Impossible_Okra_6321 Archive

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0	Dating Norms How long would you expect between having sex and deciding to be exclusive? What do you think is a typical number of sexual partners (I say typical rather than average, because perhaps the people who date aren't typical. This excludes people who married young and those who don't have sex. I think the average is less than 10, but typical could be higher)? Work out from this the expected time for a new sexual partner and then compare that to the time from sex to exclusivity. e.g. an example based o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/22 10:19 PM
3	Dating Norms I'm not disputing what John Oakman said. I'm saying the norm the OP described as ancient should instead have been given a different name. In the 1950s, there were shotgun weddings because there was shame associated babies outside of wedlock.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/22 09:20 PM
2	Is it possible for a woman to be thin and below-average looking in today’s dating market like it’s possible for men? Perhaps there is a significant difference, depending on gender, in how likely it is that an overweight person is considered attractive. Personally I find thin women attractive. But I thought a lot of men find bigger women attractive.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/22 08:50 PM
6	Dating Norms Less, not none! Weren't people having less sex when birth control was limited, abortion wasn't safe and legal, and people were pressured to marry if the woman became pregnant?	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/22 08:33 PM
2	Is it possible for a woman to be thin and below-average looking in today’s dating market like it’s possible for men? Because so many people are overweight, is it safe to assume the only way you’ll get with a thin women is if you’re an above-average looking man? Isn't the proportion of overweight men roughly equal to the proportion of overweight women? A thin man might find it harder to attract a thin woman, if the woman is more concerned with things other than appearance. That would mean a man doesn't even have to be a healthy weight, and can still be with a thin woman, as long as he is above average in non-ph…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/22 08:28 PM
6	Dating Norms Ancient isn't a good description. Maybe something like Puritan, Christian or Victorian.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/22 08:20 PM
1	Dating Norms When I google "dating norms" the first link I get advises women to date multiple people at once. In this dating norm, the man and woman have sex ("hook up") from the beginning, outside a monogamous relationship, and it later becomes monogamous only through some explicit mutual agreement. How often do you think that happens, assuming they are trying to follow that advice? e.g. Imagine a woman goes on a first date with a man, it goes well and they have sex. She has a first date lined with another …	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/22 08:18 PM
6	Dating Norms The sexual revolution occurred in the 1960s. Presumably there was less hooking up in the 1950s.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/22 07:56 PM
2	The vast majority of men would prefer a relationship to constantly trying for hookups. Women however only give their attention to the ones that only want sex. Your reasoning is interesting. It seems plausible to me, as I want a relationship and so do most of the men I know (I don't think I know many who frequently sought casual sex). But maybe I'm not representative. If women stopped feeding this behavior and maybe lowered their standards for physical attractiveness just a hair, they’d find tons of options for a relationship. Maybe. But maybe men's desire for sex vs relationship is independent of their attractiveness. Do you think there is data su…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/06/22 07:47 PM