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A lot of good comments here, but I just want to say, been there, done that. One of the most difficult decisions in my life. We had been together for four years, I really thought he was the one. When I left him I was 28 and basically prepared to live my life as a single woman and kiss my family dreams goodbye (a bit dramatic now that I think of it...) Four years later I was expecting my eldest child, and now I'm a mother of four. I have a wonderful husband. I only regret not leaving earlier.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/19 12:46 PM
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RP theory gives also other good reasons for that... Mirena has worked wonderfully for me. Almost no periods also - very handy!
/r/RedPillWives01/02/19 11:48 PM
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Honestly, you should break it off, or at least clarify it to her that you are not going to marry her. You are definitely not mature enough to get married. You think she's getting old now, at 27? After a couple of kids you will probably need to get a coffin for her. I mean, at 35 she'll be, like, REAL old!
/r/RedPillWives22/01/19 06:02 PM
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One man once said to me that the marks that pregnancies leave on woman's body should be respected and carried with pride in the same way as a veteran's war injuries and scars. I think a husband can her children's mother's body much in this way, having given life to his child, which is something he can never do himself.
/r/RedPillWives22/01/19 05:42 PM
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Looks might be one of the most important things that pull you together, but it's not what keeps you together. There are some famous examples of men who have cheated their young, beautiful wives with older, uglier women (think Prince Charles). How often does an unfaithful husband explain that he did it because his wife has become ugly and old? No, mostly it's the lack of respect, sex, connection. But, as always, choose your husband wisely. I don't mind at all if my husband looks at other women. S…
/r/RedPillWives22/01/19 05:23 PM
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MGTOW is like extreme separatist feminism, only for men. For most, it's a phase that might be necessary to go through on their way to self-discovery, but most grow out of it, and hopefully withour much damage done. Let the time pass, don't get into any arguments, give him some space and let him find his way, as long as he doesn't do anything that directly hurts you. However, don't start any baby project before he has his priorities and responsibilities straight again.
/r/RedPillWives19/01/19 06:19 PM
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There was a time when a lady would never allow herself to be photographed with a phone in her hand. In my youth the advise was that you should never hold a drink or a cigarette in a photograph. Now I will advise my daughters that they should never, ever allow themselves be photographed in anything less than swimwear. Never.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/19 09:28 PM
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The difference between a bluepill and a redpill marriage.
/r/RedPillWives23/12/18 02:52 PM
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What do you think it should be? I mean sincerely, as you obviously have thought about this.
/r/RedPillWives23/12/18 02:33 PM
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Well put. :)
/r/RedPillWives22/12/18 11:44 PM
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I think income has nothing to do with this, length of working days is what matters. When I've been a SAHM I've taken full responsibility of all of household chores. My husband as a principle does not lift a finger at home. He, however, takes care of children and spends time with them, and sure if he has time he helps me out with things, and if I'm away he keeps the house just as tidy as I do. I think most important is to have a clear division of labour, clear areas of responsibility that the oth…
/r/RedPillWives22/12/18 08:15 PM
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What if she can't find a spouse, or he leaves her? Will she still be happier with a "low powered career"?
/r/RedPillWives19/12/18 06:26 PM
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Brush you teeth every evening extremely well - not enough to just go through the moves, actually run your tongue on all surfaces and make sure they feel clean and smooth. Ask your pharmacist for tablets that you can chew after or before brushing that will turn all plaque red so you can find spots that you tend to miss. Morning brushing can be more careless and quick. (I've done this all my life and never had cavities although I'm in my fourties now. Last time my dentist told me to come back in f…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/18 01:45 AM
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I definitely have a problem with this. I find it extremely hard to cry no matter how hurt I feel during argument. I hide my pain and attack back. I'm shit scared that he will make fun of my tears, thinking that they are manipulation. And he has done this before. I definitely have some huge issues with letting myself be vulnerable. It's on my rp-self-development list...
/r/RedPillWives17/10/18 01:06 PM
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I just grabbed a copy of "The Simple Home" by Rhonda Hetzel at the local library. Her first book "Down to Earth" is probably also good. And she has a blog.
/r/RedPillWives02/10/18 12:02 AM
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Very possible according to my experience. It might be that earlier your daytime feedings were enough to prevent ovulation, but now when he is eating more food you don't produce that much milk any more. This really is different from woman to woman. My friend's periods returned within two months after birth although she was breastfeeding like crazy around the clock.
/r/RedPillWives28/09/18 10:58 PM
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Thanks :)
/r/RedPillWives28/09/18 02:46 AM
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I always started to ovulate again exactly when I stopped the night feeding. Actually, got twice pregnant right away after...
/r/RedPillWives28/09/18 01:35 AM
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I guess I am something like that. I hear from time to time "I can't believe you have four children". I don't think pregnancies changed my body that much. Belly is a bit softer. But the smaller one of my breasts still passes the pencil test (at least on a cold day...) after four years of breastfeeding during my thirties, so not that bad (I really needed to tell that to somebody, lol!) Much depends on genes, and how your pregnancies and first months with baby go, and it is extremely important to n…
/r/RedPillWives28/09/18 12:47 AM
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Absolutely! The book looks really interesting and useful, and I just ordered a copy for myself, too :)
/r/RedPillWives27/09/18 07:07 PM
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I also totally loved them when I was young. I must admit that now, as an adult, they do feel slightly too preachy to me at times, and after having read some more advanced fantasy like LOTR, the world of Narnia is a bit flat. But then again, I'm not the target audience any more :) (Important to remember when reading to children!) And by the way: don't forget old classical fairytales, either! There are some excellent collections in print. And always go for the oldest version - children love it whe…
/r/RedPillWives12/09/18 11:50 AM
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Great books! It's actually not so difficult to find good books for children, so many old ones are still in print. I'm reading Narnia to my children now, they are also great, and all have at least one heroine. Pippi Longstocking is lovely. I'd also recommend other Astrid Lingren's books. And don't forget Mary Poppins!
/r/RedPillWives12/09/18 10:49 AM
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I just read The Citadel by almost forgotten Scottish author A J Cronin. Entertaining, uplifting and very Red Pill. Strongly recommended!
/r/RedPillWives18/08/18 06:50 PM
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Lady and the Tramp. Used to hate that stereotypical bs. Now it's so cute... The development of RP Tramp into a responsible father... And the very feminine yet proud Lady...
/r/RedPillWives13/07/18 06:47 PM
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I married a colleague, so based on my own experience (and many other's, too), keep your eyes open in your job, too.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/18 08:28 AM
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That kind of speaking is very hurtful. Sarcasm is one of the most destructive ways of communicating (try google!). I understand you perfectly - I have struggled with that in my own relationship. First, you really have to make him understand when he hurts you. You can try talking about it, if you are certain you can do it without putting any blame on him. Good luck with that... Other strategies: Dog training. When he makes a sarcastic comment, immediately turn your eyes away from him, turn comple…
/r/RedPillWives03/07/18 08:07 PM
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Scandalous may not be really the right word, but embarrassing and stupid for sure.
/r/RedPillWives02/07/18 04:23 PM
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Inform her that the morning after pill only prevents ovulation from happening. Also be informed that it is therefore rather an ineffective form of birth control.
/r/askTRP01/07/18 09:52 PM
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Actually, there is many, many reasons why a man might not like giving oral sex. Quick googling will help you understand. Honestly, I sometimes wonder how self-evident the oral sex is for young women of today. A man can very well love women and adore a vagina, but really not feel comfortable eating it.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/18 12:26 PM
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Laura Doyle is a great writer to start with. She has very clear view and guidelines for how to not start dominating everything. Having the baby will be your first real test. You will be greatly tempted to impose your rules for all things related to baby care, especially with your professional background. You can of course use your knowledge and experience, and I'm sure your husband will expect you to, but here lies a great danger: he can really back off, become passive and leave it all to you! T…
/r/RedPillWives28/06/18 08:38 PM
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If you have short nails, make sure to keep polish well away from nail edges. You can make short nails appear much more narrow and elegant that way. In my opinion, darker polish looks best in short nails, in long nails it can be aggressive, and a strong color also helps to create this effect.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/18 05:42 PM
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This particular subreddit I find to go well with my Christian faith, but - and this should come as no surprise - RPM for men, absolutely not.
/r/RedPillWives25/06/18 12:06 PM
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I love your post. Could not agree more.
/r/RedPillWives24/06/18 08:03 PM
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Why surrogate mother? Can you not or do you not want to carry the child yourself? Why not?
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/18 10:01 PM
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Yes. Two master's and a well paying job.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/18 03:22 PM
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Married for nine years.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/18 10:08 AM
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Honestly? Give it a year. That's about how long it takes to get it all working again. But before that important steps are also when the baby starts eating solids (is that what you call it? Meaning not only milk) and thus having regular meal times, and when she starts sleeping through the night. That's when you start really getting into the daily rythm, and that will help you plan the days. But be merciful to yourself, and be patient. Four months might feel like a long time when you have your fir…
/r/RedPillWives16/06/18 10:07 AM
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We met for the first time around my 30th birthday, he was 25. We immediately connected strongly (it was a work seminar), but were both in relationships, so we didn't proceed anywhere, and actually for a while both avoided each other a bit, or at least I did, not to mess up anything. Plus that he was so young!!! About one year from that we were both free, so we finally went for it :) Initially, the sexual attraction to him was more just a trigger to break up. I realized what really was lacking fr…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/18 06:29 AM
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You have to be in love, and you have to be sexually attracted to the guy. Otherwise you will have hard time committing to the relationship. When I fell in love with my husband (at the age of 30), I was in a semi-serious relationship with a very kind, intelligent, well-off man from a good family. Everything else was perfect, but the sex was non-existing. He had a low sex drive, and I just didn't find him sexually attractive. So when this tall, dark man with broad shoulders walked into my life, I …
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/18 12:10 PM
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When I'm widowed I'll certainly be shopping there! Already looking forward to...
/r/RedPillWives13/06/18 03:17 PM
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I agree with this. But I wouldn't mind gaining a few kilos when I get older. At some point you have to choose between face and arse, and more often than not, go for the face. Dried up raisin-type is not particularly attractive. No need to look sexy at that point, but feminine yes. I can't look like a pricess any more then, but at least I can avoid looking like Cruella de Ville, or Madame Medusa. Think Flora, Fauna and Merryweather! I'm in my forties, and I notice that accepting my wrinkles has v…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 11:35 AM
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28-45. That said, keep your eyes open. When I was 31 I started dating a dark, tall and very talented 25-year-old. We'll have our tenth wedding anniversary next year. But I must say I kept pushing him away for quite a while at first, he felt so young.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 08:39 PM
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Yes, I swear so much in my head, or between my teeth! But I'm not doing push-ups for that, too much... :D But I'll try the elastic band, thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/18 07:03 PM
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We're in it together! I'm thinking of a way to punish myself for each swearword. Maybe some push-ups. Enough to be painful. Maybe twenty per word.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/18 06:42 PM
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This month, and the next, is all about moving to a different country and traveling around and visiting relatives in two countries while our home, or everything in it, sails across the Atlantic. So not a good time for anything involving control over diet, or regular excercise. But my goal is to stop swearing. In English as well as in my own language. And to stop shouting when upset or angry (good trick I've found that really works: whisper instead. Somehow it does the same thing, and can be much …
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/18 07:12 AM
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If I now was inviting a guy for home cooked dinner for the first time, I'd make sure to fry some meat and bake bread. Those two.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/18 06:31 PM
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Cousin marriage somehow weird in US? I'm Scandinavian, and in my country it's ok. Not common, but allowed. EDIT: Wikipedia has a nice chart. In US mostly illegal, in Europe legal.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/18 05:54 PM
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Ego boosting, testing market value, curiosity. As a woman who got married years before Tinder, I can relate. I've sometimes tought putting up profiles for both hb and me just for laughs, to test who gets more of whatstheycalled, likes? Upvotes? Honestly, I don't even know what Tinder looks like...
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/18 08:41 AM
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Don't worry about that yet. You just try to pee before sex and especially after (it is important if you have recurring UTI, helps to clean out bacteria). My personal opinion is that by the time you reach this point in your relationship, you should be comfortable enough to share these worries with your partner.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/18 10:00 AM
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I think the best method is to copy those who seem to have it. Find women whose composure you admire, and observe how they deal with these. Obviously you try to hold your farts in public, and not scratch yourself or pick your nose, either. Go to bathroom for that. But if you can't hold a burp or a hiccup or whatever, you quietly apologize and do not make it a big deal. Just maintain your composure whatever happens. (One more thing, although you do not specifically inquire about this, but as you s…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/18 09:41 AM
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You are in a very stressful situation in your life, and you need to keep your head clear. Is there anybody in your life that you could open up to and share this with? You should really try and find a confidante, somebody who understands your situation. From Reddit it's difficult to see what your options in reality are - most of us have never been in your position, having to live with your in-laws. Churchill's words: When you are going through hell, keep going.
/r/RedPillWives16/05/18 08:16 AM
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Your situation sounds really stressfull! Do you have friends who understand you and whom you can talk to? To clarify: when did your husband leave and where is he now? Does he have plans to come back?
/r/RedPillWives15/05/18 12:34 PM
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Hookahs and small sitting areas and champagne sound amazing! If I had had that in mind I might not have almost eloped...
/r/RedPillWives13/05/18 06:18 PM
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I felt (and still feel) horrible, absolutely horrible about the idea of being the center of attention and target of sentimental speeches (and paying thousands of euros for that misery!!!!), and luckily my partner had nothing against a very simple courthouse marriage and a lunch with family after. I'm still very happy for our choice!
/r/RedPillWives13/05/18 09:35 AM
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Oh, sorry, you asked about the paid leave. We have 11 months of paid leave (can be divided between parents, first months are mother only), depending on your contract you will receive 0-4 months with full pay at first, otherwise you get first 80% and then, if I remember right, at some point it goes down to 60%. Most women start their leave six weeks prior to due date, and children under the age of one year are seldom put to daycare. After the initial mother/parent leave there is some financial su…
/r/RedPillWives07/05/18 11:09 AM
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We have practically no home births. Also, distances to hospitals are usually much bigger. If I was in NL, I would definitely try to have a home birth! However, our hospital births can be quite soft and natural. If everything goes normally, the midwife(s) will handle the birth from start to finish. I never saw a doctor during my births (I didn't want any anesthetic) and I have been able to move freely during birth (birth pool is great if you manage to get one!). One of my babies was born on a bir…
/r/RedPillWives07/05/18 09:28 AM
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I used to do some unofficial statistical calculations from interviews of successful business persons in a professional magazine I once subscribed to. It seems that at least here many high level men have a lot of children (although maybe with several women, that's seldom listed), four or five is not uncommon. And most women on the same level have one or none, and seldom more than two.
/r/RedPillWives07/05/18 09:20 AM
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I just read that you are from the Netherlands! Great! It's a wonderful country for children. I'm a Finn, but through my husband I have some connections to the NL and we visit it quite regularly. Will you be giving birth at home?
/r/RedPillWives07/05/18 09:14 AM
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How likely is it that you will be able to find a job, especially now that you are pregnant? I think you have nothing to lose and everything to gain if you now choose to respect your husband's wish and look for a job. It is not at all impossible to manage a household of two adults while working full let alone part time. Of course it will take some adjusting and organizing, and you will have to be merciful to yourself as you will have to deal both with pregnancy hormones and possible nausea, and a…
/r/RedPillWives07/05/18 08:17 AM
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<3
/r/RedPillWives07/05/18 06:45 AM
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This discussion sure took a funny turn...
/r/RedPillWives05/05/18 02:39 PM
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I can't really suggest anything specific as to where you could cut corners -I'm not very good at it either. I went through similar worries when I had to return to work after years at home. My days were full as it was - how could I fit a job in between??? Somehow everything fell into place, although I don't really like how it is now - I feel like failing a bit on all fronts. But maybe you could think how to simplify life, at least temporarily, while you have a small baby? I didn't do any ironing …
/r/RedPillWives04/05/18 09:55 AM
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What do you find hardest in your current situation? Is it generally the organization of everyday life, do you fail to fulfill some standards you have set yourself? Or are you exhausted, do you find that you can't take the stress, is your mood down? Have you voiced your concerns to your husband? I do think that a good mother is not defined by what she gets done, rather by what she is wise enough to not do. If you have high standards for yourself regarding the cleanliness of the house or other act…
/r/RedPillWives04/05/18 07:26 AM
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They are all very different. One friend of mine has studied three Master's (maths, computer science, theology) while working almost all the time, and had five children, all in less than fifteen years. Yes, her husband is less career oriented and has taken long parental leaves. But they are an exeption. Or, well, she is exeptional. Why do you have doubts now? Did you feel the same when you were thinking of having the fourth? Or the second... that's 100% increase in number of children, the fifth i…
/r/RedPillWives03/05/18 05:17 PM
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I know several people with more than four children, and I would be ready to have one or two more. However, four was already a compromise for us, and I had my children rather late, so this will be our final number. I think the more children you have, the more important it is that you are both committed to the family. If my husband decided today that he wants a fifth baby, I'd totally go for it. And I'm twelve years older than you! So if I were you I wouldn't worry too much. Of course this is writ…
/r/RedPillWives03/05/18 11:53 AM
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I think your worries are totally normal. This is the end of your pregnancy, and your birth is coming close. I have been worried sick in the end of all my pregnancies, trading with God, "if this child is healthy I'll never wish for anything else..." But the stuff for the baby, that's nothing you need to worry about. Really. Babies need practically nothing to be happy, just their mother. Some clothes are handy to have, and nappies are a great invention, but other than that - all else is luxury. Of…
/r/RedPillWives03/05/18 08:07 AM
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Yes, you saw the weak point of this plan. My husband is also indeed quite hungry when he gets home, and often grabs something right out of the fridge. The other weak point is that his work is flexible and he's quite busy, so as soon as the dinner was moved to later evening, he also started to come home later than before... Anyway, we still love the late dinners, and now that I'm working, too, there's no way I could have dinner ready when he gets home. I think in your case half an hour would make…
/r/RedPillWives02/05/18 06:40 AM
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I have four kids, all born within 5 years. When they were small, I found it downright impossible to have proper dinner ready when my husband got home from work. I just couldn't joggle the baby, toddlers and cooking all at the same time. I found the perfect solution from the book Bringing up bebe. We are European (but not French) and before we had kids we used to eat late. Now we decided to move dinner close to children's bedtime. It turned out to be a real win win solution for everybody. When my…
/r/RedPillWives01/05/18 04:50 PM
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