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Exactly. How do people not understand this?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 11:48 AM
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do women get a crush on every available guy in their social circle? Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 04:24 AM
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Can't relate because I wouldn't care
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 11:25 AM
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I just googled singles events in Dallas and found several
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 11:21 AM
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I met my boyfriend at a karaoke party at the Royal Embassy of Thailand.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 11:14 AM
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The only people that disagree with you are the people that do this
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 11:04 AM
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The guy I lost my virginity to literally admitted to me that he lied to me. I never would've had sex with him if he had been completely honest with me. We had several conversations about my feelings and expectations and he did it anyway and didn't care. I have every right to feel used and manipulated because I was. I don't give a crap if you think it's childish. He is an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 11:00 AM
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Which of those men is a good partner that will treat me with respect and kindness? I'll take that one. And someone liking hookups doesn't negate them being that person.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 06:05 PM
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So he doesn’t feel desired when she’s giving him gifts? He doesn’t feel desired when she’s spending time with him? He doesn’t feel desired when she is spending time caring about his interest, even if those are not particularly her own interests? He doesn’t feel desired when she’s taking time out her day to get to know his loved ones and meet his family? Exactly. All of these things should matter way more than when you have sex for the first time.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 05:59 PM
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It could also be possible that being attracted to someone isn't enough to want to go out with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 01:04 PM
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You said "the people complaining about white men being more desirable". That includes more than just recent immigrants.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 11:57 AM
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Go back to where? In the US for example, most people of color were born in the US and their families have been there for generations. Indigenous people and black descendants of slaves especially have no ties to any other place. The US is their country. And yet white people are still seen as the most desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 11:53 AM
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Wouldn't care. Don't want kids anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 12:29 PM
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You do realize that average people don't fit under every single category of this list right? Most people are below in some ways and above in others. That's what averages are.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 04:30 AM
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If you are able to afford to live in a large city by yourself, that fact alone shows that you have more money than the average person.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 05:02 AM
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it creates confusion in where it is acceptable to approach a woman for a romantic relationship. You just do whatever you're comfortable with and find women that are receptive to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 01:18 PM
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All of the time. Pretty much every time I'm in a public place with a man and I think we're having a good conversation and getting along. We always leave empty handed. Just a few weeks ago I went to a singles event and talked to this guy for two hours and he never asked for my number. Why didn't I ask him? Obviously fear of rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 12:39 PM
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Yep. Overweight people are just supposed to be okay with the trash we are given and not expect a man to be a decent person to us, even if he is even less attractive than we are and doesn't have a job.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 08:40 AM
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Go for women that don't care about those things. They exist. They might be fat/over 30/have children though.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 02:37 PM
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Can I ask you a personal question? I am vehemently against imposing religious beliefs on to children. But if a child chooses for themselves that they would like to learn more about a religion and attend services, I think that should be supported by the parents. Would you allow your children that freedom?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 02:06 PM
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The problem with apps are the people on them, not the apps themselves. Using an app doesn't mean you have to completely change the way you interact with people, but for some reason, most people can't seem to help it. Fix that and apps would be a great tool.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 10:35 AM
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I can't speak for everyone, but I have no standards that don't also apply to me. Heck, I'm fine with a man lower than me if he's a good guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 10:36 PM
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Go to the DC area. I've been to singles events with over 100 women and five men. Speed dating is usually more men though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 11:29 PM
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I agree with all of your bullet points.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 11:23 PM
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In my experience with these events, the main issue is the same one dating apps have, in that people have no interest in actually talking and getting to know people on a human level. Rarely do I ever see people that met at these events ever talk to each other again. People need to give things time. You're not going to meet the love of your life after five minutes of talking.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 11:22 PM
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My interest in men has nothing to do with their penises
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 01:59 PM
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This is a terrible comparison because a lot of people need cars. No one needs a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 02:17 PM
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Exactly. It is a myth.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 09:43 PM
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They do. Those same guys are just as crappy as the "attractive" guys and still have massive egos. The idea that "low value men" would treat women better is a myth.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 09:43 PM
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Did you forget that Monica and Chandler also exist and are probably the best example of a friends to lovers scenario in television history?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 09:36 PM
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which makes the friends first attempt just much of a "luck" or "numbers" game like approaching women you know nothing about and asking them to grab a coffee Um, yes? Who told you otherwise? All dating is luck and gamble. That is life. The reason this advice is given is because it is more likely to lead to a happy, successful relationship, not because it's guaranteed to net you one. How are so many people missing these incredibly obvious things?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 09:31 PM
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You know what. I agree with this. But only if you apply to same logic to everyone. Just like Joe should be able to attract women that are similar to himself, so should everyone. A woman that has a high paying job and lives alone and had no kids shouldn't be criticized if she doesn't want to date a single father with no job just because she is fat/ugly/old/enter low value trait here. Being with her equal (a man that is fat/ugly/old/etc that has a high paying job and no kids) should be the bare mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 01:27 AM
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Dating people without children is going to become increasingly more difficult the older you get. As for the rest, I have no children and don't ever intend on having any children of my own. I also like children and have no problem dating someone that has children so most of your negatives wouldn't really apply to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 01:12 AM
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I don't find Tom Brady attractive either
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 06:07 PM
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There is a layer to this that you are missing. The people that say this kind of stuff can't fathom the first scenario you described happening. These people are incapable of developing feelings for someone over time and must want to bang someone immediately upon meeting them and if they don't they will never like them. And they assume that everyone else is also like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 05:54 PM
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You think that these people don't know what you're talking about? Oh honey, I admire your faith. People know what body positivity is. They just want to credo on people for the sin of not being attractive to them and not being miserable because Reddit Rando#5 doesn't like how they look.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 05:50 PM
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I find it hilarious that you seem to think the first one doesn't happen to women and the second doesn't happen to men. It absolutely does and sucks for however the receiving party is regardless of gender. Source: non-man that has had men laugh at me for even the notion that I might like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 05:42 PM
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One of the biggest reasons I am single is because I want to date men my own age but only ever get interest from men significantly older or younger. Men in the 26-32 range are the worst when it comes to trying to date. I'm just going to wait until I'm in my 40s and 50s and they are all divorced.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 05:35 PM
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I have tried. No one has ever reciprocated my interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 12:42 PM
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Most of these were women in the same circles as me. The men just chose them over me for whatever reason. The others, I don't know how they met their partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 12:36 PM
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That's literally what polyamory is. You are just polyamorous. Find women that are also polyamorous instead of pursuing women interested in monogamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 12:16 PM
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Every woman I know that looks like me has been in relationships before and I haven't. I have not done anything differently from them and have taken their advice. Still nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 12:13 PM
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I will never say yes to a random man that asks me out before we've even had a conversation. I will only go out with men that I am already at least fairly acquainted with and have seen and talked to in person more than once. If that means being single for the rest of my life, so be it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 11:48 AM
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I don't know. I have no conception of what flirting is or what it looks like. I just talk to everyone the same, whether I have interest in them or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 11:34 AM
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I have literally had this happen to me several times in real life. Men and women are equally delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 11:18 AM
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"Women will stand in front of a guy she likes without talking to him or looking at him and call that showing interest." This is patently ridiculous. Most men are just terrible at discerning if a woman is flirting with them or not. Flirting is nothing but a guessing game for everyone. Everyone, men and women and other, have to just ask out someone and take the chance that they could be wrong. You don't know what the OC considers to be a sign of genuine interest because it's different for everyone…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:11 PM
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You can't give that as advice because it only works if it happens naturally. You can't force a friends to lovers relationship. Two people need to be genuinely interested in being friends, then develop feelings for each other at some point, then make a move and have that move reciprocated. People always say that they could never have any romantic feelings for their friends and if they become friends, that's all they'll ever be. I don't think I believe that. I think they just have never liked any …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:00 PM
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Interesting. I wouldn't even know if I would even want to go on a date in two weeks. I'd need at least a month of semi regular interaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 04:21 AM
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I don't understand how people are able to put others in a box that quickly. I wouldn't even know if I want be friends or more than friends until after we've hung out a few times already.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 04:18 AM
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Isn't that the exact opposite of what men say whenever women give men "hints"? That hits don't count? Why do hints suddenly count when men give them?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 04:10 AM
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What do you think making the first move is? Just talking to people? I do that all the time with men and women of all ages. Making conversation isn't making a move. And why do these discussions always center around hitting on strangers? Is knowing a woman longer than five minutes before trying to have sex with her that difficult for some of you?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 04:06 AM
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A date sometime in the future after exchanging contact information and talking more? Sure. A date directly after this interaction with no other communication? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 04:02 AM
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This all depends on how much you value friendship. I value friendship significantly higher than a romantic relationship and would never give up a good friend just because they don't want to date me, depending on their reason for why.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 04:10 AM
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Lying about anything to get sex is wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 08:30 PM
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No. I think dating is largely about luck. I do think the majority of incels and redpillers and the like are alone due to their own faults though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 08:16 PM
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I'm glad you're update said it so I didn't have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 01:45 PM
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Touching me without permission Ditching me mid conversation when you realize you won't get sex Asking me if I have a boyfriend as the first sentence that comes out of your mouth Inappropriate sounds or gestures Staring
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 01:26 PM
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I think you are misinterpreting people's advice. "Go talk to women" doesn't mean hit on random strangers in public. It means get to know women and learn their interests and whatnot like you would on an app.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 01:20 PM
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I don't want anything from a man that I can't also provide myself. I believe that I deserve a man with the same positive traits that I have. Since finding these traits in a man has been close to impossible, I'm going to say that they are high standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 01:16 PM
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I think there is a difference between reasonable and realistic. I think it's reasonable to want a partner that devotes their life to helping the sick and downtrodden. But it's unrealistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 03:41 AM
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I think anyone can break up with anyone they want for any reason, whether they are married or not or have kids or not because being single is better than being in a relationship that makes you unhappy. You're reason for the breakup might make you a shitty person, but it's still better than staying with said person. Breaking up is better than cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 10:20 AM
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I agree. By that same token, women that have jobs, don't have kids, and live by themselves should be able to date men in the same position.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 03:55 AM
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Because no one I meet in real life has ever asked me out or reciprocated my interest. What you described sounds ideal, but has never happened for me. So I tried widening my search by using apps, then promptly gave that up as well because it was just as bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 10:42 PM
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I have had this conversation with men before. I'm not "interested" in people that I don't know and have never met and never talked to. It doesn't matter what you look like. You have to approach me and just talk to me like a person and that could lead to interest or it could not, but there is no deeper motive in any of my interactions with anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 10:26 PM
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You must be ugly and have a bad personality if you couldn't get a single guy to like you until you were 25. See how that works?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 10:09 PM
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Are you asking how women use apps on an individual level? If so, with me, whenever I use apps, I don't consider how good someone looks in photos and will sorrow swipe right even if they look like a blobfish as long as their profile has no objectionable material. That is where all the problems come from. I swipe left if there is no information on their profile, no questions answered or no bio. If they did fill out their profile, I swipe left if they are ENM, a smoker, conservative or "moderate", …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/24 09:56 PM
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"I do think people are inherently deserving of decency and humanity" I say this all the time and people still seem to think that that's an unreasonable belief. Not wanting to date someone or be friends with someone does not mean you have to treat them like dirt and play with their feelings. But whenever I discuss any of these experiences in this site, I'm met with "no one owes you anything" and downvotes. People should receive basic human decency and being an inconsiderate asshole is not basic d…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 01:44 PM
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I don't think most Americans do this. Some do, but most people aren't interested in hooking up with people that early into their interactions. Personally, I would stop pursuing anyone else romantically the moment I realized I had feelings for someone and it was reciprocated, and this would be before anything physical occurred.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 01:16 PM
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When I was in high school, the only guy that ever asked me out was a guy that had already asked out several other girls before me. He was desperate and didn't avidly like me. Am I supposed to find that flattering?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 01:13 PM
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How is 5'4 140 lbs fat when it's literally within the normal weight range on the BMI, the document you all hold up as the gospel? So even a normal BMI isn't good enough anymore?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 11:51 AM
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A woman who is fat, but has no children, lives by herself, and has a job should be able to get a man who is fat, has no children, lives by himself, and has a job of equal pay. However, I know very few men with these qualities that are single. How is wanting a partner equal to yourself "too high"? It sounds like that's exactly what people should be looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 11:25 AM
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I want the male equivalent of myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 11:09 AM
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You also need to look into how many of those women want kids. If a woman is over a certain age and doesn't have children yet, there's a very strong chance it's because she doesn't want any and if you do, that lowers the number even further.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 10:53 AM
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I'm autistic and I tend not to get along with other autistic people for some reason. I don't know why. But I think you are being reductive. Every autistic person is different, as you should know. Why wouldn't you want to date someone that is like you? Do you think you're some kind of special autistic person and that there are no autistic men that are well-adjusted? Actually, that's probably exactly what you think. You should've added narcissism to your list of problems that an autistic person co…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 10:00 AM
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I was just at a women's happy hour last week and once if the women there said that she doesn't want a man that's "unaccomplished" (that was the word she used). I asked her what that means and she basically said a man that doesn't have at least a bachelor's. I pointed out to her that shouldn't it matter more what the bachelor's is in? She was a lawyer.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 09:48 AM
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I'd be completely fine with it because I believe in trust and don't believe in trying to control my partner or telling them who they can be friends with just as I wouldn't allow my partner to tell me who I could be friends with. There was a guy I was interested in a little over a month ago who had almost all female friends, all attractive. He was even roommates with a couple of them years ago. I had no problem with it. Granted, he turned out to be insane, so he probably isn't a good example.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 10:39 PM
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It's not a mystery. You've just described the exact problem. Someone that is similar to me in values wouldn't care about any of that stuff because I don't care if he had those qualities.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 09:49 PM
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I don't care what other women are interested in. All I know is my own experiences. None of those things have ever been a criteria for me. I just want someone that is similar to myself, and I'm talking similar in values and personality, and I have yet to meet anyone that fulfills that is single and also interested in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 08:11 PM
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I agree. The point I'm making is that that isn't guaranteed. Someone still has to like you back and that doesn't happen for everyone, men or women, and it's not just because they are reaching out of their league.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 06:30 PM
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I don't care what other people do. Personally, I want someone close to my age. I'm not interested in 22 year old men or 40 year old men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 04:41 PM
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What if you're 30, have only had sex once, and have only ever pursued men on your level or below but have still had no success? What more is a woman in that position supposed to do?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 10:11 AM
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I'm not sure. I do know that I've never met any lesbians that have spent their whole lives without a partner unless they were in closet.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 12:39 AM
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It would require a massive societal shift. The root cause is that people are terrible and treat people terribly. That needs to stop happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 12:32 AM
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To me, a good person is someone that is kind, would never maliciously hurt another person, treats people with respect, is not a bigot in any way, can own up to their mistakes, can be relied on by the people in their life, has empathy, sensitivity, and compassion, treats the people in their life like they are important, will go out their way to help others, but at the same time, doesn't allow people to walk all over them and can stand up for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 02:18 PM
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That's possible. But if so, I have no idea what it is. I have all of the same qualities that I consider good people to have. I'm not reaching for a standard. that I can't even achieve.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 02:12 PM
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The only guys I've ever been interested in have been friends, or at least acquaintances. Because I need to get to know people before determining interest. They are also the ones that reject me.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 01:39 PM
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There are some good people out there. The thing that makes people miserable is not the bad people not wanting us, it's when the good people don't want us.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 12:32 PM
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I think it's a red flag to try to control who your partner can be friends with. Either trust your partner or leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 01:34 PM
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I regularly drive an hour and a half to the nearest big city in order to meet single people my age. You have to do what you have to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 12:20 PM
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I don't think it's bad. I think it's ideal. It's bad if it's the only reason you're friends with them. But if your friendship is genuine, it makes sense to fall for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 05:05 AM
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I can't speak for all autistic people, but my experience as a child was everyone in my school thinking that I'm crazy and annoying and that messing with me was funny. Even if there was someone that was interested in me, they would never have given me a chance for fear of being made fun of. And I was highly disliked by most of my teachers because I refused to just let people get away with their treatment and would stand up for myself. Once I was finally diagnosed, which wasn't until after graduat…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 04:02 PM
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I have asked people out before. It's always been someone that I've known for a long time but was not super close to. Like people I went to school with for years or were in the same friend group or activities I participated in. Every time led to rejection. I have never been asked out in similar contexts.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 03:32 PM
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I have a similar problem. Due to my autism, I have been rejected many times throughout my life and have been humiliated by people that I have shown interest in. So I am terrified of making the first move. My experiences are similar to many of the guys here, and instead of them being able to empathize, they just get angry. Men are not the only ones that are allowed to feel scared and insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 02:43 PM
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If we are talking about ideals, I would rather be asked out by someone that I already know and have spent time around than a complete stranger. And I would like to be asked out directly. Like "would you like to go out with me" with no ambiguity.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 03:09 AM
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Considering that most of my family, and my parents especially, suck at relationships themselves, I don't think their opinion matters that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 01:42 PM
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Right? I was constantly involved with things at my school and still graduated without ever having dated. Joining activities isn't going to help if the kids at your school aren't interested in dating you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 01:38 PM
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Because then he wouldn't stop being friends with her after being rejected
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 01:27 PM
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I absolutely want to date someone close to my age. It's the only major requirement that I have. I don't want to date a 40-year-old and I don't want to date a 20-year-old.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 01:01 AM
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This is the most ridiculous thing I've ever read regarding this topic and that's saying something. I didn't even have to scroll farther than the first example. It's complete nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 12:48 AM
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I'm autistic and my mom had me when she was 23
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 07:48 PM
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After I confronted him about what a terrible friend he was. There were a lot of other issues going on too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 07:02 PM
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Even if you were obese or ugly, all of these guys say you can still easily find a good man if you "lower your standards". Lower them to what? I guarantee their idea of a good man is trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 05:35 PM
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These people refuse to believe that there are so few men that fit even these basic standards. And I don't even care about money or looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 05:25 PM
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How do you know that the guy she's married to is a nice person with a great personality? Wanting someone that is is not a high standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 05:24 PM
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I don't know how common it is, but it definitely happens. I had a guy tell me how much he liked me and wanted to be with me and how he wanted what I wanted and then it turns out none of it was true. He said that things to my face. Said the actual words out of his mouth. This was not me misinterpreting. He was lying. He admitted to me that he wanted something completely different from the start and only said what he said to test me out. What he actually wanted is not what I agreed to. He should h…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 05:16 PM
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I don't. The older generations also had way worse standards. Almost all of the relationship in my family are toxic.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 04:20 PM
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Because everyone is different and not all advice works for everyone all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 12:58 PM
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If I like someone enough to want to be in a relationship with them, then I do lust after them, regardless of how they look. The two go hand in hand for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 12:47 PM
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There is no such thing as a perfect home life. There are no families that don't have any issues. This would mean that absolutely no one could date whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 12:33 PM
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Literally happened to me the other day. I was walking my dogs and he asked me for directions then asked if I was married or had a boyfriend. When I said no, he asked for my number. I also said no. Didn't even ask my name.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 12:31 PM
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I can tell you my own personal experience. I have had sex twice. Both with the same person. And it didn't happen until I was 27. And the person ghosted me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 12:11 PM
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Not even just men. Every group the internet claims has difficulty dating (i.e. fat people, neurodivergent people, LGBT+ people, etc.) I always constantly see in relationships in my day to day life. The only person I know that can't find someone is me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 12:04 PM
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It's a privilege if causal sex is what the woman in question is interested in. It's not a privilege if she wants more than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 12:01 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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