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However, obsessing over people in your partner’s past does indicate insecurity. It’s natural to be a bit curious, but overall I think it’s best to leave all comparisons out of your relationship. No one is obsessing. This is another buzzword that gets thrown around to make it look like a valid argument when it's not. Just 2 questions - Am I The Best sex of your life? Yes - go ahead. No - why not? If she says it's because you'll never be better than my ex, then move on and find someone who you can…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 07:19 PM
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However, obsessing over people in your partner’s past does indicate insecurity. It’s natural to be a bit curious, but overall I think it’s best to leave all comparisons out of your relationship. No one is obsessing. This is another buzzword that gets thrown around to make it look like a valid argument when it's not. Just 2 questions - Am I The Best sex of your life? Yes - go ahead. No - why not? If she says it's because you'll never be better than my ex, then move on and find someone who you can…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 07:18 PM
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Jesus you’d leave someone because you weren’t their best partner? No I'd rather not date someone if I don't even have the potential opportunity to become their best sex in the future. The way you framed that response...... Gaslighting at its best.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 04:12 PM
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Do you just assume you're not as good as her exes? Why? Are women telling men they're not as good? No one is assuming. I saw a post in a subreddit where the guy was feeling bad because his girlfriend said that her abusive ex was the best sex of her life. And he was feeling bad because even though he loved her he couldn't match up to her ex in bed. He wanted to become her best and apparently everyone was calling him insecure for wanting that
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 02:41 PM
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Like the nightclub story you made up. It's not made up. There was a post on sex subreddit. And they were calling the husband insecure And what does "best" even mean? Whatever it means for your partner. You can't look at your partner like they're an arcade game with the top five players constantly on display, and now it's your job to get the "best" score. I'm not.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 02:39 PM
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I would say that no one should be told that by their long-term partner that they're not the best they've had. Sometimes white lies are absolutely necessary. See that's the problem right there. Lying is no way to be in a relationship. However, sometimes you're just not going to be the best, it's not statistically possible for a lot of people. So instead of worrying about whether you're the best or not, you should put all that energy into ensuring that you are the best. If someone has so many part…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 02:36 PM
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Definitely not. Why is she having sex with her best friend's fiancee?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 02:24 PM
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sex to me isn’t the most intimate thing in a relationship. What is?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 02:20 PM
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Lmao dawg. There is always going to be someone better than you. Sure dawg. But I want to become her best at sex, dawg. At everything, now who knows what your partner has experienced? I don't know dawg, but I'll ask her instead of hiding my feelings. The part that makes you look goofy af is that you’re focusing on people in your partners past and not your partner. No dawg, I'm focusing on myself. I want to be her best. A side effect of that is that I become better than her ex partners. My rule of…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 02:10 PM
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That's the reality for a lot of guys buddy. For example I've had sex with a manwhore who was pretty good. Regular guys are not gonna be able to compete with that. Then they can separate and find someone compatible. Why do you care? It's the woman's job to please the man. That's what she's getting paid for. What? Seems like you hit your head somewhere...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 01:49 PM
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The thing about it is, if you find yourself in a position where your partner is 2nd best to someone else, you both lose. Yes, agreed. I think most relationships or marriages, the partners usually become the best in a lot of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 01:43 PM
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Um.... could you dumb it down for us mortals down here on earth?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 01:36 PM
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This post seems more like you want to be told your the best without putting in any effort. Never said that. Stop assuming things. If you’re with your partner for 5-10 years and she’s never been with anyone that long then you should be the best. Agreed. Because if you care about her pleasure and you’re taking the time to know her body then there are going to be a lot of tricks you have up your sleeve that the previous men didn’t. EXACTLY. Well said. Completely agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 01:33 PM
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it raises the question why you tie so much value to it. This is what fascinates me. Why shouldn't you tie so much value to it? Like I said in my post, sex is THE MOST IMPORTANT, SPECIAL AND INTIMATE ACTIVITY between partners. I don't understand how people are like "OMG, sex is so valuable! Sex is so important! Sex is so loving and caring and brings you together! It's not sex, it's love making!", and then turn around and act like it's brushing your teeth.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 01:28 PM
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If you want the best sex your partner has ever had then fuck her better than any man has. Agreed. But some women have a specific person or specific incident which will always be their best. And then when the guy feels bad about not being her best, then they gaslight him into believing that he is insecure. It's not the woman's fault but it ain't the guy's fault either. And it's not insecurity to want to separate over something like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 01:13 PM
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So it's okay if you bring politics, but the OP should not?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 06:35 PM
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Yeah, but you were the one who brought politics into it. So don't
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 06:03 PM
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Then stop bringing politics into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 06:01 PM
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Okay found it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 03:12 PM
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Nowhere did he say anything like that. You read the goddamn thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 03:03 PM
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where he admitted he doesn’t want women to have the right to vote This is a complete strawman. Why are you giving counter arguments for a strawman you conjured up? 🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 03:02 PM
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Women raise children, who will become taxpayers and bricklayers. That's true. But like you said in an indirect way. It's through her children. At face value, women don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 01:23 PM
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Clearly
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 10:31 AM
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LOLOLOL watching you spiral is breathtakingly beautiful. Keep it up 👏😂 "I didn't get owned, I didn't get owned, I didn't get OwNeD"! Lol. You got owned 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 08:16 AM
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Nothing more embarrasing than substituting emojies for arguments and thinking that's an own. Lol. True.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 08:01 AM
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where is their gratitude for maintaining their income through my taxes? Not trying to argue but this is factually false. Women are a net drain on taxes. Meaning they get more than they put in.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:52 AM
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Cool. Keep drinking the Kool aid.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:49 AM
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I also don’t “wonder” nor care why some men are discontent with modern day society. Of course you don't. That's my point🤷🏽‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:46 AM
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Just blatantly laughing at men killing themselves. Pure evil. And people wonder why men are discontent in modern society. 🤦🏻‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:34 AM
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Fiery but mostly peaceful protests." Have to say, that headline killed me. Who even thinks up something stupid like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:18 AM
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Facts don’t care about your feelings and neither do I. Yeah you're right. You don't care about Facts 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 07:16 AM
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You don't have any arguments. All you do is personally attack the OP or TRP. Every time you comment, you just make personal attacks or jokes that you think are funny but are actually depressing. This is what I've observed throughout the comment section.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 06:55 AM
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Please leave him. Do him a favor
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 06:38 AM
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Thanks for finally being honest. Women on this sub act as if they don't grasp this concept Not everyone has skill like that. Maybe you don't , so maybe you should work on it. How can we work on it. Nothing to work on. Pack shit up and leave, aka, break up.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 11:23 PM
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Not the question.The question is: Is it okay to treat someone like that? Is it FAIR for a girl to treat her ex better sexually, than her current partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 11:18 PM
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I think alot of inexperienced people are making assumptions. Don't care Self assured men don't have these thoughts or issues. Don't care Answer the question. Is it okay or is it not okay to treat a man like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 11:14 PM
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and decided she didn't like it, she should disregard that experience and do it because she didn't know you then ?! Nothing to do with this. Why does everyone try to purposefully act obtuse. https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/rb9lkx/she_did_prior_acts_with_her_other_bfs_because_he/hnncuq3?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 11:10 PM
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The problem in a nutshell (maybe not a nutshell but still very well explained)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 11:04 PM
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That's just your opinion. I don't give a sh*t what you think. I think my standards are perfectly fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 03:28 PM
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I'm done with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 03:26 PM
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There’s a million reasons for why things are different Yeah. And we're allowed to dislike those reasons. don’t have to continue to do it because they tried it once. I don't mean she did it once. She regularly enjoyed it with her ex but she refuses now.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 03:22 PM
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Degrading by whose definition? If the girl was previously happy to have anal sex with her ex, but refuses to do so with her current partner, then it's obviously not degrading because she enjoyed it with her ex. Why shouldn't the current partner also demand the same? It's not just degrading sex. If her ex immediately fucked her but her current partner has to wait 6 months, how is that fair?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 03:17 PM
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The whole point of being in a relationship is that you treat your current partner better than your ex. If not, then what's the point?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 03:14 PM
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I'm not blaming it on anyone. I'm saying that a guy deserve to be treated the same way the woman treated her ex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 03:09 PM
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Yeah, but how is that relevant in any case? Why should I wait but someone else get to have sex immediately?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 03:07 PM
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Maybe women should be more chaste?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 02:56 PM
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Alright
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 01:07 PM
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You didn't answer my question. She was willing to experiment with you. WILLING. And then if it didn't work out, fine. I'm asking if it's a Dealbreaker if she immediately puts some stuff off the table while she was perfectly happy to do it continuously for her ex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 12:38 PM
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Those are your standards. I don't have to conform to your standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 09:29 AM
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You're on this sub too. Go hop in the shower 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 08:25 AM
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It's completely honest. My friend's friend who's a girl once slept with 4 men on the same day. None of my guy friends or me can even imagine doing that in the same time period. Women can get sex whenever they want. Men can't. Anyone who pretends otherwise is being seriously dishonest.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 08:21 AM
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This is a great example. When I made a post similar to this in this sub, all the women were like "bUt We dOnT cArE aBoUt yOuR eX". Turns out that they do care.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 08:08 AM
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Thank you for answering the question. Finally!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 07:53 AM
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What? How am I being hypocritical?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 07:52 AM
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Well you're lucky I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 07:52 AM
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Didn't have any what?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 07:51 AM
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Not everything is a competition. I agree, but some things are.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 07:50 AM
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So even though your husband enthusiastically licked all his ex's asses, but refuses to lick yours, you would not break up with him. You'd be fine and just continue?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 07:50 AM
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If that was the case, I wouldn't even be in a relationship with her
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 07:48 AM
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I care about the act that why I'm on Reddit trying to debate it. If I didn't care then why would I be doing all this. You want me to care the way YOU care. Sorry, I'm not a chump like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 07:38 AM
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If anal is something you think might be cool, but you don't care so much, it's not unreasonable for a guy to compromise on it. But it's gonna be a different story if he finds out that she's been an anal slut in the past. Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 07:34 AM
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It doesn't take bringing up someone's past to say "I want to do this, you don't want to do this, we aren't sexually compatible, bye." Past sex doesn't even have to be in the equation, and once you try to bring it into the question you are entering immature territory Not true. People compromise all the time. I'm willing to compromise anal sex with my partner even though I like it, if she doesn't like anal sex. But only if she never liked it. If she was enjoying anal sex with her exes but now she …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 07:31 AM
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So break up then?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 07:23 AM
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No problem at all. You did a much better job at properly framing the question. 👍🏼
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 07:22 AM
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But it’s not necessarily the case if they just refuse to do certain sexual practices with you they did with others and otherwise engage enthusiastically. Why is it not the case? It's absolutely the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 07:17 AM
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Lol, you have no response now. Why don't you answer the goddamn question.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 07:08 AM
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You're at the mercy of what other men can get. It's actually the opposite. If I enforce this standard, then I'm not at the mercy of what other men get. I know that she treats me equally or better than she treated her exes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 07:04 AM
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It's not about right and wrong you idiot. No one is putting her in jail. I have some standards for myself. If you can't meet those standards, then it's not gonna work out. Maybe it's okay with some other person. Stop with the condescending attitude. "Oh, I'm so superior to you guys because I never care about my partner's past". Well maybe you should start because maybe he is treating you like trash while treating his ex like a queen.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 07:01 AM
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Well said
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/21 06:35 AM
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That sounds reasonable
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 11:12 PM
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Unless you believe there’s some flexibility and nuance here Of course, there's some flexibility. I'm not sitting there counting the seconds until she had sex with her ex. "Oh you had sex with your ex 6000 seconds into your first date. I'm gonna time you so that I get to have sex exactly at the 6000th second. " - said no one ever. Of course there's some flexibility. The question is, why should you wait 6 MONTHS?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 11:02 PM
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yes, I agree anyone, male or female, would have validity to feeling jipped if their partner gave 200% on all fronts to every past partner but only 20% to you, I don’t think there’s any reason to really go over that) So you do agree with me. That's what I thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 10:56 PM
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Why don’t you try addressing what I’ve premised? I just did. You just skipped over it. Alright, here's a question. What if your partner treated your ex like a queen but not you? What if you found out that he regularly bought her flowers, went on amazing dates with her, did nice things for her, bought her gifts, etc. but doesn't do anything remotely close for you? Would that be a Deal breaker? And if it is a Dealbreaker, how is it any different than the scenario in my original question? Why shoul…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 10:51 PM
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My apologies if I implied that you were lying. I was just showing you how your statement wasn't going to resonate with men. I get your point though. But I don't know if I can accept that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 10:47 PM
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Alright, here's a question. What if your partner treated your ex like a queen but not you? What if you found out that he regularly bought her flowers, went on amazing dates with her, did nice things for her, bought her gifts, etc. but doesn't do anything remotely close for you? Would that be a Deal breaker? And if it is a Dealbreaker, how is it any different than the scenario in my original question? Why should he treat you the same way he treated his ex? Yet this is what they insist of women, w…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 10:44 PM
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Aren’t you giving her “lesser” treatment than your exes, just as you’re accusing her of doing? No, I'm giving her the same treatment - I will wait the exact amount of time you waited before having sex with your ex. Not more, not less.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 10:33 PM
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And if you’ve waited for past women but don’t want to wait for her that’s not “fair” either If I've waited for women in the past, it's because my exes have made their exes wait too. If I waited for 6 months before having sex with my ex, it's because she made her exes wait 6 months. I'm being consistent. Now tell me why I should wait 6 months for her when her exes immediately had sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 10:26 PM
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Lol, so in the past she immediately has sex. I have to wait 6 months for sex. And then in the future she immediately has sex. But she doesn't mean any disrespect towards me. Good luck convincing people with that narrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 10:24 PM
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Depends. If she made everyone wait, then I will wait too. If she wants only me to wait, then that's not fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 10:19 PM
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What about if she makes you wait and then in the next relationship she has sex immediately?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 10:17 PM
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Yes, that's fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 10:15 PM
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The women who jump on men immediately are chasing their idealized self through a 3rd party. How are you sure this is always true? Maybe not all women behave like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 10:13 PM
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Why do YOU feel the need to be superior to her ex? So you're fine with your partner thinking that you're inferior to your partner's ex? People literally could make you wait for any reason. Yeah. But we're allowed to dislike that reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 10:08 PM
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It's not about the logistics aka size or shape. If she has a problem with the size then of course most men are going to respect that. But it's the willingness. If even before trying anal sex she says it's off the table, but she was willing to try it with her ex, then would that be a Dealbreaker?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 10:06 PM
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I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 08:35 PM
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I'm saying that sometimes sexuality and tastes change. But on the chance that it's not the sexuality that has changed, but your partner just doesn't want to do it anymore because it's YOU, is it a Dealbreaker? majority of Purple/Red pillers are actually 15 year olds. Since you're commenting on this sub, can I assume you're a 15 yr old prick as well?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 08:31 PM
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Interesting suggestion. Probably would skew the other way. Women would be discontent and men would not be bothered.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 08:24 PM
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Where did I say I didn't understand that?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 08:23 PM
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As a man, I would see this as having standards and standing up for myself. I like women who treat me right and not treat me as some inferior chump. And this does not make me insecure. It makes me empowered. Period.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 08:20 PM
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you're insecure and generally incapable of handling a relationship. Nope. If she makes all men wait 6 months before having sex, then I have no problem waiting as well. I don't demand special treatment. But if she had the hots for her exes and had sex with them very quickly, but she makes me wait 6 months, then it's a Dealbreaker for sure. Just because you don't agree doesn't mean I'm insecure and incapable of handling a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 08:12 PM
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If a woman im about to start seeing is making me "wait" for sex for her terms then I dont really care. Chances are, I have another chick on speed dail that I've already did the waiting (Whether it was 1 date or 6 months) ready to fuck if its that important. Not everyone gets to have these options. If you argue that casual sex isn't really your thing then you should be happy that a women waiting sort of aligns with your morals. It's not about whether it's my thing. It's about whether a person get…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 06:52 PM
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However I would be bothered if my husband picked wildflowers for an ex but bought me a generic bouquet of roses. Or took an ex to a state fair and had a blast but took me to a fancy restaurant and we had a lack luster conversation. Fair enough
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 05:58 PM
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What argument? I asked a question and instead of answering it in good faith you tried to be a smartass. I'm not here to argue with you. Just getting people's opinions. You have an argument or just insults ? Do you have any good faith answer to my question or just insults?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 05:48 PM
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Sounds reasonable
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 05:44 PM
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What? It's either a Dealbreaker or it's not. I'm not asking you how to police it. Police it however you want
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 05:43 PM
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I would recommend a contract for anyone who dates you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 05:41 PM
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Only partially. Not completely
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 05:07 PM
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that you shouldn't have let your relationship get to that point in the first place. If not waiting is important to you and she makes you wait, dump her, find someone else. Fair enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 05:05 PM
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Suddenly I'm exploiting people now. Sigh. 🤦🏻‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 04:59 PM
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Most women don't seem to care about it. Although I have some responses from men that do care. Seems like one of those gender differences.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 04:57 PM
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I've noticed that as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 04:56 PM
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Not only I'm not alright with that, I want him to buy me gifts as he used to do with her ex, pay the dates as he used to do with her ex, tell me how much he loves me as he used to do with his ex and put a ring on my finger as he did with his ex. Fair enough Also how do you know she makes you wait longer for sex in comparison to her ex boyfriend? I don't. It was an example. I'm not even in a relationship right now. But let's say you find out later in your LTR or Marriage.....
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 04:55 PM
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This is very odd. You're okay with him even if he treated her better than he treats you?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 04:54 PM
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This has nothing to do with me. I was trying to make a point using an example. I failed I suppose.... It's not about the 6 months. Let's say you're married and somewhere into your marriage you find out that she immediately had sex with her ex while she made you wait 3 or 4 or 5 or 6 or 7 or 8 or 9 or whatever months. Is that a Dealbreaker?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 04:52 PM
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Seems fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 04:47 PM
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That sounds reasonable. But what if they were neutral about it. Like it's not that they hate it but it's not like they like it either? For me, if my partner doesn't want to give oral sex because she doesn't like it, then it's fine. But if she gave oral sex to all her exes but doesn't do so for me, then it's a Dealbreaker. Mind you, this is regardless of the fact whether I might or might not like oral sex. What I like or don't like has nothing to do with it. It's about preferential treatment.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 04:46 PM
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Alright. Peace.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 04:43 PM
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I want to do what I want to do. If I want to do something, and you don't want to do it, but you did it with your ex, buh-bye. That's the core of my question. But I feel like I failed to communicate it properly and now I'm getting random answers. It's not about whether you like something or not. It's about whether you deserve better treatment from your partner than his/her ex.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 04:42 PM
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This is where I respectfully disagree. I understand that sometimes you try something and you don't like it. But if I find out that my partner slept with her ex immediately but makes me wait 6 months, then that is a Dealbreaker. It's literally treating someone better and the other worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 04:40 PM
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I'm not dumping anyone. I'm just asking questions. Stop making assumptions about me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 04:36 PM
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Alright.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 04:35 PM
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So even if you're perfectly happy in an otherwise healthy marriage, this would be a Dealbreaker?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 04:33 PM
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It was an example man. I'm not talking specifics here. It could be 3 months or a year. The point is differential treatment for you and preferential treatment for her ex.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 04:32 PM
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Yes, but that's not my question. What if your husband doesn't want to do anal with you even though you really want it? He did it regularly with his exes but now he refuses with you because his tastes have changed. Is it worth a divorce?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 04:31 PM
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Is it perfectly reasonable to dump someone who is sexually satisfying but you find out that they immediately had sex with their ex but made you wait 6 months before having sex with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 04:29 PM
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I had no interest in that Key difference here. I'm not talking about what you're not interested in. What if you're really interested in pegging. And you know that your partner got regularly pegged by his ex. But now he says he isn't into that anymore with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 04:27 PM
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It's not about what you need. That's not my question. If you partner had sex with their ex on the very first day but makes you wait 3 months before sex, is that okay?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 04:24 PM
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What would be your response to both those scenarios?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 04:17 PM
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Yes, but that's not my question. I'm asking if it's okay for your partner to do something sexually with his/her ex and then refuse to do so with you. The oral sex is only an example. It could be anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 04:14 PM
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The thing is, if you want him to have responsibility, you also need to give him authority. You can't separate the two. Well said
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/21 01:35 PM
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Except in all the different societies in the world where they meant different things? This is completely false. Throughout history all societies considered men as males and women as females. Are there Women who exhibit masculine traits? Sure. Are there men who exhibit feminine traits? Sure. But no one has ever looked at a woman who was exhibiting masculine traits and called her a man. But what it meant to be a man or a woman has always been a social construct and differs depending on where you a…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/21 06:55 AM
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It's not a social construct. Until 5 minutes ago gender and sex meant the same. A female was a woman and a male was a man. Anyone who PRETENDS otherwise is either idiotic or mentally ill to the point of delusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/21 08:49 PM
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This is the problem with the feminist movement. They are encouraged to be anything they want, except be a homemaker. Then suddenly they shouldn't be aiming for that, as if it's criminal to be a housewife.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 06:14 PM
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If she says I want to wait three months until we have sex, he can say fuck no and move on. If he says you gave it up for another guy after one date so I demand the same she can say hell no and move on. Fair enough. You are describing the exact logic behind the Mgtow and Red pill movement. Women treating some guys better than other guys. Specifically, women treating guys who want a relationship with them more badly than guys who just pumped and dumped them. Women don’t get to demand anything sexu…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 04:39 PM
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My point was, you’re not in a position to demand anything of women. I'm not demanding anything of women. I said in my original comment that I am fine with expecting the same from men. I don't expect men to be treated differently. If you're saying that I don't get to demand anything from women, then women also don't get to demand anything from men. This is the reason why men are flocking to Redpill and Mgtow, because of these double standards. Ok, now a woman has stopped drinking. She’s still sup…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 03:54 PM
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I'm not demanding that they have sex with me in a bathroom stall. In fact I like bedroom sex much better than any other place. I think you already knew that was not the point I made. You're probably being purposefully dishonest. Here's the point: If a girl wants a guy A to wait before they have sex, but she previously had no problem immediately having sex with guy B, then what does that say about guy A? It's says, "Guy B was superior to you, so I gave him sex immediately. But you are not that wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 10:25 AM
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Says the guy who read my comment and said "NoNe Of tHaT mAkEs aNy SenSe tO mE". If you have an answer to my comment I'm still waiting. https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/r6rkiq/trp_advocates_for_working_on_your_fitness_money/hmwgfkg?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 06:29 AM
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Says the guy who read my comment and said "NoNe Of tHaT mAkEs aNy SenSe tO mE". Get a grip 🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 06:28 AM
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Yeah it's hard to understand delusional, narcissistic 5 yr olds when they write essays 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 06:17 AM
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I agree, none of what you said made any sense. 🤣🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 06:14 AM
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Exactly. I'm just doing what you did. You said if a guy doesn't want to pick up girls and just play video games, then that is okay as well. Well newsflash! Only 10 percent or Less are like that. 90 percent of people want to pickup girls and have sex and relationships rather than play games. You're on Reddit, on a debate sub, with men debating how they can get more relationships and sex. You're not on the gaming sub with guys who are perfectly okay with themselves not getting sex. Read the goddam…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 06:09 AM
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I don't want to be a good person in life. I want to be evil to others and make sure that the people around me have a miserable time. Can I just be myself?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 05:53 AM
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Yeah, but you're probably an extroverted social guy and that has worked out for you. If a man sucks at social interaction with women and therefore instead of meeting them, stays home and plays video games, then the last thing you should tell him is just be yourself. Sure he may be introverted and he might like video games, but unless he puts himself in social interactions, which goes against his character, then he will never learn.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 05:14 AM
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Yeah but by your very statement, you say that you learned by trial and error through social interaction with strangers. Isn't that "NOT" just being yourself. You were something and you trained yourself to become better. And that is the advice that should be given to young men
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 04:50 AM
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Still believing the gender pay gap exists🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 04:43 AM
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Just be yourself is a terrible advice to give to men. Maybe you're already in a good state and that's why you can get success by just being yourself. But for most men, it's terrible advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 04:42 AM
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Just be yourself is the best advice 🤦🏻‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 04:39 AM
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What a joke of a comment
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 04:36 AM
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You're offended based on your own assumptions?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 04:26 AM
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Quit obsessing over whether she's banged someone hotter than you. Seriously, get over it. I don't know why an ideology that centers self-confidence has inspired such widespread insecurity. As far as I know, Red pilled guys are not obsessed about this because the guy is hotter than them. It's about what's fair. If some guys, get to have sex with a woman, within a few minutes of meeting her, on the bathroom of a night club, then you get to demand the same as well. But women who do this later when …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 04:20 AM
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Bro I definitely agree with your perception of the modern dating market and society. But your replies always come back to the point that men should somehow rebel against this society. If that's what you want, go ahead and do it. But just don't expect to immediately win.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 04:07 AM
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Yes and no. I don't sit with her on the first date and tell her all this like I'm making a statement. I try to get to know her slowly and as the relationship progresses (2 or 3 months), and as we discuss our sexual experiences then it comes up and we go from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 02:14 PM
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" I didn’t tell him Louis and I once had sex nine times in one night, or that we tore through an entire box of condoms in the process." Yeah, if you told Eric, he might realize that the only reason you're with him is because you think he's safe. He doesn't turn you on like "Louis" does. He's just the beta buxx guy. Man I feel for Eric. The whole thing reeks of guilt and it looks like an article she wrote to convince herself that she was doing the right thing. What a narcissistic and cruel woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 08:30 AM
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Man here. And yes it's absolutely important to know your partner's history. And yes, if she did things with men before that she doesn't want to do with me, then it's a deal breaker. If she was having sex with other men right away after meeting them and she wants to wait with me, then I don't think that's fair. If she did something sexually deviant (like anal sex) with other men and she refuses to do with me , then that is a deal breaker as well. And the same can be applied to men as well. I don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 08:16 AM
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Well said
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 07:21 PM
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Well said!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 10:36 AM
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The men who get picked deserve to be there. If you really wanna hurt a man, tell this to the guy who gets rejected on Tinder. Nothing more cruel to the male ego than realizing that he has been rejected because he's average and that there's NOTHING he can do about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 08:29 AM
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He doesn't have anger management issues? What's with all the assumptions redditors make? He did something Terrible to her. She was hurt by that. after she realized what he did, she broke up with him. He didn't seem hurt by that. So she sent the video hoping that atleast that would hurt him.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 02:53 PM
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Okay bro, I don't know if you've been a victim of such type of women, but you're making some insane assumptions here. I just wanted some advice based on what I said. None of this seems like my scenario. Maybe you can give me the benefit of the doubt?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 02:49 PM
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Thanks for your advice
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 02:06 PM
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This is not her character. She's very friendly and a typical person. I've examined her personality to see if she has a bit of crazy in her, but she truly surprised me. She seems very smart and clear minded. I truly think that she made a mistake that day because she was really upset.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 01:45 PM
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I love these analogies 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 01:44 PM
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Lol, true I guess 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 01:43 PM
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I agree with a lot of your points. I just don't think it's applicable to her. Sticking your dick in crazy is playing with fire. You've already seen how vindictive she is with her boyfriend. The next guy she turns vindictive towards, can quickly become you. If you understood what her boyfriend did to her, you would probably say that what she did was nothing. I'm not defending her actions as moral, but if I was in her place, I would've definitely killed the BF and gone to jail. That guy is a serio…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 01:40 PM
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That's the problem man. She's way too hot and Everytime I think of this, my brain remembers her body and is like "Are you seriously considering saying no to this? "
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 12:47 PM
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I'm thinking of doing everything I can to keep it strictly casual. I am not in the right headspace for a relationship and told her that as well. She told me that this was going to be just casual sex, so I should think it over.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 12:40 PM
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I wouldn't say I made up my mind. I was siding towards saying Yes, but I just wanted to know if anyone had an argument as to why I should say No.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 12:01 PM
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I guess 2?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 11:56 AM
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I know. This has been surreal. I initially wanted to say No but she is so beautiful and it's only going to be casual sex, so I'm siding towards saying Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 11:43 AM
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Lol, this made me laugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 11:33 AM
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I (26M) am really tempted to be friends with benefits with this girl (22F), but I don't know if I am making the right choice. Brace yourselves, this is gonna be a really long one. So usually on Saturday evenings, I (26M) visit this small dog park right next to my apartment. About 2 months ago, I was playing catch with my dog sitting on the park bench and this girl (22F), lets call her Emily, is also sitting on one of the benches and she’s crying. I could see that she was upset so I didn’t distur…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/21 11:28 AM
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