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How many times do we need to explain to you goofballs that women are not obligated to date men they are not attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 05:19 PM
6

How are you the prize?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 05:18 PM
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People still use dating apps? Oof. I was referring to the crazy cat lady stereotype, 40s, dishevelled, 10 cats and unhinged.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 12:02 AM
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No one begs men to date overweight women, crazy cat ladies or women they aren't attracted to but they beg women to do charity work and date people they aren't attracted to? Not a chance. The hypocrisy is too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 11:48 PM
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Lmao, you have my upvote. You cooked him, thank you for pointing out how much of this sub talks hot air.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 11:40 PM
3

Lol you plucked this from nowhere, you sound paranoid.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 11:33 PM
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Never argue with a fool.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 11:33 PM
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I was with you until you said 'everyone experiences instant attraction' which is plain ignorance.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 11:23 PM
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Because they're not demisexual and have no clue what they're talking about. It's just jumping on a bandwagon. As someone on the ace spectrum it's very clear who's a demisexual and who is adopting a random term they heard on tiktok. It's simply not that common at all. Just accept that most women are indeed heterosexual and they only date people they are attracted to which may or may not be you. Labelling them demi sounds like cope to help you sleep at night.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 11:23 PM
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I feel like every working day it's the same post with a different title. Women do not want to date men they are not attracted to. That's what a standard is, something one chooses to have. It can certainly make dating harder for you but it's ultimately the person's choice to have and maintain them, even if it's to their detriment. You're mistaken to believe dating is a fully conscious and rational process. "Man can do what he wills but he cannot will what he wills."
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 05:45 PM
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No because I've always been too shy to date or get romantically involved with guys. If I were to date, that would be my ideal type on paper.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 10:02 AM
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Oh no! Anyways. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 12:36 AM
1

Why are you comparing profitable careers, something that is optional, to something you think is a need (love, companionship, sex). Another false equivalence. Let me know when you've had a careful think and have something insightful to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 11:07 PM
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False equivalence. There's no need to be a melodramatic drama king. Millions of men before you have had to cope with not having their romantic and sexual wants fulfilled, the difference is they didn't have the internet to whine about it on. They got on with their lives, built friendships and got some fresh air.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 10:10 PM
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Louder for the people in the back please. It's TEDIOUS. Why exactly are we meant to care about their penises and how bad they need someone to cuddle? They certainly don't care about our problems and wants. They need to accept that you can't always get what you WANT, that's life. Get over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 10:06 PM
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Cry me a river sweetie x
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 09:42 PM
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Lol speaking on women's behalf. Very becoming. Perhaps you should change your username to MikaelaArrow.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 09:28 PM
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When y'all ask women these sorts of questions you just tell on yourself and how lowly you think of us. Handsome and faithful. This is a goofy question.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 09:15 PM
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Real. Now I blame myself for getting my hopes up.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 08:19 PM
4

I see. Thank you for sharing your perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 07:17 PM
3

No, that's not what I'm asking. I'm asking if people have told you this directly to your face?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 07:12 PM
6

Correct, it is most women. Vomitingly disgusting is a bit hyperbolic don't you think? How many people have personally told you that you disgust them, how has it negatively impacted you other than avoidance, ignoring and neutral interactions?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 07:09 PM
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What is considered a 'high standard' is completely subjective. I prefer shy, introverted, reserved men that are gentle and kind. My friends consider this an unrealistic and high standard because men are simply not socialised to be shy or introverted so even shy guys will put on a facade of being confident and assertive which would be a turn off for me. And shy guys are far less likely to approach or initiate, so this standard of mine could be considered 'high' but I see it differently. The stand…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 07:00 PM
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Hm, interesting. I genuinely prefer shy, reserved and introverted guys that are nerdy, I think it's legitimately cute. Since those are qualities that I myself have, I would be a hypocrite to be repulsed by that unless I despise myself. Actions speak louder than words, just avoid the women who's words don't match up with their actions anyways. I promise you there are exceptions. Why call yourself a loser based on what dishonest, shallow people think anyways?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 06:52 PM
4

Define 'Chad'.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 06:39 PM
9

Thank you for your honesty and congratulations on turning your life around through effort, determination and hard work. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 06:39 PM
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Duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 05:38 PM
3

Oh yes, absolutely. I'm aware people are here for different reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 05:08 PM
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People give each other too much credit. Most people are, surprisingly, average. Average cognitive ability. Average critical thinking skills. Average ability to reach sensible conclusions. Average ability to identify hypocrisy. Average comfortability with admitting they are wrong. Is it therefore surprising that there is a lot of misinformation spread about men that is outright ignorant, harmful and downright stupid? No. Most are guided by emotions and most things can be summed up by "Do you have…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 04:53 PM
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Sorry it was my fault for expecting you to have anything insightful to say. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 04:38 PM
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Thank you. Men do the goofiest stuff like buying women they're attracted to $3,000 handbags, changing their tyres, using pet names and shaving their beard because a hot woman said "omg you look so much cuter without a beard". Everyone does stupid stuff when they're attracted to someone. This entire thread and most of the posts can be summed up with "Actions speak louder than words. Yes, women and men talk hot air".
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:56 PM
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Uh huh, so men stop maintaining society until women start playing fair. Because men are owed relationships and intimacy. Charming!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:49 PM
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Um... because women have boundaries and autonomy? As far as I'm concerned you're strangers on a first date, why is a kiss necessary?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:47 PM
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What exactly can be done to change that?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:19 PM
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Where is the double standard? Both are accountable and both are gross to me. Thank you. I'm aware and I'm not counting on the idea of finding someone that is compatible. Sure it would be nice but I'm not hitching my hopes and dreams on it. I expect and anticipate disappointment in that regard. If it helps understand my thought process better, I'm a sex repulsed asexual (apothisexual) so I'm aware I'm probably being irrational here. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 07:06 PM
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Oh no! Anyways...
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 06:55 PM
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ZzZzZz. You refer to other women as 'human jumpscares', claim bisexuality is not real and are chronically online. Claim to be a 'kind' woman but insult British people. Opinions invalid. Ooh, and a raging homophobe to top it all off! Aren't you such a special, special star! :D
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 06:54 PM
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TLDR: I'm bitter, salty and have never left North America. I have no valid responses so I resort to checking people's post history as a form of 'comeback'. Women like you who resort to ad hominem instead of well formulated responses that respond directly to the content of the argument being made are the reason people view modern women as dumb as rocks. Let me know when you get your IQ up and can respond to something critically and make a valid rebuttal without resorting to being a dumb ape. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 06:47 PM
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You can be attractive and have broad shoulders. I'm aware my qualms are irrational regarding minor perceived flaws. Love how you ignored my other posts about how I'm perceived as very attractive. XD Cry me a river, I will never take anything a triggered slut on the internet says seriously. I don't even want to be picked you goofball. The fact you consider not being picked a bad thing tells me you're a pick meisha of the highest order who views male attention as peak existence. I don't argue with…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 06:43 PM
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I'm aware, that's why I don't date and choose to focus on better things. I haven't been rejected by anyone either since I don't date or romantically interact with men by choice. :) LOOOOL You're so mad, I'm sorry you were used by men for recreational use and are still bitter. Congrats on being an NPC neanderthal guided by hormones.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 06:38 PM
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I don't have any ex's that have cheated on me. :) Maybe you need to heal from all the men that have hit it and quit it! I'm sorry you're triggered because you know deep down you made reckless choices fuelled by NPC pleasure seeking behaviour. Frankly, you can cry me a river. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 06:30 PM
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" If you make less of the supply, there is a decrease in the amount of demand that can be satisfied." Lol, your brain couldn't even comprehend my response. That's not what I'm saying at all. Triggered promiscuous woman spotted! Lace the shoe up and wear it with pride, you're empowered and sooo free!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 06:28 PM
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Nope, they offset the ratio. They don't control the demand but if you control the supply, there will naturally be a decrease in the level of demand that gets satisfied and fulfilled. This can lead to more realistic expectations but yes I agree it does not change the demand. Nope. Most men wouldn't be dateable anyways without the 'sluts'. According to sturgeon's law, 90% of them wouldn't be compatible with me. Men do have autonomy and men that take the opportunity to have casual sex ( opportunity…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 06:26 PM
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The supply controls the demand. If you make less of the supply, there is a decrease in the amount of demand that can be satisfied. Are you triggered and does the shoe fit?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 06:22 PM
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Nope. Not what men prefer at all. I expect men to do nothing but cast a wide net and seek opportunities for sex. It is women that create these opportunities and give their consent.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 06:19 PM
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Women are more responsible because they are the gatekeepers of sex. There are way more men that want to sleep with women than the reverse. Men cast a wide net and it is the woman's role to uphold standards and filter. Can you please stop straw-manning me? I said they make it harder for me to date. At no point did I say they make it harder for me to date those men. That's not how they make it harder for me because I have no interest in those men. They make it harder for me by offsetting the ratio…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 06:10 PM
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At which point did I say ONLY women are accountable? Even in my OP I said "MORE responsible", you're reading into things that simply is not there. I don't want a promiscuous man who sleeps with 'sluts', I find it gross both ways, where did you get that from? Lol. If anything a virgin man is my preference. Are you okay?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 05:55 PM
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Again, if the shoe fits lace it up and wear it. Nothing wrong with saying "Yep. I'm a slut and I contaminate the dating pool. But I'm selfish and enjoy having fun!". Instead she jumped to defend them so I assumed it's because she knows deep down it's a negative thing. There's nothing preposterous about what I'm saying. What's hard to wrap your head around?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 05:08 PM
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I explained exactly how it causes harm in my original post. Re-read if needed. Instead of admitting that yes, it does have real world consequences even if you haven't personally dealt with them, you decided to explain why I'm wrong. It would only be necessary to defend 'sluts' if you feel they're being falsely targeted. You implied I am not sane which says more about you than it does about me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 05:06 PM
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Don't get me wrong, at no point did I say 'sluts' need to be stopped. I would never talk a woman who enjoys casual sex out of doing things they enjoy. I personally know women who are promiscuous and I've never tried to talk them out of it. Does it mean I like what they're doing? No. I'm not misguided, I just value dignity and self discipline. I don't agree with excessive pleasure seeking.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 05:02 PM
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Precisely. Thank you for having common sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 04:57 PM
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And you sound like a woman who's dealing with internal guilt about participating in casual sex. If the shoe fits, lace it up and wear it. If you're triggered then you need to have a think about why if it's indeed so 'empowering' and 'liberating'.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 01:14 PM
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When? Who has had no real experience? I'm not upset it's not happening, I don't want to have casual sex lol. I don't like spiders either and it's not because I have no experience of spinning a web.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 01:06 PM
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I agree. Nature is indeed not best. I disagree that it's vetting for someone "not want you for long periods of time", I think it's the direct opposite. I see it as vetting for someone with patience, self discipline and someone who favours emotional connection over getting their rocks off. I see sex as the cherry on top of a relationship, not the sundae. The moment it's the sundae in either of the participants minds, the relationship crumbles à la deadbedrooms. Thank you for the best wishes, good…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 01:02 PM
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Oh no! Anyways. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 12:57 PM
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That's absolutely fine, I'm glad you're having a good time. They're not imagined consequences, just reality of the sexual revolution as proven by multiple studies. A lot of things are 'far more harmful' to women than slut shaming and I'm tired of having to tread carefully around people's feelings. It's seen as mean to tell the truth nowadays and call out reckless behaviour and I refuse to make that my issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 12:56 PM
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No, just reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 12:54 PM
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You're taking her word for it but that's neither here nor there. I am already perceived as very attractive but it depends on the age bracket and geographical limitations. Also the problem with your logic is the 'hotter' you are the higher the temptation and the more people want to have sex with you. The more people will lie and say they'll wait but won't to get in your pants. But yes I see what you are saying and thank you for your advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 12:53 PM
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It really is bizarre to me how I'm the odd one out for refusing to participate. If birth control was not a thing people would be behaving completely different. Prior to birth control sex = kids. If you wouldn't procreate with 5 different people then why are you having sex with 5 different people within 2 weeks? Wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 12:35 AM
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"Unwise". Most men already do go years without sex, it's called being single. Would you be saying the same exact thing if effective birth control didn't exist? Zero birth control exists whatsoever. Would you still behave the same way on the sexual and dating marketplace? To me sex = procreation. I would not procreate with 3 different people within a week so I won't have sex with 3 different people within a week. I wouldn't have kids with someone after knowing them for 4 months so neither will I …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 12:32 AM
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Lol. Ironically I do share a lot of similar values with Christians and get along with them well, I just am not into religion at all. I wouldn't feel comfortable with lying to someone to get into a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 12:28 AM
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Lol at the downvotes. Crazy what society has become.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 12:26 AM
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Okay that's completely fair. I'm aware it is a little extreme and I won't deny that. I'm just big on dignity and self discipline. Posting yourself in your underwear on social media is bizarre to me in general. There is probably a difference in culture at play here.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 12:15 AM
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Not a fan either. They lack self discipline and are excessively pleasure seeking to the point of hedonism.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 12:10 AM
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Who said that? Men are a completely different subject matter. I think promiscuity is a bit gross both ways but like I said in my OP, women are MORE responsible because they are the gate keepers of sex. I did not say ONLY women are responsible. I do not believe men are weak-willed but I believe they are opportunistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 12:08 AM
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How is that a preposterous idea?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/24 12:02 AM
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Well yes. A lot of disagreement stems from an empathy gap.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:58 PM
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Fair enough but what would the rationale be for women who don't want male attention or already receive plenty themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:57 PM
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Nope. You directly implied it. "And a woman is a slut just because she posts pics that show skin". You mentioned showing skin and put words into my mouth when I said thirst trapping which is not in any way similar to merely showing skin. Yes. And?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:51 PM
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Imagine being hedonistic with low self discipline and brainwashing yourself into believing risking passing on your genes three times a week with strangers is normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:49 PM
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Depends but ideally until engagement or marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:46 PM
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Please do not strawman me. "engages in kinks that are degrading to women". He asked me a question and I answered it with what I view as a 'slut'. What more do you want from me? Lol. Posting pictures that show skin and explicitly thirst trapping are not one and the same. Your answer just proves that you see women showing some skin as inherently sexual which says more about you than it does about me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:37 PM
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You're right. They prefer to extend their suffering but they are suffering nonetheless and even have secret built up resentment. Doesn't change the facts and still proves my point that they enter relationships primarily for sex, the moment it's gone they're ranting on deadbedrooms about how much they hate their lazy wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:33 PM
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The incompatibility is there based on a standard set by women who set expectations that create the incompatibility. I.e If women set the standard to have sex by the 3rd date, men will deem women who do not do this as 'incompatible' based on their interactions with previous women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:26 PM
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"No offense but I don't expect you to understand as a woman who doesn't have to deal with the consequences of such actions."
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:24 PM
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My problem is with both. Isn't that one and the same if women are one half of modern western dating (which involves sex pre-commitment)? I understand what you're saying though but I've opted out of dating altogether. One month (4 weeks???) sounds way too short for me but I admire your patience.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:22 PM
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What if they're atheist?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:14 PM
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They're in their mid 30s and don't have the common decency to not violate other people's belongings by having sex in their bed for giggles like teenagers? I would be concerned about both of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:13 PM
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Let me know when you have XX chromosomes and have to deal with the consequences on a personal level. They increase the chances of there being incompatibility, DUH. My point went completely over your head as expected and that's okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 11:02 PM
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No offense but I don't expect you to understand as someone who isn't a woman and doesn't have to deal with the consequences of such actions. That sounds impractical with the human tribal condition that likes to categorise and pass judgement on others.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 10:59 PM
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How many people ARE partaking in hook-up culture and how many people are open to it or actively trying to participate are two completely different things. Also thank you for gracing us with the cookie-cutter ignorant male take that is backed by zero life experience as a female. Do let me know when you have something insightful to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 10:49 PM
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What exactly is aggressive about it? To me a 'slut' is a woman who; gives into sexual desires immediately and with little tact, participates in one night stands frequently, engages in kinks that are degrading to women and posts thirst traps.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 10:43 PM
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Thank you for articulating the issue so coherently. They really do make it so much harder for the more reserved type of women that prioritise emotional connection and mutual trust. These types of women then get labelled as 'frigid' for not doing things we don't want to do. Promiscuous women do set the bar for male expectations out of sex. I've heard of women being pressured into doing anal and other sex acts they don't want to do by men who tell them "oh, but all the other women I've slept with …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 10:37 PM
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Hate is a strong word but I don't like them. They increase the male expectation for sex and perpetuate hook-up culture and a hypersexual society. Women are widely accepted as the gatekeepers of sex so I think it's fair they are more responsible for this than men are. Men expect sex because of 'hoes' that normalise sex outside of committed relationships so when a woman doesn't put out, men are more likely to leave because having sex early is seen as the 'norm'. Why buy the whole cow when you can …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 09:58 PM
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You sound extremely paranoid. I hope you are able to overcome whatever inner turmoil you're dealing with eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 09:47 PM
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Were or are and continue to be idiots in mass? Also you basically just described being jealous of your wife. Rather immature.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 09:43 PM
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So majority of men throughout history were idiots? Interesting. Idiots who managed to grow the population and secure humanities place as an apex predator. Mhm.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 09:38 PM
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Sure but attractive men who can afford to have standards are rarer than attractive women who can afford to have standards. But yes thirsty men are doing themselves a disservice.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 09:33 PM
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I'd prefer to be married with kids. It would be the more fulfilling option for me. Most of my hobbies involve staying home anyways, baking, embroidery and gardening.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 09:31 PM
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Less densely populated does not = poverty, that's a straight up ignorant and goofy thing to suggest. Keep being ignorant. Tell me you've never left your country without telling me you've never left your country. And keep making excuses as to why dating in packed cities is a flop.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 09:01 PM
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Mhm, sure... Have you even been to decently populated and developed European cities?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 08:54 PM
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Nope. What does population density have to do with poverty? If anything the population density is higher in 3rd world countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 08:52 PM
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Sure it could make you better but not THE BEST catch for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 08:37 PM
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Sounds like a personal problem and paranoia. Would you agree it goes both ways and most men are instinctively driven to the core, enter relationships for primarily sex and will drop women the moment they don't put out?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 08:31 PM
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Lol, it does show. American men realising promiscuity and dishonesty isn't the norm across the globe. (surprised pikachu)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 08:18 PM
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If it's most women wouldn't getting a 'passport' make no difference?? Unless OP is referring to strictly Western women or American women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 08:09 PM
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Do you have a statistically survey or study to back that up? Feel free to drop a link that represents 4 billion women significantly.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 08:05 PM
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Exactly. Too many men feel they're missing out on the WRONG type of women. Why would you want to be associated with a flakey woman who ghosts people instead of having the respect to communicate, calls short men losers, laughs at broke people and has nothing intellectual to offer? If anything you dodged a bullet.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 07:57 PM
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Okay so your response was irrelevant. Regardless of HOW many real options women have, they still have more viable candidates than men do which is what matters when it comes to flaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 07:43 PM
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Who? Feel free to link me. Regardless, out of 200 people even if 180 of them are 'not real options', at least 10 of them will be an option. Even if they had 5 real options in their back pocket, that's still higher than it is for the average male which is zero.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 07:28 PM
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They do? What makes an option 'real' or not? Well perhaps not 'options' but hundreds of people vying for their attention and time.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 07:16 PM
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Well duh women have the 'upper hand'. Women have a biological clock that's significantly shorter than men. Like with anything, we are all forced to accept reality whether it sucks or not. Overpopulation in general has led to people viewing each other as disposable, hence the flaking. Why fully commit when you have hundreds of other options in your back pocket? More rural communities don't struggle with this nearly as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 07:11 PM
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I'd argue it's just feeling attached and bonded to them after sleeping with him and continuing to be blinded by hormonal/biological attraction. Or 'brainwashing' as you say. There may also be ego involved whereby they want to be the special one to 'change' him and make him settle down, much to their own detriment. The average person isn't very logical when it comes to dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 05:12 PM
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Because lust and attraction exists. Women enjoy sleeping with attractive "players" but dislike engaging with them in a long-term serious capacity. Women also prefer men that are desired by other women which increases the appeal for 'players'.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 04:51 PM
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Fr. Her post history tells you everything you need to know. "It's rude to ask if someone's spouse is happy", "It's rude to tell a woman she looks her age". Unashamedly a goofball.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 06:05 AM
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What about women with an IQ of 80-90? Should it also be considered statutory for dating women that are dumb as rocks because they're liable to make poor choices? It's impossible to police and monitor everything, life is harsh.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 05:58 AM
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Um... No?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 01:11 PM
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As a fellow tall woman I felt that within the depths of my soul. I'm also a bit tired of short women demanding tall men as if it makes any sense whatsoever. If you're 5ft 2 why exactly do you need a 6ft 4 man to feel petite and protected? Surely 5ft 8 - 5ft 10 will do. Rant over sorry lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 01:11 PM
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Actions speak louder than words. If you lack the awareness to realise that your words and actions simply do not match up then that's the definition of an NPC.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 09:20 AM
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Sure. It does go both ways and either way, I don't get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 09:17 AM
11

Women aren't consciously lying when they say that personality matters, they just lack self awareness and become victim to lust.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 09:12 AM
7

Isn't that just common knowledge? Yes, attractive men can get by on just their looks with limited social skills, rizz, humour or tact. I personally don't see how women can be so blinded by someone's looks that they'll sleep with a bozo but to each their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/24 09:03 AM
2

What counts as a significant portion? Grace us with your knowledge please. 4 billion women in the world, what counts as a 'significant' portion?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 09:06 PM
1

I get that. I understand why that would be upsetting and I'm sorry you're in that predicament. Best wishes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 08:23 PM
3

Oh my bad. Yes that's correct. People understandably will continue to care and feel slighted.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 08:19 PM
1

At no point did I imply you're jealous of the fact they are serial killers, you're envious they can still attract women. Bottom line, you are jealous of a serial killers situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 08:16 PM
0

Sure. I can see that. It is unfair, absolutely, that good and nice men get passed up for thugs and misogynistic fuckboys. But life is not fair, doesn't everyone learn that at the age of 5? They have a right to be upset, I would be too if I was in that position. How is it suddenly most women's fault they're upset when it's a minority of weirdo women with misplaced values?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 08:14 PM
2

So that's one example out of how many serial killers that have existed throughout history? Do you not think your jealousy is a little misplaced? No offense but saying you are envious of literal serial killers is the biggest red flag known to man and does not put yourself in a good light.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 08:11 PM
2

95% Lol, straight up clownery at it's finest. You realise you can get paid to be a clown, right? Feel free to link the survey that gathered intel on 95% of women on the planet.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 08:09 PM
-5

Serial killers get married? Hard to get married from behind bars, hm...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 08:07 PM
-1

So for you sex = everything and no sex = nothing? Bizarre.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 08:04 PM
-2

Lack of sex isn't a punishment, it's a state of life. You're not 'owed' or deserving of sex sweetheart. Um... Because it's the right thing to do from a morality standpoint??? Being truly nice is doing things with no anticipation of a reward and purely for the sake of it. If you're nice to attract women and get laid you're a fake cosplaying nice guy which in turn makes you a 'bad' guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 08:04 PM
1

Well then if you'd commit crimes just to get laid then you have have deeper issues and probably shouldn't be an active participant in society.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 07:58 PM
1

Fairs. Well yes most people are... average. But it seems 'average' is shifting towards below average.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 07:57 PM
3

Thank you for saying what needs to be said. When the shoe is on the other foot no one bats an eyelid.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 07:55 PM
-5

Okay well sounds like you're very lonely and crave being desirable over having traits that attract healthy, feminine and rational women towards you. Nothing wrong with that, at least you're self aware.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 07:52 PM
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You're jealous of men that attract mentally ill, unstable women? Um... What? Why would you even want that calibre of women to be into you?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 07:47 PM
2

What about all the women that aren't simping on these men? It's like labelling men disturbing perverts on a 'big scale' because of how many of them leave thirst comments online. The most vocal people do not accurately represent or say anything meaningful about the group as a whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 07:38 PM
-2

Why would you? Mentally ill people are everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 07:35 PM
25

Dating is by very definition a competition for a mate though, in simple ecological and biological terms.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 06:05 PM
2

What's your point? You just talk for talking sake and you just sound extremely bitter. Well no shit-sherlock, that's what preferences ARE, things that aren't always 100% practical. Different cultures exist, dummy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 03:59 PM
1

Well then those women are likely just interested in a good time / hook-up and not longevity. That's crazy to me because guys like you who don't push sexual interaction are a total green flag to me. Perhaps try joining a local sports club, book club etc. to find women that enjoy talking about those things. Best of luck though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 12:52 AM
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Oh sorry to hear that. You don't want to date shallow women who care about stuff like cars, living with parents etc. so you dodged a bullet. There are good women out there who don't care about stuff like that but I understand why it's disheartening and you lack motivation.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 12:32 AM
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So women have rejected or ghosted you solely because you mentioned you live with your parents? That was the precise moment they began to flake?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 12:04 AM
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They can absolutely complain and vent together all they like. If anything they should if they derive some comfort from knowing there are other men out there who are in the same boat and understand. But they're not necessarily owed any empathy or understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 09:48 PM
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Even if people were more empathetic it wouldn't solve these guys problem and they would continue to complain. Empathy and understanding won't suddenly get these men a date. The root of their issue would persist and cause them to feel down and complain regardless of whether people understand and say "oh sorry it's like that for you" or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 09:41 PM
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No. I don't see why anyone would equate being a virgin with low morality. It could be due to a number of reasons such as focused on education, shy, lack of opportunity, geographical limitations etc. I personally would prefer to date a guy who is a virgin and see it as a plus.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 08:20 PM
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Truly a race to the bottom, it's heart-breaking what we've come to as a society. So tired of people pretending it's completely normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 02:41 PM
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This isn't my personal view, just that society as a whole seems to view women as the 'prize'. But yes I guess that would count as charity too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 02:36 PM
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Honestly, people just have to own and cope with the consequences of their own actions. Women KNOW exactly how female promiscuity is viewed by society. (Whether it's right or wrong it's viewed that way is a completely different matter). If they choose to partake anyways that's 100% their choice and they should be willing to deal with the consequences whether that be giving men the ick, struggling to get into long-term relationships or male hesitance to wife them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 02:15 PM
4

Exactly, should be a no-brainer but lust and attraction can be a powerful thing. An attractive male will almost 100% of the time exercise it to its full extent on sexual marketplace.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 02:06 PM
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That's a valid way of putting it. It's largely because women are viewed as the 'prize' in society so them getting with short guys is viewed as charitable, generous and forgiving. If a guy goes for a socially less desired group it's just seen as 'beggars can't be choosers'.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 01:54 PM
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By the way, certain birth controls can affective cognitive ability and a woman's ability to learn from her mistakes. Women aren't purposefully picking jerks who use them for sex, they're choosing to have sex with people they find attractive and then hoping that it will progress into something more.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/24 01:48 PM
0

Oh sorry to hear that. :( Touch starved in general or in relation to the gender you're attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 10:53 PM
3

Okay that's fair, thanks for the explanation. If it's a social need then I have no choice but to accept that. I've never craved having sex with someone in my life so it's not my place to say on how needed or unneeded it is socially. It's putting it on the same field as water, shelter etc. that doesn't make sense to me. Perhaps I take the use of the term 'need' too seriously. XD
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 10:32 PM
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Lol I've seen that happen before it's rough but it depends on the way it's phrased. We can't all relate to severe sexual frustration but all humans can relate to feelings of loneliness, feeling unwanted etc. The way some men phrase their issues misleads a lot of women into thinking their problem is quite literally no sex which leads to mocking, calling them entitled etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 10:25 PM
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As a social need? Yes. Contact as in within a close vicinity to other human beings.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 10:14 PM
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Um okay, that's a no-brainer? The point of the post is to ask the people who can and do get it. X.X
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 10:12 PM
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"Lack of sex led to me losing my will to live" is not the same as "Lack of sex caused my loss of will to live". But sure, use whatever. Or you can communicate your problems and how they unfolded in a concise way that is more likely to increase others understanding and empathy for you. Women cannot relate to losing their will to live due to lack of sex but all humans would be able to relate to feelings of loneliness, low self-esteem, feeling unloved/unwanted etc. If your issues were phrased menti…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 10:10 PM
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Are you even listening to yourself? The fact you don't realise the ridiculousness of that very question is mind-boggling of astronomical proportions.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 10:02 PM
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" As in, sexual frustration exacerbated/caused your depression and it is now DEPRESSION that is causing you to lose will to live." "It is reductionist and does these men a disservice to say its just sex when in reality it's a complex subset of issues (loneliness, low self esteem, feeling worthless, unwanted and unlovable) that make these men deserving of understanding, empathy and care." "sexual frustration and depression go hand in hand" Tell me you didn't read without telling me you didn't rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 10:00 PM
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I find that deeply offensive to people who don't have access to clean drinking water or food. Sex directly correlates with procreation, birth control is a very recent thing. Sex = Pass on genes and procreate. If it was a NEED then you'd also be saying it's a need for everyone to procreate. At which point there would be no natural selection. Sex is highly favourable, can increase quality of life and improve self esteem but it is not a 'need'.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 09:55 PM
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What's your point, what are you even arguing against? No offense all I see is "you'll never get it!", with no coherent point.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 09:46 PM
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"highly treatable". Rightttt....
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 09:41 PM
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Not a need, just highly sought after and increases quality of life. No offense but I find that an insult to people in the world who don't have access to clean water and are literally starving to death. Not all men are supposed to or will have access to sex, it wouldn't make sense for it to be a biologically inbuilt need. Birth control is a recent thing. Prior to that sex = procreate. Are all men supposed to procreate? Is it a NEED for all men to procreate? That would obliterate the process of na…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 09:37 PM
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Well duh, whole premise of the post is that it's reductionist. What's your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 09:30 PM
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If that's truly the reason then I'm sorry that's the case. I'd be more inclined to think it's the deeper implications of that such as feeling invalidated, deep loneliness, feeling unwanted and not desirable etc. Do you believe that once you get your rocks off your will to live will be restored? Not a sarcastic question, I'm genuinely trying to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 09:25 PM
2

Precisely. That's the depression. Claiming it's the lack of sex leads to lack of empathy from people who view you as a sex-crazed zombie.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 09:22 PM
0

That's very true. I'd argue it's uncommon for a man to be sexually frustrated and not be depressed in a society where sex is a prominent part of the culture. There are many countries in the middle east who are religious and deeply sexually repressed who don't exhibit clear signs of depression. But there it's considered normal to remain a virgin until marriage so I guess it's down to people feeling out of the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 09:18 PM
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Thank you for your perspective and offering insight as to why those with depression may seek out sexual behaviours which can lead to conflating the two. Best wishes going forward and your self awareness is admirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 09:10 PM
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What percentage of men would you suggest are incapable of deriving any sense of worth from any other sources such as playing tennis on the weekends, volunteering work, art etc? It's what many men have done throughout history but the overexposure to sex in current day make it understandably much harder now.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 08:26 PM
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Yes sexual frustration and depression go hand in hand it seems. As in, sexual frustration exacerbated/caused your depression and it is now DEPRESSION that is causing you to lose will to live.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 08:22 PM
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You have a point. It's fine to be honest and say for the MAJORITY of men a handshake or hug from a woman simply would not do. Touch starved is a euphemism for physical attention of a romantic/sexual nature. Otherwise they would just get a cat or dog.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 08:19 PM
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That's the entire premise of my post. "It causes severe depression". This right here. CAUSES. Sexual frustration and depression go hand in hand but they are not one and the same. I.e Lack of sex leads to a more complex set of issues such as low self esteem, lack of confidence, loneliness, touch starvation etc. It is reductionist to say the issue is simply just 'sex' once it evolves into or exacerbates full blown depression. At which point it's more than a physical/biological issue but a mental o…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 08:14 PM
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GG you missed the entire point of the post about conflating sexual frustration (that can indeed lead to depression) and being depressed. I understand it's personal but you read into something that simply wasn't there. My point is their situation is much more complex than just the surface level idea of it being lack of sex. It's the feelings of unworthiness, lack of care, low self esteem and loneliness etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 07:58 PM
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Exactly my point. It's far too reductionist to even suggest it's the sex. It's the deep feelings of loneliness, low self-esteem and craving comfort that exacerbate depression. These men do themselves a disservice by saying such, when in reality their situation is much more complex and deserving of empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 07:56 PM
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Convinced you either argue in bad faith or have a reading comprehension issue. I refuse to believe you're this goofy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 07:53 PM
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I'm aware there are deeper implications and that's precisely my point. It's not the sex, it's the feelings of unwantedness, low self esteem and worth that exacerbate and lead to depression.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 07:50 PM
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Yes that's what I'm inclined to believe. Sexual frustration leads to/exacerbates the depression it seems.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 07:47 PM
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Hm, that made me chuckle. Let me know when you arrive at Reality Station.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 02:44 PM
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So it's women's fault that they are socially predisposed to be more subtle? What would be a good way to drop a hint?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 02:39 PM
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It does benefit you. Most men date to have access to sex and are not romantically driven in the early stages of dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 02:36 PM
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A lot of the time, attraction grows over time for women. Sometimes you have to get real with yourself, if you're not a 9/10 Adonis then most likely attraction will simply have to grow overtime.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 02:31 PM
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Women have an active role in making men approach them too, both have to take on some form of responsibility or burden. It's up to a woman to drop a hint and show she is interested/receptive to being approached. It's on the man to pick up on these hints and approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 02:27 PM
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Thank you. It doesn't help AT ALL to incentive it. Nothing inherently bad or creepy about male sexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 02:23 PM
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Has it occurred to you that the problem isn't always to do with you? Women could have a number of reasons to reject someone, doesn't mean you did anything wrong. Grandma just died and feeling down so not in the mood to go on a date, too shy to date, mourning a pet that passed away, hung up on an ex etc. How would you know they discuss it among themselves if you're not a woman? I don't see anything creepy about being approached. Non-traditional women are more likely to find it 'creepy' and you wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 02:19 PM
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Very melodramatic and outright goofy take.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 02:01 PM
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Perhaps it's a cultural thing but where I live women don't call anyone creeps for approaching them, we just find it flattering and politely decline etc. Sounds like a bit of an irrational fear to me. It's like applying for a job, you don't know whether you'll get the job or be rejected unless you try. But to an extent I agree with you. Yes women should drop a handkerchief to show men they are receptive to being approached i.e smile, eye contact, physical closeness. Historically it was common for…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 01:53 PM
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Men: Endlessly complain about how uncomfortable it is to approach people, how nervous it makes them and how the fear of rejection consumes them. Also men: Why don't women start approaching men?!??? Not necessarily selling the idea or making it appealing are you? Lol. If you don't want to do it, why should we? It's like complaining about your job all the time but then asking someone to replace you over the summer.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 01:42 PM
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Okay so... Approach and see if they DO find you attractive? There are no guarantees in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 01:36 PM
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You sound bitter. You didn't even respond to what I was saying appropriately, just went on a rant about women's shortcomings lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 08:57 PM
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Not really. I agree with you. Women do lack accountability. At which point in my response did I say men do not deserve understanding or support? I said men make each other look bad which is why it would make it hard for women to advocate for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 08:56 PM
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I think the primary reason for this is that men make each other look bad therefore making it harder for women to want to advocate for them. Seeing certain men belittle, dissect women's bodies, give each other tips on how to coerce women into sex etc. doesn't build a strong case for women to want to advocate for them. Of course it's not all men. Not at all. Plenty of good men out there who deserve love, understanding and support. But unfortunately the one's who make it clear they see women as onl…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 08:24 PM
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You know what, you do you. Best of luck. :D
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 07:19 PM
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I see what you're saying. Men want sex, not to improve their self worth but because they simply want to have sex. It would be pleasurable so they want to do it. It's more straightforward. Self worth would be a positive by-product of obtaining sex but it's not the primary reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 06:56 PM
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I see what you mean, yes they are viewed more positively than men. I can't disagree with you on that, however they ARE avoided when dating and ghosted. They are only viewed positively when it's time to settle down and get married. I'm a female virgin who's perceived as very attractive and it makes dating significantly harder. The same is true for my other female friends who are virgins. The minute most men find out, they ghost and are uninterested. Most female virgins aren't virgins because they…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 06:48 PM
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Well then isn't that a false equivalence if makeup is not biological and sex as you put it, is? Perhaps not 'get over it' but 'find other distractions and ways to cope'? How can we possibly enforce that more men have access to sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 06:30 PM
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Saying a virgin woman is desirable and treating them as if that is the case is completely different. Female virgins that are non-religious have a rough time because surprise surprise, men want to have sex. Shocker! :O Who would want to voluntarily have blue-balls? Most men live in a fantasy that they'll meet a virgin female and she'll have sex with them. It's goofy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 06:22 PM
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Lot's of things increase happiness and diminish 'suffering' (love the melodrama of suffering btw). Why does it NECESSITATE that it should be had though?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 06:18 PM
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When are people going to just come to terms with the fact that reality is often harsh and disappointing? Everyone has things that it would be nice to have, does it mean we are necessarily obligated to have it? Nope. Sometimes the best answer is the most simple one, men need to get over it. You can't always get what you want. If their self-worth is tied to something that they have to often manipulate, coerce and objectify another gender to get then who's to say which is more important? A man's 's…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 06:10 PM
2

That's a lovely way of seeing it. Sadly a lot of men are not as understanding or patient in that regard as you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 03:09 PM
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It's within the post itself. "can't keep up in deep conversations", "doesn't venture outside mainstream music", "not interesting" and "absolute NPC". I'm a huge nerd and really enjoy learning and interesting discussion so it just wouldn't work out for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 03:05 PM
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Nope. You'd just run out of things to talk about pretty rapidly which wouldn't be a stable foundation for a long-term relationship. For a year or two it could be do-able but for 40+years? Not a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 02:45 PM
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Nope. Shame is feelings of regret, pity and humiliation about a situation or action. There is no feelings of humiliation when men leave public thirst comments from their main social media accounts where they can be fully identified.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 01:48 PM
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It depends. It can come across as 'mysterious' and 'very feminine' or boring and frigid. It also requires a lot of patience to date shy women because it takes a while for them to warm up to you, break the physical barrier etc. Also tends to attract men that are outgoing and trying to prey on us because they assume we're easier to manipulate. I'm too shy to even attend a date so I'd like to work on myself more and then date at a later stage. I'm only 21 so most men around this age are not looking…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 12:43 PM
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Well, most guys would not be willing to wait until they're in a committed relationship. I'm also very, very shy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 12:18 PM
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Because most healthy, young men want to have sex and that's not something I feel ready to do. I get approached pretty much every time I go out but just politely decline. Not because I'm disgusted they approached but because I know what would be expected of me and I can't meet those expectations.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 11:53 AM
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Fair enough. Idk why they do that, beats me. I'm a virgin who doesn't date so none of this is personal, just what the women I know tell me they fear. The women who are disgusted at men approaching them aren't the ones you want to date anyways so they weed themselves out.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 11:40 AM
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No offense but as you're not a woman I don't think it's your place to say that fear is misplaced. Plenty of women experience men who hook up with women and then ghost them or never give them the title of a girlfriend. If you were to browse any female space you would see that. You realise manipulation and you know... lying is a thing, right lol? You realise men can say one thing and do another right?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 11:23 AM
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When did I say that? I answered WHAT women fear. Did I say they're right or wrong in fearing that? No. You sound confused. Sexual attraction is perfectly normal and healthy. Approaching women is perfectly normal and healthy. At no point did I state otherwise. It's probably hard for you to grasp as a male but the majority of women have a deep fear of being used for sex, as a male you just have to come to terms with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 11:14 AM
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No one can. It's not deemed as socially appropriate for either men or women to sit around in a cafe talking loudly about their sexual fantasies and how horny they are. Therefore the only option is for both of them to do so either privately or online. And yet men do so online considerably more than women. There's a difference between the state of being sexually attracted to women and talking at length about women's body parts and what you'd like to do to them. If you do the latter then yes, you s…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 11:10 AM
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"what is so wrong with that?" Wow, way to tell on yourself. Not necessarily, how can anyone demonize men for being men? Women are wary of being manipulated and coerced into having sex with men that have no intention of ever taking them seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 10:54 AM
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Nope. Doesn't answer my question though. If you were x and saw y people talking bs about x people online, would you not be wary about y people approaching you?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 10:45 AM
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Completely agree OP, thank you for spitting facts. Every male can and should benefit from learning some game. Contrary to popular belief, 'game' doesn't even involve learning how to be an attractive man it involves learning about WOMEN and female behaviour. Men are not born with 'natural' knowledge on what women like/dislike because... they're not women. Tired of certain men making excuses as to why they can't develop their social skills and increase their chances. No one is saying it's a guaran…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 10:33 AM
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OP I see what you're saying and agree to an extent but I think you're overstating how 'deeply ashamed of their sexuality' men are. If they were, then why are they so vocal, in fact, TOO vocal about it online? Leaving "yeah I'd hit" or commenting on women's bodies and what they'd like to do them under Youtube and social media comments? Having the confidence to approach women and talking about your sexuality are completely different. I have no doubt they are nervous and ashamed to approach women i…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 10:25 AM
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Thank you. They lack the self awareness to realise just how bad they look from an outside perspective and then get confused when women are justifiably cautious. If the shoe fits, lace it up and wear it. If you know it's not you then be annoyed at other men for making you look bad collectively, tf??
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 07:09 AM
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Sure. But why is it that they don't push for sex citing sexual compatibility as the reason? Do you have any statistical evidence to back up your claim?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 01:52 PM
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Thank you for your honesty and perspective. Likely honesty from men in that regard is not well rewarded so they have to go down the fluffy language route and attempt to rationalize primal desires.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 01:48 PM
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Thank you for your input, honesty and providing a reasonable response as to why men push for sex early on other than for sexual compatibility reasons. Don't get me wrong, I'm not knocking men for wanting sex early, my qualm is with men using the 'sexual compatibility' thing as a way to coerce women into changing their minds. The reasons you provided are absolutely valid.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 01:45 PM
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Who said "their own benefit"? When did I use any imperatives? I wondered why we don't see more of that. I.e, it makes sense for women to use the 'sexual compatibility' excuse more than it does for men, yet we see the opposite which leads me to think it's an excuse used by dishonest men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 01:40 PM
1

Um okay? But why CONVINCE people to have sex with you, using goofy rationale?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 01:38 PM
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And what 'problem' is that exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 01:37 PM
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You make a very valid point. I guess my post was more pertaining to the actual act of sex but yes you'd be correct. But at that point wouldn't it just be better to go your separate ways rather than convince someone to have sex with you under the guise of checking for 'sexual incompatibility'? The fact you even have to convince them in the first place suggests you have mismatched sex drives and it wouldn't work anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 01:36 AM
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Thank you for reminding the sub that people who CAN, DO and WILL wait exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/24 01:33 AM
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Real ;-; It's almost as though people have... you know, bodily autonomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 10:00 PM
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When did I say it's not important? When did I use the word 'important' in relation to sexual incompatibility? Not once within my post... Sure. Again, my qualm is using sexual compatibility as a way to CONVINCE women to have sex with you. I.e Claiming 'sexual incompatibility' is a goofy way to convince someone to have sex with you, just leave and find someone else who does.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 09:37 PM
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Not to the same extent as men do. It's more common for a man to CONVINCE a woman to have sex earlier than she wants to than the other way around. The key word here is convince. My issue is men using the term 'sexual compatibility' to CONVINCE women to have sex earlier than they want to. If anything women should be the ones pushing for sex earlier because sexual compatibility actually makes sense for it to be a major concern for them (selfish lovers, ED, can't achieve orgasm). And yet we see the …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 09:34 PM
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So based on the title? gg You've COMPLETELY missed my point. If sexual compatibility is a greater concern for women, more things that can go wrong (dick size, ED, premature ejaculation, selfish) then why don't we see women pushing for sex early in relationships MORE to see if they are compatible? The sexual compatibility reason makes more sense for women than it does for men so I think it's an excuse to push things forward instead of being honest and simply saying "I find you attractive and it's…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 09:27 PM
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Really? I've never heard of that before but I can see how that could be the case. "They most likely don't bring it up because they'd be accused of having a small penis.". Thank you for this insight.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 09:23 PM
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"Then why don't women have sex earlier to find out if they are sexually compatible?" That's my point, what are you arguing against? Lol. EXACTLY. If women are more likely to be unsatisfied (just facts, no need to fight reality, far more women claiming men were mediocre in bed than the opposite) then why don't we see MORE women pushing for sex early? Why do we see MEN pushing for sex early on more often? There has to be another reason other than the 'sexual compatibility' thing because that reaso…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 09:20 PM
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So why don't we see men complaining about it more often in online spaces under the guise of anonymity?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 09:13 PM
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Does the variance greatly affect sexual satisfaction in the same way penis size appears to for women? Not really... "Damn bro, her vagina was loose af" is no where near as common as "Omg his dick was tinyyyy". To pretend otherwise is just goofy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 09:07 PM
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At which point did I say sexual incompatibility is not important?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 09:04 PM
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I didn't mention a thing about waiting. If anything I'm wondering WHY we don't more of the opposite from women. If women are factually more likely to be sexually incompatible with men i.e, dick size, ED, can't achieve orgasm, premature ejaculation. We see women complaining about this a lot more than men complaining about loose vaginas or starfishing. Wouldn't it make sense that we see WOMEN pushing for sex early into dating MORE than men to figure out if they're a good match? But we don't. We se…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 09:01 PM
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Um okay, what's your point? Then... Leave if you're sexually incompatible? Just don't use it as an excuse to CONVINCE women to have sex with you when realistically they're the one's who should be more worried about it. So why is it that men push for sex early into dating more than women when they are statistically more likely to enjoy the sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 08:55 PM
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Sure but my post more pertains to the actual act of sex and how there are more components to it for women that can go wrong (dick size, ED, whatever) so shouldn't they be the one's pushing for sex more to see if it's a 'match'? It seems you're referring to the very initial stages when you haven't even had sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 08:50 PM
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You make some good points but simultaneously you appear to be making arguments against an argument that doesn't exist. Not once did I say it's not important. No one is obligated to do what they don't want to do. I take issue with men using 'sexual compatibility' as a tool to CONVINCE women to have sex with them by exploiting the empathy gap. The honest thing to do would be to just leave. How is sexual compatibility of 'equal' concern when the facts are there? Men are more likely to achieve orgas…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 08:43 PM
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Lol, what ;-; How often do you see women complaining about dick sizes and how often do you see men complaining about vaginas across media and in real life? That should give you your answer. The proof is in the pudding, why fight reality?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 08:34 PM
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Why is that relevant? Not a 'claim', just facts lol. Do men achieve orgasm more than women? Yes. Do women complain about selfish lovers more than men? Yes. Are men more likely to have sexual complications from overusing porn? Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 08:27 PM
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Sure. No one should have to do what they don't want to do. Not getting what you want out of the relationship? Leave. No one is entitled to anything. My issue is with men CONVINCING women to have sex with them under the guise of 'sexual compatibility'.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 08:25 PM
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Okay that is fair, thank you for the insight.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 08:22 PM
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I completely understand that. The whole point of my post was sexual compatibility is a greater concern for women that it is for men. So why is it men pushing for sex more often to see if 'we match'? That's what I was most confused about.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 08:20 PM
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I can empathise with that, it sucks... Hang in there and please don't feel the need to compromise on your values. :) People are already getting defensive when I said sexual compatibility is logically MORE of a concern for women than for men so why is it men pushing for sex more often?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 08:17 PM
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Tell me you didn't read the post without telling me you didn't read the post. I gave literal bullet points as to why sexual compatibility is IMPORTANT for women...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 08:15 PM
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That still doesn't even answer my question and that's not my qualm at all. Again, why CONVINCE someone or push boundaries. when you could just find someone who DOES want to have sex with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 08:13 PM
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You can literally buy lube and use medical dilators. You can't grow the length of a penis etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 08:12 PM
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That's absolutely fine, I wouldn't knock that at all. My point is: Why convince someone who doesn't want to have sex with you, to have sex with you Why use 'sexual compatibility' to convince women to have sex with you, when logically women should be more worried about sexual compatibility than men
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 08:08 PM
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I do. The whole premise of my post is sexual compatibility is more important and more of a concern for women that it is for men. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 08:04 PM
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"There are less factors men have to worry about when it comes to vaginas." Didn't say they don't vary, I said there are LESS FACTORS. Tightness, elasticity, depth and amount of natural lubrication, sure. Externally, they of course differ but that's not relevant when it's the internal that's involved in sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 07:59 PM
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