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| 305 | Cold Approach | Outer Game | Isaac96969696 | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 07:57 PM |
| 1 | Do I need to learn seduction or will it come naturally with practice? | Removed: No Beginner Topics/Too Broad | Isaac96969696 | /r/seduction | 21/05/21 11:10 PM |
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| 1 | How much do you get rejected from cold approach?You can only get good at your end of the interaction. There will always be women who just arent receptive to you even if your Brad Pitt + Jason Mamoa rolled in one. Otherwise I would say approach as often as possible and watch people who have gotten good at it on youtube. Read as much as possible in this area and take what works for you and discard the rest. Experience is absolutely key as with everything else. If you want to get good at 5 on 5 basketball you have to play 5 on 5 basketball. No a… | /r/seduction | 12/06/21 02:01 AM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachI can compliment as many people as possible but some people I'm just not gonna compliment. Complimenting every single person in my line of view just seems tough. Its definetly doable though. | /r/seduction | 31/05/21 08:55 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachThanks for the great advice. It sounds challenging because literally no one I've ever met did this so in my mind I would look insane literally talking to every single person who crosses my path. But it does make sense as a social exercise. | /r/seduction | 31/05/21 07:31 PM |
| 1 | Cold approach never worksYou've obviously got to change something about your game. I don't know what cause I'm in the same situation as you lol. Maybe it's your looks? Maybe your approach? Maybe try reading books on picking up women and what works and what doesnt. | /r/seduction | 30/05/21 07:01 PM |
| 1 | Cold approach never worksYou've approached 10,000 girls and literally had 0 success? I find that impossible to belive. Did you learn anything? Did you try new things or did you just do the same routine on 10,000 girls. | /r/seduction | 30/05/21 06:56 PM |
| 2 | Cold approach never worksYou say you've been doing it for 4 years. How consistently? How many girls have you approached roughly in that time? | /r/seduction | 30/05/21 06:47 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachThanks I've had a suspicion that most of these books and advice were just knowledge that you pick up along the way. You cant read a book about a confident man and expect to be confident. | /r/seduction | 28/05/21 10:58 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachDo you think I need books and such or do you think just going out there opening as many girls as possible will improve my game ? | /r/seduction | 28/05/21 10:56 PM |
| 2 | Cold ApproachThanks bro. I've been getting alot of rejections and it's still nerve wracking as fuck but my game may possibly be improving. Its hard to say but I'm still gonna continue. All advice is welcome. | /r/seduction | 28/05/21 10:51 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachIdk you just seem like your projecting your regrets on to me. | /r/seduction | 28/05/21 09:42 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachNo it's not too late for you to go out and meet women. | /r/seduction | 28/05/21 09:37 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachAll I'm saying is that it's not too late. | /r/seduction | 28/05/21 09:35 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachWhy dont you go out there and try it yourself. How can you speak on something that you havent done. Or have you???? | /r/seduction | 28/05/21 09:30 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachSo why cant you come up with a response to the fact that women have met their significant others at a mall or grocery store? Why cant you respond to the fact that women themselves say that they dont mind it if a guy appraoches them in a mall or grocery store. It's not too late for you either, age doesnt matter. You just have to have the drive to do it that's all. It's small steps every day. | /r/seduction | 28/05/21 09:25 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachI literally dont know what to say to you. I know women who've met their husbands because they approached them in a supermarket. I know women who say "I dont mind if a guy appraoches me in public as long as hes respectful etc." I've approached women and they've given me their numbers. If you wanna live life according to some unwritten social rule that says "dont approach women unless you're in bar or club or online" be my guest. I'm gonna keep approaching because I dont deny my attraction. I'm re… | /r/seduction | 28/05/21 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachSince when is talking to someone harassing. Obviosuly hitting on a stranger is uncomfortable and women dont like it, no shit, hell I dont even like doing it. Its uncomfortable and nerve wracking for both of us. Even meeting new people in general sucks, forget about women. But on the flipside of that is just a guy who never meets anyone new and lives in his apartment doing nothing but watching youtube videos and playing video games. I'd rather option A. My point is that obviously women think its … | /r/seduction | 28/05/21 08:57 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachNo if my desires tell me to fuck someone then I think it's ok to approach that person with romantic interest not "just shove it in" that sounds dumb. You just sound like you're afraid of what women will think if you approach them. You know how many people met women through literally just approaching them randomly. I have literally no clue what you're saying. Women do 0 legwork when it comes to initial approach/interaction. You're telling me to narrow down my choices even more than they are right… | /r/seduction | 28/05/21 08:37 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachI'm just going to do what my desires tell me to do. It's not wrong or illegal and the word "creepy" has no meaning to me. It's only creepy if you have creepy intentions. At least I'll live a life where I did what I wanted or at least tried to, instead of stitting at home regretting not doing it. I dont care what women think I only care what I think. | /r/seduction | 28/05/21 08:20 PM |
| 2 | Cold ApproachSo you've never seen a guy in public and thought "I'd wish he would ask me out" Idk if you're a girl though. Either way I disagree. | /r/seduction | 28/05/21 08:08 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachIdk I think it has alot to do with inner confidence and what not. I feel like the less you want it or care to have it the more results you'll get. That's just my take. My advice would be to not stress yourself out, 10 approaches is alot and it could put alot of pressure on you. I started to be more relaxed with it because theres more to life than this. I'm still approaching but at the same time I'm taking it easy. | /r/seduction | 26/05/21 12:19 AM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachIdk I dont really care about women that much. Idk why I was bugging out. I'm just trying to chill these days. I'm still gonna approach cause it's funny to see women's reactions and it gives me an adrenaline rush. | /r/seduction | 26/05/21 12:06 AM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachYe bro. I'm trying to take it easy these days. Women are women its whatever. I'm still gonna approach though. | /r/seduction | 25/05/21 06:21 PM |
| 3 | Cold ApproachYe in aware that this style of finding women isnt the most ideal. Still I'd like to get better at it, or at least try. Tbh I'm not awful with women, I just don't have many friends who are willing to go out to clubs or bars to meet women. Idk | /r/seduction | 25/05/21 05:40 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachSo I started with the "hey I think you're cute can I get your number" then I moved onto the "hey I thought you were cute and I wanted to come over and introduce myself, you mind if we chat for a bit" I actually did an observational opener when i was in this comic store and saw a girl reading a comic, this was easy for me because I know comics and I could just jump straight into a conversation and get her talking, it did work well as we had a common ground but when I asked for the number she said… | /r/seduction | 24/05/21 05:14 PM |
| 2 | Cold ApproachThanks for the advice. I'm going to look at those links you sent. As of now I'm in school and were in lockdown so there arent really any social events to attend. I wouldnt say my social skills are "bad" necessarily. Only when I'm cold approaching I find it difficult because of approach anxiety and sparking interest etc. I dont want to stop cold approaching since I've been on this streak for a couple of weeks now. If I really dont see an improvement I'll try a different route. | /r/seduction | 24/05/21 03:56 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachI'm still not confident doing it. That's why I posted this lol. But the first time I just walked up to them and said "hey I thought you were really cute and I came over to ask for your number" they never said how do you know what I look like with a mask. | /r/seduction | 24/05/21 03:51 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachI think they meet through a mutual connection or at a party where it's more acceptable. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachI just gotta work on my conversation. Ill usually open them up and ask what they're up to and hopefully get something I can talk about from there. It's tough, it's not something where I can just read on reddit and implement because there are billions of ways a conversation can go lol. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 09:06 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachHahah I actually like that line alot. I can see how it adds effect. What I hate is that 99% of the stuff on here is just being dishonest and playing mind games to reach a goal. The reason I like the direct approach is because I can just go in and tell her how I feel and have a conversation. I dont really want to be manipulative in any way. What you offered isnt manipulative at all though. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 08:55 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachI'm not confident in my conversational skills with strangers. Getting them to talk and stay interested is tough. I'll check out that book. I've been trying out new approaches. It just seems that all women are different and what works on one may not work on a different one. I've approached a woman with an opener and she gave me her number. I approached a different girl with that opener and she wasnt interested. It's just a matter of being consistent and calibrating each time. Maybe it takes a yea… | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 08:34 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachI am trying but as I keep trying it seems to be getting more and more difficult. It's as if the practice is making me worse. I'm still going to try I just think each time I open a girl it's going to he different. Some girls will respond to direct some will respond to indirect and some will never respond. Today this girl flat out ignored me which is fine, I'm a stranger. But I dont see what goal I'm working towards? My confidence isnt increasing. Its decreasing. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 08:09 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachI'm down to keep learning and approaching as long as I'm improving. But I somehow have doubts if improving, its alot of effort and pain of rejection for relatively nothing. Theres no way to know if I'm really improving or wasting my time. That's my issue. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 07:30 PM |
| 2 | Cold ApproachSo who do you reccomend I learn from. A lot of times one person's approach might not feel genuine to who I am. It's not something I would say. I don't mind learning fundamentals but just reciting a line someone gives to me feel in genuine | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 06:57 PM |
| 0 | Cold ApproachLol I'm literally asking girls for a number and you're equating me to like some kind of monster. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 04:33 PM |
| 0 | Cold ApproachHere's the thing. I'm not an abuser. Did I mention that part? | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 04:33 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachWhy do you think you can speak for all women. Also evolution has nothing to do with this. You're telling me that all women are genetically programmed to be wary of men? I would say it's more of a learned behavior. Not evolution at all. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 04:29 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachI think you should ask yourself that question. How do you know they are uncomfortable. You're lumping all women into this group when in fact you can only speak for yourself. Maybe you would be uncomfortable. But I doubt you would because my approach isnt threatening at all. Its innocent. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 04:27 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachYou don't even know my approach so idk what you're saying. You're making assumptions based on previous experience or information you have on men without knowing anything about me. Ok I used the word persuade but you werent there to make a judgement call. This is why wars are started. Enjoy | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 04:24 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachI'm not making anyone uncomfortable. Alot of these women are willing to chat with me. I don't overstep my boundaries. Whatever think what you want. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachLmao ye I was like damn make out right in the mall is pretty crazy. But in bars imand clubs I have alot more success I agree. I tend to go more for a date if I'm just at the mall. Thanks for the advice though | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 04:13 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachWill do. I'm gonna go out today as well. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 04:12 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachI'm not arguing this. This is ridiculous. You're saying that approaching a woman I find attractive is creepy and wrong in all circumstances. Go bother someone else | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 04:09 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachI'm not being creepy. I'm literally going up to a girl and saying "hey thought you were cute and I wanted to say hello" if she says not interested I leave. How am I being reported for that? | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 04:08 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachYou think I could ask her to make out with her like that on the spot? And yes this is my exact approach right now as well. "Hey you're cute and I wanted to say hello, what are you up to" | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 04:06 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachWhat are you talking about. I know who I am I'm not some psycho or stalker. I'm literally just asking girls for a number. If it's a straight up No then I walk away. If she says "I'm too old for you" then a little persuasion doesnt hurt. I'll say something like "that's cool I like older girls". Maybe the post wasnt clear. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 04:04 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachI dont agree with this. Sometimes my friends are not down to do something and if I'm persistent I get them to come out and do it and they have an amazing time and thank me. What your saying is to just give up but that's cool too. Whatever floats your boat. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 04:02 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachHaha its alot easier with people over the internet when I have nothing to lose. I'm going to try this approach and see the reactions. It's just hard when most of these girls I approach are walking somewhere or are with friends etc. You have to get them at the right moment to use a situational opener. Like standing on line or something | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 04:00 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachYou seem to not understand that I'm a regular citizen with no bad intentions whatsoever. If they want to leave that's fine. Most of them do and I say nice meeting you have a great day and move on. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:59 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachYou have no idea how much I needed to hear this. I just want to implement my own approach, I'm not looking to memorize a bunch of lines. I'm hoping this will come naturally with time. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:57 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachYe that's a good idea. I'm gonna try that as well | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:56 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachI'm not persuading anything. I'm just being persistent. If she says no I leave lol. Why are you so upset? | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:55 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachSo you agree that as I do more approaches I'll become more smooth with it? | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:53 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachYe I've had the most success on Hinge as well. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:52 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachIf I'm being straightforward I'd be like "I thought you were cute can I get your number" otherwise how can I open a dialogue? any suggestions? | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:51 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachThanks bro. I'm hoping to improve as I practice more. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:43 PM |
| 2 | Cold ApproachYe it cant hurt to try. Its difficult to do that because I wojld have to find a woman and position myself next to her as if it were spontaneous. Most of these women are either walking or with friends. If I see a girl that's attractive whose walking it's hard to walk up to her and go make a comment about the surroundings. I get what you're saying though. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:41 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachI'm on dating apps and I could improve my origile as well. I just need better pictures. I just try to be genuine with women. I'm not trying to give them any memorized lines or anything. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:39 PM |
| 2 | Cold ApproachYe that's why I try to talk to them beforehand and see the chemistry. Then I'll ask to exchange numbers after if they're interested. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachBy doing this I'm trying to practice and see what works and what doesnt. I'm pretty good looking, my fashion could be better. What I really want to improve is my way with words. That's what I'm hoping to gain from all of this. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:36 PM |
| 2 | Cold ApproachWhat do you mean by special tool? | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:32 PM |
| 2 | Cold ApproachThanks for the advice bro I appreciate you | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:31 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachYe 100%. That's what I'm hoping to gain by doing these approaches and seeing women's reactions and adjusting to that. I look at it as a practice. I'm not neccesarily upset if I dont get numbers, I'm just looking to improve and see what i could do better etc. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:30 PM |
| 3 | Cold ApproachSo I should try to talk with them more first? Wouldnt getting a date with them help in getting to know them? I know many guys on here who get dates pretty much the same night without really getting to know them that much first. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:26 PM |
| 2 | Cold ApproachYou're definetly right. I need to get my priorities straight first. This is just something I do as a hobby and I'm hoping with more approaches I'll get better and better. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:23 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachOh that's interesting. I've never thought of doing that. I'll try it next time. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:14 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachWhat was your approach ? | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:13 PM |
| 2 | Cold ApproachPretty good advice. I've tried that approach as well. I've gotten a number but it doesnt really allow for talking because after you get her number the interaction is over. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:12 PM |
| 2 | Cold ApproachI like thos advice. I'm gonna keep going out and keep trying regardless. I dont really have any other options at this point. Would you say you progressively got better through trial and error and practice? | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:10 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachWell I'm assuming youd need to play beer pong with every woman who agreed with to play. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:09 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachYe I havent been at it long enough. Maybe 2 weeks or a bit more. I'm going to keep at it and adjust as i go along. Thanks for the advice though. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:07 PM |
| 2 | Cold ApproachI'll make an approach and say "hey" or "excuse me" to get their attention. Then I'll say "I say you from over there and I wanted to let you know I thought you we fr e cute" then shell answer, and I'll say "would you be down to chat for a few minutes?" Then if she says yes well chat. I'm not complaining about love really. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:06 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachYe I like thag idea. I'll implement that next time. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:04 PM |
| 2 | Cold ApproachDo I need to learn lines? Why cant I come up with my own stuff and see what works, that way it's coming from a place of genuineness. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachLol I wasnt following this girl shopping. I was just talking to her and she told me she was going into a store and I wanted to continue our conversation. But anyway that's a really good idea I can try out next time. Maybe ask her to walk with me or shop. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:03 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachOk thanks for this advice. I'll usually do a mental check on what I could have said differently. I don't think my opener is terrible though but any advice helps. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 03:01 PM |
| 2 | Cold ApproachWell I have to get their attention first. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 02:59 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachNo we ask women we find attractive. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 02:58 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachI'll usually walk up to them and say something like "hey excuse me, I know this is random but I thought you looked cute/cool/interesting. Let's chat for a minute" | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 02:58 PM |
| 0 | Cold ApproachI didnt say "can I come shopping with you" I was talking to her and she said she was going to this store so I implied I wanted to continue the conversation. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 05:03 AM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachHow long did it take you to get good at cold approach | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 05:02 AM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachHow does that come about ? Do I need experience or what? I just find that I'm at this level right now and I don't know where to go from there. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 04:59 AM |
| 2 | Cold ApproachThis is great advice. Alot of the times I feel more nervous than fun because I'm alone and i put alot of pressure to open as many strangers as possible. It can be really mentally draining but I'll take your advice. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 04:58 AM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachThanks for being encouraging lol. Alot of people seem to be telling me I'm a creep so this is nice to hear. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 04:56 AM |
| 4 | Cold ApproachThis is really good advice but I feel like it comes with experience. I'm not that witty to be coming up with lines like that on the spot and being touchy like that off the bat, especially if the mom is standing there. I hope to reach that level with experience, similiar to the first situation you presented with the girl and the perfume. Good advice though, I'd love to hear more. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 04:55 AM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachSo how do you meet men? Only through people you know? Anyone new person you meet can turn out to be crazy and violent. It doesnt stop me from trying to meet new people. I get what you're saying though. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 04:50 AM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachI'm extremely fit as a natural lifter. What do you mean by "busy" | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 04:48 AM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachI agree with most of this. I am looking at this as more of a practice than actually taking a girl out etc. I'm just hoping I get better with time. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 04:47 AM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachTrue but how does that help you find a partner. I'm not getting any younger and I only have one life. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 04:45 AM |
| 3 | Cold ApproachIant that what I'm trying to do now? | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 04:44 AM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachThanks bro. I totally agree with you by the way. I think it just takes time to calibrate yourself which is the bad part. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 04:44 AM |
| 2 | Cold ApproachThanks for the words of encouragement | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 04:42 AM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachWhat's wrong with letting her know I find her attractive? I see what you're getting at and I think both approaches could work, I'm still new to this so it's hard for me to implement things that quickly. I'm trying to improve my conversation skills first and foremost so maybe this could be a good way to do that. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 02:28 AM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachYou think approaching at the gym would be better? I see the same people there pretty much all the time | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 02:17 AM |
| 4 | Cold ApproachYou're creepy and you're projecting your idea of creepy onto me | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 02:17 AM |
| 6 | Cold ApproachLmao no ones stalking relax | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 02:15 AM |
| 2 | Cold ApproachI like this, it's very non assuming and friendly and it definetly shows your not a creep. The "hi would you like a new friend" can be a hit or miss depending on how it is said. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 02:14 AM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachI think that's ok. My original post wasnt about girls giving me their numbers. It was about me improving my game and cold approaching lol. If a girl doesnt give her number I just leave | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 02:14 AM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachNo one's being harassed lmao. I'm literally just paying a girl a compliment and having a conversation and then asking for their number. If they dont want to give it to me I leave. At no point is there anything threatening about what I'm doing. | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 02:12 AM |
| 2 | Cold ApproachWhat matters to me is if you've improved or not, did you suck at first and then slowly get better? | /r/seduction | 23/05/21 02:11 AM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachWhat if I just wanted to have a conversation lol. I know women arent looking to meet men at the mall but I think it could happen given the right circumstances. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 11:34 PM |
| 5 | Cold ApproachThis is good advice. I just have to trust the process and keep approaching and improve on my conversation. I hope the more I approach the better I'll get though. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 11:33 PM |
| 2 | Cold ApproachYe I agree with this it's just hard to catch a woman in that exact situation every time. If I'm in that scenario to do it I'll do it of course. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 11:31 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachLike what? What's a better method than the method that I want to learn. I want to be able to hit on a random girl I find attractive. You don't play tennis to get better at basketball. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 11:16 PM |
| 2 | Cold ApproachLol ye you're right the girl at SUBWAY isnt a shopper. Shes going to subway to get hit on. I disagree. I think women can be picked up anywhere. Some places are harder than others. I do agree with the social media aspect which I need to work on. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 11:13 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachYe it is insane mode difficulty. All the reason more to do it. So that when I do go to a place where women are more receptive I'll be better at it. Like playing a game on hard mode will make you better at easy mode also. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 11:11 PM |
| 0 | Cold ApproachLol says who? There are men who pick up women at the mall, it's not unheard of. I know women dont go to the mall to meet men but if a guy shoots his shot and shes down then why not? | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 11:09 PM |
| 0 | Cold ApproachI disagree. I dont get why the mall is insane. If they dont want to talk they dont have to. I'm not bothering people I'm just talking. If they dont want to then fine. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 11:08 PM |
| 5 | Cold ApproachWhat's wrong with asking to chat. I just said that to a girl today and she said it was cool. I got her number as well. I appreciate the rest of your advice though. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 11:06 PM |
| 0 | Cold ApproachI dont think they are looking for a guy but if a guy they find attractive approaches them correctly why not. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 11:02 PM |
| 3 | Cold ApproachI'm hoping that too. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 10:58 PM |
| 0 | Cold ApproachLol why is it a bad idea? And I'm trying to improve my skills with women. I'm not expecting them to fuck me that night. The mall is the place with most women who are attractive. I dont see the issue with striking up conversation with them. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 10:58 PM |
| 3 | Cold ApproachOk but what if my social skills suck and I want to improve them. Approaching that one cute girl at the gym wont help. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 10:57 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachThis is really good advice. I go in with the approach of just having a nice conversation and take it from there. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachThis is really good advice. I go in with the approach of just having a nice conversation and take it from there. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 10:52 PM |
| 8 | Cold ApproachThanks bro. It gets to you sometimes but you just gotta stay strong and keep improving. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 10:31 PM |
| 2 | Cold ApproachCold approach let's you show the woman who you are in real life. Dating apps are good too but it's kind of a cowardly way to meet a woman. Theres no approach it's all over the phone. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 10:30 PM |
| 3 | Cold ApproachIf that's the case then I'll definelty do it. But if I keep going to the same bars without buying anything they'd prob be upset. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 10:28 PM |
| 3 | Cold ApproachI never said its the best method. But let's say I see a woman I'm attracted to? Why would I not attempt to get to know her? I dont get people on these threads who are like "cold approach is dumb your autistic blah blah blah" All I'm doing is walking up to a woman I find attractive and talking to her. I dont see the issue. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 10:27 PM |
| 5 | Cold ApproachYou cant just sit at a bar though. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 10:25 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachI mean that is savage. Imagine meeting a woman at the mall taking her on a date and then being in a relationship. That's called me doing what I want and not being a pussy. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 10:25 PM |
| 4 | Cold ApproachI think I'm gonna do more cold approaches and then make that decision for myself. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 10:23 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachSo what do you say to the guys who do cold approach and are successful with it? | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 10:20 PM |
| 2 | Cold ApproachWhat do you say to the people that it has worked for. Are they lying? | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 10:19 PM |
| 3 | Cold ApproachTrue but that also means I have to pay to buy a drink or a cover fee to get in the club. Which isnt terrible but if I'm doing it every day then it builds up. Good advice though overall. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 10:18 PM |
| 0 | Cold ApproachI disagree. I just persuaded a girl to give me her number and she answered me. Will she go on a date? I dont know well see. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 10:16 PM |
| 3 | Cold ApproachYe when I started I initially went very direct like "hey I think your cute can I get your number" it also can work I agree, but i think chatting and having small talk first will give her a better reason to give her number out. Shell see that you're not a weirdo or crazy person and be more likely to give you her number. In the process you'll gain experience talking to women. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 10:15 PM |
| 2 | Cold ApproachSo you're saying that theres no place for cold approach and that if you find a woman attractive on the street you shouldn't let her know. And you should limit yourself to only social gatherings where there is a common ground | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 10:11 PM |
| 3 | Cold ApproachI agree with the fundamental of what you're saying. Yes if I'm attracted to a woman I should he honest and tell her I'd like to have sex with her. Problem is I dont have the guts and I'm afraid shell call security or something. So I just tell her I think shes attractive | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:57 PM |
| 3 | Cold ApproachYe that's happened to me plenty of times where I just get ignored. I think it's fine though you just keep improving keep trying and keep being your best self. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:54 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachShould I just pretend to be someone I'm not essentially. Direct approach allows more freedom in conversation. If I follow a guideline I feel like ik reading a script "ok I made an assumption about her now what do I do next , ok now it's time to escalate now what do i do". I get what you're saying though although when it comes genuine its alot easier. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:53 PM |
| 4 | Cold ApproachLike how in a bar or club or dating app? I'm looking to meet women romantically. Every first meeting is essentially a cold approach. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:49 PM |
| 2 | Cold ApproachI'll look into this. I like the plan idea but I feel like it takes the fun out of it if you just go in and have a plan in your head "if she says this I'll say this, if she does this then I say this" what I do is I'll open her and start a conversation , if the opportunity to be flirtatious presents itself, I'll take it. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:48 PM |
| 10 | Cold ApproachI agree but I dont think that work anywhere else but a club. At the club I'm much more relaxed. I wouldnt necessarily ask to fuck though, that takes some guts. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:46 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachIf that's the case then I'm on the right track. I'm definetly into taking advice and applying it I'm just iffy when some dude says try this "insert the most embarrassing thing you can say to a woman" | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:45 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachIts hard to control the whole interaction like that but I guess as I improve I'll be able to be more in control | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:43 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachSame bro. I've had worse where the girl literally just walks right past me without looking. But I've also had some successful ones. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:41 PM |
| 6 | Cold ApproachLol too many haters on this sub | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:28 PM |
| 7 | Cold ApproachTell me whata wrong with me finding a woman attractive in public and wanting to meet her. Please tell me because I see nothing wrong with it. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:28 PM |
| 3 | Cold ApproachDediently will bro. Thanks for the support | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:27 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachI can try that to lol. Theres an infinite amount of chances. Thanks for being supportive though. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:26 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachSo go indirect. Compliment her on something, start a conversation and keep it going. Try to be flirty and get the number. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:26 PM |
| 3 | Cold ApproachThanks bro. Its discouraging when people on here are calling me creepy or whatever but fuck the haters I guess. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:25 PM |
| 4 | Cold ApproachThat's still impressive that you even approach a woman. Most men dont even do that much so that says alot about you. At the end of the day were all going to the same place so why should it matter if I let a girl know I'm interested in her sexually. Would you rather die having not tried? Not you personally lol | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:24 PM |
| 3 | Cold ApproachThat's what I'm saying, I'm trying to improve my game through practice. I dont necessarily want to memorize a bunch of lines, I want it to come naturally. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachExcuse me, this might sound random but I thought you were really cute, would you be down to chat for a bit. It's not like that exactly every time but its along those lines. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:21 PM |
| 0 | Cold ApproachYou're right but releasing semen is necessary. Whether through masturbation or wet dreams or urine. So the fact that men have that drive means it shouldn't be that crazy to approach a woman and let her know you like her. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:20 PM |
| 5 | Cold ApproachBecause they probably arent interested in a stranger. But I think if my game is tight enough that no can turn into a yes. I've gotten numbers from strangers before. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:20 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachLol I'm not following anyone around in the mall I'm literallt approaching women to see if they'd want to potentially meet up somewhere to get a drink or coffee or whatever. It's only creepy if you have creepy intentions, which I dont. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:18 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachTrue I'm just afraid the guy on YouTube is gonna say "this is exactly what you have to do, copy exactly what I'm doing" I feel like I'm not being my genuine self. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:17 PM |
| 2 | Cold ApproachYes I am dressed properly. Not dressed to the nines but I would say I look good. I just get discouraged when they straight up dont respond and keep walking. That's a tough rejection | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:16 PM |
| 5 | Cold ApproachYou're just denying nature. If you have to eat food because you're hungry do you say "well we ain't animals so I dont have to eat this food" | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:15 PM |
| 6 | Cold ApproachYe I'll try to compliment something on my next few approaches and see how that works for me. I'll just take it from there. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:14 PM |
| 0 | Cold ApproachIt's only creepy until it's not and you're getting laid | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:13 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachThis is great advice. Its hard not to get down on yourself when you dont know if you're improving or not. But I'm just gonna keep pushing until I see I'm improving or I see cold approach doesnt work. Either way I'm gonna keep trying | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:12 PM |
| 4 | Cold ApproachI think in time I will improve to the point where I'm getting laid consistently. It just takes hundreds of trial and errors. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:11 PM |
| -6 | Cold ApproachI'm assuming you're a woman. If a man never approached you or "stalked" as you call it, youd never find a mate because women do no legwork when it comes to finding a partner. Well they just have to look good and go outside. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:10 PM |
| 2 | Cold ApproachThat's great advice. It's not my style to he indirect though even though I know it works for some people. If I'm a man and shes a woman why shouldn't I let her know I like her uk. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:09 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachExactly bro this is what I tell myself also. I just get discouraged when people are like "you absolutely need to learn from a coach or you absolutely need to learn the rules from someone else" like I dont have the money to go pay a coach rn to teach me how to game girls. Plus what works for one person doesnt work for another. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:08 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachLike how could I coach myself. Do people need coaches? Is this some ancient knowledge that's been passed down from generation to generation? Genuinely asking. I'm under the impression that I can go out and critique myself and improve in that way. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:06 PM |
| 7 | Cold ApproachSomething like, compliment her on something and start a convo off that ? | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:05 PM |
| 6 | Cold ApproachBro that's amazing. Getting girls to go somewhere with you is already really cool. I defiently think I would have more success at bars and clubs because theres more of a reason to approach and it's less spontaneous than say a mall where people are just going to shop. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:04 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachI'm going to experiment with different approaches. I just dont want to come off as if I'm not genuine like "oh I like your bag where did you get it?" "Oh I hear that store has nice stuff do you shop there often?" " I like to shop at Macy's they have nice shirts" it's just an example but it feels very tacky in my opinion. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:02 PM |
| 2 | Cold ApproachThis is encouraging. I guess it just takes time and incremental improvements that cant be seen in the short term. That's what I'm banking on at least. Lmao at wedding crashers montage. That shit gave me false expectations. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 09:00 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachI'm seeing what works for me My first opener was to tell her shes cute and ask for her number. My opener now is "hey I thought you were cute, would you be down to chat for a bit" or some variation of that. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 08:59 PM |
| 12 | Cold ApproachYes I used to do this in my first week, and I did get one girls number which was also a real number. But she ended up flaking. It's not a terrible approach but I feel like why would a woman give her number to a guy she just met without even talking to him for a minute before | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 08:57 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachYes if course, theres no loss in checking it out. At this point I have nothing to lose. I'm 25 and while I have been with some women in my life I still have alot of room for improvement. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 08:56 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachI'll definelty check it out. I want to develop my own game and be myself with it. I dont want to have to memorize some pua stuff and constantly refer back to it. I dont mind the principles and fundamentals, which can be very helpful. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 08:49 PM |
| 12 | Cold ApproachThis means alot. Funnily enough I dont have as much of an issue with the approach than I do with everything else after the approach. I literally walk up to a girl and just say why I'm talking to her, because "I thought she was cute and I wanted to chat and get to know her" | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 08:48 PM |
| 3 | Cold ApproachI'm always trying to improve on my looks. I dont really know what other approaches I can take other than a straightforward one. I can say something about the surroundings but eventually I'll have to make my intentions clear, that I'm sexually interested. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 08:47 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachMy looks are ok. I doubt that has anything to do with it. I'm more concerned with improving my game with women in general, and I feel like the best way to do that is to go out and speak to women | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 08:45 PM |
| 21 | Cold ApproachLol there are thousands of stories of men doing this and it working and then they end up sleeping with the woman. I dont get why you think this is insane. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 08:43 PM |
| 8 | Cold ApproachI'll keep you guys up to date on this post. I do a mental check after every approach to see what went well what didnt. What I think people have to understand is that no matter how well you open, some women will take one look at you and swipe left. Either way I'm still going to go hard and continue to see where it gets me. It's kind of like an experiment I'm doing to see if this truly works . | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 08:43 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachIf they wanted to he 6 feet apart why would the mall be this packed | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 08:41 PM |
| 4 | Cold ApproachI think I look good. I'm more ripped than the average male. I have a nice face (except for the mask). I cant really control exactly how a cold approach will go. The only thing that's in my control is what I will do or say in that moment. And yes I have friends and I've been with women sexually in the past, I still feel like that area of my life needs improvement however. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 08:40 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachTrue. It's just a leap of faith on my part that I'll get better. Sort of like "trusting the process" | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 08:38 PM |
| 5 | Cold ApproachI agree but every single person at the mall is wearing a mask so it shouldn't be that insane. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 08:37 PM |
| -4 | Cold ApproachLol why wouldnt you do that? You see a woman who's attractive, you feel attractive chemicals inside you. You want to deny nature? I dont get it. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 08:36 PM |
| 7 | Cold ApproachThat's what I'm saying. I think I'll just intuitively make progress the more approaches I do. But that's also a leap of faith on my part. Theres no guarantee that I'll be better after 1000 approaches. But I'm still going to try either way. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 08:36 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachThat's true, I havent had any problems so far and it's been a couple of weeks | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 08:34 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachI think I can do that in a day but I dont think I can just randomly approach every single woman that crosses my sight. I think I can do 40 in a full day though. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 08:33 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachYes I'm required to at the mall at least | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 08:32 PM |
| 1 | Cold Approach40 in a day? | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 08:31 PM |
| 1 | Cold ApproachI dont think I'll get into trouble at the mall. I'm just approaching people politely and asking polite questions. Not really breaking any rules. And yes I've been out with friends at clubs and bars and it's easier there but night game is a once or twice a week type thing. I want more experience. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 08:30 PM |
| 7 | Cold ApproachI'm in New York and everyone in the mall is wearing a mask. Although I do agree that the mask hurts your chances. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 08:27 PM |
| 4 | Cold ApproachI'll either walk up next to the girl or walk directly toward her and say "excuse me" to get her attention. Then I'll go "this might sound random but I thought you were really cute, do you mind if we chat for a bit?" | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 08:22 PM |
| 16 | Cold ApproachThe thing is I'm not even looking for a hit necessarily. I'm looking to improve my approaches and improve talking to women, which I think will translate to a hit down the road. It's just hard to have faith that what I'm doing will translate to any improvement | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 08:20 PM |
| 82 | Cold ApproachMy last open that worked went exactly like this. Saw a girl walking slowly by herself. Positioned myself right next to her Said "Hey can I ask you a question real quick?" She says "ye" I say "I thought you were really cute do you mind if we chat for a bit?" She says "sure" We chat for a minute about what shes doing at the mall She says shes going to do some shopping, I ask if I could come without being to pushy She says shell give me her number I take her number and text her The number is legit.… | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 08:15 PM |
| 18 | Cold ApproachThanks brother this comment gave me the motivation to keep going. Literally right after I typed this I opened a girl and she gave me her number after some persuasion. Fucking Uncanny but I'll take it. | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 08:03 PM |
| 1 | Do I need to learn seduction or will it come naturally with practice?What does perfect practice mean. Isnt that slightly oxymoronic. And when you say learn the ropes, where can I do that? | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 12:41 AM |
| 1 | Do I need to learn seduction or will it come naturally with practice?What I mean is if I approached 20 women and sucked at it, would I progressively be getting better the more I approached even if i never read anything having to do with pick up. Meaning is it intuitive or do i need to read a manual to get good. | /r/seduction | 21/05/21 11:23 PM |
| 1 | How much do you get rejected from cold approach?It's not about whether it works or not. Its bout getting experince and building confidence in yourself. So when a situation does arise where you have a shot, you'll know what to do. | /r/seduction | 03/05/21 02:17 PM |
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