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| 89 | Dealing with being purposefully celibateOnce I started paying attention, I noticed that the only time I really crave sex is when I’m ovulating or just before. Also low quality men appear more attractive when I’m ovulating. So with that now identified I really stay away from men and trying to date during that time, and I’ve noticed the other 2-3 weeks I don’t even think about them at all 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/22 06:24 PM |
| 62 | Men that talk about social mobility/social class/wealth, is this a red flag?He sounds like a massive douche. All that’s going through his head, with all his intellectual blah, blah, blah…is wondering if you’ll sleep with him. Sorry, not sorry. Give this guy the cold shoulder and watch how fast he turns from social justice warrior to woman hater. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/22 07:01 AM |
| 126 | My dad is a LVM and I feel bad for my motherLook, men will behave what what is tolerated. I’m more concerned here about both your parents being financially dependent upon you, and you being in the middle of their relationship. That’s not healthy for anyone. I’m not sure your age but barring a severe mental or physical disability, I don’t think grown adults should be relying on their children that way. Same goes for boundaries, sounds like dad is using your computer-again, no. Brother involved in stabilizing their marriage-nope. Best to ge… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/22 05:32 PM |
| 42 | OLD advice: When things move onto the texting stage, get his number before you give away yours.Yeah…. Tried to ‘try’ the OLD scene again, I’m in a rural area, work from home and literally zero social life here since Covid unless you’re into hanging around a pub with coke heads. There’s such little night life around here and I am working a lot so I’m not into many hobby groups or anything right now. Anyway, the OLD scene is even WORSE than I recall pre-Covid. It’s beyond dumpster fire. Dozens of messages and not a single one I would even be tempted to respond to. I really can’t recommend O… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 06:28 AM |
| 35 | If you’re scaring them, you’re doing something right.Nice! Well said. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 01:11 AM |
| 53 | Woman shuts down "nice guy" b.s. Love to see itWell bless her for the brutal honesty. I would love to be able to be that honest in a helpful way. Seriously. If more men had this message and understood it, there might be some worth dating! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 07:00 AM |
| 2 | What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith?I actually didn’t mention her, other than to stay I think they have an unhealthy relationship. I don’t have an opinion on her at all really, and not blaming her at all. I don’t think any of the 3 are victims here tbh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 07:35 PM |
| 2 | What do you think about seemingly HVM doing psychedelic drugs occasionally?Yup that’s a BIG no for me, even ‘social’ drugs. Please, drug use is not social. It’s cuts one off from others, oneself and from the spirit. I head for the hills if I hear of drugs use, frankly even regular alcohol use. Nope nope nope. And that is why I’m still single today 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 07:18 AM |
| 3 | What does FDS think of Will Smith hitting Chris Rock to defend Jada Pinkett Smith?I grew up with a girlfriend that acts so much like him. It’s like their souls were cloned, so I feel I can read him like a book. She’s a compulsive liar, sees others as tools or useless and has no real depth of feeling for anyone but herself. Not wanting to slag another woman but I’ve seen this type of character and how toxic it is. Whatever dynamics going on in that marriage it’s really unhealthy, no shock to anyone who has witnessed their media releases over the past decade or so. He’s so swee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 07:00 AM |
| 80 | Ok what is up with this man and sleeping hats?A girl was ranting that her bf removed two of her special anti frizz hair towels from her suitcase because he didn’t want her to travel with it, or for his family to see it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 03:49 AM |
| 184 | Ok what is up with this man and sleeping hats?I think about that post almost daily, that shit really messed with my head 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 10:20 PM |
| 674 | Ok what is up with this man and sleeping hats?I bet this is the same douche that unpacked the special hair towels. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 09:39 PM |
| 7 | Swipe. Man goes on 63 dates, does not use FDS tactics, still single. Huh...Excellent point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 08:59 PM |
| 43 | I don’t understand why men are so cruel. Rant.Immature men care about a women’s weight because they want to project to other men an attitude of having superior tastes and ability to obtain women that are seen as attractive by dominant male culture. This is male toxicity being projected onto women and please don’t take it personally. High quality men see women as a person and do not criticize their appearance or berate them. Let’s face it, behind closed doors most if not all men will take any opportunity to have sex with any women, overweigh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 10:00 PM |
| 156 | Getting to see men's true colors after some pictures of me were used in an advertising campaign.I have had a similar offer on Twitter, on my work profile as a financial professional, where I have only one photo that’s a head shot. Men are gross. And some only view woman as a commodity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 04:46 PM |
| 25 | Be careful of this new generation of “SAHD”, who won’t do any chores, won’t take care of the kids, doesn’t contribute to earning money but will lie and cheatBye bye 👋 Won’t be missing you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 06:41 AM |
| 81 | We are living in a clown world 🤡I would take my daughter on a trip to Utah and show her for reals. Edit-no offence meant to non polygamy persons in Utah to clarify. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 04:23 AM |
| 8 | It’s just me or you also find man cave a bull$hit ?I always gave my ex his own room but it was more about containing his crap and keep the rest of the house sane and clutter free. Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 07:19 PM |
| 7 | What’s something a man did that gave you “the ick”?You win. Good lord! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 06:56 AM |
| 6 | What’s something a man did that gave you “the ick”?I had a third date with a guy who insisted on cooking for me. He was just ‘learning’ new recipes (learning to cook-as a mid 40s man, abandoned by his last girlfriend mommy). He sat me down at the table and I painfully watched him pull ziploc baggies out of the fridge with everything pre measured and cut for the stir fry recipe down to the last sad little carrot. I was so horrified by the neurosis behind this I could barely eat. Lastly he added a fried egg, which I am intolerant to, but he had to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 06:55 AM |
| 7 | How do you handle being approached by scrotes?Nope. Some clown wants to get crazy he will meet his match. 😂 I will call the cops so fast if someone is inappropriate and believe me, no man wants a visit from police. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 07:25 AM |
| 3 | Just broke up with a sweet, funny, kind and attentive guy, because he works a minimum wage jobJust no ambition? Low self esteem or high marijuana usage? It would cause problems in the long run, you did the right thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 06:11 PM |
| 3 | Don't let the man downgrade you!Yes indeed. Go to a public place, have an end time and your own transportation, use it like a job interview. Is he someone you consider worthy of your time? Is he polite, respectful, attractive and well intentioned. That can all be determined pretty quick with one date. And then you leave, alone. See how he follows up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 07:26 PM |
| 35 | Don't let the man downgrade you!Too much pre-meeting contact allows the emotional ties to become fixed. Next time meet him within a few days and scope it out in person. This guy just has stolen almost a month of your free time, your emotional energy and all the false hope that builds with it. And that is without even meeting him. It’s crazy making. I guarantee if you met with him, within the first hour your douche alarm would have gone off and you would have not given him another thought 🚨 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 05:33 AM |
| 144 | I have no words100% controlling AF | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 04:33 AM |
| 17 | I present you the most useless man on planet earth!“I don’t know what to do”, Really? Really? Cmon now, yes you do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 10:16 PM |
| 30 | Brilliant Strategy for Getting Men to Pay on DatesIt’s a woman saying to appeal to his financial toxic masculinity, and ask him oh do you need help with that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 10:08 PM |
| 27 | Famous HMV?Sometimes the non-example is helpful in this situation. Single mom here with not a valuable man in sight. I want my daughter to also see appropriate male behaviour and be treated well in the future, but I don’t think there is a lot of great examples to point out around us. I often do make a point to comment when I see LVM behaviour being normalized on tv. Poor Marge Simpson, I often comment how that is not how a husband should behave, nor should it be tolerated. My daughter is savvy enough now s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 12:23 AM |
| 7 | I experienced a switcheroo by a soft boy who ended up extorting my emotional investmentThis is really hard, and I share your pain. I’ve been there many, many times and it’s so painful. Hugs to you. That being said, I want to give you the feedback of this. The past couple of men I’ve dated, I have kept emotionally uninvested. This has been a game changer for me in terms of protecting my emotional well-being in a dating atmosphere. This is how I’m learning this new practice. This practice is literally arms length, I am treating them as a client essentially. They may be adorable, cha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 10:50 PM |
| 92 | Is bad sex a deal-breaker?I don’t think it’s going to work and here’s why. It’s not all about getting off and having the connection. If a man can’t stay erect for a whole session, something is up either mentally or physically (bad pun intended lol). Is it pre diabetes? ED? Blood pressure? Can only hump when he’s drunk/ high on coke? He has intimacy issues? He’s thinking about his grandmother shaming him for masturbation as a teen? I don’t know snd don’t want to know… I’m not a dr and worrying about what it is and if I ca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 05:11 AM |
| 61 | How to make it clear you will NOT go on a drinks date?I don’t drink and I tell men that, then they are like oh should we meet for a coffee and a walk. Like, do I look like a poodle? I don’t need to be walked, save your $3. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 05:04 AM |
| 24 | A real "Cool Girl" is one who turns down Leonardo DiCaprioFirst turn off, sending an assistant to express interest. Ew. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 02:39 AM |
| 68 | are guys allowed to roster date?In other words, not so HV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 04:45 AM |
| 5 | Part 2 of the sh*t scrotes say about women vs. how THEY look, inspired by a previous postTatwoos!!!!!! Haha what a loser. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 04:42 AM |
| 30 | The IckWhen he got into a disagreement with my then 5 year old child and pouted about it all night. He was then mad that I was on her side about it. I realized he was a man child and all attraction was gone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 10:11 PM |
| 297 | Take your SO to a haunted house and see what happens.This will be the guys that are like, ‘I’m looking for a partner in crime’. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 11:40 AM |
| 63 | What kind of tattoos are LVM red flags to you?Yup I’m on a guys chest lol Right beside the tattoo he used to cover his ex’s name. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 12:33 AM |
| 110 | What kind of tattoos are LVM red flags to you?I dated a guy that had JACK ASS tattooed across his stomach in six inch letters. It didn’t last, needless to say. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 12:32 AM |
| 3 | Pornsick scrote can't be asked a normal question without turning it sexual...this was our first conversation 😒 Have I discovered a new vetting question??100% | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 05:15 AM |
| 109 | men's responses to your job/career situation is a quick, easy way to vetThat’s what I do, and the last guy I went on a date, kept texting asking ‘did you make lots of money today’? Ewwww | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 05:11 AM |
| 12 | My NVM STBX’s response to me enforcing my boundaries with him. We’d separated; he called wanting to reconcile. His condition: I stop drinking. My condition: he stops watching porn. He broke his word and so I started a respectful conversation trying to clarify boundaries. This is how he reacted.Yes I like the salicylic cleanser from Inkey List and I use some products (niacinamide and glycolic acid) from The ordinary. Game changing, most are under $10 it’s incredible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 04:36 AM |
| 13 | Watching Sweet Home Alabama after FDSThis could literally be a woman’s study thesis. That show is nauseating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 06:56 AM |
| 13 | A List of LovebombsTold me he loved me on our first phone chat 😳😬 ‘Good morning beautiful” text daily, sent waaaay before he knows I normally get up, Every. Single. Day. ‘Bumping’ into Mom on the first date. Barrage of questions: what’s your favourite dessert, colour, flower etc. Storing up those ideas for make up gifts I expect! 😤🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 05:48 AM |
| 5 | I went to a party and was never more relieved to go home alone. 🤣Wow, I wish I could go to parties THAT entertaining! Ha! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 07:22 AM |
| 1 | Nice Guys are LVMs in DisguisePersonally, I stay away from guys with a history of recovered addiction/alcoholism (even if years clean) now. I also am very cautious if someone has children, not that I won’t date a single Dad but I clearly ask why he is no longer with the mother of his children, does he pay child support, does he make an effort to spend time with his children? Does he have more than one baby mama? That’s a deal breaker. Is he gainfully employed? If a man has dependence on his mother still, that’s concerning. L… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 07:53 PM |
| 36 | Let's discuss! When did you first get assigned to sit next to a disruptive boy in class, supposedly to be a good influence on him?Wow. Very interesting. I was given a little buddy’, I was in grade 5 or 6 and he was a few years younger. Looking back now I would say, he was a classic ADHD kid from a neglectful home. I was to help him read and mind him during assemblies etc. He was a hellion. Still is actually LOL in his 30s. I was also in split classes all though elementary. Was I given challenging work to prepare me for high school? No I was in grade 7 teaching 5s snd 6s to read and boy did I ever struggle in grade 8 when I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 04:38 AM |
| 12 | Using the carrot and stick approach to neg and emotionally abuse. 🚩🚩🚩I honestly think men have done to to women forever, long before internet and pick up tip books and 98% of the time it is completely unconscious on their part. They tear down the woman they are with because they have their own self esteem issues and have learned toxic, sexist bad behaviour from their own dysfunctional families. Still so important to be aware of. And call them on it and shame them for it before you walk away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 06:14 PM |
| 3 | Women who pretend to be friendly with a man - and come back to "report" on behaviour - are pickmes. STOP and cut all unnecessary ties.Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 03:15 PM |
| 46 | Women who pretend to be friendly with a man - and come back to "report" on behaviour - are pickmes. STOP and cut all unnecessary ties.Absolutely. I used to tell off my ex and think I had won. But he always came back for round 2. Once I blocked and deleted my ex, I felt the most amazing sense of relief. I stopped doing the dance, and initially he escalated…badly. Like banging on my door and trying to break in badly. So I called the police. And every time he again tried those games, showing up where I worked etc. I would not respond, other than call the police. Bad behaviour has consequences. Now if he sees me, he runs the other… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 05:30 AM |
| 61 | Nice Guys are LVMs in DisguiseOh I hear ya, that is the raw deal. But at the end of the day, when your kids are older, they will be smart enough to know you truly have their back and were there for them 100%. Women have been bearing the brunt of child raising for eons, the crappy part is now we also have to bear the financial burden at least in part, due to economic and social changes in western society. It really chaps me that men can simply walk away from their familial responsibilities these days and they are not held acc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 05:21 AM |
| 151 | Nice Guys are LVMs in DisguiseJust wanted to add, nothing worse than a cheap man. Ugh. Gross. Please never go in on shared debt with a man. Go to court first and have his share of the debt court ordered to be paid. I’m 8/10 years through paying off the loan I ‘shared’ with my kids Dad. He never put a dime towards it. $30,000 and 8 years of child support never paid. Imagine how that $60,000 could have helped our child in the past decade. Never share assets with a LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 03:32 AM |
| 181 | Nice Guys are LVMs in DisguiseSeriously I can ring off about 12 women I know in the same boat as you just off the top of my head, all of them still WITH their loser husbands. TBH I wouldn’t be shouldering all the blame on poor partner selection. Many men present as offering more than they really do, and parenting isn’t for the weak so a lot of them truly show what they are made of (or what they are not made of) when they become fathers. My NVX left me high and dry when our daughter was 5 weeks old because it wasn’t ‘what he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 03:28 AM |
| 47 | Be weary of men who are raised in cultures that push machismo.Yup, I dated a Moroccan man for over a year and it was all this crap too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 11:45 PM |
| 6 | Why is it that the men you hoped to never hear from again keep popping up like Lestat from the swamp?Interesting! I’ve also read that she was vehemently against Tom Cruise in the Lestat role-I always chuckled at that. He makes my skin crawl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 06:54 AM |
| 3 | When dating, do you have certain professions that you avoid?That’s an interesting comment, we have one chef in our family and have noticed although he loves food and is a great chef, he is noticeably underweight and only eats about once a day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 06:23 PM |
| 40 | When dating, do you have certain professions that you avoid?I disagree on the cooks/chefs note- have not met one single man from the restaurant industry that is not full blown addict/ alcoholic. The lifestyle of working late, drinking on closing. Sleeping til the afternoon lends well to it. But your points on the others are well noted. Edit for terrible grammar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 03:04 PM |
| 27 | And y’all are still using OLD?Wowwwww 😂😂 He picked me!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 08:09 AM |
| 18 | Excuse me?Not even fetishizes, I think just straight up jealous of the baby. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 06:16 AM |
| 53 | The most requested item at the Afghan refugee camps are condoms! As an Afghan American this disgusts me. So these men that already have 4+ kids while their wives are probably exhausted with no real home of their own and he’s just thinking about his penis. Not surprised.Yup that’s my thought too, and honestly my first thought is that so many men grouped together in migrant camps it’s likely a lot of the sexual activity is homosexual so best to wrap it up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 06:57 AM |
| 40 | we were having a nice convo and then he hits me with this "date" suggestion. 🤏🏼🤡Bha ha ha ha ha! I did NOT see that coming. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 05:13 AM |
| 28 | After hearing about savanna talking about long ass paragraph copy paste messages on the podcastLol 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 12:57 AM |
| 69 | Very weird pre-date invite condition/terms given. Thoughts? Anyone else come across this before?Wait…what? Love how he just sneaks that in there. Sleeze . | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 07:44 AM |
| 7 | The Body Keeps the Score and how trauma influences the people you choose to dateThis is my story too. Hugs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 07:02 AM |
| 8 | Update: I posted here a few days ago about a longtime male (now ex) friend in his 30’s randomly sexualizing my 13 yo daughter (check my post history for more details). Many of you prophecized that he would say “it was just a joke”. And well, received this from a mutual friend tonight.Report his ass to police. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 06:56 AM |
| 4 | Strategies for running background checks on menOh I meant to add the BC registry database here Sorry, I’m not familiar with the sites for other provinces though. Hope that helps. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 02:14 AM |
| 7 | Strategies for running background checks on menYeah you cannot search for sex offender status, but if they have been charged for any crime in BC, sexual offence or traffic violations it’s searchable by first and last name. I assume it the same for most provinces. This information is absolutely public as long as the offender is charged as an adult and there is no current publication ban to protect a victim. Yes I understand the criminal background check system, this is different. Any past or present charges will show but if you get no results… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 02:12 AM |
| 7 | Strategies for running background checks on menIf it’s a criminal offence it’s is listed in the province court lists or search the name on the court website. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 09:36 PM |
| 20 | Women need to stop pathologizing themselves and start listening to their intuition with menThis is an extremely powerful post, I’ve been thinking along the same lines today, and also feeling extremely grateful that I am not a statistic as I related so much to Gabby in that video. That was me in at least 3 relationships from 15-29. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 04:55 AM |
| 21 | FDSers who are married to or dating HVM, what brought you here?I just recently got banned, I initially felt quite insulted but decided it’s actually a badge of honour. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 06:34 AM |
| 7 | BARE MINIMUM: The LEAST You Should AcceptVery good point, it’s not difficult. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 09:37 AM |
| 54 | BARE MINIMUM: The LEAST You Should AcceptThat was the only one was like like, hmm seems a bit much. Most men get up go to work, shower after. That’s fine I think. That’s what i do too, unless it’s super hot out or I’m working out in between. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 09:36 AM |
| 10 | Sorry ladies but I gotta use this space to mock poly people 🤣Interesting post, especially like the ties to codependency. I sort of see it though as a byproduct of poor attachment. It’s almost as if a poly relationship is the result of needing to have another person to limit the closeness of a pair bond, and diffuse some of the intimacy that actually may occur from a monogamous pairing. I see a lot of men say, ‘oh I can barely handle one woman’ but I don’t think it’s really about that. I think these poly set ups with one man and multiple women are actually… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 08:20 AM |
| 2 | Where is the lie, tho?Hahaha! This is so true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 08:04 AM |
| 78 | I just found his alphabetized nudes from previous relationships. Mine included.And then drive over the phone as you leave. What a creep. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 05:33 AM |
| 4 | Quick unmatch after one early text. I’m finally learning to not waste time by trusting my gut.This really pisses me off. Some men act like OLD is a free escort service, like listen to my gross fantasies, or send me some goods or let’s meet up in the next 20 minutes. If that’s what you are after than Damn well go pay for it. Losers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 05:10 AM |
| 46 | One of the few times you know for sure a man is being 100% honest with you.Mine said ‘I was a really bad drug addict in the past’. Can confirm he wasn’t finished and continues to live up to that one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 07:27 AM |
| 7 | FDS when you're a motherThis is how I feel 100% | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 01:53 AM |
| 103 | When men withhold feelings/emotions: do they have them or do they just not care?Same, with my ex. He was just shut down emotionally. LOL I like the term constipated. Completely unable to express any emotions, or feelings or affection. Would be large value gifts instead of expressing love. He had no problem expressing dissatisfaction and dishing out put downs though. Any communicated need by me would be dismissed as immature or unimportant. Living with someone like that is totally demoralizing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 10:19 PM |
| 19 | I let myself reopen my mind to walking dates.... Whoops-a-Daisy 🤦♀️Thanks, it’s very interesting, the perspective shift. I use to chase guys and thought that was taking control of my future. But alas, my history speaks for itself. I met a cute guy at the park today, it seemed perfect we talked and got along well while our kids played -but I did not say anything to connect with him. I know if he doesn’t make the move, it’s not meant to be. I was just prob picking up on his neediness or codependency anyway 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 07:20 AM |
| 58 | I let myself reopen my mind to walking dates.... Whoops-a-Daisy 🤦♀️It’s impossible to turn off years of female training to please a man, get male attention, be what he wants me to be, stuff down what I’m thinking, ignore uncomfortable feelings etc. I find I have so much cognitive dissonance trying to date now, it’s definitely a process to see things differently and know how to respond in a way that’s safe and appropriate for myself. I deleted most of my OLD apps. I’m still unsure how to meet men in a natural setting as I’m always home with a child, work from ho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 05:47 AM |
| 92 | I let myself reopen my mind to walking dates.... Whoops-a-Daisy 🤦♀️The worst. Telling him there’s no connection there was so horrendous, I felt like I was suddenly drawn into this huge relationship with someone I didn’t even want. Omg wtf just happened here. And you’re right, I could see old posts he sent to his ex online that were all love bombs, then I was out for sure after I saw that. Nope. I’m learning! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 05:31 AM |
| 227 | I let myself reopen my mind to walking dates.... Whoops-a-Daisy 🤦♀️LOL good reminder. Last one I did it was coffee, then a big walk, then a sit down dinner. I was a sweaty mess by the time we arrived for dinner, we ‘bumped into’ his Mom on the walk, and the date ran over 5 hours. It was like a 3 in 1 date with someone I just met and got a family intro. My head was spinning and I accepted a second date with a man I was not attracted to at the end, dodged a kiss attempt and I suddenly felt invested or obligated perhaps . Hmmm tricky. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 04:58 AM |
| 41 | If he needs space from the relationship, it's a no.You will be saving yourself much greater heartbreak and loss in the future, I’m certain. It’s a tough one though, thanks for sharing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/21 01:58 AM |
| 1 | FDS Going Private For Monthly Cleanup - Sept 1st and 2ndWell that is good news! Does this mean I will still be able to see this group when it goes private? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 03:50 PM |
| 4 | FDS Going Private For Monthly Cleanup - Sept 1st and 2ndI hope I will revive a flare, I have been following for months and can’t seem to contribute. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 05:11 AM |
| 15 | Skip the date rape and just move in. These scrotes actually believe porn can be reality while they capitalize on sky high rent prices and openly take advantage of naive young women. He's even gleefully admitting to not having thought the situation through. Wow.Disgusting man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 02:04 AM |
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