| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| -6 | The reality of why you got cheated on requires some pretty nasty shadow work.Lol your wife cheated on you and you took her back and gave her another chance (post history). So forgive me here but I’m not going to be preached to by a literal cuckold who thinks I’m soft and weak for reflecting internally as to what led me to my current position. Thanks! | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/25 06:02 PM |
| 3 | The reality of why you got cheated on requires some pretty nasty shadow work.Thank you man. I’m in a very low place, totally heartbroken and you’re right. This wasn’t my best energy speaking. I appreciate this immensely | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/25 05:23 AM |
| 5 | How blindsided were you by the affair?My goodness. I am terribly, terribly sorry you had to endure this. What a scumbag piece of garbage he is. I do hope you have found peace and I bet there will be more in store for you in this lifetime. Maybe cheaters are clearing the way for us to find better life | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/25 04:48 AM |
| 11 | How blindsided were you by the affair?Respect, bro. It kills me inside to leave her. I miss her all the time. She is doing miserably, she has completely broken and calls me begging texts me the saddest shit 24-7. Full on broken human being. And I ignore every single message and voicemail. Never reply. But I’d be lying if I said it doesn’t kill me seeing her like that. Despite all she did. I don’t take much joy in her getting the karma. For the first few weeks I wanted her to hurt like I was hurting but. Now it’s just sad asf | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/25 04:30 AM |
| 11 | How blindsided were you by the affair?Run | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/25 04:22 AM |
| 3 | How blindsided were you by the affair?Why you lucky sun of a gun hahaha | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/25 02:36 AM |
| 11 | How blindsided were you by the affair?I am so, so sorry man. I hope you have recovered even somewhat. After 8 years of giving every ounce of my love to her, I know the feeling of shaking like that. I was so quiet for hours I just sat there. I felt like dying | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/09/25 02:17 AM |
| 7 | 8 years together and suddenly I discovered her serial cheating. Her lack of effort to hide things hurts more than the cheating itself. (Long rant and trigger warning, it’s Very cruel cheating)Well all of a sudden, the future doesn’t seem so dull. Thanks guys, I have faith I can be okay one day. It’s not gonna be easy, and I’m not gonna be happy tomorrow or the next day. But with all this newfound time to focus on myself, I bet after 1 year I’ll look back at these days with Great Pride. Like Freud says - “One day, in retrospect, the years of struggle will strike you as the most beautiful.” | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/09/25 06:36 AM |
| 4 | Did you guys tell everyone in your life (family/friends/colleague) that you left your wife for cheating on you?You’re right but for some reason man I feel soooo ashamed. I don’t want ANYONE to know I got cheated on. I prob need therapy or something. How am I the victim here yet I’m horrified at the idea of anyone finding out I was abused. Doesn’t make sense but it also doesn’t make it any less true | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/09/25 03:36 AM |
| 6 | 8 years together and suddenly I discovered her serial cheating. Her lack of effort to hide things hurts more than the cheating itself. (Long rant and trigger warning, it’s Very cruel cheating)Thank you man. I still don’t understand the hatred. The cruel words she spoke about me to him. It’s like something someone would say about their worst enemy. And to my face she was as loving as usual. I just don’t get it. I guess I never will. She showed herself without the mask. Made the decision easy for me at least | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/09/25 01:07 AM |
| 3 | Did you guys tell everyone in your life (family/friends/colleague) that you left your wife for cheating on you?Thanks man | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/09/25 12:50 AM |
| 4 | Did you guys tell everyone in your life (family/friends/colleague) that you left your wife for cheating on you?I really wish I could man. I can’t bring myself to do it. Shame | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/09/25 12:00 AM |
| 5 | 8 years together and suddenly I discovered her serial cheating. Her lack of effort to hide things hurts more than the cheating itself. (Long rant and trigger warning, it’s Very cruel cheating)Damn. My father died years ago. But something tells me yall would have got along. Tough love but you didn’t say a single lie lol. Thanks mate. I needed this | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/09/25 09:33 PM |
| 1 | 8 years together and suddenly I discovered her serial cheating. Her lack of effort to hide things hurts more than the cheating itself. (Long rant and trigger warning, it’s Very cruel cheating)Lmao. The way my monkey-brain instantly wanted to be like “you have no idea if those losers could throw a spear farther than I can!” But I guess that’s your whole point 😢 | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/09/25 08:58 PM |
| 9 | “Women cheat because of emotion” is honestly a Coping Mantra to help our male ego, and for women to protect their own dignity.Fat women cheat far more often, honestly. They don’t even respect themselves, why would they ever respect a partner. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/09/25 10:51 PM |
| 4 | I remember getting conditioned to look at Divorced men as “strange”Thank you for this honest perspective man. It’s not always as simple as we see it ourselves in our own mind. That’s an awesome way to look at it, and having no children myself I probably wouldn’t have been able to consider that. Damn. Makes me feel even more empathy to him | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/09/25 06:47 PM |
| 10 | “Women cheat because of emotion” is honestly a Coping Mantra to help our male ego, and for women to protect their own dignity.My ex would have done that and then not even had the decency to bring a Pizza home. Like if you’re gonna let the Texas Roadhouse guy smash, can you at least bring home some rolls with butter and pretend you were out doing something nice 😂 | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/09/25 05:23 PM |
| 3 | Did any of you guys get cheated on by a wife who genuinely, truly seemed to regret it?Goat | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/09/25 11:22 PM |
| 8 | Did any of you guys get cheated on by a wife who genuinely, truly seemed to regret it?Dump her | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/09/25 09:25 PM |
| 10 | Did any of you guys get cheated on by a wife who genuinely, truly seemed to regret it?Thanks man. This is a realistic idea for me to aim for, I can’t feed off of her pain or “karma” forever. Living on a golf course with a beautiful GF that visits sometimes sounds nice as hell. I’ll aim to achieve that by 32! | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/09/25 06:39 PM |
| 5 | Did any of you guys get cheated on by a wife who genuinely, truly seemed to regret it?How can people be so cruel? Also how can that loser be living in a home that another man is paying for. As an adult male how does he wake up comfortable in that environment? God people are so disappointing | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/09/25 06:37 PM |
| 4 | Unhealthy anger towards seemingly happy married couples nowThank you man. This made me feel a lot better fr | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/09/25 05:38 AM |
| 3 | For those that were betrayed….How long did the shock take to wear off?You are absolutely right in this mindset. This is the truth. However, my brother, it absolutely wrecks me inside that this is what reality is. I grew up a romantic. I always swore I’d give my future wife what my dad never gave my mom. Kindness, gentleness, trust, and support. I did all those things and got burned. If only I could tell me dad 1 time. How I’m so terribly sorry for judging him all those years | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/09/25 07:48 PM |
| 1 | Well, the acceptance is setting in. And it sucks. But I’m proud of myself?Thank you so much man. For real. This was really kind | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/09/25 07:47 PM |
| 1 | I lost everythingThis is excellent stuff, despite the sadness that catalyzed it to be written in the first place :/ | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/09/25 07:41 PM |
| 3 | Well, the acceptance is setting in. And it sucks. But I’m proud of myself?Thanks man. I think a crucial part of what you said is the “have a beer and some wings”. Rather than trying to get out to the club again and start meeting girls. That’s the last thing on my mind. I need to figure out who tf I am again. I lost myself being in a relationship all those years it overtook my identity | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/25 08:58 PM |
| 5 | For those that were betrayed….How long did the shock take to wear off?I actually cried reading this, brother. I am so sorry. I can’t believe that humans can do this to other humans. Let alone their enemies, but to the person that loves them the most. I don’t understand it. I never will. But my deepest sentiments and empathy are with you. I wish for the greatest joys earth has to offer to find you in this lifetime. You deserve it mate | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/25 07:47 PM |
| 2 | For those that were betrayed….How long did the shock take to wear off?I love this part about gratitude. It’s hard to focus on the positive rn, but this is actually going to make my life so much more in tune with what I dreamed of growing up. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/25 07:46 PM |
| 3 | For those that were betrayed….How long did the shock take to wear off?Wow. Thank you so much | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/25 07:44 PM |
| 3 | For those that were betrayed….How long did the shock take to wear off?Thank you for this, man. Excellent advice and simple. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/09/25 07:43 PM |
| 2 | I hate that men call victims of cheating “cucks”Thank you man | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/09/25 11:49 PM |
| 3 | Men that were cheated on- How on earth did you ever regain your sexual confidence?Thank you bro. Needed this | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/25 05:45 PM |
| 3 | Men that were cheated on- How on earth did you ever regain your sexual confidence?Thank you man. This is some tough love but I appreciate it | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/25 05:42 PM |
| 12 | I want to hurt her.Sir, there is an amazing chance for you to become 10X better version of yourself. And this is your catalyst. Chanel that energy and improve your life. The cool thing is, women don’t look at sex the same as we do. When a guy goes on a marathon like that, it honestly probably does have a therapeutic element to it. However, what she’s doing? As a woman, she doesn’t feel the same as you would driving home from each of those hookups. She is slowly realizing that none of them call her again, none of t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/08/25 10:53 PM |
| 2 | Length of divorce processI respect this though. You gotta do what you gotta do | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/08/25 05:16 AM |
| 12 | What was the final straw that led you to divorce?I went to a hotel when the fights had been getting really terrible. One night I found out some stuff that made me really need immediate space at like 11pm. I calmly said I’m leaving for a while. And despite being heartbroken about what I’d discovered, I realized I felt relaxed for the first time in ages. In a hotel room. Alone. Simple as that. I realized I hadn’t just been myself in 6 years. That’s when I knew I had the TRUE desire to end it | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/08/25 05:13 AM |
| 0 | Anyone else ever feel like they just want to punch the AP?Honestly no. The only unhealthy desires I get are because of my destroyed sense of masculinity, sometimes I find myself being overly flirty with married women. Part of me fantasizes about being the man who sleeps with another man’s wife now. Bc I feel like I identify with what happened to me, and now my entire identity seems like “cheated on guy” and it’s ruined my life. I’d never actually do it tho. I couldn’t do what was done to me - to someone else. But I think about it often | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/08/25 11:41 PM |
| 3 | Going to start my divorceThe discovery is the least painful part of the journey you are about to embark on. Buckle up, man. It’s going to get nasty. No matter what happens tho. Do not get back with her. Under any circumstances. Do not forget. Even if she takes over half of your money. And even if she takes custody of your children. You are NOBODY’s cuckold. Fight back. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/25 09:34 PM |
| 2 | Thought I was over my ex, but I was mistakenThis is excellent advice man | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/25 07:35 AM |
| 3 | Thought I was over my ex, but I was mistakenMan please keep fighting. Losing my dad like that broke me permanently. Try to understand that if everything around you is dark. Maybe you are the light. Don’t give up just yet. There could be a miracle just around the corner | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/25 07:32 AM |
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