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| 36 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats) | Discussion | Inabind369 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 06:05 PM |
| 2 | N-count doesn’t matter in regard to relationships so long as there is either a reason for it and growth has been demonstrated or the person approaches and engages in casual sex in an emotionally healthy manor. | CMV | Inabind369 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/22 05:04 PM |
| 0 | Is it safe to say I’m getting her best? | Inabind369 | /r/askTRP | 27/05/21 06:05 PM |
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| 6 | What hoops do you have to jump through while trying to date?I don’t jump through hoops. The only work I felt I had to do was plan the actual dates. As for dates themselves i wing it and just be myself. In my experience I find women make space for me and self impose hoops on themselves to jump through. I’ve never felt a woman has asked me for more or expected anything other than for me to be myself. I wait for them to try to change me or critique me and they don’t. So I have to give myself hoops to jump through so I stay growing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/26 04:28 PM |
| 1 | Guys who say “I want to REALLY be desired” and “I just want consistency” often reveal that they see relationships as the cost of sex, not the goal itself.Im with you sister, this man don’t put out sex until a woman commits and gets to know him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/26 04:10 PM |
| 1 | People need sex the same way spoiled brats need the newest iPhone.Well I generally get whatever I want, including sex and latest model iPhones, free of charge, so I see your point, iPhones and sex are a lot alike. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/01/26 03:57 PM |
| 1 | If stealthing is legally considered rape, so should lying about birth control be treated as reproductive coercion and be equally punishedIf I don’t trust my partner to be truthful about her being on bc the default is to wrap it up. Focus on what you can control and for a man that is condoms. The difference between condoms and bc is one doubles as a prophylactic and the other just prevents pregnancy. Pregnancy risk is always assumed during any sex, no matter how small, no bc is 100% effective. Risk of disease can be mitigated through sti testing and monogamy. Pregnancy risk is present to some degree until she is infertile. For me … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/25 09:43 PM |
| 1 | The average person is clueless when it comes to how physically strong men are.You misunderstand, this isn’t my energy, this is society’s energy. Now generally do I expect a woman to ever fight me? Never. Do I expect a man ever to fight me? Probably not but exponentially more likely to fight me than a woman is. Again I’m not really the person who says that men are dangerous or has had dangerous experiences with men where I felt I wasn’t in control. Also I’m saying all this and I have had a gun pointed at me by a woman to threaten me. Men have threatened me too but to me it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/25 11:11 AM |
| 2 | The average person is clueless when it comes to how physically strong men are.Not sure what you mean. Men can surely be overpowered. I’m just saying I myself have never once ever been worried about it. Call it It sucks, but a couple bad eggs make it so guys have to prove ourselves not dangerous. You’re also right that women don’t get the same treatment, but that’s because historically men have done an outsized amount of the harm through history. It isn’t that women don’t do harm, it is that we as a species are more sensitive to men doing harm cause men have done more and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/25 04:15 AM |
| 3 | The average person is clueless when it comes to how physically strong men are.It’s about statistical probability. More men can do it than women. Strongest people are all men. Best fighters are all men. Sure there is some overlap and there’s some beastly women who can whoop your ass, but they all lose to the top males. The average man is far more capable of harm than average woman by a large margin in all the areas that matter most for doing damage. You compare like to like, ufc fighter male to ufc fighter female or average male to average female and the man is always the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/11/25 12:49 AM |
| 4 | The average person is clueless when it comes to how physically strong men are.You really don’t think an unarmed man can kill with a single blow? Cause it happens, frighteningly often. Bar fight gone wrong and someone is dead and that’s between 2 men. A man hits a woman and it’s a way bigger risk of death. Women have weaker necks, which means the head is less able to resist motion induced by impact, so force is more likely to move brain around inside the skull, causing a TBI or possibly loss of consciousness. This can easily result in death. It’s basic Newtonian classical … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/25 11:42 PM |
| 4 | What is your goal in dating?I want to be intensely seen and understood and supported and loved. Obviously I need to be attracted to them and sex has to be great too and there has to be emotional and mental compatibility. I like having a companion and best friend who I get to do everything with if I want to. There’s no one else I do the full range of life with because I’m monogamous and that’s special to me. It’s nice to have someone to fall back on in any way I might need. Sex is way better when you love each other and los… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/25 11:36 PM |
| 4 | The more we push the me too movement, the more men’s fears are substantiated of false reports for personal gain as the reward to do so is larger. As such you can never “believe all women”.Food for thought, false accusations hurt survivors of SA more than anyone. Women who falsely accuse hurt the credibility of all women who have been SA’d because it adds doubt. So for you to think men are hurt the most by false accusations you are wrong. One single man is hurt by a single false accusation. All women are hurt by each false accusation because it reduces how society perceived their credibility when something actually does happen and when something happens people need to be believed … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/25 11:28 PM |
| 1 | The average person is clueless when it comes to how physically strong men are.I’m not here to debate incarceration rates for sex crimes. That’s a law enforcement and justice system issue. Sex crimes are incredibly difficult to prosecute and most victims, male and female, don’t even want to press charge due to the nature of the crime. Also you’re wrong. Men are most likely to be the offender with female and male victims. There are female perpetrators but they are relatively rare. If 1/5 are women that means men offend 400% as much as women. The offender is never more likel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/25 07:42 PM |
| 1 | The average person is clueless when it comes to how physically strong men are.Even if you caught all sex offenders, male and female, men are still predominant demographic in sex offender populations. For every female offender they don’t catch there’s at least one male offender they don’t catch. Women as sex offenders aren’t taken as seriously, you’re right, but that doesn’t make them more threatening or more prevalent than male offenders. Also the big difference with assault by a male vs a female, sexual or non-sexual, is that the perceived risk of dying is almost always … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/25 05:02 AM |
| 5 | The average person is clueless when it comes to how physically strong men are.True, they sure do, and I have a feeling I might be one of them too since some odd memories that have surfaced. The difference is boys m grow into men, often stronger than any woman. Theres no physical threat. If who I think touched me did touch me as a kid that doesn’t make me afraid of them. That’s cause I’m 80 lbs heavier and 10 inches taller. They can’t do anything to me that I don’t physically let them. I’m in control. Women don’t have the luxury of growing into a formidable figure who can … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/25 04:47 AM |
| -1 | The average person is clueless when it comes to how physically strong men are.My head went there too and I almost brought it up as a comparison but it’s not the same. Thing is we used to and honestly many people unfortunately still do hold these sentiments about race and risk. Race is a construct whereas maleness is innate. All we see at our deepest animal levels is humans, male or female, big or small, friend or foe or ambiguous. Race hasn’t been a factor as demographic or a segregator between individuals in identification for as long as gender has. I could be wrong, but… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/25 04:35 AM |
| 1 | The average person is clueless when it comes to how physically strong men are.All it takes is a sufficient threshold of men to create a risk heuristic of “men are potentially physically dangerous”. If you’ve met 1000 men and 10 commit a violent crime that’s not insignificant, that’s learning men can be a risk. A 1/100 chance of a man harming you is enough to bias people. The fact most all violence is done by men further biased perception. It isn’t about reality it’s about perception. A few powerful bad eggs change the entire perception of a demographic. Historically it wa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/25 04:22 AM |
| 1 | LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADHot for both. Not an average man in any regard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/25 11:04 AM |
| 0 | Women get rejected just as often as men, it just happens after the sex.No thanks, I’m not interested in men. I’m just saying having lots of options makes some guys picky instead or promiscuous. I had lots of options and it made me pickier. Never did the casual thing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/11/25 02:13 AM |
| 0 | Women get rejected just as often as men, it just happens after the sex.Men can and do flat out turn women down and without having sex with them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 10:28 PM |
| 1 | Women get rejected just as often as men, it just happens after the sex.Humor me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 09:58 AM |
| 1 | Women get rejected just as often as men, it just happens after the sex.How does that apply? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/25 07:50 AM |
| 27 | Women get rejected just as often as men, it just happens after the sex.Sometimes women even get rejected before the sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/25 09:12 PM |
| – | Q4M: Does women shaming your sexuality feel dehumanizing?I’ve never had a woman shame my sexuality, didn’t know this was a thing. If anything women are overly sexual with me. Only time my sexuality gets shamed if it isn’t as extreme in the moment as they’d hoped it would be. I find women like the animalistic sexual side of me. They literally ask for it and want me to growl and be dominating and controlling so not sure where you got the idea women shame male sexuality. Women want more of men’s sexuality in my experience and many of my friends’ experien… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 11:29 PM |
| 1 | LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADYou said women “know the image their body presents in a particular item of clothing, so the former is actively choosing to present a sexual image but the latter is not. Therefore, the latter is modest, the former is not”. Right here you are moralizing women’s bodies. You said a woman choosing such clothes means she is “actively choosing to present a sexual image”. That is how you think, but you misattribute your perception to her intention, which is classic projection. She doesn’t think that way… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/25 01:42 AM |
| 2 | LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADI’m a man bro. I didn’t imagine it, you said it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/25 09:52 PM |
| -1 | LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADLook up projection. That’s what you’re doing. Women just want to feel pretty. Some of that overlaps with what you consider sexy. Doesn’t mean they want you to look. You may feel to look but that is seldom their intent. Women who don’t cover up in a burqa or burlap sack don’t necessarily want to present themselves sexually. They probably just want to feel cute. Women can’t help how sexual their bodies are. It is less they are trying to be sexual and more so you as a man are wired to perceive it a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/10/25 08:03 PM |
| 2 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADOf course, reading or caring about studies only impacts behavior if you allow it to. I’m just stating cause and effect of behaviors on long term intimacy outcomes in individuals and why that is so. Do as you please, we all have free will. I’m just laying out the cause and effect of doing as you please if that means you had first experiences that weren’t emotionally integrated. It isn’t deterministic it is probabilistic. You don’t have to care what men think. I’m just tryna live in truth. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/25 12:42 AM |
| 2 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADI’m just saying that from my perspective basically you said studies have zero basis in reality and valued your lived subjective experience over studies. I’m saying whether you believe in studies or not this here is the mechanism that lends itself to the conclusions the studies draw. Instead of making conclusions or assertions like most do when they cite studies, which I find annoying and un-nuanced, I laid out how it works as a dynamic system. Sorry if it was dense. I’m a nerd. I studied biochem… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/25 12:35 AM |
| 2 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADYou’re right, it isn’t. The delegation isn’t conscious either, it is automatic. Just for people who learned sex as separate from emotional intimacy when they lost their virginity and subsequent early times. Most people aren’t as emotionally vulnerable in casual sex. That’s a super normal delegation of emotional intimacy and it is adaptive. It is only an issue if someone spends years practicing detachment of emotions from sex without a single instance of emotionally integrated sex. That will make… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/25 12:14 AM |
| 3 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADIt’s pretty simple. If you early in learn sex and emotional presence aren’t one and the same, then it isn’t as automatic to be emotionally present in sex later on in a relationship. You become what you practice. If your first times were in a relationship you learn sex and emotional presence coincide automatically. If you have your first time(s) as casual sex then you learn to detach and learn emotions aren’t necessary for sex and it is harder in the future to merge them once you find your long t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/25 10:51 PM |
| – | Men think they are more attractive than they really areJust listen to what the survey says. If you get told you’re hot and get asked out or hit on as a man you’re probably hot. If not you’re probably not. The true hot guys get told it and let know they are hot in no uncertain terms. If you’re hot and a woman wants you and you aren’t biting they will embarrass themselves. Some flat out bring up the idea of having your babies out of nowhere. If you’re hot women flat out let you know. They will call you “cute” or “hot” and make moves and take interest … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/25 07:08 PM |
| -4 | Young women are dating the same terrible menWhat you call a “nice” or “good” guy, i as a man call a “pussy”. Women don’t want a pussy of a man. You can be “nice”, but you can’t be a pushover and you still have to be capable of aggression towards threats when necessary. There is no backing down, there is life or death. Winning the fight is life, losing is death. You gotta be willing to fight that fight when your woman’s safety is on the line. Y’all are just tryna reconcile artificiality of modern society and how it values things in contras… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/25 07:40 PM |
| 1 | To appeal to women, a man must be contextual alpha. It is not optional for men. There is no such burden on women.Well yeah, women want men who they perceive as near the top or at the top. If you aren’t competitive in any domain as a man then you aren’t competitive as a mate. You will be as you say “inviable” if you don’t dominate at least some arena that is valued. Women want to feel like they landed a true “catch” not some schlup of a man. If women didn’t do that then we wouldn’t be what we are today. We are what we are today because of the evolutionary pressure women’s sexual selection imposed. It’s a go… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/25 08:32 PM |
| 11 | Women preferences are considered morality. While men preferences are considered evil.More like women’s sexual preferences adjudicate who is seen as a “real man” and who isn’t. They make generalizations about all males based on their perceptions of who they deem “real men”. “Real men” is just taken to mean men who women deem worthy of mating with on a primal subconscious level. Women just call men’s preferences “evil” or “toxic” when they don’t meet the preferences of the man or men they desire. More than anything this is an issue of projection when it comes to male preference be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/25 08:13 PM |
| 1 | To women love means power and to men it basically means enslavement.Really? I’ve noticed women value protection over resources. So if you can truly protect a woman you don’t have to pay. In fact women will actually insist on paying cause of you keep them safe. Protection is more valuable than money to them because a lot of women have been in scary situations with men—more than you think. You fully solve that problem for them and you’re in without having to pay a dime. Can’t be afraid of anyone though and I mean anyone. You have to be the one traditionally scary … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/25 07:37 PM |
| 1 | Male promiscuity is the source of all of men's dating problemsMale mating strategy has been historically highly opportunistic. Men have evolved to jump on every mating opportunity they can. It isn’t a conscious thing. It can be moderated by conscious thought, but the lower nervous system is far more influential on behavior for most people, men and women, than conscious rational thought. If everyone was rational and cortically controlled no one would ever be impulsive about anything. Sexual behavior is literally one of the things most humans have the least … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/25 06:43 PM |
| 3 | Telling men to have more friendships with woman is misleading because women treat friendships and dating the sameMost people don’t want to be friends with guys who aren’t sexually successful for a very simple reason: they often carry emotional baggage directly and/or tangentially related to their lack of sexual success. Women don’t want to give these guys anything remotely signaling approval of these guys to other women. They’d much rather distance themselves and for good reason, it can hurt their social standing among other woman of their if they don’t. It is their dominant strategy, and therefore in thei… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/25 09:42 PM |
| 0 | Most men have terrible dating advice. Being bitter is not the gold standard of attracting women.Uh I’ve been at least 6’5 since 14, probably even attractive, but because I didn’t feel attractive or confident sexually until older, I couldn’t see the options I had right in front of me or have the confidence to even try. I felt like a boy despite having the frame of an NBA shooting guard by 16. In hindsight, i was very attractive growing up, but I never capitalized on it even one bit until I was like 19-20 and believed it, and in, myself. Even 6’5 guys can turn off women who were initially at… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/25 09:23 PM |
| 2 | Most men have terrible dating advice. Being bitter is not the gold standard of attracting women.I mean that red pill shit about frame isn’t entirely wrong, but it comes across as inauthentic, unattractive, and controlling if you just develop these that to get laid. It has to come from a place of authenticity and be who you are at your core to be attractive. I disagree about online dating not being a great place to meet great women. Idk how you match with women you aren’t highly attracted to if you aren’t swiping right on them, unless of course you are, and to that I ask “why?”. To anyone w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/25 09:14 PM |
| 3 | Women on this sub make it sound like they're single because they're unwilling to compromise on being in a great relationship, but in reality they're single because most men don't want themNot to me, I’m not into teenagers, especially ones still in high school, but you do you Lester | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/25 01:48 PM |
| 5 | Women on this sub make it sound like they're single because they're unwilling to compromise on being in a great relationship, but in reality they're single because most men don't want themI wouldn’t. I have a beautiful gf of 4 years I’m very happy with. I see beautiful 18-22 year old women everyday on my college campus being a student and all. It’s why I wrote what I wrote. I have zero interest in any of them. I’m closer to their peer than you are and I’m still not their peer and neither are you, groomer. I also have my own house lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/25 04:19 AM |
| 7 | Women on this sub make it sound like they're single because they're unwilling to compromise on being in a great relationship, but in reality they're single because most men don't want themExactly. All these ugly ass dudes try to groom high schoolers and defend it with “she’s technically legal”. It’s a weird way to view humans and life. I’m 25 and consider myself to be just about aged out of appropriately being able to date teenagers. I feel too old. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/25 11:35 PM |
| 7 | Women on this sub make it sound like they're single because they're unwilling to compromise on being in a great relationship, but in reality they're single because most men don't want themWhy are you hanging with freshly 18 soon to be high school grad as a 30 something year old man? Assuming because of your activity in FA30+. That’s serious grooming behavior considering she recently turned 18. If you told her you were having romantic feelings right now she’d probably drop you as a friend like a hot potato. Stop trying to date teenagers if you are over 30 weirdo | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/25 11:33 PM |
| – | Men having to supress their own enjoyment/desire is largely overlooked.You need discipline | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/25 02:56 PM |
| -1 | There is a double standard where it's socially acceptable for women to be rude and controlling with their male partners.Have you experienced this with any women you’ve been in relationships with? I’ve never experienced it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/25 02:48 PM |
| 2 | For Men, Single Life Is the Solution—Not Something to FearTons of studies have supported that married men are happier and live longer get, but you do you g. I prefer getting a little nookie every now and then | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/01/25 09:27 PM |
| – | Being called "sweet", "nice" or "gentleman" means they are not attracted to youGeneric sex, I’ve never read a more dispassionate description of someone’s sexual preferences. That’s why she thought you were vanilla bro. Spice it up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/24 05:44 AM |
| 1 | Signs you ARE the woman's first choiceShe makes it abundantly clear she wants to see you and works to make herself available. She tries to fit into your life and she makes it easy. Also if she likes to be physically close to you whenever you’re together that’s a good sign. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/24 05:02 AM |
| 1 | Young men (18-25) must bring something to the table, young women just bring themselves.Nobody gave me or my gf that memo. I have no car, my gf drives me. I’m still working on graduating college, my gf is graduated. I mean I have a job and I’m in school and I’ll happily pay for my gf to eat, but that’s more because I want to than she expects it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/11/23 09:46 PM |
| 1 | The only reason women have such an extreme upper hand in dating is for one simple reason - men are way hornierControl yourself man | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/23 06:22 AM |
| 2 | Can we finally admit that men who find women unattractive, that they are openly mean to them, or simply don't think they exist?Full honesty: I avoid them and try to keep things short if I do have a conversation with them. I am always polite, but part of me is always itching to get away. I guess this I want you call the ick. I always worry about the potentially awkward interaction that would ensure if she made a move on me. Also when I was single I tried to avoid unattractive women like the plague because I didn’t want to be stuck talking to them when I wanted to talk to their hot friend. Also unattractive women get fuck… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/23 02:49 AM |
| 2 | CMV: All women will aim for the absolute highest value male within reach first, then work their way down. Men don’t do this.I’m a man and I do this. They aren’t really above my league though or if they are not by much. I’m good looking though which I guess is why I’m picku | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/23 02:35 AM |
| – | Are average men really desperate for sex?Please do share this study showing that the relation between male free testosterone and violent behavior is causal and not confounded by external factors. Biochem is my shit so I’d love to see evidence supporting such a big claim. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/08/23 02:30 AM |
| – | Why does it seem that blue collar and “average Joe” men have an easier time with female romantic partnership than money making STEM or forum guys?Also not all intelligent women are anti-marriage. You and your friends are way too small a sample size to draw any conclusions from. I know Ivy League educated doctors who are married and have kids. It’s not just dumb conservative women who get married. There are legal benefits to marriage in addition to the drawbacks I’m sure you’re already aware of. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 01:54 PM |
| – | Why does it seem that blue collar and “average Joe” men have an easier time with female romantic partnership than money making STEM or forum guys?Marriage as an institution is shit, no arguing there. I just prefer to love deeply whether that means a relationship, casual dating, or a legal partnership. I don’t like causal/NSA sex because I feel like there’s a requirement for both parties to temper their emotions. I feel intensely and I like to let myself feel what I feel without limits. I find casual sex to be emotionally limiting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 01:51 PM |
| – | Why does it seem that blue collar and “average Joe” men have an easier time with female romantic partnership than money making STEM or forum guys?Are you a man or woman? I honestly can’t tell | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 01:47 PM |
| – | Why does it seem that blue collar and “average Joe” men have an easier time with female romantic partnership than money making STEM or forum guys?I said I’m in the top 1% for intelligence. Not everything is about your sex appeal/value lol. Sex doesn’t equal fun. Don’t call me a tradcon, that shits offensive lol. I’m a dumb liberal get it right. My views on sex are more existentialist in nature. Sex can be whatever we make it. Intercourse is merely a physical act. The emotions and value we assign to it is personal and unique to ourselves. For me meaningless sex is existentially wrong. Other people can do it and my partners can have had it,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 01:46 PM |
| – | Why does it seem that blue collar and “average Joe” men have an easier time with female romantic partnership than money making STEM or forum guys?I never said men age like wine. I don’t care to pull young hot women at 35+. I don’t want to be Hugh Hefner, Jack Nicholson, or any other playboy bachelor type. It doesn’t appeal to me. I hope to be settled down by 35. I don’t even care to pull young hot women at my current age, 23. I got a wicked sex drive and if I made my decisions based on my sexual appetite and the sexual availability of women to me I’d be riddled with venereal disease. There’s more to life than getting laid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 01:31 PM |
| – | Why does it seem that blue collar and “average Joe” men have an easier time with female romantic partnership than money making STEM or forum guys?Height definitely helps in America. Maybe you live somewhere else, but to deny that height is an advantage in American dating as a man is patently false. In men intelligence is attractive up until the top 1% at which point it drops off and is only attractive to women who highly value intelligence who are themselves usually quite intelligent. This works out fine for me because I exclusively like intelligent women. My back will be fine, thank you. I eat well, I get regular massages, acupuncture, y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 01:28 PM |
| – | Why does it seem that blue collar and “average Joe” men have an easier time with female romantic partnership than money making STEM or forum guys?Never said anything about appearance and I never suggested the old-heads were fat or balding. You’re still straw-manning and looking to confirm your bias. I haven’t made any claims about appearance so idk where you’re pulling that from. I’m saying combining blue collar and white collar traits is awesome because a lot of white color guys can seem I masculine, weak, or yuppy-like. My success with woman has nothing to do with my youth. I’m successful with women because I’m attractive, 6’6, athletic… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 01:01 PM |
| – | Why does it seem that blue collar and “average Joe” men have an easier time with female romantic partnership than money making STEM or forum guys?I’m talking about young men (men under 30) who work these jobs for a brief period not the old-heads who are doing it as a career. I’m talking about college students who aren’t afraid to get their hands dirty over the summer or winter. I’m talking about the medical student who grew up on a farm. Men who are educated and intelligent with blue collar experience. So for men who already are intelligent, on track for a good white collar career, and in shape gaining some blue collar experience does mak… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/23 01:57 AM |
| – | Men dont actually care about a women being healthyWhat a straw man. Men prefer healthy women. Another comment referenced that the average woman being 5’4 weighs 170 lbs. That’s fucking huge and absolutely unhealthy. Unless a woman is packing some serious muscle I don’t think a women 6’ or shorter should weigh more than 160 lbs. I think the standard for healthy weight for women is like 100 lbs at 5’ and +5 lbs for every inch above 5’. That’s perfectly reasonable. Women should weigh nowhere near as much as men because y’all don’t have the muscle … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/23 11:55 PM |
| 3 | Why does it seem that blue collar and “average Joe” men have an easier time with female romantic partnership than money making STEM or forum guys?Speaking as a man who has worked as a mechanic and other blue collar jobs, but is also pursuing a degree in physics the mechanic job made me feel more manly. Getting dirty and the sheer physicality of the job did something to me. I felt like a man’s man leaving work in my grease stained jeans and boots. Knowing I can work with my hands and fix things gives me a stronger feeling of competence than being able solve differential equations. Doing things in the physical world often feels more satisfy… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/23 11:42 PM |
| – | People who say "Sex isn't a need" don't know how it is to be the average manIt’s not a need it’s a compulsion. We are compelled to do it, but we don’t need it to survive. I’m happier with it than without it, but I also recognize I have gone through periods in which I neglected my actual needs because I prioritized sex. Sex is only feels like a big deal when it is unavailable (aka we want most what we can’t have). It’s easier once you stop making such a big deal about it cause it’s really not that big of a deal. Once I stopped viewing sex as the end all be all and saw it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/23 11:26 PM |
| – | How do you treat unattractive people?I’m a guy though | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/23 06:28 PM |
| 1 | Women want men who elicit in her the same behavior that they find so abhorrent and repulsive in men.If that’s the depth at which you believe we were having a debate then you’re absolutely right in the most literal and simplistic sense. I don’t even think there’s a debate to be had here as you seem preoccupied with semantics. Also, you can’t seriously believe that this whole time I was arguing that hypo and hyper are not opposite prefixes, right? I don’t think we were having the same conversation as I took your entire point as a presupposition to debate from. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/05/23 01:11 AM |
| 1 | Men would be alot less frustrated in the dating effort if they were given brutally honest and often politically incorrect truths about what most women expect from a man.I’m confused, usually in a debate when you disagree with what someone proposes as axiomatic you address what exactly you disagree with and present your own facts. Then debate commences as we both further our understanding of the facts. Then we know exactly where we disagree and can together further our understanding. 4/5 women being victims of sexual assault is a frequently cited figure in academia. Check out Rainn, it’s a sexual violence advocacy/support organization and they cite this figure. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 07:27 PM |
| 1 | Women want men who elicit in her the same behavior that they find so abhorrent and repulsive in men.See you are operating under the assumption that women are in control of your destiny. You’re in charge of your own life. Some guys punch above their own weight. Maybe he’s super funny, maybe she’s insecure, it could be anything, but hypergamy isn’t a hard and fast tule. Hypergamy is merely the labeling of a pattern observed in human mating. Not everyone pairs off too. Some people stay single for life. It’s not healthy to compare your partners value to your own beyond the “getting to know you” ph… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 04:28 PM |
| 1 | Men would be alot less frustrated in the dating effort if they were given brutally honest and often politically incorrect truths about what most women expect from a man.They got more power than poor people of color, but wealthy white guys have the most power by far and away. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 04:24 PM |
| 1 | Men would be alot less frustrated in the dating effort if they were given brutally honest and often politically incorrect truths about what most women expect from a man.I feel like you know the answer and just want me to say it. Yes, if it’s the wrong guy he’s a creep. It’s called have some self-awareness and know how you should be approaching women. Not saying it’s fair or logical, but it’s how life actually works. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 04:22 PM |
| 1 | Men would be alot less frustrated in the dating effort if they were given brutally honest and often politically incorrect truths about what most women expect from a man.Not saying every guy would just that there’d likely be a marginal increase. Prostitution isn’t legal where I’m from, U.S., and not every woman is on birth control. Guys still rape | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 03:34 PM |
| 1 | Men would be alot less frustrated in the dating effort if they were given brutally honest and often politically incorrect truths about what most women expect from a man.Being loved and accepted isn’t man’s biological imperative. This need for love and acceptance you’re talking about is really a need for validation from women. I get it. It sucks to be appraised as low value by the opposite sex, but that’s life. Nobody owes anyone happiness, acceptance, or love. You have to become someone worthy of it. Yes human is worthy of love in the lowest possible sense, but the love you speak of is probably better thought of as intimacy. Nobody owes anyone intimacy either. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 03:22 PM |
| 1 | Men would be alot less frustrated in the dating effort if they were given brutally honest and often politically incorrect truths about what most women expect from a man.Uh it’s still very much alive. Contraception accessibility is not equal across socioeconomic classes. Not sure if you know this, but sexual assault sucks and has a major impact on the victim regardless of whether she is impregnated by her attacker. Unless of course you think sexual assault is no big deal, but I don’t think you want to say that as it prove you are coming from a place of bad faith. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 10:32 AM |
| 6 | Women want men who elicit in her the same behavior that they find so abhorrent and repulsive in men.Nobody has to do anything. In the same way women don’t have to have sex with men they don’t want to, men do not have to “date hypo-gamy to satiate a hypergamous female”. That statement lacks so much agency. You can do whatever the fuck you want. Date up or date down, I don’t care. Female hypergamy isn’t a law or anything goddamn. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 10:24 AM |
| 1 | Men would be alot less frustrated in the dating effort if they were given brutally honest and often politically incorrect truths about what most women expect from a man.Whatcha mean? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 10:20 AM |
| 2 | Men would be alot less frustrated in the dating effort if they were given brutally honest and often politically incorrect truths about what most women expect from a man.You’re reply effectively amounts to “U mad bro?”. I am not mad bro. If you’d like to engage in actual debate, that’s cool, but this thing you just did isn’t debate. Everything about your comment is poor form. You haven’t giving me any too to further the discussion so I will assume you would like to stay in your echo chamber. This wasn’t remotely political. The fact you think this is political tells me you’re probably conservative and all I can say to that is yikes. There’s a 80% chance your mom … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 10:19 AM |
| 13 | Women want men who elicit in her the same behavior that they find so abhorrent and repulsive in men.Well duh. It’s near universal behavior for when someone is talking to someone they perceive as higher value than themself (in the context of dating/sex). And if it isn’t clear to you yet, women prefer to practice hypergamy. They want Mr. Dreamy McDreamboat and surprise surprise they lose their minds when they are close to getting him. It’s neutral to positive to a point so long as they don’t cross into clingy or crazy territory. I personally find it a turn off unless I’m interested in them as a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 03:12 AM |
| 1 | Men would be alot less frustrated in the dating effort if they were given brutally honest and often politically incorrect truths about what most women expect from a man.What makes you say that? I’m drawing logical conclusions based on my knowledge of biology, anthropology, and philosophy. I’ve also read at least 2 dozen scholarly articles about sexual violence, it’s effects, the motivations of perpetrators, and in the context of several different time periods. Male on female sexual violence perseveres across all time periods and cultures. From where do you make your claims? After all this is a debate subreddit. My conclusion is drawn from the assumption that it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/05/23 02:21 AM |
| 2 | Men would be alot less frustrated in the dating effort if they were given brutally honest and often politically incorrect truths about what most women expect from a man.Lol sorry that was a book | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/23 10:15 PM |
| 4 | Men would be alot less frustrated in the dating effort if they were given brutally honest and often politically incorrect truths about what most women expect from a man.Exactly! Life isn’t about happiness. Nobody gives a flying fuck if you’re happy and the sooner you embrace that the better. It’s a cruel cruel world as you said. What makes it especially cruel for humans isn’t what happens, but rather the nature of consciousness itself. We can imagine a world better than the one we live in, we are aware of our own mortality, and we lack almost all agency over these things. We compare our world to this ideal world we have in our heads and that’s when despair sets… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/23 10:03 PM |
| 1 | Men would be alot less frustrated in the dating effort if they were given brutally honest and often politically incorrect truths about what most women expect from a man.Sorry that was a damn novel. My the long short of it is men, specifically wealthy white men, dominate the power arenas in my country, America. If you aren’t that and you aren’t a skilled worker chances are you’re treated like you’re expendable. That’s because you kind of are as far as society is concerned. Men don’t have the intrinsic value women do unless we are born into wealth or we’re genetically exceptional. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/23 08:33 PM |
| 6 | Men would be alot less frustrated in the dating effort if they were given brutally honest and often politically incorrect truths about what most women expect from a man.I’m male and I live in the U.S. I agree men and women both suffer, but nobody gives a shit if men suffer. There’s a reason women and children come before men. Men are inherently more expendable. We always have been and have always been treated as such. Only upper class men live a different reality. I don’t know what life is like in your culture. I can only speak from my knowledge of my culture which is currently dominant. I agree with you that women are more valued than men in every level of soc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/23 08:28 PM |
| 17 | Men would be alot less frustrated in the dating effort if they were given brutally honest and often politically incorrect truths about what most women expect from a man.They want men to be domicile nice guys because not too long ago a lot of guys were very comfortable in their sexuality and most of our mothers, aunts, and grandmothers were sexually assaulted or harassed growing up. It’s still common, but less tolerated. Women spread these messages because sexually reserved men mean a safer world for them. These aren’t the guys women want, but rather how they’d like men at large to act because it makes their world safer. By spreading a message to most men that b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/23 06:55 PM |
| 2 | Sexy selfies on IG more empowering? Or more self-objectifying?Instagram is the best way to promote some pussy -Kendrick Lamar, No More Parties in LA, TLOP, Ye Pussy in the sex work sense, hook up sense, dating sense. Guys are visual creatures so if you want to get male attention and reach the largest audience or pool of suitors you post thirst traps on IG. The best part is they can do it all from the safety of their home. Women are valued first and foremost for their appearance so why wouldn’t they use it as much as possible short of sex work to get ahead?… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/23 06:24 PM |
| 36 | Men would be alot less frustrated in the dating effort if they were given brutally honest and often politically incorrect truths about what most women expect from a man.They won’t acknowledge it because it would result in a massive uptick in sexual violence against them. If women put it bluntly there would be less incentive for sexually unsuccessful men not to assault them. They perpetuate a narrative of “there’s someone out there for everyone” because it’s better the man she rejected focuses his pursuits elsewhere in false hope than to tell it how it is and have him make her a target. Most men throughout history haven’t been fit in the Darwinian sense. This is… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/23 06:12 PM |
| 2 | Women objectify themselves.It’s not that they objectify themselves because they want to or want men to notice. They objectify themselves (look as good as they can) so they receive the best possible treatment they can by society. Not sure if you noticed, but women who aren’t attractive are seen as less human in the eyes of society. Not that it’s right, but women are valued for their looks above all so if they want to be taken seriously and treated well they have to objectify themselves as you say. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/23 05:57 PM |
| 1 | Approximately how much or often do you agree with the takes of posters of your gender here?I’m a man and I almost never agree with the other men except for black pill rhetoric from the perspective of a top 20% man. By that I mean I agree that men who are tall, attractive, intelligent, and wealthy have a much easier time dating. So much so that dating as a high SMV guy is radically different experience than dating as an average man. I disagree with how bleak they put things because I think most average man can get in a relationship with a woman, but I don’t think they will ever be seen… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/05/23 05:41 PM |
| 9 | How do you treat unattractive people?I struggle with how to handle this. I’m polite and I try not to acknowledge any attempts at flirting. I struggle when they start making physical advances like sitting on my lap, holding my hand, grabbing my bicep, going in for a kiss or backing their butt into my crotch to grind. I try to keep the conversation sterile once a woman shows she’s attracted to me. I also try to bring others into the conversation and steer it away from her and I. I don’t want to be the guy to make a girl cry because I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/05/23 06:14 PM |
| 3 | Mathematically speaking, if there aren’t enough high value men to date what will the “average woman” do?No, they really aren’t. Like seriously look up “are single or married women happier”, do it. Literally learned it in psych 202 4 years ago. Single women aren’t happier because of options. They are happier because being in a relationship with a man often sucks. Men are often a burden to their spouse. Women consistently do a disproportionately large amount of domestic labor so being single means less laundry and dishes, which we can both agree suck. A lot of women after a certain age stop giving 2… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 05:30 PM |
| 3 | Mathematically speaking, if there aren’t enough high value men to date what will the “average woman” do?Single women are on average happier than married women and married men are the happiest overall. Look it up. Also have you considered that a women in her 40s and 50s will at some point go through a massive hormonal change and that can really fuck with their emotions? It’s called menopause and I think you should look that up too. Citing solid sources doesn’t make you right, especially if you can’t sus out obvious confounds that run counter to your claim. And before you come at me thinking I’m som… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 05:13 PM |
| 3 | The real dilemma for men is erotic validation vs work based validationMen who are sexually attractive in looks and character are equally rare. It goes both ways. Exceptional people are hard to find because they’re exceptional and therefore by definition scarce. I’m a guy btw | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/22 10:58 PM |
| 1 | At what age have you personally felt most sexually desirable to the opposite sex?I’m a 22 year old guy. Apart from some bouts of depression I’d say I’ve felt most sexually desirable from 21 to the present. I’m attracted to women my own age | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/22 06:36 PM |
| 1 | Can a man truly give up on sex and be happy ?I couldn’t. I’d lose my mind | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/22 09:42 PM |
| 1 | Great article about the cognitive dissonance of what women are looking for in datingFirst off I’m a dude. You’re question didn’t say “question for women”. I’ve had a lot of girls who’ve wanted to date me and the things they like most about me are what I listed above and the fact that I’m highly intelligent. I’m not sure, but I’d firmly put myself in that category. People don’t know if you’re exciting until they meet you which leads me into my answer for your second question. I met my gf on tinder and successfully made plans to go on dates with other women that I didn’t follow t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/22 06:09 PM |
| 1 | Great article about the cognitive dissonance of what women are looking for in datingWomen want a hot exciting guy who also has high emotional intelligence and empathy. The two aren’t mutually exclusive. Emotional intelligence is necessary for a healthy relationship and being hot and exciting keeps things spicy. You can have/be both | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/22 04:28 PM |
| 1 | What do successful and educated men (lawyers, doctors, men in finance) look for in a partnerBe a pretty, educated, and intelligent woman. I grew up surrounded by those types and most are dating or married to women with a similar backgrounds. If this isn’t you good luck or be prepared to put some serious work in. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/22 04:24 PM |
| 1 | Why do people expect men to 'just get it' when sociosexual development takes years in other primates?Cause that’s all there is too it. If you’re not getting what you want out of life make some changes. I didn’t have my first kiss until I was almost 19 and lost my virginity at the same time. I got teased for it a bit in high school, but not seriously because people knew I had other priorities. I also wasn’t confident enough in high school to pursue girls so I didn’t. I had a quite a few opportunities to do have sex in high school, but I didn’t because I was and still am super picky being attract… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/22 04:12 PM |
| 0 | You will never be a high value man.It’s not about how great of a man you are. It’s how great of a man people think you are. If you can convince enough people you’re high value even when other metrics say otherwise you’re high value | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/22 03:17 PM |
| 1 | What do people mean when they say ''Just be confident''?Confidence is trusting that being yourself will generally lead to positive outcomes. Confident people are confident for a reason. They have traits or abilities they derive confidence from. Acquire traits and habits that you can draw confidence from and you will be confident in situations that use those abilities. Amass interdisciplinary skills and traits and you will be confident in most situations. Confident people are surprised when they don’t succeed because they take actions ahead of time to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/22 11:09 PM |
| 1 | Women boasting about their boyfriend to their friends as it's an achievement.My GF got told she was boasting when she answered honestly about how tall I am. The other girl asked how tall I was. I think women just get jealous when another women has something they want, but haven’t found. Then again that could be said for everyone of all genders though. Guys get jealous of their friends who can hookup or have GFs | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/22 07:18 PM |
| 1 | Height statistics from Bumble; Is this your exp in OLDI win! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/22 01:37 AM |
| 19 | Intra-Sexual Competition Mega-ThreadMy go to was being taller, smarter and better looking than most of my peers. Oh also having a big dick keeps them around. It’s really simple actually. You just gotta win the genetic lottery | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/22 12:00 AM |
| 1 | "It was the same back in the old days" is a common misconception among the younger posters on hereThey don’t need to be held accountable. They have ideological differences. Yes, they’re prominent in academia and are influential as a whole, but that’s not gonna change nor does it need to. The woke feminist crowd is allowed to push their agenda. In the same way men don’t have to listen to the feminist. Opposing ideologies will always exist. It’s up to the individual to resist societal pressure because it isn’t going away. Feminist have done some good. Metoo was a good movement. Yes some people… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/07/22 12:06 AM |
| 1 | "It was the same back in the old days" is a common misconception among the younger posters on hereThat’s not on women. Men can still be men in todays world. You just have to do it the right way which is damn hard. It’s not very fun either. You gotta say fuck the noise and fuck the pleasure and be a goddamn man. I mean look at how weak todays men and boys are compared to in the past. No one’s telling guys not to stay strong and in shape (this doesn’t mean body builder level). It’s just that we have iPads, video games, porn, etc to distract us from real life and this makes us soft. Men should … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/07/22 09:50 AM |
| 1 | "It was the same back in the old days" is a common misconception among the younger posters on hereNow this I can wholeheartedly agree with you on. White male privilege is not a skill, but the guys who complain sure think it is. Fucking ridiculous. I’m a white guy and I love that top talent of all races and gender is given a chance to succeed at the highest level in their field. Although I’ve been welcomed with open arms by many a good ol’ boy I find the country club personalities starchy and boring. Diversity makes the word a less boring place I misunderstood you earlier, my apologies. I try… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/22 03:37 PM |
| 1 | "It was the same back in the old days" is a common misconception among the younger posters on hereDude yes. I was told to be nice and respectful as a teenager and it did nothing. All I needed was a little bravado and girls wanted me. My dumbass didn’t realize that girls comparing how small they were compared to me (6’6 210) was them more or less them gushing over how big and manly I was. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/22 12:56 PM |
| 1 | "It was the same back in the old days" is a common misconception among the younger posters on hereYour point is? You write in sweeping generalization so I really can’t figure you out. There is no smarter sex. There is far more variance within genders than between with respect to intelligence. The worlds pretty bullshit no matter what way you spin it, being born female just exacerbates that. Can’t tell if you’re being sarcastic or you just have an inferiority complex towards men. Sarcasm is hard to convey over text. Women have always been oppressed by men as long as I can remember. I’m not sa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/22 12:44 PM |
| 1 | "It was the same back in the old days" is a common misconception among the younger posters on hereMisrepresent my comment much? I didn’t say all men weren’t suited for white collar jobs and I’m not saying the world needs to cater even more to men. I’m saying that college education is being pushed (which in an ideal world all would have a college education, but that’s just not possible) as the only viable option when it isn’t. This leads to men who aren’t suited for college not finding their niche, usually a trade. I don’t think women should be barred from higher education, but clearly some l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/07/22 12:13 PM |
| 2 | "It was the same back in the old days" is a common misconception among the younger posters on hereAgreed, but I think that’s largely due to a modern economy. Not as many people getting into trades and trades aren’t respected like they used to/should be. You’re right that a lot of guys are being motivated to pursue careers or paths that aren’t suited to them. The narrative of go to college and get a white collar job is still being touted as the best possible life and it’s harmful | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/22 08:03 PM |
| 2 | "It was the same back in the old days" is a common misconception among the younger posters on hereMen used to act like men. Women like manly men and men just aren’t manly anymore. Men used to go to war and work dangerous jobs. That’s how you get guys with rugged good looks. Nowadays guys obsess over the competition rather than getting theirs. They complain about the mythical Chad and throw in the towel cause they aren’t him. It’s a feminine mentality to focus on “that guys hotter than me”. It’s why people like Jordan Peterson have become so popular. Most men don’t act like men anymore so wom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/22 07:29 PM |
| 1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)I had classes with some of the girls I matched with on tinder. My friends follow them on Instagram. I snap chatted them. I knew their sorority sisters. They were absolutely real. I’m aware of bots and I avoided swiping right. I matched with girls who went to my university. Not super hard when your bio is your height and your height is 6’6 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/22 10:03 PM |
| 2 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)My conclusion is to let life run its course. Im not going to prematurely kill a good relationship nor am I going to commit to making my gf my wife. I absolutely agree the higher order thinking of put brains yields more beautiful and meaningful results, but then there’s game theory. Its all a clusterfuck. So long as there are people willing to pander to their reptilian brain humans wont exist in an optimal state. It frustrates the hell out of me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/22 09:59 PM |
| 1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)I’d rather a woman be sexual liberated and potentially have more notches than me than her be a prude. I like women that like sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/22 12:05 AM |
| 1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)I really feel you on this | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/22 12:04 AM |
| 1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)That’s what I’ve heard. I just wanted to ask. Thank hou | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/22 12:00 AM |
| 1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)Well that’s good because I’m not into conservative women. Sexually liberal women are more fun | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/22 11:56 PM |
| 0 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)I’m speaking from biological essentialism which isn’t necessarily right. I’m figuring out which philosophical framework is optimal based on age | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/22 11:55 PM |
| 1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)I’m not contemplating leaving her. I literally said I’m not making big life decisions based on Reddit. That would be insane. I’m asking as a thought experiment “is it dumb for a hot guy that can get casual sex to be in a relationship?” and getting y’all’s opinions not “should I leave my gf to hookup?”. I already said in another comment, but it depends on how you frame it philosophically. From a biological essentialist point of view a guy who can have variety would be a fool not to because his im… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/22 11:51 PM |
| 1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)That’s honestly the move | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/22 11:49 PM |
| 1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)No, I definitely love her. My options aren’t limited. I picked her over 3 other girls I was talking too all of them hot. I’m not trying to delude myself into thinking my gf is hot. She’s actually hot because I only would date a hot person cause I myself am hot. My options definitely aren’t limited, I’ve had to pull the “I have a gf” card more times than I can count cause a girl outright said she wanted to fuck me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/22 11:49 PM |
| 1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)I just mean is it a good time? The logistics are the easy part | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/22 11:45 PM |
| 1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)I agree most relationships end. Idk if it’s right to have backup options, but I see your point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/22 11:38 PM |
| 1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)Yes, I’ve had women literally chase me. They followed me from bar to bar or party to party and I’ve also had girls ruin friendships cause they were fighting over me. I slept with none of them cause it’s laughable behavior | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/22 11:35 PM |
| 1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)I don’t think so either. I’m 6’6 and a lot of girls seem to love that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/22 11:29 PM |
| 1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)We bang as much as I want. Twice a day, every other day, you name it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/22 11:27 PM |
| 1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)Yes, that’s what piques my interest. I get approached by a girl I’d consider hot every time I go to a bar, it’s why I don’t go anymore. I met my gf on tinder and I was getting messaged first by the best looking girls I swiped right on. I didn’t realize I had so many options until I made a tinder. Girls have told me I can have whoever I want after previos failed attempts to get me to sleep with them cause they had boyfriends. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/22 11:26 PM |
| -1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)As far as I can tell nothing. My friends all tell me I have a good thing going on, but my dick tells me I need novelty. I guess it’s to be expected as a guy in his 20s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 07:39 PM |
| 2 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)Oh I don’t cheat. Cheating is fucked up IMO | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 07:35 PM |
| 1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)I’m not in the top percentile for looks. Maybe top 5-10 percent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 07:34 PM |
| -5 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)I guess what gets me is I wish I met my gf when she was younger, around 18 (I would have been 19, just wanna leave that here). She took care of herself perfectly back then and has slowly been not taking as good of care of herself. She’s my best friend and she’s still hot, but I wish I got her before life started exacting it’s toll on her beauty. Makes me jealous I didn’t get her at her peak. Nothing could be done though as I didn’t know her then. I feel like women are more impacted by their envi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 07:31 PM |
| -3 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)I have a girl I love. I get anxious cause my stupid ego and dick tells me I need to bang all the pretty girls at college. I don’t do it, but it stresses me out that I think it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 07:21 PM |
| 2 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)I don’t think cheating is ever the answer. More than anything it’s breach of trust. Open relationships on the other hand seem ethical | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 07:18 PM |
| 2 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)I appreciate you. I vacillate between biological essentialism and humanism. The two are ever at odds | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 07:17 PM |
| 1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)In general I think monogamy is better because it comes with a lot more certainty. I only hooked up a couple times, but sometimes I wonder what it’d be like to real jumó into that life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 07:15 PM |
| 2 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)I’ve definitely considered that before and I still haven’t figured out how to resolve my anxiety around it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 07:12 PM |
| 1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)I like the sentiment of your ideal, but I think it’s impractical. I know for me hooking up would definitely be just to show that I can and have that be a chapter of my life as bad as that sounds. I recognized that having lots of casual sex as a guy is a ego/social thing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 07:11 PM |
| 1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)Amen to not getting married before 25, that I’m certain of | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 07:09 PM |
| 1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)I’m trying to reconcile with the fact that my values and priorities will shift and always have shifted as I age and mature. I’m starting to think my question is impossible to answer | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 07:08 PM |
| 2 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)That’s sounds like what my buddies tiger mom would say | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 07:06 PM |
| 2 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)I’ve never worried about sex. It’s more like I’m worried about missing out on the experience. I was a virgin until 20, but never got shamed for it because nobody would’ve guessed it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 07:06 PM |
| -1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)I really do love my gf. I guess it’s just fomo, but that’s life | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 07:01 PM |
| 2 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)Value? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 06:59 PM |
| 1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)This is sound advice | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 06:57 PM |
| 1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)That’s exactly it. If you don’t you’re literally wasting one of the simplest pleasures in life and you’re lucky for it to be so available | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 06:56 PM |
| 2 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)THIS. My favorite part the few times I did hook up was the build up and tension. The sex itself is mediocre, but it’s exciting when you and a stranger both want to jump each other’s bones. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)Yeah but casual sex is free and the intent isn’t to have them stay. Pumping and dumping is very accurate. You don’t need an escort to pump and dump and some women want to be pumped and dumped | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 06:51 PM |
| -1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)My issue is I find myself regretting not hooking up when I had opportunities too. It’s an itch that’s never been scratched and I don’t know if or when that urge will come | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 06:49 PM |
| 4 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)That’s the shit I worry about. You hit the nail on the head | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 06:46 PM |
| 1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)I’m not looking for life advice. More just discussing what is optimal and suboptimal or maybe an optimum doesn’t exist and it is entirely subjective and I need to grow more to figure that out. I totally agree decisions shouldn’t be made based on Reddit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 06:44 PM |
| -4 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)See that’s the thing. I love my gf right now and the sex is great. I may be just young and immature, but for me sex and looks trump all right now even though I really value intelligence in partners | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)Fluid at the moment | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 06:38 PM |
| 18 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)Ohhhh. So it’s really just guys want to feel sexy and they aren’t feeling that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)I’m not complaining, I’m in a relationship. All I see on this sub is every guys wet dream is to hookup a lot. I hooked up a couple times, but I didn’t really give it a chance. I’m asking if that’s really a good way to live. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 06:35 PM |
| 11 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)So far that’s been me. I have a gf, I love her and I choose only her. I just wonder if there’s any objective reason to hookup in your youth and settle down when your older. I’m not making any decisions based on this thread. It’s more of a question of optimization | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 06:32 PM |
| 0 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)I don’t plan on having a family for at least another decade probably longer and I’m 22. Wouldn’t it be unwise to bet on your first love being your last? Sure we all hope it’s our last, but life happens | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)Why buy what you can get for free? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 06:26 PM |
| 2 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)Same here. I’m always surprised by how forward women are. It makes me really anxious though. I’ve never had casual sex because of nerves. I always felt like a dog trying to catch a fire truck and didn’t know what to do with it once I caught it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 06:24 PM |
| 3 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)I’m not talking about those guys. I’m talking about guys who have options. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 06:21 PM |
| 2 | Is it stupid for young guys (18-25) to be in a relationship if they can easily find casual sex? (Sowing wild oats)I feel like a lot of those same attractive men and women who are currently serial monogamist had at least one period of sowing their wild oats. At least in my experience | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 06:18 PM |
| 3 | Q4M What’s a high n count? How does that affect a woman’s ability to lock you down?Most women can’t orgasm from penetration. You got the statistic flipped. It’s 30% of women can orgasm from just penetration | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/22 06:09 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Is it possible for a woman to truly love a man for who he is or will it always be attached to his money, looks, or social status?Absolutely, but it’s a two way street. If a man wants a woman to truly love him deeper than the superficial then he most love her beyond the superficial which usually means for her looks. A lot of men only love their woman as much as she is pretty. So I counter “is it possible for a man to truly love a woman or will it always be predicated upon her looks?” It takes self awareness by way of introspection to do either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/04/22 01:15 AM |
| 1 | How much do you think being a woman’s best lover ever matters?I’ve heard of those. The german ones were cheaper I think. Idk for certain though, I haven’t used condoms in over a year anyway cause I’m in a relationship | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/22 11:43 PM |
| 2 | How much do you think being a woman’s best lover ever matters?My gf has contractions with every orgasm. They even happen when she’s just really enjoying it and not necessarily cumming. Legs shaking are more of a big dick thing I think. She got shaky legs the first time and she didn’t cum. More just sensory overload. All women are different. Seriously don’t let this shit consume you. I think you’re focusing too much on the negative and have some serious confirmation bias. You also appear to have poor self-esteem as you are latching onto and resonating more … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/22 09:31 AM |
| 1 | How much do you think being a woman’s best lover ever matters?Skip the first paragraph and read it last. I was just addressing everything in the order you presented it. Start with the second paragraph. I think you’re doing great and you’re just getting in your head. I was in your shoes once. Keep your chin up and love your woman. Skip this paragraph and save for the end. I hate to tell you, but just cause a girl says she came doesn’t mean she came. If she’s saying she came from sex you should feel her vagina squeezing your dick sporadically, girls faces us… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/22 04:33 AM |
| 1 | A man who is above average looking, say 7-9 should have no problem landing a woman of equal attractiveness. The fact that they are forced to work for it and still often struggle to even get their attention perfectly epitomizes women’s inflated self images due to abundance.I didn’t say I had a 10 face. It’s probably an 8 or 9. I’m a 9 overall right now though and I could be a 10 with some work. I’m a 9 cause of the aggregate of all my traits. Did you not read my comment? Looks aren’t the dominating factor of a man’s attractiveness. You don’t have to have a perfect face to be a 10. I’d say Shawn Mendes undoubtedly has a 10 face though in most women’s mind. I mean he was voted sexiest man alive at one point. So if I regularly get compared to the sexiest man alive ba… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/22 12:34 AM |
| 1 | How much do you think being a woman’s best lover ever matters?Ikr, but it is. I doubt you want to see it, but I can send you a dick pic as proof. The men in my dads family are known for packing heat. I had to order condoms from Germany because they don’t make any in america big enough for me. She said she had 9 and I believe her. I know I personally said otherwise, but it only matters if you think it matters. I can tell you it matters far more to us guys than it does to our gfs. If I wasn’t who I was I probably wouldn’t let myself care as much as I do. I l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/04/22 12:21 AM |
| 1 | How much do you think being a woman’s best lover ever matters?8” long and 6” circumference. Completely straight and girth is uniform across entire length. Measured length from top and girth was done with string and a sharpie. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/22 08:31 PM |
| 3 | A man who is above average looking, say 7-9 should have no problem landing a woman of equal attractiveness. The fact that they are forced to work for it and still often struggle to even get their attention perfectly epitomizes women’s inflated self images due to abundance.Me? Put it this way. I dressed up as a greaser for Halloween last year and everyone thought I dressed up as Shawn Mendes. I wore a leather jacket, white t shirt and black jeans. Lot of girls think I look like a taller Shawn Mendes. I’m trying not to share pics of myself with strangers anymore. How about I send you a pic but I block out my face? It’ll prove I’m ridiculously tall and hopefully make the rest seem believable. Also this sub just seems sketchier to share my identity on than others. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/22 07:27 PM |
| 1 | A man who is above average looking, say 7-9 should have no problem landing a woman of equal attractiveness. The fact that they are forced to work for it and still often struggle to even get their attention perfectly epitomizes women’s inflated self images due to abundance.Of what? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/22 07:21 PM |
| 2 | How much do you think being a woman’s best lover ever matters?It definitely matters to me if she’s my gf. Never had a hookup, but it wouldn’t matter as much and it’d only be an ego boost if I was her best. Never been worried about being the biggest because based on statistics I’m 99.99% certain I’m the biggest she’s ever seen much less had. Her gay friend saw my dick pic and he said it’s the biggest he’s seen and he’s seen 100s. My gf also tells me I have a “pretty dick” whatever that means. It matters because my ego wouldn’t be able to handle it and I wou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/22 06:59 PM |
| 3 | A man who is above average looking, say 7-9 should have no problem landing a woman of equal attractiveness. The fact that they are forced to work for it and still often struggle to even get their attention perfectly epitomizes women’s inflated self images due to abundance.Mens attractiveness isn’t dominated by one metric like women’s is. A man’s attractiveness is the aggregate of a multitude of traits. All attractiveness does is lowers the standard for other traits ever so slightly. Women don’t go after men like men go after women. I don’t know how old you are, but you’ll learn this eventually. It’s a fact of life. It’s also a matter of competition. There are guys that you are equal too in every sense and if you pursue the same girl the guy who works harder will … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/22 06:15 PM |
| 2 | If you want to attract a woman, you need to have income.Nope. I was dead broke when dating my gf and I still am. I was selling old stuff from my childhood to fund dates. It was pathetic. I had no problem attracting girls before I met her or after for that matter, but I don’t mess around with them. Granted I’m in college and I expect to make good money in the future, but right now I’m broke. Tall and good looking is enough for a lot of college girls. But I know if I want to keep my gf I my income will matter eventually just because I gotta be an adult… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 11:31 PM |
| 2 | What makes men date women with mental illnessess?Cause men have mental illness too. Can’t demand a woman be free of mental illness if I myself am not. I have bipolar 2, adhd, and generalized anxiety. I need a woman who can empathize and be patient with my struggles with my mental health. I find women who have similar diagnosis’s better understand me and I relate to them better. Also who doesn’t have a mental illness. I’ve met more people who have them than not. Most just aren’t open about it until they feel comfortable or you disclose your own… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 08:50 AM |
| 1 | In the majority of instances of “Ghosting” the person who gets ghosted did nothing wrong the other party just got a better prospect/offer.Nah. Most people are just too afraid to deliver bad news so they avoid the issue instead of dealing with it aka a coward. It’s pathetic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 08:44 AM |
| 1 | Most people want the benefits of trad relationships without upholding their end of the bargainThat’s because being dominant takes a lot of work. It takes supreme confidence. Most guys don’t have that and you don’t get to switch off. You either are or you’re not and most men aren’t. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 08:42 AM |
| 1 | If a woman continues to multi-date after going on a date with you, she's not into you.Mostly agree. In fact I even asked my gf on our third date if she was seeing anyone else and she showed me her tinder (that’s how we met) to show she hadn’t gone on any other dates. I’ll be honest I would’ve felt pretty bad if she was still going on dates after we’d been talking for a month and a half. I was mentally prepared for it because we met on tinder, but fortunately that wasn’t the case. Originally I thought I was gonna multidate and hookup until we were exclusive, but I thought of how I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/22 08:14 AM |
| 2 | A high "N count" woman is probably going to appreciate a man who is a good lover, more than a low N count woman will.....You’d have to be significantly below average length to not hit g spot. Now whether she gets off from it is another story. Now not being girthy enough I could understand as most guys probably aren’t girthy enough to adequately stimulate g spot. Length only really matters for O and A spot, which only require 6-7 inches If you’re a woman I’m really sorry and I hope I’m not mansplaining your own anatomy, but my gf didn’t know about any of the spots except for g spot until I told her about the O and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/22 01:09 AM |
| 6 | It’s simp behavior for both men and women to take back a cheating spouseI can’t argue with you on this. Getting cheated on shows you were you stand with your partner and if you’re willing to accept that you must not think very highly of yourself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/22 11:31 PM |
| 1 | The idea that it is suddenly common for women to have body counts in the 20+ range by the time they settle down is greatly exaggerated if not altogether a myth, most women have less than 10 sexual partners in their lifetime.Love your flair | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/04/22 11:17 PM |
| 1 | Lack of effort and courtship in dating will make you fall behindI’m definitely a good looking guy, but to what degree depends on the person you ask. I’m 22, 6’6, weigh a little more than 200 lbs, and I’ve gotten told I look like Shawn Mendes more times than I can count. I’ve also been told I look like random male models. I always have some semblance of a 6 pack. I’ve been told I dress well too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/22 10:23 AM |
| 1 | Lack of effort and courtship in dating will make you fall behindHot guys don’t operate like you because they can afford to be picky. Some girls aren’t worth the time it takes to fuck them and some are gross. If you could afford to be picky you’d be more picky too or at least after awhile you would. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/22 02:56 AM |
| 1 | Lack of effort and courtship in dating will make you fall behindBut what about hot guys that want emotional and physical intimacy with one person? Some hot guys prefer being in a relationship. Why do you assume sleeping around is objectively superior to a relationship? You can do way more in a relationships sex wise and you don’t gotta wear a condom. Fucking a new woman every other day isn’t as appealing as it sounds when you have the option to. It’s exhausting. Also, you do realize sex takes time, right? There’s only so much time to fuck girls assuming it t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/22 02:51 AM |
| 1 | Lack of effort and courtship in dating will make you fall behindAlso not every good looking guy cheats. Most of the ones I know don’t. Cheating has more to do with integrity than looks. I still don’t get why you think every woman can find a hot guy to fuck. Do you really think sex with an unattractive woman willing to open her legs sounds appealing to a guy with options? You do realize sex is pretty gross if you aren’t at all attracted to the person right? Arousal is necessary for men to have sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/22 09:37 PM |
| 1 | Lack of effort and courtship in dating will make you fall behindWhy do you assume every good looking guy sleeps around? That is a blanket statement. Just cause they can doesn’t mean they do. Just cause a guy could sleep with a woman first date doesn’t mean they will. Also in my experience top guys try not to sleep with average women and maintain their standards. If anything top guys would consider those women mistakes. Most of the time when hot guys sleep with average women the woman had to work for it or catch the guy when he had drunk goggles. Truly good l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/22 09:27 PM |
| 2 | Lack of effort and courtship in dating will make you fall behindNot really. If you have a traits that are in high demand such as good looks, tall, above average intelligence, sense of humor, etc all in one person that guy has a huge advantage and can be more successful with less effort than guys without those traits who put in more effort. So I’d say your rule holds more true the less attractive the guy is. I think you forget that nowadays women want a hot guy they can show off just like men want a hot woman. I think women tend to be lower maintenance for th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/22 09:12 PM |
| 3 | Lack of effort and courtship in dating will make you fall behindThe line is “for every hot woman there’s a guy tired of fucking her”. This doesn’t necessarily apply in reverse. If the guy is just hot and he’s average in bed sure she might get tired of fucking him. However, if the guy is not only hot, but is also giving her the best sex of her life, I’m betting she will put up with a LOT to keep the status quo. There’s always a limit to what a person will put up with, yes, but if the previously mentioned conditions are met that limit is presumably high. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/22 08:46 PM |
| 1 | The line between being taken advantage of and taking responsibility is really blurry with women.I think your premise is backwards. You’re blaming women for dating guys who cheat on them rather than the men who cheat on them. The expectation is your partner doesn’t cheat. Most don’t get into a relationship expecting to get cheated on. If they really thought that their partner was going to cheat from day one that wouldn’t be a very good foundation for a relationship, would it? To me having the mindset of “my partner is going to cheat on me” means you have attachment issues, trust issues, or … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/22 08:28 PM |
| 1 | Nobody in real life cares about body countI don’t care about the number itself so long as she was pursuing or in a relationship with each of these men. I get girls can be naive and try to hookup into a relationship so I’ll give them a handful passes for that behavior as long as it doesn’t become a habit. We all make mistakes. I care about context. I don’t want a woman who has casual sex because I choose not to have casual sex. I’m turned off by the idea of a one night stand, I want real intimacy and a woman who wants that as well. I loo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 11:32 PM |
| 2 | Body count questionIt really depends how you go about it. I respect men and women that pursue what they want and don’t wait for someone to come along that they fancy. It’s a clear expression of what you want and shows confidence in your desire. In general I don’t understand the appeal for casual sex, it seems inauthentic in most instances. First off I’m not sure how you have sex with someone you aren’t crazy about. Sex is intimate no matter how you frame it and often people aren’t honest with themselves or others … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 09:49 PM |
| 1 | Dating apps are toxic for young men (and assumedly women as well)A bunch of girls messaged me with hookup vibes (basically coming out of the gate with a sexually charged message) and I played along until I realized I had plans to fuck 10 girls in a week. Once I realized how easy it was to get a quick fuck I decided in fucking them I’d be reducing myself to my primitive drive to procreate so I cancelled on all of them. I really believe the problem with casual sex is it I doing so you are treating not only another human casually, but you are treating yourself (… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 09:25 PM |
| 4 | Men here really act as if they wouldn't take advantage of their youth and good looks by sleeping around when they're young, like their female counterparts (if they could).Men aren’t free sexually. If anything a lot of us are slaves to our sex drive. I don’t want to speak for women because I’m not one, but most women I know would rather be in a relationship with the right guy than hookup with a bunch of different hot guys. I guess what I’m saying is I don’t think most people are happy with how things are right now or 50 years ago or 1000 years ago. The only group I can imagine that has been content throughout history is attractive men. It has rarely been disadvant… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 09:04 PM |
| 2 | Men here really act as if they wouldn't take advantage of their youth and good looks by sleeping around when they're young, like their female counterparts (if they could).I disagree. I know I’m in the minority, but if you’ll take my word for it I’m an attractive guy (6’6, I go to the gym, women tell me I look like Sean Mendes and brazenly hit on me) and I’ve only ever slept with my GF and I didn’t meet her until last year and I was 21 then. Sure I fooled around with girls at college, but I never had sex with any of them. It wasn’t for lack of opportunity either because they all wanted to have sex, but I couldn’t wrap my head around having sex with someone I had n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 08:28 PM |
| 1 | Does economic prosperity, higher standards of living and gender equality necessarily lead to greater promiscuity/ liberalised norms of sexuality?Yes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 07:05 PM |
| 5 | Dating apps are toxic for young men (and assumedly women as well)I’m gonna agree with you. I’m a early 20’s male, good shape, tall, I do fine on tinder. I did meet my GF on tinder, but in all honesty she was one of the only ones willing to go on an actual date and not just fuck. I think she would of passed on me for anything beyond a hookup had I not mentioned a mutual friend. Young people are afraid of real dating so tinder is just an ego booster for girls and a crapshoot for guys looking for anything of substance. Yeah, connections happen, but I count mysel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 07:04 PM |
| 2 | A large percentage of women are undeniably drawn to assholes and men who exhibit toxic, abusive behavior, but lie and say they just want a guy who will treat them rightThat’s not an asshole as far as how you treat women. You’re only an asshole if you will say anything to get laid. Being forthright with your intentions is not being an asshole. Playing women like you’re gonna date them when you have no intention of that is being an asshole. Guys think it’s asshole behavior because it takes confidence to be assertive and it’s likely the guys that are assertive with women are assertive with other men leading the men who aren’t assertive to get pushed around by the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/22 11:04 PM |
| 5 | A large percentage of women are undeniably drawn to assholes and men who exhibit toxic, abusive behavior, but lie and say they just want a guy who will treat them rightI’m not RP by any means, but I agree with both. I never really viewed it as a conscious mindset though. For me it’s always come naturally so long as I have my life together and let my instincts take over with women. A view a lot of it as embracing your sexuality as a man. I grew up in a conservative upper class home and I was taught to be chivalrous and polite to women. Once I learned that women like being sexualized and to fulfill the fantasies of men they think are hot I stopped stifling my in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/22 08:44 PM |
| 2 | Do women really care about height as much as PPD claims they do?Before I had a GF being 6’6 was the number 1 reason women approached me in bars. Even now, without fail I get hit on at least one girl who has a thing for tall guys every time I go out drinking. In my experience a lot girls will default to going for the tallest guy in the room. I’ve seen it happen where a girl tried to kiss me, then my friend who’s 6’4, and then a guy who was 6’3. She approached the 3 tallest guys in descending height order. In my experience short and tall women tend to have the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/22 08:16 PM |
| 9 | A large percentage of women are undeniably drawn to assholes and men who exhibit toxic, abusive behavior, but lie and say they just want a guy who will treat them rightYeah, that sounds about right. We’re talking men acting entitled towards their SO, right? Cause I agree with you because at least in my experience women like guys to be assertive and “take them” so to speak or “do what they want to them”. Granted this is excluding cruelty and force as you mentioned. To extend on the cruelty and force thing, I think a lot of guys confuse that for assertiveness. The ideal is assertion while still respecting boundaries, but that takes a lot of social awareness and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/22 08:01 PM |
| 3 | Your opinion of men who watch porn in relationship?Same age and I 100% agree with every thing you said. Since I’ve been with my GF I’ve had times where I watched no porn and times where I’ve fallen to my addiction. Huge difference, I fuck a lot better when I don’t watch poem and I feel a lot better about my relationship. Porn fucks me up | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/22 07:51 PM |
| 0 | A large percentage of women are undeniably drawn to assholes and men who exhibit toxic, abusive behavior, but lie and say they just want a guy who will treat them rightI think for some they want a good guy albeit attractive to be in a relationship with, but they’ve convinced themselves they don’t deserve a loving relationship so that leaves them to hookup with the attractive assholes because that’s all they think they deserve. Usually because of trauma or upbringing, which is not her fault, but it is often the reason nonetheless. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/22 07:29 PM |
| 6 | A large percentage of women are undeniably drawn to assholes and men who exhibit toxic, abusive behavior, but lie and say they just want a guy who will treat them rightWhen you say entitled what do you mean? Do you mean entitled as in possessive in the sense that they claim you as theirs or in the sense that they act sexually entitled towards you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/22 07:17 PM |
| 1 | How many dudes in here are actually in a relationship?Yes, 1 year No RP | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/22 09:35 PM |
| 0 | Nothing is wrong with the smp because 70% of men are still having some success - womenDo you not have a mother or sister or any female relative or friend that you would hate to have murdered, raped, or otherwise victimized? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/21 02:12 AM |
| 0 | Nothing is wrong with the smp because 70% of men are still having some success - womenI never specified the safety of women and it wasn’t implied. I was gonna say you have ASPD, but it’s clear you just don’t see women as human and/or hate them. You’re that pressed about not getting any action? Get a grip and get fucked dude (or not lol). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/21 02:11 AM |
| 1 | Nothing is wrong with the smp because 70% of men are still having some success - womenYou’re missing the point and I don’t get your point. Safety is more important than sex. The society has an interest in our safety and is willing to take some responsibility for it. Nobody gives a shit if you’re getting laid or not. That’s an individual problem and it’s up to you to fix it You straw manned my argument | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/21 01:47 AM |
| 0 | Nothing is wrong with the smp because 70% of men are still having some success - womenIn that situation yeah, I’d stand by if I was unarmed because I’m not going to risk my own safety for a stranger. You can still call police and you should call the police. You’re kind of a prick if you can do something at minimal cost to you that has the potential to greatly benefit your fellow human and choose not to. Point is sex isn’t a right at all. If you want to reproduce you have to prove fitness, the opposite sex decides if you’re fit enough to have sex with. If you are fit you fuck if n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/21 01:31 AM |
| -1 | Nothing is wrong with the smp because 70% of men are still having some success - womenPersonal safety and sex are not the same. One is a right and the other is a privilege. Take some accountability and work on yourself. If you aren’t getting results you simply aren’t working hard enough. It’s not fair but it’s a good tule to live by. Some of us have to work harder than others, that’s life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/21 11:47 PM |
| 4 | Poll: Who has more privilege in Western societies?Y’all are crazy. I’m a dude and I know I’m more privileged. You just gotta stop thinking about sex all the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/21 11:14 PM |
| 1 | Show me the blackest pill and it will have no effect on me.Blackpill is my whitepill | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 01:26 AM |
| 2 | Which group was the biggest winner and biggest loser when dating switched to online?Honestly very true. I didn’t know I was a good looking guy, I just thought I was tall, until I made a tinder and now I’m pretty confident I’m in the SHY 8-9/10 men group. My gf is a girl my friend showed me on Instagram a few years ago who I thought was out of my league, easily a 9, and I matched with her and setup a date first day I got tinder and haven’t looked back. All my sexual experiences before OLD consisted of hookups with girls I met through mutual friends or at parties who heavily purs… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 01:00 AM |
| 2 | 5 (FIVE) INCHES IS ENOUGHNo it ain’t. Anything less than 7 and I feel sorry for you. Bottoming out feels amazing and ladies love BD | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 12:33 AM |
| 0 | Is it safe to say I’m getting her best?Lol I’m just asking if I’m getting her best. Maybe it’s an insecure question maybe it’s not. I could care less what y’all think about my identity. I’ve only hooked up with girls before so I’ve never thought of this until now. I’m not gonna say it isn’t nice to be appreciated. I just wanted to make sure she’s being enough of a slut for me to be worth it. I think she is, but I felt like asking. | /r/askTRP | 27/05/21 09:17 PM |
| 1 | Is it safe to say I’m getting her best?Generalized anxiety disorder and OCD. Shits great | /r/askTRP | 27/05/21 09:10 PM |
| -7 | Is it safe to say I’m getting her best?Yup. She’s unintelligible and shaking after every time. Sex is pretty much a nonstop orgasm for her. Would I be safe in believing I’m her biggest if I’m 8 inches long and 6 inches around? I know that sounds like cap, but I got really lucky there. | /r/askTRP | 27/05/21 07:49 PM |
| -5 | Is it safe to say I’m getting her best?You’d be right if she had her IUD earlier, but she didn’t until we started dating. She was on the pill, but didn’t trust it enough for that and she only fucked raw twice before me. Idk why you question me. I’m a skeptic too, but she showed me her damn list with notes on the guys and it hadn’t been opened in awhile, so I know she didn’t change it for me and was truthful. I’m not worried about being the best, I know I am. It’s not hard when you know you’re her biggest because I don’t think many gu… | /r/askTRP | 27/05/21 07:45 PM |
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