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| 2 | Men are smarter than women...only until we talk about men manipulating women and taking responsibilityIs anyone saying that perpetrators of manipulation or abuse aren’t responsible for their actions? How does any given man (let’s say the median man) benefit from women accepting that men will hurt them without recourse? There are bad actors out there, and intimacy / relationships are prime opportunities for bad actors to exploit. If a man falls victim to a blatant gold digger, it’d be silly for him to let that color how he thinks about women as a whole or their eligibility to vote. The actual tak… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/26 01:12 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever been in love?Yes. And i’d say romantic love has the absolute worst risk / reward in the context of modern dating dynamics. The unique impact of losing a supposed “life partner” is not worth risking given the systematic (manufactured?) erosion of commitment and intimacy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/26 08:54 AM |
| 1 | Why are women so much more concerned with the idea of “doing better” than men are?Men don’t cooperate for collective advantage in dating the way women do, that’s what it really boils down to. If men were less desperate and had more camaraderie, women’s antisocial behaviors towards/views of men would be more disincentivized. Men are desperate for women in a way women will never be desperate for men, so in liberal societies there will always be pandering that upholds “rules for thee but not for me” in favor of women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/26 04:38 PM |
| 1 | It doesn't matter. Everything always leads back to it being men fault.It’s original sin, but gender-reversed. No one really believes it makes any sense to dismiss men’s issues or indiscriminately villainize all men because “men did patriarchy”. It’s just convenient and permissible at the moment for women to play along with patriarchy for individual benefit - privatize potential gain from performing for a privileged few men while socializing duty to compensate for associated risk. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/25 06:01 PM |
| – | People can, and should have high standards. Arbitrary reasons regarding a personal idea of social stability or a perceived sense of fairness are not valid reasons to get into a relationshipFair, it may well be engineered motivation instead of instinct. I think reproduction is universal enough across species that calling it inherent to humans is reasonable, and the relatively intensive effort involved in reproduction + child rearing does go hand in hand with long-term cooperation too. You technically can make do with just the bare minimum to stay alive (food, shelter from extreme cold, so on). Lacking community, intellectual stimulation, pleasure, etc may make feel life feel empty,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 07:49 PM |
| – | People can, and should have high standards. Arbitrary reasons regarding a personal idea of social stability or a perceived sense of fairness are not valid reasons to get into a relationshipParticipating in a healthy society in large part requires caring about its long term future, right? Climate change, long term development in infrastructure/education/safety/culture etc are just some examples where we need substantial effort and cooperation from people today, despite all / most benefit going to the next generation. A lot of people want a bright future for their kids. Some people will do this out of the goodness of their hearts even without kids. Some will know that a cooperative … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 12:55 PM |
| – | If there are women's issues men collectively don't have empathy/sympathy for, how do you deal with that?Maternal mortality rate is ~0.01% in developed countries, with the US at ~0.02% as the worst of the bunch. Pregnancy and childbirth are life changingly demanding / painful, and working towards zero maternal deaths should be a serious priority—not trivializing the issue. I’m a little lost on how we can claim indifference, though, especially given how we see drastic continued decrease through history. We can also look to the rates in Africa or Asia vs any other region (even adjusting for wealth). … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/25 10:33 AM |
| 1 | Why is sex a nontradeable ?There will be a hilarious overlap between people that look down on buying sex “because it’s special” and yet insist it’s taboo to care about a potential life partner’s sexual history — to the point that shaming and lying is acceptable in response to related questions. At the end of the day, intimacy is special and for sure distinct from labor — people are not wrong for treating it as such and preferring that a partner has lived with the same values. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/25 01:18 AM |
| – | Societal-norms against fornication foster egalitarianism (in terms of sexual/reproductive success)You laid out exactly why your statement, while true imho, will never be accepted: “A small proportion of men, usually those with higher social status, wealth, physical attractiveness, or charisma, can secure disproportionate access to sexual partners.” Yup, these men (i) grant benefits to women in return for access, (ii) perpetuate a culture where women are rewarded and celebrated for their active participation in said dynamic, absolved of pretty much any other obligations to society (iii) told … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/25 11:08 AM |
| 1 | The avg guy should decenter women or work hard to not be avgYeah obviously….? Any woman with a rational father, brother, male cousin, uncle, etc would have heard this no? Societal protection for women has always been based around select upstanding men preventing harm from certain malignant men Has gender tribalism reached the point that even this bare minimum nuance is disregarded? Lmfaoooo 😭🙏 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 03:19 PM |
| 5 | The avg guy should decenter women or work hard to not be avgThe main reason im solidly purple pill ie not blue pill is that men’s thoughts around / reverence toward women is largely irrational. Men as a whole remain ignorant of certain realities that only red pill types acknowledge. It’s not a matter of “turning biology off” imho. The key is ending men’s stubborn instincts of placing women on outdated and long-rejected pedestals. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 01:32 PM |
| 2 | Do you think there are sexualized outfits women can wear in real life, and if yes, what?OP — you obviously understand what’s actually going on lol. Just accept this notion that people apparently act, alter appearance, and dress “for themselves” in a way that by sheer coincidence aligns exactly with the gaze of the gender they’re attracted to. Plausible deniability of this variety is socially acceptable at the moment. Adapt or fail, yk? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 01:19 PM |
| 9 | The avg guy should decenter women or work hard to not be avgThe problem is that “decentering women” implies that the median man just has to let go of some supposed obsession over women. We disregard the insane levels of economic and social coddling that men enable for women through government spending, DEI initiatives, astroturfing that implies women have no personal or civic responsibility, so on | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 12:55 PM |
| 1 | What’s a fair exchange when one partner is the homemaker and the other provides financially?Trying to reason with the opposite gender on this is a hilarious noob trap. Say your income is 2x or even 5-10x that of your partner, so you pay all or most of the living expenses — your partner would obviously still be your equal as a tenant right? The fact that their labor is less lucrative or that they shoulder less financial burden is irrelevant. Say this higher earner tries to justify lack of productivity domestically, though 😂 suddenly its about results Find a partner that understands this… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 12:36 PM |
| 1 | Men are not able to be providers anymore due to capitalismCompletely disagree on what’s driving the change, but 110% acknowledge that “provider” is a nonsensical expectation for men atp Your post ignores any sense of what men seek in a life partner as well as the asymmetric legally-enforced obligations for husbands/fathers vs wives / mothers. Modesty, chastity, propriety, etc have long been rejected as acceptable standards. Beyond that - domestic labor, productive motherhood so on are not allowed to be considered as wifely duties, whether in an intact … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/25 12:20 PM |
| – | Women play a role in propogating patriarchy and toxic masculinity by selecting men with toxic traits.The eternal counterpoint is that women are people and people will obviously always prefer to reject accountability and maintain advantages. You’re not wrong conceptually, you’re wrong to think they don’t already know and choose to continue/rationalize/defend this behavior regardless. With the broad support of men that are either of the small class to have the resulting frequent access to women or mostly bc they’re so desperate for crumbs that they play along to show they’re good boys. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/25 05:43 AM |
| 2 | They are not rules if you don't enforce them.Not saying you’re wrong on the first point, I’m just comparing how the same man that may be eager to pay quite a bit for an hour of impersonal sex with a stunning escort may keep his life partner on a strict budget or refuse to spend much (or anything) on a date. You are totally wrong on the second point though. There are too many beautiful women that offer up their bodies first of all, and not to mention the very small number of men that could match the sort of income a prime woman can make. Al… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/25 04:55 AM |
| 1 | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵You’re right and I tried to touch on this with the last part of my edit. A lot of people are worried about money for necessities, and that’s not fixed by changing mindset or priorities etc. And absolutely, $100k is well above what a median American will ever make. Perhaps I should have used $100k vs like $40k in my comparison. I disagree that you can age out of being interesting and fulfilled outside money, though. The average guy with an average income won’t suddenly shun a buddy makes half as … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/25 02:08 AM |
| 0 | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵The more we post abrasive comments like this, the less transparent women will be about this kind of thing. Men’s opinions on this literally will not change how women use their freedom, it’s so naive and counterproductive to think otherwise. It’s just how people are. For example, women generally dislike a man with a porn habit. Men can just lie and deny watching porn if a woman asks — how would she know without digging for proof or trying to identify related behaviors over time etc | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/25 01:40 AM |
| 2 | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵Money is important, more is always great too, but it’s only one way to improve yourself or demonstrate value. Would you rather make $200k with no time outside of work or $100k while having time for example to practice an instrument most evenings, therefore connect with like minded people on the weekends, etc? If these were two separate people, who would you find more interesting as a friend or partner? And fwiw broke artists / musicians don’t exactly have a hard time making friends or getting la… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/25 01:20 AM |
| 8 | Genuine question from a guyReplying here since I don’t fit the redpill tag. A few things (in the context of western liberal societies): Women willingly accept and pursue blatant risk in search of pleasure, validation, etc — personal gain in general. They reject the notion that they should accept responsibility for (or even acknowledge) choosing to create opportunity, incentive, and reward for perpetrators. Any advice to avoid these kinds of behaviors from men in their life, eg fathers brothers so on, is dismissed as oppre… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/25 10:17 PM |
| 1 | They are not rules if you don't enforce them.Cool beans, dating doesn’t have to be about anything — men as well as women are free to pursue relationships with whatever core expectations. “Dating isn’t about emotional labor. People treat it as free therapy sessions, but that isn’t the intent” 😂🫵 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/25 07:28 PM |
| 0 | They are not rules if you don't enforce them.The psychology that led to this reply is foundational to my initial comment, much appreciated | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/25 10:58 AM |
| 1 | They are not rules if you don't enforce them.I’m not sure why that’s relevant in this context, to be honest. My perspective is that man X inspires arousal to a given woman on sight, so she will need nothing else to immediately sleep with him and tolerate substandard behavior to make herself available to him. Separately, man Y that doesn’t inspire passion will need to demonstrate passion in other ways, whether it’s economics, labor, etc. In the same way, men can allocate meaningful value to immediately access women they find best, then late… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/25 09:52 AM |
| 5 | They are not rules if you don't enforce them.I think men are missing a crucial point here — women understand that access to their bodies is a currency, whether or not they admit it. Why do certain women escort to reliably earn four figures per hour from a given man that would hesitate to drop a couple hundred bucks on a women in his league? Its all market dynamics, at the end of the day. The issue at the core of your argument is dismissing this commodification. Your comfort around accepting this idea is not relevant to reality, you just ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/25 09:17 AM |
| 3 | DISCUSSION🗨️ ABOUT MAIN PPD POSTS📮, LOOKS👀, AND N-COUNT🔢 ARE RESTRICTED🚫 FROM THE DAILY🌞 MEGATHREAD🧵You’re suggesting that women today meet the same set of standards as women of your mom’s generation but men have become substandard? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/25 07:52 AM |
| 1 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?Ultimately yeah, think my real issue is with the intentional normalization of this type of behavior. Understand the passport bro worldview after reading through women’s comments here, how ingrained intentional impropriety and intellectual dishonesty have become. On a more macro level, the US will soon face the same catastrophe Europe is currently experiencing imho, depressing to acknowledge. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/25 05:24 AM |
| 1 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?Period 💅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/25 03:09 AM |
| 1 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?Oh she dresses for herself but it just happens to perfectly align with the male gaze, that weaponized plausible deniability rearing its ugly head. Inb4 “but men always look at everything “ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/25 02:57 AM |
| 1 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?Please drop this facade, the idea of wanting certain aspects of your partner to yourself is not le evil pATriArChyY. My wife considers me an object and perhaps even a slave because she is expects me to do laundry. Even worse she demand i dont signal availability to random women when I am supposedly just hanging out with the boys 😭 like she can also buy drinks for scantily clad women at clubs too its equal | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/25 02:30 AM |
| 1 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?I’m glad you have the authority to unilaterally decide that lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/25 12:49 AM |
| 0 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?Random man X currently and / or random man Y way back in the day did some shit, therefore current woman A should perpetuate impropriety in her relationship with a specific person — I refuse to participate in this kind of smoothbrain thinking. Believe it or not, men are individuals, and this notion that many gender As are out hoeing therefore every gender B should too is hilariously stupid. Please rewire yourself. Edit: and yes sometimes the bros are jerking off together, all our girls find it ho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 11:46 PM |
| 1 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?My ex was was a rave girl and while she was fun while we were young, I will echo your point that it just doesn’t work if both partners aren’t permanently all-in on that way of life / type of “sharing”. I mentioned this elsewhere as I replied to comments, but it really just has been a me issue — ie refusing to accept that the world is how it is, and whether woman or man, we all need to tune our effort and investment for the lowest common denominator. Very much appreciate your time and input. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 11:30 PM |
| 1 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?That’s not at all the type of thing to cause concern, so agreed. I spend countless hours messing around with the boys in some garage or playing video games or building shit etc etc. I’d never deny a partner to enjoy time with friends, its legit a part of what makes them more fulfilled and probably even interesting and talented. Would you call a friend’s partner controlling though, if he wouldnt be comfortable with her girls’ nights including the very specific types of male-centered activities / … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 11:05 PM |
| 1 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?Facts | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 09:44 PM |
| 4 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?Lowkey you made me realize I’m essentially throwing a tantrum about having to deal with the lemon problem lol instead of being a big boy and adjusting myself as a price taker. This was very useful and much appreciated, also a little sad too though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 09:35 PM |
| 3 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?Gotcha — I was initially referencing your mention of married men at Hooters. But also I guess we just come at this in different ways or operate in different contexts. As far as ive seen in life, it’s considered unthinkably trashy to even contemplate a Hooters visit if youre in a monogamous relationship, regardless of your interest in it prior. Guess both genders are eagerly racing to the bottom lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 09:20 PM |
| 2 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?Hold up hold up — I tolerate my partner going out but no way in hell I’d let her have a career 😟 /s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 08:54 PM |
| 7 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?Not quite sure why you’re being so disingenuous. No one would criticize a woman for shaming a partner that wanted to go to Hooters… unless I live in completely separate universe, you know committed men would be universally panned for wanting toto go to Hooters or even worse, gaslighting their wife into thinking it’s reasonable. I’m not saying men are saints or more loyal than women or anything like that. I agree there are tons of committed men that go to Hooters or strip clubs. No one pretends t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 08:38 PM |
| 4 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?Women only venues literally always fail instantly…you have to understand that no amount of rhetoric can offset what we observe in action lol. For some reason, dancing w just the girls is only enticing in places that specifically include men | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 08:15 PM |
| 5 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?I’m not clear on where the line is on acting single, I guess. To me, it’s unreasonable to normalize this kind of bad faith reasoning just because you can. If all men got together and decided to employ limitless mental gymnastics to normalize going to Hooters (innocent night to eat wings w the boys 🥺 only some of us are there for the waitstaff 🥺 just the single guys), women would be correct to say thats wrong. It’d be asinine to tell women “well they were doing it when they were single so why wou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 07:09 PM |
| 0 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?Yes — maybe its just specific to my particular social circles, but women rabidly insist its evil to have issue with a partner frequenting these places while scantily clad | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 06:52 PM |
| 7 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?Well the plans you described are absolutely not of specific type I’m discussing, sounds quite fun actually. It’s not about some inherent evil in women spending time without their partners. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 06:47 PM |
| 6 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?Wild how these places with mostly men are where women “just wanna dance with their girls” tho 🧐 We are slowly approaching the point | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 05:24 PM |
| 0 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?If watching sports / working out involved plausible impropriety or contact with random women, especially if its one of few settings designed to foster intimate approaches, I would have dropped them in the first place. Why is that not intuitive lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 05:20 PM |
| -3 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?Dancing where? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 05:14 PM |
| 0 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?I feel you bro, an experienced fellow like you knows best 🙇♂️baltimore to boston is serious stuff | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 05:10 PM |
| 2 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?My girl’s bum ass friends consider it sacred 😭 and its the general consensus at least based on literally every previous relationship, every woman I’ve been friends with, even my sister and her circles. Feels borderline engineered | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 05:07 PM |
| 9 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?My single friends do all sorts of things that aren’t acceptable for a committed man - I just participate in the proper set of activities with them instead of pretending there’s a need to go get involved in their ho activities | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 04:59 PM |
| 0 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?Break up instead of dismissing your partner’s values / gaslighting to circumvent them? Genuinely yes lol please Just say you moreso prioritize that experience, find some dude that will tolerate it. Don’t imply that someone is wrong or unreasonable for taking issue with it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 04:52 PM |
| 4 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?Good point … it is rare to see someone drunk at a bar. I understand that I’m wrong now | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 04:46 PM |
| 1 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?My man please lmk where you’re based because I’ve never bought a table somewhere that lets in women that arent (1) almost dimes and (2) dressed to impress ykwim ie 80%+ skin showing bare minimum Like how tf else would they be pulling in enough revenue to pay rent for prime real estate haha | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 04:45 PM |
| 0 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?I might get hit on by random chance at a restaurant, therefore its cool to go get drunk somewhere with a business model that’s meaningfully based on inebriated mingling 🙄 please do better | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 04:41 PM |
| -2 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?Pls point me to any venue of note in a major US city that doesn’t filter women based on how they look lmfaoooo Maybe in like tier 3-4+ cities? I’m talking houston or worse | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 04:29 PM |
| 7 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?Having gone through this thread, and a lot of this sub too, I gotta admit I had the naive hope that at some point, women would drop the doublespeak | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 04:24 PM |
| 4 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?I’m not trying to be argumentative here — genuinely asking. Isn’t there a world of difference between being at a beach where someone may approach you, vs somewhere like perhaps Le Bain where explicit mingling is part of the deal? Is there no double speak involved if people pretend there’s no distinction? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 04:17 PM |
| 3 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?Appreciate the detail, I’m based in NYC, so its not like I’m some country bumpkin, even have a few friends that went to McGill. This just still feels so foreign to me, but I accept that my thoughts don’t define reality | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 04:13 PM |
| 5 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?Soul crushing but deep down, what I’ve assumed | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 04:10 PM |
| 1 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?Can I ask where / what culture? That would be so unacceptable to me…I’d assume my partner had become detached if she would even consider staying with a man that would do that 😭 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 04:08 PM |
| -3 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?How do women get into a club (non strip club obviously 🙄) vs the men in the same club? When women are lined up outside, what determines which women get in vs which don’t? How do women dress / get made up in context of these incentives? Which gender’s spend upholds these venues? You can’t dismiss nuance just bc its inconvenient lol. Its all strip clubs, just some with more steps | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?Agreed. Let me please clarify. I’m inquiring why clubbing, nightlife etc are considered sacred for girls nights / trips. I legitimately love the idea of my partner spending time with her friends otherwise, and hope she would enjoy it just as I would enjoy timr with my friends | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 03:53 PM |
| 2 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?Outside the scope of the post, zero issue with anything like that. I’m asking about this notion that its controlling, insecure, or even abusive to find risque nights out unacceptable | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 03:46 PM |
| 8 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?The exact flavor of weaponized plausible deniability I referenced in my post I live near a strip club with genuinely incredible mac and cheese. You’d encourage a woman to disregard the overarching business case for the venue her partner frequents? Forget everything else sweetheart, I’m just there for the buffet 🥺 its not my fault you have trust issues. Why can’t you let me and the boys just enjoy some primo food now and then are you insecure or something? Go find a partner you trust i guess, bc … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 03:45 PM |
| 1 | Why must girls nights and / or girls trips (ie excluding and disconnected from your partner) include places that are known for flirting, hooking up, etc?You got me, checkmate 🤯 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 03:26 PM |
| 0 | There’s nothing wrong with a guy who’s not into partying, clubbing, drugs, or hookup culture, seeking out a woman who shares his interests.Slightly disconnected take here — you’re only wrong if you communicate or admit to these standards. As an adult man, just accept that it’s considered backwards to prioritize modesty and propriety atp. People lie about themselves and their standards all the time…you should too. If anything, feigning tolerance only makes it easier to get transparency from a potential partner. It’s considered acceptable to lie about intimate history, for example, you should just lie too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 01:01 PM |
| 0 | There’s nothing wrong with a guy who’s not into partying, clubbing, drugs, or hookup culture, seeking out a woman who shares his interests.For some reason girls nights need to be somewhere where flirting/hooking up is common 😛 its misogynistic to wonder why tho just stop being insecure Weaponizing plausible deniability to a comical extent is a token tactic of cultural Marxists | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 12:25 PM |
| – | Misogynist young adults get more sexWomen actively and knowingly accept all these risks and issues because they highly value the related pleasure. It’s not their fault that society lets them pretend to be oblivious of risk ie socialize the accountability of the risks they choose to take. What unites women more than hysterically defending / demanding opportunity for promiscuity as a personal freedom but also entitlement to disown any related consequences? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/25 04:38 PM |
| -1 | “Trust But Verify” paternity tests are bs because most men would never want a woman that’s always paranoid of cheating.It was always endearing when a woman was willing to be that vulnerable, imho. The great thing about having nothing to hide, is that you can instill real comfort in a partner no matter how deep they dig. When I look back at failed relationships, the problem was never how deeply a partner sought assurance. But sure, “women are more emotionally intelligent” haha | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/25 09:49 PM |
| 3 | Why do women hate guys who use OnlyFans when it’s pro feminist?Women are happy to unilaterally disregard what men find important, and they normalize lying (even lionize it) in response to questions they deem uncouth. Idk why men don’t get with the picture — no one is entitled to your past! Just hide your tracks and lie lol. In context of this post especially: If a woman would fault you for consuming content similar to what she herself or a friend would post— definitely meet fire w fire and lie fr | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/25 09:11 PM |
| 1 | Men need to stop chasing women.It’s on men to be weary of malicious women? Not just to avoid personal harm, but we have the social responsibility to avoid externalities by policing ourselves as a gender? I agree with your point btw. Men in general chase the “wrong” women — it’s irrational and it leads to meaningful consequences personally as well as societally. Individual men waste effort, resource, time on an incompatible or ill-meaning woman; enough men doing this is harmful to a community. We as men need to recognize that … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/25 11:01 AM |
| 0 | CMV: Western women choose to demonize masculinity due to past personal traumas with menThese men are largely concentrated in certain social circles and very well known channels to access women — yall have just decided that its sexist to discourage women from associating w those subcultures or acknowledge that nightlife/hookup culture/etc are obvious and intentional acceptance of related risk. If anything its peak female empowerment to volunteer as victim through your youth, then complain about “men” while still insisting that its a healthy lifestyle for the next gen | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/25 10:37 AM |
| -4 | It's not offensive to ask for dna testWomen know it’s not offensive lol, they knowingly and collectively say whatever to minimize accountability / maximize optionality. Have you or a buddy ever tried to tell a woman “if you loved me, you’d trust me 🥺, checking if I’m honest would break my heart?” Lol Ask if they’d suggest having a baby with a man that refuses to get legally married “because he shouldn’t need some document to prove his commitment to her.” But also you shouldn’t need some document to prove she’s been committed to you,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/25 10:21 AM |
| -1 | There´s no hope for marriage as an institution because there are 0 repurcussions for infidelityThere is a little more nuance here, no? The lack of consequences for infidelity is just one symptom of a broader disease. Marriage is doomed to fail because western culture trivializes intimacy, commitment, and courtship — in large part by framing these values as “evil sexist patriarchy men wanting to own women” vs “enlightened empowered feminism” for women to reject these. Atp, it’s taboo to even condone preference for non-promiscuity, modesty, etc; if anything it’s acceptable / encouraged to l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/25 10:12 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Western men have been too empathetic towards women and female issues and we are seeing a course correctionAs intellectually bankrupt as asking how drug enforcement is racist. Bc show me where the law that says white women can sell crack and poc men can’t. Total coincidence that there was disproportionate harm | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/05/25 07:04 PM |
| -1 | Financial specifics are the only codified, legal obligations that come with marriage. This weakens the other commitments of a partnershipStay out of the kitchen if you can’t take the heat - me to any date, very clearly | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/25 02:42 AM |
| 1 | Financial specifics are the only codified, legal obligations that come with marriage. This weakens the other commitments of a partnershipI assumed we were shooting the shit 😭 maybe I’m generalizing too much, but messing with a lawyer is punching ~laterally at worst, punching up otherwise? Pls keep in mind my cohort committed to paths out of undergrad when comp ebb and flow happened to result in buyside junior comp slightly leapfrogging big law’s. It’s the opposite now, so bet A1 - A1 bullying is in the opposite direction lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/25 02:37 AM |
| -1 | Financial specifics are the only codified, legal obligations that come with marriage. This weakens the other commitments of a partnershipUnfortunately its either this level of obsession or literally not caring if a bitch lives or dies 😪 no amount of therapy has helped | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/25 01:53 AM |
| 0 | Financial specifics are the only codified, legal obligations that come with marriage. This weakens the other commitments of a partnershipHonestly you’re right, I’ll never understand what its like to face down a physical data room (heard yall still deal w those). Anyway, I concede I legitimately don’t have the attention span or “buttoned up” nature to be in big law — which I guess you are if you’re talking this much shit. Idk maybe I’m more suited to being a SAHP by nature vs bullshitting ICs or corporate work. Maybe men in general enjoy the way parenting and domestic work is more physical, results tangible? Less baggage, less imp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/25 01:32 AM |
| 0 | Financial specifics are the only codified, legal obligations that come with marriage. This weakens the other commitments of a partnershipYou’re literally just a lawyer 😭 the only rung on the “legitimate”corporate ladder below investment banking… touched a nerve huh? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/25 01:08 AM |
| 0 | Financial specifics are the only codified, legal obligations that come with marriage. This weakens the other commitments of a partnershipLiterally yes - admittedly only ever 1-2 kids that were 6+ years old for summer breaks (2-3 months), but it was genuinely a pleasure to deal with their shit. As someone that already manages nutrition, laundry, the daily minutia of upkeep for a human (me), it was simple to scale that up to accommodate two more little humans. Do y’all actually like your kids? 😭 I couldn’t look my fiancé in the eyes and say in earnest that we’re equal partners if she spent 60 hours a week as a dentist and I“spent 2… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/25 12:49 AM |
| 1 | Financial specifics are the only codified, legal obligations that come with marriage. This weakens the other commitments of a partnershipI’m not getting a boobjob unless my wife gets a neural implant that prevents any awareness or understanding of a marriage ending. Tf 😒 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/25 11:32 PM |
| 1 | Financial specifics are the only codified, legal obligations that come with marriage. This weakens the other commitments of a partnershipNgl you got me there, especially since you don’t even have to be the biological father, paternity is presumed due to marriage and even a DNA test can’t change that unless it’s soon after birth. Gotta get a surrogate I guess, so we each contribute one gamete. I’ll let my partner choose between doing all the breastfeeding so she doesn’t have to venmo me for half the surrogate OR if she splits the cost, I’ll get mammary glands implanted so we can share that too 🥹 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/25 10:44 PM |
| 4 | CMV: Western men have been too empathetic towards women and female issues and we are seeing a course correctionTbh, I think your characterizing me a bit unfairly - are we still slapping an incel sticker on anything critical of women? Lets say I am a salty redpiller though, I hope the following still holds. Motherhood is a driver of tax imbalance, I agree, but let’s be specific. Unmarried women are net tax spenders, whether or not they have children (51%+ custody). Unmarried men are net tax payers, whether or not they have children. Couples that file jointly are a separate 3rd category and are net taxpaye… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/25 10:33 PM |
| 1 | Financial specifics are the only codified, legal obligations that come with marriage. This weakens the other commitments of a partnershipMaybe you’re thinking of cases where both people have jobs with similar incomes? Or maybe I’m referring to a quirk with NY and / or the New England area, since divorce is very state specific? Eg interned for a guy making ~$800k, wife of 12 years ~$200k, no kids. Managed 50/50 asset split but had to fork over ~$12k/mo for 3 years. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/25 06:58 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Western men have been too empathetic towards women and female issues and we are seeing a course correctionImho, it’s not too much empathy, but too little respect for women being just as capable of blatant selfishness. Just like it’s “not all men,” nearly every woman I know is an overall great person. As a class, they knowingly and collectively upholding the patriarchy to defend their privilege. Not the same way we do lol, but still substantially. Women have decided their safety and comfort is a collective responsibility; men must not only do no harm individually, but contribute active effort towards… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/25 06:45 PM |
| 1 | Financial specifics are the only codified, legal obligations that come with marriage. This weakens the other commitments of a partnershipSorry, but alimony does not take into account children or the lack thereof. Having children might be the reason for an increase in income difference and correlate with length of marriage, the only two primary drivers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/25 04:43 PM |
| 1 | Financial specifics are the only codified, legal obligations that come with marriage. This weakens the other commitments of a partnershipChild custody is unrelated to marriage. Besides mandatory presumption of paternity of a husband (unless disproven soon after birth), having been married does not really impact the parental rights or obligations of a biological father. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/25 04:39 PM |
| -1 | Financial specifics are the only codified, legal obligations that come with marriage. This weakens the other commitments of a partnershipYes! Thankfully no one requires one partner to devote themselves to domestic labor anymore. Nor does it make sense … laundry machines, dishwashers, conveniences across life like grocery delivery and computing etc mean domestic labor is now far less than even a part time job. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/25 03:18 PM |
| -1 | Financial specifics are the only codified, legal obligations that come with marriage. This weakens the other commitments of a partnershipThe funny thing is, I know it’s only a matter of time before enough successful women are impacted that trying to rationalize marriage / divorce can’t be shut down as misogyny. At one point it was considered misogynistic to allow paternity testing of a child born in wedlock! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/25 03:13 PM |
| 1 | Financial specifics are the only codified, legal obligations that come with marriage. This weakens the other commitments of a partnershipWell someone that did so much domestic work that they’re entitled to continuing the shared lifestyle - hopefully they cooked 7-10 meals a week and kept a spotless home at least? Kept track of personal calendars ie a PA? Was someone to talk to somewhat like a therapist? These and more can all be hired out, and it breaks my heart to think about all the people enduring abuse because they’re accustomed to the lifestyle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/25 03:03 PM |
| 0 | Financial specifics are the only codified, legal obligations that come with marriage. This weakens the other commitments of a partnershipIt’s about earnings differential, not just having a job unfortunately. Aware alimony is rare lol, not sure why that matters or why marital asset split is disregarded. Maybe its just in NY, CT and surrounding states - if you’re making 50%+ more than your partner, even if it’s 300k and 600k, you’re getting hosed via alimony or by getting <50% of net marital assets. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/25 02:56 PM |
| 1 | Red pillers: What would make you change your mind?I should have ended up an incel redpiller precollege - redditor since preteens shortly after site started, zero luck w women through teens, asocial and gave legit offputting creepy first impressions tbh. The only close friends I had were similar. While I was always frustrated I couldn’t “get” girls, TRP was so disconnected from real life that it was just another kind of online zoo to us. Literally just knowing any women as peers (school, extracurriculars, etc) was enough to see that they’re not … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/25 07:55 AM |
| 2 | Why high body count in male is less to talk about than girls?Men are not being forced to care - I agree! Point is that men care more about certain things in a partner more than women do and vice versa. This explains why generally a woman’s body count is more impactful than a man’s, or why a man’s income matters more than a woman’s, etc. No amount of whining has made women stop caring about height, physique, etc right? Same with men’s body count - it’d matter if women generally cared. If anything, men are shamed for virginity or lack of success with women. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/05/25 07:23 AM |
| 4 | Financial specifics are the only codified, legal obligations that come with marriage. This weakens the other commitments of a partnershipIt’s not possible and attempting to would involve unacceptable infringement of a person’s freedoms. I feel the same about enforcing maintenance of “lifestyle” via the fruits of someone’s labor. Especially once you consider that choosing a lower-paid position is at best irrelevant to this obligation, and at worst means legal penalties. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/25 06:21 AM |
| -1 | Financial specifics are the only codified, legal obligations that come with marriage. This weakens the other commitments of a partnershipOf course, nor am I implying I’m any kind of victim. On paper, this affects women equally - literally work for women that are mandated to continue earning for their SAHD exes! I think it’s telling that discussion devolves to this rather than any real discussion, though. No one forces you to get married, agree. No one forces you to get married, pursue higher education, own a home, have children - there are tons of optional choices that are worth incentivizing for their positive externalities. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/25 05:17 AM |
| 2 | Why high body count in male is less to talk about than girls?This is like asking why lower height doesn’t affect women the way it affects men. As far as I know, women aren’t being forced to disregard men’s body counts, nor are they shamed into accepting high body counts. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/05/25 04:46 AM |
| 1 | It's not mysogynist for guys to tell their gf not to wear revealing clothes or not being comfortable with her going to clubs with her girlfriends.The truth of the matter is that women are genuinely as human as men. If we had the camaraderie to gaslight like this we would (and have historically lol). No one lacks the critical thinking to understand why a man would have good-faith concerns with their partner posting / presenting themselves revealingly or frequenting risqué nightlife. Think about how women-only clubs etc always fail lol - yet so women “just go out to dance w their girls.” A woman that paints your feelings as insecurity wants… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/05/25 08:46 AM |
| 1 | Women care more about feelings than facts.Who cares that the conservatives are the obvious muckrakers? Politics has always been a game, no amount of being right matters when political power is determined by a popularity contest. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/25 04:44 PM |
| -1 | Substantial aspects of patriarchy are upheld by other / certain women. This is disproportionately tolerated by women as a whole, with blame often flipped back to men unreasonably.Cool, they’re the ultimate pick-mes then, and should be aggressively shamed by women. All I see is women sticking with the “women good” perspective and saying sex work is work. Men and our attention is cheap. When ankles were all we saw back in the day, a slight breeze exposing an inch of calf would summon a barbershop quartet to spontaneously appear in song. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/25 08:10 PM |
| 0 | Women care more about feelings than facts.Rejecting it is flawed, as we absolutely need to give a broader backdrop beyond “13 52” which is the most detail too many kids have these days. Unfortunately, social progress has become a story arc for individuals to play protagonist, and less about marching forward pragmatically. The same racist parents that totally prohibit CRT will be happy to find an excuse to kill basic initial wins. As we see immediately from a classic useful idiot below, the neckbeard “akchually” types, some grifter will … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/25 08:03 PM |
| 1 | Women care more about feelings than facts.I’m don’t find RP evo psych valid 🤷♂️ outside of very surface level takes that aren’t even exclusive to RP like OLD match stats, which are tied to data, I don’t buy RP type stuff | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/25 03:01 PM |
| 0 | Women care more about feelings than facts.Free speech is a weaker argument for the facts vs feelings thing I admit. There has been marked opposition to objective discussions in the name of protecting egos, and “fact” vs feeling pointed that way, but I see how allowing neo nazi rhetoric is different. There is a very real sense that progressivism has jumped the shark, though, as opposing hate speech is then segued into obscuring plain-as-day information in the name of an agenda. Not to say conservatism is a bastion of truth at all, but ba… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/25 02:44 PM |
| 1 | Women care more about feelings than facts.Who gets to decide what is best for human well being? The replicability crisis relevant to the article concerns objective findings in academic research that are truth independent of opinion, while emotional wellbeing is entirely subjective. What if your view on what’s best emotionally is counter to mine? Whose emotional wellbeing gets priority? Perhaps what’s best on average for everyone? What if we survey opinions and that set of results is then bad for your emotional wellbeing? It takes such a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/25 02:23 PM |
| 0 | Women care more about feelings than facts.Women in academia conjure all sorts of mental gymnasts to obscure or even destroy research and data that is inconvenient to mainstream progressive assumptions. This much has been inarguably demonstrated (eg someone linked to the Replicability Crisis below). This is conjecture on my part - I believe women gaslight themselves into thinking their bias against data is “fact” enough to take priority over a bona fide approved-for-publication paper. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/25 01:45 PM |
| 9 | Women care more about feelings than facts.The underlying concept that someone’s emotional response shouldn’t take priority over open exchange of ideas … that doesn’t seem less levered to feelings? The other points are stronger too. Particularly that women ranked advancing knowledge beneath protecting emotional wellbeing lol. This kind of stuff gets genuinely insidious too, like that paper with granular metrics around police violence by victim demographic, which was opposed purely due to potentially being seen as anti-BLM. Vague platitud… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/25 01:39 PM |
| 1 | CMV: younger males should stop with the "HagMaxxing"This might even be giving people too much credit, they may not have considered this discrepancy in the first place. Especially as bubbles get increasingly polarized, people don’t even consider nuance unless it’s to benefit their pre-existing view. Eg [gender1] says [gender2] arent smart if they pick abusive partners, but thinks their own side is manipulated into harmful relationships — I think that often happens because people don’t bother with metacognition. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/25 01:23 PM |
| 2 | Women that say it’s controlling if a man doesn’t like their girl showing a lot of skin online or where other dudes can see: do you actually want us to agree that you do it for yourself not for men?Ah my bad, I wish you all the best | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/25 11:53 PM |
| -1 | Women that say it’s controlling if a man doesn’t like their girl showing a lot of skin online or where other dudes can see: do you actually want us to agree that you do it for yourself not for men?The most desperately obsessed woman that worshipped me and would never ask anything of me - I’d still proactively look for ways to be her ideal partner. I hope you escape whatever shithole culture shaped your opinions asap. I think making a partner happy is such a purely fulfilling joy, and I literally don’t care about any negative implications of me for say so. As an atheist I’ll still pray if you create life with a man, it’s a man wouldn’t laugh his ass off if you asked sm of him. I say this w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/25 10:22 PM |
| 2 | Women that say it’s controlling if a man doesn’t like their girl showing a lot of skin online or where other dudes can see: do you actually want us to agree that you do it for yourself not for men?Thank you very much such a thorough response. It made me feel ashamed for not considering that my partner is juggling a complex set of pressures and perhaps even traumas or socially enforced ruts. Wanted to be super clear that the time / effort you put into your comment was so genuinely helpful. For a long time, it felt like women’s liberation and freedom somehow became conveniently aligned with what’s most preferred by the most privileged set of men. Even worse, entirely disconnected from the i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/25 10:10 PM |
| 1 | Women that say it’s controlling if a man doesn’t like their girl showing a lot of skin online or where other dudes can see: do you actually want us to agree that you do it for yourself not for men?Is that part of your calculus? The power implication of doing something purely bc your partner asked - they’d think less of you? Legit bummer reading your comment | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/25 08:54 PM |
| 0 | Women that say it’s controlling if a man doesn’t like their girl showing a lot of skin online or where other dudes can see: do you actually want us to agree that you do it for yourself not for men?Brain rot atp | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/25 08:14 PM |
| 1 | Women that say it’s controlling if a man doesn’t like their girl showing a lot of skin online or where other dudes can see: do you actually want us to agree that you do it for yourself not for men?It’s crazy to see this presented as hyperbole (excl give up male friends tbh). Idt men mind reciprocating for a woman that values their preferences. Did someone tell you that you can’t ask men of things? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/25 08:11 PM |
| 1 | Women that say it’s controlling if a man doesn’t like their girl showing a lot of skin online or where other dudes can see: do you actually want us to agree that you do it for yourself not for men?I thought seeing goomar / wofe play out on TV so many times wisened ppl up | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/25 07:44 PM |
| 3 | Women that say it’s controlling if a man doesn’t like their girl showing a lot of skin online or where other dudes can see: do you actually want us to agree that you do it for yourself not for men?I genuinely tried to find some angle to see your reasoning as good faith before I assumed I should just match being bad faith. Ngl I gotta be aware I just lack the right mental elasticity to see the good faith angle. I don’t buy it if you’re saying dressing provocatively is not a form of signaling availability, and that the passive element is relevant vs a man actively signaling that he’s available | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/25 07:01 PM |
| 3 | Women that say it’s controlling if a man doesn’t like their girl showing a lot of skin online or where other dudes can see: do you actually want us to agree that you do it for yourself not for men?That makes sense. I wouldn’t be bitching about wardrobe level choices in any case, unless 3-4 outfits cover nothing of a bust besides nipples. I’m saying theres no limit to raciness, women maintain accusations of “controlling” etc through to nudity effectively. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/25 06:49 PM |
| -3 | Women that say it’s controlling if a man doesn’t like their girl showing a lot of skin online or where other dudes can see: do you actually want us to agree that you do it for yourself not for men?I think “reasonable” would need reciprocation. Bc I have gotten so many mental gymnastics ideas from this thread, I could get around monogamy if my wife finds it crazy that her life partner gets salty about other men seeing too much of her body 🤷♂️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/25 06:40 PM |
| 2 | Women that say it’s controlling if a man doesn’t like their girl showing a lot of skin online or where other dudes can see: do you actually want us to agree that you do it for yourself not for men?Tryna practice: “Are you assuming I took that smoke show to dinner to flirt? I can’t have friends all of sudden? I’m just a talkative guy, you always knew. I dont have another personality in my back pocket to swap into just because you feel entitled to sm different” It’d be tuff asf to hold off til after kids anyway, so I have time to really embody the role. I didn’t realize we could feign ignorance around men vs women having active vs passive roles in flirting, gotta work that in too | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/25 06:26 PM |
| 3 | Women that say it’s controlling if a man doesn’t like their girl showing a lot of skin online or where other dudes can see: do you actually want us to agree that you do it for yourself not for men?I get it, appreciate the input. Everyone wants to look good, be loud and proud about a physique that took a ton of Work for example. Hope your weekend is starting off well | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/25 06:17 PM |
| 1 | Women that say it’s controlling if a man doesn’t like their girl showing a lot of skin online or where other dudes can see: do you actually want us to agree that you do it for yourself not for men?Say someday you consider a racy post despite no history of the sorts, but your partner objects so you refrain. You mention this to your friends who say this is controlling and you should post anyway. Can I ask what your takeaway would be? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/25 06:14 PM |
| 1 | Women that say it’s controlling if a man doesn’t like their girl showing a lot of skin online or where other dudes can see: do you actually want us to agree that you do it for yourself not for men?As a part of a pretty privileged slice of a major US city, women that have no concept of adversity as very comfortable leveraging other women’s experience to minimize accountability. This is along those lines. Frankly a second level type of the game I’ve referenced and ultimately a race to the bottom enabled by white woman choice feminism | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/25 05:54 PM |
| -1 | Women that say it’s controlling if a man doesn’t like their girl showing a lot of skin online or where other dudes can see: do you actually want us to agree that you do it for yourself not for men?Entirely normally, tanktop and miniskirt was the more revealing end I guess? That’s nowhere near what I got upset with. I think a lot of comments have made unfounded assumptions. Imagine a skimpy 2 piece bikini level of revealing. to little sister. during fashion week. Idc about seeming insecure given such spaces prohibit people in my industry. or even seeming red pill after witnessing the classic girl code response even in defense of a thong as the only bottom. I fully assume women insist on ke… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/25 05:48 PM |
| 3 | Women that say it’s controlling if a man doesn’t like their girl showing a lot of skin online or where other dudes can see: do you actually want us to agree that you do it for yourself not for men?I’m talking about underboob rave fits and / or things to a club in manhattan. In winter. Idc I’m not embarrassed to say my girl can’t wear that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/25 05:28 PM |
| -1 | Women that say it’s controlling if a man doesn’t like their girl showing a lot of skin online or where other dudes can see: do you actually want us to agree that you do it for yourself not for men?When single I’m a guy that flirts w women and tries to get laid. Gonna keep that in my back pocket in case I inadvertently end up with the wrong woman, call her dumb if she ever catches me cheating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/25 05:13 PM |
| 1 | Women that say it’s controlling if a man doesn’t like their girl showing a lot of skin online or where other dudes can see: do you actually want us to agree that you do it for yourself not for men?I feel comprehensively entitled to define free spirit however convenient now. Forget making sense generally, idc if it even makes sense to me. This is a case where I learn far too late that my wife responds like an “aktually” type neckbeard if I ask her to avoid underboob tops or thongs unless she’s with me or at a beach. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/25 05:10 PM |
| -1 | Women that say it’s controlling if a man doesn’t like their girl showing a lot of skin online or where other dudes can see: do you actually want us to agree that you do it for yourself not for men?On two occasions, I had what I thought were truly vulnerable and reasonable conversations with a partner, proactively admitting I might be insecure and knowing she isn’t necessarily intending to appeal to men, but it still hurt to see her even inadvertently signal to men. Both times, her friend group shaped my POV as manipulation and there seemed to be a rabidly dogmatic protection not only revealing outfits, but being revealing in typically single environments like clubs and especially Miami ty… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/25 05:04 PM |
| 0 | Women that say it’s controlling if a man doesn’t like their girl showing a lot of skin online or where other dudes can see: do you actually want us to agree that you do it for yourself not for men?If I end up with a woman that maintain your type perspectives, the moment the delivers a child I’m disappearing and I’ll insist she should have realized I’m a free spirit and she shouldnt have presumed I was gonna stick around 🙏 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/25 04:49 PM |
| 1 | Women that say it’s controlling if a man doesn’t like their girl showing a lot of skin online or where other dudes can see: do you actually want us to agree that you do it for yourself not for men?Where did I say it was a known factor beforehand? Say a woman that only ever posted church choir photo posted that she was trying to change it up with a minikini post, but her bf objected. You truly think women generally wouldn’t consider it controlling in this the case? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/25 04:22 PM |
| -1 | Women that say it’s controlling if a man doesn’t like their girl showing a lot of skin online or where other dudes can see: do you actually want us to agree that you do it for yourself not for men?Where did I say I chase someone that dressed immodestly? I quite literally never did, it became a “right” after the fact. I never met a long term partner in an immodest environment. I think I deeply understand why men are comfortable being deceptive to women after this thread. Even if I did meet someone that was dressed revealingly at the time, is that totally unrelated to being single vs being committed? If my girlfriend complains that I call another woman gorgeous and buy her drinks, maybe sec… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/25 04:16 PM |
| 1 | Women that say it’s controlling if a man doesn’t like their girl showing a lot of skin online or where other dudes can see: do you actually want us to agree that you do it for yourself not for men?I do that without being told honestly, most men do especially if their girl asks. Hearing a woman say the word insecure is sorta end of convo tho, pretty much the same as “just play along” It’s weird that women usually know that irl men almost always approach women, men buy a girl a drink, not vice versa. But treat dressing attractively like it’s the same. Another think we don’t bother calling out tbh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/25 02:05 PM |
| 1 | Women end up hating the Men they create.I think this conversation often leads down a controversial path, but the idea of “not tolerating” certain things of women is a moot point, especially since we’re talking about societal norms and nothing anything explicit or enforceable like legislation. It may have been feasible when women were denied the same rights and protections as men, which is not at all tolerable. So long as men chase women more than women chase men, our standards are more preferences than requirements. I think forgetting… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/25 12:56 AM |
| 1 | Women end up hating the Men they create.Fine, the rest of us that aren’t near 400 on any movement yet lol. Or do cardio at home if possible. I’m just spitballing, people need to think through possibilities specific to their situation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/25 05:05 AM |
| 3 | Women end up hating the Men they create.There’s a less abrasive description that would be better here, and least some kernel of truth. During college, I was desperate to keep a relationship alive and bent over backwards to address any complaint or expectation. Being such a pushover was one of the reasons I got dumped anyway. I think it’s important make a woman feel heard while maintaining your autonomy. The work one is classic. I don’t think it makes sense to substantially cut your schedule. In my experience, it was better to make a p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/25 02:35 AM |
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