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That’s definitely a filter
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 04:26 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 01:00 AM
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The worst discrimination against men comes from India? You have got to be kidding me. A place where government officials tweet that women are responsible for what men do to them because they wore jeans with rips in the knees? A country where every time a child gets raped or a woman gets sexually beaten and gang-raped those search terms become the number one trending topic on porn sites? It’s a joke that you think men are the ones who are suffering from gender-based discrimination in India.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 12:59 AM
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I don’t mind if a man is seeing other women. I don’t think most women who are in the early stages of dating and vetting expect exclusivity from the jump. What we do have problems with is Red Pillers reducing women to objects like “plates” and “bodies” (“bodies” in the context of a man saying ‘I have 20 bodies’ when referring to his sexual history). Speaking about women in these terms is dehumanizing and says a lot about the type of men who do this, and that is why we don’t like men who talk abou…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 12:51 AM
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That’s interesting. I’m a hairstylist and I do notice that many people seem to have anxiety when I do their hair, even when I do my best to ask questions about what they want and exude confidence. Why do you have anxiety about going to the barber? Is it because of a bad experience (barber accidentally cutting you, often getting bad haircuts, having a skin issue like eczema or embarrassed about balding, etc)?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 08:00 PM
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If men were experts at women’s sexuality, the porn industry targeting heterosexual women would be booming. Instead, most porn producers are men, who despite watching and creating thousands of videos, generally don’t understand what women want to see. By definition, these men have “the most experience” with seeing women sexually, yet it doesn’t translate into understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 07:57 PM
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She’s only going to be an expert on the sexuality of men who’d be willing to go to a sex worker in the first place, though. That in itself is a small subset of the male population. I’ve never been involved in that industry, but if I had to guess, that group of men she interacts with probably deal with unusual sexual impulses and fantasies that men who have normal sex lives do not deal with. The average man is who has sex with only their partners in traditional relationships probably either discl…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 07:54 PM
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They like that he is sensitive and doesn’t bottle up his feelings, they want to care for somebody and feel like they can be there for someone, they like fixing things, or they like feeling needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 07:41 PM
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No, but doing anything casual has been so incredibly rare for me. I think it mostly affects people who developed unreciprocated feelings during a FWB situation and got hurt by it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 07:29 PM
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I have never wasted my time dating someone who I felt like I was settling for, and I have never felt like anyone was settling for me. Either of those situations sound miserable and I’d rather be single and alone if those were my only two options.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 07:24 PM
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It’s because the men that have these incel-like thought patterns see women as a monolith. It’s their own delusions they’re projecting onto women they don’t know. Hot girls rejected them in high school, so obviously if a hot woman is attracted to them at 32 she would have been the same person to reject them in high school, too. They don’t seem to have any concept of people growing and maturing, that they could become a better man and a more viable dating prospect in the last decade and a half, or…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 07:18 PM
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Both of those quotes are terribly cringe. A woman saying “if you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best” is a preemptive excuse for shitty behaviour down the line. This kind of thing is usually said by people who have no accountability for their own actions, and think being emotionally abusive is just a thing that happens from time to time, and needs to be tolerated. If I was a straight guy, I’d next any woman who said that quote. The same goes with the quote “if you can’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/21 07:12 PM
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Lmao, it’s hilarious how out of touch you guys are with reality. Women protect each other in clubs and are intentionally “cockblocking” you. You are Creepy Guy and her friends are looking out for her. But sure, every friend group has a fat hog bitch who’s just terribly jealous of her friends 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 09:29 PM
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Men on the internet list their absolutely ridiculous preferences for how a woman should look, but god forbid a woman on here says more men should get a cheap and basic skincare routine... can’t say anything without these guys insinuating we are being shallow.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 09:25 PM
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Why do you automatically assume virgin man = awkward and weird? Men praise virgin women for their purity, yet you don’t hear them talking about how desirable it is to have a weird autistic virgin gf. They automatically imagine a chaste woman who is socially normal and pretty and simply has high standards for the man she wants to lose her virginity to. Just because a woman here says she doesn’t want a sleaze of a man doesn’t mean she wants a socially awkward guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 04:33 AM
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Are you Matthew Gray Gubler? https://youtu.be/4HkPuttj4R8
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 08:08 AM
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It’s childish to make anyone feel like they are in a competition to “win” you, male or female. I don’t think mature adults pit potential dating partners against each other to inspire jealousy. And I would be extremely wary of anyone who does — that screams “validation-seeking” to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/21 07:40 AM
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Right, it’s “acceptable”, just like most men are realistic enough to understand that if they’re average-looking and balding in their 40s, they aren’t going to find a smooth-faced companion with a knockout figure. It’s just common understanding that balding is an unattractive trait of aging, but most people are not shallow enough to deem it “unacceptable” unless they themselves meet a certain standard of attractiveness in which they can be choosy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 04:44 AM
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Well, it’s not really a surprise that a ton of people on here are autistic. This is primarily a sub for trying to understand the other gender and how relationships work. Nothing wrong with asking questions that aim to understand these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 02:34 AM
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Fun and goofy is a necessity for me. The point where it crosses a line into “dealbreaker” territory is when that man is using his goofiness as a cover for immaturity, and doesn’t know how to have a serious conversation without trying to turn it into a joke or downplay it. That is beyond annoying. But most people aren’t like that, and know when it’s time to take life seriously in those important moments. For almost all relationship activities, however, I gravitate towards men who can have a caref…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 02:31 AM
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That wasn’t my point at all. I’m stating that baldness in men is such an unattractive trait (unfortunately) that almost no women actively prefer it, and that almost every guy looks better with hair vs without. Most men don’t prefer women who have wrinkles, but it doesn’t immediately make them unattractive if they look good in other ways. Both are examples of detrimental traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 02:02 AM
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Women who prefer bald men are in the extreme minority, and even then, they usually want a specific type of “bald” (think Vin Diesel; basically being ripped in order to pull it off). A fat bald dude or skinny bald dude is just not going to be nearly as attractive as those same men when they had hair. Men can get away with being unattractive in other ways if they have a good hairline and haircut. But it’s much, much harder to still be seen as attractive to most women if you are bald and aren’t put…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 01:45 AM
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You just have to get to the confidence level where if a man isn’t into you because you’re too tall for him, his insecurity around that is a turn off for you. I used to hate being tall, but I love it now. I would lose attraction for a man who became weirdly insecure about me wearing heels or being naturally tall.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 07:28 AM
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I’m not attracted to “toxic behaviour”, and there’s no such thing as being “too nice”. There is, however, such thing as “being nice only as a means to an end”, and “nice is the only personality trait I have, so it’s how I describe myself” — the former is almost always transparent to women and the latter generally just describes a boring guy with no life or hobbies. Authentic kindness is a rare trait. “Niceness” is the basic standard for interacting with other humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 07:21 AM
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Tinder is an app created by design for casual sex. It’s not a dating site like back when OkCupid was popular, where you could see how compatible you were with people based on a profile full of information and an unlimited amount of questions you could answer. The only metric you have to judge someone on is looks and a sentence or two in the bio. You can’t blame the women on an app designed for shallow intent for being shallow — that’s all there is to go off of. And tinder isn’t the end all and b…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 04:05 AM
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80% of men feel like the only women that reciprocate their interest are “three leagues below” them? If that says anything, it speaks to men overestimating their looks, which isn’t helped by the constant pop culture tropes of ugly/goofy/older men in tv and movies that snag really hot Scarlett Johannson-esque love interests... again, back to being realistic with our dating prospects here.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 02:56 AM
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I disagree with that stat, but if it’s true, it sounds like those men need to be more realistic with their lives. Wasting your time pining over someone who isn’t interested in you is quite plainly, stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 02:33 AM
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Except that wasn’t love... it was unrequited infatuation, and that’s not even close to the same thing. An actual bond that can be described as romantic love requires reciprocation. Nothing is that deep about a relationship in which the more intimate aspects of love are never explored together.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 12:50 AM
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Lol, that’s definitely a man masquerading as female on here. These weird-ass LARPers who spend their lives pretending to be someone else on Reddit need to get a life. Unless a woman has a medical issue, she’s not instantly blasting out a stream of arousal in the half-second it takes to pass someone on the street...
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 12:43 AM
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Today men learn: women don’t get dripping wet at seeing an average man walking out in public in a t shirt and jeans. Maybe if more men made themselves up in a sexually appealing way like women do, there’d be more of a visceral reaction from us. But no, women aren’t salivating at average Joe walking around the block like men do when they see a woman with a tight low-cut shirt and booty shorts on. It’s not really something to get all depressed about. If you want to be that guy that gets checked ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 12:40 AM
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It’s not really surprising to hear that alcohol use is correlated with more casual sex partners. If you’re hanging around crowds doing drugs and drinking, you’re more likely to meet other folks who make impulsive decisions such as to have casual sex while under the influence. That doesn’t make it a wise lifestyle habit to get into.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 10:56 PM
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You want a woman who is similar to you, so join some kind of hobby meetup. Easier said than done, but also much better chance of finding something worth your while than swiping on some pixels.
/r/askTRP14/06/21 06:26 AM
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Who cares... you’re sleeping with other women, she’s sleeping with other dudes. Stop getting your jealous undies in a bunch when it’s a fair play relationship.
/r/askTRP14/06/21 06:23 AM
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Do you think men in the 60s were content to jack off to the same playboy spread for 30 days straight until the next issue came out, or do you think they were motivated by their natural libido to go out and find a real woman to have sex with? Many men are content with being single and alone because dating is challenging. Rejection sucks. But they’re never bored in terms of their sex drive because they have the internet. I think porn is both a cause and a symptom of sexlessness in men. The demogra…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 06:41 PM
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Men want the virgin who rejects sex with every other man but fucks him after only a couple dates, because he wants to feel special... but the paradox is that if this situation were ever to happen to him, he would consider that woman a lying whore who must have given it up to everyone else too, because they understand on a subconscious level that what they’re asking for from that woman makes absolutely no sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 06:30 PM
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Oscar’s Razor LOOOOL (Not making fun of you, just genuinely needed that laugh)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 05:29 PM
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Nice is literally the basic human standard that everyone should meet. I’m nice to coworkers. I’m nice to old folks when they’re being slow in the grocery store. I’m nice to people I am not attracted to and have no obligation towards. I’m nice to people when I stand nothing to gain from it. The problem with men who ruminate over the concept of niceness and how it gets them nowhere spend entirely too long thinking the bare minimum of being a decent human should be deserving of sex. That’s just... …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 06:25 AM
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Just because a man is a virgin doesn’t mean he’s undateable. If I was a guy I’d probably be a virgin at 30 because I hate my body and the thought of others seeing it naked. I’m just “lucky” (I don’t really consider it lucky since I don’t seek out sex or place much importance on whether I get it or not) I’m a woman and most men don’t care that much as long as they’re getting some action.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 06:14 AM
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Except most of my comment barring the first couple lines had nothing to do with “my experience”. I get that it sucks as a principle to be a man who is still a virgin who wants to experience sexual intimacy, and I’m not downplaying how normal it is to want to finally be able to do that with someone. I’m only talking about the aspect of how women perceive a man who is still a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 06:08 AM
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Just be prepared for your “low N-count” dream wife to judge you and reject you just the same once she realizes you spent all that time she was being virtuous and pure on hooking up and only wanting casual sex with women. Women who place value on the intimacy of sex and keep their sexual history to a minimum consider this value when selecting a husband, too. It’s a RedPill Fantasy that these kinds of women simply don’t care (or even more hilariously, prefer) men who use women for sex. If a woman …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 05:13 AM
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Obviously neurotic anybody is unattractive — it’s an objectively unattractive quality. It’s not fair to genderize this preference, because I don’t know any man that says he wants a woman who’s neurotic either. That’s a really annoying trait and in a relationship it tends to manifest in stressful and destructive ways. No one wants to have a partner that is going to freak out over every little thing they do. It’s feels like claustrophobia and robs one of their freedoms. Moving on... Your argument …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 05:07 AM
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That’s just not true. I’ve been the woman in that situation and there was nothing weird about it, nor any judgement on my end. The only time it would be a turn off is if the man makes it into a huge deal that he’s bitter towards women about. If a man wants to be a good sex partner, he’s going to learn how to please me regardless of whether he was inexperienced before me or not. Women everywhere would prefer a virgin man who cares about learning how to give their partner an orgasm vs an experienc…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 04:29 AM
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Fundamentally disagree. A woman engaging in an equal exchange with a man by pursuing a casual relationship is not the same as a man who views sex as a purchasable good he is entitled to for the right price. Women’s bodies aren’t for consumption, and a man who treats them as such doesn’t see sex as an act of mutual enjoyment, and still enjoys himself despite knowing the woman he is with sees it as so unenjoyable she needs to be paid to engage in it. He also does this knowing that most of the wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 04:13 AM
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Average guys weren’t able to hole up and spend their free time in front of Reddit or play video games for hours on end. If you didn’t go out and do things IRL, you would be sitting at home reading or just watching whatever is on cable TV, which doesn’t provide that dopamine hit that video game achievements or endless doom scrolling give you. You went out and met people and had the natural drive to meet women because millions of naked women weren’t available on a screen to fill that urge at any m…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 04:05 AM
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There is a vast swath of ocean between “fat homeless dude” and “man with great job, muscles, 6 feet tall, and takes care of himself”.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 09:46 PM
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If I am dating someone and they’re pushing too quickly, I lose interest and cut them off. That’s why the red pill theory about trying to have sex right away is gross and unhelpful. Women who are mature and have some degree of emotional development find pushy men to be extremely repulsive. When a man I’m seeing takes things at my pace, it’s a sign of chivalry and respect, and proof that he can enjoy my presence as a human being and not a sex receptacle. Men on red pill are obsessed with worry tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 09:37 PM
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You also couldn’t have the same kinds of conversations with a girlfriend who had a PhD in History as you would one who had a PhD in Psychology, but it doesn’t mean either are lacking. I’ve met some seriously dumb people that make me wonder how they even got a 4 year degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 09:23 PM
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I don’t have a degree and have never had a problem dating men with far more money than I. They really don’t care about career. I’m sure there are men out there who would never date an uneducated woman, but if a woman has other qualities a man is attracted to, he’s not going to reject her based on career unless she’s an actual lazy bum. If she has a job that can cover the costs it takes to primp and look pretty for him, that’s enough. I’d imagine it would be significantly harder for me to find a …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 09:15 PM
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And how do things go after you tell these women you just took that picture to look cool? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 09:12 PM
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I personally find wealth symbols to be associated with men who prioritize appearances way too much, which is a big turn off for me. It’s especially cringe if they are eating ramen every day just so they can afford designer clothes and a fancy car to look richer than they are. It’s just cringey and gives off the impression that they are insecure and also look down on people they perceive as “poor”. Buying fancy things all the time also looks like a spending addiction to me, which indicates poor s…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 09:11 PM
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The compliments men give women are generally pretty hollow, which is why they mean nothing to us. Even ogre-women get told how sexy and beautiful they are by men, so I don’t value hearing those empty words from guys. Showing that you want to get to know a woman and complimenting her on certain qualities of her personality goes a lot further than meaningless platitudes about her looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 09:00 PM
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No woman wants to feel like a man is “putting her on a pedestal” because she’s his only option, though. Women want to feel special and desired, not desperately pursued by someone who can’t get anyone else. Besides, it’s bad to put anyone on a pedestal, because it means you’re idealizing someone who is as flawed as everyone else, and no one can live up to those expectations. I’m pretty sure most women (aside from narcissists) do not want to be put on any kind of pedestal, and it makes them feel w…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 08:55 PM
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I think for most women, it’s less about needing a man they can “submit” to, and more about needing a man they can respect. If there’s no respect, there’s no relationship, and certainly no sexual attraction. It’s hard to respect a man who has no steady employment history, no goals, no passions, no unique or interesting hobbies (aside from video games and porn), or one who is uncultured, unintelligent, or any number of other attributes that makes one dull. And if you’re submissive by nature, of co…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 08:51 PM
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Don’t give him an entire month... he can see you’re way more invested than he is and he will use that to his advantage to get sex or other benefits on his terms. He’s just not into you. It sucks to hear, but regardless of the situation, a man isn’t just going to start ignoring you or barely replying for days/weeks if he likes you and wants to keep a connection. Men know they run a very real risk of a woman losing interest and moving on if he doesn’t keep in contact with her, so by doing this he …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 08:31 PM
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It’s creepy. I used to do this weirdo behaviour in middle school. Adults doing it need to grow up. If someone is avoiding you, it’s stalker behaviour to start showing up where you know they’ll be.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 08:28 PM
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i don't use this as an example to toot my fathers horn But it does sound like you’re painting this quality of his in a positive light and as if your mother simply isn’t up to par, which I disagree with. It’s one thing for him to be highly intelligent (great), but it’s a defect if he’s unable to get along with people in a normal way where he needs them to engage in a battle of wits/challenge them. I wouldn’t be saying this if it was a case of your mother being genuinely unintelligent, but your fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 01:02 AM
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You gotta be kidding me if you think Emma Watson is plain/attainable to the average guy. She just doesn’t wear a lot of makeup and gives off the impression of being a “girl next door”. She is still leagues ahead of the average or she wouldn’t be famous.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 12:40 AM
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Please tell me about some examples of true nerd hobbies then
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 12:24 AM
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Yes, it’s easier to make friends with men because a lot of the social rules don’t apply with them. It’s easier to be straightforward and unusual with them when women would find that unpleasant to be around. I would kill to have some good female friends, but I don’t know how to even do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 12:00 AM
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Men get a pass for being a part of nerd culture because they like DnD and watch Star Wars. There is no way you can tell me that the true definition of being a nerd is simply obsessing over a narrow, niche interest. If my mom is obsessed with Candy Crush Saga, is she a nerd? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 11:52 PM
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There’s no sense in arguing with a man whose only ideas of nerdy women come from watching Twitch titty streamers. Normal, well-adjusted humans understand that women who like nerdy things (which encompasses an endless number of possible hobbies as it is) come in many varieties, and don’t fit neatly into this false dichotomy he is claiming they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 11:48 PM
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Homosociality.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 11:39 PM
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Keep dating and keep your options open — you don’t want to put all your eggs in the basket that already told you they don’t want to be exclusive. I’d just make sure she is aware that you are sleeping with other women. Some women are happy with a FWB and never want anything more, but they still want the safety of that FWB not running out and catching every STI in the book. But definitely don’t feel guilty about dating other women; you probably just feel this way because you like this woman more t…
/r/askTRP27/05/21 09:42 PM
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You’re 21 and she’s 20. I feel pretty confident in saying that neither of you are having your “best” sex yet, but that’s the great part of life. You live and you learn, and sex is a skill. Don’t sweat it; obviously you sound like you are a good partner and you are meeting her needs (and vice versa), so don’t fret about past partners.
/r/askTRP27/05/21 09:37 PM
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Just leave her alone guy. From your post, all I got from your feelings for her was that you liked all of the things she did for you. It reads like you’re talking about how great your mom is, or a 5 star review on a nurse who cared for you at the hospital. Don’t keep her from moving on and finding someone who wants a LTR with her when you don’t and will only string her along.
/r/askTRP27/05/21 09:35 PM
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Don’t you think it’s a bit presumptuous to conclude that her actions are due to her lack of insight or inability to see life as “deeply” as you? You said she never even gets angry or cries when something happens — if a man stated that here, he’d be applauded for his stoicism and “ability to hold frame”. It’s possible she is responding the way she is for any number of reasons. She could feel like she needs to be the strong one and not take the attention away from your struggle — if she were to cr…
/r/askTRP27/05/21 09:26 PM
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Sounds more like loneliness than actual desire to be in a relationship with her again. You probably just miss the social aspect that came with dating her, and COVID threw a huge wrench in most people’s social lives. Don’t contact her again — she seems like she’s over it and even if she changed her mind and wanted to be with you again, her instability would just cause problems like always. Just focus on yourself and do what you need to do to get through lockdown times whilst staying sane. I would…
/r/askTRP27/05/21 09:01 PM
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So, you turned your frustration about not being attractive to women on dating apps into a rude post putting down obese women for doing nothing wrong but... messaging you on a dating app. I’d hate to be that bitter.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 07:43 AM
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It’s just because he’s funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 07:22 AM
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You live in a strange world if you think paying for expensive prostitution makes women want to date you...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 07:14 AM
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You’re presenting it as if these are two separate problems to be weighed equally morally (women desiring orgasms from sex more consistently while men feel as though women do not want sex as often as they do). The very valid issue, though, is that women feel as if it is unfair that men are demanding more sex of them, or criticizing their lower desire, while not already first meeting her needs of consistent sexual reciprocation. It’s a complaint by men who don’t really have the right to expect if …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 09:51 AM
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Nothing says excellence in communication and empathy like responding by creating a hypothetical sexual relationship between you and a woman complaining about feeling like she’s been used for sex by random guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 09:36 AM
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I think the fact that you equate women to “self-centered sacks of flesh” says more about you and less about women. That’s probably what explains your extreme views. It’s pretty telling that you resent sharing the planet with us just because you don’t like one of our dating preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 09:27 AM
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Instead of getting upset about giving the woman a yeast infection, you could simply wash your hands with soap and water and have the courtesy to brush your teeth and rinse with water before meeting up with a woman for sex. I don’t see how that’s so extreme it makes you wish you were gay...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 09:20 AM
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And the paradox is that these men who often complain about wanting a woman with few sexual partners is that they tend to be like 25 and a virgin, where they’ve developed an insecurity about being one and thereby shame women into feeling bad for having 5 partners by that age, or any number that is reasonable over the course of one’s life. They get weirdly insecure about women doing things that are normal for the age they’re in, such as having a couple of relationships or flings by 25, and tries t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 09:10 AM
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Do women see “free dinner” as a gift that she is rewarding with sex though? I have a hard time most women who do dinner and hookups afterwards are treating the hookup portion as a duty owed to the guy. I think most women see it as a guy she’s hooking up with is making a chivalrous move and he is meeting other metrics that make her attracted to him for a casual fling. I just don’t think most people would inherently consider these two actions on a date to be some sort of exchange — that kind of me…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 08:50 AM
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I believe he’s saying that the kind of men who are unable to get any dates are insane, and also that women being unfair about it doesn’t help. Maybe his argument is that women should be a little more considerate about dating insane men, out of pity or charity for them. Just my interpretation of his opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 08:40 AM
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I’ve never heard of a woman ever say she thinks other women either want or pretend to be 15 for several years. I’m pretty sure every single girl I knew wanted to be 18/college aged to feel like they were sexy/be the embodiment of those teen romantic comedy girls that were past puberty and had curves. So the only inference I can make from your statement is that you think girls/women believe they are at their “peak” at 15 and apparently delude themselves into thinking they look 15 for 7 years... w…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 08:37 AM
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I don’t believe in the concept of “post-nut clarity”, or at the very least I don’t even want to date a man who believes he suffers from it. If a man is so blinded by lust that he can’t function clearly until he orgasms, that ought to be a disability in itself. I’m rational enough to separate the concept of emotional attachment and lust, and I expect the same from a man I’ll be dating. If a man claims he needs sex from me upfront before any connection is made, I would lose interest. Besides, the …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 10:04 PM
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I don’t think women do call unattractive men creepy, though. They only get called creepy when they behave like creeps. If they’re just living their lives, why would we call them names?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 08:28 PM
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No, I don’t want to smell a man’s “natural odour”. A reasonable amount of a nice cologne, however, is a massive turn on, never to be underestimated in its power for attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 08:21 PM
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That’s so shallow though. I don’t believe a lot of men think that way. It’s kind of insulting to assume the only thing they want in a committed relationship is looks, and her being nice and into him is only a minor consideration (which doesn’t even capture personality). Nothing is left over for considering overall values, similar interests, goals, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 08:18 PM
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Well, by that measure, the woman who is having casual sex with the guy probably wins, considering the probability that she’s had more sexual experience. Which doesn’t really line up with the way it goes IRL — a lot of guys devalue women who are down for hooking up with no commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 08:15 PM
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How can you know if sex is the only thing she offers by... wanting to have sex right away? That doesn’t make sense to me. I think for either gender, if they genuinely enjoy the other’s company, the waiting for sex adds to the excitement. Not some check they want to mark off a list.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 08:11 PM
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Both genders can equally have commitment issues, though, and it doesn’t make one salty for pointing out that this is a possibility. Of course, ragging on about the person you want rejecting you because of it isn’t a good look, and it’s certainly not productive to dismiss their reasoning as commitment issues if there is a reason for self-reflection regarding the experience, so I agree in that sense. I also agree that in many cases where someone thinks the person they are seeing has commitment iss…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 08:04 PM
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...huh
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 07:53 PM
1

I’m having a hard time understanding if that book is serious in its claims, or if the writer of that article is honestly describing what the goals of the book‘s author is. I checked out after reading that she thinks women should give birth every 3-4 years with a new man and have the “village” raise the kid. There’s no way this is serious, nor is it an “interesting” argument to make. It’s completely out of touch with reality and seems like it’s using sensationalism for any kind of press (regardle…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 07:52 PM
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I think having a very specific ideal career in mind for your future partner is kinda weird, and really limits your dating options if you take it that seriously. But generally speaking, I would prefer someone who makes decent money, has a steady position and isn’t a chronic job-hopper (that says more about them than their job though), doesn’t do freelancing of any sort unless it’s a career in which there will be a constant demand for their work and no risk of financial insecurity, works consisten…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 07:41 PM
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I agree. I don’t think that 1-10 chart of men’s looks that was being discussed here is even remotely close to what I would categorize the people on it as. The top tiers of men all looked virtually identical, and it seemed like the only thing that mattered was having a muscular jaw, which personally isn’t my thing. It was definitely a chart of what men categorized as ideal male attractiveness, not at what most women would agree upon. And it’s true, women do love feminine/delicate men; they are no…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 07:33 PM
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Oh, I see what you mean. For me, when I was 12-14 I would “shoot my shot” with guys at school by using what I thought was a more flirty and subtle approach, but I just ended up being seen as really creepy and weird. So I stopped trying dating tricks to show guys that I was interested, and just expressed my interest directly without any attempts to play games and read signs. It’s much easier to be straightforward and move on when you get a no rather than be the weirdo that can’t take a hint.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 02:25 AM
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That’s so heartbreaking to read. It seemed like her husband took it as a personal affront that she wasn’t into sex as much anymore after she just gave birth. It’s so incredibly taxing to carry a child for 9 months, let alone go through the stress of a new routine and life while your vagina is in the process of healing and your breasts have a new purpose. It’s pretty easy to allow that to completely overshadow how you see and think about your body — less as an expression of sexuality and more as …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 02:19 AM
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I don’t think there’s any excuse to cheat. That being said, I also don’t think it’s the worst thing you could ever do to your partner (in all circumstances). I don’t think the betrayal of one hookup is nearly as horrible as spending years making up countless lies to your partner about where you are and what you’re doing to sustain a secret affair. I have also spent most of my life as a polyamorist who doesn’t generally get jealous or possessive of my partners’ attractions to other people, so I u…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 02:06 AM
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It doesn’t matter if you’re a woman gossiping about a partner’s kinks, penis size, etc., it’s trashy and disrespectful to the person you supposedly care enough to get intimate with to be discussing private sexual matters with your friends. I can say with certainty it’s far more likely that men are the ones who do this — even look at Reddit. There are hundreds of communities dedicated to swapping photos of their girlfriends, wives, and even family members. This is predominantly a man’s “hobby” (i…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 01:57 AM
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Yep, I don’t understand how OP doesn’t realize that what he wrote was a self-own against his own gender. He basically said women are generally better partners who are more honest from the jump, whereas men lie and trick to get sex whilst being an unsavoury character underneath. For the cherry on top, he ended it with the red pill rhetoric that men all become rich by the time they’re 40 and they can pick any young woman they want (lol).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 01:48 AM
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Sorry, what do you mean you felt it?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 01:33 AM
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He’s secretly the Bagel Shop Guy. The only man in his 40s who would do something like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 01:27 AM
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No, I don’t think there are any non-bigoted reasons for this “preference”, even if a woman tries to explain it away or minimize how it makes her look. It’s part of the reason so many bisexual men are ashamed to be open about their sexuality, and why bisexual women appear to overrepresent bisexuality as a whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 01:20 AM
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You can judge a man’s sense of humour based on what type of comedies he likes. If he raves about movies like The Hangover, he’s the guy who thinks “that’s what she said!” is the pinnacle of humour. Read: every guy I went to middle school with.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 01:18 AM
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Straight woman here - usually just by the fact that many times if a man is interested in me, he will overtly compliment my appearance, ask me if I have a boyfriend, ask me out directly, etc. I don’t think you can try to analyze micromovements and it’s a waste of time trying to figure all of that out when you can just ask them. That’s why I simply make a move on a man if I’m interested instead of wasting twice the time twiddling my thumbs and hoping he knows I like him because I grazed my neck wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 01:15 AM
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Your entire argument is based around the premise that sex and money are intrinsically linked (or should be), and for that you have earned a downvote. Now go buy some sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 12:58 AM
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Because you expressed that it’s something men don’t enjoy doing, and that it’s something they feel they should do to make their partner happy. And then you used the quality time example about your friend who thinks spending time with his girlfriend is boring to him. Instead of pretending you didn’t mean what you implied, respond to what’s actually being discussed.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 12:53 AM
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Love this response. It sounds like OP has a seriously distorted view on how a loving relationship works. He makes it sound like they’re nothing but a series of transactions (and unequal ones at that).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 12:39 AM
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Please explain how buying flowers and restaurant meals is the equivalent “punishment” for men as cooking and cleaning is for women. Going to the store and buying flowers costs $20 or less on average. It’s a quick trip, and most stores deliver these days. Presumably you are not doing this every single day, as you are likely not taking your partner out for a restaurant meal every day either. How is that even remotely comparable to the expectation that your partner is the one who cooks and cleans, …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 12:36 AM
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It’s a “nice girl” mentality. The equivalent of the men who claim women are all whores and don’t want good men like them. I do sympathize more with women who have this view, however, because a lot of times it comes from a different perspective. A lot of the basis of nice guys’ complaints comes from simply not getting any interest from women (which sucks, but it’s hardly a malicious act on the part of the women he pursues). On the other hand, a lot of the women who make statements like “where hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 07:17 AM
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False. Most of the time I went on dates with men from OLD, the spark I thought was there over chat/text was nonexistent in real life. The truth is, a lot of us are just more fun when texting than meeting up in person. You have the opportunity to be funnier and wittier because you aren’t under pressure to immediately produce a response. And there’s an interesting bias at play when we have a fun connection with a dating app match — we like the conversation, and we subconsciously imagine that those…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 07:15 AM
1

While there are certainly no shortage of men complaining about beautiful women being nothing but gold diggers, I don’t think this is the same demographic they are criticizing when they say women who are average are acting like they are out of most guys’ league (I don’t share that sentiment whatsoever, but this is their rhetoric). They hate that what they believe to be an average looking woman isn’t swiping right on them and agreeing to go on dates, because obviously the post-wall obese single mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 06:17 AM
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I am a woman who thinks the opposite of what you’re saying is true. It’s more often that if a man’s friends say a woman is ugly, that man will be less inclined to think she’s attractive. Women tell their friends all the time about men they find attractive and their friends may disagree, but it doesn’t change the woman’s opinion. I agree with the rest of the above comments though
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 01:44 AM
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Her face just looks highly manufactured. Everyone copied it now too, so they all look like clones. It’s getting kinda boring to see the same insta face.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 01:31 AM
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This chart is ridiculous. All of the top tiers are literal clones. It’s like the only thing that matters to the guy who made this list is a jaw bone.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 01:18 AM
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You’re talking like BPD is a disorder exclusive to women. And as someone who is heterosexual with relationship experience I can assure you that everyone loses that intense sexual interest phase over time. It’s called the honeymoon phase.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 10:13 PM
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Huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 10:08 PM
2

I think most people go through intense sexual interest with a new partner
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 10:06 PM
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Having a moral compass that outweighs your impulsivity and libido is going to get you further in life anyway. You’re not missing out on anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 10:00 PM
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What would be the actions of someone who seems like they will have sex on the first date but tell you they won’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 09:58 PM
1

Lol, what? Everyone wants to date someone they’re physically attracted to. It’s just that personality contributes a lot to how physically attractive someone is.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 09:52 PM
2

Seems like most of the men “interviewed” in the article think that a woman being kinky makes her crazy/insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 09:43 PM
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If a man thinks that a woman’s only value is what’s between her legs, he’s already of no value to us. We are thankful these men are eradicating their DNA from the gene pool. Have fun with the paid sex and porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 09:35 PM
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Why would you assume that a woman stating her boundaries is in any way trying to deceive a man? It’s more likely that she’s just trying to weed out men who are wasting her time by taking her on dates with no intention of wanting anything other than sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 09:34 PM
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That doesn’t answer the question. What is the point of getting into a relationship if you want the freedom that comes with casual sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 09:30 PM
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I don’t know a single geeky woman who isn’t into a guy for liking the same nerdy hobbies. The problem is that people who write these posts and have those hobbies get upset that an Instagram model or the type of woman who looks like that/the type of women they are attracted to wouldn’t be a fan of their obsession with DnD. No shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 09:28 PM
2

A lot of men want “true love and romance” too. Sure, there are a bunch who are superficial and just want sex, but there are plenty of romantics out there who don’t want to move on once they get bored after sex or a couple months of dating the same person. Relationships are trial and error; most people aren’t going to be what you want, but you’ll find the right person eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 09:26 PM
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But I mean why not just go for women who would be happy to be in an open relationship? Or not get in a committed relationship in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 09:19 PM
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If you’re judging value based on ability to get casual sex, maybe. But if you’re a person (regardless of gender) who has compulsions which make you prone to cheating, you’re much less likely to have a fulfilling long-term relationship/marriage, and that’s more important in the long run.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 09:18 PM
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That is a generalization which doesn’t stand up to reason in a lot of cases. A man could be getting all the sex in the world from his partner and still cheat if he is the type to have low self-control and a desire for variety.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 09:09 PM
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If a man found out that his prospective partner was a habitual cheater or even had a lot of past sex partners despite her faithfulness in relationships, he’d deem her low value too.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 09:07 PM
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Why not just be in an open relationship then?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 09:05 PM
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She obviously did “date” and intend to “marry down” if she was with him. It was he who had the issue with her education. She went on to date a guy working at the dollar store.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 07:31 PM
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This is a good point. I don’t want to see a dark blob on the statue of David — why would I prefer to be distracted by such a thing when admiring a man nude?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 06:57 PM
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I just think tattoos are simply ugly on either gender. I don’t necessarily correlate them with “bad behaviour” or “impulsiveness”; I think that was more a line of thinking from the past when getting a tattoo was seen as taking a risk. Tattoos are so normal these days that no one judges people for having them, so I don’t think it makes one “slutty” or “trashy”. They just don’t look good. I prefer to see flesh the way nature intended. Not covered up with man-made junk. It’s gross to think about in…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 06:56 PM
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Everyone has their own perspective. My little sis is in vet school, and her ex fiancé was incredibly insecure that she would be making more money than him (he had a biology degree). He said it’s not right for her to be the breadwinner. So I think it goes both ways — a lot of men either consciously or subconsciously feel like they need to date women who earn less than them so they can be “the man of the house”.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 06:47 PM
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Look up some of the stuff that goes on with misogyny in the tech world. There’s a reason women don’t date a lot of guys who work in those fields. They have a boys club mentality and some of the most awful treatment of women imaginable.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 06:44 PM
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I disagree. Spending beyond your means on a flashy car and designer clothes when you have to go home and eat ramen because you have no money leftover just signifies really poor money management and an overwhelming insecurity that you need material goods to be accepted. Both of which are a huge turn off. Maybe this advice works for women 18-22, but more mature women are not going to be interested long term in a man who is reckless with his money.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 06:41 PM
1

If you go out and talk to people you’ll see the majority of women are not dating men who make $100k. Lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 06:38 PM
1

As a woman I always have to pee when I wake up. I wouldn’t want someone trying to wake me up by going down on me, and I would have the same courtesy with my male partner too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 08:53 PM
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That doesn’t make a lot of sense. I think most people, regardless of gender, have several relationships or situationships with people throughout their 20s. Just because they may happen to be single by the time they hit 30 doesn’t mean they are “leftovers”.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/21 08:45 PM
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Your escort prices in Amsterdam still don’t reflect the quality of a “high class” woman. If you go, you’ll notice a lot of them are from poor countries in the Balkans and Morocco, and you can see they aren’t working there out of freedom of choice. They dance in shady windows and you’re not getting any type of luxury experience. Most of the time they barely even know English. Plus I believe those prices are for 20 minutes to a half hour. There’s no way you can tell me you’re getting a high class …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 03:55 AM
1

The Venn diagram of men who say “it’s cheaper and easier to just pay for it” and those who see women’s value in terms of whether they can sex or not is a circle. That’s why these men claim it’s a waste of time to buy a woman dinner and get upset afterwards that they didn’t get laid. They don’t actually enjoy the dating process or want to know a woman on a human level — those dating requirements are just seen as an obstacle and “necessary evil”... a means to an end. They prefer to skip all of the…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 03:47 AM
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Exactly, I don’t know any woman who says this kind of stuff about their partner. They aren’t separating looks and personality like men tend to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 03:13 AM
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It’s gross that you think a woman stating her relationship values is some kind of “card” to play. It’s not a “shit test” either. She wants to wait until marriage, you don’t, so break up with her. Trying to get advice on the best way to manipulate or guilt trip her into crossing a boundary she has set is abhorrent. Pressuring her by bringing up other parts of Christianity she may not follow to a T isn’t going to have the “gotcha!” effect you’re looking for, you’re just going to look like an assho…
/r/askTRP06/05/21 12:51 AM
1

An older woman? Hahahaha. She’s literally 29. Ask her if she wants kids. Solved.
/r/askTRP06/05/21 12:23 AM
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Not too often anymore, but I got approached all the time when I was a teenager and early 20s. I’m closer to my late 20s now. I hear from a lot of women that age plays a factor, and the younger you are, the easier I suppose men find it is to approach. It was especially creepy because I was a child when it happened the most.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 03:04 AM
1

Kinda. Two of my sisters have been fat since youth and it had a lot more to do with hormones than diet, since we all ate the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 08:59 PM
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I think it’s a bit of an assumption to say the only other option is to risk sexual assault. I think that speaks more to the person who fears this than the women they’re talking about...
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 11:21 AM
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I’m agreeing with you that I understand prioritizing the physical pleasure of sex is one-dimensional. I’m just saying there are definitely people out there who disagree and would find it more enjoyable (at least in the short-term) to just go with robot sex. I’m sure most of them would still look back on life feeling empty if that’s what they chose to do instead of pursuing a human relationship, though. It’s like any easy, low-effort high-reward choice — it’s generally not good for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 10:12 AM
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Ah, well I can’t really comment on that because I’m not a man. But I’m just picturing some kind of bizzaro-device that’s in some way mechanically superior to female human anatomy. Plus if you add in the new visual stimulation every time it is going to hook a lot of men... just not the kind of men I’d want to be with anyway. I think most people here seem to disagree with OP too.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 09:50 AM
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Huh? Enjoy dating douchebags and assholes? Where are you getting that from?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 09:31 AM
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Well, I agree with him in the sense that I’m sure it could physically feel better, because some kind of magical robotic sex doll can take on any property it is designed for. I’m just saying it misses the completeness of sex and intimacy which inherently make it more enjoyable than flying solo. But yeah, it’s usually incel types that have these revenge-takes where they fantasize about a world where women finally “understand what it’s like to be a man” (in their sex robot fantasy it’s about depriv…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 09:24 AM
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Lmao, only a redditor could take a statement that doesn’t assume the worst of women and turn it into an “analysis” of how that means I’m somehow demeaning them. Are we really going to do this when you’re the one who started off with the assumption that a marriage necessarily involves nagging on the woman’s part in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 07:54 AM
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I guess I technically “dated” him, but it wasn’t a real relationship for either of us. He liked buying me stuff because I was an attractive woman. He liked showing me off and I liked getting gifts. We both saw it for what it was, but the thirsting after randos was just super off-putting, and so was his possessiveness of me (we were in an open relationship)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 07:52 AM
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I think it comes down to whether they are capable of secure attachment or not too. Someone who is a securely attached person with a normal view of relationships isn’t going to want some kind of roller coaster emotional ride of a partner. It will be a huge turn off.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 05:30 AM
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Yikes dude
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 05:23 AM
1

It’s never happened, and never will. I think there is always going to be a pretty big subset of the population who will never have first date sex no matter the circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 05:23 AM
1

My mom dated down. My dad is and has always been a loser. He had a lifelong career and whatnot, but a shitty personality, anger issues, and lived with his mom til he was 39. I really don’t know why they got together. My mom claims it was because he was extremely smart and he knew about a lot of things, but all I saw him as was an alcoholic trucker.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 05:20 AM
1

At my age I would not consider a man who has already been through a divorce. It screams recklessness with their commitment. I am sure my opinions will change as I get older.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 05:18 AM
1

I definitely agree and it’s probably one of the most prevalent things you see when it comes to women who have complaints about getting their partner to commit. Besides, men know that it is a huge risk to bring up sexual topics too early or too forcefully, and so if they do this, they are already inadvertently admitting that they are willing to risk losing out on the potential of keeping you interested in the hopes of getting some action. If a man genuinely sees a woman as “girlfriend material”, …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 05:16 AM
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Especially when they know they have nothing in common with them. I used to date a guy who was your average gamer and he had nothing in common with the local Instagram “baddies” he was always desperately trying to pursue. Even if he ended up getting one to agree to a date, what are they gonna talk about? Ridiculous
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 04:51 AM
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This is great advice and is probably top for both genders
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 04:47 AM
1

Women only become nags when there is already an imbalance in the amount of household duties between them. I can assure you, no woman wants to feel like they need to nag and babysit their partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 04:45 AM
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The only people who agree with the statement that robot sex will be better than organic sex are people who view sex as strictly an act of the pursuit of physical pleasure, and in my view, those people are already discounted from my potential dating pool. So really, it would be no loss, as it would simply filter out all of the men who could not care less about the human intimacy of such an act. If anything, it would improve my dating prospects, since I would automatically know by virtue of dating…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 04:40 AM
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Because men know that women are the selectors in the dating world. Men know that if they don’t lock a woman down, she’s free to get snatched up by the next guy. When you’re casually dating a woman and you like her enough to know you want to secure things, you step up and ask for commitment. Women don’t get down on one knee and propose to their man either. There’s nothing wrong with waiting for the man she is casually seeing to suggest taking the next step, but I also think it’s stupid for any wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 04:33 AM
1

Huh lol? A mutual friend called him up and said that she wants to meet him and go to his apartment. That is as forward as a woman can get, honestly. It had nothing to do with wanting to discuss business; the friend explicitly told Jimmy that Nicole liked him and thought he was funny. He was just oblivious because he probably didn’t see himself as her type.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 04:26 AM
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I agree with your conclusion: the more beautiful the woman, the less likely you’ll get another chance Not because I think she has a damaged ego for “being rejected”, but because she has other suitors and due to a lifetime of being attractive to men probably has a healthier view on relationships and the appropriate window of time to be interested in something unrequited before moving on. If it’s something as silly as being interested in a guy and perceiving that he’s “rejected” her, it’s quite tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 04:22 AM
1

Have you ever seen a fat person’s body after losing weight? It’s usually deflated. I wasn’t even fat, but I lost weight and the loose skin will mean I’ll never have the body type I want. It’s so much worse for fat women who lose weight if they can’t afford skin removal surgery. It’s not as simple as “just lose weight and you’ll suddenly be attractive to most men”.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 04:02 AM
2

And yet I don’t know a single man who cares about the female body positivity movement either. At best, they are indifferent towards it, and at worst, they’re openly critical of it (which seems to be the majority, at least for what is posted online by men who mock it). It is considered a joke of a movement to men who say nothing will change the fact that they’re not attracted to fat women. Obviously women as a whole aren’t going to find shorter men more attractive than taller men. No movement aro…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 03:59 AM
2

It’s probably the autism voice
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 08:30 PM
4

?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 09:54 AM
4

You may as well be paying for escorts then if that’s the game plan, rather than delude yourself into thinking a college aged woman cares about dating you. She’d keep the 30 something year old guy a secret and date guys her own age. It just seems like a recipe for low self esteem for the guy paying for her text books.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 04:15 AM
19

Right... who would want to see others fail more than they care about making their own lives better and more fulfilling? It’s a coping mechanism. Only people who feel powerless in their own lives thrive off of enjoying the hurt of others. That includes every man who thinks they are going to get some kind of “last laugh” at women who end up single.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 04:13 AM
6

I just don’t know any successful men with their shit together who go after chronically unemployed women (we’re not talking about a woman in between jobs for a couple months here, although I don’t think these women should be seeking dates at this time anyway). The only men who seem to do this are men leeching off the system themselves, who are losers in other ways, or who prey on vulnerable women with financial instability in order to keep them dependent on them. Most abusive men do use financial…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 01:23 AM
1

Because there is a physiological difference between “getting hard” and “getting wet”. Getting hard is due to blood flow in the genitals; both genders experience this with a small amount of arousal/stimulation. Getting wet requires more — it’s the physiological equivalent of a man being aroused to the point of leaking precum. And since getting a woman wet is pretty much required if you want her to enjoy the experience with you, I don’t see why this is a point of contention. It’s like a woman aski…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 01:20 AM
1

Skinny guys are somewhat of a body type trend right now, especially of the “soft boi” variety. If you fit a certain aesthetic you will definitely find a lot of women are into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 01:17 AM
3

If you used to be fat yourself, you probably already have loose skin or stretch marks. If a woman was judging you based on the male equivalent of this chart you’ve posted, you’d probably fail.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 01:14 AM
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It’s crazy that even a literal model with a flat stomach is getting comments about her being too fat or not being that attractive. I do wonder what these commenters who have something to nitpick about look like.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 01:12 AM
5

A lot of men claim to the public they don’t want a “fatty”, but behind closed doors they do. They’re just afraid of the backlash they will get for dating one. It’s sad and it shows how many men will value the opinion of other men over their own preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 01:10 AM
1

The same reason men don’t consider income in women they want to marry is the same reason women do. Men who want a family know the woman won’t be able to prioritize her career anyway, so the most important thing is her personality, looks, and compatibility together. Women take a huge risk by choosing a man to marry and have kids with, so future stability is very important.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 01:05 AM
2

I don’t see it as emasculating to pay for a man’s dinner. But I wouldn’t want to see him again. The way I see it, is if a man is truly interested in me, he’s going to do everything in his ability to make sure he gets a second date. Men know that this means paying for dinner; it’s been ingrained in culture from the beginning of time. If he wants to go splits or ask me to pay, he’s just not that into me (which is fine, but even if he did like me I’m not going to perceive it as a very high level of…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 12:59 AM
2

The only time men care about the ideals of feminism is when it comes to not having to pay for their date’s food. Hmmmm
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 12:52 AM
4

It seems like whenever men say this, they mean they don’t like makeup that is poorly applied. In their eyes it looks like “too much”, but the exact same amount of makeup applied by someone with more skill doesn’t come across this way. In fact, I find it takes much longer and I have to use more products to achieve a “no makeup makeup” look than my traditional cat eye + eyeshadow combo. I also think men say this because they want a woman who is “low maintenance”; they don’t want her to spend too l…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 12:48 AM
1

Of course women aren’t going to be interested in a man who has “nothing”. If someone has “nothing”, they have bigger issues to worry about than trying to find a girlfriend. And if that man’s mentality on relationships is to lose his loyalty once he has “everything”, then that’s a reflection of his character. That phrase says a lot more about men than it does women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 12:43 AM
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Most men don’t want to date unemployed women unless they have controlling tendencies and enjoy having financial leverage over someone. A lot of men do that. The only other group of men who go after unemployed women are men with no standards. Most sane and stable men don’t want to date a woman without a job (NEET women is what I’m referring to here).
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 12:40 AM
1

Depends if you’re funny
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 06:01 AM
2

Most hetero men can’t even get their one partner to orgasm every time they have sex — what makes you think they’re adequate enough to cheat and satisfy more women too? 😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 05:33 AM
2

Lolwhat. That’s a post about screening clients for their own safety, not their attractiveness. If sex workers refused to have sex with unattractive men, they’d be out of a job.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 05:13 AM
14

So succinct * chefs kiss *
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 04:58 AM
1

Ah, yes, because every man who has ever been kissed before the age of 25 was ripped.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 04:54 AM
6

Are you new to the internet? Look at any sub or online community male-centred and there are always people laughing at women who look like that, especially when the discussion is framed around feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 04:52 AM
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This is just red pilled/incel’s rationalization of women’s preferences framed in a way that makes us look shitty and deceptive no matter what we say we like. Of course they know what we want better than they do... if we like muscular, fit men, we fall into the “chad only” box, and if we don’t, we’re just lazy and lying to the men we date.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 04:49 AM
2

Generally slapstick comedy doesn’t make me laugh, no. I don’t think it’s funny to laugh at others’ pain. I just don’t get it, but that’s different from what we’re talking about here anyway. There’s a huge difference between chuckling at a clumsy person who trips over their shoelaces and laughing at women who have poor dating experiences because of a lifetime of resentment for women, which is a huge reason (if not the only reason) why that sub exists. It’s the red pillers and incels’ favourite ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 05:48 AM
2

They usually don’t unless they find themselves with someone who is anxiously attached and pushes for everything to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 02:11 AM
1

And I do have a hard time believing that red pill men who seem to spend the majority of their free time pondering how to get easy sex from women have the time to cultivate an interesting skill set or range of hobbies. But it’s definitely us women who are too boring for them...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 02:03 AM
1

Ah. Around here that website seems to only be known amongst people at least middle aged and older. Maybe bumble could work since women have to make the first move there? It might also be helpful to mention the autism so you don’t inadvertently creep anyone out by accident. But then you kinda get the pitfall of possibly being treated like a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 01:58 AM
2

You really don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 01:56 AM
4

Maybe it’s because adult women generally aren’t “cute” anime waifus but I digress... you’re always going to be stuck in the past when your idea of peak attractiveness is teenage girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 01:55 AM
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Yep, the irony of it is that none of these self proclaimed “good men” are actually good people if they are deriving pleasure from watching women fail.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 01:53 AM
1

I kind of get what you’re saying, but to a lesser degree since I’m female and it’s easier to deal with dating. But I had a really big problem with being creepy towards boys I liked in middle school; I was straight up stalking most of them and I really cringe looking back. Most of the times I “dated” (if you can call it that at that age) was just me cornering a guy into it because I couldn’t take a hint and they didn’t know how to speak up to reject me either. I didn’t date anyone at my high scho…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 12:15 AM
1

Okay, I can understand that. I do see how being both a woman and being autistic can lead to an additional layer of hypervigilance when that woman has had experience with being taken advantage of due to her naïveté. In your experiences where you’ve made autistic women uncomfortable, did they know you were also autistic? I could definitely see how being “different” than what they expect from NT men/boys could set off alarm bells if they didn’t realize why you were behaving “strangely”. I feel like…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 10:43 PM
1

Can you give some examples of what happened (either with what happened to you or what you’ve heard from others) and why that was perceived as dangerous? I’m just super curious since I’ve never heard of this phenomenon before. I always thought it would be easier for two people with autism to date since the general manner of communicating tends to be much more simple and direct, so there is less confusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 10:23 PM
1

That’s interesting. I’m autistic and would consider autistic men to be less “threatening” than neurotypical, because generally they tend to be more honest and in my experience, care less about what I think. I’m a direct person myself and I find the direct communication I get from other people on the spectrum to be very refreshing and it puts us both at ease. Why do you say that autistic women might be more afraid of autistic men? I’ve never heard it before
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 09:02 PM
1

Unless they’re teenagers or she has such incredibly low self-esteem, this is just going to look bad on him (it does anyway, but it’s not going to work if she’s mature). Obvious signs of trying to make a girl jealous are generally a turn off.
/r/askTRP21/04/21 08:40 PM
1

We are almost the same, except I have a shit ton of debt. Wee
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 11:57 AM
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Good quality sex dolls are thousands of dollars. I think there has to seriously be something lacking in a man’s life to where this would be considered a priority. It’s not the same as a woman popping off to the shops to spend $50 on a vibrator. Besides, the entire idea of wanting the entire “body” attached to the sex toy adds a layer of uncanny valley objectification which is unsettling to me. They want to see a lifeless body with dead eyes underneath them while they’re getting off? So much that…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 11:44 AM
1

Unless there’s a reason you would know how literal of a thinker you are (which I’m assuming most don’t unless they have social issues where this has been pointed out), most probably have no idea how to answer this question. Everyone knows some idioms, and native English speakers are going to take some things less literally here just by way of understanding how much and how little certain phrases hold. It’s a curious experiment, though, because you mentioned the phrase “girls _” and that some out…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 11:26 AM
1

How come I never see autistic guys give the advice to just go for autistic women? They always blather on about how neurotypical women don’t want them because of their poor social skills instead of finding a woman similar to themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 11:07 AM
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Maybe I am biased as a tall woman, but I don’t really have a hard time overpowering a skinny or small guy. I’m not that muscular at all either.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 11:06 AM
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Those comments are out of touch with reality. Men have to be flexing to show off every muscle in their torso, and I don’t know why they expected Jason momoa to look like his promo pics while just chilling in a candid.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 11:05 AM
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It’s coming from a place of insecurity still though, at least you can admit. I heard someone say that about fat women (the question was why do people tear down confident fat women?). Most people don’t feel 100% confident in themselves and it feels unfair to see someone who society generally expects to be insecure “beat” the system and feel confident despite the “flaws” they have, especially if they are “worse” than you in that sense. Using quotes to denote that it’s not objectively bad to be fat…
/r/askTRP21/04/21 10:58 AM
2

Unfortunate, but the timing is not worth trying to make this work. You don’t really know if you’re settled at all after only 2 months, and it’s not worth moving around your life or hers to see if it can work. Plus, you said you’ll be living in the biggest city in your country, so undoubtedly you’ll be able to find someone else. I’d let her know ASAP what’s happening and ask her if she wants to keep it casual until you move.
/r/askTRP21/04/21 10:02 AM
1

This should be the top answer. The problem is that red pillers tend to pick the low hanging fruit (i.e. low IQ and naive women who are easily manipulated) for casual relationships and then wonder why there isn’t any more substance to them. The more intelligent a woman is, the quicker she is to pick up on PUA tactics like red pill and the men here aren’t going to get far enough with her to know her on that level anyway. On top of that, there’s often an assumption by guys that women don’t want to …
/r/askTRP21/04/21 09:51 AM
2

This just in: man who doesn’t know the difference between there, their, and they’re thinks women are “retarded” for “need to be cultivate knowledge”.
/r/askTRP21/04/21 09:43 AM
1

I don’t really know that you should be judging women’s intelligence when you believe in conspiracy theories like the new world order. Maybe they are getting the “pseudo intellectual” vibe from you and it’s turning them off. I know I don’t want to engage in conversation with these types because they already come to the conversation with an agenda and no actual science changes their mind. It’s not worth it. I’d rather play dumb too.
/r/askTRP21/04/21 09:41 AM
1

Just ignore them unless she’s specifically trying to talk to you. She probably just wants to see how fast you open them.
/r/askTRP21/04/21 09:36 AM
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The older you get, the more you realize nobody cares about you like you do. For better and worse. No one remembers an embarrassing thing that happened to someone else, unless it was bad enough to be objectively embarrassing. Girls/women get a ton of guys who do this to them all the time. You probably aren’t the first to send her creepy/cringey messages, and you probably aren’t the worst of them either. Also, even if what you said embarrasses you from how vulnerable it was, she is still probably …
/r/askTRP21/04/21 09:34 AM
1

If you are making up phrases during dirty talk such as “turning my butt into McDonald’s meat”... yeah, you are definitely going to be part of some rumours. I don’t know where you are getting these lines, but that ain’t it. If you are worried about this, just date online where there are no mutual friends between you.
/r/askTRP21/04/21 09:24 AM
1

These answers are weird. She thought she was dating you and then realized you weren’t as serious about her as she is about you, so she pulled back. That is a normal human response. Everyone saying otherwise is only referring to clingy and insecure women who are vulnerable to RP games. Just because she doesn’t cancel her plans for you doesn’t mean that she thinks you are dying to be with her; it means she’s a good friend. It’s bad news when a woman you just start seeing drops everything in her li…
/r/askTRP21/04/21 09:22 AM
1

Don’t understand how this can be real. No one with a job or school has time to meet a new woman for sex every night, let alone during covid. That being said, if you are literally spending your entire life trying to chase sex then pick up some other hobbies to fill your time and make you a better well rounded person. If you are trying to curb your sex drive SSRIs are pretty good.
/r/askTRP21/04/21 09:14 AM
1

Lmfao 😶 yike
/r/askTRP21/04/21 09:09 AM
2

It sounds like your own ego is the problem if you allow yourself to get worked up to the point of trying to “destroy their ego”. Just walk away and let your absence do the talking. Don’t be an immature child; always act with intention. You also don’t want these kinds of people in your life anyway, so reacting in any way isn’t going to get you anywhere. Exploding on them only makes them more self-assured that the problem is with you and not them.
/r/askTRP21/04/21 08:27 AM
1

Weird that you are concerned over her cheating when she’s going with 20 other women and you’re worried because one single man will be there. You don’t sound mature enough to be in a committed relationship if this is something you are considering “not allowing” her to do.
/r/askTRP21/04/21 08:23 AM
2

If a woman is being boring over text she’s not interested. That’s just the cold hard truth. Same goes for if she says she’s “bad at texting”.
/r/askTRP21/04/21 07:36 AM
1

It’s pretty cringe to get upset and say “I meant I just wanted you for sex” to a woman when you get rejected/ignored. It’s almost the equivalent of “I didn’t want you anyway you fat fuck” and it looks really desperate
/r/askTRP21/04/21 07:35 AM
1

Dude, you’re taking her on WALK dates and investing nothing, so why are you getting butthurt she didn’t have sex with you on the third date when she was on her period? Once a woman feels like you are pressuring her or have a sense of entitlement, she loses all desire to sleep with you. You need to cool it.
/r/askTRP21/04/21 07:21 AM
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No, and honestly anyone of either gender who is still pining after their first love or the person who took their virginity years later is not really someone you want to consider dating anyway; they are not mentally sound and that isn’t healthy at all to be unable to move on.
/r/askTRP21/04/21 07:17 AM
2

White van man? Is this a joke about being a serial killer looking dude or a pedo? Then she’s kidding with you...
/r/askTRP21/04/21 07:14 AM
2

Autistic?
/r/askTRP21/04/21 07:07 AM
1

Attachment issues
/r/askTRP21/04/21 07:05 AM
1

Any woman that follows a skin care routine in their life and avoids the sun/wears sunscreen is going to have great skin by 45 if she doesn’t smoke and live off of fast food. It’s just that most people currently 45 grew up thinking being tanned was the epitome of beauty (at least in the west here) and by now they have a lot of wrinkles/sun damage from it. People in the millennial/gen z age groups are all about skin care and SPF, and smoking is significantly less popular than it was in generations…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 04:16 AM
1

I would consider it short-sighted behaviour and drop a guy if he equated my decision to focus singularly on a human rights issue that interests me with narcissism, a personality disorder. Feminists discuss male issues far more often than men’s rights activists boast about the virtues of feminism, but I have yet to see that “movement”* labeled as narcissism *in quotes, because it’s hardly a movement focused on the rights of men as it is a simply label that was created in attempt to legitimize hat…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 07:33 AM
1

So you would say you were not physically attracted to her at all until you bonded with her over a similar history of trauma?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 05:26 AM
1

Okay, that’s obviously different, but you did specify above by saying “the first time we met”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 05:00 AM
1

How can you gauge attraction if the last woman you dated you were attracted to because of very personal reasons that probably wouldn’t have come to light in the beginning? Did it just seem like normal friendship until you knew her better?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 04:58 AM
1

I think most women would probably agree that emotional intelligence is much more important in a prospective partner than academic/standard intelligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 02:58 AM
1

If you’re meeting someone for the first time, you’re essentially strangers. Especially in the context of a woman who has to consider her physical safety travelling 4.5 hours away from home.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 02:56 AM
1

Oh ok; I didn’t realize you were being facetious
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 02:34 AM
1

So if the woman was equally as attractive that’s the only way a man would gush over a woman paying the bill?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 02:33 AM
1

By “carer” do you mean you took responsibility for all of the household duties and the men you dated didn’t reciprocate by falling into the “provider” role? If so, then what do you mean by saying they “appreciated” you?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 02:27 AM
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It’s intense in the sense that it’s incredibly dangerous for any woman to take the risk of driving several hours away from home to stay at a hotel with a man she is meeting for the first time. It’s never something I would do, but I’m glad it worked out for you guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 10:01 AM
3

I was hoping for a real comparison lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 10:00 AM
4

That is intense.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 09:45 AM
2

What’s the difference between an IRL feminist and a Reddit feminist?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 09:45 AM
1

I had interpreted your comment differently then
/r/askTRP18/04/21 08:56 AM
5

He didn’t mention anything to do with any one specific set of values, which is why I posed the question
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 08:55 AM
8

Here we see the callous and disagreeable male in his natural habitat🧐
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 08:17 AM
2

Gotcha. I goofed up my posture after years of growing up as a large kid who wanted to look smaller in contrast to my peers. Fixing posture as an adult is a hell of a challenge
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 08:13 AM
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In this economy? You gotta. If I’m the type of woman to sit back when it comes to earning money, and I want to ensure a good life for 2 critters for the next 18-22 years, accounting for economic crises, potential lapses in employment, etc., I have to find a man that’s earning a lot of money. No, you’re right — most families aren’t had by millionaires. But these days, most families also aren’t had by men who explicitly state that they want a woman with traditional values who isn’t career-minded. …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 08:11 AM
1

I guess I’m confused on blobbing then. Does it mean having a slouched posture?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 07:52 AM
2

So are you saying that the personality traits of masculinity are inherently negative then? Most of those descriptors are overtly negative with or without any provided context, so I don’t think there’s any way to spin it where masculinity isn’t being insulted here.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 07:50 AM
2

Debatable.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 07:34 AM
2

Not having an STD is the lowest bar in hell, my friend. You can do better than that 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 07:32 AM
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You’re a walking contradiction. If a woman is stepping back from being career oriented, and has values that prioritize raising a family, she’s going to absolutely need to ensure the man she decides to take that huge risk with has money. Otherwise she ends up becoming that stereotypical broke single mother everyone on here likes to laugh at.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 07:31 AM
1

Disagree; if you want 50/50 you’re going to wash your own things and cook your own meals most if not all of the time, unless you are referring to cooking and cleaning duties being on a rotating schedule. And if there are kids involved, a true 50/50 involves sacrificing as much sleep and time away from work as the wife when it comes to parenting. Anything less and the woman isn’t getting a fair 50/50.
/r/askTRP18/04/21 07:23 AM
1

Blobbing is not fine?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 07:04 AM
4

So if you have to ask a woman you’re attracted to on a date, you’ve already repulsed yourself by her because she didn’t think to ask first? I don’t get the logic here 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 06:53 AM
3

A woman stepping back and allowing herself to be pursued is disgusting to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 06:26 AM
3

Interesting. So if the women you dated didn’t initially draw you in because of their looks, and each woman had vastly different qualities about them that attracted you instead, was there any common link at all? For example, some people can totally disregard looks but find they need one specific trait in order to be attracted to a person (e.g confidence, intelligence, compassion).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 06:26 AM
7

It’s a little misandrist of you to generalize men as callous, jaded, disagreeable, and competitive...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 06:20 AM
5

So intelligence = pure intuition and excellence in reading social cues? Would you say those same traits are what is most important when it comes to judging male intelligence?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 06:17 AM
1

I don’t follow.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 06:14 AM
8

What if those values are to do with being a feminist activist?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 06:13 AM
2

Initiative doesn’t have to mean spending money, but in general the act of taking initiative as a woman tends to be seen as more aggressive than what a lot of men are used to when dating, and it’s not always a good thing. I was notoriously bad for it when I was a younger teenager and it came across as creepy (to be fair looking back I was pretty creepy though, lol).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 06:12 AM
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I’ve just never seen one of these posts where the man concluded “and I knew she was the one right then and there. We got married down the road”. Every single post is gushing about how it was the most amazing experience ever, and it always ends with the guy saying “but I ultimately wasn’t interested in her”. If the woman is pulling out all of the stops, it isn’t her doing that they didn’t end up dating. I think it just boils down to what the next top comment here says — they value a woman’s tradi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 05:42 AM
3

A good woman is hard to find, but if you’re self aware enough to know you aren’t able to communicate your needs in a relationship despite claiming that a woman knowing your needs intuitively is very important to you, why don’t you go to therapy and work on that? It’s going to be infinitely easier for a woman to make sure she’s meeting your needs if you can communicate them instead of giving her stress trying to figure out what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 05:35 AM
8

Most women, contrary to 99% of porn videos, don’t want to be jackhammered into until they get a bruised cervix and pelvic inflammatory disease. Being the “hardest” fuck is not something we rank our relationship satisfaction on.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 05:33 AM
10

Yeah, any man here saying they need a “feminine, nurturing, traditional values woman” needs to step up and offer the complementary role to that treatment. You can’t expect a nurturer if you have no intention of being a provider. Women (and people in general) only have so much energy; there’s no room left for this brand of “femininity” at the end of the day if the woman is working and doing 50/50 at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 05:31 AM
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It’s intriguing that I see this comment by guys on reddit all the time, usually when talking about a past date where the woman paid for his meal or brought him flowers, etc. The post always gushes about how amazing it made him feel that a woman would go out of her way to make him feel special. Interestingly enough, they always end it by saying “but despite how great it was to be treated so well, there was simply no spark and I wasn’t romantically attracted to her”. It makes me wonder if the ego …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 05:26 AM
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I don’t actually think it’s weird to be a virgin in your late twenties, and I’m pretty sure statistically it’s not weird either. I can see why some women would be suspicious of it though, because generally a man’s sex drive is strong enough that he is willing to put himself out there to get sex before that age, and maybe something else is going on in his life where he isn’t interested in it. But generally it just seems to be normal guys who just never had a chance to have sex, and I don’t judge …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 05:22 AM
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I wouldn’t say I trust any Hollywood man not to be shallow when picking their partner, but I highly doubt Depp’s thought process was anything like you’re suggesting. Most heterosexual men don’t consider the risk of their partner being physically abusive towards them, and it’s also not something that tends to happen in the beginning of an abusive relationship in the first place. I don’t know anything about their history, but they were probably well committed before she laid her hands on him. I al…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 05:14 AM
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It’s pretty interesting that men on Reddit never seem to bring up issues of domestic violence against men or unfair treatment of men in the prison system unless it’s to attempt to discredit and distract from a feminist talking point. These issues never seem to be brought up in their own merit as standalone discussions where women and feminism aren’t framed as the enemy. If these people spent half as much time starting GoFundMe’s for men’s domestic violence shelters or going outside and doing som…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 05:06 AM
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Reddit intellectuals: Anecdotes trump data cuz philosophy Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 04:58 AM
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It’s amazing that I’m having this exact conversation reversed on here too. I have a guy telling me that waiting a few weeks at most to sleep with a man I’m dating (hypothetically) is fair, but pointless and punishing for both people when waiting longer than that. All I have to wonder is what exactly is a punishment about spending time with and enjoying the company of a woman? If you’re in the early stages of dating, it’s just not a match if it feels like you’re being punished in their company be…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/21 01:26 AM
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Eh, I don’t think we see enough men actually being happy single. I think the same could be said of women too, so it’s not exactly a gendered issue, I just think men who are single are more vocally angry about it, hence the incel mentality that some have. Women whine about being single and not finding good men too, but if all they’re looking for is a partnership to be happy, at least it’s easier to achieve. I don’t really understand what you’re trying to say with that rhetorical question. Of cour…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 09:27 PM
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I think someone else in this thread linked to a page saying the average was between 4 and 7 partners for younger men (I can’t remember the age, but I think it was 30). To me that seems way more reasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 09:13 PM
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A lot of women who engage in casual sex do end up feeling worthless afterwards. I don’t get it myself. I think it’s the high of male validation in the moment which can be addictive for some. But anyone doing it for this reason is bound to feel worse about themselves when they realize the men they hooked up with don’t care about them as a human being at all. There are a small percentage of women who enjoy casual sex because they can actually orgasm from PIV and they also have a healthy self estee…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 09:09 PM
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No, it doesn’t bother my sensibilities at all. I’m just wondering what man aside from those with social ineptitude problems doesn’t know when the woman they’re dating isn’t genuinely serious about them. If there’s any question about it, I agree that the man should waste no more time if he’s not getting any results, but in most cases a woman who is undeniably attracted and committed to a man will leave no doubts in his mind about her feelings, both with her words and with her actions. Women that …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 08:52 PM
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I disagree. A lot of really young kids prefer video games to doing stuff outside. In my line of work I sometimes have to deal with kids, and it’s amazing how many of them complain that their parents are taking them to the beach or to their soccer game because they can’t be at home playing Among Us or Fortnite. There’s no way these 7 year olds are going through existential crises where video games are a crutch they use to escape the harsh realities of the real world and a poor social life, lol. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 07:55 PM
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I don’t think most women do have an absurd amount of casual sex, though. And I think a lot of the ones who do but don’t physically enjoy the experience as much as men (not actually getting orgasms out of the casual sex they partake in) are probably in it more for the validation than the pure physical enjoyment they get. Sometimes all a woman wants is to know she’s still physically desirable and unfortunately insecurity can lead to her doing things she otherwise wouldn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 06:53 PM
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I don’t think the majority of men who aren’t looking for commitment from women are exactly Adonis, to be fair. If a man’s goal is casual sex or a freedom based lifestyle, he’s still not going to lock it down with a woman who is “in his league”, so to speak. He will still date for sex and dip if the women he sees pressure too much for commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 06:47 PM
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I do think it’s a great idea for men to do what they like and not worry about what women think or make themselves into a victim. I think single male happiness is awesome and we need to see more of it. No one should feel incomplete by being single. And the benefit of doing you and enjoying life alone tends to be that women admire it too, whether that’s important to the man or not. Women would much rather feel wanted than needed, and men who whine about being single and lonely give off the vibe th…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 06:41 PM
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I don’t think men who are looking for a “real connection” are subjugating their “natural desires”. I think it’s just normal to find a woman who you find attractive and interesting to be the most alluring choice if you’re looking for a relationship. Your comparison between the genders also doesn’t make any sense. Are you saying a woman’s youth to a man is singularly as important as a woman wanting an attractive, rich, successful, and popular man? Maybe your point would hold more weight if you com…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 06:37 PM
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Eh, this might just be because of my personal taste, but I disagree. I like skinny guys, and it’s not that hard to be skinny as a man. They have an easier time losing fat as they are less estrogenic than women. I agree though that if ones taste is for well-built men, the average male body (from its “starting point”, as you say) is probably further from that ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 06:28 PM
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I just don’t see how anyone would prefer to date than be single if they’re consistently finding they have to force themselves to find likeable traits in the women they date. I’m also wondering what kind of women these men are dating if this is a reoccurring theme. I’ve gone on OLDs where there was no spark, or the personalities didn’t click, but that doesn’t mean all men have insufferable personalities that I’ll have to settle for just to have a man in my life. That sounds like a terrible choice…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 06:25 PM
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I don’t understand why I’m getting downvoted when I said it’s extremely inappropriate for a woman to make your tragedy about herself, or to tell you you are grieving the wrong way. I agreed that when this happens it needs to be called out. I don’t understand reddit sometimes...
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 06:21 PM
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So, I’m not really going to go into the catfish thing, because I think at some point there’s a certain level of personal responsibility one must take to ensure they aren’t spending 5 years dating a catfish. I have a hard time feeling bad for people who don’t mind online dating someone for years on end in this day and age and don’t ask to see them on a FaceTime call. It was one thing to be chatting online with someone across the country in 2005 who didn’t have a webcam, but we aren’t in that era …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 06:19 PM
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I’m only one woman, so I can only speak for my own experiences and from what I’ve heard of women around me (I work exclusively with women, and they all happen to be married). I just don’t hear women expressing exasperation that their husbands opened up to them about something personal. Just yesterday my coworker was comforting her husband about his dad not doing well, and she didn’t seem annoyed about it at all. I think what would make sense is if a lot of the men who’ve felt like they were “pun…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 06:08 PM
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Like I said, I’m in my 20s myself and am no stranger to interesting discussions, but they’re interesting in the context of the lives and experiences of the people having the conversation. That rapidly changes from 20 where the most exciting thing to talk about is university life vs 40 when you probably want to gush about your home renovations or something far different from what new adults are chatting about. I think a boring 25 year old woman still has a much more interesting life than your ave…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 05:37 PM
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I think women start finding it repulsive when a man is self-obsessed, and often times those men put a lot of work into their appearance. But I don’t think most men who care to look good fall under that narcissistic or ultra-vain category. Sure, a normal dude can look great at 25 without wearing sunscreen or caring about his style, but if a woman settles down with him for life, she’s probably not going to find that same man at 45 with sun-wrinkled skin and no sense of style quite as much as she h…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 05:31 PM
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Can you give an example or examples of what makes one woman basic and another woman plain?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 05:25 PM
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I just disagree with the principle that people in love (or at least for the first 1-2 year honeymoon period) are actually thinking there are others more attractive than their partner out there, or desiring sex with them more. I just don’t see how you can have an all-encompassing relationship with someone and love them for their personality, looks, and the total package and think superficial hotness of some other person out there provides a bigger drive to desire them rather than your partner. I’…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 05:23 PM
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When I said that sex comes easy for women, I meant that it’s not difficult to find a man to sleep with, not that it’s likely to be enjoyable or something most women even seek out or want. I’m just saying that when a woman does choose to go for casual sex with someone she doesn’t know all that well, she’s probably less likely to objectify that man than that man will do to her (which is what I’m assuming you meant when you said not seeing the person as a “whole”). Men automatically tend to deem wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 05:18 PM
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I think most women who have the ravishment fantasy centre it around being most desired by the person they also desire most. Not just some random “Chad” in most cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 10:39 AM
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Am I missing something? Why wouldn’t a woman in a monogamous relationship be the most desired person by her partner, unless he has some sort of cheating issue? Are you saying all men actively desire someone more than the person they are with? I’m not talking about objectively finding a Victoria’s Secret model to be hotter, but actual human desire stronger for someone other than their partner. It seems bizarre to compare this to being the best football player in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 10:36 AM
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My cooch would dry up so fast if a man told me “there are so many hotter women, but you have value to me”. What am I, a Big Mac meal? Lmao. I think it’s obvious that the answer to OPs question is that women want to feel 100% desired and exclusively so.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 10:31 AM
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The only time I’ve ever worried where the man I was dating’s eyes were, was when he already did something to make me feel unloved. Coming from the guy who commented that he’d be lying by saying his girlfriend was perfect when she isn’t a model, I’m less inclined to believe you’ve never done anything to make your partner insecure about herself. I think anyone experiencing true love considers the person they are with a physical 10/10 and they won’t have to feel like they are lying about it or that…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 10:26 AM
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Sure, most men are more limited in what they can do for their appearance, but a dress shirt isn’t just a dress shirt and a haircut isn’t just a haircut. I think women pick up on when men are actually aware of what flatters them and it creates a sense of coherence to their appearance (ok that has a ring to it) that transcends the things about their appearance they can’t change. It’s all about knowing what flatters you best and not just looking like you knew what hair gel and a tie are.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 10:20 AM
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There’s nothing repulsive about men putting a lot of effort into their appearance. If anything, western women complain that men are slobbish and care too little. There’s a reason why 3 in 1 shampoo/body wash isn’t a thing in other cultures. In most non-western cultures, men have an expectation to put effort into themselves if they want to be attractive. Sunscreen and skin care, daily cologne, pressed shirts and careful dress, consistent neat or stylist haircuts, etc. North America and parts of E…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 10:16 AM
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Yeah, I think the men who complain about height but are statistically an inch or two below average use it as a reason they don’t have to feel any personal responsibility for their dating failures. It’s so much easier to blame things on a static physical feature than to admit that maybe their personality isn’t the greatest and thinking this way also preserves their ego. The downside is that they are just giving themselves an excuse not to improve on the traits they can change.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 10:10 AM
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Even if that were true, you have to consider the percentage of those men who have hobbies that consist of video games and porn vs what men of past generations would be doing with their time (most likely something outdoors or at the very least in situations where they are more likely to meet romantic prospects). It’s not that they are doomed to have no “relationship prospects”, it’s that they stay indoors and throw all of their eggs into the online dating basket, which honestly is a shitty way to…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 10:08 AM
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I think a lot of women like makeup on guys. All major male celebs wear makeup and you don’t see women criticizing it. Same with the emo trend of days past — women went crazy for black eyeliner. Nowadays a lot of women like men who are effeminate in other ways too, like Harry Styles wearing nail polish and dresses. I don’t think women see these things as cheating their looks the same way men see women wearing makeup or a push up bra as “cheating” them. Hell, men are the ones who invented the phra…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 10:03 AM
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You’re also seeing a biased selection, because the women who actually care about a man being 6 feet tall are going to either have it advertised in their bio or need to know before meeting up. Most don’t ask, don’t advertise, and don’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 09:56 AM
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No way. If you knew the half of what even “low maintenance” or “plain Jane” looking women had to do to keep their appearance neat and tidy you’d rescind your statement. The women that seem to be examples of “hot” on RP are not only spending a good chunk of time daily on beauty regimes, but have multiple monthly/biweekly appointments for aesthetic procedures alone (eyelash extensions/tinting/lifting, manicures, pedicures, waxing, hair, facials, fillers/Botox, the list is endless). I don’t have th…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 09:55 AM
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Most women tell you you’re inappropriately grieving over your father’s funeral? What the hell kind of monsters are you dating? Absolutely call that shit out when it happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 09:46 AM
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Well, if a man is forcing himself to find traits in his partner that he admires or even tolerates, he needs to develop some actual standards. It says more about his choice in partner than anything — that is, unless, you’re here to paint broad strokes about all women being inherently unlikable, in which case may I suggest r/MGTOW, r/asexual, or even r/gay
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 09:42 AM
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Expressing emotion isn’t behaving like a woman though. I think far more women take pride in being a safe space for their man to open up to than those who chastise him for being emotionally vulnerable, but I agree with the OP that the man in question has to have standards for himself when choosing someone to date if he doesn’t want to end up feeling like shit about himself for having a normal emotional range. That being said, women don’t want to hear the same complaint constantly with no action b…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 09:39 AM
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Eh, that’s 3 years in the difference; practically nothing as long as he isn’t a goober.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 09:30 AM
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Yep, the only woman I knew who only went for younger men was almost as immature as a teenager and had a severe drug habit that men closer to her age were less likely to tolerate. With either gender going for a significantly younger partner seems to be correlated with immaturity far worse than their chronological age would suggest.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 09:26 AM
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The proof doesn’t lie: teen and barely legal porn is the most popular category almost everywhere and has been for a long time. There’s no way those actresses are selected randomly at 18+; they’re selectively picked because they look 14 but legally they are allowed to do porn. Hell, some of those videos have women that don’t even look pubescent. It is very true that a lot of men’s sexual preferences are rooted in pedophilia, and there are a lot of them out there who had no interest in it until po…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 09:23 AM
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Meh, whether your target is barely legal or MILF/cougar, you’re fetishizing an age category and that in itself is strange.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 09:14 AM
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I really question the depth of a man whose preference for a partner while in his 40s is a woman half his age. I’m a woman in my 20s myself, so I am by no means undermining my own agency, but I can’t imagine being conversationally interesting long-term with a man who has that much life experience. How do these men who want such young partners even experience dating? Is it as shallow as it seems? I only personally know one man (a client at my work) who has this relationship style, and he strikes m…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 09:10 AM
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Because women require more from a man than simple physical attractiveness. Sure, a 25 year old man is going to be more attractive than a 40 year old man, but he’s going to be emotionally and intellectually underwhelming to a 40 year old woman. The question really is why so many men have such shallow standards that they are willing to forego a deeper connection with a woman around their own age to go for someone in a much less mature stage of life. To me that is utterly bizarre and unimaginable. …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 09:00 AM
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I don’t necessarily agree with your conclusion — you don’t always need a large window of time to determine if you’re willing to have sex with someone, and it doesn’t have to affect how much you value that person, but it does for a lot of people (especially men). Sex generally doesn’t come easy for men, so if they quickly hook up with a woman it’s easier to devalue her (nothing earned, nothing valued). Sex is always easy for women, so it’s less likely that she’s going to come away from a quick ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 08:54 AM
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Aren’t plain and basic the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 08:42 AM
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Do insecure women really fall for players, though? That seems paradoxical.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 08:30 AM
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I think very ugly women are able to get sex, but not relationships unless they go for someone who is as unattractive as them. I would read the femcel subreddit when that was a thing and it was a common complaint there that male incels would berate their struggles since they could have sex whenever they wanted. They admitted they could get sex, but didn’t do that, because it wasn’t what they wanted. They couldn’t actually find men that cared about them to the degree of committing to a relationshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 08:28 AM
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A woman has to do a lot more to be considered attractive though. I went a period of my life with bad skin, minimal/no makeup, ugly hair, and no fashion sense (baggy clothes, didn’t care) and it’s a night and day difference. Even if I dressed nicely but didn’t keep up with my skincare and makeup routine I would be considered unattractive to probably most men. I also think by a certain age women understand that the majority of men in their age category are going to be balding, so unless you’re in …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 08:18 AM
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They want a woman with no flaws as defined by them. Having sex before meeting them is a flaw, but the rest of RP ideology is centred around exploiting “flawed” women (or at least what the general public would consider to be flawed, i.e women who have histories of abuse or who have emotional disorders). They prey on young and emotionally vulnerable women — the entire point of “game” is to make a woman feel insecure and needy (“dread”), and these tactics simply turn-off well-adjusted adults. They …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 08:14 AM
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There are far more benefits to waiting to have sex than there are to have it earlier and hope for the best. There are men out there that are perfectly fine with waiting until marriage and won’t pressure a woman, so I wouldn’t take it as a loss if a “reasonable” man peaced out of dating me because I wanted to wait for sex longer than he did. It’s far more likely that there will be significant emotional investment if you wait to have sex (not til marriage necessarily, but until you know each other…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 07:58 AM
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Yep, I think the biggest eye opener of growing up as a woman is realizing that a man can absolutely hate your guts and won’t turn down sex if he thinks he can get it from you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 07:51 AM
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But we all gotta level with ourselves here... if any of us were 100% normal and well-socialized, we probably wouldn’t be on Reddit arguing about different colours of pills and how social interaction is supposed to work. Lol 😆
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 07:49 AM
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How can men who are “redpilled” feel cheated that they didn’t date in their 20s when you are describing them as having spent the decade “waiting” to date/for some catalyst to propel them into a relationship? Isn’t that notion the antithesis of what redpill advocates? It seems to be all about “improving” yourself (some of the ideas around improvement are debatable, but I digress) and putting yourself out there to date women despite knowing rejection is going to happen more often than not. Therefo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 07:46 AM
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To be fair, in club or bar settings (or anywhere were heavy drinking is socially encouraged and hooking up is the main attraction of the engagement), you’re not going to be in the mood to philosophize either... so it’s a bit presumptuous to assume the women in those settings have no common values. Everyone gets stupid and obnoxious while drunk, hence the hookup culture surrounding those settings.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 07:24 AM
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I think it’s easier for more attractive women to hold off on sex because they fear less that the man they want will lose interest if she doesn’t put out. Unfortunately a lot of women feel like they have to give in and have sex earlier than they want to so they can keep a man around and hopefully lock him down.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 07:07 AM
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Either every man you know is an outlier, or they’re lying to you (most likely). I’m not really surprised men brag to their friends about having more sexual partners than they’ve actually had. There’s absolutely no way it’s average or standard for a guy to sleep with 16 women by 30. That seems at least double the average, if not higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 07:02 AM
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Yeah, but women and men aren’t the same. We don’t get satisfaction out of hooking up with a bunch of people, because statistically we’re far less likely to be sexually satisfied by that. A guy can hook up with 30 different women and as long as his dick works he can reasonably expect to orgasm each time. There’s no way a woman is getting that out of racking up a bunch of one night stands, or even a quick rotation of FWBs. I bet any woman interested in casual sex, if given the choice, would pick a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 06:58 AM
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I really doubt the average person from 20-30 consistently has a new sex partner every 4 months on average. That seems absurdly high.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 06:54 AM
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I’ll disagree here. I think they have preconceived notions of how many men a woman has slept with based off of how she dresses and what she looks like. A lot of men who are obsessed with women’s body counts are men whose only reference are internet posts and pop culture, and they tend to have a lot of hang-ups themselves from not having a lot of experience with sex. I agree that I found it strange browsing the “manosphere” and seeing men talk about women having body counts of 30+ to be average a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 06:41 AM
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I would never want to have sex with someone if I knew they were only doing it because I asked. That has got to be the least sexy scenario in the world. Why on earth would you think it’s preferable to give your partner what they wanted in the moment whilst not enjoying it yourself vs finding someone your libido is more closely matched to? The only kind of man who advocates a woman just allow herself to be had sex with when she doesn’t feel like it is the kind of man who isn’t all that jazzed abou…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 06:27 AM
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Exactly. And there’s certainly no shortage of women on Reddit and elsewhere writing for advice about what to do when their boyfriends have sex with them (rape) while they’re asleep, or after they’ve said no, or any type of scenario where they’re badgered into doing it when they aren’t in the mood. So let’s not pretend that’s something that doesn’t happen all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 06:22 AM
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Men actually financially bounce back from divorce faster than women do, especially when a child is involved. Most women have to either put their careers on the back burner or aren’t able to devote as much time and energy into their career once they become a parent because statistically they have to do more of the actual childcare and household duties, while the husband is able to focus more on earning money. That coupled with the mother generally taking on most of the custody after divorce leads…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 08:05 PM
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Since when did women lie about their height on dating sites? No, women are not wearing heels in their photos and pretending they are actually that height. That has got to be the most absurd claim I’ve ever heard. Sure, a man could lie about that on their profile too, but if a woman meets up with him and sees that he was lying, she’s going to think worse of him than if he just told the truth in the first place, because now he’s made himself look insecure and deceptive. Btw, men do use filters on …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 07:59 PM
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You don’t have the energy to want to be a better person? That’s a bit sad...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 07:55 PM
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Having an “artificially intelligent robot female companion” won’t make you happy or satisfied the same way paying for the services of an escort, simping on onlyfans, and buying a sex doll doesn’t bring you genuine connection and happiness. You can’t trick your brain into thinking whatever that kind of companionship is real. It doesn’t fill the same hole. (No puns intended lol)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/21 07:53 PM
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I’m surprised that your dermatologist recommends that as the best routine unless going for roaccutane. I find it far more helpful to use a 2% salicylic acid face wash and retin-A (at night) with daily sunscreen, niacinamide and varying antioxidant serums (right now euk134).
/r/askTRP13/04/21 05:15 PM
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A lot of guys haven’t had sex or experience with anyone at 22. It’s really not that abnormal, and you shouldn’t go into anything with that attitude. Only bring it up if she asks, but don’t lie about your experience (she will be able to tell when she kisses you anyway). Most women really don’t care all that much, I promise you.
/r/askTRP13/04/21 04:01 AM
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So your issue is that you don’t want to... agree with a woman when she makes good points during philosophical discussions? You’ve got it all wrong. That’s a basic part of human connection — people like feeling validated and especially so from their partner/romantic interest. Even more so when it’s about shared values and morals. If you sit around playing devil’s advocate every time she shares her views, she’s going to 1. become irritated that you always seem to want to turn discussions into deba…
/r/askTRP13/04/21 03:55 AM
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Please stop saying “cucked”. I can’t think of a worse term that has come out of this generation... You need therapy, preferably from someone specializing in trauma surrounding sexual abuse. A lot of “counsellors” are really poorly qualified, and receiving bad therapy is extremely detrimental to ones’ mental health, oftentimes making the damage worse.
/r/askTRP13/04/21 03:50 AM
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Benzoyl peroxide is actually one of the most commonly sold acne products that cause allergic reactions. It’s also not the best, it’s just most widely marketed (proactiv brand). That stuff ruined my face in my early 20s; I scratched so badly in my sleep that my face started developing a strange thick layer and the texture and colour looked so bizarre. I’d actually recommend this guy go check out some skincare subs because most would advise against just applying BP, especially with no co-routine a…
/r/askTRP13/04/21 03:47 AM
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You don’t even realize how many of those people who married young and had kids young are regretting their decision, they just can’t vocalize it without sounding like a horrible piece of shit parent/spouse. It’s just your FOMO talking; 26 is super young and there’s plenty of life left to be selfish about before you need to worry about those “milestones”. If it’s something you really want to move towards, though, then just start taking your dating life more seriously, since you need to plan out a …
/r/askTRP13/04/21 03:44 AM
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Sounds like the hallmark signs of depression. Spontaneous blunt affect, anhedonia, feeling like you’re just going through the motions of life or that you aren’t really present in your day to day life. Definitely recommend going to the doctor. You don’t have to say much of anything to get help — they prescribe meds like candy at least where I’m from and I don’t even have to explain myself. If you want more from your doctor you can just get a referral to a psychiatrist/psychologist depending on wh…
/r/askTRP13/04/21 03:41 AM
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Cocaine is 100% going to devastate your brain when it comes to managing emotions and your depression. That’s the first thing I’d kick if I were you. It’s hard to keep away from substances when you’re depressed and want to ignore the bad feelings, but you’re only going to make things worse. That even goes for more mild shit like weed. If you’re going to go on an antidepressant I’d recommend asking for one like Wellbutrin rather than a normal SSRI because that will mess up your libido too.
/r/askTRP13/04/21 03:38 AM
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Ignoring your girlfriend because she didn’t want to give you head/hj is indeed manipulative. The silent treatment is a recognized form of emotional abuse, whether TRP wants to agree with that or not. It’s also incredibly immature. She’s not a sex dispenser and she isn’t obligated to get you off in some way just because she’s on her period. You catch more flies with honey than vinegar, and you won’t be making her any more interested in sexual acts with you by reacting like a child.
/r/askTRP13/04/21 03:34 AM
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Yes, this exactly. Don’t push those feelings down because you’ll end up stifling them and confusing yourself later on in life (if you’re young). Let yourself feel it all but react accordingly.
/r/askTRP13/04/21 03:30 AM
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Yes, I think it’s fairly normal for a woman to ask about commitment within a few months of seeing each other if she really likes you. But some women are still going to wait for you to make that move.
/r/askTRP13/04/21 03:29 AM
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lolwut It’s actually good advice. Women can detect bitter angry men and it usually rises to the surface at some point or another, giving the woman incel vibes from him. There are lots of examples on this sub where someone will paste their conversation with a woman who said something slightly of a let down to the guy (rescheduling a date, etc) and the guy reacted butthurt. Then the woman lost interest, and the guy is asking for advice. When the guy doesn’t care and is chill about minor inconvenie…
/r/askTRP13/04/21 03:24 AM
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I’m guessing you’re young... I’ll let you figure that out yourself if the obvious is not apparent by now
/r/askTRP12/04/21 07:21 PM
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It’s different for women. If she’s not going to orgasm from foreplay, she’s likely not going to orgasm from PIV unless she has specified otherwise. So I’m not really surprised that she was unwilling to give you head after a “couple minutes” of foreplay. There’s really nothing to brag about when it comes to being a selfish lover. You won’t get many repeat experiences...
/r/askTRP12/04/21 07:14 PM
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Yeah. I did the college experience as a moderately attractive woman and didn’t sleep with a single guy at my school. Seems like incels make up all kinds of stories about people based on their looks alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 04:41 PM
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You can catch a boatload of diseases that won’t even show up on an STI test until your sexual partner takes one and finds out she has the herp or HPV, which, by the way, are not always preventable with condoms and can have lifelong effects (like cervical cancer). What’s to gain from wanting to sleep with 100+ women anyway? That is an extraordinary goal, and for what? I doubt you’ll find any sense of achievement in doing that, and you’ll waste years of your life prioritizing the wrong things. By …
/r/askTRP12/04/21 07:48 AM
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Don’t do it. Women can tell if you’re muscular from a regular shirt pic. Anything shirtless on social media screams trying too hard.
/r/askTRP12/04/21 07:46 AM
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You need to give it up. She moved away, and you guys were never in an actual committed relationship, so she doesn’t owe you any promises about not dating anyone new. Pressuring her about it is weird and a turn off, guaranteed. Besides, you started off the entire fling with a whole bunch of lies (lying about sleeping with women in the past, not being a virgin, etc). How do you think she would look at you after finding out the truth? She claims you don’t trust her, but really, she shouldn’t be tru…
/r/askTRP12/04/21 07:45 AM
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Sounds like attachment issues or overdoing it on porn (always chasing a new high, getting bored easily with the same woman). Stop watching it if you do and go to therapy if you want a good chance of settling down later in life.
/r/askTRP12/04/21 07:37 AM
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Don’t ever do this... smh
/r/askTRP12/04/21 07:35 AM
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I think BDSM should stay between trusted partners. Trying anything too soon can land both of you in trouble since you don’t know each other.
/r/askTRP12/04/21 07:35 AM
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That’s weird of her. I wouldn’t keep chatting if I were in that situation. I don’t want to hear about a potential romantic prospect babbling on about their fantasy with some other person.
/r/askTRP12/04/21 07:32 AM
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Use cologne daily, definitely. Scent is the most powerful memory trigger.
/r/askTRP12/04/21 07:25 AM
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It’s highly doubtful that attempting to re-live his 20s by having lots of casual sex with random foreign women is going to leave him fulfilled in any kind of way. He probably misses the aspects of his life at that time such as his goals, future aspirations, and feeling like he’s going somewhere in life. None of that can be replaced with meaningless sex and partying.
/r/askTRP12/04/21 07:10 AM
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Notice how he left out whether or not she actually orgasmed from him going down on her (spoiler: she didn’t). I’m not surprised she wasn’t in the mood to give head. Also, men are almost guaranteed to orgasm from PIV while most women do not. So BJ or not, he was probably going to get off regardless.
/r/askTRP12/04/21 07:07 AM
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No, I actually think it’s insulting to men to assume all of them will fuck anything that walks by. I prefer men who have the intelligence to understand sex is a serious act and that have the ability to discern what is and isn’t good for them. Admitting they’ll fuck anything when they’re horny is quite disgusting to me and it has absolutely nothing to do with being jealous that other women are having sex. What a strange conclusion to jump to.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 01:13 AM
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In a sense, I agree. I think it’s easier than ever these days to be conditioned to laziness and want to low-effort everything in life. Don’t want to cook? Grab some fast food. Don’t want to spend time improving yourself? Scroll through 100 different apps instead of reading a book. Don’t want to make the effort to date? Watch porn or pay to talk to an OnlyFans woman. It’s pretty depressing how lazy we’ve gotten as a society. (Insert joker meme here)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 12:44 AM
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There is nothing LESS attractive than a man who has no standards for who he sleeps with and low self control over his own libido. Too many answers here basically excusing themselves because they think with their dicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 12:40 AM
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I agree with this post. I’d also like to add that a lot of incels/redpillers like to say that once women “hit the wall” they go for a “beta bucks” (I feel goofy even typing these ridiculous terms). It’s actually far more likely that the men that women are choosing in their later 20s/30s could be the same men they would have gone for in their younger year, but who have matured. Incels have a weird idea in their heads that “chads” are muscular douchebros, and a lot of men mature through their 20s …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 12:31 AM
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No, it’s gross. Especially if your hands are dirty and there’s mud caked under your fingernails. So many working guys going out and about looking unkempt like that and I don’t know any women who think it’s hot.
/r/askTRP11/04/21 12:09 AM
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Did you even read the entire study before making this comment? The height categories listed classify 5’2”-5’4” as “very short”. All other categories of height showed little variance in reported sexual partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 12:56 AM
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Both. Men aren’t seeing sex workers out of their love of women. A lot of them channel their hatred of women into their interactions with sex workers. And I’m willing to wager that almost if not 100% of violence against sex workers is committed by men. You don’t hear stories in the news of serial killer women targeting ladies on the street.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 12:44 AM
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Red headed men are super hot, end of story. Unless they look like Ed Sherhan (sorry!)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 10:52 PM
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How, exactly? It’s one thing to let yourself go to the point of becoming obese, but she literally has a bmi of 26. You need to chill.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 08:32 AM
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It’s only been 3 weeks. Just focus on yourself and do things that make you feel good about yourself, and not with the intention of trying to find someone to replace her. Because when you’re already feeling shit about yourself, the slightest rejection from new women is going to sting even more.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 06:13 AM
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The mentality here is so odd. Paralyzed with fear a woman may only want you for your money, but too afraid to accept the advances of a woman with more money than you because she might “find someone better”. Pick a side.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 06:11 AM
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For the same reason more guys care about getting laid at that age... plenty of people your age around, first introduction to alcohol, and first taste of adulthood. Women and men really aren’t that different.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 06:09 AM
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It’s not possible to go on a date every day, so that doesn’t even make sense. If the dates are planned with some semblance of effort, once a week should be plenty.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 06:07 AM
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She wanted real dates, which is why she was inviting you to waterfalls etc. Not every girl on tinder is there for casual sex. She saw something in you and you ruined it by constantly pushing for sex before she was ready.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 06:06 AM
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No, it’s going to look really cringe to her and like you’re a middle schooler trying to get her to be jealous.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 06:02 AM
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Why would you want to have sex with a woman who you’d be too embarrassed to be seen with publicly? Please get some standards for yourself dude...
/r/askTRP09/04/21 05:58 AM
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There is no such thing as a “friend zone”. You can’t negotiate your attraction to someone. If a woman isn’t interested, better to cut your losses and find someone who is rather than waste your energy trying to convince her.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 05:56 AM
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Anyone who self-proclaims to be “spiritually awakened” probably has a massive superiority complex or wants to feel unique in some way. Pass.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 05:54 AM
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Congrats, you found yourself a mentally stable woman who reacts predictably and doesn’t have attachment anxiety. Don’t listen to these other comments — it’s completely normal and healthy that she expresses being upset when you pull away and doesn’t play strange games with you about it.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 05:52 AM
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How often are you making her orgasm? If it’s not equal give and take, she’s not going to want to keep putting up the effort to make you happy too.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 05:51 AM
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You’re not a therapist, dude... CPTSD and BPD have similar symptoms, so why are you trying to rediagnose her? If you don’t want to deal with a woman who has trauma, then done. Just don’t play armchair psychologist with her either.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 05:48 AM
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If you’ve never seen a woman read anything purely academic, you’re obviously not an academic yourself... or you just went to an all male college
/r/askTRP09/04/21 05:46 AM
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She’s 5’8” and 175lb. That’s borderline overweight, not “50 lbs overweight”. Get a grip on reality; not every woman can be healthy at 125lb.
/r/askTRP09/04/21 05:43 AM
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Good luck finding the woman you’re after who is also an atheist. Not happening
/r/askTRP08/04/21 01:04 AM
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