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Yep, apparently two BDSM poly people active in their BDSM poly community never had a single sit down to talk about their relationship rules and expectations. I thought they were contractually obligated to give weekly renegotiation reports to each other, their families and all their co-workers.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:06 PM
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This seems very culturally dependent to me. It seems extremely strange to me that people would assume they were heading to marriage or children before living with someone for at least a year, but the cultural norms where you live might well be different. Maybe you aren't very good at picking up on cultural norms and "unwritten rules" that everyone else seems to just know? You seem to have confused platonic friendship with sexual interest before. If you are a person who struggles with that sort o…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 03:14 PM
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The bags of sand people are referring to is from the movie "40 year old virgin" where an inexperienced man claims that women's breasts feel like bags of sand and everyone realises he's never touched one. People are bringing it up because the way you talk about sex makes it sound like you are very sexually inexperienced. Have you ever had sex outside of a paid session with a cam girl? Sex workers are being paid to put on a performance, so its a bit different than non-transactional encounters.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 02:43 PM
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Exactly. They want to believe the men they are envious of must somehow deserve their negativity, so Chad must be an arsehole because he is confident, and Chud is a good guy because he is passive. Childish thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 02:23 PM
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It's a snarky reference to the paragraph headed Female on Male "White Lies" which I agree is shockingly vague about what exactly the lie is and who is making it, but the accusation seems to be that women's lies lead men to assume they will probably end up married or at least in a marriage-like relationship. I don't actually think that OP was promised a bride by his granny. Maybe you have trouble picking up a sarcastic tone, so I'll explain. It's very common here for losers to insist that they we…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 10:33 AM
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No, no. It was my fault. I just connected the sentences too closely. And thought you must be insanely awkward in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 12:10 AM
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Didn’t you say you did in your main post? I think I must have misread it - I thought when you wrote the quote below you meant your admission was to the divorcee! Thank goodness it wasn’t! My apologies. “The closest I’ve had to a relationship was two dates with a divorcee 5 years ago. I’ve been told I was being creepy and predatory for admitting I’d rather date a less experienced younger fully grown 30+ adult.”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 11:25 PM
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Yep. I‘m just so mean to people who say having to provide for their children is like being raped. Calling them losers is just so authoritarian, don’t we know they are the only ones who get to offend people?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 11:14 PM
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Do you think only statistical tables count as data? There’s a load of case studies with in-depth discussion. Any of them, including the one that begins with the introduction on p2, support my point that women sometimes get penalised for the actions of men. If you want some discussion of how often in comparison to fathers being penalised for the actions of women, try p.6-7. I can’t quote it from my phone, sorry, but it seems to be that in cases where an absent parent was prosecuted for abusive co…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:51 PM
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It’s incredible. The world must be such a confusing place for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:31 PM
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Learn to read better, it will make your life easier and you’ll be able to stop parroting phrases you don’t really understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:26 PM
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Hilarious I‘m sure. If you kept on reading you would have come across the reference to the 2022 report, which has similar figures. I‘ve linked it directly, but it’s in more complicated language than the Psychology Today article https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/10790632221096421
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:21 PM
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It was an article to illustrate the kind of sentence I was talking about ( woman gets double the sentence of the man who actually crushed the child ) but if you want some more academic discussion about the issue: https://www.law.georgetown.edu/gender-journal/wp-content/uploads/sites/20/2023/04/The-Law-of-Motherhood-in-the-Gender-dependent-Application-of-Criminal-Responsibility-for-Failing-to-Protect-Children.pdf
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:15 PM
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No one is disputing that women do commit violent and sexual crimes. That doesn’t mean they commit them at the same rates ( average number per person) as men. For example about 90% of teachers committing sexual offences against students are male even though you read a story about one of the 10% that is a woman. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/protecting-children-from-sexual-abuse/202305/educator-sexual-misconduct-remains-prevalent-in Giving a news story about an individual crime as eviden…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:01 PM
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I don’t divide people by gender so much as by past history. If my brother complains about something I take it really seriously because he only complains when something is really affecting him, and he‘ll have tried to solve it. My mum ( and my dad when he was alive) complain as a kind of basic communication style, they don’t really expect me to listen deeply, I just nod and tut occasionally. When the men on here complain it’s so delusional I laugh out loud sometimes. It’s a guilty pleasure I try …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 08:36 PM
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Her point is that women don’t commit as many crimes as men, especially violent crimes, even accounting for underreporting. This is the standard view and its what any academic or professional in a criminal or legal field would say. You responded with some links about sentencing which is a different thing. Sorry if I made a bitchy comment about you being illiterate if you actually have literacy issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 08:07 PM
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Anyone who has casual sex should carry their own condoms. And aren’t you the one who wanted young virginal lovers on that other post about limits? You can hardly choose them for inexperience and then blame the poor things for waiting to be told what to do and over-excitement. I know this is probably trolling but don’t be mean to young lovers, people. They’ll be emotionally crippled by behaviour an older person would laugh at.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 07:55 PM
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So why not back up your rather unusual belief that women do commit crimes at the same rates instead of posting some unrelated links about sentencing?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 07:37 PM
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Are you functionally illiterate? Try reading her comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 07:20 PM
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I think we are speaking past each other. I too am opposed to circumcision, for minors at least, and conscription. I I was explaining why I think there are no major political campaigns on those issues, and disagreeing at the implication that men can't or just don't help each other. I was trying to use the Men's Shed issue as an example of men actively caring. The people I know from Men's Shed do politically campaign for better health care for men, mental health care especially, and criticise unfa…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 07:08 PM
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There's no point in spamming pointless links when you clearly haven't read the comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 06:27 PM
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These reports? Well we have things like, domestic violence being mostly perpetrated by women according to self reported surveys So, which studies, what definitions are they using of domestic violence, and does that definition and methodology reflect other evidence for prevalence and types of domestic violence? Like, is there some explanation of why women tend to be hospitalised and murdered at a far greater rate due to male violence if women are doing just as much?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 06:16 PM
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Yes. And I'm disagreeing with him that there's a hidden mass of women being near as violent, that just doesn't show up in the court stats. Because it doesn't show up in medical records or numbers of men murdered by women either. (In most cases of murder the murderer isn't disputed, even if being an act of murder is, so I think that's a reasonable ). I acknowledge you have a different source, with the self-reporting. I just think they are reporting different things than OP is talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 06:01 PM
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Yeah they did, its the conclusion of OPs post. When the same act is defined, charged, and punished differently by gender, the prison gap isn't a clean measure of behavior. I'm trying to suggest, in response to you, is that if women commit equal amounts of domestic violence to men according to the surveys it's maybe less socially visible because people are using different definitions of domestic violence in other situations. I think women can and too often do behave abusively in relationships act…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 05:52 PM
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Which is awful, but as its doesn't show up in hospital admissions, visible injuries or murders its hardly surprising it doesn't go to court as often.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 05:30 PM
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Yeah, stereotypes do affect sentencing including gender ones, so violence by women too often isn't taken as seriously as it should be On the other hand women transgressing against their social roles are likely to get very harsh sentences - women get much heavier sentences for parental neglect for example, and often get punished for crimes committed by others against children in their care which men rarely do. https://ktul.com/news/investigations/double-standard-women-often-sentenced-longer-compa…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 05:24 PM
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Practically everyone is at least a little afraid of rejection, including social rejection. Confident people just ignore that fear better. Creating bullshit excuses to not deal with our anxiety is typical human behaviour, so of course it's not surprising that immature, anxious, socially awkward young men are also prone to it. Half the complaints about women on here are from men who rarely interact with women, but desperately want to, convincing themselves its not worth it. Not that anyone should …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 04:41 PM
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I don't know, I have absolutely no ethical concerns about a person over 25 with a person over 25, I believe there are couples with great age gaps that work well, and yet I still find your post and comments a bit unsettling. It's like you are trying to overcome your fear of women by weird fantasies about women, and then the bit about you telling a woman you were actually dating that you'd like someone younger and less experienced and being surprised you got a strong reaction.. yeah, it comes acro…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 04:29 PM
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Ok, that comment wasn't there when I was looking and yeah, she has a much harder line on age gaps post 25 than most. Although when she said And now like a vampire you want to suck youth out of someone else so as not to fully confront the life you chose for yourself. I think she has a point. You do have a fantasy of younger women somehow making up for the youth you feel you missed out on. You can't steal their youth literally of course, it's unlikely you'll get far enough to even waste their time…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 03:59 PM
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People conveniently forget that the most of the "approaching in public" women were objecting to was straight-out bullying. Catcalling, insults, pick up lines delivered with an intentional threat. And the reason they forget is because the kind of people who complain they can't approach women in public either really wish they could still do that as easily, or because complaining gives them a convenient excuse for their fear of talking to women. Cold approaching women never worked well and it was n…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 02:33 PM
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Don't you like army men though? I thought venereal disease was more an issue with them than the general population?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 01:51 PM
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I would if I believed it was real.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 01:39 PM
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I'm not single anymore, but when I was I never thought in terms of a set of conscious standards like that. I'm not attracted to that many people, but its not like I'd be having a great flirty conversation with someone and then checking whether their n-count met my boundary conditions prior to asking them home. Anything I seriously dislike in partners has just stopped me being attracted to them, rather than a limit I'd impose on myself. Even when it came to moving in with someone I've never wante…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 01:35 PM
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I don't approve of semi-hysterical idiots reacting to resistance to their stupidity with completely unsupported statements about what I think in regards to to other matters, but I don't think it's automatically extremist, dangerous or misogynistic of you. Just silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 12:52 PM
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Fair enough, good point.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 12:34 PM
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Men help each other out all the time and when it's not in an extremist/dangerous/misogynistic way it's usually seen very favourably socially. It's being the kind of fool who talks about "divorce rape" that gets you seen as a creepy loser.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 12:32 PM
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So when men see the millions of participants in the Women's March not being able to stop Trump and they decide political action is pointless? OK, but if so, why do men still participate in political movements that aren't about male issues? Ed. Actually a lot of men do a lot of work to support other men. Just not the kind of men that think in ways that could be characterised as black pill or red pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 12:20 PM
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Actually, a lot of men do work on issues mainly affecting men, just not the misogynistic shitheads of the manosphere. I know a few older guys who participate in the Men's Shed movement, which has men working on practical projects together while helping men who feel lonely or in poor mental health. It's very popular in Australia (where it started) and the UK. There's a lot of informal mentoring and mutual support. I imagine campaigns against draft registration aren't big in places like the US bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 12:14 PM
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Yeah, I agree that once everyone is past 25 age is just a compatibility issue not a power discrepancy. Not everyone does of course, but almost all of the rancour around age gaps is based at people who date very young women. The rest is mainly jokes at old people thinking they are sexier to young women than they really are. No one here is actually saying it would be immoral for you to date a woman in her 30s are they? They are just saying it’s unrealistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 10:01 AM
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Yes exactly, you are proving love_in_october‘s point. Masochists want the illusion of extreme pain, not the reality. Submissives want the illusion of lack of control, not the reality. So they play pretend with other people who are also into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:48 AM
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I’m always amazed by the number of men on here that go on about 50 Shades showing the depraved natures of women despite it being over a decade old and about a woman who hates BDSM and stops her boyfriend doing it. I guess the only people who actually read it were the hate readers.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:37 AM
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People enjoying a fantasy is different to people enjoying the reality. Does liking an action film mean I really want to be shot at? I’m not into BDSM myself but I’m pretty sure someone who gets off on the aesthetics and sensations of being whipped in a pretend dungeon would still be traumatised by beating up in an alleyway. And actually yes, I do think men as well as other people can get off to all sorts of stuff in fantasy without it being a problem in reality. The problem is the people who mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:25 AM
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I think she's talking about women killing their own partner because it's the only way to stop the abuse. Sympathetic vigilante types aren't really at thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 05:43 PM
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Well, maybe we have different experiences. I know my parents couldn't do it, and my mum seems fitter than most of her age peers.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 04:31 PM
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Not no energy. Just not the energy to look after a toddler for 8 hours 5 days a week. And I live in Germany. The villages and smaller towns are full of older people whose children moved to the cities for work and can't move back for the same reason. My dad died of industrially acquired cancer in his 60s. My mum is pretty fit and active for a woman her age but has neither the desire nor the stamina to take on childcare on top of her full time job - she actually hasn't retired because she loves he…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 03:01 PM
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Sorry you had such a crappy experience and it put you off gyms.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 02:37 PM
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Ah, I see the confusion. PieMart was saying that domestic abuse against women is not taken seriously enough or sentenced appropriately: “Just look at prison statistics. What 91% of women in prison are victims of domestic violence Women get on average 15 years or something for killing their abuser in self defense whereas men who abuse their partners do only 2 to 6 years in prison for it.” She’s not saying that men are doing lesser times for the same crimes, she is saying that the abuse that happe…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 02:32 PM
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Most people can control themselves, my mixed gymn is great. And even when they can’t a well-managed gym will sort that straight out. My husband’s gymn had a man behaving weirdly around the women’s changerooms and they booted him out straight away, peace restored.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 02:07 PM
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People, including men, are actually getting more financially responsible regarding the cost of bringing up children, it's probably the biggest reason behind the falling birthrate. Go back one or two generations and young couples were much more likely to just have kids and hope it all turned out ok. I know there's plenty of right-wing grifters on the internet spinning tradwife fantasies, but they are mostly just selling aspirational bullshit to lonely broke young men and workshy women, it's not r…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 12:51 PM
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Yeah, if you live in a multigenerational home or close to parents who aren't in full time work themselves, but that's not how most people live in the west now. Most people don't live so close to their parents that travel time isn't significant. Then if the grandparents are under 65 they'll probably be busy working and living their own lives and not be available for full time care. If the grandparents are over 65, no matter how loving they are most just won't have the energy and focus for hours o…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 12:08 PM
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You splashed around a hell of a lot of money on a broke flakey woman, did a lot a things for her, it sounds like it was very unequal from the beginning and you, reasonably, resent that. But it does seem like you are thinking about this the wrong way - like if you did this and spent that, why didn't she want to stay with you? If someone doesn't love you, you won't be able to buy it or earn it with actions. Try to find someone who actually likes you, matches your relationship energy, wants to spen…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 09:57 AM
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I am assuming that you don't have a strong foundational understanding of the world, because of all the nonsense you write. It's got nothing to do with your job. Or that I'm only in service because I'm "not educated". For someone that worked in the industry, you sure seem to have very negative opinions toward it, which is saddening. Where did you get that from? Because I said it got me through uni? That's just factual. I worked in service, I'm glad of the experience, I'm too introverted to want t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 05:48 AM
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How am I being classist? By not thinking that being a service worker elevates you to some noble position where you get to tell white collar women what to do with their lives? I'm a programmer, which may well be a fake white collar job according to you, but certainly wasn't handed out to me in a secret gynocracy meeting. Good HR and good admin makes so much difference to a company, and observably takes some skill to do. Why do you think you deserve those jobs more than those women? You seem to th…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 05:28 AM
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I've got nothing against service work, I got through university doing it. I don't think it gives you any grounds to criticise women for finding fulfilment in their careers though, or the choices they make about parenting. I also suspect you've only got a very incomplete idea of what they actually do.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 05:09 AM
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Of course, I should have realised that you bringing up the sad story of how women antagonised you two years ago with that traumatising video and also had the audacity to have unfairly high standards on dating sites was a completely emotionally level response to complaints about actual violence and perfectly reflective of your sane and calm emotional state. And of course you would be completely for women's rights as human beings if those seven women had just been a bit more respectful. Of course …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 05:02 AM
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I am married with a child. I love being a mother. I think people who don't want kids, or are even ambivalent about having kids, should not have them. It's something you should be all in on, for the sake of your child. So that's my unsolicited opinion about what other people should do but it least it comes from some more experience of parenting than the half baked thoughts of a voluntarily childless random who thinks he knows more about young women's lives and careers than they do. I notice you d…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 04:52 AM
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By your own rather idiosyncratic definition. It's not like your thought experiment is the standard scientific definition or anything. And so yes, if you define physical attraction as a thing humans are mostly neurologically incapable of feeling given the way our brains work in processing perception and emotion together, by your definition, I don't feel it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 04:40 AM
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What is happening here is a man having a tantrum because of a years old Tik Tok video where 7 women answered a silly hypothetical question in a way that hurt his feelings, and he thinks this is more important than actual real world deaths and erosion of legal rights and who gets to hold political power.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 04:28 AM
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Sorry, I think we just have very different ideas (and possibly internal perceptions ) as to how attraction works. Thanks though, it's interesting when you come across something like this, when someone sees the world in a way you'd never thought of.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 03:46 AM
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I didn't fill in the flipping survey and I don't know anyone who did, but I'm pretty sure the makeup of the US government affects your life and my life a lot more than some inconsequential ragebait, and I don't even live in the US. It is completely unhinged for you to care that much about a stupid survey that no sane person took seriously. Men who took it seriously shouldn't be dating, they should be getting psychological help for the lack of proportion in their lives. Maybe volunteering and com…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 03:39 AM
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But why does it have to be separated from emotional attraction? I mean, you seem to be suggesting that if I can't feel physically attracted to a man if imagining hating their personality killed the attraction in that moment. I mean, if you imagine a hot woman and then imagine someone murdering your mother right next to her, does the fact that might put you off a bit really mean there was no physical attraction? Why is it in any way helpful to think of attraction like this?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 03:29 AM
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Why would I do that even if I could? I'm really a bit lost as to the point you want to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 03:18 AM
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So being upset about the president of the US being an actual rapist is disproportionate, but you spending years unable to get over a comparison to a hypothetical bear is perfectly rational? Its just as bad as racism for me to get upset over legal attacks on women's bodily autonomy, but women not picking you on dating sites was vicious antagonism. Anyway, I can see you are getting a bit upset and seeing statements that aren't there, but no, I don't think most men are evil. I don't even think most…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 03:16 AM
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I followed your link and the emphasis is on mocking the mothers. What they are doing is blaming women for the behaviour of adult men. As for your link from "plugging into Gemini" you state that these are identical crimes, but that's not exactly true. The very document you linked showed that the women more often could use provocation as a mitigating defence - 44% of them had been physically assaulted by the victim at or just before the time of the murder for instance whereas only 10% of the men h…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 03:06 AM
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I don't think this is AI slop. It's weird, disjointed and irrational in a very human way. All the modern AI models sound like management speak.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 02:43 AM
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I really don't think you are the best judge of whether anyone else's resentments are frivolous. You seem to have an animus against all women because someone (your grandmother maybe?) told you you would get married and your promised bride hasn't been delivered.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 02:42 AM
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Yeah - and I don't think humans can disregard those associations entirely, and don't even try to in real world conditions. So what is the point of trying to separate them completely, what are you trying to achieve in that thought exercise?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 02:33 AM
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So women can point to real world misogyny with multiple incel mass murders, Harvey Weinstein and his ilk, a literal rapist as US president, the richest and wealthiest men on earth being entangled in the trafficking of teenage girls, the repeal of Roe vs Wade and the subsequent deaths of several women denied medical care but oh no, a bunch of losers got their feefees hurt because of some years old stupid hypothetical. How bad can someone's life be if they think that is worth complaining about. As…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 02:30 AM
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Of course women sometimes do bad things to men and boys. Women are human beings. I haven't seen any woman on here seriously arguing otherwise and I doubt OP has either. I don't really understand the weird unrelated mix of things you've added. Bias against boys in schools. Yes, this is quite a serious issue, and part of a deeper problem with early education. Boys have always done worse in schools, regardless of the gender of the teacher, back to when the first state schools were introduced. Briti…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 02:09 AM
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But most attraction is mixed and modified. I don't even think it can be distilled in the way you are describing - surely even a man looking at a woman on the street is also responding to emotional associations, like does she look carefree, or adventurous or remind him of an old crush. Just as when I'm having a conversation with someone really handsome it will probably enhance my pleasure in the conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:17 AM
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Maybe they are actually rejecting you because you get easily triggered into sexist rants full of incel talking points? Maybe they don't call every other neurodivergent man a creep, just the ones that act like creeps? Maybe they just don't like you because you talk to them like you write on here; ie presenting as a bitter resentful self-involved rather silly conservative, and they prefer intelligent, empathetic liberal men?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:04 AM
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That is not what I said, and you know it. I'm not sure he does know it. A lot of the guys on here are too scientifically illiterate to be intentionally deceptive. He probably can't understand your criticism.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 12:40 AM
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Side debate: I've lived in some thin walled houses where I am absolutely sure that people were being performatively loud and not just at their partners. I've also seen porn. Of course people fake sex noises, and often very badly. I like moaning, throaty sounds and compliments. Standard dirty talk makes me cringe but I know a lot of people love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 12:25 AM
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I don't really understand your second paragraph. Are you trying to say that physical attraction only counts if it's based on purely visual attraction? Because if so I think you have a very specific personal definition, by which very few women and quite a few men wouldn't experience physical attraction at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 12:12 AM
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So I'm like most women here and it's never. I do wonder how much of this is social and how much of this is that men have a biofeedback divining rod for their own sexuality. They presumably get a really clear idea from early in their sexual development of what they like to look at, and then stick to the first clear response. Most women don't have anything like so clear an awareness of immediate physical response. Some men on here like to talk about "tingles" but that sounds more like a venereal d…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 12:06 AM
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No - I still wouldn't be turned on by a great conversation with a man that I found really ugly or smelt unpleasant. I find very few men are really ugly. I think I have a low bar for physical attractiveness compared to many women. I couldn't give a toss about height for instance. The difference is my requirement for them to work well with me in conversation comes BEFORE the physical attractiveness bar. Only when we've had a really sparky conversation will I start thinking hard about the physical …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:55 PM
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Not lesliecarbone but I get her reaction. I don't actually intellectually think it's creepy, as long as the imaginer is not doing or saying anything to affect the person they are imagining. But on an emotional level, I do feel a level of disgust at the thought of sex with a complete stranger, and so a level of disgust that people would be having those thoughts about me. I don't know why I am disgusted, it's an instinctive response, but I think it probably stems from the same aversion most of us …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:45 PM
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No it doesn't indicate that at all, the opposite really. I can think a man is extremely handsome without having any sexual thoughts about him at all. And I've been very attracted to men I've had a great conversation with who I did not think were particularly handsome. Most, but not all, women are like me and most, but not all, men are like the OP. This is not hard to understand, why do so many men struggle with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:32 PM
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I've definitely had female friends that worked a bit more like the OP, just as I've known men that (like me) can't imagine having sex with someone they haven't had a great conversation with. It is a lot less common though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:21 PM
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Yeah, associations are not always fair. Emotions get carried over when they shouldn't sometimes. They aren't always unfair either. A lot of the men on here who have preferences about weight, body count, age etc. talk about them in very sexist ways and make it clear they think women SHOULD be matching their preferences more than they do. I understand why people get impatient with them. As I said, I think many common women's preferences stem from sexist places too, and I agree you have a fair poin…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 11:09 PM
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Do you feel this way just because they showed a romantic interest in you, or because they stop acting like friends when it's not reciprocated? I get a little confused by this when it's the former; I don't think friendship and romantic or sexual interest cancels each other out like that. Maybe it's a cultural thing? It's usual to have casual or past lovers in your friendship circles in my part of Europe, but they seem to be more distinct roles in the US. I think that is a bit sad actually, to los…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 10:46 PM
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We live in a time when people are starting to realise en masse that how to be a man or a woman is up to them and not something that you just do because that's how everyone does it. The freedom is terrifying to some people but I think most of us will sort it out eventually. It's maybe a little more difficult for men right now, because women had more obvious things to gain in being able to work and support themselves, travel outside the house without male escorts, property rights etc but men are s…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 10:32 PM
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Maybe, but it poisons the well. Preferences about body count are much more likely to be seen as misogynistic than personal because it's associated with the kind of people who call women sluts and roasties and ran-through. Women get really angry when some men go for much younger women because they remember the creeps they had to put up with back when they were 13. Honestly, I think women getting hung up on wanting their boyfriends to be really tall is also reflecting some really sexist ideas, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 10:07 PM
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When someone you are close to is asking you how to make better choices in the future and you have actual constructive advice about the red flags they tend to ignore - and even then you shouldn't phrase it in such a uselessly negative way. I don't even mean "you know he cheated on his last three girlfriends, why did you think he'd be different" kind of thing. A lot of people aren't aware of their own patterns - that they are always trying to rescue someone who seems a bit hopeless, or that they f…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 09:18 PM
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I do think it's horrible if women comment on the appearance of men just for talking to them. I haven't seen that personally but I absolutely accept there are some women who haven't emotionally matured past the early teens. I don't even agree with people using that kind of thing against arseholes a la Greta Thunberg dissing Andrew Tate for small dick energy. Not because I care about Tate's feelings, but because it insults other men who happen to share a physical characteristic with him. There are…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 06:18 PM
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I've never actually heard women in my real life complain about short or bald men, but I have occasionally heard them disparaging fat, weird looking or unstylish (in their opinion) men though, and I've no doubt it happens for other reasons. I just don't think it happens anywhere near as much, especially unsolicited and to strangers. Random men I don't know have often commented on the size of my breasts in a way I can't believe is intended to make me feel good even if phrased as appreciation, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 09:51 AM
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Women (and men) vary. For most women (and men) attraction is not ONLY based on appearance. What does matter to them and how important it is and what appearance they prefer varies depending on the woman ( or man). This is what most people think and say, because it's obviously true. I'm sorry if your granny told you differently, but didn't TV and movies and novels and male pop stars and leaving the house occasionally clue you in that she might have been fibbing a bit? Even misogynist weirdo influe…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 08:40 AM
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It might not be their only problem but if they identify as an incel or a looksmaxxer or black pill, personality and social issues are very likely to be a significant problem for them. Also, the only one obvious to people responding to them on an internet forum. I have no idea what any of those men on here look like, but anyone can see that self identifying a woman-resenting loser isn't helping any chances they do have. But where do they complain about women beyond that? Aah, yeah, an unhinged de…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 08:30 AM
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I'd actually argue women are generally much harsher about men's preferences than the other way around. That's sometimes a reaction to a few men being very vocal and obnoxious about their preferences though. They don't need to tell complete strangers they are too fat for them / turn them on / would be prettier if they didn't have a nose ring etc, because those women aren't auditioning for them. If a woman doesn't want to date fat men she doesn't have to. If she rants about fat men being undateabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 07:07 AM
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I'm not conservative, I'm just socially aware enough to know how unbelievable it sounds that women would just believe some "dorky, kinda cringe" guy bragging about his dick in a night club. Are you sure that he isn't actually whispering into their ears "My friend over there is so gullible... ".
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 07:00 PM
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He "subtly" hints to women he has a big dick and they actually believe him and immediately want to have sex with him. Men on here claim to believe some stupid things, but this is ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 04:59 PM
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How do random “chicks” know this about him? Does he expose himself in public? Tell everyone he meets?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 03:22 PM
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