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InvertedPickleTaco/r/Divorce_Men27/05/26 04:52 PM
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I'm dating someone now and they're more compatible with me than my ex. It's not that I hate her despite our ongoing and combative divorce. It's that our biggest common ground was our desire for a family, a companion, and security. We didn't have similar hobbies, similar needs, or similar habits. I met my ex online and we rushed the relationship. She admits that she forced me to marry her faster than I was ready for but takes no responsibility for any issues in our divorce or former relationship.…
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/26 02:03 PM
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Get help please. Call a mental health line and vent. It'll be better than Reddit. If you can afford a good counsellor or have insurance, do it. Please don't send her anything. It won't help anything. You aren't at rock bottom, trust me. There's always worse. It's hard to see it. Things get better when you get better, and don't set goal posts like the opinions of someone on a dating app to get better. As far as dating goes I've found that many women friends who are actually great people stay off …
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/26 07:28 PM
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Hire one. Tell them everything. Tell them to protect your interests. Give them your clear boundaries. Tell them not to forward anything to you unless the offer fits within those boundaries. I wish I had of taken similar advice.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/26 11:27 PM
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First off, what happened is a tragedy and I am not defending either party. Look up the difference between fault and responsibility. Fault is uncertain here, and arbitrary according to current morals. The responsibility was on the individuals to avoid this situation. The man should not of harmed or killed his ex, and should have sought another outlet for his feelings while dealing with them in the best way he had available (which doesn't mean anything beyond it should never have come to this outc…
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/26 12:26 AM
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I blame social media more than I blame the courts. Divorces used to complete fairly quickly, as no one was trying to line their new life up with what FB, Reddit, or some populist pseudo-psychology book said they should do or how they should treat the other parent. Now, so many women get into online support groups, read a couple of books, convince themselves that they need to be stronger (than what) because they're abused and traumatized (the new code words for, things didn't go the way they drea…
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/26 04:43 AM
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You can still have a lawyer file for a no contact order. In general, if you have evidence and the police will make a statement that there's an ongoing conflict, you'll at least get a bilateral no contact.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 09:46 PM
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Get a no contact order. If you have enough evidence to go to the police, you likely have enough evidence for a no contact order. Even if it ends up bilateral, it'll solve a lot of these issues if they're following you around.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 08:25 PM
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We do have them and I do have time, but they are separate from this order. There is this weird second system between family and criminal law that people here can use to restrict access to the other parent that doesn't consider the interim parenting orders. She even tried to manipulate my father and have me charged by asking when I want the kids while knowing full well I can't see them. She already has possession of the home. There is none of that option available.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/26 07:14 PM
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You need to separate. Seriously. If I had of agreed to separate when she threatened divorce our lives would have been so much better. Whether we would have been able to eventually make it work or not is irrelevant, send the divorce in and come up with an agreement. If, at that point after living separately with separate lives you still feel you can't move forward, then don't submit the final paperwork.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/26 07:11 PM
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At this point I'd be happy if it's resolved today. There's a high chance it won't be, and then we both have to take the stand in anywhere from 1-3 weeks. I haven't seen my children in 6 weeks and she doesn't give a hoot while constantly telling the court she's doing all of this out of empathy for my mental health. I'm not even kidding, that has been in her evidence several times.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/26 07:05 PM
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In this case it is something she controls. In Canada, when orders are created they are interim. The matter then goes to a hearing, where each party can provide evidence before the orders are made permanent. The system prefers, according to the FFPP process, which favours negotiated or arbitrated settlements be brought to court instead of a formal hearing. She is unwilling to negotiate as she feels something that isn't true and has made a $20 bill something she is holding over any settlement. She…
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/26 06:32 PM
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What's funny is she messed up and we now know she has a strange parasocial relationship with her counsel. This sort of pettiness is with her. She's an active member of a group that believes that women are always abused in divorce and should get more of everything as compensation for the abuses. It's pretty nutty all around. The cell phone is my child's. I threatened to stop paying as my ex has put in a temporary order that was accepted that meant I couldn't contact my daughters. Why am I paying …
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/26 05:33 PM
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Oh we absolutely accepted that term, if they accepted the rest of our reasonable offer. Who knows. She hasn't been reasonable. She used the fact it took 8 months to hammer out our agreement as an argument that I'm and unsafe and unstable influence on the children 😂 The sad part is an officer put that in a report or I would have had no idea that was said.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/26 05:22 PM
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I'm not. She said this the whole time during our marriage and, when we had some level of friendliness, it was also said on front of me to her friends at the gym we both still go to. Everyone wants to glow up after their marriage ends. As far as what else I pay attention too, unfortunately my work HR department received a call with information likely from a coworker of hers that could effect my employment. If you have a high conflict situation, even temporarily, and rumors start spreading, it's g…
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 09:40 PM
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My ex continues to cry to friends and family that she can't understand why she can't lose her belly weight. Maybe it has to do with her regular activity of smoking a joint and then eating a couple of chocolate bars, but who knows. No amount of gym time helps when your metabolism slows down as you age. It has to be eating less eating healthy, and working out.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/26 07:54 PM
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I shaved my beard because she always said she liked that, and all I got was, "why did you shave your beard? and, Oh..." It killed me inside that she couldn't even mention she liked it until I forced it and asked her during an intimate moment.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/26 02:56 AM
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I'm sorry OP. I don't have that answer and I've made it a rule that I won't psycho analyze her like she did and does constantly to me. I will say that every relationship has a cooling off period, and if that person doesn't feel the way they need to during those tough moments or periods, then they aren't going to be an enjoyable person to be around.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/26 02:28 AM
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Yes, I miss the affirmation. Especially since I tried to chase the relationship that was gone for way too long. My ex couldn't give me a compliment for years. Even when I'd ask how I'd look, it had been over half a decade since I received more than a, "guys always look good without the effort a girl has to put in," comment.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/26 01:48 AM
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This is a great story. Their mom seems to have nearly unlimited financial resources, admittedly that's partially on me, and I know she's taking them on a couple of large trips this summer. I have zero contact for now but I'm working on it, so I wouldn't be shocked if one is her sneaking them illegally into the US for Disneyland or something like that. In any case, it's great to hear this as I know they don't need me to play tit for tat with her. It sucks, she takes them to the places we used to …
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/26 05:27 AM
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I took it off when she told me to leave the house. I gave it to her to give back if I ever earned it. What a silly thing to say, I should have just said for her to keep it until she decided I should have it or get rid of it. I did see once she keeps her rings randomly in her car somewhere. I get she doesn't care about them, but why try to have them stolen? She forgets I spent literally everything I had at that time on them and seeing her chuck them in her cup holder is a gut punch.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/26 04:12 AM
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In most divorces there's one person who is cold because they don't want to fall back into the relationship, and one person who is trying to save it. It's normal. This too shall pass.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 11:54 PM
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I appreciate you asking if I'm okay. The reality is I have a long road back, especially mentally, to where I need to be. Our society encourages the victim complex. Every women is encouraged to get support on social media, and most social media on divorce for women is focused around psychology analysis that isn't accurate. Check out how many divorce support groups for women call every man a narcissist, talk about boundary setting, and use the word trauma in every second sentence. Approximately 1%…
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 11:38 PM
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Up until a few weeks ago, my ex wasn't a problem when it came to us supporting each other in front of our children. She's decided to tell the children to fear me now as a I go through my own health issues, which sucks, but I can't control anything at the moment so I'm concentrating on one step at a time. The truth is, I've heard this from many friends and medical professionals, that kids adapt at this age. Even if they are siding with her right now, they'll catch on to her alienation attempts if…
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 11:28 PM
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I'm in a similar situation with more complicated factors driving the divorce. I can't even see my kids right now. That being said, your children are young, focus on being the best dad you can be. You should also look into if there's a local guide in Mexico on how parenting should work in this situation. Most jurisdictions make it clear that both parents should be supportive of the other in front of the children. It doesn't always help but it can help to bring it up during negotiations as a point…
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 11:19 PM
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I did, and it ended in the worst way. If I could go back, I'd take the space for a long time before being her friend.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 09:27 PM
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I agree with the others to move on. If she actually wanted what you do, she wouldn't be coming over just to pick up her stuff. FWIW, since most won't say this, if you have a chance with her again it'll happen when you're both ready and you don't feel you have to be with her. From the way you wrote this, and I've been there sadly, she wants to keep you as an option and friend but doesn't want what you do. Reconciliation can happen years after a divorce but talking odds is just kidding yourself in…
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 09:17 PM
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Many of my issues and the issues I've caused have been because I needed her validation, her voice, to tell me I'm a good person and worthy of living. I let things get way too far down that path. I'm just as shocked she let it get there too. I feel like she always knew I wasn't actually healing or changing like I needed too, I was trying to appease her by changing in whatever way she approved and collapsing when it drive me crazy, but she wanted the benefits of someone like me always trying to pl…
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/26 05:38 AM
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It's a good way to look at it. I'll get there. It's tough seeing her like that when I know she would send those pics to me in the past. It's also tough knowing she posted some of those pictures to Facebook too and I complimented them when I was still trying hard to win her back, which never works.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/26 04:58 PM
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Her first pic on the one dating app I stumbled across is a gym pic where it's basically, "this is me on my back sweaty and content, like I'll look when you're done fucking me."
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/26 04:15 PM
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If you hold tightly, you will push them away. I believed holding someone tight, trying to prove yourself, would work but it doesn't. Don't get me wrong, you need to work on yourself and put effort in to the relationship but you can't do it just for them. You need to figure out how to make yourself happy while respecting their boundaries. That's the only real hope, since if it works out or doesn't, you'll be content either way.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/26 12:54 AM
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While I don't judge body types, this is my biggest fear with my ex. I find her pretty, but she lacks confidence in her appearance outside of her career but is a bit of a gym bunny with the body of one. I can only imagine the attention she gets on her dating profiles and, likely, the amount of flirting and dating she's done.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/26 10:01 PM
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I developed and attachment disorder, so I started to sacrificey daily routine to do anything I could to win her back. Yes, I wish I had of developed healthy boundaries. Ironically one of the things that made our situation so much worse was her developing boundaries but not making them clear or consistent. She refused to define them clearly and that made things escalate when she would bend them and then snap them back with anger and yelling.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/26 06:59 PM
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People look for comfort in strange ways. My ex was telling me I had a chance if we stayed friends while she was setting up a Tinder profile looking for "short term fun." It could be they have the need for the ego boost, the need for revenge, or the need for comfort with a new lover. Probably a bit of all three.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/26 08:17 AM
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Yes and no. Yes because of our children and the good memories. No because I think she was in love with the idea of what I was instead of who I am, and I wouldn't want to hurt either of us again in that situation.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/26 07:58 AM
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Yeah. The thing is most people could just talk out there issues, but if all someone wants to do is listen to talking heads and assume everything someone else says is abuse then they shouldn't be surprised when it goes south fast.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/26 01:00 AM
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What I find interesting is how women will watch 100 videos or shorts to convince themselves they're in a high conflict divorce/custody battle, which actually causes the high conflict to occur. There's this one older divorcee on Tik Tok and literally her whole thing is to turn nothing burger situations into, "you won't believe how abusive that actually is!"
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/26 12:41 AM
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While I believe most lawyers have good intensions, they're always busy and can charge rates like you're experiencing. I'm about $30K into my divorce. I did glimpse an excel sheet when I saw my ex amicably a few months ago. She's paid significantly less, but also has a strange quasi-friendship with her lawyer that has me questioning a lot of our agreement.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/26 09:50 PM
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Unfortunately my ex, when things were recovering, fell into the reddit/FB divorce groups and that was that. I say unfortunately, because it made things so much worse because they would yoyo between maybe and hell no to the divorce as their emotions and what they read clashed.
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/26 03:33 AM
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One, do this for yourself. She's gone. I wish I realized this with my ex sooner. I kept thinking she was into me, while she was offering herself on Tinder. Two, find an outlet. I just walked 30 km because she broke a no contact order and the local cops didn't care. Find a non destructive way to deal. If you snap, even if it's a mental health thing, she will use it like a weapon against you. Three, time. Seriously, you will want to go over every detail and decision. It's normal. Learn box breathi…
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/26 03:44 AM
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When she went for full parental rights on our kids after the opening line in her paperwork, "I have empathy for his mental health conditions."
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/26 03:21 AM
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Mine said she was scared of me when I calmly asked about her reddit where she was bragging up filing for divorce without me knowing. The truth is most women assume when they're caught being bed people that someone will hurt them, which is completely BS in most cases and a way to play victim.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/26 02:19 AM
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I agree, I need to form the right habits until any interaction with her feels like what it is, a high risk business communication. The no contact is going to happen. She's drawn a line in the sand there, so my best plan is to try and make it bilateral so she can't force me to leave every store or location she tries to enter when I'm there. In my country a no contact can be changed at any time by both parties. When she's ready to stop bleeding her parents retirement dry on lawyers, I will figure …
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 05:57 PM
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The order is interim, so I'll have to go back to court in a couple of months if she doesn't agree to let me see the kids more. I've been told it'll take 3-6 months at least to get back what's in the agreement. It'll depend heavily on both my health and how hard she wants to fight in court. There's always a chance she decides it's not worth fighting. My lawyers did mention that she's attempting to get us to pay for her legal fees as that can happen when someone claims abuse. However, the standard…
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 03:45 PM
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First off, read Braving the Wilderness by Brene Brown and The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck by Mark Manson. The first book deals a lot with being alone and how humans can improve that feeling. The second book is basically the all knowing tome of how to care about what you want and can change, and to forget the rest because worrying won't change it. Oh, and if you date and she takes off with someone, that's not on you dating. That's on her for looking for an excuse to date.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 04:21 AM
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I have to stay in the same town because of the kids. That being said, we're now done. Legally, the EPO will be cancelled soon as it doesn't make sense. It'll convert to a no contact order, and I'm asking for it to be reciprocal so I don't have to deal with her for at least a year.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 03:28 AM
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That's the plan. Unfortunately she started working to turn the kids against me. I did get lucky, though. Just before this latest set of events happened, but after she told them to hide, I texted my daughter. I asked why she wouldn't talk to me and she said her mom told her not to. I asked if she was scared of me, she said no. I asked why I couldn't see her or talk to her, and she said her mom told her she didn't have to ever talk to me again and she could live just with her mom forever. That rea…
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 03:27 AM
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The kids will be fine. If you can both focus on them and keep the nasty stuff away from them it's for the best. They won't do better in a toxic relationship. I will say it's good to examine your options. I might get a good couples counsellor and see what's going on from both sides before making the call.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 12:52 AM
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I'll do you one better. After she tells me, when a friend finds her Bumble/Tinder during his own scouting, that she's done absolutely nothing with nobody... yeah. I'm deep in attachment disorder and not only do I watch the kids so she can be a gym bunny, I do chores around her filthy home too. The laundry is literally 10 feet from her computer, and you have to look right at the computer to get to the door. It's flashing a steam chatbox. She's been spending hours playing a game I know she hates w…
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/26 12:36 AM
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Yeah I figured. I'm more pissed she spent 4 months when I was trying to reconcile flashing me constantly in the house and then admitting when she kicked me out that it was taunting me to make herself feel better. She added Tinder literally right after we officially separated, still had it until a couple of days ago as far as I know.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/26 11:46 PM
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I paid for mine to have her nips pierced. I never got to play with them, but I'm sure Tinder guys have. Oh well, you win some, you lose some.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/26 11:43 PM
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TL:DR, heal for yourself, take life one day at a time, and be the man your children need. You owe that to yourself. Whatever fault happened, it's your responsibility to make it better. Coming here is a great start from what I've seen. I'm someone whose also struggled with thoughts like yours. I've been in and out of the hospital after I found out she told her coworkers and acquaintances things about our marriage that we agreed to never repeat, and when I challenged her view on it, she had her la…
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/26 08:38 PM
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