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| 1 | Is intelligent conversation generally a turnoff?Yeah sometimes you just gotta read the room and be willing to tone it down a little bit if necessary. I think that dark/cynical humor works best around other dudes. Plus you’ve probably got a bunch of guy friends and you all give each other shit about this and that cause that’s what guys do, but if some dude you barely knew was ripping on you for your interest in whatever, it’d probably come off as less benign and funny and instead just plain insulting. | /r/seduction | 19/09/22 09:50 PM |
| 1 | Feeling absolutely pathetic for thinking about a girl all the time that I only met onceYeah I hear you. It probably would come off as pretty petty. But on the other hand, if you do bump into each other later on and you’re able to come off as someone without any hard feelings about anything then I don’t see any reason why it necessarily has to be uncomfortable. In that situation, I think I’d just make it a point to have have some kind of brief exchange with her just to dissolve any awkwardness there might be, then lett her know we it’d be fun to catch up later on that night sometim… | /r/seduction | 19/09/22 02:14 PM |
| 4 | Feeling absolutely pathetic for thinking about a girl all the time that I only met onceYeah I mean most of have us been somewhere similar. It’s part of life and it’s not pathetic. If it was me I’d just remove her from social media, delete her number, etc. Out of sight, out of mind. | /r/seduction | 19/09/22 01:23 PM |
| 1 | Is intelligent conversation generally a turnoff?No. I mean if you come off as very in your head, getting all logical and shit too often, she may start to blur out. Unless she’s similar. At first your best best to show off your intelligence is just with your humor. When she’s poking around for more depth she’ll usually just ask you questions that give you a chance to express it. Being enthusiastic and playful is going to make you way more compelling to people generally, but women especially. | /r/seduction | 19/09/22 01:14 PM |
| 1 | Unpopular opinion: most men are totally okay with waiting to have sex. We just feel immense amount of pressure to make moves on dates because we don't want to be friendzoned.I think for me it’s more like I’ve been afraid of not being perceived as masculine enough if I’m not forward enough. I’m large with a very masculine appearance but my persona is definitely more on the goofy side. Sometimes it feels a little bit like of a mismatch. I’ve become more secure about that as I’ve gotten older but I still don’t drive things in a sexual direction with too much eagerness (usually) and I think that’s part of my appeal for a lot of the women I’ve seen. | /r/seduction | 19/09/22 12:42 PM |
| 0 | Every time I message or DM a girl I never met in person she eventually loses interest and starts leaving me on read/being dryWorks for me though 😏 That question is my go-to but often times I’ll ask something else inspired by their profile. Short, generic, and forward like that will get me a good amount of numbers relatively quickly, which is perfect since I’d much rather be able to hear someone’s voice and feel them out from there. | /r/seduction | 18/09/22 10:22 AM |
| 2 | Every time I message or DM a girl I never met in person she eventually loses interest and starts leaving me on read/being dryYou should try to find someone to help you take some good pics. Maybe a pro, or maybe some girl. Get at least one good one that does do you justice. Your situation sounds pretty similar to mine, I find if I become too chatty in DMs or texts most women become pretty unresponsive. However, in person I can be that same person and everything I say just lands way better 🤷🏻♂️ So I’m very to the point most of the time when I hit someone up online. I have a script that works fine to get people on a cal… | /r/seduction | 17/09/22 11:42 PM |
| 3 | What’s the missing ingredient that holds a lot of guys back from really connecting with women?Social skills | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 10:31 PM |
| 1 | How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior?Yeah I don’t get the impression I’m bothering anyone most of the time. Like I said before, I prefer to approach someone who’ve I’ve noticed already looking at me, but even when I don’t do it that way I rarely get a negative response. I just use common sense. I’m pretty non-threatening with how I go about it and can easily just ask about some product she’s looking at, for instance, and from get a quick read on if she’s potentially interested/curious. If not, no biggie and I can just go on with bu… | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 10:22 PM |
| 1 | How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior?I mean if it doesn’t work for you, then that’s fine if it’s not for you. Maybe there is something you could fix, but if the other ways of meeting women you mentioned are working for you then I wouldn’t waste energy trying to figure it out either. Claiming it’s for desperate people though, or a waste of time, is objectively wrong. Because there is plenty of proof out there. It may not be common, and you may not be able to pull it off yourself, but for those who can pull it off, it’s fun and excit… | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 09:23 PM |
| 1 | How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior?Yeah well I’m no model by any means yet it works perfectly well for me. I don’t treat it like a numbers game either, just occasionally make conversation with random pretty women who look like someone I’d be able to vibe with. But I’m also in a the habit of just being social in friendly in my day to day live with all kinds of people, so it’s not like anything I do comes off as forced or unnatural. To me it just sounds like you lack meaningful experience in this area of life, and if that’s true, w… | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 08:55 PM |
| 1 | How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior?I’m seeing a woman (met on Tinder) who recently told me the last guy she dated hit her up while she was grocery shopping. I seriously doubt he was some kind of PUA guy either. You seriously don’t think people meet in this way? | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 08:33 PM |
| 1 | How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior?Those are great ways to meet women too. If you don’t think being able to cold approach is a powerful way to expand your options, then you probably just don’t have much/any positive experience with it. | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 08:23 PM |
| 2 | How is cold approaching NOT needy behavior?My thinking on this is that if doing a shit ton of cold approaches is what it takes you to get over your fear of talking to women, then it’s fine. I know what you’re saying though, it can come off as real cringey. Being able to hit up a woman that’s caught your eye though is a good skill to have, and if you can do that in a super market with someone who hasn’t even noticed you, you can probably do it anywhere lol. You’re wrong, if you’re an attractive guy you will get plenty of eye contact from … | /r/seduction | 15/09/22 07:56 PM |
| -2 | How do I escalate/start building tension after initially meeting a girl?Tell her you think her nose is cute. She probably says thanks and then you ask if you can kiss it. She says yes, kiss her mouth. If she says no, say how about your mouth? I donno man, you sound like you’re a little awkward so just embrace it and make it into a game. I did goofball shit like that back in the day and it always turned out fine. | /r/seduction | 07/09/22 11:58 PM |
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