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That’s not a sound argument. Especially if you’re not the one who knocked her up in the first place. You’re simply excusing paternity fraud which is exclusively done by women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 12:38 AM
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No it’s the cheating. Not the inability in someone believing in the cheater. You’ll torture any argument because it’s hard to justify equal rights for women and yet absolve them from accountability at the same time. There’s information asymmetry in regards to knowledge of maternity and paternity. No abstract coffee shop construct changes that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 02:48 AM
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What risk to a child? Hyperbole or just flat out lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 02:45 AM
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Asinine Only the woman knows for sure she’s monogamous and only the woman knows the paternity for certain (Or that paternity is uncertain). The onus is on HER to inform the father. If the man could predict her infidelity enough to question prior to pregnancy he wouldn’t be with her to begin with. If she lies outright or by omission ( pretending or being willfully ignorant ) that the wrong man is accepting responsibility is like getting extra incentives to lie better.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 12:45 AM
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Women can be more selective but if that selection isn’t exercised well then it’s no advantage. I’ve had women who rejected me circle back a couple of years later. One told me she was attracted to me and loved how I treated her but didn’t see a future. She wasn’t specific on what that meant. I didn’t press but I suspected it was because her family was well to do and I was just getting my act together. I told her I respected the fact she was honest with me before and didn’t lead me on and I had to…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:07 PM
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The duty to the child and father and men don’t matter ?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 01:38 PM
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Every conversation I’ve had with women convinces me that their perception of great sex is very contextual. Largely the same for men but that wasn’t the question. They were younger , likely less responsibilities , maybe figuring out what they liked, losing inhibitions, felt beautiful and wanted etc. The guy she was with was just part of that whole environment at the time. Drive yourself crazy that it was about the guy’s dick if you want but it’s a stupid mental rathole IMO. None of us can compete…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 11:52 AM
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And then conflating all men as being disengenous on their intentions until sex happens. Cycle repeats
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 06:59 PM
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Those beauty standards are almost all generated from women competing with other women. Don’t lay that on men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 04:33 PM
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I don’t see a point of telling any women my opinion of their dating standards. If a woman I am friends with is specifically looking for advice I might broach the topic But even then the goal would be to help frame reality and not judge her. Trade offs are real. What is weird to me as a happily married observer is that almost none of the “must haves “ are about character traits. Height , income , physique. Of course sexual attraction is part of it but in my mind that’s a pass fail with little uti…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 03:43 PM
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If they have a traditional view on marriage. I think it’s generally a bad idea for men and women to cohabitate without at least being engaged It’s not trial run just living together. That’s a faulty premise because marriage is a huge entanglement legally and ethically. 10x more if kids are involved. If you know you have a no risk “out” if things don’t go as planned you aren’t going to act the same way in that relationship or try as hard to work on yourself and your own contributions to the probl…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 12:21 PM
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My overall libido has been higher than my partners but inside of that my experience is that women can out libido me during particular moments or situations. Liken it to camels. They don’t need to drink every day but when they are thirsty they will drink gallons of available.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:32 AM
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Semantics. Bs
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 12:19 AM
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The woman has specific knowledge regarding the father’s identity that no one else does and others are dependent on her knowledge Having that knowledge places the burden solely on her. Husbands obviously hate a right to presume paternity unless otherwise informed. an investment advisor is given money as an expert and knows an investment has a 50/50 chance of being completely fraudulent and losing his clients money then he cannot avoid fraud charges by claiming “ well I didn’t know for sure and I …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 12:13 AM
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If there is any doubt there is no justification for not verifying and notifying the stakeholders. To me playing dumb is intent. Even if she decides to do the test without disclosing cheating right away , she still has an higher obligation to let everyone know if the expected father isn’t the actual father.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 07:45 PM
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Men don’t use the words leech or broke to dismiss women out of hand. That says something about the respective mindsets.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 01:27 AM
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Self reliant yes. I think that’s wise for both men and women, maybe more justified for women because they have more risk picking an unreliable partner. But there’s a big distinction between financially stable and living within your means and being attracted to someone more based on high income.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 03:20 PM
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It’s more due to how women treat or view men who earn less. Women are far more likely to leave marriages when men are financially vulnerable.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 02:52 PM
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You got it. Men do care less about INCOME than women. But men care a lot about a woman’s intelligence, poise, education, warmth. The problem is that people are intellectually lazy and conflate income with education or intelligence. Most top quality men earn well but spend comparatively little on themselves. They expect to provide for their families so a woman just earning a lot provides little utility , especially if she lacks the personal qualities he desires. A librarian with a PhD and who’s a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 09:29 AM
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I don’t see any reason to shame anyone for working in porn period. It’s wrong to castigate anyone morally if you consume the product or service personally That said not choosing to date or associate with people because of their lifestyle or career choices isn’t shaming. Doing something as profession is way more impactful to the person or their partner than consuming it occasionally. I could love a pizza place but not want to date a woman who manages it because I don’t like the idea of a partner …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 06:52 PM
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The woman who’d put up with those conditions isn’t a woman I’d want so I can’t opine about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 06:49 PM
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There’s a ethos that men don’t complain or they look weak that’s pretty ingrained. Complaining more doesn’t equal doing more.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 07:33 PM
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Fine with me. I’m speaking solely from my own experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 05:40 PM
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The problem with these surveys is they are self reported. So in effect the people who complain the most and have the least objectivity or appreciation of their partner are viewed as the most victimized
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 02:37 PM
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You noticed I said prior girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 02:30 PM
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I’ve seen this. A prior girlfriend would watch me mow and cut grass for 2 hours sweating my butt off while she chilled. Then when I cooled off and she started vacuuming and cleaning she would glare at me. This repeated for months snd she finally snapped at me for not helping. I reminded her that I did chores outside without any help from her and never got funky with her. She paused and dropped it. Like she never even considered it. No apology but she’s a woman and that’s a different thread. It a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:55 PM
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Thanks for making a good distinction
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 11:58 PM
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Men and women in aggregate have it the same. Hundreds of millions in a sample then it statistically hits an equilibrium. It’s boring and unsatisfying to professional rabble rousers. You could make a case men or women face disproportionately more difficult struggles in given circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 02:49 PM
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The paradox is that for men being able to draw boundaries with women and trust that there are plenty of fish in the sea is what attracts women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 04:31 PM
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I’ve said nothing about any of that age matching you are going on and on about. Who finds who attractive and when and why. I didn’t say anything whatsoever about hypergamy. Nothing. I didn’t question or opine on what women found attractive. I did say that women will more often pair with people they have little or no attraction to than men. That’s covered extensively in women oriented media. It’s not nefarious necessarily. It’s just that men are still the initiators so it’s highly unlikely they’l…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 04:22 PM
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It’s not inconceivable someone would share values anywhere. It’s making a determination on the best odds and use of your time. By far the easiest thing would be marry someone with a similar background, religion, values right where you live. Men aren’t going to invest all the time or money along with additional risks lightly If they saw viable alternatives here. Should they continue to throw more time or try a different approach? Or should they accept being alone? The average man swipes on 200 da…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 04:01 PM
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You work and earn the lifestyle yourself. Or you commit and contribute wholly to your marriage to build it together instead of trying to latch onto someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 03:33 PM
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I’m baffled by this topic bubbling up so often. I’ve never had it personally be a thing or heard it from anyone I know. I expect to pay on the first date. I really appreciate if she offers to split but I politely decline and say something to the effect of “I’ve really enjoyed your company this evening. It’s been worth every penny” if she insists on splitting I’m fine with it but I only remember that happening 1 time. If I want to see her again I’ll say I’m not too proud to let you grab the next …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 03:30 PM
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I don’t agree at all. You are knocking men for seeking out better options. If I have vastly more options to date and marry in one place than another it’s logical I’d be justified having more positive feelings for one . If you prefer more traditional gender roles in a marriage and believe divorce isn’t justified except for a few exceptions then seeking out a partner who grew up where those values predominate is not only legitimate but wise. Prom Queens leave Nebraska every day and move to Dallas …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 12:20 PM
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At some point the professional female grievance complex will have to decide if women have agency over their lives or are supposed victims in every circumstance. Flipping the narrative on every situation when it’s more convenient to do so is exhausting to keep up with.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 11:54 AM
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I didn’t state women divorce for frivolous reasons. Another poster did. I stated women file for divorce much more often. Which is a fact. I didn’t write anything about women being incapable of finding love at a certain age. Again another poster said that. I said women’s priorities in mates shift as they get older. Again that’s just factual. You are taking baseless assumptions about what I wrote taken out of thin air by illogical emotionally driven posters and attributing their words to me so you…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 11:39 AM
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You’re conflating hundreds of thousands of men just looking for partners with trolls who likely aren’t looking overseas for anyone but just like to antagonize.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 10:57 AM
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This resonates with me. You pay attention to us.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 05:27 AM
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No. Women are less violent because they lack testosterone and violence has no utility if you are physically not as strong and will always lose if you go that route.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 05:19 AM
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It’s not possible for a true gold digger to be that stealthy. Their whole purpose in life is having a lifestyle. Goldiggers don’t have the werewithal to get that lifestyle ethically so thinking these same people are master strategists and inscrutable doesn’t make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 05:13 AM
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No. I don’t think women are marrying men they aren’t attracted to and have kids just to divorce. I didn’t say that. You’re conflating two separate points I made. The first is that in the US women are far more likely to end marriages so it’s a risk men always face regardless of their wife’s birthplace or her economic situation before she married. The 2nd is that women everywhere will lower the importance of attraction vs other factors based on circumstances. I think it’s a pragmatic approach. It …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 05:02 AM
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Pointing out facts. It’s a fair analogy. The fact you have to label any assertion you don’t like as hate due to a lack of arguments is more diminishing of your opinion than anything a red pill troll would post.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 04:37 AM
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Passport Bros is being applied to all men who look outside the US for women. Hundreds of thousands of men. It’s just lazy intellectually to refute my point and conflate all those men with a few trolls on a thread.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 03:08 AM
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So why knock them if they aren’t good enough for US women anyway? If I’m not interested in a woman I don’t give a shit if her beliefs are out of whack. Certainly not enough to get online to mock them. Begrudging someone whose choices have no impact on you is petty.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 02:10 AM
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Being frustrated at being rejected or diminished so much that you go to a lot of trouble and expense to find a woman elsewhere isn’t contempt. It’s actually taking ownership of your fate and doing something about it. Time will tell if it was wise for these men to do so.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 01:47 AM
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Citations ?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 01:41 AM
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Women don’t evaluate men in the abstract. They compare options to what’s around them. If hot young rich men with charm flew to the Phillipines to find brides these men would be relegated but that’s not reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 01:24 AM
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The stats are exactly the opposite of the narrative. US men with immigrant wives have substantially lower divorce rates than US couples. https://www.census.gov/library/stories/2021/05/marital-histories-differ-between-native-born-and-foreign-born-adults.html
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 12:58 AM
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You’re reading sexism into my statement without any justification . Marriage is a market. The men in these circumstances are commodities as much as women, maybe more so because they are at least genuinely attracted to the women. There’s no evidence whatsoever that men with foreign born wives are more abusive or violent or exploitative than any other men. It’s a narrative that allows people to demean the men and women who choose this. The wealth disparity is real but the foreign born wives have e…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 12:49 AM
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How is that different than what he’d risk in the US? American Women initiate the vast majority of divorces and they are seldom escaping poverty. Lots of women in the US settle at a certain age for men they didn’t want in order to have children. That’s more deceptive. .
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 11:48 PM
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Dating and marriage is a marketplace. If he feels he’s undervalued to one market and goes to another market it’s to be expected. If he’s not a suitable candidate for an American women then why should she or anyone care ?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 11:43 PM
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No. Because the topic is toxicity and not violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 12:21 PM
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Shitheads in a population of hundreds of millions are evenly distributed between the sexes You don’t need research to support it , that it’s just how statistics work. What varies is the tolerance, enabling, narratives and cover that our culture provides such behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 12:09 AM
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I was ambivalent about being a dad and leaning slightly against. I didn’t feel like I knew how to be a father I was raised by a single mother who had lots of challenges with depression and some substance abuse. She didn’t have good men around us and there was no money. I was determined to never subject a kid to the dysfunction and depravity I witnessed. I made my peace with my past. I was 42 before I met now wife. She was clear about wanting kids and I was sure about her as a wife. My wife was s…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 06:00 AM
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Bluffing and threatening to breakup is controlling. Actually leaving is making a choice
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 11:34 AM
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The question was to men about traits they desire in a wife. FFS can any question be asked without a scolding or turning it into a different agenda?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 08:01 PM
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Bingo. The rhetoric from women on what they want and prefer from men has changed a lot and right now is all over the place. What women actually respond to in terms of selecting partners hasn’t changed materially. I believe women genuinely desire some of these less traditionally masculine traits especially for LTR but the marketplace from man’s perspective tells them a different story.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 03:30 PM
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Women more often have friends who won’t tell them hard truths in my experience. The social cohesion takes precedence over truth. If you’re in a relationship with a woman in a friend circle like this it can be frustrating having important people in her life who see problematic behavior but chicken out saying anything. Again this is in aggregate in my experience. Individual men and women can be introspective and prefer honesty over pandering but I’d be lying if I said women I know have as many peo…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 07:25 PM
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By the time I see her labia I’m already sold on her.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 07:14 PM
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Men don’t value it the SAME . Meaning not as high a priority. Men don’t care is an absolute. He didn’t write they didn’t care at all. Not even close to the same statement. You misrepresented his statement because it’s easier to argue against that what he actually wrote. That’s a straw man.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 08:02 PM
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You are completely straw manning what he’s saying. He didn’t say men didn’t care about women’s interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 07:40 PM
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Interesting to see all of the energy and scolding on this from women on this pretty benign comment. My own experience is that women do respond well to men who demonstrate vigor. Not necessarily just actual strength and fitness but HOW you move. Do you spring into action, move with purpose? Etc I lost a lot of weight and my wife noted how she liked how I moved. That wasn’t a comment on being more productive , it was simply aesthetically appealing to her. Conflating this as nothing more than being…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 07:37 PM
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It’d be better for everybody if the “bar” both men and women refuse to lower involved character and personality traits and other attributes that actually predict relationship success. I’m not saying pick someone unattractive. I’m saying at least focus on what you personally find appealing instead of absorbing other people’s abstract ideals.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/26 11:09 PM
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Women are good resources for men on advice but usually the behaviors and traits they articulate leaves out the critical part. That being all of those things only matter if they’re attracted to the man in the first place. In terms of dating the majority of men are relatively invisible to single women. If you don’t stand out in some way no other advice matters. Relatively few men are so objectively attractive that women gravitate automatically to them on looks alone. Most women I talk to about wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 09:09 PM
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Name change is a choice but it’s a cultural custom not patriarchal oppression. Like dropping 20k on a ring. Dropping 50k on a wedding that most men could not care less about. Like wearing a white dress despite not being a virgin. Like having your father “give you away” Bridal showers. Baby showers. They’re all very sexist in principle. But if sexism involves fun shit then crickets.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/26 11:49 AM
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Women will say men are shit when they do xyz. Generally men will read that and shrug “she’s not talking about me” so it’s not a BFD Women do personalize the same comments about bad conduct by women and feel a need to defend generic bad by women or to insist on disclaimers, add a what about men. I’m not sure why this dynamic exists but it’s certainly different.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 04:55 AM
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Every study shows that women become bored with monogamy more often and earlier than men. Maybe the 1000th of 1 percent highest status man might want and feel entitled to shift to younger women constantly but even most of those men realize it’s a recipe for disaster. Most of this is completely anecdotal horseshit where women conflate the lifestyle and choices available to the highest status men with that of all men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 01:49 AM
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Banks care about your credit score because past behavior predicts future behavior. If a woman shows a lack of discernment in the quantity and or quality of sex partners it does show something about her judgment and or character. Like a credit score if your behavior is different for a number of years then way back when is not that relevant. Also context matters. If you have lots of options to have sex and show restraint it says more about you than if you don’t have partners because it’s simply di…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 10:53 PM
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Tell that to the banks looking at credit history to determine whether to loan you money.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 09:57 PM
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This makes total sense. I’d liken this to credit history. Way back when is not very relevant if they’ve lived differently for years. By someone’s late 20’s if their default isn’t serial monogamy I’d probably pass.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 09:55 PM
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I don’t disagree that violating norms has costs socially and economically. I disagree that the societal dynamics are the same for same same sex vs straight couples. Straight couples can have a perfectly healthy relationship but stay at home dads still have stigmas tied directly to their gender. Women can work full time, work part time, be a stay at home mom, leave the workforce to parent and return later. The culture has not given men anywhere near that flexibility. Same sex couples face all kin…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 05:17 PM
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You immediately started exempting heterosexual men from your rebuttal so you conceded the poster was correct for 95% of men. Sorry that’s the exception that proves the rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/26 12:55 PM
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Men and women in the aggregate share some standards for partners and prioritize other traits very differently. You’re selling one thing and purchasing another. Its two different markets so it’s not hypocrisy or contradictory. People often look for complementry traits. I.e Women cannot delay parenthood as long as men so their priorities obviously won’t be the the same as men . Wives cannot be conned into raising another woman’s child. Quality is the presence of value as defined by the customer.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 09:43 PM
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Women especially attractive young women get bombarded with offers so realism is warranted. Having a couple “whoops” getting involved with people you felt chemistry with and it didn’t work or yolo moments would in my mind be part of growing up. If ONS or FWB was a lifestyle choice for years into her late 20s or 30’s then I’d probably pass. Being discerning in whom you share your body with is important to me Sex has emotional and physical consequences, even more so for women so I’d be questioning …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 06:58 PM
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In the aggregate I think men and women suffer about the same. Setting aside behavioral issues Very attractive men have it best. Then attractive women. Average women have it easier than average men. Unattractive women have it tougher than men. 95% of men would do better at meeting women in person and simply make efforts to meet women and ask them out. Women often say honestly their husbands weren’t necessarily their type but something ( often subtle ) brought attraction. That dynamic isn’t happen…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 07:55 PM
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Financial stability. I.e. he spends less than her earns is a legitimate concern. Income and judging blind based on profession or assumptions about wealth based on income not so much. Providing ? Actually I think it’s fair request given the amount of risk women have in choosing wrong. It’d be nice if men were allowed to have some preferences without being excoriated.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 11:28 PM
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Bury something in your profile text and then screen messages to see if they read. I’m really interested in meeting men who are discerning in who they reach out to. I know it may sound odd but if you could put the name of your favorite nfl team in the subject line it’d really help me find you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 01:38 PM
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Women need to add polarity to their dating especially if they are attractive and use apps. Don’t comply sit lazily and try to select from guys carpet bombing swipes. Put some shit that’s true about you that you know will dissuade the guys who aren’t compatible with you. Who gives a shit about what men you don’t want think. Let them self select out so you don’t waste time with them. No status purses, shoes, exotic on your pics unless that’s really what you value. Leave that nonsense with your gir…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 05:34 AM
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Mixed messages for sure. The attraction question for women intrigues me as a man. I know more than a few great marriages where the men grew on their wives My personal experiences was that I was able woo women into relationships who were ambivalent about me as a suitor through effort and charm but the women lost enthusiasm even though I kept my game up. Women end more relationships in general so Hindsight leads me to believe that having some initial spark would’ve helped give me and the relations…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/26 12:05 AM
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Yep. There are obviously some gender differences in how dating marketplace dynamics play out in aggregate. That’s not really debatable, but those differences have very little significance to individual people. These topics can be interesting but If you know literally nothing about a the individual man or woman it’ll cause more harm than good to get hung up on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 12:45 PM
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Some flip scolding assertions about what a man does or doesn’t sexually need coming from a woman The identity for many if not most young men is closely interwoven with their confidence that they can find a sexual partner. Sex drive for young men is powerful. Until they have some success it can cause anxiety and loss of self confidence which is self defeating in attracting women in case you didn’t know and leads to unhealthy preoccupation with trying to get sex that the poster described so candid…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 07:27 PM
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Men in the online space obsess far too much on women’s body count. I’m not a fan of the term but using it to be succinct. Women want to pretend that it doesn’t matter at all and any concern a man may have is insecurity. That’s ridiculous as well and a terrible message to send to young women. Context matters. Say both the man and woman are 30 and decently attractive. If she’s been in predominantly serial monogamous relationships and had a few flings or a short “hoe” phase back in college then a m…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 02:14 PM
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Well intended bullshit from women but bullshit nonetheless
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 10:59 PM
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Depends When men first meet women often the only thing they know about her is that they find her attractive. Be honest is there any basis for a true friendship like common interests, values? Don’t be a weasel and hang around waiting to change her mind. I know it’s hard to hear and maybe unfair but it’s hard enough for many men to find women to partner with especially shy men. It can easy for men to accept friend zoning because it’s great to be in the company of attractive women but it’s not heal…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 10:52 PM
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Following a thirst trap on IG or OF model means nothing. Men as a rule aren’t looking to have relationships with those women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/25 12:58 AM
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The baseline of physical attractiveness a woman needs to have is lower than women think. The lengths women go to for incremental improvement in looks is very much diminishing returns in terms of what men respond to. Think of looks as a pass/fail with him then looking for personal attributes in a much more detailed and nuanced manner. Most men require similar values but then really hone in on women whom they believe have complementary skills /strengths to their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 10:40 PM
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Men rarely if ever use the word “settled”. I hear that much more from women. Men find many women attractive and it’s the first bar. Unless there’s something drastic physically that changed you can assume romance diminishing isn’t due to lack of attraction. More likely it’s just gender dynamics. During dating women show lots of affection and very conscientious in showing appreciation Men feed off this positive reinforcement. I think couples just get into ruts waiting for the other to kickstart. M…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 10:31 PM
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There’s something magnetic about a woman looking at you with her complete attention and respect. Compliments go much further with men than they do with women who hear more from both men and their female friends. Positive reinforcement. Good men constantly wish to be a hero for their wives//partners. I think it’s very feminine and attractive if a woman says. “ I know you love me. You may not realize for me and many women these even small romantic gestures mean so much”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/25 10:13 PM
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Happy for you but it’s an anecdote.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 02:42 PM
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You could label every preference as insecurity. So it’s BS Is it insecurity for women to want a man with a solid job given she can earn her own living? No. It’s a valid concern and it hasn’t changed despite all the gains women have made. Past behavior predicts future behavior. Men don’t marry hoes. Women don’t marry bums. That’s not changing. Bitch all you want about it not being fair but ignore it and you’re going to have a lot less options. Telling young men or women they can act any way they …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 02:40 PM
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It’s not body count per se. It’s wanting a long term partner who shows discernment and self respect in whom they have sex with. Since it’s impossible to know all of dynamics of someone’s past relationships the number of partners serves as a proxy in the same way an interviewer would look skeptically at someone who had lots of jobs with very short employment periods. It’s a valid concern.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/25 04:20 AM
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It’s textbook discrimination. The government sanctioning of discrimination doesn’t change the definition. Feminists should know this better than anyone. I don’t know Australian law but in the US any sexual discrimination must pass scrutiny has to serve a compelling government purpose and must be not only be legitimate but also important. The above would hardly qualify.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 03:10 PM
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Sure there's a small subset of women who really prioritize hooking up with big D. Those same women hook up with tons of men in general. So I guess if you want those women you'd be better off with a big one. Not my style but it's a free country. Some women like tattoos and some hate em Women obsess over fingernails, make up, and a bunch of other things far more than the vast majority of men pay attention to or prioritize. How many boob jobs as a man do you see and think it looks weird or too much…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 07:28 AM
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If you're a man working in a predominantlly female workplace and aren't making a nuisance of yourself eventualiy they will sort of forgot you're there and start talking to each other like they do when men aren't around. I've heard a fair amount over a few decades. A little bigger than average is a "nice to have" but it ranks below a lot of other traits. Girth is nice, length can be a nuisance against the cervix but hardness matters more. Women said something nice but discreet or nothing at all. …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/25 12:06 AM
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Women like masculine men not a-holes. Sometimes women especially younger more naive women mistake arrogance or being an aggressive ahole for masculinity. Men misread women's behavior all the time as well. It's a cop out to say the reason women aren't attracted to nice guys and pick assholes. Masculine men who aren't aholes do incredibly well with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/25 12:01 PM
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Unlike almost any woman Most men couldn't be promiscuous if they tried
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/25 08:17 AM
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I see some of this. Men are definitely frustrated. It's mot fun to get oxymoronically tagged as both oppressors and worthless losers. I don't see hardly any of this same animus to both men and women in the world as online. I don't think men desire women who act like men at all. Some of it is that women have broken through norms but still expect men to be in the same paradigm of earning more to measure up as a man It's a great thing to free women from being boxed into roles but it's unfair and ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 12:32 AM
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Initial approaches by men are based almost solely on attraction. He (or she) have no idea if they have common interests or values. Maybe he has plenty of friends and is already spent too much time hanging out with them at the expense of not finding a girlfriend. I think women largely have no clue about how much time and effort the average man needs to put into finding women to date and how much rejection he fights through. Some women say let's be friends as a throwaway line consolation prize to …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 03:21 AM
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Interesting take.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/25 01:58 AM
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They do want those qualities but they leave out that they only appreciate them in men they are already attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 12:51 AM
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There's lots of dynamics. Men generally don't spend as much time talking or complaining about their romantic relationships with friends. If you are attracted to her initially and like her even more after getting to know her it's not fun listening to to her gripe about how poorly the dickhead she's having sex with is treating her. The more you like her the worse it is. It's not good ROI for your confidence or time Maybe women thinks it's unfair for a man to lose interest in a friendship with an a…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 02:01 AM
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Fair points. To be fair context in how they met matters a lot. Women should know that no man goes to a nightclub and thinks to himself" wow she looks like she'd be a good friend"
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 01:31 AM
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Men need to be honest about their intentions up front. Most women even if they decline will be respectful of your feelings if you approach them respectfully. Grow a pair and go talk to her. Men without much personal experience are misled by RomComs that always show the nice guy who hangs around the guy "friend" for months and years and finally falls in love with him. Women perpetuate these myths by stating they like being friends first when that's rarely how the actually act.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/25 02:43 AM
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Agree. Promiscuity is a red flag because it could show a lack of self control or inability to create and maintain relationships.. i.e find someone new if things require effort. The studies I have seen are murky in terms of any neurobiological impact of many sexual partners on forming pair bonds. Looking for a mate is similar to the most important hiring decision you can make. If you saw a resume with a lot of short term job history most people would have concerns. Conversely if you see job hoppi…
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