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| 2 | I wanna hang with my exThe most important part is do whatever YOU want to do here. Nobody here can tell you what’s right and wrong. In my experience I do entertain my ex, we have alot in common and I got over all the things that led up to our split. As has she. We are very amicable and have a good time so as of now I don’t sweat it. I don’t live in it and I have my own life now…. But sometimes it nice to get together and spend time. But that’s not to say that a lot of people don’t want to do that, and I WILL NOT fake … | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/05/26 02:10 PM |
| 5 | Picked up the last of her stuff... with her new bfDon’t rush into other woman, sounds like you need more time with yourself first. Go do something alone. I just got a solo camping trip it was amazing, never felt so free in my adult life… do something new, something you have wanted to do for years maybe | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/26 08:38 PM |
| 12 | Picked up the last of her stuff... with her new bfMy opinion is the strongest move is be you, keep your head up, no negativity, smile more, move on, and fake it until you make it, one day you will feel “normal” again, and right around the same time your ex will realize how much of a fuck up this was. Keep your head up bro, make some small, improving moves in life. There’s nothing more attractive than a man leveling up when he should be crying and moaning, especially to an ex who thinks they hold all the cards. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/05/26 08:36 PM |
| 2 | What I Wish I’d Figured Out Sooner About This Divorced-Dad Thing (It’s Definitely Not the Big Stuff)I sure hope so, I know end of day he’s in a good place and it makes me sleep better. The weekends without him actually end up being alot of fun for me and I don’t worry about him at all. Random thought, your kids won’t judge their image of you based on how much time you have together, they are smaller and people will say (I generally agree) these newer generations are even more clueless but they can read vibes. They will know, my dad cares about me and just because we don’t always live together … | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/26 03:20 AM |
| 1 | What I Wish I’d Figured Out Sooner About This Divorced-Dad Thing (It’s Definitely Not the Big Stuff)No doubt, it kind of doesn’t comfort me though. The weird part is I live the alternate of a lot of men here. I’m the full time residential parent and she gets him every other weekend, and a few hours once or twice a week. I get the sexy work of dropping to and from school, (I drive a service van for work so it involves going to and from home swapping cars, sometimes I’m driving for 7 hours to go home, get in my car and go pick him up.) daily routine of all meals, laundry, bathing, potty training… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/26 02:52 AM |
| 6 | What I Wish I’d Figured Out Sooner About This Divorced-Dad Thing (It’s Definitely Not the Big Stuff)Idk why but the thing that stuck out to me was the same stupid, pancakes on Saturday morning thing…. I don’t miss it, but damn I miss it….. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/26 01:29 AM |
| -1 | Should I contact the affair partner of my wife?Dust yourself off and keep walking, worry about yourself not the other dude. You’re not doing yourself any favors by “warning” him. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/02/26 11:03 AM |
| 1 | Saw the screenshot which confirmed it. Thanks for the postsQuitting drinking was the best thing I’ve ever done for myself in my adult life. I wasted half my life drinking and many recent years getting bombed almost every night. I had no clue how much it was holding me back. It sucks it took the woman I loved for 10 years cheating with emotion affair and sexting and then gaslighting me and breaking up with me. Within a week i realized I couldn’t drink anymore. 160 days later I feel like I’m back to being myself… I’m doing what I like again. I’m bringing … | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/02/26 03:29 AM |
| 3 | Anyone’s standards for looks go up post divorce?And the ones that don’t, are completely batshit crazy. Hard to find a mid ground | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/02/26 01:17 AM |
| 4 | How many months before giving upYou’re begging and pleading??? Well don’t do that ever bro…. I gave up after 2 days probably. Closest I got was moving on and meaning it. This just caused her to be more “confused” and led to a 6 months limbo before I told her to get out of my house. 6 months in the house, broken up, finding out all the ways she betrayed me while having sex weekly and falling back more in love with her then ever. It was so hard to realize if she won’t choose me I can’t accept half in half out. It was not easy wa… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/02/26 08:05 PM |
| 3 | How am I supposed to be expected to just give it all up?Is it too late? Are you still alive? Will you survive without her? It’s no too late, also don’t compare yourself don’t even think about it. Woman don’t care about things they want to “feel loved” or what classic bullshit line the till tell you. “My gut” or “my heart” “is making me, I don’t want to” etc etc She never lied?? That you know of….. Now here is something that’s still hitting me, bro, you don’t need to worry about her anymore… she wants a divorce? IMO best chance is say , ok sounds good… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/26 04:44 PM |
| 1 | How am I supposed to be expected to just give it all up?More than likely there is… most people don’t just decide this. Especially woman, in this day and age, they monkey branch on social media. I had NO CLUE. I was spending weeks planing vacations and she was plowing herself on video chats. She losses all the benefits of me and my family, I gain the freedom to do whatever the F i want…. Sure some moments I wish I had “my family back” but I don’t want who she was, I want who I wished she could be…. I was very tough love be sure I know she had so much … | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/26 04:35 PM |
| 2 | How am I supposed to be expected to just give it all up?My therapist was an old woman in her 70s. She was amazing and set me straight. Don’t judge a book by it’s cover bro, see you definitely need to get back to basics no offense. Good luck with this all bro | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/26 03:38 PM |
| 7 | For those with kidsKeep that smile on when they are there too. You don’t need to be perfect but don’t bring them into your shitty world. They aren’t your bestie, they aren’t your therapist. They are a child…. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/26 03:32 PM |
| 2 | How am I supposed to be expected to just give it all up?My ex is still living in a delusional state, at her parents. Don worry what kind of bullshit she comes up with is all some gaslight excuse for her behaviors. She probably has some fantasy of a friend or coworker and they are going to save her. Also very common. A month after we broke up my ex told me she “met someone” but she failed to tell me she met them 2 years before and was cheating on me. But in her head it wasn’t cheating bc it was just sexting. She has mental issues and I let them spill … | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/26 03:29 PM |
| 2 | How am I supposed to be expected to just give it all up?Don’t hate it! I did 6 weeks of therapy and also some other important things. Be OPEN, don’t just blame yourself but don’t graze over stuff. Like I said, now is your time to fix it, and it’s not for her it’s for YOU and those precious kids bro. I’m the residential parent and this was the first weekend with the kid out of the house. It was weird in some small ways but overall it was awesome. You’re gonna have time to find yourself again, don’t be mad about that!! I was in a six month limbo during… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/26 03:14 PM |
| 6 | How am I supposed to be expected to just give it all up?The only thing you need to remember now is YOURE ALWAYS THEIR DAD, you’re not always her partner. Worrry about your children and yourself. When a woman brings up divorce she’s already checked out. Sorry to say it, But it’s the most common thing to hear and see…. If you have any chance to turn this around you need to SHOW UP FOR YOU, and nobody else can stop the transformation that’s about to occur but YOU! I didn’t realize it either, I thought my life was perfect too. NOPE. It’s not bro, and now… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/02/26 02:36 PM |
| 3 | I can’t face-to-face talk with my ex anymore – is this normal?It’s maybe not that I don’t want to see her per se, it’s that she doesn’t deserve to. She can email me if she needs anything else. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/02/26 06:38 PM |
| 1 | This is a dumb thing to be frustrated aboutWhy deny the child something that is free and relatively safe, plus right outside the house….. that’s weird That said it’s a feel like of -5 F by me for the last couple weeks the snow is just ice and it’s not fun to play in lol my crazy son says no thanks to going out when I ask. If it was fresh he would be all over it The dumbest things annoy us when it’s out of our control, when it should be partly in our control. Best solution is spoil them with you when they come around so they don’t forget … | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/02/26 01:11 PM |
| 4 | Staying in the houseI have survived the last couple months by purposeful avoidance, she walks in, I walk out, she goes to bathroom I get something done I don’t want her seeing, she is at work, I got home early for alone time lol, AIRPODS and Spotify was so good at keeping my mind away. Don’t eat meals together, purposely eat yourself before they ask and meal prep your own meals to make this easier and also helps you eat healthy during this time….. take your kids out alone, cheap or free places, stay away as much as… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/01/26 06:43 PM |
| 2 | How to handle the giddinessYes it is!! My cheating ex is moving out today she just loaded her car with a lot of her shit to move back to her parents. 10 years down the drain my poor son has a selfish cheating immature mother, and I’m done protecting her emotions. She betrayed our family and can fuck off. She saw I tossed out some shit I gave her as a gift and she freaked out. Pretty funny. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/01/26 06:35 PM |
| 2 | How to handle the giddinessDon’t contain your happiness bro, be happy. Fuck her you don’t need to protect her emotions anymore. You’ll be even more excited when she finally moves out | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/01/26 03:24 PM |
| 11 | She downgradedWho gives a shit, worry about yourself is the only answer to this bro. Comparing yourself is gonna get you nowhere. Find yourself someone 10 years younger than your ex and let her compare that. She chose him over you | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/01/26 12:35 AM |
| 5 | Interesting chat with mother-in-lawHey just wanna say don’t trying to pick dates it “started” etc etc my ex was very insistent it “started here” until I found out she had been emotionally cheating and sexting a whole year prior to that so it works for them it it first their script, not honesty. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/01/26 03:01 PM |
| 5 | Interesting chat with mother-in-lawI’ve been having sex with my ex for months, it means “nothing” to them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/01/26 02:59 PM |
| 0 | Dating a divorced man who keeps pulling away – looking for perspective from divorced menIMO he clearly still wants his ex back or just isn’t that into you. How long was his past marriage/relationship. Sounds like he has alot of unresolved issues from it and needs to get over it, and you have nothing to do with those issues so you’re just putting yourself in a position to be hurt again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/01/26 01:38 PM |
| 11 | Need help formulating a responseUhhh, you don’t respond | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/12/25 11:54 PM |
| 3 | How to figure out my identity…Something I realized 4 months in, THERES NO RUSH. Find yourself by genuinely just doing what you want. No kids I assume? Kids will help keep you busy. I found to connect with nature I didn’t need people so much as I needed quiet. I don’t need questions of what happened and how I’m doing all day long. I needed and need quiet and peace. I found that by hiking, beach walks, sunsets, camping, vacation planning, things that I already liked but was never alone. Now I’m with my son and we have a blast … | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/12/25 07:40 PM |
| 6 | She won, and I'm ready to goCan I tell you something? She already moved on. She moved on before she even told you probably. So her mental state is completely different than yours, as you start to grieve the lose of the relationship she already “has” (she hasn’t she thought she did) As time moves on and you get better day by day, she will see you rising up and start tripping and falling and as you pull your leg over the top of the wall you finally climbed you’ll push her off the edge and her “sparkle” will magically start f… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/25 02:05 PM |
| 3 | To the guys struggling right now especially during the holidaysI’m never one to be some morals police but if you’re going through it and drinking a lot please think about the positives, we are always so negative thought bound while upset. You’re alive still… you have a potential tomorrow. You’re not gonna build tomorrow up by being hungover and useless. Be strong today for a better tomorrow day by day it gets better and better I’m serious. Coming from a half a liter a night quietly to nothing, I’m the man should been for my boy and it’s worth living for. St… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/12/25 12:21 AM |
| 2 | Unsure if Reddit stories are healthy or not.Most important thing to do in this situation is become a strong man who is also strong emotionally but able to tap in to their emotions. Be the best man you can become and be open to growing. Quit drinking, eat healthier, sleep better hours, get up early and get it done for the children. She ain’t gonna do it she can’t even take care of herself. It’s all me | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/12/25 11:51 AM |
| 6 | Pre DivorceShe mentioned them all in the beginning and I’ve now worked and grown on all her concerns, and am much more mentally healthy than I have been in years. I did all this work for myself and that’s all that matters. That’s said she’s still “confused” obviously because she was talking to this guy for 2 years sexting “sometimes” an now I’m even better than this guy but she won’t admit it to herself or me…. I told her when she walks out that door on our son and I it’s over and she’s begging for more ti… | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/12/25 09:55 PM |
| 8 | Women Silently Emotionally Disconnecting and Checking Out Is CowardlyYeah I’m expecting the same thing going on in her fucked up mind. Seems to be pretty common, social media ruined our relationship bc I let her be a stay at home wife for a year and a a half. Ruined our relationship… I showed her I had a video of us fucking and she basically pried the phone out of my hand to see it but when I told her I snooped on her phone and saw her dildo videos and went INSANE and acted like she was gonna run away on foot with no shoes on. I said if you wanna practice blowing… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/12/25 01:07 AM |
| 2 | The truth is…Call someone, brother, dad, coworker, friends. Men need to be available to talk to other men and it needs to be a known thing. Keep showing up | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/12/25 12:57 AM |
| 7 | Women Silently Emotionally Disconnecting and Checking Out Is CowardlyBro mine did this shit for 2 years almost and with multiple people. Now she’s “in love with him” she told him on their lame messages and sexted for over a year, but it’s “not just sex it’s so much more” all while I was inside her daily. Now we break up and she still hasn’t hooked up with him for the whole 3 months… and in the last week we went from her handing me used panties an pics, to handjob, to sex, and blowjob lmao. Lowkey just trying to get her to move out but she keeps wanting to stay, s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/12/25 12:42 AM |
| 13 | Tired of the gaslighting BSThis. Found out we broke up bc she spent over 2 years sexing people instead of telling me we had issues she told them and then sent videos of her ruining herself with toys we bought together or I got for her lmao. I also apologized for being a bad partner and parent, quit drinking, fixed/growing on all my emotional issues and accepted all my faults, told her I’ll forgive her if she wants to try and I got the “I’m confused “ speech well ok good luck being confused when you’re living at your mom a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/12/25 12:37 AM |
| 1 | Mixed signalsYeah fr don’t let them control you still…. It’s done bro | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/12/25 09:02 PM |
| 1 | Mixed signalsMy ex is same way and I knew she was cheating found out it was over 2 years of sexting with multiple people one that she’s now in “love” with, he broke up with his recent partner and she broke up with me next day. She’s been acting like we are getting better and I leave a phone recording when I leave for an hour and a half. She’s masterbated loudly yelling and cumming while she made our son watch tv (he could obviously hear) an said I wanna fuck you so bad at some point during her sounds. I told… | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/12/25 09:01 PM |
| 1 | I just want her to admit that she regrets it!Nah, it’s beyond that, and she asked me to keep it between us so he definitely has no clue what we do. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/12/25 12:01 PM |
| 1 | I just want her to admit that she regrets it!I mean however you wanna look at it that’s fine. She was never my wife, 10 year relationship with kids, and he was never her boyfriend he’s “someone she thinks she likes”. The joke is still on him. But I do understand what you mean | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/12/25 12:00 PM |
| 1 | I just want her to admit that she regrets it!My ex monkey branched and still lives with me. I changed my entire life around in 3 months, whole new perspective, quit alcohol, AA, some therapy and life coaching, major weight loss and diet change. Life is amazing. She asked me to go get some gifts for our son and leans in for a kiss on the way out the door… she doesn’t want to give up but her “heart is confused” she still is talking to this guy but I’m just acting how I’d act either way. I’m waiting for her to tell me the same thing one day, … | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/12/25 12:37 AM |
| 3 | Bumped into ex todayGod bless your strength to walk away. I don’t think I could bring myself to say hi either. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/12/25 10:36 AM |
| 4 | Annual “Here come the Holidays” ThreadMy ex is still here and I DONT WANNA SET UP at all. I asked her to leave the weekend before Christmas I almost wanna just toss up a tree when she’s gone. Sad thing is we have to go through all the decorations and separate hers out. Gonna be tough to see her acting all sad when she’s the one who wants this. Idk how to act about it. Do the right thing for the kid is what’s in my head so I will set up soon and not just a tree…. But fuck I don’t want to! | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/11/25 12:53 PM |
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