outside their heads. I'd arg…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/22 04:19 AM
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I agree with this approach and indeed in my case, looking back, this was what happened. I just painted by numbers doing what I wanted, rewarding those who added value to my life. This meant that the wife ultimately was just an expensive, hapless babysitter with a warm body for fulfilling some base desires. Then I looked at a calendar, found the date that best suited me to nuke, and spent some months prepping. During this time, of course, had the evaluation of "value return according to the struc…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 06:01 PM
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I'll think about this. What is there to think about? Punch yourself in the dick for not having done your homework on the most important thing affecting your life outcomes in general and happiness in particular bar none. When done, run the numbers and post in next weeks OYS. Or spin your wheels so you can stay in the safe zone of "looking into the future for happiness". Whisper has cured my oneitis I look forward to seeing how much truth there is to this.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 05:10 PM
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Huh. Actual progress, or at least so it seems. I tested the cheating route for years. Even without it blowing up in your face it's still not in your best interest for the reasons you've already figured out. UM is good if you just use the tools of riding yourself of "SP" and " OBW" as well as formulating a code and Mission. The prescriptive bits are worth reflecting on for sure, but hardly gospel.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 02:13 PM
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What is the downside in borrowing money to live on your own and get divorce finalized? What's the dollar tag for you? And conversely, how large is the upside in waiting measured in dollars for you? About the new bitch, if you're anything like the rest of us you'll fuck some stuff up and learn some lessons. I'll be interested to follow the saga.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 01:15 PM
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getting a new job, losing fat, divorcing well, reviving my hobbies and fine tuning finances. These are your goals, bolded is the first, second and third priority. Not much about what you've DONE to achieve that one ASAP in here. So. What have you done? I’m meeting with the semi long distance girl that has basically plated me. A ton of shit tests about age difference/my daughter/the distance/a future/our starsigns being mismatched, it’s cute and decent practice. The medium is the message here. Ig…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/22 11:39 AM
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Are you Catholic or raised by/around them?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/22 07:14 PM
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Thanks for your notes. Here's another one. Don't thank me. Or anyone on here. Everyone is writing for themselves. In my case, to better understand the lessons and myself. I also think it's less about volume and more about quality. Though some average women could turn out awesome. Yeah. My main sticking point with bitches currently is this bit. I rationally know that if a girl is attractive enough to fuck, it's good enough, anything further is just some internalized need to look cool to others. A…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/22 11:43 AM
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I didn't have any emotions left for my STBX when I nuked, but did the "oneitis for first hot semi-hot bitch" thing that seems to trip up most dudes post-divorce. FWIW my oneitis for that one hasn't been cured by GFTOW, but this might be because I am only at seven and/or I have not been fucking hot enough (to me). A lot of dudes follow the playbook with that first post-divorce bitch like Rollo describes in that quote - just jumping into the next LTR. Bitch did you a solid by taking that off the t…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/22 06:36 AM
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I know I’m going to get hate here and that most people here are against the idea of an open relationship. Where the fuck did you get that idea? Just be wary of the femcentric versions of "polyamory" and you'll be fine. IME you are correct in your assessment that hypergamy means that she wont exercise the option as long as you have your alpha traits and behaviours on lock. And if she does, it's a good indicator that you need to improve them. Girls can get laid in like 10 seconds, so this should s…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/22 05:43 PM
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Fake it till you make it (i.e. lean into the discomfort) NMMNG and WISNIFG ad nauseam plus these two from Whisper did it for me. Be the asshole. Giant heads. So be the asshole. But I'd think twice about plate spinning while married. If you have to write about it on here, you aren't ready is the standard RP advice. I had plenty of affairs and would give it a 0/10 would not recommend for several reasons. If I were to do it over again I would get to the point of just having to unzip to fuck or mayb…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/22 03:16 PM
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If you haven't already, read this: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/mrd5uz/fr_a_conversation_do_i_have_the_mettle/gulvph1/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/22 12:32 PM
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You don't need more than 100-130g of protein, so just pound easy, cheap fats and carbs. Olive oil. Sugary drinks. Whole milk. Drink your calories. Otherwise rice, pasta, nuts work well too.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/22 05:39 PM
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I get a lot of shit for not doing this IRL. I get this constantly as well and agree with everything you wrote. But just because I'm already getting constant feedback for not being relatable, doesn't mean I don't still hold myself back. Their standard isn't my standard.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/22 11:43 AM
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You're way advanced in RP theory so you'll struggle to get feedback that'll challenge your understanding. I often get challenged in a way that makes me think, but, you're right, I need to do the personal reflection and journaling myself as the best feedback comes on the back of that work. All feedback on here is projection to some extent. Part of what makes it useful - and useless at times. Here's some more notes from my book. What I meant about OYS was twofold. 1) Much of the feedback will be s…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/22 06:27 AM
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How the fuck you guys can have been on here for a fucking year and not have read the Bible of bitch management is just beyond me. It probably means you haven't read the TRP sidebar nor all posts by Whisper and HSP. I'd get on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 07:03 PM
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"Letting people know how they fucked up". "Being a just asshole". Jesus. To the back of the class with you, and you will do a book report on WISNIFG during detention.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 07:00 PM
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The backsliding is the thing that concerns me. It's so easy to slip back into behaviors that I had when I was married. Which is why keeping up the writing+posting it periodically is necessary to keep yourself honest, I wholeheartedly disagree with this though: the feedback makes you think more than the OYS itself. There is no quality control on dudes posting here, rule 10 is literally never enforced. So I think many find, at some point, that the feedback is pretty useless, and they stop. I did t…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/22 06:22 PM
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You remind me of that Resistance guy who wrote up great treatises on his latest revelation every so often, just like you, yet had extremely mediocre results after years on here, just like you. Blarg eventually banned him I think. You seem to be cognizant of what a trap it can be. So keep lifting, and focus more on the last six lines of your OYS and less on the first 348.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 08:15 PM
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Took me a year of consistent practice to start getting close to being anasshole. And I'll never really arrive. The hardwiring is too strong for that.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 07:15 PM
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Wrong. You don't want to because you're scared of your wife's emotions. Work on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 04:33 PM
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How about telling her lazy ass what you want her to do? Not argue about it. Just stating it plainly. Also when she fails to meet the standard. Just state it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 02:52 PM
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​ I've not taken the time for quality reflection. I've missed the last two OYS for the same reason. I didn't submit them because they were also sloppy. Things are generally going well for you, you know most of the lessons and are in implementation mode. It makes sense that a weekly OYS isn't a priority. Many stop altogether at this point. As far as I can tell, a significant chunk then backslide to a "better than they were" kind of purple-something. u/usefulwalk4 is my favourite as everyone knows…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 02:50 PM
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God you are dense. WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO ABOUT IT?! This is the only thing that matters. What you DO.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 02:31 PM
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Get up at 5:30 feed the baby Make my own breakfast Get other kids up and make breakfast then get them ready for school School run Gym Work 8 hours Pick kids up Come home, clean house, laundry and make my own dinner/ most times kids too. How long do I do all of this for before I expect her to get off her arse and help? I’m trying to fix myself but I feel like I’m drowning. You cannot be on OYS19 and asking this. You just can't. u/_RPeed already threw you a bone. Now what are you going to do about…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 11:47 AM
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10 days later ONEitis is still lingering - thoughts of my ex-wife fucking someone else, finding someone better, etc. Truth is she is not mine, nor is it even my turn. I’d love to sever all comms and delete her existence, but more growth will come from the challenge of dealing with the fallout of my actions and co-parenting. This goes away. You've barely taken the first step. Just trust RP and act accordingly. I may not have the relationship that I’d like to have with my daughter, but it’s better…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 11:43 AM
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I get just punching in an OYS, but this one is so sloppy that it gets confusing, which sucks for you, because then you haven't reaped the benefit of clarifying your thoughts and aligning them to your actions that usually comes from it. I have a few questions nevertheless. A morning run when I'm not sore. Why is soreness what determines if you run or not? Very minor stuff like asking her what she wanted in a couple of circumstances instead of just leading. What are the goals in your woman life bo…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/22 11:32 AM
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As a former high performing "666" plow horse with an unresponsive(ish) wife, I relate to your deal here, so I'll throw you a bone. You fail at MRP. Specifically, you listen to your wife and you don't understand that the masculine ideal you've been taught is not alpha, to some extent even directly counter. Your faith - or more specifically the philosophical and moral tenets of it - is sadly part of why you're lost. Be an asshole. If you want to be Red, there's no way around it. If you manage to, …
/r/askMRP28/06/22 04:21 AM
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Teach her redpill with your cock, not your words I love this phrasing and it's objectively the best advice one can give. That said, once a bitch is truly invested, you can start feeding her narratives (dare I say mental models) to produce whatever behaviour change you desire. I've found decent ROI in using some RP mental models for this. I think Whisper used overt RP-thinking to train the bitches he lives with too, though I could be wrong. This note should obviously be ignored by OP, who is stil…
/r/askMRP28/06/22 04:14 AM
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Seems you will have interesting notes to share on hunting in a target poor environment.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/22 01:46 PM
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she does add value to my life. How? I'd like to give her and the relationship a chance. Why?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/22 08:20 PM
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I agree with the guide, and this is indeed what I see too - be lean, have good pics, profit. And sure, I'm lean, handsome, status, tall and all that stuff the blackpillers will tell you is absolutely necessary to get pussy in 2022, so we can pretend one/all those things is the something special about me. However, Aussie was fat, had random pics and had the easiest time of it too. So I'd wager it's less about me being extraordinary, less about pictures and more about "semi-rural area". I honestly…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/22 07:59 PM
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The pros say that on apps photos are 90% of the work. I guess I'm prettier than I thought. 🥰 Really looking forward to seeing what happens when you upgrade the pics.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/22 11:04 AM
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My approach and results are much like yours. Just enough effort (4-5msgs) on the app and once you get her out assume the sale and don't step on your own dick. As for the one thing you'd change: Many of us have success with the "couple of low effort" pictures. Maybe it means we are short-changing ourselves, maybe just that good enough is good enough. I am not sourcing currently, so won't be testing for at least a couple of months. If you do, I'd be interested to hear the results. Same for you u/f…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/22 08:44 AM
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my expectations are too low That's exactly my point. I know men learn to want what they get and all, but this kind of lifting five years in to MRP is failing the basic 101 prescription. And without fail means the same is happening in other areas. Rarely, though, in the plowhorsy/beta ones. Many of us have always been very ambitious, even ruthlessly so, in those arenas. Doesn't help the fucking, though. Nice job on the FOGGING, too. Just dont let it lead you to inaction like that dude Jerry whose…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/22 07:41 PM
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I've thought about nuking A LOT. I landed on the decision not to (for now). I feel like having my sparring partner readily available is making me a better man quicker. Try, fail, try again, fail again, try once more, a bit of success, etc. Also, if I nuked it now, I feel like I'd be that idiot, who just goes from the frying pan into the fire and ends up right here again in a few years. I'm too much of a retard currently. I look great and act like a guy who has his shit together, but when tested …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/22 07:15 PM
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I don't normally waste time on OYS1 dudes, but I think you have enough anger to keep you in the game. Keep it burning for a while, it will fuel the mental jumps that are upcoming. And for the love of all that is holy, STFU (and journal) as you let the rewiring happen. It's a rough ride at first. I have been working at the plan you described, just having a hard time not being an idiot and falling back into old ways and seeking results for my efforts (AKA validation). I REALLY need to work on that…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/22 06:26 AM
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I'm not sure what IR7 is... And this is why MRP is such a shit show now. Few people read much less internalize the basic Red texts. The Iron Rules of Tomassi are some of the foundational pillars of everything else on here. I've gained 3-4 lbs this month. This is excellent. Keep it up, letting it taper off as you get heavier and making sure it translates to more weight on the bar as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/22 05:59 AM
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It’s something I have struggled with in the past and I still do from time to time. Everybody does, I don't think anyone does it perfect. Which is why I spell it out as often as I can for dudes - good reminder for myself. As for marriage I meant it. Do the exercise, realize that both from a financial as well as sexual strategy standpoint it is pure downside with no upside for you. This will help avoid hamstering yourself into it anyway when oneitis hits hard.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/22 05:56 AM
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I don't compare myself to others, only to myself. :-) To be clear, however, I've been actively lifting for less than a year. I said I had tried lifting on-and-off for five year, but had to stop each time due to persistent back injury. This is some OYS3 bullshit DEERing. I guess most just stay fumbling around in middling mediocrity. This mindset is the reason that I've experienced the sex that i want, and I still have a long way to go to make that the norm in my marriage. You haven't applied your…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/22 05:54 AM
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You would really benefit from the "act like your wife is dead" strategy. Set a timeline to create maximal abundance for yourself (rule of thumb is a year, six months might do it) and then it's all about becoming valuable and learning the tools so you so have an awesome life in that time. And when you hit the milestone you evaluate if the bitch adds sufficient value to keep around. I would include divorce prep in this process. Reading the guide on the sidebar and getting everything drawn up, prin…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/22 08:10 PM
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I’m not completely opposed to marriage, but I also realise there’s no tangible gain for me, other than my woman carrying mine and my son’s name. I’m not even remotely considering it for the foreseeable future, but I’m interested to hear your thoughts. Try to list upsides and downsides for you in LEGALLY ENFORCEABLE marriage. Not giving her a "whatever you wan't to call it ring" (RIP Patrice O'Neal). Not having a ceremony or party. Not saying pretty words or having cute names for the bitch. But a…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/22 02:23 PM
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Once again. For the diet/lifting stuff there's many places better than this place. Coming on here only for that, once again, shows a basic lack of understanding both lifting, nutrition and MRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/22 07:11 AM
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I don't know what my "next thing" is, mostly because I got my old "next things." I'm older now, in a very different place in terms of my relationship, business, kids, goals, etc. After having a very clear idea for a very long time ("more sex!" "more blowjobs!" "more respect!", etc), I'm left wondering if that's all there is - if I just perpetually push for "more," or whether I need to re-assess how I approach things. I honestly couldn't tell you. I'm OK with a period of uncertainty/wayfinding, b…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/22 07:01 AM
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It’s made me diagnose my primary underlying issue (mission) while properly relegating the other very minor issue (my wife) as something I need to address later and really a non starter. This sounds an awful lot like hamstering in order not to engage with your wife and/or nuke your marriage. You aren't wrong. Your wife doesn't matter, and figuring out what you want will solve most of your issues, provided you understand the tools and can apply them to it. But set a timelimit on figuring it out an…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/22 06:25 AM
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Cool, so I'm the one who can't read. Little tip - do Rians video series alongside MMSLP. There's a lot of good mental models in there, but also a lot of blue or at least purple shit to weed out. Two questions: How much weight have you gained the last month? No kids, no mortgage as far as I can see? So why are you ignoring IR7?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/22 06:23 AM
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100p this except I would be dead serious if asked. "No. Actually I've been thinking you need to up your game if you want me to keep giving you the privilege of my dick. " Or whatever like that you can say which isnt wildly larping.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/22 07:56 PM
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Two comments. If you don't know what you want then none of the tools here will help you. UM is the best text I know of to uncover your Mission. Some bitches just don't shape up. And/or some need you to alpha up more than you want in order to do so. 1 can be solved in a week or two. While you do this you can diagnose 2, and then decide how you want to manage it. Because that one can't be solved.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/22 04:26 PM
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How are you oys 14 yet haven't read nmmmg nor wisnifg?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/22 03:25 PM
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My experience might not be relevant nor typical. I just threw up a old photo or two I had lying around (I don't like photos) and I was drowning in pretty girls. Every one of them says something like "you could've made more of an effort with your pictures" on the first date, to which I invariably respond "well you're here, aren't you?". But I have looks, the 666, high status job, lifestyle and activities and all that stuff that gives an initial boost in matching, so I think I have success in spit…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/22 03:22 PM
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OLD. Look to aussie, he was fat and unattractive yet drowned in pussy within days. You gave no idea how easy it will be for you. No. Idea. Tag me when you get you start spinning and I'll add you to our little divorcee club. Also good for you for nexting the bitch. Better example for your daughter anyway so don't sweat it.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/22 10:27 AM
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Fuck me, a guy who actually lifts? Hallelujah. You, my friend, need to alpha up. Looks is one but frame and game are even more important. Fixing this and the mental stuff you are (seemingly correctly) identifying is done through actions. So just LARP the DNGAF until you actually don't. You are already getting there with the quickie. Keep that up and keep grinding nmmng, wisnifg and at some point move to the TRP sidebar. Also. Just observing her emotions and antics is fine and very illuminating a…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/22 09:59 AM
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RP isn't for everyone.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/22 06:56 AM
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I would say the mental stuff is. How did you find mrp by the way?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/22 06:39 PM
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Makes sense. Fuck I feel you on reaching your ceiling quick snap as natty - even if you're one of the genetically gifted ones with a higher one. I commend you for staying motivated and keeping it up. Most dudes, especially the gifted ones, tend to lose motivation once the kids arrive.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/22 06:12 PM
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Again, the physical stuff is the least of your worries. So drop some fluff if you want but don't make it your focus. We tend to do more of what we're already good at in stead of pushing into the discomfort of the stuff we really need to work on. This can give you a false sense of progress of left unchecked. Out of curiosity, did you reach those numbers natty?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/22 05:09 PM
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I don’t want rugby injuries to take away from my true enjoyment of throwing iron in the gym. I arrived at the same conclusion sometime around your age. Juice isn't worth the squeeze. As for the rest, I remember having my eyes opened too, and all the gratitude and just letting the realizations settle. This fine, but don't get stuck here. Realizing shit and planning to do whatever does fuck all for changing things in the real world nor your mental models. Try to write your OYS in the past tense. W…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/22 02:02 PM
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And this is why you should do an OYS going through your SLA to take an honest look at yourself in stead of dabbling at MRP, letting time slip through your fingers. Unless your goal is becoming a quiet desperation kinda Nice Guy in his 50s spending his time hanging out with similar artists on the internet. In that case you're right on track and almost there.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/22 08:32 PM
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Typical MRP, come for the diet/exercise accountability and get a face full of unrelated feedback. Anyone who goes to MRP exclusively to fix diet/exercise is... dumber than even the incredibly low average of dudes on here. And obviously dude is covering up a ton of shit. Both what is and isn't "owned" as well as the impressive lack of strength and muscle makes this glaringly obvious.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/22 08:22 PM
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Probably was unable to look at the situation objectively since I have been so heavily involved in getting her help for the state she is in. Classic mistake most of us make when our girl is having a hard time, even in less extreme circumstances. Giving comfort in stead of letting her relax into submission and service.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/22 08:08 PM
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So yet another guy who doesn't know what he wants? You're in good company at least, it's all the rage on here lately. I'll ask you a question then that was asked of me, as I already had the attractiveness and sex stuff pretty much on lock. "Why are you here?". While you mull that over do yourself a favour and find a proper place (mrp is not it) to get some fitness and diet advice. Your lifts and stats are atrocious for a dude five years in, it's easy to fix and will help you no matter what you w…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/22 07:47 PM
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It is now medically impossible for my wife to feel any physical sensation from sex. Nevertheless, she is still eager enough to go at it daily. I have been keeping up a steady stream of fun/lighthearted game throughout the day. I still randomly initiate sex when I am sure she is not in serious pain. The physicality of everything has been drastically toned down out of medical necessity. Knowing exactly how to proceed here is a tough one. I am continuing under the assumption that as long as she can…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/22 02:56 PM
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I need to stick with the guys that perform well and want to collaborate Need to keep my frame solid, say less, pressure flip, fog, and stay on the path forward. I shouldn't write people off completely. Need to work on social calibration, I shouldn't put her on a pedestal, need to just have fun and hook-up. I need to work on managing up and showing value and how I can help -pay it forward. Need to work on game and social interactions. I want to get good at something and develop my passions. What …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/22 02:48 PM
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Resolutions and I are essentially the same guy. Well, except you actually can lift more than a 110lb girl.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/22 02:44 PM
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That’s RP life. You want to make that work within a marriage. Fine. I 110% back you. But you start with RP. Not the M. u/usefulwalk4, u/redside_up, u/resolutions316, u/diamondunlucky9120, u/ryaninsthesky123 and many other dudes stuck in purgatory that I forget. This was written for you - don't know when or how this got lost along the way of MRP devolution, but it really is as simple as this.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/22 06:54 AM
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So what is the thing? Something hand wavy about validation seeking or ego? Or actually something tangible? As for the sex I'm with Sepean that if she doesn't put it in her mouth automatically when you zip down your frame isn't there yet. I guess what I'm curious about is if your frame/game results are as thoroughly unimpressive as your looks ones in optimizing from a sexual strategy stand point considering the time that's passed since you landed here. In other words if you give u/usefulwalk4 and…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/22 06:17 PM
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All great stuff. You look like you're moving out of the intermediate holding pattern of living in the mrp frame and moving into your own. Now your instincts can be trusted somewhat be sure to listen to your gut more than a rando on the internet even/especially "approved" ones. A poke: There's almost nothing about family and kids in that write up. Why?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/22 01:12 PM
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Absolutely. But it's the "why" I don't have an answer for. And I hesitate to cast it all away because I would be in the same boat just unmarried. So I did this. I knew I had completely fucked mental models and didn't trust that guy to make big decisions. Just followed the plan, OMS for a year while reading and STFU slowly moving into boundary enforcement with a firm decision to let Future Me make the call. Not that I wasn't tempted along the way - having the patience, not being reactive and acti…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/22 07:01 AM
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Most guys who don't own their fucking and BW/lifts are covering something up. But hey, at least you're one for two unlike many "approved" dudes hanging round here.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/22 06:52 AM
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Hows the fucking going?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/22 03:44 PM
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To live for myself. What does this mean, concretely? I get that eventually this is literally it and then you don't really need to think about it too much, just do what you want, when you want. But right now at a time when you are still climbing out of the hole, with set backs into "depression" (for me it was "anxiety"), it might be useful to make this very concrete. First it ensures you indeed are going in the right direction. And second it is an easy way to keep on track, not letting bouts of m…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/22 05:10 PM
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You are allowed not to want wife and kids and act accordingly even if you already had them. I'd maintain weight, run out two cycles of gslp. Then test maxes and run a percentage based program that seems fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/22 10:57 AM
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As anyone who has read Iceberg Slim would know, pimpin' ain't easy.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/22 07:24 AM
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Jesus fuck dude. By "wake up", I always get the underlying impression that you mean "Divorce your Wife" Just no. If anyone tells you what to want they've just shown you they aren't Red. Besides, there's a 90%+ likelihood you'd LTR up the next thot to choke on your dick, so why go through the hassle of divorce if your wife is meeting your needs and you enjoy having full access to your kids? She is meeting your needs, right? The big issue you identified as FIGURING OUT WHAT I WANT Thing is, thinki…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/22 04:16 AM
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Goal has always been to be more attractive and less unattractive. Being attractive makes me happy. I do it in hopes that I will get more sex from various women and be able to successfully manage an LTR when that time comes. I know that being attractive might not get this specific bitch to like me or any specific bitch but I know that there are other bitches out there who will be into me and want to be with me. I want to increase my baseline alpha because I believe that is the most beneficial for…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/22 04:47 PM
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Right now the answer is simple. It's considerably easier for me that the kid travels with her. And I like having the help with the wrangling even if it's only 1 kid, as I have some other shit on too. And then I like the kid experiencing a united parenting team that get along as an example of how to behave towards others, including previous partners. That said, you did give me something to think about. I think in a couple of years the upside will decrease enough that I'll just take the kid myself…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/22 04:43 PM
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Max- BP: 295 lbs MP:175 lbs , injured SI joint so don't do squats or deads, but last time I checked around 350 & 370 lbs respectively. Spinning 3 plates, fucking 1-2/week. How about that. Another non-monogamous dude with decent lifts and sexual success. Awesome. FWIW I would throw money at some decent barbell PT's to fix that SI think so you can do the lifts again. will check this out. Thx. I at least found it quite useful to make a Mission that isn't only career focused to get out of the furrow…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/22 04:31 PM
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Exactly. Now remember your WISNIFG. You're allowed to change your mind. Just remember to tell the bitch when your expectations of her change.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/22 05:12 AM
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Pretty much. I'd word them. Don't qualify yourself or your input with this dick-sucking shit. It only weakens your point and your self-image. Let arguments stand on their own merit, not some appeal to authority shit - much less if that authority is some rando label on an internet forum for artists learning how to fuck. You ended up prioritizing spending time on a stupid argument about lifting to the benefit (or not) of some random OYS dude that brings no value to you in stead of OYS yourself and…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/22 04:26 AM
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Nah. She misses the attention of an Alpha. They're just girls. Apex sluts and beta-females alike. They respond to incentives and cues just like everybody else. Or. I should say bitches I suppose. 😂
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/22 04:19 AM
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Not so much a comment to this as a."tee hee" moment. I think someone commented last week there was only one woman you didn't label a bitch. "Chatty roommate". It JUST clicked for me there's actually one more... tee hee. Reading back, actually two. I guess I'm going soft. 6' I'm bringing a tape measure next time we hang out. Ah fuck, did I forgot to wear my insoles last time? SVP Downplaying. Congrats again dude. I think it's fairly accurate. Maybe EVP. I just counted and my core management team …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/22 04:18 AM
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I would rephrase it to: maybe the "stick" is actually more effective. We just don't like it as much as using "carrots".
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/22 04:11 AM
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You got it dude. Get after it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/22 04:09 AM
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Exactly. You got it. You might suck at it the first couple of times. That's fine. It gets easier, then effortless, then superfluous because a look suffices until even that is rarely needed.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 07:47 PM
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Do. But don't get so engrossed in reading you forget to tell your bitch ass wife to shut up.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 07:31 PM
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Somewhere between the two. It was very dumb. Point is. Once you've explicitly said you don't want you two to be exclusive, she might very well not be. If you change your mind you will need to communicate it. What I currently do with my main bitch is tell her that she's free to do whatever she wants, I just want to know. So far she's so far gone that this literally grosses her out, but I can see a scenario where it wouldn't. Crucially it means that if she blows Tyrone and shows up after, I can ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 07:28 PM
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This is a twist on TRP. Of course you read the original material. Don't read the current posts as it's a cesspool now. But read the sidebar and all posts by the vanguard. In particular whisper and hsp.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 07:15 PM
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Just make sure this isn't a new one and you blow your top when she's been blowing Tyrone 15 min before showing up at yours. If you have explicitly told her you don't want exclusivity she might do this exactly because you told her to and she thought it was what you wanted and thus she did to please you. I had this once, and God damn did I feel dumb.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 07:00 PM
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How are you oys27 and not done with the sidebar? Ah fuck. Just read your readings. Drop MAP. Right now. Burn it. Read mmslp and crucially do Rians vid series to weed out the blue and purple shit from it. Have you read the TRP sidebar and the seminal posts from Whisper and HSP?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 06:47 PM
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The more women I interact with and the more dudes I compare notes with the more I think that needing "more rock than oak" is an AWALT thing. Notwithstanding that some express their anxiety more erratically than others in ways that can indeed be diagnosed clinically if one is so inclined.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 06:42 PM
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Sounds like you got it. Now. If you want her to be sexually exclusive to you, then you can just say so. It's not hard. Besides. IME if she sees you as her best option, it's likely she already is. Hypergamy is monogamy as Whisper taught us.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 06:30 PM
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Every man should read and implement the sidebar divorce guides up to having everything printed and put in a drawer. This goes triple for guys like you.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 06:24 PM
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Stats. 🙂 As for Mission read UM. There are seven life areas. You can have a Mission that encompasses several, one that is sequential. Many options.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 06:14 PM
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For point 1. Tell her to shut up. I was not kidding nor exaggerating. Literally say "shut up" when she berates you. You can be thankful to her for helping you learn to stfu as this is a skill you will appreciate the rest of your life. Yet being a punching bag that just quietly takes the verbal beatings isn't what you want. "Shut up." Then if she continues, leave and stfu. Leave the house if you have to. She's gonna test harder at first - beware of a DV charge, you might want to tape the conversa…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 06:12 PM
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I see no reason to you hamstering yourself into this hole when you're getting everything you want with minimal effort. You came to see, like many (Aussie and Peed being the latest) that upping beta/lowering alpha has little upside and a significant downside considering your preferred outcomes. So now you calibrate. That's all it has to be. The relationship is hers to manage. This is why you have such shit results trying to do so. If you're top tier and clear about what you want (this may be the …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 06:00 PM
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How much are you lifting and how much are you fucking? And are you sure you want your career to be your entire Mission?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 05:50 PM
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This is the only thing dude needs, and the only thing he wont focus on. :)
/r/askMRP08/06/22 05:52 AM
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Ethical Non-Monogamy No.
/r/askMRP08/06/22 05:51 AM
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OYS 40s 6’ 183 1000+ PL total. Divorced 1 year, kid. Mission: Explore and experience everything the world has to offer. Overall: Still the happiest I’ve ever been and it seems to be accelerating - enjoying the ride. Work After some job hunting I made SVP at a large corporate. I will relocate during the summer and take on a global role. Huge step up, considerably more money, responsibility and traveling. In terms of content more of the stuff I find fun and less of the stuff I don’t. I am elated a…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 04:42 AM
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There are at least three lessons you identify for yourself in this word salad. Do you see them?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 04:07 AM
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maybe being a joy is a bit of a catch all box Upon reflection this is pretty shitty wording, especially for a recovering Nice Guy. I'd can it. And include some stuff about being an involved dad, if that's indeed what you want. Im gonna get a pretty resentful first mate on my hands You don't have a first mate yet. This process is about getting one - as this is(?) what you want. So, in letting this bitch audition for the part, she will test harder the more you alpha up. It can get pretty turbulent…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/22 04:04 AM
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I got kind of queasy from all the dick sucking you had to hedge this with. If you have notes to share then do. I'm guessing you're still on the semi drip feed duty sex quiet desperation life plan then?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 06:58 PM
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You're oys 27. You can start to switch into dominance. Besides who gives a fuck what the bitch says or notices? It's about you only spending time on people that add value. If asked just tell her "you felt like it" (whatever more fun/productive thing you did). Four words. Then change the subject or just move on to whatever you were doing. I agree wholeheartedly with only including things in your Mission you can control. But something like "being an involved and present father" is in that Mission?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 06:47 PM
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I'm not seeing any downsides on going all alpha Sepean is probably the guy who A/B tested it the most. AFAIK he found the same. Being high value and granting exclusivity seems to be enough beta for a bitch to stick around.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 06:24 PM
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Do I educate her on what emasculation is? You tell her to shut up. And then you shut up. And withdraw affection, attention, commitment commensurate with how shitty she behaves. To fuck like an animal as often as I possibly can, great career in advertising/marketing/sales with at least 250K in total comp (+40% from now), to get really fucking strong/look and feel like a fucking Viking sex god, to be a joy to be around, surround myself with people that add to my life. Live in my frame I take it th…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/22 06:22 PM
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As long as your lawyer knows that you want the absolutely best possible deal FOR YOU and what that exactly means, of course follow his advice over that of internet assholes. The sidebar thing has something about how to play the court and how it's not in your best interest to try to out alpha the judge. Just make sure you give the bitch no quarter nor space to breathe so she feels pressured enough to make mistakes that are in your favour. Of in any way possible try to paint contested as a lot mor…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/22 04:50 PM
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His concern was that I worked for 15 years and that I didn’t have to walk away with nothing. Fuck me, even your lawyer can see it. I remember a while back. I poked you for acting on feels and nuking before you were ready. You assured me you were, and that you'd checked and that in your state it was all cut and dry anyway. I appreciate u/HornsOfApathy trying to call me in to triage this shit show, but it's all ass backwards. What I did was I figured out what the worst case scenario was. If the ex…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/22 02:44 PM
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Do you have some hard stats on "who you want to be" is? How much does he lift/weigh. What's his track record with catch and release. How much of an asshole is he? If not you're likely to just move the goal posts and delay taking action. The same goes for what you want out of your woman life. Define it. Clearly, objectively measurable.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 08:01 PM
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Totally get the time thing. Am much the same. You could restrict women to only fucking but then you deprive yourself of half or more of the fun. As I've said before. Time efficiency is the main upside to exclusivity as far as I can tell. That said, I have two bitches currently and still hang out with other dudes at least once a week. Highly recommended.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 01:13 PM
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My point is. Take the lesson. Really internalise AWALT, seeing it in the flesh like this. To give you an example. I literally within the last two hours have had two different bitches write me that they miss and worship my dick. Unprompted. Once again this isn't special. They aren't special. I'm not special. It's exactly what RP predicts will happen when you implement the tools in a certain way. AWALT. And you are right to experiment. That's how you learn. I'm very appreciative of you writing out…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 10:56 AM
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Losing 40lbs is indeed good. Losing the last 50-60 and staying there for two years without gaining some back will be a "bang up job". This will incidentally also solve many of your other problems, so I'd make this my Mission for the next year's, together with finances. Just let your wife do her thing and focus on the money makers that have nothing to do with her. This goes for anyone and in particular for you. When you want to write about her in your oys or on ask, punch yourself in the dick and…
/r/askMRP01/06/22 10:24 AM
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I should have AM'd, told her she's being silly and doubled down on what I wanted. This would‘ve been upping the alpha response indeed. But not necessarily the right one, given you wanted to add some beta. I failed the shit test by trying to understand what her hang-up was about it. Not necessarily. First off, fogging is great to let her vent her feels and give her a soft landing space. Including your dick works well here. And then, as much as I fucking hate the lead your wife shit, if you want t…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 08:26 AM
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I’ve yet to see a substantial negative incentive fail. So I figured you would probably manage. I intentionally set the bar low, so youd have a hard time not doing it. And once that done, there was zero chance you wouldn’t keep momentum. As you have. But I reckoned there was a 20-30% chance of you deleting out.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 08:22 AM
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Remember this guy? What a fucking difference six months make.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/22 03:17 AM
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Remind me. Are your divorce papers ready and in a drawer only waiting for signature?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/22 08:03 PM
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Be careful of frame here. On the one hand it's good to understand womanese. Just don't forget to speak manglish. The old rule goes as much for this bitch as a wife of twenty years. Watch what she does not what she says. You presumably decided that a bit of beta was needed to calm the anxiety. So own it. Who gives a fuck what she thinks. If you thought/said anything but this you failed the shit test. If attraction starts to drop and entitlement/bitchiness rises you will know to recalibrate. But i…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/22 07:43 PM
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The relationship is her job. For everyone in here but especially for you, this is one of the fundamentals you really need to remind yourself of daily. I'm still waiting to see what you meant by purple that UM poked at by the way.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/22 05:17 PM
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If you aren't needy/insecure then plainly stating your level of investment is an open door for them to walk into. If it comes from a place of insecurity, it's repulsive. Frame. Is. Everything.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/22 04:49 PM
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Pretty sure this is BS if you review how your woman life has gone post divorce up until now.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/22 01:10 PM
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So what you want changed now compared to what you've wanted to do (and subsequently did) in your woman life over the last three months or so?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/22 05:24 PM
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So what kind of female input benefits this galley in navigating the seas and defeating the opposition?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/22 03:14 PM
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If you do (most don't) then you'll have a very different set of problems to the ones you think you have. We'll talk then.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/22 01:16 PM
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This is one of those cases of a new guy stumbling into a discussion on fine tuning the last five percent and musings about RP and human nature. Just know this is is so, file it as something to look at when you are indeed single again, and focus on the money makers in making your life better. Lift, read, OYS every week. Then ping me for a talk on this shit again when you've completed both the RP and MRP sidebars, your total is 900 and you've started to clarify your Mission. It'll be valuable then…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/22 05:59 AM
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You would think logic would dictate this, yet in practice you would be wrong about that for 90%+ of divorced merpers.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/22 05:35 AM
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Frame is everything. 🙂
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/22 05:28 AM
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What a good First Mate is depends on what kind of ship you're running and what course you've charted. In the above I was inferring a bit just to make the point, but it's for you to answer. I will repeat for the umpteenth time: What do you want?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/22 05:28 AM
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Stick to the trinity for six months and let that guy see what he wants in his relationship life. All guys exiting a marriage say they don't see a committed, monogamous relationship in their future. 95% find themselves in one within the first three months.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/22 07:29 PM
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You aren't looking very hard. You'll pay, literally, for that laziness.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/22 05:47 PM
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Literally anything (relationships, work, health, family, whatever) can blow up in your face - even if you don't fuck up, shit happens. Being Red then gives you a safety net (someone linked the Rollo piece on this) to handle the fallout - and thus gives you freedom to go for whatever the fuck you want with little to worry about. Anyone telling you what you should and shouldn't want has thus proven he isn't Red IMO. Isn't it Horns that says that he actively cultivates his oneitis as it aligns with…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/22 05:39 PM
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One of the guys who wasn't enough of a fuckup to end up here just on account of a cunty wife. You'll do fine. By all means do the trinity (Lift, Sidebar, OYS every week for a year) but already now start figuring out "what do I want?". It might not be what you think. Also, for lifting post your lifts each week and go on GSLP getting your total to 900 (or above) while gaining SLOWLY to 205 or so. Cut to 185 keeping lifts up, and then figure out what you want to do. This should take you 6-12 months…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/22 05:24 PM
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Your PTSD is blinding you here. Your career bitch is nothing like your useless SAHM EX. Leading her (ugh) to grow the fuck up, focus on work or whatever other value-adding things you like isn't going to turn her into one. It's going to turn her into a better first mate for you. I still don't know this is what you want, but you keep acting like it, so might as align to it. In stead of fighting to be hands off, letting her derail your other goals, such as sleeping and easing off the booze.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/22 03:43 PM
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I think you are too much in your head here. Alpha is MPO shit. Aloof, cocky, confident, selfish, aggressive, dominant etc. Beta is providing comfort and resources. Orgasms, listening, praising, fixing things, showing investment (this can include being jealous and possessive, incidentally). Blue is weakness, insecurity, fear, supplication, self sacrifice. What many of us end up doing is relying too much on DNGAF alpha, being scared to follow our instincts in providing comfort, letting the bitch k…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/22 03:39 PM
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I told you so won't help you but I will repeat by initial advice. Go full fucking bore on getting the best possible deal for you by any means necessary. Especially with those numbers, Jesus. This might be the worst divorce rape on here since Redsuplff. Get your lawyer to lay out what his opinion is both on possible end state and the approach to get there and then get a second opinion from another one. And then implement making sure to push hard as a motherfucker on her pressure points. You have …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/22 02:44 PM
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Be careful not to act like the ultimate alpha either. Most of us post divorce dudes have learnt (some if us the hard way) that you need a lot (like a lot) more beta than you think for the relationship to be pleasant. Good beta, mind. Not blue shit. Your dosing of alpha vs beta should be a whole lot different than the average clueless semi-DB dude that writes here.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/22 02:48 PM
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What do you want to "fix" and why?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/22 05:55 AM
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I'm curious to how the volume stuff works out for you. I like long term block stuff. Do some months of high volume. Do some months of higher intensity stuff. Peak. Repeat.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/22 05:54 AM
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As much as I love Dre and Jay they get this Madonna/Whore shit dead wrong. There are no ho's. There are no housewives. There's just bitches. Beautiful wonderful bitches. Case in point: As far as I know your apex slut is already trying to provide additional value by doing quintessential housewife shit like cooking and cleaning?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/22 05:50 AM
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There's a lot of themes coming up lately that I would like to address if I had the time. Maybe even write a post. However just quick, it's bitch management 101 that fucking is literally level 0. Enjoying her outside of sex is a requirement for anything more than that, obviously. Still doesn't mean you have to wife up the bitch. I also think that most (all?) put together guys prefer capable bitches. How else is she gonna add value.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/22 01:09 PM
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I always liked the idea of serial monogamy. Thing is, while a nice concept, it's rarely seen in the wild. In stead it seems to turn into LTR monogamy for most dudes. I guess moving away from the bitch might shake things up enough that you defy the insta-settle down trend. Or not. Whatever makes you happy. Either way, being unhappy that the bitch is a well trained high performing apex slut is some next level self sabotage. Kill that shit cold.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/05/22 12:14 PM
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Except dude just wrote he isn't single anymore or did I miss something?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/22 03:43 AM
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It was more like a gradual than sudden enlightenment.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 01:03 PM
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You should worry about your squat not your bench.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/22 05:44 AM
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I'd advise blowing up the covert contact you guys seem to have and then make an overt one that suits your goals.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/22 05:56 PM
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RP sidebar dude. Start there. All of it. Then the entire MRP sidebar. Then all posts by whisper, humansockpuppet, sepean. When you really get those. REALLY get them. Then maybe start reading other shit and incorporating it. When you've found it gets you good results in practice in the real world then write a Field Report on it like Blarg has. But stop spouting random uncurated shit you happened to pick up when you haven't even read the basics much less know how your new stuff links to it. This i…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/22 05:58 AM
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So not a word of the RP sidebar but lots of the new age stuff. I thought as much. I would advise you refrain from commenting on others and read in stead. Better use of your time. And you'll avoid rule 12 that way too. Seeing as you already got a small slap on the wrist I won't report you.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/22 09:10 PM
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I spend too much time here, it's precisely as blue as you thought. There's value in supposedly Red bloopers challenging you. It's the main thing I've gotten from this place.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/22 05:15 AM
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In a physical sense, sure. Bitches age like milk, bla bla. They max out there somewhere between 15 and 25. But this is where Wife Goggles help you. Essentially you see the bitch as that little hottie you first picked up, until she zeroes you out and they are slapped off your face. This can be good for guys. I think I've seen Horns call it "productive oneitis". If we agree that most guys don't follow the Red playbook but just jump into an LTR with "good enough" right after ditching their current …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/22 05:13 AM
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That's been going on for a while. Do you have a plan to improve it? I had assumed you'd sleep like a baby once the divorce was behind you. I sleep great, but I had a small issue identified that I haven't gotten around to doing all the appointments for. It's very small bordering inconsequential, but no reason not to fix. So what I was owning was not doing so earlier, but now having concrete appointments set up. After this is done I have clean slate on medical. Between this and the male friends yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/22 05:01 AM
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I remember you asking me this way back. I've thought about it since and I don't have a better answer than back then. That the plow horse/Promise Keepers shit was particularly deeply ingrained. Over time I've seen more dudes of this type - UW being a very good example.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/22 04:57 AM
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I like having one bitch I raw dog and then condoms on the rest. Sometimes I raw dog several but they often freak out about that. So that would've been an option. Tell her you use condoms always on other bitches. I can relate to the break from plate spinning. Your problem is when you want to get back to it and have to declare it. Anyways. This is all about trying stuff out. Interested to see how you get on.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/22 04:48 PM
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You got it my dude. Literally the essence of Sepeans masterpiece about most men's ideal not being alpha.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/22 03:53 PM
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I don't agree with the last bit. For me it took four fucking times through the two Bibles of MRP to start getting it. Of course I can't know what would've happened had I not. The excuse is that dude is too busy to do any real work to improve his life.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/22 01:28 PM
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I'm curious as to exactly how the talk went having only had one myself which I nuked from orbit. As to the other stuff I get it. Still testing myself to figure out if non monogamy is compatible with my professional goals. Things seem to be taking off for me as well lately. Having things "feel congruent" is gonna take a while I think. At least for me. One has to try different shit out.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/22 01:24 PM
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"Bitches" is mostly for the lulz to quote HSP. That said, to quote the other RP founder, misogyny is the secret sauce of RP. I'll add that this misogyny in no way runs counter to enjoying, even empowering women. Quite the opposite. This place moves further from RP by the day and year, at least as it looks to me. That's not necessarily a bad thing. You can get a lot of great stuff from here. Just gotta know what is what. Seems you're starting to see it too.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 08:30 PM
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It's an excuse.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 07:58 PM
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How long have you been at this reread?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 05:44 PM
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And if not, why DEER and AMOG MRP? I don't agree with it being a DEER. I definitely agree that there was some (a lot?) of "bad ego"-based AMOG shit going on in some (all?) my responses, which I really learnt a lot from. I love this place. I'm definitely not flawless which is why I wanted to see what New Dude there had to offer. The day I think I've "got it" is the day I'll be really worried. Happily don't see that happening as long as I keep myself honest on here. Cheers man - always happy to ex…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 05:08 PM
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My main girl gave me the talk a couple of days ago. I agreed to date her exclusively after thinking about it for a day. Duude. "The Talk" is Socially Retarded, Do Not Tolerate It. To quote Roissy: If you allow a woman to make the rules she will resent you with a seething contempt even a rapist cannot inspire. Godspeed. EDIT: Also, what is it with you guys and single moms. I kind of want to try out a few now to see what all the fuss is about.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 05:04 PM
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However, if you are using it out of fear and to create distance might be something to explore. Perhaps, Fear that you would slip back into some blue bill behaviors that brought you here, or fear that in being vulnerable/authentic you might sacrifice the boundaries that took you long to establish for yourself. I got this poke too way back when I posted weekly and talked about bitches. I looked at it then, and have since, and it isn't it. This is how I talk - always did, also with friends in the r…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 04:58 PM
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You know you are deep in some sort of anger phase when Archwinger becomes your go-to. Don't get me wrong, I fucking love his posts and quote them often. But it's an indicator light when used in the way you do. Don't get stuck in the anger phase like BPP. Bitches are just bitches. Wonderful, annoying, beautiful, irrational, intelligent, solipsistic etc. Life would be no fun without them for 99.9% of guys. I've been poking at you to just ditch the bitch, but don't do it from this angry place, or y…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 04:41 PM
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"Me against the bitches" This is in no way, shape or form what's happening. But you are far from alone from extrapolating that from the use of a single word in my FR. In any event, I appreciate the observation and caution. When someone's looking at work colleagues/whoever as objects. It explains what it means when you betray yourself and what negatives follow This is interestingly and probably not coincidentally, something I'm working on currently. helps to start seeing women as individuals with…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 11:12 AM
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I also can't believe that Horns couldn't carve out an equally good (or more likely much better) life without his wife. It simply defies belief that he's better off. Whoa, flirting with MGTOW, are we? What happened, did the hysterical bonding stop? Or is it like that dude whose wife starts blowing him in the lawyers office when they're about to sign papers - makes you even angrier that NOW she finally does a little bit of effort? The blue pill inside is hard to kill, sometimes it just turns purpl…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/22 05:11 AM
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Because its in end not so important how you call something but how you look at it Yet words matter. The meaning you attribute - or not - to them is important in shaping your thinking, how you perceive yourself and others and how they perceive you. As for the book. Can you tell me why you think it would be useful both in general as to how one sees women and then in particular in my case? I curate my reading and if it isn't on the sidebar I need a damn good reason to incorporate it into my mental …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 12:07 PM
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My premise was that I already made plans and they did not let me know beforehand DEER , and theirs was that I should have known there’s shit to be done. CC on their side. I will see if I can do this chore somehow today or do it partly. Why? As for the habits stuff there's nothing better than James Clear. Just from his site and tweets you can get a lot, and his book - Atomic Habits - is amazing.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 06:39 AM
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I don't see the contradiction of Mission, I might just be slow. Care to point it out? Not to say I got the impression you were practicing Zen, of which one principle is denial of ego and your writing clearly says your ego seems pumped up. This was actually the comment I was expecting when I first posted. I'm still fiddling with ego, as per the spiritual segment. Ego-death is in some ways good in others the direct way to the furrow, at least for me. If you - or anyone else - has thoughts on that …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 06:35 AM
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Jesus fuck. I write up a FR on my stuff over the last six months and my use of fucking standard RP nomenclature for the females is the only thing poked at. I forgot how useless the comments to my shit on here is, this is a nice reminder. To help you out here, I love bitches and source some pretty outstanding ones that stand out in ways intellectual, philosophical, physical, whatever and generally have their shit together beyond most humans I run into, male or female. If the use of a "bitch" real…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 05:46 AM
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As of now, worrying about money or her taking financial advantage over her job status seems just as silly as the guy who's thinking his oneitis has the last pussy on earth. Fine. You have abundance and thus can handle it without much issue if shit hits the fan. But what's in the current setup for you? girls truly don't care about cars, houses, purses, or kids. Girls literally only want one thing and it's fucking They only want dick from Alphas and are ecstatic and grateful to get it, yes. And th…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 05:39 AM
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just as many opportunities for freedom as /u/Impatientzen Having lived essentially as you describe and now on the other side, I can tell you that it doesn't even come close. Living with a kid incurs an opportunity cost just as everything else in life, no matter how you set up your logistics, finances etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 05:33 AM
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​ even if you want to let her keep the relationship, you can do it (and she will probably work even harder for it) without the legal marriage. I have been unable to come up with any reasonable counterargument other than convenience/avoiding uncertainty. There is no counterargument. Choosing to avoid the hassle here and now is more costly and less inconvenient than not having that cheesecake that blows your macros and thus your physique goals. Why merpers, irrespective of what they want in their …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/22 05:28 AM
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Last year my wife became a sahm. You poor bastard.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 06:07 PM
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I figured out what I wanted quite early in my MAP. If anything it's just solidified and been reconfirmed as I've moved along. It was more about staying the course and keeping myself honest, which this categorized OYS really helped during pretty much from the get go. What I meant was that we all BS ourselves to some degree - and we can't see it properly ourselves. So by writing up a factual status report I 1) could see the glaring holes myself and get off my ass and fix them and 2) someone could'…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 05:46 PM
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Guilt is almost always (always?) the by-product of a big ass covert contract. Is it? To me it was more the plow-horse, save-a-hoe shit, which I don't attribute to CC's but just hardwiring plus Promise Keepers. I guess you could shoehorn it into some kind of CC like "if I'm not an asshole the whamen in my life will be happy". I'm going to give this some thought. Eventually you'll get to the point where you look at your actions and question if you're fucked up for NOT feeling guilty about some act…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 05:41 PM
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Hah! Thanks, with your, u/2741 and u/ragnar_Daneskjold 's help I finally understood what u/SBIII meant. It's gonna be a no I'm afraid, though I can see it getting tiresome 10x in a single post. 😂😂
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 05:34 PM
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Mission: Explore and experience everything the world has to offer. I advance it in pretty much all Life Areas. To take a few examples. Professionally I'm looking to relocate next time. Either industry or geography - or both. As for bitches, it means rotating in new ones - but also means spending some time with each and exploring them. As for my social and recreative it means going out and experiencing new things. Individual freedom is a core value that enables this, which is where the financial …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 03:00 PM
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Nothing as far as I can tell. But I can't see myself clearly which is one reason to post. The more important is that a lot of this shit only got fixed because I started writing this thing out. As it used to do when I did them weekly. E.g. the health stuff that I've been sleeping on (pun intended) for way, way too long.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 10:39 AM
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Keep acting in your own self interest to the extent that it's really fucking uncomfortable and the guilt eventually subsides. Might take you many times through nmmng and wisnifg. This is how it worked for me at least.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 10:11 AM
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How so?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 09:51 AM
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OYS 40s divorced 1 year, kid. 6’ 182, BP 200x10, SQ 270x9, DL 330x9, chins bw+55x7 Sidebarx2. NMMNGx5+WISNIFGx4. PFPx2. Whisper’s posts x1000, all Rians videos. Mission: Explore and experience everything the world has to offer. Physical I got some coaching to train through a serious injury. It was excellent. Tried to follow some programming from them once I was back to normal poundages, but got nowhere. Likewise tried a diet coaching service, but didn’t like it. Fired both and am running my own …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/22 09:26 AM
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Pook, Roissy, Roosh, Mystery. Read and apply those and you're set. You can follow any of the newer ones too. I like the London guys, Tom Torero (RIP) and Troy Francis myself. Just be sure to weed out the insecurity and frame-issues in their stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/22 12:52 PM
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I can relate, go under 30yo. Set a filter so it doesn't show older ones. Cannot recommend this enough. And then punch yourself in the dick for being in your girls head and gleefully thinking of overt dread effects like a DB dude on oys2. You're better than that.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/22 12:06 PM
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I don’t think any women would stick around past a ons if I was a complete dickhead Not saying it is a good strategy to be a dickhead, but this is blatantly untrue. I do like this woman more than the other ones I had previously. Good you admitted this to yourself. Now look at the fear, insecurity this causes and how this translates to you behaving like that TRP moron Ryan is on about. And then think a bit about how the fuck you're gonna do better next time you start falling in love with a bitch (…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/22 11:09 AM
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ROUGH DRAFTS before posting. Indeed you should've. What was your goal for x last week; what did you do last week in the service of that goal; and what did you learn that you are going to correct/repeat? That said, I fucking hope dudes get to this because this is literally IT, yet essentially noone does.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/22 06:36 AM
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I would be cashing in prematurely as I’m only 28. This is true. But as you are in the lucky position of knowing that you will never, ever no matter the circumstances legally marry, you can just LTR up a bitch. And if you find your value outpaces hers to an unacceptable degree, you just upgrade at little to no cost. This way you also get to practice the relationship management and self management tools you so sorely need. I still sense boatloads of insecurity and LARPing in you. Including that th…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/22 05:57 AM
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Funny, I actually like having a single worked in as a post-novice strategy. This means you hit your work sets first then the single? I like it in this manner: Target is 55kg (your press) so you go 55x5, optional 60x1, 65x1, 55x5 55xmax. At your poundages I wouldn't bother to be honest. Also, my comment about maintaining 85kg BW while you get your lifts up still stands. Your lower body lifts are atrocious. Keep yourself honest by posting periodic form checks on the Starting Strength sub on here. …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/22 05:25 AM
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2 plates with one back up Why do you want this now? monogamous LTR When will you want this and why?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/22 08:01 PM
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Just caught the weird T stuff. Don't discount that either dude. Your emotional state is quite literally dictated by hormones. There's only so much that CBT/mindset stuff can do.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/22 05:03 PM
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Your lifts are all over the place and rep range isn't gslp. I'd do actual gslp while maintaining bw stable for three months, cut to 75ish from there, and then start a slow bulk.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/22 01:34 PM
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Much easier to give comments to this stuff that actually happened rather than your vague MRP-lingo stuff in previous OYS. Had you done this earlier you may've avoided this little clusterfuck. which leaves me with my main plate de facto monogamous girlfriend. Fixed that for you. Don't fall into this "plate" nonsense when you aren't spinning. You already saw what happens when you do. You end up having (covert) GF expectations, and throw a hissy fit when the bitch acts like a plate. Plates fuck oth…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/22 10:26 AM
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You'll make it yet. Keep grinding.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/22 06:48 AM
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Yeah, I've been lazy with the tracking. I weigh in every day, add it to a sheet and put the 7-day rolling average in the OYS. I've been eating less every week and haven't needed to track calories up till now. Yes, I started daily creatine in the last 8 days. I would start tracking but keep everything else the same. Creatine adds a few pounds of BW if you respond to it. So it's a good thing. Get in the habit now of tracking everything you eat, and BW every day. If in 4 weeks your rolling average …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 04:44 PM
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Diet: I think I told you a while back that easy gains were going to run out soon. Tracking in particular will be needed now. Both of calories as well as BW. Do you weigh in every morning and take a weekly average? If not, you should. That said, 2-3lbs can easily be explained by starting creatine, if you only started a week ago. women, by design, are distracting They aren't a large component of my mission, which is more centred around my businesses, strength and martial arts I don't agree with th…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/22 01:55 AM
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Money does zilch for your Alpha. It doesn't matter even if your lifestyle is interesting. However, you can use it to up alpha (exciting activities, good clothes etc.) and it's good for beta if you want to keep bitches around longer.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 05:41 AM
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Sounds like you're playing it well. From experience, and to Horns' point. As for bitch2, you can just matter-of-fact state it ("I'm a record producer" said Rick Rubin) and change subject. That way you get out of this weird NG-reminiscent of hiding stuff. That said, being vague is always good.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 05:40 AM
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​ I'm splitting hairs here - I don't think that it's as much a filtering for the best per se, more so, giving yourself a chance to get an accurate assessment of your SMV and allowing yourself to calibrate your filters. My assessment on "Good enough" is changing by the week. This is essentially what I mean. HSP has a line somewhere that I can't find (if someone does, drop it) about how men have no idea of their own value and thus settle for suboptimal return on it. I wonder if you'll get caught i…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 05:38 AM
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Thanks dude. Couple of follow-up questions: Did your Frame, Game, Looks change significantly in this time period? Did you find a general upward trend in quality (subjective to you) and SMV (objective looks essentially) of the bitches you fucked over these 26 months? If yes, did it stall and if yes, when?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/22 05:22 AM
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I probably just have shit friends, but I wouldn't trust a single of them to "check me in case I'm missing things", as they are all Blue. Resentfully divorced Blue a few of them, but blue all the same.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/22 03:50 PM
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Yep. u/HornsOfApathy summed up why most dudes LTR. However, my epiphany goes even further. That not only will most guys LTR. That much is obvious. But that many will LTR real fucking quick. For them, it seems, the cost of doing the classic RP "cream of the crop" filtering model outweights the benefit. If you look at dudes like JC, Tyred etc., they seem quite happy and cognizant of their choice. For them it was worth it to LTR up "good enough" avoiding the time investment needed to run through en…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/22 03:18 PM
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That’s all talk until it’s put into practice. All of this is talk until it’s put into practice. That's exactly my point. Just observe yourself fucking carefully once the difficulty level gets turned up by being closer to the bitch more frequently. Trash mental models die hard in my experience. Having PW as an example of what not to do and where letting things slide can lead you ought to help. That’s why either a mens group or more frequent MRP conversation is healthy for me to get the checks I n…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/22 07:10 AM
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As I've discussed with Tyred, my little treateise isn't whether one chooses LTR monogamy or not. 90%+ guys will. It's about who/how you pick the girl. That said, let's have a talk about both bitch-selection as well as non-monogamy, shall we? If you can vet, set boundaries, and are a HVM - 80% of women (that are attracted) would get on board with a man like myself and add value. AWALT. With that small edit this is my point too. Any bitch will act right if you have your shit together. So that isn'…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/22 08:55 AM
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​ Am I happy with life and this decision? Yep. For the record, as you note yourself, this is the only thing that matters. could it fuck me over with consequences down the road? yep - I'll own those if and when they come. Of course it could as can any life decision. However, that's not what I'm getting at here. Any dude who gets the mindset shift and starts using the toolbox correctly will get bitches in his life acting right, and make necessary adjustments if/when they don't. I don't expect anyo…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/22 06:54 AM
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I have recently come to appreciate the "stay" plan a lot more for the majority of merpers, so good for you. I really mean that. I think you have a grade A slut on your hands if you train her properly. Have fun with it. One tip. Do NOT show how shocked you are when she gives you a peek at the absolute freak hiding in there. Praise it, encourage it and enjoy the fruits of your labor. Also do NOT connect that freaky shit to her fucking around and getting in your head about whatever she did with who…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/22 04:53 AM
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Oh for sure. I like to use the examples of dudes like u/protoworm to 1) poke them because I think they could use it and 2) a concrete example to warn others. The big difference between TRP and MRP is that it is infinitely easier to BS a girl (and yourself) that you're the prize in interspersed interactions than in daily ones. That's where PW's inability to control the frame of the relationship came through. Our hero u/JCX_Pulse has yet to move to even the same state as this girl, so he needs to …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/22 04:42 AM
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u/hornsofapathy u/Tyred_Biggums Thanks for popping in to the discussion. And thanks for indulging my take on things, which isn't mainstream here. To be clear, I wouldn't recommend my lifestyle for most dudes. Non-monogamy is not necessary to have a happy life no matter what Caleb Jones yells at you. for many will be a hindrance more than a help, even today where the Thotpocalypse and dating apps have alleviated a lot of the hassle. It all depends on "what do you want", RP is descriptive not pres…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/22 05:02 AM
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Just one poke, since you replied. How can you know whether you choose "good as it gets"and not "good enough" when the basis of comparison is your bitch ass ex and then one (1) bitch after? How can you have any idea of what your options are and what you can realistically get in return for the value you provide through that masculinity you speak of without this data?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 07:43 PM
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So a note. For me dick problems with new bitches was definitely subconsciously and at some point even overtly one of the main reasons I stuck around with the wife for so long. And then decided for affairs over just banging strange when I wanted variety on the side of my marriage. Both I cannot recommend. It's like thinking with your dick just backwards and thus you are fucking yourself more than anything. This might very, very well be the same thing with your desire thing. Who the fuck desires t…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 06:54 PM
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You specifically said "money". Which is classic beta-quality no matter what your frame. What I mean by "status" is more like... fame in a way. It's the social proof, life style, whatever. And it isn't that most celebrities don't also earn money. And the money I suppose can be used to support an exciting lifestyle and such. But money/being a high earner in and of itself never, ever made a pussy wet. This might seem nitpicky, but at least for me it's important to be accurate on defining and using …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 06:45 PM
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So I wasn't grilling you, just collecting data. RP isn't for everyone and I really mean that. It's just a collection of notes anyway, use what you need to pursue happiness and use the well developed DGAF forged in the hellish fires of (pre-)divorce to leave the rest. One word of warning. I think you started a bit before I, together with the artist currently known as u/ProtoWorm. Look at his latest stuff for a cautionary tale of where you can end up a year or two after taking this route if you ar…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 06:39 PM
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To be fair, NMMNG and MRP are not even in the same universe. Glover doesn't get intersexual dynamics at all and is pretty Blue, resulting in some train wreck life decisions due to pussy. keep his mouth closed, nothing in, nothing out. This is gold.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 05:29 PM
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Just do gslp out of the box. Don't worry about setting lifting goals, just increase every workout as programmed. You will make plenty of gains even while losing weight due to all the surplus calories your body is carrying. It took you years to dig this hole so it will take you years to crawl out. But every pound you lose you will be healthier and happier. Don't lose sight of that. One foot in front of the other.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 03:54 PM
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Yeah makes sense. SMs are easier to land with beta game. But if you alpha up then counter to intuition younger and hotter are actually easier, both in theory and from experience. Fuck friends with no desire on their part for more is perfectly possible. Nigh on impossible with SMs or any bitch that's reached epiphany really. This desire can be managed of course, but a bit more of a hassle.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 01:59 PM
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Did you though? I guess we will see.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 01:56 PM
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I don't get the reference, but I can imagine. It's the "longest time on MRP without results" race to the bottom that those two have going. u/redside_up is currently winning, but it's close as u/UsefulWalk4 has shown a oneitis for the ages. If you found MRP before 2018 you might give them a run for your money. As for what to do. STFU, sidebar, lift, OYS every week for a year. Same as everyone. You've lost 30lbs which is a good start. You need to lose 70 more. Until you've lost the first 50 of tho…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 08:39 AM
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Fun to see you back and great to see you happy. For my data collection on post-divorce dudes, I have a few questions if you will indulge: How many bitches did you fuck post divorce before settling into monogamy with this one, and how did she earn it? What was the thing that made you break a few rules, some even Iron, in taking your path? I'm primarily thinking of having an LDR and then moving for the bitch. Do you plan on moving in with the bitch? If so, how will you make that decision - how wil…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 08:27 AM
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A guy who fucks and lifts. Top 20% of dudes in general and sadly top 10% of MRP just by virtue of those facts. I knew there was potential in you dude. Good for you. Have you made peace with your bitch fucking around or are you still planning to nuke?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 08:23 AM
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I finally realized if I was hiring a lawyer to let them do the work. I’ve always been a DIY’er, but it was foolish for me to not trust the experts in this area.' Just be happy you eventually got there. A good note for the rest of the dudes. The sidebar is always right. ​ Sex I know of no - as in zero - post-divorce dudes who don't run into dick-problems. I find it works well to use dick-pills until you find your mojo. AFAIK it's the same for u/aussie_darrow. YMMV. For me it's about getting comfo…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 08:19 AM
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From my experience I'm curious about this, because it's dissimilar to mine (if I understand it right). ASD, provider-seeking etc. is higher in single moms than in 23yo's so they are more of a hassle to fuck and manage, not less. How many and what kind of bitches did you rotate through and when was this (the dating market moves fucking FAST in my experience). I agree that u/aussie_darrow is more than ready to start sourcing some 20somethings. It will be fun to have more notes to compare.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 08:02 AM
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If you truly mean you don't care, then don't care. Besides, soft nexting works on all girls.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 07:59 AM
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There's not a single concrete thing in that huge word salad. If you don't own what you concretely fucked up, it'll be hard for you to improve it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 06:34 AM
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I don't agree. I mean, you might be right u/ragnar_114's reasons are based on incorrect assumptions and he can learn something - I wouldn't know. However as for sexual strategy in meeting new bitches and setting the right frame there, his plan of action is good. RP/Game 101 will tell you 1) leading with Beta qualities (in this case money) is dumb and 2) be a mystery for her to slowly uncover (hattip Pook). I am testing this out myself currently. The status boost from my job is good and seems to …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/22 04:29 AM
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Thank fuck you bothered digging. I knew this vague mental masturbation shit stank.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/22 11:55 AM
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In a sense it wasn't. From what I understand about low T it would turn a normal dude into a blubbering mess. I'm curious to see what your numbers do now. Maybe you'll even start pulling from the floor.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/22 11:39 AM
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Spend your time reading NMMNG and WISNIFG, not posting on other dudes shit. When you have a bit of your own shit handled, commenting on others can be helpful for your learning. That sure as fuck isn't yet for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/22 07:20 AM
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Plenty of red pill guys keep their faith. RPC is there for that exact reason. If OP wants to learn how to hamster away the cognitive dissonance between RP and the Beta Farm doctrine, its the place to go. He can swing by PPD on the way. But if u/STLCubs97 (and you, it seems) wants to be Red, he will have to embrace Rational Egoism and his inner asshole eventually: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/4duudk/why_youre_lost/ https://www.forums.red/p/TheRedPill/94436/yes_virginia_you_do_…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/22 01:59 PM
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If there ever was an example that the order of importance of Alpha is Frame, Game, Looks this would be it. Fucking hell what a change in mere months. I look forward to you dropping the last 20-25lbs so we can compare notes on the unique over-alpha/abundance issues that then start to appear. As for the kid thing, my condolences. It sounds rough. Remember that just because RP is hyper effective for intersexual dynamics and generally is useful for living a fulfilled, masculine life it isn’t panacea…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/22 08:04 AM
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Maybe accident, maybe your brain doing it's thing. In any case, there's your answer as to forward steps. Even BP would agree that LTRing up the first bitch that touches your dick post divorce is not in your best interest. No rush, but don't get lazy on this either.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/22 03:47 PM
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Hah. No. I am also too simpleminded to ask trick questions. I just often find things get hand-wavy when those concepts get thrown around. So again - how does that look in practical terms? What's a concrete example?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/22 03:44 PM
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Might you expand on this in a more concrete way? Like how does this look? I'm a bit thick headed when it comes to these things about validation, "genuine desire" and all that jazz.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/22 03:09 PM
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The girl I’m seeing now is in a similar field to me and has been helpful and supportive from a mission standpoint. Hey, what do you know. My current main bitch is much the same, and I find it just marvellous and much more of a stimulus than I would've thought. It’s potentially the “whom,” although I’m just not finding myself sexually attracted to many girls right now. I agree with you that I should try some variety, I also wonder if addressing the minor health/supplement issues will have an effe…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/22 03:00 PM
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This is spot on and one of the best posts on here in a long fucking time. Health, resources (money, time etc.), sex and other basics are needs to be satisfied - not goals. "Your wife is dead, spend 6-12 months having the most fun and becoming as high value as you can. This is her timeline to audition for the main bitch spot." is still the best approach to MRP if you ask me. This comment you hid you should edit in to the main post: I thought I wanted sex every day. What I actually want is sex 2-4…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/22 05:24 AM
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Bitches What is your Mission and how does a bitch/several bitches contribute to it. How many bitches have you fucked post-divorce? Son Some other dude has daddy issues this week too, maybe look at that. Dick Many (most? all?) single guys have some form of ED with new bitches. u/aussie_darrow, me, and some more over the last weeks I forget now. There's a good post - this one - on this. I never went much into it. Quitting porn and using pills as a stop-gap to get your mojo back are the usual go-to…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/22 05:03 AM
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How can I be my own ultimate judge and truly independent, when Christianity and Catholicism demand my obedience to a God being my ultimate judge? That's easy. You can't. The major religions is one of the most effective ways to keep good, high performing horses in their furrow. This is why these societies and cultural beliefs outperformed others over time. she didn’t know what to do. I smiled, kissed her on the forehead and said, “You know what I want.” Does she though? I don't know your history …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/22 08:01 PM
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Yeah, I am 900+ natty so even the paid clinics wont let me near the stuff ("you are in the top 3% already"). It is what it is, and I guess I like not having to bother with injections. As for career it sounds like we are in very similar places. Let's exchange notes on this. If you want to be more specific once you hear back, DM me.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/22 06:12 PM
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You've lost 14lbs in a month and change? Fuck me. Keep at it good sir, and enjoy that little well deserved break. As for the other stuff you'll likely start to see how this sexual energy infuses everything - productivity, creativity, joy, purpose, focus. And then it'll become abundantly clear how your woman/women contribute to your life and Mission.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/22 06:10 PM
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The formality of it, for me, has also given this overt recognition of the gifts we're giving each other here. From me, it's my leadership and guidance. From her, it's her overt submission to my will. And it has already been making both of us happier. This is pushing me to live on my edge a lot harder. To own my shit harder and better every day. To step in and lead. To gift my gifts more fully, and to take that out into the rest of the world. It's like the perfect sparring gym for life, and I hav…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/22 05:30 PM
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I’m also absolutely not natty Thanks for this info. It took me over a decade but I finally learnt not to compare notes with guys on juice. It's just not the same organism you're working with. Good for you, though. For reference I've had 3-4-500 bench/squat/dead at 205 (I'm 6'), and that's about as good as it gets for me, being natty. This put me at 15ish BF. I'd love to carry 10-12% BF at that BW, but I'd have to juice. So far to get 10-12 natty I'm finding I have to be a LOT smaller (like 20-25…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/22 05:23 PM
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I’m ready and willing to commit myself to one woman for life as long as she provides sufficient value towards my Mission. FTFY. It isn't either plate spinning or eternal Disney marriage. Many (most?) dudes who get divorced spin some plates at first to just test the market, then figure out what they want, find a bitch that earns it and then either only fuck her or primarily fuck her. I think both u/pristine_implement0 and u/ragnar_114 are in a similar position to you. As literally all guys in her…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/22 04:49 PM
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We're both happier and fucking more. Fucking A. This is what OYS is all about. Be careful with the JBP stuff. He gets a lot right, but some is plowhorse shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/22 04:27 PM
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First off, Jesus fuck. I hope you take the value you just got and use it properly. There's some real hardcore learned helplessness in everything you posted after the initial feedback. Read it back and see it. It's holding you back no end. If I were to guess as to why, it's your stupid plow horse brain fighting you when you try to set goals for you, because you aren't this dumb. You just can't be. I know for a fact that I have, on several occasions, written about this with you. I have also recomm…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/22 05:47 AM
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When you find yourself rambling off MRP lingo as if playing bullshit bingo, you can be sure there's some actual stuff you don't like writing out. I think you'd get more from this place if you write about actual things in the real world with real normal words in stead. Preferably past tense about stuff you did: Bitch 1 was talking to a dude. I felt jealous and tempted to mate guard. I did something dumb and learnt/I managed to stop myself before I did something dumb. This was the result. Make sen…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/22 01:36 PM
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Which mental models exactly and when is it you are most prone to forgetting? Might be worth some work in your next oys post. And yes what do you really want out of life and your relationships? Harder to answer for most than it might seem.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/22 05:02 AM
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You should be going back to 215. So do that. 🙂 Gaining those 20lbs of bw over the next year or whatever will get it to 300+ no issue. Who knows, you might be one of those string fuckers ending your lp around 350. For context I think I ended my original lp with 335 for 5's or so at a bw of 205ish which is very run of the mill.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/22 05:00 AM
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"it gets like a lot more risk management with some women". What does this mean? Sounds like you have plate spinning down pat. Good on you. Now figure out what you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/22 07:59 PM
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Things are looking great my man. At this point you can consider frequency method chins as a layer to add to your gslp. Start slow if you do.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/22 07:57 PM
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I haven't calibrated the amount of attention that I should be giving. And, that's the problem for me to fix here. Time and energy I have been expending, I would word it. The amount of attention you give isn’t your issue here. It would be if you werent getting yours, but you seem to be. Give attention as long as it doesnt interfere with other LAs (which is the real issue). So, what specifically did you do when you melted under the heat of a hot bitch? I found it was like with most mind training s…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/22 07:03 PM
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This is a good question, but kind of the wrong one. Women that don't contribute to your Mission don't have a place in your life. So them disrupting it should not be the case. This contribution doesn't have to be big and cosmic, mind. Exploration is my main Mission in life. So bitches contribute by them introducing me to new shit. Places, people, ways of thinking, ways of being etc. Some are good companions for exploring things together with them - sexual stuff, travel, whatever. Where I have fou…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/22 04:14 AM
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It's funny. You are a fatter, older version of me, with a six months delay or so. Like you I went hard on the plates, fucked half a dozen, then dialled it (way) down to focus on other aspects of my life and Mission. You've been dancing around your Mission for a while now, but this OYS doesn't contain it either. It does, contain action towards it, though. But get it in for next week no excuses. FWIW I found it helpful to build it bottom-up. So short-mid-long and life term goals in money, health, …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 05:08 PM
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I fucking love seeing a dude putting in the work and turning shit around. Just wait until you're 190 pulling 400+. How are your chinups?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 05:02 PM
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"wiThOut NO MaN U AinT haPPy"... which is the way RP logic spins it. They're happy without a man. I might in some ways be more classic RP. So I'd disagree with this (I think`?) and agree with HSP et. al. that women are essentially anxious creatures that need the stability of a masculine influence. When forced to survive in the world without this, and having to find this energy within themselves, they become more unhappy. I think in your TWOTSM-parliance this would be something like depolarized. …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 05:51 AM
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Sounds like you're in a good place, having the right kind of problems. You know what to do, now it's just doing it. I really like the Unchained Man stuff for formulating a Mission. How often do you fuck the side-chicks?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/22 05:21 AM
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AWALT. The difference in women like my wife is that in the absence of this, they are fully aware of their NEED (unlike AWALT who just want this). Having done some field testing lately, to me it seems it is pure AWALT, not two different categories of bitches in need/want camps. All bitches need to relax into submission to a worthy male to be truly happy. Both for fucking but also more broadly speaking. This jives well with mainstream RP description of the female psyche, at least as I understand i…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/22 04:51 PM
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Share the note dude. That's what this place is about and writing it out will teach you way more than reading a comment about someone else.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/22 06:53 AM
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My version of fatherhood was largely driven by a sense of duty, not for the love of my daughter or the love of my role as a father. Huh. I figured there was a reason your shit interested me. It's always projection. Sometimes it's even spot on, like in this case. IME then doing some of the duty stuff does contribute to overall happiness, but it's a fine fucking balance not to end up in the furrow again.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/22 05:18 AM
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I’m continuing to spin plates and vet carefully over the next 6 months. You have it kind of right and kind of wrong. IMO it is crucial to understand that AWALT is always the case. And this means, vetting doesn't work. Be attractive/don't be unattractive does - in particular boundary setting. Then usually I'd say 12 bitches or so is enough to get a decent idea for what's out there and what you can get in the market. However, as you are currently improving Looks rather fast, I'd say this is the nu…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/22 05:13 AM
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How long since the D and how many bitches have you fucked since?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/22 05:05 PM
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Ragnar is one of those guys that is a great case for others to see pitfalls to avoid. He's still not quite able to see it all himself because of ego. In your case, just wait till you land a young, hot and invested one. Some form of oneitis will almost inevitably ensue. Give yourself this advice you just gave Ragnar at that point.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/22 12:45 PM
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Be mindful you don't let weight loss stall. Might be time to look at rippedbody.com for guidance on how to lose the last 25lbs.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/22 02:03 PM
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Really? This is awesome! u/redside_up you are now the new official "slowest MAP ever" dude on MRP. I'll be tagging you in stead of UW now when I show other dudes an example of what not to do. Get excited! Or, you know, get to work.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/22 06:15 AM
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I wrote that before I knew that you started this process the same time as SBIII and literally years before I did. I have a not yet fully formed theory about this. That if you run your MAP slow enough to "boil the frog" so to speak, bitch doesn't notice things are changing and the 1000ft tow rope never snaps tight. Poster boy for this is my man u/usefulwalk4 who started his MAP back before smartphones or whatever and is still waffling. Either that, or maybe your wife is just useless. Look. You ar…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/22 06:50 AM
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You are getting some great input. That said, remember that everyone on this board is a fellow idiot posting on the internet in order to learn how to fuck his wife. The bias here is towards stupidity not "survival", whatever that means. You can bet Chad isn't on here, he's too busy fucking. There’s no real checklist. There is, though. BPP has gotten a lot of heat lately, but DL 1-7 is pretty much it. Alpha is frame, game and looks in that order. That said, they work synergistically. So the checkl…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 05:57 PM
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I'd unban and then hold him accountable for actually switching his focus from pussy to Mission and Frame as he was planning to. I'll be happy to check he does and advise you if he doesn't. u/aussie_darrow - tag me next OYS. Take your time - maybe the two weeks but not more - and get some work done on the stuff that actually matters, now the basic bitch stuff is fairly automated.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 07:04 AM
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I don't see it, but maybe I'm just slow? You are the authority and have the experience of seeing more "she's" than should be asked of any man. But FWIW my 2 cents. What I see is a dude who was letting life happen to him, and then got kicked in the nuts by yours truly on 4 Jan, got to work and dropped a whopping 22lbs (still 22 to go) and started fucking. He's DONE more to increase his success in the sexual marketplace than most dudes on here in that time period and has the results to back it up.…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/22 06:36 AM
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I think most guys coming out of divorce get a bit giddy with a girl or two post divorce. Some end up LTRing them up. You seen smarter than that. In the short term I knowingly compromised other life areas in order to invest some time in having fun. Just enjoyed the New Relationship Energy and rode it until it wore off. For me it had a time limit as there were some things coming up just about now which are important in my work life. So now I spend way less time and energy on my woman life. The bea…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/22 08:25 AM
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Yeah. Can't wait. 2035 will be a great year.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/22 05:16 PM
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I've mentioned in a few of the past OYS's about Iron Rule 7. I have been cautious for a bit about not messing things up. But, I dropped some of this. I shifted over to prize mentality. When guys use MRP-terms to the extent phrases become meaningless they're often hiding something. What does this mean in plain English?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/22 06:05 AM
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"My new gf is sooooo fucking dreamy. So I have to force myself to back off because deep down I'm still a faggot." Being about a year out from divorce I've had an interest in divorcing guys - and they in my notes, as witnessed by the many DM's. I've yet to see one (1) merper, including some stalwarts, who doesn't jump into monogamous LTR with one of the first bitches to touch their dick post-divorce. So yeah, I've poked at u/NorthernFacing for it, too. It isn't RP by a long shot. But by at least …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/22 06:02 AM
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I don't know about that. I'm out here messing with the bored fourty-somethings. You say that like it's a bad thing. Nothing wrong with fourty-somethings. Some of my best fucks have come from them. Besides. Game is game. Having fucked bitches from 23 to 45 over the last year or whatever I can tell you that all bitches respond to the same things, that's the basis of the Red Pill to begin with. The dosing of alpha and beta might vary depending on age-range, though I'm still to figure that out as th…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 05:11 AM
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Yes. Good point. Take the berating and empty threats until you have the balls to follow through. Seems to me OP might have, but I could be naive.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/22 04:42 AM
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Meh. Sounds like a pretty standard test, which you sort of passed except for being berated for 30 minutes. Next time cut it sooner and clearer, preferably without yelling. You essentially performed a soft next - they work wonders, but are impractical when you live together and have kids. As for the divorce threat next time tell her she gets this one. Next time she brings it up, you're filing. As for the caffeine, as long as it isn't affecting sleep, it is healthy. No need to abstain. And get on …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 07:47 PM
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Fuck yeah. Lifting some actual weights and fucking your bitch. Good show. I found the kids situation horrible for my fucking too. Logistics are part of game even more when married than just figuring out how to go from coffee shop to bar to taxi to apt with a random tinderella. When I was married I would: Put kid in front of some screen, go to bedroom and lock door. Whisk wife into bathroom at family parties or other outings etc. for a quickie. And my staple - fuck in the morning before the kid w…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 07:19 PM
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What a difference to the fat incel you were when I challenged you just a few months ago. Fuck, I need to start taking notes from you on the platespinning. Well done, good for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 06:21 PM
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Your relationship is over in any meaningful sense. However you do NOT want to nuke before you have your divorce papers completely drawn up, printed out, ready for signature. The divorce prep guides on the sidebar are first priority for you, before you start hammering the shit out of NMMNG and WISNIFG. You have a couple of anger phases coming in. First one is already starting I can see, the bitter taste of realizing that providing actually is a net NEGATIVE for you. Just how girls are wired, not …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/22 06:14 PM
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I've given a couple of girls the list over the years and it's always been fun. You don't need it to tie them up/piss on them or whatever you like. But it's a good basis for talking more about sex. And talking about sex is always good.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 09:09 PM
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Why are you listening to your wife? Jesus. Some guys. Least amount of "she" to ever deserve a rule nine. At least don't start setting some weird example for "newer guys" if you don't know your head from your ass. I'd ignore all that shit go on gslp and gain 3-4lbs of bw for six months and then see where I was at if I were you.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 08:56 PM
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I'm a few years younger and 30lbs lighter as well as stronger than you. I smashed a 23yo recently. The age will drop as your looks improve. If you want younger already now then OLD will not get you there. You need the gigantic DHV from approaching in the wild and/or other social proof to snag younger bitches if you aren't top tier in all categories. As for the hamstering just follow hsp's guide. If a bitch proves herself exceptional over a 6-12 months you can decide then.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 12:52 PM
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Next step is nuking shit behaviour. Your time is valuable. Telling your woman to shut up on occasion does wonders for your marriage. You have no way of knowing if she'll come around yet. Forget that for now. Just put in work, become awesome, then look at her in six months and decide if she gets to stay in your life as anything but a co parent.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 12:38 PM
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Ah fuck dude. A wife that just isn't up to spec and doesn't try to keep/catch up. My condolences. I've yet to see a good case on that ending well. As for gslp then do whatever is in the book. I used it before it even was a book. Just get it from the source. The curls are great to let your back recover a bit but depends on the trainee obviously. My point was just not to get confused and use some variation by randos on the internet. John knows his shit. For tomorrow I'd focus my oys on "what do I …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/22 06:43 AM
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I'm not sure what I want the fucking to look like, so how can I lead there? See how owning the fucking helped? If you write stuff out, you can see your blind spots. Next step is then - what HAVE YOU ALREADY done to work this out? If it were me I'd just try out different shit. Get some handcuffs, a hitachi magic wand, make her put a plug up your ass like Redsdfffaplpus or whatever you think might work. Go from there. And take this from someone who didn't for way too long: Only good things come fr…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/22 09:00 PM
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"no texting" is still very much a shared sentiment here. I think I'm the only person who has posted about text game in the last two years. Indeed "texting for logistics only" gets parroted every once in a while, and it is usually just a placeholder for "STFU" for dudes who can't stop saying unattractive shit. For dudes exposed to the market, it's a suboptimal strategy to say the least. I'd make the same argument for when in a relationship, though there it might have some use in creating distance…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/22 03:03 PM
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I agree with the thrust of this post. The whole point of this shit is to change who you are by changing what you do. It is awkward at first, and they it becomes internalized. Like learning any new skill. Then because this stuff generally works, some dudes forget that just because it is on the sidebar or written by some rando on Reddit with a flair, it isn't gospel. You try out things for a while, keep what works and ignore what doesn't. A few nitpicks. Red Pill Truth: Texting is for Logistics On…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/22 08:36 AM
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I’ve been doing the 531 program (BBB) Thing about advanced programmes is that it works for advanced dudes. Working in those low percentages just wont help much unless you have a decent 1RM of which even 50% is enough stress to cause some muscle tissue damage. 531 worked great for Wendler because his training max bench was 400+ or whatever when he invented the programme. It does fuck all if it's not even 200. Do the classic version of GSLP, not one of the many retard variations. Do it as written,…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/22 06:59 AM
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This doesn’t happen every weekend, thank god, but I still fucked up by allowing it to happen (twice, at that). The only actionable thing in here, and then you only note it, with no action taken to improve. This OYS sucks.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/22 06:15 PM
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I get that. Just remember your basics: It isn't your relationship, it's hers. To create and manage. You just focus on being top tier and let her handle the rest. In other words, as per HSP's fantastic guide: A long-term relationship CANNOT be your end goal. You can only be OPEN to the possibility of having one. I've seen many guys rush to enter into an LTR with one of the first bitches they try out post-divorce. It doesn't end well, and it sure as hell doesn't ensure you that you got maximum val…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/22 04:47 PM
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Will you be monogamous? If yes, how many bitches will you audition for the part before you elevate one? Mandatory reading for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/22 01:01 PM
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As for the lifting stuff there is a school of thought that you do have to get big once in your life. For you say 210-220 and max out strength, create all the nuclei for the muscle cells. And then from there get down in the 175-195 range and use cut/bulk cycles to eek out gains over years. If you do this you HAVE to be on an aggressive linear progression programme to take advantage of the increased recovery and noob gains. GSLP is hands down the best for a mix of strength and aesthetics. If you s…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/22 06:47 AM
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But I know I am a damn lot happier doing what I want to, when I want to. I think the biggest thing I've got from MRP is remembering that my life is for ME first. Then, I can share that with others. My life is not about pleasing everybody (hell, its not about pleasing anybody) else as a priority. At least not right now. FTFY. This is literally it. You would be surprised at how difficult this is for most guys to grasp. It just turns out that the people in my life happen to be responding well to wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/22 06:36 AM
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I dropped another 2 lbs this morning. I've got 3 lbs to go to complete the feminist challenge. Exactly. You are about non-fat enough now that you need to switch this from a project to a life style. From motivation to habit and discipline. I stand by my recommendation for long term fat loss.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/22 06:31 AM
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I know it’s the early stages right now, but this is stupid easy with a new girl. Yeah. NRE is awesome. Enjoy it. Do you have clarity over your goals in your woman life and how it supports your Mission?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/22 06:29 AM
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I lost frame and told her to STFU. Next time, tell the bitch to shut up proactively in stead of being cornered. STFU is a stalemate. You don't win. You have to enforce boundaries to start winning.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 03:56 PM
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You can slow the weightgain to 0-2lbs per month at your current BW and lifts particularly on a conservative programme like 5-3-1. 1lb/week will mean most of it is fat you'll just have to cut off again. Are you fucking? I couldn't tell from your report.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 03:54 PM
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Get micro plates. If not you're not following the programme. You should be in the 5-10 rep range most of the time on the amraps.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 03:47 PM
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You don't though. You get even basic concepts wrong as per your new flair. Hammer the basics. Stop being weak. This will be the best roi for you by far.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 03:18 PM
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Your amrap should be 5-10 reps. Time for a reset. You are micro loading the press, right?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 03:16 PM
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Sucks about the vasectomy. At least weight loss is on point. 1lb/week is sustainable. 10lbs in three weeks isn't now you aren't really fat, just chubby. Shoot for 1lb/week, throw in a maintenance week every 6-10 weeks for sanity. And lose the last 30 lbs. like that without rebounding hard. In hindsight, I should have taken the lead and been the one to postpone the dates. It showed a bit of over-eagerness to have the dates when the conditions were bad. Come on man, you're better than this. Stop d…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 02:27 PM
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This is terrible. Everything about it is terrible. You are terrible. I love this. Succinct, and poetic 3-5-3. u/scuba_steve122 you have read the ILYBINILWY post right?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 02:22 PM
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I said I want to do X, then we did. I dont know what I was thinking in the past. I used to just follow the same set script, usually fun, but then after wish 'we' did XYZ. In reality it should've been that I did XYZ. If I could go back to my idiot self in year 1-2 of marriage and tell him one thing, this would be it. I will say, shit tests have also been dialed up a lot too. Completely standard. You are making her submit more (sexually) and thus she needs to test harder to make sure you can back …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 02:20 PM
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I always find it telling when dudes ostensibly writing on a forum about intersexual dynamics mentions zero about the opposite sex. 9/10 times they're hiding something from themselves.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 02:17 PM
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I admit to a lot of fear about this, but I'm doing it. This puts you ahead of many. Most fuck up their first couple of muscle building phases. You should be adding maybe 2-3lbs of BW per month, maybe a bit less. One thing that will be a mindfuck is that you'll have a harder time being disciplined about eating now than when you were losing weight. I don't know what the fuck it is. I just know it's real. So accept the suck, especially the first month, and stick to calories as best you can. And the…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 02:15 PM
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It's only because of the way I handle things that she gets anxious like this. I think it's that I'm not very calibrated and I have laid the dread on heavy from the moment I promoted her from plate. Dropping her would be admitting defeat, and in the off chance I got into another LTR I would have the same issue I think. I would test this out if I were you. Go through 5-10 bitches. If you keep having the problem, sure, take responsibility. But make sure you aren't settling for less than superb and …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/22 02:07 PM
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Alright. What's the timeline on the deployment and the divorce respectively?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/22 07:20 PM
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a lot of data indicates that children tend to do better in stable two parent households. If you look closer at the data you'll see loads of correlation, yes. Bitches that end up as single moms don't usually have the greatest genes to pass down, for one, nor the skills nor resources to care properly for a kid. But that isn't the case for whichever woman you knock up in all likelihood - plus you can schew this by actually contributing with resouces, time and guidance. What parents do matters less …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/22 05:36 PM
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Ok, I got it now. For what it's worth I think you fucked up by nuking before you even knew what you wanted, except out. It sounds like an emotional decision, and it's gonna cost you. I'd use it as a learning experience. The problem is at least two-fold. By not making up your own mind in isolation, you are now vulnerable to manipulations from your ex, family, friends, pastor, life coach, whatever while you process. You are going to rationalise some of this away as "I want to do this anyway", and …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/22 09:35 AM
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Finally a dude who lifts. Thank fuck. Why aren't you fucking?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/22 08:39 PM
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She'll milk you as long and as much as she can. That's just what girls do, especially when they've been conditioned like yours. Make the deal as good for you as you can and then just pay the bill for your past mistakes and move on. Be ready for her weaponizing the welfare of the kids on order to get more for longer. Decide what you'll do when she does.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/22 07:21 PM
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Are you fucking? I couldn't tell but maybe I missed it. And what's your deadlift? I found Gendernomics pretty shit in terms of actionable advice. I'd be interested to hear if you find something different.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/22 07:12 PM
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To the tune of 30-40lbs lighter. It'll take at least a year. Just to give you an idea of the slog you're about to embark on.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/22 07:27 AM
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"She'll forgive you for being an arsehole but not a pussy" Now I'm reminded of a Roissy classic. "If you allow a woman to make the rules she will resent you with a seething contempt even a rapist cannot inspire."
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/22 07:10 AM
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I think someone called it a "take a penny, leave a penny jar". That said, I comment for me. I process the material and mental model when I comment. If not I could see the beta shit goblin sneaking back on my shoulder.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/22 07:04 AM
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children and healthy environment for them This explains a lot. Look at proto worm. One of his things was that he was on some weird timeline wanting to play house asap. So his ego helped him paper over stuff he should've addressed from one of the first bitches he met post-divorce, even causing him to ignore advice from on here with predictable results. You've recently shown to yourself that you can indeed boot people from your life that don't add value. That's really RP in a nut shell. Just hold …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/22 07:00 AM
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I'm 1100+ just shy of 190 right now. Cutting down to 180 or so. From there the plan is to hit 1200 @190. That's a realistic if long term goal. From there I'd like to work towards my dream of 1300 @200 but I don't think I can carry that much muscle without drugs and/or spending my life lifting and recovering from lifting. While I like your plan and lifting goals I guess it should be noted that from a sexual strategy standpoint you'd be much much much better off cutting first.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 06:34 PM
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Sounds solid. I'd recommend getting a coach for the shoulder stuff. You'd be surprised at what some dude can see from shitty videos and fix with programming and cues. Barbell Medicine or any other current/previously starting strength affiliated services are usually good. I hope you make it to 1200 @190. That's what I think most guys here should get to after some years of work. Or 1100 @180ish. But so far I can't find many of them to compare notes with.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 04:11 PM
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I do something similar. I always make them repay. Not me, but paying it forward to someone else. So it isn't a free ride, more like a trade between equals where they get a "loan" of effort up front they will repay after. I rarely have them default, most flourish.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 09:31 AM
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I'm going to go back to eating at a deficit until I'm squatting >200 again. Don't change course over a blip. Besides, if you want to recover fast, going into a deficit isn't the smartest thing in the world. Keep at maintenance, keep going to the gym and doing the movements as best you can. Bench every workout or do seated DB press if you can't do standing press. Do some form of pulling you can stand. Try to squat a bit, but if it starts hurting MORE then stop and try again next time. I know you'…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 09:28 AM
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You're gonna get a lot out of OYS. Also cool to see an old fashioned FR. You are 15-18%BF. Start doing the big 3. GSLP is the best programme. IF you do, I'd add 2lbs of BW per month, ride it out, and cut off 20lbs of fat afterwards. Provided you don't compete within a weight class. If you do, adjust the bulk/cut cycle accordingly I feel you on not being in the mood to push through light LMR. As a one-off I wouldn't think of it. If I weren't met by an enthusiastic dripping wet pussy most of the t…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 09:23 AM
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Three thoughts. Your lifts are OK. So just diet down to peeled (think more like 10-12%) and then get strong from there. If you stop at 15, you'll be fat again within a month of gaining, The guilt about not protecting the whamen is hard-wired. Accept that you have to actually be an asshole. There's no way around it. Relationship management depends what you want out of your woman life. If you go the live-in monogamy route, you will indeed have to employ many of the tools taught here. But there are…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 09:17 AM
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How much weight have you lost/gained and how have lifts progressed over the last six weeks? What's the plan for the next month's?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 09:11 AM
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Good on you for taking the L and accepting IR7. Many (most?) post divorce dudes here should take note. Take the lessons from it you can. There's always something one can learn. But don't overinterpret one data point either. A bitch can go feral at any time. Applying the right tools at the right time makes it less likely, sure. But far from impossible. I wonder what it is you want out of your woman life. How does it contribute to your Mission. Do you know?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 09:01 AM
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Again that's a lot of words to not really say anything. I'd advise you concretely own how fucking went during the week in your oys.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 06:50 AM
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Well if things aren't ok it's pretty dumb to say that they are.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/22 06:48 AM
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Look up manufactured outrage. Not my thing but lots of guys find it a useful tool.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 06:59 PM
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Binges can be cleaned up fairly easily in many cases. And having owned this here, and then fixing it, should be a fantastic platform to fix the rest of your shit. What exactly are you doing with diet and training and how has it looked over the last six weeks? Be specific.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 05:18 PM
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I yelled at her and told her if she doesn’t get her shit together, I’m going in the restaurant alone and she can go back home. From that point on, her attitude changed. My ex was like this. Realize that you cracking and yelling is a win/reward for her and she'll keep doing this, poking until you react. I would suggest one simple verbal warning to get her shit together and then removing attention, affection and commitment commensurate with how well/bad she behaves is much more effective in gettin…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 05:13 PM
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me being a man and essentially being the head of the household. Saying essentially that the torch of our household had been passed Be very fucking careful not to be lead into the furrow like a good little plowhorse via these appeal-to-ego validation-filled sugarcubes.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 04:52 PM
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Like a few other former fat dudes you're sitting in purgatory, trying to get those last 5-10lbs off but standing still. The effort/reward ratio of your current plan sucks. Either decide to finish up the cut. Do this by cutting out "cheating" - learn to plan your kcals - also higher days on occasion. This will be helpful in fixing your relationship with food. Going this way is going to be rough on that low kcals no matter how you dice it, though. Or, and this would be my suggestion, start adding …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 04:49 PM
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You have enough mass but 20lbs or more of fat too lose. Fuck "recomp" and commit to six months of losing weight.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 02:43 PM
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Talking isn't always bad, even if it is rarely necessary. Speaking from experience there is a way to selectively use the Bible stuff to creative a narrative that works to your advantage in a marriage, even if believing in it is mutually exclusive with RP. Being on OYS 13 I'd still stay that a healthy dose of STFU while doing the prereqs and 101 on the sidebar a couple of times over, OYS every week and get a 1000+ PL total at sub 190lbs BW will help more than mouthwords.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 01:32 PM
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“22 year old's, 20 is too young for me.” Pretty slick. Things are moving in the right direction. What has your BW been doing over the last 6 weeks and what is your plan with regarding to lifting and dieting?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 01:25 PM
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Ok. So post what you actually lifted this week going forward. You're early so this is part of the process. Exposing and fixing the many ways in which you bullshit yourself. So you're fat and have issues working out productively. Do you have a plan of action to fix it? If not make one. And then each OYS from now report on what you DID in order to become stronger and less fat.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 10:38 AM
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GSLP and fix your form through form checks on the Starting Strength subreddit.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 09:43 AM
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How tall are you? Do you just lift the same poundages each week or what's your most recent lifts?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 09:41 AM
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I really liked this comment. It describes the first anger phase quite well. "Alpha" and "Beta" don't fucking matter. They do. They are the very foundation of MRP. They just don't mean what you thought they meant. They are behaviours, not Categories of Man. Understanding the terminology we use is critically important. So many dudes are getting lost lately because they don't understand what basic concepts even mean.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 09:17 AM
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This week I will do that. When writing OYS try to focus on using past tense. It helps you out of these traps. So when you catch yourself writing this, stop and reflect and DO something. Then write what you DID in OYS. FWIW I would go on GSLP, add 1-2lbs of BW a month until a 1000+ PL total. And fix my squat through form checks on the Starting Strength subreddit, with a coach or similar. Then this is some form of MRP bullshit bingo initiating from a place of strength - where I feel congruent. Twi…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 09:07 AM
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RP is a toolbox. What you build is up to you. I don't think my lifestyle would seem attractive to 80-90% of guys. Family patriarch and variants is a more common goal as far as I can tell and plenty of dudes are very happy like that. So that's not the point. The point is that you're missing the basics. In this specific case, that the relationship is the woman's job. Plates are plural and need to earn exclusivity if your goal is an RP LTR. You don't vet a girl by "red flags" that are external mark…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/22 04:59 PM
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You've read it before because I've linked it to you before. But I did so again, even pointing out the point you're missing. Yet you still miss it. This has nothing to do with MRP vs. RP. Actual MRP is using RP tools for RP goals. This is what takes dude a long time to get. Hence the monkey dancing and other stuff. Keep up OYS and keep plugging away. Or end up where you started like therealstevemcqueen - or proto worm to take a more recent example.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/22 11:27 AM
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I really hope you keep up OYS because it will be interesting to see someone who thinks they are RP working for BP goals with BP tools. Vetting doesn't work. A long-term relationship CANNOT be your end goal. You can only be OPEN to the possibility of having one.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/22 06:13 AM
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I'm really looking forward to seeing what you conclude, given our goals, preferences and life situation seem similar. I wonder if you'll have the "overload of alpha" issue I'm currently battling once you're not fat. So keep at it.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/22 12:48 PM
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​ I was thinking that getting a new girlfriend every 6 months would be ideal as you get that explosive energy without too much drama. After reading the plate links you've shared, that approach seems more in line with what I want. Monogamy vs. plate spinning isn't as cut-and-dry as one might think. I'm more TRP than MRP (as per the divorce) but even so I can see the upside of only having to spend time on one bitch. It does mean more work managing oneitis, scarcity, save-a-ho, betaization etc. But…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/22 06:29 AM
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I will just introduce this with the caveat that this stuff is TRP not MRP, as your goals (as my own) do not conform to the stated intention of the sub: Married Red Pill (MRP) is a discussion for married men or men in long term relationships that want to adhere to red pill philosophy and methodology while remaining in that relationship. Mods will surely let us know if it's out of bounds. With that out of the way, I'm happy to add another dude to the Women Are For Fucking crew. Awesome. We are in …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 11:51 AM
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That's because you're so ignorant you don't yet realise just how ignorant.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 07:46 AM
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Why you're even bothering when being married less than a year is beyond me. Get the divorce done now. Even if you don't want to comply with Iron Rule 7 (and I don't know why you wouldn't, no kids and all), then get out of the draconian legal contract called "marriage". It isn't good for you. While you are there, indeed practice. Here's one a tip: "You are going to just start seeing other women when you're bored with me" "If my needs are being met, I have no reason to look elsewhere. If at some p…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 06:22 AM
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You are being given the amazing gift of being thoroughly zeroed out and thus forced to choke down the Red Pill. This won't be fun at first. But if you manage not to delete out. But in stead lift, STFU, sidebar (NMMNG and WISNIFG several times over) as well as OYS every week for a year. You won't believe how much better your life will be. Your marriage is indeed dead. But end it on your terms once you have your shit together. That's not for another six months. STFU to your woman until then, inclu…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 06:00 AM
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So do you have you had the papers drawn up by/approved by a lawyer? I think if you have and you have your shit together and alpha'd up enough before the nuke, your wife will just fall in line. Mine did. I am about a year out from serving papers now and it's still fairy tale divorce. Literally zero issues. Don't get me wrong. You never know when a woman will go feral, so I'm still waiting for the storm to hit. If it does, I've secured everything as well as I can. All scenarios, even the most extr…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 06:35 PM
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I really, really hope you've memorized RC's divorce guide and prepped everything. If you haven't this is your only job for a while now. Even if you have, keep taping conversations. You never know when they'll come in handy. Especially because this: logistics concerning a non-working SAHM and five children, is going to mean that the initial cost for you will be high and that you will have tough choices to make in the years to come. The frame you set for it now will be crucial. Congratulations, th…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 06:10 PM
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Before we start exchanging notes on spinning plates. Read this. And answer these questions: What do you want out of your woman life in the short, mid and long term? How do women contribute to your Mission?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 05:54 PM
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You are 14-15%, correct. Which corresponds to your lifts and BW. The fact that you insist on leaving in 10% in order to seem better than you are to a bunch of retards on the internet who have one thing in common - not knowing how to fuck their wives - says a whole lot about you. I'd reflect on this if I were you. This is about 10% by the way.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/22 07:48 AM
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You don't have a plate. You have a girlfriend. To to whom you are exclusive but who hasn't agreed to the same. No wonder you're all over the place. You could've saved yourself some agony if you'd gotten past your ego some months ago.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/22 06:47 PM
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I want to be able to be single and tag 10 years younger pussy. I want to be served by some young firm bodied hotness. I don't want to deal with my aging nagging depressed wife or go through the trouble of bringing her back in line and making her into a D/S slut like horns has detailed for me to do. I'd rather see my kids half the time and fuck my side piece the rest of the time If this is really what you want, there is nothing wrong with it. Don't let guys on here or anywhere else tell you other…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/22 11:47 AM
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Chupa is spot on. You are looking at her to be mommy after mommy left. No wonder she won't fuck you, that's creepy. With this specific issue I'd read NMMNG 3 times through on to of however many times you already have and definitely doing the BF exercises. When you get good input on here 9/10 times it's dudes projecting something they've experienced. Men swapping notes, as the catch phrase goes. Seems Chupa hit the mark. I'd poke him for more input and learn from his fuck ups.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/22 06:30 AM
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To be fair I just like poking UW when I get the chance over his not claiming what he deserves. It involves, among other things, not really commanding sexual availability. As for me I came her because I had found a level of feminine energy in affairs I hadn't been able to conjure up in marriage, but I was sick of lying. I guess I did have enough frame to know that lying betrays a lack thereof. It took way too long, but I started getting the feminine energy stuff (including the enthusiastic, creat…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 08:27 PM
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We might be talking past each other in some sense. I thought you were doing the withdrawal thing that my favourite dude to dump on, u/usefulwalk4, has turned into a lifestyle. If you're gaming effortlessly and initiating with outcome independence when you feel like it, then this is what I mean. In particular if you start looking to get your needs met elsewhere, if they aren't at home. As for my experience it was different because I literally never allowed sex to not be on tap. I think on a few o…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 06:20 PM
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Killing desperation and "not focusing on getting laid" are not even close to being the same thing. If you don't figure this out you will never get a consistent stream of enthusiastic fucking in an LTR. Hope is not a strategy. You've fixed most the easy stuff like not being fat etc. So there's no way around deliberately working on frame and game. Inaction in the face of your wife being too busy texting/fantasizing about Chad to fuck you isn't the way here. But I guess letting life happen to you a…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 05:54 PM
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Given baseline yes. But this dude isv above baseline. Lifts and had sniffed out a decent amount of his own BS. If he can root out the stuff you pointed out and the stuff he's identified himself he should be good.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 02:22 PM
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Being one of the ones that did nuke a perfectly good marriage because I wan't to live like Caleb Jones (except the hair piece), I'll just second what u/HornsOfApathy wrote. Do the work for six months as you planned. Don't "try" anything. Just become a master at passing shit/comfort tests, at being non-needy, learn to not skip leg day, prepping all and I mean ALL the divorce stuff. Read RC's stuff in the sidebar and start implementing. And so on and so forth. And during this time continue to focu…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 11:27 AM
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You are hamstering away your wife cheating, and the mental load of it is making you boil over. Also because her behaviour lately indicates Chad might be back (or replaced with a new one). At least you recognize it for the covert contract it is. Glover could've written this as an example in the book: do all this right so my wife doesn't cheat on me or leave me, Get this through your thick head. YOU CAN'T CONTROL OTHER PEOPLE. Stop trying. And start getting what you want. Including some enthusiast…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 11:19 AM
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I got my dick wet for the first time in three weeks and I noticed a huge shift in myself and my mindset. Eventually you'll want to have this mindset constantly. Not only right after you had a bitch validate your worth, confirm RP truths and drain your balls. That said, keeping a constant flow of pussy is in part recommended because it makes the mental stuff a lot easier, in stead of the "hard mode" many dudes on here choose to run.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 11:11 AM
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How many girls other than this one have you fucked in the last 4 weeks? Have you agreed exclusivity with this girl?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 11:04 AM
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Do you see the difference between J10: "Look, when shit like last night happens, I just feel rejected, and that's not your problem, but I don't know what else to tell you, except I'm not very eager to spend time around someone who makes me feel rejected." And you: "I am feeling sexually rejected by you. And that's not your problem. But when I feel sexually rejected, I don't feel good about me."
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/22 11:02 AM
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I mostly agree. Some guys early in the anger phase might get it confused and think that just because this new bitch, who knows nothing of your bullshit, buys the LARP and fucks you, you should just nuke your marriage and marry this unicorn. Protoworm is a good recent example of a guy who nuked but didn't fix his mental models and is doing groundhog Day with a new bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 03:57 PM
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I have a hard time believing Rian recommended you load your hurt fee-fees unto your wife. But I might be wrong. Do you have a link to the vid, this intrigues me. You should get a check on your market value. Game some women up to the point that you know you could fuck them. I.e. isolated, interested etc. Decide beforehand if you actually want to our if you want to stop short once you've escalated to just before. This info will be helpful in deciding your next steps and will give you something to …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 03:01 PM
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She couldn't keep up the act, huh? Well, easier to kill the puppy this way. You will eventually be grateful she did.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/22 08:42 PM
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You are still struggling to internalize the nature of women. No bitch is on your team. Just the way they're wired. Acting blue with them will not be helpful to anyone. Iron Rule of Tomassi #6 Women are utterly incapable of loving a man in the way that a man expects to be loved. In its simplicity this speaks volumes about the condition of Men. It accurately expresses a pervasive nihilism that Men must either confront and accept, or be driven insane in denial for the rest of their lives when they …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/22 08:27 PM
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I will make them last longer and get her to look me in the eyes while I talk dirty. Did you follow through on this?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/22 08:23 PM
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Completely. Keep it zipped up until you are clear. Pussy will be there in X amount of months too. Enjoy the solitude in the meantime. 🙂
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/22 02:02 PM
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I really like these things because it shows guys how simple (not easy!) it is. Lift, read, STFU for six months+, OYS every week for a year. This is what happens, when you do. 60lbs+ lighter, stronger, and way less simpy. And the world responds predictably. I particularly like how you understand that it's the basics that do the heavy lifting: If I could go back to the beginning and give myself advice it would be to lift harder, control what goes in and comes out of my mouth better and read WISNIG…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/22 05:26 AM
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Shark week lasts two weeks? And you haven't had any meaningful/clumsy interactions to practice game or build frame? Also. Get on GSLP to get your upper body to catch up with lower and avoid the t rex look.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/22 12:56 PM
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I think it is vague and thus won't necessarily help you live for you. It's not supposed to be independent of relationship status. Just of any small group of individuals doing our being anything. Many bitches could fill the role. That's the point. But this is beyond RP anyway. RP is the how, not the what nor why. Mission is by default deeply personal and meaningful which I think is why few dudes really discuss theirs on here. Not necessarily useful, just swapping notes.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 09:04 PM
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Lifting For the lifting your long term goal depends if you go on gear mostly, and also but less how much time you're willing to sink into it. If you are like most guys, a 1000+ total in the 165-175 range would be a realistic long term target. Or a slightly stronger but fatter 185. Genetics play a role here too. MAYBE you can carry 185 at 5'9 in the 10-13% range while still having a life and without doing drugs. A good Mission-type goal would be to be as heavy and strong as you can while still vi…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 07:36 PM
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You realized that alpha is frame, game and looks in order of importance. Cool. That was kinda my initial point.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 07:13 PM
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Everyone is commenting for themselves. It's all about internalizing the material. That's why I'm here, too. Articulating the lessons to keep myself sharp and not let biological and social programming lead me off course.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 07:08 PM
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How'd the fucking go this week?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 02:25 PM
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(physical) I will develop my body through disciplined lifting and diet into the fittest and strongest version of myself and I will continue to chase this until I die. (women) I will be my truest, most vulnerable, and most intimate self around the women in my life. I will be strong, passionate, and generous but unwavering in communicating what I want from them. You've come a lot further. I'd look at these two though. You want mission to be very hard to reach and thus not too specific. Yet not so …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 06:54 AM
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You are nuking and sexualizing bratty behavior. I'd run with this for a while and get the dominance established (mostly in your own head). Then once this dynamic is well established, if you dislike the brattiness (like me, it gets annoying), then flip it on his head. Spanking is a reward she doest NOT get, nor any other kind of attention, as long as she is bratty, until she apologizes. Once she does, be overt about letting her wait some time as punishment (start small, five minutes) where she ST…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 06:52 AM
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Your wife gets first crack at your libido, not sole custody. Try escalating with some of the validation whores you are chatting with. Get to the point you can close the deal easy (i.e. you are in an isolated space, your physical advances are met receptively etc.). If you then K or F-close or just leave it is up to you. But it'll tell you where you stand and change more than you think.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 06:45 AM
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If anyone doubts the good old Sepean adage about how communication doesn't mean much for the quality of the relationship, but alpha behaviours do, this is a good example. Get straps for the deadlift. Chalk until you can get straps.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 06:40 AM
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Red Pill is about fucking. Fucking then is about a lot more than fucking, so the focus on e.g. lifting is good. That said, it is almost always a cover up when there is no text on the fucking at all. So - how's the fucking going?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 06:37 AM
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Unspoken threat is the direct opposite of "overt threat". So which one is it? This shit matters. Anxiety makes girls more wet, not less. This is the fucking basis of RP as such, and in particular MRP. Jesus dude. And yes, of course you should fucking cut and run, who the fuck is this bitch to you anyway? No kids, mortgage or anything else, so whats the downside to just taking the L? IR7 man. Just don't stop OYS because you really, really haven't internalized much of anything as far as I can tell…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 06:29 AM
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Man if you could implement the little nuggets you keep on dishing out to others you'd be MRP MVP 2022.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 06:26 AM
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Yes. Now forget all that again. Lift, STFU, read, OYS every week. If you do this without fail, in a year you will have a 1100+ PL total at a BW of 200-210, some game and at least the beginning of frame. Then women will want to be fucked by you. Maybe your wife. Once this is the case, you'll have some choices to make as to who you choose to spend time on and who gets to have your dick.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 06:20 AM
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How many lifting sessions have you had in the last week?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 07:49 PM
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Good job on the weight loss. Getting close now.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 04:52 PM
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exhausting her It's worse. Sorry dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 04:23 PM
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I need to learn to be alone. This is true. But don't let it be an excuse not to engage in life. No matter how many nature walks you go on, getting back into the women-thing will trigger all the well-known stuff. That's why you need those relationships. Much of this stuff you can't work with in a vacuum.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 03:42 PM
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that can be a bad dynamic when walking out is an unspoken threat on the table. Why? This is literally what dread is.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 03:40 PM
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I hope other dudes see this. If a 48yo fat and frameless dude (no offence) can get laid within weeks by just not stepping on his dick too much so can everyone. Just think of the abundance you'll have once you are fit and can handle the actions of a teen girl without losing your shit. It'll be amazing.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 01:53 PM
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This is nothing compared to the wtf moment you'll have once you add about 20lbs of bw and 30% to your lifts. This is still where you'll get the most ROI on your MAP if you ask me.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/22 10:44 AM
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Yeah. You're ready to switch into straight up dominance. Your bitch ought to appreciate it, probably a bit confused now if you act all attractive and shit, but don't back it up when she tests it. Next step will be you have to have a look at what your Mission is and whether she's up to spec. And if marriage is even what you want. Interesting times ahead of you.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/22 05:38 AM
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And that's the beauty of it. A lot of the mental shit of RP is learning to think like a girl, weird as it sounds. Become solipsistic and all of that. So, steal this from the chicks: What do I want right now. Present focus, dude. Of course what you want tomorrow, next week, year, decade won't be the same. Don't worry too much about that shit (I'm sure you're already too good at it). Just focus on getting yours today. And when you don't know, try shit out and see what gets you hard. Literally and …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/22 07:13 PM
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RP is a toolbox. Not scripture. Guys sharing notes. Some work for what you want, some don't. If you are referring to the MITW stuff about sex, then that's one way to approach it. Weigh it up against, does it work for me? Not wanting things is some NG shit that won't be very helpful. Commanding stuff you want is how you get the life you want. As a byproduct, bitches will be more attracted - once they see you as Alpha. So for me, your conundrum here is stupid simple. It's even in that Code you wro…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/22 07:59 AM
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So many basics you get wrong here. Prize mentality is missing. You have oneitis. You are pedestalizing. Exhibiting Nice Guy behaviours. Ego investment. Just keep doing OYS every week and the reading. Put how much reading/reflecting you've done each week in your OYS. You are in a pretty good place where the basic physical stuff is covered, you don't have a marriage around your neck and you need to fuck up to learn anyway. So have fun with it. Just don't knock up or marry any of these girls before…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/22 05:45 AM
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So you are clearing out your roster in order to make way for your new oneitis who so far only had shown that she's interested in the free validation. Interesting play. What is your goal for your woman life? At least you are finally coming round to understanding that getting a lawyer to make sure you optimize your outcomes is in the sidebar for a reason.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/22 12:09 PM
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I'm 100% on team "focus on becoming fucking awesome, this is the time the wife has to become undroppable, if she hasn't, ditch her." I don't like the "lead your wife"-shit, which I think leads to suboptimal happiness. So I wouldn't do this myself. Yet I've noted that some dudes that are fairly Red have taken a different route, and if you are that lighter shade of Red, maybe that's you, too. Even Sepean has it as his no. 10 on his 10 ways to fail at MRP. I was reminded of it when you talked about…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 07:01 PM
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Most people find it harder to be disciplined about a small surplus than a cut. Par for the course. Lending calories between days is an advanced tactic. For now when you fuck up, dust yourself off and follow macros as planned (NOT less) the next day. Even if you gain faster than you need to this first "bulk" it just means you have to cut again sooner, it won't exactly kill you. I like the oak tree dildo. And your general approach to it all. That said, assertive mouth words can be useful towards t…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 12:33 PM
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You are spot on. I like to dump on you for lack of progress on mindset but this is night and day from the dude that was bragging about pulling OLD hotties because of his 300lb quarter squat. If OP follows this advice, he - like you - will find out just how much it carries over to other life areas. The reason this stuff matters has little to do with lifting.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/22 11:42 AM
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Don't fuck with it. Do it as written. Adding weight every. Damn. Workout. While gaining weight. Do cardio, chin ups and mob work on offdays of you want to get more workout days.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/01/22 04:37 PM
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An angel just got it's wings.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/22 07:39 AM
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Yes. Do "with arms". Three non consecutive days per week. Don't add or subtract anything. Do some cardio on off days 2-4 times a week. Don't go too crazy. Either 20mins hit stuff or 30-45mins liss stuff. For food I like simplicity too. 1g of protein per lb of bw. Rest fats and carbs as per preference to hit kcals. Distribution really doesn't matter much for non competitive dudes. Adherence is much more important. So do what you prefer and can stick to. Starting at 26-700 and then adjusting depen…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 07:07 PM
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Same as for FTM. I'd do gslp out the box and gain 20lbs over six months with a 900-1000 total. You've already proven you won't cut lower. It's pretty normal to not get the last bit when you're that light. It'll be easier once you can cut from higher calories. Plus, you'll fix more than just looks by adding 10-15lbs of LBM. It might fix your shoulder, too.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 04:43 PM
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Am I reading it right these you haven't gained nor lost any bw in two months and sightly regressed on bench in this timeframe? If so, why? And how are you fixing it?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 01:48 PM
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Great writeup. Might help you just as much if not more than OP.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/22 08:23 AM
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You might want to look up u/usefulwalk4 and his stuff. He also had an ego problem that held him back, among other things in lifting, just like you. He also had the resenting his wife for not recognizing him as a hvm or whatever. You've spent a year or two stuck on this. He spent like four. I'll spoil the ending. He finally fixed it some six months back and became worth a damn. Only to discover that it didn't kill the mother of all oneitises he has for his wife and kids and thus he can't capitali…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 09:25 PM
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Awesome. Then what I'd do (what I did) is to write out the agreement as the law dictates (the 50/50 stuff etc.) making it as good as possible for you, still good for her. That way when you nuke you can make things super easy for her. She just has to agree, and everything is taken care of. I think I recommended RCs divorce guides. If not, read and implement. Even the more wacky stuff like taping conversations. This, along with having all the paperwork written out and ready, changes your attitude …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 02:44 PM
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You are getting some good input here. Shows how useful oys can be. I hope you use it. You have an ego problem that leads you to bullshitting yourself. Until you fix that, progress will be slow.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 01:27 PM
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I don't see any divorce prep. Is all that done and dusted?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 01:25 PM
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You really don't. Pick up unchained man in stead for building your mission.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 12:34 PM
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Everyone have fear of rejection. It lessens with experience. And as such is a good way to learn what frame is. Think of each encounter as a fun experience without an end goal, just amusing yourself. That'll help.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 10:52 AM
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If she cheats on you, you will never know - Ultmatecad. Yours already did. So likelihood of it happening again is higher. And you'll never know. Is this ok? Is the upside of keeping full access to your kids enough to live through that? Because the cheaper to keep her meme you are using to hamster your great of pulling the plug is a lie. Every man who divorces experiences having more disposable income. Even morons such as myself who provide 100% and thus get stuck with an uneven settlement and al…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/22 10:47 AM
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Not necessarily. I get that psychologically it can be better to finish undoing the epic fatfucking you did to yourself. Question is. Can you lose those 8-10lbs in two months? If not you are better off recognizing this now (based on three months plus of spinning your wheels) and in stead building a bigger engine (aka lbm), increasing your metabolism and then cutting at higher calories. With non-girly lifts as a nice plus.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 09:30 PM
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If you were my trainee I'd have you eat to gain 2-4lbs per month for six months while not missing a single workout and adding weight to the bar every workout. Then cut 10-15lbs. That'd leave you around 180 with a 900-1000 PL total, from there you can then go powerlifter bodybuilder, maintain while doing other sports, whatever. If you really want to cut further then get the last 5-10lbs done in one-two months and then do the same plan as above, just adding 20-25lbs of bw. But don't come back here…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 07:03 PM
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Gain 20lbs of bw while following GSLP no bullshit nor dumb extras for 6 months. Get your PL total to 900-1.000. If you want extras read up on the frequency method chins and pushups that can be part of the programme. Ban yourself from OYS every week you haven't gained 0.5lbs or missed a workout. Honestly how you can be on oys 57 and barely press 100 is beyond me. Barely better than the 143lb girl I'm coaching.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 03:49 PM
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What has your bw done the last 3 months?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 02:58 PM
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I like this. This is what RP is all about. Replicability. It's uncanny how your experience mirrors my own early trial and error. I had exactly this at the beginning, too. It's a failure to build comfort. Girls are anxious and guys can be dangerous. So you have to make her comfortable enough that she isn't scared you'll turn her into a skin suit. For the same reason (fear of violence) girls will do whatever they can not to reject a guy outright. This explains e.g. the amount of useless numbers so…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/22 08:48 AM
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Grade A plowhorses have the most potential to really have an awesome life, once they start running free. It takes some work to get out of the furrow, though. You do so through ACTION. Acting in your own self-interest, even though it feels extremely uncomfortable at first. And then of course keep up the lifting and do the reading. NMMNG and WISNIFG in particular several times. And then I would read THIS a million times over as well as TRP sidebar. DO NOT bother with TWOTSM until you're already an…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/22 12:02 PM
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OLD two errors. One is that you need some text game in your demographic not to come off as a social artist. I just started texting bitches using the normal Game concepts and it's worked a charm. If there's something specific you have a problem with, we can look at it. But really the bar is so low that as long as you aren't a validation seeking nor giving bitch, you're pretty good. Second error is logistics. I had the same. OLD is so much easier than you expected, that you have to really be judic…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/22 11:47 AM
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8-10 girls are all pretty much the same quality I like Rian's taxonomy. All girls are 4, 5 or 6. Would prefer not to show off, don't care about showing off, would like to show off. Rest is makeup and ego investment. So your "8-10" are 6's in my world and indeed interchangeable. As for OLD and Online Game, it should be easy to explain. You've seen how much technology has impacted social relations in other parts of your life, and how different people in the 20-28 range relate to other people in th…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/22 07:31 AM
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managed a multi month police investigation that would have resulted in 10years, the end result was police sided with me and wrote a report saying ex is a risk to daughter, I managed two child services investigations, I'm doing everything fucking perfectly for the court, I have rehabbed tendonitis in both elbows and my lifelong knee issue is better than it's ever been, I have been kicking ass at work and was told by the general manager that I'm the best person they have and I actually started to …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/22 09:30 PM
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If you are top 20% then OLD is way better than day game. I know that cold approaching day/night game is a huge plus as an initial DHV but if you're fit and have game, honestly in 2022 guys are so blue that it's superfluous. You'll stand out plenty. As for quality my subjective experience is that it's more than fine. I prefer them both brainy, slutty and pretty and that's easy for me to find. More objectively, studies bear out that online beats out all other types of meets when it comes to longev…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 04:04 PM
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I feel dirty putting effort into dumb shit like this, but you get this one freebie for old times sake. We started around the same time but you're a fucking artist who hasn't done the work and might as well call this OYS1 in stead of "year 2" as if time in changes anything. Even this "timeline" shit you're trying to use as an easy out now, you've written before, probably six months ago, just under a different handle. And what happened in that time? Fuck all. Ugh. Even u/usefulwalk4, our resident …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 07:46 AM
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Does it fit my mission, does it help my mission, does it bring value to me? Based on the answers to those questions i have my action. This is the way. It really is that simple. I've done nothing but mental gymnastics the past 4 months here This was my first while too, sadly more than 4 months. Once I got out of that and into 90/10 action/thinking, things got better. Much better. Action changes thinking/feeling. Not the other way around. What you think is a decision making process is just your ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 07:32 AM
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Be careful of listening to just anyone on here. OLD is way easier than any other type of game 2022 bar none. And definitely most time efficient, which is important when you build your empire. Only caveat here is that at 5'9 you do play with a handicap in OLD, but I'd test being a bit more texty over the next month before investing more time in bitches. You identified a hiccup in your approach, which is actually common in all types of game. Not continuing to build rapport even after you number cl…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/22 07:24 AM
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Except this dude already nuked the relationship that brought him here and is talking about one of/the first girl he fucked post separation, whom he proceeded to LTR straight out the gate. I might just be cynical, but if I were having these issues this fast with a girl I'd just take the L and start afresh. Iron Rule 7 and all.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/22 02:06 PM
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I got a million matches on tinder too. I find filtering is the main issue. And not spreading yourself too thin. I'd take Roissy's advice and date younger. Preferably less than 30. That's what I do (being beginning 40's).
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/22 01:14 PM
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OLD. It's shooting fish in a barrel for anyone with a passing understanding of game who is attractive. That's where the weight loss comes in.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/22 11:03 AM
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RemindMe! 1 Jun 2022
/r/MarriedRedPill07/01/22 11:00 AM
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MRP 101 is: Lift, Read, STFU, OYS every week. Apply the STFU more than anything to this mental masturbation shit. Just do. I gave you a comment like this a year ago or so. So I'm not very optimistic. But this is the way to unfuck yourself. Action changes thinking, not the other way around. This goes 1000x for you. FWIW I also had RP doubts once in a while, I think it's part of the process. Just keep doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/22 10:02 AM
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How about you are 210 or below and have fucked at one bitch by 1 June or you donate 5.000USD your local feminist organization?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/22 09:12 AM
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Will you though? What's the plan? What are the SMART goals and milestones you'll use to measure progress? How do you make sure you're lifting a 900-1000 total at 190 or lower within a year?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/22 05:49 AM
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There's a reason lifting is part of the mrp 101 holy trinity of lift, stfu, read. Many of your problems will be greatly reduced if you get off your ass. There should be a ban for guys after week 15-20 who are not lifting. Waste of space with useless hamstering.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/22 04:53 AM
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Will you though? How?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/22 04:50 AM
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The thing about matching your investment to the value you get from a social relationship is that it automatically means that some of them wither and die. This can be a bit more of a mind fuck when it's your spouse. I can somewhat relate. It was a sad day when I realised how little I had settled for. I'm from the "your relationship is dead, it is up to her to seek you on a new one" school of thought, so play your nice card when it works for you. Blast her when it works for you. Who cares. Just ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 06:13 PM
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The only way to avoid her weaponizing the kid is to not care, and back off. Easier said than done, but when it comes to this stuff then outside of neglect the only way to win is to refuse to play the game. In my case this has meant it's my ex who is the one trying to get more time for me and the kid. The guilt and shit passes quickly. Lift heavier. It'll help your mediocre strength and mental stability.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 06:05 PM
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This smart dude made a ten point list for MPO. You should refer to it several times a day and it'll keep you out of this shitb line of thinking. You could do with more apathy, "don't care, got laid". You bet much need a Mission. Try using oys for formulation. Many dudes in here lately are struggling and in need of one. It'd be good for them to see an example, and good for you to write out. Any feedback you get I would take with extreme caution though - it can quickly lead you astray or at least …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 05:46 PM
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Kudos on the weight loss. Just do something with resistance to keep some muscle. Preferably get a home gym. And then focus on losing another ~100lbs. This will keep you busy at least a year or two during which you can just plug away at the tools. And then just let your woman be a woman. I wouldn't let it distract me now, just evaluate her when you are attractive enough to have decent options.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 05:43 PM
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You dodged a huge bullit. There is no upside to marriage for you. Only downside. So even if this woman falls in line, don't get fucking married. That said, no kids means that Iron Rule 7 applies without caveats, so I'd just nuke PROVIDED YOU'LL STILL BE MOTIVATED TO DO THE WORK. If you need a sparring partner then sure, keep her around, you've already trained her for that job.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 04:38 PM
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I think your comment snuck under mine? Anyways I wouldn't waste my typing on OP as per my comment above.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 04:05 PM
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Last week you were called out for lifting poundages that belong in week 5 not 35. This week you report missing two out of three workouts. Since you can't even do something that simple, I think you're a waste of space here.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 12:16 PM
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Atomic Habits would be a good read for you. You need basic triage. I'd use a negative incentive to lose the 70lbs you have to go. Like you have to donate 100 bucks to your local feminist association every month you don't lose at least 2lbs or something like that.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 10:37 AM
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How is your lifting and other exercise going?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 10:25 AM
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Dude stays in that zone and doesn't respond to nor implement any of the feedback he gets. He might not be right for this place.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 10:24 AM
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Lose 40 lbs. Stop being an incel. This will fix many of your other problems.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/22 10:23 AM
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No need to thank me. I'm processing this through writing to you. As far as I can tell, there are a couple of things going on. You are not alpha in LTR's eyes, and you are making excuses for her with culture, her fucked up past, that time of the month, whatever. Alphas have it easy. A note: Disrespectful behaviour is not the same as a shit test. I confused the two for a long time. You'll know the different because if you try to A&A/AM whatever disrespectful behaviour it won't help and in all prob…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/22 11:58 AM
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"Walking on eggshells being totally dependent on her actions" and "trying too hard with the alpha" makes sense in the same sentence but not in the way you think. It's the trying that's the issue. Give less fucks and nuke when she's pisssy. Give direction when she's submissive and asks for guidance.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/22 05:22 PM
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You really don't understand how intersexual dynamics work, huh?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/01/22 12:49 AM
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There's no way around the basics. You lift, which is good, but you lack the mindset bit. Sidebar harder. There's so much about your woman here, and so little about you. What do you want, what are you not getting, what are you doing? But I'm bored, so I'll indulge myself and talk about your woman. Old trauma, how hard it is for her emotionally, bla bla bla. Who cares. What's it to you? You are a high value dude who can expect high performance, from her or someone else. If she's invested she'll cr…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/21 11:41 PM
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While this is true, then some irrational self confidence is also useful. And it's much better if it's not actually irrational but backed up by real world feedback. Hence the utility of catch and release (or catch and K/F close depending on your inclination). As they say, the two things that can't be faked is sex and violence. So you'll know you're "there" if you close attractive women. It's really that simple. So at this point I don't see that gathering data that supports that you are acting att…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/12/21 12:11 AM
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Cool. So by "gauntlet"/"test" you're saying whatever zeroing out event forced your eyes open. Be it ILYBINILWY, divorce or whatever other glitch in the Matrix. I don't see a lot of these unplugged men. I guess from there comes the temptation to Red Knight.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/21 02:00 PM
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do what you really want This is literally it. There's nothing more (or less) to it. I added the "really" because for many, at least me, then you initially can't see past the social and biological programming to sacrifice for the whamen and children, and you'll convince yourself that this is, indeed, what you want. Once your compass is aligned, I agree with the below, but not before: if it feels like sacrificing you're not applying your gifts in their best place for YOU nor the world Once there, …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/21 01:09 PM
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I'm going to fuck her better. Dude! Frame! Fucks sake.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 10:30 PM
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I was hoping someone would pull on this Why didn't you? We need more dudes harping on Rule Zero on here.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 10:13 PM
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Jesus, dude. Talk about learned helplessness. Why don't you just give me your address and I'll come fuck her for you? Oh, wait. Chad is already filling that spot. For whatever reason I like you, so I'll throw you a bone, though the above is probably more helpful: Read SGM and TWOTSM, the sex bits. I can tell you haven't. Pumping isn't the only way to have sex, you know.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 10:07 PM
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You, my friend. Are ego deluded about the sex you're having. And your woman is happy to help you stay that way. At least from where I'm sitting. Put it to the test: Make the sessions longer, at least 30min. Try out some stuff you've always wanted, work on her, whatever. Tell her to actually do things in stead of just being a warm hole. Including, absolutely mandatory, make her look you in the eyes as you fuck her and do the dirty talk there. If this ends up working, congratulations to you both, …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 09:43 PM
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She's basically asking for caveman sex and getting off on it, responding to dirty talk, asking for my cum, responding well to getting fucked hard. I had this too. How long are your sessions?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 09:15 PM
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I've loved your OYS ever since you started because you articulate much of the mental masturbation and linkages between Buddhism and MRP that I have myself. This is no exception. That being the case, I think you're good on big picture shit and would - as always - advise you look on the concrete actionable side. Set up some tangible real world goals. Use the UM-method and make them fairly difficult. Like spending a total of 100.000hours meditating, three years in a Zen Monastery or whatever the he…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 09:09 PM
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I felt I had fully internalized where my self esteem should be and I felt zero pull towards that relationship Ah, the good old TRP truism, "would this be a problem if you were fucking other bitches". Enjoy the fruits of your labor. Just don't let pussy distract you too much from your Mission (unless your Mission is pussy, obviously). You do have a Mission, right?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 08:57 PM
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I saw the D/s talk last week and thought "hmmm". Now it makes more sense. She's into that shit. Probably learnt it somewhere. But when it comes down to it concretely and physically, she actually isn't with you. Sorry dude. If you really want to give her a chance to get on board, though I don't see why you would, at least the other truism is that this is only the case right now and subject to change. Just as her horniness and all other moods. Concretely two things: If I could change one thing abo…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 08:53 PM
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What I care about is what works for Poncho. Indeed this is frame. Many of us do loads of shit with bitches that isn't the standard MRP fare. Just be aware that Alpha, Beta, Domination and Blue still matter. And, as any shit test you've ever passed will have shown you, what "works" in the short term might not be to your benefit in the long term. Can you answer "What Do You Want"? doing so ought to help you see clearly if it's a matter of you wanting a different/no/more bitch(es) to support your M…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 08:46 PM
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I think you were right to postpone them. TWOTSM has some good stuff in it about understanding masculine and feminine energy and how to use it to your advantage. But it is also a dangerous path that can lead you to thinking that you can fix your wife by containing her feminine in an egoless cycle of mutual gifting and other mumbo-jumbo. I'd be cautious of this. Use this understanding to make life better and more fun for you. There's a lot of good shit in there. UM I found really useful. CJ must b…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 08:39 PM
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Something is up with your lifting. What were you lifting 3 months ago and what was BW then? I think you have fuckarounditis.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/21 02:25 PM
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This looks like Rambo to me. And will continue to be until you figure out What Do You Really Want. Have you done the exercises in Unchained Man to find your Mission(s)?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/12/21 08:36 PM
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Figuring out what you DON'T want is often a very useful way to getting to what you DO want. I think every man should figure this out. It's the Mission that is important, not bitches, they're everywhere. But once you know your Mission you can constantly calibrate your women-life to support it. I agree that this will be fluid over time. I think LTR vs. plates is a little more complicated than that - both require some energy. That said, once you really unplug and "don't have to dodge bullits" anymo…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/12/21 07:18 PM
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I can't quite put my finger on. It's because you like this waxing poetical about evopsych and philophy enough that you lose sight of one dude still being in DYEL shape not touching a barbell for months even after years on MRP vs. another dude after six months clocking in at 5'11 183lbs 15.5% navy BP 235x3 SQ315x5 RDL 355X4 BR 215x4 Arnold press 150x5. Granted, watching a dude hamster away his wife fucking around on him really isn't pretty. AR is much better at putting makeup on his hamster. But …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/21 03:17 PM
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Really? Dude hasn't lifted for months due to "reasons" but finds time to hamster on and on about "RP philosophy" even enough to write up a long treatise on it. That's "verba non acta" if I ever saw it.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/21 02:49 PM
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I honestly don’t even know what to do with the amount of volume I’m getting on these things I had this. I fixed it by deciding a max amount of active women I'm fucking (3) and then only sourcing when I'm below that. Sourcing usually means reinstalling the app, spending half an hour swiping and setting up dates. Then finding 1-2 girls to go on a few more dates with to pick one to work with for the next while until another plate falls. Been sliding a bit the last week with regard to overall discip…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/21 02:46 AM
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This triggered a few days of what I thought was things turning around - great sex, fun, enjoyable marriage. 100% fleeting. It's called hysterical bonding. Rian has a video on it and there are plenty of other sources. Wife - basically impossible to game her, family home is a battleground. She’s convinced I’m cheating, have STDs, physically pushes me away, etc. This behaviour could very well be projection from her side. Usually girls get wet from their man cheating (I know, women are weird) if you…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/21 02:39 AM
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I can recommend tagging Horns if you feel it would be useful with some sparring, He loves that shit and was quite helpful in poking me about mine. I can also recommend making a more concrete and tangible one with goals in each of the SLA. That was what I did first. And then this narrative came after. Maybe more a vision than mission, if you want to quibble over definitions.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/21 10:12 PM
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figuring things out for me and being fine with mistakes on the way. You and me both. Sometimes dudes get confused - RP is a toolbox when it comes to women and sex. Some of it goes beyond that (self actualization shit), if that's still RP I guess depends on definitions. What you build with the tools will depend on the all-important and deceptively difficult "What Do You Want" question. Some are very clear they want to be the Family Patriarch, Chad Slayer of Poon, The Cad with wife and side-chicks…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/21 03:13 PM
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As for the question of how a woman would serve my mission, I don’t think one would. Many might, but not one. Or at least that’s where my head is at right now. If this ends up being true, I'll finally have someone to ping things off of. I'll be really interested to see how it fits into your Mission. Horns helped me flesh out mine, I pasted it in below. 8 months in and it still remains valid with no adjustments. It's served me well when the betashit goblin has been loud, or whatever other stupid p…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/21 02:36 AM
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Iron Role 9 dude. Be better. And until you are, pretend. 🙂
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/21 09:51 PM
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Then get on it. Consider reading Unchained Man for a framework on how to structure a vision of how you want your life to be. I found it incredibly useful.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/21 01:24 PM
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Just imagine living your whole life plowhorsing not realizing. Your wife did you a solid. You are just about to hit your peak SMV. Your life can improve in ways you never thought possible. I get the grieving, just let it take it's time. Meanwhile, one piece of advice I wish I'd gotten at that point in my journey. Realizing things won't change how shit you feel. Doing stuff will. The MRP motto is "action not words" for a reason. I found it a decent heuristic to let action drive feelings in stead …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/21 01:20 PM
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It isn't exactly a fucking mystery what's simmering. Who wouldn't be pissed that his wife was enthusiastically slobbering all over Chads dick and begging him to rail her, asking nothing in return except the railing, while one was busy dutifully plowing the furrow, getting attitude and maybe the occasional duty-sugarcube kinda pussy in a drip feed EXACTLY BECAUSE one provided everything for said wife. TRP is bitter at first.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/21 04:18 AM
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am not starting the process right now, even though I oftentimes don't see any other path in the future The reason isn't that you're too angry. It's just that you aren't ready. Get your desired end state identified and RINSED for the beta-farm brainwashing you've had. What's the best end state FOR YOU. When identified, you lay a plan for how to get it. Both legal processes, how to involve the in-laws if possible, using that you are the one seen as "fighting for the marriage" etc. You have lots of…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/21 04:12 AM
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Game with women I know: Bitches love validation. Especially when it is a freebie from a non low-value yet Nice man. This means next to nothing. Except that those bitches weren't the only ones loving the non-risk validation. Be careful, this might turn you into a bitch, too. Game with strangers: This is a more accurate gauge of where you're at, and where you need to go to sharpen your skills.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/21 04:06 AM
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Deconditioning I like your OYS so wont report you for a rule 10, but that's one of the most atrocious posts yet to make it on here. I thought it'd been deleted or at least blocked or something. u/pancakeOptimusPrime don't click the link and let the RC/BPP "fix your wife" virus infect your brain. Up your alpha, push boundaries, make your expectations known. Give yourself X amount of time to get to where you want to be. This is the time she has to audition for the part. It's really that simple. Go…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/21 03:57 AM
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Congratulations. This looks like the first part of what "getting it" meant for me. Next bit was what some dudes were harping on about in your OYS a while back, when it was too early. What do you want? What is your Mission? I advise you to really make this concrete before you focus on the important bit in Horns' comment: putting your attention, affection and commitment where "it only suits YOUR direction and mission". This is easier said than done, even if you have a well fleshed out one. That's …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/21 03:50 AM
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Rollo is great for the big picture stuff and understanding the overall dynamics. But this definition sounds off. Bitches love validation. Until you've escalated and F-closed you don't know if you have a validation whore or an actual one on your hands. You are in luck, though. Nothing, and I mean nothing, beats HSP for managing your bitches - including categorizing them, which is crucial in order to apply the right strategy.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/21 05:13 AM
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all talk and no action If mods catch this, I think OP just got new flair.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/21 09:19 PM
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Why does that make me lucky? Because it's made it so much easier to detach, not care, and prioritize myself after seeing AWALT slap me in the face? Bingo. There's another subset of dudes who end up in purgatory because their wives may be shitty, but not shitty enough to force their eyes fully open. This wont be you. You just don't come back from your wife fucking other dudes while you've been doing everything you were "supposed to" according to BP logic. u/usefulwalk4 is my favourite example. Do…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/21 04:20 PM
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If by short term you mean 3-6 months then sure we can call it that.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/21 04:17 PM
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Fuck leading her. Who gives a shit. This is about you. Just STFU, get your shit together and let her try to catch up. Just follow the program - STFU, lift, sidebar, oys every week for a year Oh. Did I mention STFU?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/21 03:08 PM
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Just stay the course man. You're lucky that your wife fucked around (hard to see now, I know). There's no way to unsee it, no matter how much you want to. OYS for a year every week. And get on Rians thing. The worst thing you can do is halfass this and spend your life in purgatory. I feel for you. You have an awesome life ahead of you. Good news is that it can turn around pretty fast for a guy like you. Bad news is that it's really going to fucking hurt getting there.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/21 11:43 AM
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I keep linking it because I have to keep remembering it. There's a certain subset of grade A plowhorses on MRP like u/Teal-Turtle-88. Dudes who aren't fat nor professionally or socially inept. But just too Nice to their women. The archetype being the military hardass who then goes home to placate his wife. I think this is why I always liked reading Sepeans stuff, because he was one of the dudes that really turned this around. He, like me, had all the alpha stuff down. In great shape, martial art…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/21 10:57 AM
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5x5 is OK as it gets you lifting, doing the compound movements and getting some progressive overload. However, GSLP yields much better results in my experience. I'd make the switch. You have a long road ahead of you. I'd really join Rians thing. Worst case it's 5 bucks on something you don't like and you just cancel. You'll get much, much better guidance there than you do here.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/21 10:51 AM
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I'm realizing that somehow I have a clearer idea of what I want in a social life than what I want in a marriage. Outline what you want in all seven life areas (physical, work, spiritual, social, family, recreative, women). Create a narrative around it, whatever works for you. Then work towards that. The rest will fall into place.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/21 02:39 PM
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So a plate is someone you're fucking. There's no "oh but I define it differently". That's a quick path to bullshitting yourself and getting shit advice from others because they interpret your FR wrong. In other words, don't be that dude that had "sex" several times a week, only to reveal after months that he'd not fucked his wife for seven years, and only gotten handjobs. I also vet my girls extensively, so I get that. But it's just fine to just have "one in the kitty" - it's even a commandment …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/21 02:15 PM
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If it helps I'm exactly the same right now. I currently have two bitches I do anything to that you can imagine from the craziest porn videos. Literally. Yet my newest girl I still have only choked, slapped around a bit and some light anal. For me I think it's driven part by fear of rejection party by knowing from experience how it can fuck up a relationship if I push a girl further than she's able to process afterwards. I end up just taking it slow but making sure there's progress towards deprav…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/21 10:47 AM
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I think the list is good enough to become an MRP cheat sheet for dudes that have the be attractive/don't be unattractive down, in order for them to get what they want in life. It is somehow reminiscent of ICM's needs/wants list paint-by-numbers method that has been working well for me. Put it in action over a few months, adjust if needed and then post a FR on how each point has worked out in practice. I think it could take your game to the next level. As for the praising. With my wife I figured …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/21 12:46 PM
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I opened my mouth this week and talked about my feelings. It solved the same number of problems it always solves. I'm laughing out loud at this. In my experience you have to catch yourself putting your foot in your mouth X amount of times, before you become able to see it coming and stop it. Or at least stop mid-puke. Your problem with physique isn't a bit of extra calories but spinning your wheels. Your lifts are atrocious for someone on OYS 55. Almost impressive you lift about the same as one …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 03:41 PM
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1- Mental point of origin: What’s Ragnar doing?What’s he want? How’s he doing at getting it/going after it today? Anything else he wants/needs? 2- Mission First: What’s my mission? Am I prioritizing that today? Or distracting myself? 4- I am the prize, I. AM. THE. PRIZE. All this is for me. Everyone else is lucky to share it with me. I like this KISS approach and am stealing it. In my experience praising ridiculously small stuff works well, particularly with sex, and doesn't create the problem y…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 03:35 PM
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For an OYS3 this isn't bad. ​ I feel like I want to kill someone right after my sessions because I'm so pumped and confident. I absolutely love lifting! Focus on this rather than long term goals. Process goals. Hitting the gym without fail 3xweek come hell or high water. And then do GSLP barebones: Monday Bench/ or Press (A/B) 2x 5, 1 x 5+ Curl 2x 10-15 (bench days) Squat 2x 5, 1x 5+ Wednesday Bench/ or Press 2×5, 1x 5+ Weighted Chins 2 x 6-8 (press days, and only if you can do at least 6-8 BW c…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 02:03 PM
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Set your desired end state. Make a plan. Implement. Sidebar and oys for a year. You will laugh at the current silly problems you are making for yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/21 09:51 PM
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*and I don't know wtf "pass" is doing in there tbh. Sex is just sex. You figure that out once it is on tap. What you do from there varies from what I can see. Some go for variety in bitches. Some for variety with the same bitch. Some of us both. It can get pretty freaky if you keep pushing limits. Or you can just fuck how you want and when you want, not spend too much time thinking about it and in stead spend your time making your life fulfilling in the other life areas.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/21 05:06 PM
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No matter what you do, take the legal divorce first. There's only downsides to being legally married. As you do, make sure you make a level playing field. Go after 10/10 25y/o hotties on Tinder or whatever it is you REALLY REALLY like, get some of those under your belt. As this is getting done, alpha the fuck up around your ex to the point she is dripping whenever you are around. Throw a fuck in her on occasion. Meanwhile do the reading, post in OYS every week, commenting on other artists. Let 6…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/21 04:45 PM
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she is an easy 9/10 who makes very good money, was always loyal as shit, moved all over creation for my job, and supported every relatively insane career endeavor I’ve undertaken. Oneitis and wife goggle confirmed! You don't have kids so Iron Rule 7 applies without caveats. You can work through your shit with other bitches, no problem. I guess the question is, what do you want?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/21 04:33 PM
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I guess you had a better wife than I, this would make it more tricky I guess. Or, more likely, she didn't zero you out well enough to crush the wife goggles. For me it's been super easy to find young, cute, highly intelligent and interesting bitches. As I said. This then presents it's own set of unique problems, as stated above. Why the fuck does it matter what your wife thinks if you are separated? Can she still mess up the settlement until papers are finalised?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/21 03:42 PM
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Find one that is good enough to keep your mind off the ex. Don't be an idiot and tell them things they already know but don't want to hear. Not lying is enough to keep the relationship within your frame. And that makes sense. I suck at keeping relationships casual. It bores me easily. I like emotions and shit, which is fun but makes things complex faster.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/21 03:15 PM
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That's indeed a much more fun way to approach it as long as those things aren't blue. This comes to mind: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/feeq65/communication_and_signals/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/21 03:13 PM
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Figuring out how you like to fuck is important. Just don't get confused here. It has zero to do with the "lead your wife" BS. Your bitch is fine (that all are) just focus on you and getting what you want, then you will. If I were to guess one ends up in this trap you've found through some mix of Madonna whore dichotomy and then just general fear of rejection and being vulnerable. Maybe this mental trick will help. It's just a girl. No marriage nor kids. So what's the worst that can happen? That …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/21 12:31 PM
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8 girls you are fucking? How the fuck do you find the time? Truly curious. I started with 4-5 quickly cut to 3 and am finding even that to be quite the time sink.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/21 12:16 PM
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Good point. One of the bigger mistakes I've made has been artistically dividing Madonna and whore in my mind when it comes to bitches. Only later realising that letting them do non sexual shit is actually part of training them properly. The mothering thing is mostly about when you act blue and want her to fix your fee-fees in my view.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/21 11:08 AM
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Bitches are generally boring as fuck and reactive not pass proactive in bed. So read sgm anf or watch some depraved porn and try some of it out. Figure out what you like, as you don't seem to right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/21 10:33 AM
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Girls are girls. You're too old to waste more time with oneitis acting blue.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/21 10:29 AM
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How many bitches do you have on your roster currently?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/21 10:27 AM
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This sounds great dude. Congratulations. Then it's just about not rocking the boat. I'd take it super easy with the girls for those months. Pussy will still be there when you're out.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 09:06 AM
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Fair enough. I also waited until process was done and we lived apart to have my first outings. What is the ETA on being in the clear for you? For me it was about five months. Nerves are normal. You'll quickly find your rhythm. Don't overthink it and you'll be fine.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 06:26 AM
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Why wait?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/21 06:46 PM
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What horns is describing is the main event and the come to Jesus speech respectively. If there aren't snot bubbles it isn't a main event and you should not try to lay out your vision yet, according to standard mrp dictum.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/21 02:46 PM
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Lying in general should disturb you. It usually means you are covering something up. Hiding the badness, Nice Guy style. Especially if it's related to sex. I have found my life has improved immensely since I stopped lying. It's a frame thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/21 12:32 PM
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I'm interested to see how your goals with your new life intertwine, if at all, women into it. You and me both. Currently I'm just saying what I want and doing what I want and letting the chips fall as they may. As far as I can tell, most of my mouth words and actions fall in alpha, domination and good beta with little blue that I can see myself. I'm of course making plenty of mistakes. So far I've had fun fixing them, and generally getting what I want in women and in life. I fully expect to blow…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/21 06:11 AM
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In this case I'd say that standard RP advice is to let the woman initiate that conversation. The male idea of "clear communication" and "saying it like it is" etc. is not a goal in itself but rather oftentimes tactically unwise and not to your benefit. To wit, I currently have three bitches. First two I've had a while, they know I'm not monogamous and even know about each other. They sometimes complain a bit, even leave for short spurts, but mostly things are nice and relaxed. I then sourced a t…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/21 05:52 AM
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My pleasure. It is helpful to see your own idiocy in others. Easier to see in them than in yourself - and then address. As always it's more for me than for you, and half of it is projection. Here's some more. If there's one thing I'd change about how I interact with chicks, it would be to praise more. AFTER the fact - still get payment up front. I try. And when I do, it works. But it isn't natural to me. I'm "cold hearted" as one of my girls told me yesterday. She's not wrong. Don't get this con…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 07:30 AM
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Fair enough. I will never understand you dudes who pretty much only speak in vague, nebulous terms - most of which make little sense (what does "borrow frame" even mean?). I really don't see what it does, except to make it hard to get any useful feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 07:06 AM
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Good you ask. It was unclear. Praising is a reward that you do AFTER the fact. But one you should definetely do. E.g. "I loved rubbing your asshole (hilarious btw) today. It totally drives me wild. You're so hot when you XYZ". You can really go crazy overboard here and it still works. Women love this shit. The feminine grows through praise. And then Horns captured the other side. I would call her shit behaviour out by action not words. They never did much for me. Withdrawing affection, attention…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 06:07 PM
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Tinder is great if you want easy mode to source some plates. Much easier to approach in the wild when you're already fucking.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 05:04 PM
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My ex would have this weird delay too. I can hamster reasons. But the most important is if you get what you want consistently, after that initial delay. If so, just carry on building your slut, pushing new boundaries consistently. This was it for me. If she repeatedly stalls, I'd just abort the entire operation when you hit the sticking point. That should get the message across. And when she then comes back with what you wanted, take it AND push for something else. Whatever you do, don't open yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 04:23 PM
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Just don't spin your wheels. But really, I kinda doubt you will. It's just a few notes - and then my usual impatient self shining through. My basic point is that as much as I dislike the "lead your wife" meme, leading her through a divorce to the outcome you want is very much worth the effort I found.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/21 05:27 AM
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You're welcome. Just to be clear. Have you talked about monogamy/exclusivity or not with this chick?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/21 09:57 AM
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So I was spot on, huh? I probably shouldn't mollycoddle you as it usually doesn't help much, but indulging myself anyway: If you don't own your shit, i.e. can't even post up the sequence and number of bitches, you aren't going to get the feedback from here you need to change your mental models. If you find yourself dumping RP-lingo haphazardly in stead of writing concretely you're probably running from something. If you absolutely have to use it, then get the lingo straight. You can't have one p…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/21 05:45 AM
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vulnerability Cool, I appreciate it - and that you can't quite word it yet. If you at some point can and it is indeed more than the very RP 101 stuff I describe, I would be interested in hearing your take. I've read many a treatise on here about it, but either I'm too simpleminded to get it, or it's just an unnecessarily complicated way of saying something fairly rudimentary. ​ physique I went from about 21% body fat to under 17% in the last year year. Time to gain 20 lbs in the next year and a …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/21 06:57 AM
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Fuck "being aware". n=1 means it is irrelevant. If all women reject you you have work to do. If ONE woman rejects you it's her loss. Kill the oneitis and replace it with (irrational) confidence.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/21 04:04 PM
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I was owed her choosing me by ranking a school in this city because I make 6 figures, have a six pack, have game, decent looking, but guess I’m not that great. Using the reaction of girls as a measuring stick of your value can have some utility, though care should be shown. Using ONE girl, however, is retarded. Absolutely retarded.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/21 05:56 AM
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Thank you for elaborating. And for being a good example on here. Both on how to do some work and how to fuck up (and learn). I just read your first OYS. It was hilarious and high quality for a post 1. An off-topic freebie, now that I checked. Why the fuck haven't you improved your physique in a year? Anyway, now that I'm done fluffing you, I'm hoping you'll indulge me here. Because to me this seems fairly basic. But I'm not so sure it is and I might be missing something. You tell me. I treated "…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/21 05:47 AM
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Might it make sense sometime end November to say: "Babe. I get it's hard, but being in limbo is no good for either of us. Here - I can give you a sweet deal to go ride your horseys with your parents. Sign it before Christmas, so both they as well as you and I can enjoy the holidays as best we can. If not, I've agreed with my lawyer that I will move out, start selling the place and file unilaterally on 2 January."
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/21 05:38 AM
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Yes, intentionally vague -I did fine with women before my past relationship and have been doing fine after that relationship didn't work out. I think the vagueness above is related to the below. I don't really feel the need to "fuck bitches" just for a higher n-count. Because this sure as fuck is not just about "fucking bitches". Sex is ridiculously easy to any dumbass who implements just 50% of what is taught on here. You are, happily, absolutely spot on about what this is about: vetting and pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/21 05:35 AM
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Notice how vaguely you describe it. Not a single concrete number in there. Definitely something to consider. Check out the bitch management guide.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 07:49 PM
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Note: Some medical conditions can make CNC pretty fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 01:49 PM
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Level of effort will s always depend on several variables (alpha, anxiety etc.) but totally agreed that there's no reason to play with a handicap if you don't have to (who said marriage?! 😂) as long as you focus most of your efforts on the moneymakers - being attractive not being unattractive.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 01:33 PM
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I think you visited the wrong sub. This one is about fucking last I checked.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 12:46 PM
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I don't disagree with this at all. Logistics of course matter and this is generally sound advice for getting everyone sleeping and thus in better state (to fuck and do other things). That said, what I take from this is: if attraction is there, you'll fuck. If it's not, you wont. This was my experience too. I was getting BJ's within days and fucking within weeks. I even had my MIL live with us for the first year in a small place, and the kid was sleeping near/with us more often than not for large…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 12:44 PM
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Being zeroed out is an incredible gift. Takes a long time to see, though.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 12:32 PM
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Just wait until you are truly out. It is quite literally awesome, mindblowing and amazing. For the newer dudes. This only goes if you unfucked yourselves decently while in the relationship. If not, you still have to dig through your shit, just while single/dating.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 12:31 PM
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You've kept a good and steady speed on this, so I don't think it's a huge risk. But do be aware of your hamster making you move the goalposts because you can't be bothered with the hassle/conflict/perceived cost. If you run the numbers, be it financial, freedom, happiness, whatever then in all probability the best day to start is today, the next tomorrow etc. At least it was for me. Both on money but also on the more "fluffy" indicators - this has been borne out when I evaluate post-divorce. Our…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 12:16 PM
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Dear God. Posting RC's RPC stuff now? I'm out. My original point of choosing your words when giving input still stands.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 11:32 AM
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What's in it for you in allowing the attachment to said things to continue? As far as I can tell, it would be her ejecting from a lack of (good) beta. But if you provide it anyway, just do it freely and not legally obligated, wouldn't it be tantamount to the same thing, just with more freedom and the incentives stacked better in your favor? I, at least, tend to have better relationships with people to whom I give freely than with those to whom I am obligated to give (even if I would've chosen to…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 10:53 AM
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Fuck. This happens to most of us post-divorce. For the love of everything holy do NOT LTR up the first girl to touch your dick after you regain your freedom. Have some fuckups first, learn to set a good frame and then find a bitch for a new LTR.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 10:45 AM
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I went through that and WISNIFG four times and I still fuck up basic shit on the daily. It's hardwired shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 10:43 AM
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Get your legal situation laid out and plan your divorce to your advantage now. Today. Don't say shit to your wife until you have every detail planned to get the best case scenario for you. This is your first, second and third priority right now. If you already have, I'd just implement. ILYBINILWY is a death sentence. Worst case her branch fails, you alpha up, she submits and you settle for "good enough". Some of the more experienced and switched on dudes on here did. From what I've seen most are…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 10:42 AM
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Owning your shit stings when dudes throw it back in your face. But it works, as this shows. Good for other dudes to see. It's not a failure when you post up ego-based/clueless shit and have a dozen dudes calling you names. It's a learning experience you probably need. As most of us have experienced time and time again. I'm curious about this bit: I couldn't continue to "win" this RP game without providing any vision for the future, love or even vulnerability of my own. What does "providing love …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 10:37 AM
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Things with plate are going well, moving towards exclusivity, she is pushing hard for it and doing some of the work. How long have you been divorced and how many bitches have you fucked since you got divorced?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 10:31 AM
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Obviously I do give a shit, otherwise I wouldn’t be writing this. It's because you're not owning it, but lying about it. Been there, done that, had the soft harem of side bitches, crazy sex and squirting anal orgasms. Still cannot recommend. Doesn't mean you have to disclose, mind. Just don't lie. Caleb Jones, for all his weird hairpieces and delivery, has some good stuff on this in Unchained Man and Open Relationships Manual if you want to go this route. If you already made a commitment to be e…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 10:29 AM
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As I see it, all of the reasons dudes give in order not to get out of the draconian legal obligation to share the value they create called legal marriage are hamster-poop. Like this: I think the answer is that you can have so much abundance that even the liability of legal marriage costs you nothing. This is the case for 0 of the guys here, including HOA and his 500k/year deal. And probably the case for 0 people in the world. Money is freedom, more money is more freedom. Sure there are diminishi…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 10:23 AM
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Hows life? Fucking or divorcing (or both?).
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 07:37 AM
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What you call anxious some indeed call crazy. And, as a friend recently noted "you like 'em crazy". I call it feminine. And I like women to be women, not men with tits. So I choose them "crazy" and then from being with me, they become even more "crazy. It's fun. To quote Roissy: ​ Set yourself apart from other men and connect with a woman’s emotional landscape. Her mind is an alien world that requires deft navigation to reach your rendevous. Frolic in the surf of emotions rather than the arid de…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 05:49 AM
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Being similar in always wanting more even though I have what most men dream of, always chasing after more, different, better, fearing missing out on not having and trying EVERYTHING, I relate to this. You are right about the Zen bit. The answer to this is not found in achievements, events or even relationships. It's about learning to appreciate what is here, now. A worthwhile pursuit, especially at the point you are at. As for the latter fear of loss, I think a bit of worry surfacing is par for …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 09:09 PM
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Rgr.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 07:39 PM
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Where is the upside for a man in marriage? Outside of special situations (expats, immigration stuff) I can't see it. And even then it's iffy. And even if there is one. Why choose this bitch that his beta simp self already ruined?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 03:58 PM
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What does "more time" mean? Do you have a set deadline after which you file contested? If not, why?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 03:56 PM
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This is rule 12 worthy. Dudes wife is fucking someone else. He slowly takes his balls back just a tiny bit and seeing results (that will quickly dry out in all probability but it still counts). And you advise to stop doing what is working and up beta behaviours. To a grade A plowhorse? I see no Rambo. For someone just opening his eyes he looks like he is applying the right tools. u/teal-turtle-88 don't listen to this shit. You have enough problems working for yourself already with an entire cong…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 03:10 PM
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Good to see you progressing again also physically. I can relate to the joy of having made the decision and being on the other side. Things will get hard again on occasion, doesn't mean you shouldn't enjoy the good times.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 03:03 PM
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Don't get married unless there is a green card or other big win for you in it. Honestly for a guy in your situation (dbr before kids or tying the knot) just nuking, fixing yourself and starting clean is probably the best ROI. Iron Rule seven applies.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 02:56 PM
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I see everyone jumping in with the automated response of RPC BS "lead your wife" and parroting MITW "validation needs killing your sex life". I'd be careful to taking this as gospel. Yet also be careful not to just be going Rambo in the original sense - applying random "Red Pill" stuff you read somewhere haphazardly and then wondering why your life goes to shit. Before I waste more words on you - what do you really want in your life? Not small shit like fucking couple times per week. But really …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/21 09:37 AM
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Go to askMRP and search "affair" "cheating" and so on. It will help open your eyes. There's a beautiful life on the other side dude. You are not fat not a midget not an addict not poor nor a lazy fuck and hitting your prime. A grade A plowhorse. It's a category on here. Having been one I can tell you that once you start working for yourself life is magnificent. Really is. You might have to ditch the spirituality to get there though. Or at least the zombie carpenter. I guess most likely outcome i…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/21 06:53 PM
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So unless she signs by next week you file contested?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/21 04:40 PM
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Most men I know live lives of quiet desperation. Maybe you're just one of them. Up to you, but if that's the case mentally masturbating further on here will just make it worse. I'd say it's time to put up or shut up. u/hornsofapathy could consider giving you a break until you do.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 02:07 PM
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Yeah. Just get the balance right. In most cases I'm sure that some sort of cooperation does make it smoother. Just know the tradeoffs. If all that's in it for you is less BS spewing from her mouth, I wouldn't delay but just get it done.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 05:06 PM
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So u/UsefulWalk4 this is 9 days ago. How much progress have you made on the divorce?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/21 05:36 AM
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Is there any upside for you in coming out of this looking like a good guy except for Not Feeling Guilty? No kids as far as I can tell and finances are usually set in stone by law anyway. But I might be missing something?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/21 01:49 PM
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I like this. That said, I don't see the elephant in the room: You want a divorce. How is that moving along? You sit through BP therapy sessions but what's the end game? Stick it out for 4 weeks, check the box, and then sell your farm or whatever so she has to move? Start engaging her family to help her make the transition, expediting a signature? What are your pressure points, when do you use them? The work on becoming more attractive/being less unattractive seems fine. Physically, at the stage …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 11:20 AM
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Sourcing bitches is indeed easy AF if you know what you're doing.Sure they have issues and baggage but so does everyone. My thing is more like "and then what?". Just as with the money, what's the purpose? I know there doesn't have to be one except that it makes me happy. I also know that with bitches there are plenty of powerful validation and dopamine traps that can easily steal my focus from other important things. I have a map for what I want in life, but writing this out I realized I needed …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/21 06:59 AM
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There’s a certain power that can be obtained as you grow your net-worth. Power to free your time. Power to delegate activities you don’t want to do to other men. Power to captivate and motivate other people and harness their own energy to accomplish your goals that are mutually beneficial to both parties. Power to create new and amazing experiences for myself and those I choose to bring along with me. See this I get. I was just fishing for more specific answers as to what to use it to achieve. T…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/21 06:22 PM
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Likewise! Good to hear life is good. I'll just drill down on this a bit, as this bit is an intriguing part 2 of how you use your freedom once you've learnt to stop plowhorsing. As far as I can tell you want to: Live in different countries as an end in itself unrelated to any tax/financial things (that then are a nice plus). Increase your net worth as efficiently as possible. The rest as far as I can tell are negative definitions: You don't want to pay to a leeching state, you don't want to be in…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/21 06:39 AM
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I think next level red pill is indeed to stop plowhorsing on a broader scale. I still don't see in this what you DO want. It seems more about avoiding that which you don't. Probably you have thought about the former and just didn't include it because it's specific to you. If so, I'd still be interested if you want to share. If not, something to think about.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/21 03:09 PM
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Thanks! I fail at Reddit.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/21 03:08 PM
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Nonono. That's not what's sad. It's worse. u/UsefulWalk4 just pointed out to me that actual fucking isn't even part of dudes standards. Which he hides behind "sex" whatever that then is meant to mean. You literally cannot make this shit up. OP, in case you're reading down here - take this as a kick in the fucking nuts to get your shit together and your head right. Fucking hell.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/21 06:45 PM
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I lost my erection and just gave up. This might be more helpful than you think. Your dick seems to be smarter than you. Just don't be butthurt/mopey/sad after. It is what it is, you move on.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/21 02:48 PM
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Oh sweet baby Jesus. When dude writes about 5-25 times having sex he is egoprotecting to hide he isnt fucking? He should be grateful we even bother hijack his shit show. You aren't a selfish dick my man. That's a title you have yet to earn. Just because others (in particular wifey) have told you this it doesn't make it true. What are you doing for you? Fuck all. How much are you fucking? As much as OP. And this shit about doing it for the kids. Makes me want to vomit. This is you pushing them in…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/21 08:41 AM
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I already walked it way back. It's fine. My main problem right now should sound familiar. Putting together a life I want.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/21 08:23 AM
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Attorney is on retainer as needed. This means he is drafting the papers? Or does it mean that now you had a short meeting you're letting yourself get stuck in inaction again and just waiting for life to happen to you? Groundhog Day indeed.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/21 08:20 AM
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I came here to say exactly this. So I'll not only upvote but reply for emphasis and tag you u/red_koan. You should be thankful as fuck for this comment and use it going forward. If you don't want to get stuck. It's time for action. Barebones, concrete, tangible, measurable actions towards your goals. Do that for a week, and then report back on how well you did.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/21 01:26 PM
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be a decent person What's that got to do with anything? I don't want to get ahead of myself here. Especially considering your own OYS where you're still scared to reap the benefits of being a HVM, because that wouldn't be Nice. But this - your reaction here. You just might be on the path to getting it.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/21 09:38 AM
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That's a quick track back from injured to 1100#+. 1100ish. Anything above 1000 is perfectly fine for my goals. Currently I'm probably 1050-70 depending on the day. there's real ride-or-die potential there Ugh, old habits die hard I guess, glad to see you recognizing it yourself. Meh. It's kind of fun to live this out. I can try out all kinds of behaviours, as I'm not worried I'll get stuck settling for "good enough". Worst case I mess up, nuke and move on to a new, younger, hotter one. At least …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/21 09:36 AM
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You and your dynamite. I'll get the popcorn, it'll be fun to watch the next guy in line to take the "HOA approved standards of relationship", making them his own. At least you didn't explicitly write "D/s" in there. I guess it makes sense from the perspective of many of us having to first move from the woman's/BP frame to an (M)RP cookie cutter frame in order to be able to build our own. Cries instead of yells. This I think is almost universally useful. As far as I can tell, if you have the righ…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/21 09:33 AM
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So everything is great except for That One Thing that defines a sexual relationship vs. all the other relationships in your life? Sounds depressingly familiar. There are no shortcuts, dude. Just ask u/usefulwalk4 - he is the president of the "she's so great! Except..." Club. If you actually at some point understand this stuff, dollars to donuts she isn't as great as you try to convince me/yourself of here. I guess we'll see.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 02:28 PM
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What exactly are "your standards"?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 01:43 PM
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Sepean did extensive testing on titrating the alpha. You can look it up. Or, when alpha is high enough, you can do the whole reprogramming thing that Horns has written several tomes about. Why the fuck you would bother when you're 28 with no kids is beyond me, but you do you.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 12:14 PM
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OYS 40s divorced, kid. 6’ 183, 1000+PL total, Sidebarx2. NMMNGx5+WISNIFGx4. PFPx2 Vision: Seek knowledge, wealth and love. Share it freely with people that can change the world. Where I stand It has been almost a year since I filed and some 5 months since I relocated and have been flying solo. Haven't done an OYS since. I'm happier and freer than I've ever been. Yet also a recovering Nice Guy, so I did a check-up on my Seven Life Areas. Overall I am well on track to reach my goals. Work is going…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 11:42 AM
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Progress is glacially slow once noob gains run out. It essentially falls off a cliff for most trainees. Especially those with blunted hormonal response because of age. You can either accept this or go on gear like many here have done. That still after 84 OYS you don't want anything outside your wife is just sad, dude. I thought the goggles were smashed.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/21 05:34 AM
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84 OYS and you still can't say what you want. And then wonder why you aren't getting it. As for training dropping 10lbs while maintaining lifts means bodycomp has improved so that's good. Now you're maintaining bw your calories should be high enough that your total should start inching up. I'd give it until end of year and reassess. You'll look much better in a caloric surplus as muscles fill up again with glycogen and what not.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/21 05:41 PM
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Who gives a fuck if she hamstered it post hoc. Actions matter dude. If you don't sanction them they'll repeat. Bitch will keep pushing that button until you clamp down on it. We've known for five centuries that the taming of the shrew means more drama in the short term. People will double down on tactics that used to work for a while before they correct behaviour. I would up the ante proportionally on my side if I were you. But DON'T actually drop the D until you are 100% ready. Or you will end …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/21 05:16 PM
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Be careful not to be confused here. A shit test is not the same as disrespect and handling it as one does not work as you saw with the stuffed animal. I think you did fine. Except the pouting after. I'd just tell her that next time she takes the rings off you will assume she is done and go get the papers for her to sign. But only if you mean it. 99/100 saying this means she doesn't cross that boundary again. And if she does, is this a woman you want to stay married to?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 04:54 PM
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I like short OYS, just make sure you use them right. The good is you are doing concrete things in spite of fear, which is always a good sign. The bad is that most of it is superficial stuff and then a lot of needing/wanting/having to think more to figure stuff out. Next time only write in past tense about what challenge you tried to address, what you did, what the outcome was. Four(?!) notes to share: Fear. The longer I work on my shit the more I realize that fear is a sign I have to do whatever…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 08:16 AM
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As shitty as this installment was, RK has consistenly done the work and achieved at least 3x as much in his 8-9 months on MRP than you have in whatever 3 years. I guess wasting time opining (badly) on other dudes in stead of consistently owning your own shit will do that. Dude, save the effort. You aren't helping. In particular not the only one that matters, you. Start OYS weekly like RK has been doing, and maybe you'll save your life. No guarantees, though. Just look at u/usefulwalk4 If I were …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 08:00 AM
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What a shit effort post. "I handed wife papers. She didn't agree to it so now I hope acquiescing and going to counseling will make her see. I had no plan ofr she didn't do as I said nor am I making one if she doesn't after talking more. Hope is my strategy." "Oh. And here are the physical stats showing I have been spinning my wheels or even regressing for three months. At least. I will not acknowledge this nor do something to change my current mediocre bodycomposition." I get that things might b…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 04:35 PM
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Good. Employ and improve it for the next dudes. Notice how you wrote all those words and didn't answer the very simple question with the numbers I asked for? This is basic shit man, don't BS me nor yourself. Post your squat/bench/dead 3 months ago and latest performance and the same for BW.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/21 02:26 PM
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I don't see PFP in the readings. If you haven't I would advise you read it at least once and preferably twice. Also. Just get the appointment five, not only set. They can usually set you pretty straight in an hour. Then spend some weeks getting all the papers ready. It helps the dngaf immensely.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/21 12:55 PM
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This sounds familiar. From experience I can tell you that even if you alpha the fuck up and she follows you and your vision. If it's truly counter to her own, it will never give you the life you want. Knowing this gave me inordinate amounts of peace about my decision and she barely challenged it for that very reason. This is that Frame thing that everyone is on about. Just serve the papers, don't discuss the why. If yours is like mine then it will only take a few runs of fogging/broken record un…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/21 08:31 AM
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I think is dirty_pr or whatever his username is that used to write about how he was actually regretting getting his wife to fall in line because it made it harder to leave and find someone who really was up to spec. I'm happy I left when I did and didn't let the rope tighten completely. Now I'm on the other side I can see myself having been ok with decent enough in order to be a Nice Guy and do the right thing for the family, the West, whatever. This is just an input of two cases. I've linked yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/21 06:19 PM
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Why don't you just fuck in the morning/at lunch/early afternoon when energy is there? Congrats on the lawyer thing. Run the numbers, you'll see that even with her taking half your pay check you'll still have more disposable income for YOU. And much more financial freedom in ten years which you can factor in to your investment/retirement payments already now.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 02:21 PM
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Fucking finally. Congratulations. You should ping wookie and UW. They might learn something.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 04:18 PM
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u/UsefulWalk4 doesn't need techniques. He's read more than anyone on here. He just needs to stop being Nice and start matching the investment from his wife (which means, essentially nothing). I think current odds are on this happening sometime 2028.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/21 11:40 PM
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Who cares if someone sees. I even went up to a mutual friend and said hi when I was with a young hot blonde once. He never mentioned it after. Just don't make it weird. You need to give fewer fucks. Kids will be 100000% better off with you as a fulfilled co parent than the current stuff you are modelling for them. Break the cycle dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/21 09:24 PM
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Maybe run it by Rian. But no amount of dishes can make up for a lack of sex in my book. If this is the arrangement just get the divorce and co parent.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/21 09:20 PM
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Fogging is comfort in helping her process emotions and feel heard. Comfort is earned. Has she earned it?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/21 01:36 PM
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Give yourself three months to get the paper work sorted. Drop them as a Christmas present. In the mean time get your sexual needs met by the younger, fitter and much more invested bitches you are sourcing. And use the ratio of investment you/bitches from these relationships as your guide, not your marriage, when you're out on the other side. Pro tip. It's incredibly difficult to have extra marital fun be discovered if you aren't a complete retard. Actually even if you are. You'll be amazed.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/21 09:59 AM
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Give yourself three months to get the paper work sorted. Drop them as a Christmas present. In the mean time get your sexual needs met by the younger, fitter and much more invested bitches you are sourcing. And use the ratio of investment you/bitches from these relationships as your guide, not your marriage, when you're out on the other side. Pro tip. It's incredibly difficult to have extra marital fun be discovered if you aren't a complete retard. Actually even if you are. You'll be amazed.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/21 09:56 AM
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“Oh, you didn’t like the way I put the dishes, now allow me to fog the shit out of you.” Start nuking these super hardcore. You're essentially ready to check out anyway, so might as well take the practice at not taking shit from people. Plus it's actually doing her a favour in letting her know where you guys stand.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/21 06:52 AM
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I guess that's why you keep going back to the well that is your fat harpy wife to keep learning the same lesson over and over. Meanwhile, life passes by and dudes like me are drowning in abundance because dudes like you stay in your cages, even if you know the door is open. I kind of wish someone would do you the favour of fucking your wife to wake you up. I don't do fatties, otherwise I'd be happy to help sometime December when I can find a slot. u/usefulwalk4 this goes for you, too.
/r/askMRP09/08/21 04:53 AM
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Be fucking careful you don't misinterpret Horns' post into thinking you can "lead your wife" out of anything if you just alpha enough or whatever. Some things are just broken and not yours to fix - even if you broke them. Horns is commenting on a dude that literally does not have a gym membership and just posted in the retard filter. Use your noggin'.
/r/askMRP08/08/21 06:54 PM
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Let's if all this uncovering actually makes you do shit that makes a difference or if you're still married to a fat harpy bitch six months from now.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/21 05:59 AM
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Weight Change: last 7 days: 1 pound down This makes two weeks running of losing 1lb/week? If so, great. Keep it up for 4-5 months and life will look a lot different. Remember to plan in 1-2 weeks of maintenance every 8-10 weeks of cutting. I met my brother in law, this was social and also tactical. Impatient Zen mentioned how he onboarded the men in his ex's family in preparation for his separation. I did this. I will be really interested to seeing how this works. Based on early evidence I think…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/08/21 05:30 AM
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You don't have to "fail to recognise" pussy. That is an identity you choose and it's ego protection. Fear of rejection means you only go after the absolutely sure things. Shit way to live for many reasons. Go proactively for it. Seek out opportunities and at least go to the brink where it's just a matter of taking your pants off. See what happens. We all have daddy issues mommy issues all kinds of issues. It can be fine to delve into. It does free you to see your patterns and mindfully do someth…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 12:44 PM
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I project on to you because we are alike in many ways. How life and success with women has been easy is one of them. All this mental stuff is great for having a better life and getting out of your own way. It's been wondrous for me. Thing is. Your wife is not putting in an effort. Still fat and not fucking you. RP gives you the tools to fuck someone hotter and more enthusiastic - maybe a better certain of her, maybe someone else. They have little to do with this conceptual stuff. I'm just saying…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 10:22 AM
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This makes a lot of sense. In honesty at this point a completely messed up nuke is better than what's been going on. I still vote for his vision quest including a week long fast.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/21 10:15 AM
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You are not wrong and there is a lot of good stuff here that will indeed be valuable to our resident Wookie. However, there is also a kids-with-dynamite aspect to this. We are talking about a dude who, after being here 2-3 years still is living with a fat, cunty wife while being fat and cunty himself. I agree with sending him to the woods alone for a week, but only if it's without food, and it sends him back to the wife leaner and with a good (h)anger phase going on to dial up his DGAF. Doing th…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/21 05:24 PM
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Isn't this just the truth. Good to see. Hell. With any luck you might just take your own advice this year. Or at least decade.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/21 08:16 AM
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I know, man. Projection is the foundation of most the good advice given on here. I appreciate it. I also appreciate you spelling this stuff out. This was what I was trying to get at with: What did they do to earn my attention? Why the fuck am I wanting to spend time spinning huge narratives for them? Oh yeah, that’s right, because I have nothing better to do, am pedestalizing them, and have this huge ego-investment in having a girl that’s XYZ. Embracing the dark side is indeed work in progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/21 02:25 PM
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Get out of her head. She doesn't even know what she wants so you have 0 chance of knowing. Much less should you care. What does she do? Important bit is that you still listen to her. In spite of having years of proof of the insignificance. You fail hard at mrp. Reddit - marriedredpill - 10 ways to fail at MRP https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/bsxtu5/10_ways_to_fail_at_mrp/
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/21 11:41 AM
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Am I mistaken in thinking that your wife has been spouting off about divorce for at least a year when she loses her shit? Has she left yet?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/21 10:48 AM
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No. Your response elsewhere makes sense, to let 14 days pass. That said, at your level of fluff you could make a good case for not waiting two weeks. I take it you use daily weighins and then make a weekly average? And yes, compliance is you actually not stuffing your face with more shit than you planned to. Seems you are on the path and not BS'ing yourself - I'm just on your case a bit because this is the one glaring area you have to improve upon.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/21 05:27 PM
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Weightloss is way way more important to your success than anything else. And in particular whatever irrelevant mouth sounds your woman makes. Yet your weight loss stalled (again?) and you don't write about your compliance this week nor what you are doing to get back on track (taking out more kcals?).
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/21 07:41 AM
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Disney is a stubborn little fucker.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/21 06:13 AM
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I’m trying to drop a few pounds of fat (slow cut) which is counter to this program but so far it’s working. I know Wendler might not recommend BBB for a cut, but in general 5/3/1 is fantastic for cutting fluff. Just don't get in your own head about the kcal deficit. I'd decide on a target BW (say 205) and then keep going even if strength takes a small hit. It'll be very temporary, and that way you don't hamster out of a deficit, too fluffy to bulk much, and then bouncing back and forth purgatory…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 08:03 PM
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Totally ignored one mouthy prospect as a result, she seems better behaved now by quirk of fate because this Game stuff actually works, even when I do it by accident. FTFY. I like you old man. At least half of the shit you're writing about I could've written. "Too intense and intimidating" meaning I nerf myself. Liking leading bitches too much and overinvesting. Self-deprecating. Knowing RP but then getting in the furrow anyway. I realize some of these are general ones, nevertheless, this spoke t…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 07:53 PM
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https://youtu.be/-Iw0-U9OknI
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 07:02 PM
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Right on the nose. And that's why I'm still here.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 06:56 PM
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Yeah. That's the part I agreed the most with. This isn't how a captain acts. We then differ on how he should act. I obviously agree that passing comfort is important. I actually like to pass comfort tests, I'm good at them. Like many here. This is dangerous because then you might do so when you shouldn't and reward bad behaviour. I'll just repeat. His wife isn't fucking him. That's an attraction issue is not fixed by increasing comfort, quite the contrary.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 05:48 PM
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I like this comment. Even so. We obviously lack context. But from what we can read, what the fuck did she do to in order to earn that comfort? SHE ISN'T EVEN FUCKING HIM last I checked.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 05:05 PM
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Dark tetrahedron, that's brilliant. I do know what I want. I am masturbating about the how. You poke at the balance in finding the right path there that I tried to explain in my shit. I want to be mindful of how I approach things and not revert to same old. Pick up new tools. But also to enjoy this learning process. This is a balance I am yet to hit, and I think you are correct in your assessment of it being off to the left. Cheers dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 01:54 PM
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Cheers for the poke. It isn't. I don't really mind them rejecting me - at this point it'd actually make it easier to filter, if some would just slink away. It's honestly how I talk (among male friends), which is good as it's also a nice verbal cue to myself on how to manage them. I'm of the school of thought that (slight) misogyny is part of the secret sauce of RP/Game.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 11:56 AM
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So your goal is to not enjoy the company of any woman? Seems a little left of the middle way to me. I don't understand this bit? OTOH, if you’re trying to do post-MRP-porn, it’s pretty tame. This is pretty fucking far from porn. It's shit. That's why I posted it up. I am completely lost at sea with regard to how to approach this whole deal. Going Rambo in the original sense - just trying random things with no real coherent plan, trying to learn as I go along. Which is why I posted up this long m…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 11:52 AM
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Take 10%ish of your squats and deads. If you hit 10+ on the last set add 10lbs next session in staff of 5 until you are below 10 reps. Then truck along from there. Don't expect a lot of magic in the gym until you are done cutting. Noob gains are over. Now you either cut weight or add muscle. Cycle this on/off for 8+ week periods as per your goals. Also. Not a thing you wrote in there was even close to a comfort test. Just different flavours of shit. I think you are lacking a little bit of hate f…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 11:06 AM
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OYS #59 40s divorced, kid. 6’ sub190, 1000+ PL total, Sidebarx2. NMMNGx5+WISNIFGx4. PFPx2 Vision: Seek knowledge, wealth and love. Share it freely with people that can change the world. 6 other SLA’s are good. Still journalling weekly to keep myself honest and reflecting. In honesty women life is going well, too. So I guess this is more like a FR. Reconfirming the most basic, standard MRP shit I still need to learn over and over. I'm not done reflecting on all the shit that's coming up. Lots of …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/21 09:56 AM
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There's a reason it is called rule zero. As with many important things in life it is simple - but not easy.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/21 04:20 PM
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Fucking A.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/21 01:30 PM
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Pick one thing and follow it. Strongur is impossible to bullshit of you don't squat high so that's what I like. Calipers, tape measure even bodpod can vary even when done by an experienced practitioner. And all the bio impedance tanita shit is more than useless.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/21 09:00 PM
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To be transparent, I'm jealous of your ability to be a dark fucking savage, a well-deserved title. I could use a bit of that to rub off on me. The savage thing helps. And being one, I'd say anything less is being a shade lighter red or even purple. But lots of Men here that seem happy haven't had to go there - they've just learnt to put themselves first more, if not exclusively. I reference this thing all the time, but literally, if dudes like you - the ones that actually did the work to stop be…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/21 08:15 PM
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• I was sitting on 95.3kg and 27%bf which is way higher than the 24% the old ones were indicating and seemingly stuck on. Scale measure of BF is worse than useless. Forget them completely. In stead use this calculator: http://www.strongur.io/body_fat_calculator/ and get your lifts/BW ratio to a place where it spits out 12-14%. Start with a goal of 15-17 if you need to in order to stay motivated. 15-17 is "not fat" by normie standards. ​ • Maintaining StrongLifts but have made squats every second…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/21 02:22 PM
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Bitches really do need to be dragged to happiness kicking and screaming. At least the ones that have gone bad. I guess this is another version of what ICM and SBIII have said - demanding submission can be part of a MAP. And/or leading them there as per Horns. As per my own MAP I don't see enough upside in taking that approach, even less without kids. Iron Rule 7 applies. No matter what, this is crucial: I'm still working toward my goal of abundance (approached 3/5 girls last week and will contin…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/21 08:48 AM
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OYS #58 40s divorced, kid. 6’ sub 190BW, 1000+ PL total, Sidebarx2. NMMNGx5+WISNIFGx4. PFPx2 Vision: Seek knowledge, wealth and love. Share it freely with people that can change the world. Physical BW was still within striking distance of 183 for EOY mock meet after the trip. But I am not satisfied with bodycomp, so cutting some kcal. I was 185 this morning. Made all the lifts and running sessions with only minor issues from the injury, and I should easily be able to total 1050 tomorrow if I wan…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/21 08:38 AM
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So you didn't delete out yet. But did you do anything, now it was pointed out to you that you are not a special snowflake in the form of a big-boned sexy fat guy but probably have some 60-70lbs to lose?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/21 01:59 PM
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I actually had this as an idea a year ago. I was certain I would divorce. But I kept an open mind to keeping the current bitch around. It has its merits as a tactic. Take the L of your bad decisions and general uselessness up to whatever point, reset and move from there. Turned out that 2021 me doesn't choose my 2021 ex so I wont be testing it out right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/21 06:58 AM
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Indeed I am not. I still don't get the anger and resentment though. Maybe I will in time.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/21 07:33 PM
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Cheers. This is basically my strategy. Make sure she isn't scared for the future for her+kid, and throw her some fucks to let her feel validated, and have a positive vibe between us for my kid to see. We'll see how it plays out - I only control my actions, and this is basically what I've got. I will never understand the utility that u/red-sfpplus finds in continued anger and resentment at the ex - maybe making sure one doesn't fall back to simping?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/21 06:56 PM
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Here's the thing. I have yet to fuck a girl that didn't want me to keep on doing it, preferably exclusively. Even (particularly?) after I dump them and/or do dumb/depraved shit to them. I don't expect this to be different. Hence not rocking the boat with other bitches until I have enough physical distance that my ex can turn the blind eye to what I'm doing. Then once distance is established I have some mitigating measures put in place. I'll keep throwing her some fucks, which should also smooth …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/21 06:52 PM
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​ How far back in your OYS should I search to read up on: I had a few cases of having to shut down unacceptable shit rather hard (involving the kid, hinting at a DV charge, shit like that) to get the bitch to calm the fuck down and not sabotage her own and everyone else's happiness. I have many questions to ask. I prefer you ask to be honest. Reading my OYS isn't of much use to anyone but me I think. What you'll find as for the above might be "Wife hinted at DV charge. Got an alternative place t…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/21 04:52 PM
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secretly sadist Not so secret anymore. Owning it is part of moving forward for me. Also for that reason I appreciate the flair. Can you describe the story narrative that you wove and lead her to covertly? Where did you absolve the hamster of guilt? How did you make it her idea? What did you feed the hamster other than cock? First I stacked the incentives. I upped the costs of staying, both material and (crucially) mental. And I lowered the ones of ejecting. The bit you poke at is key. Happily, w…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/21 04:37 PM
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You ask good questions. I appreciate it. First, one for the take-a-penny-leave-a-penny jar. No one has asked you but I will. I'm interested in the narrative you've built to escape being divorce raped, while still fucking her, (still?) living with her, and DNGAF the whole time - stay plan is the go plan. Correct, still fucking, living together, gaming, practicing boundary-setting, having fun. Basic MRP-stuff. The move is in a few weeks and then I go to the sesshin. That's the timeline for the nex…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/21 06:00 AM
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Divorce is legally official. Still have some logistics to settle which will take a couple more weeks. Steady as she goes until then. Big thing now is that all the financial stuff is settled. It could in theory be post hoc contested. I half expect it to be at some point. But it should hold up and thus means I am now guaranteed to be pretty fucking far from divorce raped. Considering the enormous hole I had dug for myself this is huge.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/21 07:40 PM
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OYS #57 40s divorcing, kid. 6’ 189, 1000+ PL total, Sidebarx2. NMMNGx5+WISNIFGx4. PFPx2 Vision: Seek knowledge, wealth and love. Share it freely with people that can change the world. Physical I got a new scale at the vacation place and it has me “lighter” than my own scale. Even so I don't particularly like being loose with diet. A lesson I apparently must learn a million times over. Still giving myself until after all the traveling to evaluate the need to outsource diet in order to achieve my …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/21 08:43 AM
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Tag me in an OYS EOY 2021 where you are fucking a/several bitch(es) silly and we'll call it even.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/21 07:23 AM
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You can definitely flesh out the MAP part of this. More SMART goals. You can use the dread levels as a timeline/implementation plan. It is far from perfect but not awful either. Particularly when you've avoided putting your wife in there (as per "needs"). Having these cathartic Catholic confession OYS-post puts you at high risk for New Years resolution issues. Don't be that guy. You've been on here too long already. As for the wife seeing the sauce, look up Sepean. One of the most switched on gu…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 02:12 PM
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I tend to try to predict people behaviours. Which I believed gave me an edge. It sunk me into their frames. Many of us owe much of our success in life to be able to figure people out. Ironic how it also is the cause of our greatest suffering. There's a way to keep the edge but not the side-effects. I'm still figuring it out and starting to see it, but I can't articulate it (yet). I don't have the logistics worked out! Then why don't you work them out? I've been in 'purgatory on here'. And I thou…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 12:34 PM
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​ It was in the past. I have taken it back. I haven't been with anyone yet. But I would say my faithfulness is something she thinks she can count on because she sees me as her mark. I don't give a fuck about her and what is in her head. Neither should you, there be dragons. What's interesting is you. In particular, why you are not out sourcing new bitches. You didn't answer that. Oh I've been prepping and spoken to lawyers. It's all about the timeline for me. I have few things that I need in pla…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 11:25 AM
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Half a pound. Good man. I'll (still) recommend leading with weight loss progress in every OYS if I were you. It's the major thing you are lacking and it will keep you honest. That out of the way a few inputs. Any input on this would be helpful. What am I missing here? I know there's something obvious that I can't see, what is it? You have given her sole custody of your libido. Is it a conscious decision and if yes, why? Seems weird to choose her, if you aren't attracted to her. Further, mouth so…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 10:16 AM
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I switched my diet up. I’m enjoying all the eating. How much weight did you lose?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 09:56 AM
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There should be some rule 14 for guys taking up loads of space LARPING TWOTSM and all kinds of BS, who can't even put the fork down after several months on here. Focus on one thing for three-five months. Getting out of binge/purge eating and dropping 20lbs. Every week you manage to take a step on that path, let yourself run your mouth. The weeks you don't, don't. You're majoring in minors.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 09:38 AM
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You would do well to read this and make decisions based on data and facts, not feelings.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 09:34 AM
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OYS #56 40s divorcing, kid. 6’ 190, 1000+ PL total, Sidebarx2. NMMNGx5+WISNIFGx4. PFPx2 Vision: Seek knowledge, wealth and love. Share it freely with people that can change the world. Physical Dropped a pound, even at fairly high kcal. Traveling/vacation next couple of weeks, so not too strict. I’ll clean up the last bits towards 183 in autumn. Lifting is fine. It’s a bit of a hassle to find a gym when on the road, but I’ve not missed a workout thus far. Running has been fine, too. Work + money …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 09:10 AM
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On the weight stuff you are done with easy gains as you well note. You are not weak and not fat. Not strong nor fit either, of course. But "pretty good" by normie standards. This means things get tougher. You've gotten some pokes on it already, but this is the point where the blunt tools of "any programme that has the big lifts in it" and "dietary restriction through arbitrary rules" have about run their course. Diet: You will likely need to count calories, start eating veggies and stuff like th…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/21 08:13 PM
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But you didn't?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/21 08:52 AM
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It often does. That and a lot of time, dedication and prioritising lifting very high. Which is why most of us set our sights lower. At a correspondingly lower bw. Or you can just continue to be fat. 🙂
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/21 02:33 PM
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FWIW I learn as much or more from your responses as you do from my poking. Your uncanny knack for uncovering shitty mental models is exactly why I keep poking. Realizing something and acting on it are two different things. Happily you seem to be making that connection and acting accordingly. Really looking forward to your next OYS. Stuff is happening man. Another poke. Did your weightloss stall? If yes, what are you doing to ameliorate it?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/21 06:15 AM
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​ None of this shit has to be so god damn complicated. Stop overthinking things. Decide what you want, deal with the repercussions later, and do it. This is absolutely correct. This is effectively the advice I gave my son. He was telling me he didn't want to get too big (he's pencil thin right now). I told him to just eat right and lift until he likes what he sees in the mirror and then go maintenance. This is absolutely bullshit. If you don't make goals tangible (SMART) you will bullshit yourse…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/21 04:15 AM
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Why wouldn't 180-190 at 6' be possible? I really don't understand that bit. I'm not saying this should be his targeted end state, but rather where dude should bottom out. Getting in shape is going to take a year and should be where his focus is to avoid the all-too-likely situation of him falling off the wagon and fat-fucking himself (further) once again. This is my reasoning, and once he's there he'll have the tools and perspective to figure out how to best achieve his goals. Then we can specul…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/21 07:15 PM
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I'm a lace up boots, jeans and a t-shirt kinda guy. That is one of the archetypes of said RP style dude if I am not mistaken. Nothing wrong with it. But it needs to be well-fitting high quality stuff all the same. But that doesn't have to be so black and white, wearing the same shit all the time. I could dress for the occasion and implement some style into it. If I'm being honest, the clothes I have for fancier occasions are uncomfortable, and I didn't pick any of them. I'll start thinking about…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/21 07:00 PM
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I really like where your head is at. And it sounds really uplifting how the world, including your woman, is responding to you should hopefully give you some energy. I really hope your discipline can hold up when you get shit in return for your efforts. Usually bitches test harder the more alpha you get. You are still fat and without style, which shows that frame and game do the heavy lifting more than looks. Many dudes don't get this, it's cool to see an example. That said, fix some of the easy …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/21 05:08 AM
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But if I am putting on muscle should I not expect a stall? No. Being as old and fat as you are, you need to think in terms of losing 20lbs of BW in a fairly linear fashion before any maintenance stuff enters your mind. For a younger more dedicated lifter an argument could be made to maintain around 90 and lift your ass off for 3-6 months before cutting further. But that aint you. :) ​ I don't think I ever even indicated my loyalty was transactional. Too much of a nice guy. Same in my marriage. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/21 04:40 AM
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Lastly, I know I am going to get financially killed by the divorce. I know it will leave her with a lot of money and me with a fraction of what she will get. However, when I look at our collective net worth, it’s really only setting me back about 5 years. I am basically going to get half of what our collective net worth was 5 years ago. When I look at it that way, it’s easier to swallow, albeit still tough to swallow. For every man (except very special cases), from a purely financial perspective…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 07:38 PM
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Looks good to me. That's how success is built. From small actions every day. Stop stepping on your own dick, start doing stuff that moves you towards your goals. Just keep doing more and more of this. That's the path. I'd mention it in each OYS. At least for me I found it kept me honest as to how much stuff I actually DID that moved me towards my goals.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 07:23 PM
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So you lost over 1kg since last week? Good start. Some is probably water, but keep it up. I'd suggest you state weight change each OYS to not bullshit yourself. I get the negotiation work thing and do the same now. I am even more direct about my lack of loyalty, though. They now my commitment is transactional, and I am much more in their face and direct about what I want. As you I found managing work to be a nice side-effect of learning to manage bitches. That Nice Guy shit is fucking everywhere…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 07:18 PM
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So apart from talking to everyone you meet, what did you actually do, you know, outside your head? Someone once told me something like: action changes thinking. Not the other way around.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 01:13 PM
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What did BW do this week? Also, I'm curious as to what the below means. I suffer from the same, if I understand it right, and am trying to figure out ways to mitigate. I negotiated a 30% increase in my equity position. I pushed for failure, this is what I am learning from DoggCrapp. I used ambivalence in my comms, thank PFP. I still was more ‘passionate’ and ‘straight up’ than I’d like to be during the negotiations. But that’s alright. I’ll calibrate it next time(s).
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 01:08 PM
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I had thought the same things myself, but my conclusion was different. First off, I didn't put it in there because I honestly forgot, but last week I had a 20something bitch (not one I'd brag about) fall over herself around me and seek me out to an almost embarrassing extent. Other female friends noticed and commented quite a lot ("I guess you don't need Tinder!"). I didn't even game her. Don't get me wrong, I'm not ultra Chad or anything and can't rely on looks alone to get laid, but I don't th…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 11:23 AM
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OYS #55 40s divorcing, kid. 6’ 191, 1000+ PL total, Sidebarx2. NMMNGx5+WISNIFGx4. Vision: Seek knowledge, wealth and love. Share it freely with people that can change the world. Physical BW has crept up to 191. I was going to stay in a surplus for another month until things were settled, but I decided to switch to maintenance/small deficit, giving myself some leeway for social shit during vacay while staying around/below 190. Lifting is going alright. Had some hiccups on the coaching side, so ta…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 10:14 AM
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My pleasure. This is where the work starts. It's going to really fucking suck at times, but there is freedom on the other side. There is something you can do, though. Figure out very concretely what you need and want to be happy.* BE HONEST here. "Sex on demand" is a completely normal need in a man. One of the bare minimum requirements for me, so I already had it when I started here. I'll be the first to tell you it is far from enough, though. So maybe it's daily butt-stuff like it is for RedSFf…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/21 05:03 AM
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Well how good do you have to get? If I don't misread your previous posts you shed whatever 25% of your BW, quit booze and pot, got serious about your job and are achieving some goals. You are 28, yet to hit your prime. You have no kids or other huge sunk costs, I assume. Yet you insist on trying to drag this particular bitch to happiness kicking and screaming. Latest with some gay-ass vision talk that you KNOW won't work - or at least you should. My guess? You're scared. Scarcity mindset has you…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/21 06:47 PM
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I like both your and u/redpillruminations reflections both here and elsewhere. However, I think you are both running in circles and mentally masturbating over this shit because you can't answer, very concretely, "what do you want?". I would write it out, really concretely. SMART goals with deadlines in the different areas of your life. Or a needs/wants list a la ICM. But something tangible, concrete that you can use to guide action. I know there is so much I need to fix about myself, and this ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/21 10:15 AM
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With all that written out, I'm realizing that I'm basing the decision mostly on how it might affect her actions (what's new, it's always a struggle to remove myself from her frame). That's why I asked. And the word you want isn't "mostly" - it's "entirely". Try to find yourself in what you wrote. You aren't there. And that's sad. The strategy is one of the main ones here. Own all the shit and then take a sober look at your life. Makes you confident you can handle being alone (not my issue) and a…
/r/askMRP18/06/21 04:48 AM
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Depends what you mean with success. I succesfully hired one, yes. It's not hard, the market is quite large, at least the places I've lived. And it was a success in that she did the job significantly better than my wife. But I don't think this is what you mean. So, what do you mean?
/r/askMRP17/06/21 07:26 PM
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I can relate to your situation. If it helps, you are on the right path. Lift, read, OYS, STFU. What you describe somewhere about how your eyes are slowly opening and you are seeing lots of shit is the beginning of a process. While you STFU and read intensity will increase and it'll be rough for a while. Think of Neo as he is being unplugged - his eyes hurt because they haven't seen before. So double down on this shit, and STFU for dear life for quite a while as you process. Use simple boundary e…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/21 01:00 PM
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I was wondering if I was the only one.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/21 11:55 AM
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There is a fairly common pitfall which goes like this. You get pissed enough to LARP aloof/attractive behavior. Wife responds positively. You relax into being Nice by excusing yourself because you are "rewarding good behaviour". Wife goes back to acting shitty. You get pissed again, and LARP aloof. Cycle repeats. At some point you have to understand that, yes, you do have to be the asshole.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/21 05:03 AM
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Yeah, While not looking for it will just appreciate the praise then. Since I have started gaming the wife again I’ve dipped back into playful condescension, which I’m getting a feel for again. Can actually be pretty fun sometimes. I think it is along the lines of what your describing. It is weird of how it clicks but I can absolutely not pull off A&A. Had to shift away from unattractive “dad jokes.” Didn’t realize how much people expect congruence with things like that until you’ve been really f…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/21 04:55 AM
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See that's the thing. Every woman above a six on that one is nigh on interchangeable with the others to me, even without accounting for differences that could be made by ego-investment. I also have his very non-masculine thing where I actually weigh non-physical shit quite heavily too, so probably I am the weirdo. Whatever works I guess.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 02:23 PM
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I ignored the really strong urge to intellectualize and try to figure out why was doing this, instead of just setting a boundary. I’m tired of stepping on my own dick. An angel just got it's wings.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 12:52 PM
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Couple of thoughts. Not seeking validation is fine, but don't become a fucking monk. Losing 70 fucking pounds is no small feat. Remember to enjoy the positive response the world has to a man who isn't a fat fuck. Using this positive energy as fuel will help in other arenas. You can use the compliments to work on becoming a (loveable, if you want) arrogant asshole. Think of replacing "Thank you." with "I know.". Not necessarily literally, but in the way you respond - you know, in that Han Solo ki…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 12:51 PM
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Afraid not. I think I got it from a video a while back. Basically it goes like this. There are no 10's, 9's, 8's, 7's. You have 4's, 5's and 6's - the rest is just makeup and ego investment. Theoretically you have 1's, 2's and 3', but you don't want to fuck those, so we'll leave those aside. A 4 is a slump buster. Good enough for fucking, but slightly chubby, annoying voice, horrible style, whatever irks you to the extent you'd rather not let anyone know you are fucking her. A 5 is a girl who is…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 12:35 PM
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OYS #54 40s divorcing, kid. 6’ sub 190 BW, 1000+ PL total, Sidebarx2. NMMNGx5+WISNIFGx4. Vision: Seek knowledge, wealth and love. Share it freely with people that can change the world. Physical Had a few days of traveling where I just ate on the road. Sticking to calories isn’t an issue, but shit food makes me feel like shit. Who knew?! I’ve verified this a million times yet I persist in repeating it periodically. Felt dumb, moved on. Running is pretty much fully back online which is cool, lifti…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 08:38 AM
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It seems(?) you didn't argue with her with a "but I can watch the kids for you, too!" but just did your thing. This is good. It also seem you then Felt Guilty. Not so good. In particular as this is likely to get worse before it (maybe) gets better. Just wait until she weaponizes the kids. "Kid A was asking for you all night". Or, even worse, she mindfucks Kid A to actively guilt you when you get back/go out. This is a test to see if this behavior is for real or a LARP (like it is now). WISNIFG u…
/r/askMRP15/06/21 08:37 AM
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Lift and read. Focus on those two for three months. Start over on the books.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/21 07:39 AM
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I can't find your oys. Reading and thinking and being red pill aware isn't enough. Lift, read, oys, stfu would've been the best advice for me when I first found this place. So I am giving it to you. If it's just my search skills that suck throw me a link. This is a whole can of worms to open and it kind of depends on where you're at. EDIT: found a few choice posts. Get to work on fixing the basics and stop thinking about this shit. In particular in someone else's oys thread.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/21 05:18 PM
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Laughing at yourself is a good attitude to have. This stuff is about figuring out the stupid shit you do. And don't do. And it's fascinating and kind of funny when you see something glaringly obvious to which you were previously blind. Just remember to laugh in a compassionate and positive way. Pat yourself on the shoulder for seeing it and DOING something about it. Don't beat yourself up.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/21 03:25 AM
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How about 2) Notice when I am idle/feel like validation/whatever reason I feel like texting or other inane counterproductive shit and get back to working towards my goals. 3) Stop talking about money with bitches unless I (am so dumb that I) mix my finances with theirs. When I feel the need to talk about this to a bitch, I stfu or talk about fun stuff. Like what panties/buttplug/nippleclamps/whatever she should or should not wear next time we meet. How sore she is after the dicking she just got.…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/21 04:31 PM
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Having had both I can confirm that it ameliorates the effect somewhat. But not as much as you'd think. No exit to quote Sartre. 🙂
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/21 10:18 AM
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There is a simple way of rephrasing the latter two (the first is fine) in order to make them work for you, if you want to take a stab at it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/21 07:05 AM
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Murdering the ego is a life-long process. Good steps here. STFU: I talk too much. Writing this OYS showed me how much. Maintain mystery: Back to STFU, I text too much and too often. I need to make her miss me and not do my regular MO and be hyper available. STFU: I need to stop talking about finances, I risk looking like a beta bux if I don’t. Correct diagnosis and treatment plan, but definite frame issue here. Do you see it?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/21 04:48 AM
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Cool. 10 kg sounds good. I was there before but mostly from Bjj and keto so I looked lean grappler/yoga body. When I got under that it still looked athletic and trim but not as big as I would have liked. Some IOIs but not enough for me now. But enough to be worried that I'd ride it. 'Cause I was gayer. Usually I wouldn't even comment much further on a dude who evidently has some very basic bullshitting of himself (your eating and drinking) going on. But mentally I like where you are at. Just fuc…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/21 04:45 AM
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This is the best post I've read on here so far. I'm dying. Like can't breathe. So many gems I don't even. Dude IF this isn't some hacker trolling an account, I'll pay you back for the fun: Lift, STFU, sidebar, OYS because you haven't/aren't. And then read RC's divorce prep guide. Much more of it applies to you than you think.
/r/askMRP08/06/21 07:17 PM
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I see two things. First, you have no frame (and thus no boundaries). Second, people are validating your weight loss and you suck it up like a greedy pig. Stop that. And reread the frame section. Hey, glad to see you're still alive and kicking, and 10lbs heavier since you started eating like you wanted to be. I think owning this stuff is good. Maybe it will help to look up the studies on the spotlight effect. Spoiler alert: People don't give too many fucks about how you look/act/sound/whatever. T…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 06:29 PM
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GSLP is so simple it's almost impossible to fuck up and it really works. In particular on a cut, it is RPT/DoggCrapp inspired, as per rpeeings input. Run that for 4 months while you drop 10kg, then reassess. 1600kcal is too low btw, don't burn out. Do the original, ditch the neck harness unless you need it for the BJJ. As for the other stuff, I feel you on going full Red. I'll be interested to see if you really do. It's going to really suck at first, at least it did for me. On a practical note, …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 06:20 PM
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OYS #53 40s divorcing, kid. 6’ sub 190 BW, 1000+ PL total, Sidebarx2. NMMNGx5+WISNIFGx4. Vision: Seek knowledge, wealth and love. Share it freely with people that can change the world. Mental I’ve been feeling very happy and grateful this week. Gotten some good insights into women and my reactions to them. It all maps to RP principles, it’s kind of wild. All kinds of stuff that happens and behavior I see is like taking a page out of a post on here or a page from Rollo.I am experiencing a small r…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 05:35 PM
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Having cheated A LOT myself I can confirm your thoughts. It covers up shit to deal with, creates drama and is just a hassle. Even don't ask don't tell is not worth it to me, though I know some MRP stalwarts go that route, YMMV. I'm not sure if its a requirement for me I'm just leaving it at this point. Not 100% sure how to progress so I have more figuring out to do. I could see if you had 3 kids a house and a mortgage. But you already nuked that shit, and are paying your dues in order to be free…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/21 07:47 AM
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Whaddya know, I actually have some notes to share here. Sometimes I get lazy and can't be fucked pushing past boundaries. Being aware will help you be less frustrated. It's ok to just enjoy some vanilla sex. It's like a nice beta balance to the alpha of the kinky shit. Sometimes I get stuck in her frame and think about what she will like. You know this is a trap. Remember she will enjoy being "made" to do what she doesn't like. It should help. You are giving her a gift. :) Sometimes I start thin…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/21 11:47 AM
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I think this is actually about specific things. Good! Easier to work with. So why are you not practicing these things? Let's say you are an anal-freak like Redspfswhatever and you want your wife to peg you. Why isn't she? I see two possibilities. She straight up gets turned off completely by it. Then you have a choice. Is it important enough for you to go find someone else to do with? Or can you find a happy medium. As an example, when I started choking my wife a while back, Blarg gave some inpu…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/21 09:46 AM
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Cheers dude, your reply made me think. I am actually not good at celebrating my wins. I had no feeling of pride about not missing a single OYS for a year, even when I've seen most of the dudes I exchanged with 3-9 months back slink away. Discipline comes easy to me, so once I set the goal and plan I just followed it. There is energy to harvest from achievement, though. This ties in to the gratitude thing I think. I sometimes take things and even myself for granted, if that's even possible.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/21 06:54 AM
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If you are curious, read Niel Strauss' most recent book. It's both hilarious and shows the pitfalls of trying to manage an active "free sex commune" kind of deal. Speaking from personal experience, soft harem is much better than hard harem. They can know each other, some of mine did. That's fine. But bringing them together regularly is more trouble than it's worth. LIVING WITH THEM is a headache I can't even begin to fathom. Living with just one women is already hard to justify effort/reward as …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/21 07:05 PM
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I'll give you a hint, because this could be fun to follow. You aren't special and neither is your girl. There's a very simple program to fix this shit - lift, stfu, sidebar, OYS. For a year to start.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/21 07:02 PM
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Yeah, I guess what I am saying is that lifts/BW is an easy metric that's hard to fake, so useful to gauge how much dudes bullshit themselves. And if someone of mine/RBB's height/weight gets themselves to a 275x5 bench and a 450x5 dead (what the calculator would say one has to lift to get the the 11% he indicates), then one will be "Internet 11", meaning physically pretty much top 5% in any room one walks into. Really good to hear about your back, dude. That shit can be stubborn, sounds like your…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/21 06:49 PM
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Of course you are projecting, all the better. The most useful notes are those written by dudes who've been in your shoes, or at the very least can see themselves there. At least that's been the case for me. I don't think it's a coincidence one starts with women and then moves on to money - those are the two wheels on the motorcycle, to quote UM.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/21 06:42 PM
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I really like it summarized this way. You know back in the old mrp days this place was all about her "genuine" desire. The phrase was "you cant negotiate genuine desire". As if eliciting a natural emotional state from her was the goal. Still is. Some of us have spent a lot of time there only recently. Huh...that calculator is pretty good. A little high. I'm 9.7% bodbod measured at 5'11'', 295 bench 350x4 squat. It said 12.5%. In fairness, "BF%" is a meaningless term, because everything comes out…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/21 01:38 PM
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I honestly thought I wasn’t getting butthut about rejection but she’s told me that I am, so the conclusion i’m drawing here is that I’m in self-denial about how I really feel about getting rejected. I literally laughed out loud reading this. I hope you enjoy your incoming Rule 9. Maybe you should spend the time-out making a better attempt at not being (skinny)fat in stead of digging your hole deeper with gay speeches to you wife. It really does amaze me that "lift, STFU, sidebar" is this hard to…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/21 12:07 PM
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Two things, I have always had to work at strength and have a knee issue. I don't squat anymore and I value pain free over squats but was squatting 300, working deads back up to 350. So I am just an unlucky fuck. I match the strongur calculator perfectly. And that one has you squatting 375x5 and benching 275x5 in order to get 11%BF at 6' 190. Maybe it's all the cuddling with big, sweaty dudes you do. I will start some MMA soon, too - this is good motivation. Been together a year, call her a LTR f…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/21 11:53 AM
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Mid 30’s, 6’ 190lb, BF 11%, Separated, one kid under 5yrs. OHP 155*5, Bench 210*5, DL 310*6. Either I am an unlucky fuck, or something is off here. I am exactly your height and weight, My bench is 110% yours and my deads at least 125%. Plus you don't squat(?). Yet my BF is more like 14. Not a huge deal, just don't bullshit yourself. ​ Mindset I’m accepting that I will have to live with the long-term stress of family court rather than just waiting until it is over. That is okay. I still struggle …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/21 08:57 AM
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OYS #52 40s divorcing, kid. 6’ sub 190 BW, 1000+ PL total, Sidebarx2. NMMNGx5+WISNIFGx4. Vision: Seek knowledge, wealth and love. Share it freely with people that can change the world. Overall When I started here I promised myself OYS for a year and I have. Below is the 52nd weekly installment. I had originally thought that there’d be something to find here. I’ve changed a lot, and my life has too. Happier, more settled, more focused, more excited about the future than I’ve been for years - mayb…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/21 08:37 AM
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It’s amazing that the even using fewer words the few I still manage suck. The power of STFU is unrivaled. As your wife is preggo and I assume(?) you are giving this a bit of time to see if you can keep the family together, this is probably the best tool in the toolbox along with FOGGING and then just spend your time on the other two basics, sidebar and lifting. That said, some comments. ​ Curious as to your thoughts but the MMSLP with the prisoner’s dilemma or rewarding behaviors. The book recom…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/21 04:53 AM
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Do. Something. Optimize your value following 60 DOD and ditch the mental masturbation.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/21 06:11 AM
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just acting on my wants and desires through actions and it just happened (kind of seems surreal). It feels super counterintuitive at first when good things come when you least expect it, because you are acting, to some extent, opposite of what you thought/were told would get you those things. Guilt related to my workout program of all bizarre things. I can do wendlers in about 30-40mins 4 days a week. After spending so much time in the gym (less productively) it feels weird to get done so quickl…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/21 07:21 PM
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Right back at you. You are basically me+6 months so it's very illuminating that you share your experiences and hiccups.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/21 05:16 AM
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​ I like your questions here, so here is your wall of text as I sort through my challenges and future goals. This will sound very cocky, but I don't mean it to be. Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk If you can't even write your own OYS like you want without qualifiers and half-assed self-deprecating humor, there's plenty of Nice Guy shit to dig out. Stop the validation seeking - be your own judge. As for the rest there are some fundamental things you get to work on now. You have an initial idea an…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/21 05:04 AM
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My point still stands on both fronts. :)
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 07:06 PM
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Maybe I'm the idiot wearing headphones made of bamboo waiting for the planes to come. I would say you are building yourself into a man with options while you figure out what you want to do, once you have those options. top down and bottom up approaches. I like to look at these as sudden (Dzogchen style) vs gradual awakening (Zen, Vipassana etc.). I found the latter worked better for me, but then for all my failings I actually always knew where I was going, even if I sometimes often doubted it. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 06:52 PM
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I refuse to ask a lawyer because I’m cheap. Being one who threw money at a lawyer and ended up saving that amount many, many timens over along with - more important - lots of time, I am legit confused by you making this conscious choice. Even more as you already fucked up the paperwork once. Are you poor? I need to be careful about those walls fucking me over if something good comes along and I’m unable to lower them enough to be emotionally available. I might be getting this wrong, but if I am …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 06:25 PM
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Beginners might think that in MRP journey, their spouses will be their biggest enemy. Obviously, that's not true. The fucking ego is the biggest blocker here. And I knew about it, I read stuff saying that this is what will happen. Still, experiencing it on my own is a completely different thing. The mental churn you are experiencing is normal. I don't always find the "beginner/intermediate/advanced" taxonomy useful for merpers. Some people are fairly switched on fairly early. Others flounder on …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 11:37 AM
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To my untrained eye this seems like progress compared to the last couple of weeks. I would wager it is not unrelated to this: I have spent time articulating the ways I specifically do this, so I can be more intentional in how I spend my time. At least for me, getting very specific about my goals and then just getting to work made a rather big difference. have fun flirting I am unsure if this includes your wife? It should, if you are still not completely checked out. Best training you will get.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 10:53 AM
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OYS #51 40s divorcing, kid. 6’ sub 190 BW, 1000+ PL total, Sidebarx2. NMMNGx5+WISNIFGx4. Vision: Seek knowledge, wealth and love. Share it freely with people that can change the world. Overall Once again found that spending some time each day very specifically considering how to move towards my goals in the different SLA is useful as well as energizing. I formulated SMART goals in all seven of them. I kind of had already, but it helped my focus to make them even clearer and gathering everything …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 08:46 AM
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What I repeatedly do determines the man I will be. Once I figured out that identify follows actions, not the other way around, it was like flipping a switch in my head. It's incredibly freeing as this becomes more internalized I find. Now use this to write more about the stuff you've done next time. And less about the stuff you've figured out. Continue to figure out stuff - that's how you get the right things done. But if you don't put it into action, it's for naught.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/21 10:28 AM
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OYS #50 40s divorcing, kid. 6’ sub 190 BW, 1000+ PL total, Sidebarx2. NMMNGx5+WISNIFGx4. Vision: Seek knowledge, wealth and love. Share it freely with people that can change the world. Overall Rolling with the punches pretty well. I’ve noticed that when I have small dips in mood and energy, I’ve gotten better at accepting it, just doing best I can and not stressing. Which then makes them more shallow and shorter. Physical The injury is responding very well, I am just shy of an 1100 total right n…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/21 08:43 AM
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What I meant with the above, was it took me way too long to learn to tell her to shut her trap when she started spouting shit. But really take this for what it is and isn't. Just another rando on the internet who is on a board for dudes so clueless they go to an online forum to learn to say no to their wife. I am not the one to take advice from on this and your wife is preggo. Your time would be well spent reading this post if you haven't, it should point you in the right direction.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/21 06:02 PM
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I am just another dude fumbling along, and maybe the whole lead your woman and do this and that and the other is the way to keep a marriage together. I can't help but see it is as shit she has to earn by good behaviour - not something to fix bad behaviour. At least I spent a long time mistaking shitty, disrespectful, manipulative behaviour for shit tests and comfort tests. Cannot recommend. Then once I started withdrawing affection, attention, commitment commensurate with what I was getting, thi…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/21 05:57 AM
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I can see how it would seem like this, but it's actually the opposite. A while back things finally clicked. I know what I want in life, even in considerable detail. As I see it, (M)RP is a toolbox. So I don't write about what I want, much less "why". Maybe it's easier to explain like this: I like structure, so for me it goes Vision->Mission->Long term goals->Short term goals->Process goals->Actions. Now this is in place and I have my plan, my focus is on the latter two - painting by numbers ICM …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 10:57 AM
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5x5 is a cheap copy of Starting Strength by a marketing dude lifting from his moms basement or whatever that brings exactly the problems you mention. But it's the most well-resourced thing on the internet to point guys to that has them doing the big 3 in a not-completely-retarded way while you figure out if they are worth pointing in a better direction. I only use totals and BW as proxies for bodycomposition. I know lots of dudes that lift for aesthetics. Every last one of them use the big 3 as …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/21 04:54 AM
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It seems like you lost 20lbs in six months and learnt to lift a bit more than the bar. Good start, if slow. From here you can go two directions. Stay on Wendler and diet aggressively to like 180 over 4-5 months then work up your strength while slowly gaining back BW. Or stay around 200 and use a better linear progression program i.e. GSLP to get to a 900-1000 total - and then diet down 10-20lbs, using something more forgiving like 531. If you do it right, you have sub 15% BF and a 1000+ total in…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 07:31 PM
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There's some lifting/diet here and then a lot of words about your wife. I think it's a decent field report and you got some good feedback, but don't forget to focus on the rest of your MAP. I relate to this: I feel like I was a flame and I was so concerned that I would burn the house down that I allowed others to almost extinguish me. I need to find my own balance and remember that STFU is doing something at least in the interim. I want to be my authentic self and follow my desires/wants and jus…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 07:14 PM
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Even attempts at kino or a kiss gets met with a speechless look of disgust so I’m down to zero physical contact. Thanks for the mental image of you rolling up in your swell sweat-pants-comfy-clothes ensemble, bulging in all the wrong places because "recovery eating" has taken a toll and you are lifting like a pussy because of your owie - and then looking all bewildered when you are shut down. I needed a laugh. Just wait till you actually start doing shit to become more attractive and then she be…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 01:41 PM
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Mentally I feel pretty confident and strong most of the time. I mostly stay focused on me and I get the basics done every day, get to the gym, walk daily and just get up and do shit when I start overthinking and I've stayed away from easy pleasures and escapes. This isn't aimless, you have a structured MAP and are implementing, exactly like you are supposed to Too many guys, including myself, spend too much time overthinking/indulging in dumb shit, in stead of just tuning that shit out and putti…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 09:35 AM
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You need to focus energy on not being fat. As for the mental masturbation stuff, it is is a tough place to be, I've been there too - existential dread, no sleep and all. In time you will see why it is a good thing your woman is still shitting on you and your relationship as it will in a weird way make it easier to make the leap eventually. The anxiety you are experiencing is the disconnect between your social and biological programming and your emerging worldview. At least it was for me. You are…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 09:31 AM
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I must admit finding it hard not to be bitter when I haven’t had sex in 6 months and my wife’s been sleeping in the guest room for 2 months. Home is all about comfort, sweat pants tshirt and hoodies. That’s what my wife sees me in most of the time but I do enjoy the comfort. Does not compute.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 08:37 AM
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OYS #49 40s divorcing, kid. 6’ sub 190 BW, 1000+ PL total, Sidebarx2. NMMNG+WISNIFGx4. Vision: Seek knowledge, wealth and love. Share it freely with people that can change the world. Overall Everything is moving fast, yet I am very calm. It’s like I put my different life areas on a track, pressed “go” and they are moving forward at break-neck speed, and I just need to enjoy the ride. My usual indicator light, sleep, has been better last week than at any points for several years. Physical I am ke…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 08:34 AM
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Thanks for looking into this. I've found the same. I have gone about as far as I can with natural ways of upping it, so I am about ready to go injection route. I figured the doc was not the most straight shooter, wanting to sell his clinic and all. Conversely I think it can work in my favor that he wont be too reticent to prescribe some TRT if needed. It's nigh on impossible to get around these parts.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 04:34 AM
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Fighting this shit is a lifelong thing I think. At least I'm resigned to it. It's not much anymore, and even kind of fun to see it pop up. But it still does (pop up). FWIW I went through those two foundational texts, NMMNG and WISNIFG four times each. Now on my 5th run through NMMNG is it finally kind of "boring" in a good way, in that I kind of already know. I would prioritize those over UM and WOTSM right now. Really process them, practice the tools. You need to learn to FOG, kill CC's and oth…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/21 12:59 PM
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is this... DEER? It is, a quite deliberate one. I find "explaining" my reasons for doing X, Y, Z on here sometimes brings useful pokes on where I am bullshitting myself. Hence why I posted this stuff in OYS to begin with. Even after your poke(s) I feel cool, so it seems course is decent. :)
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/21 08:58 AM
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What do you want?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/21 05:30 AM
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​ my therapist had recently suggested that I open up and be vulnerable so I told her about the piece of my trauma I had not before. I personally feel that this was successful I got out what I had not previously disclosed to her without looking for anything in return and with self-perceived strength. She doesn't want to know. She thinks she does, but it's just part of her betaization programming. I have some pretty big shit trauma stuff in my past. My wife knows, in part also on recommendation fr…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/21 05:24 AM
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I treat them the same way I'd treat any other person in my life that was toxic. I keep them at a distance. I made the same decision many years back. Once I had kids I considered going your route. Yet for the same reasons you explain, I decided not to reintegrate my father in my life. Granted, my dad was/is somewhat more fucked up than yours so the choice was easier. Best choice I ever made for my own mental well being. And my kid is extremely well balanced, healthy, happy all that stuff. Stable …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/21 04:59 AM
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That propecia doesn't lower test (if anything it increases it). I think it was primarily about the doc trying to sell me his magic woo-woo heinously expensive hair clinic (that he apparently also works at). I've taken propecia for 15 years without issue. I don't even have issues now. I just want to optimize. Dick medicine will help with the PE I usually get the first couple of times with a new woman and for funsies. And a bit of T might be fun to try. I actually do shave my head often, as per th…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/21 04:48 AM
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OYS #48 40s divorcing, kid. 6’ sub 190 BW, 1000+ PL total, Sidebarx2. NMMNG+WISNIFGx4. Vision: Seek knowledge, wealth and love. Share it freely with people that can change the world. Overall Had some of my realizations become verbalized further in some exchanges on last weeks OYS which brought even more mental clarity and calm. Everything in the external world is going my way lately, long may it continue, but I’m also calm about the fact that it won’t. Rereading NMMNG - it is as expected. Quite …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/21 08:35 AM
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I think most guys (probably women too) are wired to want variety Guys yes, girls no. Hypergamy is monogamy.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/21 10:14 AM
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to not have limitations on what I do 100% this. It takes fucking work to really get there. And it has nothing to do with how many bitches you are fucking and whatever sexual variety you crave or don't. It just clicked for me in a conversation with Cabbage here. It might be too convoluted to help you much, though. If so, a note: For me I had to really realize how I am fundamentally programmed to Feel Guilty when not accommodating the whamen. It's a bit like mindfullness in a weird way. I can see …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/21 05:36 AM
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let bitches misidrect me into nerfing myself That's a big one. In my case the misdirection was from my wife, women around me, or "gynocentric society" if you will and me fitting into that mould. Classic, and something you've lived too. Hence me "rebuilding myself" and that eventually leading to divorce. So the stuff that irks you, me coming here to fix shit and eventually divorcing. They do both come from this. But it's about getting my bearings again, to keep it nautical. It is me finally break…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/21 05:27 AM
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EDIT: Preface. What I meant was actually that projection is why this place even works. So to use your wording, to my mind, any resonance on your end is actually valuable exactly because it more often than not is not just a figment of your imagination, but because something in my experience resonates with something you've been through. And I might be bullshitting myself, and you can point it out even if I can't see it. Sharing notes and all that. However, something is off here. I am taking a stab…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/21 06:23 PM
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Yep, enjoy them. After that it's more like 4-6 lbs of BW gain and maybe 10% to your lifts in that timespan if all goes well.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/21 05:46 PM
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​ Bench press-225 Deadlift-275 OHP-115 Squat-230 I think each cycle I will plan to add 5-10 lbs with upper and lower body lifts respectively; however, I may consider just 5lbs each cycle. Going to see how this first one goes. Those are pretty low lifts for a guy your size. I get that you want to get really skinny to show yourself you can, and I think there is value in that. I do wonder, though, if the poundages will be too low to spur progress on 531. I think it's a fine programme for finishing …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/21 05:01 PM
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Parts of your story resonate with my own life strongly, others I find myself struggling to understand both your motivations and my own reactions to them . Mind elaborating on this? As you mention then most advice one gets/gives on here is projection (aka sharing notes). The more of a projection the better or worse the advice, I usually find. So it'd be interesting both to know what you can recognize, and what seems zany. Hell, with some luck maybe some of my answers might make you think as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/21 12:21 PM
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I appreciate you chiming in and the pokes along the way. Of all the feedback I got on here, yours probably helped the most. It gave me some sort of idea of where I needed to go. I wish I would've understood back then that - for me - Unchained Man method of figuring out my Mission was the way to chart my course, because the basic MAP-stuff I had sorted. As you said when I came in. Physical OK, social OK, Game OK. Everything... OK. Once I worked through all the code, goals, mission, vision stuff t…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/21 04:42 AM
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I wish!! It is a properly run linear progression run by a dude your age, height and weight at your current strength level. Once you have that 900-1000 total at about 180-190lbs bw progress is much much much much slower. Depressingly so sometimes.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/21 03:48 AM
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I never let myself go as much as you did, so I don't have a point of reference, but I've always been impressed with dudes who crawl out of a hole as deep as that. Losing 25% of your BW is no fucking joke. I liked 5/3/1 for the reasons you mention. What maxes are you working off of? So the lifting/diet stuff made me think maybe the time I spent on you last week might make a difference. And then comes the bit about your woman. Jesus fucking christ. I just checked because I had you confused with u/…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 06:23 PM
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If you just do your BW (in lbs) in grams of protein you are good. You can also go 10-20% lower or higher, depending on preference. As for the calorie surplus, shoot for 1lb/week of BW gain IF you are running an honest linear progression (I like GSLP) as hard as you can. I'm talking adding 12-16lbs of BW and 50%+ to your lifts in about 3-4 months. If not, then I'd be more conservative and go for 1-2lbs a month to match the slower strength increase. Figure out calories from there and adjust when y…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 05:59 PM
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I am struggling to accept the idea of being monogamous. I don’t want to cheat for a bunch of reasons and so if I want other women I want it to be fully open. Am I prepared to walk away over this? I’m not sure, I’m not sure if I really want it or if I am using it as an easy out from going deeper in my current relationship. Also, I think it can be used to avoid actually doing the work and under the guise of ‘I want to do what I want’ you are actually avoiding taking responsibility for your current…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 11:56 AM
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I could've written that entire section on beta vs. alpha sex and my own frustration with it and responsibility for it. Or actually, I probably couldn't have worded it as well, but it is 100% spot on to what I've lived and realized. Not seeking approval feels strange. It really does, and I sometimes find difficulty figuring out when to celebrate my successes with others and when to STFU. Lately I am almost exclusively the latter, but I don't think that's a long term solution either.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 11:48 AM
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Fuck I just remembered the "stages" from MAP. It's just as much of a covert contract as the dread levels, with frame issues etc. Focus on you. Become awesome. Then decide who gets to be in your life. That sure as fuck isn't now - but it will be if you weekly check yourself as per 60 DoD and the MAP in MMSLP.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 11:40 AM
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Why you are not doing 60DoD is beyond me. It's exactly the structure you need. I'd go with MMSLP for reading and creating a full Male Action Plan. Prepare your branch swing by becoming a man with options. Worry about branches later, including the one you are currently sitting on. I find the MAP book ok to draw inspiration from but the influence of AKs wife is unmistakeable and taints it. It isn't even a "male" plan. When you are more attractive and less unattractive I found unchained man useful …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 10:14 AM
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I'm 95% she'll be amicable I'm 95% she won't. I'd advise you to adopt the same mental model and be pleasantly surprised if you are wrong. Lucky has you pegged, as did SK last week. Where is your MAP and how is your progress over the last three months and what action are you taking to improve dramatically in the next three?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 09:41 AM
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Thanks for the poke. I got the same last week from Tyred. If I am not gaming thots in 3 months, then I'll be that dude watching TV, planning to start the gym "Monday". For now it's more a case of holding myself back, playing the long game. That means I'm not sourcing bitches until we have physically separated and papers are officially stamped (currently they are signed and in process). You are right about me sucking at recreation, though. It's a focus area. I expect my social to take over most o…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 09:35 AM
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OYS #47 40s divorcing, kid. 6’ sub 190 BW, 1000+ PL total, Sidebarx2. NMMNG+WISNIFGx4. Overall Things continue to go my way. Very excited for summer, hoping not too many deviations from the current course. Had some disturbance of sleep and usual BP/RP wrestling a few nights, this time mostly because of my son. I am, however, slowly beginning to trust my gut feeling/intuition. I’d gotten far, far away from it, but it’s returning now and on occasion I can just feel what right action is. Physical W…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/21 08:41 AM
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Stfu for dear life my man. Not until you have EVERYTHING figured out do you drop papers. Autistic stfu if you have to. Like super awkward and weird doesn't matter. Just don't open your goddamn mouth.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/21 06:01 PM
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was told that means we are separated, Start divorce prepping today. Especially as she is already hamstering the narrative to have you be an abuser. There are absolute horror-stories about guys getting reamed by their wives/the system this way. Try to mitigate as best you can. FWIW I had my wife be pretty close to all this shit yet brought it back. Maybe you can too - however, the only way of doing so is accepting the relationship is dead and you are divorcing. IF - and it's a big if - your woman…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/21 09:52 AM
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Pretty much. I am expecting that reality (losing resources) will hit before I want it to. But I don't seen upside in actually helping it along. If I could have the hit happen after we physically separate, things will be a lot smoother for me and my kid - hell, even my wife. Besides I don't feel the urge to chase tail right now, so it isn't a big sacrifice in the short term - maybe it's the lockdown shit. Anyway, thots aren't going anywhere, so I can find some in summer.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/21 09:45 AM
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Just preparing. Holding off on plates until we separate physically.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/21 03:57 PM
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Thanks. I am preparing as if this will to turn into one of those horror stories of DV, pedo charges, lawyer battles for money etc. And then hoping to be pleasantly surprised. So I have the thing filed with the police, an emergency backup place locked down and am 80% of the way in securing a longer term one as well until the lease is out on our place. As for what happens in her head, God knows. I sometimes wonder, but I've gotten good at catching myself and just basing myself on actions.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/21 02:55 PM
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Lift, STFU, OYS are the basics for a reason. Each week report what you DID. Consider using a framework. I know some very smart dudes shit on it, but I find it helps This keep momentum and to see your blindspots.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/21 01:54 PM
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Realising things is important but doesn't mean shit if you don't take action after. Do you have a MAP?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/21 10:11 AM
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I need to drop being 'fair'. Took me a long time to get there. What worked for me was going 100% for the optimal solution FOR ME, and then from there being generous. This allows you to dole out some concessions in the process without resentment. I know those dark moments. Some of us had brushes with suicidal thoughts and shit. It goes away eventually though it can be hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel when the drama is high. For now, fuck your feelings, just one foot in front of the …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/21 09:10 AM
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OYS #46 40s divorcing, kid. 6’ sub 190 BW, 1000+ PL total, Sidebarx2. NMMNG+WISNIFGx4. Overall Still really happy with a feeling of purpose and that my life is trending right in the different arenas. No sleep issues or other drama stuff I’ve battled before, even if I had some hiccups this week. Physical First week of diet revealed that indeed I added a considerable amount of fat over the two week break. I had already decided to make the breaks more controlled moving forward, but this has really …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/21 08:33 AM
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All of this is in her frame. Parsing out a few things you might want to flip: To provide comfort I should wait for actually vulnerability on her part. This might have not been a great example of it, but I do think generally I am doing better in exiting her frame and all this stuff keeps getting notched in some attempt to put me back in place like I’ve gone out of line. Hugs aren't free. Comfort is a reward, you give/withdraw consummate with the investment you get back, just like affection and co…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/21 05:18 PM
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Forgot to add OYS. Do those four for a while and slow your roll a bit and see what happens. Focus on YOU.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/21 03:22 PM
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Most of this was dumb, and you are balls deep in her frame. But this: With all this going on I did tell her that I love her, care for her, and wanted us because I wasn’t sure if some this was looking for comfort. Is the coup de grace. Talk about rewarding bad behavior. The wedding ring shit might be a manipulative move. But it's also kind of skirting ILYBINILWY. Keep your eyes open. Edit: you are early enough that lift, stfu, read still will do you well.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/21 01:39 PM
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I might be a fool and an idiot, but I am not unprepared. Your notes, among many others, have made me plan for an absolutely worst case scenario including DV charges, maxing out cards, child abduction, the whole 9. I still expect things to go sideways, but I am ready to be positively surprised. I guess we'll see.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/21 04:27 PM
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Only when I can honestly say that I have been at my max that I know I am capable of, and been consistent with it, I can then start to assess her behavior and make further decisions. The sex is not yet what it could be, but I haven't yet given her the opportunity to really adjust to my changes, because I always get derailed at some point. Ah OK. This is just run-of-the-mill 1.000 foot rope and letting go of resentment stuff. "I'll stop being unattractive. Once I have that stabilized I will poke h…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/21 05:29 AM
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I know those feels, bro. Just STFU. Even autist STFU if you need to, until you learn FOGGING. And then take your time getting your ducks in a row. Getting truly zeroed out, but still having a lot of good options, like you do, is a place of great potential if you don't fuck it up. You can find freedom on the other side of this.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/21 05:01 AM
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What the fuck happened? Betaization process. Read PFP. It's preprogrammed, it seems, unless you fight it tooth and nail. About gay-ass FMoFY it sucks, but the good thing about relationship equity not existing and women being in their feelings is that long run it won't really matter. What you DO from here on will. Better start fixing the holes in the boat, to steal the image from Dust. I think I understand what you mean about authenticity vs. Red Pill but if I were you I'd spell it out in an OYS …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/21 09:36 PM
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At this point I don't think I could ask or act on it and maintain congruence. Don't fucking ask. Be a man - do or command. And then add OI as best you can LARP it until it becomes natural. That means don't give a fuck what she says, if she shoots you down, fine. Gymbag routine or whatever you need as a crutch at first. Think of it like cold approaching. Rejections happen, it's fine, her loss.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/21 09:31 PM
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A bit of spoonfeeding first. Unless the UK is weird, the moment you file, your assets stop being joint and each of you are responsible for your own debt. In many countries debt incurred during the marriage is not actually shared, though assets are. You need to do way more homework in this and many other areas. One step at a time, you must still be reeling from the realizations. Just STFU. Bigger issue here is, you ask these questions: How do I mitigate her getting into to debt for instance? Her …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/21 09:24 PM
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1200+ total or bust!
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/21 01:24 PM
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You are fat. Either add 50-100% to your lifts or lose 50 pounds. Even better, split the difference. Sounds like you have a solid plan though. Just don't get caught BS'ing yourself spinning your wheels.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/21 11:34 AM
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Transitioned to BBM programming. Weight is trending in the right direction. Hey! Congratulations on taking concrete action to stay alive. As much as I love GSLP, having an experienced coach will mean a higher total within 3-6 months. And external accountability on both lifts and diet in making sure you give yourself as high a chance as possible to have some more decades to fool around on this molten fireball. I wonder. How are your social and women domains going?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/21 11:29 AM
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Do you have control of the treasury?
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/21 10:30 AM
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You obviously map it to your situation and legislation. I am in a very very very different jurisdiction to RC yet I got a lot from the guides so don't write them off. Think long and hard before you discard the advice because your situation is different. Often on closer inspection it isn't really. Happy to answer your questions. Either here or you can tag me next week.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/21 07:46 AM
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It seems Chuck got through to you. Listen to him here. He is a RPC for Gods (sic!) sake and even he sees clear as day that this one is dead. Having been pretty much where you are, and currently being in the final stages of the process you are about to embark on, I am feeling generous. I will probably regret spending this time when you delete out like all the other fags in a similar situation, but here goes. You are part of a very non-exclusive club. If you need further help opening your eyes, re…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/21 05:15 AM
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Thank you for the insight. I've been thinking the same. Phrased a bit cruder, people are less likely to use manipulation techniques (in this case, anger and shaming) if you've thoroughly proven they don't work on you - i.e. you pass the congruence tests. Contrast this to how I behaved with my woman a year ago and the difference is stark. I have this writeup of my process in my head that I might do when I'm out on the other side sometime autumn. Based on my experience it is a good investment of a…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/21 04:49 AM
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I'm not sure I understand. You want to improve yourself to make your wife happy? You restarted placating in order to make her happy? Neither of those things are going to make her happy anyway, so why bother? Seems you figured that much out, based on your goal. Now let's see if you can implement.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/21 06:30 PM
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You are totally correct. No matter how well you understand the rest, until you really internalize NMMNG and WISNIFG the rest is for naught. MAP you can do in a few hours, it's an easy read. NMMNG/WISNIFG are dense (especially the latter), so you can't absorb more than a chapter per day anyway. Maybe mix and match - or maybe stay the course, you are on the right path in your readings anyway. Remember to translate it to action. :)
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/21 04:43 PM
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I spoke to lawyers twice when this started. I don't things change over time. She gets 60% of the house on sale, 50% of my income, 50% of savings etc. Basically I'm on the hook for her retirement already, I don't see a risk there waiting another six months. I get that. But is the house, your savings or your income unlikely to increase from today onwards? If the answer is "no" there is still no scenario in which you are better off than divorcing today. Well, for the sake of completion, in this shi…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/21 04:40 PM
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Don't fucking tell her before giving her the papers! Just file and have her served. Important note. This is what I did and it was smooth AF as I had thought out all possible scenarios and walled off the path, so her hamster ran the right way through. A reversal could still happen, but so far it's been the best divorce advice possible.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/21 04:37 PM
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It's a good primer. Do Rian Stones video series to accompany it. There is some purple pill/outdated shit in there to flush out. But do read the book. In particular the MAP (part 2).
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/21 04:04 PM
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Too funny. Apparently dude has a solid 1200ish total even in spite of not lifting for 5 months.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/21 04:00 PM
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It is kind of wild to me how some guys, myself included at one time, start doing stuff that works, see positive results AND THEN GO BACK TO DOING BP SHIT AND GETTING BP RESULTS. I never could figure out why. Do you have any ideas?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/21 03:56 PM
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Cool, I had heard of that companion book. Being a prime Nice Guy myself I should check it out. I'll use a different format for my next OYS. Frame dude. Do what works for you - but do check out MMSLP and see if the five (I think?) areas and the ways to get them fixed isn't more relevant right now. If not, I won't charge for you copying my shitty template. :)
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/21 03:51 PM
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Maybe. I don't know legislation for your area. But most places marriage is a contract between two people and the state, where you are obligated to give her cash and prizes. Every day you stay obligated it gets more expensive. At least when I did my analysis it was clear that for each day I waited to nuke, the bill increased. As for fucking someone else, I'd just assume. Women have abundance we can't imagine. It's pretty easy to make the case for her actions being her testing a branch. But it doe…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/21 03:48 PM
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Copied this format from u/ImpatientZen. I know I've got a long way to go and I'm just getting started. FWIW I like the template from MMSLP in fixing up the engine so to speak. Become attractive, stop being unattractive. Once the engine is fixed, you need to point it at something. Thats where I found it useful to take the 7 SLA from Unchained Man for giving direction towards my Mission. In other words. I don't see a reading list here apart from an acronym I can't decipher. But I can tell you are …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/21 03:21 PM
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Yeah, it was hers, suggested just before we sat the kids down and were gonna tell them we were divorcing. I wonder who she's fucking.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/21 03:10 PM
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Thanks for the note, I think you are dead on. I am fully prepared for 1) my wife to lose it and demand half my shit and a life-long meal-ticket, weaponizing my kid in order to get it and/or 2) my kid not having realized what is going on, and having a rough transition. The two are connected insofar as currently we are both really doing well in this process, so he isn't picking up any weird vibes or jibes - that can change. I have both legal, financial and emotional safeguards in place for handlin…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/21 03:07 PM
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Good on you for finally starting to cut the fluff, keep it up and you might become attractive. My current plan is to leave the relationship in 6 months and in the meantime I will use my time and energy to improve myself. In order to avoid covert contracts, I am now assuming we don’t have sex in that time, and we will be separating with 100% certainty. This is very freeing. FWIW I wish I would've done this from the beginning. However, I wouldn't stop initiating. Just assume you wont fuck, and don…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/21 11:14 AM
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OYS #45 40s divorcing, kid. 6’ sub 190 BW, 1000+ PL total, Sidebarx2. NMMNG+WISNIFGx4. Overall Life is fucking great. I am happy, sleeping well, energized, achieving a lot of my objectives, learning a lot, and my trajectory excites me. I realize that I am currently on Divorce EZ Mode, and am still waiting for the plot twist. Not spending too much time thinking of that, just enjoying myself. Physical I finished the diet break. It was to an extent an experiment to see how it felt to really wing it…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/21 08:38 AM
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I have thought about your situation a bit and felt I had an input but not been able to word it. I am still not sure I can, but I've put some together below. If nothing else, I'm really glad to see that you are traversing calmer waters now with regards to your son. I have too many blind spots here. My sense is that this is correct. There is something here. What is it it then? You now have had a bunch of guys projecting on to it and you will see if something hits the mark. Here is another one you …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/21 02:23 PM
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You should hear him speak. It is hilarious, almost almost cartoonish. Makes it hard to take the content seriously sometimes. But it is solid.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/21 04:31 AM
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I see what you mean. Having written many anxiety ridden OYS myself, mentally masturbating in stead of doing work, I could hope for dude that the discomfort of putting this up and getting poked every week will eventually make things click. But that's probably just another projection.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/21 12:22 PM
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FWIW I had two major stumbling blocks in finding and owning my vision. One was societal programming and obsolete biological wiring. UM really fucking helps in concrete steps to wash that shit out of what you think you (should) want. The other was what you write just now, and that I hadn't realized as clearly how much it blocked my vision. I harbored dreams, that are no longer possible because of whatever reasons. Some of them were the average Disney stuff that most of us have to kill off. Others…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/21 12:12 PM
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I'll share a note here. Maybe it helps, maybe it doesn't. There are some switched on guys commenting on your life here. And some - like EDHN first post - are asking some really good QUESTIONS for you to figure out. This is good, because you've been sitting in (un?)comfortable numbness for whatever 8 months since you last did OYS and for both your sake as well as that of everyone around you, something needs to change. Just be fucking careful you don't outsource your life decisions to MRP. Because…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/04/21 08:26 AM
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Yes, the framework in UM, I find, is quite useful in making sure your goals stem from you (whatever that is) and not what society or biology would have you do, in a very practical down to earth way. If you are like me then going through the process might reveal that the inability to find your passion actually is there to mask the real fear. That owning what you want could mean you have to do some very uncomfortable things. Anyway, what helped me was just putting that out of my head and building …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 07:25 PM
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I am at my happiest when I have discipline in my life. Fucking truth. People keep saying "why don't you just have the day off, don't plan, just enjoy yourself?". And I'm like - I plan and implement and keep to my stuff because that's what makes me enjoy life the most. Nutrition/exercise is the best example for me. Letting yourself "enjoy yourself" freely almost never is as enjoyable (at least to me) as just following my diet and getting all my workouts in.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 03:49 PM
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u/frozenpond being the one who recommended the book I'll third this. I always take care to recommend the framework he lays out for how to build code, goals, mission. Not the "Alpha 2.0 lifestyle" thing he promotes, which may or may not be what you want. As Rian would say, that part is by definition not Red Pill material because it is prescriptive. So while the way to build your life and remove Nice Guy programming from it is brilliant, the prescriptive parts I found (much) less useful.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 03:44 PM
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OYS #44 40s divorcing, kid. 6’ sub 190 BW, 1000+ PL total, Sidebarx2. NMMNG+WISNIFGx4. Overall Sleep and mood much better. I had some days of lower productivity, just letting things settle, catching up on sleep, recharging. This was good, even revelatory, in how well it worked. Added a part to my Code about always taking care of myself, which was much needed. Also figured out I’ve been learning to STFU to the world, not just my woman and how useful it’s been for me in murdering validation seekin…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/04/21 08:44 AM
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I think it's important for you to figure out what you want. Your wife is pregnant. As far as I understand MRP-praxeology this means that one has to thread the needle even more than usual, or accidentally nuke the marriage before you are ready to. This is even more relevant as you are on OYS8. So, I think a good case could be made to just focus on self-improvement and making things work as best you can until the kid is born. Further, I am still fumbling around, so this might be off, might not be.…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/21 06:44 PM
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Congrats on losing 60lbs. That's huge, literally. For GSLP I don't know Phrak. I have coached trainees with Johns original one with great success and he helped me with some tweaks as well when I tried it out - the original was always the best. It is deceptively hard to find it online because everyone loves "optimizing" because keeping it simple doesn't sell or whatever. It's the one here. I never used the neck harness, but I know some of the fighters swear by it. As for Mission I think many of u…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/21 05:46 AM
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Don't be an idiot with this. Find someone who has a track record in coaching special populations and pay him to make you strong. Google powerlifting physio or powerlifting doctor and find one you like. It's a fast growing market. I like the ones that either are or at some point were affiliated with Starting Strength as it is a very hard credential to earn.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/21 11:45 AM
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Your wife is pregnant, so all bets are off. I wouldn't attribute too much to her mouth words, especially now. As for what to do, there is the J10 post about the hamster being stuck in the maze. And Horns has some posts on what to do when a woman asks "what is my place in your life" or however he words it. Seems like you read them, but I have a hard time parsing out what you got from them, if anything. I'm a simple guy, so if I were you I'd just tell her to do shit. Concrete stuff day-to-day in s…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/21 05:56 AM
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As for the squat I think you are right. It's in a another league to the other big lifts in terms of difficulty of really nailing down form. Just one of those things. FWIW I wish I would've gotten coaching early on. It's a million times easier to learn proper form to begin with than correct suboptimal motor-patterns ingrained over years. I constantly feel the need to circle back and make sure all the loose ends are tied, that there is absolutely nothing left to do to protect myself, no stone left…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/21 11:30 AM
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Often she seeks comfort after a denial. I try to withdraw attention, not immediately, not the same way every time, not every time but I don’t let her have full comfort with me after a denial. This is actually quite tricky. It’s not easy to override “female intuition” but I actually think I start to get good at this. Does this refer to the past? If not then my comment stands, Fred Astaire.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 04:20 PM
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Thanks for the note. Hugely important. This is why I'm snipped. Best decision I ever made.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 02:12 PM
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Or you are loading info unto your daughter prioritizing your need to tell/involve her rather than her need to know or not. Only you know.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 01:24 PM
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When you re-read it you will notice that what you made back then were goals, not a mission. Mission inherently and deliberately is not something you can finish within the next couple of decades, if ever. You literally sound like what Caleb Jones describes happened to him.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 12:57 PM
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I’m also coaching my daughter to not discuss those aspects of my life with my wife. I'm just a rando on the internt but this seems pretty fucked. Teaching your daughter to keep secrets from and censur herself around the people she is closest to is around top of the list on how to mess up your kids when you are divorced.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 12:23 PM
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I have started to withdraw attention a little more after denials. I did this in the beginning of MRP, but I could feel I must have acted butthurt. Actually was confronted about it aswell. I am now way more outcome independent. Often she seeks comfort after a denial. I try to withdraw attention, not immediately, not the same way every time, not every time but I don’t let her have full comfort with me after a denial. This is actually quite tricky. It’s not easy to override “female intuition” but I…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 12:20 PM
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As you have identified, until you figure out what you want, you will keep spinning your wheels. Many ways to skin that cat. To repeat myself for the umpteenth time, I liked the Unchained Man framework. Then once it starts to become clear, you have to own it. That's when having internalized NMMNG and WISNIFG comes in.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 12:10 PM
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Thanks for the tips. I have recordings. Both voice, text and emails going back years. And I keep making more. Further, I am in a quite advantageous position where she needs me to collaborate more than vice versa. The one thing she can do is what you've experienced - weaponize my son. This is a risk I am aware of and I am also ready to ultimately pay that price. I've mitigated as best I can. As for your woman one thing just came to mind. It can be hard to add value to your Mission if you don't kn…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 11:31 AM
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Glad to see you back, sorry to hear about your troubles. I really hope I am not writing a similar one a year from now. As for the dropping the ball I find the best method to be to just reset next day, and not dunk on myself. Much like with your woman. Speaking of your woman I find it interesting you've LTR'd this quick. Hope she has earned it. What I find is that you can invite her to add value to your life. It's pretty obvious how to do this anyway, so if she's invested and smart enough to be i…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 10:57 AM
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OYS #43 40s divorcing, kid. 6’ sub 190 BW, 1000+ PL total, Sidebarx2. NMMNG+WISNIFGx4. Overall Mood is up and down. Not surprising, given the divorce. I am happy a lot of the time. Energized, engaged with people, at work - even with my wife. Then I have moments of doubt and sadness, feeling low. I just let them pass through me without pushing them away. Sleep has been affected as expected, but not as bad as it could be and seems to be improving pretty fast. Handling and being OK with the natural…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 09:46 AM
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​ I'm assuming by "mistress-goggles" you're referring to thinking the grass is always greener on the other side? Yeah. At least I remember myself having thoughts like "this girl is unique!" and all kinds of stupid shit when I had my sidepieces. Don't get me wrong, they were wonderful - but all women are when they want to be. A Sepean would say, how a woman acts towards you is an accurate reflection of your level of alpha. For whatever reason I was able to see it for what it was. I am usually ver…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/21 05:22 AM
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You really helped me out a few weeks back. I never really had a MAP, so I think once I got through the sidebar+ and some books on game I didn’t really have direction. UM is providing that. Somehow (even though it’s basically the same shit), the framework of the SLA’s in UM really allowed me to hone in, versus how it was presented in MAP. Take a look at these seven areas that encompass everything you do: where are you, where would you like to be, how can you get there. Glad to hear it man! I foun…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/21 04:33 PM
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Thanks! I've found precious few experiences like my own, so I really appreciate this.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/21 04:21 AM
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Glad to see you started looking at what you want. As you might've seen, it was a bottom-up process for me. I just plugged along at constructing code and goals. Then Mission was all of a sudden easy to do. And after that, one day Vision decided to descend. Maybe it'll be the same for you. One piece of advice, in case I read your musings right. I am as concerned as anyone with having my Mission involve others. This tendency is part of why I'm in this mess to begin with. My experience was really fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/21 05:04 AM
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It was fun! The 4th wall is overrated anyway. I get the utility of your toolbox, though, so a bit of feedback for it that might help. I, like you, like the narrative stuff. Even supranatural woo-woo stuff. Doesn't matter if it's "true" as long as it "works". I guess what is usually called "mental models". Problem is, some of the more spiritual stuff definitely doesn't "work" if you want to be RP. This being so, what actually was best for me was to leave all that aside and become very concrete on…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/21 08:22 AM
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Cheers, I appreciate the help checking the hull and tightening the sails before I embark. Best of luck to you as well in weathering the storm you are traversing.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/21 05:00 AM
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Seek knowledge, wealth and love. Share it freely with people that can change the world.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 07:16 PM
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Cheers. I am weirdly looking forward to seeing how horrible it will be, which I guess might be a testament to the extent of COVID-boredom.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 05:23 PM
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If my life were a ship, how would it be? Thanks for this challenge - it is both fun and useful to do. My ship is an explorer/research/educational vessel. The only permanent crew is me, and I chart the course autonomously, while keeping the ship in peak condition. It spends most of the time in port, charting a new course to a new port every 2-5 years, criss-crossing the globe. While in port, I invite a crew on board from the local community. We work together and share knowledge, and I leave a per…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 05:03 PM
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Thanks for the poke, I can try. I actually decided a long way back. I think you even commented back then, but I could be wrong. In any event. It's quite simple - I don't want to be married nor live in a nuclear family structure. I actually never did, which makes my life choices quite comical. But once I realized that I don't "have" to do anything and that I can actually live for me, everything kind of fell into place. There was just no upside to nuking back then, with COVID being as it was, and …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 02:58 PM
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Two thoughts: Initiate when you want to initiate. Don't ask for a pre-permission to do so. No wonder she doesn't want to fuck with that weak-ass verbally submissive talking. Kino her, mess with her, whatever through the day. Then when you feel like fucking, pull her aside, pull her panties down, whatever works for you. About dinner. If she refuses, you cook it or find another solution. If she does it but complains, you don't DEER. You DARE. Or just ignore.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 09:43 AM
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OYS #42 40s married, kid. 6’ sub 195 BW, 1000+ PL total, Sidebarx2. NMMNG+WISNIFGx4. Overall Still feeling and performing great. I worked some more on vision, mission, goals, code. I have increasing clarity and it is both energizing as well as calming. Things are coming together, even if I am not done fine-tuning it, and probably never will be. Only now am I starting to get the whole “MAP” thing and how it works. Most recent change is setting an over-arching vision that actually fits me. I also …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 09:37 AM
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I found it easier on macro level too. Then I tied it to the micro level through goals, standards etc. Then that became easy, too. Unchained Man was the book/structure I used but I am sure there are many ways to go about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/21 08:04 PM
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It took me a while. I've had a long road. Longer than it had to be. I find that asking myself that question every moment is a shit way of doing it. Because especially in the beginning, your compass is way off, and doing whats right for you feels very wrong and counter-intuitive and you are very open to manipulations. People (especially but not only wife) had an easy time guilting/shaming me back in my box. What eventually fixed it for me was to sit down by myself and really think hard about what…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/21 04:40 PM
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If you've got some advice to me from the other side, I'm all ears. I think that'd be the dumb leading the blind to be honest. But I'll explain my point a bit. To stay with the horse metaphor. In terms of performance and ability the Church and the Service together can produce some pretty outstanding horses (your performance). You won't be like that section of idiots in here flipping their shit, fat, lazy, drugged up, full of excuses. You'll pull hard and consistently. You can achieve amazing feat…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/21 07:54 PM
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34 5’10 185 11% BF Lifts: I’m a weak little bitch boy. Skinny and pathetic. But I’ll get back to my glory days. 11% BF at your height and weight means being significantly above a 1000lb total. More like 1200. Something is off. Most likely you just left the stuff at the top and forgot to edit. Or your definition of weak is pretty fucking awesome.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/21 05:24 PM
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she wished she could make herself love me because it would be easier It might help to know that she's already busy fucking someone else, in order for you to move on and do shit for your own benefit.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/21 01:49 PM
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I am just a rando on the internet with no skin in the game/your life, projecting my experience on to you, so take this with a cup of salt. From what I've seen, the Church and the Service are two of the biggest beta training complexes in existence. They create excellent high performing plow horses. But as Rian likes to say, once the plow horse is no longer useful, it doesn't get a nice stable, but sent to the glue factory. You are betting heavily on both. Red Pill is living your life for you, and…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/21 01:46 PM
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Admittedly this week several times I was tempted to blow up the program and say it’s over. Staying internally focused I think helps because you can look at your own progress each month and decide whether levelling up is warranted. That makes sense. I had this at first, too. Anger phases and all of that. Maybe we are actually saying the same thing. In any event, I found it weakened me somewhat to have these weird deadlines in my head that I would then push because of whatever. I think mentally fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/21 12:58 PM
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There's something about this that gives me a "special snowflake" vibe. Like. You are on OYS43, still fumbling around, still skinnyfat etc. But it's OK because you found out you are a scared little boy. Spoiler - we all are. Some of us had fairly traumatic childhoods. Many of us have found that little boy you speak of and even talk to him sometimes. The one way to actually make him feel better is to show in your actions that you give a fuck about him. Taking your gym, mental health and legal stuf…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/21 12:10 PM
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I’ve set a target date for separation which is September 17 at which point I will have progressed to stage 10 and will end the relationship. A lot of guys would do well to do something similar to this, in stead of spinning their wheels for way too long. Seeing as you are OYS8, a thing to consider. What if in some months you are happy with the trajectory but not the status? Or you've been a slob (like most here) and are still 15-25%BF with halfhearted lifting? Will you then mindlessly go to level…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/21 11:57 AM
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The plowhorse occasionally gets ridden too as a novelty. I like to visualize the duty/reward/starfish sex the plowhorse gets as a sugarcube. Seems more fitting. And has little to do with novelty.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 08:52 PM
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I do not even have the discipline to stuff my face consistently; apparently, I don’t give a fuck. I thought I was bad at prioritizing myself and my well-being, but this is some Grandmaster level shit. Your life literally depends on this yet you don't do it. Get BM or someone else locked down NOW to improve accountability. Or die off, I guess you don't really care.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 08:50 PM
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add 5 lb on one lift per week. It will be more like you add maybe another 50lbs to your total the next month or two. And then spend the next months holding on to it/adding a tad more (if you continue to lose weight). I think a better process goal would be to follow a programme with progressive overload calibrated to your abilities, not missing any workouts.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 08:39 PM
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I just threw up in my mouth a little bit. God, I've been a Top Tier Plowhorse for decades. Disgusting.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 08:37 PM
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The way I understand OI it means doing what you can while accepting that although you thus control part of the equation, ultimately there are other variables you don't. I know you meditate, in my experience it can help here and clear your head and focus your energy towards effective action - serenity prayer kinda thing. And who gives a fuck about pussy dads with pussy strategies? I honestly didn't quite get that part. You have your priorities and goals and work towards achieving them - as I unde…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 08:29 PM
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I liked the "shit I did"-section. You should do more. Shoulder is rough, but it’s improving. That's fantastic news. Imagine where you can be end of year. I can be obsessed with getting my accessory work in and religiously completing my PT work until the shoulder resolves. If you actually manage this, you will be ahead of many lifters. It's amazing how you can get a trainee to do marathon volume sessions 3-4 times a week, but get 50% compliance at best on 10 minute (p)rehab work. Quite baffling a…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 08:14 PM
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I want to be in the 1000 lb club this year. I'm currently at 815, so my outcome goal is to add 5 lb on one lift per week. Process goals are 200g protein five days per week, 5g creatine daily. I want get to 8% body fat this year. Outcome goal is 1% BF per month lost. Process goal is 5/2 carnivore. Awesome. I challenged u/hornsofapathy to a mock-meet EOY in the 181's for motivation. Given your goals that'll work for you as well. Don't know that your process goal will work. Progress on lifting tend…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 12:34 PM
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What do you say, can kettlebells heavy enough in anyway be compared to a barbell? No. Get a rack, barbell and plates.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 10:50 AM
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OYS #41 40s married, kid. 6’ sub 195 BW, 1000+ PL total, Sidebarx2. NMMNG+WISNIFGx4. Overall Life is pretty damn great. The parts that aren’t, I know exactly how to move forward. I spent some time getting my shit together further. Added a bit to the codifying of my behavior (aka setting standards for myself) and fleshing out vision-mission-goal-action links. There is still work to be done here, but it’s a fun process so I don’t mind drawing it out a bit. I know the big pieces, have a calm, intui…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 09:54 AM
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That makes sense. My background is not the same as yours, but has those elements of christian morals mixed with eastern mindfulness stuff. A word of warning - Buddhism isn't as prescriptive on the surface level. And what they mean by saving all sentient beings is, if you understand it right, that you do this by saving yourself, being present all that. The rest flows. Exactly what that career beta phrasing means. But! If you have those brimstone-mental models, you will read Buddhism accordingly. …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/21 03:08 PM
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That is a really expansive question and hard to answer - and I am probably not the best one to do so. Some thoughts. My initial reaction actually is to be very, very careful even using this mental model. At least for me it easily becomes "I allow myself to pursue my dreams and express my values freely because it is the best thing for others". See the frame issue there? What happens when you have moments of doubt whether being "selfish" is better for others? I think there is a "save all sentient …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/21 06:36 AM
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This makes sense. I used to do this many years ago. These days its more like I don't go after the lofty things because I don't like failure. And you can't fail if you didn't try. So I convince myself and others that I didn't even want them anyway. Two things you could consider. One is to make some very concrete goals and post them up in OYS. Both some that are where you want to end up - and some about where you want to be in X months. Your BW/BF goal is pretty good. Something like that. Another …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/21 06:03 AM
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When you realize that you are actually doing everyone a favour by being "selfish" it is going to absolutely blow your mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/21 04:31 PM
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I don't understand what this means. Not a single part of it. And I think perhaps I could learn something from it, I might have some of these mental traps, too. Could you break it down and make it more concrete with examples - like how does this look practically?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/21 04:20 PM
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I get that and agree. Part of the beauty of UM is the holistic thing. It has the process/standards side in the "code" bit and then a coherent way to structure how vision-mission-goals-actions tie in together. I think ICM just did a need/want list and that seems to have worked for him. Some of us need (a lot) more structure to keep us working for ourselves. At least I do. It's just me riding my hoppy horse of ACTION!! because many of us that excel at reflection introspection and writing suck at m…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/21 06:21 AM
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To be clear, this doesn't mean to go rambo and start being brutally honest to everyone you encounter (IMO). Can confirm. u/red_koan definitely stop lying, as you said. It's the go-to tool of the Nice Guy. But don't neglect deflecting, redirecting or just straight up refusing to answer. And definitely don't run around aimlessly vomiting truth on everyone they didn't ask for. I guess this event was an important step, but you saw how it can go sideways when you don't have a plan for what you want y…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 08:52 PM
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​ I'm a self-sacrificing f@gg*t who doesn't know how to take care of himself first (or even at all sometimes). How do I justify it? I can't. I put it in the OYS as such because I was pissed at myself, my OYS report is much more important to me at this point than any of that other stuff, but yet there I was rushing thru it late in the day because I didn't value my time enough to leave space for it. Being aware of it isn't enough, I've got to fix it, but we both know Mr. Nice Guy feels bad about i…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 06:13 PM
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Thanks Cam. One of the advantages of being an old lifter is that I've learnt to have patience with this kind of thing. It is possibly the greatest lesson the iron has taught me, given my legendary impatience (which is often a plus, to be fair). I will have more to share next week on the way forward. I am pretty positive about the perspectives with this PT/coach.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 06:02 PM
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I don’t agree with splitting net worth equally. Unless I miss my guess, the law says different, so that's a fuck you need to stop giving. The cost has already been incurred. Just like the time. It sucks, but forgive yourself and repay yourself by making today and every day forward as awesome as possible. This will be easy, too, when you realize that no matter how fucked you are, 100% guaranteed you are coming out of this with more actual disposable income FOR YOU than you had while married. And …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 05:57 PM
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FWIW I wholeheartedly disagree with JCX here. Belt is great at/above 70-80% of whatever your 1RM is as long as it isn't week 3 of lifting. It even gives some people 1-3% on bench (I don't belt for my bench, just for sake of completeness). My input tells you nothing other than two internet randos on a forum dedicated to getting women to still want to fuck you when they live with you disagree on a lifting specific issue. This should make you want to seek out a better source. Mark Rippetoe, Mike Tu…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 01:32 PM
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Stats: Age 37, Wife 35, married 13 years. 2 kids ages 4 and 6, 180cm and 84kg roughly 15% 20% BF Current lifts are: 77.5kg squat, 50kg Bench and 100kg DL for 5. FTFY. Consider GSLP when you stall. Career and Finances: This area of my life is going the best, I’m at a good level careerwise, good income and financially in a strong position vs others my age, especially as I am leading a single-income household. Welcome to a not very exclusive club of fat men who are great providers getting duty sex …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 11:26 AM
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Well done to your coach and you on getting form fixed this fast. Squatting high can be a bitch to fix and usually means there are other ego-based issues with other lifts. Be wary of form creep, focus on the shoulder and watch the gains flow. As for the rest... It's frustrating to watch you still jump around everyone else's frame, blame others, and put yourself last. Probably because it reminds me of myself. Lots of shit here, some of it you are aware of, some you aren't. I'll write out a lot of …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 06:37 AM
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As a chronic overthinker who spent (way too) many months mentally masturbating here I wholeheartedly agree. On the other hand, it does take at least a little while to bring all the fucked mental models to light, and until you do you are stuck. Or at least I was. Getting to setting out what you want for yourself in 7 categories in OYS10 isn't too bad for a self-diagnosed career beta. u/red_koan how you take this forward is key. Take the challenge from UM and set out concrete goals for those 7 are…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 07:41 PM
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+1 on the Layne Norton reference.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 06:23 PM
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I am prepping for divorce. What is "fair" here? A better deal for you or for her? For me I've found it useful to just list up things I DO give a F about and thinks I DO NOT give a F about. They are not very conventional, but they are mine - so my fair deal won't look like your fair deal or even my wife's fair deal. I am yet to enter into that particular battle, so this is just from notes I've found, but I think that having a clear view of your perfect outcome and then just working pragmatically …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 04:15 PM
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I see your flair is well-earned. Two small things I was wondering. Is your wife fucking you? If yes, does she fuck you well? If no, what value does she provide you, outside of making your life more entertaining to the casual observer than a reality tv show? I'm genuinely curious. I noticed that your wife actually went along with you leading on two things. Just that there was a bit of time-lag and a few complaints before compliance, and that compliance wasn't exactly enthusiastic. The latter is a…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 12:12 PM
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The answer to your prayers lies in the holy trinity of lift, sidebar and STFU. Do those three, then evaluate if outcomes in your life are improving. At some point you will need to start talking. That isn't now.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 11:55 AM
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This sounds like me to some extent. Below is what I've found to be true in my relationship, maybe it will resonate. · If my wife is hurt by what I’ve said (eg “I want you but I don’t need you”) do I refuse to soften it or do I apologise for speaking harshly (she feels that I am telling her I don’t want her) Shittest most likely. If you take her reaction out of it, what do YOU think? That's all that matters. · I suspect that my wife is naturally submissive (if I ask her who she belongs to, she wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 10:30 AM
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OYS #41 40s married, kid. 6’ sub 195 BW, 1000+ PL total, Sidebarx2. NMMNG+WISNIFGx4. Overall Life is pretty damn great. The parts that aren’t, I know exactly how to move forward. Physical I’ve seen a handful of doctors and had everything from X-rays to ultrasounds, mechanical testing and even an MRI. The good news is that nothing seems really torn to the extent that surgery would be necessary. Bad news is it can take months to heal properly. I don’t want this to become a chronic injury, so I am …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 10:21 AM
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​ It's rather pathetic, but having fun for me without guilt is a tall order at this point. It isn't pathetic. It's part of the process for most (all?) recovering Nice Guys here and a brilliant exercise, apart from a good thing in general. I'm sure as fuck not there yet so at least we're two. Red_Koan is as well, makes three off the top of my head. The more time I spend here the more time I see how really internalizing NMMNG and WISNIFG is 95% of the battle for many of us. And also realize just h…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/21 06:05 PM
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You vacillate between Covert Contract "I am pushing all these buttons and I see it is kind of working, but not quite. What if I try this combination/try pushing them more/harder?" and then the above. I think the former is truer to how you think and the latter is rather something you've learnt to parrot after whatever 60 OYS and 2-3 years of MRP. Admittedly it becomes less simple once you've figured out the first DL's and enter the CC-part of the DL's. Until Rian finishes his next book we don't h…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/21 07:52 PM
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that article is heavy on assertions and light on references. It is the basic agreed state of play - up to you to then either fact-check if you want, or try to disprove. Or just write words and stick to your story. If your story is getting you what you want, then by all means stick to it. it reads mostly like the same bullshit ego-protecting attitude I see around here: its all genetics, so just don't beat your kids & let yourself off the hook. Funny. I see the opposite. Every time kids are discus…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/21 05:47 AM
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If you are interested, look at huge population studies. Twin studies. Google some hard research. I kind of like the phrase "parents matter but they don't make a difference". Another one is "it's who your parents are, not what they do, that matters". As much as we've tried to prove the importance of your parents reading to you at night and going to your football games, I don't see much hard science on it once you control for correlation. Parents with successful kids are likely to read to them, th…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 10:29 PM
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give a gift from or through myself and have it actually be a gift, which was a powerful feeling. That's exactly it, once you stop being a Nice Guy, lacing your gifts with Covert Contracts. And indeed you'll start sharing your gifts more. It's early days, just nose to the grindstone, one foot in front of the other. And I don't write this for you. At some point seeing this in others and sharing the experiences is part of solidifying it for yourself. A girl I knew always said "People tend to give t…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 09:03 PM
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So first off. I am not saying that it's inconsequential if you have a dad or not. And if your parents are fucked or not. That'd be dumb. My point is that it's not 50/50 nature/nurture but more like 80/20 or 90/10. And that a shit childhood is indeed shit and problematic. But it doesn't mean you have "no chance in life" as Horns said. Not even close. Study 1: It seems to have some conflicting claims. I also can't really tell what the dependent variable is, and how much it varies. Neither can I te…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 08:46 PM
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I think saw there was a Christian RP how they do they make sense of all this? As far as I can tell, they don't. It ends up with a giant save-a-hoe CC. But that's my view. I hope many of them find happiness in doing what I can tell is using RP tools for BP goals. Actually, I find that the more I live for me, the more energy I have to make a difference for others, and even the world. I am totally woo-woo big picture meaning, Zen, save all sentient beings shit. It makes me happy. But I make myself …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 08:28 PM
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Did you read the ones I linked to horns?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 06:41 PM
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murdering the Nice Guy Love this. I think you just found your mission. :D
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 05:44 PM
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Of course nurture can ameliorate negatives or accent positives and have a larger impact in some situations over others. Point is just that it matters much, much less than what (we like to) think.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 05:43 PM
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This is fun! Thanks for explicating. I think the initial "pull" you describe is also PUA pull. It incidentally looks like my only pull game currently. I just look at my woman. Maybe tilt my head slightly. And she comes over and drops the panties. The latter part of your description would be something like insistent or strong push in my book. That I used to do until I transitioned to something more sophisticated or subtle if you will. Actual push in PUA terms I think is stuff like neg/disqual/rap…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 02:09 PM
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So, what you are describing is not far from the point of "are you sure?". In your example, you gave her a very easy opportunity to please you. She doesn't have to think, be creative, or even do much. Just put on some clothes you've provided and even fucking laid out on the bed. She chose not to take this opportunity. No biggie. You moved on and even smashed later. Pretty close to perfect IDGAF response in my book. This is the same dynamic of "are you sure?", at least for me. I allow my woman the…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 10:14 AM
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Like you I didn't know Game when I really could've leveraged it. So my understanding is patchy as well. But I've found it surprisingly applicable to a 15 year marriage. It speaks to me because it's so concrete. What you are talking about is something different from push/pull game from what I can understand. Which is admittedly little. I can't really picture how what you are describing looks in practical interactions.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 07:44 AM
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100% correct. 3 and 6 are where many of us get stuck. You've already identified them and are acting on them. As for 8 I always found it kind of dumb. For me it comes off forced and too obviously manipulative to do pick up in front of the wife with a random check out girl. But restricting my charming flirty self and changing my behaviour because I happen to have the wife around seems down right retarded. I just have fun, whatever the situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 04:21 AM
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Weird. I always thought you meant the good old PUA push/pull. But you invert the meaning of the two here If I understand it correctly. Plus actually mean something different than good old hot/cold. Like UW I'd be curious for resources on this concept.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/03/21 04:16 AM
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Good catch. That's kind of what I tried to say in the last comment. He is still working on not being Nice/Dancing Monkey. Who knows. Calling it "pull game" might make it click.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/21 08:27 PM
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I did autist version. Every morning for like two weeks to ensure I got it done that day. Then every day but either morning or later. Might not be optimal but it's simple and executable.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/21 05:22 PM
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You can rejoice in the fact that you figured this out in OYS 9 and not in OYS38 like me. 🙂 I like you thought I didn't know what I liked to do for fun recreation. But the barrier fell quickly as I constructed my Mission and filled out "recreation". Maybe it will for you, too.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/21 10:53 AM
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Lower effort is fine and even good for a Dancing Monkey like yourself. Nothing to do with weak. I let myself believe the timing logistics thing too. I would recommend deliberately initiating when you think there is no chance. Mine was mornings and afternoons when the kid was home. Just go for it. And if you get a no, move on. If at night, just go to sleep. Who cares. Just stop hiding your desire and sexuality. You will adapt to the lifting stuff. Bumps along the way to be sure. But you will lear…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/03/21 09:40 AM
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That thing you are trying to word into some sort of mini main-event was a shittest exacerbated by you running your mouth and being unattractive. You didn't drop the ball on setting out your vision. You dropped the ball by being affected by her cranking up the girl game. *Maybe* it was shitty comfort (read up, it's a J10 post). But I wouldn't bet on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 09:50 PM
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​ I can not want or need things, I must be self-sacrifice, because if I am selfish I will hurt others. That me being me would someone hurt others, as if they are passive to react to my expressing/acting on my wants/desires. That this is some a zero-sum game that me getting my wants/needs met means that someone else will lose and if even if they do that it is somehow my responsibility to account for everyone else’s problems. This was me for way, way too fucking long. Misandry Bubble, Manipulated …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 09:40 PM
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Many of us Nice Guys have to have an existential crisis and either drop the beta-farm mental models, or continue to ram our heads against a wall. And then find a new world view. Shit's not easy. Until it is.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 09:32 PM
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If it does. :)
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 09:28 PM
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Good thing you elaborated! Jesus man, those aren't weak initiations. Rather the opposite they are just different to your previous elaborate Dancing Monkey initiations. This isn't a bad thing. Sure, in the beginning, think about the attractiveness side. Some retards are fat slobs that rarely take a shower or change their underwear and ONLY touch their wives when they want them to touch their pee-pee. These guys need some fucking triage to raise them from a woefully unattractive place. That aint y…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 09:17 PM
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Just fight for him and be there and he will know. That strength comes through and you are modeling it for him now whether you know it or not. I cannot upvote this enough. It is a much neater, shorter and clearer way to say what I went on about at length in replies and DM's about my Origin Story. u/HornsOfApathy, your kid is better off than you know.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 08:57 PM
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my decision has long been made that if I somehow ended up dying tomorrow, my son will be as fucked as his mother is. How the hell do you decide what your son's fate is? You are indeed quite an impressive MRP Nostradamus, but your ego is blinding you here, dude. You are not that important, you just aren't. And on top of that you'll be there for your kid, and he'll know. Behind all the BS and games. The child eventually seeks the saner parent. Just keep being available and as present as you can. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 06:30 PM
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This speaks to me as I will potentially soon find myself in a similar situation. The drama can get quite intense and one can lose sight of the bigger picture that you'll be fine and so will he. Kids/humans are extraordinarily resilient. Some thoughts below that help me. if I do nothing, and his mother continues her solipsistic games, the kid will never have a shot at life. Outside of her mutilating him or something similarly horror-movie-crazy this is uncharacterstically dramatic and blatantly u…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 02:14 PM
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There's some shit hiding in the part about initiations. You aren't wrong about how it shouldn't take up your life. But shying away from it tells me, at least, that it would be useful if uncomfortable for you to do. It is more pathetic to not even try than to just acquiesce to her "we are not having sex" frame in my book. Further, framing initiation as an "herculean" effort is some next level BS to rationalize your cop out. It can take 30secs and if unsuccessful you just move on with your awesome…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 10:32 AM
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Your ruminations are part of the shift in mental models. I had the same in the first six months or so of OYS with the difference the they were much more hapless than yours. You are getting some good kicks on them. What I might poke at is 1) how are lifts shit if you PR 5 during the week? 2) like you have goals for approaching and seeking disapproval set some for fun stuff too. 2 outings with friends per week. Whatever floats your boat. I wish I had. The process would still have hurt but it would…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 09:58 AM
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Thanks. This is why I want a specialist. In fairness I am probably just fine. On the other hand test supplementation has positives when you are 40+ even for those of us who have managed to achieve relatively high (900+) levels through natural means. Maybe I could get my bench back over 300 for example. 🙂
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 09:53 AM
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That is brilliant. I have an awesome life really but I am so busy optimizing it even further that I often fail to stop and smell the roses. This is a concrete way to change that.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 09:50 AM
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Do daily weigh ins and take a weekly average to track weight loss. And add a waist circumference measurement.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 11:06 AM
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OYS #40 40s married, kid. 6’ sub 195 BW, 1000+ PL total, Sidebarx2. NMMNG+WISNIFGx4. Overall Once again found that writing out OYS made me realize where I am stuck/procrastinating and helped me treat myself like I actually give a shit about my wellbeing and where I want to go in life. Physical One major thing overshadows everything else this week. Managed to pick up a nasty hamstring injury that is seriously debilitating. Effectively it's much like a bad lower back injury. No bending over, const…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 10:44 AM
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I see what you're saying. Maybe I am. I guess we'll see. I'd say that in general I am very cool with the highs and lows. I've been too Zen about them, actually, which lead to some shitty outcomes. So the idea of having a Mission, goals etc. and be cognizant when I am not on the right path is to not let this keep me from working for me and towards the things I want. One thing I suck at is gratitude thinking. I've tried to establish the habit, but still iffy. Really good catch and input - it's get…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/21 04:26 PM
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All the guilt and shame, needing to be right, is others trying to get a man to do their bidding. QFT as they used to say on a board I frequented. I also agree that missions are arbitrary in a grander scheme of things, because ultimately life is just a big laugh anyway. But it's not unimportant which things you choose to fill your Mission with. Good ones have you working for you, to avoid the stuff you mention. u/UsefulWalk4 - SWDW's comment probably has value for you, tagging so you don't miss i…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/21 04:16 PM
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I still made myself clear and threw a last chance are you sure at her, but they were watered down in anticipation of the hard no that she'd been setting up. Pathetic, I know, but a hard cycle for me to break. What does this mean? I think there is some concrete ACTION you can adjust here that will help with mental models. Speaking of which, lets take a deep dive into I don't want to be an asshole, I'm a NiceGuy! I need to re-wire things pronto, because the current mindset has me going nowhere. Ye…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/21 06:54 AM
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Unchained Man has the best framework for constructing your Mission I've found. At least for retards like me who start out thinking "Recreation? I don't really enjoy recreation activities?". Actions that put YOU at the center flow from there.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/21 06:31 AM
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Go lift. And report it in next oys. Or keep making excuses. I have severe GI issues that messes with exactly sleep and energy. Lifting helps this.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/21 05:55 PM
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The pillow-fort thing is very common. But you wrote a lot about what she does. But not what you do. So when she throws up the tired/kids/shark week/sabbath/full moon whatever shit test, do you bat it away and go for it? Or do you back down like a bitch, drying up her pussy even more? Or worse. Do you let her beat you in subcommunication and not even go for it? If you've read my OYS you'll see I had something similarish. Not HARD no's but lots of pillow-forting (look it up, classic Field Report s…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/21 07:13 AM
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I can relate a lot to this. Remember I am just a rando on the internet without skin in the game, projecting his experience upon you. That said: Your wife You didn't answer if you like her, which answers the question. There is a small follow-up to consider, that Blarg asked me. How important is it that you don't like her right now. Sepean's post makes the point (as I understand it) that a woman will crawl across broken glass to fuck you (hat tip to gym girl) when she is invested. You are in the s…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/21 06:53 AM
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Exactly. Stay plan is go plan. Now go do shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/21 05:48 PM
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u/red_koan FWIW this was exactly my experience. If I don't take initiative to do something awesome, I am stuck either with each of us doing our own thing or worse, resentfully going along/listening to droning on. Once I started arranging shit and asking her along, problem was solved, it really was that easy. Not talking about it like an idiot "well, what do you like to do?". More like: So I am going to the XX/YY/ZZ today at 3, want to come?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/21 08:15 PM
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Initiation: My initiations were OK. My wife seems to be proactively killing initiations before they start, our maybe it’s just my imagination. What does this mean? Dread: A few weeks ago my ‘other people’ remark clearly generated some Dread in my wife. It only took 2-3 weeks to fade away as there appears to be none again. I’ll probably need to continually generate some dread to keep things rolling. It’s not really false dread, I’m not content in the least with my situation as it sits. Just don't…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/21 08:09 PM
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I really appreciate the write-up. You're helping me get to probably the root of things right now... lack of clarity and goals. I know that - aside from nutrition and lifting - things have slacked here at MRP for me in the past couple of months, and I think that's why. I've started getting a vision for what I want, but that only started to come after 6-9 months of being here. It seems like Unchained Man has helped you with defining your missions. I'll check it out. That 6-9 month mark is pretty m…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/21 07:30 PM
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I have been thinking the same thing for a while now but couldn't word it. This is indeed a good question.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/21 04:45 PM
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You are projecting, but that's normal here and usually why guys can see through other guys' BS - in some way another way of expressing the "sharing notes"-concept. I put sex out there with a larger section and an "orange" marker exactly to see if I am BS'ing myself or missing something. Very often gigantic blind spots have been pointed out to me in this manner, so I appreciate the input. That said, this doesn't seem like one. Usually when I get these inputs either they make sense to me immediate…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/21 08:24 AM
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I meant scapula, so sounds like you are good. Working with pauses can help too. Seems like you are on the right path, trying stuff out, figuring out what works for you. Maybe you'll be one of those weirdos who does lots of his chest work with dips, which would destroy other guys' shoulders. We'll see.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/21 08:10 AM
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I get much lower numbers when I check. Unless you drink mugs, not cups, it seems high. In any event, doesn't really matter. What matters is the subjective experience as tolerance varies. I got the advice once to drink as much as you want until it interferes with sleep. Then scale back 1 cup. That's your level. My googling says 61mg/cup: https://www.caffeineinformer.com/caffeine-content/coffee-instant
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/21 08:09 AM
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It's a superior programme, so I am not surprised. Get your Big Three lifts to 2/3/400 and your BW to 175-185 in the next 3-5 months so we have a good MRP-case for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/21 08:05 AM
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No way does a nespresso cup have 200mg. Well. Depends on the cup I suppose.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 09:12 PM
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Funny. I just closed mine. I just find it to be noise. I recommend having some SoMe messaging platforms though, WhatsApp, Messenger, whatever. u/ancient_resistance - how's the lifting going?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 07:52 PM
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Had to deload squats last week. When I got up to 175 lbs. I was able to do the lifts (not easily) but got a sharp pain in my groin. When I tried to do it again later in the week it hurt too much to go on. Dropped back to 160 and will work back up. Other lifts are going well. Over the past couple weeks I’m really seeing a change. Traps, lats, and chest are starting to pop a bit. Though probably not all that noticeable to anyone else, it feels great to see it in the mirror (and also frustrating th…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 06:56 PM
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I read that post again and reflected a bit. I am a simple guy, so maybe I just don't get it. If I do, then the answer is no, it's not because I feel like less of a Man if I don't fuck or whatever. I used to. My little experiment of fucking every day for a couple of months was about that. Lots (most?) of my fucking my wife has been about that, upon reflection. Didn't feel right, so I stopped. It's orange because fucking a lot and exploring sexuality in this way is part of what I want out of life …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 06:46 PM
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For me the energy thing is a lot of stuff coming together I think. Or maybe just a phase, we'll see. As for caffeine it's just a matter of getting my intake around 400mg/day, no higher. I just really like coffee, so it tends to creep up over time.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 06:35 PM
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Working through and around injury is a valuable skill that all lifters need to learn. Good thing you have a guide. Of course rest helps, but it isn't the answer. I take it you already fiddled around with grip width, tucking elbows, shoulders all that stuff?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 06:33 PM
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If you feel you're running into injury, stop. Tell him that you need a new strategy - or to convince you why continuing the current one is the right one. He is only as good as your feedback. A good coach will tailor the programme to your situation, thats what you pay him for.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 05:49 PM
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Were those events before or after you started your MRP journey? I knew about RP and had read some stuff but had not done OYS. My behaviour was attractive and not unattractive most of the time, including with other women, but not with the wife who I cast as the Madonna, poor thing. When I tried to integrate the two, I had not done enough work and buckled under innate as well as programmed "protect the whamen" shit. Dug myself a nice hole it took two years to exit. I can detail further, but that's…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 01:02 PM
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OYS #39 40s married, kid. 6’ sub 195 BW, 1000+ PL total, Sidebarx2. NMMNG+WISNIFGx4. Happiness A combination of cleaning up caffeine intake, improving sleep, managing work hours, prioritizing recreation and getting more organized has been freeing. I have a crisp, clear energy throughout most of the day that I had way back when, before everything went south. I am finding joy in life a lot of the time these days. I know that life has ups and downs. This week I have had 1-2 mornings of the usual wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 10:34 AM
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Training Good news is that regaining strength is easier than having to build it first time around. Bad news is you fatfucked yourself. This explains why you want to get really skinny. I understand your motivation better now. In your case I'd continue to lose weight and do a linear progression slowly dropping pounds until first reset. I've heard coaches say that programming for trainees regaining past strength is like programming for trainees on gear, so this should be possible for a while. At fi…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/21 06:53 AM
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Yeah, and the Iron kicks you the real deal. I guess your ego missed this bit: Most injuries involving the Iron come from ego. I once spent a few weeks lifting weight that my body wasn’t ready for and spent a few months not picking up anything heavier than a fork. Try to lift what you’re not prepared to and the Iron will teach you a little lesson in restraint and self-control.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/21 07:30 PM
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Basically dude has two ways to go. Do a proper linear progression like GSLP or Starting Strength. Keep BW constant until he starts missing weights, reset the weights and let BW creep up SLIGHTLY (tops 205-10) and get his PL total past 900 in the course of 3-6 months. Then switch to something less aggressive, cut 25lbs of fluff (3 months), while maintaining/slightly improving his total. Finish the weightloss. Cut to 165 (3-4 months) while learning the movements. Make improvements as he can, knowi…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/21 02:07 PM
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So I can share notes from actually doing this. Horns is not wrong about the validation thing. WAS is right that what you give a fuck about is up to you. Think about those things. If I were to give myself one piece of advice before launching into affairs, it would be "what do you want?". And then evaluating when and how to fuck strange fit into that. Not doing so, but just starting, I can tell you this: If you want to give your wife a chance to come along and have a great marriage with her, it is…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/21 08:02 AM
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Glad I wasn't the only one to see that. Yeah. And this is where I get a bit miffed when then dudes don't train seriously (or at all) but geek out over meal timing. Squat/bench/dead regularly and add weight progressively, eat enough to get strong, including enough that once had a face or came from something with a face, until you have a 1.000lb total, then you can start experimenting. That said, I'll indulge myself, because this is fun. I ought to try longer fasts. I've done 16/8 loads of times a…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/21 01:44 PM
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5X5 just encourage me to pile on weight by degenerating my form. One of the reasons lifting is such an important thing here is the ego-check. Barring limbs missing or other major health stuff, any dude who is not like 5'6 can get a 900 total within a year or two. But it requires checking your ego at the door when you enter the gym. It is an oft-humbling exercise. As Rollins says in that great piece: "The Iron never lies to you. You can walk outside and listen to all kinds of talk, get told that …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/21 10:02 AM
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On that we are definitely agreed. I just did the shark circling the barbell before heavy squats so I feel like I am on the right path.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/21 08:20 AM
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You are right, and so is u/Cam_Winston21. Calling it broscience was 100% wrong. Saying it was of minor/miniscule importance and the benefits are contested would've been more accurate. For context we are having this discussion in the OYS of a dude who has been pressing 95 lbs for six months, and whose most recent "action" with regards to exercise was to buy gym clothes. Most guys here really don't need to think about meal timing outside of preference. But I don't want to let my comments stand as …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/21 06:11 AM
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Fast food – I think it’s the soybean oil or perhaps I’ve just read too much mangan150. I don't know what this means, but if you get a decent coach they will straighten you out. Ultimately the micros aren't important unless you have a ridiculously strict and monotonous diet.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/21 08:49 PM
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it is clearly backed up by many studies, both in controlled settings in recent decades as well as empirically for thousands of years. We are 100% in disagreement here. I'll leave it there and save longwinded debates of mTOR pathways, insulin sensitivity, the role of endogenously produced HGH, pubmed links and all that stuff. Because happily we do agree 100% on this: This isn't the place for having in-depth debate about nutritional studies IMO. Agreed. It's not debatable in the macro, only the mi…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/21 08:44 PM
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