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| 16 | Man Triggered By My Post History On This & Similar Subs, Uses Slurs Such As "Whores" & "Faggot," Justifies Male Violence Through Evolutionary Biology, Sees "Legit" Pornography As Acceptable Due To Lack Of Explicit Trafficking (Missing Underlying Problem Of Misogyny & Sexualization Of Women/Children)"But hey, he's taking an exam in a bit so you know he's "educated" I'm dead HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 04:10 PM |
| 9 | Man Triggered By My Post History On This & Similar Subs, Uses Slurs Such As "Whores" & "Faggot," Justifies Male Violence Through Evolutionary Biology, Sees "Legit" Pornography As Acceptable Due To Lack Of Explicit Trafficking (Missing Underlying Problem Of Misogyny & Sexualization Of Women/Children)"He needs to stop pretending like he cares about porn stars and his fallen brothers in the war against feminism, and just admit that he's jealous that he will never be as decent or attractive of a human being as some other men with their perfect personalities and perfect bodies" oh my god I'm laughing so hard right now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 04:08 PM |
| 1 | Men literally have no empathy for women: A case study on prostitution and pornYeah, literally one hour after I made this post, I actually made another post about Hollywood so I totally feel you HAHAHA | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 06:30 AM |
| 1 | Men literally have no empathy for women: A case study on prostitution and pornThank you so much, this really means a lot to me <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 06:28 AM |
| 6 | Men literally have no empathy for women: A case study on prostitution and pornthis is nauseating and I need to puke now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 06:27 AM |
| 1 | Men literally have no empathy for women: A case study on prostitution and pornI agree, you can seriously never trust them! We started "dating" in January 2021 and he became my "boyfriend" in May 2021. Yes, we've slept together, and no, this doesn't sound like an interrogation - I think it's better to be wary than to be a fool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 06:26 AM |
| 4 | Men literally have no empathy for women: A case study on prostitution and pornThank you, you're so sweet <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 06:25 AM |
| 7 | Men literally have no empathy for women: A case study on prostitution and pornYeah, I made a different post on FDS some time ago regarding my boyfriend having LVM/pickme friends. And regarding the men at the bar, those were random strangers that he happened to bump into. Anyways, that's why I only referred to him as a regular "boyfriend" in this post, not HVM. I'm still vetting hard, and although I do agree with you and think it's a red flag as well, I'm just staying wary and keeping an eye out for things in the meantime. Thank you so much (': | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 10:32 PM |
| 7 | Men literally have no empathy for women: A case study on prostitution and pornYup, the guys at the bar were random strangers | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 10:30 PM |
| 5 | Men literally have no empathy for women: A case study on prostitution and pornYeah, the people at the bar were random strangers | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 10:30 PM |
| 3 | Men literally have no empathy for women: A case study on prostitution and pornYeah, I made a different post on FDS some time ago regarding my boyfriend having LVM/pickme friends. That's why I only referred to him as a regular "boyfriend" in this post, not HVM. I'm still vetting hard, and although I do agree with you and think it's a red flag as well, I'm just staying wary and keeping an eye out for things in the meantime. Thank you <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 10:29 PM |
| 0 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?Thank you, best comment I've read on here so far (': | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 05:49 PM |
| 3 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?I struggle with the same things that you do, so I know what you mean and how you feel. You're right, "what an abysmal waste of time when I could've been living" - it takes so much time to unlearn and uncondition ourselves, and I'm still going through the process right now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 05:47 PM |
| 2 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?Fuck that, indeed! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 05:46 PM |
| 7 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?<3 <3 <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 03:52 AM |
| 7 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?Thank you for this <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 03:24 AM |
| 8 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?"Also the fact packaging for male skincare has to be a certain way for them to buy it is crazy to me, you can't have unisex packaging it has to be 'manly' whatever that is. I could see unisex packing as great way forward on waste reduction, if only men weren't such bloody toddlers." - I'm literally laughing out loud so hard at this! It's ridiculous how there has to be "manly" lotion and "manly" sunscreen and "manly" face masks, because apparently being moisturized, preventing skin cancer, and ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 02:16 AM |
| 7 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?THANK YOU | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 02:09 AM |
| 1 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?Oh, no, I'm sorry to hear about that but that makes sense why you would do so, then! I guess this post wasn't about altering ourselves for these reasons, but rather just to question the beauty norms in place that have nothing to do with practicality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 02:08 AM |
| 4 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?I'm sorry to hear about how you went through such a tough time with your past relationship, school, and finances, in addition to not being around friends and family. I hope you're doing better now, and I'm glad to hear that the routine added whatever sense of normalcy it could to your life <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 02:02 AM |
| 2 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?"I am pretty either way - I clean and maintain my face, my eyes sparkle because I am happy, I try to be kind and gentle because beauty is on the inside too and content and honestly that’s all that matters" - yes, this! Thank you <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 01:59 AM |
| 3 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?Wow, I just read through your post as well as the comments, and it was nice to see everyone's thoughts, thanks for sharing! Congrats on the clear skin, by the way, and most of all, I'm genuinely extremely happy to hear that you're so confident now compared to before - it's like now you can control the makeup and only wear a little bit of mascara, rather than the makeup controlling you and "forcing" you to hide your imperfections and acne. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 01:58 AM |
| 7 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?Thank you so much for sharing your perspective on the fact that in order to find what truly worked for you, you had to remove yourself from the situation first. I never really thought about this, but your insight was very eye-opening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 01:49 AM |
| 4 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?"Do what you enjoy, and forget the rest." - this is good advice, and I would probably be a lot happier if I didn't "overthink" things, as you said. I find it difficult a lot of the times (if not all the time), but hopefully I learn to find some sort of peace over time | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 01:47 AM |
| 10 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?"just because they are able to find some joy in the industry that preys on them" - this sentence alone is concerning enough on its own. Why should we find joy in something that actively preys on us, objectifies us, and oppresses us? And you're right, it's not just makeup, but fashion can be lumped into this same category as well. It's not about "shaming" people for their choices, it's more about the fact that we should be questioning everything that we do "for ourselves" instead of just complace… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 01:45 AM |
| 5 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?Thank you <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 01:41 AM |
| 7 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?"I don't wear makeup on feminist grounds and even though I know a ton of strong, self assured women who do, I do think that when women wear makeup it's a kind of subservience to patriarchy" - yes, I know exactly what you mean, and I wholeheartedly agree with you, it's so refreshing to hear that someone feels the same way about these issues as I do. Thanks for the link to the paper, by the way! My boyfriend has acknowledged all of the problems that I find with the beauty/fashion industry, and I'm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 01:40 AM |
| 8 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?"Are we expected to put on makeup/style ourselves if we want to be treated well? Can't we be treated well without forking out money for fashion and makeup?" - this, exactly! I'm glad to hear about your current partner, we should be treating all people wonderfully for who they are inside, regardless of how much time and money we spend on clothes or makeup or other "beauty" choices which sometimes aren't really "choices" at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 12:13 AM |
| 8 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?Thank you, the snake oil analogy really hit home and was a good way to put it, I'll definitely think about this <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 12:10 AM |
| 17 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?Reclaiming is definitely a libfem idea. Although makeup and porn are nowhere near being the same thing, we can use that as an example. Liberal feminists think that they can "reclaim" female empowerment, and their flawed stance is to groom young girls and promote sex work. This isn't reclaiming anything - it's just repackaging something meant to benefit men, in a palatable form for women, without fixing any actual problems. Similarly, we can tell ourselves that we're "reclaiming" the beauty indus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 12:09 AM |
| 11 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?"Imagine how it feels to not have to pay attention to what's on your face, during the whole day, ever. That's the freedom that the average man feels." "Interesting that male billionaires and CEOs don't wear makeup." THANK! YOU! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 12:03 AM |
| 13 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?"In this thread, you will find a lot of women in denial about why they do the things they do, since it's uncomfortable to analyse the conditioning. Frankly, I'm quite surprised at the libfem takes here. But when it comes down to it, performative femininity, which includes makeup, is something that takes time, money, and attention away from women, when they could be attaining real power." - yes, I thought FDS would be a safe space to express these ideas, since people here share the ideology of ra… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 12:00 AM |
| 6 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?Using your example of the internet, you're right that it immensely benefits capitalism/the patriarchy, but the thing with makeup is that it's specifically a women's issue because more women than men purchase/use makeup products, whereas a more evenly balanced ratio of men:women use the internet. It's not just the internet. Whether we like it or not, we inherently live in a capitalist society, and we have to buy food to survive, we have to pay rent/mortgage to avoid being homeless. Do supermarket… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 11:52 PM |
| 2 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?Thank you <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 11:37 PM |
| 6 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?"I think what you are talking about is women who are brainwashed so much into thinking they need loads of skincare, hair care and makeup products" - yup, I acknowledge that everyone, men and women alike, should have a good skincare routine, because healthy skin is something that we should all strive for (I'm sure that no one enjoys acne, flaky skin, or skin cancer that could have been prevented with sunscreen). However, there's a difference between a normal skincare regimen, and these people who… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 11:34 PM |
| 14 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?I agree with your entire comment, especially your friend who "made it sound like an opportunity whereas I view it as part of female oppression and objectification." Like you, I also wish everyone would just start seeing all of these things as pointless, but sadly it's not, since, as hard of a truth as it may be to swallow, it is a fact that "women who are more attractive are [simply] treated better." Thank you for including the Wollstonecraft quote. I wish that 18th century women's problems were… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 11:23 PM |
| 8 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?Thank you for the sub recommendation <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 11:16 PM |
| 11 | Makeup: How do you ladies do it?I definitely don't blame any women for choosing to engage in these behaviors (sometimes it does feel a bit like "if you can't beat them, join them," though), but it definitely does still make me sad, and that's just the honest way that I feel. I know what you mean and I totally agree - something like this takes time, and although we would like to hope that we can change it, it may not happen in our lifetime, or even ever, so in the meantime, we still have to play the shitty cards that we've been… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 11:10 PM |
| 2 | When a Boyfriend Has LVM/Pickme FriendsYou're right, I don't know how he acts behind my back when I'm not around, and I guess when people are alone, that's when they show who they really are - people's true selves are how they behave when no one else is watching | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 11:08 PM |
| 3 | When a Boyfriend Has LVM/Pickme FriendsI know what you mean. One of my friends is a total pickme who 1) chases after older men, 2) homewrecks other people's relationships, and 3) has never been in a serious relationship in her entire life as she's always stuck in a friends with benefits situation if not just hooking up with random strangers. I've known her for almost 20 years, though, so even though I'm not that close to her anymore because I don't want my close friends circle to be filled with low value people, she still treats me w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 09:18 PM |
| 5 | When a Boyfriend Has LVM/Pickme FriendsI don't have a tiktok account - it was just after I met them in person for the first time, I looked them up on a browser and stumbled across both of their accounts. Considering how they are in real life, their internet personas hardly came as a surprise, unfortunately. Thank you for the slow fade advice, I definitely agree with you! It's what I've been doing with my LVM/pickme friends from my own personal life, but my boyfriend isn't quite there yet right now, I guess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 08:32 PM |
| 3 | When a Boyfriend Has LVM/Pickme FriendsThank you (': | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 08:29 PM |
| 3 | When a Boyfriend Has LVM/Pickme FriendsI'm so sorry to hear about that, but I'm extremely glad that he's an ex now. Thank you <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 08:29 PM |
| 7 | When a Boyfriend Has LVM/Pickme FriendsHe doesn't consume media that has gratuitous rape, per se (I was just listing that as a personal dealbreaker of mine), but he does consume media that I find misogynistic. However, I've seen a lot of ladies on FDS say that they enjoy these exact same series, which is why I feel pretty conflicted. For example, his favorite fantasy series is The Witcher (1. books, 2. video games, and 3. TV series). I dislike all of them because: mages (who are mostly women) can use magic to alter their physical app… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 08:26 PM |
| 8 | When a Boyfriend Has LVM/Pickme FriendsYes, for sure! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 05:19 AM |
| 11 | When a Boyfriend Has LVM/Pickme FriendsThank you <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 05:18 AM |
| 20 | When a Boyfriend Has LVM/Pickme FriendsLike I said in another comment, I haven't asked him to cut them off because he's new to the city and even though he's definitely been spending more time with his new friends than his LVM/pickme friends, he's still not as close with them yet for whatever reason and I don't want him to feel socially/emotionally isolated/alone, especially with covid making it even harder to make good friends. I do hope that over time he'll naturally outgrow them, but if too much time passes and he still chooses to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 04:37 AM |
| 12 | When a Boyfriend Has LVM/Pickme FriendsLike I said, it's too early to call him HVM because it's only been a year, but as I get to know him and his circle more and more, I'm sure that time will reveal all the real facts. Thank you (': | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 04:35 AM |
| 10 | When a Boyfriend Has LVM/Pickme FriendsI haven't asked him to cut them out, not for that reason, but because he's new to the city and even though he's definitely been spending more time with his new friends than his LVM/pickme friends, he's still not as close with them yet for whatever reason and I don't want him to feel socially/emotionally isolated/alone, especially with covid making it even harder to make good friends. As for the LVM/pickme acquaintances that both my boyfriend and I have, we don't contact those people at all anymo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 04:33 AM |
| 17 | When a Boyfriend Has LVM/Pickme FriendsCompanionship and jokes, you're absolutely right about that! I don't want to believe that "he's probably just like them," but I'm definitely always on the lookout and I'll keep my ears and eyes peeled to make sure I don't ignore anything | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 04:30 AM |
| 33 | When a Boyfriend Has LVM/Pickme FriendsFive years... thank you so much for sharing your story and I'm truly very sorry to hear about everything, I'll definitely keep this in mind | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 04:27 AM |
| 29 | When a Boyfriend Has LVM/Pickme FriendsYes, I've told him everything that I've already written in this post about these people, and he agrees with me that it's "awful and cringe," as you just said. He continues to be friends with them "despite these things" because it's not a "dealbreaker" for him, and they are otherwise good friends to him from his point of view (both of them are "fun" to hang out with, interesting to talk to, and they've also been there for him in the past when they all went to university together and they were the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 04:27 AM |
| 87 | Been seeing this guy for a few weeks and he does meet a lot of my requirements however he watches porn, a few times a month he says he can get it to zero if i don't like it, it does make me uncomfortable though. Idk should i still give him a chance or find someone who didn't watch to begin with?Please dump him. --- I'm currently in a relationship with someone who doesn't watch porn because 1) he understands that it's not respectful to his partner to consume such media while in a monogamous committed relationship and 2) he also understands that the porn industry is rampant with rape, coercion, assault, and basically any other horrendous crime known to humanity. I never "forced" my current partner to quit porn - he knew these things of his own accord without me having to constantly "nag"… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 01:04 AM |
| 1 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMThank you so much <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 06:45 AM |
| 1 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMI'm not doubting any of what you just said, and I never said that any of these things were untrue. I know that there are a lot of powerful women, in terms of their actual "power" in the typical sense of what the word means. But everything else about the game isn't very feminist friendly, in my honest opinion. Anyways, whether it is or is not feminist isn't really important at the moment, nor is this meant to be some sort of confrontation/challenge - my original post was about why I'm uncomfortab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 11:41 PM |
| 1 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMIt's disturbing my peace, you're right. Red flags are different for every person, but I guess these are mine, and at the end of the day "it doesn't matter if we think they're red flags or not because either way it's bothering you." Thank you for your help and for your kind wishes <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 06:33 PM |
| 1 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMThank you <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 06:31 PM |
| 2 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMYes, if anything, this post helped me get a lot of things off my chest. Thank you so much for your kind wishes <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 06:31 PM |
| 1 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMThank you <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 06:30 PM |
| 1 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMThank you so much for the well-rounded advice <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 06:29 PM |
| 2 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVM"Your trauma yes, traumatized you, but it also served a purpose to develop these gut feelings." Thank you so much for this as well as your entire comment. It's difficult to listen to my gut sometimes, but I know that it's there for a reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 06:29 PM |
| 1 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMThank you so much for your detailed post, I definitely still have a long way to go when it comes to trusting my gut, but thanks for the support and input <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 06:27 PM |
| 1 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMThank you <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 06:26 PM |
| 2 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMThat's so awful, I'm sorry to hear about that but I'm also glad that he's your ex now and not your current partner. Thanks for the input! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 06:26 PM |
| 2 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMSituational awareness, thank you so much for using this term - I was struggling to find the right words to explain myself. And yes, I realize that now. I've been trying to heal from my trauma for years and even though it's been nearly half a decade, I'm not totally there yet. Strangely enough (and despite all these things I listed in this post), I actually felt myself getting better while in this relationship because I pushed myself a lot more in certain ways than if I were still single, but ove… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 06:24 PM |
| 1 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMYeah, I definitely feel you about cutting off 95% of your old friend group. I think I actually made a post on FDS about that a while back, so I totally relate to you. It's definitely frustrating, but it's what has to be done, and like you said, when you no longer have anything in common with them and you can no longer tolerate them, then what's the point of keeping them around? Oh, for sure! I still don't trust him completely and I'm always on high alert. I would like to hope that he's really ch… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 06:19 PM |
| 2 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMWe actually grew up in the same small town (from childhood until high school) and didn't talk for a while, but now we both ended up in the same big city after college, which is how we reconnected after some years. I definitely agree about your points regarding LV friends. Even I myself have some LV friends, but like you said, those were mostly from childhood and now that we're all grown up, not only have I simply distanced myself, but I don't talk to them at all anymore. These old LV friends of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 06:14 PM |
| 1 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMThis is definitely what I'm afraid of. It's so stupid when they think they "did so much" and "made so many sacrifices" but it's actually the bare minimum of what a normal relationship should be like anyways. In any case, relationships go both ways, and if he changed something of his to be with me, then in all likelihood I also changed something of mine to be with him - it's just the way that things work when we get into relationships with people who are inherently different than ourselves. We sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 06:08 PM |
| 2 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVM"We want a grown man with a developed cerebral cortex, not a child." This! I'm laughing so hard but this is straight up facts! Yeah, I don't know if he simply lacks resolve or is an actual hypocrite, but in either case, it's not very encouraging. I'm really sorry to hear about your ex, that sounds absolutely awful but unfortunately sounds like the terrible reality a lot of us have lived through/are currently living through - I also have next to zero expectations for men in general, but especiall… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 06:03 PM |
| 3 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMWow, thank you so much! "They aren't clouded by past trauma, they are honed by experience." I never thought of it this way, but you put it into such perfect words. Rather than seeing my instincts as coming from trauma, I should see them as coming from experience - thanks for the perspective. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 05:56 PM |
| 6 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMThank you! This was also a main thing I brought up to him. "Hair/nails/makeup aren't inherently sexual but they are aspects of performed femininity." If he was really just trying to spread positivity to everyone, then shouldn't he compliment her nerdy graphic t-shirt? A bunch of bullshit, really. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 05:55 PM |
| 2 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMThank you so much <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 06:33 AM |
| 1 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMThank you so much <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 04:37 AM |
| 2 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMThanks for sharing your perspective about media, the input is helpful! And yeah, regarding complimenting other women, it's definitely a humiliating and demeaning experience to say the least. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 03:45 AM |
| 3 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMNot doubting that the video games aren't well made and fun to play through, but that's not really my point. A lot of things are good overall but tend to have flaws. Sometimes these flaws are small and we can easily overlook them, but other times they're absolute deal breakers. It's a really good game (except that you can have explicit, graphic, realistic in-game sex where 99% of the prostitutes and "romance" interests are all stereotypically sexy/conventionally attractive in the eyes of most het… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 02:26 AM |
| 18 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMUgh, that's exactly what I said/thought! He definitely has volunteered/donated money to actual good/worth causes/issues, so that's not the problem here, but the problem is definitely the fact that he lumps in "complimenting women" as part of these "random acts of kindness" when really, it's just a bullshit excuse to justify his disrespectful behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 01:40 AM |
| 9 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMThe pro-animal-rights just to have sex with vegan women, I totally get where you're coming from, and sadly, that's not unheard of, thanks for the comment! I'm not sure if I believe him, or if I simply refuse to believe him, but either way, there's definitely a lack of trust/safety, and again, I don't know if this is due to him actually being shady or because of past trauma - it's hard to trust/gauge my own instincts/judgments sometimes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 01:37 AM |
| 10 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMI totally agree! ""If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor." -Desmond Tutu" Maybe he's not actively supporting these nasty things, but if he's not actively boycotting them, then he's not really as against them as he makes himself out to be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 01:34 AM |
| 21 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMThank you! Yeah, I can deeply sense that he needs female validation, whether from strangers or his sketchy friends, and you're right, it's eating away at my self esteem almost as much as my past exes who were porn addicts or who explicitly cheated on me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 01:33 AM |
| 15 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVM"Even the best people will eventually take on the shitty traits of the people around them, if the majority of their circle is problematic. Almost nobody is immune to this." Yes, absolutely this! It doesn't matter if you're a wonderful person - surrounding yourself with negative energy can only do more harm than good. I agree with your point about TV and video games. Knowing is one thing, but feeling something deep down is entirely different, and as you said, if someone felt it, they would avoid … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 12:31 AM |
| 13 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMI agree with you on him not being able to handle the rocky parts of a relationship very well, thanks for your input! And what? That's awful, fake woke feminist men are honestly the worst. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 12:25 AM |
| 10 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMAbsolutely! Whether something was done purposely/maliciously or as "only" an accident, a mistake is a mistake, assault is assault, and so the blame/responsibility must always be upheld and perpetrators need to be held accountable, no excuses. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 12:08 AM |
| 17 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMThank you <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 11:38 PM |
| 5 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMThank you so much, you're really sweet and this honestly made my day (': | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 11:29 PM |
| 10 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMThank you <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 11:17 PM |
| 8 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMI agree, positivity isn't just compliments! He's really nice to everyone, and with the specific examples you listed above, yes, he holds doors open for everyone as well as helps everyone carry heavy things. Just for me, it's a personal preference that I don't feel valued when my man compliments other women (or is overly friendly or overly helpful to another woman, even if that's just who he is as a person and he has no ill intentions). Although there might not be anything inherently, morally "wr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 11:16 PM |
| 40 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMYes, the utter disrespect! Thanks for your comments about the male friends who don't treat women right as well as the close friendships with the pickmes, I really needed to hear this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 11:13 PM |
| 20 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMYes! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 10:59 PM |
| 2 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMThank you <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 10:48 PM |
| 4 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVM"But at a certain point, we have to be careful about just hunting for things to be mad about. Self-sabotage is very real, and you said it yourself, you do have some healing to do. Just keep your eyes open." This definitely resonates with me, and you're extremely right. Thank you so much for everything and for understanding. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 10:47 PM |
| 6 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMThank you! I've read through already but it never hurts to see it again <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 10:44 PM |
| 102 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMThank you <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 10:40 PM |
| 6 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMI'm laughing so hard HAHAHA this comment about him not being malicious but a little dumb is so savage but I know what you mean - he's definitely not a "bad" guy by any means, but sometimes he does stupid things which should have never happened if he'd been smarter about it and just gave it some thought first beforehand. I know it's not my job to teach a man how to be a man, but because it's my first relationship that isn't filled with abusive red flags left and right, I feel a little confused as… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 10:38 PM |
| 56 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMThank you so much, I agree with everything you said. Your last paragraph especially hit home and is exactly what I was thinking ("The fact you had to tell him to stop doing these things suggests he only does so because of YOU and how he feels about you, not because he objectively realizes they are inappropriate"). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 10:36 PM |
| 9 | NEED ADVICE - Can't Tell If New Partner Is HV After Having Been With Too Many LVM/NVMYes, I agree with you that someone should not be criticized for learning something they were taught rather than reaching the conclusion themselves! That's not what I'm worried about - what I'm scared about is if he actually didn't learn anything at all, as in, what if he didn't understand and learn why something needed to change, and he instead just changed his behavior blindly, like a soldier blindly following orders or a dog blindly following commands without truly understanding the how/why be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 10:13 PM |
| 2 | Can't Tell If New Partner Is HVM After Having Been With Too Many LVMThe toy car omg HAHAHA. Yes, same here, my pickme friends have told me that I need to just work on myself, and wow, your words really hit home. Whenever he's done something to hurt me, he says that I'm being unfair because I'm "punishing him for doing something that he didn't even realize was wrong," similar to how your ex pretended to act innocent. Even if this current guy isn't being manipulative and he genuinely hurt me on accident, that doesn't excuse his actions, because pain is pain, and j… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 01:24 AM |
| 5 | Can't Tell If New Partner Is HVM After Having Been With Too Many LVMHonestly thank you, I really need this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 01:19 AM |
| 2 | Can't Tell If New Partner Is HVM After Having Been With Too Many LVMI mentioned it in another comment that he definitely does have a lot of male friends, but I just didn't mention it in this post because I didn't think it was relevant. But yes, you're definitely right! Well-rounded people have well-rounded friend groups | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 01:19 AM |
| 2 | Can't Tell If New Partner Is HVM After Having Been With Too Many LVMWow, now I'm really scared! Your story is so horrific, I'm really sorry that that happened to you, but I'm also glad that he's an ex now hahaha. Thank you for telling me to listen to my gut. It's never been wrong in the past, so I don't know why it wouldn't be right this time around, either | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 01:16 AM |
| 2 | Can't Tell If New Partner Is HVM After Having Been With Too Many LVMHe definitely does have a lot of male friends, I just didn't mention it in this post because I didn't think it was relevant. Yup, I found that strange too and that's exactly how I feel as well, it makes me extremely uneasy because I feel like he's always "on the lookout" . . . Thank you for your input by the way! I never saw it as these women "fixing" him before, but this is definitely gave me some food for thought | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 01:14 AM |
| 3 | Can't Tell If New Partner Is HVM After Having Been With Too Many LVMThank you so much, I agree that a healthy relationship should feel safe and secure. That's definitely not the way I feel right now, and I thought it was because of unhealed trauma from my past relationships, but trauma or not, you're right in that his current behavior doesn't help to make me feel any more safe or secure, and that alone should be enough of a sign | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 01:10 AM |
| 12 | Can't Tell If New Partner Is HVM After Having Been With Too Many LVMThank you! It's difficult to follow instincts sometimes when you're bombarded with so many things from the outside (bad advice from friends, societal pressure, etc.), but my gut has never been wrong in the past, so you're right, I should listen to it now as well | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 01:08 AM |
| 10 | Can't Tell If New Partner Is HVM After Having Been With Too Many LVMNot a video game tutorial, oh man, that got me HAHAHA, but yes you're absolutely right, thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 01:07 AM |
| 5 | Can't Tell If New Partner Is HVM After Having Been With Too Many LVM"The women around him don't feel special; he treats every woman with the same amount of attention and generosity... it makes us feel, well, no different from any other woman... He probably enjoys serving women which is great, but what you feel is technically him being disloyal by serving other women and not being able to tell if you're more important" Yes, thank you! I think it's great that he's kind and generous towards women, in direct stark contrast to some NVM who will go out of their way to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 12:57 AM |
| 9 | Can't Tell If New Partner Is HVM After Having Been With Too Many LVMI don't think I'm a total piece of shit, I just meant that other people's responses that weren't as supportive as this one, made me feel like shit. But that aside, yes, I totally get what you mean, and thank you so much for your reply! Yeah, in a couple years hopefully I finish my engineering PhD so I don't just have a bachelors degree hahaha, but YUP, I 100% agree with you that society brainwashes us to settle for less than the best, and it's difficult unlearning something that has literally be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 12:46 AM |
| 7 | Can't Tell If New Partner Is HVM After Having Been With Too Many LVMNo, I haven't. I don't know if that's because he met them out of town so they don't live in the area (the area where he currently works and where I currently go to grad school), if he's not that close to them to begin with, or if it's because he's hiding something that he doesn't want me to know. He's expressed his frustration before at how I don't trust him, but with my past relationship experience and with his current behavior, I don't know what anyone could possibly expect | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 12:41 AM |
| 15 | Can't Tell If New Partner Is HVM After Having Been With Too Many LVMThank you so much for your response, you basically said what everyone else on this post has been saying, but with more details, and in a way that makes me feel supported, rather than feel like a dumb piece of shit hahaha "He seems to do an awful lot of “supporting” these women he claims are just friends" Yup, this just really weirds me the fuck out, because there's a healthy boundary between just being a good friend, and being too good and close of a friend to the point that it's more than just … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 12:11 AM |
| 9 | Why sex positivity always harms women and why I'll never accept it.This was really well written, thank you! Although the facts you stated are nothing short of depressing, it's a hard truth that needs to be heard - thanks for sharing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 10:43 PM |
| 10 | Do I just accept that men are disgusting behind our backs?I'm really sorry to hear what you're going through, but please just know that you're not alone. Although I'm not in the same exact situation as you, I've been through something similar in the past, and please trust me when I say it doesn't get better... My last ex was also like your current boyfriend. He knew that porn was a dealbreaker for me, but instead of being upfront about what he was or was not willing to quit, he lied to my face and told me that he would stop, when in reality he was just… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 11:52 PM |
| 8 | Media consumption and animeI totally get what you're going through because I've gone through the same exact things (and honestly... I'm still trying to cope, even today). As a kid, my dad introduced me to Studio Ghibli, and all of the films were beautifully made (good stories, art, and music), not to mention wholesome in addition to having deeper moral messages behind many of their works. Then, when I was in high school, a lot of my girlfriends liked anime, so we made it a tradition to cosplay (wholesomely) and go to Anim… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 01:36 AM |
| 3 | This article made me sick!🤮fucking THANK YOU | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 12:45 AM |
| 1 | Dumped a Pornsick Cheater & Got a New Job - Now Moving Across the Country!Thanks so much for the encouragement! My friend isn't on FDS, but I'm sure she would appreciate the sentiment. From one queen to another, I'm sending you all the love in the world <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 07:37 AM |
| 1 | Dumped a Pornsick Cheater & Got a New Job - Now Moving Across the Country!Thank you for the kind words, I'm really touched that I was able to give you hope - you've really made me smile (': It's been a while since my last relationship, but like you, I was also in a bad situation with a porn-addicted, cheating boyfriend last year, so even though I may not know exactly what you're going through, I feel for you. Just know that you'll get through this, and you'll come out not only stronger and better, but happier too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 07:36 AM |
| 2 | Dumped a Pornsick Cheater & Got a New Job - Now Moving Across the Country!THANK YOOUUU!! You too queen :D | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 07:34 AM |
| 1 | Dumped a Pornsick Cheater & Got a New Job - Now Moving Across the Country!Absolutely! And, obviously, not to take away from the arts, but I would argue that this applies not only to creative women, but to all women in general, too, in literally any field whatsoever. It's pretty infuriating but I hope that as women wake up and stop catering to men, the world will be able to actually appreciate us the way we deserve to be seen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 07:34 AM |
| 1 | Dumped a Pornsick Cheater & Got a New Job - Now Moving Across the Country!(': !!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 07:32 AM |
| 1 | Dumped a Pornsick Cheater & Got a New Job - Now Moving Across the Country!I'll be hanging out with M one more time next week before she moves, but even though I'll definitely miss her, I'm also obviously super excited for her and I can't wait to hear about all of her adventures over there! I'm so sorry that you had to deal with a nasty breakup with some NVM, but because of it, you leveled up, and for that, I'm genuinely happy for you that you were able to start fresh for yourself - I hope you never stop loving yourself <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 07:31 AM |
| 1 | Dumped a Pornsick Cheater & Got a New Job - Now Moving Across the Country!1) drain energy, 2) cheat, 3) leave UGH why is this so spot on?! But yes, because of this, it's so important to really just love ourselves - I'm glad you feel the same way! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 07:29 AM |
| 2 | Dumped a Pornsick Cheater & Got a New Job - Now Moving Across the Country!Thanks and also WOW, that sounds absolutely amazing, I would honestly love to do something like that with my girlfriends as well ahh, I'm super happy that y'all had a blast together! The LVM acquaintance sounds so pathetic I want to laugh hahaha, glad that you don't need him in your life! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 07:28 AM |
| 2 | Dumped a Pornsick Cheater & Got a New Job - Now Moving Across the Country!Thank you for the support, this means a lot to me! I'm glad that I could brighten your day, even if just a little bit (': | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 07:26 AM |
| 1 | Dumped a Pornsick Cheater & Got a New Job - Now Moving Across the Country!Thanks so much! You too sis <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 07:26 AM |
| 2 | Dumped a Pornsick Cheater & Got a New Job - Now Moving Across the Country!Awwhhh thank you so much! And YES, I feel your message so hard, that we should never give up our educational goals and we should never give up our career prospects - it's just not worth it because the only people worth pursuing are ourselves. (absolutely laughing at your sad tiny violin hahaha) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 07:25 AM |
| 1 | Dumped a Pornsick Cheater & Got a New Job - Now Moving Across the Country!I know what you mean about finding non-pickme women friends... it's definitely a struggle but I'm happy that I've realized it's better to be patient and never stop searching, rather than to give up and settle for "friends" who will just drain your energy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 07:24 AM |
| 2 | LOSING "FRIENDS" LEFT & RIGHT - the difficult but necessary journey to becoming a happier and healthier womanIt makes me so happy to hear that you're meeting more amazing women as well as keeping yourself busy through your hobbies. Keep going and don't ever stop! I'll be here trying to do the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 10:24 PM |
| 2 | LOSING "FRIENDS" LEFT & RIGHT - the difficult but necessary journey to becoming a happier and healthier womanThank you so much for the encouragement!! Actually, I just tried messaging you, but it says I'm unable to do so for some reason. Let me know if you still want to talk!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 02:06 AM |
| 2 | LOSING "FRIENDS" LEFT & RIGHT - the difficult but necessary journey to becoming a happier and healthier womanDump all LV anything, hell yeah!! I know exactly what you mean about friends who are HV in many ways, but lacking in others, I feel the same way about many people I know as well. I'm so sorry to hear about your long-time friend actually being a racist in addition to being petty and passive-aggressive, but now that you know her true colors, you're better off without her - I hope you can find true good friends in the future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 02:02 AM |
| 3 | LOSING "FRIENDS" LEFT & RIGHT - the difficult but necessary journey to becoming a happier and healthier womanI would love to have a real-life meetup of FDSers when this pandemic is over!! It would restore my faith in humanity if I could meet you all in person and talk about these pressing issues that (tragically) no one else seems to care about for some reason... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 01:59 AM |
| 2 | HVM: FACT OR FICTION? I want to believe, but (considering my experience with romantic relationships, family and platonic relationships, and society at large), I don't know if I ever willI'm so sorry that your first boyfriend was exactly the same as mine. Hopefully you've healed, or if not, I genuinely hope that you're on the path to healing, and I wish you all the best. I know what you mean when you say that you've lost hope that good men still exist in the world, and although I share these sentiments for the most part, I think it's also important to remind ourselves that while it's essential to remain cautious and have a healthy level of skepticism, we should always hold on to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 07:03 PM |
| 8 | HVM: FACT OR FICTION? I want to believe, but (considering my experience with romantic relationships, family and platonic relationships, and society at large), I don't know if I ever willThank you for acknowledging my feelings. I'm honestly so glad that I found FDS, because before this, I felt like I was alone in this fight and that no one (not even fellow women) cared about the things that I was so deeply passionate about regarding porn, misogyny, and everything else that is so wrong in our society. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 07:02 PM |
| 2 | HVM: FACT OR FICTION? I want to believe, but (considering my experience with romantic relationships, family and platonic relationships, and society at large), I don't know if I ever willYes! Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 03:01 AM |
| 1 | HVM: FACT OR FICTION? I want to believe, but (considering my experience with romantic relationships, family and platonic relationships, and society at large), I don't know if I ever willThank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 02:59 AM |
| 2 | HVM: FACT OR FICTION? I want to believe, but (considering my experience with romantic relationships, family and platonic relationships, and society at large), I don't know if I ever willThe focus of my post was not about The Queen's Gambit at all. That being said, I never said it wasn't a story about chess or addiction, having clearly stated in my post that it's obviously "a show about chess." Someone in my family held the chess title of international master, so I've always respected the game from a young age. I appreciate how the show attempts to portray a female lead as a chess player who defeats even the strongest male players. And whether she wants to do that with makeup or… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 02:59 AM |
| 1 | HVM: FACT OR FICTION? I want to believe, but (considering my experience with romantic relationships, family and platonic relationships, and society at large), I don't know if I ever willThank you! My thoughts exactly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 02:21 AM |
| 2 | HVM: FACT OR FICTION? I want to believe, but (considering my experience with romantic relationships, family and platonic relationships, and society at large), I don't know if I ever willI'm not exactly having the best time of my life right now if I'm being perfectly honest with you, so in that sense, I'm sorry that you're going through the same thing that I'm going through at the moment. That being said, though, I'm so glad if I could make your day better, even by just a little bit, and I hope that you continue to grow, I hope that you will always remember to love yourself, and I hope that you find peace. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 02:19 AM |
| 1 | HVM: FACT OR FICTION? I want to believe, but (considering my experience with romantic relationships, family and platonic relationships, and society at large), I don't know if I ever willLess than 24 hours since joining this sub, and I'm already so grateful for all the FDS ladies on here! Your comment is extremely encouraging and makes me smile - thank you for reminding me that I'm never alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 02:15 AM |
| 2 | HVM: FACT OR FICTION? I want to believe, but (considering my experience with romantic relationships, family and platonic relationships, and society at large), I don't know if I ever willTo fight injustice and ignorance simply by being a good person is something that I realize is true, but it's also something that I honestly struggle to digest sometimes because I always feel and I always wish that I could do "more," somehow, whatever that might mean. I'm happy to see that you've focused on healing and that you've cut off all the toxic people in your life, and I hope you can also continue to be an inspiration to those around you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 02:10 AM |
| 2 | HVM: FACT OR FICTION? I want to believe, but (considering my experience with romantic relationships, family and platonic relationships, and society at large), I don't know if I ever willThe idea of separatism never even crossed my mind before I read your comment, but thanks for the insight - something along those lines might actually be healthy for me so that I'm not constantly triggered by literally every man I come across (maybe not exactly a convent hahaha... but yes, a community of women, and whether this community of women occupies a physical space or a mental one [like this subreddit], it seems necessary for one's sanity nowadays in a sadly still chauvinistic, patriarchal… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 02:05 AM |
| 1 | HVM: FACT OR FICTION? I want to believe, but (considering my experience with romantic relationships, family and platonic relationships, and society at large), I don't know if I ever willI believe that some psychopaths will let their mask fall, but I'm very hesitant to believe that all of them will eventually just give themselves away. Anyways, I'm extremely happy for you that you've found a man who openly admits to his mistakes, attempts to improve himself, and wants to learn about what it means to be a true feminist - I wish you the best of luck and I hope that things continue to go smoothly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 01:41 AM |
| 2 | HVM: FACT OR FICTION? I want to believe, but (considering my experience with romantic relationships, family and platonic relationships, and society at large), I don't know if I ever willI don't put up with LV behavior right now: if someone is being creepy at the groceries, I ignore them; if someone from work is being misogynistic (even if it's not directly related to sex or sexual harassment), I make sure to speak my mind on it. But yes, "mourning" is definitely a perfect word to use... I'm currently trying to be at peace with the world, whatever that means for me personally. Currently, I just feel constantly troubled, because even if I don't interact with LVM, I know that thes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 01:27 AM |
| 3 | HVM: FACT OR FICTION? I want to believe, but (considering my experience with romantic relationships, family and platonic relationships, and society at large), I don't know if I ever willWow! Thanks so much for your detailed response, your words really hit me and your positive attitude to have faith and nurture hope is truly inspiring and reminds me that even though anger is a valid and sometimes necessary emotion, I should never let it consume me to the point that it's the only thing I feel. Right now, my goal is just to try to live my best life to the fullest (and hopefully everything and everyone else follows) - thank you for the reminder. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 12:54 AM |
| 4 | HVM: FACT OR FICTION? I want to believe, but (considering my experience with romantic relationships, family and platonic relationships, and society at large), I don't know if I ever willI think it's important for us to be skeptical and cautious, but never cynical or nihilistic. I agree that it's absolutely disheartening that HVM are the exception rather than the norm, but I guess there's nothing we can really do to change that because we can't control the things that other people do - we can only control the things that we ourselves do. Since the only thing we're capable of changing is how we live our own lives, hopefully our positive influence can rub off on others (men and wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 12:47 AM |
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