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| 1 | She filed and it’s a poor reflection on her.Amen bro, I do the same, let ai rewrite every reply to be professional, assertive and terse. I even keep the prompts and logs just in case. I was accused of being abusive due to not engaging with her aggressive provocation. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/26 04:47 PM |
| 8 | She filed and it’s a poor reflection on her.She is gambling on institutional sexism and throwing shit at you hoping something will stick. Only thing missing here are DV claims. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/07/26 09:59 AM |
| 3 | Just a MomentCheers bro, what might be a bittersweet moment for you, is a glimpse of hope for all the men in the thick of it. There is a good ending, or at least it is not all complete shit. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/06/26 09:44 PM |
| 1 | Even though you do your best to avoid….Call me paranoid, but I would make it transactional, give her X days notice. You can even be cooperative instead of confronting and offer to handle it for her if she let's you act on her behalf (in writing of course). Probably won't get you good boi points but it is the fair thing to do. I’m planning to cancel the subscriptions that I’m not using by the end of the month. If there are any that you’d like to continue using, please make sure to transfer them into your name before then. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/06/26 08:44 PM |
| 2 | Taking The Kids on Her TimeSo much this. OP is on the right track, it worth exactly a single post on social media. Now that it is out of his system, he can move on and focus on better things. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/06/26 08:30 PM |
| 2 | DelusionMore cold calculation than delusion. At some point they might start believing their own lies though. Next step is undermining your role as a father. Hope you have been documenting everything for the past couple of years otherwise you are up for an interesting ride. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/06/26 08:05 PM |
| 1 | Alimony, the cancerAbout how society perceives alimony in general. Even if you can argue alimony is outdated or excessive in the modern day it does not matter due to the fact that reasoning against emotions is a fool's errand. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/06/26 09:32 PM |
| 4 | When did you know your marriage was over?GLP-1 classic | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/06/26 01:44 PM |
| 3 | Wife and I of 15 years are separating.her social media posts telling the world (and our children) she’s a victim of abuse. Perhaps a controversial take, but in my experience when someone has the time to regularly play victim on social media, more often than not it turns out to be completely false. In fact, it is quite the opposite, usually it is 100% psychological projection. Hope things get better for you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/06/26 01:20 PM |
| 1 | Alimony, the cancerBecause you are trying to apply logic to an argument rooted in emotion. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/06/26 01:14 PM |
| 10 | Wife and I of 15 years are separating.You need to contact a lawyer yesterday. Document everything, keep your powder dry. You WILL have disagreements about what is a fair split. Things can escalate quickly. Godspeed. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/06/26 01:25 PM |
| 4 | Alimony, the cancerIt is unfair 2. it is normalized, calling out how unfair it is will make you look bad 3. Cope by not being a consumerist. Alimony might be bad, but a deadweight spending twice as much each month is even worse. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/26 09:57 PM |
| 4 | What a day/week/month/yearMassive shoutout to the fellas here. This group has been a saviour for me - your stories of staying calm, working to a strategy, document everything, avoid reacting, have been a major stabilising force for me. Not to mention the awesome stories from the other side. Hear, hear. Thanks for sharing your story. Dealing with a divorce as a man is nerve wrecking. The whole system is setup against you, the blatant sexism can get the better of anyone really. It is not enough to be a good husband and fat… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/05/26 11:20 AM |
| 13 | Anyone ever experience this?I can offer 3 not mutually exclusive possibilities, but without knowing the wider context there might be projections involved Late stage fafo, chickens are home roosting, you are still living rent free in her head and the regret is deafening. Hoping counseling can exempt her from her past actions and/or giving her a chance to take out her frustration on you one more time. Mostly delusional attempt to check whether she can still exercise/regain even a tiny amount of control over your life. A genu… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/05/26 11:05 AM |
| 7 | How often do they come back?Women and accountability mix like oil and water | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/04/26 12:35 PM |
| 1 | I Can't See A Future For Meit's just difficult to see it right now That's the thing, your horizon expands as you move forward. One step at a time. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/04/26 12:34 PM |
| 8 | How can I stop feeling hurt by her new relationship?You are not alone, most of us have been in similar situations. Finding out she is texting someone else sending spicy pics, finding new lingerie you have never seen her wearing, learning she is hopping on GLP-1 or trying to get in shape despite never putting in the effort while married, watching her dolling up for a date etc. the list goes on and on. It hurts. You are not crazy, it is highly disrespectful even indecent. It is not a judgement upon you, your qualities as a man, It speaks volumes ab… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/04/26 09:31 AM |
| 2 | Nine years of litigation taught me that memory is not a reliable witnessVery good advice and hats off to you getting sole custody. You can deal with someone harping about muh privacy, but you can't go back in time to record abusive behavior or collect evidence to counter false accusations. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/04/26 11:28 AM |
| 2 | Seventeen year relationship ending, just figure I’d introduce myselfMany such cases. Fair warning She says she wants to do 50/50 parenting and no child support so at least she’s not fighting me there. Depends on your case, jurisdiction etc but this is not a grant, she is not giving you anything, this is the sane minimum a dad should be entitled to. As framed, she is willing to throw you a bone as long as you give in to all her outrages demands. See how the tune changes on the slightest pushback. Heck, you don't even need to look the wrong way as long as she has … | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/04/26 11:19 AM |
| 2 | Seventeen year relationship ending, just figure I’d introduce myselfattempts to money branch not sure if typo or not but well played | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/04/26 11:08 AM |
| 2 | Need to get a lot off my chestYou could probably sign some kind of postnup without the legal overhead. Agree on the details, feed it to ChatGPT to make it formal, print and sign. You can continue the separation/divorce from there. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/10/25 06:55 PM |
| 2 | Anniversary is todayAre you second guessing your feelings? Let me confirm her behavior is distasteful and disrespectful. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/10/25 11:59 AM |
| 2 | Moving on to a life I don't care to liveSounds like midlife crisis. You might be in a bad place right now, but keep in mind as you go forward your horizon expands and you will discover new things you can cherish. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/09/25 12:48 PM |
| 3 | Done with the divorceFamily was an important project for me, and I failed in it. Exactly my sentiment. People tell me the kids will be better off with 2 separate happy parents but I call bs on that. They would be better off with 1 happy home. I failed to give it to them. We are at the very beginning of the journey, just said it out loud that we should have a divorce. Guiding principle should be equality and what is best for the kids. To be completely honest I'm still second guessing the decision. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/09/25 12:38 PM |
| 2 | Done with the divorceAs someone who is heading for a similar course of actions I appreciate your sharing of experiences. Perhaps I'm projecting, but your writing comes across more stoic than actual relieved. Maybe bittersweet? | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/09/25 12:17 PM |
| 2 | Recent text from ex-wifeYou know your ex, but imo you should have given her the benefit of the doubt. What's wrong with telling her you are doing fine? | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/04/25 12:45 AM |
| 2 | STXW FamilyHave similar FIL/MIL, they thrive on conflicts, only turn up to stir up shit. I'm glad they put zero effort into being present in their grandkids life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/04/25 02:27 PM |
| 8 | Just curious… for those who initiated the Divorce due to reasonings other than infidelity, why did you initiate? How is life, and your mental state now (post Divorce)?TLDR: I’m severely underappreciated and disrespected, despite breaking my back daily to provide for my family. Sounds like the standard male experience nowadays. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/04/25 09:04 AM |
| 1 | 24 M, is marriage worth it?I think this is sound logic and the main driving force behind marriage is societal pressure to do things the established way, usually amplified by a nagging partner. For some people being married signals a certain social status and gives bragging rights. Especially at 24, that is ahead of the curve. Plastering social media and showing off an expensive engagement ring, throwing a big party, sharing wedding photos, or simply making others envious is very important to some. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/25 10:58 AM |
| 1 | Single againWhat? She should have been happy you got more custody and cheer on you. I know you are hurting, but I would consider it a bullet dodged. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/25 03:39 PM |
| 1 | Societal perception of divorceHave you talked about your issues with friends and family? If they know there has bad blood for some time I don't think they would be surprised to hear you are heading for a divorce. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/25 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Psychological IssuesI think there is a low chance therapy will make he happy or make things better for you. On the other hand call me calculating, but if she gets diagnosed with some kind of mental problems perhaps that could give you some advantage in custody battles if push comes to show? | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/03/25 03:30 PM |
| 2 | Well I lost…Keep looking if there is a chance to move, make compromises if you need to. If not to the same city, perhaps somewhere nearby first? Driving 16h every month is not cheap either all things considered. Try to make your ex share some of the commute, make her get the kids for the home ride or meet halfway. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/03/25 01:05 PM |
| 1 | Asking your husband to do as much chores as you when you are a SAHM is abuseIt is simple math really. If one parent is working full time the other one is at home and they call it equal, the rest of the time they are both at home still needs to be split 50/50. To paraphrase the internet quote It is difficult to get a SAHM understand basic math if her leisure time depends on not understanding it | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/03/25 12:55 PM |
| 5 | “MY Children are My Life”I found this happens when a third party is involved aka virtue signaling to show they are a MOM full caps. Postering social media with the kids, telling friends/relatives how much they care about the kids etc. In private they could not care less and put in the bare minimum of effort. E.g. literally all the moms at the playground I frequent are on their phone assuring virtual people how MOM they are, while not even paying any attention to their kids 🤷 | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/03/25 01:44 PM |
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