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| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 11 | Blown Off After Second Date Unexpectedly - Why Does it Happen? | Conversation | Interesting_Ad_9856 | /r/seduction | 19/03/22 11:27 AM |
| 4 | Giving me the runaround with setting a date | Conversation | Interesting_Ad_9856 | /r/seduction | 20/09/22 12:11 AM |
| 3 | How to handle this type of response from a woman... | Comprehensive | Interesting_Ad_9856 | /r/seduction | 09/04/26 11:19 PM |
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| 1 | How to handle this type of response from a woman...Forget my overthinking which admittedly might be going on. One thing that I know is pretty clear there is there is low interest / attention seeking going on. I pretty much took her bait and paid the price by getting (unofficially) rejected. So with that all said, why would I go in trying to set up another date? If she was actually interested, she can reach out this time imo | /r/seduction | 10/04/26 12:31 PM |
| 1 | How to handle this type of response from a woman...1- I met her four years ago but she was seeing someone for half that time and we never interacted much other than a few quiet/passive ways. I thought she was cute, but didn't pay her much mind bc she never ever showed interest at all. 2- I rebuffed her because for as long as I can remember the woman showed zero real interest in me, and on top of that was always a bit immature and quirky. Just because she suddenly said one thing about wanting to go to a bar, without mentioning that WE should go, … | /r/seduction | 10/04/26 12:16 PM |
| 1 | How to handle this type of response from a woman...This isn't a relationship and I don't view this as "the slightest problem". If we can't even get to a first date then it's just something that I'm not going to invest much more time into. The woman flirted with me, showed signs of interest, I asked her out, and was met with lukewarmness. Common sense seems to be for me to back off now. | /r/seduction | 10/04/26 10:56 AM |
| 1 | How to handle this type of response from a woman...Thanks for explaining and I think I understand a bit more now, but let me give you a bit more context- over the years I've always been great to her in the few occasions we've talked via text or chatted in person, but there were also many signs of attention seeker in her as well. For example on a couple of occasions when I tried getting somewhat personal with her, she's suddenly delay her response for a very long time or even on one occasion didn't respond at all. At one point I pretty much wrote… | /r/seduction | 10/04/26 10:55 AM |
| 1 | How to handle this type of response from a woman...Agreed. Need to get over myself and realize that even though I do like her quite a bit, she doesn't deserve my time if this is the energy she's giving me. | /r/seduction | 10/04/26 01:26 AM |
| 2 | How to handle this type of response from a woman...She just doesn't know you well enough yet to be emotionally invested. Appreciate that response but I'm going to disagree with you on this one. I do get where you're coming from, but at the end of the day we're not talking about marriage or a two week vacation getaway here. We're talking about one night, one date and maybe even just one drink. I don't think most women need to have all sorts of deep emotional investment or bonding to go out on one date with a guy. They just need to be serious abou… | /r/seduction | 10/04/26 12:11 AM |
| 2 | Is she just playing me?As others have alluded to, it's time to pull back completely and match the low energy she's giving you. Do not message her again. What's done is done at this point and the ball is in her court, clearly. | /r/seduction | 05/04/26 06:25 PM |
| 1 | She attempted to ghost me after two great dates. But why?Emotionally unavailable. Damaged from men and other relationships in the past. Happens a lot in women beginning in their late 30's. I'm sure she did think you were a nice/great guy, but when it came time to really take a bigger step which she may have sensed could have happened on a third date, the thought became too much for her and she aborted(yes, in a bad way). You could make the case that you didn't do enough to make her like you on those first two dates and all that stuff, but I doubt that… | /r/seduction | 17/06/25 03:17 AM |
| 1 | Going about textingIn the early stages you don't say anything, though it really could be a telling sign of what type of woman you're dealing with overall. Go out and see how she is in person first. | /r/seduction | 17/02/25 01:54 PM |
| 1 | Dry texter but better in personIf you're having great times with her in person, I'd really think hard about blowing her off. It could be something else that causes her to be this way. | /r/seduction | 16/02/25 06:28 PM |
| 1 | Dry texter but better in personJust curious how old is she? Sometimes if they're too young (i.e. maybe 25 or under) they're too naive to understand that this could look weird and immature and if they're too old (Like literally over 50 or so) they could just not understand how to communicate via texting the way someone in their 30's would. | /r/seduction | 16/02/25 04:13 PM |
| 0 | Blown Off After Second Date Unexpectedly - Why Does it Happen?You're right, it's me! It's always the guy. Who would ever blame it on women? There's no such thing at all as a woman who might be conflicted in her dating life, damaged in some way or just finds excuses to push a guy away. Especially considering this particular one told me she hadn't been in a serious relationship in 9 years. You're absolutely right. If I went out with Jennifer Lopez as long as I played it right I could get her, no doubt. | /r/seduction | 19/03/22 10:09 PM |
| -3 | Blown Off After Second Date Unexpectedly - Why Does it Happen?Ah yes, was waiting for one of you “it’s always you never her” guys to come along and tell me you know all about me. What’s next, you tell me I should read the Don Juan Bible and that everything I’ve ever done is wrong and my frame is completely off? Side note: I never said once that I didn’t have anything to do with this. | /r/seduction | 19/03/22 03:02 PM |
| 4 | Blown Off After Second Date Unexpectedly - Why Does it Happen?With regards to your #1 - my thing is if a 34 year old mature woman who legitimately WANTS a relationship feels good chemistry between herself and a man personality wise, he checks all the boxes for her as far as being a well put together well off guy, but is apparently so "turned off" by the fact that a KISS didn't happen by the end of a second date and 4 hours of time spent together, that she deems it all OVER and the END, then in my opinion it's good riddance and good luck. Now if we are talk… | /r/seduction | 19/03/22 01:46 PM |
| 6 | Blown Off After Second Date Unexpectedly - Why Does it Happen?Welcome to NYC, where that's the average cost (after tip) for two rounds drinks. | /r/seduction | 19/03/22 12:17 PM |
| 4 | Blown Off After Second Date Unexpectedly - Why Does it Happen?Very likely, yes. Unlike men, women can typically put attraction aside early on as long as the personality and/or high value is there (i.e. he makes bank), but then there comes a cutoff point for many of them where they can't do it anymore. The shocking thing about this particular case is that I truly felt there was attraction there, there was some nice kino that she didn't stop, and on top of everything else, she's initiating arm holding with ME at the end of the date. | /r/seduction | 19/03/22 12:01 PM |
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