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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
8	"How" do I prepare for this?		IronHot1546	/r/Divorce_Men	09/01/26 05:56 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	I feel like need someone to tell me not to date/fling/etc. Can you tell me who your therapist is so I can make 200% sure I stay far, far away from them?	/r/Divorce_Men	18/02/26 07:08 AM
1	I left I'm not sure why being kind and graceful is a bad thing, or even difficult? Sure, you might get upset in moments, but being kind is an approach. You can. It's not necessary to me evil to someone while still getting an attorney and beginning divorce proceedings	/r/Divorce_Men	29/01/26 03:35 AM
2	Wife frequently calls me a “useless piece of shit” That's not how life works in the USA either. If the OP attacks her back, he'll be labeled the abusive one and he'll lose his child even faster. The only "real" solution is to talk to a lawyer and see if it's legal to record her maybe? And even then I'm not sure it would help. In the US anyway.	/r/Divorce_Men	12/01/26 11:13 PM
2	Told her last night Update Ok, gotcha. Sorry for the confusion and sorry for the situation man. I totally understand.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/01/26 06:59 PM
3	Something I keep noticing about men in the middle of divorce "A lot of men don’t seem confused about what happened." - I do. And I think most do. Some just react differently. We might blame her, or ourselves, or lash out in anger due to hurt or fear. Or break down into an emotional wreck. Or just plain fear. Fear of losing a role, all we've know for the greater portion of our adult lives in some cases half (or more) of everything we own. The fear of being unable to support ourselves, let alone our children when trying to pay two rents, two car payments, t…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/01/26 06:58 PM
3	I’m so mad at her "A part of my brain keeps thinking… praying? that one of us will blink… she’ll call and apologize. I’ll admit my faults. We will put it behind us. She will be in my arm again? But that’s never going to happen. I’m so angry with myself for not knowing how to stop this snowball." God damn I feel this in my soul. I'm not angry at her though. At the moment I'm bewildered. I only get angry at her when I try get her to tell me what happened, or what is happening and she refuses and gets angry at ME fo…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/01/26 06:50 PM
1	The closest I’ve been to another human since my divorce. Thanks a lot for the horrible idea generation...	/r/Divorce_Men	09/01/26 06:46 PM
1	Told her last night Update Bloody hell. 6 days is like a menstrual cycle. My wife and I haven't in almost 5 years.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/01/26 06:42 PM
1	She wanted to prove she could do it without me 🤣 To late now, how can he afford it?	/r/Divorce_Men	09/01/26 06:30 PM
1	She wanted to prove she could do it without me 🤣 This is what I'm terrified of tbh. I don't give two shits what she tells the kids, I just want to be sure she can actually feed them. But I have to be able to feed myself too. And stay sane. :(	/r/Divorce_Men	09/01/26 06:30 PM
2	"How" do I prepare for this? Good advice. I've actually been looking. Finding a lawyer to trust is harder than finding a mechanic or a contractor though. Costs a bloody fortune to find out if he/she is nothing but a leach. :(	/r/Divorce_Men	09/01/26 06:27 PM
1	It’s done I'm struggling with this now. We've been together almost 30 years. But she tells me I am, and have always been (!?) "emotionally abusive" and mean. I asked her to do couples therapy, but she refused. "You'll just lie to the therapist"??? wtf. I have literally zero idea what is going on and where this suddenly came from. But, god forbid I question her or ask why? Then I'm being abusive or gas-lighting. Every single time I disagree with her, about anything. At all. It's just miserable.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/01/26 06:10 PM