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| 4 | Advice to accept chivalryThank you is plenty if you did not enjoy company. “ Thank you! You have been kind. I must go, i have a busy day at work tomorrow “ If you enjoyed his company, I would give compliments on what you enjoyed about his personality. You can hint at what you may want to do for the next date. “ You are quite generous to pay for such a lovely meal. I had a great time. It was nice to talk about Chicago fire with someone. I never met a guy who liked it as much as me. I like taking walks in the nearby park.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/24 09:54 PM |
| 2 | RPW NewbieMy tips on closing emotional distance: 1)Make his dreams your dreams. 2)Revisit past disagreements that you have won and see what you can do to show he may have been right. “ Babe I know not getting the boat allowed us to get the house we wanted, but I see how a boat would have been nice on a day like this. What can we do to still get you that boat. Maybe we rent one for just a weekend “ 3) Speak positively about him in his presence. Let him hear your daily praise and appreciation for the things… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/24 05:27 PM |
| 0 | AITA for not voluntarily closing my side of the marriage until my husband has had an equal amount of encounters?Changing rules mid game is a lot. Its unfair. Im guessing an end date and parameters never been set. Communication NOT foolish assumptions is what make marriages work. This game is just you and your partner. If no rule was set about boundaries, time, amount of partners, types of activities etc . Then both have a say in (should) have a say when the rule changes. You have volunteered a rule change. Not sure of what prompted it. Doesn’t matter though. He has declined. He can continue the open marri… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/24 02:40 PM |
| 1 | 15 years difference of ageI have done the age gap thing. If you want to reassure him of a future, I would read between the lines He maybe reluctant to be with you be because he can not give you the children you want. The night together without sex may have been hinting at that. Or to see how you would handle that. Also- He may prefer a more connected relationship than one he will be father. Some men even worry health wise if they will be “ there “ for the kids they father. An 18 yo at 60 maybe terrifying for him. You may… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/24 06:09 PM |
| -15 | Help with managing work and domestic/household tasks?I think his idea is worth a shot. It may not be achievable but it is worth a shot . It surprises some women that men who make considerable income or are the provider types are neat freaks. That car that you slobbered over from the club. Dont think of spilling a drink in there. No snacking. No takeout. Penthouse suite? Dishes clean every night, dried and put in proper places wipe the sink down before coming to bed. My approach would be have him declare what is his most important room: Sparkling k… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/24 12:43 PM |
| 3 | How to make more female friends when my interests are masculine?Female relationships can be a lot of drama. I don’t seek them out. I dont advise women to regularly do so. Most of mine are wives, friends from school or work. Just circumstantial connections. But To do this I would pick the most obscure thing you think you enjoy the most with a female and start there. There is a growing number of women in Stem fields. So something more obscure than that. A weird hobby or strange habit would be my start. This way you Eliminate all the random women without strong… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/24 06:20 PM |
| 0 | Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show and celebrity crushI surely would do this! I have done this! Clearly my personality if you are post stalker. I am the type I get all the ideas I can from all the women I can. I would pay attention to what he slobbers over and encourage it. “ oh so you like that? What you like about that?” I take mental notes on hair, make up, out fits and recreate within reason. If not for him. Its great to save it for the next man. Listen to him slip up and talk about all his past sexual encounters and crushes. You know the ones … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/24 11:25 PM |
| 7 | How do I handle the issues in my marriage using RPW strategy?First sex: yeah so tension and arguments about less time with family, who he clearly enjoys helping. That just ain't sexy. So next You: I feel like this is nesting. When pregnant or with little kids naturally you want the man to bringing resources in not taking them away. So I get it. But You have a generous man. That's a good thing. Unfortunately a generous man can be well….generous. Take a nap then sit down and agree to a fast hard limit: Maybe two weekends a month he is free to help family. N… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/24 04:52 PM |
| 7 | How do you act around your boyfriends/husbands male friends/relatives?I feel ya When married : I never texted, messaged another man including his close friends. If prompted I would save a number —say like a group chat. But I never initiated a conversation. If say we were prepping for a tailgate or some social event, I communicated with the wife/serious gf/partner. OR had the hubby reach out to the man. I communicated through him. In the presence of other men, I dressed cute, on trend but nothing too racy. The hubby always had final say of outfit selection. Convers… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/24 04:23 PM |
| -2 | whoopsie daisies with vetting & maybe being someone's reboundMy thoughts You are asking a lot of man when you have not proven yourself worthy. Three dates -ish you want exclusivity ( cut off FB friends), notoriety ( all the family should know your name) and a title ( gf). I like ambitious women but girrrrll… ha! Those are things are earned. Rebound or not. If you are the right one he will not even remember the girls in front of you. And if you are really good for him- he wont remember the ones that come after. So don't worry about him rebounding. Worry ab… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/24 01:43 AM |
| 1 | In love but feeling cautious—navigating the balance between trust and controlBeginnings don't predict if a marriage will last. People meet in the strip club, at the bar, through family, at the church, at funeral. In the end ( I feel ) marriages last because for whatever reason people agree to make it last. Rain or shine. That's it. Really that simple. I think all you need is 7 days with someone to determine if you can marry them. The rest is all fluff and stalling because of nerves. Will you hit bad times: Yes Will there be arguments about finances: Yes Will there be pro… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/24 05:52 PM |
| 4 | Need advice on restoring intimacyOkay I will start by saying generally I feel when it comes to sex, women want something like a Thanksgiving dinner without realizing the prep. Hear me out. They want the turkey, they will cook said turkey. However they don't want to think about how said turkey actually made it to the table. Someone had to go and kill the turkey, someone had to plant the green beans, some one had to mill the grain for it to be on your table to enjoy. Its gruesome. Its boring. Putting manure on a field of vegetabl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/24 01:48 PM |
| 8 | Helping my boyfriend overcome insecurity and anxietyPerhaps ask him what has worked in the past and build on that. I can’t offer much help here. This type of personality i dont stay around long for. This level of Anxiety is difficult to be around. It is a bit of a soul-suck for me . Its odd because people like this seem to be attracted to how calm and even-tempered I am. I usually wait until the crisis is over then announce my departure. Wrong I know. But very true. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/24 11:55 PM |
| 7 | Handling Impotence in MarriageOkay so pause. The penis is a very complex organ. I strongly, strongly, strongly encourage him to be evaluated by a urologist AND internal medicine AND cardiology. Young and healthy does not mean free of vascular diseases, even type 2 diabetes or hypertension. Lots of women are “ young and healthy “ but can not have children. Why? Because young and healthy are not synonymous. To assume young and virility is mentally damaging to those who are not which just adds to the original problem”. So priva… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/10/24 03:28 PM |
| 3 | How to respond when husband is depressed?I would not chase him . He is an adult. Some adults need time. Assess his risk for suicide with a professional. I would only say this “ Tell me what you need most from me when you behave this way— because i dont know” Be open to what he asks of you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/24 02:29 PM |
| 53 | My (27F) boyfriend (30M) of 3.5 years and I have different timelines for marriage and children, and I’m unsure if I should continue waiting for him to be ready or if he’s just going to keep “moving the goalpost.”It is common for a man to say anything to get a good woman to stay. It is common for good women with lots of options to believe weak promises and outright lies from a not so good man. In these situations i reccomend: Create your internal timeline. Let him know your concerns. Give him a kiss and a hug. Tell him what he means to you. Do NOT give an ultimatum. Just tell him you are waiting and will continue to do so until you can no longer. Give him a kiss. When the timeline arrives. Leave immediat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/24 02:24 PM |
| 2 | What is a reasonable expectation about the delivery of bad news? What is the optimal response?Marriage does not always mean courthouse and government approved I figure if you live together and he is sharing details of finances then you are pretty married. Or at the very least a very cemented mistress. What you asking, I feel maybe on the border of unreasonable. If he is making big decisions and dealing with fall out he deserves some processing time. In this media world, I understand the need for instant answers. We ask the quarterback as he exits the field to give a summary of all mistak… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/24 12:48 PM |
| 2 | Partner says I’m like a manDisclaimer: Do not follow advice if he generally likes this part of you! But your post suggests not. I feel for you. I can be this way myself if you are a post history follower. Clearly. Ha! I say keep your true inner self and practice the following lies. I had to learn some these things below from other longterm married wives : 1) Tell him you need him. Involve him in decision making and demonstrate how important his opinion is. Start small, “ Babe I have no idea what to wear to bring to this t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/24 12:49 AM |
| 3 | Wanting to have a B planI think some ( falsely ) believe relationships with trust, long-term potential or where a guy is 100% provider means no B plan. If you speak to many women behind closed doors you find that is not true, not realistic and Not very smart. I feel women feel less guilty thinking this way when they have little ones they are caring for. A mans thoughts and crazy ideas fall to background. Yes guys your fears have been confirmed to be true. Super independent women will admit they have I Plan. Like I don'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/24 01:17 PM |
| -4 | Wives, how do you respond when someone asks you about your career, finances, or other things that aren’t areas you manage in your household?My two cents I will answer how I would ( how I did ) handle as a wife, who is satisfied with her marriage and wants to keep that way or grow it stronger. The over a vibe for a dinner party should be positive. You are married. You are a prize. He is the man. He has a big cock. The birds are singing. The lawn is lush. Blah blah. You should not (purposefully ) be fodder for neighborhood gossip. Don't become target practice for future mistresses. SAHM do a WHOLE LOT! Trust every working women knows … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/24 06:04 PM |
| 3 | Meeting his momGenerally you should conservatively dress in a way that still demonstrates your authentic personality. Be relaxed, helpful and receptive. Beforehand, Ask beau of “ funny, lively “ stories of his girlfriends that she has met, the men she has had in her life. Learn from what he shares. Mothers and sons are a unique bond. She knows her son. You will know the kind of man your son will become. Remember, She knows your bf father, even if they never married, and knows what traits he is exhibiting from … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/24 07:35 PM |
| 5 | Should I categories this behaviour as cheating?Take a step back: There ARE cultures that allow polygamy. Finding and courting another female is normal, accepted embraced. They raise healthy children. There economy grows and prospers. Cheating is a personal definition you and your partner establish based on cultural background and your relationship goals. If you have discussed this. And he is continuing to do it, it becomes more about lack of respect for your boundaries. Less about women. Please look at it that way. He could be cooking shrimp… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/24 01:37 AM |
| 1 | I think I found my person…Congratulations!!!! A good match with a good man is such a wonderful feeling. 1) I would be curious as to his underlying reasons why he wants you to reciprocate so early in a ‘no commitment period’ . I mean if we are discussing porn habits, I would assume it would not be too early for a financial conversation. Pay attention to how he answers. Is it to control dating costs? Is it so he can learn more about you? Is it grooming you to submit your financial decisions to him? Is he hiding financial i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/24 02:06 PM |
| -4 | Not so “ex gf” need adviceHmm Interesting the man who leaves when mother says bad things but doesn’t stay by your side and demonstrates she is wrong …. If you are happy as is. Then stay as is. As you mature you may hate the day when mother is proven right. Its less about mommy’s feelings more about her underlying concerns. You carefully never list them. You never say if she is right. If he is a good man, he will turn his efforts to prove he is the right man for you. Encourage him to do that if he stays around. If you don… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/24 03:41 AM |
| 11 | What do you do when you’re right in a disagreement?If this man is marriage material. I would pick and choose battles wisely. Sometimes in marriage you must lose a battle to win a war. Its not about him being right or you being right. You are a force together. You must move in unison. The wheels of a car must steer the same direction , even if they are side by side and 50:50. Sometimes that means submitting and going a long with a smile. No snarky i told you sos in private. Just drop it. Focus on the war of life. This idea is what separates datin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/24 05:30 PM |
| 21 | Thoughts on men who won’t let you look at their phone?It is bit stalky I think. I never check a mans phone. If you have dont trust him- just say it. Move on or stay. Your choice. No wrong choice. Just a choice. Stalky, manipulative, controlling behavior is not female dominance. It’s insecurity. It is a sign of weakness. Checking his phone would not determine if he is cheating. It should not determine if he is cheating. You can delete messages. Block and unblock numbers. Carry different phones. Agree to communicate through apps. Agree to never text.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/24 03:20 PM |
| 3 | Dating apps to meet men for marriageI should add, tried eharmony and had some success. But the pool quite limited and most guys on there either have set up an in take shop , like a bear scooping all the fresh salmon that come their way, or there is a red flag reason why they are not married. If you are younger than 40. I think hinge is best. Just stick to your guns. Not tried raya. Thinking of that for the future. So maybe check that out. Best of luck | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/24 01:21 PM |
| 12 | Dating apps to meet men for marriageStick with Hinge. Keep declining the short term guys or block them all together. The algorithm will bring you more longterm people of your type. It will take 3/4 cycles . | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/09/24 01:15 PM |
| 8 | help navigating relationship with my overly attached immigrant MIL…Ahh yes. In laws. The thing that divides the women who think they want to be married from the ones who know marriage. Im a kill with kindness. Know mothers ( especially bitter divorced/ widowed mothers) cling to their sons like you are stealing their husbands. It’s weird. You cant fight and win. You will lose the respect of hubby and family. She will turn grand kids against you. So lose. Lose purposely. Agree with everything she says. Im fat. Im a whore. I baby trapped him. Im a horrible cook. B… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/09/24 07:25 PM |
| 9 | Sexy pictures?Go all in! You are married not dating. Dont be shy! Indulge his fantasies. Make acting like a married adult something people look forward to. 😈 | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/09/24 02:53 AM |
| 11 | New relationship and insecure about my 'boring' personalityBoring is okay. It may be exactly what he wants. I would be open to him pouring his heart out. Maybe occasionally snuggle as he plays a game. Conversation isnt always verbal. It can be physical. You are signaling you like him, you like his time and you are available. Otherwise enjoy your free time working on your hobbies . | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/24 09:56 PM |
| -1 | Thoughts on the Happy Wife School (YouTube channel)?Nope. Never heard of it. I think men know exactly what they need to do, women do as well. Sometimes we watch content to avoid the obvious right behavior choices Like when people google weight loss hacks when they know they should eating right and exercising. So basically, will look for it watch some ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/09/24 12:01 AM |
| 2 | Cooking dilemmaI do agree with the idea of parallel proteins. For a long term potential man, ironically I would stay away from recreating favorites with plant-based products. I think the memory of childhood taste so ingrained. Its like trying to compete with an old girlfriend. Just don't bother. Be better by being you. Maybe find the textures or ethnic groups of foods he likes and find him new favorite meals, plant-based he will associate with just you. Does he like indian, Mexican, Italian flavors? Find some … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/09/24 01:54 AM |
| 0 | What is the correct response to when this happens?Its hard to determine if these are casual mentions that he is just not following up on. Or if these are actual firm dates ( time, place, location and event agreed upon and decided ) . You must demonstrate worth before anyone can see it. “ Hey John that dinner was awesome, loved what they did with the steak. The movie was soso” “ what dinner? What movie” “ the dinner and movie I went to last night, by myself” “ what?! Why did you go by yourself? You should have reminded me “ “ its no big deal, no… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/24 04:22 AM |
| 4 | how to make my dominant man listen to me.For me totally depends on the man and relationship. Some arenas are a “no go.”. For instance I don’t let another man tell me how to raise my kids, punish my kids . Their father is in the picture (amicable divorce 50:50 custody) . I usually establish that upfront. I don’t enjoy a man who wants to exhibit financial dominance. Tell me how to spend my money or have access to my accounts. But also i dont ask this of him. Otherwise: I truly enjoy dominance. He can tell me what to wear, what events to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/24 11:58 PM |
| -1 | When men ask for commitmentWhen men ask for commitment. I usually like to discuss what does that look like on both ends. What are his expectations? What are yours for him? Be honest with him. “ Babe I don’t know how committed you plan to be if we only see each other once a month, i feel like we table this until im a little closer “ Healthy relationships start early. Not thrown together as the relationship is in a death spiral. It is very important to discuss an “out” upfront. “Hey john, if things are not going well and i … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/24 07:12 PM |
| 4 | Do you let men help you?As a single woman, generally no. If he works there sure. No problem. Men are visual and incredibly receptive to niceties. I also must be on guard for my safety, If they want to ask me out on a date they should do so. Right then and there. Not follow me to the car, get an eyeful of my life and license tag while they “ help me” do something i can do myself. I do admit , I like a very masculine gentleman. I have dated someone i met at a grocery store. I don’t think it is emasculating men to move yo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/24 11:02 AM |
| 12 | Do you think it’s better to be perceived as sexy or adorable?Hmm. Interesting. If I could look over Gods shoulder and choose, it would be sexy. Hands down. I am a pretty independent thinker. I like power for myself as much as i like powerful men as a partner. I choose sexy. Femininity is power. I dont think of it as a negative if a man makes unsolicited comments to a woman. I see it as he is to weak to control himself or the female just that powerful. Masculinity doesn’t have to be covered. But for a woman to walk around bare breasted. That would literall… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/24 04:10 PM |
| 6 | Career vs WifeIf you were just looking for a partner or a husband. I would maintain a career path. You can flex how aggressive you want to be in career and your achievements based on personal tastes or your husband/partners career. I strongly advise you keep your job/career path. If you are looking to be a mother. I would recommend choosing to be a wife and find a 100% provider. That or learn to be single mother by choice. You can be a mother, wife, career woman, best friend, sister and have personal time and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/09/24 03:30 PM |
| 6 | Back to Basics September: 'Girl Game: The Glory Hole Experience'*taking notes furiously *. And to think I saw none of this come up in chat gpt when I asked. See ! AI is useless :). Seriously This post is the only thing that has made me sad for breaking up with my boyfriend two weeks ago. Its a shame because it would have been fun to have someone to try these things on. Whats a single gal to do? I guess its back to the drawing board…. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/09/24 03:28 PM |
| 4 | Thoughts on telling a man about other men approaching you?When married. I kept myself off market. I trust women truly know how to do this but just in case…. I always wore my wedding ring. Never took it off until the day we separated. Even then it was returned to him. When all dolled up, out with girlfriends, out by myself ( gas station, grocery store, etc) or even out with my husband. Men who approached got a respectful nod. A smile and i would say clearly and definitively “ Why thank you. Im married “ or “ “ Im sorry Im married “ Of course it was hila… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/24 04:25 PM |
| 10 | Back to Basics September: 'Girl Game: The GFE'Love this post. Hilarious. Apologies to all the uptight women out there but sometimes to be the excellent wife you must understand how whores operate. There are things you can learn. Its reality. Its the world. Dont Judge. Just Learn. A lot of it is really not about sex. Most of a good marriage is ego stroking. Illusion. Cheerleading. Being a confidente. Being a fairy godmother. Being the attentive nurse. Honest nonjudgmental counselor. Its a lot. Its a big title. It still is honorable. Learn al… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/24 04:12 PM |
| 2 | After a (very short) breakup...I may be very old school. But if this is truly the one and only husband you want. He is a provider. You are committing to him. You should do that. Men messaging you in a relationship is just poor form. Its bad for a current relationship. Even if the next guy is better ( monkey branching, keeping the door open, hypergamy , not turning down a good opportunity, he is a friend etc), how can the next guy learn to trust you? So this behavior damages the future relationship. There are two types of wome… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/24 12:20 PM |
| 4 | “A woman cannot date backwards..”I think this strictly depends on the value she has seen from the qualities. I do admit, intelligence is hard to date backwards on. Women can be talkers. I am most certainly one. If he can not hold an educated discussion. Its a no. Marriage would be hard. Keep in mind lthe network of friends, family members built over time that this new less conversational relationship would not likely fit into. Sorry cant go back to highschool conversations from college. Ambition is another thing nearly impossib… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/24 12:42 PM |
| -3 | Ex wants me backOf course verbal, mental abuse should not be tolerated. However you don't mention what he was willing to do possibly change. You don't mention if he was or was in track to be a provider. Those would come into play if you are trying to get an alternative to the feminism, liberalism opinion. If he were a 100 percent provider AND he wanted you, saw the error of his ways and organically wants to change them- I could see giving him a second chance. Marriage and relationships are not based on comfort … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/09/24 10:05 AM |
| 16 | In What Ways Did Your Relationship Prepare You for Motherhood?My children have so many of their father's characteristics. It has taught me you must learn to deal with all aspects of your partners personality in a positive manner. If you don't with him, you will be tested later with your kids. I understand why it is important to have some baseline attraction, devotion to your partner if you want kids together. It strengthens the maternal bond. I don't want to stir controversy but I couldn't imagine having a child that was a product of a non consensual relat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/24 08:12 PM |
| 7 | Looks or money when it comes to datingI remember a wise woman older than me shared this piece advice from her own mother “ You can love a rich man just like you love a poor man” Any man you can learn to be his friend, put his needs above your own, sacrifice your body and risk your health to bear children that will pass on his genes, you can nurse him back to health, be his cheerleader, his life coach, turn the other eye as he eyes the ever-increasingly younger and more beautiful women that walk by, learn to deal with his annoying ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/24 04:55 PM |
| 8 | Advice: how can I become his ideal woman and save our relationship?People who issue ultimatums usually do it with one foot already out the door. However Start slow: Splurge for one day without child rearing/homeschooling a week - join a homeschooling support group. Maybe exchange a day in return for you watching their kids to stay on budget. Every day while at work text him cute, suggestive messages. Pics of you. Things you want done. Things he may want done. Tell him you have to start working late. Take a 1 hr nap at the office before coming home. When you arr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/09/24 09:34 PM |
| 25 | How to respond to this breakup text from him?Agreed: “Thank you for recognizing what I find important. I appreciate your honesty. I wish you nothing but the best “ Don't let him back into your life until there is serious discussion of marriage. No pics, no dates. No sex. He may be trying to call your bluff, post your dating profile. Move on quickly. Talk about your upcoming dates if he insists on “ staying friends” | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/24 03:41 AM |
| 2 | Need advice how to gently communicate to my boyfriend about him forgetting thingsSomethings to consider or try. 1) Be honest with yourself about why he does not call and do your best to fix it. Are your calls long super needy? Fix it! Change A) “ Oh my God John! Its been two days. Who is there with you? What was that voice? How come you can't facetime? Tell me you love me” . To B) “ Hey Babe! Thanks for the call. Miss you but don't want to cramp your free time. I am heading out with the girls. Enjoy yourself. Can't wait to see you” 2) Is he a mans man? Is checking in, being … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/24 11:54 PM |
| – | am I too pessimistic about this relationship? is it me trying to sabotage it with overthinking or are my fear valid?1) “We never talked about marriage “ and you are dating for 8 months. 2) Your family knows him. You have not met his family in the shape of serious future intentions 3) You recognize this but somehow want to post on a forum instead of feeling comfortable enough to communicate concerns to a potential husband you expect to be a provider. So essentially while you are on lock from other cock, he is free to run the streets. Buying your loyalty with dates and generalized words. Flag. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/24 09:30 AM |
| 0 | Is this guy a red flag?Clearly he is not your type for multiple reasons. Move on honey. I don't think he is being wrong or disrespectful. He is field testing what you are into. You are not into it. Even worse you find it traumatic. He is a walking mental Trigger. Please just move on quickly. Save yourself and RPW the drama. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/24 09:20 AM |
| 2 | looking for advice from married women/ moms... want to leave STEM to be SAHM but have questions...Regret comes from looking over fences and thinking the grass is always greener somewhere else. Green grass grows where you water it. If you are the type to always look over the fence., you will always have regret. Abusive men find and abuse power career women as much as domestic SAHM. Do not date abusers. Period. Survival means living. Can you live off one salary? Will you resent your husband if he nixed the girl trip to Vegas with your friends. If you see a nice purse or dress and have to ask p… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/24 06:55 PM |
| 1 | [Discussion] Red Stop SignsViolent tendencies. Because they usually escalate. One date, trying to get my attention to look at a parking spot number gently put his hands on my shoulder and turned my body towards what he wanted me to see. He also bragged about beating his kids. Great date. But it was a no Pedophile tendencies: pictures, movies. I have daughters. I like to be able to sleep at night Profile photos either sitting inside or standing outside of your car. I'm sorry. I just can't 😜 | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/24 06:01 AM |
| – | Feeling lost navigating partner’s family systemI would suggest create positive encounters. What do they do well? Fishing? Creating music? Cook out? Attend a sporting event. Look for positive activities that do not make you center of attention. You may get credit for suggesting it. Stay out of the wsy as they enjoy it as a family. Find redirecting topics when conversation getting heated or annoying. Can you believe the weather? I think the marlins are going to win the world series? Labron is way better Jordan ! | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/24 01:55 AM |
| 2 | Scared of becoming a liabilityLiability is such a clouded word. Not sure what that may be hiding. You don't have to reveal it that though. I say Don't apologize for revealing your true self to your partner. You would want the same. If he wants cut the line and flee now is the time. Not after marriage. If you are concerned about a mental health issue or growing physical condition that may prevent you from completing your schooling. The best thing to do is prepare for it. Maybe reach out in confidence to a mentor or counselor … | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/24 11:22 PM |
| 4 | How much influence should each others preferences have on outer appearance?I am someone who would not hesitate to temporarily change my outward appearance for a man. Partly because of my own chameleon curiosity, partly because I enjoy costume, make up and role play and lastly it would be because I am with a committed partner with whom I enjoy my time and value his opinion. I say go for it! | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/24 04:26 PM |
| 3 | I cant attract menThe brutal likely reason is you are not aware of which type of man would find you a valuable. Or just not attracted to them. Not willing to do the sorting work to find the ones that are marriage material. There are many men who would love a shorter than them, petite woman Many men like nonaugmented small breasts Many who like intelligent awkward women As you mentioned they are likely to be dominant type, strong libido. Likely awkward themselves initially. Maybe review your exes and see thei char… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/24 01:41 PM |
| 5 | Is SMV real?There is a lot to unpack here. The logic is just not adding up. Probably because I have never heard of this term, SMV. Lets keep with the business analogy of SMV is something you can possibly “take to the bank” In general every thing has value, you only need to find the correct buyer. When you find the correct buyer it is up to the seller to make correct use of the terms of agreement. For instance if your mom married a millionare and was left penniless, she has to bear part of the blame. Not try… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/08/24 12:31 AM |
| 1 | My (24F) boyfriend (28M) isn't very verbal with his feelings, and it's starting to affect our long-distance relationship. What should I do?I think this is a good example of why it is easier to find someone that naturally speaks the “love language “ you enjoy. Not impossible to survive but it will take work on both parts. First be sure you are meeting his definition of love ( not just yours) before you encourage him to express it verbally. Maybe he saw a couple that always used verbal reassurance but then were awful to each other. Maybe he believes less limits on physical touch and intimacy is the true expression of love - you are r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/08/24 01:42 PM |
| 7 | Incorporating femininity and traditional values into our relationship!Maybe see what his longterm goals are apart from your own and make steps to invest in them. Does he want to buy his mom a house? Does he want to buy his own private plane? Does he want to go to the World Series one day? Try to find what he is working hard for( apart from you😜) and show your support for that even in rough times. Be in tune with how he deals with stress and support it. Make sure it is a healthy way to deal with stress. Maybe silently cruise reddit forums regarding being a pilot. S… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/08/24 11:02 PM |
| 0 | [Discussion] What should you bring to the table?I think what a man should bring is a highly tailored individual response. A great relationship is defined by a a person fits, like a lego block, into the rigid ideas of another persons life. Dating you display your surface, your rigid ideas and personality that you bring. A great mate will have complimenting ideas. Women looking for providers because they find that desirable, attractive best fit with men who fundamentally enjoy providing. There are men who look for providers, they are best serve… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/24 12:44 PM |
| 2 | How important is physical attractionFor me physical attraction tied to a thought process. If mature and diligent enough you can unravel the basis to what you are attracted to and make it do your bidding. For instance taller heavier, thicker body frame, for me. exudes protection -A characteristic that I am instantly attracted. In my mind I think ‘ Thats a guy who will keep me safe’ And in fact that body type is what I married. However now in the dating world I date all body types. A thinner guy I will create the mental picture of h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/08/24 09:50 AM |
| 3 | Saying "I love you" and initiating physical intimacyPersonally I believe love is an action word not an emotion. This is what I instruct my daughters behind closed doors. It may sound cynical but in the dating world I see men game the feelings of women with two emotional phrases. One is ‘I love you’. The other is ‘I want to marry you’. Nothing wrong with hearing these words from a man first, but don't let those words blind you from his actions. My RPW answer would be wait until the man speaks it first. Intimacy should be led by the man. Early in d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/24 01:20 PM |
| 3 | Early stages of dating and not sure if this this slow fading, or is the “chase” just over?Not sure of the level of getaway involved. Did he break the bank trying to impress you? Is he scared you expect that every date? In addition to verbally showing appreciation for his generosity, I would reinforce you enjoy his time and company as well. Every date doesn't have to whisk you off your feet. That thinking is not practical. Maybe just once, unprompted say to him. “ I want to be in this for the long haul, you tell me what you need to support you. I know work has been stressful “ After o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/24 01:51 AM |
| 0 | Finances with a babySome thoughts : It sounds like the first baby for both of you. A man who says he wants to be a provider. Is not lying at a 70/30 split. He still is paying a significant majority. A baby is quite expensive. Cloth or traditional diapers, Formula vs breastmilk storage and pumping, random necessary items left off registries etc. Adding another human to the household is like well...adding another human to the household. Blinded by love and his own ego he probably bit off more than he can chew. He is … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/08/24 12:05 AM |
| 1 | Why did my high school sweetheart go quiet after we reconnected—Is this relationship worth pursuing?He was your “baby boy”. Hmm. Too much to unpack there. Also Not sure what you want the relationship to be or how you want it to grow with someone on active duty. I think will leave this for other RPW posters to detangle | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/24 07:49 PM |
| 0 | Boyfriend wishes I was more girly and funTo me, his behavior sounds like when a woman is nitpicking at a dress, when she realizes she really wanted the pantsuit. But he may trying to be playful. Teasing to help you become more confident. Some men like playful banter. These actions can be read a number of ways… If you really like someone you will begin to celebrate their quirks or differences. If he is already nitpicking at multiple things and you are not married, he publicly can't boast a possible engagement, you may already be in the … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/08/24 02:43 AM |
| 6 | Having anxiety for not having kid at my ageYou are right to be concerned about fertility. Even for women in their 20s fertility is not guaranteed. Many women struggle with mental anguish from wearing the scarlet letter “B” Barren. Change your mindset to safeguard against depression. Know your femininity and being a successful ‘woman’ is more than being a biological mother. Motherhood takes many forms. You are not just a cup meant to hold water. In the dating circle let your intentions be known early and upfront. Yes, you will scare away … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/08/24 04:35 AM |
| 1 | RedPillWomen's Hamster: Harnessing Hamster Wheel Energy (Part 1 of 2)Interesting. Will admit it will be hard for me to process out the disease of addiction and the Pavlov reward system that happens in the cycle of domestic violence/abuse into something else. But always open to new thoughts. .. Be still my manic hamster…:) | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/24 11:36 PM |
| 8 | Where should I 28F move to increase my chances of dating success?City 2. Moving a relationship is difficult. You can ruin it in the process. But if cities are close enough —No need to choose with current dating apps. Date in both, just let long-term potential know your plans early. I have run into this and been told this. It is not unusual to discuss. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/24 11:13 PM |
| 8 | How did you stop obsessing over your husbands career?Pause: Before taking any advice below, please consider he may like this quality about you. He married you. If you abruptly change it may make him nervous, he may develop trust issues, see it as a passive-aggressive etc. Sounds hokey, sounds antifeminist...my advice is do not change without his permission. Things I would try: 1) I am a big fan of writing nagging thoughts down. It feels like it is “said and heard”. Write suggestions down and put in a drawer or top of a shelf. Join a Reddit forum (… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/24 12:34 PM |
| 16 | The Burned Haystack Dating MethodOmg! This woman is so right. I literally already have preached this 😳😳. A few quick notes Rule # 4 Sounds mean but to be honest it is the best strategy. I personally choose to just not interact/respond to people with poor profile matches. Its not high school mean girl. The apps are algorithms! The more you chat with poor matches the more of that type the “app god”will bring you. Don't have to be rude but Don't be nice on an app. Rule #6. In a metropolitan area, in my experiences 7 days of chatti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/24 09:32 PM |
| 3 | Finding the line between serving and motheringside note: doesn't this make you wonder how all those trainer-olympian/athlete marriages work?! Goodness. I don't see how they can deal ?* Anyhow. It is always difficult in a marriage, when a partner asks that you take on a new role in the relationship. But my vote is always, yes it is unfair. Yes it is inconvenient. Yes it can blindside you- but marriage is (should be) entered into a lifetime contract. You should try. In this case he is trying something that will in the end benefit you both. Hi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/24 12:38 PM |
| 2 | book suggestionHa! I just thought he was Amazon book seller. I don't check backgrounds. You have to admit he is a sweetheart to post recommendations. Best | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/08/24 12:15 PM |
| 4 | how to tell my boyfriend I don't want to have sex with him anymore?Concerning. I would be worried he will be angry, lie and accuse you of all sorts of things to publicly shame you. Men can get crazy when they get cut off from their oasis. It may make you feel better that - like it or not - Men with healthy sex drives do keep “ back up plans” on the side. I doubt he is going long without. And clearly has mastered discretion. The issue is how HE will handle you not being available….Hmm I would try the no longer being available approach. This keeps the relationshi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/24 07:48 PM |
| 3 | Sex before marriage or not?Sexual intercourse is a personal decision. Media and culture try to paint a picture of fantasy. Every meal you eat will not be delicious. Life usually becomes less perfect the more you try to make it perf. Losing virginity is often an emotional, personally life changing experience for both partners. In reality People choose to lose virginity all kinds of ways . Some unpopular ways are often not regretted. In the end it should always be your decision. My advice: make a list of fears you have abou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/08/24 03:13 AM |
| 2 | how to add more mystery to yourself?Hmm. Adding Mystery to oneself. “Romantically Interested” can mean a lot of things. But I will bite : Basically stay friendly open and inviting but divulge less specifics. Answer the question without answering. 1) Flirtatious level: Him: So hey what are your weekends like? You: *Pulling mustard off shelf, checking label then put in grocery cart. * Meet his gaze, smile and say “ what do you mean?” Him: Do you have a favorite bar? You: Not sure. (with a smile ) Him: I was thinking of taking you to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/08/24 12:27 AM |
| 1 | Am I doing something wrong?No. I also don't think you should apologize for being yourself. You are intelligent. So are men. Men know what they want just as much as you. You mentioned “little to no pursuit” - I think a strong dating profile weeds the men out for you. The “ little bit of men” you have attracted desire whatever you are putting out there. Congratulations! Work with them. They like your trueself. Be grateful. Yes there are ways to attract more with simple changes in profile wording and pictures. If you change … | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/24 06:54 AM |
| 0 | single mother by choice?Nothing wrong with single mother by choice. I have advocated many successful friends to choose this option. I am secretly envious of women who do so. Motherhood is hard period. Being married doesn't guarantee ease. Even if your partner is financially secure and super generous, motherhood can be isolating. Don't drag a man through misery to get to a goal he has no desire to reach. You would not want this if the roles were reversed. Marriage is a beautiful thing but I think taking a wonderful part… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/08/24 02:06 AM |
| 2 | How to be the “goddess of fun and light” when it’s not your personality?I know I will be ripped to shreds by saying this but Infidelity is an emotional subject. I get it. It is a warning sign. For some it is the end of a marriage, for the determined and it can be the beginning of a new better marriage with the same person. Consider: Many long lasting successful marriages do suffer from infidelity. Either publicly or privately. I do not think it is inevitable in a marriage but it is common. We should safeguard against it, but when it comes we should handle it appropr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/24 01:48 PM |
| 1 | How to be the “goddess of fun and light” when it’s not your personality?Try to: Box up resentment. Put it away to work on in private. Actively engage in Imaginative Role play. Resolve not to talk about the drudgery of life until a set day or time. “Tuesdays are tough talk Tuesdays.” Afterwards a sincere effort at light hearted discussions the remainder of the week. Not silence Learn more about him and bring him mental treats he would find surprising: Say he is into sports- research some facts about the team, his favorite players and use it to start conversations. In… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/08/24 12:22 PM |
| 12 | Gifting for spouse then sellingI encourage lady like behavior even in the setting of ungentlemanly actions. A gift is just that. A gift. Not a promise, not a contract, not a means of control. It may help you to reflect on the many gifts you may have received over your lifetime that you have never used, abused, forgotten , regifted etc. Don’t build resentment over a poor gift choice. I say Drop the thought and think carefully next time you give something to anyone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/24 06:50 PM |
| 1 | Low effort on dating appsThese are men trying to maximize the amount of gain from the dating app. The subscription is pricey for the common man. This is how most apps make money. So if they get a windfall of numbers from possible dates then cancel the subscription, they feel like they have gamed the system or gotten money’s worth. I would not be too offended by this behavior. However think carefully on a man who can not afford or is unwilling to subscribe longterm. Imagine their budget and where they place value in find… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/24 06:43 PM |
| 4 | How to find a church?I think size matters. ;) Seriously . get a feel of how active you want to be in the church then choose accordingly Do you have the time to pursue a leadership role? Do you want to disappear into the congregation and only participate sporadically because you both have busy lives. Or maybe you want a place to pop in and out as needed. From your expectations, I would narrow down churches in the area. Dedicate a couple of months visiting each place of worship. Let the congregation know you are in se… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/24 10:04 PM |
| 8 | How to support boyfriend in new job?I would be leary of a celebratory dinner on first day. It sounds good in theory but he may be mentally exhausted, have to network and get drinks with colleagues, or have a ton of assignments to sort through. Maybe move the dinner to the end of the work week. Don't feel offended if he wants to cancel it all together. I would gift bag him His favorite snack, soft/energy drink and a cute note. A picture of you both somewhere fun he can sit at his desk or place in a locker. Make him feel he is more … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/07/24 04:37 PM |
| 8 | How to overcome attraction to physical appearance?I do think it is possible to mature in what one finds attractive. Do you buy your own groceries? Shopping at a grocery store and you choose a carton of bright red delicious looking strawberries. You bring them home and find they are hollow, sandy, flavorless and the carton rotted the next day. The experience and flavor can be so tied to the physical appearance you sign off of cosmetically appealing strawberries. You learn to purchase from a different store, look for signs over ripening, maybe sk… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/24 11:07 PM |
| 1 | Is he a provider?It doesn't matter what we think. You are uncomfortable with the situation. I would say he is not providing in a manner you find acceptable. Unless you are running a you tube channel - your relationship is a private bargain. You must live under the contractual terms, not this forum. I think You are lucky to recognize your concerns early. Leave, live and learn. Let the next prospect know the standards you hold. Free this man up for some one who may be a better fit. To stay is to create the foundat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/07/24 10:46 PM |
| 5 | How to vet (and when) if man wants a marriage and kids in the future?1) On dating apps: I would just drop a line in my bio. Maybe something humorous like : “ My cringey mom told me to put this here: Hope to start a family in the next 5 years.” “ I guess I am in my Marriage-minded era...” This would be a forward enough to scare most away. Open and light hearted enough for the curious gentleman to start early conversation via chat or facetime without investment into a date/short relationship trial. If a potential date ignored such a forward statement and just comme… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/07/24 08:26 PM |
| 4 | Are my perspectives delusional?My vote: Accept your actions. They were not mistakes. You were honest with him. Don't doubt your decisions. Be an adult and Lay in the bed you have made. He too was honest with you and had to deal with the consequences of opening himself up. His current decisions reflect growth. Continue to grow, don't waste time wishing for a past to return. Only you can determine if resentment is too great to continue the relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/07/24 09:30 PM |
| 13 | How did you know your husband was a provider?Provider mindset men are super easy to spot: They scoff at the idea of you not always being available. Uncomfortable with you paying for things and would not suggest it. They are not flashy with short-term spending because they want to be sure they can cover long-term goals. They are proud of how they provided for women in past relationships. They may be the penny pinchers, the meal splitters, the lets vacation during the cusp season to save money, etc. Provider mindset should not be confused wi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/07/24 02:47 AM |
| 14 | Thoughts on wanting to be taken care of by a man?My advice: Don’t waste time and money chasing what is normal. Find what works and fulfills you in life. You only have one life to live. It is wonderful you seem to have discovered you really want a relationship where the man is the leader. Can you answer what does that look like? Excellent! Half your work is done! Now the hard part…. Spend time discovering how this type of man thinks and what HE may want in a woman. What does that look like? discreetly, non judgmentally reach out to women who ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/07/24 07:14 PM |
| 3 | How is life like for women who are post wall? Do men treat you different?Somethings to consider: The men who only consider a hot 20 yo as wife material will always consider a hot 20 yo as wife material. Even when they are 60+. Have fun! Date those who seem genuinely interested in you. …but I say Save yourself the heartache. Don't marry this type of man. Vet a husband appropriately. There are many good men out there who want a life partner. Our country has a problem with age. But also with other things like race, socioeconomic status. Learn very quickly life is what Y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/07/24 12:40 AM |
| 1 | Considering moving cities for my boyfriend?I would internally search why you are hesitant. The Relationship is “wonderful “. You could move, he really can't. He has given a verbal commitment of intent. He is communicating and so are you. He is compromising his wishes ( cohabitation ) to meet your standards. Yet you are hesitant. Something is there you are not mentioning… We live in a global economy. There is no guarantee you will be in any location for period of time. Career, ill family member obligations, changes in a school district, c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/24 01:51 PM |
| 3 | How to go about bills when bf wants to pay all of them but struggles?He sounds awesome. He has the drive to be a provider and enjoys doing so. I would not undermine him by paying rent. Maybe look for ways to save him money finding deals at the grocery store, energy efficiency habits at home. Show that you are money conscious and he is not just paycheck. Before splurging on super expensive gifts for him, I would ask him if there is anything he feels he needs help with. Still get him the gift but maybe “trim the edges of the gift idea” so you can do both. “ I had a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/24 12:11 AM |
| 4 | What to do with unwanted male friend attentionI echo many of the feelings here. Would like to add, I do think it is possible for mature adults of opposite genders to be friends. However you both have crossed that platonic friendship line, So…. This is a disclosure worthy conversation to have with fiancee. Create a strong marriage based on trust let fiancee know about him early. If he is smart, I'm sure he has his suspicions. If you have not already done so, tell fiance immediately. Out of respect to your fiance, I would err on the side of c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/24 11:49 PM |
| 1 | Can I (24F) get some honest feedback on how to vet better?Honestly. It may be a cliche’ but first date yourself for a solid year. Actually marry yourself. There has been very little alone time for you at your age. I say this because none of your previous relationships had marriage ending problems. You just did not like them. For very understandable reasons you felt like none were worth the effort to make it work. There are many relationships that marry and make it work under each of your scenarios. So The real question is what type of man will be worth… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/24 01:40 AM |
| 4 | How to Spend My Time and Maximize My Marriage?Ideas gleaned from my parents 40+ year amazing committed marriage. Congratulations on your free time. 1) A scrapbook of your courtship and separate time just prior to your marriage to give to descendants. They are memories and questions children forget to ask until they reach that exact point. 2) Brainstorm a unique project that combines two of your childhood hobbies, bring life to it as an idea or project. (eg one enjoyed hopscotch and the other climbing trees- maybe craft together a hopscotch … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/24 12:11 AM |
| 2 | Is this worth the potential argumentNot worth arguing. You are at a decision point. The man you have is the man you have. Will you stay? You are intelligent. He is intelligent for committing himself to you. He is avoiding the argument because He knew you would be a tough one to “keep” . He saw this day coming. His family and friends told him it would come. I don't like the term “out of ones league” because everyone can move leagues with effort. Examine what you are asking of him. He maybe a good man, know that very good men get st… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/24 05:21 PM |
| -2 | how to break up respectfully after changing your mind about certain things about your relationship which makes you now incompatible?Say “ Our time together has been wonderful. I care for you and always will. I have really enjoyed X, Y and Z about our relationship ( or being with you). However I have discovered I need 1, 2 and 3 out of life. We are not compatible for those reasons. Today, I will begin dating again to find a more compatible partner. I put a profile up on Example dating site if you want to view it and provide feedback. You are free to contact me ( with limits) while I'm dating but once I become exclusive with s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/07/24 03:06 PM |
| 2 | totally different timelines on marriage and it's only bothering me now, how can I proceed?Your fairy godmother has floated down and tapped you with a wand and made you instantly married this very second. Whoosh! Big ring! A wedding album of fantastical perfect pictures of you in your dream gown surrounded by smiling approving family, friends and bridesmaids. Your dream has come true and you are married. Now you gaze into your husbands eyes and realize, he is the same man. He looks the same, speaks the same and ( possibly to your horror ) thinks the same. But now you are married and c… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/07/24 03:27 PM |
| -2 | I think that we need to define what a high value man is.What a wonderful topic: The only criticism I have is the use of the generalized term “man” and what this implies. High value father/ parent and High value husband/ life partner are two very different things. May I suggest two different posts for each. This overlap is the source of drama for women in partner selection. I'm sorry ladies but The sweet, attractive and generous date may become an awesome husband. But then we turn and say now also be a great father. Yes it is possible. But looking at … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/24 11:25 PM |
| 2 | Buying expensive gifts for your significant otherI understand this dilemma. I enjoy not only being spoiled but spoiling my men. No matter the socioeconomic status gift giving can be complicated. Emotions can make women do all sorts of crazy things. In every relationship it is good to set boundaries. You are smart to recognize this. You allude to several potential problems. These are some personal rules I use that may help: 1) Give gifts that the other will enjoy.. Not just that you enjoy giving. 2) If the gift feels too over the top. It likely… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/06/24 02:46 AM |
| 1 | Meeting my man’s sexual needs and my own emotional needsI really enjoyed this question. A few tips. 1) First know what turns you on. This is your pot to do the cooking. Not what turns you on about him. Make a mental note of all the times you have had extraordinary sex, with or without him. Find the common denominator. Words? Mood setting? Romantic acts? Try to remove drugs, alcohol from that equation. 2) Take all the foolish things he has said and done ( temporarily ) out of your mental equation. This is hard to do in a long-term marriage /partnershi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/05/24 01:10 PM |
| 14 | 2 proposals. 2 rings.What lucky and exciting times for you! There is not enough information here for me to decide. However, it is not my decision. It seems you are concentrating a lot on the short-term, almost surface issues that can arise in a marriage I have a few questions for you to answer that honestly may help. These are questions I would give my daughter. 1) What does a good marriage look like to you? Which of these gentlemen was most closely raised in that background? When you visit their parent's/guardians'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/24 01:01 PM |
| 4 | I need advice on how to deal with minor issues in a feminine wayOverall men speak differently. He is talking to you, if you want to be married to this man first learn his new language. I will guess he is stressed. He is telling you that. He is stressed about work, not happy with the job. He feels like he may be fired/laid off. Approach him by not talking. Just being there. Cuddling while watching the game. Bring him a beer. Don't say or ask anything. Cheer on his team. Don't force sex but wear the Jersey with no underwear. If he doesn't bite. Don't take offe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/24 12:55 PM |
| 1 | I started dating him casually, now I changed my mind after getting to know him, is it worth a conversation or should I end it?I wanted to provide support for a different viewpoint but your original suggestion. This is something I would end. I would be simple, a lady but direct. “ Things have been awesome between us lately. Let us end it now. I know it sounds crazy. But being with you has made me reconsider my goals for a relationship. Our timelines aren't matching up. Let's end on a good note. We both look for partners that fit what we currently want out of life. “ No pressure. No nag. No threats. I would follow throug… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/24 10:58 AM |
| 7 | RantI would try not to get too bothered by it. I feel most of these women had poor concept of what marriage truly means. They may paint a tinted picture of what is true in the relationship - I have come to learn that women are very good at lies of omission.- so they use a silly, publicly acceptable reason to leave when they have a darker reason. Some women are just not the marrying type. Like men, their head is on a swivel and they will always look for the next branch to swing up to. When they compl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/24 07:03 PM |
| 2 | the pornographic content he consumes is concerning me, am I overthinking this?I do not want a reputation as the porn defense queen but its such a fun topic and oddly I am not horny at all In brief: No. I think overthinking is perfectly normal for a committed partner in any relationship. Just try not to overreact. We all love our children . Suffocating them in bubble wrap is going a tad far. These questions you have about him are best answered by him. We can only speculate what he is thinking. If you feel safe and are in a loving relationship, you should just ask him. My a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/24 01:56 PM |
| 3 | I’m uncomfortable about my fiancé studying with a female coworker friend, seeking adviceHmm. Difficult. You use some very interesting terms. Attractive, cultural, medical and fiancee. Assuming this partner indeed is long-term marriage material and going into the medical field. I would do three things. 1) Explore why I am insecure with this woman. In the medical field there will always be a cute nurse, doctor, secretary, patient, colleague around the corner. They are like wack-a-moles. Invest in your self so you feel less threatened. Meditate. Immerse yourself in his culture, workou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/24 04:57 PM |
| 1 | Do you have any conditions set for porn usage?What a wonderful thread! I can see both sides of this. In my previous marriage we watched very little porn if any. It was not a rule, it just was not his thing. However he also the faithful type. He did not have wandering eyes. In the dating world, I use porn as backup tool to explore “interests” or fantasies my partner may have but has difficulty expressing. It can help weed out potential intimacy red flags early. It encourages honest and open communication. Personally, my future husband must b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/24 01:15 PM |
| 1 | Why do husbands have to beg their wife to have sex with them?I have to agree—divorced and dating. Many excellent, attractive men will say or do something that will make me reach for the lube. Women are mental; sex is more in their heads. Men are visual; you just dangle eye candy ( watch porn, provocative dressing ) and they are ready to go. You can look like Thor walking out of the pool or Tyson on a motorcycle, but if you did not pick up the baby diapers from the store after I asked three times to do so… it will be a quiet night. I feel bad for men. We h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/24 11:07 AM |
| 1 | How to stay married?Hello Adorable! What a mature question to ask! I commend you. Most women spend so much time trying to secure marriage ( get the ring) they fall ignorant on the maintenance. My heart goes out to you because although i am happily divorced ( my choice). i do relate to your dilemma. Some quick tips. 1) Marriage is a choice! Both of you must choose it every day. Try to get hubby to commit to safe space where there will be no in law or kid interruptions. Ie In-laws can never chime in on what our child… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/24 03:08 PM |
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