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Be yourself; everyone else is already taken. Take the unpopular route. Use the road no one travels by. Think of doing what is uncommon but remarkable. You have absolutely nobody to overtake you on the empty road
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 01:07 PM
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Make the most of your regrets; never smother your sorrow, but tend and cherish it till it comes to have a separate and integral interest. To regret deeply is to live afresh. The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg, not by smashing it.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 02:48 AM
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It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all in which case, you fail by default.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 02:45 AM
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If you see a snake, just kill it don't appoint a committee on snakes. Friendship... is not something you learn in school. But if you haven't learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven't learned anything.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 02:43 AM
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If we can focus on making clear what parts of our day are within our control and what parts are not, we will not only be happier, we will have a distinct advantage over other people who fail to realize they are fighting an unwinnable battle.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 02:39 AM
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You have power over your mind not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength. The whole of life is just like watching a film. Only it's as though you always get in ten minutes after the big picture has started, and no one will tell you the plot, so you have to work it out all yourself from the clues.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 02:36 AM
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People are more difficult to work with than machines. And when you break a person, he can't be fixed. Positive feelings come from being honest about yourself and accepting your personality, and physical characteristics, warts and all; and, from belonging to a family that accepts you without question.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 02:31 AM
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So often we only do what we think is expected of us, when we are capable of so much more. The truth is that we can learn to condition our minds, bodies, and emotions to link pain or pleasure to whatever we choose. By changing what we link pain and pleasure to, we will instantly change our behaviors. Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 02:28 AM
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It is never too late to be what you might have been.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 10:53 PM
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Shrooms are full of shit. That’s the whole story. Grown in shit, it’s their essence: they try to humble you in these ways that bring you down to their level.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 01:32 PM
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Of course
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 01:19 PM
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Love is an abstract noun, something nebulous. And yet love turns out to be the only part of us that is solid, as the world turns upside down and the screen goes black.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 03:06 AM
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Love brings up our unresolved feelings . One day we are feeling loved , and the next day we are suddenly afraid to trust love . The painful memories of being rejected begin to surface when we are faced with trusting and accepting our partner's love . A promise must never be broken.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 03:02 AM
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Being a woman is a terribly difficult trade since it consists principally of dealings with men. Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Respect other people's feelings. It might mean nothing to you, but it could mean everything to them. We have to recognise that there cannot be relationships unless there is commitment, unless there is loyalty, unless there is love, patience, persistence.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 02:58 AM
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Hapiness is as exclusive as a butterfly, and you must never pursue it. If you stay very still, it may come and settle on your hand. But only briefly. Savour those moments, for they will not come in your way very often.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 02:53 AM
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The very concept of a loving personal creator was only ever a secondary invention, a grinning wicker man thrown together in antiquity and stood in place as a chimerical response to a world whose everyday works betray the fantasy in every possible way.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 02:51 AM
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Trust your heart if the seas catch fire, live by love though the stars walk backward.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 02:47 AM
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We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them. Justice is the state that exists when there is equity, balance, and harmony in relationships and in society. Injustice is the state that exists when unjust people do violence to peace and shalom and create inequity, imbalance, and dissonance. If you have the opportunity to play this game of life you need to appreciate every moment. A lot of people don't appreciate the moment until it's passed. To effectively commun…
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 02:45 AM
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The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 02:41 AM
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One of the advantages of being disorganized is that one is always having surprising discoveries.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 02:39 AM
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When your values are clear to you, making decisions becomes easier.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 02:37 AM
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We cannot change our past. We can not change the fact that people act in a certain way. We can not change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. We are sometimes dragged into a pit of unhappiness by someone else’s opinion that we do not look happy. In truth, we are all part of the team of humanity. And as such, we are all obligated to share ourselves, and our talents, for the sake of the team.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 06:10 PM
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There’s nothing more tedious than pretending happiness when your world is upside down. Don’t pretend. It’s ok not to smile when anxiety is controlling your life. But don’t let the misery envelop you. Take a deep breath and try to fix your world though it may take some time. Remember, there is a way out of despair. You are that way. For me, marriage should be about partnership. How can you love someone you have to take care of like a child all the time? A wife is supposed to be a partner, and yes…
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 06:03 PM
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The decision looked easy... individually we can live our best lives was....... the hardest. Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 05:42 PM
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The role of the therapist is to reflect the being/accepting self that was never allowed to be in the borderline. The only thing that guarantees an open-ended collaboration among human beings, the only thing that guarantees that this project is truly open-ended, is a willingness to have our beliefs and behaviors modified by the power of conversation. The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it...
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 05:32 PM
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You can be in love and raise a family wonderfully by not being married, but actually, marriage does give us a strength, because it's quite hard to get out of, and so it makes us fight more to keep it together. If divorce becomes dead easy which it sort of has then we don't have that backup. Because, for everybody, relationships are hard.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 05:23 PM
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Life is long. Just because you don't get your chance right when you want or expect it doesn't mean it won't come. Fate doesn't punch a time clock or consult a schedule.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 05:20 PM
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We are all in favor of emotional intelligence. Intelligence can take emotion as a privileged counseling partner. However, it does not allow the emotion to take possession of us, besiege our mind, and subjugate our thinking. The emotion must regulate our thoughts, not manipulate nor substitute them. Our perception is only a biased picture of reality, and emotions are individual or provisional. Therefore, critical thinking and emotional thinking must go hand in hand
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 05:06 PM
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Couples often live out years of falsehood trying to protect and save a relationship, all the while destroying any chance of real relationship. You lose track of time when you're deep in conservation with an otherworldly being made of pure Loric energy.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 05:00 PM
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To love another person is to see the face of God. It always takes two. For relationships to work, for them to break apart, for them to be fixed.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 04:49 PM
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If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can't survive. Be thankful that you have a life, and forsake your vain and presumptuous desire for a second one. When we come to face the entangled vagaries on the chessboard of our life, let us not shrink from using the queen’s gambit to disentwine predictable hassles or diffuse incendiary plots if we want to take control of our being and make our dreams come true, transparent, and straightforward.
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/23 09:46 AM
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I believe in love. I believe in hard times and love winning. I believe marriage is hard. I believe people make mistakes. I believe people can want two things at once. I believe people are selfish and generous at the same time. I believe very few people want to hurt others. I believe that you can be surprised by life. I believe in happy endings. You get hit the hardest when trying to run or hide from a problem. Like the defense on a football field, putting all focus on evading only one defender i…
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/23 04:12 AM
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:relaxed: :relaxed: :relaxed: :relaxed: :relaxed: :relaxed: :relaxed: :relaxed:
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/23 03:59 PM
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The moment you doubt whether you can fly, you cease for ever to be able to do it. Nothing in all the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/23 03:42 PM
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You must make a decision that you are going to move on. It wont happen automatically. You will have to rise up and say, ‘I don’t care how hard this is, I don’t care how disappointed I am, I’m not going to let this get the best of me. I’m moving on with my life. There is nothing nobler or more admirable than when two people who see eye to eye keep house as man and wife, confounding their enemies and delighting their friends.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/23 12:02 AM
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Being nerdy just means being passionate about something, including everyone - the coolest people on Earth are passionate and therefore nerdy about something whatever it is, whether it's sports, or gaming, or technology, or fashion, or beauty, or food, or whatever.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/23 11:59 PM
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Once you realize you deserve a bright future, letting go of your dark past is the best choice you will ever make. By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you’ll become happy; if you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher. Some people feel like they don't deserve love. They walk away quietly into empty spaces, trying to close the gaps of the past. Self-belief and hard work will always earn you success.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/23 11:56 PM
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Sometimes life knocks you on your ass... get up, get up, get up!!! Happiness is not the absence of problems, it's the ability to deal with them. You can only become truly accomplished at something you love. Don’t make money your goal. Instead pursue the things you love doing and then do them so well that people can’t take their eyes off of you.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/23 11:47 PM
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Life is about accepting the challenges along the way, choosing to keep moving forward, and savoring the journey. There are two ways to go when you hit that crossroads in your life: There is the bad way, when you sort of give up, and then there is the really hard way, when you fight back. I went the hard way and came out of it okay. Now, I'm sitting here and doing great.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/23 11:44 PM
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Don't be on your deathbed someday, having squandered your one chance at life, full of regret because you pursued little distractions instead of big dreams. Joy is the goal of existence, and joy is not to be stumbled upon, but to be achieved, and the act of treason is to let its vision drown in the swamp of the moment's torture.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/23 11:14 PM
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I always believe that to be the best, you have to smell like the best, dress like the best, act like the best. When you throw your trash in the garbage can, it has to be better than anybody else who ever threw trash in the garbage can.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/23 11:09 PM
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You are definitely right about that but it's supposed not be like that bcos i think every person deserves two marriages, because you may not get the first one right. You really never knew. That's why divorce is so big. We all want it to last, but that's not always the reality of it.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/23 11:07 PM
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The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 01:48 AM
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An intelligent man is sometimes forced to be drunk to spend time with his fools. Life is life. You choose to live it or you do not.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 01:45 AM
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Even if you cannot change all the people around you, you can change the people you choose to be around. Life is too short to waste your time on people who don’t respect, appreciate, and value you. Spend your life with people who make you smile, laugh, and feel loved.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 01:40 AM
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Most people believe the mind to be a mirror, more or less accurately reflecting the world outside them, not realizing on the contrary that the mind is itself the principal element of creation.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 01:35 AM
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If you want to be perfect, go, sell your possessions and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven. It's so hard to forget pain, but it's even harder to remember sweetness. We have no scar to show for happiness. We learn so little from peace.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 01:32 AM
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Whiskey, like a beautiful woman, demands appreciation. You gaze first, then it's time to drink.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 01:29 AM
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Love stories are written in millimeters and milliseconds with a fast, dull pencil whose marks you can barely see, they are written in miles and eons with a chisel on the side of a mountiantop
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 01:27 AM
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Don't think about what you've left behind" The alchemist said to the boy as they began to ride across the sands of the desert. "If what one finds is made of pure matter, it will never spoil. And one can always come back. If what you had found was only a moment of light, like the explosion of a star, you would find nothing on your return.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 01:24 AM
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When things break, it's not the actual breaking that prevents them from getting back together again. It's because a little piece gets lost the two remaining ends couldn't fit together even if they wanted to. The whole shape has changed. You can always hope and wait for someone to want something in your home, but you cannot wait forever, and sometimes you must just give cherished things away with the wish that they end up with someone who will create new memories of their own. They say nothing la…
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 01:20 AM
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No matter how careful you are, there's going to be the sense you missed something, the collapsed feeling under your skin that you didn't experience it all. There's that fallen heart feeling that you rushed right through the moments where you should've been paying attention. Well, get used to that feeling. That's how your whole life will feel some day. This is all practice. The past is a candle at great distance: too close to let you quit, too far to comfort you. False friendship, like the ivy, d…
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 01:14 AM
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It is always the false that makes you suffer, the false desires and fears, the false values and ideas, the false relationships between people. Abandon the false and you are free of pain; truth makes happy, truth liberates. If you believe in peace, act peacefully; if you believe in love, acting lovingly; if you believe every which way, then act every which way, that's perfectly valid - but don't go out trying to sell your beliefs to the system. You end up contradicting what you profess to believe…
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 01:07 AM
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Sometimes it's easy to walk by because we know we can't change someone's whole life in a single afternoon. But what we fail to realize it that simple kindness can go a long way toward encouraging someone who is stuck in a desolate place. Nowadays people know the price of everything and the value of nothing. It takes great courage to see the world in all its tainted glory, and still to love it. And even more courage to see it in the one you love
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 12:53 AM
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It's not worth doing something unless someone, somewhere, would much rather you weren't doing it. You stay safe, You love. You survive. You laugh and cry and struggle and sometimes you fail and sometimes you succeed. You Push. The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. The fears are paper tigers. You can do anything you decide to do. You can act to change and control your life; and the procedure, the process is its own reward.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 12:47 AM
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Marketing is not the art of finding clever ways to dispose of what you make. It is the art of creating genuine customer value.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 12:40 AM
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The human being is a self-propelled automaton entirely under the control of external influences. Willful and predetermined though they appear, his actions are governed not from within, but from without. He is like a float tossed about by the waves of a turbulent sea.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 12:37 AM
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When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 12:35 AM
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Meeting your soul mate is like walking into a house you've been in before - you will recognize the furniture, the pictures on the wall, the books on the shelves, the contents of drawers: You could find your way around in the dark if you had to.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 12:30 AM
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To be rejected by someone doesn't mean you should also reject yourself or that you should think of yourself as a lesser person. It doesn't mean that nobody will ever love you anymore. Remember that only ONE person has rejected you at the moment, and it only hurt so much because to you, that person's opinion symbolized the opinion of the whole world, of God. The submission of one's will is really the only uniquely personal thing we have to place on God's altar. The many other things we 'give' are…
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 12:24 AM
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It isn't by getting out of the world that we become enlightened, but by getting into the world…by getting so tuned in that we can ride the waves of our existence and never get tossed because we become the waves. You've done it before and you can do it now. See the positive possibilities. Redirect the substantial energy of your frustration and turn it into positive, effective, unstoppable determination.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 12:18 AM
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Studies show that children of divorced parents can have outcomes as positive as those coming from intact homes, provided the father remains financially supportive and active in his children's lives. Sometimes divorce isn’t an earth-shattering loss. Sometimes it’s just two people waking up out of a fog. There is only one curse that really exists and that is to believe naively that curses really exist
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 12:15 AM
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You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You're on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who'll decide where to go... The hardness of a diamond is part of its usefulness, but its true value is in the light that shines through it. Some things are hard to write about. After something happens to you, you go to write it down, and either you over dramatize it, or underplay it, exaggerate the wrong parts or ignore t…
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/23 12:06 AM
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You don’t get to decide what you’re worth because you obviously don’t know. You don’t get to decide that anymore because you have no fucking idea that you’re worth everything. Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 11:56 PM
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We should consider every day lost on which we have not danced at least once. And we should call every truth false which was not accompanied by at least one laugh. Being in command means making tough decisions. Not being in command means shutting up and doing what you're told.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 01:39 PM
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Most investigators don't even know what the word means. You stop the cops from using informants and the only crimes they'd ever solve would be those by deranged postal workers who come to work once too often. You deserve every star in the galaxy laid out at your feet and a thousand diamonds in your hair. You deserve someone who'll run with you as far and as fast as you want to. Holding your hand, not holding you back. In the realm of love and sex, it’s girls who are in the position of working ha…
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 01:34 PM
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Do not think that love in order to be genuine has to be extraordinary. What we need is to love without getting tired. Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies. Divorce isn't such a tragedy. A tragedy's staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your children the wrong things about love. Nobody ever died of divorce. The curse of mortality. You spend the first portion of your life learning, growing stronger, more capable. And then, through no fault of your own, your …
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 01:17 PM
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The only person that deserves a special place in your life is someone that never made you feel like you were an option in theirs. If you spend time with crazy and dangerous people, remember their personalities are socially transmitted diseases; like water poured into a container, most of us eventually turn into or remain whoever we surround ourselves with. We can choose our tribe, but we cannot change that our tribe is our destiny. Equality is not a concept. It's not something we should be stri…
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 12:42 PM
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Ya
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/23 12:31 PM
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Definitely
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/23 12:29 PM
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There is nothing better than a friend, unless it is a friend with chocolate. I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together. Suspecting and knowing are not the same. When we are in a vulnerable state of emotional dysregulation, it often doesn’t …
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/23 12:28 PM
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Never let the future disturb you. You will meet it, if you have to, with the same weapons of reason which today arm you against the present. You can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks, or even months over-analyzing a situation; trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could've, would've happened... or you can just leave the pieces on the floor and move the fuck on. Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams cont…
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/23 01:09 AM
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We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret or disappointment. Confidence is ignorance. If you're feeling cocky, it's because there's something you don't know. Being divorced is like being hit by a Mack truck. If you live through it, you start looking very carefully to the right and to the left. The traditional family table is round. No corners. No sides. No head. No tail. Everything is smooth. The food is in the center, and each family member reaches over …
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/23 01:02 AM
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A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/23 12:54 AM
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Listen to your being. It is continuously giving you hints; it is a still, small voice. It does not shout at you, that is true. And if you are a little silent you will start feeling your way. Be the person you are. Never try to be another, and you will become mature. Maturity is accepting the responsibility of being oneself, whatsoever the cost. Risking all to be oneself, that's what maturity is all about. If you have the opportunity to play this game of life you need to appreciate every moment. …
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/23 12:46 AM
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We cannot stop natural disasters but we can arm ourselves with knowledge: so many lives wouldn't have to be lost if there was enough disaster preparedness. You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people, but until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed. You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex, but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the w…
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/23 12:37 AM
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The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart. When we look up at night and view the stars, everything we see is shinning because of distant nuclear fusion. No one can be happy who has been thrust outside the pale of truth. And there are two ways that one can be removed from this realm: by lying, or by being lied to.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/23 12:19 AM
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Life is random and fucked-up and arbitrary, until you find someone who can make sense of it all for you if only temporarily. Freedom makes a huge requirement of every human being. With freedom comes responsibility. For the person who is unwilling to grow up, the person who does not want to carry his own weight, this is a frightening prospect. Life is too short to waste any amount of time on wondering what other people think about you. In the first place, if they had better things going on in the…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 09:48 PM
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There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embra…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 08:55 PM
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When two people decide to get a divorce, it isn't a sign that they 'don't understand' one another, but a sign that they have, at last, begun to. When things are going bad, don't get all bummed out. Don't get startled; don't get frustrated. If you can say the word 'good,' guess what? It means you're still alive. It means you're still breathing. Divorce lawyers stoke anger and fear in their clients, knowing that as long as the conflicts remain unresolved the revenue stream will keep flowing. If yo…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 08:43 PM
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Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. A divorce is like an amputation: you survive it, but there's less of you.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 01:06 PM
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Keep only those things that speak to your heart. Then take the plunge and discard all the rest. By doing this, you can reset your life and embark on a new lifestyle. Those with a grateful mindset tend to see the message in the mess. And even though life may knock them down, the grateful find reasons, if even small ones, to get up. In my mind, marriage is a spiritual partnership and union in which we willingly give and receive love, create and share intimacy, and open ourselves to be available an…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 01:04 PM
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We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future. Don't waste your love on somebody, who doesn't value it.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 01:00 PM
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Only after disaster can we be resurrected. It's only after you've lost everything that you're free to do anything. Nothing is static, everything is evolving, everything is falling apart. The best way to measure how much you've grown isn't by inches or the number of laps you can now run around the track, or even your grade point average though those things are important, to be sure. It's what you've done with your time, how you've chosen to spend your days, and whom you've touched this year. That…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 12:54 PM
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When marrying, ask yourself this question: Do you believe that you will be able to converse well with this person into your old age? Everything else in marriage is transitory. Our society tends to regard as a sickness any mode of thought or behavior that is inconvenient for the system and this is plausible because when an individual doesn't fit into the system it causes pain to the individual as well as problems for the system. Thus the manipulation of an individual to adjust him to the system i…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 11:39 AM
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Do not brood over your past mistakes and failures as this will only fill your mind with grief, regret and depression. Do not repeat them in the future. There's a less than one percent chance of a vasectomy failing, but it does happen. And you know there were complications . . ." "Please don't talk about the complications. All kids need is a little help, a little hope and somebody who believes in them. A great book should leave you with many experiences, and slightly exhausted at the end. You liv…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 11:22 AM
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There is no duty we so much underrate as the duty of being happy. By being happy we sow anonymous benefits upon the world. Happiness is beneficial for the body, but it is grief that develops the powers of the mind.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 11:14 AM
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The feelings that hurt most, the emotions that sting most, are those that are absurd. The longing for impossible things, precisely because they are impossible; nostalgia for what never was; the desire for what could have been; regret over not being someone else; dissatisfaction with the world’s existence. All these half-tones of the soul’s consciousness create in us a painful landscape, an eternal sunset of what we are. It is easier to find men who will volunteer to die, than to find those who a…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 11:11 AM
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Sometimes when you sacrifice something precious, you're not really losing it. You're just passing it on to someone else. There are no happy endings. Endings are the saddest part, so just give me a happy middle and a very happy start. There is nothing else than now. There is neither yesterday, certainly, nor is there any tomorrow. How old must you be before you know that? There is only now, and if now is only two days, then two days is your life and everything in it will be in proportion. This is…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 11:08 AM
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You are welcome
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 10:14 AM
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Be careful not to appear obsessively intellectual. When intelligence fills up, it overflows a parody.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 11:57 PM
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Find yourself a used iPhone, maybe from Craigslist, where you have no relationship with the seller. Pay cash for it, toss the SIM card, and restore it to factory settings. You’ll need to set up a burner email to get an anonymous iTunes account.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 01:14 AM
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Extraordinary doesn't belong to the limited; it belongs to the distinctively beautiful ordinary soul. The soul who understands this truly honorable and simple perspective, holds unmatched happiness. When stumbling blocks can become stepping stones, then these stones that the builders reject can equally become chief corner stones
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 01:12 AM
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Ok
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/23 03:27 PM
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If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything. Live your life in such a way that you'll be remembered for your kindness, compassion, fairness, character, benevolence, and a force for good who had much respect for life, in general. The truth of course is that if people really were as happy as they look on the Internet, they wouldn’t spend so much damn time on the Internet, because no one who’s having a really good day spends half of it taking pictures of themselves. Anyone can nurtur…
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/23 03:25 PM
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Nobody ever figures out what life is all about, and it doesn't matter. Explore the world. Nearly everything is really interesting if you go into it deeply enough. It does not matter how long you are spending on the earth, how much money you have gathered or how much attention you have received. It is the amount of positive vibration you have radiated in life that matters. You don't have to test everything to destruction just to see if you made it right.
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/23 03:17 PM
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A homeless person should know that many souls feel utterly homeless in spite of living into the bodies of wealthy homeowners
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/23 03:33 AM
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‎True love isn't expressed in passionately whispered words an intimate kiss or a embrace; before two people are married, love is expressed in self-control, patience, even words left unsaid. The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust. A merging of two people is an impossibility…
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/23 03:29 AM
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When it comes to controlling human beings there is no better instrument than lies. Because, you see, humans live by beliefs. And beliefs can be manipulated. The power to manipulate beliefs is the only thing that counts.
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/23 03:17 AM
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Your heart just breaks, that's all. But you can't judge or point fingers. You just have to be lucky enough to find someone who appreciates you.
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/23 03:14 AM
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People will walk in and walk out of your life, but the one whose footstep made a long lasting impression is the one you should never allow to walk out. Don't be too quick to draw conclusions from what happens to you; simply let it happen. Otherwise it will be too easy for you to look with blame... at your past, which naturally has a share with everything that now meets you. When scorching passion only leaves ashes of unfulfilled dreams, hope may entice the sprinkling magic of our imagination int…
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/23 03:10 AM
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You can't force love, I realized. It's there or it isn't. If it's not there, you've got to be able to admit it. If it is there, you've got to do whatever it takes to protect the ones you love. Someone who loves us passionately is motivated to know and understand us to a greater depth than someone with whom our relationship is more casual. To be honest, I think love is complete bullshit. I don't think anyone ever loves anyone. I think the best people ever get is horny; horny and scared, so when t…
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/23 02:48 AM
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People come, people go they’ll drift in and out of your life, almost like characters in a favorite book. When you finally close the cover, the characters have told their story and you start up again with another book, complete with new characters and adventures. Then you find yourself focusing on the new ones, not the ones from the past.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/23 09:58 PM
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Many times in life, we are held back from achieving our goals because we do not commit ourselves wholeheartedly. With an escape route in mind, we hold ourselves back from giving our all. Sometimes it's the toughest moments that you learn the most about yourself, and the more you know yourself, the less you are willing to give away. If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you're allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/23 09:53 PM
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There is only one sin. and that is theft... when you tell a lie, you steal someones right to the truth. If you look for truth, you may find comfort in the end; if you look for comfort you will not get either comfort or truth only soft soap and wishful thinking to begin, and in the end, despair. The good thing about science is that it's true whether or not you believe in it. There is nothing better than a friend, unless it is a friend with chocolate. Life is made of so many moments that mean noth…
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/23 09:48 PM
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To protect human nature from easy distractions some people poeticize the beautiful aspects of love, ignoring its darker side, while others exaggerate the evils of love, prescribing renunciation. These are merely two different modes adopted by two kinds of people. If you blame one, you cannot absolve the other. I learned the bad guys are not always bad, the good guys are not always good, and to quote Captain Barbossa, the parameters are like rules, mostly guidelines. And that it takes a little bi…
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/23 08:40 PM
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You are welcome, owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light. If you feel comfortable enough to spill your guts to a stranger you pay per hour to do that with, then you'll be receptive …
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/23 03:23 AM
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Representation of the world, like the world itself, is the work of men; they describe it from their own point of view, which they confuse with absolute truth. Don't let the expectations and opinions of other people affect your decisions. It's your life, not theirs. Do what matters most to you; do what makes you feel alive and happy. Don't let the expectations and ideas of others limit who you are. If you let others tell you who you are, you are living their reality not yours. There is more to li…
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/23 03:03 PM
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When people get married because they think it's a long-time love affair, they'll be divorced very soon, because all love affairs end in disappointment. But marriage is a recognition of a spiritual identity. Every generation imagines itself to be more intelligent than the one that went before it, and wiser than the one that comes after it. Any fool knows men and women think differently at times, but the biggest difference is this. Men forget, but never forgive; women forgive, but never forget. Vu…
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/23 02:57 PM
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The true secret of happiness lies in taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/23 01:00 PM
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The two hardest tests on the spiritual road are the patience to wait for the right moment and the courage not to be disappointed with what we encounter. You are the master of your destiny. You can influence, direct and control your own environment. You can make your life what you want it to be. Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumble bee, the small child, and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, and feel the wind. Live your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your dreams. Peo…
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 10:46 PM
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If we are really ready for thinking, not the traditional, conventional, rehashed thinking, but the exploratory and adventurous thinking, we can move forward and discover the astounding appeal of new mind-blowing visions. Authenticity is everything! You have to wake up every day and look in the mirror, and you want to be proud of the person who's looking back at you. And you can only do that if you're being honest with yourself and being a person of high character. You have an opportunity every s…
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 10:27 PM
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Never attempt to teach a pig to sing; it wastes your time and annoys the pig. Some women choose to follow men, and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you're wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn't love you anymore. You're going to come across people in your life who will say all the right words at all the right times. But in the end, it's always their actions you should judge them by. It's actions, not words, that matter. All…
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 10:23 PM
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Stay true to yourself, yet always be open to learn. Work hard, and never give up on your dreams, even when nobody else believes they can come true but you. These are not cliches but real tools you need no matter what you do in life to stay focused on your path. All life demands struggle. Those who have everything given to them become lazy, selfish, and insensitive to the real values of life. The very striving and hard work that we so constantly try to avoid is the major building block in the per…
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 10:15 PM
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Being unhappy and miserable is your choice. The mentality is destructive, and consenting to staying stuck in that state of mind is a blueprint for disaster. There are many types of marriage relationships and all of them can work, but none is sadder than the one that doesn't represent peace in your heart. One person with a divine purpose, passion and power is better than 99 people who are merely interested. Passion is stronger than interest. Sometimes the night can be your best therapist. For the…
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 10:10 PM
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If someone is not treating you with love and respect, it is a gift if they walk away from you. If that person doesn't walk away, you will surely endure many years of suffering with him or her. Walking away may hurt for a while, but your heart will eventually heal. Then you can choose what you really want. You will find that you don't need to trust others as much as you need to trust yourself to make the right choices. But part of getting to know yourself is to unknow yourself to let go of the li…
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 09:32 PM
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If you have a dream, don’t just sit there. Gather courage to believe that you can succeed and leave no stone unturned to make it a reality. Sometime, the only way you can make someone listen is with your fist. This is not a technique espoused, I know by the diagnostic manuals on most therapists' shelves.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 09:19 PM
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Relationships are a lot like houses: without a good foundation, they’ll crumble. When a light bulb goes out, you don’t buy a new house, you change the bulb. When the faucet drips, you don’t start mopping the floor before you fix the leak. In other words, no matter how much digging it takes, it’s important to get to the root of a problem. Courage doesn’t happen when you have all the answers. It happens when you are ready to face the questions you have been avoiding your whole life.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 09:13 PM
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The most valuable possession you can own is an open heart. The most powerful weapon you can be is an instrument of peace. In one case out of a hundred a point is excessively discussed because it is obscure; in the ninety-nine remaining it is obscure because it is excessively discussed. It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being. Never let the…
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 09:08 PM
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Ok
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 08:34 PM
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Thanks
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 05:52 PM
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Making mistakes is part of learning to choose well. No way around it. Choices are thrust upon us, and we don't always get things right. Even postponing or avoiding a decision can become a choice that carries heavy consequences. Mistakes can be painful-sometimes they cause irrevocable harm-but welcome to Earth. Poor choices are part of growing up, and part of life. You will make bad choices, and you will be affected by the poor choices of others. We must rise above such things.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 02:28 AM
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The reality is that most of us communicate the same way that we grew up. That communication style becomes our normal way of dealing with issues, our blueprint for communication. It’s what we know and pass on to our own children. We either become our childhood or we make a conscious choice to change it.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 02:26 AM
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The biggest wall you have to climb is the one you build in your mind: Never let your mind talk you out of your dreams, trick you into giving up. Never let your mind become the greatest obstacle to success. To get your mind on the right track, the rest will follow.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 02:24 AM
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Once you embrace your value, talents and strengths, it neutralizes when others think less of you. Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark in the hopeless swamps of the not-quite, the not-yet, and the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish in lonely frustration for the life you deserved and have never been able to reach. The world you desire can be won. It exists.. it is real.. it is possible.. it's yours. Don't be afraid of being scared. To be afraid is a sign of c…
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 02:04 AM
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When women lose themselves, the world loses its way. We do not need more selfless women. What we need right now is more women who have detoxed themselves so completely from the world's expectations that they are full of nothing but themselves. What we need are women who are full of themselves. A woman who is full of herself knows and trusts herself enough to say and do what must be done. She lets the rest burn.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 01:52 AM
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We need to give each other the space to grow, to be ourselves, to exercise our diversity. We need to give each other space so that we may both give and receive such beautiful things as ideas, openness, dignity, joy, healing, and inclusion. Life is like a game of chess. To win you have to make a move. Knowing which move to make comes with IN-SIGHT and knowledge, and by learning the lessons that are acculated along the way. We become each and every piece within the game called life. To share your …
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 01:48 AM
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Inexperience can be overcome, ignorance can be enlightened, but prejudice will destroy you. In a world pulsating with so much information, the only information that you need is the stuff that will lead you straight to your own soul. Think of this: Most of the information that is fed to you, is motivated by the desire to earn money. Forget what the magazines say, what the forums say, what all the experts say. Your soul does not need to be spoon-fed with stuff it doesn't need. Your soul needs to b…
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 01:33 AM
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The backside of a mountain is a fight against human nature. You have to care as much about yourself on the way down as you did on the way up. Concurrently, when it comes to matters of the heart we are encouraged to treat partners as though they were objects we can pick up, use, and the discard and dispose of at will, with the one criteria being whether or not individualistic desires are satisfied. Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 01:06 AM
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In desperate love, we always invent the characters of our partners, demanding they be what we need of them, and then feeling devastated when they refuse to perform the role we created in the first place. Evil communication truly corrupts good manner. Not every adult has good moral upbringing and as such they abuse ethics at will. To them, they are having fun when in truth they are fooling themselves.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 01:01 AM
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Definitely and once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 12:21 AM
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Ok
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 12:17 AM
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God created each one of us in our own unique way. Just like a snowflake we all hold a blueprint that differs one from another. It's great to lose weight and keep our bodies healthy and strong, but it's also important that we appreciate who we are today with or without extra pounds. Empaths did not come into this world to be victims, we came to be warriors. Be brave. Stay strong. We need all hands on deck.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 12:16 AM
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You're going to come across people in your life who will say all the right words at all the right times. But in the end, it's always their actions you should judge them by. It's actions, not words, that matter.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 12:13 AM
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Tell people there's an invisible man in the sky who created the universe, and the vast majority will believe you. Tell them the paint is wet, and they have to touch it to be sure. Atrocities are easier to commit if respect for the victim can be neutralized. For this reason, humiliation handed out by those with power can be ominous. The link between humiliation and atrocity is often found.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 12:11 AM
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The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen. Some people are in such utter darkness that they will burn you just to see a light. Try not to take it personally.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 12:06 AM
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Memories keep us stay alive as they gently cuddle us along the squirming roads of our lives and even warn us sometimes of insidious pitfalls. Thieves and liars kill indirectly, unintentionally, and with no other weapon than their tongues and malice. The harder the struggle, the more glorious the triumph. Self-realization demands very great struggle. It's very refreshing to go away and take a break, to clear your head, and just get into something else. The only thing you sometimes have control ov…
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 12:02 AM
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Most investigators don't even know what the word means. You stop the cops from using informants and the only crimes they'd ever solve would be those by deranged postal workers who come to work once too often. One's dignity may be assaulted, vandalized and cruelly mocked, but it can never be taken away unless it is surrendered. They throw rice at a new marriage, then give him beans in a divorcement. Everyone wants to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus wi…
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/23 02:59 AM
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One of the greatest goals of all is to recognize the commonality of the grand that only appears uncommon because it is missed by the ignorance of our souls turned sour. Trust is the glue of life. It's the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It's the foundational principle that holds all relationships. Marriage resembles a pair of shears, so joined that they cannot be separated; often moving in opposite directions, yet always punishing anyone who comes between them.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/23 02:50 AM
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Do not wait; the time will never be 'just right.' Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along. It's okay to disagree with the thoughts or opinions expressed by other people. That doesn't give you the right to deny any sense they might make. Nor does it give you a right to accuse someone of poorly expressing their beliefs just because you don't like what they are saying. Learn to recognize good writing when you r…
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/23 02:44 AM
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A man's love for a woman is not defined by his availability in bed, but by every ingredient he adds to improve the taste of the relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/23 02:38 AM
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Your emotions make you human. Even the unpleasant ones have a purpose. Don't lock them away. If you ignore them, they just get louder and angrier. Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring. Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/23 02:36 AM
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The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 10:15 PM
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Sometimes you put walls up not to keep people out, but to see who cares enough to break them down.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 10:09 PM
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Life is hard. Then you die. Then they throw dirt in your face. Then the worms eat you. Be grateful it happens in that order.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 10:05 PM
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The subsistence mentality of a person is a prison in which his personal joy is detained. If you want to live in joy, you don't live for yourself alone. Live for others too
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 09:59 PM
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Courage is the most important of all the virtues, because without courage you can't practice any other virtue consistently. You can practice any virtue erratically, but nothing consistently without courage.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 09:57 PM
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Divorce isn't such a tragedy. A tragedy's staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your children the wrong things about love. Nobody ever died of divorce. Discipline is based on pride, on meticulous attention to details, and on mutual respect and confidence. Discipline must be a habit so ingrained that it is stronger than the excitement of the goal or the fear of failure.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 09:55 PM
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That's the thing about depression: A human being can survive almost anything, as long as she sees the end in sight. But depression is so insidious, and it compounds daily, that it's impossible to ever see the end. If you have a positive attitude and constantly strive to give your best effort, eventually you will overcome your immediate problems and find you are ready for greater challenges. Don’t grieve. Anything you lose comes round in another form. Patience is necessary, and one cannot reap im…
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 09:41 PM
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If there's a single lesson that life teaches us, it's that wishing doesn't make it so.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 09:34 PM
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It is by going down into the abyss that we recover the treasures of life. Where you stumble, there lies your treasure. Your initiatives should be purposeful. Never climb a tree with the purpose of plucking a fruit, only to come down with a leaf. Agility is about handling the curveballs life pitches at us. It’s being able to respond quickly when you’re caught off guard. When you engage your core to Pause and Think, you can Act by responding thoughtfully when you’re blindsided, instead of reacting…
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 09:32 PM
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Don't bend; don't water it down; don't try to make it logical; don't edit your own soul according to the fashion. Rather, follow your most intense obsessions mercilessly. Anything that’s human is mentionable, and anything that is mentionable can be more manageable. When we can talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary. The people we trust with that important talk can help us know that we are not alone.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 09:22 PM
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The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 09:17 PM
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No man needs sympathy because he has to work, because he has a burden to carry. Far and away the best prize that life offers is the chance to work hard at work worth doing. Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 09:12 PM
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Sometimes I think there are only two instructions we need to follow to develop and deepen our spiritual life: slow down and let go. Work hard for what you want because it won't come to you without a fight. You have to be strong and courageous and know that you can do anything you put your mind to. If somebody puts you down or criticizes you, just keep on believing in yourself and turn it into something positive. There comes a time when the world gets quiet and the only thing left is your own hea…
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 09:06 PM
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You've done it before and you can do it now. See the positive possibilities. Redirect the substantial energy of your frustration and turn it into positive, effective, unstoppable determination. It was character that got us out of bed, commitment that moved us into action, and discipline that enabled us to follow through. Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 08:55 PM
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It is good to love many things, for therein lies the true strength, and whosoever loves much performs much, and can accomplish much, and what is done in love is well done
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 08:50 PM
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Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 08:47 PM
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Occasionally we can pause and take a breath this is especially a great time to re-center or focus at times from normal life events we might drift unaware, then in turn allow direction to our happy kind of island. Your love should never be offered to the mouth of a Stranger, only to someone who has the valor and daring to cut pieces of their soul off with a knife. Then weave them into a blanket to protect you. Life is random and fucked-up and arbitrary, until you find someone who can make sense o…
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 12:10 AM
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