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Intrepid_Counter7324/r/Divorce_Men29/05/26 09:37 AM
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You never purposefully have kids if you don't want them. That's my take, divorce may be the answer after long discussion, therapy and soul searching.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/26 06:55 AM
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I deleted everything I could immediately and have never regretted it I kept nothing physical, she took some photos so she has something I guess. It was integral to me moving on. I don't even hate her, but I needed her gone form my sphere
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/26 02:29 PM
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I'm 33 with a kid Set the routine (for me walking, audiobooks, gym, work) Go to therapy Work through the grief. This means therapy, watching videos, sometimes journalling, thinking while walking, crying... Just don't latch onto hate when it comes. You need to think about what went wrong when, what you did wrong, why you didn't recognize the problems, what issues you didn't acknowledge and communicate about in both you and them. DONT become hateful it just sets you back, you will feel hate... But…
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/26 01:11 AM
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Men, gentlemen... I too have been scorned and felt the sting of divorce. Let's just be real though, we sound very bitter. Just as an opposing view I'll share my $0.02 a prenup is required in today's modern world, especially in the USA given your laws. Being in Australia it's not quite as bad, but a legal agreement is good even in Aus if you have assets before going in with a partner. marriage isn't worthless if it means something to you. Many people have good marriages and are fulfilled. However…
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/26 10:39 AM
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Walk, exercise can take far longer than 1 hour Walk Walk Walk Audiobooks during; fiction, communication, history, psychology, self improvement... Whatever Podcasts
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 04:02 AM
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You can find someone, I know the fear brother man. Ive been through the grief. If I could take you for a feed, a drink and a gym session I would. Just know, I understand my guy. I know we all speak about getting jacked, going stone face, don't trust your ex, don't trust the court etc etc But bro, we've all felt the grief. We are there with you. We all walk our own paths, but they run in parallel to yours. We are here for you, we share the bond of our own traumas. What you feel, it's a syntpom of…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 03:30 PM
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Fuck talking to her unless you have kids?!???! What are you doing bro, have some self respect. You are betraying your future self, toying with yourvown emotions and grief. If you don't have to talk (co-parenting) you need to stop. You also didn't lose someone amazing (as a partner, they may be a great human)... She left you, so unless you are an absolute scumbag who deserves it, she isn't really that great of a wife, not to you atleast. Your "great wife" will stand by you. Great wives don't leav…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 11:57 AM
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Early 30s male In shape low body fat after a year of dieting and training Have my life together after a lot of effort Been going to therapy 1 child It has been a too easy honestly. In terms of finding sex, very easy with apps, very unfulfilling and generally a distraction, but easy. Finding people that want to date, very easy. Most the women I slept with ended up wanting to date. I wasn't ready though, they were good people, but not my type of person and I wasn't theirs in my opinion. I'm now da…
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 01:13 AM
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You doing ok there buddy?
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/26 01:25 PM
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33 with 1 child under 10. Having great success dating, casual is super easy and I've declined multiple women who have wanted to go serious. I am now with a girl as a serious relationship. She's 32 and doesn't want kids. The secret? Get your life together, get fit and become a better human being/communicator. There are 100% people who want to date single fathers. I've had no trouble. You need to be desirable in the domains you can control.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/26 05:10 AM
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Dating, having sex and then spending a other month or two solo... It's not all bad to be honest
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/26 01:24 PM
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It does get better? I'm 1 year out and I sometimes feel a little lonely... For some like myself, I love being single. Sometimes when I'm feeling romantically isolated I'll start dating, have sex a few times and I'm good. Would I like companionship. Sure, one-day. I was more lonely in my marriage to be honest. I put my kid to sleep and play video games or do some extra accessory gym workouts with the tv on. Life's got to much to offer, let's not squander our lives grieving what never was.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/26 01:22 PM
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Hey bro 33m 1 child I waited 11 months to date. It was obvious when I was ready. If it doesn't feel 100% right, I wouldn't. 6 months is super early. People outside your moment don't understand. Hit the gym
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/26 12:32 PM
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That's literally fucked up, leave her
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 04:08 AM
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I got ripped I starting earning more money Became a more present father Got my own place sorted Started dating again and now have a much better human to share my time with, she is more attractive, caring and is actually showing me organic affection and love. That's how
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/26 02:56 PM
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Hey mate, I'd delete this post. The title could be misconstrued. You need to start thinking defensively from a legal perspective. Keep things amicable, calm, consult a lawyer. Consider amicable focus law firms if things remain civil
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/26 11:58 PM
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I spent years feeling alone. You see, it's not the loneliness that's the actual issue. It's them not demonstrating worry and checking on on you once they've been told. That's the answer right there. Start getting ripped bro. Start preparing yourself emotionally. Start therapy, you can say it's to address your feelings of loneliness. If she continues to demonstrate that she doesn't want connection, you'll be ready to step away with confidence. You got this bro, don't rush anything. Therapy and th…
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/26 03:47 AM
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Lol, even if she wants to try... It's not over, she's abusing you. Go stone head bro. No emotions
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/26 12:48 AM
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Oh man, a lot to unpack here. Try read everything here, hope it makes sense... But there's some stuff here you are missing bro. Firstly, anger and rage... They are normal. They do need to experienced and explored as an emotion... But not just by hitting something, fighting isn't the answer in the way you've proposed it. Combat sports regardless are a great pursuit, as is anything where it's hard/competitive/requires discipline and perseverance (weighttraining/running/endurance sports etc). Men n…
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/26 05:17 PM
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Anytime brotherman, honestly, shoot a message if you ever want to talk. Don't rush, please, its so much more rewarding to re-enter that space from a place of growth and value. Take, your time. There's so many months and phases of grief to come. I didn't sleep for 2 days after the split, then patchy sleep for 2 months. If sleep is beyond you, go do a workout and listen to music.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/26 09:43 AM
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Everything you've said is true. But look further than that mate. You need to imagine, if this person loved you dearly and deeply... If you were the centre of her romantic world... If she desired you as HER partner.... The second you told her of your loneliness, your desire to connect and to feel loved. That moment, those words you shared... Well... they would shock the woman that desires you, they would GUT the woman who LOVES you, it would occupy her thoughts daily. Yet... She... Didn't... Fuck…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/26 07:43 AM
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The marriage never was happy bro There wasn't any intimacy. You never had a great marriage my guy. Don't mourn something you've created in your head, see it for what it is. You can find something better someday. Maybe that's a better marriage. Maybe it's something else entirely. It will be better though.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/26 05:32 AM
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Good on you. It is what it is now. My ex and I used lawyers only to ratify what we wanted the split to be. For me it was so I didn't have to worry about her changing her mind 2 years later (Australian law). We also steered away from lawyers that profit from the conflict. We went for a specially marketed law firm for amicable settlements. It was much better. I'd be careful about moving out if you're in the USA. I hear it can cause issues if your ex becomes combative. That being said, you will all…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/26 04:10 AM
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Did you guys ever go get professional counseling?
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/26 01:48 AM
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You don't like yourself enough for someone else to like you. You need to change. You literally google "Reddit where to get the best haircut in _____". You look that place up, and you ask them if they can help you find a style for your hair. You want to see what they think are some options. You then google "personal stylist _____(your city's name)". You call that fucking place and go do that. You listen to them, and if you feel a little uncomfortable, but not like a fucking clown, you've done goo…
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 01:56 PM
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Your attitude stinks bro. Do better. Quit whinging Go pay someone to help you dress Go get a new haircut Wear the watches to make the outfit complete I presume your in a rut right now and this post is you venting... But if it's not.. you need to stop whinging and get on with it, don't be pathetic, you can definately do better than what youre doing now. You literally just told me your haircuts never been reviewed you don't dress with intension you don't have any accessories for an outfit Thats po…
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 12:32 PM
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Bro Go lift heavy weights Go read how to get your body fat percentage to 12% Use the macro factor app to help Go to a barber where 20-30 years olds go, tell them to help you figure out your hair Go get someone to show you how to put some basic outfits together Wear some nice looking shoes that match your shirt colour. Reebok c85 and white shirt. The c85 comes in all colours basically, comfy even if wide feet. Take up a fighting sport bjj myauthai mma Buy a nice watch silver or gold depending on …
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/26 02:17 AM
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Why can't you date bro?
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/26 01:44 PM
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You know. I can't speak for all men so this is just my take. Please, disregard it if you'd like, it's a bit of a novela. Men and women both experience biased treatment by what is an imperfect system being held to a perfect expectation. Divorce, alimony etc etc really seems to be the most biased in places like the USA though, thankfully I am from Australia. Forget about the system though. A big issue with gender in divorce is that WESTERN SOCIETY is often quick to judge a man, or treat them as a …
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/26 01:37 AM
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I also started dating a few weeks back. The drive to prove I'm desirable, that I can get a partner/hookup etc... almost entirely gone. Naturally, at first, I was anxious as to if I could be desirable again (due to the dead bedroom), turns out I can be. There is a subtle confidence now, not that I'm something better... but I know who I am now, and I like who that man is. There's a sense of identity thats independent of having a partner. I think that's what's translating into this more austere exp…
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/26 05:42 PM
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It's a sub for men experiencing divorce though? Why did you need to make it men vs women at the end?
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/26 03:45 PM
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Thankyou for your response mate, it does give words to some of my unease. I have definately got a resistance to allowing vulnerability again. I hadn't thought about a new relationship sharpening my traits rather than eroding them. In honesty, I have this internal thought where I feel my ability to find the right partner is so complicated by my own context, that it seems like the right person is a unicorn. Then again, maybe that's self doubt immediately compromising my standards. I feel I have a …
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/26 03:51 AM
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That's a great point. I guess a decent way to frame it, is the right woman won't conflict with my desires and goals to continue improving, my fitness and my time with my son. I need to decide if my heart's ready for a relationship. Then once it is, look for that person. I need to figure out how to be the kind of person that person would want as well. I've achieved a lot, but I think my mindset around relationships is too flawed right now. I feel this general lean towards wanting to keep a partne…
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/26 03:45 AM
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Yea, the threshold for nonsense is so low now. I think I need to take more time, date casually until I feel more confident in what I want. Last thing I need is a relationship I don't want.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/26 11:31 AM
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Well Not always lol
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/26 11:11 AM
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I like the idea of having a girlfriend, being their emotionally, can stay at each other's some nights... But I don't think I want to cohabit let alone marry. Do you feel the relationship you're in now has a deep enough connection? Or is there a residual element of it being superficial given your boundaries?
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/26 11:03 AM
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