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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
17	No one prepares you for the sheer volume of discovery in a high conflict divorce.	Rant	ImpishDevilEmoji	/r/Divorce_Men	29/05/24 11:54 PM

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2	How do you manage the anger of a 50/50 financial split? This is the right answer. If you had the belief of "her" money and "my" money during your marriage, that was wrong (and probably not healthy to the partnership). During the marriage, it was "our" money. In divorce, we split that equitably. I got 36% and she got 64%. I would have been elated to get 50/50 but my income is ten times higher and in a long term marriage, the courts want some equity when they look at the financial pictures even five years or more out. I settled for 36/64 after my attor…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/06/24 11:04 PM
3	How does 50-50 work? I was wanting 70/30 with my ex initially but we settled on 50/50 week on/week off and I truly have no regrets. I love my week with my kids and I love my week without them. Regarding work schedules, I guess my thought there is that it is your responsibility to adjust your work to fit your circumstances to the best of your ability. Drop your side hustles and maybe drop the international travel if it can't be adjusted to line up with your week without kids.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/06/24 03:39 PM
1	No one prepares you for the sheer volume of discovery in a high conflict divorce. Washington state has no set limit but some counties do. It's county by county / state by state with these court rules.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/06/24 05:09 PM
0	No one prepares you for the sheer volume of discovery in a high conflict divorce. The link you posted is for federal court. Family court is not a federal court. In Washington State for example, each county sets its rules. Many counties have no limits and the larger counties typically have limits. For example, King county (Seattle) limits discovery to 15 additional interrogatories in addition to a "pattern set", which is a preapproved generic set of discovery for certain case types.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/06/24 04:31 PM
0	No one prepares you for the sheer volume of discovery in a high conflict divorce. This is not true. Each jurisdiction, county by county, has different rules. Some have no limits and some have limits. I’ve never heard of one having a limit of only 25 though	/r/Divorce_Men	02/06/24 04:41 AM
6	No one prepares you for the sheer volume of discovery in a high conflict divorce. The one that stands out as the dumbest was something like “In the past five years, state the date, time, place of each instance of consumption of a recreational or illegal substance, including marijuana. List the name, address and phone number of each person present for each instance.” For me, that one was easy as I had consumed an edible just once in that time period. I wanted to send that one back to her because she was a daily user but my attorney said it serves no purpose and we left it out.…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/05/24 12:17 AM
4	No one prepares you for the sheer volume of discovery in a high conflict divorce. No. We sent back a very targeted set of interrogatories aimed at uncovering her fraudulent expenses in her business and that she chooses to work half time. She chose to settle without responding and without mediation. Her attorney sent a settlement offer just a couple weeks after we sent the interrogatories to her. I think he also realized from my discovery responses that she had been not totally honest about many things with him.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/05/24 12:14 AM
4	No one prepares you for the sheer volume of discovery in a high conflict divorce. Absolutely. I was represented by a fantastic attorney who was head and shoulders above the few my ex cycled through. We objected to about a third of the questions and RFPs.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/05/24 12:09 AM
2	Is it wrong to feel relieved and “lighter” after being asked for a divorce? My first morning waking up after the initial separation and living separately was one of the most peaceful feelings in the world. I brewed my coffee, poured it into my mug and watched the steam rise from the cup. I teared up with the beauty of the moment and the peace in my life. The divorce started amicably but ended up high conflict (and still is even after everything has been final for a while), but that peace remains. I simply compartmentalize her high conflict nature and ignore her constant…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/05/24 05:42 PM
3	Why are there no consequences for them? From what you describe, it very much sounds like you're dealing with a High Conflict Personality, which can be common with people with BPD. I very highly recommend the book "Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder" by Bill Eddy (https://a.co/d/30lzeKJ). My ex is also a BPD with a High Conflict Personality and this book has helped navigate and predict each and every move or conflict that comes up, which is constant especially aft…	/r/Divorce_Men	15/05/24 07:26 PM