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If i were single and genie offered this, i'd say no. If evil reddit fairy would curse me and my husband with this hypothetical, I'd stay.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/26 05:44 PM
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Huh, one could even argue that the more standards checklists and expectations you ditch for someone, the more likely it is you are seriously head over heels obsessed with them. ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 08:49 PM
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Yeah, the women interested in partying and hooking up. There is also the 'find a wife' option, but apparently that's beta and boring, so idk what do you want? A woman who has roughly a new partner once in a decade, but that just happens to be a no strings attached sex with you? How likely is that?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/25 03:02 PM
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28 & 35? Is this a bait? I think majority or at least a substantial portion of 28 year old women would be fine with a 35 year old dude. This is considered an age gap?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 05:38 AM
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I think it's quite normal that I don't want to be divorced for any reason? I married my husband, I love him, I hope we grow superduperold together, of course I'd be heartbroken and probably also angry af if he divorced me. I also don't want to be abandoned by my parents, siblings and pets.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 03:00 PM
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I had a friend like that Then he came out gay
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/25 07:32 AM
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Can I just get all the gifts and make all the decisions?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/25 12:57 PM
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Yeah, I agree, it's usually an ok-time to have a kid if you are already married and ready to do so. Even women who used to have lots of kids have done it by having them well into their 30s and sometimes beyond. Each time you see a queen/noblewomen page on wiki that had 8+ children, look up the time of birth of the last kid. Good chance its something round 38-42. So yeah, women don't magically become interfile old hags once they are 30. However it's not a great age to be if you are single, want k…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 12:19 PM
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I would be ok with it as an opt-out before intercourse. You sign a legal paper you will not be responsible for any children resulting from sex with Ms. X, she signs that she's aware of it, then you can both go casual sex as much as you'd like!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 03:53 PM
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No, I recovered :D I think part of the phenomenon of gay stuff for teenage girls is that is hits a developmental period when you start to get A LOT of naughty thoughts and feels, but are nowhere emotionally ready to even visualize yourself doing it with a boy. Ok, let's bring back the trauma, lol: Assholes self lubricating when horny Sperm getting out of the penis in a long, continuous way instead of ejaculation. Like you get a 2 page description of an intercourse, and halfway through the guy st…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 08:54 AM
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Just a boring het lady who read too much gay Harry Potter erotica in high-school 🙃🙃🙃 You've got every right to be amused, it was pretty hilarious at times. There was one community forum with a pinned post explaining basics of how asses and dicks work, sexual education style. It was a pinned post because most of the contributors were virgin girls who were knew nothing about it and wrote most ridiculous stuff in their stories concerning male biology. 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 08:37 AM
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Yeah. Not exclusively now, but when I was adolescent it was basically 100% yaoi, het is eww for me
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/25 08:22 AM
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I think pretty often? Depends on definition. Like many responses here, I'm in the 'sexy situations/fantasies/vibes' camp. It is often a fantasy of something/someone, so there is an object I guess, but should i desire them? Or just desire the situation to happen in some general sense? Like if my fantasy is 2 guys (not real people, just hornybrain made up guys) making out and fucking, and I don't want to fuck them, them to fuck me, or anything like that, I just feel it's hot and sexy that they do.…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 07:26 PM
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I don't have any hate for age gaps, but that's asking for trouble and heartbreak. My husband is 11 years older than me, and that is already making me stressed about the future. 20+ years of probable widowhood sounds miserable. Anyway, in early 20s it would be a disaster for me to marry&have children. If the choice was I either have to do it then or never, well, I guess it's spinster time for me
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 06:10 PM
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Debate if reasonable, tease if not, generally it wouldn't be a big deal unless it's extreme or impacts his everyday interactions. You know, like the newly vegan that can't shut up about being vegan. If he was a friend especially, idgf unless it becomes his all personality. If it looked like a cry for help id try to help, if it was once in a while debate in a pub I'd entertain it, if it looked like just being obnoxious I'd just sush it and remind all the time that it's supposed to be like fight c…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 10:13 PM
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I view it as the same sentiment as women wanting a man to be 'their rock'. Yeah, you can read it in bad faith and argue that it means they want them not to have any emotions and coddle her all the time. But in general, people want other people in their life to solve more problems than they create. And yeah, of course, life happens, noone is a a saint, your spouse can't fulfill 100% of your social and emotional needs yada yada yada But a general desire to have someone who is your safe place, your…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/24 07:18 PM
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I think point 2 nails it. That makes it very location dependent. A conservative women in some trad-fantasy bible belt town might be a sweet gentle rose. A conservative women in a big, liberal city is probably someone who doesn't give a fuck about offending people and giggles internally when the gasp in horror at her opinions. Higher chances she'a an opinionated bitch if she didn't give into peer pressure. And conservative men usually have some opinions about femininity that don't make dating Ayn…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 11:34 AM
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I don't think so, at least with the cheating revenge fantasies. However what I think happens is that a lot of men, maybe more in conservative men, as they tend to like the gender roles more, like normie women. Women who are like most women (but maybe a bit prettier ;) ) Agreeable, a bit conformist, with typical girly interests, going with the flow, etc. And in lots of places that skew more liberal, those are liberal women. In an environment where 90% people are liberal and conservatism is seen a…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 11:29 AM
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I live in Europe and it's mostly fine. I read stories about US and it seems a bit to puritan for me, but I don't know if it's a representation of reality or just the algorithm feeding on drama. The level of nip freedom I like: - Breastfeeding is not a big deal. Like yeah, maybe don't take whole t-shirt off, but i don't want moral panic around the fact that babies eat - Bras are optional in the summer :D The shirts are not, just like for men in public. - a variety of places (don't have to be all)…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 10:59 AM
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What was the context of the claim? At face value it is ridiculous, harmful and terrible communication. However... :D I've read enough braindead defence of selfish, disrespectful behaviour being defended as "not reading mind" I could see getting to a point where I'd just say yeah, fuck it, figure it out Like 'if you didn't want me to call you a stupid bitch just state your boundaries, I didn't know it hurt you", "I thought hookers don't count as cheating", "clean up after I threw up on the floor …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 06:21 PM
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Wtf is "it all"? If it is like a executive level position, multiple mansions and great family life, then yeah, but most men can't either. Welcome to capitalism. We can't be all 1%. But a job/career that makes you self sufficient alongside a family? Lots of people do it. You propose it in a weird sequential manner, like first get to 100% financial goals, then start dating at 40. It would be as absurd as to suggest a man cannot be both rich and in good shape, because by the time you reached your m…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 07:05 PM
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I don't think they suck in general. I'm a woman, lol. But this trait /tendency sucks, both for them and people around them. When you are super nonconfrontational you end up taking a lot of shit from others. But it also makes you more insincere, not a saint. What I jokingly pointed out, is that it's probably testosterone related, and being more aggressive has also an ugly side on a populational level. So on one hand it sucks that girls drink salty lemonade with a smile. But it probably also is th…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 09:12 PM
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Can't see the video because not in US, but from what you described girls suck for that one. It's sad and I hope they are raised in a way that will make them unlearn this shit. On the other hand this tendency probably makes them less likely to kill someone who pisses them off, but whetevs
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 09:02 PM
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Because the children were sick? That happens a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 09:42 PM
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Swastika face tattoo
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 01:48 PM
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Why drop the education? People date, marry, hell even have kids if this is something you want to do early while studying. I think it is easier to meet someone when you still have quite big mixed gender peer group, plenty of people i know who are married now met at uni
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/24 09:02 AM
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No, having hobbies that are more men dominated if you really enjoy them for their own sake is an incredible boost to attracting men. I don't recommend faking it, but it's like a guy who is a great dancer. Abundance of opposite sex attraction. I'm into shooting and fencing, and if I could give away guy prospects I wouldn't have any single friends, lol. Stop dating guys from whatever podcast.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/24 09:12 PM
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Adam, then Paul (Paul would win if not for the autism. I kinda don't see it with "Easy going and doesn't get irritated easily". If it is magical autism that does not come with tantrums and meltdowns, then he wins). Josh, Jake < the bear
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 08:15 PM
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Considering the fact that brain governs body parts and is subject to hormones, and there are parts that as a sexed species we have only in one gender or the other, it is not surprising to me that there are distinct male and female brain patterns.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/24 08:08 PM
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Well, yeah. It is true for most normie girls. Girls that go to college, have friends, parents who support them, a cat with a silly name. They operate in this modern paradigm and want a boyfriend to hang out with. But there are also poor girls, foster home girls, dabbled-in-prostitution girls. And because their basic needs are not met, the stability could be worth it for them both emotionally and in a pragmatic way.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 04:48 PM
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Well, that's complicated. I'd rather not have 3+ kids and be the main caregiver forever, if that would be what he wants, that would be just incompatible lifestyles. I would not mock him for that, but doubt we could make it work. If it's more of a normie 'let mum stay a few years more with the kiddo or two' situation, well, let's talk and see if we can make it work. Do we live in a low cost living area? Will one salary be enough? What expenses can we cut without being miserable? Will he not get o…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 06:38 AM
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That depends on the situation and the legislation (aka default prenup) of the place I live. I am married and where I live the pre-marital assets stay with the original owner and it's not easy to co-mingle them unless they are cash put into joint bank account (so one spouses' house generally stays theirs even if they lived there together, even if their value is higher now, and even if they did some renovations etc, in extreme cases the other spouse might be awarded a portion of the invested money…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 08:18 PM
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I've picked splendidly :) One way to do it, is just pick from the group of men who is already showing interest. And give various openings for them to show interest. Yeah, the pool is smaller, but it's imo better if the biggest funnel drop off is at the first (or even 0) step.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 06:24 AM
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Men are less picky for whatever reason. If you have a group of 100 women, a given man would maybe say 'ok' to a date or fling if 60 of them approached him. He would approach maybe 10 of them on his own. It is in women's best interest to be in the 10/100 group and not 60/100. And the most sure way to know is to see if he approaches. I have not heard about men complaining that a lot of women are open to fucking them casually, but only 5% of them wants to commit afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 06:17 PM
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Yeah. If someone is non-confrontative and conformist, it has an ugly flip side of more social shaming, scheming and backstabbing game. A testosterone driven response to conflict is more straightforward, but more likely to result in violence. And the ugly side of not being cocky assertive and competitive is being filled with self doubt, neurosis and other drama.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 06:11 PM
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It's not rejection that is scary, it's a 'meh, will do' acceptance and staying with you till something better comes along.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 05:27 PM
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Well, do you want a hourglass figure, full lips, delicate frame and caring personality without neuroticism, petty scheming, hypergamy and painful indecisiveness?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/24 05:25 PM
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Kill a bear with bare hands ;)))) But yeah, this. Be impressive at something.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 02:21 PM
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Also the time & economic cost of children go up in wealthy countries, even if you have a lot of government support. You cannot leave them unsupervised until they are like 10, you have to provide them leisure, sport, etc. You can't even put them in a car without a car seat, lol. While in some Shitholestan if the child is old enough to walk, they can run around the house and village, probably with a bunch of other kids. Sometimes one will get kicked by a cow and die, well, such is life, god gives …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 12:35 PM
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Oh, the reasons are financial, but you are looking at it the wrong way. The wealthier the country, less reason to have children. They will not provide help in the household, will not help gather crops, you can't send them to work, so they are basically useless. And also there are better ways than children (savings, retirement) not to starve when you are old.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 12:30 PM
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It's not okay to want a vagina, if you don't have one.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 09:17 PM
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Why irrationality? At the end of the day, you don't fully control what causes you positive vs negative/meh feelings, and it IS rational to optimize for the positive ones. Let's say you are quite opinionated beer connoisseur. You have your strong preferences for the sourness, bitterness and whatever the hell there is to beer. You get a bottle that matches all the ticks - but still, is surprisingly unremarkable. It is quite puzzling, and maybe one day you will learn what parameters are missing tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 01:09 PM
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I don't think it proves what you think it proves. Passion, love, desire is fickle and weaning. It is quite hard to keep in the long run. Hard to keep it with children in the picture. A lot of couples fail. If the marriage was based on passionate love, unfortunately it is quite likely the divorce rates will be higher. On the other hand, social status, money, compatible religious views are more constant. If you married someone just because you view them as a convenient way to get the lifestyle you…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 09:22 AM
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I have heard similar testimonials from 2 different fathers, and I know them well enough and saw that they took good care of the kid. Still, all claimed it was quite easy (apart from the sleepless nights, which were quite brutal, but again, survivable). And I don't think they are lying. Funny, I don't think the mums are lying too, i believe they are exhausted and close to a mental breakdown. And I've seen women take care of a baby/toddler they are not bio mum (daughter dumping a 2mo on her mum an…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/24 09:12 AM
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Can i get the bear?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 11:34 AM
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8 episode of thriller crime tv series where a troubled, broody protagonist brilliantly follows leads but messes up his personal life, but is always helped by his snarky partner detective. The plot is also pretty good. And then whole episode nine is just the two of them fucking for 50 minutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 08:23 PM
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Pearl Davis, a woman mentioned in the opening post as one of the pickmes. She's a youtuber, hosts some shows/podcasts and generally tries to be an influencer in the manosphere. Parrots more aggressive redpill claims, like that women should not vote, and criticizes 'modern women' for promiscuity, lack of domestic skills and high standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 06:34 PM
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Pearl is the imaginary cool low-cost girlfriend for her sad boys audience. If she had a boyfriend they would get jealous. She's probably fucking someone on the down-low and doesn't believe much of the shit she says, but having someone publicly could hurt what she can milk of her brand.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 06:05 PM
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'Softer' crafts like sewing, embroidery, some leatherwork. It's super normal in my social bubble, I know a few professional tailors, I almost forget it is seen as nonstandard if I answer 'Thanks, my husband made it' after someone compliments my dress. But I value competence, skill and there is something really captivating in watching a man with handsome hands do some very time consuming, detailed work in complete focus.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 09:21 PM
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You could also ask 'What do you think of handsome, but troubled billionaires falling for mousy women, who open up to love and commitment for her'? Not much. They don't exist. It's a fantasy, this is a male fantasy about an extraordinary, quirky, bubbly girl falling for a nondistinctive, quite dull boy with little passion for life, who helps him reignite that passion. I don't think is misogynistic trope. In a way, yeah, I mean every wish-fullfilment self-insert fantasies are self-centered so they…
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/24 08:18 PM
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But there is a feedback loop going on there. Your reasoning is quite right, there are probably underlying reasons why this guy is popular & well liked. But women also semi-consciously follow this (quite valid) reasoning, and are more interested / willing to give a chance to the popular guy in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 07:09 PM
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Illicit romances, unfortunately. Your married boss, the bodyguard at the harem you are at, your best friend's husband. When a woman is compromising her morals and facing big personal risks to fuck a guy, you can be quite sure the lust mode has taken over the brain. With ONS in a ONS-designated spaces (like bars, college parties, tinder hookups) - it's more of 'i want some sex, oh, this guy will do'.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/24 08:48 AM
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I'd agree, not in a 'this is a fine and morally ok thing to do' way but in 'seriously... what did you expect to happen'?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 11:37 AM
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Even less pressure to settle down and start a family. Some women doing it on their own, barely any man. Couples would form in their 40-50ties now to start to have a baby via artificial womb. The 'dating for fun' period would extend to about 45-50, that's when women would decide they are emotionally and financially ready for a baby.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/24 12:29 PM
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Umm yep, probably. I don't think that a woman dating a guy with 3 baby mommas, a prison sentence and a face tattoo spends a lot of time carefully weighting the pros and cons of such decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 06:55 PM
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What logic makes men set their farts on fire?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 06:16 PM
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The rumour has it that the gen Z younglings don't do that stuff anymore because they are scared of people. No wonder they are having less sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/24 06:59 PM
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I'm actively non-attracted to ambition. I mean, maaaybe if it is something very passion driven and niche, science-related, I could respect that, but probably would not be lifestyle compatible. But the mainstream 'ambitious corporate pencil pusher' thingy is super off-putting, especially if they buy into this moronic idea that it's about something more than money (bonus-stupid points if it makes them accept less money for progress/development/ambitious projects). I would fear to reproduce such du…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 05:56 PM
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I'm not sure I follow. What do women want?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 01:01 PM
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It postpones the problem for 2-3 generations. Either those immigrants assimilate like you, and eventually stop beating kids and decide they have to save up for their university, which will make them drop below replacement level, or they take over and we become Shithole-Country-Stan when once again it's acceptable that you keep 4 kids in one room and they just run around playing with dirt and sticks.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 12:59 PM
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Yeah, "if" you had one. How many did your parents/uncles have? How much rooms they needed to have in a flat to decide it's 'enough' for 3 children? The better standards are an obvious improvement from humanitarian perspective, but damn they do make fertility rates drop.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 12:54 PM
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I'm sorry. Yes, none of those things were good by our current standards. And I rather like those standards too. But they make having kids a way worse deal, from cost-benefit perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 12:48 PM
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It's a benefit, of course, but I seriously doubt the "obviously the main" part. I'm glad we treat kids better now, but there is a hierarchy of needs. And as it shifts form 'very helpful in running a household and surviving' to 'a lovely, self-actualization thingy to share love and mature as a person' - no wonder we have now 1 or 2 in our 30ties, instead of 6 right after (much earlier) marriage. My grandfather had 10 siblings, 7 survived childhood, on their farm. They were probably kinda loved in…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 12:03 PM
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And if they misbehave, instead of utilizing the belt, you have to pay 200$/h for therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 11:47 AM
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Children are more expensive because our standards of acceptable treatment of a child are higher. The expensive costs are holidays, doctors appointments, baby food, extracurriculars, private schooling. Same with pets being more expensive - you could have a dog 50 years ago and just feed it table scraps, keep outside and mercifully shoot in the head once it grows a tumor or something. Now there are vet bills, regular check-ins, toys, grooming, and high-meat food.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 11:40 AM
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Children are now useless - they don't give you a better chance of not going hungry at old age, they won't take over your farm or business usually, you cannot get them to work the field starting 7-10 year old. Not only their utility diminished, but they are more time and money consuming. They no longer can walk home from school when they are 7. You have to entertain them, and not just let them run around with a bunch of neighborhood kids. If your 10 year old cooks and takes care of a 4 year old, …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 11:36 AM
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Awww, let's pretend it's 2010's rp forums again: It is seen as low status in female social matrix to date older without any additional benefit. Women shame other women who are not conforming to the norm, as they are selling themselves cheap. So the best bet is women who are somehow not taking part in intrafemale competition - the girls with no friends, outcasts because they are way poorer than the rest of their group, much uglier, or brought up differently (like a kid of drug addicts that had to…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 11:18 PM
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Hobby groups. Philosphy, fencing, hema, fantasy/scifi. I've been in two relationships in my life, now married. Both times once we got into relationships we were 'those friends who are clearly so very very much in love', so commitment was no issue, it was serious from the start. During the time I was with my ex a few other men were expressing serious interest in me (once to a point of breaking a friends group unfortunately), but I didn't entertain it, as I was in a relationship. I'm so glad I had…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/24 10:05 PM
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Some people consider serial killers super cool. Even 'normal' people do it in a diluted, safe-for-work, sane, guilty-pleasure-way in pop culture, where serial killers are fascinating enigmas. Some women consider cool people sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 01:58 PM
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Doing stuff with another woman you would not be comfortable doing with your mum ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:39 PM
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I don't think 'we are' gloryfing anything. I think people make videos for views, and the stupider the video the more views and comments it gets. I can't stand the infantile female vids like that too. Omg, I woke up. Omg I made bed. Omg I put fruit into blender. And here I am ranting about this stupid shit, so I guess it works
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 08:52 PM
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I don't think little breaks are needed, could be years at a time. It just means you date 1 person at a time, and more than 1 in your lifetime
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/24 08:46 PM
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Plottwist: You meet someone super compatible. This superpower lets you have a peek 50 years into the future, when you are by your lovers deathbed witnessing their passing. It lets you experience it raw, not like in a movie, but like it happened right now. You are so traumatised you never enter any relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 10:35 PM
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There's also the thing that women love making lists and other navel-gazing activities. Sometimes the granularity of the aspects covered in the list is not even that related to whether the requirements are to harsh or not, and some of them are kinda 'preemptive disqualifiers' that would come up in the dating process and would lead to 'we were just not compatible' ending. I don't know what is the point of making those long lists, maybe it's pleasant to imagine the guy fitting them? Let's say my de…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 08:58 AM
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I think small age gaps with women being older (4-7 years let's say) are not that frequent because of women's reluctance to date younger, not the other way around. I don't think most 20 year old guys see 25 woman as 'too old'. Men are not that picky. Idk about bigger age gaps, 10+ years with older women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 02:02 PM
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In most countries in Europe you can get 1 year paid maternity leave. And most kids I know are mixed fed (breast milk and formula) so the dad can take his share of night shifts.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 08:38 AM
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Sad to hear :( I wouldn't push molly on you if we were dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 10:09 PM
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This got me really interested. What did you hate about molly? I've done it only once, but it was such a wholesome experience of general love and friendliness I can't imagine why it was something one would absolutely hate
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 08:53 PM
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Marriage is a way to make someone your legal family. My husband is my family, and it is nice we can have it recognized as such. The government cannot really 'stay out of our lives' if you want to have any rules regarding next of kin, inheritance, shared property, hell, in my country I couldn't even give anything over 2-3k $ to my husband without him have to pay about 20% of that in gift tax if we were not married.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/24 12:14 AM
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Sugar dating is brutal. If you want to go in, you have to have a gigantic SMV difference between you and the man that is sponsoring your life. That's what is balanced off by his paying you rent after all. You must be a girl that would make people 'wtf is she doing with him' without the money aspect. If you don't look like a girl someone would take to a yacht party to show off, that ship has sailed for normal-looking men with less than 10yo difference. You can go older, you still have to be hot, …
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/23 06:48 PM
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I agree, that's what I meant. This whole reading CVs and comparing them with cool head against the theoretical 100% perfection is hindering the process a lot and creating problems we didn't have before. :(
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 05:51 PM
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I think people meeting 300 strangers via OLD and not clicking with anyone is the abberation, not the norm. Most of people are heterosexual. You put 30 of those in a group setting where they meet often enough and soon you will have some of them pair off, feel lovesick for one another, all that jazz. Cynical people will say 'oh, what were the chances that your perfect soul mate just happened to attend the same highschool'? But from the inside of the hormonal brain it feels just like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 08:57 AM
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I think it would be okay if it was an written agreement with either a time clause or until revoken signed by both parties prior to the conception happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 06:33 AM
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I own an apartment. Nice that you like handy work, but that's more like lifestyle/hobby. Some people grow their own veggies and do a lot of pickles/jams, but for standard folk this stuff comes from the supermarket.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 02:36 PM
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Do you live on a farm? Most city-dwellers like me and almost everyone I know, have to face maybe one 'manly' task a year, like idk, putting an Ikea shelf together. And even then its done by the couple usually. The rest of the shit (renovations, repairs etc) gets outsourced. That would give you like, one dinner a year, provided you make dessert afterwards, if you want to keep it fair and balanced ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 02:18 PM
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If the relationship is shit anyway, then yeah, it is better to live with a friend. But then, if it is shit, it would still be shit if he paid 100%. I lived with 2 men in my life, my ex fiance and my husband now. And even if you take love out of equation, it's pretty sweet & comfortable to live with a man you like. That's 50% less taking the trash out. 50% less doing groceries. Half of the time someone else cleans the bathroom and half of the time a meal for dinner appears without your effort. An…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 09:20 PM
1

Fuck no he's family. It's like asking me if I'd trade my sister for a cooler sister.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 03:17 PM
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I have no problem with him paying. I have no problem with me paying. We're married now anyway, but pre-marriage it was the same. However, if he would want to look like he's paying when I'm treating him... Quite embarrassing and cringe. A bit of same insecure vibe like asking your SO to never wear high heels because you feel short. Neurotic and making an issue of a non-issue, which is not very masculine in the traditional sense. Tbh I would not be embarrassed to pay, but would be slightly embarra…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/23 06:52 PM
1

I guess there is a big element of feeling this is peak ungratful behaviour, after said women pushed your child through her vagina. Like if you gave your best buddy a kidney, and then they lose 5$ and freak out and accuse you of stealing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 08:20 PM
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Is it possible you overestimate the man's looks in a couple and see him as 'more attractive' because you find men more attractive in general? I had a lesbian friend and she commented every couple like 'what great girl, what is she doing with this absolutely mediocre guy?'. The guy could be a male model, she'd still see him as 'mid at best' and the girl as 'she could get so much more'.
/r/AllPillDebate20/10/23 05:14 PM
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Super important counter evidence: Watch how women play the Sims. Female sim? Let's spend three days perfecting the face, hairstyles, hairstyles for special occasions, makeup options. Let's check if there are any mods to add a slight glow to the lower lip. Spend 30 min deciding on the freckle position. Male sim? Ok, let's make him not fat and not bald. Yeah, that will do. ;)))
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 01:59 PM
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Yeah, and dwarfism is not a problem if you are Peter Dinklage. But most people aren't, so it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 07:13 AM
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I think dating 10 year old boys is illegal
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 02:21 PM
2

Oh dear, I really hoped that this would be a hypothetical scenario that makes some sense, but wtf??? I married someone and did not know he had multiple ex-wives? GTFO at once, is he a spy? A serial killer? Some other kind of psycho? Does he change identities often enough that it somehow didn't come up? I'd just leave when he wasn't home, serve papers, change numbers, probably move away. Scary af.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 09:39 AM
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Huh, I see some similarities. Men will write that nobody ever ever wants to marry a single mum, yet I see such couples all the time. Same as with age-gap relationship, it's not the majority, but it happens frequently enough, no reason to scream at reality for not conforming to your expectations. And when it does happen, they try to either picture it as a terribly bad deal for the man (same as with younger women with older partner, they will get exploited) or somehow devalue the man/young women (…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 01:29 PM
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Yeah, and I would be more accepting to this. If someone had threesomes only in casual, noncommited relationships, but doesn't want to do it with their wife, I get it. And if the threesome thing in the past wouldn't bother me, then I'd be fine with 'I had 3some but I don't want it now in my life with you', even if I were a little curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 08:26 PM
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Depends on what it is, I guess. I'd understand if it was something non-monogamy related with a serious partner. But this is heavily theoretical, as I don't want to try any threesomes and I'd rather my partner didn't have such colorful past. For the rest of the stuff, as I'm pretty vanilla, I think it would be an incompatibility regardless if they did it with previous partners or not (like a guy not performing oral, or idk).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 04:05 PM
1

B C D A. Do I magically meet a women that turns me on in C scenario if I'm quite straight now?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 03:54 PM
1

If you really like someone, you will eventually end up together. Don't give up. Even if they reject you first 15 times, make some grand romantic gestures that will make them see you are meant to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 07:50 AM
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A straight-up like can backfire badly if it's happens to be with someone you will find yourself building a serious relationship. At early stages, if you feel it puts you at disadvantage: feel free to downplay it, be vague, eg 'you are my first serious girl' - can mean both you are a hopless virgin, or that you had some casual experience only. If she wants to know exactly what and how any many times you did with what partner - well, that's not really discreet nor tactful, and you can point it out…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 09:13 AM
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Rich, attractive people in Hollywood divorce a lot. Before this thread I didn't know she was married. Looks like a breakup I guess? Some badmouthing, nothing too extreme, we'll never know the truth and I don't see a reason to care much
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 08:00 PM
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A because he's the only one who didn't post zodiac sign (it shows that the rest is either mentally challenged, or they don't mind stupid chicks). And C doesn't work out. B has a terrible first picture, looks a bit better in all the other ones. A > B > C, but they are all a 'maybe' - if I were single and in the sameish age range I'd be up to meeting and interacting in person with all 3 of them. They all seem slightly nerdy, so I guess we would have some conversation starting point, and from there…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 07:31 AM
1

So then how is it settling?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 10:23 PM
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I agree. And regardless if you believe in 'love' or whatever, I think it's a pretty widespread phenomenon - those pesky little thing called 'crushes'/'limerence'/'falling for someone'. Even if it's just a great hormonal drug cocktail obscuring your judgement, many people pair up in a state when they legit think their partner is the best thing since the sliced bread. If they continue to hold this belief a few years later, well, that's another story. But I don't think in the moment of forming a re…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 03:58 PM
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I was not looking for anyone with a checklist of expectations. I met a man and not being with him suddenly seemed like the worst thing in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 03:47 PM
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I think it boils down to this, and it also applies to men (even more so with the beta-bucks fears etc): If you provide enough acts of service that being with you you would be a pretty sweet deal even if the person that is with you doesn't particularly like you a lot, you run a risk of having an indifferent partner that stays out of convenience.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 01:47 PM
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Single primary caregivers suffer more, because of logistics and life expectations (moving in means living with a child fulltime, holidays are with kids mostly, etc). Women just tend to be primary caregivers if parents split in the majority of the cases. A weekend daddy may give some women the ick, or scare them off if the baby's mother is high conflict, but statistically he's just more free to enjoy dating
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 06:36 PM
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Its like telling a fat chick she has beautiful face/eyes. They complimented part of your appearance. The other part was apparently a dealbreaker for them l.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 04:26 PM
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I wanted my man to be family to me in social and legal sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 01:59 PM
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Single as in actively looking to date / speed dating scenario? Around 30 i guess would be interested in dating, based on the attention I get irl. Around 80 would be interested in a date if I was acting enthusiastic about them and made it look like sex was soon at the table
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 09:41 PM
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I would not buy property or have children with man I'm not married to.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/23 09:36 PM
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Nope, surely not if they were a fan of that solution. Maaaybe if it was a 'we thought it could somehow prolong the relationship that was past due anyway, it turned into a shitshow, don't recommend' onetime situation
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 05:41 AM
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Can you explain? What do you mean by men having more options? I understood the premise ' if all sexual violence, or even borderline behavior that's not technically illegal, or even legal-but-still-creepy behavior was inexplicably stopped, what would we do ' as no flip-out when rejected. In that scenario women would have less reservations to give more intimacy at their comfort level - so sleep in the same bed after binge watching TV series, cuddle etc without worrying that the guy will 'get the w…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:46 PM
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More behaviour that we're told from young age is not a great/safe idea, like drunk sleepovers without intention of having sex or going to newly met people's homes really to just watch netflix. More cuddling/non-sexual intimacy with people we don't want to have sex with (yet or ever).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 10:08 AM
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Yeah. And then said it again. And again. At least that's the impression i got from the texts, unless they were just one long breakup conversation. But it's not some master level evil, breakups are usually emotional and quite pathetic if one side cares more, and it looks to me like he really wanted it to work despite evidence. She's a douchebag for posting it online
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 03:28 PM
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Yeah, i agree. And while not super mature, this type of relationship drama is pretty common - one/both sides is fundamentally not ok with some part of relationship that the other does not want to change, and instead of leaving asap we have a prolonged agony and bickering and sad walls of text. Men do it, women do it, it sucks but people are not angels. Most breakups involve some sort of drama/conflict because people don't want to let go of hope and attachment they build. It's still not abuse exc…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 08:41 AM
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Ok, and she didn't meet those 'dealbreakers' but instead of leaving he kept whining and pestering her about it. Which is not evil or abusive maybe, but pretty pathetic and offputting. It was not a dealbreaker, it was begging her to change. Still shitty to make it public
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 05:48 AM
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I read some of the texts, not sure if I get the full picture. I don't consider him evil or abusive, but damn, it's pointless to announce your departure over and over again hoping for a different reaction. He comes of tiring and insufferable. Just leave. What he should have done better? Just tell her once without big drama something along:' I don't think it's working out for me with your lifestyle. You do X Y Z as if you were single, and I look for a partner who's A B C. It does not look like you…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 09:03 PM
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Yeah, it was a thing among early teens around 2000. I knew a girl who 'got' a boyfriend by having another girl ask some boy in her name, and never actually interacted with him other than saying hi on schiol corridor. But now she was cool cause she had a bf. I don't think adults do that
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 09:27 PM
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Halfsies unless he requests we live beyond my means. If I have a set budget for apartment expenses the way I lived before meeting him, I will not endanger my saving plans or go bancrupt because he wants to rent a penthouse. We can either live for 2x poorer persons budget and split equally, or go higher standard but then the richer pays the difference. I was never living on a budget that was close to poverty level, and never dated a richer man, so hypothetical.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 08:16 PM
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I don't know... I mean, any skill is nice to have and it could be cool to paint face nicely for New Year party or something (but then again, I can just pay makeup artist to do it if its 2-3 times a year thing) But it would be quite incompatible with my lifestyle and to be honest I don't think it would give me much advantage to appear dolled-up in a club one time where I give guy a phone number, and then show up with completely different face when we meet during datetime or do anything else besid…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 12:51 PM
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Conventions, parties, social gatherings are normal places to get to know new people. This 'it will make her scared' is internet hysteria. Don't approach if she's puking or crying, otherwise if she cannot handle people talking to her that's on her personal development plan to overcome or she needs a legal guardian. Use general common sense pickup guidliness: start with an icebreaker you have in common, try to keep it lighthearted, see if she reacts positively to your joke or two but don't overdo …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 10:26 PM
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Yeah, provided that their views are something they actually care about and make a part of their identity. Which is not a given, and frabkly, not much to blame. If you skip social media political drama and just want to live your life ignorant of it, lifestyle, family goals and time spending preferences are more important. I know a social justice type gal (declaratively, when asked, but not an activist) married to a neolibertarian with a gun obsession, lol. The fact that he likes his food way too …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 10:14 PM
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It was not universal advice, just what I would tell 13 years younger me to do. I'm a woman. The college is great it you have a plan for it, but I've seen it way many times an excuse to prolong high-school lifestyle, which leaves the kids depressed, hopeless for the future and aimlessly postponing future goals. I studied physics, btw, which seemed like a nonbullshit degree, but still left little prospects in my country unless I would be 100% committed to being a scientist/academic and moving. In …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/23 12:24 PM
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Dear 20 year old me: Hit the gym with a strength training NOW. I am in pretty great shape currently, but the thought of having a few years of progress done in the past... damn, that would be sweet. The mental anguish of being afraid of adult life/failure to launch? Drop the uni and get a job faster. The reason you are feeling shitty is that you are 23 and live the life of a teenager. You are too old to be a teenager. You mature by life experience, not time passed. 'Self development/self care' is…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 08:31 PM
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Yeah, I don't think she did. Her first husband was taken away during WWII and she never learned of his fate. Presumed dead, but nothing for sure. She miscarried her first child during bombarding. She married my grandpa later in life, because she wanted badly to have children. Because there was never a death certificate, it was only state marriage, as church did not allow second. That made her very sad as a devout catholic. As soon as she was having doing children she and grandpa vowed in the chu…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 08:11 PM
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Towards husband: Since we are in a romantic relationship that is supposed to be exclusive and for life, I have to take care of that relationship in it's romantic aspect. To remain interested in my husband as a friend and a lover and to keep myself interesting in that way to him. That means sustaining the romantic love we've built together, flirting, seducing, keeping interest in his life and doing things together that bonds us, whether it's sex life or hobbies/fun/dates. I owe him fidelity and l…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 08:02 PM
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Observations from relationship drama I saw: Being so hung up on ex that you are unable to form any relationship years after unfortunately happens, yeah. It's rarely because the guy was objectively the best, most handsome, whatever partner. Those women usually have issues, and this grand love is a cope for sunken cost fallacy. If the guy ate away her savings, prohibited her from having friends, barely had sex with her and was more interested in video games, AND SHE STAYED 2+ YEARS chances are aft…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 07:25 AM
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Haha, let's say I agree with the premise (women usually cheat because of emotional reasons, man for sports). Although I've encountered reverse situations (a high earning couple with the women with a boytoy whom she had trouble with because he wanted more and she wanted the fling to end soon), the general trend may be that way. So then, as you wrote, when a woman is in a great relationship where she sees her man as high value, she does not cheat. If she cheats, she already thinks little of you, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 02:59 PM
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Women don't compare men with themselves, they compare them with other men. I think that's the part of hypergamy that has some truth to it - when considering immoral sexual strategy that would satisfy most people there is a gendered difference - men would usually get a harem if they could get away with it (so ALL women) and women would just get the top 1 male (but branch swing if he loses that position).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 08:57 AM
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And there is also a third wall at 90 when you are dead and nobody marries dead people (except that one nazi woman who was pregnant and wanted to have widow status). Time passes and some things in life are no longer possible. If someone wanted a life partner to build house, spend your youth together start family etc it's not possible by 50, which is kinda sad like all things that point that our time is limited and but I guess noone is shocked by this. You can still find some companionship along t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 09:48 AM
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Record with video. Get to safety. Engage other people (friends family authoritises if the place you live in is not known to be super biased etc) - call for help, show videos, etc to remove that person from your house /life. Be the first one to do it to control the narrative, even if you think it's whiny and unmaculine to do. I'm morally all for punching her back but that would cause more trouble than it's worth.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 09:59 PM
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I keep that opinion to myself, but most of the time it looks to me like the world told that woman that she is nothing special nor deserving to be treated as such enough times that she believed. And the whole open relationship is a cope because she fears he would cheat anyway, but she feels at least some control if she 'allows' it. ​ But idk, I hope it just really is an honest kink
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 06:23 PM
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That's the dark side of the 'women are more agreeable, less prone to inflict violence, uncomfortable with direct conflict'.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 06:13 PM
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what you call casual yet exclusive could also be tradcon marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 05:14 PM
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What happened to 'women are extremely picky and have unrealistic standards, they will die alone as cat infested wine aunts'?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 09:51 PM
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Umm i don't think it would work. With artificial wombs being so common there would be enough for every unwanted pregnancy, I guess every couple interested in having a baby from artificial womb would pay to carry their own that way, or if they don't produce gametes then they would at least choose an educated, nice, tall donor instead of lining up for some random unwanted fetus with possible addiction, low iq and other issues. Who would pay for this? If the government to battle low birth rates, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 09:15 PM
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I would listen to and consider my partners preferences and comfort level regardless of who paid for the massage. Gift or not, I would not want to make him feel bad. That is for fun/relaxation massages. My limit would be my physiotheraphy / sport massage. I don't use it very often, but I had two or three injuries after which it really helped. It's hard enough to find a specialist who's doing something that brings relief (I bounced back and forth between doctors, therapists etc), he's touching my …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 09:24 PM
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I mean, what is fundamentally necessary? Like, if it was sex vs not starving to death or not-living-in-a-warzone or something along those lines, it's a no brainer that sex has to go. So it's a nice comfy place to actually value sex or sense of taste or other pleasures. Once fundamental (food, shelter, physical safety) needs are met, I don't know what is so shocking that an interaction that we have a natural (by sex drive) yearning for, and is quite fundamental for most romantic relationships, wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 09:42 AM
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Yeah, because it's a thought scenario that works on magic. If I had still legs with nothing wrong with them, but I could not use them and had to crawl because I promised reddit fairy not to, it's functionally a disability. Or however you want to call a permanent loss/limitation of natural body abilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 09:19 AM
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Yeah, that is terrible :) Sex is usually a 2+ ppl activity
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 09:04 AM
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I don't think I would even sell my sense of taste for 1 mil, and I value it significantly lower.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 08:57 AM
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Removing a major body function is a disability in my opinion. Same if I could never run, only walk, or some other limitation like that. It also removes a big way to enjoy life and can cripple your social/romantic relations. So yeah. If someone were born that way for any reason, I'd consider it disability
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 08:52 AM
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https://www.businessinsider.com/million-dollar-listing-photos-los-angeles-new-york-seattle-2018-5?IR=T No, lol, I would not like to get disabled to skip mortgage. Women here. Like, maybe, if I seriously needed the money (for close family - husband, kids health treatment) or I were in my 60ties, and the amount would be 'no work ever, set for life in luxury'... but this offer, nope
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 08:37 AM
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How do you even manage the whole 'person i'm going on dates with, kiss, like a lot and think about relationship with is having sex with other people'? That would kill me inside
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 10:12 AM
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I guess (no casual experience) that's because there is roughly the same amount of heterosexual people of each sex interested in relationships and way more men interested in casual than women. So if a woman decides to have casual sex, she can be way more picky in criteria that normally would not be her priority.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 12:36 AM
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Define peak. Many men have 'relative' peak around 30sth, meaning more percentage of their own age group women find them attractive than they did when they were in early 20s. But early 20s girls do not suddenly start desiring them more. But that's a tricky was to define peak, as the the absolute best would be about 70s. In that age group the female to men ratio is already skewed towards women due to men dying earlier. Not many people are dating then, but out of those who want to, majority is fema…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 04:53 PM
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Boomer mode on: Isn't it kinda suspicious that the most awkward and socially inept generation ever does not belive that charisma is a thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 06:35 PM
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2nd of course. Nothing attractive about poor mental health. I mean, I wish him well and hope he get's some help, but I wouldn't start dating him with hope of fixing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 01:11 PM
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Stay at home wife as in actually take care of the house/cooking/cleaning? Or just a rich unemployed person?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 02:44 PM
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Hey, do you think it's a mere coincidence people tend to form romantic relationships with the people of the gender they are sexually attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 10:12 PM
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Disregarding the 'forced to marry' stuff and imagining they are both great beside those details: First thought: A, easy choice, worship me & adore! I will worship and adore you, and we will be this insufferable lovey dovey couple together (basically what i have irl, lol) Then the doubt creeps in: oh no, UNABLE TO CHEAT BY LAWS OF UNIVERSE? But what like.. if he wanted to? I'll never know if he truly loves me or it's just the magic? Can I give him that ability back so we can just trust each other…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 10:00 PM
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Find a specific type of woman. The one who is usually unhappy but does nothing to change her situation. If she talks about her crappy job in which she's underpaid for her qualifications, but is working there for 5 years and always says she has to change it 'soon', she's your match. If she has a bit of belly fat that makes her cry about how unattractive she feels, and she has lots of diet and workout plans prepared but it's just always 'next monday', that's the girl for you. If her mother always …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 08:31 AM
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I think so, but I've got not much field data on the subject. Apart from not doing retarded stuff (wheeere is the clit?/calling her 'mummy' unless that's her kink, etc) and obvious health/performance issues (E.D. or lasting 1 minute) it's not really rocket science. I think 'great lovers' don't do anything extraordinarily different than 'meh lovers', and the difference is in the level of mutual desire. A quickie in the car when you are 18 and in the honeymoon stage is an exciting, passionate memor…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 12:49 PM
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Do you think those robots would be conscious / have sense of self in the same way that you do? If so, do you think it's morally ok to create them to serve your purpose? If not, how would that not be just a sad cope and still being 4ever alone?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 06:20 PM
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I take that as a general 'reasons for breakup were complicated and it's not like one person was clearly wronged' statement without going into details, plus he doesn't want to talk about his ex in a bad manner, which for me is an okay-sign. It may sound like bullshit if you were his psychologist trying to get to nitty gritty stuff, but outside that context the platitudes of 'It fizzled out, maybe we could have worked if circumstances were different' are just a polite way of saying 'I don't want t…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/22 03:09 PM
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How exactly will it weed out the impatient guys though? He's not gonna be celibate while he waits for you. You will just be another plate he spins. TRP guys: Men will not be stupid enough to go on 4 dates with you without sex, stop being an entitled princess with Disney fantasies, you are not that special. Also TRP guys: No, actually a man will 'wait' for you for a year, take you out, spend evenings talking, text you till 4 am, help you move out, go on parties and social events with you, just to…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 10:43 AM
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Also: get a dishwasher. I think I'd still be with my first boyfriend if we had a dishwasher (not reaally but handwashing in the sink was quite a stress point)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 05:42 PM
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Depends on our financial situation, childcare status, and hours of work + commute. I'd hope to make it a fair system and discuss with him, not order around. If the situation is that we are financially struggling, but it just doesn't make sense for him to work (like childcare would take most of his paycheck) and the home workload is heavy - toddlers, no preschool or childcare, rarely eating out so full time cooking - it's a 'all hands on deck' situation, I'd aim at equal split after workhours wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 05:30 PM
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Thanks, I guess I don't really see the thrill enough to try that, but I think it makes some sense with the high feeling, I notice when it gets really nice I tend to hyperventilate / hold breath a bit, which maybe an instinctive way to get my body/brain oxygen level to that state. But I can't even wear turtlenecks because they feel choky not in a fun way, so I'll pass on that activity. Pressure to the back part of neck is yay for me, front not so much.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 08:38 PM
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Choking is retarded, do you want me to die or puke? However a nice, strong hold on the back of the neck without touching anything that has to do with breathing (like the kitten grab) can feel super good in a way that intense massage that almost hurts feels good. Heck, I sometimes request it when sitting on a couch outside of any sexual context because I want my neck muscles to relax. Same with hair pulling, a strong and quick pull by the pony tail is super unpleasant and unsexy, but running a ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 07:43 PM
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If I were to live with him and share a life, hell no. If it was a scenario where I can't get anyone else ever (maybe he's the only male left in the world, lol?) and I basically gave up on love and am considering a fwb type of situation? Maaaybe, never done that, but can imagine I'd grow needy of human touch after a few years. But he'd be more of an male escort servicing a few women in my eyes then. And idk if I could seriously gather some desire for him, as it's usually a very possesive feeling …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 07:42 PM
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There is this basic sales tactic of creating illusion of scarcity. Like, there is only one item left and you have to make a decision now! It's dumb, people still fall for it. Same with treating as disposable, or 'I have 1000 other options'. Asshole in womanspeak often means just 'we broke up and I didn't dump him'
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 07:02 PM
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Getting naked before someone for the first time is super stressful and scary and sometimes I wonder how the hell anybody does it at all. So I'm a gigachicken and have to have seriously impaired reasoning to get courage to do it, lol. And that happens by being very heads over heels and obsessed with someone, and that doesn't happen overnight. No one is a fangirl from the first episode. Happened twice so far, and according to some guys here I'm post-wall already. If he wanted casual only, hell no.…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 04:19 PM
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Yeah, I agree., I'm heterosexual woman, should have added that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 06:50 AM
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Greek statues got it right.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 05:11 AM
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I think it's for age peers up to about 40, and then stays there, although women after that age may still prefer someone their age as a partner due to discomfort of feeling old and ugly with a much younger man.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 09:22 PM
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What lifespan are we talking about? 300 years? More? Or like infinite except for dying in a car crash? Are you asking about how the situation would look if we got this tech today, or waaay in the future, when this has been used for a long time? Is it for everyone or just elites? It's basically Elves or Altered Carbon at that point. Imo there are to many unknowns about how society would work to give any answers about a detail such as sex/age preferences. Would 300+ elders even mix with younglings…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 07:32 AM
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The long lists are created by women who just like creating long lists. It's half introspective excercise in thinking about what attracts you, half imagining perfect boyfriend ala sims creator. I guess the tendency to make long lists correlates with tendency to navel gaze, find joy in figuring out your love language or MBTI etc. Long list does not mean there are any more requirements/higher bar than in 'I have to like him and he should not be a serial killer', it just means the lady making the li…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 09:50 PM
3

The one that didn't work was first one, a high-school classmate I had a hopeless crush on. Most of status efforts where done then, and yeah, I think he did not notice, or just didn't like me that much. Later on I guess I perfected my 'plausible deniabilty stalker game'. Or my tits finally grew. We'll never know.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 08:08 PM
2

2 out of 3 times.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 07:59 PM
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Attended every event I knew they would come to (even if it was something like helping mutual friend cleanup the attic). Changed my status to available on instant messaging client whenever I saw them as available. It felt so vulnerable, almost as if I messaged first ;D
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 07:20 PM
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My aesthetic preferences changed quite a bit. I'm not talking here even about lowering the bar, just shifting. If I were to describe physically perfect man, no compromises or realism, like a genie in a bottle scenario at age 16 and 30 the answers would be vastly different I was very into thin, starving artist aesthetic. All body hair, facial included, was an turn off. Visible muscle - bleh. Dark, longer hair, much emphasis on boyish facial features, really young Depp and Nick Cave were my celebr…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 09:32 PM
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Both sound too intense and self absorbed. I could not take seriously a guy who takes 'spiritual journeys' frequently, unless we are talking LSD.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 03:32 PM
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It's reasonable. Especially if it's falling for a friend scenario, there are probably deeper feelings involved and the level of emotional intimacy friendship offers clashing with unrequited crush can be heartbreaking. It's also reasonable that said friend is feeling sad and regretful about loosing a friend, but shitty if they lash out and rationalize that 'they only wanted me for sex'. Emotions & human relationships tend to be messy and sad and there is no foolproof way of not getting anyone's f…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 08:18 AM
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Provided you actually are interested in the thing done at that event: Open board game nights in local nerd cafe. Monthly competitions at gunrange, mine usually has some food and socialising afterwards. Salsa / flamenco groups often do some events that are less structured than regular classes and newbie friendly. Kayaking / hiking / this stupid shit when you walk in skis do trips, again, communities in my area also do open events for recruitment Historical reenactment has shitton of events Same w…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 07:42 PM
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Duh. What is more important than the average rating is the absolute number of people that rank you very hot. The rest is just noise - there is little difference in a guy that ranks you 1 and thinks you are ugly, and one that ranks you 5 and feels you are painfully average. None of them will be enthusiastic about dating that person anyway. It's best to be 10/10 to everyone, but it's clear that having 100% population rank you 6 is way worse than a 50-50 split between 1 and 10. Half the guys think …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/22 03:22 PM
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Respond with sweetiepie / pumpkin. If it was appropriate in that situation, I'm being just nice and sweet back. If they get weirded out, welll... they started the weirdness.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 12:09 PM
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No, sorry, too many profession-wives support groups exist: Military, police. No, sorry, I'm not into long distance relationships: Truck driver, sailor, any job where you can't stay nights at home. No, sorry, I don't want to make my life about your job: Politician, pastor, any job where you need to care about public image a lot. No, sorry, you are stupid or evil: MLMs, work in think tanks I radically oppose, alternative medicine guru, whatever this job is where you call elderly people and manipul…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/22 07:48 PM
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They just had the standard love/relationship life of Hollywood stars, but they had this vintage custom of getting married instead of announcing the relationship on Instagram. If most starlets would marry their 6+ months bf/gf, everyone would be on marriage no. 8 at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 07:52 AM
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Do you want to be getting ratchet in the club at 60? I don't get it. LOL, I think 60 is the age when most of millenials will be like 'fine, I feel like an adult now, can start family and do all this adulting stuff' xD As for going out stuff, I'm personally not in the camp of 'you cannot have fun in relationship', however I've seen a few cases of grumpy boyfriend syndrome when the girls were invested in time&money consuming hobbies that made them travel out of the city nearly every free weekend. …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 07:05 PM
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Or they can end up not having long term commitment at all, as the OP states. It doesn't always mean 'alone forever', rather a string of a few months - few years relationships that don't end up with buying a house and having kids. I don't say it's a wonderful strategy, just observing the trend. As for better than status quo - well, I guess our parents and older generations were more okey with that the fun stops in your twenties and you have to make-do with whatever old fart you end up with, that'…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 04:43 PM
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Millenial here, unless someone gets hit by a sudden onset of baby rabies, the mentality is more of 'if the stars align / we'll see were it goes' (spoiler alert: often nowhere). As in, it is not a goal of its own for many, but a checkbox/additional goal that may appear if the all previous conditions are met. There is little intentional, oldschool 'dating to marry/settle down' and more of 'I'll enjoy flings/short term unless someone way way better than status quo appears, then I'll reevaluate and …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 02:04 PM
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Disagree. I don't think Chris Hemsworth looks make you resistant to dead bedroom. There is this saying 'for every beautiful woman there is guy who's tired of fucking her' and I think it goes both ways. Desire wanes over time and it's just sad. Apart from really settling, arranged marriage or relationships out of convenience and/or desperation (which are overestimated here, imo), most people desire each other just fine at the beginning. Normal, nonremarkable people. The majority - heterosexual, p…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 12:00 PM
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He would have to be a willowy, bishonen-type young man tragically torn between his love and loyalty to his TRP brothers in arms (all cute boys who spend time assuring one another they will never ever fall under feminine wiles) and his inexplicable desire to worship me. We also all need to be visual novel characters.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 11:42 PM
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As for classifications & reasons, there seems to be a type of 'lifestyle cheater' for men - they never intended to be that faithful in the first place, use prostitution, have double standard regarding female vs male cheating, that tend to be the most 'sleazy' and obvious douchbag, and I think the female equivalent is not that common. Women do more of a 'oopsie' (poor impulse control, 'it just happened' stuff) cheating or exit/branch swinging cheating when they don't care about the current relati…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 06:44 PM
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The opposite happens too, you meet someone, they turn out to be dumb as a rock and puff! you start to notice they have extremely stupid looking punchable face 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 03:34 PM
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That's a lovely advice, and I wish it was practical. 'Just find someone who you are crazy about and they are crazy about you'. Worked for me. Somehow most people on dating advice subs don't find it that helpful.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/22 03:29 PM
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Redpill definition of hypergamy is somewhat vague and shifts depending on poster, which is a natural thing given that there is no official council of RP to decide terms. What irritates me more is when one person switches meanings in debate to prove their point. I see there are a few main components to the idea and different people disagree with different ones. The boring standard, non rp definition of tendency tfor women to marry up in terms of social and economical status. Pretty observable, es…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/21 09:52 PM
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Lol at demonizing bi and lesbian women. They are viewed as the ones who won life by FDS crowd. The general consensus seems to be, if you are able to date women, don't bother with men, they are too much headache.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/21 09:15 PM
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Attraction and respect. No pill? But I'm one of those terrible egalitarian romantics.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 06:28 PM
4

Doesn't sweat or get sick? Sure, impossible. Sweep me off my feet? Nah, doable. There wouldn't be so much heartbreak in the world if that didn't happen often. Sometimes when I read this sub I feel like it's populated by strange Vulcan folks who measure their partner parameters down to 2 decimals and make choices based on spreadsheet data. Humans do not work this way. Our brains have lots of magical ways of tricking/making us feel our romantic partner is the absolute best in the world (pretty han…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/21 08:40 PM
2

Slang term for internet bizzare personalities, who create content deemed full of cringe and drama, whom people comment on, bait and troll for amusement. Not a very nice thing to do, but well, people are terrible in general. I only watch/read, not really interact, to create an illusion that I have a conscience. ;) Apart from that, pillstuff is interesting topic in a general, gossipy way (come on, it's dating gossip meets machiavelli but in an abstract way!), so it's not only lolcontent. But the e…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/21 12:01 PM
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Lovely, juicy internet drama. Same reason ppl follow lolcows.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 09:36 PM
1

INTP with INTJ guy. Super lovey dovey to each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 09:11 PM
1

Oh yeah! I introduced my man to all things pillzy and it was great entertainment and conversation starter. He only knew normie Virgin/Chad memes before.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 11:25 AM
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Yes. It's helluva drug. No personal issuses drove me to PPD. Like come on, it's an abstract gossip forum. It's damn interesting! And I've loved niche internet communities for a long time, the weirder the better. Not to feel superior, just for curiosity and reading heated debates. I love terf wars. I followed DID&tulpa communities, red pill when it was in it's awkward blogging/pua stage, quiverfull and other christian fundies, tumblr crazy identity communities etc. Internet is a fun place to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/21 06:51 AM
2

Warming/arousing lube. Tried once for novelty. Never ever ever again. THE BURN, AAAAGHR.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 05:43 PM
1

Everyone is bi.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 07:45 AM
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Shortest was about 1 and half year, we've been seeing each other once a week in a hobby/common interest group, I've become more and more intriuged by him and began lowkey internet stalking, then we had 2 trips with that group where we flirted more and more, and after the second one he asked me on a date. Then we began dating about 3x a week for a month or a bit more, then kissed, became a couple and slept together after 10 days. At that point I was crazy attracted to him. I don't recommend that …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 08:23 PM
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WTF happened to discretion and not being trashy? I can disclose to my partner number of my sexual partners, what I like and dislike in bedroom, what I've tried and not. Fine, that's my info. But personal, private information about sexual partners - like what their body and genitals looked like, what noises they made when they came, what kind of dirty talk they did, etc - that is rude to tell anyone and I don't see how it's the current partner's business. Same as not talking about personal stuff …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 08:30 AM
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It's like asking people if commercials make them buy stuff. Of course noone is persuaded by them, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/21 07:05 AM
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As a conscious thought no, nobody goes 'oh, he talked to pretty girls, so he must be cool'. Subconsciously probably, if he's behaving like a popular and charming person then I'd mentally tag him in that category (until proven otherwise).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 06:53 PM
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Sad for him. Then I'd give this sort of hug you can cry into until you calm down. Happened in every relationship I've been with, it's hard to be X years with someone and never see them cry. Those 'dumped because cried at funeral' stories seem like from a different universe. WTF.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 12:20 PM
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Yeah, that. I think the only people who were getting married and I had a sense they are not that crazy about each other were 'forever couples' that started in high school/college, been together for 7+ years and married out of sunken cost fallacy. I've seen however that 'BB'/loveless dynamic in couples that were married for some time. I think unfortunately many, many relationships deteriorate over time. If the guy is 'alpha' in TRP sense then it's usually due to conflict, arguments and drama, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 06:50 PM
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Sports (watching not participating)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 06:06 PM
2

Do you also go to food subreddits and complain about lack of kitten pictures?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 01:36 PM
3

5'11 - 6'3 would be the height I'd picking in a character generation screen. Would choose 5'9 with better face. Frankly I don't notice it that much, I have a work collegue I work in a small team with and after a year I was like 'wow, you are pretty tall' (6'6 or something). I notice someone is short when it's visibly shorter than me, so about 5'5.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/21 06:01 AM
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I woudn't even ask for the test if it cost more than 5$. I'm totally sure my man would never hit me, short of dementia/alzheimer eating off his brain. If the test was free and he'd decline based on trust issues/'doesn't want goverment to keep this minority report thing' beliefs, I'd drop the issue and would not check on my own out of respect. Anyway, this test has similar value to me as 'check if your boss is a reptalian overlord'. Mildly entertaining to do, but the results are pretty obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 08:32 PM
1

HEMA fencing, historical costumes, all thing sci fi, board games, video games (mostly narrative driven), some physics and analytical philosophy (used to be into them at academic level, now more of popscience interest mostly), some rpg, reading weirdo internet communities discuss their stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 07:00 AM
1

Passive/active and dominant/submissive overlap, but they are not the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 07:37 PM
1

I'd argue that war requires massive cooperation. Without that, you can have family feuds here and there, some murder, some stealing, but to launch war you have to have large groups of men agreeing to cooperate to a point of seriously risking life for that cooperation.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 06:09 AM
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N2, never did casual. Kinda both. The orgasm is the shared experience. It's like doing psychedelics together, it brings people closer. It doesn't mean everything else is not important, but the passion buildup-release is what differentiates sex from hugging, massage or other pleasant physical acts, and makes it more intimate imho. As for your related note - it used to bother me when I was very young, now I'm less insecure. Not everything is about me, as long as it was intimate, pleasurable, mutua…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 10:04 AM
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Yeah, upset, sad, heartbroken. I'd probably break up over dead bedroom, did that before. It's crushing emotionally in a way that spills over other parts of relationship and destroys everything in the way. I guess maybe with serious medical issues (he cannot, not just wills not) that would be easier to bear.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 07:37 AM
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Chemistry/spark is baseline attraction you have and managed not to destroy (or even lift) by social interaction. No awkwardness in the conversation, pleasant flow (good game i guess) and enjoyable flirting. It has your base attractiveness as a factor - a handsome guy has it easier, but still can fuck up. Then social skills/game. And then there is always some dice roll - her mood, picking touchy subject, even date going wrong without your fault, like terrible food or weather. It seems unfair to y…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 09:34 PM
1

I think some subset of mindgames you are describing is just following through with consequences that were talked about without any effect. I think it's a fair approach to conversation-resistant human beings and 'behavioural therapy' of water spray for bad deeds and snacks for good ones works wonders in general. You can dress it up as 'give back same energy' or whatever if it feels humiliating, but basically people respond to feedback like puppies (or rational game-theory agents, lol). It's fine …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/21 03:56 PM
1

I've found people 'hot'/physically attractive at first glance but never lusted after them, so rather unlikely from me. Like, seduce me plz? I never did anything casual, and all my male objects of lust were rather limerent with full hormonal rush of falling for someone but even if I did I guess I'd prefer a hot passionate affair not just some 'you sexy, let's rub body parts together'. It could be a stranger, meaning not someone I know very well, I guess that's possible, but without some context a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/21 05:57 PM
2

Wigs are quite awkward in general, unless worn for cosplay/fashion accessory. A 40 something woman wearing a wig that is normal and realistic looking because of thinning hair would also be seen as pitiful imo. Wigs that work for certain styles, like e girls, cosplayers, or other over the top looks would work for males in that niche, i think. A kpop star or a male cosplayer wearing a fancy wig can be seen as cool for whoever is into that esthetics. Wig just to make up for deficiencies tends to be…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/21 11:07 AM
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I'm probably not the perfect embodiment of typical female desire you described, as I never had a higher libido partner. Still, some observations on what makes me more turned on or receptive in general: The more I have sex the more I crave sex. It's easy to fall into a dry spell if you (or both of you) were a bit sick for a few days, everything was meh and in 'pajamas mode' of life, then you overeat at dinner and take a nap, or take a bath that is so long that the other one falls asleep, and it k…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 05:30 PM
2

We talked over beer for a year until I fell in love.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:31 PM
1

Create Jedi Order as an alternative to normie lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:25 PM
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They would start as 10/10 sexy chad, all of them. With each sexual partner, their jawline would get a little bit softer and they would get half an inch shorter. Watching gender dynamics would be more entertaining than purge week on PPD. ]:->
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 11:58 PM
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It always took me ages (2 month up to a year I think?), but I suspect that's because for me it's heavily intertwined with developing a crush, and that takes time and exposure. Before, I can think a guy is objectively attractive, I can desire sex in general, but to desire that particular man... I always was already head-over-heels and thinking how awesome and witty and intriguing he was. And then there was this lightbulb thought 'hey username, aren't you just very horny for him'?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 05:58 PM
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I think so, if 'tend to' means as a general trend rather than reacting to some red flags (like learning they cheated in all previous relationships). Doesn't make you evil but can doom some relationships where no cheating occurs, so not an ideal feature to have, duh. And there are probably degrees to that that go from 'a bit hard to trust someone' to 'get therapy or whatever reddit suggests, you hopeless case'. My retroactive jealousy is not that much future-cheating centered, more of a general a…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 06:02 AM
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I wasn't writing about red flags, just what I could obsess about when anxious. Retroactive jealousy is not exactly peak rational thought, I wanted to convey that. Situation you described is OP's starting point, and I started with 'low N' because that (lots of casual) obviously is very anxiety inducing too. My point is basically, if you have tendency to get crazy about partner's past, it's your feature, not really dependant on that past and perfect scenarios to soothe jealousy are not really a th…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 05:35 AM
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Low n, at my age virgin men are most likely to have a bunch of issues around being alone for so long. But then, low n means he was serious about that woman/those women and they made a pretty big impact on his life. So I can get anxious about that. But then, I can imagine some perfect scenario where we met so young that being virgin was normal at that age. Then I can get anxious about possible FOMO he's having and that he regrets having so little experience. There is no scenario where the crazy d…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 02:17 PM
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I think there are 2 cases here: For extremely attractive / influential men, there will be a minority of women who have no problem sharing, or at least agree to it (might be jealous a bit, but still consider worth it). Think rock stars and groupies. It is by no mean majority, but even 1% of hot women is too much one man can handle if they get effective access to him. So the result is he's drowning in women. For very attractive men within social group (what are called Chads by trp) there will be a…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 05:59 AM
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I would not. If we have sex then he's mine Prince Charming of course, and it's us against the world, and we do a glorious last stand and then still die because most people can't really fight ;) (or one of us flees because humans are humans and often less heroic than we think of ourselves, and then the shame and emotional fallout makes the whole thing unsalvageable)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 09:52 PM
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I don't. Maybe take a quick look if someone is dressed (or undressed) in a way that stands out, has a cool outfit, unusual hairstyle etc. But it's the same thing as looking at a person dressed as a living statue, a fleeting curiosity. I would never 'hope he notices me' from a guy just walking down the street, maaybe on a concert / party / convention or some other activity were socializing is part of the gig.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 06:48 PM
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The data says "one third of marriages start with a hookup" not “One third of hookups ends up in marriage.”. It may as well be that out of 3 women who do 100 lousy hookups each, only one of them eventually finds husband this way. So it might be simultaneously true that 1/3 marriages start with hookup, and that 1/300 hookups end with marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 03:46 PM
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I had a nice looking, but a bit short friend who had absurdly high standards for women. Just model tier ladies, and even then most of them had some flaws he coudn't get past. He was looking at lingerie models and maybe 1 in 10 was ok, other had 'crooked noses', 'too long torsos', 'unsymmetrical thigh gap' (yep, he said that :) ) He's been in a relationship with a lovely dude for last three years. About year in he admitted he doesnt think he's really bi...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 04:55 PM
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I think big chunk of population will default to basic consumption of free goods / welfare and will lead an uninteresting promiscious life of blackpill nightmares. I strongly suspect, there still will be an insane amount of status/economy going on for the rest that was not satisfied with some food to eat and free TV. The goods are abundant and not providing any status differences, but then what about whole market of services and goods you cannot get from the AI free distribution (handcrafted, bes…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 12:11 PM
4

Poly means you are in multiple relationships / have more than 1 person you consider romantic partner. Open generally means sex outside relationship is allowed, the details vary, but it is usually much more casual than in poly and you don't consider the extramartial flings your partners/girlfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 06:27 PM
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They both sound extremely boring. The second guy seems to be making less noise, so i'd pick him. Can't stand labrador-level-of-enthusiasm people for more than a few days, the first description almost gave me an headache.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 12:30 PM
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That might have been a good bet a few decades ago, now majority of my 38-45 acquaintances who have kids have pre-schoolers and early teens, high school at best. There is one lady with 19 yo son at 39, but it's an exception.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 01:25 PM
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The miserable one seems easier to pinpoint: the obvious: abuse, addictions, cheating, constant arguments bad sex life: dead bedroom, infrequent sex, lack of passion and enthusiasm, unsatisfying enconunters bad emotional life: no warmth, support and love between spouses, no emotional closeness resentment due to perceived inequality: when one spouse feels unjustly burdened with some responsibilty (money, housework, childcare) with the other one not providing same or an equivalent in some other are…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 06:41 AM
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I have my mono guy, thanks for the advice :) Love is mutual activity, I'm past my hopless highschool crushes phase. The mutual obsession, limerence, whole honeymoon phase... That woudn't work without me feeling like I'm the best thing ever that happened to him, and frankly the idea of having sex when he's sleeping with other women is viscerally disgusting and tainting the whole experience. If in some hypothetical scenario poly was the only option and I had to choose I'd try getting a nice enough…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 09:19 AM
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My desire (sexual and romantic) is very, very possessive. I cannot unlink 'I want you' from 'I want you to be mine & mine only'. Even the thought of previous partners is unpleasant, let alone this poly stuff. And if I somehow got over the 'I want you only for myself' that would probably lead to emotionally/sexually checking out of the relationship at all, like 'I don't care what you do with other women bc I don't care about you'.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/21 07:39 AM
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I think so, yeah. Maybe if it's after some time for health reasons, like an obese american couple trying to get in shape, that's applaudable. But basically if you accept someone as partner and take what they offer - looks, personality, money I don't think it's fair to change your mind and put pressure. Ofc you can always leave if you start thinking that's a bad deal, but going 'i told you i want to be with you, but now I think you were from beginning too ugly/too poor/to stupid, improve or else'…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 04:47 PM
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Yeah, most women have eyes and know that you are more fit than them. Some of them are self-conscious about that (body issues are huge among women anyway), some not. I'm not any fat acceptance / health at every size advocate, but still think it's a bit shitty to start going out with someone and then hold their weight against them (unless it changed dramatically). If she was good enough on day 1, what's the deal now?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 04:33 PM
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I don't do this 'standards' things in the usual way. I can give you a list of attractive qualities, yeah, but that is more of a post-hoc, introspective thing that I know about myself - I'm most likely to fall for man with those qualities. But it's not a list I confronted any of my dates against. If for example I have 'brunette' on my theoretical preferences list, because all other men I fancied before were dark haired, but I meet a redhead I find absolutely sexy - I'll just conclude 'huh, guess …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 06:01 AM
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Can you link some google before/after pics that are similar to what your dad achieved? I was slightly against hair transplant, but that's because I thought they bring poor results for lots of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 02:51 PM
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Then yeah, it's a good idea to be loving and caring. It's sad when couples take each other for granted and stop showing warmth and taking little steps towards making other one's life easier. There was an interview with divorce attorney I watched on youtube a few days ago, and he told a story of when one of his clients felt it was over (not the actual reason of course, but the sign that things are broken between them). She had a favourite brand of musli or some shit like that from a fancy eco-bio…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 07:17 PM
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I mean open as in sex only, not polyamory or being in multiple relationships. Those were not some hipster 'triads' or 'polycules', more of 'we have an agreement that we can fuck other people on business trips'. But yeah, probably more damaging than swinging.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 07:05 PM
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The only open relationships I've seen, it prolonged the otherwise shitty / dysfunctional relationship/marriage as it was easier to stay together if you get to sleep from time to time with some other person that doesn't despise you / isn't bored with you. Still, all ended with divorce/breakup eventually, but it was clear that the openness gave them 2-4 years of suffering together more.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 06:55 PM
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I'm all for being caring, gentle and serving. After all, my man is my favourite person on earth, who should I be kind to if not him? But there's an ugly side to overly 'mummy' type of relationship. Putting down, assuming incompetence, disdain is way easier when you feel like a caretaker of an adult partner. All the 'aww, my poor little husband, he wouldn't survive a weekend without me'. Bleh. I hope never to enter such dynamic. It also kills desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 06:33 PM
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Yeah. Used to do that with a group of women I worked with, about once a month. Went to restaurant, ate, drank lots of wine, shared gossip, drank more wine, giggled a bit, took cab home. WILD.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 06:22 PM
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I did, we were together for nearly 11 years after. Still it wasn't some grand event I remembered through the years. A bit awkward, a bit cute, that's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 12:43 PM
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I don't really fancy the career-ambition thing. I mean, maybe if you are a scientist or doing something actually admirable or following a plan of something you love, yeah, then it cool. But people who take their corpo job or business way to seriously and center their life and self worth around it... Meh, that's offputing. Don't want to have a brainwashed drone at home or someone with japanese work ethics. What I find awesome and makes me respect a man is this drive to excell at stuff you do that…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 05:07 AM
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Nah. Only dated people who were from my social circle and when it was evident they have a pretty serious crush on me. Also, before anything happened romantically we talked about life, how long you are single, and other things about ourselves so I knew the relationship status and how single they were. Also, it was absurdly time consuming, and investment was pretty big (not money wise, but we spent most time together, having multiple dates a week and hanging out at parties and events together, tal…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 09:26 AM
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That seems terrible and very impersonal. I've never dated strangers so in my little A bubble it was already established we like-like each other when going on dates, so any hint that they are doing same stuff (even early date walks and talks and shy hugs at the end of the evening and pub talks till 4 AM) with someone else at the same time would be an unpleasant feeling and would lead me to ditch the situation. It's not even about 'exclusivity', but for me early stages of dating were full of happy…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 09:06 AM
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From what I've seen women absolutely adore Keanu's girlfriend. There is much of 'see, good men are not shallow and vain, but they see the inner beauty of this gray-haired artist'. It's a feel-good couple, makes you think a superstar is not out of your reach :)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 05:02 PM
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They feel it's 'destroying the market', someone is 'selling' themselves at a lower price which seems affordable by other women. Most of redpillish rage is about 'entitled' women, and there is much glee when for example this Kevin Samuels guy 'puts women down', and is maintaining the illusion that a 'good catch'/HVM will only only date supermodels, and even then cheat on them, and even then will be 20+ years older, therefore you (as in average black women) should be overjoyed that anyone looks at…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 04:59 PM
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Thanks, sorry for getting wrong impression. I've seen you care about him a lot and it seemed like a relationship in everything but the name. If it's not too invasive question, why pre-planned expiration ( of fwb part or the friendship too)? I would have become crazy attached after being with someone exclusively for so long, so that seems very alien (but I'm curious) to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 07:02 AM
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I've seen a few of your posts, and that answer seems misleading without context. Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't this FWB of yours your exclusive, 10+ years long life partner where you were each other firsts, and loved each other, but you just don't want to label it 'relationship' for some quirky reason? It reeeally stretches the definition of 'casual'.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/21 06:43 AM
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Just for the sake of argument, as it is shitty either way: You say women cheat mostly if she's fed up with relationship already, while man can cheat when everything is fine. Cheating obviously harms the relationship. It is worse to damage something good and functional than something broken anyway. Like putting a nice brick house on fire is worse than flaming old rusty shack, even if the house has a bigger chance of 'surviving'. Therefore it is way worse when a man cheats.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 09:00 PM
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Yeah, she got heartbroken and used for money in two 'serious' relationships. Like evidently scammed, with loads of cash disappearing and being used for something else, not just 'he enjoyed lifestyle more than you' used. One turned out to have a serious addiction he's hidden, second one was a silly pothead (she knew about casual use, and thought it wasn't that big deal and frequent) who secretly threw parties for his pothead friends with her money.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 05:45 PM
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Love bomb the slightly insecure, slightly chubby gal with IT career (big money, not just some dev). Offer commitment asap. Take trips on her money around the globe. Then proceed to steal her money for drugs. Nah, that would be terrible. But still, happened to my colleague twice.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 06:59 AM
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Teasing, slightly charged conversations, little nicknames, accidental touches, declarations made in an over-the-top, joking way. I'm talking about flirting when normal/friendly communication is established - like a friend group, a college party, etc. Girls later on have a tactical analysis of the situation (the great 'Was Kevin flirting with Jane' kitchen/bathroom debates) ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 06:42 AM
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Yes, this is not how it always happen. Sometimes even there is no flirting, just straightforward asking out. And initiating contact is puts more pressure/is more stressful to men, I don't doubt it. But damn, I've seen flirting too. ;) Also, I sympathize with rejection not feeling good at all, but I guess that's the purpose of flirting? It seems to me it's better for guy to start with a flirt with little teasing, innuendos and whatnot, and just notice that the girl doesn't 'vibe back' than to fla…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 06:38 AM
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Kitchen bitch? :( That's the official title of this awesome JOB you have for women? I wonder why they might not be thrilled to apply 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 06:58 PM
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Every interaction a man initiates with a woman is a probe for sexual availability. You mean just cold approach or generally in every social situation? You are exaggerating a lot. And even if, there is still a little dance to be made so there is no 'eeew, creep!' thing going on. Which is, one person gives a signal which can be interpreted either way (but leaning to the flirty side), if it's ignored or responded in a clearly platonic/friendly way we assume that's totally what we meant and everyone…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 06:35 PM
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Men are better cooks, it's science (at least google told me so). And dealing with dirt and trash is not very feminine. So it's obvious cooking & cleaning is husband's job.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 06:27 PM
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And it isn't just you - it's every woman who does this. Women always leave themselves an out, a way to plausibly deny interest in case they have to do so. This is why women's IOIs are so damn subtle - you're indirect communicators, and you need an escape route if it doesn't go exactly the way you want. Flirting is mostly about plausible deniability, on both parts. People don't go around asking 'can i have some sex please' because rejections would make things totally awkward. I think that's the p…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 06:21 PM
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Would you include female sexual strategy in this equation? She probably doesn't care for casual and variety as much as you do, but would it be OK for her to have affairs only with more fit/affluent/handsome men, trying to bear their children instead of yours and upgrading to relationship with them if possible (if not, of course returning to you, as you both value steady home life)? If we do the whole 'men are polygamous, women are hypergamous' thing it would only be fair to allow her on maxing h…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/21 01:36 PM
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Doesn't escalate commitment at any point, is just 'going with it' with some kind of relationship inertia. They go exclusive after she initiated 'what are we' conversation. They move together after some nagging on her part. They get engaged after 7 years and lots of social pressure. Heck, they even get married and she if she pushes for children enough, he'll finally agree to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 01:44 PM
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Nah. The age-gap hysteria in US is quite amusing. But still, TRP overestimates number of young women interested in dating older men. I get why 30 year old dude thinks dating a 20 year old is cool idea, but most of 20 y.o. women are not that interested in men decade older. If they are, cool, fwb, hookups, relationships, whatever. But don't sell men the lie that there will be tons of early twenties girls interested in them once they hit 30. As for 'can't get women their age', i guess it's a ration…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 05:42 PM
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I think they are the same thing, or closely connected. Never had one without the other. However, for me sexual attraction presents itself as romantic attraction /fascination first, until it hits a point of no return of limerent desire. So it's 'wow, what an interesting guy to talk to' first, then I start to need to see him often and it provides a nice rush when I do, and he appears just awesome in every way, then the obsessive thoughts creep in (and internet research, haha) and then it's all 'pl…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 09:05 PM
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He was more of an acne-ridden Legolas. And he was more than good enough, it's just post-wall me hamstering, now that I'm too old for elves. XD He didn't want me then though, which caused heartbreak and bad poetry.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 05:39 AM
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Have you ever been in love? Even a friendly hug feels like earthquake. And it's quite unbearable to distance yourself because rationally there is no chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 09:54 PM
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When I was 16 all I wanted with silly, overwhelming highschool intensity of OMG TRUE LOVE was a broody pretentious guitar playing guy who seriously claimed he was an elf. I learned damn elven letters to write him notes and pass them during classes. I so so so much never ever take him away please don't want him now, and it's lovely most redpills concluded I sadly settled for human-identifying guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 04:36 PM
1

More playful banter. Not every nice interaction is flirting. That being said, plausible deniability is one of the features of flirting by design.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 06:43 AM
1

It's meant to filter out opportunists, not psychopats. Who are not that common to being with. And even if I meet a Machiavelli, I know I'm awesome and stunning kween yada yada, but would he really spend a few months of intense effort just to score one?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 11:35 PM
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I pretty much agree, it captures female point of view nicely. I don't argue it somehow is more pure or mature than typical male desire. Guys read 'emotional' and read it as 'true love disney stuff' and assume all women are lying. While it IS emotional, but not really in a spiritual, do-gooder kind of way. But still very different than looking at a photo of a hot chick and stating 'would bang'.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 11:25 PM
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Depends of the context you are talking in. This 'rating of the situation' you proposed is a weird take, but whatever. In context of dating / especially if you don't want to be a step parent, a single parent is anyone with a kid he has contact with and is no longer with the second parent. In context of family situation i think it's only fair to call your single parent if you have sole/majority custody of the child. I find quite it pathetic when women post on social media how hard it is, how they …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/21 06:42 AM
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There is zero temptation for option A, seriously. I'm not a gay man, what do I care for some hot guy without common context? And I'm way too vain to consider guy who is meh about me awesome, what's wrong with him? How can I feel sexy in such situation? Switch it to some passionate, overwhelming romance in which we feel like each others half with amazing sexual chemistry, but life makes it impossible apart from some once a year flings (he's a pope or a secret agent, obviously!) to make this '1 da…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 09:38 PM
1

By reading the title I assumed this will be about the idea that the N count resets to 0 after a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 05:40 PM
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Yeah, I even wrote in this post I'd be more inclined to cover the whole tab (and did so) when guy proposes split. I pay for dates I set up with men (find place, make reservation, etc), for friends or family (male and female) if I invite them when they come over to my town, for damn everyone who shows up at my birthday parties. Both giving and recieving gifts is a pleasant interaction. So it's nice when I pay for him, it's nice when he pays for me, but just staring at the bill and figuring out wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 01:46 PM
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That was about 20% serious and alluding to an ongoing theory floating around here that whatever low standards a woman had or acts she didn't like but did for a man, then she has to act same way for all other boyfriends or else she's 'not giving her best' and 'punishing' them for her bad choices. The serious (but not that important) part of that is that a guy who is so scared of mealdiggers or stingy for his money is quite offputing. He either has a 'grand theory of meal buying', because he's PPD…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 06:02 AM
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Because you started dating those safe, nice girls that you no longer feel the urge to buy lunch for! Stacy eats, Becky splits, that's life. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 06:26 PM
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And then the next women get worse treatment because he's a 'reformed lunch-buyer'. Not a great deal. I bet those first women he felt genuine attraction to and didn't worry to be lunch-vulnerable with them, but now everything is calculated, passionless and 'safe'.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 06:22 PM
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No man ever thinking about his past, youthful crush "Damn... if only I didn't chicken out and have asked Susan on a date that time.... I'd make sure to go dutch to see if she's not a lunch-hungry mealdigger"
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 06:15 PM
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Apparently it's the act of buying lunch that has such devastating psychological effects. Something something, master key and locks... Men become jaded, distrustful and broken after too many bad lunch decisions :(
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 06:01 PM
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Probably has a thousand-lunch stare too :(
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:57 PM
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Man who is reluctant to make a good impression because he's worried about being taken advantage of has likely some bad past experiences, is jaded, thinks all women are out there to get his lunch... I sympathize but I'm not a free therapist and I'd rather date someone not so broken by the dating market, why should I suffer for his bad lunch-buying choices in the past? ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:40 PM
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I don't have a problem with age gap relationships. Moral panic around it is pretty condescending, the 'you are a child till 25 because of brain stuff' is pretty silly - by 25 some people are done with reproduction and start having gray hair, but apparently they are not mature yet, as well as 'what can I have in common with someone 5 years younger than me, omg, we are words apart' - my 30th birthday party was attended by bunch of my friends aged 18-60, and while relationships might be impractical…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 07:47 PM
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If I get the "oh, he's not that bright" thought, it's over, I could not be in a meaningful relationship with someone I look down on.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 08:53 PM
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The conversation examples might be a bit overdone and highschoolish, but I agree with general sentiment. Women tend to be bit more conformist, and ingroup validation of chosen mate is a big thing. More involved the women is in this so-called 'female social matrix', stronger the effect, but unfortunately "can I show him to my friends without feeling ashamed" is a factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 08:45 PM
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Yeah, I'm told to be a terrible tease. Nothing touchy or too sexual, but I generally respond to innuendos, little banter and making inside jokes regardless of attraction if the man is socially competent, and then have a problem with guys thinking it's more than a fun conversation, so I backed down with that a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 08:40 PM
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Don't know, maybe she likes long lists? Or as u/CloacaDiddler mentioned, writing 'nice personality' probably got her 'you're not specific enough, this personality probably means Bentley or square jawline, tehehe'.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 12:43 PM
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It's not like she could've settled, no way not NarniaFox, she's like a celebrity and all the 10-20% of men who fit that laundry list of requirement s are fighting themselves to get at her. Come on, this list is just a very long 'likes me and wants to be with me, is not an asshole and likes pets'. Pretty basic stuff. It's like if a girl for whatever reason instead of writing 'good hygiene' started listing off separately: 'brushes teeth, changes socks, changes underwear, no dripping earwax' and su…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 12:20 PM
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There is usually some relative benefit for a women for making divorce official - splitting assets, custody arrangements. Relative, as in it's better to do it it's over anyway, not better than to stay in a functioning relationship. Like I knew a guy who moved out to a different city and lived with his girlfriend, but didn't bother with divorce. His wife had some trouble reaching him to end the marriage. She counts in the 'evil women who initiate divorce' statistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 09:00 PM
2

I never dated strangers. If I were to go on a meeting with a total stranger from an app, I'd probably pay for myself, but I don't consider that a date-date, but more of a 'let's meet a few times and become acquaintances at least'-date. After we're out of highschool and a guy is not paying for my pizza with his mum's money, I'd prefer we don't split. It's my 'not a very poor person' privilege speaking a bit, I guess. But the thought of a guy who fancies me, asks me out, I'm happy he finally did a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 08:51 PM
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I find it oddly entertaining. And mirroring manosphere at it worst. But it's refreshing in a wicked 'ok, what redpill says is true, embrace the hypergamy, they don't care about us except for sex anyway' way. Like, it seems more logical than the hopefull 'I'll be extra nice and it will pray redpill away' attitude of RPW.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 07:57 PM
1

As in the RPW subreddit? Not my tastes exactly, bit too Stepford Wife style. Some of the advice is solid for LTRs (don't be insufferable, let him feel masculine, etc), but there is too much bluepill thinking about serving best interest (as defined by RP) of a man. In a way I consider FDS to be more redpill, as they accept most of the RP premises and just take part in those brutal gender wars without rose-tinted glasses. In general sense I don't consider myself as redpill either. Too much commitm…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 07:16 PM
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It's not a comment on strategy, but underlying cause. I agree, if she doesn't seem interested at all you can move on and play numbers game. But lately I've seen a blackpill shift in the manosphere that expects female sexuality to mirror male, if she doesn't get horny by seeing your picture there's no desire, etc. I liked the older stuff that concentrated on frame more, seemed closer to truth. Women mostly fall for personas, not just bodies, and that builds up over time. That's why there is more …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 06:55 PM
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Yay: Relationships are mostly about sex / sexual dynamic. It's not just being buddies who happen to sleep together. Desire cannot be negotiated. 'Just communicate' is usually futile advice. Being seen as desperate and having absolutely no options is a big turnoff for women. Women rarely desire men they do not respect. Nay: Men peak at 40, lol Desire is something that happens for women in instant, and cannot grow over time. If she doesn't bang at first date, she's not into you. generic 'woman bad…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 06:45 PM
1

As for office politics, they mostly tend to leave people who don't want to go management route in peace, software houses still need actual coders and you can go up to do some architecture/whatever, plus the job market is still pretty nice, so leaving doesn't strike me with fear. For the upcoming revolution however, I welcome any advice you have. :D
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 10:59 AM
1

What do you mean? Office politics? Or that people will finally see how ridiculously overpriced the tech market is and eat us or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 10:48 AM
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Money. Working is something adult people have to do, unless they are very lucky. I would not call myself having a 'career', just a well paying relatively easy job (IT). I'm very happy it's not a high-stress, life-eating career, as it would kind of defeat the purpose - I work so I can do cool stuff outside work, if work would be so demanding that much free time is impossible, what's the point? Unless that's a Very Fulfilling And Cool Career, like in a space program or something. But I'm a dropout…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 09:33 AM
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Have you ever had a serious (but very sexual) crush on someone? Full on hormone hurricane, disruptive thoughts through the day, getting lightheaded at the brief touch of that person? Those feeling take time to develop. There needs to be some space to get that silly physical longing. Jumping to sex stright away feels like a skin deep experience, like a itch to scratch, not some big passion. I never got that visceral lust for someone just by meeting / looking at them. Girl needs some time to becom…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 06:48 PM
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If a man doesn’t become attractive until he’s 36... Men are most attractive before 36. If he was not attractive then, he won't become attractive later, but women in his age bracket can get less picky, so he'll have more 'relative attractiveness' in 'divorced 35 year old women' demographic.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/21 09:57 AM
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There is maybe 1 out of 10 posts there with 'good' content - really ridiculous expectations, sounding entitled, etc. Rest is just depressingly average people trying their best at dating market - e.g. mother of two, likes hiking, looks for something serious. What's so funny about that? Kinda bland, like most people are. Average smarts and looks. Not ideal life path, again, depressingly common. What is she supposed to write 'i look for incels to pump and dump me so I can repent for my harlot ways'…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/21 08:44 PM
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You can pull this off if you are Pablo Picasso or some other mentor/celebrity figure. Otherwise, women interested in serious relationships and caring about your financial status (let's say trads) would write you off because you are way to old to start a family, provide for her and her children education (you will be about 70 when they go to university, lol), and generally even if she wanted more stable, well off man, aiming for early 30 guy would be much better bet. The non-trad, who just wants …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 12:01 PM
1

Most women say they would not date a virgin in a sense that if they had perfect okcupid selector for men, they would not check virgin. It's less part of virginity itself (unless she has big past and is insecure that you would judge her) but more of what she thinks it indicates - awkward, weird, socially inept. If those things about you are not true - she first meets you, finds you handsome, finds you funny and charming, then maybe learning about virginity would be 'wtf' moment, as it doesn't fit…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 08:00 PM
2

A lot. Just shave it off. When I was late teens / young adult I regarded it almost like a disability, similar to those poor babies with rare genetical disorders that make them look old and wrinkly :(
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 06:14 PM
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No, i don't think so. If we are talking onetime or rare events - there are really physical reasons, that can also be frustrating for the women. Medicine, allergies, hormonal fluctuations can create a situation where no moisture can be made and that's it. There's a lot of nonphysical reasons she's not that excited that don't have anything to do with her partners' skills. Stress. Sleep depriviation. Her pet rabbit just died. She's not that into you. You just don't turn her on that much. Doesn't me…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 10:36 PM
2

Nobody (except vampires) is as conventionally sexy and attractive aged 80 as they were when 20. It's a no brainer that somewhere in between the attractiveness drops. You may argue it happens later than TRP claims, but damn, it's pretty obvious it happens. Everybody gets old and ugly, unless they die young.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 02:31 PM
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You could die in childbirth, yes. You could also die in a car accident. I heard of more people from my friends and family group who lost someone to car crash than to birth. Do couples that drive cars don't love each other? What about those who ride motorcycles?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 10:30 PM
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Not that I personally spend much timr judging, just what the word means in that situation. Which is pretty straightforward. A loser. A person who chose certain life strategy / goals and failed. So a lady who wanted to have a great career and a family later on, but now is a sad underpaid clerk with a desperate tinder profile and love of wine. Or a stay at home wife who with three kids, got fat, got cheated on, and now the ex hubby escapes alimony and she's 40, lots of fat and kids and no life ski…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 06:16 AM
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I think it's tolerated when women have little choice, or does not see her men primarily as a lover/partner (as in modern relationships) but as a household head, provider, etc. It's more acceptable in 'traditional' relationships which are mostly economic arrangements, passionate love was never in the picture anyway, and after a child or two wife doesn't want to be bothered by husband in any form except for caring for her and offsprings, so as long as he is discreet side chicks are a relief
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 08:54 PM
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Would you advise your daughter, if you had one, to 'try to get that guy back'?
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/21 10:44 AM
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Cutesy, flirty demeanor Borderline / bipolar tendencies Queen bee / social butterfly Right amount of helplessness so a man can feel competent and needed
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/21 09:42 PM
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If someone is your soulmate then you are their soulmate too I guess? Then from pure statistical point of view what you write makes no sense. To make things worse there are more gay men than lesbians, so in fact women are less likely to find soulmate 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/21 10:29 AM
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Ok, if we're being all cynical and assume you can cheat wrong and right way.. she would disrespect him by sleeping with his business partner or rival, yes. But she's not going to leave with a yoga instructor or even seriously consider that, so that's not a harmful affair. And if she's 20 years younger and smoking hot... Well, didn't he tell people to be realistic in expectations of fidelity?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/21 05:49 AM
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Yep. They are waaay to young and pretty to be that strategic. Even if it's 'very comfortable lifestyle, one I could not get on my own pretty house on suburbs' money, for a 20 hot babe that is tempted by $$$, it rather has to be 'rockstar lifestyle, hot cars and a pool at the top of a building' money.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 09:03 PM
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Then they just have to settle having sex with poolboy I guess? Or how he sees it?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/21 08:59 PM
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If you are celibate, asexual or whatever then 60 and virgin is fine. If a person wants relationships and sex, and it hasn't happened by about 25, then I think it's kinda sad. Things are obviously not going as planned / intended. And even if it's not beyond hope and they find someone around 30, it's still most of the youth spent alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 11:24 AM
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Hmm... Star Trek stuff and general sentiment about space exploration. Jesus Christ Superstar musical. Watchmen, in parts. Some fav parts of Shakespeare or Paradise Lost if we move beyond popculture. I find it funny how 'omg, you feel the same way about it' creates such a strong feeling of connection and uniqueness and 'you get me', when these are wildly popular things 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 10:03 PM
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I read a lot of erotica (as a teen and beyond), still occasionally do. Never bought novels, as the cost money, and I was a teen. Fanfics mostly. And mostly gay. Def not ugly, maybe a bit beta/loser type.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 09:56 PM
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Smells nice Likes me Likes sex Finds same silly popculture bits touching, so it feels like deep connection and we are made for each other, and we can fall in love and ignore how nonunique all this stuff is
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 09:52 PM
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Don't know anything about you, but those 'standards' are just neurotic brain talking. In reality I'd probably settle for an extremely sexy Chad, can't be too picky at that age 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 07:15 AM
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I'm over 30, so virgin would raise an eyebrow. It's not even off-putting per se, but the probability of him being a weird Reddit person raises. Or having some hang ups about purity. Or massive FOMO. I need to be the only weird Reddit person in a relationship. So, virgin is a risk territory, but high N is bleeeeh. Can we make it, like, 3 max? Last being a 8 year LTRs, who is now fat and cheated and identifies as a male or some other disqualifying stuff so I won't have retroactive jealousy? XD (wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 09:25 PM
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Yep... I even think a dozen of 1 year LTRs is a bigger warning sign than some casual partners. Like, none of the options are great, but it seems unlikely that in all those relationships the girl was the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 09:17 PM
1

Bulletproof contraception & artificial wombs as the norm for reproduction. Hell knows what would happen, but it would be fun to watch.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 10:26 PM
1

3 years
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/21 06:04 PM
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It's like high school or college. Many average people complain the dating got more difficult after they finished their studies and have a stable job. Average is important - very, very attractive people don't have problems at all, and incels, well, they did not do awesome in their youth anyway. Part of it is being older, more boring and more people in similar age getting off the dating market for long time (getting married, or very long LTRs). But big part of it is you stop meeting new people. No…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/21 06:02 PM
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Yes. It took me & my man about 2 years to get together, and a year of that was a quite intense friendship. We fell in love like silly teenagers, while well over a decade older. I never felt such a magnitude of limerence, it felt like I was drugged tbh. And physical contact, at last, was electrifying. When we finally kissed we didn't have a conversation for about two weeks, because we were making out/having sex nonstop. I think that's because we had some time for the tension to grow to the roof, …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 09:45 PM
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Oh, I always thought that the '70% women' stat is from courthouse/some objective demographics data, not self-report.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 08:41 PM
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Is there any reliable data on who initiates breakup instead of who handles divorce papers? I've seen a few cases of when it was the man who left / moved out / got into another relationship, but saw no need to finish it legally, so officially it was the wife who initiated the divorce (after the guy have been absent for 2 years and had another family). My intuition, which can be terribly wrong, is that a lot of 'women initiate divorce' is due to women being responsible for handling everything, wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 06:54 PM
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It's easy to be terrible online. Most people are neither saints nor psychopaths, something in between. Lack of face-to-face contact lowers the emotional price of treating someone like shit. Tinder / OLD makes a literal marketplace, which eases the process of treating other human like commodity. It's depersonalized and imho can bring worst of some people, who overall wouldn't be so awful in different context.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/21 06:49 PM
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Yeaaah... 'I won him over and convinced him I was sexy, what a great love story' said no woman ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 10:41 PM
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Firstly, no reason, an instinct level I guess, like 'why do you like hourglass figure'. I'm not (and I suspect most women are not) attracted to an individual feature in a way men often are, e.g. nice butt, but the whole picture/story. Being desired by a sexy man, as Atlas wrote, makes a sexy story. Running around trying to convince men to fuck you makes a story of either you being ugly or him being gay. Not very arousing. There are some guys who are turned on by 'convincing' women to themselves,…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 10:35 PM
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It's probably true as a general rule. Friendship however, just like love, is usually an exception to the general rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 10:49 PM
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Depends on what you mean by peak. Men peak in terms of 'being attractive to the most attractive women' around 23-25 I think, as 20yos don't really want to date much older as first choice. Men peak in terms of 'being atttactive to the most range of women' about 28-35, as usually he is atttactive to his peers, but it's a sweet spot age where he can still pull some younger chicks without sugar daddying (provided he's not too picky)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 06:54 AM
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Where I'm from (Europe) split custody does not mean lowered child support, and usually it gets higher when men want to see their children more (you can either propose terms agreed by both parents, or court decides, so it tends to be 'pay 2x and get 50/50 or 40/60 or risk getting default 2 weekends a month'). And i know guys who took that deal, despite it being more costly and obviously not loving the ex. There are deadbeats too, sure, but it's not that obvious to me the parental bond dissolves t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 04:42 PM
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Yeah, it would be also lovely if people would 'adopt' elderly lonely people and visit them every day and help with groceries. Or if all doctors and lawyers would do 5h of probono work each week. Adopting an older child is noble and awesome etc, but it's much different situation than getting a toddler because you want nuclear family but have fertility issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/21 10:15 AM
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Yeah, but you have timelimit on adoption, at least where I am from. They calculate the age gap, and it has a maximum, of about 40 years. So if you are 45, you won't get a brand new shiny baby, a 5 y.o. traumatised by foster care is best you can hope for.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/21 06:48 AM
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I haven't said he's bad. I don't regard every person I don't want to have sex with as 'bad'. But yeah, if he's not into relationships, he's not into relationship with me, so let's not waste each other time. Not having sex is not some grand punishment women inflict on evil people. Hell, he could be a perfectly handsome smart and kind guy, but if he's moving to live on the other side of the globe in a week, I'm not interested either.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/21 01:01 PM
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Isn't that an argument against OP? If you say lots od different partners harms the ability to bond, why should a women aim to have sex outside relationship? ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/21 05:49 AM
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Thanks. I don't mean all that in a stereotypically FDS-shrewy 'worship me' kind of way. Sometimes people fall silly in love, and that's imho way better starting point than just 'eh... Let's sleep together and see where it goes and if noone better comes along'. That shit is depressing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/21 10:42 PM
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Worked fine for me :)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/21 10:36 PM
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If he feels he'd fuck me, but maaaaybe be in a relationship with me after a while, he clearly doesn't think I'm the best thing since sliced bread. Oneitis or gtfo ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/21 10:32 PM
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"I think women lose out on a lot awesome guys because they thought they were fuckboys but they just respected themselves and wouldn’t entertain a woman who makes them wait for sex even though they liked the girl. " That's male thinking. I dgaf about 'losing out on a lot of men'. I need one man, exceptionally interested in me. The hell I need lots of charming, quite cute, but lukewarm about me guys? What should I do with them, impregnate?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/21 10:21 PM
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Could be that women are more used to being flirted with, and so it's not an earth shattering event that makes them question the relationship/think they could do better? In my circle of friends we use term i could translate as 'flirting for sport'. We all kinda-pretend or exaggerate that all us ladies are sexy and irresistable, and all the guys are handsome and manly and we do some playful banter with that assumption. It's nice, makes poeple feel good about themselves, and almost never leads to a…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/21 07:03 PM
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Never happened. I can think 'nice voice' or 'handsome face' at first sight, but sexual attraction requires context and time to grow. Seduce me, dammit! Or let me seduce myself by being awesome and being around a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 06:30 AM
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I was heartbroken after my highschool crush got a girlfriend. My friend decided to set me up with a guy I casually knew who was sad about his recent breakup. We went on two dates and decided to be a couple. I still don't quite grasp why. We kissed about three times. Awkardly. About a week later we broke with each other by telling it the mutual friend who set us up. SEE, WOMEN HIT WALL AT 16 AND DECIDE TO SETTLE THEN.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 04:02 PM
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Nah. I need a lot of space for my stuff and myself, but some of the best parts of being together for me is sharing meals and bed. Like, I'd even prefer a partner that cannot leave the bedroom for some magical reason than one I cannot share bed with (speaking about my comfort only, so of course I woudn't choose that for someone in a stupid 'what would you rather' scenario, as it would fuck up their social life)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/21 09:19 PM
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The Wall as in 'objective loss of sex appeal' is true. Barely anyone is as sexy at 40 as they were at 20. Noone is at 60. The Wall as in 'deadline for lifeplans/reproductive plans' is also real. Getting married at 42 is nit the same thing as 26. Even if you miraculously have a baby, 'spending life together' is a different thing when more than half of your life in good health is behind you. Tha's just aging and death, not pillstuff in particular. However, the wall as in 'noone wants me / I have n…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/21 09:24 PM
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The problems about sex are not 'merely' about sex, because we are big monkeys with big brains which make everything complicated, nuanced and with additional emotional/layers, but these are still problems that center sex. Feeling desired, emotionally close and 'alive' is part of the sex, because those are the feelings connected to falling in love aka sexual desire & mating. Emotional problems that begin with sex (feeling unwanted or unloved due to sexual rejection) would not exist with in a non-s…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/21 05:19 PM
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Realistic solution would be sadly something like starting WWIII, with massive draft and losing 30% of male population :(
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/21 04:10 PM
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Noooo, if the reason is other than him being a superhero and worrying his archenemies will hurt me. White lies and plausible deniability are the foundations of society, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/21 08:01 PM
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I think this stereotype steams from seeing 'strong independant' / ruthless bitch women as generally more feisty, kinky and adventurous or 'into some weird shit'. The whore, not the madonna. So submissive here is more on a 'freaky --- vanilla' spectrum, than 'sub --- dom' one. And general stereotype of a kinky women is the submissive, aka 'tie me up and beat me' type.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 08:35 PM
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I can be the prettier one, as in face & body. Probably being with a male model would make me a bit insecure. However, as opposed to other commenters here, I don't want to be extremely more 'prissy'. He'd better be quite elegant and even a bit of a dandy. I'm usually overdressed a bit, going out with a guy that looks like a slob would be more of a downer than not-6'2-chad.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/21 08:57 PM
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No, it ''threatens" only those women who were not part of perceived problem. Let's assume TRP is true, TRP advice works, and all men use it. Those 'degenerate', carousel riding thots that 'ruined the dating market' get their tingles and hot chad sex, and since they are fine with casual sex, their lives even improved. Yeah, they might loose some beta orbiters, but they are getting more fun dark triad men. However, nice, virginal, innocent girls who want to roleplay being 50s housewife are truly f…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/21 02:54 PM
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Like you wouldn't want to be an immortal shapeshifter lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/21 10:13 PM
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Talk over the phone till it's morning. Pretend to have a medical emergency to skip work to meet. If it doesn't feel like drugs, it's not much of a honeymoon phase.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/21 07:39 PM
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Is it a cool & heisty fraud or pathetic fraud? Like we're pair of immortal shapeshifter who stole popular people's bodies, or is it like he's a fake and lousy Superhero like this speedy guy from The Boys?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/21 07:32 PM
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Weeks / months of no contact in the past? LOL, with that timeframe in the past, you were assumed dead and your partner remarried by the time you were back. Happened to my grandparents during WWII. :D
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/21 07:44 PM
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Umm, is me asking for a jacket when cold submissive in a sense of being acted upon the act of giving me jacket? That's nonsense. If anything, he's submissive by being agreeable to my invitation, instead of bravely going his own way and rejecting the kiss :D
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/21 03:40 PM
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You are ready to conform to his will. How is that 'conforming to his will', when I'm the one sending the invite? I state my will in a more or less subtle way, and if there's a match, things progress. 'Hey, come here and kiss me' *is being kissed* SO SUBMISSIVE.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/21 03:33 PM
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Passive and active only matter to how they influence the power dynamic. So me 'accidentally' pinup style taking off stockings before bath or sitting on his lap to be caressed and kissed results in getting reaction I wanted. How is that 'submissive' situation and not 'getting dinner' situation?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/21 03:17 PM
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The whole flirting dance is escalation done in alternating steps, I don't see how banter filled with sexual innuendos is anything but mutual. I described flirting techniques, because you were talking about flirting, not actual sex. If after the whole mating ritual of seduction and whispers she's the one to first lean to a kiss is the guy passive now? What if he was the one who unbuttoned first button, does it even out? And even if they are 'passive' (is pressing butt into man's crotch while hugg…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/21 03:02 PM
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There are two big jumps you make here. First, is that all flirting is done in a cutesy-little-girl way. That's not true. The lovey-dovey stuff is mostly mutual, with man being often equally as 'childish' in hugs, babytalk, kisses and over the top love declarations, and I think it's just part of oxytocin rush of NRE. The female flirting (as in creating tension, not deescalating it to hug and cuddle) is much more of push-and-pull, engaging in a teasing banter, teasing in a sexual manner (e.g. bold…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/21 02:44 PM
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Capital European city observations here, so may not be applicable elsewhere. Almost everyone puts off having kids for the longest possible to have fun, life, career. But a minority is truly childfree, most of people want children eventually. This creates a rather tragic dynamic. As most couples are within same age (there are stats for that, I was quite suprised, but really vast majority has a negligible 1-3 year gap), women tend to get 'baby alarm' a few years earlier, say 30 - 35. Some have kid…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 09:03 PM
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Most women react differerently than men to homosexual attention, if heterosexual. If anything, I'd say women are more likely to feel flattered by a chick being into them, even tease a little in a friendly setting (with whole 'oh, what a pity I'm hetero, I'd do you otherwise, tehehe). Unwanted men's attention is less pleasant. And I havent seen hetero men react with positive giggles when other men flirted with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 05:09 PM
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The SMV is a relative thing. Men tend to get more choice as they age, but not in 20 year old supermodel women. A vast majority of women prefer relationships with few years age gap max. However, let's say: 5% of 20 year old women are willing to date 40 year old men. 10% of 25 year old women do the same. 40% of 30 year old women would date a 40 year old men. 90% of 35 year old women would do. So if a guy was just average and doing quite-all-right but nothing spectacular on dating market at 25, it …
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/21 09:19 AM
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Kind of, not all status, yeah. Much of female desire for a man is considering him awesome/cool. Fame adds to that in a pretty obvious way. High status in a field that is relevant to the girl and the group she's in (so a popular band member for a goth girl, a talented painter for someone studying arts, popularity in any given subculture the girl belongs to). Losers are not sexy. Winners are contextual, a CEO status does probably nothing for a biker gal.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/21 12:16 PM
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Yeah, some people just don't care about nice words, or spending time together, or affection and sex. Or they just have to pick one, 'because different love languages', lol. These are quite basic relationship perks, treating them like rpg attributes with limited number of points to distribute is quite sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/21 01:41 PM
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Female. All of them, please. And double cheese. This love languages thing seems like a nice way to justify being with someone who cares little. 'Oh, being nice and kind are just not his love languages, I'll just accept that he shows love by not leaving'.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/21 08:17 PM
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Nah, just average thinking too highly of yourself. Does that meet criteria for 'dumb as fuck'?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/21 06:31 PM
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There is that, but also some more primal feels imho. Sex for me adds bunch of crazy territorial feelings, the 'mine and mine only, want to smell his clothes all times, other females bad, body fluids good', basically turning into obsessive mating mode.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/21 05:36 PM
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Yeah, I see it more as as sublimated sexual desire than result of sex. However, many women state that hearbreak would be much worse after sex, and I kind of agree with that, it feels like rejection vs loss, and rejection is something more spread in time and less sharp (after all, all the time spent wanting is time spent not having, so rejection after a long limerent crush is like more of the same terribleness)..
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/21 05:26 PM
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And the 'n count destroys pair bond' argument is therefore 'after experiencing that crazy hormonal thing multiple times with different people, the women, unless she's IQ 60, would learn that it's just her horniness clouding judgement, not some mystical thing, so she'll be disillusioned and won't let herself be tricked by her brain chemistry, like you stop reacting to 50th jump scare in a row in a slasher movie'.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/21 05:16 PM
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I have quite the opposite intuiton, based on anecdata and own experience. Funny. I think women are more prone than men to experience desire as limerence, as opposed to simple 'would bang' skin-deep feeling, and therefore more likely to attach to it more romantic, truelovey meaning. I mean, when you experience sexual desire as 'feeling lightheaded, can't concentrate, obsessive thoughts of his smell and that moment when ours hands almost touched, butterfiles in stomach, I'm going to die if I won't…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/21 05:11 PM
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Some wrong heuristics. IQ 100 => not that bright, when said 'average' people think "People of Walmart" average IQ 120 => Normie smart, an internet nerd or someone casually in the chess club or studying something STEMish is usually in that 115-120 range. therefore Very Smart ~ 140 IQ. And my partner is of course VERY SMART (when most of the cases, they are average, because most of people are average). Add to that cherry-picking comparison, e.g. 'I knew one guy who said he was IQ 130, but he was q…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/21 10:26 AM
1

i am forced into relationship with him. He's a rapist.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/21 07:47 AM
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Since I don't want neither of them, and the forced relationship would be rape, I pick B purely because of lower STD risk. Can I plot to hurt him/chemically castrate?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/21 07:45 AM
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Women in muslim countries have it even shittier than before. Hiding infidelity is impossible. I wonder if the second thing shouldn't remove the 'buuut N count is a good indicator of future cheating' argument. If she cheats, you'll know. No reason to guess based on N count.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 09:49 AM
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Under 10 from early teens to 30. But genuine, lustful attraction for me is something that builds over time (in contrast to noticing someone is objectively cute) so that is infuenced by the fact I wasn't looking to build that kind of relationship most of the time
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 12:53 AM
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Nope, but I will check that out. Thanks for recommendation.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/20 03:07 PM
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I think it's gradual. First lust phase is over, they seem to like each other, yeah, they fight sometimes but are told every couple does, they've been living together for some time and function as a lovely couple in their social circle, plus they've been together 7 years and marriage is part of adulting, and having doubts is normal, yada yada.... Plus it wouldn't be exactly cheered by TRP if a 27 year old woman dumped her longtime boyfriend because the tingles are gone. So she tells herself it's …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/20 08:48 AM
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Sumo guys are also into sports. I don't know his BMI, he looks fat on pictures to me, maybe my brain equates male fat on chest == obesity, not tits. Anyway, as appealing as a beard on woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 11:49 PM
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It's unattractive. And it seems to often go with obesity, which is unattractive too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/20 11:36 PM
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Women were physically incapable of raising a child in the caveman era and also providing for them at the same time. To argue that is to argue insanity as your defense. Yeah, but that does not mean monogamous prostitution for resources is the only possible model. A small community could divide labour (hunting/domestic stuff/taking care of younglings) without monogamy. Males could provide for females they were related to. It's not even sure 'cavemen' fully understood the paternity thing and how it…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/20 03:10 PM
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It depends what do you define as 'peak'. I think men's peak at 30-35 is defined that way not due to being 'objectively' most attractive then (e.g. more than he was at 25) but because women tend to be willing to date slightly older partner, and being around 30 is the sweet spot for hitting largest demographics of women. As in (statistics are made-up but seem believable to me, you can change it to different %, the general tendency is important: 22 year old guy: 90% of 18-22 years old women are wil…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/20 12:07 AM
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Most women were getting married by late teens and early 20s well into the 1990s Where does that crazy statistic come from? All data I can find points to median age of marriage for women in 1990 being 23.9, so really not 'late teens'.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/20 06:45 PM
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From what I've read, they're not only single but exclusive. The only weirder couple situation on PPD is the guy with homeless-on-purpose GF.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/20 03:59 PM
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I would not have bastard children on purpose. Maaaybe If I was in my 40ties, really wanted them, single and decided to do it alone, but then they would have my surname etc. What he's proposing is a bit trashy imho.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/20 07:19 PM
1

Since when maturity == start of physical decline?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 08:59 PM
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Artificial wombs and government children.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 06:46 PM
2

You are the kind of man whose secret gay urges I love to fantasize about.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/20 09:07 PM
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All other things being equal, a bachelor. A bachelor with 3 baby mamas vs a childless divorcé? Divorcé. A bachelor with no relationship history and lots of fwb/ons vs divorcé with one-hand-count of women in his life? Divorcé. A runaway-groom with a few broken engagements vs onetime divorcé? Divorcé. Etc
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 06:38 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/20 02:16 PM
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Everyone in this thread makes it ("settling") seem like a rational, counted pros-and-cons decision. In that way, even choosing your perfect celebrity crush would be settling. Fortunately (depending on perspective) that rarely happens as our brain chemistry is pretty awesome at smoothing those things over and making the experience narcotic from first person perspective. Love makes you blind, etc, etc. I don't mean it in a profound way, like it's necessary always a good thing, but hey - infatuatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/20 01:07 PM
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More insane thing is it turned into some arranged-marriage-tips sub. There are no normal people there anymore, it's 50:50 between crazy christian sects and people living in India
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/20 07:29 AM
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I agree a lot. Even if me having sex with someone else was for some reason fine by my man, me desiring sex with a new guy would make me think 100% time of him and idea of someone else touching me would make my skin crawl. NRE is a powerful drug. And it would be destructive for the old/main relationship. Only way I can imagine having two or more partners at the same time is when all of those relationships are very lukewarm/casual, and I don't need lukewarm/casual sex in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/20 01:08 PM
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Female weirdos get rejected by women, so they turn to men who are not so socially picky if someone has a vagina. Male weirdos get rejected by both women and men, so they end up alone or hang with each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/20 03:35 PM
2

That sounds very young. The answer to this question is: yes.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/20 12:21 AM
2

Oh come on. I agree with you that sexless relationships are a no-go, barring some extreme accidents, but there are obvious differences. Biggest one is a mutual agreement for building a life together, nesting, plans etc. It may be sad that a good friend moves to another city, but it's generally not expected that he won't and it's not perceived as betrayal. You don't make life plans (building home, jobs, children and childcare) with platonic friend. He's not expected to be primary caregiver if you…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/20 07:19 AM
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Oh, yes. I had a guy friend that was quite desperate to have sex/relationship with women, and he wasn't that bad looking or anything. I sort-of-wingwomaned for him, bringing a girl friend to a party we both attended. They very casually knew each other from university, and she said he's kind of cute, so there was some potential they're going to click, and he also said to me he'd be interested in her. The party comes, somehow the topic turns to beauty standards. And then the guy says something lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 04:46 PM
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I think so, and i think the plate-stage is much more common in online dating. I never dated someone outside my social circle, and once things gotten out of flirty banter at parties/events we both attend & texting to meeting 1:1 it was pretty much a given it's a relationshipy interview going on. When people date friends/aquiantances the drama related to pump&dump or situationships is not worth the effort, so dating is not a matter of meeting strangers, but having a mutual crush for some time befo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/20 08:43 PM
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I think it can be 'repaired' if he's a good father and a household teammate in a sense you can stop arguing and make it work, provided you just stop viewing him as 'your man' and romantic partner. Keep the family thing going peacefully, stop the drama by emotionally clocking out, and if you still want some love/romance in life be very discreet about it
/r/RedPillWives15/08/20 03:31 PM
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Why would it be more improbable with the same guy? Common sense (a lover that knows her body vs string of randos) would suggest otherwise. And I don't think is that unusual. If not during PIV, oral/fingers/toys exist. All you need is a 'we're not done untill we're both done' mindset and except for some random events like being interrupted I don't see why near 100% success rate feels impossible. Yeah, she might not always be in the mood / too stressed or tired to orgasm, but maybe that means to t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/20 07:03 PM
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Oh. That changes how I understand the question and changes the meaning of question A LOT. You stated in opening post that he does not find me physically attractive and does not find me sexually attractive, as if they were the same thing. For many women who say this about their men, the first might be true, but the second not at all. A man can be quite ugly and still sexy as hell. Sexy, as in making me wet when our eyes meet and can't stop thinking about you, not just 'nice guy, and relationship …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 08:12 PM
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I really enjoy teasing flirt, firstly just as a fun interaction, and secondly in appreciation of social skills to do it correctly: the thin balance between being bold and witty and actually offending me and thus blowing the conversation (and the social cost of that if we share friends circle) is quite a thing to achieve and so I value it in the same way I value acrobats who walk on line. Negging however, as in: trying to convincingly (but subtly) communicate that you don't find me that attractiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 08:27 PM
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Nope. In a way, negging is the opposite of teasing. Teasing is delivering a message that at face value is negative, with a clear intention of communicating it in playful/joking manner. Negging is sending a message that is neutral at face value, with hope that it will be read as a negative one or at least there will be doubt about intention.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/20 08:08 PM
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Sorry, I posted this under main thread, but it was response to this question: Assuming I'm already interested? Violent criminal history. Married. About to leave the country and never return / other very incompatible life goals that make the relationship impossible. But that tells nothing about my 'standards'. I would not date every unmarried noncriminal, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/20 10:38 AM
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No minimum standards. Feeling lukewarm and 'kinda ok' about a guy would never be enough for me to consider dating him. He must be the sexiest, most charming, funny, brilliant man with whom I hit the same wavelenghts. Otherwise, what's the point?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/20 11:57 PM
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Procreation
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/20 07:28 PM
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Provided I don't have any responsibilities in outside world (husband, children, etc), I'd stay. For long. Really long. Don't really care for the nympf thing, but after 500 years on the island basically left alone to create my own environment, I'd either leave as a crazy, tormented lady to kill myself just as I exit, or become some kind of enlightened budda-style being. Which sounds tempting.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/20 03:30 PM
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Dude's are not that picky these days. If you look decent and you're polite in your approach, the dude will accept as long as he ain't gay or taken already. That is the main reason why it's not very beneficial for women to approach. The problem is not being rejected, the problem is being not rejected in a 'eeem, ok, will do' kind of way. I want to screen out the guys who feel meh about me and deal only with ones who think I'm amazing enough to approach. If this pool is small a girl should rather …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/20 07:19 AM
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Why? You generally don't do any planned activities (climbing, picinic, theatre, shooting, etc) or just do them with girlfriends or non-romantic partners?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/20 09:30 PM
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Yeah. Comfort. Hugs. Kind words, reassurance, ice cream. Opening up about his own problems. Isn't that what separates relationship from some casual fwb situation?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/20 07:17 AM
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Yes, i think it's crazy and a reason why so much 'first date then ghost' situations. I mean, I have visual preferences, but they are not primary attractor. It's like you would only get to smell women's perfume before deciding on a date - you WOULD choose based on smell (in abscence of other data), and girls would soon start thinking it's only smell that matters, not her body, because men only choose flowery fragrances.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/20 02:47 PM
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Female sexual arousal is much less straightforward than male. Looking at a photo, I can't really tell if I would find the guy hot (apart from obvious NOPEs, like 90 year old or obese). Not saying it's more 'pure' or 'mature' than just big tits==want sex, but way more factors, some of which, like 'coolness', 'masculinity', 'confidence' can change a lot. I cringe when I think of my highschool crush. I don't think I'll ever find thin, broody boys who show off their very basic guitar skills and pret…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/20 12:06 PM
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I'm not a big fan of the whole self-improvement craze. The motivational quotes, coaches, constant pressure to 'become better self'. Ugh. Most of it is self-centered, shallow, neurotic navel-gazing. Just clear up your emotional troubles so you're not a shitty person to others, and care about your health. It also rarely works as a standalone goal, similar to 'being happy'. Focus on improving the world around you instead, and the self-thing should follow eventually. I think having tangible goals be…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/20 04:38 AM
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If (I don't intend to, and hope I would break up which is most likely) I tried to forgive I'm pretty sure the man who cheated would leave me. In this hypothetical scenario, if I stayed it means I'd still have crazy intense feelings for him, and little self respect. That means I'd be hurt as hell, and paranoid about it and insecure. That means the 'reconciliation' would consist of lovely stuff like 100% control of his phone, social media, no leaving the house alone except work which we travel to …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/20 05:08 AM
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I don't know why you assume my turning down the date was not direct. It was always something along the lines of 'Thanks for asking, but I'm not interested. And I'm dating someone currently'. It stops overt romantic gestures, but does not stop the beta-orbiting-plausible-deniability-just-being-friendly ones, like roses on women's day, cookies 'just because I baked too many, hehe', coming to every event you facebook-annouce to attend and then just chatting up, cause we know each other, right? And …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 04:42 PM
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Yes. In a meeting stranger at the bar scenario, it's easier to tell someone to please go away and don't talk to me again. But in a friend/work/hobby group - let's suppose there's a guy that asked you out once or twice for a date, you turned down. Both sides were respectful about that. But the guy just doesn't stop giving you preferential treatment - offering a ride when it's convinient, bringing some snacks, always complementing and trying to chit-chat at parties. It's obvious he fancies you. No…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 04:21 PM
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Age 30. Never happened to me with a man I was interested in, so I've never dived into 'how did I ruin it' hair-splitting analysis. The ones that were pursuing me with lack of my interest - some I cut contact with, the ones who stopped hitting on me or decreased intensity - I was just glad they got over me, maybe thought they met someone else or finally realized it's never going to happen anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 03:52 PM
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Redpill Women is a sub for utilizing redpill framework of sexual dynamics to have a better (as in: one you are happier in) relationship. It's goal is not to be a good girl in a cosmic sense, so that God or whoever would be proud of how nice you are. There is no point in playing sweet little wife for a man who does not make your life better. Also, out of wedlock children are 100% male sexual strategy win, woman loose. And kind of trashy and ruining your dating potential. So you'll make yourself 1…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/20 05:04 PM
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Keep your 'relationship max shitiness level' low. That is the maximum level of hurtfulness and disrespect that occurred in the relationship and it survived. No matter later apologies, getting back and reconciliation, some things cannot be undone in a sense they become the treshold of what can be done to each other in relationship. Snappy comment & eyeroll? Ok, we're at that level now. 'Fuck you'? The bar rises. 'I'm leaving' threats? It goes up again, and once something is fair game, it's freque…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 08:19 PM
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??? Yeah, that quote sounds reasonable. I'm not into humiliation sex talk, but I surely enjoy heavily sexual compliments from my partner, while same thing coming from my coworkers would send them to HR at the speed of light. Please explain this apparent hypocisy to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/20 10:50 AM
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Appears less funny once you realise it applies to non-bdsm sex talk as much and there's nothing hypocritical about it. Totally vanilla girl would also not enjoy comments from strangers about how much they want to eat her out or suck her nipples, but would if it was said by her lover. What's so shocking?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 08:39 PM
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The thing is, when thinking about passage of time, being DEAD in the future is so utterly terriyfing, that adding WRINKLY to that doesn't add much horror.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/20 04:54 PM
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That would be just wedding, without marriage. I've heard before that women are evil because they just want to have a big disney wedding with a pretty dress and not actually get married, but I guess now we're evil if we care about the marriage part, and feel meh about the party?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/20 10:31 AM
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My tastes as I moved towards death: - 14-18: very effeminate, yaoi style hairless except head boys - 18-26: pretty boys, but no longer looking 100% gay, If you could play an elf or vampire in a movie we're a match - 26-30 (now): Still into slim men with a bit of boyish face, but some muscle and more masculine features in the face are appreciated. I guess I'll be into silver fox charming guys like Clooney somewhere in my 45s. The slider of attraction moves towards more mature looking men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/20 08:59 AM
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Me&all the guys (not many of them, heh): - Introverted and a bit misanthropic - Into gaming & sci-fi - Into philosophy & general useless speculation - Cat people - Melancholic and procrastinators That's not a conscious checklist of requirements, of course. Just ended that way, I guess because I 'click' with people similar to me. Bored/repulsed by hyperactive people. Or I just ended with the only guys willing to stay and talk over beer in a quiet pub til 4 a.m. instead of going dancing or whateve…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/20 07:06 PM
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Knee-length, visible waistline, A-line skirt. For normal days something like that: https://ae01.alicdn.com/kf/HTB1FvGoKkKWBuNjy1zjq6AOypXaZ/2019-Summer-Vintage-Soild-Lantern-Sleeve-A-Line-Dress-Women-Elegant-O-Neck-Half-Sleeve-Pocket.jpg I wear dresses for work, shopping, casual meetings. I wear then now, during lockdown too, as the alternative would be to spend all day in bathrobe. I don't own trousers except for sportswear and it's so much more comfortable this way. I stopped getting UTIs at a…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/20 07:03 AM
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The top moment was discussing a photo of bikini model, and he was 'yeah, she's hot, I'd hook up with her', then inspected the photo a bit closer, and then said that no, she's got slightly asymmetrical thigh gap and that's weirding him out. I thought of 'pointy elbows, 2/10' instantly.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 05:42 PM
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I have a gay male friend which came out of the closet in stages, first he was heterosexual, just very picky, then bisexual (but the girl has to be Victoria's Secret model hot, and all imperfections are yuck!), and then he finally admitted he's got no interest in women at all, except for models in fashion, because of fashion and glamour.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/20 05:37 PM
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I don't have much unmet expectations, and wasn't even contemptuous for men going for younger women. Just stated that women their age woudn't be thrilled with what they offer (and vice versa) so yes, in some cases dating younger can be easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 07:01 PM
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Why's that? I see just a big needs and expectations mismatch.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 06:55 PM
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Why's that? I see just a big needs and expectations mismatch.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 06:55 PM
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Why's that? I see just a big needs and expectations mismatch.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 06:55 PM
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"he's only dating younger women because no woman his own age would want him". More like: no (or minority) of women his own age would want what he's willing to offer. All the "we're young, let's not put label on things and see where it goes, I don't have a stable job or a plan for life, hell, maybe I'll move to Europe in a few years" could be fine with a 20yo and a dealbreaker for a 28. So in a sense for a certain lifestyle and relationship goals dating a younger woman is easier because she's les…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 06:17 PM
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You need someone that crushes it, that you can lay your head on and sleep, knowing he has can handle shit. That's a very traditional sexual dynamic, and you're framing it as if there is no overlap between alpha/provider traits, which is untrue. The standard tradcon fantasy is a strong, leader man who'll burn cities for his beloved, or at least die on goddamn Titanic for her, not a decadent playboy who plates her. ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 07:28 AM
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As a former yaoi fangirl - the homoerotic tension is delicious!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/20 07:20 AM
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Nah, the rule is sex with man makes you dirty. Sex with women doesn't count. That's why lesbians are sexy and bi men are disgusting, apparently. And why man's N count doesn't taint him. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/20 09:40 PM
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Ugh, just no. I think most of 100% heterosexual girls would rather have sex with their female best friend than a really unattractive guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 06:23 PM
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Hahaha, this rule is like 100% FDS reason to never pursue a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 06:21 PM
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I'm not rude, but try to give precise answers if asked for directions and don't engage in chit-chat. E.g. ask me where specific pub is, sure, I'll show directions, but ask if it's a good place and if I've been there - sorry, I'm busy. It's kind of damned if you do, damned if you don't situation - If I cut off early, I'm a bitch, and vain for assuming you're flirting, if I entertain you for a five minute talk and then don't want to grab a coffee or give my number - I'm a bitch and I'm leading you…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/20 02:23 PM
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I see quite a lot highschool-sweethearts type really long LTRs breaking up in late 20's, which gives plenty of 27, 28 year old women with n count around 1-3 back in the dating market.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/20 09:42 PM
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What happened between 30 and 40 that made you dead inside? Heartbreak/divorce/usual stuff or things just stopped being so intense?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/20 06:13 AM
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I wasn't particuarly interested in marriage&kids per se, especially very young, I took the thread title as shortcut to a lifetime serious relationship and building a future together. Yeah, with marriage and maybe kids if that's how we want our life. Never felt strongly maternal. First question: Yeah, I hoped we would end up together for good. How could I spend sleepless nights thinking of him, take forever to analyze every silly text message and then be like 'I want him for a year or two'? If I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/20 05:56 AM
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Three times, one was a hopless teenage crush on a friend that lead nowehere because I was too shy, two others were LTRs, I'm with my second man. I woudn't say it faded, last time I fell in love it was with 'holly hell hormones maked me literally drugged' intensity. I'm 30 now.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/20 05:17 AM
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If I don't feel desire, there's no point in engaging in any sort of relationship. IF i feel desire, my desire is posessive. I want him to be mine, and mine only, and mine forever, and anything else is either failure or unbearable pain. So yeah, no casual fun time for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/20 08:43 PM
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Yes, it rings true. I know, #notallmen, etc, etc. But it's hard not to notice the patterns. From my experience young men are similarly hooked up on 'hot mess' girls as young girls are to badboys. The hotmess is BDPD-syndromely attractive, but mentally unstable girl. Insecurity issues, obsessive, mood swings, whole package. Guys seem to take this emotional high-down roller-coaster as a sign of feelings being real and profound, I've noticed more onetinis centered around stunning crazy girls than s…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/20 09:26 PM
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It's possible to have and income working from home (COVID-19, yay!), but it's still 8h or more time spent working. You can work from home, but he has to expect that the chores & cooking will still be split and done in the afternoon/evenings. I see how it goes in my company now that everyone has to stay home. Homeoffice & some cooking/cleaning is barely possible, homeoffice + childcare = nope.
/r/RedPillWives23/03/20 10:47 AM
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Ok, let's agree to the 'all women want sex with 1% of Chads' belief. Even then, the hook is to be wanted and desired by 1% Chad, even for a brief moment. Payment cancels that. Noone wants to have paid sex with pretty boys, except gay guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/20 10:24 AM
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This whole debate sounds as if instead of people we were dealing with AIs with 'optimize sexual value of partner' function. Many people, apart from extremely cold and jaded ones, don't do it. We have lots of hormonal & emotional wiring to pair with each other even if they are not perfect by some objective measure. And I wouldn't call it settling, as settling requires some premeditation, and calculated decision. If I just fall in love hopelessly with a guy, my whole brain is screaming at me 'you …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/20 08:53 AM
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Naaah. Most men have a drive to be needed and useful, by providing a protecting. TRP is trying to cultivate a male equivalent odf thousand-cock-stare in them, maimimg them emotiomally and ruining for good.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/20 09:38 PM
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It just clamps alpha == success / beta == looser without underlying theory, so it's an extra pair of terms to describe something we already have words for. Long term/short term mating strategy definition or arousal/comfort oriented ones at least provide different angle to look at gender dynamics.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 06:03 PM
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30, F. Yes, that would indicate he's not totally into me. I really dig limerence and NRE. If he's not putting 150% of his mental and emotional attention into getting me, we're not on the same wavelength. I don't need an interim, not that great but not that bad bf. I wanna strike of lighting, high intensity, constant contact, love letters hopeless romance ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/20 06:00 PM
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Your definition is the least useful I've ever read.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 07:40 PM
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Roleplay it is. And most contemporary people prefer it a lot to the alternative. It is roleplay and charade and make-believe because at the end of the day there is no authority that could enforce this submission, at least in most parts of western world. Every RPWomen, every tradcon wife and 24/7 bdsm slave can wake up and decide she doesn't feel like doing it anymore and leave the guy. No amount of promises and books about being obedient little wife can take away that nuclear button. Barring eco…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/20 02:44 PM
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That was full on /s
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/20 05:14 AM
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Wild? I mean, the gtfo part was a bit tongue-in-cheek, but the general sentiment is there. PIV is crucial to me. Sexual release, physical closeness, emotional closeness. Whispering each others' names in ecstasy. Feeling my man shiver from pleasure INSIDE MY BODY. Feel him twitch and cum. Postcoital bliss. I've tried mdma twice and it's comparable imho. To stop and suck dick for a few minutes after would be a bit of a mood killer.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 09:23 PM
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I'm 'shallow' in the sense that desire is non negotiable and does not depend on how good and valuable person you are. Be sexy and seductive. But looks are, like 20% of that. Gay men care about banging male models. For me, it's more about cofidence, suave, good game. Prettiest man ever does nothing for me if he turns out for example to be awkward and terrible dancer.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 09:03 PM
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You asked 'honestly'. Yeah, it's pretty bad imho. Of course, if magically sex would still be amazing, we would have crazy chemistry etc maybe that one thing wouldn't be damning. But prima facie it sounds like a bummer and awkward and bad sex life. Not fair, I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 08:58 PM
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Creampie or gtfo. The rest is just sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 05:10 PM
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Yeah, TRP was always about lifting, nothing about treating women as commodities to cure oneitis, no negging or dread game, just noncontroversial mainstream advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 04:41 PM
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Dealbreaker, that would be terrible. I would not feel inadequate probably, rather think he is defective.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/20 04:00 PM
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No, I'm not poor or from mafia or sth, how does one even meet criminals? I'd have to go to some fancy 'lets bake christmas cookies for people in prison to pretend we dont despise them' event to see one.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/20 05:21 PM
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How does that work? The more 'feelings' is associated with sex, the more it becomes an important part of the relationship. Like, if it's all about feelz, and expressing love and connection, isn't it more crucial and needed than just 'fun thing, can create babies' (assuming same base libido level)?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 02:46 PM
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No, but I had a sudden experience of falling out of love with Nirvana songs in late teens. It was weird and sudden, a click in my head and all the magic and spark was gone. One of the most curious mind-chemistry moments without drugs.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 07:35 PM
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Why? A 'yuck' reaction mostly, same as when seeing a grown man dressed in fursuit doing a sexy pose. I can try to guess the source of that yuck, but that's always retrospective. Disgust is not a opinion. I don't find it morally revolting or 'problematic' as much as just... embarrassing, silly and unsexy in a way most weird fetishes are. The kind of thing that would make a social disaster and object you to ridicule if it became public knowledge. Like 'Harry likes anal' or 'Mary is into bondage' i…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 02:52 PM
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Furry level cringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/20 02:29 PM
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Care to explain in which sense 'our' ogic is weird? It's stereotyping, yes, in a way all heuristics are. There is some chance that he has no issues with thinking most women are out there to get his money and he wasn't burned badly by an ex who used him, but statistically he may give an impression that he was. And people judge by impressions, even if he's a great guy with a clumsy dating strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 10:02 PM
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Yeah, I agree. And I don't mean it do devalue him and say everything is his fault, but that's weirdly specific case to just say 'bad luck'. In general, being weird/obsessed about your money is a turnoff. Poor guy, ok, I'm in if I like you. Rich guy, cool too obviously. Rich guy pretending to be poor for first few weeks - screams baggage and issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 09:15 PM
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Maybe you say something or throw the vibe of "this was a test to see if you are a golddigger, you passed, look, I'm a wealthy disney prince"? If you pretended to be way poorer in previous dates it can seem very weird&mgtowy&cringy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 09:06 PM
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That would be a lovely world to live in. Unfortunately, men are way more driven to do a lot for a girl they want to have vs. the one they have already.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 11:26 AM
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Reality is a man with a crush has a ton of instincts to move the world and sacrifice all to be with the women he desires. It's such a powerful drive TRP teaches it takes lots of time, desensitization and constant cynicsm to unlearn it, and even then you're never truly safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 11:16 AM
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Yeah and redpill advice works only on insecure and ugly women. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 11:07 AM
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How come on TRP / trpadvice subreddit men keep writing posts how one should be constantly vigilant, that you are never oneitis prone, that it still happens even to the best, but here on PPD every redpill macho is like 'no, no man has ever fallen in love / thought the girl was special / sacrificed a lot to be with her unless under age of 15 or severely disfigured'. You are right that it's not a optimal, rational strategy for a man to treat a girl this way. It wouldn't make sense to continuously d…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/20 10:49 AM
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Yeah, the same way they are afraid of going to bed early and eating lots of vegetables. Those are very scary things and most girls are not brave enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/20 03:34 PM
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The funny thing is, I was never insecure about possibility of betrayal, jealous of other women or controlling. I trust my man. But thinking about his past lovers tends to fill me with rage a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 08:28 PM
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Me 0 him 2 Me 1 him ~15
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 08:25 PM
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Stolen things? You obsess that someone is touching them now or something? That sounds weird to me. The ownership thing is probably true. My sexuality is absurdly possessive in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 09:06 AM
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Agree a lot. 3 months seems like a lot for dating (as in exclusive romantic meetings), but it's not that long if you start as complete strangers on date 1. OLD is deleting lots of social dance that happens before people start going on dates. There should be an app for social outcasts to form fake social circles that hang out together every other weekend so that pairing stuff can happen organically ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 09:33 PM
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Yeah, always. Meaning twice. And it's intense. I never made a problem out of it, blamed anyone, or otherwise acted crazy, but damn, those gut level feelings are nasty. Mostly rage, disgust, despair. They don't haunt me 100% the time, but I'm glad I don't have many triggers. Any 'ex' who's a friend would be a dealbreaker. I've written about those feelings before, so here's the breakdown: - Visceral, painful reaction to thoughts about those encounters. Almost the same as when thinking about possib…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 07:48 PM
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From my observations it's like that with double second marriages between age peers (e.g. both 35+ with kids). When the second wife is 10+ years younger it's often overcompensation on man's part top the first wedding in attempt to hush new wife's insecurities, so it tends to be over-the-top lavish with massive displays of financial commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/20 09:53 AM
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The 3 month rule is more for the guy's benefit. Men do not develop oneitis for some broad they bang after going for coffee. They might say they want it, but it leaves them barely satisfied. What they really want is to finally seduce the women they obsess over, with kind of 'let's-burn-Troy-for-you' intensity. And that type of connection builds over time. So I kindly offer men time to desperately fall in love with me ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/20 11:50 AM
3

He's out for using the whore. Pretending that wasn't part of the scenario, depends on details. Edging, blindfolds, some whip, worship&servitude? Yeah, let's try it. Footlicking and collars? Meh, not my thing and a bit silly, not a dealbreaker though. Mommy kink / human toilet? Ugh, nonononono..... i don't think our sex life will survive this knowledge.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/20 08:30 PM
1

Also bad eye distance. Too wide apart or too close to the nose. A man can be "interestingly ugly" and still pretty sexy with bad nose or big forehead, but bad eye distance always makes him look retarded.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 07:33 PM
2

Weak jawline and bad skull shape of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 07:30 PM
5

I think it is the 3h lazy saturday noon thing that hurts to be lost. The perspective of having next session like that in 15 years is pretty scary to us, millenials.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/20 06:58 PM
1

What's the reason behind those promises?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/20 10:00 PM
1

Day 0. All men I ever kissed were courting/hitting on me with intention of being my bf.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/19 11:48 AM
24

Start preparing your own food. ASAP. The thing is: don't aim for cutesy "I wanna be a housewife!" 50s kitchen dreams with pretty cakes and 3 course meals. You think it's cool now, you'll think rock climbing or crocheting is cool two months from now and will drop the cooking to pursue new hobbies. Instead aim to acquire a very basic human skill, as essential as reading, doing own laundry and cleaning your shoes. Stop eating prepared food. Just do your breakfast, lunch and dinner, very simple and …
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/19 08:14 PM
6

Yep, crazy commitment is best comitment. If he's not lighting-struck enough by me to want relationship and more stright away, then it's lukewarm and passionless.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/19 09:03 PM
13

Very true. And although I believe there are emotional gender differences between men and women, STFU goes both ways in my opinion and I greatly appreciate my man for his ability to do so as much as I do it for him. It's about not kicking your partner at their lowest although you might get a point/be right in that instance. No second guessing. Trusting the intention of someone you love. It's greatly rewarding, especially when later on they see your point and feel grateful that you didn't push it …
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/19 12:33 AM
1

I'd understand but be a bit sad if it's due to processing some emotional stuff that's not without mr, otherwise I always yearn for cuddling or PIV+cuddling as it's my default way of expressing closeness and intimacy and if a guy frequently rejects my closeness and intimacy we have a relationship problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 12:20 AM
1

For me the limit is familiarity and common context, e.g. pet names, phrases, ongoing flirt and tension. Casual flirting is fine and expected, as we both bask in glamour and being 'everyone wants us' couple.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/19 12:12 AM
2

My man is skilled in tailoring and dabbles in knitting. For me it's sexy as fuck because it's a manual skill. He has this general attittude of seeing something he likes and learning to do it, be it woodwork, dancing or whatever and it's really really impressive. Especially when it produces items I can enjoy, there's a difference between him and guys who are all talk. It seems so effortless for him to learn new skill, renaissance ftw ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/19 11:57 PM
2

Yeah, it's default. I'm 30 but my social circle consists of many 20-30 y.o. people, with quite a few on a younger side (20-23). Almost all people meet through mutual hobby, friends of friends or parties. There's one recently married couple who met on tinder, but that's all. I can have a bias because I only see couples stable enough to introduce to aquaintances, so maybe they're secretely meeting internet randos, but fail or stay at fwb&never see my friends level.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/19 05:57 PM
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Yeah, but it balances out with more mature features from age. Baby faced, slender men who looked a bit to effeminate in 20s usually look very handsome mid-late 30s, wheras guys who lost the boyish look earlier can be just old and balding by then.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/19 06:28 PM
4

I've seen a few, my parents included. In my opinion it works more peacefully than if both are very high earners. Mostly because two high earners aka power couple deal with twice as much job related stress. Imho a female doctor or lawyer has more chance for a stable marriage with a musician or teacher than someone from her proffession. Same with military couples, they rarely last
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 07:18 PM
2

Yeah! If I were Tameka that's what I'd love Keith to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/19 07:07 PM
1

My first dates were usually at a bar/pub and then going for a walk maybe, or taking part in some activity together (concert, museum, movie) and then grabbing some food, but this were all dates with people I already knew from social circle. Friends who do OLD go for a coffee/beer on a first date. I'm a millennial.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/19 08:17 AM
9

Yeah, in the same vein he's not being chosen because he's safe, he's being respected for his wallet! :D
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/19 01:25 PM
1

Oh dear, what a lovely preemptive self-sabotage. You really don't think anyone would ever happily spent thousands of dollars on you and wish you'd be his forever? If you had more self esteem and some other guys willing to propose to you (a few of them even, so you have choice), would your position still be the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/19 11:55 AM
3

What seems almost unnoticed is how much online dating changed what this whole 3/4/5 date timespan means. Scenario I, no online dating: A guy knows a girl, maybe a work/school/gym colleague, a neighbor or whoever. They chat a few times on some parties and are at least casual acquaintances. He thinks she's pretty and sweet, and catches himself thinking about her more and more. So, he decides to ask her out. Turns out she fancies him too a bit, because she accepts the invitation. The main preselect…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/19 12:27 PM
1

No, that's not. Otherwise a relationship would be indistinguishable from FWB arrangement. There's nothing wrong with wanting to get physical early on, but come on, the flirting / courting / romance elements are separable from sex and clearly separate dating / relationships from hanging out with acquaintance or meeting with casual sex partner. Again, you may argue that doing those without sex is unwise or whatever, but it still happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/19 11:58 AM
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That's FWB, and some women are fine with that. It's still casual. If it's not monogamous (barring special-snowflake-polypeople) and permanent in intent, it's casual.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/19 01:52 PM
2

Not a deal breaker if it means fast ejaculation. A deal breaker if it means fast loosing interest in sex. What I mean: if we both feel a quickie would be fine, great. If it's a lazy sunday morning, and we're having sex I don't care if you come from PIV fast if you are up to more in next half an hour, or if you postpone it with lot's of foreplay and in-between-play, or you can make me come afterwards. Longer penetration is nice, but not mandatory. Long and intensive sex-session is.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 09:39 PM
2

None. Never dated strangers, that's probably a big factor here.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 10:05 AM
5

I don't recommend marrying that man. Realistically speaking, you won't turn into a libodoless saint. 5 years from now, you're likely be having sex with some man, and it probably won't be this guy, whether you marry him or not.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/19 08:03 PM
2

In this scenario number 2, but I don't think it's a very good thought experiment. Apart from obviously bad, e.g. selfish, clueless to anatomy lovers, the difference between 'meh/ok' and mindblowing sex is in the level of sexual attraction both parties have for one another. Sex is not that hard, unless he tries to stick it in girls belly button or finishes in 10 sec and goes to sleep, the quality of sex depends more on if the woman was dripping wet just thinking about fucking him, than the actual…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 06:23 PM
1

In a way, the ring works like a reservation fee. It's non-refundable in some cases of cancellation, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 03:43 PM
1

Not that I care personally, but the etiquette where I'm from goes as follows: - if the woman breaks the engagement she gives the ring back. In a way, giving the ring back is a formal way of breaking the engagement - if the breakup is mutual, or the woman's fault, she offers to give it back. The man can decline and ask her to keep it if he wants to appear as the 'bigger person'. - if the man breaks up the engagement or does something that ends it - e.g. cheating, the woman can keep the ring. Him …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 03:40 PM
3

The set of qualities that would make you survive a week-long hiking trip in bad weather with unexpected problems with that person and still call it an enjoyable experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 09:04 AM
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Yeah, it is. Not trying to diminish job difficulties. I wrote 'a bit'. Might be hard and one can get unlucky, but in 1st world country it's still easier to deal with unemployment, if without disability, than e.g breast cancer. And females with cancer face 21% divorce rate opposed to 3% males.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/19 03:20 PM
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Women leave more often when the man is unemployed. Men leave more often when the women is very ill, or the child is very ill. Both are pretty shitty behaviors, but having a job is a bit more controllable than having cancer.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/19 01:51 PM
1

Or just someone who loves their kid regardless of relationship with the mother and has 50% custody?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/19 05:48 PM
1

Don't have statistics for that, but lots of couples I know who married around 28-30 have been together for 8+ years before, so met quite early... second wave marriages, 35-40, are usually after a shorter relationship (2 years?) and a failed marriage/LTR before.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 07:29 PM
3

I'll take guy no 1. You said that personalitywise they're both good for me, so I assume the man is still very smart, but has current job for whatever reason. A math professor who said screw it, I can't deal with stupid people anymore and became a carpenter or something ;) It's certainly easier to say knowing I could afford to make for the wage difference and still have nice vacations/home/food. Not as nice as 2x my income, but nowhere near the misery of 2x minimum wage. On the other hand, If I w…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/19 01:39 PM
1

Lol at 1 year at becoming unlovable. It doesn't work as falling off the cliff. It's not an expiration date. The men's attention in a couple years may fall by 20 or 30%, more so because they get married off than women getting ugly, but it doesn't go from 100 to 0 overnight unless you gain 100 pounds
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 07:26 PM
1

In terms of what's fair - after invading physical space, eg. grabbing, sure, slapping is justified. He initiated the assault, even if his intentions were different. It terms of what's practical - a man who will touch you without consent is likely to hit you back. Escalate. Call security/help if it's a possibility, use pepperspray or whatever and run otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 05:18 PM
2

Yeah. There's a blog post on Dalrock blog about it. https://dalrock.wordpress.com/2011/04/27/why-we-need-to-stop-telling-women-to-settle/ While I partially of understand why women might give women this kind of advice (better to be with someone so-so that alone forever), it is strictly against men's self-interest to tell women to settle in this way.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/19 12:11 PM
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Regarding physical features, yeah, it changed at bit. As I matured (25+) I started to appreciate (or at least not treat as an immediate turn off) signs of masculinity/maturity in men. I grew up on yaoi as a main source of porn/romance, so I blame some on that. Or maybe it was just a teenager thing. I used to love tall, willowy, boyish (but not childish) guys. Beard was a no go. Bulky mean yuck. It was not only early teens and celebrity crushes, IRL up to 25 I was swooning over men who resembled …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/19 10:41 AM
2

Of course, but... First thing: We're a team and I wouldn't be concerned with power imbalance or lost respect/independence. I also don't fetishize work as a life goal, it's a tedious thing you do so you don't starve. If either me or him by some chance started to make insanely good money, the other one would be free to pursue their hobbies, maybe do something fun part time. That's obvious. But this deal comes with so many 'buts' that short of winning lottery or a startup going unicorn it's not rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/19 09:15 PM
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It's not 'making wait' as in some scheme. Some women just don't have sex with people they barely know. Same as I don't plan summer trips with work aquaintances I just met, but do so with friends I gathered over the years, and it doesn't mean I actively make the first group wait for vacation invite.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 04:13 PM
2

Almost never dated anyone I wasn't having a serious crush on beforehand. I went for a few dates with a boy my highschool friend set me up with (we knew each other a little before, but very casually) and it was just a disaster of awkwardness that didn't lead anywhere. I mostly have to be 90% decided about the guy already and very very eager to date him for it to have any kind of chance. OLD terrifies me for that reason, like, umm... can we hang out for a few months in a larger group before, so I …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/19 12:24 PM
3

Yes, it does. I don't dwell on it, talk about it or blame anyone, but the idea of my man ever touching sexually another women gives me instinct to kill that bitch and flog him. It's an exaggeration, I don't act on that of course, but the gut feeling is deeply unpleasant.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/19 10:59 PM
2

Boring - sales, management, medicine, PR/HR, finance Boring, but I tend to have more in common with people with those jobs - IT, gameDev, engineering Cool jobs - academia, science, smithing, crafts
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/19 12:17 PM
3

Bimatoprost based serums for growth and castor&cocount oils for softness and thickness. Naming brands won't do any good as I'm neither from USA nor UK and use local products.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/19 06:02 PM
4

I live in Europe, the one I use distributes in my country only, but I honestly think anything with bimatoprost will work. Research side effects before making decision. Here are ingridients of my serum: Aqua, Pentylene Glycol, Pentaerythrityl Tetraisostearate, Bimatoprost, Hydrolyzed Hyaluronate, Pantenol, Allantoin, Acrylates/C10-30 Alkyl Acrylate Crosspolymer, Disodium Phosphate, Triethanolamine, Methylparaben, Alcohol.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/19 05:57 PM
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Body shape is a big part of controllable attractiveness (about 80% in my opinion), but it's not all you can do. Surely, the change won't be as drastic as going from overweight to gym rat, but it still makes a huge difference. Here's my approach to some of the areas that can be improved. My general philosophy is to put some effort beforehand, so it looks effortless later on. I. Clothes I wear dresses only. Mostly because I'm lazy and the whole 'creating an outfit' thing is way to much hassle for …
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/19 07:35 AM
3

I think it's the opposite. Lots of 'nice' redpill advice - be pleasant, be pretty, be agreeable is great for getting a man interested, but not so much for not being a forever gf or even plate. Doesn't mean you need to stop doing this thing or worse doing the opposite, just upping 'present as prescious and SCARCE resource' game. What's easily available is rarely appreciated., unfortunately. And men are lazy and easy to spoil.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 07:31 PM
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I have two cat pics on instagram, I can delete it for a beer or a foot massage if he asks. Fb? He'd have to take over replying in my name to all the house party invites and talking to etsy-style craftsmen to arrange details of orders, so that wouldn't be very practical. I'm not very atrached to facebook, but messenger is pretty handy when almost noone cares about phone numbers. That would be a weird request I wouldn't follow without a good reason, like Zuckerberg killed his parents or he had an …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/19 08:28 PM
1

It's pretty primal for me, my sexuality is very possesive in general. Rage, disgust, despair. Hell, even thinking about his past lovers is an unpleasant thing. It doesn't extend to emotional aspect as much, hearing a story about how once he was completely in love and rejected triggers more of 'aww, poor you' and no jealousy. I think it's because currently we tend to prioritize 'lover&soulmate' aspect of relationship rather than 'coparent&life partner'. If I were in a relationship that's morr cen…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 07:34 AM
2

Glad it works for you, the way you describe your current situation it's semi-deadbedroom to me and would honestly make me consider leaving. That's pretty depressing that it's presented as a 'best you can get' scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/19 07:42 AM
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Man fucking anyone I know generates a massive 'yuck' reaction for me, so I never dated anyone with an opinion of sleeping around. It's not a very logical reaction, but a strong one on a visceral level, so I don't see a point of fighting it. One guy I'm buddies with is a very successful player. Nearly each meeting he brings another girl, and has a neverending series of 1-3 month 'relationships'. Funny thing is, he claims (even not in the girl's presence) that it's serious, he loves her, wants to …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/19 07:34 PM
4

Is it still available somewhere? I'm really interested in reading it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 05:26 AM
1

Passion / infatuation / intensity in a romantic, not only sexual sense. Friendship is way more stable and less dramatic. You don't spend time sharply missing a friend, their voice, etc. You don't browse their pictures smiling at their face with a silly grin. You don't perceive it as a total disaster if they leave a message on 'read'. You don't just feel good and secure and instantly happy the moment you see them. There's no jealously and sense of ownership. You don't think your friend is yours a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 08:32 PM
4

30 in a few months, theory based on approaches/love declarations/navel gazing, as I'm in relationship now. Do you think your younger self could have "cashed in on her beauty" and landed a better man than your current older self can? You write 'Following TRP wall definition', so let's roll with it. I guess 'better man' then also means better in TRP sense, eg. more resourceful, high status, etc? If so, I have definitely more opportunities to LTR/marry such man than when I was 21. Not because I'm s…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 08:14 PM
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It's fun and playful, it's flattering to both parties involved, and the usual plausible deniability of flirt/banter is a good testing ground for actual seduction without possible awkwardness and humiliation. If a social group is maintaining a general flirty vibe where women and men compliment each other and engage playfully it makes all opposite-sex interactions friendlier and smoother, so possible serious approaches come off naturally for people with decent social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/19 08:07 AM
2

The employee/employer analogy is not about who's going to 'work' for whom or who will be the boss of the relationship. It's about the choosing process, and the fact that in traditional dating/pickup scenario (man approaching women) there is this alleged advantage women have, that they are free to accept/reject an already made offer. Man gets to choose if wants to make an offer, so he's got and advantage of the wider pool of options (he can try to pick up any girl he wants) but the woman has an a…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/19 07:49 AM
2

Plot very similar to Force Majeure movie (https://www.imdb.com/title/tt2121382/) - it's about emotional fallout of a 'failure to protect' situation in family. Even if the story's fake, the situation is believable. All rational arguments aside, running away is generally perceived as cowardice, cowardice is perceived as extremely unmanly, and generally heterosexual women are turned off by unmanly men. Not fair maybe, but so is most of sexual attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/19 01:52 PM
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Treating sex like a chore is a best way to find yourself in a stable, loving relationship, a few kids maybe, and then finding out you're not 'truly happy', and mysteriously finding someone you feel a special connection to, and 'i've been good and nice all my life, I want something for myself!', and a eat-pray-love divorce a few years later :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/19 06:35 AM
4

It doesn't have to mean clown as in peacock game. It means entertainer, stand-up comedian & performer. I don't know personally how popular it is, but /r/tinder is full of conversations starting with 'tell me something interesting/funny joke/a long pun with my name, otherwise neeeext!'. It's about the one-sidedness of 'entertain me' attitude of women who don't bring any value to meeting/conversation on their own and behave like bored and jaded judges on X-Factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/19 06:27 AM
1

Wrong wording on my part, they both agreed to it, wife seemed even more interested. By open, not poly I mean extramartial sex allowed, but none of that trendy multiple relationships stuff. Either way, not a best idea in my opinion, but we were discussing practicalities of that situation, not long-term effects or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/19 03:05 PM
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It might be easier, depending on the location/social circle, but the main thing is, these are two different activities (looking for LTR/looking for FWB) and casual is not just a better outcome for the same actions that usually grant you a relationship. Don't present yourself as a possible boyfriend when meeting/dating women when you don't want to be a boyfriend. It's not an universal 'women access job interview' thing, when in the last step you can choose a fwb position. Don't do 'date' dates. D…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/19 07:48 AM
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I second that, and a few women I've talked about the issue (including women who masturbate a lot). The level of intensity just cannot be matched, you cannot get freaky and absolutely overwhelmed with just yourself. It gives pleasure and relief, but rarely satiation that comes with sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 09:04 PM
1

Never worked for me, the more someone is similar to me, more likely I will feel connection to that person. It's also way easier to be considerate of one's needs when you can put yourself in their shoes (e.g. similar levels of intro/extroversion, anxiety, love language and all that stuff). However I see some of the 'opposites attract' dynamic going on for people with very stereotypical masculine/feminine traits, e.g. highly emotional, fragile women tend to attract and be attracted to dominant, st…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/19 08:57 PM
2

No, for me romantic love (as opposed to friendship/platonic love) is very much entwined with lust. Emotionally attracted, AKA 'in love/infatuated/having crush on' manifests in very physical needs, like thirst for being close, touching, smelling his clothes, licking his skin, and all the naughty stuff. And that kind-of obsessive desire happens only if I'm really smitten by a man, merely thinking he's hot won't do.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/19 09:07 PM
1

There is tons more advice for women in relationships than for men, as women are generally more interested in that topic. It's everywhere. Self-help books, love/relationship advice books, coaches, therapists specializing in relationship counseling, 'femininity/self growth/whatever' workshops, tons of style, makeup, fitness, beauty advice. Most of women-centric websites and magazines have this 'relationship advice letters' column, and plenty of articles about finding men/keeping men/staying attrac…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/19 08:46 AM
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Woman here, hypothetical as I never did/don't intend to have casual sex, however can see situations when I could seek such an arrangement (heartbroken & single for a long time, not interested in LTRs in sort-of WGTOW way ; ): Nope. Looking for casual partner would not screen for LTR deal-breakers (different life vision, eg. him moving abroad forever in a few months) or even screen against things I would want in LTR (him not being easily attached to me and emotional, cause in FWB I'd want to avoi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/19 01:41 PM
1

Yeah, kinda. There is a number, after which I think it's less of an red flag if the N-count goes into ONS than LTRs. Eg. 15N for both guys and gals seems less troubling if it's 5 LTRs, 10 casual, than 15 'LTRs'.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/19 12:40 PM
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Truth, I: ​ It's frown upon because it's a public sphere, and RPW is a very pink community. All girls are nice, wholesome and graceful. All keen on improving themselves by makeup and cooking skills. All looking up to RP and internally screaming please, please, pick me. ​ It's frown upon, because apart of truly, solely feminine communities (and even then, not always), women act always thinking, caring, taking into account that they are presenting themselves and being judged. We tend to cast a bro…
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/19 07:17 PM
1

Probably default when approached during day by strangers. I thank for the invitation, say I'm not interested and busy right now and wish them a good they. If they press issue on changing my schedule, I'm informing about doing funeral arrangements in a few hours and really not in the mood.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/19 07:05 PM
1

He was a member of the same hobby-related group as I. Began as hanging out in larger groups and meeting at events, then moved to a 4 people clique when we met and talked and drank and did hobby-stuff together and became closer friends, then lots of 1-1 beer/talking/doing the hobby thing, lots of conversations until pubs closed at 3 AM, after a year or so of pretty intense friendship we couldn't no longer pretend we weren't madly in love with each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/19 06:59 PM
3

Regarding rawness/PH balance/infection stuff: Ignoring edge cases that are obvious to cause some damage (eg. 8h daily prostitution workday), I and many of women I talked about that issue are more prone to discomfort / UTIs when having sex after a dry-spell (e.g. sickness, time apart due external factors) than when it's done on regular (even daily or twice-daily) basis. It especially came in context of LDR, when seeing someone after a month or so, the first few days could cause some discomfort du…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 08:53 PM
5

After thinking about past objects of lust, yes, I guess I'm type two. It's kinda weird. ​ Why weird? I generally have high libido/sex drive. I desperately wanted to have sex with men when I was a virgin, crazy amount of masturbation, thinking of just entering chatroom and fucking a stranger, generally sex-starved. But it wasn't very person oriented, I found many guys attractive and thought they 'would do', but not lusting much after specific ones. More like hunger, not obsession with particular …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/19 08:34 PM
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I've been reading / talking about relationship dynamics, human mating behavior or general 'how people interact with each other/ gender wars' for some time before RP community emerged, and I've followed some early pickup artist communities, so there was no definite 'coming to terms with red pill' moment of discovery or confrontation with previously held beliefs. I also have way more interest in abstract and general rules / theories than self-help books, so it was more of debating The Grand Theory…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/19 08:06 AM
3

Are you asking why women want relationships? Companionship, feeling loved, not feeling lonely, having someone who you know and care about, etc. Random ONS or FWB arrangements don't fulfill that need at all. It's like asking why people bother having friends and hanging out with them when they could just go wasted on a rave party with strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/19 08:54 AM
3

Firstly, I would be amazed by contents of the folder proving his virginity. Are these complete, 24/7 recordings of last 20 years of his life, or just Incels International membership card? ​ Then I would troll the hell out of him, saying one of his ex-lovers contacted me via facebook seeing that we were together, because there's an ongoing HIV scare in his old bdsm scene or something. ​ Lastly, it would not be a deal breaker, but he would get mocked relentlessly for the rest of his days. Not for …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/19 08:43 AM
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Do you want to have children? If so, do you want to have children out of wedlock? It's a potential & very reasonable dealbreaker. Also, it may be the case he's not looking for someone to start a family (with our without children) yet. High likelihood of getting along fine for next 5-6 years, then just 'growing apart' & breakup (bye bye, starterpack-serious -girlfriend), and then magically 1-2 years later, he meets someone and marries with kids within two years.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/19 01:13 PM
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Nope. If I weren't into him that much, then there's little sense to engage in so much possible drama. If I were seriously into him, then the idea of sharing would fill me with disgust and rage. If he broke up with her, poked her eyes out and brought me as a proof of his feelings, that would be ok though ;))))
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 07:33 PM
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Because it's seen as pathetic and whiney for men to voice their expectations for women. It's ingrained in our culture for the man to be the pursuer and the women to bu pursued. If a man lectures women collectively to please be nice, feminine and slim it's seen as weakness and inability to obtain quality mate. Instinctive response to lamentations about obese, lazy and unfeminine women is to understand it as sad complaint that that's all he can get. Which brings contempt, riddicule and little symp…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 03:58 PM
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Agreed on not worth it, it's a symptom of low investment. If a guy sleeps around while going on dates he obviously doesn't have a big crush on me. Why bother then?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 03:37 PM
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Now I see you what you meant - that those feelings are not requiring exclusivity. I rather disagree. Lust - ok, maybe - but even then only the casual, skin-deep version of it. Infatuation breeds possessiveness, we're wired that way so all the pair-bonding magic can happen. Acting against it, especially when aiming at LTR seems to be taking the hardest and most unintuitive way. Being "in love" is usually prerequisite for "loving". "FWB" is prerequisite for... dunno, married with benefits? Sounds …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 11:31 AM
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Could you explain in more detail? For me "getting horny without a man" is called high libido. Lust is directed toward a person, which does not mean it's initiated by that person / a response to his actions. A women may (and very often do) lust and sexually obsess over a man without him 'talking her into' sex, or even reciprocating her desires.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 10:57 AM
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True, but it's still easier for men to compensate for physical shortcomings. I know a few shorter (below 5'6'') men who are very successful with beautiful women and 0 obese women with attractive men smitten by them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 10:06 AM
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Inaccurate. Since most women are attracted to more ephemeral and fuzzy qualities than men are (think charisma vs good looks) being attractive as a man can manifest in more ways. ​ So for women, it's quite diverse: - Some love the big, ugly, manly brute types, with raw testosterone and over-the-top machismo - Some are drawn to broody tortured-artists, who are unfortunately too spiritual to stay with one girl at a time ;) - Bodybuilders usually have a fair share of women interested in them - Highs…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 08:35 AM
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Agreed. I think it prevents any sort of attachment, intensity and romance that's supposed to be essential in early stages of relationship, as well as emotional investment. And I don't mean the comfort-seeking/future-planning/boring aspects of emotional investment, but the actual fun part of dating. Lust. Limerence. Feeling like 15 again and being the only couple in the world to discover sex & love. Kinda hard to do when fucking 2-5 people occasionally and hoping something worthwhile will come ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/19 08:15 AM
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I do care. Or at least by default I have lots of feelings and insecurities regarding that issue. They get mostly overwritten by more rational parts of the mind, but there is definitely a potential for really intense craziness regarding past sexual partners. They are pretty ugly, I'm aware of that. Trying to break it down into parts, they consists of: Visceral, painful reaction to thoughts about those encounters. Almost the same as when thinking about possible current-time betrayal: anger, strong…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/19 11:55 AM
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