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Ah yes because you see, women are never cruel, violent or abusive.. they only do those things when forced to by the wicked men Sarcasm I'm sick of that shit 'Well what did you do?' GTFO with that nonsense. I guarantee if it was a women she'd be swarmed with support by a huge majority. The default stance of doubt when men are potentially the victims annoys the hell outta me.
/r/EverydayMisandry28/07/26 01:58 PM
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Its really hard to deal with the negativity. I try to be sympathetic because yeah shjtty things happen to women but sometimes it gets depressing especially when I haven't personally dome anything. It sucks that you've had to experience that crap. I have had feminist friends downplay my frustration with some of their generalisations as well. I think friends would at least consider the imapact of their words. Quite a few men i've spoken too legitimately struggle not to feel ashamed but rarely talk…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/07/26 08:14 AM
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I think you're right. She's clearly a massive troll but even if she was legitimately believing in her own nonsense, highlighting her solves nothing.
/r/EverydayMisandry14/07/26 01:53 PM
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Shes a troll and happily engages with rage bait. And it works. Sure some idiots actually agree wirh her horrendous takes but thats just sad.
/r/EverydayMisandry14/07/26 01:52 PM
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Ah Google. Lets try to find evidence for my insane ideas /s The sad truth is yeah, in terrible moments some people might end their lives and 'blame' a partner or someone. But if they're in such a desperate mindset to end it i don't think its rational. Not shaming suicide here btw. And obviously it would be devastating to find a note or something hinting at that. Personally I have a real problem with some feminists saying 'women are more considerate and try not to leave a mess'. It clearly implie…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/07/26 06:48 AM
2

Well. This is horrendous. Poor kids.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/07/26 01:31 PM
11

Block and move on. Its rage bait. I don't want to know if she actually believes it, its ridiculous, sexist and stupid.
/r/EverydayMisandry05/07/26 06:35 AM
1

The problem is a lot if the manosphere/redpill promote the same ideas of clichéd restrictive masculinity. Money, status, body, women. Tate is one of the worst because his ego is so fragile, he cant take criticism, he promotes an incredibly sexist idea about women, virtue etc. All those guys blaming promiscuous women whilst engaging and promoting that exact behaviour. They offer a magic validation thats still steeped in insecurity. It all preys on men insecurities and vulnerabilities and takes th…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/06/26 07:45 AM
3

Sounds lile trauma or something. Doesnt justify it. No one should have to do sex acts they find uncomfortable to stay in a relationship. Sounds like she (I'm assuming) was in an abusive relationship and has internalised that as normal. Until it's addressed she'll seek it out and reject healthy relationships. And the cycle continues. Hurt people bleed on others until they heal. She needs serious therapy. And not the kind that just validates her worldview.
/r/EverydayMisandry21/05/26 07:16 AM
1

You make some good points. There definitely needs to be more awareness and yes men can absolutely uphold the stigma.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/05/26 06:22 AM
8

Pointless generalisation to support a gender bias. My friends cat hates his gf. Is she a terrible person? Is the cat misogynistic? She is a sweetheart and genuinely tries really hard but that evil void detests her. Flip the genders of that.
/r/EverydayMisandry15/05/26 02:00 PM
15

Sigh. Once again: men only care about sex, they're not actually lonely.. they just want to use and control women.. Many people judge those who struggle to form friendships or relationships as the net problem. And yes sometimes people need to try harder but its not always a lack of agency. As if being single is a moral failing. And if we flip the genders suddenly there's way more support. The idea women aren't lonely or wanting anyone. As if they're a monolith. Man I hate generalisations.
/r/EverydayMisandry12/05/26 07:12 AM
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Its really sad because people simply aren't doing studies on DV or SA when it comes to male victims. These things are seen as gendered crimes. Even if the man is an actual victim he might still be included in the women and children category. What's incredibly frustrating to me is the perceived gender bias. Criticism and disagreement is not inherently misogynistic but it's often presented as an agenda. I just dont want men's experiences to be so easily dismissed, that doesn't mean I somehow hate …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/05/26 06:43 AM
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I already expressed my opinions. Until we unravel seeing men as victims it won't change. And this isnt just some destroy patriarchy thing. Plenty of women uphold it as well. Men are conditioned and rewarded for being stoic and safe. To take care of others. But whose going to take care and support them? To the extreme fringe elements of feminism, its other men. But Plenty of men dismiss it. There are far fewer male therapists. And therapy is both difficult and expensive. And a lot of established …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/05/26 06:27 AM
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This sounds ignorant. Sexual assault is absolutely as traumatising to men. It just isn't acceptable to say that or for the victims to admit it. Many countries don't consider female on male rape an actual crime. So if its legally impossible theres no way to collect data on it. Thus statistics not existing or being miniscule. Thus people can downplay it. Second. Whether by patriarchy or whatever, men are repeatedly socilised to hold themselves together and shake off 'weakness'. Therapy is discoura…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/05/26 06:00 AM
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It's different perspectives. Being falsely accused is horrible. She was wrong to do so. You obviously didn't mean to lean on her whilst drunk. Or have any bad intentions. But my point is Its like when guys say women have it easy or live life on easy mode. That's simply not true. When I go for a walk I dont think about potentially running into someone who could try something aside from maybe robbing me, my safety isn't an issue aside from being careful. Being skeptical is fine but I see and hear …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/05/26 03:13 PM
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I think these are separate issues. That society can treat men as disposable or unsafe is a huge problem. Or that men do experience specific dangerous situations. Or that people wrongly make assumptions about them, including comfort level or boundaries. Or are dismissive of their pain or negative experiences. All true. But also that many women are afraid and experience harrasment and danger, even from a young age. Men can be incredibly ignorant of that because most of us simply dont experience it…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/05/26 06:48 AM
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I completely agree. It's stunted so many men, myself included. It's a performative restrictive masculinity. Putting others down or trying to find mistakes or judgement. There's banter between friends but sometimes not a lot of depth or emotional capacity. I wonder how many men are afraid to be authentic. Dress a certain way, express vulnerability, engaging in hobbies. It can all be judged. Sometimes guys blame women for using what was said as ammunition. Guys can do that too. Sometimes the misan…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/05/26 10:34 PM
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Yeah they do and thats a huge problem.
/r/EverydayMisandry01/05/26 02:46 PM
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I'm not gonna say there aren't horrible women in those comments because they can absolutely be gross and sexist. But it has to asked; how many were from the 'lucky guy', 'wish it was me' crowd of men dismissive of when other men are raped or sexually assaulted. Because its way to many and hurts actual victims.
/r/EverydayMisandry01/05/26 06:40 AM
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WTF
/r/EverydayMisandry30/04/26 09:12 AM
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It's so frustrating. Misinformation hates the narrative. Grateful for you doing the research, very informative.
/r/EverydayMisandry25/04/26 06:08 PM
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Someone already debunked her data and sources. One was about rape and male college students, you know, the one everyone wrongly sources? 86 men asked. So thats all men apparently. Or the tired cliché that men leave their sick partners more. Not true. But who needs to do their research when we could cherry pick data that reinforces a word view? There's enough real messed up stuff going. It really does not help to use incorrect data to prove a point. It hurts the actual cause. And the irony? Anyon…
/r/EverydayMisandry25/04/26 10:14 AM
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Ragebait fear mongering article. Will definitely get used as some excuse for misogyny. Except a growing number of women are using Ai in different forms as well. Will certain groups judge them equally as harshly?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/04/26 08:22 AM
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Similar media is massive. It isnt enough to say it isn't real. Its how most people consume at least some information including viral sensational news. I personally believe it definitely is massively impacting women. On average they spend more time on platforms than men (although the number is getting smaller). The algorithms feed negativity. There's a lot of horrible things happening. Of course theres postive sides to online content but still. Extreme rabbit holes exist for them as well. Also Ga…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/04/26 07:04 AM
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I mean.. I get it. Especially with all these horror stories coming out. People are chronically online and get most of their information and 'news' from there. And people focus on the negative and social media thrives on engagement and algorithms. Its not justified but I understand how it happens. Its not enough to say 'touch grass' or 'it's not real'. This is how people interact now. Our phones are always available.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/04/26 08:56 AM
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It's so frustrating. These people, many of them men are hurting actual victims and setting us all backwards. Easy response, flip the genders, suddenly it isnt so hot. Shouldn't have to but its frustrating how much these people seperate gender. It's simliar to 'its way easier to raise boys', nah more neglectful maybe. Sometimes men dont talk about horrendous things happening to them because of other men. Misandry sometimes comes from within the house.
/r/EverydayMisandry06/04/26 07:11 AM
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Well, thats depressing. Guess I better educate myself.
/r/EverydayMisandry04/04/26 08:57 AM
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Until very recent lawful changes, it was legally impossible for a women to rape a man. And that massively affected data collection. It still does. UK 94 men were acknowledged- 2003, gender neutral rape laws officially changed. USA federal acknowledgement- 2012 Thats why it looks like 99% to 1%. Also because coming forward is immensely difficult and rape charges are notoriously hard to convict. That should be something women agree with men on, but it clearly isnt. Once again, data and criticism i…
/r/EverydayMisandry04/04/26 08:40 AM
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I'd argue its better than nothing. Worth considering that sometimes men can show reactions to certain mental health conditions that are different to women. The hope would be more therapists trained with that perspective in mind.
/r/EverydayMisandry20/03/26 03:35 PM
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Looks like a bunch of images by teenagers. People have terrible opinions all the time. Especially the male tears one but thats just sad and edgy. It would be a bit of a red flag if this was someone's content tbf. Eh, smash the patriarchy, seem pretty straightforward. And honestly Pinterest is never going to convey the complexity of these issues in any real way, its buzzwords and catchy titles. An inspiration board.
/r/EverydayMisandry18/03/26 07:52 AM
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I hear you. It should absolutely still be treated as problematic. I just wonder how much is rage bait.
/r/EverydayMisandry16/03/26 04:07 PM
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Oh damn, that's so on point. The 'any criticism is misogynistic' crowd. Like a validation feedback loop. Some of the responses are unhinged. Probably some are fake but still.
/r/EverydayMisandry16/03/26 07:40 AM
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Her videos are always well researched and interesting if sometimes a little hard to watch (because of the subject matter, not her ideas and opinions).
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/03/26 12:17 PM
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Yup the comments were gross and honestly even ehen given updated information some still doubled down. Disappointing but not surprising.
/r/EverydayMisandry27/02/26 11:12 AM
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Watch her stuff and see for yourself. I don't always agree with her. Being cautious is fine but try to have an open mind.
/r/EverydayMisandry11/02/26 10:05 AM
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She's a great advocate no pun intended. She'll call out a lot of stuff regardless of gender and genuinely has pretty reasonable opinions.
/r/EverydayMisandry10/02/26 04:41 PM
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Sure, I do as well. And I agree with you, it's a slippery slope because it becomes a shield and a projection. Two things can exist at the same time, it gets messy when its competitive anecdotal experiences.
/r/EverydayMisandry09/02/26 09:00 AM
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I'm convinced social media does this. It's great for raising awareness and content but on the negative side, the algorithm can start to show people the worst elements. I've seen post by women sharing legitimately upsetting, supportive or informative stories but I've also seen posts that are incredibly dehumanising or dismissive to mens experiences. And the problem is, both can create this weird echo chamber of everyone adding more fuel to the fire. It becomes casual or routine and then when a wo…
/r/EverydayMisandry07/02/26 08:16 AM
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Love her! Such a good advocate and fair as well. And actually doing amazing real life work for father's and custody law.
/r/EverydayMisandry29/01/26 10:27 AM
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Gross response from the police especially the bs statement, hate that whitewashed stuff.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates28/01/26 02:52 PM
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Both. His influence on others. A lot of people and kids watch twitch or whatever platform. There's plenty of new streamers exactly like him. Maybe grifting, maybe being honest but I bet a bunch of parents or the older generation have no idea about it And the political side, like a pendulum. Everyone is so ingrained in owning the other they aren't actually addressing issues. Then extreme people appear and suddenly people are shocked.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/01/26 09:29 AM
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He's fallen off but others have taken his place. Toxic streamers. And again people are ignorant and not taking it seriously. People mentioning Andrew Taint are somewhat out of touch. He's still relevant because of why he got so popular. In my opinion, pushback to a lack of policy regarding men, poor role models, changing gender expectations, and frustrated teens and boys, all creating a vacuum. He told them to be rich and strong and get women. And not be ashamed of being masculine and a man... B…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/01/26 09:18 AM
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Pearl is awful for any kind of mens rights. She follows incredibly outdated clichés and openly insults and attacks women. It's redpill trash; using a sliver of legitimate problems to lure people in then going full misogynistic vitriol. I completely agree and the debate doesnt do anything postive. Damn I hate debate culture online.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/01/26 11:37 PM
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Has to be rage bait. But still wtf
/r/EverydayMisandry09/01/26 02:07 PM
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Its absolutely a huge double standard. Relationships and sex are complicated. Its a clichéd idea that guys are always in the mood and instantly aroused. Even the idea of boundaries or saying no can be mocked when it's a guy doing so. The number of people who dont know anything about how male or female sexual anatomy actually functions is legitimately depressing. And it leads to shame, external ridicule and even moments where men might not even realise they're being coerced or experiencing actual…
/r/EverydayMisandry04/01/26 01:35 AM
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There are good female therapists.. and very bad ones. It sucks because the idea of therapy is bombarded as the clear obvious solution for men. And yes, it can be very beneficial. But people happily ignore that therapists are human, with human bias, experience, preconceptions and ignorance. Add that to the difficulty in even getting one or affordability. A really hard part is determining the difference. Therapy is a vulnerable place, it can be very difficult to stand up and admit the therapist is…
/r/EverydayMisandry29/12/25 10:26 AM
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I could go in all sorts of tirades to tear down and mock the shear audacity of privilege, entitlement and double standards. But I'll just say... gross. May this type of women never find me.
/r/EverydayMisandry27/12/25 09:09 AM
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Considering how awful sex education is in general, seems like a drop in the ocean. That said porn use and addiction is rampant. A lot of people seem to get education from porn itself, which is horrifying. Let alone consent, extreme sex acts, body comparison. Etc. Plenty of women watch porn, it isn't solely men. Honestly, there absolutely needs to classes on relationships, boundaries, coercion and emotional abuse and healthy communication. And that would be for both girls and boys.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/12/25 03:24 PM
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She wants a smut novel hunk fantasy, not an actual complex human being. Flip the genders and see how sexist it sounds. Women need to be delicate and feminine again Article feels like rage bait disguised as opinion piece. Tbf, there are women like this in real life. I just dont date them. Major red flag.
/r/EverydayMisandry08/12/25 02:48 PM
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Use whatever references help make your point. Men aren't one version. When these guys mock and ridicule men for stepping outside the cliché they tell on themselves. It's projection. The manosphere tries so hard to separate men from women. To create division. To create 'real men'. I hate it because I went down that route, and it was damaging. Women aren't some magical mysterious species. They're human beings with sometimes bias and negative opinions. And that's good. We can call it out. But we ha…
/r/EverydayMisandry05/12/25 07:53 AM
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Sometimes, the misandry comes from other men. Shame and blame and ridicule, but many guys aren't ready to have that conversation. They see guys who actually admit they've been hurt as soft or pussies. Gotta be the tough guy, stoic, never cry. Be manly. A narrow, miserable box of perceived masculinity. These alpha doucebros prey on vulnerable guys struggling with their self-esteem and feed them misogynistic garbage and shame. Money and muscles. No emotional intelligence or boundaries necessary. T…
/r/EverydayMisandry04/12/25 11:55 PM
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Holy projection, batman! The og poster seriously needs therapy. Becoming this angry over a meme is not healthy at all.
/r/EverydayMisandry04/12/25 12:03 PM
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I completely agree, and it isn't helpful. I feel like these people justify saying harmful shit because it's an easy target and labelling it as simply disagreement. Not a million miles away from describing people as too sensitive. Imagine if a guy posted this about women. Everyone would be all over them in an instant with every insult under the sun. More than one issue can exist at a time. It doesn't automatically invalidate other problems.
/r/EverydayMisandry04/12/25 12:02 PM
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Confirmation bias prevents people from seeing some stats, especially if the data clashes with someone's worldview. Echo chambers, unfortunately, add to this.
/r/EverydayMisandry04/12/25 11:05 AM
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She's right in regards to fighting for those rights for women. But it depends on what branch of feminist she means. Plenty support men, but equally some can be very vindictive or toxic. Social media amplifies the worst.
/r/EverydayMisandry30/11/25 02:43 PM
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Well.. at least I know who to avoid, I guess.
/r/EverydayMisandry28/11/25 08:23 AM
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You know, when a woman posts something vulnerable and a clueless guy tries to derail it and those women get rightfully annoyed... That's you. You hide behind statistics as a shield for criticism. It's literally a day to talk about mens issues, and you do this. I could pull a bunch of data as well, but I won't. Because then, I'd be acting just as silly as you're behaving. Whilst the stats you've posted are important, time and place. Do better.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates19/11/25 02:30 PM
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I really hate how people twist it into the 'male accountability epidemic'. It's cruel and oftentimes wrong. Essentially, if you're struggling to date or make friends, you're the problem. Accountability matters, but so does mental health, environment, and finance.
/r/EverydayMisandry15/11/25 09:45 AM
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Why does it have to be an 'either or aginst' situation? It's just a way to invalidate people. Yes, women have different problems, valid. But that shouldn't be a gotcha to dismiss men as victims.
/r/EverydayMisandry09/11/25 08:57 PM
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I sometimes get twisted thinking of best to support different groups whilst challenging misconceptions. At the same time, I have been educated by women as well (not their job, but it is what it is). Sometimes it does feel like conflicting ideas or personal stress. I think it depends where you go. There's extremist elements in every group. Especially on the internet. Sometimes, I think discussing difficult issues starts to turn into confrontation. Men and women have different problems, not worse …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/11/25 02:23 PM
2

I wouldn't worry too much about downvotes. We need women, feminists, and all sorts to create open discourse. Yes, men need to advocate more for ourselves, but that very much includes other groups. If men do well and feel emotionally connected and positive, that directly impacts loved ones and other groups. Take as much time as you need. I think its great you're willing to listen. Unfortunately, some groups can be kind of gayekeeping, which isn't helpful.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/11/25 02:07 PM
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That's very true. We dont see the personal mountains and struggles people endure every day. It's definitely more acceptable to judge the invisible ones. People seem to see accommodation and understanding as victimhood or enabling.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/11/25 03:26 PM
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I worry about this as an autistic man. The fact I oftentimes need clarification or very upfront communication. Apparently, it can feel like extra emotional labour, which I can potentially sympathise with. Many people dont want to educate others. But how am I supposed to know? The phrase: If he wanted to, he would drives me nuts. I'm quite willing to try to meet a person's needs or understand boundaries (I'm always respectful, perhaps too much), but many times, people drop hints or are embarrasse…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/11/25 11:31 AM
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Is this actually addressing misandry or misandry unless we approve it, you know? Big difference.
/r/EverydayMisandry30/10/25 04:11 PM
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Tbf, some men do use it as an attack against women. Or to place blame towards them. I'd advise those men to check out suicide bereavement sub. Especially the responses from female spouses or friends, specifically. But yes, there are definitely women who say 'and it ain't high enough'. Usually dumbass people on echo chamber pages. Doesn't justify it no matter how hurt they might be. It's not silencing a voice when said voice is hateful and bigoted. I'll call out men. But damn will I call out terr…
/r/EverydayMisandry29/10/25 07:48 AM
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Yeah, I'd agree. It might not be all, but there's certainly a pushback. Definitely some double standards at play here. It's interesting because when certain issues are brought up, theres two groups; those women who listen and try to understand and those who dont and use insults and dismissal.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/10/25 08:10 AM
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Imagine asking a woman experiencing dv what she did to make him mad. That's what this looks like. As always, flip the genders. This reinforces this infantile image of a woman as being pure and good until she reaches her limit. It's sexist and not only harms male victims but is actually kind of patronising towards women. See the women-are-wondeful effect.
/r/EverydayMisandry19/10/25 07:01 AM
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That dude needs therapy. Post full of generalisations. And I've seen plenty of women with unhinged conspiracy theories. Stupidity isn't gender specific.
/r/EverydayMisandry13/10/25 03:51 PM
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Humility and accountability are incredibly attractive, and I totally agree. I had something similar, and it's definitely something I think about now when looking at people's traits. As we learn more about ourselves and relationships, we understand our needs better. I had a similar ex with those qualities. And I would have said the same, not perfect, but that's impossible. Acknowledgement of flaws is very important.
/r/EverydayMisandry13/10/25 10:37 AM
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Yes, this is excellent advice. With a break up, there should at least be some lessons learnt or things improved. If the person thinks all their exes were terrible narcissistic assholes. Accountability and honest self reflection are great traits.
/r/EverydayMisandry13/10/25 10:23 AM
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These women are projecting their own experiences onto the idea of all men. It's just an assumption, anecdotal, and essentially slander. And it won't help them get over that bitterness. People like different things? Relationships take work, compromise, and acceptance. I've remembered things about my partners, taken care of them, and been invested. According to these women, I'm a unicorn or 'one of the rare good ones'. Screw that. That would still be patronising. These kinds of comments sound like…
/r/EverydayMisandry13/10/25 08:30 AM
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Exactly!
/r/EverydayMisandry10/10/25 06:15 AM
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Essentially: if he wanted to, he would
/r/EverydayMisandry10/10/25 06:06 AM
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The internet makes people into callous monsters. It desentizes people. It's a little boy. Have some morals and humanity. The actually fact people can make 'jokes' or strawmen is horrendous. I hope to God no man encounters her.
/r/EverydayMisandry02/10/25 03:12 PM
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The article is ridiculous. I genuinely thought it was a parody a minute. Each interviewed woman lists a truckload of demands and then talks about how the bar is in hell and so easy for men. Those two statements contradict each other. They also talk about a lack of 'quality men'. Describing them as disposable things that just exist to enhance their own lives. Not a team, not a partnership. If you flipped the genders, this would be lambasted as misogynistic trash. It would be mocked, attacked, and…
/r/EverydayMisandry01/10/25 08:48 PM
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Oh wow, that's... wow. Gross.
/r/EverydayMisandry01/10/25 08:36 PM
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So essentially, boys who are raped by an older female teacher aren't victims. They have to watch out for std's or pregnancy of course, not you know- abuse of power and being taken advantage of. She sounds exactly like the dudes who say: 'I'd love that' or 'teenage boys are different to girls'. They're defending it. Same as when the media says sex when it's a woman teacher. But not when the teacher is male.
/r/EverydayMisandry01/10/25 02:28 PM
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Because everyone either has no standards or way to high ones. People think a relationship will fix all their problems or is a privilege. Or that they have Disney expectations of romance. Add that pretty much everyone is shockingly bad at communicating needs or boundaries. Also, men aren't exactly having a brilliant time dating either.
/r/EverydayMisandry01/10/25 02:08 PM
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I hate that trend. I do all the supposedly performing things - books, coffee, games, etc etc - and have been accused of being one. It's a way to judge men. Not every dude is lying to a woman and pretending to like 'feminine' things to get laid (wtf). It's so frustrating. Sexist, too.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/10/25 08:57 AM
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Ah yes. The classic 'men will f anything with a hole' take. It's completely unhinged. The women writing this needs serious therapy and to stay the hell away from men to protect said poor men. Sexism and generalisation. I despise it.
/r/EverydayMisandry28/09/25 06:38 PM
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Roma is awesome. I don't always agree with her, but I absolutely respect her commitment, especially towards suicide awareness and mens mental health.
/r/EverydayMisandry27/09/25 10:38 PM
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It's biased. Social media encourages isolation and limited opinions or group think. Selective empathy, I think it's called. I think you might be right. It's also possibly the massive bombardment of information. We can't absorb all of it, and our sympathy and empathy gets overwhelmed.
/r/EverydayMisandry26/09/25 11:48 AM
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I agree with this. Two things can be absolutely true at the same time. In involves communication and difficult conversations. But it's necessary. Thank you for sharing your opinion so eloquently. Seriously.
/r/EverydayMisandry26/09/25 11:45 AM
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It might sound extreme as a response, but Japan has a huge problem with this stuff. Especially public sexual harresement. Although I'm not sure a few signs are going to make any significant difference.
/r/EverydayMisandry26/09/25 07:02 AM
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So she argues the point, is sarcastic and dismissive. A triple point of negativity! Jeez... And people still have the nerve to wonder why men dont come forward about being abused.
/r/EverydayMisandry25/09/25 08:28 PM
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The people who need to see this are the ones who won't.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/09/25 08:04 PM
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I feel the same way. It's like an eye for an eye. And I agree with finding both extremes depending on where you go. It isn't helpful. Usually, a lot of hurt people and projection. We can all do better. Blaming one side solves nothing.
/r/EverydayMisandry22/09/25 06:37 PM
0

Well, probably not because it's absolutely still a thing. Not just historically. Talk to women. Look at stats. As men, we can live in a bubble. It's important to consider multiple experiences. Research, specifically regarding women's health, is still way behind. It's an interesting yet depressing thing to look into.
/r/EverydayMisandry20/09/25 03:46 PM
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Ok. Cool. But we do now acknowledge that, and that's progress. And women are talking about their experiences. It relates to men not listening and being dismissive and then getting upset when women do the same thing regarding male centric problems. It's perfectly fine if you don't actually care. Just be honest and say so as opposed to suggesting women don't face particular difficulties and stigma, just as men can as well.
/r/EverydayMisandry20/09/25 11:31 AM
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I know. That's why communication is so important. He has to express that. Threatening divorce isn't doing that. That's an ultimatum. Sometimes, it can come across as an attack and make people feel defensive. It's actually really difficult.
/r/EverydayMisandry20/09/25 11:23 AM
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I hear you. It's complicated. Its clear wife does also need therapy as well. He doesn't deserve to be treated poorly.
/r/EverydayMisandry20/09/25 11:18 AM
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I'm conflicted here. The responses from strangers on his post were sometimes very unhinged and disrespectful. Like an echo chamber of insults. He resets his wife for a messed-up birthday. That isn't healthy and isn't being addressed. She's pregnant, on a restricted diet, and hormonal. None of that justifies her using him as an emotional punching bag, but there has to be some acknowledgement of her difficulties. That said, he isn't helping matters by threatening divorce or choosing to eat all the…
/r/EverydayMisandry20/09/25 11:09 AM
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Eh. She made a throwaway remark and apparently triggered a bunch of guys. Ask a woman about her experiences with the doctor and being totally ignored or misdiagnosed. Or what it's actually like to experience extreme periods like PCOS. Before 1993, women's bodies were rarely studied. The male body was used as the norm, including incorrect medicine dosage. This is also why, for a long time, we didn't understand female specific diseases or conditions. The research is still trying to catch up. Studi…
/r/EverydayMisandry18/09/25 06:29 AM
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I like how she hasn't learnt anything. Left leaning (if that's what she is) comments always sound dismissive. Even acknowledgement of men struggling at all feels like a personal attack on women somehow. Let's just all label these men babies and ridicule them and show not a shred of sympathy. Im sure that will end well. I have no time for those who make vast sweeping generalisations about anyone. Also, the 'get therapy' comment is just patronising. Therapy is expensive and difficult, and you need…
/r/EverydayMisandry13/09/25 11:04 PM
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50 shades gets thrown around a lot, but I get your point. As long as people admit it's just silly horny dumb fun, that's fine. Escapism. But plenty of people dont. I'm not a fan of being compared to a fictional character.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/09/25 01:46 PM
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Often, attacks are projections of someone's own insecurities. What you said was fair. That fact you got a fucking toxic essay speaks volumes.
/r/EverydayMisandry11/09/25 11:53 AM
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It's hard to say because social media is the monster that covers everything. Women still face opposition in other countries to even attend education. That said, less and less men are entering higher education. I think more women have started graduating college in developed countries. Richard Reeves sort of addresses this. But he plays it safe. A lack of male teachers. Boys being treated differently in school, hell, the way they're socilised from young childhood. Scholarships for women in many in…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/09/25 07:32 AM
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This. A lot of books aren't written for men. They aren't published, and they aren't encouraged. The market is dominated by women (which is actually a huge change). Several prominent female book influences have started to address this in good faith and admit it is a problem. Others... not so much. Essentially blaming men.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates11/09/25 07:21 AM
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It's the sheer ignorance of the generalisation I hate. Do women have negative experiences with men. Yes, they do. Men gave negative experiences with women. Neither justifies becoming jaded and hateful. But it's now getting to the point of 'all men until proven otherwise'. A lot of these venting pages create echo chambers that are legitimately full of horrendous misandry. It's pretty twisted and unpleasant to read.
/r/EverydayMisandry03/09/25 02:10 PM
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Wait. Where on earth did I imply anything like that? Yes, sexism should be addressed? Misandry is just as bad, absolutely. My entire comment was about allowing the groom to wear what he wanted as well. And saying the negative reaction to it was outdated and stupid.
/r/EverydayMisandry03/09/25 01:56 PM
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Let people do what they want. They both look happy 🤷‍♂️ The obvious hinting at homophobia isn't cute, but sadly, it's not a surprise. Tradition be damned.
/r/EverydayMisandry03/09/25 09:17 AM
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This is excellent advice, and I appreciate that you didn't dismiss the person. It isn't easy to decenter people, including women. Especially when it feels like a lot of our self-worth as men comes from social acceptance/relationship success. It's fine to want people to like you. To feel included, validated. It's completely human. But we have the power to select who we allow into our lives. Its also worth noting - those with low self-esteem tend to believe they can read minds. We simply can't. Sa…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/09/25 06:05 PM
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I wonder how many comments were men versus women. That being said, yeah, it's really dumb- Like putting men in boxes. Sadly, people still believe stupid stereotypes, even if they're harmful. So anything less than hyper masculine stoic is gay? Ok. Narrow parameters, but let's also remember gay is definitely used in a negative demeaning way here as well. Heaven forbid a man be happy or goofy.
/r/EverydayMisandry28/08/25 02:38 PM
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At this point, I'm not wasting my time with subs like that. It's towing the line. And tbf whilst in theory I'd respect a place where women can vent, the double standard exists where if men were doing this, it would probably be seen as misogynistic. As always, apply the 'does it survive the gender swap?'. It's almost rage bait- a man would never do this Generalisations aren't fun.
/r/EverydayMisandry05/08/25 01:46 PM
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Fair points
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/08/25 07:16 AM
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Literature has really emphasised women as the primary readers. Which has mean a sharp decline in both men and boys reading and of books releasing that focus on them. Obviously, taste is subjective , and there is a clear bias here. Some women have spoken out against it, but unfortunately, others see it as just complaining. I personally read a lot of different subject matter . But I oftentimes find myself in the minority. My local book club is dominated by women. It's hilarious. We get on well, an…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/08/25 12:59 PM
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And that's a valid thing to be concerned about, and I'd agree. That's absolutely should be a focus. By all accounts, we should be worried about how our phones affect the presentation. And the media. And not just for men and boys but women and girls too. Everyone is bombarded with unrealistic examples and expectations. Or the 'right way' to live. Its very concerning, given how early children now receive them. It's a part of life.
/r/EverydayMisandry24/07/25 06:42 AM
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I'm going to actually play Devil's advocate - let's say she's being serious. She actually has valid reasons to be worried about this. There's is a pipeline. And there are redpill guys preaching about 'traditional values', all the while bragging about steroids, money and success. And they're all hypocrites who crap on men and women who don't conform to that. Lot at the guys in political positions being degenerates whilst preaching morality and family values. I'm all for calling out misandry, but …
/r/EverydayMisandry24/07/25 06:12 AM
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Eh, I really liked Ted Lasso. It had a variety of different male characters. They all go through changes and have arcs. Sometimes, they mess up, and they're vulnerable. There's still masculinity, but the show deals with the toxic side as well- repressed feelings, betrayal, and parental failures. It's perfectly fine if you didn't enjoy it, but that's all I see here. That and the idea of an anti stoicism. Be stoic, I guess. Just be aware people, in this case, men can find many different avenues to…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/07/25 01:40 PM
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There has to be a reason she was abusive! sarcasm Shit like this pisses me off. Blatant victim blaming. It's like blaming abuse on mental illness or BPD. Those conditions suck and are legitimately difficult to live with, but that's never a justification. Plenty of people with trauma don't abuse their partners.
/r/EverydayMisandry19/07/25 12:17 PM
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She's clearly mentally unwell and desperately needs therapy. But unfortunately, she will probably be gaslight into believing her instincts. So many men fear being around kids. Not because they're pedos, but because of the stereotypes and judgment. 'Not all women' but there's plenty of examples and situations where a father or older brother has been accosted by mothers at a park. And by other men. It happens.
/r/EverydayMisandry10/07/25 06:36 AM
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Exactly. And no one wins, and everyone fights and blames each other. It's exhaustive.
/r/EverydayMisandry09/07/25 09:11 PM
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That event is always going to be brought up as a gotcha. Is It disgusting? Absolutely. But there's a lot of terrible crap in the world. We have to focus on the postives. Otherwise, it's all just misery. Of course, we should acknowledge the bad and try to improve. I don't know how to respond when people bring up overwhelming negative situations involving other men. Can't really say anything. It would unfortunately just sound dismissive.
/r/EverydayMisandry09/07/25 06:28 PM
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Just words. But beautifully said. Means the world.
/r/EverydayMisandry08/07/25 03:31 PM
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Because it isn't to just support feminism. It's which version you support. There's plenty, and they aint all good. Stopping harrasment, abuse, mistreatment, and inequality against women? Awesome. But I've heard far too many so-called feminist spew hateful rhetoric. Aimed directly at men, often citing studies that affirm their bias. And ignoring ones that don't. Or anecdotal experiences as world view generalisations. I'd love to have real conversations with feminists but when I disagree, it's com…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/07/25 06:52 AM
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It goes viral. Just a theory, more women using social media? Women oftentimes share their opinions, stories and experiences more freely on social media. Rage bait gets attention. Especially if it's gender war stuff.
/r/EverydayMisandry02/07/25 06:30 AM
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This is horrendous. I googled the book. It's popular. Well. That's depressing.
/r/EverydayMisandry01/07/25 09:53 PM
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He needs a parent not to be an emotional punching bag for all her past problems. Either he'll cut off contact or be emotionally damaged. I, too, worry for her son. How can he not internalise this hatred? And the upvotes and calling men butthurt? Classic deflection and dismissal of any other opinion as in invalid because it was probably criticism. It happens all the time on reddit. Especially with gendered stuff.
/r/EverydayMisandry01/07/25 06:14 AM
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It makes me legit angry, but I find it very difficult to vocalise myself without sounding misogynistic.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/06/25 01:06 PM
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I've unfortunately seen a trend of this. Ideas put forth then dismissed. At one point rape wasn't something that could have been legally committed against men. There have been several attempts to create a minister for men, as there already is for women. But it's always shot down. Simply look at all the articles attacking the mere suggestion. It's quite depressing.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/06/25 06:04 AM
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Oh, some women absolutely detest men. Very vocal about it. I'd agree it's baffling. You're in a relationship/marriage. You chose this person. Yet you hate them? Just leave. Damn. The bare minimum. Respect and kindness need to be that for both parties.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/06/25 09:02 PM
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I agree with that. It's complex.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/06/25 08:58 PM
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That's awesome. Keep it up. We all need to support each other.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/06/25 07:25 PM
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Weird. I didn't assume every women was bad.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/06/25 05:32 PM
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Hard disagree. Her emotions aren't my responsibility. I can be kind and supportive, but it's her job to communicate the reason. In that context, she would ask ,'Why am I feeling this? Help me understand myself, help me discover' I sometimes had no idea, and it was my fault. Seems helpful, but it's her brain, her feelings. Whilst we're influenced by others ultimately its our own job to manage our own emotions, not outsource them to others. It's similar to making your partners responsibility to so…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/06/25 01:17 PM
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What an interesting conversation. Opened my eyes to different ideas. Especially the transphobia. It's definitely prevalent when people change gender from female to male. My only frustration is when some of these men still blame cis men as inherently the problem. No, society is freaking complicated. The idea that transphobia is blatant misandry from terf feminist? Checks out. I also find it frustrating when women don't call this out. Some do, but others seem to see it as still just misogyy agains…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/06/25 01:13 PM
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Fair enough. I see your point.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/06/25 11:54 AM
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This! I've been told this but also had a woman directly ask me to help regulate hers by talking about it. Come on.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/06/25 11:47 AM
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Can't especially disagree. Oftentimes, it is that. The idea these women have to 'teach' them. That annoys me because, of course, you have to understand and educate each other on quirks, fears, preferences, etc. I've seen some women react very negatively to decent advice, especially regarding not nagging, being passive-aggressive, etc So I should talk to him like a child?! No, you should use words and communicate. And actively listen without judgement. This is your partner, not an emotional punch…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/06/25 09:49 AM
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Maybe. I've met good women. But they admittedly did need to have done the work. It's especially prevalent when politely and respectfully confronted on the double standards or insincerity.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/06/25 09:45 AM
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Ug. I hate the guardian. People love to label double standards. That was dripping with bias and patronising tone. If only men worked on themselves and stopped forcing women to do all the emotional labour. Sadly they'll just use it to lie. Imagine if they went to therapy Why is something somehow different when it affects a woman? Uh, I need to go talk to some normal women offline. This crap annoys the hell out of me.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/06/25 07:51 AM
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Oh, I agree. Double standards at their finest.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/06/25 07:49 AM
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/r/EverydayMisandry22/06/25 06:47 PM
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Exactly! What's the problem? Tradition? Women used to traditionally stay home, not own bank accounts etc etc. A lot of stuff has changed. Power dynamics? Not having to ask? Oh no.. It might be the thing I detest the most: If he really wanted to, he would That statement grinds my gears 😤
/r/EverydayMisandry22/06/25 06:40 PM
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This topic pisses me off so much. I've literally known female friends who are waiting for their male partners to propose. These are progressive women, too. Except in the proposal, apparently. Whats worse is they do the 'dropping stupid hints' nonsense. One boyfriend flat out said he's not interested in marriage from the start, and years later she's still like, he'll come around.. ' And the negative online judgement from men and women. So dumb. Ironically, I know a lesbian couple who are happily …
/r/EverydayMisandry22/06/25 06:30 PM
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You make some very valid points, honestly.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/06/25 06:18 PM
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I wonder how common this is for certain women. It's quote common on social media. And receives a lot of validation. I agree that she desperately needs therapy. It's not normal to hate and feel disgusted by men, same advice for a man thinking that way about women. Wait. Is she in a relationship?! Poor bastard. I genuinely worry for guys who date these types of women. Like, they hate men. Are you trying to support them in therapy? Save them? The token, good guy? Sounds exhaustive and potentially l…
/r/EverydayMisandry22/06/25 06:44 AM
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Sure, but they also beat women. It's a thing for a reason.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/06/25 03:45 PM
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I actually think she raises a few good points. Guys, dont do this to other men. She's smaller. There are definitely men who won't try to abuse other men but would absolutely take advantage of someone weaker. And it's absolutely true that a person might assault her and every think he's a great guy and defend him. False accusations are terrible. But just like a guy being hit by his girlfriend is usually not believed, let's not pretend there isn't a section of men not believing victims. When I go o…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/06/25 03:34 PM
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I get it. It's to see how they react, whether they laugh it off or get angry. Whether they're safe. It's a test. Not exactly mature. There are plenty of double standards. Yeah, if it was turned around, she'd probably be furious.
/r/EverydayMisandry21/06/25 06:47 AM
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She's a model and very rich and privileged. Been the centre of attention for a long time, both positive and negatively. She's very out there. And that is putting it mildly. Not the first famous woman I've seen using men as pleasure, and fun and little else. And that's started trickling down. I've noticed online more and more women advocating for this style. Living life, strong female friends. Men as a bit of fun on the side but ultimately disposable. This is increasingly seen as empowering and f…
/r/EverydayMisandry21/06/25 06:43 AM
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Yeah, maybe, or a tiny subsection of good and bad experiences. Like the rest of us. That's my problem. Whrn people use anecdotal experiences to prove try generalisations or confirm their bias.
/r/EverydayMisandry18/06/25 01:00 PM
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that escalated quickly 😳
/r/EverydayMisandry17/06/25 09:09 PM
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People absolutely judge men playing videogames or having certain hobbies wtf
/r/EverydayMisandry17/06/25 07:40 PM
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Yeah. Thanks, edited
/r/EverydayMisandry16/06/25 11:28 AM
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Oh yeah, the Sabrina Carpenter album cover where she's acting submissive and is wearing a dog lead. And the internet lost it's shit. Newsflash. She's not a female role model. She regularly played into the male gaze, and people didn't care. She literally performed mannerisms of sex acts on stage. She transformed from a humble singer to a sexy starlet. But this? Oh, that's too far.. As for the generalisation? Yeah it's fucked. Some women hate men. That won't change. It's frustrating it hasn't been…
/r/EverydayMisandry15/06/25 07:48 PM
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True, and just like women, it's embarrassing and traumatising to come forward.
/r/EverydayMisandry14/06/25 07:41 PM
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It can be very demoralising. I rarely look at solely women's subs now. It used to have a massively negative effect on my self-esteem. And other men I talked to said the same thing. The problem is if you critique these spaces, you'll be labelled an incel or misogynist. And yet, if a group of men complain about women, then it's problematic. It's so frustrating. Same with left leaning. So listen. But others dismiss and ignore.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/06/25 06:18 AM
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It can be demoralising. I often clash with guys on issues. Sometimes, people are hurt and angry. In the case of men challenging feminist ideas, it doesn't help to be told how wrong they are or that their problems aren't important or, even worse, patriarchy. Technically true, but blaming an idea for people's suffering rarely goes well. Some feminist say they want to achieve equality. Others about securing women's rights. Others still claim men should be feminists as well. Others say women are fir…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates14/06/25 06:13 AM
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Add that men will rarely report it because of social stigma and shame.
/r/EverydayMisandry13/06/25 07:26 PM
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It's already happened, so to speak. Large droves of men voting trump and abandoning leftist politics or not voting. At least the perception of caring frim the right (althoughi doubt it). Same from podcast and legitimate toxic views on women. I don't condone them, but I definitely see how an intolerance to mens struggles can push people into the arms of extremist. That's a lesson from history. Everyone forgets way too easily. I'm younger than you (37), but I don't feel a particular urge to find a…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/06/25 11:24 AM
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Interesting discussion. I myself have almost opted out of dating because of preconceptions regarding wealth, appearance, and self-esteem. Admittedly, I've met several women who might be good partners (and men, I'm bi). More friends nowadays. A lot of my issues might come down to self-confidence. That being said, I have also seen messaging targeted towards women telling them not to settle and have strong boundaries. In theory, that's fine but can easily become exaggerated. Especially preferences …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/06/25 10:03 AM
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All important things to advocate for. And some interesting points to consider.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/06/25 03:14 PM
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People are just beginning to acknowledge that they might have struggles and legitimate problems. Sadly, there's still a percentage of people who disregard them. When, for example, people say boys are struggling academically, some people insist its solely their fault. Not trying hard. Stubborn and not willing to evolve. Essentially dismissal. I genuinely think some extreme feminists can not or refuse to acknowledge men and boys' problems or see it as a contest/personal attack. As if more than one…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/06/25 01:08 PM
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Violence from men towards women is absolutely a problem. My problem is I simply don't see harresement or intimidation based on how I go throughout my life. I'm sure it happens. Rape is complicated. Some men downplay it. Especially because it's still very much socilised as purely something that happens to them. As a weakness. Gay men experience assault and it sounds horrifying. Women can rape men, in smaller numbers (that's still an issue in some places, that rape requires penetrative sex against…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/06/25 05:42 PM
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Because it's complicated. Women can also downplay and dismiss men's problems as not existing as well. Depending on which side of the internet you go to, even the mere sniff of men talking about their problems will be attacked vigorously, mocked, or dismissed. Ultimately, it's probably hurt people projecting their anecdotal experiences onto everyone. I agree it doesn't help to be misogynistic and deny women's issues. Or to invade women's spaces. But I think we can all do better. I respectfully as…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/06/25 06:52 AM
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This is a part that's not especially talked about. How it's apparently strange to some people that men want attention as well. It's not needy or non masculine. It's human.
/r/EverydayMisandry05/06/25 06:16 PM
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Women talk. It's annoying if you like privacy. Some are restrained and don't like sharing. Others.. not so much. I'm friends with some women and I've received a taste of it. Like.. details. Some legit made me uncomfortable. This idea that men and women are total opposites. It's not entirely true. In my case, my friends rarely talk about women, and I don't think we've ever discussed anatomy. Maybe a weird or funny sexual encounter or experience. Maybe it helps women share information for safety. …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/06/25 06:45 AM
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I honestly have no idea
/r/EverydayMisandry03/06/25 09:58 PM
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I hear you. That's perfectly valid.
/r/EverydayMisandry03/06/25 01:49 PM
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I don't know the full extent, but if the Liberal, left options were as unappealing as America, we know why. I lean left with the vast majority of my beliefs. But if I were an actual American citizen, I wouldn't have voted for Kamala as a guy. She came off as patronising. The 'I'm a real man and I'm not afraid to vote for a woman' ads were cringe. It's a huge issue, and the left either blames or bury their heads in the sand. Where's the appeal? Where's the incentive to vote left? Where are the po…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/06/25 07:36 AM
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Are we sure this isn't just an awful joke? By one poster? I personally don't think it's funny at all, but.. ..Is it confirmation of a secret hivemind feminist agenda against men? No. That's a bit silly.
/r/EverydayMisandry03/06/25 07:04 AM
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I touch myself thinking about women being hurt What's that? That's not funny? What's the difference? My systemic prilvidge? Rules for thee but not for me
/r/EverydayMisandry02/06/25 11:11 AM
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This was ages ago. She says inflammatory stuff, no doubt. But she's way more into political stuff. I think she's annoying, but like dime, a dozen feminist on social media. That being said, I'm not accepting fresh and fit or the whatever podcast as bastions of morality. Any guy who unironically likes them is a bit of a red flag. I've seen them do debates and look like idiots. Way better role models.
/r/EverydayMisandry01/06/25 09:10 PM
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Almost like it's not a choice, go figure. The whole 'opposite gender sucks I'm gonna be gay' is so weird to me, even as a joke.
/r/EverydayMisandry29/05/25 02:32 PM
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See, it's incredibly easy to always blame men. It creates generalisations. It's simple. Actual nuance requires the critical thinking to ask what part the other person played. I'm not advocating for abuse or for women not to speak up. It's when it's always one genders' fault, and other can do no wrong. Most conflict is simply a difference of opinion, values orunmet needs. Humility is a lost art.
/r/EverydayMisandry28/05/25 10:22 PM
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Flip the genders. Totally different responses
/r/EverydayMisandry28/05/25 07:27 PM
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You make some compelling points. Food for thought.
/r/EverydayMisandry27/05/25 09:51 AM
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But it isn't telling boys they're wrong. It's saying the way we raised them is damaging. It's a series of generational societal changes. Of course, they push back. But look what happens. Anger, resentment, victimhood. The idea the world is out to get them. That asking for help is wrong. When boys have terrible role models, guys like tate come in, co-op it, and claim real masculinity is suppressing emotions, being strong, money, women. Incredibly limited version. That's what being picked up on. W…
/r/EverydayMisandry27/05/25 09:10 AM
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I assumed it was about teaching boys emotional regulation as opposed to just telling them to man up. Stuff like that. Let's face it. They're treated differently even as children. They internalise what they're taught. Narrow lenses of masculinity. To be strong, to be stoic. Big boys don't cry. That kinda stuff. Least in my opinion.
/r/EverydayMisandry27/05/25 01:06 AM
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I won't say all. Freedom of expression allows individuals to embrace masculinity or feminity without gendered roles. There can be differences between men and women, for example. If both parties are OK with it, it's personal choice.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/05/25 04:56 PM
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I would agree on that advice. Social media warps brains and easily creates rabbit holes of bias. Occasionally, this sub starts to have weird agendas. Do some women do this? Sure. Can stoism be weaponised? Yeah. Let's please not generalise. I want to regulate my emotions for myself. For my mental health. I'd have strong boundaries of a lady started judging my ass.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/05/25 07:19 AM
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Never said not having standards. Even saying women are the choosers is backwards. Do you have no agency? Do you not want to have sex? Have you never rejected a woman? Never said no to sex? I have standards. So do women. I have choice as well. Masculinity/femininity is entirely subjective to the individual regardless of gender.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/05/25 07:14 AM
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Most people glorify a very narrow box of masculinity and derive direct pride from it. Men can be incredibly defensive when that's challenged. I've seen answers suggesting certain actions are masculine or feminine. We place way too much on these as individual identities. The most toxic form disregards emotions. Discourages crying or being too emotional or weak.' Certain hobbies like craft. Childcare. Housework. Enjoying anything other than action movies. Working out. Steroids and muscles. Promote…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/05/25 07:08 AM
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So is think a man knitting is inherently feminine. There's more to being a man than beards and weights. That's so restrictive. That's the box. Women list weights, are they becoming more masculine? Interesting, you aren't willing to think or consider that.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/05/25 06:57 AM
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This kind of paints men as hunters claiming women if they're masculine enough. Being chosen as the strongest. It basically gives women no agency. Sexual selection? Ew. There are plenty of people in healthy relationships. Certain things aren't considered 'masculine'. Like caring for kids. That's definitely outdated.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/05/25 06:55 AM
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Oh dear. Next, we'll be hearing about the natural order and feminine/ masculine energy No thanks.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/05/25 06:51 AM
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She's a singer who has a manic following and occasionally says really dumb things. Like stuff about not dating ugly dudes. Men face criticism. Eating disorders are literally becoming gender neutral.
/r/EverydayMisandry25/05/25 04:21 PM
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Uh, what? Mens emotions are prioritised?! Since when? She takes no accountability for women acting poorly. It's a loneliness epidemic for everyone. Sadly, I've increasingly seen lonely women say it's still mens fault. That they're trash and women won't put up with the bare minimum (God, I hate that phrase).
/r/EverydayMisandry24/05/25 02:33 PM
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I rhink they're trolling whilst offering no actual constructive criticism. The thing is, the I hate all men is actually complicated. Many women do face harresement and scary situations with men. They probably mostly don't mean all. It's just terrible phrasing. And lo and behold, if a guy feels even a teeny bit defensive, he's the problem. Very frustrating. But their responses aren't helping anyone. It's essentially saying: it isn't my job to educate you, which is dumb. I would say do your resear…
/r/EverydayMisandry24/05/25 07:32 AM
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Excellent response. I wish governments and health companies would listen to this. Feels like mens mental health is seen as either simplistic or mot others' peoples problems. That unfortunately includes talking and support. Way too many people consider it being an unpaid therapist. In my opinion, it's actually not. We all can be someone to chat with, even casually.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/05/25 07:09 AM
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Same feeling. Useful but oftentimes used as a weapon as opposed to discussion and understanding.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/05/25 02:19 PM
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I read it. I'm glad there was pushback in the comments. The article basically admits men are struggling, especially younger, regarding voting more right leaning than pivots to how women are voting. That's the real interest of it. But as someone in their comments said; Women voted for trump. Not enough voted for Kamala. It's simplistic but true. Do many women lean left? Yes. One of the reasons, in my opinion, is that the left leaning caters to them more. Especially regarding their issues. I don't…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/05/25 01:51 PM
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Yeah. I've known male friends who experienced this. Some laughed it off, some not so much. I think people are so obsessed with stats (genuine issues that I don't want to dismiss) that the idea that multiple boys have experienced unwanted or coerced assault is alarming. It creates a very uncomfortable talking point. Gender bias is a real thing. Unfortunately, many men propagate and still endorse a younger man and an older woman. Even as jokes, it's in society. Look at how female and male teachers…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/05/25 06:51 AM
8

This honestly applies to all men. I still have moments where I want to say something. Usually, I might be irritated, but then I move on. That might not be the best solution, but it's honestly helped my mental health and perceived perception.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/05/25 01:54 PM
1

It's easy to make certain examples as clear targets. Exceptional circumstances to justify things. A clearly 'evil' person. But how do you define a Nazi? A bigot? A terrible human being? I'm not trying to argue or shame your opinion. I just think it's a slippery slope, and I find the darkness of human beings fascinating as a concept. And once you do find said, what's an appropriate reaction? That, again, is highly subjective. There's certain groups I don't like at all. Would I feel better hurting…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/05/25 11:37 AM
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I agree. It's really troubling when it's targeted. For a long time, I was convinced the problem was solely because I must be a terrible person. That then led to thinking outrageous demands by individuals applied to a group, which in turn led to me internalising those expectations and becoming depressed and isolated and looking to blame, and be was resentful. A slippery slope. I've recovered somewhat and try not to blame anymore. Loneliness affects everyone. But it's hard not to be affected by th…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/05/25 06:47 AM
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Oh man, this hits home. Thankfully, I've met good women who are honest about flaws but also some who.. whew, never their fault. Distanced myself for my own mental health.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/05/25 06:42 AM
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Honestly. I legitimately think this advice is necessary for everyone. It is so easy to get sucked into it by algorithms designed to keep us clicking for empty dopamine. Real life, for better or worse, creates actual opportunities for connection. People are flawed incomplete, beautiful human beings. On a screen, we see styled curated sometimes outrageous opinions. Even getting mad at a ridiculous opinion is still engagement.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/05/25 06:39 AM
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I appreciate the effort. I have to do the same sometimes with women and not make generalisations. It's all one big cluster fuck.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/05/25 07:37 AM
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People supporting her are unhinged. Deeply disturbing. Double standards at its 'finest'.
/r/EverydayMisandry16/05/25 07:20 PM
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Yup. They will. I could have done absolutely nothing, and they'll hate my existence. You know what? Screw them. I'm a decent person. Those that know me matter. Not some random online person. The meme isn't funny.
/r/EverydayMisandry14/05/25 06:41 PM
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If you're single? None at all. In a relationship? Liking a bunch of random, attractive women solely based on that isn't great.
/r/EverydayMisandry13/05/25 11:22 AM
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That's fair. It certainly can be controlling and very jealous.
/r/EverydayMisandry12/05/25 08:47 PM
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It could be seen as controlling or insecurities, BUT let's be honest: There's a clear context between liking a friends post and half-naked thirst traps. Would I be comfortable with a potential girlfriend liking half-naked dudes? Probably not. Maybe it comes down to feeling like the person should be enough. Same principle of porn.
/r/EverydayMisandry12/05/25 08:25 PM
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Sometimes, people live in echo chambers and quote outdated sources. It does not help when people retort with show me some actual evidence/studies then! Then it becomes a metaphorical 'science off'. It actually takes a person an immense amount of humility to admit they're wrong. Quite often, men are treated as oppressors by default, so any attack is punching up. Literally had an online argument with a woman bashing men and posting vile crap on Instagram. The worst part? It was on a post raising a…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/05/25 12:38 PM
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Can't really disagree with this
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/05/25 08:43 PM
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Yes, I agree. It sometimes feels performative. Or boxing people in. It actually makes me feel embarrassingly small when I see others talk about it. Sometimes, it just feels like strict gender roles. There are some things I like to do orhers would probably consider masculine, some other things they wouldn't. It just feels limiting. And don't get me started on 'masculine energy'.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/05/25 05:36 PM
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This frustrates me because the narrative is most social media exclusively hates women. Certain myths get passed around until people believe it. Whilst I've seen horrible stuff, said about women and also seen plenty said by women. Real vile crap.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/05/25 08:47 PM
1

That actually is very depressing. And I totally agree. Especially 'talk down or assumptions'. How can we connect and help people we're not even directly trying to address? And listen to them as well.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/05/25 07:38 AM
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Oh, I've seen it, too. I try very hard not to have bias and grow resentful. it's hard sometimes. Everyone has their own worldview, by experience and socialisation. And very rarely do people of all genders react well to being challenged with new information.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/05/25 07:35 AM
1

Eh, happiness seems entirely subjective in this context.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/05/25 07:32 AM
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These terms exist, but therapy speaks have rotted peoples minds on social media. It's so frustrating.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/05/25 06:47 PM
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Huh. This is actually a really fucking good point! I've been so conditioned not to do this, I practically apologised to my ex, she was almost begging me to open up (we broke up for religious reasons not for that, she was great at holding space). This is definitely a double standard. Damn. Blown my mind here.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/05/25 06:46 PM
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I feel this. I'd love to do what women do, i.e., chat with mothers and kids, make a fuss. Encourage the little ones. But I'm a dude. I know better. Even this paragraph sounds creepy, reading it back. I remember sitting in the park and enjoying the sun when a mom and her daughter came nearby. The little kid came up to me and sat next to me on the bench and started chatting, the way kids do. It was super awkward for me. The mom was chill and apologised, made a joke of it. All good but it made me t…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/05/25 03:08 PM
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Honestly, it baffles me. I know it's not every woman, but it's like even calling it out is considered toxic. Like, just scroll on by it, buddy.. ..Except this kind of attitude pushes people further apart. People in healthy, supportive relationships do need others. Saying otherwise is a weird agenda to empower people. Human beings thrive on connection, not isolation. Men fall into this trap as well, thinking their existence should solely be them giving and sacrificing. That's all the value they h…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/05/25 02:47 PM
2

What's men and women's obsession with circumcision? Y'all weird.
/r/EverydayMisandry30/04/25 02:59 AM
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Flip the genders. Men manipulate wirh tears? Red pill dudes say this about women all the time. Both are dumb. Feels like she posted this for rage bait.
/r/EverydayMisandry29/04/25 04:42 PM
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How in the blue hell are ugly men praised?! What?!
/r/EverydayMisandry29/04/25 04:22 PM
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Aside from a group on the evening once a month and a walk group, there's very little support here (southern UK) That said, I often attend mental health groups. I rarely see men of any age attending. It is often more female centric (group talks, art therapy), not that that's necessarily a bad thing. I also see a lot of guys wanting a quick fix. Which isn't always really possible with mental health.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/04/25 04:14 PM
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I wish people would actually talk to men and boys about their issues without deciding for them. How they should be. What others think is best for them.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates29/04/25 03:59 PM
1

They're all describing women with stereotypes and clichés that's why. It's laughable to think that's how all women are. Not to mention super sexist. Literally objectifying.
/r/EverydayMisandry27/04/25 06:55 PM
1

He talked about women being like cars, replaceable. He said they can't understand logic because they're too emotional. He said they should have children and return to feminity. He said women are only loyal to resources and security. Women are attracted to masculinity and strength. Women are too emotional to be leaders. Women are happiest submitting to a dominant man. Women are irrational and require men to guide and discipline them. Women are manipulative by nature. They use thier body to secure…
/r/EverydayMisandry27/04/25 05:09 PM
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I mean, he's kinda cute but a total douche so hell, naw. He sure likes hanging out with the boys. Protests a little too much, me thinks.. He inspires insecure boys to treat women like objects and only care about looks and money. And then they winder why everyone hates them. There are much better male role models.
/r/EverydayMisandry27/04/25 10:43 AM
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These kinds of conversations are upsetting and difficult for people to understand, let slone even comprehend. People love spouting stats unless said stat doesn't back up someone's personal alignment. Then it gets really uncomfortable.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/04/25 08:01 AM
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Sometimes, a cry for help looks like invalidating. For example, if a woman posts on social media about her experiences, sometimes a man will chime in with simliar. It's considered derailing or trying to take away from women's spaces. Worst case, he's belittled and insulted. Mocked. Best case? Someone might agree it was horrible, but still tell him it's inappropriate to talk about. Both feel like dismissal. Sometimes, when men speak up, it isn't pleasant. I agree, the suicidal tendencies might be…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates26/04/25 07:58 AM
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This is a very important and oftentimes not discussed thing. Some men can be especially bad at validating this pain. Thanks for sharing.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/04/25 08:13 PM
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It does seem fairly biased. The women who do advocate for men's rights or equal treatment are often labelled 'pick me's' or pandering. They receive a lot of backlash. I've seen elements from some feminists who do actually care about mens negative double standards, but equally I've seen and heard plenty having very self-centered opinions about treatment. Does it still encourage gender roles? Yeah. Absolutely, it can. Plenty still think men are lazy or incompetent in the same role ie stay at home …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/04/25 05:24 PM
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Teehee, it's just jokes, guys 🙄 flip the genders, people would lose their shit.
/r/EverydayMisandry23/04/25 01:53 PM
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Lol, same. 😬
/r/EverydayMisandry22/04/25 07:47 AM
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I remember this creator. I'm not the biggest fan. She has a lot of bias.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates21/04/25 06:07 PM
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I agree with others being put of touch and behind the curve with tate. This isn't a new thing. The rise of women as a majority in teachings, lack of positive male models. A sense of shame and isolation when confronted. Not trying to understand men and boys' experiences. Rise of suicide rates, dismissival. Feminist rage and pushback. It's incredibly complicated. Is anyone surprised? Apparently, after adolescence, everyone suddenly cares. Everyone thinks incels are everywhere, preparing a violent …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/04/25 10:02 AM
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I've seen this, too! Like self censorship. And yes, I've also seen that last response. It can be incredibly dismissive. Imagine saying back - I'm not afraid a woman will kill me, I'm afraid she'll mock my experiences being abused Maybe a little petty.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/04/25 07:50 AM
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It's kind of an accepted double standard. It is very disappointing. Like a person has to censor themselves because of others. Whilst that makes social sense, I've often heard women say- She's emotional because of her pain. Don't take it personally I might be wrong, but I don't think I've heard the male alternative. Usually- Your pain is valid, but nows not the time Or... Why do men think they can invade our spaces and talk about their own crap? Get a therapist buddy, stop blaming women for your …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/04/25 07:46 AM
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It does seem that way. I've seen a lot of guilt content. How awesome a huaband for cleaning, spoiling, being invested, etc. It felt like bragging. Need to get off social media.
/r/EverydayMisandry20/04/25 07:30 AM
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That's fair. Good advice
/r/EverydayMisandry20/04/25 07:27 AM
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I see this a lot. Spoil the lady. Treat her well. Listen, validate, be better. I really struggle with this. Like, I want to but also feel it should be reciprocal? Then I feel guilty because it feels like I'm making the relationship too transcational. We should treat each other with love. I do remember an ex making me beautiful art based on my favourite book. One of the greatest gifts, no prompt. I don't need expensive crap. Homemade moments matter way more (to me personally, anyway).
/r/EverydayMisandry19/04/25 06:19 PM
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I'm not going to disagree. I actually agree with your points. Yeah, we don't really encourage boys and young men to sit with their feelings or express them, learn to vocalise. We normalise men not having emotions. It starts really young. And I would also agree that oftentimes it's men poorly advising men. It's usually to grow a pair, cry alone, never show weakness, etc. Kids are picking up on that. Especially the extremes. It's not that no one cares about men. I think a lot just don't know what …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/04/25 07:18 AM
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It frustrates me that men become so sensitive to this. I'm an advocate for men to improve and cast off stereotypes. I want us to be better. I used to be way more tolerant to different opinions. But it's annoying to see ignorance. Hot damn seeing stuff like this doesn't help anything (yes, I'm aware women do it, too). I'm sorry people are cruel and stupid. We can be better. Please take care of yourself.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/04/25 08:30 AM
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I wish she apologised as well, I highly doubt it will happen, though. Regardless of gender it's a famous person. It's even possible she's convinced herself that it wasn't that bad or that the criticism is from haters or something. I agree it needs to be discussed more.
/r/EverydayMisandry17/04/25 07:54 AM
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It's so frustrating. Everyone on the bandwagon. It feels like it's because it was popular.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/04/25 06:25 PM
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I tend to avoid these places like the plague. Sometimes , I stumble across them. It really is some gross stuff. Simply flip the genders. It wouldn't fly. Unfortunately, it seems that if you complain about these places as a guy, it's downplayed or dismissed
/r/EverydayMisandry14/04/25 07:23 AM
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Yup. In the uk, they're apparently show adolescence to kids in school. This is not going to help. We need to encourage boys to ask about insecurities and fears. To uplift them, not demean or shame them.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates13/04/25 03:18 PM
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I'm not sure, either. I guess it's fine to blame others. But asking people (in this case, men) for accountability is too far. Even if I do understand the fact, it's very difficult to change that mindset. It's disappointing, but people are allowed their opinions.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/04/25 10:45 PM
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Problematic. I want to just be myself but often feel certain ideas simply don't match myself. It's difficult. Not all bad, just complicated.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/04/25 10:53 AM
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I actually agree. If more of these places talked about mental health, emotional expression, and inclusion instead of a very narrow version of a masculine man, way more people would support it. The blame against women doesn't garner much sympathy either. There's a big difference between criticism and generalisations.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/04/25 10:49 AM
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Wear what you want. Most clothes are boring. It's better to stand out.
/r/EverydayMisandry11/04/25 08:33 PM
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Look, I completely agree it sucks but let's be clear, it's men and women insulting these guys. And the fact feminine is seen as weird or weak is problematic. I agree otherwise, it's a dumb insult. A man isn't less or more masculine with his mannerisms or hobbies.
/r/EverydayMisandry09/04/25 06:50 PM
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Because it doesn't actually decenter women. They say they're not focused on women and then complain all the time about them. That's not decentering. When someone makes the movement their whole identity, it's weird. 4B included (although that's way more nuanced, South Korea is super misogynistic) I'm a guy, and I find most mgtow dudes oftentimes insufferable. Do your thing, go your own way. But actually do it. Stop blaming women or feminist. Criticism is fine. Constructive conversation is fine, n…
/r/EverydayMisandry09/04/25 06:10 AM
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I used to be very afraid of mentioning it. Felt almost shameful. Then I realised it was about different problems, not a competition. I had an ex who absolutely got it, totally supportive. I think I'd make it a bit of a dealbreaker in the future, especially if it was dismissed. Ignorance isn't an excuse.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/04/25 01:10 PM
2

Wait.. What?! This is such an ass backwards belief. I like women. I consider myself bi. I critique individual women, but I definitely don't hate all of them.
/r/EverydayMisandry08/04/25 06:41 AM
2

What a fascinating read. Thank you for sharing. I think I agree. It's quite frustrating.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/04/25 05:30 PM
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His old stuff was OK. Then he went bat shit crazy. I think I can still appreciate aspects of his advice on mental health but not his insanely ignorant politics. Some of his takes are hilariously wild and outright crazy. It's a shame. At one point, he seemed like an OK role model.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/04/25 05:09 PM
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It's interesting. I do wonder, women can sometimes have way more friendships, is their definition different? Like a woman with say disconnected friends feeling alone? The change might be multiple reasons. Society is increasingly promoting the value of independence. Of never settling. Of bring ok by yourself. Especially to women. Except for long periods, people lived in connected groups. We knew each others business. We knew our neighbours, we didn't have phones. Society wasn't perfect then, but …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates06/04/25 07:04 AM
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Both 'spheres' are damaging and not at all helpful.
/r/EverydayMisandry04/04/25 08:25 AM
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She's a dumbass with silly opinions. Unfortunately, people defend her, like fans who were incredibly biased. They also used the defence 'she's young'.. It was really annoying Edit- I be just as annoyed if a guy said this about women.
/r/EverydayMisandry02/04/25 11:35 AM
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I don't hate women. I hate awful opinions. I'll happily call out men. Whose calling out the women? Ah yes, the so-called pick mes. Couldn't possibly be they empathise with them? Naw.
/r/EverydayMisandry02/04/25 07:25 AM
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Yup. Agree with him. It's creating an idea that msn are inherently dangerous or problematic. Starmers' response was terrible. 'Let's show it in schools'. Great. I'm one of those lovely men. I've never hurt anyone or had any intentions to do so. Except myself. Past instances of suicidal thoughts, depression, insecurities, fears. And I'm not alone. I've talked to many men who hate themselves and see themselves as the problem. This isn't in a vacuum. It's now mainstream, and the response is incredi…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/04/25 07:23 AM
1

Eh maybe online feminist
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/04/25 11:40 PM
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This feels very misandric. Basically, implying men are only about ego and don't care about anyone.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/04/25 07:36 PM
2

Certain subreddits just kinda... have a vibe. It probably won't ende well. A few outlier comments sometimes, but still.
/r/EverydayMisandry30/03/25 06:30 PM
5

Fair enough. Sound more like interesting ideas than 'the audacity'!
/r/EverydayMisandry30/03/25 05:08 PM
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Imagine holding people to the same accountability and standard. I swear at this point incel is just a buzzword insult. I have no idea why they were so upset by your comment.
/r/EverydayMisandry30/03/25 05:01 PM
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Unfortunately, plenty of female celebrities have done awful things to men. It just isn't taking as seriously. She isn't popular, but this isn't why sadly. Doesn't surprise me she has a hatred of men, plenty of women who abuse do so.
/r/EverydayMisandry30/03/25 11:47 AM
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I respectfully disagree. People who call themselves that are creating a self fulfilling prophecy. I'm speaking from personal experience. I have a lot of sympathy for men in that position, but it is a mindset thing. I think a lot of the guys who label are depressed, isolated, have low self-esteem, bombarded with contradicting messages, etc. It feels a little like a gentle excuse or acceptance. Again, I don't actually judge these people, but it isn't set in stone. The fact that claim it as a badge…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/03/25 08:37 AM
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It's usually used by someone losing an argument or a generalisation against a man, rarely appropriate. It really is just an insult on social media given how few offline people actually know what it means. It's quite awkward having to explain what it means to a bunch of older or less online folks 😆 They're usually shocked.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/03/25 08:31 AM
2

Has her friend tried talking to these men? At all? Or is she just signing heavily, expecting someone to approach her? Need context. By respectful distance, do they all scamper and run away like mice? Some men are creepy. And some mistake friendliness for romantic interest.
/r/EverydayMisandry30/03/25 08:28 AM
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I feel like a broken record here. Double standards. Here's still an idea of women being weaker as a justification to never hit them, ever. Except in this scenario, was he supposed to just let her attack his daughter?
/r/EverydayMisandry29/03/25 10:12 PM
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Feminists existing apparently. It's not a great look, especially when said clothing is not misandric at all.
/r/EverydayMisandry28/03/25 10:17 PM
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Good old double standards and benevolent sexism, You know? That women are inherently less dangerous or creepy. Or so it's said.
/r/EverydayMisandry28/03/25 10:10 PM
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This legitimately scares me as a man. This won't end well.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/03/25 07:56 AM
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The writer doesn't appear to be a fan of the male of the species.
/r/EverydayMisandry26/03/25 07:58 PM
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Ah, sorry, definitely the meme. I've seen some absolutely horrendous comments from lesbians about men.
/r/EverydayMisandry25/03/25 04:34 PM
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This is actually very accurate
/r/EverydayMisandry25/03/25 04:26 PM
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The problem is that men are suffering. Its just an uncomfortable and complicated solution. No easy fix. The 'left' don't actually care. They want more votes. Yeah the the right lies, but they actually pretend to listen. The left will openly shame and insult men. Not all but enough. Look how people reacted when trump won. It was mostly saying it was misogynistic men fault. Not women. Not other demographics. Just men. It's tiresome. I consider myself pretty left leaning, but this stuff annoys the …
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates25/03/25 12:50 PM
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Because it's easy to blame gay people. It's ignorant and takes no critical thinking. A scrap coat. Religion. Depravity. Unatutal. Etc. Many people want an other, an enemy. It makes life simple. And it still happens. Homophobia is still rampant. Unfortunately, when it's brought up, people get defensive. They say that people already have rights. Yeah, in some countries, others it's still a crime. For many people, it's tolerated but still looked down upon. 'Gay people are dangerous, infectious, and…
/r/EverydayMisandry25/03/25 07:39 AM
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He's just blamed men and boys again. What s schmuck
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/03/25 08:26 PM
4

Very true. It's a whole different world to them
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates24/03/25 05:21 AM
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Honestly, I've seen older people like parents talk about it, but they don't really get it. They seem to want to understand but aren't online.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/03/25 07:24 PM
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This better not be like in Australia where they actually told them to apologise to girls in schools. One TV show and suddenly people care? I'm so frustrated with that response. After years of male suicide, horrible individuals like Tate lying, suddenly they listen? How about we teach boys and girls about equal respect and boundaries? About healthy relationships? This frames boys as the problem.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/03/25 07:02 PM
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It got people talking who would normally never do so. I witnessed people doing just that. They were both surprisingly sympathetic to the teen. Surprised because they were both parents to boys.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/03/25 06:55 AM
5

Eh. I do think it's a double standard. Honestly, I didn't know it existed on here
/r/EverydayMisandry23/03/25 06:11 AM
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I think I can understand your point. And I think it's good to vent. These things tend to get trivialised online. Or lose their complexity in the name of being easily digestible or attention grabbing. I also think it's best to be honest. People might downvote you, but it's an opinion. We need honest conversations from multiple perspectives and gender/orientations, otherwise everything just becomes an echo chamber.
/r/EverydayMisandry21/03/25 09:23 AM
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Very well put and interesting to read! Thanks for sharing.
/r/EverydayMisandry21/03/25 08:58 AM
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Maybe. It's a point. Men take it personally and literally. 'A bear would kill you!' Yeah, no shit. Look, I think it's dumb too, but the point is women feel unsafe with strange men. They get harrased, stalked, and other bad shit happens. Actually, talk to women and see how common it is. I found it disturbing. I can acknowledge it's kinda dumb but also what the message is. Then I can judge if they're just misandric by their other options.
/r/EverydayMisandry21/03/25 06:23 AM
2

Whoa. Personally, I haven't met any, but that's scary. I guess people aren't going to openly reveal that stuff. I've heard stories about gay men being groped and touched without consent, hell, even straight dudes. It is strange regarding lesbians, I've seen some super thirsty ones, openly obsessing. It is definitely a double standard, maybe benevolent sexism, aka women are less dangerous or creepy by default.
/r/EverydayMisandry20/03/25 05:38 AM
1

Fair, I guess I shouldn't judge beforehand.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/03/25 06:39 PM
1

It is frustrating. And when any disagreement is seen as dismissal. Especially life experiences or anecdotal situations.
/r/EverydayMisandry18/03/25 12:10 PM
4

Cool. My value starts with being useful. Money. Productive. Really? Is this still a thing? Ok, dont date losers. Especially if you consider them by the term 'losers'.
/r/EverydayMisandry18/03/25 07:39 AM
4

I agree. I worded it poorly.
/r/EverydayMisandry17/03/25 10:35 PM
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This conversation is just depressing. It's seemingly inconceivable that women abuse. Oh, right, the majority are men. I'm also tired of the strawman excuse when people disagree. I think we have to normalise female abuse. I'm not sure how, though. Benevolent sexism plays a part. Honestly, some people might not even recognise it. I know some older women as friends who were clearly traumatised by their mothers. But it isn't considered abuse. Wild.
/r/EverydayMisandry17/03/25 09:05 PM
8

It is a huge double standard. It's almost like women don't sexulise men. Or it's considered less pervasive. Not to be weird, but have you seen how thirsty lesbians can be? It's somehow considered more wholesome or innocent. It's really disappointing.
/r/EverydayMisandry17/03/25 07:05 PM
7

Yeesh. This is crazy. It would be a good litmus test on a potential partner? It's still incredibly messed up.
/r/EverydayMisandry17/03/25 04:30 PM
2

What's your point? We can't control what others do. Yeah, sure, criticism is valid. Stand up for what you believe in. I'd call it out, but it's way more complicated than just highlighting horrible content. I'm all for calling out misandry, but in this case, it's sick jokes. And it isn't the same thing. Hateful racist versus misandry memes. If we only focus on these groups, it's diluting the effort against actual systematic problems for men.
/r/EverydayMisandry17/03/25 04:26 PM
-8

Nice attempt to blame me, dude. It's not a gender war. I don't see any of this stuff in the real world. What's the goal here? Get people mad about some horrible people? Get them banned? I went on there. They're literally laughing at this place.
/r/EverydayMisandry17/03/25 03:29 PM
-8

This is getting tiresome. I don't care about horrible jokes from self-confessed femcels. They are baiting. It's a game to them. And we're playing into it.
/r/EverydayMisandry17/03/25 03:18 PM
8

I see a warped positive. If someone talks about either, I know to be on guard. Both groups are silly. I guess I could try to sympathise, but that's way above my level.
/r/EverydayMisandry14/03/25 07:14 AM
8

This is the point. No sources, shiny short click bait on social media designed to create a reaction. It's about reaction and feelings (which admittedly I'm doing to). It now isn't enough to cite sources, as even then, we can look for specific stufies for bias. The most deranged extreme feminist will still twist it to show men at fault even when confronted with stats that disagree. So frustrating.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates12/03/25 07:21 AM
-8

Well, sure, many of them are choosing to do just that, careers in medicine. I'm talking more about how women's bodies are grossly under researched as compared to men as the standard, but I guess that's kind of a deviation from the point. It's ultimately eye for eye, we have pain so should you, which isn't helpful.
/r/EverydayMisandry11/03/25 07:44 PM
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Look, it doesn't justify it. But it's well known that plenty of women have reasons to be pissed at the medical industry and doctors. It's complicated. And my empathy has limits. Especially towards hateful women. I have looked at their subreddits, and it disgusting. My sympathy comes from the point of view: people aren't born incels or femcels.
/r/EverydayMisandry11/03/25 07:22 PM
-8

Seems a bit hyperbolic. I think the meme is referencing like mammograms or pap smears being uncomfortable or painful for women. I don't especially want to look at femcel brain rot. It's just depressing and so out of touch. I actually feel sorry for them.
/r/EverydayMisandry11/03/25 07:03 PM
4

I watch things women do and create. It's subjective. Imagine flipping the genders. This feels like the original was trying to gotcha men who don't do or watch anything women or feminine related. That would he acceptable context, but it's way too vague.
/r/EverydayMisandry10/03/25 06:57 AM
1

Awful. Manipulative. Often using shame or stereotypes. Most of them aren't in relationships. Which is a bit dumb considering what they 'teach'.
/r/EverydayMisandry09/03/25 07:27 PM
28

I dont know. I don't think feminism affects me positively at all. Maybe some advocate for men, maybe some are sympathetic. But I don't really notice any relevance to mens problems. Perhaps I'm being cynical, but usually, it is dismissed as less of an issue or that men must create their own action. I honestly think most people only really care about their significant environment. I find it personally frustrating when feminist identify as empathetic and then list reasons not to be. I'm not respons…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/03/25 09:39 AM
30

This might sound sexist, but honestly, what right does a woman have to say what 'real man' is anyway? It's like me saying what a high quality women should be. Or how feminine she is. Stuff like opinions on what a real men is style of language is shaming. It's intentionally emasculating.
/r/EverydayMisandry08/03/25 09:43 PM
3

I find this incredibly frustrating. I actually plan to use things like this to engage conversations with people. And then see how they respond. I used to feel somewhat ashamed bringing up these topics, but honestly, awareness is important. As is pointing out double standards.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates08/03/25 09:02 PM
6

I'm glad this happened. We need to address it. And yes, absolutely accountability. I like this place but it's a slippery slope.
/r/EverydayMisandry08/03/25 07:09 AM
11

Love this video and this creator. I think she's fair and reasonable. We need way more women like this to step up and speak.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates07/03/25 02:30 PM
18

Is this really what people are stooping, too? Like petty insults and such. Dua is like a super rich singer with legions of followers. Cosmopolitan is a women's magazine with some God awful takes, especially concerning relationships and men. I say dude to everyone, too.
/r/EverydayMisandry06/03/25 07:29 PM
38

Sigh. Why can't we just teach everyone not to hit anyone. Real simple. Simply dont justify it at all.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates05/03/25 07:07 PM
1

Agreed. It's a little sad to see. Good for you to enjoy that. It's always nice to see positive examples of any gender. It sounds like a reluctant obligation. But it should be a lovely gesture. It's kind of telling if someone reacts do negatively. Better to learn sooner rather than later.
/r/EverydayMisandry05/03/25 09:08 AM
7

This feels like sensationalism and shocking for the sake of it. Will we see things from the boys' experience? His pressures, online messaging? The socialisation? Doubtful. I get a really bad feeling about this.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates02/03/25 06:23 AM
7

This article is horrific. I want to believe it's fake or something god awful troll. If real.. it actually makes me want to puke. The author repeatedly excuses the mothers behaviour. They even victim blame the *kid. wtf He has to let go of his hate, seriously?! No innocent victims? I can't with this. I'm also legit angry.
/r/EverydayMisandry01/03/25 06:49 AM
32

Real equality. Women can be just as cruel, dismissive, and heartless as any man. The comments are disgusting. It's genuinely maddening.
/r/EverydayMisandry27/02/25 10:23 PM
2

When there's literally trends about guys being too feminine as an ick: Ice coffee Knitting Drawing (unless it's boobs) Crossing legs So many more.. I used to struggle massively with this perception. Now I don't give a crap. If a person judges me as lesser, feminine, etc it reflects more about their own insecurities. Let men enjoy whatever they want. As long as they aren't hurting themselves or others, who cares?!
/r/EverydayMisandry27/02/25 07:55 PM
10

It's a great post, but I expect pushback. In society, we kind of praise women's sex toys and lambast men's idea of masturbation as gross or weak. One is seen as empowering, and the other less. By both men and women.
/r/EverydayMisandry26/02/25 08:20 AM
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I don't know who does it more. I agree it's horrible on that post.
/r/EverydayMisandry25/02/25 11:59 AM
4

I get it. But it probably won't solve anything. She's already super popular.
/r/EverydayMisandry25/02/25 11:57 AM
5

I agree with what you said. Her comments section is alarming. This is why we need more women speaking out. It adds weight to it.
/r/EverydayMisandry25/02/25 09:01 AM
12

I like her music. But this actually upset me finding out about it She went on a horrible rant, saying this is why men are lonely, mothers, no love, I get more women than you, more money etc Then she deleted it and posted a pseudo explanation. Deleted that, too. What's frustrating is that she hasn't apologised. Her fanbase supports her. The majority are women who don't see a problem. They actively praise, defend, and encourage her. The fan reactions prove it, saying it's just frustration or women…
/r/EverydayMisandry25/02/25 08:51 AM
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Honestly, it's usually men who would say gross stuff or affirm it. We need to do much better. When it's written of as a joke or a benefit, it's wrong. Let alone sucking it up. We can't have legit criticism on misandry without also acknowledging the elephant in the room Men shame male victims, and it's always wrong. Women do it too, yeah, but we really need to be honest who's perpetuating it.
/r/EverydayMisandry25/02/25 08:14 AM
6

The text is toxic and potentially controlling red flags, demands, and reeks of insecurity. The thing I absolutely can't stand is that last part. It's everywhere and is utter nonsense. If he wanted to, he would. You never have to ask. Never have to drop hints. Never compromise. Never argue. Never explain. Never apologise Good grief.
/r/EverydayMisandry24/02/25 07:20 AM
12

Hmm. I know of her and often disagreed. This feels very hypocritical. I've seen more very left leaning popular figures talk like this. It feels more like damage control. I'm strongly resisting the urge to say something like, no sh#t. Now you care?
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/02/25 11:26 PM
6

Um, they're literally being toxic..
/r/EverydayMisandry23/02/25 11:27 AM
14

Yup, that language immediately raises red flags. Yeesh.
/r/EverydayMisandry23/02/25 09:21 AM
5

I genuinely don't look at this stuff. It's hateful and disgusting. It's just gonna make you feel like trash or angry. Maybe they are venting from trauma. Maybe they are just horrible. I don't think anything can justify it. I'd have the same stance for incels. I get it. Double standards. These subs are rarely banned. It sucks. Plenty of people can express misandry without doing this shit too.
/r/EverydayMisandry23/02/25 07:12 AM
8

'I'm sorry you felt that way.' Awesome. Way to not actually apologise, essentially double down.
/r/EverydayMisandry22/02/25 10:01 PM
11

Ah, but misandry doesn't really exist, right? Yes, I'm being sarcastically cynical. Any person who legitimately thinks that way immediately makes me question their thought process. I honestly don't think the stats are so fixed towards women. I do believe they're absolutely victims, not denying that. I just genuinely believe men don't report female on male violence, not nearly as much. Whether by shame or social stigma.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates18/02/25 07:17 PM
6

This is why sometimes social media is a good thing. People are telling on themselves. I think we can get all invested and not actually listen to what a person says. Especially in relationships with feelings. This is the front and centre. There's a high chance she's either a lesbian or ends up with some poor guy. I love my man. He's so much better than all the other trash, a real one, not a baby
/r/EverydayMisandry15/02/25 07:30 AM
3

Fair enough.
/r/EverydayMisandry13/02/25 09:12 PM
20

Eh, I probably am afraid of being made of fun of. People can be pretty cruel, actually. As for the comments, just awful trash. People who project their pain onto others, never justified.
/r/EverydayMisandry13/02/25 07:24 PM
12

Um, who's saying pregnancy is easy? I'd agree that any man or woman who said that is a moron.
/r/EverydayMisandry13/02/25 07:20 PM
13

It's very strange. It's almost like suggesting women can't be weird or creepy yet somehow shaming men who gasp find women attractive.
/r/EverydayMisandry11/02/25 06:07 PM
30

I think having women participate in these discussions actually really helps, so thank you.
/r/EverydayMisandry11/02/25 06:06 PM
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Interesting. I'll check her out. It's good to see more women talking about these issues. In my opinion, it isn't simply up to men alone. I think perhaps women have assumptions about men's experiences. I suppose I'm doing the same thing.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates10/02/25 07:39 AM
16

I legitimately feel sorry for her husband and especially her son. Raising him to be strong. Oh dear, given how she has very toxic opinions on men, that does not sound healthy.
/r/EverydayMisandry09/02/25 07:51 AM
16

I get exactly what you mean. I do simliar. At least I've tried. Ultimately, every woman is different. Some will like it, others will be annoyed. Some complain men don't approach, others are pleased about it. It's entirely subjective and confusing. I interact with women, more casual conversation. I'll treat them with the respect same as men. I'm personally tired of beating myself up for feeling like I'm burdening or creeping people out. I honestly don't think I am.
/r/EverydayMisandry08/02/25 10:43 PM
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Well, as a shy guy, apparently, I'm now creepy by default. Great. It's so frustrating when people just make baseless assumptions. I chat with people. Usually, those I know. It takes me a whole to get to know a new person. Apparently, my quiet nature is off-putting. I've also noticed a lot of these comments come of as really passive-aggressive. Did they.. not ask men why? Oh, the irony of being accused of lacking self-awareness.
/r/EverydayMisandry08/02/25 09:11 PM
4

That's a good point.
/r/EverydayMisandry07/02/25 01:46 PM
3

That's true, but to play the devil's advocate; women have a tendency to support each other more (not always, obviously). Guys tend to make jokes or downplay it. Probably, how they're raised socially.
/r/EverydayMisandry07/02/25 09:49 AM
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My personal frustration with these kinds of comments? I've been told women have pain and horrible experiences (true), but when you get these vitriolic and nasty responses, generally, the response from some women is that: they're just venting Can't women make jokes? men are so emotional If it makes you upset or offended, you're the problem it's just your algorithm. Move on, buddy it's her trauma. It's not personal Sigh.
/r/EverydayMisandry07/02/25 07:34 AM
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It's simple. Reverse the genders. Easy test. See how people react to both the video or the reaction. It's has one upside in a way. People are telling on themselves. The thing is, it's really easy and dismissive to say: 'Hey, it's just social media, not real life..' Look at the number of likes/hearts
/r/EverydayMisandry05/02/25 08:05 AM
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Mostly grifters who take advantage of vulnerable or lonely guys. Usually using shame to suggest they aren't masculine enough. That women are monoliths, that they only desire muscles, money, etc. Betas, alphas, deltas, omegas, etc that's astrology for guys. Try my masculine course, guys, only 99.99. Most of the guys value hookups and money and shame anyone, men, women who live differently. They advocate for strict feminine and masculine roles, and cheating is acceptable because guys are different…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/02/25 02:01 PM
3

OK, fair enough. Thanks for sharing, I'll consider my words and reflect.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/02/25 10:19 PM
8

I can't speak for op, but I'm glad you shared. I relate to a ton of what you said. It's genuinely hard to avoid it, and yeah, it really does affect a person. Take care of yourself.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/02/25 07:40 PM
10

It's complicated. I saw your post in the feminist space and.. oh boy, those responses. I would like to say thank you for making the effort, but I don't know what I can do. I try to lead with kindness with everyone. Why the pushback? I'm not so sure. Socialised boys are genuinely still taught different things, treated differently. Toxic forms of what's acceptable as masculinity. To be confident, powerful, to date, and be seen as desirable. A sense the world doesn't care or that a man stands alone…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates03/02/25 07:28 PM
2

All good choices. Honestly, I think it's healthy to disagree with the creators that we watch sometimes.
/r/EverydayMisandry01/02/25 09:20 PM
7

I, too, have become frustrated with this statement. I don't want women to come and save me. But neither do I want dismissive or patronising statements.
/r/EverydayMisandry01/02/25 02:38 PM
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Good luck with people acknowledging this. I need to get off the internet.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/02/25 02:09 PM
10

I really wish I was surprised by this. But I'm not. Some people are just very dumb. I really try to have an open mind, but when a person thinks a woman proposing is somehow gay or emasculating, oh boy, it's hard to tolerate that levek of dumbassery. Does this really enter people's minds? It's like having a perfect proposal or marriage or wedding. It's nonsense. And quite frankly blatant sexism and double standards.
/r/EverydayMisandry31/01/25 07:54 AM
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Bit late now. I like how it's framed as 'winning back men'. Like,'we need a left wing, Joe Rogan.' Maybe you should ask why they felt alienated or ostracised? Talk to them? Ask their opinion? No? Stay in my lane? OK. Good luck with that.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/01/25 07:39 PM
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Good thing I'm the 1 %! Oh, wait. That 99 statistic is pure stupidity. It's actually very sad people actually propergate this crap. It just fuels fear and division. Only a tiny percentage of men are safe? Really? Fml
/r/EverydayMisandry30/01/25 07:27 PM
8

Agree with the men moving away politically. Something that hasn't been addressed. The drowning man grabbing anything analogy. Why would you vote for a party who seemingly doesn't care? Even if that isn't true, it was perceived that way. The 'I'm a man and I'm not afraid to vote for a woman' adverts was simply embarrassing. Most seemed to think they were all terrible people anyway. It's cope and denial. And it won't win them any favors. Unless they listen to people. Women and children first seems…
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates30/01/25 07:23 PM
54

Double standards. Under-reported by men. I'm not surprised at all.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates27/01/25 06:36 PM
8

Oh, I'm using this. Thanks!
/r/EverydayMisandry26/01/25 10:02 PM
17

Yup. Clicked on it, too. Jeez, that is so toxic. I get it, a vent. But man, they're going hard there. It rapidly turned into a male hating circle jerk. Never a fan of 'well if this obviously outrageous and insulting post triggered you.. you're the problem'. Yay.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates20/01/25 11:48 PM
8

She read his journal, a place usually reserved for personal shit. Can he do the same about hers and get upset? Only fair, right? She could be an adult and actually discuss it with him, but then she'd have to take accountability for snooping after knowing it wasn't hers. Naw, it's better to run to reddit and get that sweet validation. What's her journal say about him? All lovey dovey? I doubt it. Our partners are imperfect. Flawed. Communicate Jeez, this annoys the crap out of me, the sheer hypoc…
/r/EverydayMisandry17/01/25 10:26 AM
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Both men and women can be incredibly disappointing. These guys need some self-respect. Do you actually want to date a person admitting violence? Who you chose to date afterwards is a reflection of your standards. I get someone hidng traits or deception, but the saying, 'listen when someone tells you about themselves' or simliar.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates16/01/25 04:14 PM
11

Considering- ice coffee- gay One handed backpack Pastel colours Bi men stigma And many, many more 🙄 Yeah, let the trash take itself out. Let people tell you who they are.
/r/EverydayMisandry11/01/25 11:14 PM
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Tbf, it's a vent. It's like if a guy ranted about how horrible his encounters with women were or something. I suppose it would be challenged more. People's anecdotal experiences can be brutal. It's complicated. If she has been treated awfully by men, context matters. But then I guess it's how you react and not tar everyone with the same brush. If a man gave up on dating because of a horrible experience with women, I guess he should be allowed to vent. Although there's evidence venting doesn't ac…
/r/EverydayMisandry11/01/25 08:38 AM
19

Women, be crazy, am I right, fellas?! Yeah. Nah. The comments always annoy me. A few sane ones alongside the idiots making dumb jokes. Men need to advocate for themselves more. And stop making dumb stayements and clichés. It makes us look like horny teens and dumbasses. We can be better than that.
/r/EverydayMisandry09/01/25 10:08 PM
16

True. My tired old comment: reverse the genders It would be history in a flash.
/r/EverydayMisandry06/01/25 04:13 PM
8

It's horrible to even think this way. Damn this is gross
/r/EverydayMisandry06/01/25 04:09 PM
21

Yeah.. that's a sub I visited out of curiosity, and needless to say, I regret my decision. I'm certain they would defend it by suggesting it's a safe space for women to vent and complain. Still, it's not exactly wholesome.
/r/EverydayMisandry06/01/25 04:03 PM
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Agree completely, totally a double standard. But it's possibly because the male equivalent is rarely posted. Men can be victims of abuse of all kinds, but they rarely talk about it. That's part of the problem. They suffer in silence and shame. And so it isn't taken as seriously or put into evidential statistics. Some women would shame them or react to deny or take offence. But unfortunately, so would a lot of other men. That's part of the problem.
/r/EverydayMisandry05/01/25 08:25 AM
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Why is she taking it personally that some men can be morons? The women's husband is dead. Allegedly by suicide. That's what's important, his wife, the families. The fallout. Everyone makes it about themselves. Or they project how they actually feel. She's trying a gotcha moment. It's just insanely insensitive. Also, imagine billions of people knowing, commenting, and speculating on your most intimate grief hours after. That's so gross.
/r/EverydayMisandry05/01/25 08:07 AM
7

Pretty self-explanatory, prioritising girls over boys. Dark humour, I guess. It's not particularly funny to me.
/r/EverydayMisandry04/01/25 11:15 PM
16

It's probably just a sick joke. Doesn't justify it at all. Like I love saying, reverse the genders with a hateful, bad taste joke/message regarding women, especially the hashtag.
/r/EverydayMisandry04/01/25 10:03 PM
21

I'm pretty sure the dead men are victims, too. Sure, civilians are affected, women and children absolutely. Boys, young men. Go figure. But this quote is written as weirdly divisive.
/r/EverydayMisandry03/01/25 02:47 PM
21

Yeesh. Those opinions are insane. He doesn't buy a woman a coffee on a date, so he's a redpilled incel misogynist? Some women would feel uncomfortable being bought dinner, like they would have to return the favour. It's subjective to the individual. But still, wtf?! That subreddit sounds toxic as hell. Even judged as extreme outliers, it's still incredibly problematic and hateful. As always, reverse the genders. Wouldn't pass.
/r/EverydayMisandry31/12/24 04:40 PM
-11

It's lip balm. Are we really stoopong this low? Can we actually discuss misandry, please?
/r/EverydayMisandry30/12/24 02:37 PM
21

I occasionally check out those kinds of subreddits to try to keep an open mind. I usually regret it. I'm not surprised by what you found either.
/r/EverydayMisandry29/12/24 09:25 PM
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It's not entirely related, but I literally saw a comment from a woman bemoaning male suicide. Not the only one, either. Essentially: women try to commit suicide just as much as men, but they're actually way more considerate and try not to make more of a mess. Men don't care. Literally comparing people killing themselves as a gender war. I wish I could unsee that. It's never a contest. It's a damn tragedy.
/r/EverydayMisandry29/12/24 09:15 PM
1

Negotiate attraction? Yeesh. Nevermind. You do you. Facts versus feelings, I guess.
/r/EverydayMisandry20/12/24 01:58 PM
1

You sound really resentful. I don't provide for my partner. She's an adult and we work together. And if we had a dead bedroom, we'd discuss it. Come on, man, you're more than a bank account and a dick.
/r/EverydayMisandry20/12/24 01:21 PM
1

Hmm, usually I agree here, but this needs context. It wasn't a crime in the uk for a man to rape his wife until 1991. I only learnt this a few days ago. That ain't that long ago. And yeah, plenty of guys and some women think it's a right to have sex as long as you're married. Like it's a duty or something. It ain't. Again, context. We could talk about weaponizing sex or medical or mental reasons, but those are completely different. No one is obligated to have sex.
/r/EverydayMisandry20/12/24 08:41 AM
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Acknowledgement of mens problems would be admitting we have them. Plus, it's always the same. Anyone advocating for men as women must be only doing it for attention and are all pick-me's. I suspect they haven't even watched the content creators. Or watched once, got triggered, and decided that was enough to dismiss an entire backlog. It happens all the time.
/r/EverydayMisandry16/12/24 09:15 PM
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Rules for thee not for me. Let's cherry-pick what we can appreciate. A real man would have kicked his ass. A real man would've defended her honour. Give me a break. Are there times when women need men's help? Absolutely. But the fact she can't see him as man after not risking his life speaks volumes.
/r/EverydayMisandry16/12/24 09:08 PM
7

See all this vitriol? Remember that next time a woman patronisingly tells you, " it's just your algorithm, it's what you're choosing to watch.. "
/r/EverydayMisandry11/12/24 10:19 PM
9

Good luck getting support on this. Immigrants are a huge controversial issue in the uk. Young angry men, either lazy, or dangerous, or takin ur jebs. (Jobs one is hilarious because there are whole industries propped up by low wage foreign workers). Pick your poison.
/r/EverydayMisandry11/12/24 07:14 AM
6

Me too. It's a good wake call. I know, good women, but damn it's good to be reminded of this kind of crazy. EDIT You're probably right with your assessment. I'm pretty sure we're not supposed to internalise one bad relationship and project that onto any future ones...
/r/EverydayMisandry10/12/24 06:45 PM
18

Wow. Delusional. Unfortunately, plenty of women are doing this to their sons. How could you raise any child with that much hostility. Poor kid gonna grow up to hate himself. It'd be like dating her 'You're one of the good ones, not like those nasty other men' Wonder if she's divorced or single.. yeesh. Also, her rhetoric about teaching men to defend themselves would create outrage if you reversed the genders. Victim blaming, anyone?
/r/EverydayMisandry10/12/24 06:39 PM
8

Oh, that wasn't very clear to me. It's just a list of things men should be doing more in. But fair enough.
/r/EverydayMisandry10/12/24 04:55 PM
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Seems very reasonable, honestly. Men really should be doing more. If we want things to change, we have to actually do something. Misandry does exist, but it does fall on men to actively fight against the ideas addressed here and advocate ourselves.
/r/EverydayMisandry10/12/24 04:51 PM
17

And people legitimately wonder why others don't talk about it, especially men.
/r/EverydayMisandry07/12/24 04:26 PM
2

I've seen that a lot as well. Basically; Look, it's just simply *awful when it happens to a male* But look at what happens to women! These guys should be supportive of others now they know. Any conversation or response starting with 'R is bad, but..' is derailment. Ironically, the thing those subs ban rather often.
/r/EverydayMisandry28/11/24 07:09 AM
38

I really tried to look at some of their posts. It's a hateful circle stroke against men. They rant and mostly agree. You get outliers that actually stand up, but they're often downvoted to oblivion. One was about men approaching women. Most never wanted them to approach(?) Sane woman defends men and says some are nervous - 'Good, they should be nervous! I'm so done with men. They only want sex and oppression.' Add dozens of replies in agreement. And anyone who disagrees has internalised misogyny…
/r/EverydayMisandry27/11/24 10:33 PM
9

I think you might be right, and that annoys the hell out of me because I know women who don't do this childish crap.
/r/EverydayMisandry26/11/24 08:14 PM
11

Yeah, this is straight-up cringe. It's a self own. So what? Proposing is a man's job? I've seen posts by women frustrated that their partner hasn't proposed after years. It's like you could either do it yourself or talk about it. Oh wait, I forgot. It's not real if they have to ask for it.
/r/EverydayMisandry26/11/24 08:06 PM
10

Is this like in Japan where it's because of the ridiculously high level of harresement and sexual assault against women on trains? If so, that's not inequality. That's necessary.
/r/EverydayMisandry26/11/24 04:32 PM
1

Billions of men died in war. In the past, it was duty, conscription, slavery. I'm sure every grunt or peasant lamented the women not dying beside them, or maybe not. Most were the playthings of kings and powerful figures. Most men wanted a wage or escape poverty. Feminist talk about abolishing the patriarchy and getting rid of drafts for everyone. Lovely idea. Not realistic. Warfare is a male specific experience. Do women suffer in wartime? Absolutely, civilians face equal devastation. Total war…
/r/EverydayMisandry24/11/24 10:31 AM
16

This. We need to show and support the women standing up for men. It's important.
/r/EverydayMisandry21/11/24 05:28 AM
15

Same to every man. Your struggles are valid, and you all matter. Never be ashamed of being who you are.
/r/EverydayMisandry19/11/24 01:45 PM
15

Guess it worked. That sucks. It seems really common, too.
/r/EverydayMisandry17/11/24 06:23 AM
45

A lot of people, including women, supported the guy and called her out. That said, I agree her comments are ignorant and horrible. As are the idiots who agree with her. If my partner had shamed me for my hobbies, it would be a big deal. My assumption is that she's resentful. It suggests to me that she's shitty at communicating. Who cares what his hobby is? If you feel neglected or have concerns, talk. FFS Good ole weaponized shame
/r/EverydayMisandry17/11/24 05:40 AM
38

Imagine dating someone and apologising for your gender. I guarantee she'll resent him for this. No boundaries. Pedestal. A good partner would be like, 'dude, wtf?!' They would care how much he's destroying himself and reject it. It's so not healthy.
/r/EverydayMisandry12/11/24 07:04 PM
13

Thank you for sharing. It's a huge problem. Whilst it is true men need to step up and help each other, it's also equally true that others need to dramatically reconsider how they treat vulnerable men.
/r/EverydayMisandry12/11/24 12:46 PM
1

Nope. The right didn't care. The left hates men more. Left leaning extreme women now have even more fuel, despite women voting for him as well. The Latino vote, too. Ultimately, it's generalisations. 'Your body my choice' is fucked up but so is hatred and fear of any gender. People should ask why he won. A drowning person will grab anything. Men who feel hated, feared, disregarded by default. Scorned by people. What did they think would happen? I don't even want women to help at this point. I'd …
/r/EverydayMisandry11/11/24 08:22 AM
2

My bad. It does feel bizarre in that regard. Sometimes, it feels a little fake. Sure, some are actually supportive, but otherwise, it can feel performative.
/r/EverydayMisandry10/11/24 08:40 PM
-1

Eh. Maybe. Guys can absolutely take it the wrong way. Because the cliche of never being complimented rings true for some. Also, as a dude, I can admit to sucking at complimenting women, other men? Almost non-existent. So, I guess I'm technically contributing to the stereotype.
/r/EverydayMisandry10/11/24 08:36 PM
9

It really does feel that way sometimes, unfortunately.
/r/EverydayMisandry03/11/24 03:38 AM
15

Some people are unhinged and can't consider others' experiences. Would it be so hard to acknowledge, offer sympathy, then move on? Addressing the last part 'If he allows the abuse The man should take a good look in the mirror' Ok. Even with good faith around boundaries and self-respect, it isn't a great comment. Essentially saying he deserves it because he is insecure or weak? 'Hey ladies, if you let your partner hurt you, it's time to see why you allow it. Why youre the problem, burn that dinne…
/r/EverydayMisandry03/11/24 03:31 AM
22

Oh boy. This is absolutely the definition. I respect multiple women, but I'm also aware of completely insane men hating witches. The Hateful generalisation of any gender is absolutely insane.
/r/EverydayMisandry02/11/24 12:14 PM
39

Wow, that's depressing. Reverse the genders, then see if the same energy would come out. It isn't about healing people or magically curing them. It's about compassion. Supporting a partner regardless of gender.
/r/EverydayMisandry30/10/24 07:42 PM
-1

The bit about men being responsible for oppressive patriarchy as individuals is a bit weird. The rest is acceptable. It is a positive view of men. Supporting men and acknowledgement of their experiences? I'm OK, wirh that. Some of it is a little patronising, maybe but not inherently hateful to me. 🤷‍♂️
/r/EverydayMisandry24/10/24 08:17 PM
7

Hmm. Seems like the goalpost move. Like people aren't gay enough?' The right is bad two. People aren't monoliths. They're flawed. The same goes for any group. And both groups victim as well. Still homophobia is alive and well sadly. Personally, I see both extremes as problematic.
/r/EverydayMisandry20/10/24 09:47 AM
3

Sometimes, men can be each other's worst enemies. Real shame.
/r/EverydayMisandry16/10/24 06:41 PM
11

Yeah, this exists. It's sometimes subtle, but it's out there. I worry about the guys questioning their sexuality and then coming across these women online, dating. Preference is fine. Treating a gender as subhuman is definitely not.
/r/EverydayMisandry16/10/24 06:23 AM
9

I agree about the women doing this being outright toxic. But men do it too. We can't ignore that.
/r/EverydayMisandry14/10/24 06:52 AM
11

I love my girlfriend. I've met great women. Hell, one definitely saved my life. Guys can be stronger. Sure. But this shit pisses me off. It immediately invalidates the person's pain and experience and goes back to the oppression Olympics. Yeah, women are absolutely capable of violence. Same for emotional abuse. Sexual, mental, physical. Men just don't report it as much. Someone mentioned how people aren't ready for hard conversations like that. Agreed. I'm all for women speaking up and defending…
/r/EverydayMisandry13/10/24 05:02 AM
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