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I dont know... maybe I'm too old fashioned but engagement should be a surprise. They should have paid enough attention to what you like, your ring size, sneaked one to the jeweler maybe, got someone to bring a conversation up about rings to get that info. If you give a guy a shopping list then he'll at best execute that, it won't reflect thoughtfulness or effort. I think it just ruins it all when these engagements are half (or fully) planned by you out in the open. It's just under proposing to t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 06:58 AM
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Ime if these kinds of guys have mental illness, and you do too (at a similar severity), they treat you as if you don't or gaslight you into being mistaken & pathologise your sensitivity or, if they are a real piece of work, they pathologise you as self absorbed and narcissistic for suffering mental illness. Therefore you have no right to speak about your mental illness in front of him without being prepared to feel shame, which then means you are discouraged from bringing it up, and by not bring…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 09:22 AM
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The internet 25 years ago was dial up, it took ages to load a detailed image, forget video. High speed internet available to the regular consumer, in most of the Western world, is only about 15 years old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 09:11 AM
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This is spot on & the cause of much of these problems with men. No father figure to put the fear of God into them. Rather, they learn rule makers are female figures who are maternal and forgiving, so it makes sense why men increasingly don't believe in society's rules & adopt an antisocial orientation at an early age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 12:53 AM
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That logic makes absolutely no sense. If you are trying to get with her bf the cardinal rule is that you don't say anything. Wtf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 02:25 AM
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If they are trying to steal him, they wouldn't have told you in the first place!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 02:23 AM
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Narcissists don't as a rule use intermittent reinforcement. They don't have to be effective manipulators to be narcissistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 07:48 AM
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"I also don’t trust men who are too quiet/ force this ‘mysteriousness’ thing heavy- don’t feel connected. Quite suspicious. Holding back." Omg this. Talking with a guy who is like that, I like the trait as it's a turnaround from the kind of dudes who don't shut up. Feels like a breath of fresh air. On the other hand if communication occurs you have to initiate it most of the time, or you have to be the conversationalist. They like your social media posts if you don't talk in a while, but they wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 09:55 AM
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Fuckboys love the plastic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 09:54 AM
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You are a total hero!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 09:33 AM
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Men don't nurture and their guidance is towards their dicks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 08:35 AM
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That is fucking vampiric af
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 08:33 AM
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"He wants to be a bum, has no ambition, and already showed himself to have no moral character or integrity. I feel so sorry that she would choose him. And if he didn't want any responsibility, why get into another relationship so quickly?" They are all like this, it's not even funny. When they leave their ex (who has dumped him/no contact... "out of the blue" !) they give the spiel to any woman who will hear that they want no responsibility/to go their own way, travel, find out who they are agai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 08:28 AM
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At least the penguin is wearing a tuxedo which is appropriate attire for a classy date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 04:27 AM
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The mistaken thinking in this is assuming that these kinds of men WANT to be happy... no, they are often miserable narcs/sociopaths/abused-child-turned-abusers who aim to make you feel the kind of misery they feel all the time. It's about revenge and schadenfreude. Often you're a stand in for some woman in his life who denied him something/said no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 10:36 AM
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There's no difference. All that matters is a man taking the facade down and deciding to use you as a slave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/21 10:32 AM
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My ex used to buy me things he liked too... gifts for birthdays, Christmas. Treated them like his, especially when we broke up. Once tried arguing with me about me owning something he gave me as a gift, a few weeks after the breakup. No none of these things were like very expensive. Guy was just an indian giver
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 08:55 AM
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Accurate but not necessarily just a religious thing. Sometimes it is a transmission of maternal narcissism to the daughter, the daughter becomes very narcissistic at an early age, sees herself as superior to all other women, and women in general as competition. Other women who trigger jealousy and insecurity are enemies they will dispense bad advice to, do all kinds of awful things while feigning friendship. But her only real friend in the world is her mother
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 01:15 PM
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Never trust a guy who will suddenly say he lost his phone, or it broke (it often hasn't), but does not throw the old one away. Especially if the thought of repairs doesn't come up. It's their burner phone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 04:45 AM
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Privacy is a right to protect against government intrusion on individual citizens, responsible use and deletion of data; there is nothing of such an earth shattering confidential nature that could be found on your phone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 04:42 AM
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Looking @ the headline by itself I thought this would gloss over men claiming they will teach you xyz skill, for example, how to play guitar, or offer you something like an opportunity via his connections. It never ever ever ever gets realised, it's an excuse to make you think they'll repay your company or sex with something in turn, but it's just to get you to tolerate their presence (or dick). Tl;dr men don't sincerely offer you shit. The blowjobs is funny though, lmao what a repressed homosex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 04:58 AM
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Men do this to "make a woman of you". Seals the deal when they (from their dicks) have given you the label 'mother', but what you don't understand is that, often this is labelling you the mother - to them. You're now the mother substitute. What they don't understand & makes them freak out, is that you have to mother the kid, not them. Tldr, these kinds of men knock you up for themselves. They absolutely cannot comprehend that motherhood and childrearing is a labour thing. Everything is about the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 07:55 AM
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Unconditional love, eh? So he's God? I mean it makes sense given the other stuff many guys believe about themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 12:39 PM
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Don't be that obvious. Just say "what exactly did you mean by that (comment)" or "excuse me" "what?" Otherwise their comeback will always be "wow you're reading too much into it haha why would I... you're jumping to conclusions.." standard deflection
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 05:53 AM
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This. 100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 12:19 PM
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"Please"? You mean, pleading to him? Who the hell does he think he is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 12:06 PM
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Stalkers create stories when they show up at random places you will be. Plausible deniability. That is not enough by itself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 04:44 AM
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You need to be blunt/explicit with refusals from a legal point of view. If you say ambiguous things, the cops read those comments for what they are on the surface. Technically, literally speaking, you are entertaining them and leading them on, by not reasserting the boundary. If anything then happens after that, you have less of a case for a restraining order because you acted conciliatory with them. Edit for clarity: if you say noncommittal things alluding to you not remembering - on the record…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 04:36 AM
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Being domestically abused via coercive control is not a profession. Smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 10:08 AM
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Women don't rape men forcibly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 04:28 AM
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It starts at home (exempt from chores from childhood). Ends up, they're exempt from reciprocation & communication. You're the mother that's not supposed to demand anything from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 11:03 AM
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"Why?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 02:34 PM
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I'm sure a decent percentage are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 07:41 AM
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Ooh I had this happen to me years ago. Made friends with this dude, we watched a lot of nerdy films at his place (sharehouse). We kissed on some occasions but I never felt anything beyond that. Anyway he wanted to have sex as like the thing which would bring about a relationship. I explained to him I just wasn't feeling any spark that way at all. He told me that I would "learn to love him"/"eventually learn to become sexually attracted" to him. I just couldn't
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 04:31 PM
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It's kind of the same if you dress down/more modest, rather than accentuate your attractiveness with makeup, dressing in tighter clothes (conventional attractiveness). They don't respect you more for being "authentic". When you do dress sharp and are more done up, it will force more respect from men. It then ignites the challenge in them to get you, and get you comfortable so you "let yourself go" and look more homely. That's when they disrespect you, cheat with women who look "fake", "slutty" e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 04:15 PM
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Don't make me think of all the bills from the different shrinks I saw to deal with what my ex caused
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 12:12 PM
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Funnily they know what the money is for but only are ok with spending it when they've fucked up. Absolutely stingy the rest of the time. They manage money like sociopaths
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 12:09 PM
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any time I hear a guy giving a sermon about masculinity I know he's a little bitch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 02:50 PM
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We aren't people, we are an entertainment package. Anything we have done for men or they have done to us, those are our "specs". They get mad bc the product isn't as advertised (your pain is an advertisement)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 08:02 AM
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This is reminding me of many years ago I dated a guy who would keep hanging out with his female best friend, made me feel like shit like something was wrong & he didn't want to hang out with me on campus. She had a bf. Well, a year or so later he tells me she asks him if he would join them in a threesome (MMF). He said no, but was I ever vindicated for my gut feeling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 04:48 AM
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She's attractive, 9 or 10, but just so happens to look like his high school friend/cousin/etc so he'd never even dream about fucking her. Too weirded out maaaaan!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 04:44 AM
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They cheat on you with someone ugly, or old, or old and ugly. It's all about their unconscious attempt to put you in your place & show you that you ain't shit. I was in the same position as you dating an ugly abusive guy once. Lots of ugly, obese, older pickmes looking for an ego boost by cucking you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 03:21 AM
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""""dad bod""""
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 09:42 AM
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Why do we even let men message us. Most aren't even worthy to look at us, let alone speak to us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 09:39 AM
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no such thing as too unattractive to cheat...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 08:56 AM
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they're fucking
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 12:29 PM
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Most of them are subtle and forward thinking enough not to spring this on you right away. I'd expect that from an 18 year old or a really immature/inexperienced guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 12:20 PM
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Nah, cheap men aren't the most entitled they're the most disrespectful, or are only manipulative within their financial means. There are men out there with money who are *entitled*. They want to get every dollar's worth out of you at some future date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 12:18 PM
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Yeah that's the thing that seems to be underemphasised on this sub. Some men you date will throw money at you because they treat you as something who can be bought. Or simply that after spending money on you, you now owe them sex/commitment. You can't win. Not all LVM are the broke ass scrub living in mama's basement stereotype
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 12:16 PM
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sounds pretty closeted homosexual to me...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 11:55 AM
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lmao, shit like what they did is not a mere "mistake". You don't just accidentally stumble into a fancy candlelit dinner at a top restauarant with your best friend's partner (and vice versa, your partner's best friend). Cheating with the best friend is so common that it really is a form of crazy gaslighting to suggest it's not. Resentful partner knows it's the fastest way to get to you, and it also requires zero effort on his part bc the other woman is already there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:47 PM
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Because they are egotistical & narcissistic. Nobody is better than them on any axis, even when they clearly are. They will never be humbled or servile bc they weren't raised properly & realise nobody owes them shit, so when they get something they should consider themselves fortunate. That's the other thing, no giving value to any agency outside themselves, whether God or chance (that a good woman is a gift). They attribute everything they have to their own will since they are just that good (me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 09:12 AM
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It's about power, not sex. Sex is just a means for the ultimate goal which is power. Think about it, if they have sexual urges & compulsions they can masturbate. Why demand a willing, breathing woman when as far as "sexual release" goes they have millions of options (pornography, prostitutes if they really are desperate). But they don't, because at the end of the day it's not about sex. They can't manipulate a prostitute because a contract is explicit. They will however manipulate you for what a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 12:30 AM
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To me it is just weird that a lot of the relationship complaints out there, by women especially, is worded in a way that implies you're with this person forever, like it is marriage and you made a commitment of that nature, lolwut? It's not like you're stuck in wedlock, can't divorce, and pressured *externally* to try to make it worth with some dude who treats you like shit and neglects you at best. Like what. At any time you can break it off with the guy. There's objectively nothing keeping you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:40 AM
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Old pickme generally took the advice of men, any man, back in the day, so I did. this move doesn't work with women since men are allowed to bullshit since they are default viewed as smart and competent. However language fluency is basically the worst possible thing to try to fake since you literally, absolutely cannot & will be found out immediately. Nobody of any sex will get away with that, but the general principle he was making use of, applies to men. With women however, you can have a PhD a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:27 AM
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Monopolising your time is a strategy to make sure nobody else, especially another guy, gets to spend any time with you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:14 AM
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True, but it's a fairly transparent lie... the technique I wanted to draw attention to was the gesture of 'coming clean' (even though in this he couldn't do so fully but added another lie, probably couldn't come up with a story believable enough that could make him out to be a victim).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 09:04 AM
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He's telling you because he thinks honesty means you reward him for showing a virtue. Like yes, confessing to sex crimes just shows you to be a saint
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 05:08 AM
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This 100%. Men who can't maintain male friendships tend to have very delicate egos that can't sustain the inter-competition and rough and tumble with men, or rather, boys since this is a boyhood thing a lot of the time. Instead they fixate on women as their salvation and companionship - because they are given a role to provide succor and obedience (at least this is the opposite in their minds, of triggering their insecurity or jealousy). RUN DON'T WALK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 11:00 AM
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4 day trip with a stranger. Men you don't know well or very long, inviting you for a hike in the mountains. Do they not understand that this is serial killer 101 stuff. Bet you all my money they would victim blame a woman for getting raped and murdered after agreeing to go through with such an arrangement because "couldn't she see his intentions"???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 08:04 AM
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To answer the question: They say that because it's what they plan on doing to you (use you for money and resources under the pretext of sexual connection)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 06:55 AM
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Haha damn, he sure opened himself to being owned! However the thought of a restraining order not being available in your country is scary. On the other hand, disturbed individuals treat one like a piece of paper anyway. Still just having the law recognise domestic violence & able to act fast if they do it again, is so important. Would you move countries if you could? Are you afraid of him? I hope you are safe in any case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 01:36 PM
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sounds like lvm sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 12:50 PM
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Hm yeah what are the chances of a man being proposed to in the first place, within 6 months, and then another 3 times? Sounds like a lot of horseshit, even really hot men with big dicks have trouble getting THAT kind of interest, at that degree, and all at once. Most likely he got 4 proposals to meet up for a park date lmao. These kinds of men get taken aback when you stand up for yourself & I think they initiate a breakup to punish you for doing that by trying to create emotional distress, to t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 12:42 PM
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Honestly I think men are flaky like this because on some unconscious level they hate you. Like, female success is you stepping out of your 'place' and this shit is some passive aggressive protest. Refusing to respect you symbolically. What I hate in trying to establish 'relationships' with men is that the kind of care they put in for you, is this subtle way of trying to make you their servant, even if you are the main breadwinner. It's just very antisocial of them to live a parasitic lifestyle o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 10:03 AM
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Nah, it's not memory deficiencies, they're sickos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 03:05 PM
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Spectrum has weird logic to it, basically having a few traits short of the condition, means you can be counted as having that condition, lol what (even though the traits are a better fit for a totally different condition). Also I am curious, do you think overdiagnosis of autism "spectrum" disorder overlaps with ASPD since alexithymia is misread as a symptom of autism instead of sociopathy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 12:54 AM
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They neg/put down your hobbies because they either want you to assimilate to their tastes/hobbies, or more likely, they want him to be your hobby, lol. All your attention to go to him. Once had an ex who ran me into the ground, lost hair, IBS, etc. One time I picked up a book in what seemed like a spare moment. "Aw why do you get to read?" in playful baby voice. Oh and then they have the gall to complain that you are boring and no fun when you are stressed, depressed, no social life, no time or …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 10:31 AM
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They can be useful to seek advice from, they have x-ray vision when it comes to younger men's bullshit/insecurities/all the deflective mechanisms. Use their insights to your advantage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 09:54 AM
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Unpaid internship in homemaking, a field where there are no paid positions...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 09:51 AM
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How do they do this even. These lies are brain damage level. Not only is their brain damaged but trying to entertain it for a second will damage yours! Any line like that, the response should be 'leave'. Don't care where, just make him walk away, talk will get you nowhere. Never respect any bullshit like that by ever extending conversation. They'll keep pulling more shit out of their ass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 09:49 AM
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Men are fucked and they always pull this crap, have an affair when you are at your lowest. Do they ever think of doing something to pick you up, that requires effort from them? Maybe a minute's thought? No. Imho the worst men ALWAYS set up these backup options and are always spinning plates. Ime - the main time to watch out is if you get with a guy who has a lot of female friends, and as soon as you are on the scene, they seem to disappear. They haven't. It's all behind your back - when you are …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 09:39 AM
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The end goal for all women isn't "end up in happy relationship with nice fun attractive guy". Narcissist women get off on homewrecking, they don't even want the guy they like the fact all this suffering and intrigue revolves around them, & they think they have power. Be careful thinking this way - that all women have good intentions like that, or that they are like you and share your values.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 09:35 AM
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Also, listen to your gut/intuition. It doesn't seem "rational" or "evidence based" (easy gaslighting of yourself especially if you've had CBT styled therapies), but it helps to think of it as a background program, and your brain is the computer. Not everything gets processed/runs in windows where you can see everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 09:31 AM
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What a creep, I'm sorry you had to go through this, this world is so fucked up. On the bright side, not only do you have some exposure to basic bro lies, warranted skepticism about men who advertise the fact they have "female friends", but now you are completely inoculated against the "OnlyFans exists to exploit lonely men via personalised dopamine curcuits"!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 09:24 AM
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1000% this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 01:43 AM
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Idk I've been on the other end of this where the guy just tells everyone in his life & mutuals you're in a relationship despite you never having a talk about it, never consenting to it, and trying to make peer pressure force you to agree to this 'relationship'. There are similar manipulative techniques used by men such as the over-the-top ultra romantic public proposal that comes too early/when you are lukewarm. Boils down to 'rushing'. A guy stringing you along 'seeing where this goes' vs a guy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 02:09 PM
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Also the protections for women were eroded, such as the now derided "heartbalm torts" which, while ultimately referring back to the father and the betrothed/promising man basically violating the father's rights (mainly, or at least in its original common law manifestation). If a man led you on with false promises of marriage etc to seduce you, or had an affair, you at least had legal protections. Free love removed all of this what with the transition to industrial modernity, but replacing it is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 05:37 AM
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It means he has the luxury of having an inner emotional life he can idly feel sad about interpersonal & self actualization needs not being met (90% of the time dick not getting wet & doesn't care to notice he is running you into the ground), while you shovel shit 24/7
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:37 AM
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