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| 127 | Reminder: end game requires inner frame, which requires real work | Inner Game | InternationalSwan162 | /r/seduction | 14/10/24 09:19 PM |
| 106 | FYI - even the religious girlies | Field Report | InternationalSwan162 | /r/seduction | 03/01/25 05:00 PM |
| 52 | Simplify physical escalation on dates | Outer Game | InternationalSwan162 | /r/seduction | 17/11/24 10:04 PM |
| 26 | Should I share tips on dating app game | Conversation | InternationalSwan162 | /r/seduction | 14/12/24 03:56 AM |
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| 1 | Dudes who consider themselves a good seducerFollow me and my insta. Will start posting content here. Funny shit on my insta but you can sort of verify what I say based on what I post there | /r/seduction | 07/03/25 09:36 PM |
| 2 | Dating apps are still hard even for someone with hundreds of matches32. | /r/seduction | 18/02/25 05:22 PM |
| 2 | Dating apps are still hard even for someone with hundreds of matchesI’ll post examples. Good/light banter that grabs attention. Lead to date being set quickly. | /r/seduction | 18/02/25 05:21 PM |
| -2 | Dating apps are still hard even for someone with hundreds of matchesI’ve been on like 6 dates in less than 2 weeks from the apps. I have another in 3 hours. And I’m 4 for 6 on closing (1 I was interested in going full way, another I wasn’t). Variance exists and for a reason. Good luck on the streets. Oh I’m also in LA and the type of women I met with have netted over 750k followers. Good luck finding that tier in the streets. | /r/seduction | 18/02/25 05:15 PM |
| 2 | Worst first date ever on Valentine’s DayI just got catfished but she was still kinda fit so I hit anyway. Shitty night bud back at it tomorrow. | /r/seduction | 15/02/25 10:08 AM |
| -7 | How to purposefully date for sex?You just sound wack brotha that’s all | /r/seduction | 14/02/25 09:26 PM |
| -11 | How to purposefully date for sex?“I’m a little bit of a player” lmfao. Ghetto shit. Y’all are seriously funny The rest isn’t bad. You create a good date yes. Keys like allowing her to talk about herself. Etc. Otherwise, you be fuckable - that’s the answer. I’m hitting most first dates. I don’t do anything but be me. I create the tension, I’m honest about who I am, they buy in. That’s all there is. OGs call it frame. | /r/seduction | 14/02/25 08:29 PM |
| 1 | What makes you prefer cold approaching? Is it because bars aren’t your thing, or maybe you don’t have many friends? Or have dating apps not been working for you? What's your story?I mean I personally don’t like meeting women at bars/clubs. Unless they are upper tier places, you have zero idea who you’re meeting. A lot of these women come with all sorts of baggage/issues/etc. just no way to vet. Sure it was fun to do hookups this way in my 20s. Otherwise I won’t speak for day game. Not a big fan of the sensationalization of it on this sub. I meet 10s from the apps and to me that feels like the optimal mutual dating ground in modern time. Meeting women in person is cool and… | /r/seduction | 10/02/25 11:40 PM |
| 1 | Why KINO is the Difference Between the Friendzone and AttractionHow old are you? And what culture? Tbh I don’t experience this. I consistently pull on first dates. Or second dates after like a coffee first date. Regardless I guess it depends on the dynamic and rationale she is giving you. If she shows interest that is good. Like no problem if a women is reserved. But I won’t play games or chase really that doesn’t seem worth it. She’s not the prize. | /r/seduction | 10/02/25 08:45 PM |
| 4 | Why KINO is the Difference Between the Friendzone and AttractionI’ll maybe post something. After spending a few months here the sub isn’t what it used to be when I was mid 20s seeking help. The things I post now most guys tend to dismiss or not believe. But I’ll give it a whirl in my down time | /r/seduction | 10/02/25 05:29 PM |
| 9 | Why KINO is the Difference Between the Friendzone and AttractionGirls don’t friendzone a man with the the right frame. This post reeks of weak frame. “Being playful” lol I’ve gone an entire date without touching and I still built tension that had her screaming by the end of the night. | /r/seduction | 10/02/25 03:58 PM |
| 46 | Picking up a girl at Adult Entertainment conferenceI don’t think it’s that ambitious honestly. I just scored a very popular of model. Created a lot of baggage for me. These women aren’t special. | /r/seduction | 10/02/25 03:57 PM |
| 7 | How can I take good pictures for a dating profile by myself? Also, I’d like your opinion on the one I made using the photos I already have.Bro. Help the dude. There’s a reason military uses no bs tactics. OP - you need new photos homie. Get tf out of selfie land. That doesn’t mean go do a bunch of fake poses. Dudes end up hating apps after getting no dates. Their profiles looked like this the entire time. | /r/seduction | 06/02/25 10:36 AM |
| 15 | Her Story Made Me Rethink Everything About DatingI had to stop at the massage bro. What the fuck. Out of all your stories this one is hilarious. Maybe Europeans are wild but. From “I’ve been used” to you immediately putting your hands on her 🤣🤡 Also, you go from a date with a girl you met on a street and then abruptly to a place of intimacy. Just another made up story to feed your content. OG seduction sub would trash you. | /r/seduction | 06/02/25 10:27 AM |
| 2 | Who do the really attractive women on the apps actually date?I’ve seen verified super star models in the rose section on hinge. In London and in LA. My cofounder met his ex model wife on Raya. | /r/seduction | 06/02/25 04:22 AM |
| 0 | Who do the really attractive women on the apps actually date?I’m dating these type of women right now. I’m a nobody. | /r/seduction | 06/02/25 04:21 AM |
| 1 | How would you approach winning back a girl that had a crush on you at first but you ruined it by being too needy?You have no experience. Yea :) !! — Def go chase her. Send that message. Show up at her house. “Accidentally” run into her at the gym. Bring a new girl to your past flames favorite club until she sees her. 🤣🤡 | /r/seduction | 05/02/25 11:27 AM |
| 1 | How to Build a Social Life That Attracts the Women You Want?Yes bro. That is a sign of where you are at, not the apps. You can’t even convey an average man’s issue on the apps. You’re not there yet. You’re still seeking your first date in life. For you it’s not about apps and it’s not about in person game. Because either, or, surely you’ve had opportunities but you have something else at play to work out. | /r/seduction | 05/02/25 01:50 AM |
| 1 | How to Build a Social Life That Attracts the Women You Want?There are levels to all of this. You just happen to be at the very beginning. | /r/seduction | 05/02/25 01:38 AM |
| 5 | How to Build a Social Life That Attracts the Women You Want?This is why I advocate for dating apps. I meet socialites without having to figure out how to integrate into aspects of society I don’t want to. LA influencer? We swiped right. That’s all it took. My “social life” is business, always. And chilling with actual friends. I don’t want it to be anything else. | /r/seduction | 04/02/25 05:10 PM |
| 2 | If a woman seems really interested in and is asking about your past dating experiences does that mean she's interested?Maybe for younger people. Women I see tend not to ask this and don’t want to know. Could also be her sniffing out your inexperience and/or current market value. (As a shit test) | /r/seduction | 03/02/25 03:47 AM |
| 2 | Is my opinion about dating the reason I'm having trouble getting laid?Just weird thinking honestly. Many women enjoy casual. Half of them literally say that on dating apps. It’d be another thing if you were meeting women who are very clear about wanting serious, while you know you are emotionally unavailable | /r/seduction | 03/02/25 12:58 AM |
| 11 | Real eye opener about Miami after hearing about this, is this true?Well I’m new to the LA dating scene. But I’ll give my observation after connecting with a range of: (hot/sexy prefixing all of these) somewhat successful actress, ex cheerleader + pro dancer, hustle influencer, comedian, and now highly popular of model (date is set… yall might see me in a vid). Rich/wealthy men are common to these women. Sure, they’ve all experienced the initial thrill and jumped on yachts and planes. But, this experience quickly becomes a trope and it turns out being rich doesn… | /r/seduction | 02/02/25 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Texting - Phone vs Dating AppYea consistently. I see it as more of creating some good banter to confirm the rapport she saw when matching me. Show a little fun/excitement potential as a tee-up for the date. | /r/seduction | 02/02/25 07:30 PM |
| 2 | Texting - Phone vs Dating AppFlawed thinking. You passed step 1 by getting the match. Step 2 only can happen in person. | /r/seduction | 02/02/25 07:11 PM |
| 2 | Texting - Phone vs Dating AppI never go to phone unless she blasts her number at me. Even then it’s right to dating logistics. For me - Always prefer the app, the number is usually traded before the first date for logistics, or after depending on context. | /r/seduction | 02/02/25 07:10 PM |
| 5 | Where do you guys get the endurance?This OG quality of this thread was never about approaching or gamifying the dating experience. It was honestly better before RP was (rightfully) banned— Because the notion of you loving yourself, and having the confidence (truly) built up in your personal value is what ultimately makes you an attractive partner and someone capable of shaping (vs enduring) their dating life. | /r/seduction | 02/02/25 06:53 PM |
| 2 | In light of valentines coming soon, what is the most seductive date idea?All I ever have to do was give a girl a good conversation. That aura and BDE comes out, they lean in. | /r/seduction | 02/02/25 01:33 AM |
| 5 | What’s the Point of Success If You’re Afraid of Women?This dude is making up a story about men that don’t exist | /r/seduction | 31/01/25 04:56 PM |
| -1 | What’s the Point of Success If You’re Afraid of Women?Ridiculous narrative to support your bs | /r/seduction | 31/01/25 04:56 PM |
| 1 | I self-sabotage too muchLmfao | /r/seduction | 30/01/25 10:19 PM |
| 0 | Are these types of younger women worth pursuing?I’m not trolling. The active fling I mentioned above was via social circle. Pre Covid times it was a lot of social circle in my original city. I don’t have social media other than the insta on my Reddit I was going to use to publish all my dumb shit / verification since you all never believe me. And I use dating apps. To me they are a money tree. Hinge (of note: rich mob girl, somewhat of a pop star, director, influencer/podcaster; and up next playboy model hopefully). and an adult kink app (whe… | /r/seduction | 29/01/25 04:28 PM |
| -5 | Are these types of younger women worth pursuing?It feels good yes. Y’all need to man up. Street approach is not seduction. It’s clown behavior. I pull weekly. You all do not have the capacity of self assurance required to see the type of women I pull and how I do it. Nor do you understand what it takes to have a high figure valuation you’re working to unlock. This sub only became about ridiculous approach sport once you idiots started scrolling videos of other men doing it for views. | /r/seduction | 29/01/25 03:34 PM |
| -6 | Have you ever been called out during day gameThat doesn’t resonate with me. I’m working on my valuation during the day. Flirting/game comes up. But the whole sport aspect, no. Just not something I connect with a higher-value man doing. | /r/seduction | 29/01/25 02:29 PM |
| 1 | Are these types of younger women worth pursuing?I don’t like being around them no. Chasing them sounds hilarious to me. Weak man shit. And your objectification makes me think you can’t score with sexy older women. I have an ongoing fling with a college girl. Nothing more and when she gets emotional I turn it down and she’s quickly back on her hot girl shit. Sometimes they pop up on dating apps and we set early boundaries and it’s never anything more than hooking up. Absolutely zero desire for anything serious that just doesn’t make sense to m… | /r/seduction | 29/01/25 02:23 PM |
| -5 | Have you ever been called out during day gameI’m not a white knight. But I do think y’all’s focus on day game is weak and I think down on you. | /r/seduction | 29/01/25 02:09 PM |
| 1 | Tell someone beforehand my height?Ok but, there’s probably a nice way to mention it in this case. | /r/seduction | 27/01/25 02:16 AM |
| 1 | Using hinge for casual datingI’m 32 and consider myself in an attractive place in life. I’ve experienced a lot, I’ve taken risks, masculine. Not the best looking dude by any means but I am fit. The women I date - 99% of Reddit would overrate them. I can show you my field about me, dm me. | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 08:01 PM |
| 1 | Age question2 what? Children of your own? & You want to have another child(ren??) with an early 40yo woman? Seems like a unicorn. Woman at that age are either divorced like you, already exhausted with children they’re raising or are coming to an end on raising. Or - they’re single and childless, which, either you’re looking at a crazy camp, or a successful camp. To attract the ladder you need to bring a lot to the table - and also be able to find them. Also fuck what the other dude said. People have prefere… | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 04:06 PM |
| 1 | Using hinge for casual datingGood callout. I only actually got feeld in December. I have 29 likes in my queue I’m waiting to bring in once I’m actively dating again (these are ones I would actually meet). I’m out of the city for business and have been since Christmas. I have about 8-10 chats on there. 2 I’ve met, 1 legit booty called me at 11 one night. 2 others we have plans to meet. Another 1 is married & far away not in the city and visits every so often apparently but we FaceTimed. And the rest fell through/fizzled. | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 02:52 PM |
| 1 | Using hinge for casual datingI’m also in LA. When I’m actively dating it’s 1-2 nights a week as well. Hinge: I avoid the “life partner” seekers. And I casually date. No issues. I find what I’m seeking and with people who are happy to do the same. Feeld: even better. The new adult tinder. In either case - no one is giving you anything. You’re either creating, and escalating, an enjoyable experience or you’re not. | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 02:21 PM |
| 1 | Men who have been in many relationships, would you say most women have anger issues?No, not normal. | /r/seduction | 26/01/25 01:51 PM |
| 1 | "lets get to know each other before meeting"I agree with jiro. Follow or dm me. I’ll probably post all my message/texting approaches with many example | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 09:32 PM |
| 5 | "lets get to know each other before meeting"You just simply don’t have to participate. I’ve never found myself interacting with women like this though. My hunch is it’s your approach. | /r/seduction | 25/01/25 07:17 PM |
| 0 | What's the most incredible club you've ever been to? The one with the most beautiful and coolest women to talk to and flirt withNo, it was his overall sentiment of America that influenced his review. That I was calling bs on. To each is own, I love visiting London. | /r/seduction | 23/01/25 03:33 PM |
| 1 | What's the most incredible club you've ever been to? The one with the most beautiful and coolest women to talk to and flirt withSoho > Dublin is the point and it’s not even close. Yea, def dudes on the streets trying to kill each other with broken bottles. Otherwise is cosmo and just as pubby as Dublin. Oh yea, I’ve only seen a bar fight in one country in Europe. ☘️ | /r/seduction | 23/01/25 03:00 PM |
| -7 | What's the most incredible club you've ever been to? The one with the most beautiful and coolest women to talk to and flirt withOh boy - hey grandpa you’re a well traveled TOURIST but that doesn’t make America worse than the rest of the world. Nothing in Dublin can be classified as “incredible” if we’re talking night scene. Like you went around the pubs with some cheerful folks. Cool. Fun. Not what OP was asking. I just solod London and clubbed/fucked a plenty. No one tried to fight me. Get over your bullshit. Your liv experience makes you sound like a salty American because it was your best experience and yet that is no… | /r/seduction | 23/01/25 11:37 AM |
| 10 | What's the most incredible club you've ever been to? The one with the most beautiful and coolest women to talk to and flirt withI’ve never had an experience like e11even, Miami. Truly a life experience. I’m not talking about a “whoa this place is awesome” dude-to-dude. I’m talking about walking out at 7am a different man; albeit a bit poorer. | /r/seduction | 23/01/25 11:29 AM |
| 3 | Blocked after breakupsNothing is permanent in life. That’s like a key and repeated pillar of successful dating spoken by any og on this sub. | /r/seduction | 23/01/25 10:38 AM |
| 70 | Why Meeting Women in Real Life Makes You UnstoppableHey guys if you do this congrats you’ll learn how to talk to women. This won’t - make you more attractive - make you higher value - teach you how to actually date women You’re mass-swiping right in real life with this approach and effort. Nothing more. You think 6’5 finance bro has to toss his bait out 400 times in hope for a catch? He doesn’t need to know how to fish. He drops his bait in the water and the fish come. Be a better bait. Your success isn’t ever going to be measured by the views yo… | /r/seduction | 23/01/25 10:05 AM |
| 1 | LA Wingman WantedCheck out my profile dm if you think we’d vibe. New to the city. | /r/seduction | 20/01/25 08:33 PM |
| 2 | I will DM you a few of my OLD convos if you are willing to tell me what I'm doing wrong and what to fix.. If your fixes work over the next week, I'll venmo $300Send it I’ll tell you for free | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 03:25 PM |
| 1 | Any OLD/Texting coaches that are proven won't break the bank? My game is getting worse and the worst part is I don't even know how to improve.Don’t ever pay 3k. OLD dating is about - genuine - profile optimization. And it’s about capturing moments of brief intrigue in chat, show casing stable value, and setting up the dates. Numbers game beyond that. You don’t need to be some master flirt. | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 03:11 PM |
| 1 | Any OLD/Texting coaches that are proven won't break the bank? My game is getting worse and the worst part is I don't even know how to improve.Wtf are you talking about. He’s asking how to get to the dates from OLD. Not how to have a virtual romance. | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 03:10 PM |
| 11 | Dating apps, what's the point?The answer will always be: under all circumstances you need an attractive profile. “I’m not ugly I’ve dated very beautiful women who” yea shut up. How you think you look or what you said obviously means nothing. You need an attractive presence represented in both photos and prompt. I’m not very good looking yet I pull off the apps. once you have that, you typically need to pay to avoid the queue lines Dating apps are not for lower value men who think they’re better than what the app matches you … | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 02:51 PM |
| 3 | 33M and newly single, feel like I missed out on my best yearsDude fuck Barry he’s going on about some bs in a vague way. Does it feel over? Do you feel like less of a man than your 20s? Or do you feel more capable? It has nothing to do with your dating experience. But who you are as a man. I have a full age range in my wheelhouse. You can too. It doesn’t have to be forever. But you’ll learn a lot for yourself if you give it go the next year or so. | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 07:20 AM |
| 3 | 33M and newly single, feel like I missed out on my best yearsIgnore these dudes. Learn to have fun for yourself. Yes it’s real. It’s no where near too late. | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 07:17 AM |
| 16 | 33M and newly single, feel like I missed out on my best years32 here. The best years are just forming imo. You’re joining at a great time. The work grind can be tough. But this is an age where mental maturity and life outlook can be liberating - esp when you place you first. | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 07:15 AM |
| 1 | If you only want a FWB (friends with benefits) strictly fun, is it necessary to super honest about your life story and what you do for a living?I think it’s better when you don’t have to lie to get what you want. But I don’t fully understand your circumstance so I won’t knock it. | /r/seduction | 19/01/25 06:49 AM |
| 3 | I have got decent number close rate ( 20% to 25% ) but 0% date/meetup conversion rate .The convos you drew out just sound boring tbh. And the whole tease thing and “hey you’re cute”. Feels too much. Like if you’re trying to win them over with intrigue and tension - starting off with “you’re cute” seems counterintuitive. We’re adults now, middle school has passed; cute doesn’t sound very offering to any self-assured or mature woman. And sure teasing can be a part of flirting, in the right moment, less frameworky. But what more is there to really talk about with someone you don’t kn… | /r/seduction | 17/01/25 02:07 PM |
| 1 | She's at yours and says "I'll be leaving soon" - Test, LMR or something else?Then you’ve answered your own question? | /r/seduction | 17/01/25 01:31 PM |
| 5 | She's at yours and says "I'll be leaving soon" - Test, LMR or something else?Idk. 3 hours in, drinking at a private setting, is more likely a failed hookup. Unless boundaries were clear ie “I don’t do hookups on the first date” etc. Even then, usually those women are exactly the type to do that. Like they need to leave at some point. If they aren’t turned on as it gets late they’ll want to leave. Trying to light the flame then is too late. You have to build tension by that point. They should be jumping onto you. In other words, the hookup should be happening naturally. Y… | /r/seduction | 17/01/25 12:58 PM |
| 1 | Quantity vs. QualityI cycle a handful. I have a healthy queue I can pull matches in from. I have to recycle a lot of expired matches because I either never sent a message or never responded (aside from the ones where they never responded). I don’t date women or fuck for numbers. I need to be into her in some sort of way. I craft somewhat thoughtful messages but not in a way where I’m spending too much energy on a particular match. | /r/seduction | 14/01/25 09:13 AM |
| 1 | Escalating emotionally towards relationship, when the girl is emotionally guardedI think the common wisdom here is don’t do that. And it comes from genuine shitty experiences a lot of us have had with modern dating. You let her come to you. If she never does it wasn’t going to happen anyway. That said you know this chick better than the rest of us. Maybe there’s some form of traditional in her. Some women want a male to court her for her love, like it used to be & like we’ve mostly preferred. Go for it. Just be prepared. | /r/seduction | 14/01/25 09:10 AM |
| 3 | Escalating emotionally towards relationship, when the girl is emotionally guardedIf a woman is emotionally unavailable then she’s emotionally unavailable. You can test her with soft texts or prodding for something more - don’t expect her to respond in any significant way. I don’t think your text is really saying much tbh. You can put it all on the table if you want. At this point the odds aren’t great. Be prepared / expect her to not be there. Sometimes, unfortuently, you can lose attraction/value by doing this. Sometimes you need to play a harsher game for an outcome you wa… | /r/seduction | 14/01/25 08:55 AM |
| 7 | Is Europe A Dating Paradise for Asian Men?Where in Europe? I feel like there are only pockets of Europe that aren’t generally just white people. There’s no way it’d be easier for an Asian man to date in any northern EU country (tall white people) vs any major city in the US or a highly dense Asian city like most on the California coast. | /r/seduction | 13/01/25 06:48 PM |
| 1 | Getting over the fact that she found someone better than you. Advice?You need to get way detached from dating apps before they work for you. You’re thinking too much about a meaningless interaction. | /r/seduction | 12/01/25 06:03 AM |
| 2 | O.L.D Premium / Paid subscriptions. Are they worth it?Yes. This. You’re either accelerating, or making your profile visible for, a swipe left or swipe right. It’s worth it if you have a good profile | /r/seduction | 11/01/25 03:38 PM |
| 3 | Escalated too quickly, after?Guys who go in thinking they need to force physical escalation and tactically touch a woman to either attract or “comfort” her, probably shouldn’t do that. Women aren’t stupid and they experience this type of over exertion frequently enough to be turned off by it. | /r/seduction | 11/01/25 03:06 PM |
| 22 | Escalated too quickly, after?You guys keep forcing physical escalation and it’s really unnecessary. Touching them won’t make them magically attracted to you. You almost always come off as too aggressive or horned up. It’s such a flawed mentality around seduction, physical escalation should occur naturally after you’ve built real tension. Doing that requires everything but touching her. | /r/seduction | 11/01/25 02:02 PM |
| 1 | A first date idea I’ve been using recently which has some interesting resultsToo much | /r/seduction | 10/01/25 01:23 PM |
| 1 | I forgot how to have get things started (and have sex), is this a turnoff for men?Really good advice actually. I was going to pull the “I can’t do the inexperienced sex parter” but if communication were ever open like this… that’s a real consideration. | /r/seduction | 10/01/25 04:47 AM |
| 5 | If she wanted someone with a good personality, she'd have dated someone with a good personality.I’m making a second call to split this group up into pre/post developmental age. This is just advice from a misguided kid. There’s no way you’re over 25. —- Here’s toxic tho - terrible, stupid, incel-ic advice. What a fucking idiot. | /r/seduction | 10/01/25 03:36 AM |
| 4 | The economics of dating as a man: when you should be paying for the girlIf they came my way - then I’m paying for their Uber so I’m stopping them I guess | /r/seduction | 05/01/25 10:11 PM |
| 8 | The economics of dating as a man: when you should be paying for the girlI pay for their Ubers home if it’s been a late night. More of a safety measure and making sure she gets back alright. | /r/seduction | 05/01/25 09:32 PM |
| 3 | Am I overreacting or is this actually wrong in a relationship?It’s over. Way over. | /r/seduction | 05/01/25 04:14 PM |
| 3 | Wtf happened to my game?We and the women we’re going after are more mature with life experience, and for high value adults - self-actualization. This is a different game now. Who you were as a kid is irrelevant. | /r/seduction | 05/01/25 01:23 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Fingered a girl in the clubSee here - funny to spin assumptions on me. Without acknowledging that you continuously assumed my involvement was filled with jealousy, hate, and anger. | /r/seduction | 04/01/25 08:51 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Fingered a girl in the clubI have a life. Seeing you spiral is intriguing. Over a post titled “fingered a girl” | /r/seduction | 04/01/25 08:39 PM |
| 3 | [FR] Fingered a girl in the clubNothing made me angry. I made a call for moderation. And at least over 100 agreed. A sub for youths and a sub for older would be nice imo. There’s countless other posts where it’s clear what the age range is. I feel no love or hate for a college kid doing what college kids do. | /r/seduction | 04/01/25 08:33 PM |
| 18 | [FR] Fingered a girl in the clubNow you know that at your age all you need to do is walk into a bar, point at a girl, go up to her and ask her ethnicity as your opener. You’ll be in the Photo Booth before midnight | /r/seduction | 04/01/25 08:26 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Fingered a girl in the clubThanks coach | /r/seduction | 04/01/25 05:16 PM |
| 7 | [FR] Fingered a girl in the clubYes their circle jerk should exist elsewhere. Exactly what I said in my original comment. It blurs the lines otherwise. Like he didn’t escalate shit he was borderline fucking a drunk college chick in a club. | /r/seduction | 04/01/25 05:11 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Fingered a girl in the clubThe point is the persuasion of seduction doesn’t exist at that age between drunken/mindless youth. | /r/seduction | 04/01/25 05:07 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Fingered a girl in the clubThere’s nothing I miss about my early 20s compared to where my life is at 32. Other than being deployed to a war zone and not having cancer. And idk about you - but I’m pulling more & better than I ever did at that age. The adult experience is what this group is about. This isn’t teenage circle jerk. | /r/seduction | 04/01/25 04:51 PM |
| 203 | [FR] Fingered a girl in the clubThis sub needs to split up into an under/over 25s thing. Like what use is it to hear about shitty college hookups we all had? | /r/seduction | 04/01/25 12:45 PM |
| 1 | Tomorrow I'm gonna open for the girl at the Benin station. Here my opening sentencesI hit on a gas station clerk once. She was Latina. It was simple. “Holy fuck you are fine as hell. Let me take you out” And got her number. Good luck with your romance stuff though. | /r/seduction | 03/01/25 07:14 PM |
| 3 | I'm totally lost and I don't know what to do next to save itThis isn’t a hallmark forum dude, and you’re not seeking seduction advice - you have attachment issues and put way too much pressure on dating. You’re divorced recently and wanting to dive into commitment with a chick after some basic ass dates and chats that made you feel better. You should’ve been diving in that pussy day one it’s obvious she was about it but had to put the moves on you by date 3 or whatever. You need to heal your emotional shit. Don’t get so invested in people you barely know… | /r/seduction | 03/01/25 05:07 PM |
| 6 | Do women get turned off if you tell them you really like them?I agree with your response. It would suggest to me that you know (real) what you are talking about (chat). | /r/seduction | 03/01/25 04:42 PM |
| 11 | Do women get turned off if you tell them you really like them?Real ones have entered that chat. | /r/seduction | 03/01/25 03:27 PM |
| 1 | Visiting Los Angeles in a couple weeks need both daygame/night game spotsMess around in the arts district is my opinion. Seems to be a decent young crowd out there in the evenings. And then I guess for day you could hit the beaches. Make sure you plan traveling around the city. | /r/seduction | 02/01/25 02:37 PM |
| 1 | Language exchange dateI’m my earlier 20s I would date au pairs who couldn’t speak English. I could not speak their language either. I don’t remember much honestly but it was all vibes based and typically not much speaking/translating. A lot of fucking though. | /r/seduction | 02/01/25 10:52 AM |
| 2 | Confused with poor results in OLD. Relatively good results in personInteresting. Honestly I wouldn’t expect much from small town online dating. Let alone there being so many possible 10s to meet. Not having to pay makes sense in that case. But it is a numbers game. That’s why I wouldn’t be so optimistic about small town usage. | /r/seduction | 02/01/25 03:56 AM |
| 1 | Confused with poor results in OLD. Relatively good results in personFwiw - you do have to pay the monthly premium to play. That’s just how the apps work. If you’re not, stop being cheap and give it a shot. Unless you’re 18-24 (which if you are ignore the below) “online dating is rigged” shit is bs. 9 times out of 10 a dudes profile shows an unattractive man - regardless of his physical appearance. I am not a 10. You are probably more conventionally attractive than me. But I don’t have a problem with the apps… I’m meeting LA 8-10s. It’s not only about body/face a… | /r/seduction | 02/01/25 03:44 AM |
| 3 | Confused with poor results in OLD. Relatively good results in personIt would only translate if you know how to or are naturally inclined to present yourself as an attractive person. Feels silly to have to say this. Why would your day game have anything to do with the presentation of yourself online. | /r/seduction | 02/01/25 03:14 AM |
| 1 | (M21) Using Match Note as a Way to Gage Interest on Hinge?He’s asking way too much upfront for sure. Putting pressure on the match. | /r/seduction | 30/12/24 05:42 PM |
| 2 | Dressing - short sleeves vs long sleevesI’ve never worn a polo in my life. I would never wear a button up to a date either. | /r/seduction | 29/12/24 06:49 PM |
| 16 | Who has dabbled in prostitutes, sex workers, escorts, massage parlors, strippers, and how has that affected your seduction abilities?The only issue I had there was briefly considering throwing my life away to become a Miami drug lord. | /r/seduction | 28/12/24 06:22 PM |
| 33 | Who has dabbled in prostitutes, sex workers, escorts, massage parlors, strippers, and how has that affected your seduction abilities?You learn a lot. Human perspective. In more younger/reckless ways - ego boost. Seducing a stripper when everyone chalks it up to “your money” is a nice confidence gain when you don’t actually end up spending anything on them. Eventually you learn it’s not really that hard to attract these women [as a normal dude]. With Miami Latina strippers I learned how enjoyable snorting blow off a vag is. But one and done type thing there. | /r/seduction | 28/12/24 06:04 PM |
| 1 | [LR] 26 yo Doctor Closed in 6 DaysShe was the doctor | /r/seduction | 28/12/24 04:33 PM |
| 2 | [LR] 26 yo Doctor Closed in 6 DaysSome of the quickest route to bedrooms were just horny 10s. Literally any and all women have that flip that can be switched at moments notice. | /r/seduction | 28/12/24 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Things going well with one girl in OLDYou tell her you could only do FWB (which if you can’t - and I don’t think you can based on this post - then you move on to the next match). | /r/seduction | 28/12/24 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Guys diagnosed with depression did it affect your seduction skills?I do everything I want. Or am I missing something? | /r/seduction | 28/12/24 03:48 PM |
| 1 | Guys diagnosed with depression did it affect your seduction skills?Yea, but in the moment it’s usually only ever worked in my favor. “You’re hard to read” is a very common phrase I get - and these girls are hopping on me when they get the chance. “I’m not hard to read, I’m just super detached sometimes and actually want to go jump in a hole rn” is what I should say back lmao | /r/seduction | 28/12/24 03:47 PM |
| 1 | Fragances.Idk about that. But I’ll give you one insight - woman are attracted to their own perfumes. This doesn’t mean you go all flowery. You find a masculine / thicker women’s fragrance and you stick to that. As an under layer you go with something like male Dulce. Only do eau de toilette. You want the smell to be subtle and not overwhelming. Its first impression type of thing. It should die out and only be a vague scent off of you by the end of the night. I’ve been complimented by men and women. Never … | /r/seduction | 27/12/24 05:34 PM |
| 2 | I’m thinking about spending $3,000 on a photographer who offers professional photo shoots, a personal stylist for each session, and dating advice.As long as they don’t look like professional photos…. I’ve seen those. Depth blurs, vibrant color range, you looking out into the world passionately… While they are better than mirror selfies, there is no way they are anything but marginally better. | /r/seduction | 27/12/24 03:41 PM |
| 4 | [ADVANCE] This one is for the guys with many options - how much do you tolerate non-compliances? For eg. if you newly meet a girl and invite her out a couple of times but she says no, how many times do you keep asking before letting go and moving on to the next one? Share stories of persistence!I’m not persistent at all. Doesn’t matter who the woman is. Rarely more than once - and only if I feel like the first attempt was overshadowed or actually missed. | /r/seduction | 27/12/24 07:21 AM |
| 1 | Till when should a man pay?Depends on the girl honestly. Hopefully she’s booking her own flights. I’m usually getting a hotel and it’s the mindset of “I want to be in this place.” Especially if it’s my idea. It’s different when she’s initiating trip ideas. Context matters tho. But again it all depends on the girl. Some have money, some don’t. Some are cool and want to split. A lot want a traditional man to lead the front. Get what you want out of it and if the situation leaves you frustrated (eg she has money but won’t ev… | /r/seduction | 26/12/24 01:27 PM |
| 1 | It’s likely that I can sleep with three women next week. Should I?No problem with getting back out there. You’ve got things to learn. I’ve done this. It is rarer tbh - a lot of things need to work out for you (x3 in the same week). It’s also exhausting, especially if drinking and late night sex is involved. Keep in mind you’re traveling for work. Consider your schedule / availability. That said I like this approach when traveling, things come up often in the modern dating world. Good to have multiple dates lined out. I don’t get it though, FWB with women that … | /r/seduction | 25/12/24 10:43 PM |
| 1 | tons of matches but zero responseYou put too much pressure on them with that opener. It creates zero emotional excitement. Women are flooded on these apps - you need to message in ways that initially peak their interest and then carry the convo to lead them to believe you have that same energy in person | /r/seduction | 25/12/24 05:03 PM |
| 1 | Is HingeX worth it for guys?Yes. | /r/seduction | 25/12/24 02:39 AM |
| 15 | Share a story of the best seducer you’ve come across IRL, I’ll go first.I had a boss. Well I’ve always had good looking friends - players. Numbers in the hundreds etc. But my boss… I’ve never seen women’s necks snap in public. Double takes. Walking directly up to him in the bar. That’s all it took. His face. | /r/seduction | 23/12/24 05:07 PM |
| 3 | What are the subtle yet impactful things that a woman does that are very seductive to a man?I don’t think it’s the eye contact direct to eye, but instead more of a seductive glare she does at my lips or body. Like she’s calling for a kiss or something more. It’s a bit submissive. I don’t really get seduced so the eye contact / touching don’t do it for me personally. | /r/seduction | 23/12/24 12:29 PM |
| 1 | Did you ever get seduced by a women? And ls there a male personality type that gets more seduced than others?Nope, I’m either attracted or not. Ive had a female boss try it all. | /r/seduction | 20/12/24 08:48 PM |
| 5 | Girl doesn't remember me after night, because she was too drunkYea this. The scenario is common in 20s. You shouldn’t be looking for love or connection at these places & at that age. | /r/seduction | 18/12/24 07:44 PM |
| 1 | When is it appropriate to cut a girl off?Communication is key to success. Whether it’s the preferred style you’d like a partner to have, her interpreted attitude, your emotional reaction, the game of frustrated parties thereafter… etc, it doesn’t matter. Doomed to fail for any of these reasons that require proactive attitude to avoid regression. Thus good to cut it off. | /r/seduction | 17/12/24 02:07 AM |
| 1 | Where to start?If you’re maxed out in gym. Then now’s the time to pursue the life you want for yourself (outside of women). Max career/skill/knowledge and the path you’re creating. Chasing women… play the rounds at bars/clubs at night. Friend groups. Run clubs. Book clubs. Etc. they’re out there. | /r/seduction | 17/12/24 12:36 AM |
| -3 | Why women don't answer back on tinder no matter if they have matched with you ?The app experience isn’t perfect, BUT “Why are women so entitled” Brother wake tf up and get over yourself. You probably convey this shitty personality and emotional incapacity somehow in your profile or messages. | /r/seduction | 16/12/24 09:38 PM |
| 5 | How is the dating world after 30?Dating is generally simple these days. But simple isn’t easy. I offer this type of advise consistently here. Bc I do completely fine, on and off the apps. Not the most attractive dude. But I have a strong genuine personality. So - build an attractive personality, have confidence in visions you set for yourself with the ability to find meaning in any shitty situation, don’t rely on others for your own internal peace/happiness, keep working on the progression to better. I post my candid life on my… | /r/seduction | 16/12/24 09:27 PM |
| 1 | Is there a women equivalent to this sub?Listen to a podcast like call her daddy if you want a take from a certain feminine spectrum that can mirror the extremes of the male seduction mindsets. | /r/seduction | 15/12/24 01:30 PM |
| 2 | Looking for outside perspectives on a couple of my dating experiences that have left me stumpedI mean your perspective & related changes seem good enough. You were an option, and then you weren’t. None of us were there to witness why or how. There’s no magic or general understanding other than: she wasn’t into you. Part of rationalizing through maturity means there doesn’t have to be closure in any form of relationship other than that. So if you couldn’t figure it out through introspection, leave it at that. | /r/seduction | 14/12/24 04:56 PM |
| 17 | Girl on hinge messages me “cute cat” to my cat on my hinge profile. What’s a good flirty response?You just lost a 28-3 lead with that second half. | /r/seduction | 14/12/24 01:27 PM |
| 7 | Strip clubEh I mean I’ve dated strippers. We literally met in the club. In some instances where I didn’t spend a dime. I wouldn’t recommend it unless you’re ready to deal with chicks who have a lot of baggage (legit crazy shit in a lot of cases), or go for the older ones. I’ve also fucked strippers in the club. This obviously requires the spend, initially at least. You need to be smart enough to not get led into dumping money into them. If you’re generally not aware or understand how people act, then it’s… | /r/seduction | 14/12/24 12:47 PM |
| 1 | mode 1 concerns and std'sWell it happens. Rarely. I wouldn’t change my approach. | /r/seduction | 14/12/24 05:23 AM |
| 1 | mode 1 concerns and std'sIt is not something I ever bring up before dating or even during the date. Usually when we’re in early fore play or making out one of us usually asks each other about testing or if I’ve brought a condom. Tbh I prefer to go raw so I always bring up testing - mentioning last clean round. Perfect opportunity for her to mention the same. Why are you so fixated on this | /r/seduction | 14/12/24 05:14 AM |
| 1 | mode 1 concerns and std'sNo, in general wear a condom. If the partner has GH then yes obviously you shouldn’t fuck. I said that - I’ve been there. Right as I was about to go in she paused and told me. Instant killer. I was up and out. | /r/seduction | 14/12/24 05:08 AM |
| 1 | mode 1 concerns and std'sIdk what mode 1 is. But this isn’t really a specific issue vs a real consideration. I mean that’s just the risk. When you’re hooking up you find the right time to bring up recent testing. You also try to build a dynamic where bringing that up isn’t awkward. And also generally trust your standards of selection. But yea I’ve been there - literally right before the moment when I’ve been told she had GH. So I didn’t fuck. Wear a condom. If you’re paranoid about the risk then hooking up isn’t for you… | /r/seduction | 14/12/24 04:57 AM |
| 1 | I am very very confused about something. Please help me out. Are women more attracted to men who don't seem interested in sex or are women more attracted to men who talk about sex related topics from the beginning?E2 only applies to college parties or loose young professional clubs/bars. (I.e. you’re a young idiot partying with a bunch of other young idiots) | /r/seduction | 14/12/24 04:36 AM |
| 1 | Should I share tips on dating app gameYea for sure. It’s still a numbers game. I usually don’t send messages like that, but she just popped into my queue. The vibe of her profile made me think I could pull that off and lead it directly into a “let’s meet asap” convo | /r/seduction | 14/12/24 04:29 AM |
| 1 | How Easy Is It To Get Women On A Resort ?No idea what it’s like this time of year. But generally any decent resort brings in an influx of travelers. Specifically European. It’s not a haven - there’s still a limited pool, but these women are going to the DR. They are definitely dtf. I say from experience. Partake in the night drinking events, and chill around the pool bars you should be good to meet folks. Move around the different resorts if you’re able, chase the best vibes. I also feel like the couples that are drawn to these resorts… | /r/seduction | 13/12/24 08:00 PM |
| 16 | How I seduce and want to be seduced- A bisexual female perspectiveThis is basically the advise I created a post about. Literally it comes down to creating natural chemistry with your genuine self. Any confident dude with things to talk about, and ability to allow his date to talk, doesn’t have to think or work hard to get things where he wants them to go. I don’t think mirroring is a part of that though. Maybe for women there is a tendency for it to happen. | /r/seduction | 13/12/24 06:54 PM |
| 11 | How can I get "hood" hispanic/arab girls as a white guy? Not sure how to connect with this group?In general, skill issue | /r/seduction | 13/12/24 02:09 PM |
| 11 | How can I get "hood" hispanic/arab girls as a white guy? Not sure how to connect with this group?Define transactional. The first yes because she jokingly implied it and I was like “sure np” … she pulled the whole “I wouldn’t normally do this but you’re handsome” thing but she could’ve been a pro idk The second one was not other than getting her ride and paying for drinks. I saw her twice after. | /r/seduction | 13/12/24 04:28 AM |
| 11 | How can I get "hood" hispanic/arab girls as a white guy? Not sure how to connect with this group?Yea to be fair about my comment - I straight up just made a deal with one OF model who was like this. I flirted and she turned it into money talk and i spoke money back. Another one I met off hinge or tinder but I offered her a fun night out of the hood and in actual upscale setting, paid for her ride. She was all for it. Usually see her when I’m in the city. | /r/seduction | 13/12/24 03:56 AM |
| 119 | How can I get "hood" hispanic/arab girls as a white guy? Not sure how to connect with this group?You guys are killing me with these 🤣🤣🤣 I’ve been with this type when I’m around in LA. I did & do nothing differently. But I’m older so my game is easier than yours unless you’re in a situation where you’re working close with someone like that. | /r/seduction | 13/12/24 03:25 AM |
| 3 | Party coming upLiterally no better opportunity for a fun sexual encounter than at your own house party while you’re young. | /r/seduction | 13/12/24 02:28 AM |
| 1 | Want her to take the leadI can’t tell if you’re asking for her to be more sexual or dominant. If she’s not an active or an initiating participant in sex you can bring it up. She’s either shy about it, inexperienced, or not really interested in it. The first two you can work through. Her being dominant - You can’t make this happen if she isn’t already. Very few women are. — In no case does shit testing her with your silenced grievances ever work out. It’s borderline delusional to do this type of thing. Certainly immature… | /r/seduction | 12/12/24 11:49 PM |
| 2 | How to ask friends sister on a dateEven if she were to play along- women don’t keep secrets. You need to be in a place with your friends where they are cool with / accept it, or risk losing them. Ive been hooking up with a very close friend’s sister in the recent years. She let the world know - even when we both agreed it would be best not to. Regardless, I knew I was in a place with my friend where it wouldn’t matter. As men age they want their sisters to be with good guys. I still hang with him weekly and her like once a year. | /r/seduction | 12/12/24 10:50 PM |
| 1 | How can I boost my chances when trying to attract "my type" and where can I find women like this?Nothing different. Be genuine in who you are. And if that is generally attractive you will attract all types. If it’s not, you won’t. You can’t fake who you are in one fell swoop. Attraction is primitive and “types” of women aren’t. The only type of women you would have to work differently to attract is a gold digger - by showcasing your wealth. | /r/seduction | 12/12/24 08:37 PM |
| 10 | How to ask friends sister on a dateYour approach wouldn’t be great. You immediately starting off with “don’t tell so and so” makes you seem like a bad friend. That is unattractive. This would only work if she hit on you first, and you played standoffish because of your principles and have her first wanting to not tell anyone. | /r/seduction | 12/12/24 08:30 PM |
| 1 | Would people agree surface level frames can set deeper ones?Your reply in this ridiculous situation is not good lol. But it is aligned with the general notion that you shouldn’t outright plead for your value. | /r/seduction | 12/12/24 02:58 PM |
| 1 | Where to pick up younger womenIf you want my advise dm me I’ll give you some pointers | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 04:42 PM |
| 1 | Where to pick up younger womenI did - that’s why I said what I did. The good news is you definitely have the potential to enhance your profile. As you’re not unattractive physically speaking. | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Where to pick up younger womenThere are no issues with dating apps. The issue is how you convey your personality, “very very fit” means nothing and how you show it con exemplify a strong personality as much as a weak one. | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 03:53 PM |
| 1 | Where to pick up younger womenYou all fail to understand that dating app profiles have the power to convey personality, Maybe the consideration is that yours is generally unattractive and needy. | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 03:51 PM |
| 1 | Confidence vs. entitlement.Who taught you this lmao - seriously where is this advise being spewed I want to see it | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 06:16 AM |
| 3 | HelpYou’re in. Setup a date for drinks. | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 04:40 AM |
| 4 | Weird "we need to talk" textWay too much info for what you clearly indicated early on. You should have no expectations for crazy women other than for them to be crazy. “She just had a kid with a crackhead” lol wtf why was there any story after this. | /r/seduction | 11/12/24 03:32 AM |
| 9 | Complete fizzle after amazing first date - anyone else ever had this happen?It’s not fizzling you were rejected. Move on homie | /r/seduction | 10/12/24 11:05 PM |
| 2 | how should i approach older women?Try the app Feeld… I would imagine your best shot at this is with a woman who is open to that kind of kink; ie she might be in an open/cuck relationship, might just prefer younger… the point of the app is to create an open space for those type of connections. Assuming there are higher odds here for you if you can be well presentable physically and show a bit more maturity. Dating apps will give you similar situations to feeld, but will probably find more vulnerable women who need ego boosts by d… | /r/seduction | 10/12/24 06:36 PM |
| 5 | For girls: how would you react if you smelled another girl’s perfume on a guy you’re meeting for the first time for a date?I use a women’s perfume and only ever get compliments. It’s not overly feminine though but I wouldn’t be surprised if one called me out on it. Seems like an overreaction though you made a rash decision to let it impact a guy you presumably were just meeting. | /r/seduction | 10/12/24 07:00 AM |
| 3 | looking for a male perspective! :)Reverse cowgirl and she is soaked | /r/seduction | 04/12/24 03:24 AM |
| 1 | Success rate?Same with OLD | /r/seduction | 28/11/24 03:31 PM |
| 5 | FR: Last night was a prime example for me of why dating apps are just so much better (imo)The wasting time argument doesn’t float for me. OLD is the ultimate time saver. I can setup guaranteed dates literally every week. And I have the game to close them. I’m 5/5 the past month. That wouldn’t be the case for IRL. I have a busy af life. Nothing is more efficient then setting a planned date I know how to take home. With girls I can clearly vet beforehand and them me. | /r/seduction | 27/11/24 07:52 PM |
| 2 | FR: Last night was a prime example for me of why dating apps are just so much better (imo)The wasting time argument doesn’t float for me. OLD is the ultimate time saver. I can setup guaranteed dates literally every week. And I have the game to close them. I’m 5/5 the past month. That wouldn’t be the case for IRL. I have a busy af life. Nothing is more efficient then setting a planned date I know how to take home. With girls I can clearly vet beforehand and them me. | /r/seduction | 27/11/24 07:03 PM |
| 6 | Curiosity killed the catDude move the fuck on and away from this. Not cool to chase married women and reading into messages like this. Not a good sign for your overall character at this age imo. The only place you should be flirting with married women is Feeld or similar where it’s all consensual. | /r/seduction | 26/11/24 10:40 PM |
| 1 | Simplify physical escalation on datesSaw your other post. Sent a dm | /r/seduction | 20/11/24 01:22 AM |
| 1 | Simplify physical escalation on datesI get what you’re saying. I’ll start testing a bit earlier. I’m not the biggest drinker either and probably should cut it down based on my health history. Actually coffee dates I like during the week. If those are a hit then it usually sets up a quick hook up for the next date. Like I like to do coffee then later that week meet up for dinner at either of our spots. Multiple times this never required alcohol. I’ve yet to close from coffee though usually it’s during work day. London is sort of sma… | /r/seduction | 20/11/24 01:00 AM |
| 1 | Simplify physical escalation on datesWhat you’re saying is what I agree with. Usually it’s 1-2 at first spot and then we’re moving to a better spot or back to someone’s place. I max at 3 drinks on long nights. Actually rarely eat maybe snack on an appetizer. Like I’m never setting up dinner dates. That’s valid concern tho, I think I’ve had 1 bad date within the past 2y where I let it go that long if it felt like I wasn’t going to close. I was fresh out of a health treatment and on a pretty serious rebound to the dating scene. Oh an… | /r/seduction | 20/11/24 12:44 AM |
| 1 | Simplify physical escalation on datesI have a date tomorrow at 8. It’ll be a quick one hopefully - some girls are super quick with it but it’s less common. But typically Wed-Friday you try to start at 6-7. Weekends I aim for 7-9 start time. Overall I’m in a large city/metro area so the later times are common. It’s not uncommon for nights to go to around 3am. I like fucking for hours. Pretty exhausting for sure. I try to avoid most weekly stuff tbh. 1-2 dates a week max prioritizing Friday & Sat. Sometimes I’m a bit reckless for wha… | /r/seduction | 20/11/24 12:25 AM |
| 19 | Expensive dates sub-communicate low value and desperationThe main point here is avoid the “I only do dinner dates” women. Otherwise it’s fun to splurge with the right girl - but obviously not required. | /r/seduction | 19/11/24 03:24 PM |
| 3 | Simplify physical escalation on datesI think my point is there should be enough attraction built up for it to happen unforced. Whether through the middle or end. Like you can tell when a girl is into you and I don’t need to prep that up physically so much as emotionally/intellectually. E.g. My last date we had like a 2h convo and then she was making out with me 10min after moving to a private spot - we hadn’t touched prior. | /r/seduction | 18/11/24 06:02 PM |
| 1 | Sacrifice dates for piercing and tattoos?I have tattoos and it’s never a turn off obviously. I also have my own business, history of military, large arms and a lean six pack. So your mileage may vary when it comes to physical attraction. | /r/seduction | 18/11/24 02:07 PM |
| 0 | Simplify physical escalation on datesIf you can’t come up with jokes on the fly then you’re autistic. Good jokes require context which require conversation. Otherwise you’re overthinking it. I gave you my perspective as someone who constantly pulls. | /r/seduction | 18/11/24 01:44 PM |
| 1 | Online Dating - 2nd Date Achilles Heel? What is causing my slip-ups compared to 1st date.What are you looking for? What are these girls like, and same age range as you? In general I think you should be successfully closing on the first date. Depends on the girl but I’ve pulled this across the general gambit of single women. So if by the second date things are faltering while you’re interested - you have to evaluate yourself some. But if you’re in “life partner” mode and dating those same type of girls the ball game is different (and I think seriously flawed + at a disadvantage to st… | /r/seduction | 18/11/24 02:16 AM |
| 0 | Why am I getting dumped after one date?Women reject because they aren’t attracted to you…it’s as simple as that. You’re at a critical age for most men - mid to late 20s. Flipping the switch on attraction won’t come easily at this point; but don’t fret or feel like you’re missing out - a lot of the players peak at game in 20s with typical BOPs, few men thrive in later years with high quality women, fewer men make something of themselves. You have work to do- and I wouldn’t suggest studying game. Hit the gym, build your career. Create … | /r/seduction | 16/11/24 09:21 PM |
| 1 | I Walked Out on a Date and Met Someone Better 1 Hour LaterNice/good for you to set boundaries. There’s a narcissist culture inherit in a lot Eastern Europeans and Italians. Not entirely hard to weave through it if you’re looking to hit it and quit it. That requires strong frame - but they love to play & have fun which is what has drawn them to me, an American. The men of their cultures are all driven by the same narcissism and class+gender roles they’ve become accustomed to. Someone who can offer both strength and genuine personality is what draws them… | /r/seduction | 14/11/24 04:07 PM |
| 1 | How do you discern sex from emotions ?I think you mature through it honestly. At 32 most sex I have is casual. I’ve also gotten better at it and learned how to turn it into a pleasurable experience for myself and her. It’s all physical. Making it emotional with women you don’t know seems… immature.. I don’t have emotional passionate sex because I think I’ve matured to not develop those type of feelings for someone under infatuation. | /r/seduction | 13/11/24 08:19 PM |
| 1 | This question is more for the f boysGo experience life. You’ll learn what to talk about. Fuck boy shit only works if - you’re young, and you’re an actual player and can pull it off with the looks. Because insecure young girls will be in dreamy mode over you. You can’t fake that if it isn’t you. The best you can do is be funny, but again if that’s not you you can’t fake it. | /r/seduction | 12/11/24 10:43 PM |
| 1 | What changes did you guys make in your dating app profiles to get more matches ?My photos are not high quality but they are recent. I don’t really smile. But I show some interesting perspectives. I’m strong/fit so 1-2 shirt off photos in candid / non cringe ways (no mirror selfies). People say delete the apps is funny to me. Like at minimum it’s 2 guaranteed lays a week. | /r/seduction | 12/11/24 10:37 PM |
| 1 | How to make women lust after you?“Greatest feeling” being lusted after sounds weak. Being lusted after is exhausting and sets up unhealthy, often unattractive, power dynamics. Having strong women respect you and go crazy for you in the bedroom is what you should be after. These women won’t lust for you and that’s good because you as a strong man aren’t lusting for them either. | /r/seduction | 12/11/24 03:29 PM |
| 4 | Alpha Male BullshitI hate the alpha/masculine label. It feels flawed af. A lot of women label me with being an alpha male and through a toxic masculinity lens. 9/10 I’m hooking up with a girl because of this. I don’t mind. But I’m not trying to play that part in something serious. Just because I’m physically fit, been to war, have a startup, have money etc — all means nothing about my character. I meet these dudes all the time that walk around with huge ego and all. Clowns. Not me. | /r/seduction | 26/10/24 12:49 PM |
| 3 | Completely undesirableYou can’t fake confidence. You can’t fake being desirable. Put in the work or don’t. Be patient. Be more mindful. The motivation should be every minute you continue to waste will age into regret. There are no magic bullets. Some of us have to put in the work and have for years. Even then it’s only a single stepping stone at a time. You can’t wish yourself or pity yourself into being something you subconsciously desire. Put in the work. Eat the regret and resentment you have now, and start marchi… | /r/seduction | 25/10/24 10:17 PM |
| 1 | How to not be dry?Being dry can work to your advantage. I mean it’s important to be playful/flirty assuming you’re actually interested. It’s more important to not be fake - girls will read through that shit. It’s also important to not be clingy - it’s better to be mysterious/busy vs constantly available. | /r/seduction | 23/10/24 11:06 AM |
| 2 | Cold approach success storyWhat videos were you watching | /r/seduction | 17/10/24 11:05 AM |
| 1 | Losing Weight?Being fit/muscular is an advantage. I average 215-220 but am lean at 5’11 (still big bodied). Women generally feel safe & comfortable around me but might come off as too big for some. I do well in shirt-off scenarios (beaches, pool parties, etc). Funny enough, I lost about 10-12 pounds the past 2 weeks due to anxiety. A chick came up to me in the gym for the first time ever yesterday lol. I’ve seen her before but this time she kept looking at me and came over. If only she knew how fucked I’ve be… | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 08:19 AM |
| 3 | Reminder: end game requires inner frame, which requires real workOptions. I haven’t been on these forums in years but there used to be a concept called “spin plates” as if one shatters you’re still spinning others. Of note, I stopped spinning for this one | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 12:09 AM |
| 6 | Reminder: end game requires inner frame, which requires real workI appreciate this perspective. Because I don’t want my judgement to be clouded moving forward. My advice shouldnt lead me or others to accepting bs from women because you think you need to play a game you don’t want to and will always likely lose. I do think my anxieties caused lost attraction. I couldn’t be present and especially around her other friends. I knew after meeting them I had set a bad tone. | /r/seduction | 14/10/24 09:42 PM |
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