Indianhillbilly786 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	The depression is so bad I’m struggling to survive. Wow…exact same thing happened to me.	/r/Divorce_Men	03/09/21 05:31 AM
2	I beat her in court Thanks for posting this. My ex called the cops on me for outing her affair. It took me out at the knees for a few days. The officer was really cool though and said it wasn’t a police issue at all. Still, when I see her at the gym or out and about - we live 5 minutes apart, unfortunately - I feel like I have to walk on eggshells…I like the notion of abusive use of conflict. I’ll have to remember that…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/06/21 11:28 PM
1	Looking for male perspective It sounds like a very toxic situation for you and your children and your husband sounds like a mental midget.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/10/20 08:20 AM
2	Divorce, Depression, Suicide, Trying To Move On Tried medication, working out, reading, meditation, new/old hobbies, and pretty much everything else that it recommended. But nothing has really work. These are not magic bullets. You have to stay consistent, grind, and keep trudging forward. These are all like eating your vegetables. Not as fun as ice cream but over time, the results will begin to show. In particular, once you stop any of these, you're likely to notice a sizable absence in your life. Stay strong.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/08/20 04:49 PM
2	My (27m) wife and I have finalized the divorce. What helped you get through post divorce depression? Perhaps a good time to explore your internal world through literature, philosophy, and religion. Man’s Search For Meaning, The World’s Religions (Huston Smith), Brothers Karamazov, East of Eden, The Varieties of Religious Experience, are a few of my suggestions.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/06/20 06:41 AM
1	Forgetting and Letting Go of HER expectations You might want to check out r/NarcissisticAbuse. It might resonate with what you and your kids are experiencing with her, perhaps your kids, especially.	/r/Divorce_Men	10/06/20 04:43 AM
6	Looking for a novel.. The Idiot by Dostoevsky and The Sun Also Rises by Hemingway come to mind. Not spot on but quite close. Maybe Of Human Bondage as well? These are heavy and dark reads though. My suggestion? Man's Search For Meaning or something by the Stoics :).	/r/Divorce_Men	19/04/20 03:36 AM
2	New to dating\flirting... So how do I do this again?? I'm with you. Before my relationship I was an incorrigible flirt and now, slowly but surely, I'm becoming one again. It's a lot of fun. You can't take it seriously though nor can you get caught up in any real or imagined negative reactions from gals. Also, expectations will crush you. Let them go. Have a chat, smile, wink, whatever. Ask if they want to hang? No? No problem. Yes? Great. Think of it as a game not a chore. Also, now more than ever, it's way easier to walk up to women. It seems like…	/r/Divorce_Men	15/04/20 04:55 AM
3	I have it all yet I have nothing. Wtf is wrong with me? I know intimately what you're feeling. I don't know the nature of your split but mine involved quite a labyrinth I had to finally escape from. Still, I find myself at odd hours wishing it all never happened, that she was still by my side at night and in those mornings filled with so much laughter. In my case, euphoric recall really helps me deal with such feelings. Check out this vid. It may not be perfectly applicable to you but may be of some help: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=06QEn0oTkMQ O…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/04/20 05:45 AM
3	Blegh, everything sucks I read half your story and knew she was having an affair. Same here. I was like, "Oh, this sounds like she found someone else and is completely at the mercy of novelty and dopamine." u/cranapple247, real sorry about your situation. A lot of us have been through something similar over at r/survivinginfidelity. Here are some sources you might find of use and comfort: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SfyOydGpUJo https://dadstartingover.com/seven-signs-wife-is-cheating/ https://www.chumplady.com/	/r/Divorce_Men	10/03/20 03:30 AM
1	Sure your wife cheated... just know her poor decisions weren’t because of you.... it never was because of you As someone very eloquently wrote on r/survivinginfidelity some time ago: The reality is, infidelity is rarely the product of unmet needs. Instead, it is a product of desire, opportunity and situation, lack of commitment, low self-esteem, and the excitement of novelty...	/r/Divorce_Men	22/02/20 08:05 PM
3	Sitting in a parking lot wondering wtf happened to the man I used to be These might help: https://www.chumplady.com/ Also, come on over! haha: r/survivinginfidelity EDIT: also, you stating that “you can’t stop setting yourself on fire to keep others warm’ is a textbook definition of codependency or pretty damn close. Get thee to a therapist, friend. My ass goes to one - something I’d never thought I’d ever have to do 5 months ago...	/r/Divorce_Men	28/01/20 09:48 PM
3	How children make it different This piece gave me a lot of insight. I hope it helps. Godspeed, friend: https://dadstartingover.com/seven-signs-wife-is-cheating/	/r/Divorce_Men	20/01/20 08:26 AM