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tell me more, this seems interesting. which country?
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 07:37 AM
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Tell me more man, private if you want... similar situation
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/25 07:36 AM
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Yeah that's true even if we dont want to admit to ourselves. The society lately has been saying differently but in the end its on us. Its on us to break up when its time and when it feels the hardest / not pursue the relationship further when we see red flags. That what gets us in the end imo. Also sucks knowing you are never loved by a woman like we love them.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 04:45 PM
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If you are sticking it out for another year that means you have a year to prepare. Start now.
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 06:59 AM
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Sounds interesting, im in
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/24 01:49 PM
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she kept everything ... tells me a lot. I think she misses you too, I'd try something.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/24 07:47 AM
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Sorry, whos who here? Are you the wife or the husband?
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 09:40 AM
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This sounds you are not on the same page at all (kids,house,sex). Kinda important things, my stuff is falling apart just due to house where the kids and sex stuff is on the same page and two things where we currently feel good.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 09:35 AM
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where I live it is near impossible right now to buy a house so I cant do that on my own. and while im no high earner I am slightly above average for our region. 4-5 years ago when i suggested it she didnt want to, she only wanted to live with her parents and us to live there. 4-5 years ago we could afford it in the general area where we are now, right now its near impossible if we both contribute the same. She could contribute more but wont, because that's her money. And all the extra time she w…
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/24 02:04 PM
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I feel you. Something similar was in the works for me, seems like I caught it before it could play out. Can't even go to that house now anymore, my whole body just shuts down.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/24 06:34 PM
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While at the start is did not seem like a red flag it became eventually. Thought things whould change thru time but to this day I vivdly remember the night I realized it deep down in me and still choose to ignore it. Bit me right in the arse less than a decade later. Shes too attached to her family. And its not like they are a family that gets along really great either tbh. That meants that with her very respected job in the society, herself, kids, parents I am nowhere near her priority list and…
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/24 10:54 AM
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Thanks for reaching out, really appreciate it. none in the last 4 months. been there once for a quick visit and picked my kids up from there 3-5 times in the last 4 months. Other than that, none. She already picked the kitchen. I am 100% they will complete the renovation without me and she will still claim its "our home if we want it". its not ours, never was. its so stupid i cant even believe it, she actually expected this all from me while not giving anything in return. Just says "I thought it…
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/24 10:40 AM
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that's basically my plan now. Not being there for situations that's somewhat assumed in a normal relationship. To give a bit of a background - she basically decided not to create a financial future with me but her parents and left me high and dry in a way to take care of myself. Mind you, we are together for 11 years with 2kids. it was assumed thruout the last years this will not be the case but now its some shitty not fair for me contract on the table or basically nothing. She has to finish the…
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 11:32 AM
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True, I dont have either atm. Thanks. I am acting on a threat, maybe not immediate threat but a huge threat down the road. Dont think I am trying to "win her over", I have always supported her helping her parents, having a good relationship with them etcetc I am not trying to keep her away from her parents or anything but as a father of her kids, her partner, I do deserve better than what is offered. And that just might mean going my own way and regaining myself back.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 12:55 PM
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while unrelated, what was the audio recorder you used?
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 09:07 AM
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learned some hard truths in the last months also. hope you get thru it soon, for me it seems its just the start or maybe even postpoing it (and eventually maybe even making it worse for everyone involved)
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/24 08:35 PM
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She says shes different than her mom too. But I dont think thats correct. Funny thing right now is that even the therapist that said she is too attached and its not just mine issues thats the fault in the relationship - now the therapist is bad at his job, not competent etc. Tried with logic but that always just leads to arguing without any logic. Cant even reach out to her for a honest real talk. Its her parents over me.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 06:17 AM
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Thanks for the reply, seems the matriarch is not the best place to be :) Im also scared of being subjected to that behaviour in case I go live with her and her family. You seem like a successful man with discipline and determination. Good luck. Its so fcking hard because I know she likes me but just not enough to actually form a family together. I am no saint in all of this, I have been a bit absent when it comes to being a man in the house - young kids do that imo when the woman "starts calling…
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 06:03 AM
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father is not a dominant figure in that family, her mother is.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 05:39 AM
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hey thanks for the tough love. first one is not as straight forward (result still the same i guess). It was a point of contention for like 2 years where I did stand up for myself and did not want to live with her parent etc.. due to some live event in my family I felt like I have no choice but to put my happines aside a bit for the kids. didnt pan out as planned heh... and its basically a duplex but the points still stand.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 05:36 AM
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hard truth but this is probably the only way and its nothing I can do about it, its up to her. thanks for the response.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 05:18 PM
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well I am willing to try everything before I throw in the towel - that's why I am asking here for suggestions. Dont want regrets, that's is also why I agreed to couples therapy but I already knew the biggest problem with us is her too big attachment to her family not my fear of abandonment. It does seem like I am pissing against the wind but when we have good days, they are great. I want to keep the family together, I was similarly old when my parent split, was really hoping I would not make the…
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 05:06 PM
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