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IndependentKirk/r/askMRP29/09/17 11:14 AM
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Fuck that man, I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone that pulls that kind of crap. I've divorced once before and since I was a beta pussy I left with not a single scrap of self-respect. Don't let it happen to you. Leave on your terms.
/r/askMRP15/10/18 11:57 PM
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As someone who lives and works around military folks, I would say do everything possible to stick it out for the 7 years. 43 is still very young and with that kind of safety net you have an amazing set of possibilities for the second half of your career and life. I know several folks that are retired military that went into consulting/contracting and then retired from that. They are in a very good place financially. Can you just punch the clock, serve your time, and devote your heart to things y…
/r/askMRP04/10/18 06:42 PM
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Becoming a Barbarian by Jack Donovan Deliverance by James Dickey (I know, it's fiction. Just trust me)
/r/askMRP12/06/18 01:47 AM
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Ouch, as someone who has been cheated on before this was a kick in the gut. Either he has cheated before or she has, or been with someone who has. Good observation.
/r/askMRP29/01/18 09:55 PM
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It’s been a little over a month since I’ve posted. I strained my rotator cuff which has put a hamper on my progress in the gym. It seems to be getting a little better, and I was able to do some light BP this week. Otherwise I’ve been focusing on Squats (345 working set) and DL (405 working set). Made it through the holidays with no serious damage. Sitting at 190 lbs and 12.5% body fat at 6’0. I’ve read The Way of Men, Becoming a Barbarian, and Extreme Ownership already this year. All 3 were fant…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 12:24 PM
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You'll make better progress at a commercial gym with other strong men around you. You'll be held accountable by their presence. You will add an extra 10 lbs where at home you wouldn't. You'll learn how to work out with other men. You will learn gym etiquette. You will see how ridiculous some people's gym routine is. You will see people come to the gym for months and years and make no progress and you'll learn from their bad example.
/r/askMRP08/01/18 06:01 PM
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A woman 3 months pregnant versus 12 weeks post-birth can be WORLDS apart in their mentality. Her entire support system has been removed and now she is stuck at home with a new baby every day. Does she have any friends? Do you attend a church? Does she have any social structure or support system at all? If not, then it can be incredibly daunting especially if the baby is anything but the perfect angel. Difficulty with breast feeding, sleep deprivation, feeling trapped, postpartum depression. All …
/r/askMRP29/12/17 02:29 PM
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The past few times that I've lost my cool have been when I'm keeping the kids and she's getting some hours in at night at her part time job. So I'll come home after work and we do an immediate handoff of the kids after a basic check. When did they eat? Did they nap? That kind of stuff. Then she leaves and I realize the house is a freaking disaster. And the kids are running wild. So I can spend my time interacting and playing with the kids (what I would like to do) or clean up the mess (what need…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/17 10:06 PM
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It's been awhile since I posted, and I've accumulated some shit I need to own. I'm 40 years old, 6'0, 190 lbs. Approximately 13% BF. Working to get my lifts back to where they were awhile back. Currently Bench 210x5, Squat 315x5, DL 365x5. Married for 6 years (second marriage). 2 young children. Read: NMMNG, MMSLP, The Rational Male, Saving a Low Sex Marriage, Alpha Moves, WISNIFG (75%), The Rational Male Pt. 2 (15%). The last month has been stressful for us and with the Winter season coming up,…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 12:38 PM
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It seems like it would be a bore to read, but it really works well as an audio book, in my opinion. Lots of the book are portions of dialog during various assertiveness training or reported real-life situations. Because of that, it's a natural fit for an audio book in my opinion.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/17 01:03 AM
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This is a bit late for the week, but to keep myself honest, here goes. Anger has been a bit better this week. I have incorporated some more focused self-reflection and journaling in the mornings (consistently) and some prayer and meditation in the evenings (inconsistently). I find it incredibly easy to keep myself in Type A mode all the time, even at home, where I'm just super task-oriented. What happens is that family gets in the way of accomplishing tasks and I get frustrated. But it's not a b…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 11:20 PM
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Love is something you do. It's the sum total of your actions. Loving someone involves self-sacrifice, generally. Saying "I love you" is pretty meaningless. It's nice to hear my wife say she loves me but it's much better when she shows me that. If someone just craves hearing "I love you", that sounds like validation seeking behavior to me or insecurity. If someone says "I love you" but doesn't act like it, then they don't love you.
/r/askMRP22/11/17 05:30 PM
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Buy a 300lb set to start with. It will be fine for quite a while. You can then buy additional 45lb plates as you need them. Get a power rack so you can use pins for bench and squat, so you can go heavy without being scared you're going to die. NY Barbell has a cheap power rack that works.
/r/askMRP22/11/17 02:27 AM
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I have dropped 40 points off my cholesterol in the past year or so. Have you tried upping your fiber via Metamucil? I take a Tablespoon in the morning in a spinach+blueberry+chocolate whey shake and a Tablespoon in the evening in a shake. I think it has helped a lot.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/17 04:49 AM
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Your best bet is to post your form if you can. Your squat and DL problems could be any number of things. What are you basing your form on? Edit to say there are probably better places than MRP to post your form.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/17 12:48 AM
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Not much going on this week. Stumped by my lack of vision. I've been dealing with a short temper and I'm not sure why. I know I need to start meditating as it will help with this anxiety or whatever it is but I just haven't found a way to carve out 30 minutes and claim them every day. Getting beat up at work as I learn the ropes in a new organization and role so that's been stressful. Main thing this week is my mind is getting blown by listening to WISNIFG. These techniques seem so simple - why …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/17 06:20 PM
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shit tests are an alpha filtering behaviour, appealing to alpha behaviours. Comfort tests are comfort filtering behaviour, appealing to beta behaviours That is so succinct. Perfect, thank you.
/r/askMRP14/11/17 05:01 PM
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The narration for The Rational Male is pretty bad, and since it's just someone reading blog posts, it doesn't really work due to the casual writing style. I am listening to WISNIFG during commute time right now and it's pretty good.
/r/askMRP14/11/17 12:25 PM
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Good observation. No I don't and I'm not sure exactly how to develop one. Edit: Duh - search bar. There are some good threads I will read. Thanks for the help.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/17 03:57 PM
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Overview This week has been generally good. Another off-nominal sexual encounter with my wife has encouraged me that I'm moving in the right direction. She was watching some TV show she always watches in the evening and I just went to bed. She came in much later - I had been asleep over an hour and a half at that point - and I tried to initiate and got a soft No. I recognized it as a soft No and playfully pursued and she ended up really getting into it - verbalizing what she wanted and just real…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/17 11:39 AM
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"I will do ____ for you, so that you will do ______ for me. We will both act as if we don't know about this contract." For me, identifying my covert contracts is easier to do on the back end of the contract. When I don't get what I want, I get frustrated or upset. When I find myself getting frustrated or upset, I have been using this as a trigger to assess why I am feeling this way. Usually I can figure it out from there.
/r/askMRP05/11/17 01:22 AM
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Get up earlier. I get up at 4am every day. My morning time is sacred. I can go to the gym, cook a healthy breakfast, and depending on how much prep I've done the night before, spend some quiet time by myself reading or whatever I want to do before going to work. Sleeping until 7 seems ridiculous to me.
/r/askMRP04/11/17 11:03 PM
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I am divorced and went through the whole "Is she cheating? Is she not" (she was) thing that you have been going through. Luckily I had no children with her so it was a clean cut. You have thrown an awkward poorly timed grenade into the relationship. You can at least hang your hat on that simple act of will and take the last remaining shred of dignity that it will give you and begin to build a new life. For myself, I held onto my principles that divorce was wrong, I made a commitment, and we coul…
/r/askMRP03/11/17 04:16 PM
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You are supposed to have an expectation of behavior, but you have no entitlement to feelings. This is great
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/17 03:46 PM
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Hmmm. I'll not guess as to the answer then. But there is an acceptable way of participating and a boneheaded way of participating, in my opinion.
/r/askMRP01/11/17 09:03 PM
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I don't understand your question. I am a recent convert. When I first found this place it blew my mind and so I made a single post to askmrp. But after that, I realized there isn't much to say. I mean, I have a lot of work to do, but that can be done in the OYS thread over at mrp. Besides that, there is a search function and the sidebar and just so many resources that there isn't much need to do anything but lurk. This is just good behavior in any sort of online community with an accepted and ag…
/r/askMRP01/11/17 08:56 PM
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I'll check it out. I've seen some of his stuff before and listened to some of his podcasts. I definitely have an affinity for productivity and lifehacks, but sometimes his delivery is a little off-putting. I'm sure I can find a reasonable used copy on Amazon.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 02:55 PM
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Thanks. I see that would be validation seeking behavior, which I am prone to.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 02:52 PM
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Just saw this. I've tightened up OPSEC so I don't read or post much at home and at work I'm almost 100% busy. It's a process. I often only recognize shit tests in retrospect. Frame comes and goes too. I'm in the process of internalizing all this stuff - adjusting my internal thoughts. I posted my MAP draft in today's OYS. Not sure how to link via mobile.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 06:58 PM
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Okay, started reading /u/BluePillProfessor book and writing up my MAP. I'm going to structure it based on the 5 categories he outlined, plus one more for my work. Small FR: Our anniversary was this past week and armed with my new found knowledge, I changed approaches this year. I planned everything with no input from wife. Activities, child care, restaurant, hotel, everything. More than anything else, she commented how great it was to not have to do anything or plan anything. I think she liked t…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 06:49 PM
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Thanks. We were hugging and all that in the shower, washing each other and what not, so it wasn't as crass as my first post indicated. But thanks for the advice. Will look into comfort tests and work on identifying them as well as shit tests.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 12:46 PM
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Read NMMNG, TRM, and still reading MMSLP. Work is going well, workouts are going well, and doing what needs to be done around the house. Wife initiated this weekend. This is incredibly rare. Hard to say whether this was just a random occurrence or a result of the changes I have been making. I know that I should not think I've accomplished anything special, but this felt really good. Before, I would have tried to make a big production out of it to make sure I got her off first and blah blah blah,…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 11:34 AM
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I'm dialing it in. I haven't done the hard work of figuring out the macros I need and what I am eating, but I've already lost that first 4-5 pounds of water weight from getting things in order. Tanita scale consistently says between 13.5-14.5% so I have a good baseline to measure from. Need to do that hard work and get things even more on track, thanks for the reminder. Found Anthony Ellis' program and book through Book of Pool, looks good I may give that a go over the next 12 weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/17 09:34 PM
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Finished NMMNG, TRM; halfway through MMSLP. Took back my place at the head of the table where our kid was sitting. Took control of the family calendar. Got my stupid phone out of the bedroom and out of my hands when I'm home. Kicking the stupid dopamine habit that checking all those stupid apps gives me. Reducing text communications with wife to logistics and sexual comments / banter. Ratio is 2:1 her/me when I check. Will reduce this total number over the next weeks so I can concentrate on work…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/17 08:49 PM
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Thanks, I'll have to think about that. I guess I don't even know what my real problems are, or can't verbalize them.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/17 12:38 AM
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I have no idea how to format this. I'm not a Reddit pro and I'm a new MRP convert. Things I have historically done well Successful career; Established weightlifting routine; Mostly disciplined nutrition; No substance abuse or pornography usage problems; Well-read; Good conversationalist, not socially retarded Things I have historically done poorly Poor decision-maker Procrastination Problems setting boundaries People-pleaser Over commit myself Incredibly high standards on myself Things I am doin…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/17 07:07 PM
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Let's try to do it justice and keep your trivial day-to-day dear diary bullshit to yourself. I'm partially guilty of this, but after my one post I at least am self-aware enough to realize that there's not much else to say for the foreseeable future. Can the mods just delete ridiculous posts immediately?
/r/askMRP06/10/17 12:52 PM
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Secondly: your wife will never thank you for making the money while she is a stay at home mom. For one, she intuitively thinks you're SUPPOSED to support the family; you will only be punished for NOT fulfilling that role, never thanked for fulfilling it. I never really thought about that. That's a good point. I imagine that holds for all of the roles and responsibilities a woman expects a man to fulfill.
/r/askMRP02/10/17 03:48 PM
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Well crap, it's probably closer to 16-17%. Ugh. Definitely getting this under control. Tanita says 15, Navy method says 17.
/r/askMRP30/09/17 02:03 AM
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It's been a long while since I've bothered measuring. I have just used the "how do my clothes fit" scale. I will get the calipers out and measure this weekend. If I had to guess, I'm at 15%. Legit question though. I think body fat is kind of an exponential scale where the difference visibly between say 15% and 10% can be quite eye-catching.
/r/askMRP29/09/17 08:13 PM
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Thanks for the reply. Of course since I'm such a Nice Guy all my personal time / personal activities happen before everyone else gets up. I generally am up at 4AM for lifting or just a quiet relaxed morning. With 2 kids under 3, it's about the only quiet time in the house until they're down for bed around 8:30.
/r/askMRP29/09/17 03:39 PM
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Just getting started. Read, Listen, Learn, Apply, Evaluate. I'm going to OMS.
/r/askMRP29/09/17 03:29 PM
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I think it's equal parts of what you describe above but also being successful just to spite people who I have perceived as wronging me for whatever reason in the past. Like I said, the NMMNG has me pinned though. Pretty crazy to see everything just laid out there like that page after page.
/r/askMRP29/09/17 02:01 PM
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Fair point.
/r/askMRP29/09/17 01:31 PM
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Complaining, apologizing, covert contracts, it's all terrible. This is where I need the most improvement I think. I've been screwed since day 1 all the way back to growing up I'm starting to recognize. Just terrible. I've led a few misguided conversations about sex and the relationship before that netted a change for about a week. I'm just starting to see why that was and why it was not the right approach. I cede entirely too much responsibility for what happens in my life and our life to her. T…
/r/askMRP29/09/17 01:17 PM
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Yes I can say that. As you know, strength varies over time, and I can't tell you what my maxes are right now. I'm sure my DL is in the 400s (500 max at one point), Squat is probably mid-high 300s (435 max at one point) and bench is probably mid 200s (275 max at one point). I'm 6'1 and weighed 193 this morning.
/r/askMRP29/09/17 12:55 PM
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I'll search for it thanks. No this definitely can't be mentioned to her, I can see that would be stupid.
/r/askMRP29/09/17 11:55 AM
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Lack of sex for sure; I'm on the monthly plan. Lack of respect. And just mad that nobody has told me any of this before.
/r/askMRP29/09/17 11:54 AM
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