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Outer Game IntroMystique/r/seduction11/05/22 12:05 AM
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Inner Game IntroMystique/r/seduction14/07/21 12:58 AM
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It’s not about height my friend, I can’t express this enough. There is no ONE given factor that’s going to waiver someone’s success with the opposite sex, it’s a combination of things. My whole friendship group are 5”8/9 and they all have a history of beautiful women and now girlfriends and wives. Im talking women that we would generally rate 8+. Please pardon my usage of a rating scale, not something that I like to use. I’m actually the tallest of my friendship group and I’m the only one that’s…
/r/seduction14/08/22 12:56 AM
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It’s to get over you. It’s difficult to constantly see a person you have feelings for knowing they’re not reciprocated. It’s not your fault, but it’s in an effort to help get over the person. I’ve done it to women in the past but my reaction was like this when I felt as though they’d strung me along a little. So I went completely cold on them. If it’s someone I actually respect, then I probably won’t take that route and will likely ‘mute’ their posts just to help myself get over that initial hur…
/r/seduction13/08/22 11:49 PM
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Two reasons I’ve concluded: It’s plausible deniability. It’s a safety net. 1: Women don’t want to make themselves appear easy. It’s important that they state it from the get-go. If they have sex, it’s important - to them - for the guy to know that she isn’t a loose goose and that this isn’t something she does on the regular. It’s a way of parting responsibility. 2: She wants to have sex, but if anything sways her in a different direction from point A to point B, then she can easily back out. Aft…
/r/seduction12/07/22 02:05 AM
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This is a common thing to do. Bring the girl to yours beforehand for a few minutes to make her more comfortable. I wouldn’t say take a shower — it’s more of a ‘forgotten my wallet’ kinda deal.
/r/seduction09/07/22 02:22 PM
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Most westernised cultures: A hug. Every time I’ve even attempted to shake a girl’s hand upon meeting them, I usually get something along the lines of: “put your hand down and give me a hug”.
/r/seduction17/11/21 11:16 AM
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There’s no need to feel bad about what you did. You had the courage to go for what you wanted. What would’ve been the conclusion outside of this? You just awkwardly stare at each other for several more months and it plagues you even more? No, that is not a healthy strategy nor the way forward. I also want to add: Give it time. She doesn’t have to respond the first day. I’ve had a girl or two reach out to me like this in the past and despite being attracted to them, I still felt anxious about kic…
/r/seduction11/11/21 12:04 AM
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I was kinda laughing at that too. I’d never be able to be so open about my plans.
/r/seduction07/11/21 04:25 PM
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First thing that came to my mind would be to let her escalate it, then you noted that your father said the same thing. I agree with him. Don’t jump the gun. I would recommend letting her initiate it. She’s older, probably understands that she has more experience, etc. so she may very well take the lead. I would drop some “subtleties” in your convos, just so that it’s in the air. Then see if she takes the bait. You have to be delicate in situations like this. Context is everything and you don’t w…
/r/seduction07/11/21 04:21 PM
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I know for a fact a lot of people get lost in the game. I was the first of my friends to stumble across the seduction community when I was a teen. I showed it to one or two of them out of interest. I always had a major interest in psychology so I would read the material, but only apply what I needed to better my interactions with people — women specifically. Before I knew it, I saw friends turn in to complete and utter assholes. AMOGing me in front of girls. Negging each-other in front of girls.…
/r/seduction07/11/21 10:08 AM
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This comment is based entirely on my own opinion and experiences. It’s about finding a balance between presence and scarcity. I’ve often been labelled as mysterious and upon looking in to my own patterns, I came to somewhat of a conclusion. Having a strong presence: By this, I don’t mean have an overwhelming personality; being loud or obnoxious. I simply mean to stand out. For instance, some people have very unique styles, walk, talk, physicality, personality, interests, hair, clothing, shoes, e…
/r/seduction05/11/21 07:00 PM
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I’m cracking up so much reading this because this is me in a nutshell. Unless she thinks you don’t have an interest in women, then yes, she’s telling you what’s going to happen over those 5 days.
/r/seduction01/11/21 07:56 PM
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All you have to say is “thank you”, and continue the conversation if you wish. If she says “you’re hot”, then she’s attracted to you. You don’t need to prove anything more.
/r/seduction31/10/21 05:04 PM
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Blue message means that she’s using an Apple device, has iMessage enabled and has reception to receive the message at the time it was sent. It doesn’t mean you’ve been blocked. I get the green message at times where I - or the recipient - have no service/reception.
/r/seduction29/10/21 08:50 AM
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Leave it dude. Never worth it. Just take it as playfulness and keep it moving.
/r/seduction23/10/21 10:31 AM
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Some great advice here. It’s important to “leave things up in the air” at times, and avoid over communication early in to the relationship (for lack of a better term).
/r/seduction22/10/21 04:45 PM
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Hey dude, First thing I want to say is that you’re very young still. Don’t be too hard on yourself. People hit their strides in life at all different times. Secondly, it sounds like you need to focus on your image a little more. You mentioned you were 235lbs, so the first thing you should do is drop some lbs to a healthier weight. One of the best ways to kickstart this process is by looking at the food/drinks you’re consuming. If you can narrow down a lot of the “bad” foods that you’re ingesting…
/r/seduction21/10/21 07:04 PM
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There’s 2 things that I would say: Work on getting your life together. Work on being physically attractive. What do I mean by these? Get your life in order. Things unfold a lot better when you have all your eggs lined up. You have a job, income, a vehicle, a place, a future, etc. Yes, this is hard to obtain, but it’s attractive. You’re only 21. Give yourself some time and don’t compare yourself to others. This is the quickest route to unhappiness. One or two of the girls I’ve been attracted to i…
/r/seduction21/10/21 08:18 AM
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I’ve been like this in the past and came to the realisation that I was overthinking it. I was under the assumption that I had to say something in-particular or or act a certain way. Just talk to people as you do those that you are close to. A great way to practice this is in your everyday life: Go to the store to buy a drink? Make small talk with the assistant serving you. “Good morning, just this water please. How’s your morning going, busy?”. “Good, busy makes the time go by! Thanks, have a ni…
/r/seduction12/10/21 02:28 PM
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I’ve experienced this. I had NO idea it was a thing until I viewed it a few years later. Possibly the most exhausting and frustrating thing I’ve experienced.
/r/seduction08/10/21 10:39 PM
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You know, I wouldn’t necessarily say this is a problem. I’ve become the opposite and let me explain: All of my life I thought that you had to talk differently to the girls you like. Tease them, make them laugh, whatever you’ve been told. I spent years of my life wondering why I was always attracting the girls I WASN’T interested in, and unable to attract the girls I WAS interested in. I came to the conclusion that there really wasn’t any need to greatly deviate styles between the 2. Talk to the …
/r/seduction07/10/21 11:11 PM
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I always noticed an increase in female interaction after several steady months at the gym. Girls like physicality just as much as men. Don’t overlook it!
/r/seduction07/10/21 05:41 PM
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Signs of attraction are not definitive. They are “subtleties” that someone may give off, but it all boils down to the natural disposition of the person. I give off little-to-no signs of attraction when I’m attracted to a girl. Matter of fact, I stay away from them. I don’t bother them and I probably won’t even make an effort to talk to them unless I have to. It’s incredibly weird but it helped me understand that if I do this, then of course there’s others that also do it. I was thinking of a sce…
/r/seduction07/10/21 05:13 PM
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I’ve often considered this. I get so much more interest from women that are from different countries or ethnic backgrounds. I’m even experiencing something similar right now where I believe a girl has very clear interest in me. She was either born in a different country or her parents are immigrants. This girl is so attractive that it’s often hard for me to wrap my head around the idea that she likes me then I look at her background and it fits the model for the majority of what I’ve received th…
/r/seduction06/10/21 01:46 PM
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You’re right, that’s a great point. I’ve also noticed many conflicting opinions on the sub. Some great advice to be found nonetheless. From my personal perspective and experience: Learning ‘the game’ is great and can aid immensely in your understanding of social dynamics, relationship dynamics, as well as developing yourself. However, I feel that it boils down to who the individual is at the core, as well as having a strong frame. By frame I’m specifically referring to how you conduct and carry …
/r/seduction30/09/21 03:06 PM
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“Since flirting doesn’t MAKE a girl attracted to you”. Bullseye. One common misconception I see.
/r/seduction30/09/21 07:45 AM
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Not something I’d advise to do. Wait until a potential partner organically discovers this about you, it’ll be 10x more potent.
/r/seduction29/09/21 11:24 AM
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Everybody hits their stride at different ages. What you’re experiencing is social pressure. You’re comparing your life and it’s results to that of others. This is the quickest way to fail. Work on yourself mentally and physically. I remember when I was in college, I was 18. I had little to no interest from girls. I finished my first year and spent the whole summer indulged in working out. Bodybuilding and moderate cardio. I just took a real interest in it. I put on a few pounds, changed my style…
/r/seduction29/09/21 08:35 AM
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This is the only answer needed. Some people simply stop improving on themselves. They stop working out, they stop educating themselves, they stop trying to excel, all that. There’s always some way to improve yourself: mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally, etc. Great answer!
/r/seduction29/09/21 08:29 AM
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Thank you that’s appreciated. I hope it helps.
/r/seduction25/09/21 01:06 PM
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You did the right thing.
/r/seduction24/09/21 03:30 PM
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This is something I find myself continuously dealing with. I’ve always been attracted to girls that I’d consider above my standard. My thinking has somewhat shifted over the past few months, however. I find that you really have to find ways to increase your own value - both internally and externally. I decided that it was time to be overly-critical of myself. What is making me feel bad about myself that I CAN change? These factors are more physical than mental, however, your mental health is jus…
/r/seduction24/09/21 09:12 AM
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“I went from everyone hates me to they might like me if I talk to them”. That really struck a chord with me. It wasn’t until I read that sentence that the importance of internal self-dialogue hit me. I believe I’m on the finishing end of this process. For example, I recently started back at the gym and I’m very surprised at how many people - strangers - are open to talking to me all of a sudden. I’ll get many smiles and nods of approval from others. I believe it’s the way you carry yourself. If …
/r/seduction23/09/21 11:30 PM
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This is a great comment. You’ll help a lot of people - including myself - with this. One thing I also want to highlight and agree with you on is some of the signs of interest that you mentioned. For example, it’s pushed so hard in attraction that a woman will do the “triangular-gaze” if she finds you attractive / wants to be kissed. The “triangular-gaze” being that she will gaze at your eye, mouth, eye. I have never experienced this. Only intense eye-contact. Another one is women playing with th…
/r/seduction23/09/21 11:25 PM
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Compliance is attraction. Non-compliance is rejection. If she wants to be with you or around you, she will have NO excuses. This is what I’ve learned. It stings dude but go completely cold-turkey from her. A girl - from my experience - will do everything they can in an effort to spend time with you if they like you. It reminds me of a scenario I experienced some years back. I couldn’t gage a girl’s interest in me. It was hot and cold. Looking back, she initiated a lot of contact, but gave very l…
/r/seduction22/09/21 02:04 AM
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I’ve dealt with this too in social environments. Sometimes quietness can come across as lack of interest, disconnect, or even moodiness. It can make people think we’re “stand-offish” or upset about something. In my experience, it’s been difficult to deal with. But try your best to involve yourself as much as possible in the convo. I’ve also found that it can help to sit next to or among the person(s) you are closest to. This way, it allows you to talk to one-another if you find being part of the…
/r/seduction22/09/21 01:47 AM
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This sounds painfully awkward OP. Try and break this one off. You’re being taken advantage of. The fact that she won’t meet anywhere other than public - which also involves you spending - says enough. Do all the free stuff if you wish: FaceTime, calls, etc. But don’t make any further plans for dates and see how she reacts. Either way, try and cut your losses. I say “try” because I understand that it must be difficult, but the sooner you start, the sooner you can move on.
/r/seduction21/09/21 04:27 PM
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What I have learned is that finding ways to improve yourself can drastically alter your self-esteem outside of how other’s views you. The past year+ I’ve taken it upon myself to be overly-critical of myself. I feel it’s the only way I’ll be able to really push past what is bothering me. So, here are things that I worked on: Skincare: I started a skin care routine. I don’t suffer with acne but have a lot of pigmentation issues and inflammation on my face. The past 2-3 months I’ve joined the subre…
/r/seduction21/09/21 12:05 AM
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3 days of dating is very quick to be telling someone you love them. I’m unsure your age range, although I’d suspect only very young, or, very inexperienced people to do so. Another Redditor also mentioned something that I wanted to mention and that is “love bombing”. Beware of this when dealing with people. It ‘may’ be some ploy to reel you in on accounts of her insecurity, or something. I would never commit to anything I don’t feel comfortable with. I’ve never called a girl “my love” (although …
/r/seduction09/09/21 05:22 PM
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There’s a lot more virgins at your age and older. People are not willing to admit it so they lie. Don’t let it bother you or you’ll forever walk around with this chip on your shoulder. And no, it’s not too late. Learn how to “perk” yourself as much as possible and let go of expectations. Things will unfold before you.
/r/seduction30/08/21 02:38 PM
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Don’t beat yourself up about it too much, but just be aware and learn from it. A woman will rarely be straight up with you like that because they don’t want to hurt your feelings or create a weird environment in which you have to continuously see one-another. You presented a very intimidating scenario to a girl you barely know. Alone together, in your room, drinking wine. Avoid doing this when the context isn’t right. If you received no significant, isolated signs of interest or connection from …
/r/seduction30/08/21 12:26 AM
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The missing link here is that there seems to be a lack of comfort and connection. I think it’s overlooked just how pressurising it may be for a girl to be invited to the room of a guy she doesn’t know from a hole in the wall. These things take time. Attraction and comfort take time. I’ve been invited places with women and I declined because it would’ve made me feel uncomfortable. Get to know her. Give it more time. You jumped straight to your bedroom, choose a public place, even. Don’t think tha…
/r/seduction30/08/21 12:01 AM
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The ONLY way to really be safe is to both have a full-panel STD screening. Be very cautious taking someone’s word for something, especially regarding sex. People will lie or conceal what they’re really up to. It’s often difficult to take their word. If you’ve developed a connection with them and you feel as though you can trust them, then go ahead, but it’s always a risk. Nobody can know for certain and not everybody feels comfortable requesting a full-panel from someone. Me personally: I’d rath…
/r/seduction28/08/21 07:54 PM
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I agree with you. There’s an awful lot of emphasis put on “nice”, and I think people are both overlooking the aspect as well as misinterpreting it. From my experience, if a girl is attracted to you, being a genuinely likeable character is going to really pull them in. People have developed this concept that you have to damn near treat people like dirt in order to win some sort of affection from them. Have strong character. Having strong character is knowing when to utilise parts of your personal…
/r/seduction28/08/21 10:53 AM
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Exactly, I couldn’t agree more. There’s nothing I find more off-putting than arrogance in women. I actually look for strength, with kind-heartedness. There’s so much emphasis put on being “nice” or “arrogant”, you don’t want to put an act on for anyone. I don’t care who it is. Because at some point, you’re going to have to keep up something that isn’t you. The amount of women that have taken a liking to me simply by being myself - with no act - has always severely outweighed anything else. Being…
/r/seduction28/08/21 07:56 AM
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From my experience, it’s not so much about being “nice” or “arrogant”, etc. It’s about being strong. Don’t be a pushover is what I think should be highlighted more often. Have some backbone, don’t say yes or no to things that you don’t wish to do. That is having strength. There’s nothing wrong with being nice, just have boundaries; be aware of other’s ulterior motives. Let me give you an example: Several years back in my job, I took a liking to a female colleague. She maybe picked up on the idea…
/r/seduction28/08/21 01:31 AM
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I always say that there’s a time and a place for everything. When in the workplace, act professional. Keep it professional. Once you get to know one-another, barriers become lowered and you’ll likely build a healthier rapport with them. They’ll show you their personal side. Some years back I was applying for dozens of jobs. Long story short, one workplace reached out and they hire me. I was applying for so many positions, I could hardly remember what I applied for. It was a retail store where ab…
/r/seduction27/08/21 05:24 PM
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I agree, I’d do it very, very subtly though. Some people can be too open, which is off putting. Talk about some funny phobias, embarrassing moments, showing a little vulnerability can be attractive as it can form connection. Subtly.
/r/seduction26/08/21 04:49 PM
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This is my take on it: There seems to be this belief that men should be persistent or keep trying. “She’s playing hard to get”, per-se. It’s a horrible thing and I’ve witnessed countless attempts by men trying pursue women who have absolutely zero interest in them. This has always been my fear: appearing like a creep. So just like another Redditor mentioned, in my case too, it has caused a large amount of missed opportunities by simply overlooking “the signs” — not wanting to appear like a creep…
/r/seduction23/08/21 12:46 AM
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How do you think someone can overcome a ‘defeatist’ attitude? Recently I’ve realised this perspective has damn near destroyed my life. Even if I believe a girl may be attracted to me, my thoughts of ‘worthlessness’ (for lack of a better term right now) creep in and sabotage it for me. Causing me major bouts of depression. I’m trying to overcome it but I don’t know where it comes from or how to tackle it. I’m currently experiencing it and it’s truly debilitating.
/r/seduction17/08/21 08:41 PM
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It’s not something that I would ‘like’ to happen in front of another woman. Usually when I’m with women I’ll put my phone on silent or turn off notifications. I don’t want to appear ignorant or as though I’m texting several other women. However, when it’s innocently done, it can show pre-selection. It shows that there are other women in your life. Women bring women. It’s not something I’d be embarrassed about or feel awkward about. It’s something I’d just laugh at. Plus: she saw the humour in it…
/r/seduction13/08/21 10:46 PM
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Wait until you’re ready to leave or have another job lined up. 9/10 it turns sour, destroying the work environment. Not to sound pessimistic, I’m just conveying the reality of it all as there will come a time where the flame dies and work becomes hell.
/r/seduction04/08/21 09:40 AM
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This is something I’ve realised as I’ve gotten older. I have a tendency to over-judge someone based on their attractiveness. Thinking they couldn’t possibly be interested in me, etc. It’s a major flaw of mine. However, I try to remember that they’re human with insecurities just like the rest of us. Surprisingly, you’ll find that many of them are just downright as shy as the next person. I’ve always had a major interest in psychology. Not only did I study it in college but I would read countless …
/r/seduction03/08/21 11:37 PM
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I can’t believe I’ve found this post as I was going to post something very similar. I too, often feel the same way. I get almost a sad, depressive wave that hits me. I’m going to read through everyone’s comments as it’s something I’d like to ‘hash out’ of my character because it truly gets me down. So far, I think I’ve pinpointed that it may come from low self-worth and a bad self-reflection - in MY case.
/r/seduction03/08/21 02:48 PM
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From my experience, height is simply a contributor of attraction. My whole group of friends are of average height. I’d say 5ft6 - 5ft10. Or around that. And these guys have NEVER had an issue because of their height. They all have beautiful girlfriends and wives. I’ve seen them have dozens of successful nights out. The conclusion I drew was no, it doesn’t make or break attraction. I definitely hear a lot of women state it. Especially in things like their dating profiles. “Swipe left if you’re un…
/r/seduction03/08/21 02:45 PM
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I’m assuming you mean physical attractiveness? If so, here’s some other things worth working on: Skincare: Create yourself a good skincare routine so that your face looks healthy and radiant. If you have acne, scarring, etc. then work on healthier skin. Posture: The way you carry yourself says a lot about you and how you perceive yourself. Work on good posture. Stand up straight, shoulders back. I started visiting a chiropractor in 2020 for help with this. Grooming: Keep yourself well-kept. Hair…
/r/seduction29/07/21 12:08 AM
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First thing that I want to say is that you’ve attached a time-limit to the things you wanted to achieve. Love and happiness have no time and space. It is completely free of fixation. I felt compelled to comment on this because we sound somewhat similar. My experiences have been just like yours. I keep attaching this imaginary time-limit to everything. It’s fictitious. It doesn’t exist. Revert inwards. You sound as though you made a lot of improvements external of your being — now start making ch…
/r/seduction27/07/21 04:59 PM
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I can only speak from my own experience but I completely agree with what you’ve written. If you want to attract males/females, your physical appearance is what you will initially be judged on. Things flow so much better if you’ve already managed to get your foot in the door. In my opinion, your character is what contributes to maintaining a healthy relationship with the people you meet — amongst other attributes. Sometimes, you will meet people that are not physically attracted to you. Eventuall…
/r/seduction26/07/21 03:45 PM
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Here’s my take on the “ugly” girl dragging the set away: It boils down to jealousy/envy. Being in a group setting can be intimidating for the less-attractive. Likely dealing with consistent approaches and attention, it’s noted that only certain people in the group will harbour the attention, while others do not. Once approached, those least likely to receive the attention - the “ugly” girl - will likely make the first move at rejecting the approacher, before the approacher rejects her. To do thi…
/r/seduction26/07/21 07:51 AM
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Strange now that I think of it. I don’t think I’ve ever slid in to a girls DM’s. Girls have shown me their inboxes in the past and they tend to be FULL of men they don’t even know just shooting their shot. Some of them are overtly creepy and proud of it which sorta blew my mind. I tend to see them in person, see if there’s a rapport, then maybe reach out once I feel comfortable. On the other hand, I think I have too nonchalant an attitude when it comes to things like that; often to my detriment.
/r/seduction25/07/21 10:58 PM
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Couldn’t agree more with this. I find situations 10x easier to move on from once I definitively know the answer.
/r/seduction25/07/21 10:55 PM
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“Me, drooling over my phone” 😆 Maybe take it to the car-shop for her, handle all the fitting, drop it back to her, but tell her what sort of price she is looking at for the battery, etc. I like to stick to my word so I understand the scenario you’re stuck in. In the future, please be weary of incidents like this. A girl I used to like some years back would often text me asking for random things. A lift here, etc. But I always took a step back and never committed to anything I didn’t want to. It’…
/r/seduction24/07/21 04:52 PM
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Hey man, It’s okay, don’t worry about it. I knew I’d receive replies like that when I posted it. I’ve been through a lot the past several years and truthfully, I’m too embarrassed to open-up to those close to me about it. The only way I feel I can truly move on with my life is by being as open as possible about my emotions and self-reflection. This was my first attempt. I know how I come across, honestly, I hate it, but I’ve realised that I can’t move past it until I accept it. Thanks.
/r/seduction14/07/21 05:36 AM
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