Indubious1 Archive

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1	I think I fixed it after I broke frame You acknowledged where you fucked up in the first place. You could have apologized if you felt you were in the wrong. That’s on you to decide. You’re reflecting on your actions. Sounds like you’re doing fine.	/r/askMRP	29/12/25 04:10 PM
1	Boundaries: Inform others on the enforcment or not? If your boundary is crossed and you use manipulation to enforce it, then imo, you’re doing it wrong. Removing time/attention is manipulation in that it’s meant to punish someone and its aim to is to manipulate them into changing their behavior to avoid punishment. Boundaries are YOUR lines. Your lines affect YOUR actions. For me, if someone crosses a boundary, it should affect my actions. I can sit down and have a conversation with the offender and explain my position and our mutually agreed upo…	/r/askMRP	28/12/25 05:14 PM
2	How Much Effort Did You Put To Get Her? You're projecting all throughout your post. "There are only a handful of things in this life that we as men do that ISN’T based on the reaction, approval, dismissal, or recognition of others." I don't do anything for anyone's approval. I do it because I choose to. When I lift weights, I'm doing so because it's the healthy choice. When I show up every day in the gym to run, that's for me. When I pick out something to wear, I pick it because I like it. When I offer to help someone in need, I do so…	/r/askMRP	18/11/25 12:06 PM
2	How Much Effort Did You Put To Get Her? (Not OP that you're replying to, but sharing in case it helps with your understanding.) "...But why should I do it calmly? Whose benefit is that for?" I suppose it depends on your values, but you do so out of respect. You don't HAVE to respect other people, but you shouldn't expect someone to value you if you don't value them. Brushing off shit tests isn't brushing them off, per se. It's being confident and intentional in your actions so that the emotions of another doesn't shake your frame. If …	/r/askMRP	18/11/25 01:08 AM
3	Watch favorite nfl team first game or apple picking with the fam. What is more important to you? Make the tough calls.	/r/askMRP	09/09/25 01:43 AM
1	Insecurity and confidence You need to have a frame. To build that frame, you need to have morals. If you aren't sure where to start, I designed mine to be a reflection of who I wanted to see in the world. If I ever need to know if something is morally wrong or right for me, I ask myself what I'd want someone else to do if the roles were reversed. If you see a piece of trash on the ground, do you pick it up or leave it? If you see someone struggling with opening a door because their hands are full, do you help or let them…	/r/askMRP	16/08/25 05:15 PM
8	Red flag from LTR. Overreaction or cause for concern? Boundaries aren’t to inflict on others. Boundaries affect your reaction to things. Move on with your business. Who cares if she likes some other dudes post? What the fuck does that have to do with you? You’re insecure because you don’t trust yourself and you probably are projecting that onto your partner. Fix your frame. And stop ogling the sister. She only seems like a better option because she’s young enough to probably not see your insecurity and manipulation. Fix yourself. Other shit “magica…	/r/askMRP	02/08/25 01:29 PM
1	TRT Probably a godsend if you need it. I’d recommend getting tested to know where your baseline is (provided you aren’t old enough to think it’s dropped significantly). At least that way, when you get tested as you get older, you’ll know where you should be versus where you are. Otherwise, it seems likely that many are just throwing darts at a problem in hope that it gets fixed.	/r/askMRP	01/08/25 02:19 PM
1	Women talking badly about their boyfriends/husbands? What’s the point of your condescension? I can tell you that much: It’s because you’re trying to feel superior in this situation. That tells me that you’re insecure because you have to manipulate the conversation to feel superior.	/r/askMRP	06/07/25 01:37 PM
3	Whats the most raw, honest way to get up after being cheated on? Lack of trust in others is usually a projection from lack of trust in yourself. Fix your integrity. When you can trust that you are who you say you are, you’ll begin to see the value that comes with that. The consistency in acting in congruence with who you say you are creates value, which allows you to judge yourself and let go of the validation (validation is approval from others and letting them set your value). When you let go of validation, you can set and enforce healthy boundaries for peo…	/r/askMRP	20/06/25 03:05 AM
1	How Much Effort Did You Put To Get Her? For sure. Happy to help. As strange as this might be, and on the off chance it helps: my wife and I were driving home one evening and were having a discussion about integrity when a lot of this clicked. I was convinced that I was pretty solid in my actions and stated as much. She called me out. She pointed out that just a few moments prior, we were at an intersection and I didn't use my blinker before turning. I looked at her in surprise and started to defend my actions by stating that there was…	/r/askMRP	15/06/25 01:17 AM
3	How Much Effort Did You Put To Get Her? I'll do my best to simplify, though my thought process might not be perfect here: In my opinion, your frame is the integrity to your core motives. This means that you design your motives according to your morals and you choose to do something based on who you want to be. When you have integrity to these values, you create a value system in which you judge your own actions and assign the value that those actions bring to you and those around you. Providing your own value takes away the need for e…	/r/askMRP	14/06/25 11:01 PM
2	How Much Effort Did You Put To Get Her? I believe people overthink shit a lot. You can take the lead and show interest without showing a need for validation. I think validation is what you’re trying to avoid. Wait a week and touch base with her and mention that you’d like to see her again. If she doesn’t respond after that, respect yourself and move on. Keep it simple.	/r/askMRP	09/06/25 08:32 PM
3	Is it is a covert contract if I have outcome independence? Outcome independent is exactly as it sounds. Independent of outcome. You do things because it’s who you are, not because of what it gets you in return. If you wave to someone and they don’t wave back, do you care? If you do, then you aren’t OI. If you judge them based off of your expectations, then you aren’t OI. Judging them means you are holding them accountable to what you expected them to do. The problem wouldn’t be them, it’d be your expectations.	/r/askMRP	09/05/25 09:25 PM
1	Was this a shit or comfort test or what I can be an asshole to my wife, but it just proves that I’m an asshole. My wife already knows I wouldn’t ask her permission, but I certainly don’t mind communicating with her because she deserves as much. Also, if you feel the need to flex by calling someone your subordinate, that’s says more about you.	/r/askMRP	08/05/25 12:26 AM
1	Expressing dissatisfaction before / when it's not a boundary? Look, Hoss… something is either a boundary or it isn’t. The type of action you take depends on the severity of the boundary that was crossed. If someone speaks to you disrespectfully and it wasn’t too extreme, then in my opinion, it’s okay to take someone aside and explain to them your position and that you aren’t willing to accept that behavior AND keep them in your life. If they cross the boundary again, then you do what’s necessary. That being said, boundaries are not a tool for manipulation.…	/r/askMRP	16/04/25 01:54 PM
3	Potential sign of cheating? You’re projecting who you are onto your wife. She gave you some details. I’d be paying more attention to her actions. It doesn’t seem she was trying to hide any of it from you. That tells you plenty. Any other filters that you apply is done so because your brain thinks everyone else thinks like you. Projection. You probably chase female attention as validation and assume she is the same. Since she most likely projects who she is onto her experiences, her telling you tells me that she most likely…	/r/askMRP	12/04/25 04:38 PM
11	Was this a shit or comfort test or what Did you know that people who put others down are projecting their insecurities onto others? You put me down so that you can feel superior, elevating your platform while lowering mine. You think you’re being intelligent and dominating, but in reality, I see that you are insecure. And fwiw: I do what I want, but I’m not an asshole. I treat people how I’d want to be treated. That means treating people with respect and expecting the same. If I expect one thing and don’t do the same in return, that m…	/r/askMRP	28/03/25 06:13 PM
10	Was this a shit or comfort test or what I agree with the top comment, but will add a few notes to help put it into perspective. Why didn’t you tell her you were going to the bar? You wanted validation from her, so you chose making her worry about you to manipulate her emotions. It’s not a game. It’s about trust. Subconsciously, she’s realizing she’s been duped by your manipulation and starts to dislike who you are. Your morals. Your choice. My advice: regain her trust and learn to validate yourself by having integrity to an idea of wh…	/r/askMRP	27/03/25 10:07 PM
3	How not to be butthurt? If my wife gives me her word that she’s going to do something with me and she backs out last minute, I can feel cheated that she didn’t hold up to her word. My expectations are normal to think she would do what she says she will. There’s no hidden contract. There’s trust. While there may be an inherent contract in trust, the contract isn’t hidden, it’s implied on both sides and to some extent, verbally discussed. And if she breaks that trust, feeling cheated is going to be a logical reaction. So…	/r/askMRP	22/01/25 07:15 PM
1	How not to be butthurt? It could be feeling cheated that my wife said she’d start break dance fighting with me and didn’t follow through. I was purposefully vague and derived my examples from the previous poster’s statement without trying to make it about sex so that my context could be better understood. If it helps, I’ve been here 2017. I rarely say much these days, but do on occasion if I think I can add value. I appreciate that you’re trying to help me, though.	/r/askMRP	22/01/25 01:24 PM
1	How not to be butthurt? my post is about emotional ownership vs emotional manipulation, but i appreciate your input. perhaps someone wont see that i'm taking generic context from the previous person to help him understand the difference and will benefit from your advice.	/r/askMRP	21/01/25 11:03 PM
4	How not to be butthurt? to an extent, i don't disagree. i'll try to explain my position: when i get angry about something not going my way at work, i don't get to walk around and treat everyone like shit because i'm angry. i don't walk around pouting and being angry for 3 days and treating everyone with passive aggressive behavior. if i have a problem with someone or something someone did to me, etc., then i'd ask them to step aside with me while i explain myself and why what they did or didn't do made me feel the way …	/r/askMRP	21/01/25 09:46 PM
7	How not to be butthurt? "fixing motives is hard" lol no shit. this is your weak character. i'm telling you how to have better sex and you're just looking for a shortcut. your wife needs to trust you and she doesn't. you manipulate her and she sees you as weak and is turned off. you are trying to manipulate desire. focus on being someone she can trust and she might trust you more in the bedroom. otherwise, i think what you're looking for is a fuck doll.	/r/askMRP	21/01/25 02:36 PM
7	How not to be butthurt? quit using her as a gauge to determine how you are doing or how you should act. do things because it's who you are or want to be. if she needs comforting and you have it in you, add comfort. otherwise, be indifferent and focus on getting your shit taken care of. that doesn't mean you have to be an oblivious douche and ignore her or use your emotions to act "cold" to get what you want, it just means that you are focusing too much on manipulation and not enough on just fixing your shit. be somebod…	/r/askMRP	21/01/25 01:58 PM
16	How not to be butthurt? when you act mad and pout for not getting your way, what is the reason? in my experience, we act mad and pout as a manipulation tactic. it serves to punish those who we want to manipulate into doing something so that they don't get the "mad" version of us. while your wife may not consciously recognize your behavior as direct manipulation, she probably subconsciously recognizes it as weak behavior. if it helps, in my opinion, the sub/dom behavior is built on trust. the more your wife trust's you,…	/r/askMRP	21/01/25 01:26 PM
2	Should I continue to do all the Laundry Bruh… use this for everything in life: Am I doing the laundry because it needs to be done and I’m the person that gets shit done or am I doing it to later use against someone or to get something in return? If it’s the latter, you’re doing shit to manipulate them into getting what you want. If it’s the former, get the fucking laundry done.	/r/askMRP	15/01/25 04:00 PM
1	Was this a mix of shit and comfort tests? This is a lot of bullshit words just to say that you fucked up her pants and then got defensive instead of just making it right. You guys way overthink this shit. If you fuck up, just own it. It’s not the mistake that’s important, but that you own it and fix it or at minimum, take a lesson from it. And if you fuck up someone else’s shit… gee, I don’t know… offer to buy them some new fucking pants. Wtf	/r/askMRP	30/12/24 03:32 AM
1	Beginners question. A man with a solid frame does what he wants.	/r/askMRP	19/12/24 07:25 PM
19	Looking for advice Bahahaha! I seriously doubt you are in a position to be making any kind of demand. Everybody wants a shortcut, so they point the finger at anyone but themselves. Let me show you the shortcut you’re looking for: I’m willing to bet that in your relationship you’ve been “masking” since day one. You’ve been pretending to be someone you aren’t for one reason: validation. The problem is that you pretend for as long as you can, but eventually the mask fades and when the validation slows to a trickle be…	/r/MarriedRedPill	10/12/24 08:21 PM
10	MAP or MMSLP? The fact that you seem unable to make basic choices without asking for advice is disturbing. You jest about getting engaged, but I’m guessing you can’t make a decision on your own and no one has told you what you should or shouldn’t be doing. JFC dude… pick a fucking book and get to it.	/r/askMRP	27/11/24 11:30 PM
2	Silent treatment You aren’t in control of your wife or her emotions. If you said something wrong and that’s not who you want to be, then consider making it right or at least take a lesson from it so you can be more considerate in the future. If you don’t feel you said anything wrong, then let her be. Keep in mind: you are free to say whatever you want based on your morals. That being said, she is free to react in whatever way she chooses, including leaving someone who treats her poorly. (I’m not suggesting anyth…	/r/askMRP	20/11/24 04:50 PM
2	Do you feel like the grass is greener on the other side? The attention you are getting is validating. That’s why you like it. For me, I’m confident because I have integrity to who I want to be. I don’t need the validation and don’t really crave attention because I measure my value according to my own scale. I don’t really care if other women/people like me, so there’s nothing of value to gain by chasing them. I like my wife. She challenges me and brings me value in various ways. What would I have to gain? Get some new hobbies. Plenty of other ways to …	/r/askMRP	30/10/24 10:37 PM
2	Do you feel like the grass is greener on the other side? It’s moralizing because being true to your word is a moral choice. Being true to who you want to be is your frame.	/r/askMRP	30/10/24 03:53 PM
2	Improving SMV by exposing wife to beta men So you decided instead of working on yourself, you’d up your manipulation game? If this isn’t some of the dumbest crap…	/r/askMRP	17/01/24 04:20 PM
2	Issues with bitterness with my LTR Have you ever spent time with someone that is such an awesome person that they make you want to be a better person? That’s a quality leader. They set the bar high and have integrity in all they do. Just simply being around them is enough motivation to be a better person. Your goal isn’t to make your wife “serve” you. You don’t own her and she doesn’t work for you. You aren’t entitled to shit and trying to control her actions is setting yourself up for failure. You’re getting angry because you fe…	/r/askMRP	10/01/24 03:06 PM
1	What would you have done in this situation? (Building Frame and failing at it) You’re free to act how you want, but you’ll always be accountable for those actions. When we frame our morals, we decide how we are going to treat other people. If dicking around for 30 minutes to embarrass someone was your goal, congrats on the win.	/r/askMRP	06/01/24 02:56 AM
2	In YOUR experience, what small, simple changes / mindset shifts created the quickest results in your marriage? In regards to handling your business within the relationship, you’ll come across a lot of things that need to be done and/or tough choices that need made. When it comes to the choices, just make one. It doesn’t matter if it’s the right choice, just make it the best choice. Learn from the results of that choice. Adapt. When it comes to getting things done, just do them. Not everyone wants to do the things that suck, but they need done. Don’t allow it to be a choice.	/r/askMRP	31/12/23 03:48 PM
1	Can obligated compliance turn into genuine compliance? But at the end of the day, I don't believe she will consistently put in the effort to achieve those goals. Do you consistently put in the effort? Or do you just want someone to do those things for you to fulfill your ego?	/r/askMRP	30/12/23 12:23 AM
1	Overdid it on Withholding Validation? You can provide fulfillment if that’s what you choose. Now we’re digging a bit into morals and personal code. You do things with/for people because that’s who you choose to be. You don’t do things because it will make her react a certain way or for what you think it will net you. It’s the motive behind it that makes it genuine or manipulation. You can’t control whether she likes you… meaning that if I stand in front of you and demand that you like me, you can say you do, but it doesn’t mean you …	/r/askMRP	18/12/23 09:12 PM
1	Overdid it on Withholding Validation? I'm more concerned in her apparent lack of interest than I am in how it makes me feel. You’re concerned about her apparent lack of interest because of how it makes you feel. Your post title: Overdid it on withholding validation You are doing something and expecting a reaction. That’s manipulation. If you were doing everything to be congruent with who you are, you wouldn’t care about her reaction, or apparent lack of interest. Edit to clarify my last point: I give zero fucks about how many times …	/r/askMRP	17/12/23 08:46 PM
5	Overdid it on Withholding Validation? You are focusing on manipulating your wife, not changing yourself. You tried to withdraw affection, thinking it would net you a result and when you didn’t get what you wanted, you act confused. She has now turned the tables and you’re consumed by your own trap. The goal isn’t to be a douche, it’s to focus on yourself. Manipulating people into thinking you’re someone you aren’t is what got you into this mess. Stop looking for shortcuts. Do the work. Build yourself with discipline in reading and w…	/r/askMRP	17/12/23 03:53 PM
3	Frame question My opinion based on your words: Your frame is weak because you place too much value on the thoughts of others. You have no confidence, so you look to others for validation that you are worthy. This is because you have no code. You change this by asking yourself when taking on a task: am I doing this because I think it’s what people want me to do or am I doing it because this is who I am? You can adjust your values as you become more knowledgeable, but you should start with this question over and…	/r/askMRP	16/12/23 10:30 PM
1	Thought I had frame, maybe I dont Gotcha. Have you figured out the why? You can’t get manipulated if there’s nothing to manipulate you with. You have better options to achieve peace that you don’t take advantage of, so what are you getting out of keeping the peace?	/r/askMRP	06/12/23 03:00 AM
1	Thought I had frame, maybe I dont To make sure we have the finger pointed in the right direction… As we pointed out, your wife’s feelings are out of your zone of control. So then why do you think you prioritized her feelings over your own? Manipulation can take many forms. In this case, it sounds plausible that one would prioritize another person’s feelings because it was a subconscious manipulation. When seeking validation, it’d seem that we prioritize someone else’s feelings because it would manipulate them into liking us. It …	/r/askMRP	05/12/23 01:11 AM
3	How to mrp with chronic pain …what you’ve just said is one of the most insanely idiotic things I have ever heard. At no point in your rambling, incoherent response were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul.	/r/askMRP	04/12/23 03:06 PM
1	Thought I had frame, maybe I dont You have absolutely zero control of her actions. You have 100% control over yours. Focus on what’s in your zone of control. Your actions reflect who you are and what’s important to you. If you do not have boundaries, your inaction is also a reflection. Basically, everything you are dealing with is a direct reflection of the choices you have or have not made. If there is no compromise on her end, at what point do you enforce a boundary? Enforcing a boundary isn’t something to enforce on someone e…	/r/askMRP	03/12/23 11:01 PM
13	What is love after swallowing TRP? There was a time where what I wanted was validation. Without an internal code, I lacked the ability to validate myself. My choices were influenced by external factors, manipulating others to maintain those sources and my value. When I got to the point where I defined my morals and purpose, it gave me the ability to measure my value and ultimately, validate myself. When you cross that threshold, you no longer worry about someone loving you for you to feel value. It gives you the ability to love w…	/r/askMRP	29/11/23 03:44 AM
10	What is love after swallowing TRP? lol except he does. There’s plenty of 6’+ dudes here with issues. Being tall might give you an advantage, but it isn’t the key to success. The meaning behind fitness isn’t solely about being physically attractive. One of the key factors is the development of discipline. It leads to a drive in energy and discipline in other areas of life, an area where many are lacking.	/r/askMRP	29/11/23 03:07 AM
2	How to behave when one is sick What are you looking for from us? Validation? Lemme ask you this: Do you do things around the house, for her, and for your kids because you choose to or are you doing things for recognition? If you’re doing things because YOU choose to, then why does it matter what she says? You don’t need her validation to know if you’re doing a good job. Her opinion and words only have meaning if you assign them meaning. When she’s being disrespectful, address the disrespect as needed. If she’s just being emot…	/r/askMRP	18/11/23 10:35 PM
0	Public Emasculation Shit Test - best response? I couldn’t care less. Someone who puts you down does so to lift themselves up. Putting them down in return only shows your insecurity. If the comment wasn’t disrespectful, then I’d roll with it. Perhaps I did something dumb and we can all share a laugh at my expense. I do dumb shit all the time. It’s being human. If someone crosses the disrespect line, I’d address it when appropriate. If they do it again, I’m done. Not because it’s harmful to how I see myself, but because I don’t want to be arou…	/r/askMRP	16/11/23 02:03 AM
9	Marriage ultimatum, I said no & she broke it off Hah! Wtf did I just read?! What do you want, Hoss? Do you want to be married? If not and she does, then the correct thing to do is break things off. You don’t want the same things. She enforced a boundary that you should have done. IMO Chasing her makes no sense and only weakens your position. Your goal isn’t to change her mind. Your goal is to settle on who you are and what you want. Own it. Then enforce it. She is either fine as things are or she isn’t. If she isn’t, have some respect and put …	/r/askMRP	14/11/23 10:17 PM
2	Sex frequency situation There are obviously a lot of variables to this answer, but to try and put it simply: When you’re away, you’re probably confident in getting laid and focus more on having fun. When you’re at home, you get laid less, so you focus on sex more. There’s almost a sweet irony in that the less you focus on sex, the more likely you are to get it. A lot of good advice has been given, so to add my own perspective: focus more on having fun. IMO sex is a benefit, not a goal.	/r/askMRP	10/11/23 03:58 AM
1	Mission focus and genuine desire. Hah! For real! /RemindMe! One Year	/r/askMRP	02/11/23 08:34 PM
4	When is too late to punish bad behavior and disrespect? You can say you weren’t butthurt, but that sounds exactly like what it was. You weren’t punishing her for being disrespectful, you were punishing her for hurting your feelings. Your feelings being hurt are on you for not being confident enough to know the difference between your value and her words. If my wife had been disrespectful, I would address it simply and move on. I don’t need to dwell on it. I don’t need a conversation about it. It would have zero weight on my emotional state. The only …	/r/askMRP	02/11/23 04:12 PM
7	Wife wants to go out with no explanation You didn’t care, but she did. You could have just tossed her your phone and had her do it. If you’re not using social media anyway, who fucking cares? Htf does that turn into an argument?! If you’ve changed a lot of things in the last few weeks, it’s possible she thinks you’re cheating. lol now it sounds like she’s manipulating you for not posting pictures of your family. …and look at your hamster spin. You probably started implementing things you’ve read without really understanding the why. Ev…	/r/askMRP	02/11/23 01:59 AM
0	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 17, 2023 lol you’re entitled to your opinion. Coming down on someone that finds value where you don’t says more about you than it does me. Why does it bother you so much? You could have just moved on, but instead you felt the need cry out about my recommendation because you didn’t find anything of value? And I’m the time wasting cuck? Okay hoss. You feel free to go attack someone else with your tough guy facade. Im not here for your validation. 😘	/r/MarriedRedPill	22/10/23 10:09 PM
4	Frame in serious life situations You’re misunderstanding frame. Frame isn’t about joking, it’s about being authentically in your own emotions, mindset, character… the structure of who you are. Your emotions and state of being should be controlled by you. By feeding into someone else’s emotions, your frame crumbles and you shift into their frame. Their state of being. For example: your wife gets mad at you for… I don’t know… not putting your socks in the hamper. Is leaving your socks out that big of a deal to where you need to g…	/r/askMRP	21/10/23 02:15 PM
2	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 17, 2023 “I get the point. But how?” That is the right question. Have you read/listened to the book Can’t Hurt Me by David Goggins? Your mind is your most powerful tool. You just have to decide you want something bad enough. I can elaborate some on validation, core values, mindset, etc., if you’d like. I just want to make sure that if I invest the time, it serves a purpose. Otherwise, this is my short answer to point you in the right direction.	/r/MarriedRedPill	21/10/23 03:16 AM
4	"Solve the fight" - learning from a mistake IMO, there’s nothing wrong with apologizing if you were in the wrong. That being said, you’ve had time to reflect on your words. Were you in the wrong? If you weren’t, then you should not have apologized. If you were, own your bad choice and move on. There’s no need to explain the in-between crap. “I know you get emotional from stuff like this…” Unnecessary. Just own your shit and keep it simple. “I let my emotions get the best of me. I’ll do better.” Moving on… my wife gets caught up in her emo…	/r/askMRP	21/10/23 02:42 AM
5	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 17, 2023 My point: remove the choice. If you change your core values, the choice to workout isnt a choice. You just do it. Doing chores around the house isn’t a choice. It just needs to be done. You giving yourself a choice is where you’re failing. Change your mindset. Don’t give yourself the option to not do something if it needs to be done.	/r/MarriedRedPill	17/10/23 05:18 PM
5	Own Your Shit Weekly - October 17, 2023 Do you know why you are failing at meeting your goals? Because in your mind, the effort is a choice. When the consequences are immediate and severe, like robbing a bank or stealing a car, you probably have no problem sticking to your code and not doing those things (I’m assuming). When the consequences are spread out over time, like eating poorly or not working out, it’s easier to justify the choices and endure the consequences… until they add up and come due. It sounds like you don’t want to de…	/r/MarriedRedPill	17/10/23 03:51 PM
5	[FR] MRP explains my entire marriage how dare you come on here and say true words! lol @ the validation seekers downvoting an opinion they don’t like.	/r/MarriedRedPill	03/10/23 11:29 PM
5	[FR] MRP explains my entire marriage Here we are again, judging your progress based on how your wife reacts. Bro, you are not alpha. You were never alpha. You certainly haven’t turned alpha in a month. You won’t be alpha in 5 months. You are good at masking. Probably been doing it your whole life. That’s why you’re getting reactions. I assure you they are temporary. You aren’t really fixing the core problem, you’re just painting over the old ones. Those who have done the work can see through your facade. What did you learn about yo…	/r/MarriedRedPill	03/10/23 11:25 PM
1	[FR] getting better and seeing results (1 month report) Why did you write this post? Were you not seeking opinions? If mine doesn’t pertain to you, then why are you assigning any value to my words? Why do several other people mention you talking about your wife too much? “You're free to assume that I'm manipulatively arranging my personality and life around sex, don't care about my wife, and rule with an iron fist” lol This feels like you’re trying to discredit my thoughts and opinions by victimizing yourself. At the end of the day, I’m not trying to…	/r/MarriedRedPill	23/09/23 10:50 PM
1	[FR] getting better and seeing results (1 month report) “My wife initiated shower sex last night. She initiated sex the night before that, too. I initiated earlier today and she turned me down ("my stomach doesn't feel good") after a while of making out, and I handled it well (no butthurt).” Why are you telling us this? Why are you mentioning your wife’s reaction to anything at all? …unless… unless you are using her reaction as a form of measurement for your success. lol sounds like you got this, hoss! Just my opinion, but asking someone to move thei…	/r/MarriedRedPill	23/09/23 08:51 PM
2	[FR] getting better and seeing results (1 month report) You’re making it about her when it should be about you. You are acting out some script in an attempt to manipulate her into thinking you’re someone better than you were. All that’s happening right now, imo, is you’ve made changes externally and she probably thinks you’re cheating, so she’s upping her game. When she finally realizes that you’re still the same insecure guy you were, just wearing a different mask, she’s going to go back to behaving how she was. You’re going to start going Rambo bec…	/r/MarriedRedPill	23/09/23 05:39 PM
3	Hero Worship (or why you still don't have Frame) You can be like your “heroes.” It all comes down to what you’re willing to give or give up to get what you want. Just remember, someone else’s happiness doesn’t equal yours. And what looks happy from the outside doesn’t always mean it is. So whatever you choose to do, I’d make sure it’s what YOU want. “You can’t wear their skin…” lol I mean… you can. We can’t preach morality, right?!	/r/MarriedRedPill	11/02/23 04:33 AM
1	"Just work on yourself, bro" is a polite way of gaslighting men Mostly agree, except for chasing. In my opinion, it’s not that women want to chase, it’s that if you aren’t chasing women, then you’re more likely pursuing a self fulfilling life that doesn’t revolve around one person. I believe women want to be part of your universe, but not what it centers on. Pursuing your own life takes confidence, discipline, and responsibility. These qualities are rare, making them traits that are worth pursuing in partners.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/23 12:14 AM
2	Young men provide in peace their labor to the society, in war their blood; in exchange they get to get a wife to have children and he is deeply invested in the well being of society, modern society destroyed this social contract and expects young men to uphold a society that gives them NOTHING Nobody. Is. Owed. Anything. You stand for something and earn it or you stand for nothing and get nothing in return. You don’t have to take responsibility, but you will gain nothing by rejecting it. If you fall to the strength of others, then your life will be dictated by them. Maybe that means the oppressor bans anything you like. Will you stand for something then? Does your life only have meaning if a woman assigns it to you?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/23 03:33 PM
18	Proper reaction to sexual rejection in a marriage. Why do you revoke those things (hugging, kissing, etc.)? Because rejection. It’s manipulation in the form of punishment. You didn’t get what you wanted, so you’re taking away something in return. How very grown up of you. The irony? It’s probably not a punishment for her. Why do you act that way when getting rejected? Because you want validation. Your self esteem is dependent on her providing it to you. Want more sex? You need to earn her trust and respect back. It’s going to take you way longer…	/r/askMRP	13/01/23 07:07 PM
2	Sometimes I wonder “just who the hell are these women holding out for??” Sure they do. You’re just looking at character wrong. You can be an asshole and still be someone who is confident in what he does and true to himself. Being a bitch can go either way, too. You can be tall, attractive, and “nice” and still be incongruent with who you really are. The weakness is in not being congruent. If I tell a woman up front what I am looking for, maybe it’s that I’m sleeping with multiple women, they’ll be able to decide if I’m right for them up front. They appreciate the fac…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/01/23 04:15 PM
3	Sometimes I wonder “just who the hell are these women holding out for??” Thanks for proving my point. lol Never the dudes problem, right? Even though the dudes are the ones complaining? The one constant in all the issues? Makes sense. Prove me wrong if you can.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/01/23 02:12 PM
3	Sometimes I wonder “just who the hell are these women holding out for??” Have you ever considered the idea that your friend is the problem? Character is more important to women. It’s not that hard of a concept. All this crap that men tell themselves about women is to avoid the fact that the problem truly lies with them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/01/23 01:28 PM
2	STFU conundrum lol dude… you keep saying little things that lead me to think you don’t get what I’m really trying to explain. The fact that you just said that you’re trying to be cognizant of being more attractive and less unattractive leads me to believe that you are doing things to be perceived a certain way. Maybe I’m wrong in my analysis. I’m usually good at picking up on little things people say that most don’t think twice about. On the off chance I’m right, let me remake my points: If you want to complai…	/r/askMRP	12/01/23 02:02 AM
1	STFU conundrum Your mentality sucks. You obviously have an insecurity if you’re worried about telling your wife that you didn’t sleep well and then worried what she thought about you. The difference between you and me? I’ll say what I want and don’t give a fuck about their judgement. How can I do that? Because I have set my morals in stone and I know who I am, regardless what anyone else thinks of me. I don’t need their validation. I set the standard. If I say I didn’t sleep well, it’s because I didn’t and I’m…	/r/askMRP	11/01/23 11:52 PM
5	STFU conundrum lol lemme help you out: STFU serves the purpose of stopping your defensiveness. Confident people don’t explain away their decisions. They make the best choice possible at the time and sometimes make mistakes. If they make a mistake, they own it and learn from it. Being defensive usually means you’re not confident in your choice(s) and justifying why you did something serves to validate your own ego. It’s weakness. Everyone makes mistakes. It’s how you handle them afterwards that make the differe…	/r/askMRP	11/01/23 03:38 AM
1	What should the father get in return for alimony? Your question doesn’t make any sense. Using “father” for simplicity and then making the question from which position? Do you think that the wife gets something extra if she has to pay alimony? …if so, I’d assume your question should be “what do the “people” who pay alimony get in return?” If not, then is your only concern that the man is being cheated? What is it you’re asking? Let’s assume you’re talking about people in general that pay alimony. So let’s say you stayed at home for 20 years beca…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/01/23 03:51 PM
1	What should the father get in return for alimony? Should the man get alimony if he works as a stay at home dad. If he was the one to give up his career? If so, then your question doesn’t make sense. Why wouldn’t he just get alimony? lol it’s not like alimony is only for women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/01/23 02:10 AM
1	Women need scarcity to respect and love a man. Men need abundance. lol satire? If not, JFC bro. Lemme help you out: If you’re a confident dude with his shit together, you instead have an abundance mindset. A mindset… And you don’t have to be a douche and not compliment a chick because you think it makes you sound weak. Compliment whoever you want. It’s when the compliment is riddled with a creepy agenda that makes the difference.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/01/23 01:15 AM
3	You have to have an unfulfilling life if you go into a relationship NOT prioritising sex Here’s the crux of your statement: it speaks for all people instead of your personal perspective. The lifestyle that leads to your happiness is only applicable to you. For example: let’s say break dance fighting is what makes me happy. Therefore, I can conclude that everyone must break dance fight to be happy. lol you see the problem? It sounds like this is your point of view and if so, that’s great. Set boundaries in relationships for what you’re willing to accept and what you aren’t. Eventuall…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/01/23 07:42 PM
5	Getting fed up with constant gaming / affection and no results lol @ a couple of months. You’ve probably lost her trust and will need to earn that back if you want her to respect you. Trust is more than about cheating, it can also be about trusting you to handle shit without being a bitch about it. Focus less on sex and more time on being introspective. She didn’t stop being attracted to you on purpose. You did that… probably seeking validation. If you pout from not getting sex, well… here’s your problem: you’re not getting what you want, so you pout and ge…	/r/askMRP	05/01/23 10:52 PM
2	What are the signs that a man doesn’t “get” women? A guy who agrees with the majority on most everything. That person typically develops and opinion based on what they feel will help people like them. They’re usually too timid to go for what they want because they fear rejection.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/23 07:56 PM
3	Giving ultimatums - ever effective? Ultimatum = manipulation Manipulation = weakness If a person is having issues, you can talk to them about getting help. If they do not fix their problem(s), you make a decision based on what’s a proper response for you based on your set boundaries. A person with a problem will temporarily change to avoid a consequence, but usually will not change long term until they decide they want to be better. Edit: reading your previous post, it sounds like you have a lot to work on for yourself. You should…	/r/askMRP	30/12/22 04:06 PM
2	Wife jealous of women friends lol The only thing that’s changed is the illusions you’ve fed yourself. Also, your wife is probably projecting, but you know this. I mean, with everything you’ve learned in the last 2 years, it’d be hard to not think of that.	/r/askMRP	29/12/22 12:21 AM
3	Bar is too Low for men .They dont even do bare minimum lol all this sounds like is excuses. You will always be the victim if you blame your problems on things “out of your control.” It’s usually a cheap way out for the ego. Follow the problem. If you’re the one having all the trouble with women, maybe it’s not your looks, maybe it’s you. You’re the constant in this equation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/12/22 03:49 AM
5	She is always late This. 100% Why is it such a hard concept to just be honest? Making up crap excuses is for the weak. You either care or you don’t, but address the issue directly. If she doesn’t respect that or your boundaries, you have a choice.	/r/askMRP	14/12/22 02:07 PM
1	Relationship has turned into a shit show. I fucked up First of all, figure out the validation issue. Validation issues are usually insecurities. What is making you insecure? Are you lacking confidence in your choices? Are you insecure about your looks? Too weak to go for what you want in the bedroom? Get to work. Knowing the problem is key to fixing it. Want to be more secure in your choices? Establish your morals. What kind of person do you want to be? Then, make choices based off of that. If you find yourself explaining your decision, then you we…	/r/askMRP	13/12/22 12:44 AM
1	Need help on STFU. What did you take the ring off for? One could say it was a manipulation tactic. She noticed and I’m sure that was the point. You wanted a reaction. Your problem isn’t your wife. It’s how you react to whatever she’s doing. Someone can’t manipulate you if you don’t let them. Let’s try to make this easier to understand. First, I’ll explain how I read what you wrote: My wife and I don’t see eye to eye on something. For a few days, I act passive aggressive and mope around. She writes me a letter to a…	/r/askMRP	07/12/22 02:50 PM
1	You get successful by your 40s: would you leave your wife for your dream girl? Get your priorities straight. If you’re in a relationship at 40 that you aren’t happy with, your income shouldn’t matter. Make a decision for your happiness, regardless of your success. Getting someone new because you have money is for your own ego. You weren’t alpha enough to get the girl without money, so you think there’s a cheat code and you’ll buy your way to happiness. Nothing changes if the problem is still you. You’ll end up miserable again and again until you figure it out. lol I guess …	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/12/22 04:28 PM
4	Emotional Cheating, Next Steps Define your worth (what do you bring to the table?). Define your morals (what do you stand for?). Define your boundaries (where do you draw lines?) When you don’t know what those are, you have no guides for what you’re willing to accept, so you bend until you break. To others, your value is monetary, you have no strength to stand for what you believe in, and there are no consequences in crossing your boundaries. There’s nothing respectable about that. Standing firm in all of those is what helps …	/r/askMRP	29/11/22 04:10 PM
1	The Body Count thing is gendered, but not in the way people think Cheating has nothing to do with body count. Vet your partners better based on their values. I’ve cheated in the past (not proud of it), but it doesn’t mean it had any correlation to how many people I slept with. That had more to do with validation and ego. A person could have been a virgin going into a relationship and still cheat. You’re trying to draw a correlation of previous sex partners to a person’s character when there isn’t one to draw. It has to do with who they are at the core.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/22 12:54 PM
3	Need help on STFU. Edit 2: ah… Is she apprehensive about asking you for something because you’ll whine about it or because you see it as if you do something for someone, they should do something for you? Are you doing things around the house and expecting her to notice and swoon? And when she’s not, you try to manipulate her by throwing all the things you’ve done for her in her face?! If this is the case, knock it the fuck off. Define your morals. Are you doing something for someone because you care about them or …	/r/askMRP	28/11/22 05:26 AM
2	Is the ratio really better in real life? You ever go out just to focus on having a good time? I found that when I went out and focused on having fun and hanging with my friends, we’d tend to mix with other groups and since my focus wasn’t on the women, they were more inclined to want to know me. Since I wasn’t looking to get laid, I never appeared desperate. My focus was on having fun. And who doesn’t like the person that’s bringing fun to the group? Break the norm of what you do and maybe go out with the weird guy friends. Mix with ot…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/11/22 09:53 PM
7	Need help on STFU. If you lived by yourself, who would do all the work? Just get it done and stop complaining about it. For me, I stay busy taking care of shit always. If my wife wants to spend time with me, which she does because I’m awesome, she has to earn it. If I’m too busy taking care of shit that she could’ve helped out on, it comes out of our time together. Oh. Fucking. Well. Also, you sound like a douche. You run around telling her what she’s failing at, but do you ever talk about what she’s doing good at…	/r/askMRP	27/11/22 04:37 PM
1	The Body Count thing is gendered, but not in the way people think It’s nobody’s fucking business how many people anyone has slept with. Someone is spending waaaaaay too much time on crap that shouldn’t matter. If I was viewed as one type of person before you knew my body count, and viewed as a different person after knowing, you’re going about life wrong. Stop judging people. We all developed differently based on our own experiences and who the fuck is anyone to say what experience is/was right for another person? Live your fucking life and stay in your lane. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/11/22 01:00 AM
2	What are the dangers about the red pill? Men think it’s about women when it’s not. It’s about improving oneself. Don’t get it twisted and you’ll be fine.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/22 01:53 AM
7	She tried to make me jealous. Congratulations! You just responded your way out of some pussy! “She” didn’t do anything. You did. You acted weak and insecure. The better response would have been: Her: “This guy at school keeps flirting with me” You: “Oh yeah?! Is he hot?!” H: “What?” Y: “Is he hot? Like… how hot? Like Ryan Reynolds’s hot? Oh snap! Do you want me to give him your number?” H: … Y: “I’m just saying! Does he have money? He better have a good job with your expensive ass! Plus, I would love a few new things. I’ve b…	/r/askMRP	22/11/22 04:15 PM
2	Arnold or Rambo? That’s because those women only know the version of you that you sold them. Your wife knows the real you. I doubt that admiration will last very long. You want some help? Define your morals and boundaries. Don’t fucking break them. If your morals include lying and cheating someone, you’re the asshole. You want to be alpha? Own your shit. That means if you want to fuck other women, you fucking own it. That means being honest about what you want and what you’re doing, no matter who the fuck it is.…	/r/askMRP	20/11/22 01:47 AM
3	Arnold or Rambo? Get. Your. Shit. Together. You can’t even get your current wife to like you. It doesn’t sound like you fixed yourself. It sounds like youre blaming your wife for you being a douche bag. Getting in the gym isn’t for your wife. Or the ladies. It’s for you. It’s about discipline. It’s about being healthy and gaining some confidence back. All of that means jack shit if you aren’t getting your mind unfucked. The sidebar is to get your mind right. But you… you haven’t accepted that you’re the problem.…	/r/askMRP	19/11/22 11:23 PM
1	Complaining about high N-count women is a fundamental misunderstanding of the red pill principles. Because in one scenario, the action is in the present and in the other, it’s in the past. I can’t make current decisions based off the past of others. Just the present. Besides, who the fuck is anyone to judge someone else for how many people they slept with? It’s literally no one else’s business. What if your partner judged you for every choice you have ever made? I certainly wouldn’t want a relationship with that person. They can fuck right off. When I’m looking for a partner, I’m looking for …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/22 07:18 PM
1	Complaining about high N-count women is a fundamental misunderstanding of the red pill principles. I don’t “let” my partner do anything. She has free will. My choice is not to be in a polyamorous relationship, but it’s mine alone. If my partner wants that, she is welcome to it, sans me. That’s the thing, dude. I already understand. I don’t care about the choices of others that don’t impact my life. It’s really none of my business. What my wife did before she met me is none of my business. What I did before I met her is none of hers, unless I want to share it. My focus is on me. The only thing…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/22 05:41 PM
1	Complaining about high N-count women is a fundamental misunderstanding of the red pill principles. Fair enough. If it were me, I’d invest a bit of time figuring out why that is. What someone does in their past shouldn’t define who they are in the present. Your choices in life got you to where you are now, and we’ve all made choices we aren’t proud of. I’d rather a woman had options and explored those, only to find out of all of those, she chose me as I did her. Just some advice. Do with it what you will.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/22 02:18 PM
1	Complaining about high N-count women is a fundamental misunderstanding of the red pill principles. Personally, I don’t care. I’m not sitting around worried about it. My wife is either loyal or she isn’t. If I find she isn’t, I prioritize myself and move on. lol I have no problem finding someone new. I’m the prize. The difference between me and the insecure is that I put the work in. I worked at being the best version of me. I’m confident in what I bring to the table. If someone takes that for granted or takes advantage, that’s their poor choice and I can move on knowing I couldn’t have done m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/22 01:52 PM
-1	Complaining about high N-count women is a fundamental misunderstanding of the red pill principles. it’s fair that you feel that way, but it doesn’t seem very fair to judge someone else with your standards. Couldn’t that person just get tested, since we aren’t living 100s of years ago? And if that person tested clean, is it still an issue? With that, what if a woman lied to you and said she only slept with one person, but really slept with 30 people? You wouldn’t know the difference if she didn’t tell you. So why the difference when you know versus when you don’t? I’m just asking because I thi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/22 12:32 AM
0	Complaining about high N-count women is a fundamental misunderstanding of the red pill principles. I’m curious, so I’m gonna ask: why do you (if you do) care what a woman’s n count is?	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/11/22 08:30 PM
5	Deciding I need to open the relationship up (x-post from MarriedRedPill) Bahahahahahahaha! I see this playing out… her banging dudes on the regular while you desperately try to find someone to even pay attention to you. You can’t even get her wet, how are you going to get other chicks? You need to fix your shit first. Stop being dumb and looking for a shortcut. Do the work. Probably NGMI.	/r/askMRP	18/11/22 12:06 PM
-1	A woman’s past is important for men in the same way that a man’s height is important to women First of all, nice victim mentality. Poor men. Poor me. How about “men” take some accountability for their own thoughts. Why is it a woman’s body count matters? Why would anyone fucking care? First of all, its no ones fucking business. Secondly, the only dudes that care are probably the ones who don’t want her experiencing a better dick/sex partner. If she has, then it makes the dudes feel insecure. “Oh no, i could get better at sex, but I’m too much of a little bitch and it’s easier to blame wo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/22 11:25 PM
1	A woman’s past is important for men in the same way that a man’s height is important to women The only reason anyone would care about a woman’s body count is because they’re insecure. lol The only reason dudes put emphasis on height is because they’re insecure. This is all on the dudes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/11/22 09:13 PM
6	You cannot blame men (fully) for being very cynical about women these days. JFC dude. Who makes decisions for you now?! Heaven fucking forbid you make decisions for your own life. And if you already are, then what changes that in a relationship? These are things you should consider doing for yourself as a standard, not because you’re in a relationship. At the end of the day, you don’t have to step up. Just don’t be “cynical” for a choice YOU are making.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/22 08:41 PM
0	If hypothetically, female participation in the Job market drives down the value of male labor- creating an economy requiring Dual income households. Why do SOME women get upset about splitting bills or going “50/50” ? I didn’t say they were happy about it, I’m saying they do it with a covert contract. They could easily ask the other person to pay their share, but they won’t because they hope it pays out and asking might ruin their chances of getting laid. If their focus was to have a good time, they’d be less likely to care about the payout (sex) and ask the other person to chip in if it’s an issue. Then they could use their personality to get laid. lol a crazy concept.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/22 07:14 PM
0	If hypothetically, female participation in the Job market drives down the value of male labor- creating an economy requiring Dual income households. Why do SOME women get upset about splitting bills or going “50/50” ? lol because for most men still believe food = sex. They’re willing to take that chance because those dudes are bottom feeders in the sex pool. Then they complain that the chick got what she wanted and they didn’t… which, ironically, keeps them as bottom feeders because they won’t learn from it. They just whine about it and keep doing it over and over again because it worked a few times. Covert contracts and such. Maybe you could just stop expecting sex and be the guy that wants to have a good ti…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/22 06:40 PM
3	If you expect men to handle roughly half the housework and childcare, would you also be willing to split expenses halfway? It’s 2022. Does it matter? Do whatever makes both people happy. That being said, I’d imagine you’re going to find most people don’t split things evenly, regardless who makes more. Those who do are using it as power to manipulate the other person. lol my opinion: just focus on getting shit done and worry about whose responsibility it is later. If someone helps you do the chores, cool. If not, you’d have to do the work anyway. If someone doesn’t help out as much as you’d like, adjust partners acco…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/22 11:01 PM
1	How do redpilled men view lesbians? Only somebody insecure would care. Truthfully, it’s nobody’s fucking business.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/22 03:39 AM
1	Dating would be a lot more easier for both sexes if most women made the first moves. Am I, though?! And to be fair, I am smart. It’s why I’m able to have conversations with women while not boring them with statements like: “hey babe, what’s your body county?!” It’s probably also why I don’t have your problems. I move with confidence and I don’t let dumb shit get in my head. You probably move with predictable awkwardness because sex is your goal. My goal is to take an interest in the other person and decide if she’s the kind of person I’d want to sleep with. You’d be fascinated t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/10/22 11:09 PM
3	Dating would be a lot more easier for both sexes if most women made the first moves. lol sounds like it’s your ego. If a woman likes you, she’s usually cool with you taking the lead (unless she’s into leading, I suppose). If you’re a douche, they probably don’t want to fuck you and find it easier to dodge your advances. It’s that simple. You guys make this shit way too hard. lol you dudes blame women for a lot of shit, but it’s a bit funny if you step back, and look at the bigger picture. There’s only one constant.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/10/22 09:52 PM
1	I hear a lot of people say that women "aren't rocket science" When it comes to dating. I disagree wholeheartedly. lol bro, what you’re chasing is validation. With a creative palette having only the depth of shallow, your only hope is getting rich. But then again, you usually have to be kinda smart to do that on purpose. If I were you, I’d play the hell out of the local lotto. lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/10/22 12:30 AM
1	I hear a lot of people say that women "aren't rocket science" When it comes to dating. I disagree wholeheartedly. Some want to have power to impact the world, but I imagine most want to have it so they don’t have to fix themselves… lol a cheat code of sorts.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/22 07:47 PM
1	I hear a lot of people say that women "aren't rocket science" When it comes to dating. I disagree wholeheartedly. lol what do you consider a “top-tier” woman? A woman that’s hot… ?	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/22 07:17 PM
1	To people who agree with redpill ideas, what real life experience or event in your life convinced you that redpill ideas are true and makes sense? lol right?! Good luck homie!	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/22 03:43 AM
0	To people who agree with redpill ideas, what real life experience or event in your life convinced you that redpill ideas are true and makes sense? Doesn’t change anything. She’ll smell it eventually. 🤘	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/22 03:32 AM
1	To people who agree with redpill ideas, what real life experience or event in your life convinced you that redpill ideas are true and makes sense? Hahahaha! You do you then, homie. You reek of insecurity. It should bode well for you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/22 01:46 AM
1	To people who agree with redpill ideas, what real life experience or event in your life convinced you that redpill ideas are true and makes sense? It took a lot of work on my part to stop being such a douche. I had to own all of my issues and work on them daily. I don’t need looks or money to get chicks. I get them because I establish who I am, what I want, and I have established morals and boundaries that guide me, I’m not just going with the flow. Lastly, I’m not afraid of failure. So if they don’t like me, I don’t really care. I don’t need anyone’s validation.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/22 12:26 AM
0	To people who agree with redpill ideas, what real life experience or event in your life convinced you that redpill ideas are true and makes sense? Your problem is that you think because we find attraction one way, then women must too. Physical attraction is a much smaller piece of the pie. Pete Davidson would still be hooking up with 10s, regardless how much money he makes. Why? Because he’s real about who he is, what he wants, and he doesn’t give a fuck if you like it or don’t. That’s alpha. Your weak view of thinking looks play a bigger part of it is your insecurity. It’s weakness. And women can see it all over you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/22 12:11 AM
1	To people who agree with redpill ideas, what real life experience or event in your life convinced you that redpill ideas are true and makes sense? Yeah, Kim K was with him for his money… who the fuck am I going to bring up that’s not famous that you’d know?! I owe you guys nothing. I’m not sitting here telling you this for my entertainment. I’m where you are trying to be. You can take this info and use it to your advantage or you can live out your existence making excuses as to why others have an advantage that you don’t. Not my problem, either way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/22 11:59 PM
1	To people who agree with redpill ideas, what real life experience or event in your life convinced you that redpill ideas are true and makes sense? Always a reason it’s out of your control, right? NGMI	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/22 11:44 PM
3	To people who agree with redpill ideas, what real life experience or event in your life convinced you that redpill ideas are true and makes sense? lol right. Tell that to Pete Davidson. I can’t tell you how many chicks found him to not be physically attractive, but then changed tune when they watched his character in interviews. His confidence and ability to laugh off his mistakes completely changed his level of attraction. You probably just don’t have the balls to go for what you want and then use not being attractive enough as a crutch.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/22 08:14 PM
8	To people who agree with redpill ideas, what real life experience or event in your life convinced you that redpill ideas are true and makes sense? Being “nice” and a “good person” have to come from a different place in order for it to be considered a quality. Being nice to get what you want is manipulation and is unattractive. Being nice because that’s the moral choice you made and wanting nothing in return is respectable. Which one you are will become obvious when/if you start whining about what you aren’t getting in return for being “nice.”	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/22 04:44 PM
7	To people who agree with redpill ideas, what real life experience or event in your life convinced you that redpill ideas are true and makes sense? Fair enough, but definitely disagree. The reason you notice anything is because it’s already in your head. Ever see average dudes with hot chicks? It’s because those dudes weren’t hung up on what they look like. Watch a movie (with a chick) with the same actor, one where he’s more of the hero of the story and one where he’s an insecure douche. They will find him attractive in the first and unattractive in the second, even if he looks exactly the same. Looks might open the window of opportunity m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/22 04:10 PM
6	To people who agree with redpill ideas, what real life experience or event in your life convinced you that redpill ideas are true and makes sense? Women are typically more attracted to character. There is visual attraction, but there’s less emphasis on looks if you’re confident. My guess is that you’re not all that confident. Want to be the guy that goes for what he wants? Establish your morals and boundaries, then get to failing. You have to fail in order to become confident in something. Fail until you figure out what works. It’s that or you’ll stay a beta, too afraid to do anything.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/22 03:01 PM
9	Should women expect cheating if they get into a relationship with a HVM (High value man)? Bro, there’s value in character and value as in resources. If a woman wants only resources, then your version of HVM would probably be acceptable. What everyone is trying to convey is that to truly be a HVM, you aren’t looking to have your ego constantly validated. You set boundaries and establish who you are with the person you are with. Cheating and being dishonest about it creates a subtraction in value. True HVM are honest up front about who they are and what they want, regardless what that …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/10/22 03:54 PM
0	Why are most divorces initiated by women? Because men spend too much time trying to figure out who initiates more divorces instead of spending time on themselves and their families.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/10/22 06:15 PM
0	Q4W - which of the following two men would you rather have? lol I have to know… is it women escaping to the mountains or from the mountains?	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/09/22 12:38 AM
1	First Mate Wanted Me To Hire A Bailing Expert The point that I’m trying to make is that in order to repair the trust with his wife, it would be easier if he saw the criticism as suggestions. If it’s a good idea, take it for what it is instead of getting butt-hurt and taking a stance against the idea simply because it hurts his ego. It’s not about her, but his reactions to her. If he can see her comments as a positive instead of a negative, it’s easier to maintain frame, which will eventually lead back to trust. When my wife gives me suggest…	/r/askMRP	22/09/22 05:12 PM
1	First Mate Wanted Me To Hire A Bailing Expert No fucking shit. I don’t count points for real, jackass. I don’t need to build points to get my wife to like me. it was to illustrate that making good calls and being open minded to her suggestions, or anyones suggestions, goes a ways in their mind and leads them back to trusting your ability to make these calls. Next time, I’ll add “for illustration purposes only” so chodes like you don’t take shit so fucking literal.	/r/askMRP	22/09/22 12:45 PM
1	First Mate Wanted Me To Hire A Bailing Expert Your ego is the problem. When you’re confident, someone criticizing you doesn’t bother you. Her: “You should call the Coast Guard” My inner monologue: I’m not insecure, so I know I could be wrong and that’s okay. I’ll listen with an open mind. I then weigh my confidence level on both solutions and decide which solution has the better probability. “That’s interesting advice. I’m going to try my way first, but will consider yours as an alternative.” Or “Good advice. I’ll try that.” If she’s wrong,…	/r/askMRP	20/09/22 06:56 PM
2	Shouldn't men get extra benefits and privileges since only they bear the responsibility and obligation of having to defend the country during an invasion? If you have to do more you should get more right? There are just as many weak men as there are weak women. You’d be better off concerning yourself with where your boundaries and morals lie and what you are willing to do to protect them, regardless who benefits and who doesn’t.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/09/22 04:13 PM
1	Why do women seem to be less bothered by being single than men? Men need to focus on other shit besides being single or whether or not women are more comfortable with being single. Who gives a shit? Utilize your strengths to build something and work on your weaknesses to improve. Most of you who are in this position are too needy from not having outside shit to focus on. That’s why you’re lonely. It’s self-perpetuating.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/09/22 07:19 PM
1	Leonardo DiCaprio and his girlfriend breaking surprised absolutely no one, however is the whole “no over 25 rule” intentional? I understand that this is the common thought among betas, but the fun you speak of is more of a search for validation. Anyone can buy pussy if they have enough money, but it doesn’t cure the underlying psychological issue that you’ll never find long term satisfaction because the issue is weakness in the ego. Leo, in this post, will forever circle the drain of discontent until he realizes the problems he has can’t be fixed with money, drugs, or pussy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/09/22 03:17 PM
1	Leonardo DiCaprio and his girlfriend breaking surprised absolutely no one, however is the whole “no over 25 rule” intentional? Such a beta thing to say. Where’s the value, other than to your ego, in dating supermodels?	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/09/22 12:35 AM
1	If women generally want the best guys, they should be more willing to accept them having multiple wives lol that’s some beta shit to believe. Thinking there’s a cheat code. Yes, the more money you have, the more you can pay to have sex. But that’s all they’re doing. Doesn’t make them high value. It makes their wallet high value.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/22 06:38 PM
3	If women generally want the best guys, they should be more willing to accept them having multiple wives So why bring up athletes, celebrities, or ultra wealthy men? Their value is rated the same across the board, regardless of their status. What was your point?	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/22 12:27 AM
3	If women generally want the best guys, they should be more willing to accept them having multiple wives Money and fame does not necessarily equal value. I’ve encountered plenty of dudes who had money, but were total shit stains, vying for attention by flashing their money simply because they had nothing else to offer. Your character and confidence will serve you better in the long run for creating value for yourself.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/22 10:21 PM
4	If women generally want the best guys, they should be more willing to accept them having multiple wives Sounds like someone is projecting.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/22 07:05 PM
7	The RP/Manosphere is making the Beta Bucks an endangered species and many women are going to be screwed. The only thing that’s changing is men’s ability to point the finger at someone else to blame for their problems. lol women aren’t the problem. Weak men are. If you have to put this much thought into women instead of working on yourself or your goals, you are the problem.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/22 04:24 PM
3	Women often like guys who treat them as disposable You’re spending all this time trying to figure out women instead of trying to better yourself. That’s your problem.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/07/22 02:06 AM
4	Demonstrating Anger If you need a more objective way of looking at it, replace your wife in this story with your best friend. Someone you don’t see as owing you something. How would you have reacted in the exact same scenario? Would you have stayed butt-hurt all day or left it at the apology and went on to make the best of your remaining time? You felt disrespected. How would you express that to a friend?	/r/askMRP	31/05/22 09:49 PM
4	Question / Field Report on STFU The whole point to any of this process is to fix you. What all that entails is up to you. I know not to tell people about their morals and how they want to live their life. Their choice. But no matter the choice, there will always be a reaction to those choices. The type of reaction will depend on the choice made. If you want a better reaction, make better choices. Your goal isn’t to play mind games where you are being a mute while she is overreacting to a situation. Yes, she was overreacting, b…	/r/askMRP	30/05/22 07:15 PM
-2	Question / Field Report on STFU Yes you are. You know how to STFU. It’s pretty fucking simple. You just close your fucking mouth. Who cares if you STFU when you’re the asshole? Next time, just let her know. It’s her car. If you fuck up, own it. It was a douche move.	/r/askMRP	30/05/22 03:49 AM
1	Question / Field Report on STFU Did you tell her you were going to take the car? I’d be pissed if you took my ride and didn’t tell me. Secondly, you came here for what? Validation that she’s the crazy one? Yet, you’re the one who wrote all this garbage out. Stop being a douche. All you had to do was say something. Own the bad choice and move on with your life. That simple.	/r/askMRP	30/05/22 03:27 AM
2	Is this an unreasonable amount of shit tests? And was my response valid? Stop keeping track of who did what. Live like everything is your responsibility and just handle it. If she wants onboard, she’ll start helping more. If not, then you’re well practiced for doing things on your own. If you need her to do something for logistics, tell her. Stop negotiating and live like you have a constant plan in motion.	/r/askMRP	27/05/22 03:33 PM
-1	Women don’t want men to even the playing field by actively cultivating back up options since it ruins their leverage JFC you need a hobby. Care less about what other people are or aren’t doing, including women. Most of your problems will go away.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/22 02:08 AM
3	One week into TRP and I have decided to divorce my wife of 3 years When you have been here for more than a minute, you’ll know how valuable this guy’s advice can be. You aren’t worth his time because you can’t make yourself worth your time. People on here don’t owe you shit. Earn it. I’d suggest checking your ego, shutting your mouth, and getting to work. If you can’t take the hits, you aren’t the man you think you are.	/r/MarriedRedPill	02/10/20 06:41 PM
7	One week into TRP and I have decided to divorce my wife of 3 years I think you are doing your wife a favor. If you have that much of a bitch attitude, she will definitely find someone better. You’ve most likely been entitled, lazy, and complacent throughout your relationship and now you want the easy way out, again. No wonder she doesn’t fuck you. Take your easy way out and never improve yourself. You will be back again and again, looking for sympathy because someone won’t do the hard work for you and you keep failing. I’ve been working on myself for two years …	/r/MarriedRedPill	02/10/20 06:12 PM
1	Shit and Respect The problem isn’t the shit test, it’s that you have no frame. When you do, her small emotional outbursts are just that, outbursts, and have no impact on how you feel about yourself.	/r/askMRP	08/02/19 08:53 PM