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I can't believe no one has told these guys how to properly countergame a provider hunter. This is outrageous we haven't covered this. As an older guy, I'd really like to see that documented. When you're over 40 the world is full of provider-hunters. Shit, I've seen provider poachers out there. A lot of them recognize chad as a mistake and will not play his game any more (much as they may want to).
/r/TheRedPill03/01/18 08:07 PM
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It's what therapists do.
/r/askTRP19/12/17 10:00 PM
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keep in mind tho, true friendship between men and women does not exist I keep wanting that statement not to be true, but the more I look at the world... Even in the best situation (man not in denial) she will probably think of you as an orbiter which makes the dynamic different than a real friend.
/r/askTRP15/12/17 11:58 PM
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Contrary to popular belief, most women have next to no empathy at all. I was reading one of those Bill Gates letters last year in which he addressed their efforts to eradicate polio. It was somewhat moving, and when I got to the part where he said there were only 37 cases word wide, it brought a tear to my eye. We're that close to eliminating something terrible from the world. I read that part to my wife and she responded as though I had just read a headline "Dow Jones unchanged for the day" or …
/r/TheRedPill15/12/17 05:45 PM
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He still thinks women are wonderful. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/%22Women_are_wonderful%22_effect They can actually be more nasty (deceptive, lying, cruel, etc) than men. The other trap is their attractiveness - makeup, the way they dress, it's all designed the same way as advertising. In fact, much advertising for other products uses hot women to draw you in. Breaking this "women are wonderful" phenomenon was extremely difficult for me, but I've gotten rid of it in 90 percent of cases. Readin…
/r/TheRedPill11/12/17 09:45 PM
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First of all reality has no agenda, reality doesn't obfuscate, lie, manipulate and does not pursue her feelz drived urges b/c she has none. Secondly, reality cannot submit to you. All you need to do is substitute "the world around you" for reality. If that's not specific enough then "the people in the world around you". Then it's all true. Reality doesn't throw up obstacles, people do. The reality is that people will shit test you and try to bring you down all the time. By not accepting the meta…
/r/TheRedPill12/11/17 11:17 PM
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poundmetoo I hadn't noticed that interpretation of the hashtag. Thanks!
/r/TheRedPill26/10/17 08:55 PM
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Are you on the spectrum? Maybe, but not the spectrum you're thinking of ;-) But yeah, looking at it I can't believe I wrote that response. WTF?
/r/TheRedPill16/10/17 05:55 PM
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Of course, she'll have got it all out of her system! She'll never wonder what it's like to be with other guys! She'll be able to fully commit! And she'll be experienced and know what she wants! It won't be out of her system. She will know what it's like to be with other guys, but she'll be seeking someone who is a composite of all the best ones she's ever had and no man can live up to that. She will want to commit as the wall approaches. And to your last point, yes she'll know what she wants, bu…
/r/TheRedPill12/10/17 04:54 PM
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Alpha is neither good or bad, You can be a good person, genuinely nice and still be Alpha and get women, or you can be an awful shit human and get women. The key here is psychology. In psychological terms, and Alpha is a self-actualized man. An awful shit of a human, a narcissist, psychopath, or whatever is a person with serious issues. There's a huge fucking difference.
/r/TheRedPill11/10/17 03:06 PM
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Yep. Some women are devoted. An older friend of the family died, he was totally hen-pecked (his wifes words). At the funeral, when everyone was getting ready to drive to the grave site, his wife sat down in her car and died. This was widely accepted as her not being able to live without him. This couple had been married for many decades. Don't let TRP tell you AWALT in every case, that's just a guideline.
/r/TheRedPill09/10/17 08:18 PM
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Even if she waits 10 years to go to court to get the order. You think she's gonna stay married to Mr beta that long? Hah!
/r/askTRP09/10/17 07:53 PM
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I thought the same thing at first. I read it and was just waiting to read the comments to see what the big red flag is that I missed. People pointing out the club-slut selfies have a point. But ultimately I see someone with no ambition here looking for a retirement plan. She's starting to see that life is hard - maybe even understands the wall - but she hasn't taken responsibility for herself yet.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/10/17 08:41 PM
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That last step... Why would you EVER do that?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen06/10/17 08:25 PM
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One side note. Even after learning about their nature and AWALT and all this stuff, I still find myself thinking/feeling "daaaamn I'd like to hit that" when I see a woman I find really attractive. That is to say out on the street or whenever. Then I remember that I don't even know that person and have no reason to believe she's anything special. Heck, she probably doesn't even look good on a Monday morning when she wakes up. It's all in our wiring to have those responses to their appearance. Onc…
/r/askTRP26/09/17 05:49 PM
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she says "Seeing muscles like that makes me uncomfortable". No, it aroused her. What made her uncomfortable was being aroused in that context/situation. She didn't lie. She didn't rationalize anything. She just described the secondary effect, which may well have hidden the primary effect from her consciousness.
/r/TheRedPill26/09/17 05:37 PM
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only a man knows how hard it can be to be a man sometimes Truth.
/r/askTRP25/09/17 08:48 PM
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Yeah, some of us don't have that. When I was going through some depression and in therapy, I realized that I needed to have more social support outside that office. I called my brother and had a big emotional meltdown. He kinda understood, but it damaged our already weak relationship. Next time I talked to him it turned out he was going through his own shit too - just not able to deal with mine. People in a bad or dark place are not easy to deal with for those without experience and understandin…
/r/TheRedPill23/09/17 06:38 PM
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These women were turning to infidelity not as a way to explode a marriage, but as a way to stay in it. The hamster is in overdrive. They're willing to cheat in order to get AF without giving up BB. It's not that they care about the marriage, it's that they want to stay for the BB. Since they already rode the CC in their younger days, they know chad won't commit so this is their compromise.
/r/TheRedPill21/09/17 06:55 PM
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whenever i ask girls for their address they normally give it to me, so i dont understand what went wrong, and why I have to "meet them in public" Isnt a date in a pool hall a fucking public meeting anyways Yes it is public. If she didn't know you at all, and particularly if she had any past experience with creeps or stalker-type behavior, giving out her address early would not feel safe. Meeting you in public is safer. I suppose you wanted to pick her up at her place though. You should verify th…
/r/askTRP20/09/17 08:49 PM
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She wanted to meet you in public first. Asking for her address shut her down and there was no reason for it. You should have picked a place to meet and brought her into your world, not tried to find a way into hers.
/r/askTRP19/09/17 09:23 PM
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Seriously the shittiest post ever. You failed to point out any problems with the post. Sure women often fall for narcs, but this post was about narc women. Your comment is all about you man, perhaps you do have NPD!
/r/TheRedPill19/09/17 02:52 PM
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6's and 7's can often be a lot more fun to hang out with and sleep with than perfect 10's. In fact, they usually are. The hottest girls are often not worth the headache. This is good confirmation, but I don't think that statement is appropriate for men who haven't mastered TRP yet (myself included). It gives them an excuse not to try for the 10's - to allow themselves to give up before they've reached the top. I see so many posts here by guys talking about HB7-8s thinking they're nailing this TR…
/r/TheRedPill18/09/17 08:18 PM
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you have to start living your life for yourself and not for the approval of others One of life's greatest lessons to learn but also one of its most difficult. It helps to experience an in-your-face dramatic example of how harmful it can be to pander to the needs of others. You must read all the TRP material, but once you understand it you need to experience it first hand for it to really sink in.
/r/TheRedPill15/09/17 07:39 PM
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Tracy is cheerful, pretty girl in her twenties. And she's riding the CC. It's that simple. She's got options and she's going to try different things until she sees or hits the wall. This isn't about AF/BB it's about her having fun.
/r/TheRedPill15/09/17 07:26 PM
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I am Asian and we don't have such liberal mindset. If I adapt this then I'll be alone in the society. People will think that I am impotent or gay. You're buying into that whole blue-pill thinking. People are telling you how to be and you believe they won't like you any other way. the truth is that we all appreciate and respect a self-actualized person who is authentically himself and doesn't let others dictate his agenda. Yes, you'll get pushback and friction and people will try to bring you dow…
/r/askTRP14/09/17 03:01 PM
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Things are moving the direction I want them to, and I don't care how long it takes because I have other options, like, duh, my wife. I'm in phase one with some aspects of phase two. I started talking to random people at the bar - men, women, couples - in order to improve my social skills. Sometimes I flirt and sometime I escalate a little bit. I find being married means IDGAF became easy because I have no intention of closing. Whenever you honestly DGAF, take note of your own mental state so you…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 08:08 PM
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If you don't realize that the greatest gift a woman can give you is a family Almost any woman can give you children. You've got oneitis for this one who is still fucking some other guy. If you continue she might even let him impregnate her and let you believe it's your kid and support her. This situation isn't going to get any better. I understand the desire to have a family, but this woman is not the one for that. There are plenty of other fish.
/r/askTRP12/09/17 07:30 PM
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Society and culture won't accept me... Why do you care? Live your life on your own terms, that's why you were put on this planet in the first place.
/r/askTRP12/09/17 07:22 PM
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I think TRP does itself a disservice by going into areas other than sexual strategy. It's fuzzy. TRP is about sexual strategy, but that apparently is the key to everything in life. Living TRP will bring benefits in all areas of life, so it's natural to point that out sometimes. This post points out that BP ideas are gynocentric in origin, and that's why all the other benefits TRP brings can be had by focusing on sexual strategy. Another way I view it is that everyone in all areas of life will tr…
/r/TheRedPill12/09/17 06:48 PM
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Read the books. WISNIFG and NMMNG and others. When I say no I Feel Guilty is not just for people who can't say no, it's about assertive communication and dealing with peoples indirect manipulations (passing shit tests). No More Mister Nice Guy is more subtle unless you've got it really bad. The first time I read it I saw a few things that fit, but the stuff on covert contracts didn't seem to fit. Then one day I realized that the expected reward in covert contracts can be on a very abstract level…
/r/askTRP11/09/17 07:48 PM
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I have no reason to say anything mean like that It's only mean if it's true. I'm assuming she actually does have great tits. I originally wrote - but deleted - a followup line asking her to prove it. Someone else also suggested that type of thing. There is a lot to be said for presentation and tone, your "Wow, I had no idea..." could come off as condescending or insulting. As you say, make sure she's laughing is key. This reminds me of something someone here once said about approach - it doesn't…
/r/TheRedPill07/09/17 11:56 AM
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That's what I fear may be the case, but mom isn't an overt narc, she's more subtle. And the wife behavior has parallels to shit testing. If I married my mom, I'm way overdue to get out (at high cost). But if it's more along the lines of me needing to learn to handle typical shit then manning up and learning to handle it even better is the right answer. I can't tell if it's a problem or just AWALT. My eyes have been opened to both things recently.
/r/askTRP06/09/17 08:03 PM
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honestly i've seen this shit so much i would have just called her on it. Do you mean call her out on the attention seeking? Do provide some sample lines. I'd be tempted to say "No you don't that's all padding." I'm sure that's a mediocre response compared to what experts here might say.
/r/TheRedPill06/09/17 05:39 PM
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I'm sure her phone number is in the book too. Would you think it's OK to call her there?
/r/TheRedPill05/09/17 06:02 PM
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I wish to join OP with an advice of my own, if you're going to have a therapist for whatever reason, ensure that it's a man... Have to completely agree with this. Remember that a lot of therapists went into the field because they have/had their own issues. If you're reading TRP and trying to shift into that mindset, just imagine bringing up this shit to a woman who has had actual physical or sexual abuse (not the college girl who changed her mind after the fact). I liked my female therapist, but…
/r/TheRedPill05/09/17 05:59 PM
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When you kissed her and made out with her the first time, that's when you leave the party for a few minutes, bring her to your room, bang it out, and go back to the party. It's your party, you do what you want. I'm thinking what he got (5 times in one sleepover) was way better than ducking out of his own party for a quickie. Sex can be so much more than just getting a load out.
/r/TheRedPill05/09/17 05:28 PM
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Props to that dude for actually contacting you. Yep. But she was lying to that guy too - told him she was done with this guy. It would be great if he dumped her and she ended up with neither of them. OTOH someone like that will find another guy real soon but it won't be an upward branch swing. She'll commence a series of the same behavior.
/r/TheRedPill01/09/17 07:32 PM
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If you walk away from an NPD they will be back for the simple reason that they are the only one allowed to end it. They have to be in control and by walking away you are the one in control. One other thing, when they do come back the incident that made you leave will not be brought up by them - as if it never happened. You don't bring it up either. What's more effective than insulting them is to no be phased when they insult you - it robs them of their power.
/r/TheRedPill01/09/17 12:51 AM
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When I Say No I Feel Guilty. It's recommended reading in the side-bar. You read the side bar right? And a lot of the links and recommended reading right? ;-) This sub doesn't work if you just read the posts, the work you need to do is in the side bar.
/r/askTRP30/08/17 12:34 PM
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Did you even read WISNIFG?
/r/askTRP29/08/17 04:58 PM
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Flirty texts and shit like that, confessing I really like her, etc. Your confession was a mistake.
/r/askTRP29/08/17 04:57 PM
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The more attractive a woman is, the more of that shit she gets. There's nothing in what you said that she hasn't heard before. It also puts you beneath her, in that you are starting the conversation from a weaker position - it looks like the whole reason you're talking to her is because you're captivated by something as superficial as her appearance. Or to put it in TRP terms, you walked up and entered HER frame out of the gate.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/17 04:15 PM
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"I think you're quite hot" Really? That's your opening? I thought there was a rule around here about never complementing her physical appearance. Remember, you're supposed to be the prize, not her. She laughed at your betaness.
/r/TheRedPill27/08/17 01:54 AM
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You won't be able to enforce boundaries without being called manipulative. How she handles men in her life is a function of HER boundaries. For him to try to alter that is to impose his own idea of what her boundaries should be. There is a difference between enforcing your own boundaries and trying to impose your ideas onto someone elses. I don't disagree with OP, just wanted to point out what may be a subtlety on the issue of boundaries.
/r/askTRP27/08/17 12:38 AM
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That's an advice he's giving you and it's positive. It was more like analysis, and it was accurate. Perhaps I should have surrounded it with some positive language - good on him for trying, etc... Reality is hard to face in the beginning.
/r/TheRedPill25/08/17 01:57 PM
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I really don't feel like providing the whole conversation but she turned out to be a lesbian. That was either a shit test or she just said it rather than reject you outright. Here I was not taking action for the entire week and the first approach wasn't even a straight girl. Nature rejected me this time. If that's what you need to tell yourself to not feel bad... Lol. We had a bit of conversation afterwards and I remained as relaxed as I could. I could feel my self wanting to shake but I held fr…
/r/TheRedPill24/08/17 05:48 PM
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If I were a woman, I would be embarrassed and ashamed to admit what I am sexually attracted to. Oh the women ARE embarrassed and ashamed to admit it too. They use words with positive connotations to describe the kind of man they are attracted to. Confident not Arrogant. Good looking not Strong enough to fuck me good and kill betas. Self assured, not Narcissistic. And on and on. Each of these pairs lie on a continuum of course, which helps them to either not see the difference or to hide a real p…
/r/TheRedPill24/08/17 05:02 PM
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AI and Machine Learning via NNs is all the rage now. No logic there, just conditioning and training.
/r/TheRedPill22/08/17 08:35 PM
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Agreed. Just Be Yourself is bullshit. Decide who you want to be and work toward that. Decide who you no longer want to be and work away from that. If you're not happy in any way then JBY is accepting defeat.
/r/TheRedPill22/08/17 04:33 PM
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Hey, maybe his friend is great big cuck. Maybe he shoulda tried rubbing more than her feet ;-)
/r/TheRedPill22/08/17 03:06 PM
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This. I've identified my limit as 2 drinks. Beyond that I am more likely to start doing stupid shit too, and that includes beta behaviors that I'm still very much in the process of getting over. OTOH sometimes it's good to see the contrast in yourself clearly even if it makes you cringe.
/r/TheRedPill22/08/17 02:55 PM
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"sounds like your having a bad day, come say hi another time when you're feeling better" That's failure to accept the situation. So is "your loss" depending on how he said it - if the tone is anything that may be seen as trying to bait her back he's blown it. If (as it sounds) he was simply stating the final score then he's fine.
/r/TheRedPill17/08/17 08:36 PM
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And she's giddy that she's about to cheat on her boyfriend, so OP better read about ASD and LMR pronto then the rest of the sidebar.
/r/askTRP16/08/17 09:52 PM
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Most men are rather boring too.
/r/askTRP16/08/17 09:47 PM
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False rape and abuse allegations 'only' happen in 40% of divorces which means 60% of women are not crazy harpies who make false allegations. You're going to need to point to real data for that one. Not that I doubt it's possible, but that is not a trivial claim.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 07:33 PM
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I disagree with having no male friends being a red flag as long as you can maintain a backbone and stay assertive. If you have no male friends (only female friends?), then you have a long way to go. I speak from experience on this, and I still have a long way to go. You liked and understood the book but you're not living it yet.
/r/TheRedPill15/08/17 04:17 PM
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Women are attracted to men that don't give a fuck about women. Drug dealers, drug addicts, career criminals, sociopaths and psychopaths, etc. These types of men confirm womens' opinions of themselves. Which opinion of themselves does it confirm? I know that they are attracted to these types, but how is it self confirming to them?
/r/TheRedPill14/08/17 09:08 PM
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This is the funniest fucking thing I've seen today.
/r/TheRedPill14/08/17 09:06 PM
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That would be the blue-pill ones.
/r/askTRP11/08/17 04:29 PM
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Don't take advice from a guy who killed himself at 46.
/r/askTRP10/08/17 08:52 PM
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The psych folks will often tell you anger is a sort of default emotion often used to mask more painful ones. This could be the case here - guys are crushed inside by the reality, but rather than cry they get angry. You get through it by grieving the loss of your old fake reality. Once you let go of it you can set a new and better course.
/r/TheRedPill07/08/17 04:18 PM
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I have debated that with myself many times. The idea that one of them is actually attracted to the other... I'd always go back to this one female friend I've had for over 20 years since the college days. She's got a couple aspects to her personality that are really great fun to be around, and some that are not. Most importantly I'm not physically attracted to her. I always considered her a perfect example of a male-female friendship. Then one day we were having some pizza and a drink and for the…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 08:14 PM
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She had an abusive dude for a couple years (date-rape kinda guy). Then some loser and then this guy. I fully believe they did not fuck, but he treated her better, took her skiing for the first time, etc... Then she caught him (not in the act) with another chick and dumped him. That was the week before she met me - he was to be her date at the event we met at. Apparently she felt bad for ditching him without proper closure. Then 20 years later he dies and she goes through all this shit and basica…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/17 07:04 PM
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not to nitpick, but I'm having trouble with that use of the word complicity. What do you mean? I can keep it lighthearted with a little different wording, a pleasant voice and a smile.
/r/TheRedPill26/07/17 08:17 PM
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So the answer is "I'm a garbage man." What are your thoughts on calling her out? i.e. "Oh, you're just looking for a guy with a good job eh?" or something about being a gold digger.
/r/TheRedPill26/07/17 06:53 PM
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You need to understand the significance of an emotional affair. It is very hard to fix a marriage after such a betrayal. What if he's dead? An ex of my wife died some years ago and she went into this whole episode of pining and wondering what happened (cause of death is unknown). I figured she was just going through a thing, but when I pointed out had she basically ignored me for 2 years she likened it to an "emotional affair". Worth noting that this was the guy before me, it was not an LTR, and…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/17 05:08 PM
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He has a big dick This seems like something to A&A. "Don't tell her about it, she might get scared." etc...
/r/askTRP25/07/17 07:30 PM
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Yes. It was ASD, not a shit test.
/r/askTRP20/07/17 05:48 PM
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Are you or have you ever been married or in an LTR? Your viewpoint is not really relevant otherwise. In fact, you would just be a case study in what is being described here.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/17 05:13 PM
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I'm definitely not seeking her approval - it's more like trying to diffuse her questioning or disapproval (perhaps that's the same thing). But you are totally correct that I'm doing it to avoid shit tests and confrontation. Thanks for clarifying that for me.
/r/askTRP11/07/17 11:04 AM
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I always viewed it as naggy and shutting her up would normally lead to her feeling buthurt or escalating. This time felt very different though so I'm asking if naggy behavior is really just shit testing and needs to be dealt with as such.
/r/askTRP10/07/17 09:14 PM
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Well it's been over 20 years and this shit comes and goes. It's only really dawning on me that I do in fact have to smack it down but in the right way.
/r/askTRP10/07/17 09:12 PM
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Thanks for that. I tend to explain myself to avoid crap (more shit tests?) when I get back, but if I had been doing something productive then I can just point that out if she gives me any crap about it.
/r/askTRP10/07/17 09:10 PM
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Her comment did get to me, she does that shit all the time. Nothing is ever good enough for her. There can be a list of 8 things that need done in the yard and I do 5 of them and get shit for not doing HER top priority items instead. It's dawning on me that these incidents have always been shit tests and perhaps my response doesn't even matter, but maintaining frame/calm in the face of it is all that counts. I poked a sensitive spot by saying she says stupid things and it didn't phase her - that…
/r/askTRP10/07/17 09:08 PM
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you think she isn't capable of lying about being pregnant in the first place or lying about it being yours. Came here to say that. He must not under any circumstances go unprotected again. If getting pregnant has ever been a strategy to lock down a man, feigning pregnancy to get pregnant has to be a close second.
/r/askTRP26/05/17 07:14 PM
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I'm a working artist, and the one thing they don't teach you in art school is the business of art, I asked my dentist about that because he essentially runs a business with a partner and about 10-15 employees. He agreed that dentist school should have covered running a small business but didn't. I don't recall, but he may have learned from his father or taken the initiative to study that aspect of the job on his own. He agrees that it's critical to success in the field.
/r/TheRedPill26/05/17 06:45 PM
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This is funny because some women wear a fake ring to keep men from hitting on them.
/r/askTRP27/04/17 12:55 AM
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Probably both. The truth is painful, that's why they say it's hard to swallow the red pill.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/17 02:50 AM
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That weekend she bought me the $400 Nintendo switch "just because." She even waited in line in the cold for it. Seriously dude. Fucking video games!??!?! Da fuk is wrong with you. Try being a man and doing something of value with your time. Oh, and get over your one-itis, this one sounds rather shitty unless you're actually the problem.
/r/askTRP19/04/17 06:17 PM
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No it doesn't. This has been confirmed multiple time, including a rather famous plot by OKcupid. While men will rate women on a rather continuous scale from 1-10, women rate men in a bimodal distribution. In other words, guys will rate based on how attractive they are, but women rate based on IF you are attractive or not.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/17 08:43 PM
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As I was reading this I kept thinking she took interest in someone else and then there it was: "She made up a story about how a guy is texting her and she feels like "she likes him too". Ridiculous. She later admitted she made the story up to gain my attention and was very ashamed of it." You think she lied and then admitted it. The reality is almost certainly that she told you the truth initially and then tried to hide it by saying it was made up. Either way, she lied to you - ask yourself whic…
/r/askTRP11/04/17 07:40 PM
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An 8-9 who is entitled and bitchy isn't even going to LTR a man. She's going to ride the CC until she starts to decline, and then she's just going to be entitled and bitchy. When I was young, the hotter girls I dated were not stable relationship material, they were just playing around because it was fun for them and they could do whatever they wanted.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/17 10:51 AM
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Beta isn't inherently bad, its just IMO what causes the "pushes" that you referenced. Would that also be what she's grieving, the loss of his awesomeness?
/r/askTRP04/04/17 05:35 PM
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One time at one of the kids events, another mom saw me and asked my wife "can I borrow your man?" to move some heavy shit. While the question made me feel a bit like an object, I went ahead and moved the stuff because I can and she can't. But in no way did I try to make that into a bargain - moved it and moved on. Do your man-duties, but don't make it a covert contract. Not sure about the white knight factor you've got going on there - you volunteered.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 02:53 PM
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Health issues will fire up the hamster big time. She wants to feel in control. She is afraid. You need to be a rock. You seem to have failed by not being part of the decision making process, and then expressing an alternate opinion at the end. She may or may not actually want you to tell her what to do, but she does want you on the same page. If you had an opinion you should have offered it sooner.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 02:37 PM
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I found the questions a bit presumptive. I am happy to be the breadwinner but that doesn't necessarily mean that's how I think it should be. That is the role I have and I'm good at it and embrace it. If we fell into a bunch of money, I might take some time off to do more constructive things with my kid. The survey never even asks about the employment status of the spouse. The notion of prioritizing work over meeting my kids physical needs is interesting, there is someone at home to do that, so I…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/17 02:24 PM
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I've been wondering if there is need for a sub /redpillparenting
/r/TheRedPill02/04/17 02:31 PM
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Yep, she (cakeboy1995) should try it some time.
/r/TheRedPill02/04/17 02:18 PM
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Also, it's not mate guarding if you're ready to drop her if she doesn't keep the relationship healthy. What OP said was great and not mate guarding. Disallowing it, or stating intolerance borders on mate guarding and certainly displays insecurity. Control freaks are insecure. People who offer freedom while stating their values firmly are confident and secure. Either way she gets dropped if she cheats, it's how you want to be perceived that make the difference. (and I have used to many words here…
/r/askTRP27/03/17 06:51 PM
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At first I thought OP was blowing it by being insecure about it, but then when he added that it is just his belief and she is free to do what she wants, it seemed great. Your claim to not tolerate such behavior seems more controlling (and possibly insecure), but hey whatever works. One seems to command respect and the other submission though.
/r/askTRP27/03/17 06:43 PM
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But here's the kicker, the stuff they say about women is true. All the 'trp truths' as they call them are absolutely, 100% true. I'm still evaluating this. I agree that these are widespread, but I'm still not sure about AWALT. Certainly MWALT, but there is clearly a continuum. I wonder about certain couples, but then I don't know what goes on in their home. I know I never would have suspected my wife of these tendencies, but the more I learn, and the more stuff I try, the more I can see it's tru…
/r/TheRedPill23/03/17 04:36 PM
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I'm actually interested in the excuse angle. In part because I'm still working on my SMV, but also because I've seen times where an excuse may have helped but I couldn't devise one.
/r/TheRedPill23/03/17 04:25 PM
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I kind of like this because it's better than IDGAF at what ever she has to say. It's creating additional uncertainty about what it is you know that hasn't been said. OTOH you will be the one walking away.
/r/askTRP22/03/17 03:28 PM
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She's just upset that your life is awesome now. You're on vacation with her replacement and your family. She's looking for some indication that you feel sorry for her, or any form of regret on your part to make her feel better. Maintain frame and keep communication to logistics.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/17 05:18 PM
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funny how she also blames it on guys, saying there's not a lot of overlap between who shes attracted to and 'wholesome'... lmao I dunno, isn't that the whole dichotomy with TRP AF/BB it's not perception, guys tend to come in two types both of which appeal to a woman for different reasons. The goal in MRP is to develop and balance these characteristics. I think society has trained men to be even more beta than they normally would be though, and that is detrimental to everyone.
/r/TheRedPill21/03/17 01:13 PM
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From the article: I swiped right exactly a dozen times. Instead of looking for men I was necessarily attracted to, I looked for men who seemed especially wholesome. (If only this Venn diagram had a greater overlap, perhaps I wouldn’t be in this predicament at all.) AF/BB right there, the Venn Diagram needs more overlap....
/r/TheRedPill20/03/17 09:28 PM
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In one case the narrative is "shit, he's fucking someone else". In the other it's "shit, he's gonna dump me and fuck someone else." I think it's a stronger drive than when they try to land a guy because there's already something at stake, not just a possibility.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/17 08:09 PM
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hi, saw you sitting here and thought it a crime if I didnt stop off to say hello. Years ago I was at a very busy bar ready to leave and I walked over to this really hot chick and said something like "I looked around and there are really only 3 women here worth talking to and the other two seem to be bitching to each other about stuff." At the time I thought that was pretty lame, but it worked and we chatted for at least an hour including a move from the bar to a table upstairs by a window. Only …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/17 07:59 PM
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Need to get my mind as calloused as my hands. Quit that.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/17 05:46 PM
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We use the term "hysterical bonding" we are talking about a woman, usually a cheater It's funny. When I ran across it, it was women who had been cheated on that were hysterically going after the husband. It seems to be some sort of hard-wired mate reclaiming response. I suppose it could come into play if the woman had got caught cheating and was suddenly afraid of losing her provider, but that's not what you'll see in the forums.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/17 05:10 PM
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Yes it does. The incel will have a count of zero and chad will have some n>1. The average of all men is the same as the average of all women, there is no getting around it. Draw a column of circles on the left representing 10 women and another on the right representing 10 men. Pair them up by connecting a line every time someone fucks someone new. Then find the average partner count - it will be identical for both groups. If you do this exercise it will be abundantly clear to you why this must b…
/r/TheRedPill17/03/17 05:07 PM
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It is simple mathematics that men and women have the same average N-count. Each time a woman pairs with a new man, a man has paired with a new woman. The average N-count for women is the total pairings divided by the number of women, while the average N-count for men is the total pairing (i.e. the same number) divided by the number of men. Since the number of men and women are very close to equal, the average N for both groups is the same. The only way they can differ is if some pairings are not…
/r/TheRedPill17/03/17 03:52 PM
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50/50 she tries some hysterical bonding That phenomenon would be if HE cheated. It's not something they do deliberately either, it comes from the hind brain. It's like dread turned up so high it's off the scale.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/17 03:30 PM
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Read carefully "I don't need no six-pack. Like, I ain't kicking it out of bed for sure, but every character I've been with has been too perfect." She doesn't say "I don't want" she says "I don't need" and goes on to say "I ain't kicking it out of be fore sure" which clearly indicates her preference but she's obviously willing to settle because those guys won't commit. It's all right there in that one quote.
/r/TheRedPill16/03/17 08:27 PM
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I sometimes bring up the notion of "what is important to people in a spouce/LTR" and point out that people will prioritize things differenty - personality, appearance, common interests, whatever. Then I point out that sex trumps all of those things in every case. Not that it's higher priority, but that it's a must have item on the list. Because everyone (except people who are bi) automatically eliminates half the population based on their gender. Women look for that "companionship" with men, and…
/r/TheRedPill15/03/17 04:41 PM
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Some people have a lot of money because they are frugal.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/17 12:28 PM
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Men will sleep down if they can do it without committing resources. The problem she and other women like this aren't realizing, is that their standards are too high. They think they're a good 2 points higher than they are. When men are willing to "sleep down" and these women know they are a notch or two higher than the one you slept down with, they figure they're higher value than you based on who you're sleeping with. "I'm better than that bitch chad is screwing, so I can do better than chad." …
/r/TheRedPill07/03/17 06:28 PM
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I think the required reading should be "Womens Infidelity" by Michelle Langley.
/r/TheRedPill06/03/17 06:04 PM
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girl left him for some other guy the next week Probably the one she was cheating with.
/r/TheRedPill06/03/17 05:56 PM
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Highly relevant clip from Risky Business: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=geDCtBQeN8c
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/17 08:04 PM
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When you want to talk with her about fucking her, talk in general about fucking/sex(it's always about her). Or don't. Oh that makes me laugh because I can think of a time when that may have happened. I was telling a moderately graphic sex story to a woman and she much later seemed to think I wanted to fuck HER. In fact she couldn't seem to escape that belief even though I addressed its falsehood directly. OTOH the distancing themselves from a generalization seems a bit weak, but I will try it an…
/r/TheRedPill01/03/17 08:43 PM
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Narcissism vs solipsism. The term solipsism still bothers me, the notion that they only believe in the existence of their own mind and no others. That seems extreme, to me it seems narcissism fits better and is more believable. Am I missing something? Does the distinction really matter? If so, how about a specific example to clarify this distinction.
/r/TheRedPill01/03/17 07:10 PM
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The entire premise of TRP is that society feeds you blue-pill values which do not reflect reality. As an example, most TRP guys seem to think cheating on a woman or dating a married woman is a bad idea but they don't judge those that make those choices. You get to define your own values around here, but the main idea is to face reality (swallow the pill) and do what's best for you given that reality.
/r/TheRedPill01/03/17 05:18 PM
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Do people really think Donald Trump is a great looking man? I think he pulls women a few notches above himself in looks. Perceived power and status go a long way.
/r/TheRedPill01/03/17 05:06 PM
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You don't have a predetermined purpose. Your function in life is to define yourself and be the best you that you can. Try things, find what interests you, be prepared to fail and try some more. Life is a journey, not a destination. Take satisfaction in a job well done rather than the job itself. This is all a bunch of cliches but they are the ones to counter those people who say to find your purpose to be happy.
/r/TheRedPill01/03/17 04:59 PM
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If your SO is not RP then he might be taking your change the wrong way. Perhaps he's seeing you more as a "good girl" and doesn't want to treat you too dirty. He's putting you on a pedestal - your orgasm is more important to him than his own enjoyment of sex. Do like abdada suggests - leave him that note.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/17 01:01 PM
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the guy did the smartest thing... I don't think inviting the guy over for an intervention was smart, and I don't think I would have thought that prior to knowing how it turned out.
/r/TheRedPill27/02/17 10:42 PM
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They did a study where they MRI'ed the brains of old people who were married to see who was still actually in love. 7% were still in love. This study only included married people so it doesn't include all the out-of-love people who divorced or separated. Love is real but maybe only ~4% of people can sustain it. Can you provide a link to that one? And also, I wonder how MRP relationships would look on the MRI.
/r/TheRedPill27/02/17 10:21 PM
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If you try to help him see the light, be prepared to lose his friendship. I was thinking "game/fuck his girlfriend" and then tell him she is definitely having sex with someone else. It'll open his eyes while destroying the friendship. Come to think of it, he'd probably just blame OP for it and keep the girl...
/r/askTRP27/02/17 10:07 PM
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Because they feel entitled. Why? Because they think having a vagina is enough to get them whatever they want. They hate everything about life because life doesn't agree with them about their value.
/r/askTRP23/02/17 08:01 PM
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Here she is trying to increase her social status, while simultaneously dreading herself silly. This is funny. My wife brings me to "events" with plenty of other women. I always thought this was just her neediness of wanting me along - and it probably is to an extent. But I always end up walking around talking to the other women for my own enjoyment. Next time I will consider the effect on her and chat more in her presence.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/17 10:05 PM
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I wonder if this is because swallowing the pill requires that you accept the nature of women. Accepting AWALT might be similar to objectification and your old beta brain feels bad about it. Does this fit?
/r/askTRP16/02/17 09:51 PM
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To that point I was not fully aware that dominance is one of the most basic sexual 'fetishes'. You know all the women are going to see Fifty Shades Darker which is in theaters now right. In fact if you want to be in the henhouse, find a movie theater with a bar in the lobby and just go hang out there this weekend - 90 percent of the women seeing this film are with friends, not guys.
/r/askTRP16/02/17 09:48 PM
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Testing my TRP knowledge here. I think that door was still open, as it was not a NO. Lots of responses are possible to what seems like an ASD. She may have been looking for you to give her an excuse. Just add a word "I don't think I would but..." You needed to give her the next part of that sentence.
/r/askTRP13/02/17 06:21 PM
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To be able to pull this off is incredible. It seems like it would be a very special kind of situation to even suggest it, but once they're in you'll be doing something no guy has ever done with her.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/17 05:38 PM
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I mean other choice is to be a fat fuck and go MGTWO but I want women too bad. So... I am going to have to accept defeat, work hard on myself for years, hope for women... LIKE A FUCKING PEASANT. OMG are you a little bitch. You think you shouldn't have to do a goddam thing to get what you want out of life. Get off your fucking ass and make something of yourself. If you don't value yourself enough to make an effort why the fuck should anyone else? Seriously. You wrote this: "Why the fuck do I have…
/r/askTRP09/02/17 04:26 PM
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The people posting here are most likely married, so you should not see too much bragging about conquests and such. Though I am tempted to tell an ultimate dread story.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 10:33 PM
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First you say a husband doesn't need to follow TRP. Then you say to dump the wife, but follow TRP to find someone else? It seems one might want to try TRP/MRP first since you'll need to get started anyway before you become single. Then if it works on the wife - and it probably will, why go through all the trouble of divorce? You haven't made a coherent argument in my mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/17 10:25 PM
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Most of TRP applies to MRP too. There are lots of guys in TRP that would LTR if they weren't afraid or jaded. Sorry, they wouldn't call it that, they just don't believe it's worth the risk. They say marriage is TRP on hard mode.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/17 10:13 PM
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Remember you're going back to school for YOU, and you should come first before anyone else. Your BF comes second. Not tenth or twentieth, but second to you. Or am I mistaken that this tenet of TRP should apply to RPW?
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/17 05:39 PM
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I've been talking to strangers. I started at the bar, since I'd go there weekly when my wife took the kid for activities. Go ahead and talk to the guy who is more socially awkward than you if you need practice - he's actually not that bad if you just realize he's got his own issues and you're not trying to make him your friend. Talk to other men - there's always 2 guys at the bar that know each other and are hanging around for some reason. Talk to couples - I prefer to engage the woman first, bu…
/r/askTRP07/02/17 07:42 PM
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I wonder if you should have said "Well then ask me for a ride and let me decide if it's interrupting my reading." Or something similar. If you want her to be direct, shouldn't you tell her to be direct rather than ignoring her indirect/shameful approach? She may eventually learn by trial and error, but is there a problem with giving her the right answer?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/17 07:30 PM
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What defines a Red Pill man..? The man himself and nothing else.
/r/askTRP27/01/17 04:09 PM
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fuck-you money is simply the ability to say IDGAF with full honesty.
/r/TheRedPill27/01/17 03:17 PM
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I'm also kind of considering online dating when I start uni Like the other poster said, there are TONs of men at university. It'd be best if you avoid the internet altogether except as required for course work. Every second of screen time is a second of real life you're missing out on.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/17 09:08 PM
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Please don't listen to the male TRP negativity about female aging. Correct. Because worrying about the passage of time is like worrying about the weather. There's nothing you can actually DO about it. Focus on things that are actionable.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/17 08:48 PM
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I wouldn't mention psychotherapy to her. And if it does come up, never never tell her what you talk about with your therapist. You may just dig up shit she will regret knowing, or it will make her question you about any number of things. Once you share some of it she'll think it's fair game all the time. And for anyone else reading, if you decide to give it a try by all means get a male therapist. I may have made a mistake going to a woman, but it's still been very useful to me.
/r/askTRP16/06/16 05:38 PM
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The responses here are excellent, but I'd like to point out something a little different. Your relationship with work probably needs some improvement too. You said you were "forced into some crazy hours" which might be true depending what your job is. But I've noticed that some (many?) employers will try to take advantage of people and exploit them for their own needs at the expense of a persons personal life. As you learn about TRP you may also notice that holding frame, OI, and IDGAF can apply…
/r/askTRP13/06/16 11:22 PM
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As someone else said, TRP says don't date her. That said, I unknowingly married a rape victim. I knew there was a guy who treated her badly - told her she was stupid and other psychological abuse. I knew she was coerced into sex, but that was only part of it. After many years of that roller coaster she finally got some therapy. And after 20 years of marriage, she finally told me the full story. Have your girl see a therapist trained in EMDR - it should keep her from having those crazy over react…
/r/askTRP11/06/16 01:10 AM
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There's nothing wrong with being a good person unless you start to put other people before yourself. It's like when they explain the oxygen masks on an airplane - if it comes down, put yours on first before helping the person next to you. It sounds like you're taking TRP at an appropriate pace, some folks let their anger push them quickly to the other extreme and become real assholes, and that's not the point.
/r/askTRP08/06/16 09:28 PM
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Right. Simply throwing your own guilt into the picture (I have a GF) does not relieve her of her own. Some may even interpret that as adding to it.
/r/askTRP15/04/16 06:10 PM
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