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ADVICEIndependent_Mami/r/RedPillWomen02/04/22 10:38 AM
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I’m surprised no one’s picked up on this, but from what it sounds I feel like your current long term relationship is making you feel worse. I read a thread elsewhere about a woman who wasted her prime years in a relationship with a flaky guy who left her in the end - she’s now in her 30s, desperately looking for love, settling and considering IVF because she has fertility issues. The years when she should have been working on herself and looking to find genuine and reciprocal love, she wasted th…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/22 10:01 AM
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I was with someone like this - he complied with everything I said and on the outside it seemed good, when I described him to people. In reality, it was me who was indirectly guiding him towards what he should be doing, instead of him doing it out of pure leadership. The subtlety is crazy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 05:51 PM
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I’m also an Arab-Muslim living in Europe (U.K.). I made a post about where to find HVM from my culture on another subreddit (you can see it on my profile). Majority of responses either said through friend/family recommendations or otherwise moving to the country where you’re from, which makes it easier to come across a HVM if you’re looking for someone from the same culture as you
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/22 09:50 PM
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I can understand if he worries about the mother becoming overbearing on him too and affecting his relationship, but it’s quite narrow-minded to judge a girl just based on her parents. I don’t want to generalise this guy’s mentality as he seems quite ignorant.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/22 06:15 PM
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Thank you for your comment, which is incredibly insightful and profound. I agree with you about the fact that men aren’t going to vet me based on my achievements. My mention of achievements was to show how I made something of myself despite my family situation. I wholeheartedly believe that working on my femininity, my ‘joie de vivre’ and aura is what is going to attract a HVM, and it’s safe to say that I’ve had many people say they appreciate my presence and mentality. I don’t like to bring up …
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/22 02:50 PM
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In response to your questions: I was getting to know someone seriously for the sake of marriage over the course of a few months (long distance relationship, he came to see me twice). I’m quite limited with dating experience because I’m Muslim and it’s not something we really do. I’ve also not really spoken to any guys about this in person. I’ve never been paranoid about this as I’m quite self-assured, but now that I’ve realised this can be a cause for concern for some men, it’s just something I …
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/22 12:29 PM
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I also have the same profile as OP - never been in a physical/sexual relationship, virgin, avoid social media (and if I do use it I literally just have 15 female friends following me), First-Class graduate from a top university, refuse to use OLD. I also expect the same from my husband and refuse to be with a guy who’s had his fun in the past, as that’s a turn off for me. A man who couldn’t have any self-control of his desires is not a man I want to be with.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 07:30 AM
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I agree with you. I also used to look down on arranged marriages, but I’ve actually come to realise that they’re a much more effective way of meeting someone. The vast majority of posts I’ve seen here also say that the way most women met their husbands was through mutual family and friends (which in a sense is what arranged marriage is (your family/entourage setting you up with something). I think the stigma comes from it being mixed up with forced marriage, where people assume it was arranged f…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 06:58 AM
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I can relate sis. I’m a 23 year old graduate who’s moved to the City to start a career - well-travelled, lived abroad, well-educated, well-dressed, well-spoken… but I can’t seem to find anyone who is on the same level as me or above (a high value man). I’ve tried putting myself out there but I still can’t seem to find someone who matches my criteria. It’s even more difficult for me because I want to marry someone from the same cultural background as me (it’s a personal choice, please don’t sugge…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 10:20 AM
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As they say, ignorance is bliss. Avoid the news unless it’s got news of something that concerns you directly. The news only sensationalises what’s going on, and only focuses on what’s going to make headlines - it’s not going to talk about nice things. During the whole pandemic I didn’t listen or watch the news (only read information that concerned me directly like what restrictions were in place), because there was no point in subjecting myself to negative information that didn’t impact me direc…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/22 11:08 AM
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I was in a situation where he wanted to propose to me and needed my mum’s blessings (this is how my culture works) however my mum didn’t really like him nor did she want to meet him. I asked him what we could do to get her on board and he just said “idk it’s your family”… I found that really strange because if I was in his shoes I would have offered solutions (e.g. call my mum) and I would have taken charge as the man. He also said he doesn’t want to force himself to be accepted into a family th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 12:13 PM
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There's no harm in getting to know someone and asking them all the questions you need (in the presence of your mahram)
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/22 08:48 AM
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