Incogcneat-o Archive

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3	Hook up culture and society makes being a romantic basically impossible, even for those that want to be. I meant why. I do think people have inalienable rights just by virtue of being born. Life, liberty, the pursuit of happiness, among other things. If you think there isn't enough happiness to go around, I wish I could give you a hug, because that's a terribly grim way of looking at things, especially when it's so easy to create small blips of happiness for other people. Whatever happened in your life to lead you to that must've been so painful and I'm sorry it worked out that way. I've been throu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/20 09:19 AM
-1	Hook up culture and society makes being a romantic basically impossible, even for those that want to be. Why?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/20 08:12 AM
24	Hook up culture and society makes being a romantic basically impossible, even for those that want to be. I think this is a rough time for dating in general, and it sounds like it's been particularly grim for you. I'm sorry. That sucks and you deserve happiness just like everyone else. I will say your experience has not been my experience. Guys are still romantic and charming and invite me out to dance (though not anymore, thanks to COVID). Sure there are people out there looking for hookups, but that doesn't preclude romance, either. Right now you're still going through the painful aftermath of an …	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/20 07:39 AM
1	Is BMI less triggering for women than weight? I think the No Fat Chicks message is clear however you say it. Plenty of people are into people with high BMIs so it's no skin off anyone's nose if you're not one of them. I've never taken it personally when someone wasn't attracted to my body shape/height/whatever. Sure sometimes it's a bummer, but that's just the way it goes. Just don't use the phrase "takes care of herself" because that's patronizing as hell and you'll be golden.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/20 07:25 AM
6	Women doing porn is their own choice, not a part of a secret patriarchy plan by men. You had me in the first half, not gonna lie. I totally agree doing porn is a woman's choice (except for in situations of coercion and trafficking, which I'm not talking about) But damn, how easy do you think sex work is? Regardless of the morality of it, sex work is often pretty intense physical labor. I tried pole dancing once just for fun and I thought I was gonna DIE. I was an artists' model and would pose nude and it was exhausting and surprisingly physically painful. And anyone who has been…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/20 07:15 AM
-5	Why isn't male hypogamous nature ever discussed? I think they want to feel good about themselves in a relationship, which is what we all want. I get the impression some men don't want their equal in what they value as personal achievements or areas of expertise and honestly I understand that. Men are encouraged to be competitive and to view high-paying, high-powered jobs as positive markers of masculinity. As a ridiculously competitive person myself, I understand how having someone with a more prestigious or better paid job being a turn off. I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/20 04:39 AM
6	Q4W: How do you reconcile the following opinions? I'm sure they're out there, but I've never met a woman who would want to date anyone who only dated people half their age. Have sex with, sure, but a relationship? That's almost always gonna be a pass. I'm sure there are a few "seething" women out there, but I don't imagine many 50yo women are spending time in their feelings about the dating habits of their high school crush.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/20 02:02 AM
5	Q4W: How do you reconcile the following opinions? If that's what makes him happy, great, although we can't say whether he's intimidated by 50yo women or not. All we know is he doesn't date them. I still think being unable or unwilling to be in a relationship with your peers is a bummer, whether you're king or not.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/20 01:24 AM
9	Q4W: How do you reconcile the following opinions? To me, that's kind of a red herring. No one's going to fault anyone else for finding a 25 year-old attractive, and sometimes that attraction forms into a relationship. No inherent creepiness there. The "disgusting creep" factor comes in with the imbalance of power and life-experience. If you're 50 and only dating 25 year-olds, that makes me think either you can't or don't want to have to deal with someone who is your true peer (this goes for all genders). It's hard for me to respect anyone who p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/08/20 12:25 AM