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Well, sounds like the OP has had a very different experience.
/r/seduction02/08/21 01:28 AM
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I mean, this whole sub treats sex as the prize as far as I can tell. So, it's all a predator/prey dynamic. You evolve one strategy to get what you want as easy as possible, the other person has to evolve a counter strategy to keep their self-respect and not feel used. It's been that way since swapping genes became a thing.
/r/seduction01/08/21 02:38 PM
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Problem is, some men will stick it out a couple dates just to have sex too. If someone really finds they are being used, they should wait as long as it takes until they know the person is serious. A woman I know says she waits until she meets his friends and coworkers. Seems reasonable, because you gotta be real scummy to string someone along through all that just to get laid. And, yeah, if someone isn't willing to wait, that's their choice. Everyone should just part ways.
/r/seduction01/08/21 02:21 PM
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This guy kinda nailed it. Most men will have sex with most women just because. By saying "I'm not looking for anything serious," they are literally telling you they don't really want you, but are happy to have sex with you as long as you aren't a problem. The best way to deal with this is literally don't have sex with a man unless you have established a committed relationship. As soon as a guy says he isn't looking for anything serious, just walk away from that situation. It's not your job to tr…
/r/seduction01/08/21 02:43 AM
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Well, there's a possibility she didn't know. But, two wrongs don't make a right even if she did. Being petty and knowingly spreading an STI because you hold a grudge against one person is despicable.
/r/seduction11/10/20 03:36 PM
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Also, you should be informing any sexual partners you are with from now on that you have genital herpes. They have a right to know and decline to have sex with you, especially because condoms are not as effective as they are for the other STIs.
/r/seduction11/10/20 04:13 AM
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Ma'am, you literally said "I call bullshit" and gave no indication you could foresee any scenario where a woman continues a date with a man she is uncomfortable with. And, no, not everyone knows women feel unsafe in many different situations. Also, how could I possibly know you grew up on the streets and considered this? Not everyone has had the same experiences. I figure perhaps you were one of the lucky women who has never encountered this scenario. This is why people are here, to discuss the …
/r/seduction08/10/20 01:02 AM
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I gathered that you were also a woman, yes. I was just saying, you couldn't understand why a woman would do that when you said you'd have no problem walking away when you wanted to. So, I thought I'd provide an alternative, logical theory for people here to consider.
/r/seduction08/10/20 12:40 AM
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Just an FYI, this is something a lot of women are taught. You don't know how a man will react when you reject him, especially when you have lost the safety of being in public. She deescalated by suggesting continuing the date in public, where she felt safer ending it.
/r/seduction08/10/20 12:30 AM
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You spend a lot of time thinking about how YOU feel about interactions with women, and that's the only accusation I'm making. I speak from personal experience where men have followed me after hitting on me and made me feel unsafe. Having it happen once is enough to put a woman on guard when guys like you ask if you can come shopping with me after I've already indicated I'm not interested. You need to understand that what you consider "confidence" is going to be considered creepy to 20 others. Yo…
/r/seduction18/08/20 06:20 PM
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She probably wanted to make sure you didn't flow her. Dudes will follow you and harass you. Maybe she was lying about going shopping and was really headed home, but just wanted to stay where she felt safe until you walked out of sight. I've certainly done that. It's not someone's obligation to have to get up and leave where they are because someone is making them uncomfortable. It's your job not to harass people when they tell you no.
/r/seduction18/08/20 04:38 PM
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Exactly, it comes down to how much you trust the intent is really for you and not just for anyone. Anytime some guy starts of a conversation with me by directly complementing my looks, I just assume he does that 40 times a day with any woman he can find hoping to find some one willing to have sex with him. I can't take that guy seriously at all, I don't care how smooth or good-looking he thinks he is. So, I usually mutter a half-hearted thanks and remove myself from the situation as safely as po…
/r/seduction18/08/20 04:32 PM
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Bruh, one is definitely worse than the other. Full stop.
/r/seduction25/07/20 11:53 AM
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In one of those scenarios, you get to live long enough to show everyone on the internet that you value your ego over a human life.
/r/seduction25/07/20 12:04 AM
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Yeah, you know why? Because if she is worried you are the type of guy who is going to follow her back to her car, she can walk RIGHT back into the Starbucks and plan a better escape. I had a guy cold approach me in a parking lot of my work when I worked late one night, and it was terrifying. There is safety in numbers. "Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them." -Margaret Atwood
/r/seduction24/07/20 09:34 PM
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Meet for dinner in public, somewhere you can sit down and talk. Do not, for any reason, suggest going back to her place or your place on the first date. I don't care how well the date is going, don't do it. It's an immediate red flag.
/r/askFDS03/07/20 09:11 PM
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Definitely never approach a woman on an empty street. Indeed, we feel safer with other people around. We are also usually going somewhere, and not looking to stop and chat. Also, never bother anyone with headphones in. It's the universal signal for "do not talk to me." Never hit on a woman when she is at work. She is trapped and forced to be nice to you. Finally, even at a bar or restaurant or anywhere else, if the woman at any time in the conversation says any version of "No thanks, not interes…
/r/askFDS03/07/20 09:08 PM
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As a women of 5'10,' I'd say the same proportion of women who insist a man be 6'0' and over is probably equal to the number of men who want a woman to be under 5'7.' And, yes, I've had men indicate I'm "too tall" for them. People have preferences, nothing much you can do about it but be the best version of yourself you can be. I've dated men of all heights, and I actually like being about the same height. You can hold hands when walking with ease, and no one gets neck strain kissing anyone.
/r/askFDS03/07/20 09:00 PM
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My reasoning was different, yes. But, being scared and choosing not to do any elective medical procedure is also up to someone's discretion. That's their right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 11:22 PM
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I'm not missing the point. Birth control is absolutely something that people should both consider. You can, and probably should, end a relationship with someone who isn't doing what they sincerely can to help. I agree that if a married couple want a better, permanent form of BC, and the man is happy to have the vasectomy, that's ideal. But, in the end, you can't tell someone what to do with their own body. Hopefully, FDS helps women find good men who will offer to do it instead of having to even…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 09:16 PM
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sigh I'm going to have to say I disagree, and for a few reasons because I have actually been in this situation before. I wanted a tubal ligation. I did not want to have natural children for many reasons, including a health reason that unfortunately not all doctors take as seriously as I do. I had to go to a few doctors before I could find one willing to do it. All the other doctors said basically the same thing, "well, why doesn't he just get a vasectomy, it's easier?" Me, "why are you pushing t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 02:59 PM
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No offense OP, but this is a good reason why you should never go to someone's house on a first date/ first meeting. He could have gotten aggressive towards you, and now you are away from the relative safety of being in public and also in his territory. Honestly, guys will make up a lot of excuses to get you to their place. Not saying his dog wasn't sick, just saying that in general. Even if a date is going well, and he needs to "swing by home" or whatever, don't go. Say you'll wait where you are…
/r/seduction27/05/20 06:41 PM
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Alternative theory. I hear from a lot of guys about how "one day I want a wife and family." Not, "I want to find love and happiness." And, they all coincidentally seem to find this wife somewhere between the ages of 30 and 37. It made me start to wonder if the woman herself even mattered. Like, a guy knows he wants to finally get himself the status symbol of a family, so he marries the first agreeable woman to come along during this time frame. So, some guy dates tons of girls "casually" for ove…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 02:23 PM
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Indeed. On board with the feels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 01:47 AM
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https://giphy.com/gifs/castle-nathan-fillion-favourite-Ow59c0pwTPruU
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 09:20 PM
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I would say if you have good evidence, (screen shots of texts, etc.) Do it. I had a similar situation where a particular awful ex of mine was cheating left and right on his GF, and everyone in the social circle knew about it, but no one would tell her. I didn't want to know, but you know how it is, everyone always wants to tell you about your ex, even if you don't ask. I thought about telling her and showing her my screen shots about what people were telling me, but I could see me coming off as …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 04:56 PM
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I taught a genetics class that was required for pre-med majors, and it was only ever the men asking "why do I need to know this? This isn't that important for the field I'm going into." It was utterly frightening to me how many of my doctors might have had that attitude. As though being well-rounded in science as a whole is bad, but worse, not understanding how important GENETICS is in medicine. Indeed, I always got a feeling of some people liking the "prestige" more than focusing on what the ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 04:41 PM
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I know. It's so cringe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 03:13 PM
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I could see this confusing a lot of women. There was a time when it was polite and expected that a man would pick you up from a date. I could see guys using that as an excuse for why it should be fine. "Oh, men used to pick women up all the time. With this virus, that's how it will become again, so we can keep you safe, blah, blah." No. It was dumb then, it's dumb now. Don't do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 03:12 PM
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Keep that mentality up. They pointed out the crux of their strategy relies on their assumption that women are going stir crazy for dick (lol), and will do things they wouldn't normally do. The strategy includes face timing to show how clean your house is and to say you haven't been near any people, and of course have another activity ready that can be done at your place to get them to come over because they will be so starved for company. They are basically preying on desperate loneliness to get…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 08:08 PM
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Oh, I didn't know that, lol. I was just summarizing a section on "getting take out and eating it in your car, then try to get her back to your place for an activity." Wink wink Sex, of course, the goal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 07:36 PM
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Mates look for different things, you know. You have to keep in mind, sincerely, that men pick women too. You are not out literally trying to have sex with any woman you see. Women also have to put in some kind of effort to attract a man. Think of how variable personalities and sociability levels are in women. The reality is, sexual selection in humans isn't an easy game of rock, paper, scissors or even rock, paper, lizard, scissors, Spock. It's 4D Magic the Gathering. There is no one way to be t…
/r/seduction17/04/20 12:17 AM
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True.
/r/seduction17/04/20 12:01 AM
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1) Can't speak to it exactly. First, don't listen to people spouting about caveman crap. As a species we have an approximate 50/50 ratio of men to women and are a quasi-social species that practices serial monogamy. In other words, men and women have to impress each other, and people get nervous when being judged. It's pretty simple. 2) Humans practice "social Darwinism" now more than survival Darwinism. Little kids have yet to develop "shame" basically. Shame keeps you from doing stuff that peo…
/r/seduction16/04/20 10:04 PM
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Condoms won't protect you from HPV.
/r/seduction16/04/20 09:38 PM
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Well, in truth, I'm sorry your doctor didn't make it very clear. In all honesty, I'd get another doctor. Also, sorry about poor reproductive health classes. HPV lives in skin cells, not genital fluids, which is why condoms won't protect you even if it covers a wart. The whole area is active with virus, not just the wart. And, while the virus is MOST active and likely to spread with an active outbreak, it can still be passed on without one, or most likely before one. If people only had to not hav…
/r/seduction16/04/20 08:27 PM
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"This is the last possible issue that I could have imagined myself dealing with at this point in my life." First of all, I'm not sure why you are saying that considering what you claim as your sexual history. Did you think you were immune to STIs? Secondly, no, not everyone has a form of herpes or genital warts. And, yes, it can spread even without a condom. Lastly, sit and think about what you are going through right now. How it feels. The cost to see a doctor. The effect on your social life. D…
/r/seduction16/04/20 02:39 PM
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Hey, we shouldn't advocate for anyone to destroy other people's things. We don't want that kind of abuse, we shouldn't wish it on others. People just need to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 03:57 AM
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Well, if I take into account my other females friends experiences too: about 95% absolutely do not want to be approached at either their work or on a street walking somewhere, ever. It's immediately off-putting. If you see a woman in headphones, leave her alone. That's how every woman feels. She doesn't want to talk to anyone. Most women recognize all that neg crap very easily, and all the lame excuses guys use to try to get them to go to their apartments for the first meeting or during a first …
/r/seduction13/04/20 12:56 PM
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I did read the article, yes. I believe men being the gender that take more risks is probably more the culprit. My issue was also more directed at the association of the X chromosome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 09:26 PM
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Oh, God. I have no respect for any scientist who uses the word "proven" even in a media publication. That's a no-no in science. From what I can tell about him (the author), he is absolutely no expert in epigenetics. And, there is no data to suggest X chromosome inactivation is linked to any cell types. Additionally, we don't have a SPARE X in case one breaks. You have 1 X used by a cell, and the other is inactive. Take a look at a calico or tortoise shell cat. The colors indicate which Xs are ac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 01:56 PM
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I'm not sure exactly what article it is. I googled X chromosomes and NYtimes, but there have been a few. I'm guessing the advantage it cliams 2 X chromosomes can have is that we are less likely to have sex linked disorders?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 01:37 PM
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Well, it's now mostly junk DNA for sure, whatever is left of it. Still regulates the timing of testosterone production during fetal development and puberty. Haven't looked much at that literature since early grad school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 12:40 PM
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Not every high value male is going to be the one. Besides them being a good person, you also have to be attracted to them. It's one thing to lose interest in sex for a bit, but it's another to know you dread it with someone. Like you said, over time, you realized you don't seem to have the same intellectual interests, which probably means you are running out of things to talk about. Your high value man should interest you. I had a guy like this once, and I chose to end it. As someone who was hel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 08:57 PM
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I'll take someone who has true conviction over their beliefs above a liar and hypocrite. I'm not impressed by people who feel shame for continuing to do bad things. That's as useless as an apology while continuing to do something that hurts someone. You practice what you preach, or get off the pulpit. That's my feels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 08:44 PM
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To be fair, that's just a ridiculous interpretation of the science of X chromosomes. I'm a geneticist. Our extra X chromosome isn't even used, and only small snippets occasionally get transcribed off the barr bodies. There is evidence to suggest we differentiate between a few more wavelengths of color better than men because color vision is carried on the Xs, but any genes that used to exist on the X that truly required 2 copies to make enough of a necessary gene product were lost during the evo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 08:30 PM
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I've honestly never known religious men to be any different in terms of watching porn and doing everything else atheist men do; I just can't stand the hypocrisy of the Christian men doing it but continuing to do things their religion says is wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 07:53 PM
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That is indeed correct. That was my first and last Christian.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 04:18 AM
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He was 28, I was 30.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 04:15 AM
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My parents were atheists that came from different religions, so we didn't really have any religion growing up. The first and only time I ever dated someone who was the kind of Christian who actually goes to chuch, it was pretty damn insane. He literally lived in a house on the same street as his parents, which sort of freaked me out. We'd been together a few months, and when he would spend the night, he'd always get up and leave at like 6:00 am. He always had somewhere to be. Finally, I told him…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 04:10 AM
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Maybe, but that's secondary to actually telling her. I imagine most people not wanting a relationship aren't going to spend a lot of time with a casual hook up. But, regardless, you should say it out loud so there is never any confusion.
/r/seduction10/04/20 03:12 PM
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I wouldn't call that obvious. People's relationship experiences are different, and not everyone is going to recognize some vague amount of communication and sex as clearly something casual. He should tell her before sex if he is not looking for a relationship so that the woman has the choice to continue with someone who isn't interested in the long term. Anything less is unethical.
/r/seduction10/04/20 01:01 PM
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Well, you could be an adult and tell her immediately you aren't looking for a relationship (you don't even have to say anything about sex) and accept/respect the fact that she may not want to continue seeing you. Then, you are freed up to keep looking for a girl who also just wants something casual as well. Any other tactic of "getting close, but not too close" is just a vague manipulation used to make people feel better when the other person gets hurt. "Well, I mean, I only text her once a day …
/r/seduction10/04/20 12:58 PM
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You are talking about a substance that impairs someone's judgement and ability to make rational decisions. Regardless of how you feel about it, the law thinks it's a pretty bad idea. And, admitting you need someone to be dumbed down to have sex with you is really just sad and creepy.
/r/seduction08/04/20 04:53 PM
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"If this girl I know took a date rape drug wants to have sex and I also take the date rape drug too, that means it's not rape anymore!" That's what you sound like. Specifically targeting "drunk" women because you know they are easier to manipulate is unethical, predatory, and yes, probably going to result in a rape charge. If you can't get a woman to have sex with you sober, that says everything about you as a person.
/r/seduction08/04/20 04:42 PM
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Different hobbies impress different people. I'm very into crafts and woodworking, so anyone who can help with/complement those skills I have always been very attracted to. My husband's grandfather was an electrician, and taught him a lot. I don't mess with electric or plumbing, so watching him wire an antique candle chandelier for lightbulbs was one of the sexiest things I had ever seen. That said, I also have a lot of respect for musicians and artists of all kinds. Gardening is a solid skill an…
/r/askFDS04/04/20 02:58 PM
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Intelligence and formal education are not the same thing. There are a lot of different ways to be intelligent. I have a PhD, whereas my husband has a B.S. degree. I don't necessarily think that makes me "smarter" than him, except perhaps in my own field. His career goals simply didn't require continuing his academic education. I like to think I have always dated intelligent men regardless of their educational status. If I waited around to only date men with PhDs, that would have drastically lowe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 12:11 PM
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Well, you may not call trying to convince a girl that her concerns over going home with you are not valid "arguing," but I do. When a woman says no, that should be the end of the conversation. Because of this, like I said, it's gotten to the point for some women that a man even asking or implying it could happen is an automatic red flag that immediately turns them off from that person.
/r/seduction03/04/20 11:16 AM
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I'm sorry, but I was having trouble following what you were trying to say. But, first and foremost, it's unsafe for anyone to go home with anyone on the first date. Second, the point I was trying to make is that even if some guys genuinely want to get to know a girl and they just happen to hook up on the first date and they become the loves of each other's lives, that scenario is the exception to the rule. If I saw equine tracks in the dirt, I'd be on the look out for horses, not zebras. People …
/r/seduction03/04/20 10:46 AM
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Indeed. It's so we'll understood at this point that men will try to get first dates back to their places with all these variations of behaviors, that a lot of women are immediately shooting men down permanently for even suggesting leaving the safety of public spaces. It's understood that this is a behavior they do over and over again, and you are made to realize real quick that you aren't special, you are just the next mark.
/r/seduction01/04/20 07:09 PM
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I think some of the issue is in how some ladies word things. We gotta stop calling it "free meal." It's not free. Assuming a woman doesn't show up to the date in pajamas after you pay for her Uber to get there, she is doing SOMETHING for that date. Clothes, make-up, getting up the courage to meet a complete stranger who could murder her... No high value woman is going through all that crap because the allure of a free meal from Outback steakhouse. 🙄 If a dude really thinks the women he is dating…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 03:29 PM
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I started dating my husband when he was 26 and I was 32. The age difference made me a little insecure at first, but there really wasn't a reason to be. We really clicked, and no one seemed to really care or notice. The older you get, the less the gap matters. We'd basically done all the same stuff in life: college, jobs, etc. I didn't feel like I had to train him. If someone is good to you and they want you, let them want you. Want them back if you like them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 03:10 PM
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Ah, the old, "it's gonna happen anyway, so just relax and enjoy it." Nope. If people are going to insist on promoting degrading or dangerous "techniques," they should see exactly how many women think it's despicable and other people should see that as well. #nottakingoffmyheadphones
/r/seduction23/03/20 12:17 PM
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Luckily, my husband and I have plenty to keep us busy. We are immensely fortunate that we have secure jobs and are able to work from home, so we do keep work hours. But, in our down time, we just bought a house and are in the process of setting everything up. We have been having furniture delivered, hanging pictures, putting stuff away, etc. It's fun, but tiring, which is exactly what we need right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:49 AM
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Sir. I'm going to be honest with you and admit I'm having trouble understanding what you mean. I don't think we understand each other, so best not to converse on the subject any longer. But, my relationship history is not why I found this sub nor why I occasionally visit it. I have generally never had much issue dealing with men and their so called "game" when I was dating.
/r/seduction22/03/20 10:17 PM
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Your post literally implied it's a woman's fault if she can't recognize a "fuckboi." Like a woman deserves to be used if she isn't smart enough to see through the manipulation of someone's "game." You are trying to get laid. Women get that. But, you can't expect them to just be okay with being talked about like objects and vesicle for a body part which you "tryin to fuck." If the worst you get from that is some comments you don't like on reddit, you are lucky. And, I don't know how to help you i…
/r/seduction22/03/20 10:07 PM
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"But any self respecting lady knows what's up...," Indeed we do. We know lines like that are gaslighting us into thinking women have to put up with male harassment because it's all for the sake of "getting to be better at being social." No. When you say something like that, you imply a woman, who perhaps is young or socially inexperienced, is supposed to know the exact manipulation tactics people on here promote in order to do things like "f-close" on dates. But, thanks to this sub putting it al…
/r/seduction22/03/20 09:42 PM
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Wow, that was an interesting response. You listed physical attributes before self-esteem. Perhaps you can describe how one conveys self-esteem with only you looking at them? Sorry if you felt I was bragging, I wasn't trying to. I was simply trying to demonstrate that a person can not look the way you think someone with value would look. Also, what's messy hair? Like, unbrushed? I only brush my hair in the morning, so it's pretty bad by the end of the day. Nobody seems to care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 06:36 PM
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You seem to define a HVW by the way she looks. I certainly consider myself a HVW, and I don't put any effort into my appearance beyond hygiene products. I rarely wear make up, or dress up at all. My work has no dress code, so I get to wear yoga pants and stuff to work. I do have a PhD in a STEM field, have a good career, make good money, and am generally a good person. I'm interesting and funny and have never had trouble attracting the men I'm interested in. You shouldn't look at a woman and det…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 06:13 PM
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My family was like that when I left my ex-husband too. I had done such a good job acting for everyone, by the time I couldn't keep the lie up anymore I couldn't make people understand what the previous 8 years had been like and the effect they had on me. I wasn't allowed to have a job, we had no children (my choice, I never felt safe with him), and he gave me a small amount of money just to take care of day to day life. Honestly, I could write all day about everything he did and how controlling …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 05:14 PM
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It depends on what you mean by "friend." My mother always said that if you have more friends than you can count on one hand, you are using the term too loosely. As is the nature of academia, many of my co-workers have become my major social group. I consider the men and women I have shared labs with as "family." Lab families are real, and I'm basically the crazy aunt of mine. My lab family is very important to me, and I'd bend over backwards to help them with anything they need. That said, I rar…
/r/askFDS16/03/20 06:10 PM
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So, what you are saying is this a pattern you are okay with. He has sex with you, goes back to his ex, breaks up, lather, rinse repeat. And, it's okay, because he should expect the same from you. Well, if everyone is happy with always wondering when is the next time the cycle gets to begin again, I guess go for it. Every time he goes somewhere without you, you get to wonder if he decided he wasn't happy with you and if there was some girl there he could mess around with to confirm his feelings. …
/r/seduction15/03/20 08:24 PM
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"He said that he is in the process of breaking up..." Girl, he cheated on his girlfriend with you. You are broken up, or you aren't. Even if, EVEN IF, he breaks up with his girlfriend and decides he finally wants to be with you, this is how he chooses to behave in a relationship? When he breaks up with you, you'll get to enjoy wondering who he slept with right before breaking up with you as a way of solidifying his choice. You made a mistake, but you don't have to keep making it. You should walk…
/r/seduction15/03/20 08:10 PM
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Your not listening. I have no children. I will never have children. I will work as much as any childfree male counterpart. But because it is perceived that I am capable of having children, I am already at a disadvantage to getting a job. That is NOT a personal choice. Economics is the "what." Sociology is the "why." Maybe you don't care if people don't have children anymore. Congrats, I'm in that boat too. But, if people like Paul Ryan want women to have more children to grow the economy, their …
/r/seduction14/03/20 01:26 AM
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Not true. It's not economics; it's sociology. It's associated with the lack of transparency for what jobs pay and the implications of women possibly having children. Women are conditioned to not haggle, and it puts them at a disadvantage when negotiating salaries. Starting low keeps you lower than others. Fields that were previously dominated by men that become more populated by women generally lose earning power over time. Also, yes, women generally get stuck with the brunt of childrearing and …
/r/seduction14/03/20 12:14 AM
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"Woman demand equal pay..." Yeah, and they still aren't getting it, are they?
/r/seduction13/03/20 10:56 PM
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I can't say I've ever been in the same situation, but personally, if you are attracted to someone you are attracted to them. I don't have any ethical or religious issues with LGBTQ+ people, so if I were into someone I'd like to think it wouldn't bother me. The heart wants what the heart wants. I'm also a woman who is unable to have children due to uterus cancer, and my husband knew that before marrying me. Sometimes kids can't happen, and I'm glad I found someone who is happy with just me if tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 12:22 AM
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Legit, I heard Silicon Valley was a sausage fest. Aren't there like 10 guys to everyone one woman?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 12:07 PM
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I used to be accused of "flirting" with people when I swear to God I was just chatting and making small talk. I like people. I'll talk to damn near anyone. Then I hear a phrase that rang so true to me, I hold it in my heart: I'm not flirting with you, I'm trying to establish myself as the funniest person in the room. If people think I'm flirting, that's their problem. I don't say anything to anyone I wouldn't say to my grandma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 08:35 PM
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I think there is a 99% chance you will at best insult her, and at worst scare her. I suggest if you REALLY just must show any kind of "romantic" intent, just try to ask her out on a date. Don't try to have sex with her right there. Like, Jesus, why isn't the girl worth a damn date?
/r/seduction06/03/20 12:08 AM
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Well, as a lady, my opinion is she just wants to buy the equipment and if she is smart she is bringing another human being with her because going to a stranger's home is incredibly dangerous.
/r/seduction05/03/20 09:58 PM
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How do you know if she is actually on the pill, or taking it correctly?
/r/seduction04/03/20 10:51 PM
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Oh yeah, if a guy refuses to accept that you will not be intimate after you have explicitly told him that, that's on him. I would never ask him to do anything for me I wouldn't ask another friend to do, and I would be a good friend in return. But, if he tries to throw that back in my face later, that's his problem not mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 08:36 PM
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Do you know how much HIV meds cost? Or, a baby? You should always wear a condom.
/r/seduction04/03/20 06:07 PM
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Well, yes, some men will pretend to be your friend and do things hoping to find an "in." But, I personally think it's unethical to knowingly use that and take advantage of someone you aren't interested in dating. I don't believe in the "friendzone." Someone is your friend, or they aren't. A guy who is only nice to you wanting to be more isn't in the friendzone, he put you in the sex zone. That's why I would tell a guy immediately who is trying to spend time with me one on one that I'm happy to h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 05:49 PM
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I was in a financially abusive marriage where I wasn't allowed to work and was given a small amount of money to buy groceries and such for the week. My hair dryer broke in the middle of winter so I used some of that money to buy a new one (cheap model, maybe $20). When my ex asked me to buy him something at the store, I told him I needed more money. I was short because of the hair dryer. He yelled at me for a solid 10 minutes for not consulting him about buying it, and maybe he could have found …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 07:03 PM
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Yup. And, even in species where there is little to no parental investment for either sex past making gametes (like many spawning species), the females still generally invest more because making eggs is more energetically costly than making sperm. Shout out to male sea horses for being HVMs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 06:48 PM
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I'm an American. Also, I said "many" women. There are some women who are better at casual sex than others. I'd also argue, your friend isn't necessarily just looking for a one-night stand or hook up, as you indicated these women are. There is a saying, "women don't have one-night stands; they have failed auditions."
/r/seduction03/03/20 12:58 PM
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Here's the deal. I woman who is willing to go to your or her place on a first date has no concern for her personal well-being. Frankly, it's unsafe for men too, yet many men seem to make this a goal. So, what kind of mental state do you think a woman has to be in to disregard their own person safety for the sake of intimate personal interactions? I've heard this story 100 times over from various men I know. My cousin literally had to move in order to stop a one night stand from showing up at his…
/r/seduction02/03/20 06:19 PM
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Agreed. Was friends with my husband for more than a year before we began dating.
/r/seduction02/03/20 06:04 PM
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Totally agree, but don't even use euphemisms like "where the sun don't shine." That's a phrase to avoid using real terms so people are comfortable. Say every word you know people hate loud and proud. "I have a rash on the inside of my labia. I think it's spreading to my vagina and anus. It might be a moisture problem, which I know can lead to a yeast infection but...blah, blah, blah." Yeah, use all the words that will make them regret even speaking to you. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 09:00 PM
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We live rent-free in these dudes heads, for real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:00 PM
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Sapphires, emeralds, and rubys are all pretty strong stones (basically the same rock with different minerals that give them different colors). As strong as a diamond? Not quite, but I'm not trying to grind things up or cut glass with my ring. These are good stones in my humble opinion. They can take a beating. If people like diamonds, that's cool. I'm not going to tell people what to like. But, they have no draw for me. My ring is an antique from the 1920s. Clearly it has stood the test of time,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 08:16 PM
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It's time for some new traditions. The diamond ring thing is a scam made by the diamond companies (hear me out before the downvotes). That's not to say we shouldn't have lovely rings we want, this is to say that this stuff USED to be decided by the couple together. Proposals usually didn't have rings in the past. If I could snap my fingers and begin a new tradition, it would be to ask someone to marry you with some kind of common placeholder. I don't know, maybe a ribbon or something. Then, both…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 06:50 PM
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I'm pretty lazy, and probably more of a slob than most women. My husband could definitely live in worse. But, we are a partnership, so we have a deal. If one person is doing something to clean up, the other person is doing something of value too. If I'm on laundry, he's on dishes. If I'm cleaning up the kitchen, he's picking up the living room. Adulting is a solid group effort in our house. Except for the cats, they contribute nothing, those bums.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 03:53 AM
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I'll be honest and say I'm not sure how much my indifference to my appearance has affected me in other aspects of my life that aren't personal. Some people say you only get ahead in your career by looking good. If I've ever missed out on career opportunities because I wasn't "attractive enough," I never equated it to that. Not saying it didn't happen, just saying it never occurred to me to question that because I'd never do it to someone else. I just assume someone else was better qualified or s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 07:02 PM
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Don't be. Everyone has different ways to spend their money. I like NICE hotel rooms when I travel. Some people say that is a waste of money, but not for me. Me and my yoga pants and t-shirts travel in style. 😎
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:29 PM
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I'm probably the laziest person here when it comes to beauty products and such. I have no dress code at work, we all just wear whatever we want. My life is all t-shirts and yoga pants. And, I never wear makeup unless it is a special occasion. Still, I bet as little as I do between my facial moisturizer and mid-priced hygiene products, I probably still spend more money than the average man does to be presentable to the world. Edit: I was going to try to math it all out, but I realized I'd look li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 01:07 PM
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Hey, if you want to claim God telling you to cheat on your wife is just you speaking your truth, then so be it. I was under the impression the r/seduction community didn't condone cheating.
/r/seduction21/02/20 03:26 AM
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God wants you to cheat on your wife. You seriously have to be a troll.
/r/seduction21/02/20 02:10 AM
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I've lost my wedding ring before. I accidentally left it in a hotel bathroom when we were travelling. I was very lucky and got it back. I don't wear it when I travel anymore because of this. It's possible men are more prone to losing things, but stuff gets lost. Certainly, every effort should be made to find the lost ring and be more careful in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:47 PM
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Minimizing career sacrifice is impossible if you take off from work to have a child. I learned in a sociology course that a woman will lose 7% of her lifetime earning potential for every child she has. The best you can do if the marriage ends is to get alimony for the years you were the "at home support" system, and try to live comfortably as you build back up a career. I had to do that after after my ex wouldn't let me work for 5 years during our marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 01:06 PM
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Haha. I might do that as a prank sometime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:40 PM
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That would be an incredibly frightening experience for most women. She is alone and would be completely on guard.
/r/seduction18/02/20 08:00 PM
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Do not feed this troll info. His opinion on your appearance means nothing.
/r/seduction17/02/20 08:56 PM
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I'm for it. Having Dad home to help take care of Mom after she heals from labor/C-section and the baby would help people a lot. People should always take the maximum amount of time they want, because corporations don't care about you or your loyalty to the company. Life is short, be with the people you love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 04:26 PM
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Well, I'm not going to ask someone something I'm not willing to answer myself. FDS usually advocates not telling someone your own history, so I expect all parties to be allowed that privacy. But, my husband and I already knew that info about each other before that advice was given. I was just wondering how women will navigate knowing that if they don't want to tell themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 09:27 PM
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I was in an abusive relationship with my ex-husband. Despite all accounts being in both our names, I never had access to them. When I went to get access to get some money to hire a lawyer, he had already cleared it out. It's totally legal, apparently. I ended up having to borrow money from my mom to get a lawyer. Because we were married, he ended up having to pay me my half AND all lawyer fees. But, he did it specifically to stop me from being able to afford a lawyer. I got lucky having someone …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 05:46 PM
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Problem is we don't want to reveal our counts, so you can't expect a man to either. It's going to be hard to know how many people someone has been with, so how can you identify these men without asking about the exact number?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 05:28 PM
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I don't know. I was informed last week that I'm "not allowed to go in Hall closet." And honestly, whatever it is is great. I swear I'm not being a Pickmeisha. He's generally a great gift giver, but Valentine's day is very arbitrary to our lives. I haven't even picked anything up for him yet. I know whatever it is that he thought about it a solid week before Valentine's day, it will be wrapped, and he will have a card in it with something sweet written. He puts forth the effort and I never have t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 06:45 PM
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Another reason to not want to be on the lease. The idea of being stuck with your ex and roommate who think it's okay to be in a relationship with you in the apartment. I'd be gone in less than a day. London is real expensive though, I feel for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 05:59 PM
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These are certainly amazing skills to learn, and can't hurt. But, it's worth keeping in mind that someone trying to hurt you isn't going to "fight fair." One good hit to the head is going to take down most women and disorient them. Once you are on the floor, there is very little you can do. If you are faced with an assailant who is determined to hurt you, your best bet is to get any kind of large object between the two of you to limit his ability to grab you, protect your head and chest, and try…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 05:57 PM
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Biologist here ladies: men being generally stronger than woman is technically true. The torque strength of their musculature that comes from innately higher testosterone during key developmental periods (inutero and puberty) is undeniably better than ours. And, as a relatively large, fit woman at 5'10', the idea that a man 5 inches shorter than me and 60 pounds lighter could still overpower me absolutely disappoints me. But, it is what it is. For this reason, it's especially important to meet da…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 05:45 PM
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"Dude, hold that thought. I gotta walk 20 feet over to that mural. Mama wants a Snorlax."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 06:23 AM
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Haha. Had a similar experience, only I'm 5'10.' The sad part for that guy was that I've never been hung up on height. I've dated men taller and shorter than me. It was that he lied about it that instantly ruined his chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 09:51 PM
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Indeed. It made me think of this John Mulaney bit, so when I ran across this I couldn't help myself. STREET SMARTS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 09:24 PM
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There are few people in this world I want to spend more than a couple hours with alone. It's definitely not going to be some guy I just met.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 08:39 PM
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I have run into a couple exes in public. I just ignore them. They know better than to try to talk to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 08:12 PM
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Those aren't new words for me, sugar plum. Predatory/prey dynamics are my jam. This post might have more bite if it came from someone who knew the difference between the words "femininity" and what I believe you were going for as "feminist" in another post.
/r/seduction06/02/20 06:05 PM
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I said and reiterated "SOME." r/niceguys
/r/seduction06/02/20 05:59 PM
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I believe your heart is in the right place, but I'll never make myself look lesser again just so a man can feel greater. Having a PhD and being intelligent are not unfeminine things. If a man has a problem with my mind and how it works, that's his problem and not mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 12:55 PM
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You can't see the forest for the trees, my friend.
/r/seduction06/02/20 12:12 PM
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I honestly don't find it much more different than the material on this sub. They both have their extremes. Guys complaining about Chad's, referring to women as numbers and complaining that only 5s will talk to them, saying they should give up and hire prostitutes, and sometimes giving incredibly unsafe advice. I do wonder if it's possible to destabilize a predator/prey dynamic that usually occillates around an equilibrium. Could it crash so hard that no sex will ever deal with the other? Literal…
/r/seduction06/02/20 04:42 AM
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First time, "no thanks." Second time, "I really can't. I have cramps and my flow is really heavy today. Actually, could you pick me up some tampons if you go out to lunch?" If they want to make it uncomfortable, oh, I'm gonna make it uncomfortable. 😈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 04:16 AM
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How is that not accurate? The FDS sub knows about this sub. They keeps tabs on it. A lot of dating subs do. Likewise, you all appear to be keeping tabs on the FDS sub. The Lotka-Volterra cycle will continue as it always has. Although, there are elements of negative frequency dependent selection involved. It merits further analysis.
/r/seduction06/02/20 03:46 AM
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r/seduction :"Let's make a forum where some men discuss how to have sex with as many women as possible with the least amount of effort, time, and money." r/femaledatingstrategy : "Hey, there is a forum where some men talk about how they go about trying to have sex with as many women as possible with the least amount of effort, time, and money. We should keep and eye on it and make sure we can recognize when they try it on us." r/seduction: shocked faces Note I said the word "some," but I look fo…
/r/seduction06/02/20 02:18 AM
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PhD in a STEM field. Some men love it, some men are intimidated by it. Never thought twice about the latter.
/r/seduction06/02/20 02:05 AM
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Indeed, I always joke you have to date someone for 3 months, then you basically are dating them again for 3 months because everyone is always on their best behavior and you have to get to know the real them. Kidding aside, it's worth remembering that a lot of abusers try to push relationships forward as quickly as possible because keeping up the act of being a good person is hard. My abusive ex-husband and I were engaged in less than a year then married 6 months after that, and we never lived to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 09:00 PM
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Ah, I suppose that makes sense. Thanks for letting me know. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:07 PM
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Okie dokie, just be safe.
/r/seduction05/02/20 03:45 AM
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I think that we are all human, and focusing on the bad experiences to avoid future failure/sadness is a very human thing to do. I left an abusive marriage and honestly never thought I could stomach the idea of getting married again. Not realizing it, I started instinctively utilizing a lot of the FDS strategies mentioned here as a way to avoid love-bombing and ending up in another abusive relationship (something my therapist warned me about). I actually had a fear of commitment. Moving slow was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 03:17 AM
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Yeah, the guys here get real mad at r/femaledatingstrategy because a lot of their strategies involve avoiding men like the ones on here who almost exclusively are just looking for hook ups. They do, indeed, provide dating advice to women looking for long term, meaningful relationships and help others spot the red flags of manipulation techniques. There is definitely the occasional good natured laugh at failed PUA attempts and rants about men who put in no effort. But, you should judge for yourse…
/r/seduction05/02/20 02:47 AM
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Curious, do you know him? Have you met him in real life at all? I personally never understood the point of adding all the random guys who try to friend me on FB. I just decline. Every single one of my FB friends are people I have at least met in person. Sometimes when I wander over to r/niceguys for a laugh, it's clear the interaction is with a stranger. If you are someone who adds strangers, can you explain why to me? (Sincerely curious, not judging, just trying to understand)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 11:30 AM
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The housing market is a real nightmare for sure. Luckily, we are in a city that hasn't been hit too bad yet, but the prices are indeed going up. It's why we wanted to get into the market ASAP. We are paying about $250k.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:32 PM
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He definitely came at me hard with his own biases. To clarify, I did pay half the rent and utilities, just none of the deposit. We actually stayed there 3 years, giving us the ability to save for a house. I'm so damn excited for 2 bathrooms!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:16 PM
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It benefitted us both. Some scrote just messaged me saying I was selfish. My husband (boyfriend at the time) actually liked the idea too, because he also didn't want to have to live with an ex if it didn't work out. This was a trial thing for us. I left an abusive marriage with a man who rushed me into everything (love bombing) We didn't live together before we were marrried. I needed slower to feel safe. I told him I wouldn't marry a man I hadn't lived with for at least one year. He waited 3 da…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 07:02 PM
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Oh my, I'm a little shocked at the down vote. Could someone explain to me why this is a bad strategy I shouldn't suggest? Like I said, I understand the sentiment to want to be in the lease. It's about having a sense of control and rights to live somewhere. But, for me, I didn't feel like I would have control if I were legally tied to the same place as someone I decided I wanted to get away from. This was an issue before in my life during an abusive relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:40 PM
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Honestly, I'm mad at society trying to convince my generation (Millennials) that this damn "tiny house" trend is great. WTF? They are trying to throw dry bread crumbs to peasants and convince them they are gormet croutons! I saw an ad online to enter a contest to win "your dream tiny home." My dream home doesn't have one toilet and needs a ladder to get into my bed. My husband and I are in the process of buying our first home, and it has 4 bedrooms. Most people we know are aware that I am unable…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:28 PM
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I agree with the sentiment of the "name on the least thing," but that can be a double-edged sword. If you break up and you want to leave, you are still on the hook for that place. I've seen too many friend have to live with exes after a break up, and absolutely hell no to doing that. I literally had to think hard about how to go about this with my husband when we decided to move in together. If I'm the only one on the lease, he could still claim squatting rights and I'd have to go through a crap…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:19 PM
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I'm not a troll. I'm trying to give you advice and insight into a woman's mind. You think ignoring you is cruel. She has likely had men try to talk to her on the street before. If she is polite and declines, she risks you continuing trying to interact with her when she is not interested because a lot of men don't take a polite "no" for an answer. If she is rude, she literally risks being attacked by a strange man. Do you ever even take into account the surrounding environment? Were there other p…
/r/seduction02/02/20 03:03 AM
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"When I tried to walk with she stopped in her tracks." My sincere apologies if English is not your first language, but this statement reads as "followed her."
/r/seduction02/02/20 02:43 AM
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For women it's a major safety issue. First thing woman is looking for is to see that you: 1) are who you say you are, 2) have a clear enough presence that if you were cheating on someone they would find out, 3) At least know SOME people. Not having any social media is a red flag that you are a serial killer or hiding something. We don't expect you to be an IG influencer. Just make something basic, post something at least a couple times a month, make your profile picture a clear head shot, and ha…
/r/seduction02/02/20 12:59 AM
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Not responding at all is something women do when they are afraid. You should not have followed her, that's even scarier. If a woman doesn't respond, you need to just let her walk by.
/r/seduction02/02/20 12:41 AM
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It's funny how different tastes can be. I love a good beard, and I'll take a soft, squishy guy over a hard body any day. A sincere struggle I had with liking the "dad bod" is finding a guy who is still physically active and relatively healthy despite being a little overweight. I'm not into couch potatoes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 08:41 PM
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I understand. I had a friend who had an issue with getting a discolored spot, and she had it fixed. I know it's not always an issue of oral hygiene, but for whatever reason, it really just hits me in a bad way. I'm sure there are things on me that some people find very disconcerting. For instance, I develop keloid scars, and I know someone who is very turned off by them. I didn't mean to offend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 08:34 PM
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I have preferences in looks, but I've certainly dated men that look very different because a good personality attracts me more than anything. There are, however, a couple things that I for sure have never been able move past though: 1) "dead spots" on teeth. That black spot that corrodes a tooth? I can't. I just can't. The idea of kissing that is viscerally repulsive. 2) Ear guages. Each to their own, enjoy your bodily fashion choices, but I cannot handle the way they look when they are removed.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 06:54 PM
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Ah. Well, here in the U.S., where we generally have better laws against violence, and women have better access to birth control and education, we don't have to out up with that crap. The "fiery Latina attitude" is real, and I respect the hell out of those ladies.
/r/seduction30/01/20 09:54 PM
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The maternal death rate in the U.S. is one of the worst for industrialized nations. People who are anti-choice will try to scare you with the very small mortality rate cause by abortion while ignoring that the mortality rate for giving birth is way higher, and that doesn't even begin to touch all the deaths that happen as a result of long term complications from pregnancy related issues. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/22270271// People who try to push others into adoption think having a b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 09:49 PM
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Old school Latinas would hit you back then go get their girl friends to come beat you with their chancletas. You went way past machismo to full on physical abuse. I don't know any of my girlfriend's that would tolerate that. And, yeah, they tell at men who bother them, loudly and proudly.
/r/seduction30/01/20 09:31 PM
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Men aren't just "sitting and being happy" if they are out trying to get women, right? Sure, if you are a total hermit, enjoy being a hermit. But, don't be mad if a woman sees that and think, "Oh, so I guess it will always be my job to make sure guests are comfortable." 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:29 PM
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Absolutely not. Sometimes when people get heated, they can get louder. But, name calling? They way I was raised, if you resorted to calling someone a bad name during an argument, then you lost the argument. I was dating a dude once who got mad at me and called me a whore. I was so stunned. I just calmly replied back, "I do not accept money for my services" and walked out. He tried to tell me that just how he was raised, and his parents who have been "happily married" for years call each other na…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 03:28 AM
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It's a brave new world, and lots of women are now earning more money than men. I did briefly date a man who turned out to be ridiculously wealthy. I was comfortably middle class. I, personally, prefer to pay my own way too. But, he kept trying to do bigger and better things, and when I told him I didn't want to do that because I stick to a budget, he would just buy the tickets or whatever but anyway as a "treat." Yeah, no. He wasn't listening to what I needed. I ended it. If he had just been coo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 03:20 AM
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Well, to be fair, if every guy is hoping you think they are cute and can get a goodnight kiss, they'll always do it. One guy isn't really creepier than another for trying regardless of looks. Like I said, I never liked to kiss on the first date, but not because I think it's particularly inappropriate. I discovered I kinda knew if I liked a guy based on how much I think about him after a first date. I suppose it's a pretty delayed response. And, kissing someone I wasn't sexually attracted to felt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 07:14 PM
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In some cultures, cheek kisses are common. So, I would often try to go for that too on a first date, as it's common where I live. But, yeah, a dude who is trying to "sneak" lip contact will not turn his face like a polite person should. I had to start fighting instinct to go for a cheek kiss and making sure I turned my face as far to the right as I could when giving a hug goodbye because I got tired of that crap. If a dude wants a mouth full of my hair, that's on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 05:03 PM
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I've been using "Inigo Montoya" for years, but mostly because I'm utterly ridiculous and will beat a joke into the ground until it comes out the other side of the planet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:44 AM
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The all day date is a form of love bombing. Going multiple places gives a psychological feeling of having had many dates (Anyone seen There's Something About Mary?) They think if they spend all day with you you will feel more of a "connection" and sleep with them sooner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:38 AM
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WTF is "business development at cardiology field?" You creating a worse kind of colesterol to give people heart attacks?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 03:30 AM
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I have been on dates with many nice men. Many well-meaning men who seemed to like me a lot. But, if the chemistry isn't there, it just isn't there. Like people say about "nice guys:" nice is a default. It's a bare minimum expectation of how to behave toward another human being. Nice people are good people, they just might not be the right person for you. You don't need to feel awful for not liking every nice man who comes along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 01:45 PM
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If a parking lot is very crowded, my husband always asks if I'd like to be dropped at the front so I don't have to take a long walk. I'm not particularly fragile, it's just that Florida gets hot, and when I get sweaty I get cold indoors. It's a sweet gesture (possibly in his favor so he doesn't have to hear me complain about being cold, but I'll take it.) 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 02:26 AM
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Haha. Red hair Jews aren't all that uncommon. I'm also technically only half Jewish (my mother is non-practicing, as am I).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 12:18 AM
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Indeed, you said girlfriend. My mistake. Also, I don't have a boyfriend. Why would I say have a boyfriend. My husband isn't my boyfriend. I'm technically correct which is the best kind of correct.
/r/seduction26/01/20 12:15 AM
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I don't think you feel awful. You came on here to brag (assuming you aren't a troll). You are trying to back pedal now by saying you feel bad only because of the backlash you are receiving from the women here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 11:21 PM
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I also suspect this might be some incel type trying to "expose" this sub for being man haters. Obviously, that's not us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 11:13 PM
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He could have a mutant ability where he rejects all 7 billion people on this planet and it gives him an orgasm everytime. YOU. DO. NOT. HAVE. THE. RIGHT. TO. DAMAGE. SOMEONE'S. PROPERTY. OR. PERSON. There is no justification for this. None. And if there was, you aren't even close to getting there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 11:11 PM
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That's like saying a woman gets a power boner for rejecting men. It doesn't matter. He owes you nothing. You have no right to him, his time, or his attention. There is no justfying what you have done. Do not try to gaslight women here believing it. We don't buy it from men or women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 11:06 PM
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Men have the right to say no too, and destroying someone's property is unethical and illegal. FDS is about not getting abused in a relationship or taken advantage of. This man has done nothing to you except reject you. Your behavior should not be condoned by this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 11:01 PM
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I was not interested. It wasn't obvious though.
/r/seduction25/01/20 10:22 PM
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So you advocate harassing a woman into giving you a phone number so that she will leave you alone? Ignoring social cues and creating an environment where she now feels she needs to ignore people possibly having a valid reason to ask her to remove her headphones? That's just awful and mean-spirited.
/r/seduction25/01/20 09:50 PM
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They decided I wasn't interesting. No one even tried to get my number. I can be perfectly lovely and not show sexual interest.
/r/seduction25/01/20 09:48 PM
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There is no talking these people out of this delusion that it's okay. They seriously believe they are so amazing and we should all be so flattered they took time to bother us, that we should thank them for the opportunity to be hit on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 08:33 PM
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She wanted to indicate that there were no hard feelings for the one night stand despite her clearly being new to sexual intercourse, so it's okay to be friendly if you see her in public. However, she reflected on her experience and decided she is not the kind of girl who can have casual sex and not get attached. She literally told you that a FWB is not something she wants. To pursue that would be leading her on and unethical.
/r/seduction25/01/20 08:30 PM
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Yeah, because he was waving at her like he was someone she knew. I also always take my ear buds out if someone asks. It's generally for a legitimate purpose. What if there is an emergency or something? Doesn't mean she WANTED to. Very few people are going to give someone the middle finger and tell at them for trying talk to them with ear buds in. We just generally expect it's for something other than some rando to call you trailer trash and hope it's charming. If you cannot see every social cue …
/r/seduction25/01/20 08:24 PM
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I said the PUA types exhibit predatory behavior, and often give well-meaning men bad advice that makes them look like predators too. I mentioned specific incidences of unsafe behaviors. You became emotionally charged by reading something and taking it as a personal affront. Perhaps because some of it rang true for you? Eh, not my problem. And, no. None of them would have been "cool." I'm instantly turned off by any man who chooses to introduce himself to me by indicating his sexual attraction to…
/r/seduction25/01/20 08:17 PM
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Dudes made me take out my headphones. BTW, I was very, very, very polite and enthusiatic back and tried to engage in conversation. I sincerely doubt either would have called me a bitch. They just decided they weren't interested in the end. Oh, well. Edit: Also, I don't have a boyfriend. I have no need to lie to people to show disinterest.
/r/seduction25/01/20 08:00 PM
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That poor woman. She tried to keep going, but he followed her and she felt socially obligated to continue awful, polite conversation until she could escape, because this is what women have been trained to do to avoid physical danger. He accused her of being from a trailer park as a pathetic neg. Her laugh at all his crinegy responses was a clear sign of her discomfort after every thing he said. If she was naive enough to put in her real number, I bet dollars to donuts she never replied. She did,…
/r/seduction25/01/20 07:21 PM
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Don't. That's our advice. Girls with headphones in don't want to be bothered. We know it keeps people from interacting. WE KNOW. That's why we do it.
/r/seduction25/01/20 07:11 PM
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Yeah, this is one of the worst behaviors that they should not be advocating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 06:27 PM
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Yup. The so-called PUAs suggest books are a good place to hit on women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 02:31 AM
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The struggle is real. 👒☂️🕶️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 02:16 AM
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I've tried to call them out on some of their more dangerous advice (you can read the comments in my history to see some of it) like having a woman go over to your place on a first date (obviously to angle for sex). I think any woman who has any sense of self-preservation would immediately know not to do that. So, I tried to warn them they might be attracting someone with mental issues, and it's really just unsafe for everyone involved. Nope. They didn't want to hear it. There was this one post w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 02:08 AM
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While I was single, I ended up with Uteran cancer and had to have a hysterectomy (all expectations of full, permanent remission ladies, takes more than that to kill me). So, I'm sterile as a cotton ball. Dumb me, I didn't want to wait too long to tell a man because 1) I definitely didn't want to get attached to someone for whom having to have children is a deal breaker. I've always been on the fence about kids myself, and not having them doesn't haunt me psychologically. 2) I also didn't want to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:47 PM
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I can also see it as a strategy for guys who think if they accidentally get you pregnant, you'll take care of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:32 PM
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Love bombing has to be done fast, because it's a false signal designed to make you look like a good person who really cares. It can't be kept up for long though, which is why FDS suggests you try to go slow as you can to weed those guys out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:26 PM
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r/humansbeingbros makes me still have a bit of hope in humanity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:18 PM
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If this is your original content OP, you should crosspost in r/murderedbywords. This is definitely brilliant. Brava!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:18 AM
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Alas, no. He definitely didn't get a second date. I only walked out of one date once when a guy (for reasons I don't understand) started talking about what he finds attractive in women and stated that he didn't like Jewish girls because their noses are ugly. Little did he know I'm half Jewish. I definitely wasn't going to sit through a second more of any of that shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:38 PM
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On a date... Him: "I prefer your hair down. You look like a man with your hair up." Me: "So, what I'm hearing is you are attracted to men?" Negg off Mofo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 06:53 PM
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Anyone ever have a guy get upset because you chose not to drink alcohol? I'm just not a drinker, my body hates it. I don't mind if other like to drink. But, I had one date just ONCE where the guy seemed annoyed I didn't want a drink. Throughout dinner, he kept pushing. "Really, one drink?" "I'm getting another, you sure you don't want a small glass of wine?" "Let me buy you an oatmeal cookie shot, you'll love it." I've never had anyone try so hard to push alcohol on me. Needless to say, it was a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 06:07 PM
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Well, that's fair, I suppose. But, my husband already knows, and I know his, and so far no one seems to care. I'll report back if it ever seems to be an issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 12:07 PM
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My mom, bless her level-headed heart, never wanted us to be afraid to come to her when we decided to have sex. She worked in the medical field and always said she just wanted us to care for our bodies. And, I took this advice to heart: "Men will do anything to not have to wear a condom. They'll say they'll pull out, they claim they had the mumps and are sterile, they'll say they just got tested for diseases and are clean, they'll say they just had a course of antibiotics so if they had anything …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 03:52 AM
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Part of me gets this strategy, but also part of me always wanted to weed out guys who would care. It never really occured to me to not answer this question if it ever came up, because if a guy is gonna be butt hurt over it, I'd just break up with him. No one is ever going to actually make me feel shame about having safe, consensual sex with another adult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 03:21 AM
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For every one of you who thinks your game is good, the 100 others who are trying it are creating a pattern that women pick up on. Every woman you creeped out when you were a "newb" adjusted her behavior accordingly to avoid that kind of interaction again. The independent variable isn't just your attempt. It's every man's attempt every single time. I only ever give advice against game that I think will 1) be a physical danger to someone or 2) will create a cycle where said activity is going to be…
/r/seduction23/01/20 03:10 AM
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That's your opinion of me. And, I have indeed posted and keep tabs on the FDS sub. There are many nice women there looking to avoid past mistakes, and seeking advice on how to do so. I'm not abnormally afraid of strangers. I'm from a big city. There is nothing wrong with being cautious and aware of your surroundings, as my father, a police officer, taught me. I credit it with being the reason I'm one of few people I know that have not been the victim of a violent crime. I've never been accused o…
/r/seduction22/01/20 05:56 PM
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For some, it is about just being better with women or men. That's fine. But, you realize putting this up here means you ARE revealing your game strategies, right? I just read it. Other women read it. They have made a mental note, "oh, dude tries to get me to go to his place first, but settles on going to a coffee shop. Now I know men who might try this tactic are really still just trying to find a way to angle me to their place." You think this is new? This is a well-known tactic. That's why man…
/r/seduction22/01/20 03:56 PM
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I never said wolves are only men. I used that as a metaphor for what this sub is, an offense/defense strategy or predator/prey dynamic. In this case the OP is a man. As a biologist, I'm more familiar with nature metaphors. Also, I do not and never have believed that all men only want sex. Trying to make me feel insecure about that won't work. My baggage has never been men trying to only have sex with me. And, telling a woman that only her physical appearance is what shows her value to the world …
/r/seduction22/01/20 03:02 PM
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"Game" can be anything you do to try to be open to other people. Some techniques are, indeed, unsafe or manipulative. I don't even have an issue with people who only want one time hook ups. I just think it's important everyone is aware of the situation and that people promote safe practices. Going to a stranger's home is unsafe. That's my opinion.
/r/seduction22/01/20 02:51 PM
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I understand. I'm lucky in that I was basically raised on the diet stuff, so the regular actually tastes too sweet to me. They say it's also bad for you, but, whatever. I need my caffeine. 🥤☕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 04:28 AM
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Do you not like sodas? I'm a diet Coke junkie, myself. I usually order a diet Coke or diet Pepsi (whichever the restaurant has).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 03:01 AM
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I dated a very nice man who seemed well intentioned. I will not speak ill of the women he previously dated, I certainly didn't know much about them. What I do know if I have a PhD in a STEM field, and he was very impressed by that. At first it was flattering to have someone appreciate my hard work and dedication to my passion, but it was generally the only thing he focused on when telling other people about me. He referred to me as "my scientist" to his friends. It sort of started to feel like I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 12:42 AM
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I agree. Comfort is paramount. But, I certainly will always advocate to anyone that first meetings should be in public to ensure safety. It provides an avenue of safe escape for both parties involved in case someone feels uncomfortable. Both people should also let someone they know where they will be at all times and when to expect to hear from them just in case. :)
/r/seduction22/01/20 12:25 AM
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You believe that because someone has pictures and "claims" in their bio that they are in college or have a job that they are not a potential threat to you? How do you confirm any of this information? That's a very interesting mindset, indeed. And, well, we will see about whether the predator/prey dynamic can be significantly thrown out of equilibrium based on learned behavior.
/r/seduction22/01/20 12:16 AM
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Of course I have been to the home of people I have dated. Generally not for the first few dates. I'm fairly certain my English is plain and clear. I do not care about the activity proposed in regards to going to the home of a stranger. Whether you intend to have sex or play PS4 games does not negate the safety issues of going to a stranger's home. And, it is not unreasonable to hypothesize that a women you are sexually interested in might presume your attempt to get them alone at your home is fo…
/r/seduction22/01/20 12:06 AM
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I dated for many years. I used OLD, although I did not meet my husband on OLD. I have plenty of previous experience regardless of my not currently seeking to date. Have you never received dating advice from someone in a committed relationship?
/r/seduction21/01/20 11:59 PM
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I'm sorry, do you have another Reddit account under the name punsnstuf? I was under the impression that I was asking the woman who responded her opinion as a fellow woman.
/r/seduction21/01/20 11:56 PM
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Fair enough. It is certainly a relatively innocuous way to attempt to get a woman's attention, whether or not it is successful. Perhaps it could lead to some success. I wish the OP luck.
/r/seduction21/01/20 11:54 PM
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Sorry. Perhaps it can be attributed to my chosen career, but "game" has never been particularly effective on me. I'm just a little too familiar with patterns of reproductive behaviors between species where parental care is unequal between the sexes. I have absolutely shut down permanently any man who implied I should do something unsafe. I'm also generally nice about it as a social courtesy unless they push the issue. There are many red flags associated with gaming techniques. Perhaps they are b…
/r/seduction21/01/20 08:59 PM
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Indeed, yes, please don't cat call. My #1 advise is just to accept it as a missed opportunity. They happen in life. It is what it is. But, if you REALLY just MUST talk to a woman because she is the girl of your dreams, try to drive ahead and park somewhere very far out of sight, then try to walk to where you think she is headed. Then, I guess try one of your openers to see if she is even interested in chatting. But, do not do this with your car near by where she sees you get out of it. Yes, that…
/r/seduction21/01/20 08:47 PM
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It was sort of half-sarcasm, but sure. Indeed. I suppose a guy could smile and wave and hope a girl comes over? Better than cat calling. Honestly, that's not ideal either though. That's also a thing people do to try to kidnap you. It's advisable of people want directions from cars to shout at them and not get within 10 feet of the car. Frankly, I don't know a relaxed or good looking enough man I would make me get closer to his car to talk to him. It's all just unseemly.
/r/seduction21/01/20 08:43 PM
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My dude, it's called a date. Some people like to meet other people first in a safe location to get to know them first. Sometimes, and I know this is a shock, they even do this a few times before attempting to have sex with them. Or, are you afraid if a woman gets to know you that she won't actually like you beyond this prepared routine of manipulation you have set up for yourself? Personally, I can see why you are afraid of that.
/r/seduction21/01/20 08:32 PM
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Oof, I went from a virgin to a slut as soon as you discovered I was a woman. Very telling, very telling indeed. Then, someone is asexual if they aren't deceived by your "game." r/niceguys And, um, I hate to tell you this, many women lurk on this sub. Word gets around. Also, I have no issue with game. I tried to help it by letting you know when you do that you are losing potential mates. Like I said, meet her in public first. Maybe you'll figure out that she has problems and don't want her to kno…
/r/seduction21/01/20 08:27 PM
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And, dear fellow female, how much do you trust a man whose first attempt at meeting you IS at his place? Is this not immediately off-putting and possibly makes you begin to lose interest?
/r/seduction21/01/20 08:18 PM
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Astute observation. You assume 83 is in reference to my date of birth. Alas, it isn't so.
/r/seduction21/01/20 08:16 PM
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Well, I am a woman. So, I'm pretty sure I know what me and my other women friends think. Definitely not a virgin, lol. And, yes, those girls could very well be crazy. Happened to a cousin of mine. He literally had to move because of it. You are just playing Russian Roulette. And, it is absolutely a red flag that women are being taught to avoid, because we know those men only want hook-ups. You see, you literally just put this manipulation technique online. I found this sub because in the span of…
/r/seduction21/01/20 06:29 PM
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I'm glad she said no to your place. Any person who goes to someone's place for a first (blind) date has no sense of self preservation. That's just dangerous. You going to instantly turn off many women by asking them to come to your place first. It's a total red flag. You should always try to meet first in a safe public place, and if you are ballsy enough to try to get them back to your place, fine. But, seriously, no one should ever do this.
/r/seduction21/01/20 05:36 PM
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Please don't. As a woman, if a man pulled over in his car and approached me, I'd probably run in the other direction. That's what people do when they go to kidnap you. Just roll down your window and cat call so they can respond (probably with ignoring you or a rejection because that is also awful but at least less frightening than someone pulling over and getting out of the car to try to talk to you).
/r/seduction21/01/20 05:25 PM
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In order: 1) Marriage does not mean you can't give other people advice. It's silly to even think that. My helping other people find love and satisfaction in a relationship doesn't break my wedding vows. 2) My situation could also change at anytime. People get divorced. That's a ridiculous argument. 3) Never called you a sexual perpetrator. I called you a misogynist, because you are acting like one. You have created a double-standard for men and women. You can be on here in a relationship, but I …
/r/seduction21/01/20 01:20 PM
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Sweetheart, I don't know how old you are, but you need break up with him and cut him out of your life completely. He has used classic narcissistic abusive behavior to try to manipulate you. In my opinion, it's worse than a guy just breaking up with you because you aren't moving fast enough for him. He is trying to isolate you from your friends, withholding affection when he doesn't get his way, and pushing you to what have sex for 5 minutes when you said explicitly you don't want to have sex. Tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 12:39 AM
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Sorry, sir or madam. Didn't mean to be so agressive with my response. I thought you were that misogynistic guy who can't fathom a woman who values her sexual health or a man who agrees with it.
/r/seduction20/01/20 11:31 PM
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Did I stutter? Everything. I checked his report.
/r/seduction20/01/20 10:34 PM
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A date a week for about a month, so 4 dates. The decision to become exclusive, and the time it took for both of us to get to a doctor and get tested for STIs. We did it right, He didn't have to wear a condom because we both knew we were clean. If that's insane to you, I'm gladly going to stay in this nut house. Enjoy herpes. I hear it's the gift that keeps on giving.
/r/seduction20/01/20 02:49 PM
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I have a PhD (biology) and my husband only has a tech degree post high school, because that's all he needed to do what he wanted to do. He actually makes more money than I do, but that will likely change once I escape this post doc and flee as fast as I can to industry. Still it's good money, and he's happy with his career. If you are asking if my formal education makes me feel like he isn't smart or interesting enough for me, absolutely not. I know WAY too much about a relatively narrow subject…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:07 AM
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True story. I had a cousin who was doing OLD and he said he had a girl coming over for a date. I was like "a first date?" And he said yeah. I said, "don't do it. She's insane. She clearly has no sense of self-preservation, which means she has some kind of mental issue. This will not end well." Long story short, the sex was awful, she cried afterwards and he tried to console her, then for a couple of months she would just randomly show up at his apartment sometimes. One time she did this, he snuc…
/r/seduction19/01/20 02:52 AM
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A friend wouldn't put you in that situation. He only cares about his wants and needs and doesn't care about how it affects other people. No one needs friends like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 02:02 AM
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Why are you on here if you have a girlfriend? I'm a happily married woman with lots of advice to give to people and absolutely not taking notes on the escalation of intersexual human conflict and whether it can described by the Lotka-Volterra equations. But, I digress... As for the direct question: 1) Most women do not advocate that, or expect it long term after a committed relationship has been established. 2) It's not about the money they spend, it's about being willing to risk something you c…
/r/seduction18/01/20 11:36 PM
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Makes sense if you do that. But, I've never been good at being attracted to multiple men at one time. So, since my brain wants to do it one at a time, I never wanted to waste too much of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 11:14 PM
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It got brought up in the r/seduction too. Got in a couple spats with some idiot misogynist who is clearly an incel but claimed to have a wife, lol. I don't think every FDS strategy will work for every woman, but figuring out what rules you need to get what you want out of a relationship is absolutely vital. They are just mad we all found each other and it's easier to spot the LVMs now. It's 4D chess, ladies, and we are protecting our queens like champs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 07:36 PM
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I get the 90 day thing, I really do. But, I'm not sure I would ever want to invest that kind of time into liking someone just to find out the sex is the God damn worst. I definitely believe some kind of commitment, for sure. We should all do what is comfortable. But, there is a saying I fully believe in: "women don't have one night stands, we have failed auditions."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 07:24 PM
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Yeah, I think the rule is supposed to be half your age plus 7 or something (assuming everyone is legal age). I'm 6 years older than my husband, but the age gap isn't noticable at all. When I was 30, I could never have been with a 24 year old. When I was 34, his being 28 didn't seem so bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 07:08 PM
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Definitely take your time. I was in a similar situation where I left one abuser just to jump into a relationship with another abuser. You definitely need have to be careful with love-bombing. You left a situation where someone was so awful to you you end up thinking the other person is a life raft when really that ship is getting ready to sink too. Everyone on here has different circumstances and is basically trying to avoid the same mistakes. For me, that was not getting married too fast again,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 07:02 PM
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Yeah, forget that guy. All of that is abusive behavior. He was also feeling you out to see if you'd be up for sex. If he tries it again, straight up tell him you don't miss him at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 06:54 PM
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My motives were to take care of my body and make sure everyone was STI free. BTW, he was okay with waiting too. He also takes sex seriously, and didn't even want to kiss on the first date. It's more like WE chose to wait 2 months. Power dynamics, lol.
/r/seduction18/01/20 03:07 PM
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It's not always about the men. It's about the consequences of actions, and the consequences to the human female body are worse than for men. That's not entitlement. That's biology.
/r/seduction18/01/20 02:54 PM
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I think it's the perfect example of a predator/prey dynamic. As you said, some guys use all sorts of manipulation tactics to get laid. Those women use all sorts of manipulation tactics to avoid being used for sex and degraded as a second class person in their relationship. It's all a "game," right? I think the advice they give women is very acceptable depending on the situation. Don't let guys booty call you, avoid the ones who get sexual too fast, don't do all the emotional work in a relationsh…
/r/seduction18/01/20 02:47 PM
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It does help to take a break. I could tell I was burnt out with OLD when I started putting energy into responding to BS instead of ignoring those kinds of messages. It can feel cathartic, but they aren't worth your time. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 02:25 AM
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Yeah, dude. My husband and I do nice things for each other too. And, his masculinity isn't so fragile that he thinks the stuff we do for each other has to match stereotypical gender roles. We are partners. We do whatever the hell needs doing.
/r/seduction18/01/20 01:08 AM
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"Back when I was the pussy nice guy, I had women doing all kinds of power abuse on me. Sometimes their friends would snicker if they were nearby, and even comment on that girls "power" over me." Oof. r/niceguys
/r/seduction18/01/20 01:01 AM
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Uh... Men cheat too. All cheaters suck. What-about-ism isn't a counter argument.
/r/seduction18/01/20 12:59 AM
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My husband patiently waited 2 months before we had sex. I was very attracted to him and absolutely wanted it. But, I'm careful with my body. We both got tested for STIs first too.
/r/seduction17/01/20 08:08 PM
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"Trading sex for a relationship." So, wanting to be in a committed relationship with someone before giving them access to your body where they can give you any number of STIs and/or get you pregnant. That's some messed up crap. How dare they! /s
/r/seduction17/01/20 08:05 PM
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They are actually the opposite of incels. Most on there are tired of random dudes just wanting to smash. So, to weed out the people who lose their crap if you make them wait longer than some arbitrary date rule, they have chosen not to have sex until a certain time frame. What is the point of this time frame? To make sure dudes who love bomb as a false signal of interest are also scared away. You can only keep up an act for so long, and some women are happy to wait it out. You people have sex wi…
/r/seduction17/01/20 08:02 PM
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Is this what you people call "shit tests?" I thought that was just called flirting.
/r/seduction16/01/20 08:52 PM
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Yeah, that kind of sounds like my husband. He was in middle of a career change when we met and making a little more than minimum wage. As someone who did that myself a few years earlier, I didn't want to hold it against him. We didn't start dating until about a year after we met, but for that year I saw how hard he was really working towards an end goal. Cut to 5 years later he now makes 3 times what I do, but he never makes me feel like I'm not an equal partner. We are a team and that's how we …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 01:41 AM
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Maybe it wouldn't hurt their wallets so much if they only put the time and energy into women they were serious about. You got the PUA subs telling guys only go for drinks so that you can afford to go on 5 dates a week. Five dates? A week? Do you have literally nothing else you need to be doing besides trying to have awkward, first time sex with a different woman each night?! Jesus. Pick someONE you like once a week, buy something to eat, see if you can get her to like you enough to touch you mor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 01:21 AM
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That's good. Sounds promising. Just be respectful and don't push too hard if they reject you. I know this sub can sometimes tell people to keep pushing, but your classmates can be likened to co-workers these days. You don't want to be reported to the school for harassing behavior. If you haven't seen r/niceguys, I suggest checking it out as an example of what NOT to do, especially if you get rejected. Good luck!
/r/seduction16/01/20 12:04 AM
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I don't mean to rain on your parade here, but I have to ask, are these women actually in your classes? Because, just an FYI if you don't know, students in the same classes often exchange numbers and info so they can contact other students in case they need to know something. I teach undergrad courses, and I encourage my students to share numbers for this reason, but I also politely mention that they should not abuse this privilege. In other words, if any of these girls is not interested and only…
/r/seduction15/01/20 09:49 PM
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Legit. I'm an evolutionary Biologist, and what this guy is alluding to sounds like "dishonest signalling," where the indications of health to a potential partner are lied about to help facilitate more mating. Sometimes you see this as a last effort by a dying individual trying to pretend they aren't sick in order to mate before they die. So, bright side, we got them on the ropes. Sounds like they know they are "dying." But, don't let them flag you with enough dishonest signals of being a HVM tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 12:26 PM
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Yeah, I don't know anyone but incredibly rich men who would put that much effort into having sex with a woman unless they actually care for her. The predators are trying to adapt. Stay vigilant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 10:12 PM
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Yeah, but there is too much variance in accounting for each person's perception of beauty. Even if you are going to make the very hotly debated "symmetry = beauty" argument, you can't assume everyone is capable of discerning minute details of symmetry. Unless you are getting all up in someone's face and measuring the distance of their eyes from their nose, the imprecision with which people will discern these traits makes a quantitative measurement almost moot. It's like saying she's a 5 plus or …
/r/seduction12/01/20 10:31 PM
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"Felt led on" because you didn't want to have sex on date #2. That's a yellow flag at minimum. If a guy said this to me, I'd tell him, "we are on a date. It implies sexual interest. You are not a 'friend.' But, I'm not having sex with you until I'm comfortable with the idea, period. I'll let you know when I am." If he can keep his cool and see the logic, great. If he keeps being passive-agressive, call it quits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 08:16 PM
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Uh, ANOVA. Not all science is quantifiable. There are statistical analyses that are specifically used for qualitative data.
/r/seduction12/01/20 07:53 PM
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I'm a woman in my 30s and still deal with moderate acne. I also despise wearing make-up and rarely do. I was self conscious about it too until someone asked me to think about people we know and whether they had acne. I literally couldn't. It's weirdly one of those things we all obsess over on ourselves, but forget is so damn common we rarely ever register it as an attribute of other people. Keeping a clean, oil-free face makes more of an impact than the acne itself. I do notice if a man looks sh…
/r/seduction12/01/20 06:29 PM
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As a scientist, I'm here to tell you that is an inaccurate statement. #ANOVA
/r/seduction12/01/20 06:10 PM
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I don't know where you live, but somewhere around you might have a Nerd bar or gaming shop that does game nights. You'll meet people who like the same stuff you do, and likely have other friends into it as well but who don't get out often. You'll increase your circle of friends and meet more people. I met my husband at an event at a geek bar.
/r/seduction12/01/20 06:06 PM
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Ninety-nine percent have headphones in for a reason, they don't want to be bothered by someone. Best you can do is try to make eye contact, and if she is interested SHE will take her headphones out and make herself available to be spoken to. If she doesn't do this, she doesn't want to talk to you. Period. Edit: typo
/r/seduction06/01/20 09:48 PM
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I'm not sure what your families' backgrounds are like, but I come from a family of serial marriers and divorcers. I'm the product of ex-wife #2 and ex-husband #4. My mom is basically forced to go by different last names depending on the situation. Mortgage in one ex's name, licence in another's, credit all mixed up with all of them. My mom ended up in the emergency room last year, and when I went to go join her, I had to ask where she was. I gave them her maiden name. Nope. I gave them my last n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 10:56 PM
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I offered up both of us changing to a hyphenated name to my husband (as half a bluff because I really didn't want to do that). He said no thanks, we could all just keep our names. ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 10:31 PM
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I knew I would never change my last name long before I ever imagined I'd get a PhD and publish papers. But, yeah, I've made name for myself in my field. I'm not about to complicate that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 10:27 PM
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It's just the en Vogue version of "are you on your period?" Indeed, the same implication that we aren't being rational. F those people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 04:53 AM
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I meant "tight" in a good way, like tight abs. Use it or lose it right?! ;) Definitely was not trying to insult people's choices. I have definitely carried a guy to bed before, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 04:29 AM
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Oh man, looking up all the time is awful, right?! I'm 5'10' and have mostly dated men around my own height, give or take a couple inches. But I briefly dated a guy who was 6'7'. If I'm honest, I probably have him a shot because of the novelty of seeing what it was like to feel "petite." But, yeah, that bending my neck to kiss him and look up at him was annoying. My husband is only an inch taller than me and that is just fine. Kudos to all you petite queens who want a man like 8 inches taller tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 09:27 PM
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People should date whoever. I'm 5'10'. I've dated guys between 5'6' and 6'7'. Nobody owes it to anybody to date people of a specific height. You are attracted to someone or you aren't. Everyone has something they like on people. Not a type, per se, but something that seems to be something you like. Some women want a taller guy. Personally, I really like a man to have hair. I'm just not into bald guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 09:18 PM
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I'm 5'10'. My husband is 5'11'. I wore 3 inch heels at our wedding. I'm taller in the pictures. How many f**ks do I give? Zero. I looked goooood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 09:06 PM
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For whatever reason, ~90% of the men I have dated (including my ex-husband and my new husband) have been software engineers. My first husband was definitely a narcissistic know-it-all. But, many, including my new husband are just fine. The trick is to find one that doesn't treat his career like a lifestyle/passion. My husband likes his job fine, but he went into it not because it was a passion, but because he "wanted something that would give him a comfortable life." His dad was a plumber and ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 07:08 PM
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Legit. I come from a whole family of cops, and the God complex on them is insane. They literally think they can do anything. Which leads me to another sad thing I've personally noticed... many end up developing racist mentalities. Now, I'm not gonna sit here and say "all cops are racist." Maybe someone reading this is a cop, or someone in your family is, and they are okay. But, the men in my family and their colleagues on the force... they said things sometimes I can't even believe. My cousin, w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 06:52 PM
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I say this to my husband all the time, usually after he's made a terrible joke. We appreciate the dark sarcasm implying he is dumb but pretty, so I keep him around. Because he knows I do think he's funny and smart, and it's basically just my cheeky way of telling him how good looking I think he is. It just one of the ways we flirt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 05:23 AM
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Haha. That's fair. I guess I give him a break because he's so pretty. ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 05:46 AM
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So true. But, honestly I think my husband can't handle the anxiety of picking something I might not like. He keeps forgetting I also want him to enjoy himself too. When we get dinner, I usually narrow it down to two places and tell him to pick the one he likes. You could try doing that and see if it moves things along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 04:36 AM
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I briefly dated a guy I really liked who I'm pretty sure really liked me, but I could not handle how flakey he was. He could rarely commit to a time when we could meet, and even after giving a time, he couldn't show up even remotely close to on time. I'm not talking even an hour late, I'm talking I got up and dressed for brunch and he finally says he is heading to my place around 6 pm. That lasted one month. I don't think it was malicious, but I certainly had no time for that nonsense. If you th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 07:04 PM
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This also comes from the point of view of people who are clearly relying on how a woman looks as the only indicator of attraction. I, very rarely, see a guy and think "damn, he's hot." Yeah, outside a celebrity, I can't even think of the last time that happened. When I did OLD, I used to have 3 categories: cute, okay, and serial killer. Almost no one fell into "cute," anyone in "okay" had a shot. For me, someone becomes attractive when I enjoy their company. When they compel me to want to be aro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 11:43 AM
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Anyone ethical would be up front with a woman. The reality is that most women (and many men) do not want that kind of interaction. The occasional one night stand as maybe a pallet cleanser from a break up or dry spell, sure. But, a few interactions might lead to some feelings, so that's a weird scenario for most. I don't know if you are looking for enough people to tell you it's okay to just lie and ghost so you can trick yourself into believing it's an okay thing to do when you leave a bunch of…
/r/seduction20/12/19 02:56 PM
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Well, pregnancy is something I jokingly refer to as "a curable STD." No one was every going to make me have a kid if I didn't want one. Also, you don't have to combine finances with someone, not even your spouse. My new husband and I never bothered to combine any bank accounts, so he has no access to my money. Indeed, people should not want to rush into marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 11:24 PM
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I didn't live with my ex-husband before marriage and that was a big mistake. He was one of those abusive guys that gets you to marry them quickly because they can't keep up the good guy act too long. They want control over you. I would caution some women not to let a guy try to marry you if he isn't willing to live together first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 10:51 PM
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I may be coming from different circumstances, but I told my husband that I wouldn't marry him until we had lived together for at least a year. My ex-husband was abusive, and we never lived together first because his family is Catholic and "wouldn't approve."🙄 He was an abusive, controlling narcissist who basically used me as a glorified maid (I was smart enough to never have kids with him because even though I stayed too long, I just knew it wouldn't be right). I don't think he could have hid hi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 10:48 PM
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My husband didn't have one, nor did I have any kind of bachelorette party. We honestly didn't have the time or energy. We thought about doing a combined thing of laser tag or something but it didn't happen. There are definitely many types of "stag" parties, and plenty are harmless. My husband can go to any kind of party he wants. I trust him to do what is right. But, I also know I married the kind of guy who would sit pretty bored in a strip club and probably message me all night telling me so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 12:54 AM
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Mario Kart. We want to play Mario Kart!
/r/seduction19/12/19 12:29 AM
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Oh yeah, mine was pissed as hell that he had to give me my legally entitled to half of all our savings and marital property. He was so awful during the divorce, I even insisted on alimony even though I didn't really need it. The more he fought and delayed the divorce, the more I asked for things that I was entitled to just watch him squirm. We literally got married right out of college when we both had nothing. I took half the stocks, half the 401k, he had to pay for my health insurance for 5 ye…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 02:31 PM
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My ex-husband did this. Made it impossible for me to get a job (I had a master's degree), and only gave me a debit card with enough money to grocery shop and run errands. I got pretty good with coupons and was able to save a little some weeks so occasionally I could buy a new shirt at Target or some yarn to crochet. I got desperately bored all day at home with no one to talk to and no money for any hobbies. He always complained we didn't have enough money and I was lucky he cod take care of me. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 02:13 AM
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It matters because for every one of you people who "think" they are good at "game," there are 1000 jerks like this harassing women every day. Those women had to literally leave the very nice bench area in the park they were enjoying just to get away from him (which wasn't easy because he was blocking their exit path). It's annoying at best and frightening at worst. You guys are the reason women keep headphones in their ears when they are out in public even if they aren't listening to anything.
/r/seduction16/12/19 10:07 AM
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What about Puerto Rico? That's the U.S.. mic drop
/r/seduction14/12/19 03:48 AM
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Right? I can't imagine this having lots of success. Last time a guy tried to keep selling himself to me after I told him I had a boyfriend, saying something like, "well, you can call me if it doesn't work out, " I was annoyed. I told him, "so, you are basically okay with being a dick in a jar? Break in case of emergency? Seems sad. You should find a girl who wants you and not a rebound." He seemed taken aback then walked off. shrugs shoulders
/r/seduction12/12/19 12:01 AM
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As a woman who has dated almost exclusively software engineers (clearly I have a type), there are three things: 1) Stop with the damn polo shirts. This may be more of a personal pet peeve, but they are the lazy man's business casual. It reminds me of kid in a school uniform. A button down shirt makes you look 100% more like a man who has his crap together. 2) I find a lot of "tech guys," especially in software, try to talk about tech a lot to women I believe in an attempt to impress them? But, i…
/r/seduction11/12/19 02:19 AM
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1) It's a topic of conversation. Women like hearing "meet cute" stories. 2) we like meeting new women. It's hard to make friends as an adult, and if a guy we know has a significant other, it's an opportunity to make a new girlfriend.
/r/seduction06/12/19 01:04 PM
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As a woman lost the ability to have children while still single and dating (uterus cancer), it never ceases to amaze me that men constantly worry about the baby part and not the diseases part. As soon as a guy found out I had a hysterectomy, they would immediately think we were going to have sex without condoms. Him: "Oh, so we don't need condoms then, right?! You definitely can't get pregnant?" Me: "Nope, but I can give you HIV. You want HIV? It usually comes with bonus Chlamydia!" Pregnancy is…
/r/seduction04/12/19 12:52 AM
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Every girl I approach wearing headphones at least removes them to let me know they are not interested. "Every girl I approach wearing headphones begrudgingly removes them just in case I'm the kind of guy who gets violent if he thinks you're 'rude.'" tftfy
/r/seduction12/11/19 02:51 AM
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You are in a mosh pit?
/r/seduction30/10/19 09:01 PM
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Second date is the mini-golf date. At least, I believe that is the law in Florida.
/r/seduction26/10/19 01:45 AM
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I agree, some women there have taken things to crazy extremes. I read some suggestion posts and think, "if I had done that, I'd definitely not be with my amazing husband right now." But, I do enjoy reading it as a fascinating look at human behavioral interaction. I'm a biologist, and looking at this sub compared to that one, I can almost see the evolution of a predator/prey dynamic. This sub: "How to F-close on a date." That sub: "Make him wait 3 months to have sex to see if he really cares or j…
/r/seduction24/10/19 02:24 PM
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Game, set, and match.
/r/seduction24/10/19 09:20 AM
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Disagree. Walking away during an unnatural point in the conversation is, at minimum, disconcerting to the other party. Many women are apprehensive about any random guy trying to talk to us, because we always worry in the back of our minds, "will this guy keep pushing, make a scene, or worse, even try to physically hurt me for rejecting him?" There are social norms expected in polite conversation. When those norms get broken, it puts people on edge. So, what do you get from women? We put in our h…
/r/seduction23/10/19 11:26 PM
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If you start a conversation and feel you want to end it for any reason, all you need to do is smile and say one simple statement: "Anyway, I hope my chatting with you wasn't too much of a bother. Enjoy the rest of your day." Cold approaching anyone is always a little off-putting to that person. In my personal opinion, politely acknowledging that fact doesn't make you look weak or dumb. It shows empathy, something good people have and exhibit. Additionally, giving a genuine smile and saying (genu…
/r/seduction23/10/19 11:14 PM
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Yes. We don't want to be talked to, but we also want to be aware of our surroundings. It's a safety thing.
/r/seduction23/10/19 11:00 PM
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"Asides from the Chinese thing." Oh man, classic r/niceguys Edit: typo
/r/seduction23/10/19 10:48 PM
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Telling you that what you are trying to do is a bad thing and makes you a bad person makes sense.
/r/seduction23/10/19 09:47 PM
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There you go talking about women as numbers. Typical man.
/r/seduction23/10/19 10:22 AM
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I'm afraid you are not being the objective one. 1. Being married means that at one point I was single. I, too, spent some amount of years deciding who (if anyone) I wanted to be with for the foreseeable future. 2. I'm not siding with "a woman." I'm siding with a human being who is engaged in some form of relationship with another person whose expressed goal is to emotionally abuse them in order to destroy their self-esteem so they won't leave them. Objectively speaking, you are exhibiting extrem…
/r/seduction22/10/19 04:50 PM
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I have plenty of value, dude. There is no need to put your insecurities on me. I'm not perfect, but I'm perfect for my husband. I didn't have to lie about anything. There's nothing he doesn't know. And there was certainly no amount of him telling me I'm beautiful that ever made me think I was too good for him.
/r/seduction22/10/19 03:43 AM
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I'm sure it's very important to your ego to keep her attracted. Nothing is going to feel as good as manipulating someone into having sex with you, right? Pretending to be someone of value is better than being someone of value, I'm sure.
/r/seduction22/10/19 01:29 AM
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That's very mean and very unethical. Hopefully, she would have enough self-esteem to be pissed at you, but if she does already have a complex about it, you'll only make it worse. You would rather tear someone down just to pretend you have value to them instead of giving them real value? Not cool.
/r/seduction22/10/19 12:21 AM
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So, you are friends with no male students who have girlfriends? None at all. You blanket said every guy is school with a girlfriend is a bad person and not derserving of the affection you claim to be getting yourself from your own girlfriend. Every single guy is outright horrible and has no value to anyone, especially a woman. These don't sound like the thoughts of someone who is a genuinely good person content with their own life. These sound like the petty thoughts of someone who only gives va…
/r/seduction19/10/19 08:02 PM
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You should check out r/niceguys.
/r/seduction19/10/19 10:16 AM
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That just comes off as passive-aggresive. I don't know what "technique" you are referring to, but if a guy said that to me, that would definitely be the end of my interacting with him.
/r/seduction18/10/19 01:30 PM
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If you want to end up on r/niceguys.
/r/seduction17/10/19 11:30 PM
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Jesus, these comments. Ugh. Nothing is gonna turn a girl off more than attempted coerced sexual acts. If the goal is to spend more time with her, make it be part of an activity you have to do together. When I was getting to know my husband, we used to dare each other to sing particular songs at karaoke each week. It was a fun way to be ridiculous and gave us a chance to hang out and get to know each other.
/r/seduction14/10/19 09:06 AM
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Touching people's waists is absolutely sexual and inappropriate without permission. I don't know any man besides my significant other that would ever touch my waist without expressed consent.
/r/seduction11/10/19 11:32 AM
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It's not my place to say. I'm not a citizen of the UK.
/r/seduction10/10/19 10:09 PM
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Good. I'm glad the UK is taking unwanted touching (aka assault) seriously. I wish the US would get on board with this. Don't want to get a speeding ticket, don't speed. Don't want to get arrested for assault, don't touch people without their permission. It's pretty easy. Sorry of your "game" isn't good enough that you think you can't attract a woman without pawing at her.
/r/seduction10/10/19 03:26 PM
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Back in the day, women couldn't own property or vote. Preaching to women about "quainter times" isn't gonna win you this argument. Keep your hands to yourselves, kids.
/r/seduction10/10/19 03:22 PM
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He blocked a girl's path, and only said the word "stop," the reached out and touched her. He did this twice. That would also scare the hell out of me. That girl was within her rights to report such behavior.
/r/seduction10/10/19 12:22 PM
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Yes it does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/19 04:32 AM
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Google voice numbers are very useful for this reason. You can cancel them immediately and get another one if someone tries this. I did get one guy once who got all bent out of shape when he realized I had given him a google voice number and not my "real number." As far as I'm concerned, that's a red flag I'm happy for a guy to wave early on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/19 01:25 AM
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Are you suggesting someone pursue someone who is actually in a committed relationship by manipulating them into think you aren't trying to do so?
/r/seduction02/10/19 12:03 AM
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He was arrested for acting in a threatening manner. Cornering girls alone in Ally's, following them and harassing them as they try to walk away, and one woman testified that he grabbed her by the back and face and tried to kiss her. That is assault.
/r/seduction28/09/19 04:44 AM
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If you think that is too curt, I think maybe something like smiling and saying, "fair enough. I hope I didn't disturb you, and maybe you feel a bit flattered. I hope you enjoy the rest of your day." You can end the conversation there. It shows you 1) understand that talking to a stranger is a bit off-putting to anyone, 2) you do hope she takes it as a compliment, and 3) harbor no hard feelings towards her because she isn't interested. If more men who I turned down acted like that, I would be muc…
/r/seduction28/09/19 04:37 AM
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Because sometimes you enjoy the company of someone when you aren't sexually attracted to them. I think people called them "friends."
/r/seduction25/09/19 08:16 PM
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I disagree. Perhaps someone will read my interpretation of the situation and realize that treating a female co-worker that way can be construed as sexual harassment in a work environment.
/r/seduction24/09/19 08:13 PM
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Well, as many women who find this sub realize, a lot of men here are encouraging other people to engage in activities that are, at best, harassment. In this case, I spotted a post indicating that the person thought it was a good idea to treat a female coworker in a way that is inappropriate. Maybe that guy (and others who read this) didn't realize this, so I told him. Why are you so upset that someone is trying to help people parse out what is and is not appropriate behavior in the workplace?
/r/seduction24/09/19 04:07 PM
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Human resources and the U.S. government when I file a lawsuit against the company. That's who.
/r/seduction24/09/19 11:33 AM
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I would argue "blocker" is a common colloquial term for someone who is getting in the way of two people hooking up. "C**k blocker," in essence.
/r/seduction21/09/19 11:49 PM
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Short for Human Resources. Most large companies have a department that handles employee complaints against other employees. In this case, I'm referencing a sexual harassment complaint. You should never comment on another employee's romantic life.
/r/seduction21/09/19 10:31 PM
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He's not a random guy, he's in her class. As a person who teaches undergrad classes, we suggest that if people are comfortable with exchanging contact info with a classmate to do so in case they need something. Seems to me she is comfortable enough to give a classmate her number, possibly be friends, but made it clear she has a boyfriend as is not interested. It's the same thing I would do in her position.
/r/seduction19/09/19 12:19 AM
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Nothing says, "this guy really cared about me" like asking if he can still at least have sex with you after you break up. Girls do not want to downgrade to FWB after a break up. It's insulting. A girl who breaks up with you definitely has no interest in that. I doubt a woman would have stayed with you as long as 3 months if the sex was particularly bad. So, perhaps take some time to personally reflect on your own personality and actions as a person to determine how you are turning these women of…
/r/seduction17/09/19 12:55 AM
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I'm not gonna lie to you. It's possible she didn't enjoy the sex. My friends and I have a joke, "women don't have one night stands, we have failed auditions." If a guy can offer us what we are looking for in bed, we at least consider keeping him as a FWB. I have definitely had a few failed auditions in my past. I usually found a nice excuse never to do it again.
/r/seduction15/09/19 10:02 PM
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It's instinctual to look away. I think if a woman were interested, she'd instinctually look back to get another look. Assume that not looking back up is an indication of disinterest.
/r/seduction15/09/19 09:39 PM
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That is an excellent question. I have been thinking about it for like 10 minutes. The answer to that is, I just can't see that happening. It literally has never happened in my entire life. I have never seen a man so appealing I decided to send him some signal to talk to me while walking. I generally walk alone to get somewhere, and I'm uncomfortable with the idea of being stopped on my current trajectory so even the most amazing looking of men can talk to me. But, in the off chance some woman wo…
/r/seduction15/09/19 07:58 PM
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Do unto other's as you would have them do unto you. You are right to feel bad about that. You would not like to have feelings for someone and have them use you for a selfish reason. You should be honest with her, and move on to a girl who either A) you do want to be with in a relationship, or B) you are willing to make clear to that sex is what you want out of the relationship and not to expect more than that.
/r/seduction13/09/19 06:15 PM
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"If the game is done right, the woman shouldn't know she is being gamed." That's the difference between politely chatting with someone (a genuine interaction) and being manipulative. Also, we can tell the difference between someone hitting on us vs someone who is just chatting with you to pass the time standing in line or something. I used to like to be that person. But, once most those interactions turned into a man becoming flirty, I stopped being that person. I wear headphones and play a game…
/r/seduction12/09/19 11:14 PM
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I mean, I get there is some pay off for now, but I think you underestimate how much this strategy turns off every other woman who sees it happening regularly. I found this forum to ask a question a while back about 2 weirdly similar cold approaches in a short amount of time. I've come to the conclusion there must be some kind of "group" operating on the campus where I work. The more you people do this, the more it's going to turn off all women who hear about it. You are practicing manipulation t…
/r/seduction12/09/19 09:42 PM
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Right, that's the weirdest part for me. Every time a guy "cold approaches" me my first thought is "how many women do you do this to?" This is not how I have ever met any of my significant others. There is no amount of "hot" that has ever made me interested in giving someone my number within 5 minutes of meeting them. Do these guys think most women think like this? I've seen the questions on this forum. These guys talk about girls as numbers, "I was talking to this 9." You think I'm number rankin…
/r/seduction12/09/19 06:06 PM
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I'm going to say kudos to those women for not being too intimidated to keep looking where they are going than trying to avoid contact. If she doesn't look directly at you and hold eye contact for a solid second and give you a genuine smile, she is not interested. Most women do not want to be "cold approached" by men when alone and walking. It's aggressive and puts us in guard. Look at some of the posts on here. Guys will say they approach 100 women and maybe 1 will give them a phone number. I'm …
/r/seduction11/09/19 11:59 PM
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Better answer. You are right. That's the key. Accidental eye contact happens, looking away immediately is the reflex response. Looking back at them again is a conscious choice.
/r/seduction11/09/19 11:51 PM
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Never. I've never appreciated being approached by random men trying to get to know me. It feels agressive. I suppose I feel more comfortable when I'm with friends and feel safer and not cornered. I met my husband at a weekly group event with friends and we were friends for almost a year before we began dating. I'm not saying their aren't girls who are open to meeting guys by chance in the street. I am saying that the girls wearing headphones, on their phone, and/or avoidind eye contact almost ce…
/r/seduction11/09/19 11:47 PM
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Exactly. It's an indicator to anyone I don't want to interact with them. Walking while looking at your phone accomplishes the same goal. You can glance up to see where you are going but it gives you a reason to not accidentally make eye contact with someone. I work on a college campus, and I walk around with my headphones in my ears and playing pokemon go. Half the time I'm not even listening to music.
/r/seduction11/09/19 10:59 PM
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As a woman, the reason behind 99% of women making eye contact and looking away is "I was looking at something else, accidentally made eye contact, and I'm now looking away in hopes this person doesn't think I'm interested." When walking, we look down for the same reason. We look up for a bit to see where we are going, see someone coming (almost always a man), then look down so we don't make eye contact so that they don't think we want to talk to them. Then we look up again. I'm telling you this …
/r/seduction11/09/19 10:02 PM
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I do not care if I sound like a woman. Why does this matter? Do women's opinion and thoughts not matter to you? You've pull that twice on this thread. I can only imagine you give off this energy at your place of work as well. And, if a man said to me, "I'm not a blocker" in the context of me talking to another male co-worker, that is absolutely a subtle sexual statement. I'm not saying she's upset. I'm saying I would be upset. Other women might be upset in a professional environment. You should …
/r/seduction08/09/19 02:20 PM
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You were walking with a coworker. This co-worker stopped to talk to another co-worker. You kept going without a word. Upon asking why you did this by the co-worker, you indicated to the co-workers that you didn't want to get in the way of possible sex... Where I come from that is an HR violation.
/r/seduction08/09/19 09:43 AM
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As a woman, I cannot truly imagine a scenario where I can ignore a man who has waved his hand in my face to get my attention while I'm sitting on a bench with headphones in while looking at my phone. Even if I know for SURE this person's intention is to hit on me and I would love nothing more than to pretend he's not standing there, I know I have to deescalate the situation as politely as possible because sometimes when you reject men they physically attack you. I have to take off my headphones,…
/r/seduction03/09/19 01:24 AM
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Indeed, it's not just to fend off men. I work on a college campus. It makes it so people handing out fliers and stuff don't try to hand them to me. It is truly a signal of "do not want to interact with anyone" moreso than just "don't hit on me, boys."
/r/seduction01/09/19 08:57 PM
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No one should do this. I'm telling everyone right now. Women wearing headphones do not want to talk to men. We understand that it sends a "not open to be flirted with" signal. I don't have to listen to music when I walk around because I'm afraid to be alone with my own thoughts. I do it so I don't have to make small talk with people at all.
/r/seduction01/09/19 08:54 PM
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My mood is generally pretty good until some guy asks me to take my head phones out to ask for my phone be number. As a woman who is trying not to get stabbed for rejecting someone, I usually mumble "no, thank you" and put my headphones back in. But, frankly, I want to speak up and say, "no, and I think it's rude to interrupt someone listening to something. Clearly, I'm not trying to interact with other people right now."
/r/seduction01/09/19 03:27 AM
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The only thing you can catch from kissing is mono and cold sores. I'm going to make a suggestion that is going to sound mean, but comes from a truly good place in my heart and a concern for your well-being. I do not know if you are very young, inexperienced, come from a religious family, some combo of all of those... But, I do not suggest you engage in any sexual contact with women until you study up on STI prevention and contraception. Go to Planned Parenthood, speak with a doctor. You owe it t…
/r/seduction24/08/19 04:22 AM
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Dude. Wear a condom. Always.
/r/seduction24/08/19 03:07 AM
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Maybe you misunderstood me. Tipsy and or drunk is my way of telling people I'm not thinking straight or my motor skills are impaired. Frankly, if I tell a guy this, it's usually my lead into why I'm definitely NOT interested in in doing any activity he might be suggesting. It's a soft let down. I don't want to be mean; I want you to go away. I know many women like this. Again, I'm also a woman. Choosing to ignore what a woman is literally telling you is step 1 to a sexual assault charge.
/r/seduction21/08/19 12:29 PM
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That is a saying that means "not feeling well/feeling yourself."
/r/seduction21/08/19 12:08 AM
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I'm a woman. False. Utterly false. If a guy tries to make a move when I've indicated I'm not on the up and up, I'm mad. That's rapey.
/r/seduction20/08/19 11:29 PM
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