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“She’s not yours, it’s just your turn”
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 03:30 AM
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Godspeed my man.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/26 06:22 AM
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Probably so but alot of women are bringing heavy financial debt into relationships these days. Mine had $40k in credit card debt when I met her. 🚩🚩🚩
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/26 04:48 PM
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There are numerous ways that the debt can be paid or offset. Either with property, marital assets or cash accounts. It doesn’t always have to be paid immediately but that will be between you, the wife and the lawyers. It can be paid in whatever way you agree for it to be paid. As for the college debt BS, in my state any debt that occurs after you cease to live like a married couple is all seen as individual debt. So the moment someone moves out, any debt belongs to the person who racked it up. S…
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/26 04:47 PM
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Been there brother. First, the debt will depend on when it was accumulated. Only what was accumulated during your marriage will be counted against you and it’s possible your attorney could argue what the items of purchase are if the credit card statements show it was mostly spent on purchases for herself and not for things related to the household. Second, unless she has used substantial and traceable amounts of money for the upkeep or betterment of your property, she’ll be entitled to no part o…
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/26 12:31 AM
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Yea don’t focus too much on women. If you’re a successful, stable, and in shape person, they’ll come. Just don’t rush in.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/26 06:16 AM
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Happens man. The hardest part is letting go of the person she was and the person you enjoyed being with her. Once you realize that it’s just a chapter in your life and other good opportunities will come, the easier it’ll be. You’ll get through it man. Just keep working on yourself and don’t spend too much time in the past.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/26 06:11 AM
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Went to Long John Silvers, got a family meal and ate all of it. Used to be the go to celebration meal back when I lived in a trailer as a kid. Felt a lot of guilt and regret about the divorce but it needed done.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/26 12:31 AM
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Strongly recommend you have some self reflection on your own life and what you want. Figure out what her deal is and what she wants. Compare and contrast. Then make a choice. It’s pretty simple. But if she’s “an aging bitch wife” well….it might be too late already.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/26 05:11 PM
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You’re actually more likely to get it from a woman who had a “hoe phase” in college than a high level escort. A woman being a professional hooker is much safer than the “ I was just having fun” girl who gave it away to a roster of men for free.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/25 03:50 PM
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You’re right about one thing, “she’s throwing her future away”. You reproduced with a bad egg. Do what you can to get your child so that the cycle doesn’t perpetuate. The poison drips through.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/25 06:19 PM
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Agreed. I don’t know any other group where life is demonstrably worse for them and we go “ yea it’s your fault, figure it out”. If other groups are failing we say “ that’s a problem” but when it comes to men we say “you’re the problem”
/r/MensRights15/11/25 05:38 AM
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Accountability is support. We’re not women. No amount of BS is gonna make him whole again. Self reflection and holding himself accountable is what he needs. Not a hug.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/25 04:51 PM
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Yea I would speak to her as little as possible. Unless reconciliation is the goal, anything you say or do can be used against you in the court of law. Get a good attorney, be ready to pay. Only forward, never back.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/25 05:53 PM
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What’s your attorney have to say about it? You played a rigged game my friend.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/25 08:34 PM
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All too familiar man. My big advice, you put that guilt and abandoning stuff to bed right now before she uses it against you. My divorce was 18 months of guilt, shame, and self hatred. To the point where she didn’t even need to say a word after a while, it was all self sustaining. Many sleepless nights feeling bad for someone who was using my ambivalence and delaying to her advantage. She’ll be fine and if not, the court will find a way to make sure she is. Be on team You. She’ll have an entire …
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/25 01:48 AM
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Just how they are. It’s a feature not a bug.
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/25 04:13 PM
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I wish I had a set very specific dates and times on when things would happen post divorce. Getting my cat and my other stuff back out of the house has been an ordeal that she has made harder. I would have things happen within a certain window of time and if either party doesn’t comply then “x” happens. Just tight wording that doesn’t allow BS. The court doesn’t know your ex and what levels of petty she can be, but you do.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 02:59 PM
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No offense man, but you need to get you back up and running. Women work a good bit differently than we do when it comes to finances. Most aren’t built to provide financially in the long run. The resentment will grow. If you acquiesce, get married again and have another kid, you’re asking for trouble. But by all means, do what you gotta do.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/25 03:49 PM
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It was either I did it now or she did it in 10 years. Only regret is I underestimated her at times during the divorce and that I didn’t do it years earlier. Get your affairs in order and prepare for the war.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/25 05:25 PM
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As harsh as this may seem to some, this is what being a man is about. We don’t bullshit each other like the women’s groups do. I approve. OP, it’ll pas. Stay strong, don’t look externally. Only time and your perseverance will get you through it. Nobody can take the pain away from you, but it’s your time to live your life for you. “Like a drifter I was born to walk alone”
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/25 07:07 PM
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Hard to say but it’s hovering around the same I believe. Less people are getting married as well so maybe those getting married today really want to but 50 percent still get divorced. It’s sad that people can’t find a way to be invaluable to each other enough to stay together. My ex and a lot of women have to compete with the high life satisfaction I have when I’m alone. If your life is substantially easier and more rewarding without her, she doesn’t stand a chance.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/25 06:08 PM
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Not anymore. People change and they most definitely will change. Deep down there will always be a part of me that somewhat dreams for that but that doesn’t exist much in the modern world. You can aim for it, but your forever is also predicated on their feelings. Which we know are very fickle. Im fine with trying to find a good person to spend your life with. But if you think it’s going to be forever and it’s going to remain great, good luck. It can happen but the numbers speak for themselves and…
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/25 04:21 PM
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I don’t think it really matters either way. Meeting in real life has a tendency to mean you met doing similar things which is good if they’re healthy things (gym, church, hobby) but it won’t save you from divorce lol. There is no perfect setup. Your story is similar to thousands of other men. I prescribe to just living in the real world for myself and chatting when it’s convenient and appropriate. At the end of the day “She’s not yours, it’s just your turn”. Just how it goes.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/25 03:17 PM
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You have boundaries and you’re maintaining those. That’s a win. I believe a lot of them can’t help but want to control everything from the beginning. They want you to be the man that has boundaries and takes charge but simultaneously try to test those until they find a weak spot to assert dominance . I don’t know if this is by design or by programming but the vast majority I’ve met are so similar to what I divorced that I’m starting to believe in the phrase “ Get a dog, die alone”
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/25 04:53 PM
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Our ideals shifted. Especially during Covid. We Stopped liking each other. It’s hard to want to be intimate or close to someone who doesn’t see the world similarly to how you see it. My regrets are that I didn’t speak my peace about it earlier and that I didn’t call it quits earlier. But it’s done now.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 03:20 PM
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Facts on cutting off contact but I would say digital and written communication might be the only safe thing you do. That way it’s in writing and she can’t claim you verbally assaulted her haha.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 03:39 AM
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Then keep at it and don’t ruin a good thing. You’re getting the milk for free, don’t buy the cow.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/25 03:03 AM
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Don’t cohabitate man. You don’t need to do that to meet some standard unless it’s something you truly want. Living with women today can be a tough pill and it slows erodes away a lot of good times.
/r/Divorce_Men30/07/25 02:52 AM
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This is some solid advice. Actions have consequences but it shouldn’t be a life sentence without parole. My life wouldve torture if I had stayed, glad I didn’t. OP messed up and similar to myself, just shouldn’t have married. Mistake made and lesson learned.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/25 09:03 PM
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I’ll be the first to say, I get where you’re coming from. Though this is usually for the men who have been wronged as another commenter said, my story is somewhat similar to yours. My wife and were extremely rocky as a married couple but great friends. After barely having any intimacy for so long and then it feeling like sympathy sex when I got it, I knew I had to move on so that I wouldn’t have to play the “I’m sorry but I….” game. It has been rough at times. Feeling as though I let my desires …
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/25 07:08 PM
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You take the easy wins when they come. I’m going through something similar but I won’t be taking payments. Shell Refinance now or sell.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/25 05:11 PM
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Good deal for you. Horrible for her haha. Idk why she agreed to that. I would never be paid out that slowly and then for you to get the future appreciation?!? You must’ve had the good attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/25 02:57 PM
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Facts 💯
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/25 12:02 AM
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My exact experience. It was all “ I’ll change. Things can be different.” Then it became “ You’re giving up and quitting on us” to finally finding out the locks had been changed but she still thought i was required to pay the utilities and the mortgage. No kids and thank God for that. Get the best lawyer money can buy and start putting away cash immediately.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/25 06:10 PM
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Talk to an attorney, several actually. Get your finances in order. As one of the early posters mentioned, rip the band aid off man. My divorce is still on going after almost 18 months because I let my guilt and shame decide for me. I didn’t have the nuts to do what needed to be done early on. I made it harder on both of us by staying and being ambivalent. Step one is getting everything in order but don’t let that be the end. It won’t be easy and you’ll go through the cycle of fear and regret. Bu…
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/25 06:05 PM
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Amen brother.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/25 02:17 AM
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Tons of reasons but I think it’s in the human disposition to think “ahh this is different…what we have is different”When truly, the modern western world we live in just doesn’t make marriage a smart move for any man. What you stand to gain is minimal and mostly in your head and what you stand to lose is substantial and most definitely real. Strongly suggest you pick up The Book of Numbers and The Menu by Aaron Clarey. Once you know the numbers, that little “ maybe I’ll be different” will still b…
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/25 11:56 PM
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100 percent correct. He said nothing but the truth. My divorce has mentally challenged me in a lot of ways and forced me to stop being the lack luster lying soft person I was during the marriage. You have to come to the conclusion that it’s a process that no matter who you have around, the struggle is all yours. You gotta feel it, deal with it and start new. You can’t sit in it becuase nobody is coming to save you. There’s a great book called “You are the One You’ve Been Waiting For”. Team that …
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/25 05:25 PM
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When you see a storm coming, you prepare as much you possibly can. I strongly recommend consulting with multiple divorce attorneys, get your finances in order, confide in YOUR close family and friends, not anyone that was hers first. That last one is one I refrained from for a while. I was pretty worried about the embarrassment or the “ yea well you’re kind of a jerk so….” But those closest to me all supported me. They even began to confess things like “ yea I wanted to tell you but I didn’t wan…
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/25 04:33 PM
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My wife slowly became more and more obsessed with all of those things left leaning. She also became apart of the LGBTQ+ community in some way and after that, any differences we had weren’t just differences to her. They were existential threats. All aspects of traditional masculinity were deemed toxic and questioning of her logic were considered a life altering threat and somewhat sacrilegious. When you say religious differences, you’re not kidding. The funny part is, she also is religious. She’s…
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/25 04:01 PM
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Men make up the overwhelming share of the GDP. If they go away right now, youre in a third world slum. So what men are good for is a pretty easy answer. Your power grid, your internet, your infrastructure, your commercial transport, etc. They inherently provide for all of society but I guess they should also give you half of their personal items and financials in a divorce too?
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/25 04:26 PM
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