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For anyone trying to get “closure” in the form of an apology or acknowledgment from the Narc don’t bother. You will never get it. If they utter the words it will be through gritted teeth just to placate you. It’s much better to go no contact if possible (or low contact) and refrain from engaging in their games.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 06:06 PM
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Please don’t recommend surrogacy unless it’s a family member doing it for altruistic purposes. Surrogacy industry is similar to pornography, women are exploited and their bodies used for money. The industry is very shady.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 09:45 PM
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You said you feel bad because you knew something was off…moving forward you know to trust your gut. Good for you! Consider this a learning experience too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 07:21 PM
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And once the inevitable divorce happens, you are stuck seeing this man at every school function, dance recital, little league game, wedding, christening, etc. for the rest of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 02:54 AM
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It doesn’t matter if it’s normal guy behavior. Something about it doesn’t sit right with you and crosses some of your boundaries, especially the lying. You don’t need anyone’s permission to end a relationship with anyone, anytime, for any reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 02:52 AM
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Men act like that because they are pushing your boundaries to see how far they can go. Playing games like that is a big fat NO for me. Another game is the man wants to break up, but is too wimpy to do it. So he is so horrible he forces the woman’s hand and she breaks up with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 02:15 AM
143

“Get a cleaner” that the woman will still have to interview, hire, schedule, make a spare key for, arrange payment, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 05:57 PM
34

Read the book Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 05:26 AM
17

Remember when he forgot to thank her in his Oscar speech? He’s a dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 10:48 PM
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This won’t work with a narc/gaslighter. They will lie about how much they do and how often. You don’t need to write down all the tasks you do to know when you are doing way more than your fair share.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 12:14 AM
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He is absolutely not a decent guy. Have you seen his daughter’s Insta? She’s been posting near-porn photos of herself since she was 12. It’s disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 12:30 AM
136

Pete Davidson does have Crohn’s disease (which is unfortunate) but those tats are hideous and they’re his choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 12:27 AM
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At least Adam Driver is interesting and has talent. Not my type physically but I’ve heard interviews with him and he sounds smart and hard working. Pete Davidson on the other hand is scarily mentally ill. Borderline personality disorder is no joke. In fact all of the cluster B personality disorders are extremely hard to deal with. And he abuses drugs on top of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 12:24 AM
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That says to me you were never interested in him and then over the course of several years he wore you down. Do you want to be a SAHM? You won’t be with this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 04:03 PM
16

Coach Taylor from Friday Night Lights. Great husband, great father, great coach!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 11:30 PM
71

Came here to say Ben! Depending on how your political leanings are, I’d say Ron too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 11:29 PM
33

Ariel Castro was super into porn too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 12:01 AM
79

Another thing I remember about Yolanda was when she wouldn’t let Gigi eat any cake on her birthday. https://youtu.be/uVWqEwoyUh0
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 05:06 PM
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Yolanda unintentionally set up Gigi and her sis to be pickmes by being controlling and overbearing. It’s no wonder she married someone like her mother. Her dad isn’t much better. I remember on RHBH Mohammed’s girlfriend was barely older than the girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 04:48 PM
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The absolute best horror movie for women to watch as a cautionary tale is Rosemary’s Baby. Rosemary’s instincts and wishes are completely disregarded and she is gaslit by nearly everyone in her life, especially her husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 10:57 PM
47

“Nothing more than a lap dance happened”. So says the guys who lied?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 11:24 PM
13

Every woman who works and thinks about having children with her spouse needs to consider this-who will take the day off work to take the baby to the doctor? Before you assume you will take turns have a conversation about parenting tasks and division of labor. You may be surprised that your spouse’s job is “more important” or your work is “more flexible”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 09:57 PM
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The only time a ring should be returned is if you break off an engagement. I believe courts agree. Otherwise that is a gift, it’s yours. After my divorce I kept mine of course. In case of emergency I can sell it or I can keep it and have other jewelry made from the diamonds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 07:04 PM
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Yes, China human traffics a lot of women from North Korea. North Korean women are desperate to escape their country and since they are so closed off from the outside world they are naive, making them easy prey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 05:15 PM
12

He was good in Band of Brothers too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 11:54 AM
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“Wasband” TIL!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 11:10 PM
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I’m teaching my son that he doesn’t have to hug or kiss anyone he doesn’t want to. I’m also teaching him to be a gentleman, to be considerate, to have good manners, and to be respectful of others. As he gets older, I plan to teach him to not be pushy with women, to be respectful of personal space, and to be a competent, caring partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 08:05 PM
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Agreed. Do you think he is going to say, “oh gee you’re right, it won’t happen again”? The fact that he did it in the first place tells you all you need to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 09:41 PM
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All you need to do is check out r/workingmoms or r/breakingmom subs to see how it’s going during quarantine. A bunch of overwhelmed moms who complain that the government and their work aren’t doing enough to support them. That may be true, but where is the dad in all this? I asked that on a recent thread and got no response.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:18 PM
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It’s important to note that depending on where someone lives, it doesn’t matter if a car or bank account is in your name only. Community property laws would entitle him to those assets if divorce were to happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 01:37 AM
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Exactly. No pension, no insurance, you’re not paying into Social Security or earning your work quarters for Medicare. I’m now divorced but I went through hell when my kids were little. Yes I took a few months of maternity leave with each kid, but when I went back to work I had to maintain everything I had been doing when I was home, plus working full time. Because the ex would not step up and do his share. Or any share. Lesson being you never, ever know what a man will be like until the kid arri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 01:28 AM
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I’m on the other side and it is so lovely just being responsible for my own shit and not his. Now mind you, even with 50-50 custody I still handle the mental load (if I don’t call and make the dentist appointments for example, it literally would not get done) but it’s easier without him criticizing and questioning my every decision. It is also peaceful and I even get alone time when it’s his time with the kids. I’ve spent lots of time reading FDS so when I’m ready to date I’ll be in a better min…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 11:48 PM
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Case in point-swingin’ Thomas Middleditch https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-news/news/thomas-middleditch-and-wife-mollie-gates-split/amp/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 10:12 PM
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Not sure why someone downvoted you because you are speaking the truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 11:14 PM
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The radical feminism sub called out sex work being damaging too but got banned in the last mass-banning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:30 PM
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The best blueprint for any mail order bride is Juliana (of Michael and Juliana) from 90 Day Fiancé. He isn’t a narc but he has a ton of dough and is twice her age. He tried to get her to sign a prenup and she first pretended to not understand what it was, and then acted sad that he would imagine divorcing her someday. It worked...he said never mind I love you and we won’t do a prenup 😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 12:15 AM
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Gomez Addams, Ben Wyatt or Coach Taylor. All great examples of HVM in television.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 11:27 PM
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She prob thinks all men do that may as well stay with Jay Z and be a Power Couple. It’s sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:42 AM
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Jay Z is hardly a HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:43 AM
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No fuck that. Men just say what they think women want to hear. Some of the worst men are ones who claim to be feminists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 11:21 PM
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Go the settings, then select account. Under account you can see posts that have been saved and posts that have been liked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:17 PM
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The women do it to get guys to browse their NSFW history and possibly subscribe to their Only Fans account.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 12:27 AM
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I was banned because I post on 90 day fiancé uncensored sub. Bizarre!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 12:36 AM
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It’s to get validation that everyone’s partner acts like that, thus normalizing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 12:33 AM
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You’re 100% correct. 50/50 is the default. Unless it can be proved that there was some sort of abuse 50/50 is guaranteed if the dad wants it. That whole kids go with the mom thing is no longer a thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 11:26 PM
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And learn how to use a handgun. There are safety classes for that too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 10:52 PM
10

Part of the reason Jane Fonda was criticized was because she promoted her workout tapes and had plastic surgery. At the time (early 80’s) it was perceived as hypocritical. Side note-if you like Jane Fonda check out my two fave performances of hers- Barefoot in the Park (hilarious) and They Shoot Horses, Don’t They? (dark and weird).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 12:27 AM
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I need to figure out a way to fit the word “hobosexual” into my daily life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 02:46 AM
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Mazel tov!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 02:43 AM
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Whenever a man says he likes strong women I’m out. That is code for “I like strong women so I feel good about myself when I control her”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 01:51 AM
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Because they are lazy. Also they don’t want to take responsibility, they can just have a pity party and say “she left me, 😩”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 03:18 PM
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The best part of last season was Rose hosing Ed down with cold water. He sees the diseased rat on the ground, yelps and asks “is that a rat or a mouse?” And Rose replies “yes”. I was so happy when Rose left Ed at the resort with her dignity intact and her head held high. In case anyone wants to see the shower scene. Ed’s discomfort is hilarious. https://youtu.be/ZY1CxsCbeYc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 11:18 PM
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That reminds me of an episode of Sex and the City. A friend gets married and tosses the bouquet. The four gals watch it fly towards them and let it land at their feet. Then walk away. https://youtu.be/X__KQFofTUk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 06:35 PM
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Neither, we’re talking about Brad Pitt. Check the post title, not the post pic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 04:08 AM
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Yeah I’m going to have to disagree with this post. Didn’t anyone see the scene in Once Upon a Time in Hollywood when he took off his shirt? Holy shit his body is still bangin’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 11:41 PM
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The first few years were very good. He was easygoing, fun, good job, and responsible. Occasionally during that “honeymoon” stage he would get unreasonably stubborn about stupid stuff. Other times if we argued he would stonewall me and not talk to me for hours. But I rationalized that “hey everyone has some flaws and he’s wonderful the majority of the time, don’t be so critical!” so I blew off those concerns and we got married. Things got weird when I got pregnant (planned so it wasn’t a shock to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 12:41 AM
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A big problem that I encountered was not when we got married, but when we had children. I took a few months off for maternity leave while my husband took off a week then continued working. Well I nursed both of my kids. So the kids got used to nursing not only for food but comfort. So husband didn’t want to ever feed the kids (even though I pumped) because he said “they just want you”. In addition, when I was home, I took care of all the cleaning and laundry and baby stuff, I was like “well that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 05:18 PM
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That was horribly disappointing to me. Lena Dunham and Jenni Konner publicly called the woman a liar. The woman had accused a man (who was a writer on their HBO show “Girls”) of rape. Lena and Jenni released a statement saying the woman was part of the 3% of misreported sexual assault cases.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 08:15 PM
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Beware, if you go back to work good luck getting him do his share again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 02:22 AM
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Right? You do that every day for hours? Or once every few weeks?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 01:32 AM
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The “make appointments and figure out medical/dental/school” is spot on and it’s the tip of the iceberg. And I have to do it, because if I don’t he won’t. We’re divorcing but I still handle everything because when I don’t the kids literally physically suffer. Registration, permission slips for field trips, sports, activities, the immunization records, the daycare, school registration, communication with teachers and coaches, coordinating play dates, handling the mail and bills, etc. the paperwor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 01:31 AM
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Yep exactly why we need to be careful with the laughing bit. You never know how a man will react.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 03:03 PM
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I saw the whole thing. The OP let everyone know that she was still able to reapply for the scholarship although it had been some time. So maybe a sort of happy ending.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 01:26 AM
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Exactly! And not only willing, but able. Get your training/education. And if/when you have children don’t stay out of the work force too long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 12:48 AM
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Oh...thanks for explaining. I am so glad there’s so many young women on this sub. Especially since that means you’ll all be better educated on how to avoid the mistakes I made with men and marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 08:50 PM
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I’m with you, I’m outta the loop too. The thread references someone named Future? I don’t even think I understand what the phrase “she for the streets” means. I think I’m old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 07:39 PM
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My problem is that I was 100% responsible For getting the kids ready. I got them ready then while I was in the bathroom he’d come in and ask why it was taking me so long to get ready. Fortunately now he’s my ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 12:52 AM
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Even before clicking I knew it would be Chris Watts. The details of the children’s murders are especially horrific. After seeing her sister strangled the other daughter said to Chris “are you going to do to me what you did to Bella?” (the sister). Not to mention the way he disposed of them. (I used to be active on the subreddit, that’s how I know the details). It is sooo rare that women kill their children and when they do they usually have postpartum psychosis which is ignored by their husbands…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 12:38 AM
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She lives in a small apartment in the Philippines with her sister and family, they don’t have running water or even a roof. 90 Day watchers are all in agreement that she is definitely trying to make a better life for herself and her four year old son. It’s so damn sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 11:33 PM
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Ed also knows that Rose wants to have children but he’s not telling her that he actually wants to have a vasectomy. He cheated on his wife. Rose is younger than his daughter. He acted repulsed by her family’s humble home. Ed is fucking disgusting inside and out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 11:31 PM
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Exactly this. The attachment trauma you mentioned and recreating it is called “traumatic reenactment”. The bond created between you and the abuser is a “trauma bond” and is very very heard to break.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:09 PM
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