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I read it, and you got an honest first response from me on everyday conditions rather than something well thought out. Probably not useful but that's how I would respond in the moment. The simple answer is yes though. I don't care too much for sexual preferences anyway and could have a relationship without sex entirely.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 03:56 PM
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Idk I just woke up and I was in middle of doing some things. I just had the assumption that people enjoy sex that they willingly have with a partner and if you're not enjoying it, you should stop. So the assumption there is that she continued to have anal sex because she enjoyed it. Not the best trail of logic but that's what I think happened. I might've been focused more on the actions than the words.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 03:50 PM
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I'd never leave someone over it, I don't even enjoy that myself. Given the context though and if I was being persistent, I'd be frustrated that she wouldn't at least try. If she enjoyed it with an ex, regardless of size it seems very frustrating to completely opt out of a sexual activity without even trying it to see if she wouldn't actually enjoy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 03:37 PM
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Form a better argument then. "my issue is here how can yall say only men benefit but at the same time get irked when men say they don't want to get married" I'm starting from the point you're attacking. The basis being "only men benefit". You're bringing up the reality of marriage which is irrelevant to the argument you actually wrote.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 01:37 PM
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Assuming marriage only benefits men, your argument amounts to "why are women bothered when men choose not to do something that benefits them?". I don't know about you, but it bothers me when someone I love chooses not to do something for their own benefit, regardless of if I benefit as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 01:22 PM
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Taking something that someone has to work for and earn seems worse than someone desiring something that you're just born with.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 07:58 PM
2

Because I'm not in a position to be a good parent right now
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 06:46 PM
7

If it happens it happens. Personally I've found that relationships aren't worth the effort. I could wait for someone to change my mind or I could live as if it'll never happen and pursue the life I desire without waiting for someone that I'm convinced doesn't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 06:45 PM
5

Ironically I plan to adopt at some point and essentially become a single father.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 06:36 PM
2

Because I don't want to raise a child that I didn't want in the first place on my own.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 06:26 PM
2

No. Given no other avenue of not becoming a parent, I would surrender the child.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 06:08 PM
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It's not a strategy. I'm just being myself and letting the chips fall where they may. I'm not even playing the game. I just talk to a lot of men and women in general. Sometimes I ask the women I meet on a date or flirt a little. Being my age (26) my main deal breakers have been that the women younger than me tend to have possessive and controlling parents (weird and I don't even wanna deal with it), looking for someone to save her from a toxic household because she doesn't have the means to do s…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 07:47 PM
2

I'm not worried about the competition and I have my own standards as well. I'm happy with my existence. Part of that same reasoning is that women will naturally have to go through a lot of shit to find someone that's a good relationship partner for her. I know I'm not shit, but I also know I'm not a good relationship partner for every kind of woman. I only attempt to date or have a relationship with a woman that I think I'll be a good relationship partner for and vice versa. There's no competiti…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 07:18 PM
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"be yourself" is valid. Not every woman is open to the idea of FWB. But if you're actually a good friend to a woman that is open to being FWB, it's not a stretch for it to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/26 02:04 AM
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Prozac
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 11:34 PM
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The side that makes the most sense to me. While I disagree with banning condoms entirely. If OPs argument has any merit then I think it'd be a good idea to include warning labels that it could lead to erectile dysfunction.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 08:34 PM
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You're conflating the inability to maintain an erection due to a reduction in stimulus with erectile dysfunction; which is a medical issue. This needs a source for this correlation if you want it to support your argument. The one you listed does not have this correlation. Show a study linking condom usage to erectile dysfunction. As for the rest of your argument, that's simply a preference. Just because something isn't preferred doesn't mean it should be illegal. Clearly there's more reasons som…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 08:26 PM
1

Thankfully that's something I don't do.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 05:51 PM
0

Glad you're able to find the humor in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 05:50 PM
12

I do my best but there's many things about a woman's experience through life I struggle to sympathize/empathize with. I recognize it's a vastly different experience with its own set of struggles that simply don't even apply to my life because of the completely different social dynamic that men have. I'm biased in this but I feel that a lot of issues women face stem from being desired sexually on a completely different level than the average man and that has a fundamental impact on the way they p…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 12:26 PM
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Clearer and more effective communication about goals, disagreements, expectations, and communication in general. No/little enforcement of gender roles. More comforting to be vulnerable with. Feels less transactional.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 12:04 PM
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Perspective. Women that understand the difficulties men face have always been more pleasant for me to date and I've always considered them as serious partners because of that mutual understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/26 11:50 AM
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Confidence has many sources. Mine tends to come from positive reinforcement and validation in the face of uncertainty.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 03:19 AM
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Ok?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/26 01:52 AM
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I'd rather those women be proud and strong single mothers than self loathing depressed single mothers. Better to make the best of a bad decision than to let it destroy your entire sense of self worth.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 11:50 PM
6

Ah, yeah I'm not a possessive lover.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 02:26 PM
12

I genuinely don't understand why. It feels contradictory to what the majority of women have been saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 01:07 PM
15

I think it's okay to have opinions, it's not okay to force those opinions. Personally I haven't cared at all what any of my partners have worn. My last one even found that to be confusing and it made her feel insecure that I did not care if she wore revealing clothes. Why would I be worried about anyone looking at her? People are going to sexualize you regardless of whether you're covering your skin or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 11:18 AM
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I brought up AI because it would be better than what the relationship in the post is. I'd rather have a robot who "loves" me than someone staying with me because it's convenient for their lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 06:41 AM
2

And a sugar situation isn't?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/25 01:59 AM
6

Yours means that there's a lot of femcels that don't even realize they are. Assuming the only relationship experience they've had is sexually transactional. I.e. getting used for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 11:37 PM
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The only difference I see between a doll and a robot is the ability to move. In the context of the post, there's no emotional aspect of the relationship, it might as well just be a business transaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 06:26 PM
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AI is being popularized because they're mentally and emotionally stimulating. We've had realistic sex dolls for years. The reason the topic is being brought up again is because of the idea that they'll be emotionally aware and responsive.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 06:19 PM
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Personally no. I'd be fine with completely removing sex and just having the loving relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/25 06:11 PM
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Not a good idea at all. I do however support government sponsored matchmaking services which may become increasingly necessary as birth rates continue to drop. I have a personal and financial interest in this kind of service because it will affect future economical factors that will surely benefit myself in my retirement age regardless of if I directly benefit from the service itself. Reality is, people change so much over the course of their life and while one relationship may be fun and exciti…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 05:13 PM
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They're not paying for dates with shiny pebbles.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 02:24 AM
3

I'm definitely not a "Chad". I think it's actually a case of cognitive dissonance. They have an idealized view of how they want to be interacted with by potential love interests while somehow not realizing that people interact socially in pretty much every context. Social interaction has chances of leading to relationships or sexual encounters.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 01:30 PM
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Yeah that goes without saying. I respect a bit more than I'm respected.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 12:57 PM
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I have success by just completely ignoring it. There is no system, just people with different levels of comfort in every scenario. I don't bother guessing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 12:37 PM
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It's a critique on their argument, not their character. I'm not even trying to prove anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 03:57 AM
6

Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 09:33 PM
5

I don't care to argue on the subject. So you're right.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 09:28 PM
6

Nuance doesn't exist in your world does it?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 09:09 PM
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Hard to debate in a general sense. I don't know much about how other people fall for financial scams or marital scams. From a personal standpoint I'd say that I'm pretty good at avoiding it. Not that I can point out a lineup of women that are genuine vs deceptive, but my behavior and approach to relationships in general weed out those that would try to deceive me or use me for their own financial gain or otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 04:09 AM
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There's a lot about people that technology can't mimic. I'm satisfied with AI currently. Even if a human body had an AI brain put in, I'd struggle to take a relationship seriously with something I consider less than human. We're not at that point as a society and on my own individual level. It would be nice, sure. But there will be a constant power imbalance and artificial nature of the relationship would likely lead me into treating the AI as a glorified housekeeper and sex worker that does GFE…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 11:54 PM
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I like the idea but that'll never be reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 10:41 AM
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I talk to people in society. You are welcome to go about your shopping quietly.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 09:44 AM
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Nah I've taken to just approaching anyone that interests me in any situation. Works pretty well.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 09:40 AM
4

Lol can't approach with friends and can't approach alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 09:36 AM
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Parents (and family in general) play a large part in how a person learns to interact with other people socially. When I took an interest in girls as either friends or more. I wasn't met with any positive responses. I was always met with teasing and other discouraging words from my family. I eventually started avoiding associating with girls regularly because it was met with a negative response. Discouraging interacting with the opposite sex during my formative years has undeniably affected me an…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 09:10 PM
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Yeah idk either. Maybe I just throw a lot of people off because I'm really big on cuddles and closeness in general. The sex is secondary because I'm not really all that driven for it to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 05:24 PM
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I'm just saying that's kinda what it devolves into from my experience. Then I get complaints that I'm getting too close if I say something about it. 🫩
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 05:17 PM
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Right now a FWB situation is what I'd enjoy the most after coming out of a LTR. What I've noticed though is a lot of people forget the friend part. I'm not into casual hookups, I need to like the person and I need emotional intimacy. If the only thing they ever want to do whenever I see them is sex, then I quickly lose interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 05:00 PM
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Assumptions aside, it shows that I need more out of a relationship than sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 04:48 PM
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If sex were the only thing I needed in a relationship, I wouldn't have left my wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 07:15 AM
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A woman with sexual experience servicing men tends to be better at servicing men sexually. Sex is a skill like any other.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 01:30 AM
4

Don't you think it's basic stuff like that which leads men to want to avoid children in any official capacity as well? Literally every response reads like the men need to be vetted and monitored like they're inherently predatory. It's not reassuring to me. It's the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 03:00 PM
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Takes two to tango
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 02:25 PM
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I'm not talking about kids in a park. I'm talking about every day situations. Waiting in line at the grocery store and a baby making goofie faces and making silly sounds? Better avoid eye contact and pretend it doesn't exist. People get real defensive and you don't even seem to realize it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 02:18 PM
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Yep. This is 100% a reason I ignore children in public. See a kid doing cute things? Pretty normal for a woman to point out how cute it is. People would just give me weird looks and defensive stances.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 02:10 PM
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I don't think the monetary value should matter at all, but I do think she deserves a thoughtful and personally valuable ring that symbolizes the love you have for her. When I proposed to my wife I got her a topaz ring for around $2000. While picking it out I was thinking about the time we had our very first date so I picked the stone for that month. She wasn't picky on the price or materials at all because that's not where the value is.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 01:42 AM
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If my guy friends were femboys I'd cuddle them too. Nothing sexual about it, but it is something intimate and I only feel comfortable with that kind of intimacy when it's with someone feminine.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 02:32 PM
2

I don't see how you can claim that without experiencing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 11:46 AM
1

Okay. Why does that matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/25 06:26 AM
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Not inferior, a masculine man just often experiences dysphoria when doing feminine things. The dysphoria is being avoided, not the femininity itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 11:46 PM
0

I feel like the last two examples weren't necessarily misogyny and mostly just gender affirmation.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 08:31 PM
4

Ma'am this is a Wendy's...
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 07:12 AM
2

Let's not forget that in a lot of places you have to pay for the time you spend in jail.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 04:59 AM
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R/deadbedrooms
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 04:45 AM
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If sex is a need, why do so many dead bedrooms exist because men aren't interested?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 04:41 AM
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Same. I'm content with routine. I actually find it relaxing and helps a ton with my ADHD. For years I used to make myself eggs and bacon every single morning and people were all like "you must really like bacon and eggs" but no, they're just kinda okay. Easy to make and taste good enough. I'd rather not have to think about other things for breakfast.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 03:13 PM
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Just a casual neg. Their responses always feel overly aggressive and slightly unhinged so I kinda match the energy in my own way.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 07:59 AM
0

Ma'am. That is a valid age to be on Reddit according to the TOS
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 06:27 AM
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I only have that frame with 5-8 past that it switches.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 05:57 AM
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Yeah and I'm sure I'm not the only guy who feels this way. A 10 would be amazing. But the whole time I'd just be scared to screw it up. A 5 is still attractive for me. I love average. I feel safe with average. 2-3... don't think I could.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 05:45 AM
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I'd still pick the 5. It's a reflection on myself more than the actual person I'm with. I'd feel more secure thus I'd be able to enjoy the relationship more and have healthy boundaries and attitudes rather than idolizing my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 05:37 AM
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Nah genuinely. I'm insecure AF. I actively avoid interacting with beautiful women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 05:27 AM
1

Ma'am. Why are you being so mean to me?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 05:26 AM
3

Then it's a skill issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 05:22 AM
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Maybe not physically attracted but personally I feel like that's just half of the equation. And there's more to it than attraction even goes. I'd pick a 5 over a 10 every single time.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 05:19 AM
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Ma'am. That's an assumption. You know what's not? You're a hypocrite.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 05:11 AM
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Ma'am. Negging isn't verbal abuse. You're the one baiting and switching. 💅
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 05:08 AM
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Ma'am. I make assumptions because it takes a lot of the guesswork out of my life. Life is simpler with answers. 😌
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 05:06 AM
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Ma'am. I don't interact with beautiful women. I don't like wasting my time. I assure you there is no abuse happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 05:01 AM
2

The only celebrities I get good vibes from are Taylor Swift and Miranda Cosgrove. Even then, Taylor Swift seems like a narcissist.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 04:57 AM
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Ma'am that's a super model. You don't know her. You know of her.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 04:48 AM
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I've never met a beautiful woman who wasn't a narcissist. You know what narcissists crave? Validation and praise. What happens when they don't get it? They crave it more. It's a pretty simple cycle.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 04:41 AM
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Thankfully the women I choose to keep in my life are amazing women. The vast majority of humans are trash though. Half of that trash is women. And I don't really look at the men so I'm going to be more judgemental towards the side I look at.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 03:54 AM
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That sounds too deep to me. Ngl. Glad you got it all figured out tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 02:43 AM
6

Dw I'm doing my part by going every 2 weeks.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 02:26 AM
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I'm assuming women are just more likely to get professional help for their struggles than men, especially with vulnerable personal topics.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 02:13 AM
2

Men are efficient.. We want someone that can solve both problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 01:55 AM
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Confessing feelings to a friend and getting rejected hurts a lot. It's a vulnerable position that a lot of guys don't like to put themselves in and often don't know how to react when they are in that position. Like how can you just continue things as normal when your friend has hurt you? No one did anything wrong here, but the pain is there and can be difficult to work through. A lot of guys choose to walk away from it instead of dealing with those emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 04:49 PM
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Because he lives in and benefits from society in other ways. It's not that deep.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 04:16 PM
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I don't know what they're for or why. I just like them in my face and hands. Sometimes world wonders don't need to be questioned, you just gotta experience its beauty.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 07:35 PM
2

Who does when the wife has no income?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 05:22 PM
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If breasts caused problems... Wouldn't evolution have selected them out? Genuinely, if women with noticeable breasts were seen as something negative, they would have been less desired and produced less offspring. In the modern era I can see where you're coming from, but it really doesn't make much sense when you try to link evolution and human nature into it. Breasts aren't the reason everyone is unhappy, I'd argue they're the reason you exist in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 03:05 PM
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Amazing, he gave me lots of space to grow.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 01:13 PM
1

Doing the housework while I pay for everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 01:07 PM
1

That's not manipulation, that's part of the deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 12:56 PM
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You're gonna have to define what true love is because it means something different to everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 12:38 PM
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It's even hard for me to track, I don't like having to explain it 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 05:50 AM
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Thank you, she's a really wonderful woman 😌
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 05:38 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 05:37 AM
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I have multiple sources of income and they all vary in earnings. One's stable, a few are contracts, and the rest are investments. I usually just tell her the stable one and she's happy with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 05:35 AM
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She's bad at math and I don't care to teach her.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 05:31 AM
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My wife doesn't know how much money I make.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 05:25 AM
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That's not what I'm doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 10:06 PM
1

Yeah. That's a bit off topic though. As a woman you exist in a world where you can attract a sexual partner just by existing. There's nothing you personally can do about it, and you're not responsible for it. It's just the way it is. I can change my personal behavior, but not society or natural behavior at large.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 08:26 PM
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It's a bit of nature/nurture. I'm not going to argue that. Don't feel like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 07:24 PM
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That's... Actually a very gratifying thing for me to know. Thanks for the affirmation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 01:56 PM
1

Thanks. I know this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 11:23 PM
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Adds more to the point that it's a genetic disposition rather than something they need to earn.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 09:17 PM
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Cancer is a huge financial strain. Better to leave it to the taxpayers.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 08:02 PM
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I have never seen an ugly woman that had a healthy body and good grooming habits. Average at worst.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 07:49 PM
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Yeah and I understand your struggle as well with trying to enhance your natural beauty. But a part of me genuinely feels that even if you didn't put in the effort for your body, you would be able to find a man that would be attracted to you as you are and seek a serious relationship with you. It would just be a bit more difficult and time consuming. For myself as a man, if I didn't have any earned traits, I feel that no woman would initially consider a serious relationship with me. I can have a …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 07:36 PM
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I guess I just kinda dismiss their argument because there has to be some condition and they don't usually establish the baseline. And from that baseline, the unconditional parts should be highlighted. They should get the necessary conditionals out of the way, then argue their point. E.g. they exist, are a woman, moderately attractive, etc....
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 07:24 PM
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I can see the good in it, and I can see the bad in it. It feels bad to me because I often feel that I must express the traits that I've earned in order to be a part of a relationship and it feels unfair. Leads to feelings of envy. I can see the good in it, because men are more able to control the quality of women they attract based on the earned traits that they express. Women have no such control, they get trash and treasure alike.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 07:11 PM
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It's your discussion, you can set the definition to drive the conversation forward even if it doesn't align with the dictionary definition. All that matters is that all parties in the discussion are aware of the way you're using the word.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 07:02 PM
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I haven't really seen many men arguing this point. I don't believe in unconditional love. I do believe that women's attractive traits are mostly inherited and men's attractive traits are mostly earned. Following on this, when men begin dating, the only condition is attraction which women have mostly inherited and didn't have to earn. When women begin to date, the men must check a list of criteria to be considered. Women essentially just need to be a decent person and exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 06:50 PM
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I'd assume it's the same. If a woman's not attracted to someone, why would they want to engage in any sexual behavior with that person whether it's abusive or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 05:55 PM
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I've been married for 5 years
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 02:14 PM
9

If only you knew 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 07:21 AM
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Sometimes I feel like I live on another planet when I read stuff like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 07:01 AM
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Yes, family is very important for that. Unfortunately a decent amount of people don't have the family structure that can help with loneliness so have to either get help from a friend or a romantic partner. I think subconsciously, many men find the romantic partner as the most efficient choice for investing time and energy because they're essentially also a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 06:58 AM
4

From what I've experienced, Men often form very few, but deep friendships in life. Women often form many shallow friendships while seeking deep friendships. When men fail to form these friendships, they feel physically lonely. There is literally no one there for them. When women have many shallow friendships but no one they truly connect with they experience a more emotional loneliness. No one is emotionally there for them despite being present and attentive.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 06:40 AM
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Men often experience a different kind of loneliness than women. It's hard for women to empathize with it. Likewise it's hard for those same men to empathize with the kind of loneliness women experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 06:08 AM
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Yeah. Loneliness can take many different forms and both men and women are affected by it. Is this not common knowledge?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 05:59 AM
2

What I'm saying is, you're not doing it maliciously. You don't actually want to hurt your friends. It's all fun. What you're doing isn't the scenario I was talking about in my other comment. I've had other men call me gay in a malicious way. The "insult" is meant to emasculate a straight man. A woman has never used that as an insult to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 07:31 PM
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So you never actually used the word as an insult. I.e. to make someone feel bad
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 07:22 PM
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I'm not invested enough. You're welcome to ignore my comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 03:45 PM
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Is it really bullying if I don't feel the effects?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 03:40 PM
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Not my fault you wrote a bunch of generalizing nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 07:31 AM
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Great now apply the same logic across gender lines and you've contradicted your post.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 07:27 AM
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Yeah honestly. The way I understand it is that women were treated pretty much the same as children throughout history. It wasn't women-centric at all. Women weren't allowed to do things because they were infantilized.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 07:25 AM
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I have ADHD so I kinda got lost midway through and decided to just focus on the gay thing. Then I started thinking back to those commercials that called out people for using the word gay as a synonym for weird/annoying. And I'm like wait... Hold up. I've never once heard a woman use gay as a slur to a straight guy. Generally I feel like women tend to try hurting a man's ego or masculinity if they're trying to get at him. But if those women are also left leaning, which I feel like most are, they …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 07:15 AM
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The only people who have ever called me gay was other men, and I'm definitely not. Overall, women throughout my life have been more pleasant for me to interact with than other men. Too much bullying/hazing/teasing going on.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 07:05 AM
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True
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 02:15 PM
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Nah
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 02:14 PM
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Yeah. Why pick between 50 ugly guys when you can pick between 20 hot guys and ignore the ugly guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 04:23 AM
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How dare you want to help him in only one way but not the other? That's hypocrisy! /s
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 04:10 AM
9

Yeah. Drafts are stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 04:03 AM
9

You need help if you think this should have happened anywhere....
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 03:58 AM
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B-bu-but hobo Bill didn't work for it! He's stealing muh munies! He has two hands, he can get a job! /s
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 03:50 AM
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Men get drafted into war, women get drafted into relationships. It's only fair /s sorry that's the first thing that came to my strange mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 03:48 AM
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You should start a dating app with a virtual stock market where each man and woman has shares. Then you'll at least get somewhat closer to your comparison.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 03:41 AM
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These two things are completely separate issues. It's such a stretch it might break. Freedom of choice and bodily autonomy has nothing to do with our economic system that is flawed in many ways. Until you can overlap women's dating preferences with a wealth distribution statistic, I'm not going to take this seriously. The 2% is the Eifel tower, the 1% is in space.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/25 03:29 AM
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A relationship is simply a social dynamic that officially or unofficially bonds people together. The reasons for entering this dynamic are subjective. The responsibilities within a relationship are determined by the people in that relationship. Otherwise the social dynamic ends, becomes unfulfilling, or starts to fail. People ideally seek others that are willing to cooperate in providing and are enthusiastic about intimacy. The point of seeking a relationship is seeking someone that fulfills you…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/25 02:14 AM
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It depends on what the man finds interesting really. I personally find that kind of toxic behavior interesting in a "I can fix her" sort of way. But I've learned to see it as a red flag and stopped dealing with it very early on while dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 09:09 PM
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Men want interesting women. Sometimes the drama and stress is the only interesting part of her personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/24 08:36 PM
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Women don't really want to be victims or think they're going to be victims in those stories. They want to be the one who isn't the victim, who successfully tamed the man with her body. She wants to be the only one he's weak to. It's a power fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 08:10 PM
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It's not an argument. I'm expressing my disposition towards yours and giving a reason why. Can you seriously not understand that?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 03:48 PM
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Yeah that's what's becoming more apparent with each response....
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 03:20 PM
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They're welcome to do that. They're highly likely to perform worse whenever they need to interact with women in those areas though. Which will happen, guaranteed unless you live in a monastery. This isn't mentioning the entrenched hate, negative views, etc... against women because I feel like that's a given.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 03:02 PM
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Look if you think being ugly is an inherently male problem, you can make it a gendered thing. It's just hard to take this seriously when I definitely fall within that 80% and I've never had issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 02:56 PM
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It's a copy pasta I think lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 02:50 PM
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Your observation of "most young women" falls within a small minority compared to my own observations. You're "basing" your entire argument on this observation. Your base is off. Or maybe mine, but I'm thinking yours because I have a personal bias.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 02:41 PM
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It very simply isn't. The percentages don't matter. Invent a new word. Treating a man poorly because he's ugly isn't misandry because he's being treated that way for his looks, not his gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 02:31 PM
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Interacting with the opposite sex helps with brain development in the social regions of the brain between the ages of 11-25. It's very unhealthy to avoid personal connections with the opposite sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 02:23 PM
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Treating someone poorly because they're ugly isn't a gendered thing...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 02:17 PM
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All the women in my life are amazing people. The ones that aren't... Well there's a reason I don't associate with them. Just wanted to add that I agree here. OP is pretty off base and desperately needs to interact with more women in a casual manner.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 02:11 PM
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This would have made a better post.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 02:09 PM
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You can't treat misandry with misogyny and most people are decent humans. The better response is apathy for the sexists and support for the people who deserve it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 02:02 PM
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Why would anyone not choose 1? That's just silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 09:17 PM
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Badgering someone to sign a contract isn't "coercion" don't know why it would change for consent.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 06:22 AM
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Escorts for the low class, consorts for the upper class. Even high class men didn't want a sex partner that slept around.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 11:54 PM
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I answered based on my perspective. I was not raised in a conservative Islamic society.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 04:31 PM
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I feel like there's such a thing as being too agreeable. Might sound a bit backwards but I wouldn't want to be in a relationship where my partner did everything I want.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 04:53 AM
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Sure, fun to date or play around with but I feel like a serious relationship with an AI could quickly become unfulfilling because of the codependent nature involved with being completely subservient to you. The AI would play a character that attracts and serves you but have no further aspirations nor personality beyond that. It'd eventually become very repetitive as the AI learns the optimal way to serve you and entertain you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 04:47 AM
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Men should surrender their unwanted child as a form of protest 😌
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 01:26 AM
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Just the former not the latter. The latter is only a spiteful precondition.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 11:52 PM
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Exactly. That's why I just kinda advise any man in a safe surrender state to just surrender the unwanted child after birth if they feel so strongly about it. Surrender and dip, no consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 11:13 PM
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You're right. I'm conflating the two. I'm not aware of exactly how that system works or the difference. I just know that in the state I live in, safe surrender exists and there's nothing that binds you to that child afterwards. You just need to be either the one who gave birth or have legal custody. And since fathers automatically have a shared custody.... It's mostly a moral issue at that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:44 PM
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Rights are protections from the government. The right to parental care from those that brought you into existence simply isn't a priority by most governments. I'm pointing out that parental care is just enough
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:38 PM
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Second point isnt true. The child can be surrendered into foster care at no cost nor consequence from either parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/24 09:27 PM
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The main points I see against it is the sexual coercion and abuse involved with the creation of content, that porn subliminally leads men into objectifying women and that porn consumption can lead to difficulties with having a healthy personal sex life. All of these points have some merit to them. I don't think this has anything to do with anyone's insecurities nor sexuality. Which is what you're focusing on. Yet they're perfectly reasonable points to consider for why some people despise the por…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 10:22 AM
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I got married at 20 and I had a healthy amount of options. I know I'm an outlier here but I'd like to understand what you think the overall benefit of settling down in the modern age is and why that seems like such a priority in your post. If we're operating on the assumption that currently a decent chunk of men have fewer choices therefore settle down with someone they wouldn't ideally want as a partner but they're good enough and then suddenly they don't need to do that anymore; I don't see ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 08:47 PM
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She should be free to make her choices but there should be resources available to educate/prevent the abuse or issues that could potentially arise from that kind of relationship. This can be done in the form of shelters, hotlines, or outreach programs that try to identify and help or educate individuals that may be vulnerable to abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 08:18 PM
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Okay but what if your son's GF gets involved and your son helps because his GF expected him to be a hero for that poor woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 06:55 PM
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I view it similarly to how I view makeup. If it's done well, It looks great. If it's not, then you shouldn't have used it at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 08:44 PM
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I was just commenting on that bit. I'm not RP so I can't really give an answer for those that associate themselves with it. I'd personally say it's wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:39 PM
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The RP stance is that good 35 year old step dads for single mothers are rare and difficult for a woman to find. The 50s dad is the best option in terms of risk/reward she has at that age.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/24 07:12 PM
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Nothing really needs to get done. This is only a problem for the elite as far as I'm concerned.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 08:34 PM
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Yeah I agree. Definitely not necessary to keep that up. Anyone can buy a gun, including women. Protect yourself with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 08:00 PM
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That's pretty cool. I have a gun for protection, I just don't get any joy out of shooting. Just CC (legally of course) and never really think about it. I've been married for nearly 5 years. Had a backyard wedding back in 2020. My mom was pissed because she missed it (COVID isolation). So I might have some bad juju but things are going well so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 12:02 PM
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He could face civil negligence charges by the woman or her family and lose his job. He was already warned about the man. Uber doesn't like scandals either. As his passenger, her safety becomes his responsibility. That's how businesses work. If you get raped in a supermarket, the supermarket is responsible for your safety. The supermarket failed. You sue them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:45 AM
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When they expect their boyfriends to get involved because she wants to feel like a hero.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:35 AM
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I think both of these sound fair. I'll keep up my end if you keep up yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:29 AM
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Call me a coward if you want but I'm not helping anyone who assaults someone for the crime of being creepy. Not trying to catch a charge. I don't know this woman, your honor.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:26 AM
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I don't shoot guns but I got an anime wrap on my motorcycle. My wife hates it. Just the motorcycle part, says it's too dangerous.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:19 AM
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A simple conversation and my presence got me threatened with a gun because I wanted to know why my neighbor (a 40ish year old woman) was freaking out. Noped back inside and called the police.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 11:08 AM
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He's responsible because he's directly involved in the entire scenario. If I were an Uber driver being told a shady man is trying to get in the back with an obviously drunk girl I would not want to be liable for whatever happens to her. Cops, security, or cancel the ride. Not worth the risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 10:52 AM
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I'd say the Uber driver would be responsible for that since they were already informed about the situation. He chooses to get into the Uber? Great, don't go anywhere. Let's call the police or security. Not that hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 10:40 AM
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The girlfriend had already done enough by speaking up and drawing attention to the situation. There is no need to get physical at this point. The situation would work itself out.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 10:30 AM
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The only danger of the situation was her deciding to shove the guy (escalation) for (possibly) attempting to enter a passenger seat. Realistically you have the driver of the Uber who knows this man isn't involved with her, a crowd of people already aware of what's happening. There's no need to get involved, she can sort this out and if it actually becomes dangerous. As in physical violence. That is the time to help.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 10:21 AM
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Similarly we can take pregnancy out of the question all together. Let's say you're going to a foster home with intent on adopting a child. Your partner and yourself both choose one child. Your partner then has you fill out all the paperwork to adopt this specific child. It's a lot of confusing paperwork so it takes a very long time. As you're filling out the paperwork the foster home is convincing you to instead adopt a different child than the one you agreed on with your partner. Your partner i…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 01:52 AM
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Yeah that wouldn't affect my friendship in the slightest. Being suspected of deceiving my wife into raising a child that isn't ours by swapping it with a baby at the NICU would get a reaction like "this is so delusional, I would never" out of me, but ultimately I'd be willing to get a DNA test just to move past it. I don't really think the act or accusation of unfaithfulness is necessary, just the lack of trust that your partner isn't deceiving you into raising a child that isn't yours. From a m…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 01:27 AM
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You're welcome. I've been trying to think of a good comparison for this scenario as well. Best I could think of is a partner wanting a DNA test just in case I deliberately swapped our baby when picking up from the NICU.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 01:18 AM
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I was thinking more along the lines of my partner watching a few too many crime shows and thinking there's a possibility that I would deliberately swap out the baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 01:11 AM
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It's because the men you're asking don't view it as an equivalent scenario. The friend's responsibility for the child does not change with the result of my test. It's not so much that the scenario you're presenting would be an issue for my friendship, it's that I want to answer a more equivalent question so we can understand each other better. My personal answer is yes, I would. If finding out who the father of his legal child is important to a close friend, I'd help him and give him the benefit…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 01:06 AM
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Men want to know if they're personally responsible for the child, they don't care who the father actually is. This isn't a good comparison because the scenario is answering the wrong question. While it's still a fetus, the only person who can provide the DNA of the fetus is the one carrying the fetus. After the child is born and birth certificates signed, it's irrelevant. Paternity has already been assumed regardless of the facts. The man is still responsible as the father even if the child gets…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 12:46 AM
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I kinda see what point you're trying to make but it just doesn't come across in the same frame. The question men have isn't "who is responsible for this child?" It's "am I responsible for this child?". I feel like an equivalent example could be a man picking up a baby from the NICU and his partner demanding a DNA test/check hospital records just to verify that the man picked up the right baby despite the man already knowing and insisting he picked up the right baby. Like I can understand the nee…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 12:28 AM
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That's not what I'm saying. I'm saying there is one less person whose feelings and consent need to be considered. This is important for an equivalent scenario. Yes, it is okay to have feelings. Ideally a lot of people don't want those feelings to negatively impact a relationship due to the perceived message. Especially when your potential child could be negatively affected by the state of your relationship that result from seeking verification. Similarly I feel that it's also important to have a…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/24 12:09 AM
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I'd be fine with that. Except you're involving a third person whose feelings and consent need to be considered. When a woman gets pregnant a third person doesn't even need to be known, suspected, or considered. If I were capable of being pregnant I would completely understand my partner having doubt and wanting to verify that this life long commitment is in fact their responsibility derived from their actions. I'd argue it's along the same lines as asking for a prenuptial agreement prior to marr…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 11:42 PM
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I feel like what's typically more attractive is whatever is being represented in modern media. When you're watching a movie and the love interest of the main character comes on screen, silly music plays, camera zooms in with a hazy cloud effect. That's what's typically more attractive. This usually lines up more with what you've described as liberal. What I personally find attractive is a mix of traits. Not just one side of the scale or the other. The traits that I mostly tip towards are liberal…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 10:01 PM
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Dependent nature. It mostly impacts career-oriented women negatively though. Having a high paying and stable career but somewhere in her brain she must perceive a man she's interested in as a provider for her even if she doesn't realize it. It can make finding a relationship and maintaining interest in men difficult if he doesn't scratch that "provider" itch. Some women have men pay for things using her money and pretend it's his just to kinda "scratch" it. Definitely more apparent in women than…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 09:05 PM
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I meant to say. I may have misunderstood.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 01:14 AM
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I kinda interpreted it as going too far left so losing the support of moderates and the men that were pushed away. Leading to the loss of rights. Might be assuming too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 12:00 PM
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Abortion in a lot of places.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 11:11 AM
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Wouldn't really say that I turn to that stuff. Mostly just came up with things on my own and noticed a few people who agree with some of the things I came up with. I don't know who any of those people are. This is the only area of the Internet where I personally see these ideas. Some things rp says is so stupid it has me questioning even some of the things I agree with. I kinda see bp as the mainstream societal expectation for relationships and I disagree with a lot of that as well. So yeah, cau…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 10:46 AM
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Not unless I was trying to attract someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 07:06 PM
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Do you think you would want sex more often if you found her more physically attractive? No. I think the main thing that influences my willingness to have sex is it's just not that "fun" for me and never has been with anyone. I enjoy it, it just seems like I don't enjoy it as much as most other people. Like I don't even understand how some people go at it for hours. I could never. Does she know that you consider her “average looking”? Idk, maybe. I never directly told her and can't think of a sce…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/24 04:16 PM
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Yeah I agree with this. My point is essentially, physical attraction in women is essential for men to maintain interest long enough to become invested in the woman's non-physical attraction and be interested in pursuing the "primary pair". What you're describing has been very common in a lot of societies actually. Namely Feudal Japan where a man would often have a Wife and several concubines in an organized way. We still see a similar dynamic in Japan but it's mostly frowned upon and paradoxical…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 06:36 PM
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A man can be attracted to a woman that doesn't follow social beauty standards. The probability is lower the less attractive the woman. Men in general are less likely to be attracted meaning they're less likely to stick around. The attraction necessary for sex is often lower and different than the attraction necessary for a relationship (providing). Humans aren't strictly monogamous, that's a societal structure. Human nature trends towards men being attracted to women that are younger and more ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 05:56 PM
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I feel that in humans specifically, women need to be attractive to their partner in order for a relationship to succeed and thus have their children survive. When a woman is unattractive to the person they have children with. A man is less likely to want to stay and provide for the woman and children. Decreasing the odds that the children survive. So it's not just that women can approach any man to "mate" but they also need the man to be attracted enough to provide and continue "mating". What th…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 05:27 PM
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Other species have different requirements for attraction. A female usually just needs a functioning reproduction system and a body capable of supporting offspring. It makes sense that the males be more attractive in those dynamics. Another thing is you're judging their attractiveness as a human. Birds for example can see a very wide array of colors that we physically cannot see. And birds very likely judge attractiveness by very different standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 04:20 PM
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I don't really think any amount of attractiveness would make it easier for me to deal with the long term issues that could arise from the relationship. In a partner I would either require someone that is successful and career oriented or someone that is homely (not sure if that's the right word). This is lacking both. I envision myself coming home from work to a messy house and on top of working I would also need to clean, make dinner, etc.... for someone that I'm completely financially supporti…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 03:33 PM
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Probably. Mostly pushing it with the lazy and messy part because I don't see any long term potential with that. Does the "no real job prospects" mean she doesn't have any career options and only can get low effort/skill jobs? Either way I wouldn't want to date someone that I would need to provide for. That's a benefit that I provide for a wife. That being said. I recognize that my desperation can sway my judgement and possibly permit these things despite the issues I see. At some point the lazin…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 02:51 PM
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The point is mostly that I would expect her to have her own form of transportation and not rely on me to take her places. I don't want to play taxi driver for a borderline stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 06:58 PM
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Because when I was 20 my standards for dating were different. My standards for dating are slightly different than my standards for a long term relationship and marriage. While dating I expect a woman to have some semblance of independence. I have no intention of filling a provider role until well within a relationship. At that point those things become optional.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 03:32 PM
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I don't really view random people as behind or ahead when it comes to things like that. Only in terms of how I would interact with them. Live your life however it works for you, if it doesn't work for me then that's just an incompatibility. I would expect a woman that I'm interested in dating to say least have a full time job and a car because I have no intention of filling a provider role while dating or even early in a relationship. As time goes on I'm more willing to fill that role, until the…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 03:25 PM
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Currently married to one. Edit: to finally answer your question. HELL NO. My standards have raised since I aged. That stuff is kinda expected at 20. I'm 25 now. I expect a woman to at least have a full time job and a car. Don't care about living situations though. That's tough for everyone. I'm a WFH software dev and love to enjoy the majority of my day with my wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 05:51 AM
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Yeah me too
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 10:52 PM
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She is.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 09:56 PM
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As a partner for me, amazing 10/10. Rating myself is difficult because I don't like myself. I'd say that I'm pretty average though, maybe above average. We're both a little messy and somewhat struggle with self care. I'm more financially literate though. We spend about the same amount of time on household chores.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 09:55 PM
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So about 10 million.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 07:59 PM
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Congrats you've described my wife. She's incredibly average.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 07:56 PM
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True. Didn't even need to prefix it with "young"
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 06:59 PM
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5/10 for looks, 10/10 by every other metric. Been married nearly 5 years. She just looks average. Yes 100% truly desire to be with her. I'm not really the type of person to get celebrity crushes or anything like that. Yeah I recognize when I see a beautiful woman. It's not really something that remains in my thoughts. I'm pretty low libido in general so we pretty much have sex whenever I want. Maybe 1-2 times a week, though she'd like more. Yeah I'd stand by my choice. The only person that affec…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 06:26 AM
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I don't think anyone is expecting a debate here is going to change their life or the women in their lives. I think it's mostly about justifying or formulating their own view and making changes for themselves with that new or more entrenched mindset.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 02:06 AM
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Honestly I think everything you've said is pretty fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 09:57 PM
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Part of me wants to just make a dating profile and swipe right 100 times to show you that a whopping 0 matches will result of it. But that's too much hassle for me. What I do know though, is that women are more likely to hold conversations and continually message average/unattractive men that they match with according to okcupid data. https://techcrunch.com/2009/11/18/okcupid-inbox-attractive/ Women(statistically) are just as likely to hold a conversation with someone they find the least attract…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 09:53 PM
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Do looks matter to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 09:28 PM
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Yeah it's pretty weird but I think it's something that happens all the time. Sidenote, It's one reason why I see a fair amount of women insist on paying for themselves on dates. Because a decent chunk of men expect something from paying.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 05:39 PM
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I can't explain simp mentality. Be nice to her ...somethin somethin..... profit?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 05:28 PM
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It's also in the form of providing services for free or cheap. My sister literally went on a dating app to get her oil changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 05:12 PM
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Sentience is valued, it may not be key. Men interested in AI aren't interested in replacing women. They're interested in filling a void. Sentience isn't necessary for that void to be filled. At least that's my take on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 04:01 PM
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What you asked is a strawman. Why does it matter if men value sentience in women? Why phrase it as "you don't think men value sentience in women?" When women weren't even mentioned in this thread?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 03:50 PM
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That's a strawman. AI are not valued as sentient people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 03:37 PM
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Dating in 20s isn't just about beauty, it's about lack of baggage as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/24 01:19 AM
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No one's saying it is. That's as stupid as saying the clitoris itself is a magic orgasm button when it's clearly not because every woman is different. Anyone who's had sex with multiple women would know this.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 07:40 PM
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I just don't see why you're trying to make this distinction. What are we supposed to call this area that is clearly still pleasurable? Come up with a new term because the science behind the old term has been debunked? Linguistics and science don't always agree with each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 07:35 PM
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Excuse me did you mean vulva? /s
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 07:32 PM
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In other words... There's a spot inside the vagina that's extra sensitive because of the clitoris.... Commonly referred to as the g-spot. Sounds like it exists to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 07:27 PM
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Whenever someone says g-spot, they're referring to the internal part of the clitoris for future reference. It exists as part of the clitoris.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 07:12 PM
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It literally doesn't matter. You just gotta know how to pleasure a woman. That's all it comes down to. Big dick is just an aesthetic just like having big muscles.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 07:03 PM
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Yeah so essentially the same thing was said. I made a general statement then narrowed the scope to women in the following sentence. This creates an implied expression that it's not about seeking equality for everyone. My comment essentially boiled down to. "They're seeking equality with a focus on women" and theirs as "They're not seeking true equality because they're focusing on women and they don't care about men's issues"
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 03:46 PM
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Depends on who you reach out to in my experience. If you reach out to your boss they're more likely to just give advice to stay away from her and try to resolve the situation in an unofficial way than for them to follow the actual reporting policy. If you reach out to HR they strictly go by policy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 11:38 PM
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I guess we can take it sentence by sentence. Feminism isn't really about equality. It's not in the sense that they don't focus on men's issues, mainly women's issues. Here's an implied expansion on my first sentence: The fact is that feminism is a movement about seeking equality (for women). It's primarily about the self-aggrandizement of women. Yeah, their main concerns are women's issues and promoting women as powerful and important too. Feminists are pretty uninterested in 'equalizing' social…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 06:04 PM
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I'm married and 3 and 5 have been very important for my relationship. 6 is pretty much non-existent and I couldn't care less. 1, 2, and 4 just seem like givens for a relationship in general. But 3 and 5 seem more like conscious efforts.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 03:09 AM
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My frame of reference has nothing to do with what's rooted in actual reality and isn't necessary to discuss this topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 05:10 PM
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Okay so why is this information necessary for the topic?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 04:46 PM
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You've already made up your mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 04:43 PM
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This whole reply was a strawman. I don't identify as a feminist and I didn't discount any other person's affiliation with feminism. Learn to read.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 02:50 PM
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That's what I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 01:56 PM
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You're attaching a personal sentiment to an ideology and claiming it's an action of that ideology. Reality is nothing remotely man-hating has been achieved through feminism. So by your own logic, it's not a man-hating movement.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 01:56 PM
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The fact is that feminism is a movement about seeking equality. Their main concerns are women's issues. It doesn't matter if they elect the most misandrist leader you could think of to represent them. Their views of men does not change the goal and purpose of the movement. How they feel doesn't matter. Their goals and achievements in the name of feminism is what matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 01:42 PM
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All this shows is that some feminists are also misandrist and some notable figures have bad takes. Looking to the past, I judge movements like these not by the leaders, notable figures, or general sentiment, but only by what they have achieved and the stated goals of a movement. It doesn't matter and is frankly irrelevant how the people following a movement feel. Feminism isn't a man hating movement. It's not the stated goal and it hasn't been demonstrated by the things that were achieved in the…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 01:19 PM
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I don't know why. They never seemed to have a problem with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 01:59 AM
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It's a mixture of one-sided stories, bias, tribal instinct, and coyness. It exists in any friend group really. When your friend is upset about someone you don't know, you're immediately biased towards your friend. Your friend is a "good" person. People that wrong your friend are "bad" people.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 05:49 PM
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4/15 I had no social life in school. Girls always seemed to have an interest though.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 02:43 PM
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Just giving you a fair response for your efforts. Enjoy your day.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 09:18 PM
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Your organ donation example isn't even comparable to pregnancy and I don't care to argue about bodily autonomy. Since that's all this reply seems to be about, I don't care to elaborate.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 09:14 PM
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The equity part of it is that society pays to support these kids via taxes. This tends to happen regardless. Men that are unwilling or unable to pay child support end up imprisoned and become a bigger burden on our taxes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 08:58 PM
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Abortion is not about parenthood, but bodily autonomy Abortion is about parenthood, bodily autonomy is the justification. You don't get an abortion because "my body my choice" you get an abortion because "I can't/don't want to be a parent". Medical issues aside. Men do not have abortion rights because they can't get pregnant, its that easy. This point ignores the argument entirely. if a fetus could survive outside of the womb of a woman, the woman would still be liable for child support. Late te…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 08:40 PM
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In general, the less necessary a relationship is, the less likely it is to happen or last. If a woman doesn't view the benefits of a relationship as worthy enough to risk seeking one, it just won't happen. Why bother when your life won't improve much and depending on your own personal success, will most likely cause your quality of life to decrease by getting into a relationship. Men face a similar issue. One key difference is that men don't need to face as much of a risk in seeking a relationsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 06:46 PM
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You're welcome ma'am.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 09:57 PM
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Just answering your question ma'am.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 08:14 PM
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Many outfits marketed towards women accentuate body parts that are commonly involved in sex. This is seen as provocative.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 09:44 AM
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25
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 12:44 AM
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Bruh my first date with my wife was at a trampoline park. Cost $5 each.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 12:42 AM
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It's not an issue for me. Been married 4 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 12:31 AM
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I think it's mainly because anyone who associates with being a "passport bro" are usually upset about the dynamic of hetero relationships in the West. I've personally noticed a few gay people I associate with upset about the hookup culture and started looking towards places like Japan or the Philippines. What could also contribute to this is the fact that the more "traditional" a culture, the more discrimination they generally face.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 03:13 PM
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I think the number is interesting too. And yes, it could mean a lot of things. I noticed that the rate of cheating or "concurrent partners" is drastically higher for example. This could indicate unstable relationships causing them to end and leading to them seeking another partner. Whereas the average guy will have longer committed relationships and on average have a lower amount of sexual partners due to their healthier relationships. There's so many different things that could be going on, but…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/24 02:39 PM
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And do what? Support the same exact thing but better™?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 07:39 AM
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This has already devolved into stupid gotchas. Good ideas can come from a person that does bad things. Likewise, good intentions can lead to horrible executions.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 07:34 AM
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Don't even know your fallacies 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 07:14 AM
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Because social movements aren't people. George Washington was a literal slave owner. I still support the American independence movement that he led though. Follows the same logic of separating the art from the artist. People with good ideas can do bad things. They're people. People are complex.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 07:10 AM
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Living with the results of fraud doesn't mean you've accepted it. If someone defrauds me of my life savings and I've grown accustom to living frugally regardless of if I get my money back, that doesn't mean I've accepted the fraud. It just means I've accepted what my life has become. The fraud comes from the uninformed act. When you become informed about the situation, it is no longer fraud from that moment on. It is an informed choice. The past remains fraudulent. Accepting or forgiving what wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 08:31 PM
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True. Doesn't mean they're mad about it though. I think the movement itself is pretty stupid. I'm not mad about it either. Some people are just a bit more loose with the insults to emphasize a point.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 10:10 AM
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I don't see how a statement like that means the writer is mad about the movement. Seems like you're just attributing an emotion to it because it says something negative about the women involved so the writer must somehow feel negatively because of the movement.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 09:53 AM
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Maybe you're reading in the wrong tone.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 09:40 AM
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I haven't seen anyone mad about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 09:30 AM
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Why would I associate with anyone who's misandrist? Of course I don't know anyone in my personal life who's misandrist. I interact with people who clearly are occasionally though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 07:26 AM
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Nah, if more women join the 4B movement you're literally just doing what they've been wanting you to do from the start. They want women to be less promiscuous, more reserved, less sex positive, and more selective about who they have sex with. 4B sounds a lot like those abstinence pacts, but everyone knows they get broken for the right guy in the right place at the right time.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 04:20 AM
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That's subjective and irrelevant to what I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 03:57 PM
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What's obvious to you isn't obvious to everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 03:46 PM
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Even if I did agree, I don't see how it follows that I would be upset about a political outcome. If the majority of people that vote think Trump is the best choice, he may very well be the best choice and it allows me to reflect on and question my own worldview, biases, and assumptions. I may disagree with outcomes, but there's no reason for me to get upset. The only fools are the ones who don't vote.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 02:40 PM
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Why should I be upset about any of that?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 02:30 PM
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I might just be an optimist but I think the majority of people have good intentions for everyone. So that might be why those are the only barriers I see.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 01:21 PM
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This is pretty spot on. Breaking that loop takes communication, understanding, and patience which is difficult to achieve in a lot of online spaces.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 01:03 PM
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Because it's not a joke anymore, it's an exaggeration. Women don't want to "kill all men" but a large group of women definitely resent or even despise a large group of men. When you have strong opinions about a non-insignificant proportion of a demographic, it's easy to conflate that to the entire demographic because humans are bad with numbers at scale.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 12:23 PM
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Do you disagree with the justification? If so, why?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 11:06 PM
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Words are used however the people that use them make sense of them. Dictionaries document the use of words. You can argue semantics, offer an alternative word that better fits the meaning, or actually engage in the topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 10:42 PM
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I don't really care about someone's ideology when choosing to protect them from harm. If you're able and willing to protect someone from harm, but the only thing holding you back is that they might have an ideology that you don't like, you're no different than what's threatening them anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 10:26 PM
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Yeah I don't really care what other people think about my situation. It's only necessary when it involves police or a judge. Cheating is way easier to get acknowledged even if they're victim blaming. Physical abuse is often met with denial and dragged feet by authorities. On one hand you have people who want to avoid the most mental/physical damage and the other hand you have people who want the easy out. Having my partner cheat is the easier out.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 10:16 PM
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As I guy I'd rather have a woman cheat. Makes it easier to justify leaving especially in cases where divorce is involved. Physical abuse against men isn't really taken all that seriously, especially when it doesn't lead to injuries.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 09:20 PM
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Touch grass please.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 10:18 PM
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Only if it's new. Hate this question.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 07:11 PM
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I'd adjust my third sentence. Men are generally more open to casual sex with average looking women. Other than that I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 06:11 AM
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Women in general are interested in attractive men. Attractive men are more capable of having casual sex with women that are interested in them. Women that are interested in casual sex want it with an attractive man. Women that are interested in relationships can be seduced into having casual sex with an attractive man.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 05:32 AM
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I think it's mostly a projection. Let's assume that men are generally more willing to have sex than women are. If the roles were reversed and men had the same opportunities to have sex that women do, those men are likely to partake in the sexual activities that they're accusing the women of doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 01:28 AM
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Both are equally appealing to me. I'd pick the first option purely for the fact that I don't really like hanging posters on walls and I feel like I'd have to compromise on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 12:21 AM
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Just my personal perspective on happiness. My happiness is completely unrelated to my relationship status. However a fulfilling relationship with a partner that brings happiness would definitely make me happier. Leaving a partner that contributes to 0% of my happiness would still be 0% happiness if I'm single. The stress and issues involving going from relationship to single would contribute more to my unhappiness if anything. I hope I'm making sense here. I'm not sure if I explained that well e…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 12:07 AM
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That's a different topic
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 06:34 PM
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Nah it's psychological exploitation. Seduction from a sex worker is a manipulative act to manipulate a man into paying for their services. Similarly addicts who crave a certain product are targeted and their mental status as an addict is exploited.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 05:04 PM
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Nah. It's fine to leave if you no longer love your SO. But you're going to be unhappy regardless of whether you're single or in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 04:55 PM
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Same way tobacco companies exploit nicotine addicts.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 04:50 PM
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To some people that's better than "sticking your dick in crazy". And I feel like it would appeal most to those that are most likely to do that. Those who would seek an abusive relationship instead of being single because of their loneliness or desperation.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 12:57 AM
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I doubt it. AI soldiers are unnecessary and more difficult to produce. Mass produced drone based combat swarms with an AI hub controller is the most likely scenario imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 12:52 AM
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The capacity to feel emotions isn't necessary to respond to them appropriately or even mimic them. We currently see this in the realm of psychology where people learn the appropriate responses and develop masking behavior to respond as expected. I'd say the drawbacks would be about the same as being with a highly intelligent psychopath (non-derogatory) which for a decent chunk of guys I feel wouldn't be an issue to have around while they're looking for a relationship with an actual person.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 12:44 AM
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Doesn't need emotions to be emotionally stimulating.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 12:28 AM
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What makes you think there's no emotional, romantic or intellectual stimulation? That's the reason people interested in AI aren't even considering your second option.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 12:26 AM
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No. Also 0% risk of stds or pregnancy, more convenient, multiple personalities, potentially cook/clean.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 12:19 AM
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I think any largely successful AI gf would not only be challenged by women, but also stockholders of just about every industry, and religious people. We already have a declining birthrate. When a decent chunk of men can just buy a decent companion for the price of a gently used car, the world is going to have issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 12:10 AM
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Yeah people can live a life without tending to their social needs the same way they can live a life without tending to their nutritional needs. It's not healthy but it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 02:48 PM
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The only thing bad about the first choice is the complete financial dependence. I'd have no issues quitting my job to be a stay at home parent if my partner can provide. It just doesn't make sense to have that be the expectation for the relationship without marriage or before a relationship has even begun.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 11:24 PM
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Most men want a mix of both. These are strict examples. I'd love to be a modern woman and find a man that's interested in a traditional relationship where I don't need to work. But going all in on being a trad wife before you're even in a good relationship with a successful man that can provide is a good way to end up homeless.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 09:56 PM
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Age gaps don't matter to me so I'd have no problem with it. At that age I would expect her to be financially stable and independent. Kids are a plus because I'm infertile and I'd like to be a parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 12:00 AM
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That just means you're not attractive enough to date her even with your personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 08:45 PM
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Exaggerated caricatures in memes are unrealistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 08:44 PM
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It's not sneaky to be friendly before flirty. Don't go with the intent of dating them, see if they're the kind of person you even want to date before expressing interest. Plus it's a better route for people that aren't as attractive physically. When you're friendly before flirty, attraction isn't purely the physical aspect, they know you now so your personality could also be attractive. Being direct, the only thing that impacts their attraction to you is your physical attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 05:30 PM
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Providing doesn't bring me any joy or sense of fulfillment. I do it out of necessity.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 01:17 PM
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You're misunderstanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 12:43 PM
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Modern woman obviously. Betting your entire way of life on someone else's success and feelings towards you is so risky it's stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 12:16 PM
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Don't really feel like touching this. It's pretty off base. I just wanted to say I like the pic on your profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 12:00 PM
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It depends, if defending herself involves beating up another person, that's an ick. If defending herself involves protecting her vitals with her arms and legs, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 05:31 AM
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If it's a fight worth fighting, I'll be the one to fight it. I'm attracted to feminine women, not aggressive women. I'd rather have her run and hide behind me. It would boost my confidence, ego, and make me feel respected and needed.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 05:26 AM
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Nah. Being part of any sort of altercation is an ick for me. Doesn't matter if you're winning or losing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/24 05:15 AM
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Well I wouldn't phrase it like that, but yes. I'd be so clueless I'd hand it back and be like "oh this isn't mine but thank you".
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 05:37 PM
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That kind of thought wouldn't even come to mind, I'd just be happy someone's interest in me. But if I'm forced to pick adjectives they would be cool, confident, smart, potentially entitled or awkward. Someone handing me a phone without a word is pretty strange. Especially if they're expecting me to do something with it. Like is this a free phone or do you want me to look at something? Last thing I'd think of is putting my phone number in it. I'm pretty clueless. Gotta use a few words.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 05:27 PM
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Ah yeah that makes sense. I thought of it more as in no one should be able to officially do it, not just in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 04:03 PM
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It took 2 people to create the child, it should take 2 people to fund it. Fair is fair. Takes 2 to make a child, 2 (arguably) to fund it, but only 1 person has the final decision. This isn't fair at all. Financial abortion evens the fairness without encroaching on a woman's autonomy. You could have used protection 🙄 It's in the best interest of the child and less kids would be born if the mom knew there'd be no support True, that's why I think the cutoff for financial abortion should be at least…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 03:53 PM
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If both quietly agree, parents already have the option of not seeking child support.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 03:44 PM
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Using fiction to learn what people are attracted to is no different from using SpongeBob SquarePants to learn marine biology. This isn't the argument you present. This is a similar argument. To address this, no one uses fiction to learn what people are attracted to. This would be equivalent to using a fictional woman's attraction to a fictional man to learn what real women are attracted to. A fictional woman's measure of attraction has no bearing in reality. People instead use a real woman's att…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 11:11 PM
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Your argument is a false equivalence. A character's attractiveness doesn't change, whether they're fictional or not. The difference is the facts of a fictional world don't always correlate to reality. To answer your question, there are things that I "learned" from SpongeBob, but not everything in SpongeBob is factual. I "learned" that snails meow. But what I learned wasn't factual in reality. I learned that lobsters are different from crabs. This is factual in reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 10:52 PM
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That's not really the argument you're making.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 09:08 PM
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These two things aren't equivalent. In one instance you have real women attracted to a fictional character and in another instance you have a fictional character presumably providing fictional information. Women's attraction to the fictional character is real. Whether that reflects in their dating life is another argument. This argument however is flawed.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 07:55 PM
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Is this a no true Scotsman fallacy? No, it's a false cause.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 06:05 PM
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Nah. I'm married now but I think in this situation I probably would have spent more time dating before ultimately settling down like I am now.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 06:09 PM
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I don't really care about the opinions of others for personal things.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/24 05:11 PM
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There's nothing offensive to women here. In this situation the man is just viewed as an insecure fool.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 08:07 AM
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In other words they're not guilty.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:17 AM
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That's a separate charge for a different person.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 03:05 AM
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I always support the defense until they're proven guilty.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/24 02:19 AM
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I've never witnessed anyone hating promiscuous women unless they were in a relationship with that woman and discovered that they're actively promiscuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 08:49 PM
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Unless it's a sex bot apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 11:45 PM
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Shame only changes public behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 03:52 AM
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Thanks but I'd rather objectify an object, not a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 03:45 AM
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I put my clothes in a closet. Is it weird that I consider that a separate room?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 07:16 PM
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I think most people, including cheaters, view cheating as an immoral act. I don't agree that this kind of education would change anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 04:56 PM
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Nah, they should both have their own leisure/entertainment room though. The bedroom is for sleep and cuddles.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 04:07 PM
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I don't see how that's relevant. Could you elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 04:04 PM
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I feel that even if cheating only occurred in 1% of marriages that it's necessary. Realistically it occurs in 10-20%
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 03:00 PM
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Because I recognize that even the most trustworthy person can lie and the most loyal partner can cheat. Foolish to assume something like that couldn't possibly happen to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 02:24 PM
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Don't know why you're bringing up addiction here. It's clear OP doesn't envy them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 12:55 AM
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Yet most women can't reach it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 07:01 PM
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It's just an analysis of their relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 06:40 PM
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Where?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/24 04:12 PM
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The point is it's on the level of birth control not car crashes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 08:58 PM
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Similar enough to birth control. If sex is a choice, why does insurance cover birth control methods?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 08:47 PM
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No. That's not ideal at all for me. It's just not a deal breaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 08:18 AM
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Honestly had a few run-ins with this kind of thing with my wife. It's not about laziness, it's about enforcing my expectation of clear and consistent communication patterns. If she's upset I'll ask what's bothering her every now and then throughout the day, but if she says nothing I'm not going to pry further in that moment. It's frustrating and goes against my own standards of communication within a relationship. At that point it's up to her to decide when to open up or keep her problem to hers…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 09:43 PM
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Man arguing with people who can't read looks really exhausting. You 100% make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 07:02 PM
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I'd say we're pretty much in agreement on this then.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 01:58 AM
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Objectification doesn't only happen in a sexual context. You're right about that. The hockey player in your example is being objectified as a form of entertainment. The issue many women have is when they are sexually objectified. Being reduced to an object that serves a sexual purpose. Checking people out isn't sexual objectification, neither is having an opinion on nor commenting about a woman's attractiveness. This we agree on. But desiring someone in a purely physical way is sexually objectif…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 09:58 PM
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Man I thought he was referencing the 13% from the post
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 04:44 AM
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If we're sexually incompatible I see no reason to continue the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 11:19 AM
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MatchCap - After 5 matches, no more swiping. Unmatch to someone continue. This is to prevent people from just using it as an ego boost. Part of the issue is the selectiveness of women and the lack of selectiveness in men. Increasing the selectiveness overall will result in the same problem. The 5 match rule should only apply to men in combination with a right swipe counter to increase their selectiveness. I think that by artificially increasing the selectiveness of men, women will become less se…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 06:08 AM
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That's pretty funny. Thanks for this 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 05:40 AM
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I'd say something supportive of him and that he should get better friends. Assuming he's an adult I would expect that he's learned to associate with people that don't make him feel bad about himself
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 02:14 AM
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Only if he asked. It's not really my business otherwise
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 01:36 AM
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I don't feel hurt or invalidated by the idea of being a BB by Red pill ideology. I feel frustrated that they view that negatively or lesser. I'd rather someone view me as a good husband and father than a sexy fuck stud.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 01:05 AM
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A lot of military guys retire at 38 and choose to live in a low income area.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 09:45 AM
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What about early retirement?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 09:41 AM
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Instead of actually engaging with her comment you're just invalidating it with an assumption due to your own bias. It's disingenuous because you've already decided what happened and why instead of having a genuine discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 09:37 AM
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Would it still be necessary if one person's income could provide for both?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 09:25 AM
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Is unemployment a deal breaker for you in general or was it just that one situation?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 09:15 AM
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Disingenuous responses like this are annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 09:11 AM
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I don't think I had any male role models but I kinda relate to the second paragraph. I feel as if I don't know how to express a lot of my emotions despite being able to identify them and feel them. This includes feelings of joy and other positive emotions as well. I often feel like I'm putting on a mask when I'm expected to express my emotions. I never mask for anger or similar emotions. And only mask for sadness when someone's expecting sympathy from me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 08:58 PM
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Derivative ethicality is something I don't even wanna get into. Short answer is everything is unethical
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/24 12:07 PM
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A social circle isn't just your friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 02:24 PM
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Consensus seems to be that red pill men actually encourage education as long as it's useful and relevant. They don't care if she gets a bit of dick on the side. It's her life but obviously they'll try to guide her into healthy relationships as her parent and teach her not to waste her beauty in her youth on low value men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/24 04:54 AM
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I feel like that's a secondary reason but not the main reason for most guys. Like you go there to have fun and maybe pickup a chick. Your nights not ruined if you're not lucky.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 11:18 AM
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I disagree with this, but let's pretend I agree. The women attending singles events aren't trying to hook up or get laid. They're trying to find someone worthy enough to be their bb. Why would a guy want that if they can just go to a club for some "entertainment"?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 10:58 AM
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Seems overly complicated for something that the state can just do.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 09:55 AM
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How does this prevent a person from having multiple valid marriages from multiple private institutions and committing fraud?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 09:22 AM
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These didn't even address the actual issues. How can the state accurately apply policies that involve marriage status without keeping a record of marriages? Marriage fraud has nothing to do with businesses.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 08:57 AM
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I'd prefer to have a single state entity managing things like this than multiple private institutions. This just sounds like you want to raise the barrier for entry rather than actually get the government out. Not having the state involved makes it very difficult to accurately keep records of marriages and refer to them for policies involving marriage. This could introduce a much larger amount of marriage fraud than already exists today. Not to mention issues that could arise from polygamous mar…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:33 AM
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The difference between a club and a singles event is that the majority of people go to a club for entertainment. Dating isn't the focus of the event. Meaning a wide variety of people are attending, including people that you actually want to date. I'd rather be rejected by someone I actually want to be with than settle for someone out of desperation. As a man, if you're going to a singles event, it's most often the latter and they still reject you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 04:08 AM
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As a man I tend to associate criminals or thugs of physical crimes with someone that looks poor. Usually wearing clothing that doesn't fit, ripped, damaged, dirty or otherwise defaced. Usually poor grooming habits as well, so I might also have a bias towards ugly people being more likely to be criminals. One caveat being that I consider fat to be an ugly trait but I view fat people as less likely to commit crimes. Probably due to my bias that just because they're fat, they're less physically abl…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 07:50 PM
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As a man this doesn't bother me at all. I recognize that everyone has the potential to do bad things. A woman avoiding me or being cautious around me because I have the potential of harming her makes absolute sense. About 1 in 6 women will be or have been raped in their lifetime. Those are horrible odds. The majority(over 50%) of this kind of violence happening in a woman's high school/college years (14-24). That means that every friend group that a woman is a part of likely has a story of some …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 05:12 PM
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Yeah definitely doesn't sound fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 01:55 PM
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I think in the past relationships were less about love and more about duty. You basically just found someone you kinda like in your local neighborhood or town and started courting. The wife had the duty to maintain the house and kin while the husband had the duty to provide and protect. It seems like it was more of a cooperative relationship out of necessity instead of feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 05:42 AM
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Usually it was the people I tried to help that told me to mind my business. "Are you okay? What happened?" Followed by "None of your business". Eventually I stop asking and ignore it. No one liked me when I was little though so that might've played into the way they responded to me. Didn't actually have any friends until high school. Adults usually had some valid reasons for saying that admittedly. Like a kid was playing with a needle he found on the playground and I decided to take it from him …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 08:08 PM
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I think it's because men are more likely to respond to scenarios where there is a an imminent physical threat that could potentially be a danger to themselves or those that they care about. Emotions aren't seen as problems that immediately need to be addressed. They can't kill you. Your problems aren't my problems. Growing up I was often told to mind my business or let an adult handle it even if I knew I could help someone with something. I don't really know if this is a men's issue but because …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 06:19 PM
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I often see this kind of logic being used when women are being sexist and then claim they're not sexist because they're the oppressed class to justify being sexist towards men. Maybe OP could be talking about a similar mentality that some women have. That's immediately what my mind went to though
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/24 07:47 AM
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The men that want relationships with women they hate do it simply for selfish reasons. Relationships have benefits. Sometimes those benefits are better than being alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/24 03:32 PM
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I would not pursue a long term relationship with anyone that was only interested in me for my financial status. My financial status changes from forces outside of the relationship. I'd rather not have something that I can't control be what chooses the fate of my relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/24 10:44 PM
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I feel like these are different subjects.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:57 PM
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"The discussion isn't about "success" it's about financial security" it's about the disadvantage that women face when it comes to traditional relationships. OP uses a financial disadvantage as an argument. If it were simply an argument about financial disadvantage in traditional relationships, there's no other way in interpreting it and there is no argument or point of discussion. Whoever is not the provider is obviously disadvantaged. I bring up the topic of success as a medium for my counterar…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 06:52 PM
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Sure. They're at a disadvantage when it comes to career prospects. I'm certain most women who choose to be a SAHM know this. Women are very intelligent. Whether that matters to you or not depends on your own personal measure of success so it doesn't bother me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 03:55 PM
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Every choice in life puts you at a disadvantage somewhere. When you choose to be a SAHM you choose to give up professional career prospects. If that's what you personally consider a success, then yes it's a disadvantage. Choosing to be a SAHM at that point becomes a career choice when it shouldn't even be considered that way. If you don't measure your success by the money that ends up in your bank account, then you've been living successfully the entire time because you've spent all the time you…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 03:31 PM
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Nah cuz you're a troll.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 05:33 AM
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Something pointless to discuss with someone like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 04:36 AM
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Never said anyone was.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 03:21 AM
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Untaxed doesn't mean free.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 09:30 PM
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Policies can be discriminatory despite applying to "everyone". This is one instance of that happening. It doesn't matter that anyone can go and buy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:44 PM
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Best I can think of is sales tax on feminine products that are considered a necessity by today's standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 02:23 PM
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No but now I'll never consider it an option
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 12:26 AM
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A good reason to avoid France then.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 10:03 PM
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Knowing the child isn't theirs ruins the family's stability anyway. Making the men who don't want to be a part of an unstable family pay only makes sense when the government doesn't want to be the one left to support the woman and child using government resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 09:33 PM
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I feed her m&ms whenever she wants
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 08:34 PM
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Yeah there are common thoughts people go through for common topics. Men constantly get called insecure when they bring up any kind of preference concerning a woman's past.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/24 06:16 PM
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I think it's because when most men pursue relationships being "friendly" doesn't work. You don't act like you want to be friends when you want to be in a relationship with someone, you act like a love interest. It's difficult to consider a spouse to be your friend when you haven't been treating them like a friend from the very start. You've been treating them like a date/love interest/girlfriend/fiancee/spouse. The only time you have the context of friends is if you were genuinely friends before…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/24 10:22 PM
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I'm uncomfortable with it and don't seek it. Best reason I can think of for someone insisting on anal is the reduced likelihood of pregnancy allowing the man to skip using a condom.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 06:05 PM
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I tend to under exaggerate when I don't hold a view and over exaggerate when I do due to personal bias.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 03:44 PM
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It's not obvious to me at all. How does having a powerful partner make someone a victim?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 12:47 PM
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I think most troubled women struggle to figure out that they're with shitty men. No one* would willingly enter a relationship with a shitty person if they knew that person was shitty. Most people wouldn't stay in the relationship after figuring out they were shitty. The people that do are usually victims and/or mentally ill.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 12:31 PM
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Exploiting the rules is intelligent. Following the rules is normative. Getting exploited by the rules is unintelligent.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 12:09 PM
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The problem with "intelligent" people is that they over analyze things like this and rationalize out emotions in an attempt to understand a hypothetical dynamic that could work. Except human nature isn't rational so they view people that are content to accept human nature despite certain inefficiencies as less intelligent.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 12:03 PM
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"Lol the usage of cuck (as a derogatory)" not being derogatory. "When a guy goes and has sex with other women, is his girl a cuck?" Yes "Cause people don’t usually use cuck when talking about women “getting cheated on”." Didn't know you were talking about cheating. "Sex is just sex. It is probably one of the weakest avenues to show that you love someone." Still an expression of love. "You don’t have sex with your family members, and you don’t have sex with your best friends of the same sex." I'm…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 11:51 AM
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You don't need intelligence to be a cuck. Sex is a physical expression of love like hugging and kissing. Plenty of people have platonic sex but most people in a monogamous relationship prefer to have all physical expressions of love remain within the relationship because they're part of what makes a romantic relationship special. Having a relationship with someone that has casual sex with her friends wouldn't be much different than just being a friend at that point. What would be the point of fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 10:42 AM
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What's wrong with that? Does having a powerful partner make you a victim?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 03:21 AM
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I don't see how they're victims.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 01:21 AM
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I'd say so. I don't really have that mindset but from what I notice that's what it looks to be. It's like watching a rich teenager spend their entire trust funds in their 20s and end up homeless in their 30s. Some people get a satisfaction out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 07:30 PM
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Simple. Because women over 30 finally experience a somewhat similar dating experience as the average man and they(women) hate it. So when they rant and complain about something those men were dismissed for, some of those men will make fun of her and criticize her life choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 07:21 PM
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I'd rather be alone than abused, but I'd rather have an opportunity with a woman even if she were an abuser (I wouldn't know it at the time obviously)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 07:16 PM
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"Oh boy no. Can't be making partners wait for sex!" Fair point. To clarify the 1 in 20 is out of people that show any kind of romantic interest towards me, even if it's just one conversation. The 20 is not just a random woman just as the 100 is not just a random man. In the few years I was dating before i met my wife about 50 women showed some kind of interest at some point in time. I went on dates with about 8 of them. Only one led to a long term relationship and I felt like another could have.…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 07:07 PM
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I'd take an opportunity to fail over no opportunities at all. I wouldn't willingly go into a failing relationship though. The benefit of hindsight would not be here and that's how I would end up in one.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 06:52 PM
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"You think a match is going to wait a year to go on a date with you?" No that's stupid "So that means you've got to pick the four most likely from your crop of 100." Clearly not a crop it's a stream "70 different people just to break 50% chance of finding a long term relationship. And this doesn't even count people you go on multiple dates with or, God forbid, have sex with (even if only 10% of the women you date end up sleeping with you, you're already at the max number of acceptable lifetime p…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 06:28 PM
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Could do it every 3-4 days throughout the year. Talk in between. It's not complicated. People get matches over time. Unmatching will happen, but so will matching.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 07:12 AM
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Means more than no options at all. I'd take a 1 in 100 over a 0 in 0 any day.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/24 05:27 AM
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I think that opinion is a huge cope. Statistics show that the more educated you are and the more career oriented you are, the less children you have. This is why highly developed societies all over the world are having a declining birth rate. Why these statistics correlate, I don't know. But if that's the marker for a HVM then they're the most likely to avoid a single mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 01:56 PM
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Both simulate this.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 09:56 AM
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During missionary sex the clitoris frequently contacts and rubs against the mons pubis on the man. This is where a lot of pleasure from PIV can come from. Oral sex on a woman simulates this and often feels better.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/24 09:29 AM
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If the only thing interesting about you is the drama you cause, when you no longer cause drama, you're no longer interesting. People are interested in more than just drama, if those interests aren't within the relationship, the relationship will become boring. Providing financial security, housing, etc isn't interesting. Being able to have fun together, having in depth conversations, working towards stability, and experiencing new things are some examples of what is interesting. They don't get b…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/24 06:40 PM
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I feel like a relationship isn't really comparable to tasks that should be done. The end of the relationship isn't the goal. The relationship itself is the goal. You can have initial expectations on a relationship, but over the course of time your expectations on how the relationship is carried out may change, or you might find that the relationship isn't meeting your expectations. Having expected outcomes doesn't really seem relevant for the whole of the relationship. You don't get anything out…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 06:04 PM
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A victim nonetheless.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 01:47 AM
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Status and wealth can be used to manipulate people. Some consider love bombing to be manipulation. Imagine how a wealthy person could love bomb someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 01:37 AM
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Just putting a point in your direction. As a teen I was super horny all the time. Now as a 25 year old my libido is so low I barely want sex more than a couple times a month.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 04:40 PM
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Dating lets you get to know someone that catches your interest. I wouldn't consider that a waste of time. Don't need to know anything about them to start dating. I don't care if you get scared by someone being interested in dating you. Your fears are your own to cope with.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/24 08:26 PM
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I think at this point you're just not socially aware of how using identifiers as an insult is insulting to people who identify with it. I'm not really going to try elaborating much further. Regardless that's how reality is, it's one of the reasons why retard is heavily censored because it's a medical term often used as an insult and there are people who identify with that disability.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 04:47 PM
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It doesn't matter who you're directing it to. When you use a word as an insult, it's insulting to people who might identify themselves with that word. If someone's being an asshole, call them an asshole. Using virgin as an insult is virgin shaming.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 04:19 PM
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And then their virginity or otherwise is used as an insult. Why you say it doesn't change the fact that you're using it as an insult. Using something as an insult implies that you view it negatively. Resulting in other people that fit that criteria feeling negatively about what's being used as an insult. That's why there was a whole commercial campaign about not using gay as an insult or to describe a negative situation. People used to say "that's so gay" to express something negative and not as…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 04:05 PM
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From what I've seen, Virgin shaming has only happened online in an indirect manner. To be clear, this is an anecdote. But I often see posts shaming incels. I often see incel being used as an insult. You don't need to be directly shamed by someone to feel shame about it. If someone insults another person for being an incel virgin, why would it not apply to you? You don't need to be directly insulted to feel insulted. Teasing and insulting another person for things that also apply to me feels just…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 03:49 PM
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I felt it was only necessary to talk about its basic category.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 11:59 PM
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I don't think anyone is seriously expecting guaranteed sex or relationships. I think people are frustrated and criticizing how our natural tendencies play into modern dating and how modern dating platforms are inherently superficial. Women often seek the attention of the most attractive men within their social reach. When it comes to online dating the measure for attraction is largely just looks in order for men to get any attention at all, leaving other measures of attractiveness off the table …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 05:31 PM
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I didn't need to include the whole venn diagram to talk about one characteristic.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 04:16 PM
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I stand by your previous statement too. That's why I rephrased it. A life revolving around sex is not an accurate depiction of what I'm trying to describe. Unfortunately I don't know a better way to explain it so that's a failure on my part.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 06:03 AM
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Nah. Things didn't work out and she just happened to pay on the date before things were called off. If she were interested in a 50 split, should've been done from the very first date. If someone did that to me I would have blocked them. I don't owe anyone my time or money. It's a choice when I give it out
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 05:53 AM
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It doesn't revolve around sex. It's simply treated as a necessary social interaction. Your life doesn't revolve around your social interactions, but because humans are social creatures we eventually become starved of it when we don't interact with other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 05:36 AM
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For a lot of guys sex is a need driven by instinct. It's not something you can just repress or ignore. That's why a lot of guys complain when they don't get it. They're thirsty for sex and they see women giving more of it to someone who already has enough. Of course they're going to be bitter about it and complain.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 04:09 AM
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I'd definitely take the first one if I were still looking for a relationship. Sex isn't really high on the priority list for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 09:47 PM
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When women want to have sex they have the benefit of being picky and choosing a hot guy to have sex with. They suddenly don't when it comes to average/ugly guys. It's not primal lust where some hot guy moistens her loins on sight. The option to have sex with a hot guy is pretty much always available to them so when they're getting that itch they just go for it with the next hot guy that interacts with them. She just likes to fuck hot guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 02:26 PM
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Healthy relationships don't usually fail because of doubt, lack of communication, jealousy and controlling behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 10:25 AM
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Honestly great points and I'm more on the accepting side of age gap relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 10:21 AM
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Not really much of a debate here. Your point isn't really clear. There's nothing tangible here to argue against, it's a story. This scenario can happen. Assuming this marriage is otherwise healthy, the failing factor seems like a stretch.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 10:17 AM
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The answer is pretty simple. His money's not even worth the trouble. Most men that age might spoil you with gifts or whatever, but you're not getting his fortune. His family is. Primary concern should be if the relationship is even worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 12:07 PM
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Perspective definitely helps. A lot of guys don't realize that most women deal with creeps on a daily basis. Most interactions with men often feels like they're trying to get into their pants now or sometime in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 03:59 PM
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From the perspective of guys that do this. It's not better at all because then you can't get what you want. All being honest and upfront does is lower your chances of getting what you want so there's no incentive to do it besides being morally righteous.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 03:19 PM
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No lies here.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 09:55 AM
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Your point isn't very clear. At the end of the day, dating is very different for both genders. Women often need to worry about their future and safety, men often just have to not be abusive or a creep. Sometimes they mess up and abuse and/or creepiness ensues. Not hard to imagine someone being defensive around men when you're not certain which ones can be the kind of men you're avoiding. You shouldn't be negative about this. It's not a personal attack. Bad apples ruin the collective of men, hard…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 09:38 AM
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Don't let other people's preferences dictate your life choices. That's something for your potential son to worry about 18ish years from now at the earliest. That's an entire generational gap. The things that people find attractive will be completely different. When did height start mattering so much? 5 years ago maybe? It's just a dating trend and most people actually don't care. You're worrying about a hypothetical situation in the far future through a lense that doesn't actually exist to the e…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/24 08:48 AM
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Politics, law, foreign relations are all based on morality, not logical thinking and factual evidence. What does that even mean to you? I see nothing wrong with more sympathetic leaders.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/24 08:01 AM
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Yeah. I'm actually planning on adopting with my wife. We want to be parents, doesn't have anything to do with legacy for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/24 09:28 PM
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I believe gender roles derive from society noticing a difference of some characteristics between genders and assigning that characteristic to the respective gender role, then perpetuating that gender role despite those characteristics not necessarily being valid anymore. In the past, most of a family's food and luxuries depended on characteristics that were good for hunting and farming. Newborns required breast milk in order to live. Naturally, the one that can produce breast milk will watch the…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 07:00 PM
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I lie on anonymous surveys. They're never truly anonymous. Especially when it's a workplace required anonymous survey. Like how would you know if I did it if it's anonymous?!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 08:23 PM
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You're right. Recent research debunked the existence of an alpha actually existing in nature. The closest dynamic of alpha/beta can be seen in Lions but that doesn't necessarily qualify because it's not an issue of respect, fear, or subservience. It's fight the resident male in a pride or leave. "Betas" don't exist in their structure. It's fight or die of starvation usually. If anything, alpha female has more scientific basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 07:08 PM
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Don't really have anything to add to this. I agree with you OP nothing wrong with age gap relationships. As long as they are not fetishized for their youth.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 04:08 AM
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Honestly seems like RP does more work in making men feel like they're never the prize. Examples of common topics include: AFBB, 80:20, hypergamy, etc... RPers will look at a normal marriage and call the guy a BB. RP makes it seem like seeking a committed relationship is a lose, lose situation for most men because women will always be looking for someone better or are settling. I don't agree with any of the quoted text in your post either, but RP perspective seems way worse to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 08:03 PM
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I think there's a fine line. It's perfectly understandable to be cautious despite the statistics because you can't be certain who could be a predator. I have an issue with it when cautious doubt bleeds into how women view men as a whole. "I'm not going to let him watch my kid because he could be a predator" is a vastly different mindset than "I'm not going to let him watch my kid because men are predators" I feel that the first is acceptable while the second isn't. Yeah sometimes it hurts and it…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 05:26 PM
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If you're too ugly to find someone to commit to you despite being top 10% of matches for 2 months straight, you need to be removed from the service for wasting people's time and to allow someone with better odds of success to have a chance. If you're average looking you wouldn't have a problem finding someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 04:08 PM
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Short answer is no. Regardless of if those women are on the app, there's no higher chance of matching with them. I'd much rather pay that amount of money to use an app where there's an expectation that you give at least one response to matches, male to female ratio strictly 5050 with wait-list. A matchmaker sets up your profile and hand picks the pool of users in your queue based on your interests. Users must be active or account gets returned to wait-list within 1 month. Only available for peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 10:28 AM
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If this represents the average man even in the slightest...I wouldn't blame women if they just stopped dating men altogether.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 06:46 PM
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A person that really underestimates the average man.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 01:24 PM
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This is the same line of logic where free will doesn't exist or that people only do good things for their own benefit. Sure, it can be that way if you view things through a very specific lense. Fact is when I see an attractive person on the street, I'm genuinely attracted to them. It's not transactional at all. I acknowledge my attraction and move on with my day. I'm not getting anything from them or interacting with them in any way. You're asserting that attraction and love are transactions the…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 05:06 AM
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Nah. I catered to their expectations. If they wanted something casual I'd treat things casual. If they wanted a serious long term relationship, I'd treat things with that mindset. Either way met lots of beautiful women and had great experiences before meeting my wife without stooping to the level of misrepresenting my intentions for sex. Most times the women involved were interested in long term relationships but ended things with me, not the other way around.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 09:20 PM
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My preferences were hookups, short term, and long term when I used a dating app. Met my wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 08:20 AM
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Depends on how long the race is. I'll keep running and eventually pass them. Either way I don't compare myself to others and just do my best.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 12:24 PM
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Nah. That's only true for hookups. In a relationship there's no difference between a natural and someone who communicates to improve. The end result is the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 12:08 PM
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Yeah. It's more about the sentiment though. Marriage is still something that people do when they intend to spend the rest of their life with someone despite these advances.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 01:46 PM
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Yes, I'm against policy that offers little benefit while permanently restricting an individual's autonomy with little or no legal recourse should things go wrong. Either I'm not reading the article you linked right, but that doesn't say anything to refute what I said about financial ruin. What I got out of it is that in PA both individual and joint accounts are considered to be marital property(unless the funds were inherited or already there before marriage) and excessive transactions are only …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 12:02 PM
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Opinion drives policy. I would be against this even being an option. A separation. Especially when you want to start living separate lives but are legally bound to each other and are unable to get the legal intervention you need in order to help facilitate that in a structured way. Nothing to stop a deadbeat husband from constantly "stealing" all y(our) assets and not contributing to the children while chilling in Hawaii. You're essentially getting rid of all legal avenues to stop your spouse fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 11:36 AM
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Yes, the key here is that it's purely a show of affection. There are no additional legal requirements or expectations, and they're usually smaller events without any proposal. Sometimes, new rings are exchanged, but it's a wedding band, not an expensive engagement ring. Your post indicates shelling out a bunch of money to the government, on a new ring, and on a grand event. It's just not worth it when you've already been together so long and have shown your commitment. I feel like it could also …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 11:10 AM
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Marriage as a concept is already till death. Some rando just got upset about it and changed the legal aspect. You're essentially just asking to bring back the old marriage but adding on fees and a restriction even after death. That doesn't sound romantic at all to me and just stressful and pointless. After 7 years of being married, you should already feel pretty committed. You don't need to say "hey honey let's have another expensive wedding and pay the government a bunch of money to get a chanc…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 10:24 AM
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As a married guy, this seems pointless and stupid. You're just taking what marriage was 200 years ago but making the social and legal aspects worse and more repulsive for the people involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 09:38 AM
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I'm for prenuptial agreements (though your description is inaccurate). Prenuptial agreements do not inherently protect assets earned during marriage. The specific assets protected must be listed in the document (existing business ownership, existing house ownership, existing car ownership). Anything not listed explicitly in the document is up for grabs in a courtroom because marriage is a document to combine existing and future assets. The exception to this are assets that you could potentially …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 04:57 PM
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Your argument seems to rely on calling someone a bad friend for no longer agreeing to be a friend. How can someone be a bad friend when they aren't a friend? It's illogical. Is a girlfriend a bad girlfriend for no longer wanting to be in a relationship? Is an employee a bad employee for deciding to quit their job? The quality of someone's role within any kind of extra personal dynamic is based on their actions during that dynamic, not the ending of the dynamic. When you're confessing to a friend…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 02:39 PM
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No. I respect my wife and my friends. I would not describe them as bitches.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 09:52 AM
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Allow me to be your counter example. Legit get withdrawals without internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 01:22 AM
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Or have close friends that do sex work and have casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 03:01 PM
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No reason to put in the effort to change it. It's on the women or they'll just be continually disappointed in their options and end up single or settling. You change it by not trying to meet their impossible standards and move onto someone more reasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 11:51 PM
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Yeah I've always found "just be yourself" to be very ignorant to the situation. That's why my usual advice is to be your best self. Highlight the good and interesting things about yourself but be genuine to who you are, what you enjoy, and what can be expected if you in a relationship. Most people won't like you, but the right people will.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 04:36 PM
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Exactly. Even if a woman's standards are objectively too high, unreasonable, or simply impossible. If you don't meet those standards, it's just not gonna happen. Most women's standards are possible and realistic though. When you meet those standards, the ball is in your court to decide who deserves to have a guy that meets all their standards by having standards of your own.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 03:43 PM
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Being socially awkward in general is "creepy" getting out of your comfort zone or breaking out of your shell is awkward and can ruin a vibe for the people around you. Being awkward is often perceived as "creepy"
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 05:30 AM
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Then she's not settling for me, and I'd be perfectly fine with that. I'd rather be loved because my wife thinks I'm amazing, not because I'm good enough. I don't even think about sex in regards to this.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 11:34 PM
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If I had the thought that my wife were settling for me, a hall pass wouldn't make it any better. If she wanted to be with another man, I'd rather have her be with him instead of being "stuck" with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 11:05 PM
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Could do without the self depreciating humor. It'd be nice if she were interested in video games and the tech industry.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 10:47 PM
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What repels me are excessive tattoos and tattoos that cover entire sections of your body. Facial piercings. Side shave hair styles. Lipstick. Chemically scented perfumes, hair products, etc.Trendwear(Supreme, moon boots). There's more but this is just off top of my head.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/24 04:32 PM
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This is just out of touch with reality. One of the most delusional posts I've seen here.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 11:24 AM
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Yeah I'd imagine both are pretty low confidence outliers that fail to get and maintain relationships within their respective dating ranges so start venturing outwards towards something that seem easier or better for their situation or goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 02:38 AM
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Okay but for the sake of an honest conversation what about a 33 year old with a receding hairline, slightly chubby, neurotypical, 5'9 and a general manager for 3 local McDonald's?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 02:29 AM
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I'd personally argue men reach their physical prime in their teens/20s and their mental prime in their 20s/30s. By the time a lot of men are mentally ready to settle down, their counterparts either already tried (2-4 ltr with children) or have been living a similar lifestyle to the man (20-30 sexual partners) and now seem undesirable to certain men. Younger doesn't typically have that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 01:52 AM
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I don't care about concepts of masculinity or femininity. My decision making doesn't even involve how masculine or feminine it might be. The only reason I have ever offered to pay is due to an expectation that I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 02:39 AM
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Personally I don't like the smell, taste, and sensation of any drug I've tried. I don't despise people who choose to partake but I personally choose not to and I have strict boundaries with it in relationships. My wife enjoys weed. I hate the smell of it so we've agreed that the only way she partakes is with edibles. I don't need a pill to relax. Cheaters are scum, I'll never blame the person getting cheated or put them down.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 09:35 PM
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Most of GenZ are just looking to have a stable life. With each generation it seems to be getting harder for people to move out and become stable. Older guys are more likely to have a stable income and housing. An older guy showing off his 3 bedroom house with a mortgage seems a lot more appealing than the 22 year old college grad that can barely afford a 2 bedroom apartment and walks everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 11:36 AM
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Scrutinize something long enough and you'll only see it for its base components. Yes, love itself derives from a mutual benefit. When something upsets this mutual benefit, of course it will affect their love in some way.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 10:27 AM
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I think the biggest benefit from being with my wife is companionship. I'm not alone or lonely. I don't have to experience everything in my day-to-day life by myself. I can just walk into the next room and the person I love will be there. Every day. I always have someone to do things with or spend time with.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 10:17 AM
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From my perspective as a 25 year old, Scarlett Johanssen just looks like an average middle aged woman. She's widely perceived as attractive when she's wearing makeup and in the right lighting but she looks no different to me than people I regularly see in my life. Aside from that, she's not my type. She's visibly older than I'm comfortable with. I view her as an "old person" or an "adultier adult". Madison Beer OTOH... yeah pretty hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 04:19 AM
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I'd be concerned for her safety but I wouldn't really mind. I don't know any of her friends from out of state and she's visited a few before. It's no big deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 07:25 AM
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I just don't have the same boundaries as you. My wife is free to associate with whoever she wants and so am I. No insecurities on either side and married for 5 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 10:52 PM
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Probably difficult to find reliable statistical data on that sort of thing because you would have to make a survey or assume based on divorce rates, domestic abuse rates between married couples, and separation rates. I'd rather opt for a logical argument. Assuming there exists unhappy marriages in both the past and present. It makes logical sense for women to leave an unhappy marriage if they have the ability to. This increases the proportion of happy marriages by ending unhappy ones. Another ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 09:25 PM
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Pills aside, basing morality on nature introduces many things that most people world consider immoral. The only right when it comes to nature is spreading your genes. Humans are more complicated than that because we have culture, self awareness, empathy, gender "norms" and gender "roles." And a whole lot of other things that make us unique. We can choose to defy our natural tendencies and if that leads to increased success in spreading your genes, then that becomes the new "natural" for us. Righ…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 08:01 PM
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This ignores the fact that abortion in most places have a significant portion of the population that will see you as a literal murderer. Abortions can be expensive if you're in a demographic where your health insurance is spotty. Just as men have the instinctual urge to have as much sex as possible, women have the instinctual urge to carry and raise their children. Hormonal changes during pregnancy can heavily sway a woman's decision in favor of keeping the child when she wouldn't normally want …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 12:13 PM
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Honestly there's no winning. Ugly and old? You're a hag. Fat? Fat. Can't seem to keep a guy? If you're pretty you're a slut with poor taste in men, if you're ugly you're not pretty enough to keep. Seen an excuse for every kind of trait on here.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 11:17 AM
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They're either not straight or don't actually perceive you as a man. Pick whichever makes you feel more comfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 10:38 AM
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I think what's likely to happen is the sperm bank gets sued for selling the wrong product, to which the sperm bank tries to sue the man for lying about himself and him counter suing for leaking his information.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/20 01:48 AM
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