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Seems my comments bothered you. Maybe it has something to do with you making assumptions then throwing accusations, placing blame on me? Sure. It’s acceptable for you to do those things, but it’s not acceptable for me to be bothered by your words, after attempting to explain terminology, or respond in the same negative way? 👍 …express my thoughts and feelings of what it means to me when accusations of “man baby” are used, I see, this is the miscommunication then. You said grown baby, not “man ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 04:17 PM
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How doesn’t it? Men refuse to be quality material because “why bother”, that means women shouldn’t expect quality men. Gives them (women) the ability to do whatever it is they want, for themselves because the lack of quality men means they’d be wasting their time trying to find one. Right? Edit: equality would mean, women can act like men, and be perfectly fine with dropping the lack of “quality women”, that men can’t seem to find anyway, due to their lack of quality and effort. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 03:53 PM
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Women should do what they want, their body their choice. Have you read majority of the things said by men in this sub? I constantly see “sex = commitment”. These men honestly believe if a women doesn’t put out the moment they want her to (aka her vetting and waiting) it means she isn’t interested. They also believe that women only want to use them as ATMs, “paternity and marital rape” them… they’re “sluts for Chad”, “thots on onlyfans”…. Good luck convincing them “men should wait and vet better”…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 03:50 PM
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You literally took the words out of my mouth. 🤣 I’m so happy I’m not the only one who gets a laugh from this sub full of contradictions and insanity.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 01:55 PM
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But Genevieve! Isn’t that the girls fault? /s It’s just baffling why it’s all our faults… why women are always wrong, (insert derogatory adjectives for women), etc. But, those men’s hands are clean? 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 01:53 PM
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And men’s lack of quality, means women have the right and ability to do whatever it is they want, because that is equality. Right?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 01:48 PM
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Quite possibly. I find it quite odd how people feel about others having casual sex, when it literally doesn’t effect them. 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 01:47 PM
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Dude. They are all wearing a ton of makeup… even the “natural look” requires a ton of make up… I’m sorry you or other guys can’t see it, but… I’m not sure how to help when I’ve already said it’s a ton of makeup. Edit: maybe it’s painfully obvious to women who’s wearing make up and who’s not… but… I don’t understand how men can’t see it. To me it’s painfully obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 01:43 PM
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High Value is subjective, just like attractiveness is. I can think/believe my partner is the hottest guy on the planet (and tbh, to me he is) and you can think he’s some troll looking mf, and then comments like “how does THAT GUY land a chick?!”. It’s like assuming every couple that isn’t looks matched is based only on money/hypergamy. 🤣 People like what they like. My high value isn’t Chad, or Chris Hemsworth. “Lies, they are hot and have money”. 1. They are traditionally “hot” sure, but not wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 01:38 PM
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Oh absolutely, and how right you are. It’s not like you didn’t reply to Your attraction will wane if you have to parent someone. with Often seems like a very low threshold as to what constitutes a “grown baby”, and frequently any complaint of utterance, no matter how calmly stated is met with “stop whining!”. My understanding was that you weren’t aware of what a “grown baby” actually is. So sorry for making assumptions. But here’s the thing, you made assumptions too, and apparently didn’t apprec…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 01:01 PM
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Well don’t expect fairness from men. They shouldn’t expect it from women either with their attitude and behavior, especially when men think they’re right as rain, and women are always wrong, playing games and acting like tricksters. So what’s this entitlement of “men changing their mentality”? Entitlement? 👌🤣 Again, without a mentality shift, they’re dooming themselves. No stable woman wants to be treated like a neglected animal. Maybe I’m speaking for myself here, but I have seen the lack of re…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 12:42 PM
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That’s a great question. Why are people so scared of getting “paternity raped” but willing to go raw and think that it’s not their fault… when it’s their lack of protection and precautions causing unwanted pregnancy? It just doesn’t make sense imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 12:27 PM
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So, which is it? Women should put out immediately when a man wants her to? OR Men should make women wait for sex? It’s like having your cake and eating it too. If men have such an issue with high n counts, they themselves! should practice being respectful, and not pushy about sex, or expecting/demanding it from women, or blaming women for wanting to wait. It isn’t “making women wait”, it’s self control on the guys part. Most women do want to wait until they know someone better… And yet… women ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/21 12:23 PM
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Pedophilia was also norm back in the day. When my gram told me how her and gramps started “going steady”, it blew my mind. She was 8, he was 18, he approached her at a playground, and told her that he was going to marry her. They started dating shortly after. I don’t like thinking of my gramps like that, cuz I knew him as a pretty rad dude, but, even my great aunts and uncles have stories like that, even my parents and their siblings have stories like that. Now a days if an 18 year old approache…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 01:00 PM
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Dude. That’s exactly how men feel. You see it allllllover this sub. Sex = commitment but sex =/= commitment. Dudes now a days seem to EXPECT that women put out long before (between 1st and 3rd date) even discussing or thinking about commitment. Because “if I don’t know what the sex is like with her, I don’t want to waste my time getting to know her”.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 12:55 PM
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I don’t want commitment now, because why even bother? I’m sure a lot of women feel this exact same way… after being played, cheated on, used, and tossed aside for reasons unknown, aka “something better”. Hence why more and more women are opting for the casual scene instead of striving for a commitment. Imo it makes more sense, after dealing with guy after guy (trying to obtain commitment) in your twenties (or as dudes here call it “slutting around” 🙄), only to wind up single and disheartened. He…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 12:48 PM
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A bunch at the same time… would be a “gangbang”, or maybe an orgy if all participants were inclined. Unless there’s a term I do not know that is defined as “one man getting banged by many women at once — in one setting/instance.” 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 12:30 PM
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That guy, is amazing at what he does. Perfection with that unit. ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 03:38 PM
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Women we’re wearing corsets and body shaping wear even back then especially the upper class women. Lol. Don’t forget (guys and gals), that men also wore makeup (before it became illegal for them to do so at the start of the 20th century), corsets, heels/pumps and wigs. These things were marketed to women, by men (just look up 1900’s makeup advertisements), while the idea of “masculinity” started to shift towards a new “traditional” ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 03:20 PM
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Women we’re wearing corsets and body shaping wear even back then especially the upper class women. Lol. Don’t forget, that men also wore makeup (before it became illegal for them to do so at the start of the 20th century), corsets, heels/pumps and wigs. These things were marketed to women, by men (just look up 1900’s makeup advertisements), while the idea of “masculinity” started to shift towards a new “traditional” ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 03:20 PM
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Women we’re wearing corsets and body shaping wear even back then especially the upper class women. Lol. Don’t forget, that men also wore makeup (before it became illegal for them to do so at the start of the 20th century), corsets, heels/pumps and wigs. These things were marketed to women, by men (just look up 1900’s makeup advertisements), while the idea of “masculinity” started to shift towards a new “traditional” ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 03:19 PM
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Women we’re wearing corsets and body shaping wear even back then especially the upper class women. Lol. Don’t forget, that men also wore makeup (before it became illegal for them to do so at the start of the 20th century), corsets, heels/pumps and wigs. These things were marketed to women, by men (just look up 1900’s makeup advertisements), while the idea of “masculinity” started to shift towards a new “traditional” ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 03:19 PM
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Take that first one, she doesn’t look over the top on makeup. Did we look at the same picture? She has a lot of foundation and concealer on, she’s contoured, has heavy eyeliner and mascara…. She is in fact wearing a lot of makeup… In fact, all of those women are… if the first picture is what men think “little makeup” is… they’re be hard pressed to understand the whole “natural makeup” look, which uses a lot of makeup too! Just look at tutorials on YouTube…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 01:26 PM
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Chris Hemsworth look a like goes on a date with a woman and see if she “waits”. Women can only want sex, it isn’t always commitment or die. Let’s put it a different way. You go on a date with (insert your celebrity infatuation, “10/10 wish I could fuck”) look a like, and she wants to bang it out. Would you turn it down? I doubt it. So why expect women to? Do we expect commitment from the (Chris Hemsworth) look a like? No, we (nearly everyone) want to know what it’s like to fuck someone super att…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 01:40 PM
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Gimpgirl, you aren’t like majority of women and that’s perfectly fine. But you are the exception, not the rule. Most women do wait for sex, because when we haven’t and we’re looking for a committed relationship, after having “if you don’t fuck them when they want the first time, they will leave” drilled into us, only to realize that it isn’t true. A person who leaves after sex, will leave after sex, regardless of how long you wait, or why. This drops our chances of being a ONS or some conquest s…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 01:28 PM
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And that can’t be because girls (young women) are impressionable, unaware of proper treatment, and are more easily manipulated into believing that “you don’t love me if you don’t fuck me”. 🤦‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 01:16 PM
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No guy wants to spend 6 months with only a few make out sessions here and there to show for it while Brandon got a rust trombone outside an Arby’s after talking on Tinder for two days. Male logic truly baffles me. Why is it that men can want only sex from women, but WOMEN AREN’T allowed/capable of wanting ONLY SEX from CERTAIN GUYS? It’s like the whole “you let your ex fuck you in the ass and so you OWE IT TO ME to let me fuck you in the ass too!! Treating your current partner like ANY ex, stati…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 01:13 PM
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… but one day you find out that his previous girlfriend (the last one? Right before me?) went to 5 star restaurants with him and got a new handbag every month. You would be upset right? Oh absolutely. I would be upset that his ex let him fall into debt by being absolutely frivolous and EXCESSIVE, or demanding that he has to be for her. Would I be mad at him because I do not get the same as his ex, absolutely not if he was loving, caring, and considerate of me. 5 star restaurants and handbags are…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 12:50 PM
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If “sex = commitment” then… why are dudes pumping and dumping? This is why the “male logic” here doesn’t make sense… Commitment for most women comes first, then sex, and from what I’m reading here… a lot of these guys would fuck-n-leave after playing off that they’re interested in commitment… And they wonder why chicks who are actually interested in them wait it out… 🤦‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 12:31 PM
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Slut shaming, by the way, is more of a thing women do to each other to establish their class dominance. Men don’t do it as much. How much have you read here, in this sub specifically, or in TRP subs, or on Twitter? Check out r/creepypms, or really anything available online. Men slut shame women A LOT. To say women do it more, when women are far more supportive of each other… just blows my mind. I’ve never heard a woman say to another woman, “wow she’s a hugeeeee slut, she’s fucked 5+ guys”, but …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 12:24 PM
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Irradiated*
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 11:35 PM
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You’re welcome! Hoped I helped you understand why it is some people use the term, and to what situations it is applied!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 11:19 PM
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I know Bae. We be toxic too. 🤣❤️ It’s just hard to ignore their words sometimes. 😞
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 11:19 PM
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For one, I do not treat men like “caged animals” unless they act like caged animals. That is of their own doing, not mine. And no, my mentality isn’t the issue. I don’t look at men and only think “dick”. I actually enjoy people because they are people, not because they will maybe eventually service me sexually… and I’m also not the one “pumping and dumping”.🤦‍♀️ Male thirst is in fact a problem. Men oozing desperation and also looking at women as “nothing more than a pussy”… Men have made us “th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 11:06 PM
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Lack of responsibility will get you called a “grown baby”. Just saying. Here’s the thing, when an adult acts like a spoilt child, or fresh out of puberty teen… they aren’t functioning adults, they do not have their wits about them, and they definitely do not care for people other than themselves. If you’re hearing the term “grown baby”, that’s what is going on, not mild concerns, lol. Also, socializing with someone who is a “grown baby” is just bad for your overall mentality, and again, nobody w…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 10:35 PM
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Probably taken by nontoxic people. But, I don’t think many of them are in this sub tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 10:27 PM
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Of course I knew what it was silly, lol. I’ve asked all of my male friends, “what gives” and they all explained it as “maybe eventually she will want to fuck me”. But then… People in PPD (dudes) tell me “they obviously lied to you”. I just thought it was worth bringing up is all.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 10:24 PM
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This mentality is why women are upping their vetting processes. Why would anyone want to be with someone who only sees them as “a pussy”. Women can’t help that male thirst runs rampant and that nearly every male believes that they are owed… we can be picky because of the “availability” of men, and their behaviors, mentality* and actions. Thinking or expecting the dating market to adhere to your (individual) shenanigans and negativity… sounds like a wake up call to me tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 01:38 PM
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A “grown baby” is someone who throws tantrums like a child when they can’t have their way. A “grown baby” is an adult (by age) but mentally is a child. Meaning, they refuse to self regulate their emotions, words and actions, do not hold themselves responsible for said emotions, words and actions. A “grown baby”, is an adult who refuses to do the “adult bare minimum”, meaning picking up/cleaning up after themselves (garbage in the garbage can and not all over the ground/floor/bed/whatever, dishes…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 01:27 PM
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Honestly seems like majority of the guys here surround themselves with toxic women… That being said, no, I have never “lost attraction” for any male partner when he showed vulnerability. I’ve lost attraction when they turn into man-babies and expected me to be their mom, clean after them always — even when they are capable of picking up after themselves, when they refuse to take care of their personal hygiene all week and I have to “nag” for them to “just take a shower already, please! You reall…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 12:53 PM
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But, you forget that a lot of men frequenting this sub love to hang around very toxic women…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/21 12:16 PM
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Men are not like women. We can develop feelings for someone as we get to know them. 🤦‍♀️ So do women… But is it not true that men prefer to befriend attractive women over ugly women? So what gives there?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 01:30 PM
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Bringing romance into it, can just cause problems and ruin a (good/great) friendship. Another thing… if we (women) are not interested in our male friend romantically or sexually, why would we lead him on by humoring the idea that dating is a great idea? That’s just wrong… and only to throw that friendship out the window after the breakup? Guys here are saying “feelings develop over time”, but guys also say “I only befriend chicks I’m attracted to (meaning sexually)” and then add in “with the hop…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 01:24 PM
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OP, about point number two. Women don’t understand men at all (we honestly can’t…), they think men are human robots void of any positive emotions, men can be angry, fearful and lustful but can’t have a crush/experience love. (Looking at Radfems personally myself) Not all women feel this way. Tbh, I do not personally know a single woman who thinks that any man, let alone multiple men are “robots void of positive emotions”, or can’t have actual* feelings for someone. The problem is, some men (and …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 12:58 PM
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Edit: Imagine that you’re and entirely average male and you’re already struggling to get a date. I thought average male height is 5’8”-5’9”? Either way, if I still had the personality I had now, I wouldn’t “actively” try to find a partner. While my libido is high, I do not feel I “need” sex to be happy. It’s more of a “fun time, cool if it happens, cool if it doesn’t” type thing, and I’m not interested in casual flings. I would still interact with people and attempt to get to know them. Read the…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 11:40 AM
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I’m sorry, but if he wasn’t angry, if they weren’t angry, they wouldn’t feel a need to attack instead of actually discuss... there’s also the issue of them holding onto this idea, and generalizing because they are (in fact) upset, but aren’t working for actual change. This is exactly why I shared the post from r/askmenadvice... to show the norm for women when it comes to the dating world, because I had an idea that the comments would come down to “women bad and have easy time dating”... because …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 02:54 PM
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Honestly, your post is barely readable. I understand this, and I added a TDLR, but I’m not sure if that’s any better... And the reason there’s a lot of animosity expressed on this sub is most women have no idea how immensely privileged they are in dating and general life. This is why I added that post from r/askmenadvice, to show that it isn’t exactly a “privilege” the way a lot of men here seem to believe it is, and that there are also men who agree that the behavior isn’t acceptable behavior f…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 02:47 PM
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I added one, but Chibs isn’t too far off lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 02:36 PM
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I feel you on this. The internet is booming with that quarantine depression. But thankfully, we are on our way to some normalcy soon. 🤞
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 02:35 PM
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There aren’t exactly a wealth of other options of examples getting what men here want. I believe this is because some voices (or I guess fingers?) are louder than others. There are the negative, assuming and damning (of both other men and women) types who drown out the ones making good arguments and points, or being relatable and understanding. The thing is you’re talking about two different groups of men that rarely interact and hold no sway over each other. I understand that there are a few di…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 02:31 PM
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Thank you Zombie. I’m glad you could read and understand it, lol. I feel sadness for the men I witness being picked on by their peers, their friends and their family. I know it hurts them to be on the receiving end. They just can’t express that because “it isn’t masculine”. And I feel sadness for the men and women who are lumped into groups with the extremists, or called liars, or belittled because... 🤷‍♀️ differences? People will be nasty, as human nature is inherently selfish and people face t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 01:51 PM
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I agree with you, respect is earned, not freely given. But I feel this problem stems from childhood. Boys (and men) being picked on excessively by their peers, for having feelings, or showing interest in something, or when it comes to “non-masculine” things. It builds resentment in young, impressionable boys (and it happens to girls too) who hold onto that confusion, sadness and anger... and let it fester well into adulthood. I know I do not have the power to change society, but I personally fee…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 01:33 PM
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Sorry. 😔 I just added a TLDR.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 01:24 PM
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See but the difference here is that all a lot of the guys on this page commenting (and excessively posting the same thing day in and day out...) think they fall into that category and so they don’t understand why women are not chomping at the bit to pick them up, they think it must be their looks, but the mistake they are making is they don’t fall into that category. Exactly this. If you check out r/wherethegoodmenare (or whatever it’s called, idk, I got banned for “shaming #allmen” by asking a …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 06:15 PM
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Fair comment. Thank you. 🙇 Many guys are going to reply to your comment and talk about women they know who have dated abusive, gaslighting, narcissistic types of men. Yeah, I’m sure majority of women have... and if personal anecdotes (for some reason today) are allowed, and not thrown out or belittled.. I have also dated those types of men and women. The reason being, I’m a caring and considerate, while often naive type person, who gives people more chances than they seem to deserve. But I haven…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 06:08 PM
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As for women being empathetic towards male abuse victims, that’s pretty false. So... me being empathic because I understand what it means to be raped, and the trauma associated with rape is “false”? My female friends who have attempted to be activists (all shut down because of other men, by the way) being told “you don’t know what it’s like” or “he wanted it” or “if he didn’t want it he’s a f*g”? My female and male friends who have been in abusive situations, some of which who were sexually assa…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:42 PM
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Unless she’s a teacher because then her rape (abuse) victim is “the luckiest kid in school”. And who exactly is saying the kid is lucky? No woman I personally know, or who I’ve seen having this conversation... so.... 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:32 PM
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You’re making assumptions. By they I mean the men here, who believe this way. Try and tell me you don’t see them all over this sub. Try and tell me you haven’t seen “personal anecdotes mean nothing in this sub” all over this sub. Try and tell me that they again, the men who feel this way and believe this way aren’t constantly telling the women here they are wrong. Go ahead. And yes, a lot of men and women I have met were in fact awful. Doesn’t mean I go around going “#allmen are !” or “#allwomen…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:29 PM
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Could this be that ”top 20% of men” the guys here like to go on about, huh? Women are never held responsible for their actions. Bullshit, they’re the ones taking care of the kids!! Oh, and how about the 30% of people who do not get child support at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:04 PM
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THANK YOU! 👏 ❤️ Why is it “always a woman’s fault” regardless of the situation OR circumstance with these guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:02 PM
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And I blame men for ejaculating in a women when he had no desire to father children. And I also blame men who CHOOSE NOT TO BE A PART OF THEIR KIDS LIVES. Blame the men who CONVINCED THE WOMAN HE DIDN’T NEED A CONDOM. Blame the man who EJACULATED AND BOUNCED. Blame women all you want, but both genders are to blame for an unwanted child.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 05:01 PM
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Currently, most men don’t get custody because they’re the fathers and the mothers demand the kids so they get child support income stream from their ex husband. I’ll let you in on a little something here. While it is true that most children go to their mothers, it is also true that a lot of men are perfectly fine with that because they do not want the kids anyway. As for “getting child support income”, lol. My sister works for the state, handling child support cases, she has 2,500 cases, and gue…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:55 PM
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And yet, still no idea of what qualifies as an “ugly woman”. It’s a shame that more women are aware of how a lot of men speak about us as a whole gender. It’s no wonder a lot of men are apparently sexless.... 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:46 PM
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THANK YOU!! 👏 ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:40 PM
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Daytime television, bunch of women screeching with laughter at some guy having his dick cut off and thrown in a garbage disposal. Okay, and you some how believe these women are within their right? Do you honestly think men watching weren’t getting a laugh out of it too? LOL OK. How about men all over the states laughing hysterically and repeating “Grab her by the pussy” AND GRABBING WOMEN BY THEIR VAGINAS? Okay.... They admit they don’t even have the facts about what he did to ‘deserve’ that, ot…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:37 PM
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and they were a norm for a very very smart part of history So, back when they were forced into it? Didn’t have rights? Didn’t have a say? Or do you mean all the way back when they were sold by their fathers as children, couldn’t get an education, and were used as a slave? You’re so right. That was indeed a very very smart part of history. No wonder majority of men liked it so much, and want it to go back to that way.... in a small part of the world. Actually, no, it was wide spread, and women ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:21 PM
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Sure, I would love to quit my job and be provided for ME TOO!! and take care of the housework if it wouldn’t make my partner lose respect for me. To assume that majority of men respect their partners simply because they maintain the house. 🤣 Not about men not wanting to. Not about men only doing REAL work. Really? So again... if the “lack of respect” is the only driving factor behind not doing housework, it’s hilarious to think women respect their partner for not being able to clean up after the…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:14 PM
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In that situation, no. Not unless you count his severe unhappiness with his situation and his view of “masculinity” that is absolutely toxic and demeaning to women, not just his wife, but his daughters, sisters and even his own mother and grandma.... But by all means... if that is how some men (and women) want to live, you can’t tell them they’re wrong because they chose it, right? I mean, if she didn’t want it, she could just up and leave in a situation where her financial stability is complete…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 04:04 PM
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Well then. Who’s problem is that exactly? Why is it that when a boy is abused by an older woman, he’s told he should be proud of himself? Why is it that majority of men like to downplay trauma, act like “men can’t be raped because they should want it”, and why a boy who was abused by a woman should be proud of being abused regardless of how he feels about it? I do not know a single woman, who would tell a boy, or man, that if he had unwanted sexually attention, that he should want it, or downpla…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 03:57 PM
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Have you ever considered that maybe misandrists are open and proud of it because Because they are very hateful, and rage fueled people? With bad mentalities? A sad world view and underwent immense trauma that put them in that mindset in the first place? Yes, actually, same goes for misogynists. Still doesn’t make it okay for them to behave the way they do. Also, you’re a shitbag (thanks for the insult) if you think owning up to being openly sexist/racist/homophobic SUDDENLY MAKES IT ANY BETTER. …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 03:54 PM
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This statement (that you made) in context of why misandry (let me bold it for your maybe then you will attempt to understand what I’m saying) SHOULD ALSO BE BANNED, implies that MISOGYNY HAS WORSE OUTCOMES and therefore deSeRvEs tO bE bAnNeD whERe aS miSaNDry dOesN’t (because it DOESNT (BUT COULD) LEAD TO ANYONE GETTING KILLED). I honestly feel like a huge asshole here, because you want to run in circles and play tag, and bait me because you just refuse to read anything that I’ve said, and just …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 03:42 PM
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But Mirror... all it takes is just one good one. LOL it’s not like the bad ones can’t impregnate anyone. 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 03:25 PM
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Of course not all men are that way, because not all men are in the top 20% in physical attractiveness. Weird, cuz dudes on average date just as much as women... so like... how many male virgins really are there in this big wide world of ours? Definitely not 50% of men are virgins, and it I reckon it’s probably somewhere between like 12-14% for males in various age groups... considering that we live in a hook up culture now, it blows my mind to think that the vast majority of men have never had a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 03:18 PM
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Idk anyone who praises any person for being interested in children.... so....
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 02:53 PM
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Actually, there is. If I feel a problem with it, it is my business to feel a problem with it. If my friends want to date a 25 year old, then they can have at it. 5 years isn’t a significant difference in terms of generalized familiarity with the world, imo. I have friends who are 5-7 years younger than me, and I have friends who are my age and up to 10 years older than me. The difference is level of maturity which will surface on some occasions. For me to believe I am just as mature as my 40 yea…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 02:52 PM
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Women are also called pedophiles.... like when they are sexually interested in children.... men can also be called cradle robbers, but in general, it is more normalized that men date younger than women to date younger, which is why it is now a growing trend that more women are dating younger... The problem is when there is a significant age difference, or a man who is much older wants to date 16-22 year old girls because their brains, like all 16-25 year olds, are not fully developed and they th…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 02:43 PM
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a 22 year old woman is a grown ass person. Not a fragile, gullible little thing that must be protected at all costs. For one, I didn’t say any of that, or anything remotely close to that. I have friends who are 5-7 years my junior, and the level of maturity often surfaces, not to mention their interests, or general knowledge or lack there of... of things I am knowledgeable in. Which in part, is why we are friends. They look at me as if I’m an older sister, which I am happy to be because we have …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 02:26 PM
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is the best choice for a person with trauma really a relationship first. Obviously not, unless it’s a relationship with themselves or a trained mental health professional. However even after working through trauma, whether it be minimal or severe, there was still trauma. Anyone who says they haven’t suffered trauma, could be in denial, but loads of people act like forgetting or trying to forget is working through it enough, and it really isn’t. People shouldn’t be building relationships from tra…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 02:14 PM
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, many of my peers and myself suffer some bad problems from having a strong mom that didn’t nurture them like they needed. I’m sorry for this, but times were very much different for our parents. My parents, and many more of my friends parents (boomers as some call them) were highly abusive to their kids. Not just physically (beatings were a regular occurrence before the threat of CPS became apparent), but emotionally and mentally. These are not good parents, but as all people coming into age say…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 01:56 PM
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Women’s bodies break down, especially after birth. It takes a lot out of us. Elders have a whole slew of health issues, not just joint issues or arthritis, but also organ issues, blood issues, immunity issues. To expect anyone who is of an older age, and medically suffering to continue to work through that pain and trauma isn’t humane. But sure... just keep blaming women for having the ability to retire on their own, and assume that men are only working still because their woman tells them they …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 01:21 PM
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Yeah, or as some call it, karma.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 01:17 PM
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they can’t fool women if they try. Lol, sureeeeee they can’t... it’s not like it doesn’t happen all the time. Which is exactly why the question “are you sure you’re in love with him, and not just the idea of him?” is asked frequently by our friends when discussing the option of parting ways. I’ve heard it from both my female AND male friends. God forbid if all men think they are class A citizens... but the ones who think this way, can keep on thinking that way. They should just learn that when w…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 01:14 PM
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It’s weird that we (all of us) constantly have to see these types of posts here every single day... telling women “men know what you want better than you do”... Food for thought... you or someone else might think that “reddit guys” have little luck with women because “wOmaNs sTAnDaRds” and “wOmAns aTtrAcTiOn”, but the truth of the matter is, we (women) can see just exactly how you guys talk about #allwomen, all day long on social media. Whether it be Reddit, Facebook, Twitter, or various other p…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/21 01:08 PM
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Why aren’t you blaming the fathers for not being around? Instead of blaming the mother who is trying to care for her child?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 02:33 PM
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Unfortunately they will not take your personal experience, or what you have seen seriously. They do not want to believe that a lot American men are immature... or childish. I believe you, because I live in America, and I see immature dudes all over the place... ones that don’t shower regularly, or dress “appropriately”, can’t cook, won’t clean, and make rather large assumptions about #allwomen. They just can’t see their behavior and think it is okay.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 02:32 PM
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Child custody defaults to the higher earning spouse; lesser earning spouse pays REASONABLE child support. What happens if dad is the higher earning spouse and doesn’t want the kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 02:27 PM
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Maybe the men they hold out for, aren’t viewing them as ugly. 🤷‍♀️ Maybe that’s just the anger of loneliness causing men who feel “Chad is the only one they want”, to feel this way. What exactly is an “ugly woman”? Can you provide pictures so we (women and men) can understand exactly what is considered ugly?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 02:16 PM
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That’s not what I see online. It’s either Chads dating hot, average and below average women and lonely men. I’m not in touch with my family. I also don’t go outside. Maybe this is also a lot of men’s problem too. How can anyone aspire to meet someone, if they can’t or won’t interact with people in the real world and depend on screens for human interaction? Unless someone wants to claim that being socially inept isn’t a problem. Well, it really is...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 02:13 PM
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Then you do it. However the men here will never change their mind on this matter, so it’s like talking to a wall... Why don’t you tell me how “only men do real work, and things women do aren’t work” like so many of the men here preach? Edit; “not work” they themselves, will not do, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 11:02 PM
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Backwards logic. Women can’t advertise for it when they know the vast majority of men aren’t interested. “Women’s standards are too high! Now they expect us to be stay at home husbands!” 👌 Nice bait. Don’t launch a product there is no market for. You’re right, there is no “market for it”, but I already said that, so... Most men do not want to clean, maintain the home, take care of the kids, go grocery shopping, or really anything **viewed as a “a woman’s job”, because it is “emasculating”. You c…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 10:50 PM
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I don’t really feel like reading your whole comment... but. Some men do age really well (physically), and grow more attractive with age. To believe it has everything to do with status and wealth... well, you aren’t really giving your fellow men a compliment, nor are you giving them the benefit of the doubt. If you want the study, you should run the study, but I doubt if your theory was proven wrong, you would accept it anyhow. And I suppose, since you didn’t object, you agree with me that all fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 10:18 PM
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It’s honestly a shame for anyone who’s time is wasted, and who experience trauma from issues with compatibility, communication, and relationships lacking common decency and love. It also sucks being deemed undesirable because x, y, z. People could to learn to be kinder to each other... 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 09:59 PM
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your kind Not all of us (women) operate that way, just like not all men operate this way.... Oh wait. I meant iM glAd hE poSteD thAt blUntLy sO wOmen cOuLd rEaD iT anD kNoW eXaCtLy tHe nAtUrE oF your kind. 🤗 Also, check this, regardless if men can produce sperm for the near entirety of their life, doesn’t mean it’s all the same quality sperm. Actually, men over 40 and their sperm quality has been linked to defects, deformities and disease... same as when a man partakes in alcohol or drugs. Crazy…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 09:55 PM
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Do you feel it’s “normal” for anyone who’s say... 30 years old... to date someone 8 or more years younger than them? Women are called cougars and cradle robbers.... Why assume it’s “hate towards” men, when attempting to have a discussion about mentality that is rarely met with honesty? Edit: also, what is the appeal to dating someone who was still in high school when you’ve already graduated with a six or eight year degree?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 09:41 PM
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You seem to have good friends then. I’m happy for you. I hear dudes calling each other “pussy” all the time, and “it’s a jokeeee” or it can be an insult. Whether it be my partner’s friends (who I don’t much care for, who also use terms like thot and whore regularly when talking about women...), twitch streamers, and their chats, dudes at the bar (pre-Covid) or in the manosphere too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 09:27 PM
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Women don’t want men to stay at home, simple as that. If we (women) are working (job) and maintaining the house, to little to no help from a man... why would we trust him to be a stay at home husband instead of having a job to financially support the family? Most men do not want to clean, maintain the home, take care of the kids, go grocery shopping, or really anything that can be viewed as “a woman’s job”, because it is “emasculating”... I personally would be stoked to have a stay at home husba…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 09:24 PM
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And some men like to talk like you. 🤗 Which, btw, doesn’t do well with women...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 09:17 PM
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We live in a world, where now relationships aren’t “forever”. The divorce rate is high (“yeah, women instigate divorce more often, because they want Chad and more money, and a bigger dick to ride”...), people are incompatible, settling for less, expecting more, falling in love with the idea of a person, and not who the person really is. If a woman isn’t concerned with her own retirement plans, who will be? Chances are she will be divorced with kids, on her own, because... Lack of communication, …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 09:14 PM
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It’s hard to be the mom if you have a more dominant personality aren’t a woman, the mom is the parent that has an easier time being comprehensive, it doesn’t have to be woman tho, it’s “mom” because that’s the stereotype. A stereotype you’re willing to believe in, and use... when it is sexist, outdated and just comical, lol. Come meet my mom, my partner’s mom, my sister, my nephew’s wife. They will show you dominate women. Believe me. If I’m the leader and the breadwinner and she keeps the home …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 09:02 PM
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I can only imagine lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 08:45 PM
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Have you seen the “we hate women” subs? They are much more extreme than the “we think men are assholes” subs... at least from the ones I have looked over. Idk about the “Facebook groups” dudes here like to bring up, but I’ve seen Twitter too. I’ve also seen men, take an “angry feminist meme” seriously, and claim it was from “a feminist”, when the poster was obviously male, I’ve even seen dudes here side with women, only to find out they’re women and do a 1080. Yeah, some women are extremists and…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 08:43 PM
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What you’re implying here is that misandry doesn’t deserve to be shut down because there is no threat of violence. No, I didn’t imply, actually you inferred due to your own narrative. I never ONCE said misandrists “are cool because they aren’t violent”. Extremists from every group, have a tendency to be violent. However, true feminism is often looked at as misandry because “LOL women have rights, why do they need more. They’re never happy and always want more and more and more”. Women all over t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 08:38 PM
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So we have issues of our own, but when men decide to act on it or bring attention to it (you mean, when they demonize all women?), women such as yourself (thanks for the insult, and assumption that I side with the extremists) scream over it like you’re being eroded (ohmygod, I must have been hallucinating when I see men do that all the time when it comes to women!) when you’ve got the funding (we get the exams... regularly) or opportunities (you guys can get the exams regularly too, you just cho…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 08:10 PM
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Selective service. Here we go again. It is not the fault of women that they were never included in this sexist insanity. The draft has been a thing forever at this point, women were to stay home, take care of the kids (provide more military fodder) and maintain everything while men were away fighting in wars, that other men had started. At the time of industrialization, women took to the factories, had jobs, still took care of their home and children, all while the men were away “sacrificing” th…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 08:10 PM
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Oh, I’m sorry. I didn’t realize women weren’t allowed to retire.... People of retirement age, get social security, a lot get disability, a lot had pensions, and various other things. Unfortunately for my generation, when I’m old, broken and unable to work, the chances of me having any of that is incredibly thin, especially if I end up single. In today’s time, elders need an average of $4,500 a month to live comfortably. Why hate a woman for having the ability to retire? Oh, because the assumptio…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 07:00 PM
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I don’t know how I would ever be happy being the mom of the relationship, I have always been the dominating one. I honestly do not know what to say to this... I try to envision myself in that situation and honestly it just feels wrong How can I be dominate and a leader if I am eating from her resources. If I have fallen so much in grace I might as well LET HER PEG ME UNTIL I CANT WALK. Why is it you think this way? Genuine question. There is literally nothing wrong with a man and woman, working …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:57 PM
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Because extremists have louder voices, motive, ability desire to be in the open, and manipulate people into conforming to their hate speech. It happened with every dictator. It happened with the rise of supremacy. It happened with MRAs, it happened in the LGBT+ community (they even hate people within their own groups of extremists) and it’s even happened with the BLM movement, and with Blue Lives Matter. Removing the extremists is much easier said than done. Edit: It happened at our capital buil…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:48 PM
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I remember the* one thing President Trump actually said, that was pretty wise. “Fake News”. If you, or anyone else, wants to believe a specific thing, such as, all feminists are extremists trying to destroy men... well... that’s like claiming White supremacists speak for all Christians because Christianity is their religion of choice, or all Muslims are suicide bombers, or all men’s rights activists are woman haters, or by claiming all men are rapists, because the definition of rapist used to be…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:43 PM
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I didn’t say she “perfectly speaks” for me, I said... Lily, you ALWAYS know what to say exactly. Thank you for helping to solidify my point. ❤️ Also, not people, they (meaning the ones who have this mentality) just think it’s womens fault. Gross, is you having an issue with me showing appreciation to a fellow woman, because she makes a good point. And I know she makes a good point because you’re for some reason offended and being defensive. But again, you will just believe whatever you’re precon…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:35 PM
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How big was her house? How well behaved were her children? Did the older one help by doing chores? Did any of her friends come over and help her? Maybe not having additional people in the house made her house maintenance much easier, or less difficult than most. I have known many single mothers, I have helped many single mothers, I have taken care of many children. I am empathetic to the point of understanding what exactly those women go through, especially when they have three or more children.…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:29 PM
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Married men also commit adultery, and gaslight their partners into believing they’re crazy for even suspecting, even with proof/evidence, and yes, women are capable of this too. But women aren’t regularly addicted to porn, paying for camgirls, subscribing to only fans and premium snapchats... the user base of all those things is predominantly male. Even if we had 50/50 percent distribution of (sexual) relationships, men would still be thirsty for other women. I’m glad you understand that... but …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:13 PM
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Most stay at home wives/mom’s do not do that. Have you met any? I’m genuinely curious. And to think that some men who choose to be stay at home dads, don’t sit on the couch, slamming back booze, watching the game... 🤦‍♀️ Oh, and sureeee the confusion is the term “job”. ”Job” by definition: . a task or piece of work, especially one that is paid. Of course dedicating your entire life to your family and household and not being paid isn’t work. How silly of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:06 PM
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It is gross that women are blamed (here and in various other subs, social media, by society) for literally everything a man does. I agree. It’s like the whole “she was asking to be raped” thing, hence the #metoo movement. Edit: not sure why some dudes think they shouldn’t be held accountable for their own actions and words.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:04 PM
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I haven’t seen anyone say it isn’t work. Its just not comparable work to having a full time job. It literally is a full time job, and the best part is, you can’t go home once your shift is over, because your shift is never over, especially when keeping care of children.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:02 PM
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Well, if what they say about pride is true... Pride is at the bottom of all great mistakes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 06:00 PM
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Be a stay at home father to three children under the age of ten, and then you can properly assess the level of difficulty. Until you do, or learn how to be empathetic... you will always believe “it isn’t a job, it isn’t hard, it isn’t that big of a deal”. I’ve taken care of many children, as a babysitter, a nanny, and an aunt. Children are not cats, they are not easy to care for, they require a lot of attention and stimulation. Cleaning also requires scrubbing, harmful chemicals (especially back…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 05:57 PM
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Lily, you ALWAYS know what to say exactly. Thank you for helping to solidify my point. ❤️ Also, not people, they just think it’s womens fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 05:53 PM
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LOL NOOOO, they are not. Do you know what supply and demand is? Without a demand, there is not need for supply. Men have looked at pornography for centuries... there was even porn painted on caves... maybe the women started it? I doubt it... Why on earth, wouldn’t a woman see that Bell Delphine (for example) is making millions of dollars a month off of men who literally throw their money at her for pictures/videos... and want to participate? It honestly looks like hella easy money because of mal…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 05:51 PM
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Idk how to reason with you. Women are expected to have a job, whether it be a job that supports the household financially (in majority of cases) or keeping care of the house and family (which is work by the way). Edit: If it wasn’t work, you wouldn’t have to hire people to do it for you in the event you couldn’t. Women cannot just stay at home and do nothing and not be shamed for it. That does not happen, unless (and the same goes for men) they are deemed medically unable to work, by their physi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 05:45 PM
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Thank you! I was honestly dumbfounded when I found out you could say you were currently IN Germany, when you’re really in the US. I assumed it worked off of gps/location tracking.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 05:42 PM
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Have you checked out r/DeadBedroom ? There’s a lot of evidence to show you that women aren’t “the only ones who refuse to put out”. Obviously, if your partner isn’t having sex with you, there is a problem in your relationship... and as an adult, talking through (even therapy) can help tremendously. To think “doing more house work” is the cause of that problem, lol... sorry, imo that just dumb. And yes, before you ask, if a woman “respects” a man, but won’t have sex with him, that kind of “respec…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 05:40 PM
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All they (those asking) have to do, is read their own comments, and the threads that follow, to see what exactly is expected of women and isn’t expected of men, and how bias their view really is. But they won’t. They will only agree with the narrative they believe. It still blows my mind that majority of the men here seem to think house work (being the maid), cooking (being the chef), keeping track of finances (being the financial advisor), taking care of the children (being the nanny), (being t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 05:26 PM
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And yet, why are so many men opposed to the idea of being a stay at home parent, if it’s in fact soooooo easy? “Cuz society will judge us!” Nawh, it’s because they don’t want to do it... if they did, it would have already been normalized by now, with how liberal the world is going. Food for thought, in some European countries, there are just as many stay at home husbands/dads as their are stay at home wives/moms.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 05:21 PM
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Minus the southern part, but that is also how I was brought up. But to an extreme extend. I was told and taught (drilled) that women were a product of man, for man’s pleasure, and to refrain would mean you’d end up in hell for displeasing men (master). If the women in my family weren’t married with at least ONE kid by the age of 20, there was “obviously something seriously wrong with her” and “she is defying God”. The men in the family... they drank, did drugs, committed adultery, physically, me…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 05:17 PM
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Thirsty males make their job possible. Don’t forget about that fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 05:12 PM
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No, but you can chalk it up to them busting their ass and giving themselves the ability to retire. Unless you want to believe their partner (what about single retired women?) vouches for them financially.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 05:11 PM
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He is, from the women who love the idea of a SAHH/D, however, men grow bored being cooped up in the house and typically want to reenter the work force. In relationships, that are healthy, and one partner is a stay at home partner, both the stay at home, and working partner are typically happy, because they had the proper communication to come to the agreement and set ground rules. Not to mention that the working mother will always keep care of her kids, unlike some working fathers.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 05:10 PM
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I think he means camgirls, porn actresses and Snapchat/Only Fans content creators. And men act like that isn’t work too...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 05:07 PM
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This is exactly what I was wondering too!! Thank you for putting it into words. ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 05:06 PM
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Ask how many men are willing to have a SAHW, and then ask how many can actually support that. Stay at home wives are not the norm anymore. Majority of women work and provide for their families, still take care of the kids, maintain the house and provide not only food, but sexual relations as well. Assuming that they have a healthy relationship and their partner doesn’t compile all the stress on to them, daily (or cheat/neglect/abuse). But I’ve had that argument time and time again, seems like th…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 05:04 PM
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I just want to first say, what you believe is “feminism”, isn’t feminism. Feminists, real ones, and not extremists (there are male feminists too) aren’t pushing to silence men, or control their sexuality, or taking/stealing men’s rights (out from under them). The people who do this are not feminists, they’re misandrists. I’m having a hard time understanding the whole “men are the only ones making sacrifices”, especially for the good of society. When is the last time you’ve seen a man sacrifice h…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 04:48 PM
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Kind of like how you just can’t see, or even imagine, that your sex does in fact, possess aggregate flaws, one of them being hyper sensitivity. You expect us of course to accept YOUR claims that men are just awful, oppressive bruteswho are mean and awful in all sorts of ways, right? But there’s nothing generally bad about women. Lucky for you you have the entire of mainstream society supporting your case. Please reread what you’ve typed, and tell me again how you aren’t insulting women and men, …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 04:17 PM
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Could very well be. But it’s hard to believe that some of those people aren’t just changing their locations willy-nilly and exploiting desperate guys for their money. When my nephew (we’re about the same age btw) wanted to see what Tinder was all about, he figured out he could match with girls from other countries, lol. Those promoting themselves are probably doing the same to get more views/exposure.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 04:02 PM
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It isn’t a hypothetical question. You’re asking because you believe that misandry is “perfectly acceptable” while “misogyny” is shut down at every turn, without understanding that the misandry groups aren’t making active, and violent threats towards men, like those participating in misogyny do. Things like “someone should rape her” or “I’d shove my cock in her ass to shut her up”, or “if she was my girlfriend/wife I would beat her bloody”, etc. Why not read the crap you’re trying to protect whil…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 12:01 PM
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Rapist, pig, creepy, virgin and gay, are not gendered insults. If we’re going with OPs logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 11:54 AM
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Except, over here in the states, and even in the UK, and most of Europe, cunt is a derogatory term for women.... And women in these places will be called “cunt” for nearly any reason. Such as, telling a guy you aren’t interested, for having a disagreement, for expressing yourself, for not listening (didn’t hear), and so many other things. Just because Australia and NZ use it as a fun word, doesn’t mean the rest of the world does...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 11:46 AM
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They just can’t see the way they talk about women. Literally insulting women for being neurotic and hysterical, and yet claims are made that they’re not gendered, when I have never witnessed (verbally or textually) a man being called either of those words. 🤦‍♀️ It is just their (#notallmen) norm to insult women, this is why they cannot see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 11:43 AM
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This is because men love to insult other men! How can you not see this?! Tell me how many times a male friend of yours referred to you as “pussy” and then tell me how many females have said it to you. Seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 11:40 AM
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beta, neckbeard, or simp. Women didn’t coin these words, men did. Instead of blaming #allwomen for the way men treat each other. Why not treat each other better and stop making and using derogatory and inflammatory terms? Food for thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 11:38 AM
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How come the guys who complain that (all LOL) women are insulting men, want to keep themselves in this neat little bubble about how “men don’t insult other men”, and “it’s manly/bonding/a joke”? And why is it perfectly acceptable (from the ones who complain) that men treat other men like crap and continuously develop more and more sexist remarks and insults for their fellow man? It just doesn’t make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 11:33 AM
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How about this. Women are criticized endlessly, especially on social media... here’s a link (share any newer examples you find) by men and women, just as men are. And here’s another link for all the people here who want more inflammatory terms to call women. Women have been criticized and called negative things relentlessly, for ever. Why shame women by “believing” that only women are shaming men? I see far more men/boys shaming other men, than I see women shaming women and/or men, and I see not…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 11:26 AM
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Some women, not all of us do.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 12:54 PM
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I agree with you there. But people with that type of temperament, and volume wouldn’t back down unless forced to, and they wouldn’t change their minds if they have the following. If they lose traction (which is unlikely) then maybe we can move forward as a society, but people are inherently selfish and bigoted.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 12:53 PM
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Personal anecdotes are frowned upon in this sub, and as a woman, I can only personally speak to the experiences I had as a woman with OLD, but male friends of mine had far more fake profiles message them, and sex workers asking them for pay $30 for a blowjob, or $185 for in calls, and a chunk of profiles that were definitely catfishes, which also asked for money too. My male friends decided against old after attempting to find people (which could be our area, I’m not sure) for a year and only ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 12:51 PM
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I think most people do tbh. Men are more into “hook up culture” than women are, because they aren’t judged to the extend that women are. And once OLD became “hook up central”, loads of dudes signed up to get easy lays. But then they get upset that some women use them as free food or decide it wouldn’t work somewhere during the date, or after. Majority of the dudes using OLD are really only looking for quick easy sex. That’s why, as a woman using OLD, you get plenty of “Netflix and chill” or “do …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 12:46 PM
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Okay. I’ll try to remember that the next time a local tourney pops up.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 12:37 PM
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You want me to go to a local MtG tournament and take pictures for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 04:50 PM
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It honestly just blows my mind, lol. r/wherethegoodmenare is one example of the toxicity these types of guys breath. It’s like, how can you claim you’re a “good guy” when you talk about women as one sum, and call them all “whores who parade themselves on the cock carousel, only to hit 30 and demand a husband who doesn’t want to marry a woman who has fucked 500+ men (which LOLO) just to be an ATM”. Like, it really blows my mind...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 04:49 PM
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Oh I’m sorry. You wanted a ratio? I thought you were saying women were in essence barred from attendance. Personally, I wouldn’t know on average, however in our area, it’s nearly an even split.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 02:38 PM
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There’s a difference between the men just looking to fuck and those who actually want a relationship. Yes, this I am aware. However, the common consensus from this sub is that “#allmen will fuck anything if they can.” Which frankly, might be the case for the men claiming “this is how men are”, but fact of the matter is, #notallmen are controlled ONLY BY THEIR DICK. Many of them actually have brains, aren’t “a slave to their biology” and have decency to control themselves (such as not rape, becau…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 02:18 PM
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I’ve known many feminists who fought for both women AND men, it’s the extremists who want more and more who do not value the true idea of equality. This is why people refer to themselves as equalitarians instead of feminists, because the term became so warped by the extremists that there is no bringing it back. Most men will always hate feminism, because “it removes my rights”, instead of understanding what feminism actually did for women as a whole, not just in the western world. I joined a cou…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 01:38 PM
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It would be in their benefit to lie about it. Or maybe, just maybe, the men here who claim “that is the way it is for #allmen” while spouting #notallmen, over and over again.... are stuck in their mentality, and don’t feel the need to even attempt to understand that not everyone is exactly the same, or like them. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 01:32 PM
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I’m sure she’s gorgeous in the morning right after waking up too. If she wasn’t beautiful, she wouldn’t have been picked for stardom back in the 1990’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 01:29 PM
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I think you might be on to something Poppy. They only see the women they, themselves have attraction for, which dampens their world view by lumping all women into a box based on the behavior of the women who aren’t attracted to them... thus causing them to have this negative outlook on the world and life in general, which then creates this tension that people are naturally repelled (or repulsed) by, and the results are their “chances” being cut again, and again, with how negative and sexist they…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 01:21 PM
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But, do you think that the “attractive” guy would get that 400-4 ratio like in your experiment? Uhh... he would get a decent amount of traction from real (meaning actual) women using the site, but I’m positive that some would scream “that’s a catfish” and refrain due to his level of attractiveness or they would refrain because they feel he is out of their league. He would also get a TON of attention from fake profiles, including, but not limited to, sex workers (pros, camgirls and OF content cre…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 01:10 PM
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If I had a dollar for every rant we’ve been subjected to here that women should be “grateful” that there’s always some man somewhere who will stick his peen in her and “own our privilege”. The other issue is that while desperate dudes like the ones here just want to stick their dicks in any hole and it enrages them that women don’t operate that way. If you had a dollar for every one of ^ those ^ people here, on PPD, you would be rich. It just blows my mind that they lack basic understanding when…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 01:03 PM
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Um when women are virgins it’s by choice? Not always, and same applies for men. I’ve known a few Catholic men who refrained from sexual activity until marriage. That is by choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 12:54 PM
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That’s why you would never give advice to a lonely virgin to go to a Magic the Gathering Tournament to try and pick up women. The reason being there are no women at Magic the Gathering Tournaments. Uhhh... yes there are? Just not an over abundance of women, and probably not women you yourself (or majority of men here) would be interested in.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 12:44 PM
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When you say “men do the exact same thing”, do you mean that men tear men down for their looks? Or that men think they are better looking than they actually are? Definitely both... but not all men, just the bitter ones who think the world is intentionally screwing them over. Edit: it’s like my partners friends making fun of him and being nasty (belittling him) because he’s going bald.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 02:51 PM
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It’s weird that the men here claim that “men would have sex with anything”, while the men I know personally argue that they would not, and that sex isn’t the “end all, be all” for them. Which is it? Are men lying about how sex isn’t the top “prize” and would “in fact” have sex with anything? Sex is “always on their mind”? Or are you guys who claim “all men” just lumping every single man into the world of your mentality? Why is it a woman’s fault if she’s constantly come on to by 7s-whatever if s…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 02:33 PM
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How on earth is Queen B, Beyoncé an 8? She’s gorgeous.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 02:27 PM
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It was pretty awful, yes. It took a really long time to realize I do not have to care about what people think when they are so negative, and their “means of enjoying their life” is to drag people down with them. Everyone has the right, and ability to live their life the way they sit fit. It just requires a lot of work on their part, both physical and mental. Had I realized this before, I could be making six figures instead of dropping out of college before I was finished, just to take care of my…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 02:23 PM
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a lot of it is because men don’t hold women to any standards of moral character. If men had no standards applied to us we’d be the same way. A lot of women do not have standards, or boundaries for men either... this is why they continue to date abusive men (who believe they are well within their right to be abusive, from lack of correction or reflection). Some women put men on a pedestal, just as some men put women on a pedestal... and some women see men as nothing more than meat, or a bank acco…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 02:03 PM
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Once the “dating game” is done with, things will be that much more simple, and easier to understand. 🤞
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 01:28 PM
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Speak for yourself. I know more than plenty of people in debt, who work multiple jobs, and people who aren’t in debt who work multiple jobs. If a mortgage isn’t debt, a loan isn’t debt, and you’ve somehow paid off your 8 years of higher education, cool beans, but barely anyone is as lucky as you seem to be. Maybe men have their own ideas about the male role (to provide and protect) and who’s to say that women are right and men are wrong? You’re absolutely right! Children do not need food or diap…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 01:08 PM
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Oh, my bad. Still though, you’re hearing it from men. It’s like if I believed (all) men were abusive or rapists because I hear from women about their experiences and trauma. But I guess we’re (women) all shallow. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 12:12 PM
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Hahaha! Personally, I find women to be more on average appealing, because of how we take care of ourselves and present ourselves. But I’m into men all the same. It also has A LOT to do with their mentality and personality. I wouldn’t ever be interested in a woman who bashes men nonstop all day, just as I wouldn’t be interested in a man who bashes women nonstop all day. Or someone who’s lazy or unmotivated to do the basic things they need to in order to survive, or if they have severe addictions.…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 03:35 PM
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Yes. Autoincorrect gets me again. Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 03:22 PM
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Years ago, there was this occurrence where women/girlfriends were taking pictures/videos of their partners rooms/homes and sharing them online as proof to how “filthy men live”, and in retaliation, men took photos of their female counterparts cars to show “women are just as disgusting as us, double standard”. Maybe it boils down to immaturity, or laziness, and while both parties can be dirty, I’ve only known women to be the ones to clean and deep clean on a regular basis. I’ve been in very few a…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 03:17 PM
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I am agreeing with you, but also attempting to continue the discussion. He is unsure because of the things he’s been told and taught about female sexuality. To believe that if a women is truly invested, she will “stop at nothing to prove she is invested” seems to be rather selfish... There are so many things that can tie into it. Personally speaking, me coming on strong to men, meant that I was “easy” and a “slut”, which meant I was faced with rejection because “if a woman is coming on that stro…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 03:09 PM
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It’s not normal because it’s not the norm, it’s not as prevalent as hateful feminists propaganda wants to portray it as. I can say the same about hateful men going on and on about how #allwomen are hypergamous and only go after x amount of men “because they’re tall and ripped”, and are users, abusers, whatever else you constantly see spouted about from men (especially in PPD). People hold to the extremist ideals because they for some reason want to believe that is all there is. Idk how many time…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 02:53 PM
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That’s why I always say that confidence is just a side effect of competence. 👏 👏 👏 It absolutely is! And I also learned that true strength of character is dealing with situations that are outside of our skills range in a manner where we do it with grace through using all of our skill sets without pretension and without despairing. As you said, it is always intimidating being out of your comfort zone, or skill set, but without a challenge, how does one expect to grow? Personally, I love a challen…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 02:17 PM
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... people can have whatever arrangement that suits them. Traditionally, a man provided for his family and it was understood that the wife would take care of the house and kids (al day, every single day). Again, it’s 2021, everyone is in debt. Men already complain up a storm about hypergamy and that women are gold diggers while providing NOTHING to their male counterparts. So tradition means jack in a world revolving around endless debt and men who claim to want a “traditional 1900’s wife” while…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 01:17 PM
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Haha. Gotta love meeting people who for some reason have so much in common with yourself. I’d always go “twinzzzz!”.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 12:45 PM
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Why should anyone date a person they find undesirable?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 12:18 PM
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You heard from enough men that women are more physically attractive on average than men are? Could this be because heterosexual men aren’t interested in men, they’re interested in women? What about the whole female obesity rate, and “no fatties”? Or women without makeup? Or women who dress in an ill fitting manner? Are they also on average, more physically attractive to straight males than men are?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 12:14 PM
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Monogamy isn’t the issue for some. The issue is when a strictly monogamous person, ends up in a LTR with someone who is polygamous... cheating occurs, emotional and mental damages occur... self doubt accrues... ya know, all that stuff. For some people monogamy is the “end all, be all” and it can last for a life time. This boils down to communication too. If a party of two, lacks in any of the basic fundamentals of a relationship (communications, honesty, trust, understanding, willingness to comp…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 08:22 PM
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Rabbit boiler seems... terrifying. But why on earth would she believe that’s how she would come off? I absolutely agree with you. 👏 THAT is really not unreasonable at all, and that is something we all want. And... the same goes for the rest of that list really. It’s all stuff EVERYONE should ask from a partner. If a person only wants someone who is a 9 or 10, specific height and build, really high income, that is unreasonable. I agree it’s absolutely unreasonable to expect this Sims character yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 07:37 PM
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Go check FDS. It’s no different how some people will only want to date unicorns but insult anyone that is flawed. Imo, it’s all bs, and it’s all filtered through people who have been (most likely) through some really crazy stuff and are looking for answers or just simply put, have a terrible outlook on life. I have read some of the things they discuss, just as I have read many other things.. I have read r/seduction and various other subs about “how to max your gains in the dating world”. It’s al…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 07:28 PM
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Looking at your first chunk of your response I see I definitely didn’t write that up very clearly. Thank you for the clarity. I agree with you that two phone (one video) and three in person meets in months would be a deal breaker for me, especially if I was the one being proactive and trying to arrange everything. But, I’m me, and tbh, I would have walked away. If someone opted to tell me why exactly (or even briefly) what the deal was, and why it was they made it so difficult to get to know eac…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 07:02 PM
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Define “take care of,” though. To take care of something is to provide it with adequate care. If your child is hungry, needs a changing, a bath, attention, education, basic things, and all you provide is money and physical security... are you really taking care of that child to the best of your ability in the modern world? Imagine if, you were an elder, needing diapers, couldn’t feed yourself and you were provided with someone to “take care of you” and they simply offered financial security and …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 06:40 PM
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Prostitution legal or otherwise doesn’t cure the sickness these men have. It has little to do with sex (...). If they can freely go to prostitutes, I think over time this will just fuel the resentment they already have. But! They claim that if they had a means to obtain sex “whenever” they would be happier, and their resentment would lessen, thus why prostitution should be legal (for their gains). So, they seem to think it will, while we understand it will just breed a different set of problems …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 06:18 PM
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I’m Inclined to agree, because it isn’t an issue to clean up. But from what I’ve come to understand, most people don’t look in the toilet... so if they weren’t aware they left streaks, and you just left...? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 06:10 PM
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Assuming the standards are on a normal acceptable level for most people. But... people have different standards apparently... right? Women always say “clean this and do that” and get mad because it isn’t done properly.... right? I’ll budget some funds and buy you a sense of humor. I mean go for it. It’s your money, lol. Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 06:04 PM
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I understand you weren’t, and yes, some points can be valid but RadicalTrigger says their relationship is moving forward now, and was still met with negativity about his girl’s actions. First, I do find it a bit bizarre that an adult woman is saying things like “fate works in mysterious ways”. Fate, luck, determination, execution, whatever you want to call it... it has a way of making you question “what?” when it springs up. It’s like, someone who made a couple of bad investments, is down on the…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 05:50 PM
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Thanks for complimenting me. Not a problem, and you’re very welcome. It honestly is a really good idea, and it can create happiness for her too. That’s love, isn’t it? I’ve met few men/boys who was like you described. I’ve worked (babysitting) since I was 10 years old, and even still do on occasion now, I’ve gone to multiple schools, two universities, worked many retail and commission based jobs, and I’m considered to be extroverted. I’ve met many people across states, in the US, Canada and I ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 05:32 PM
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I personally think men and women are fundamentally incompatible long terms. We’re trying to fight our nature with this relationship bullshit. People grow, and learn, and become educated. Sure, I have long suspected that monogamy was a part of the problem. But the thing is, if you aren’t monogamous, you don’t have to be (but don’t get mad when people start calling you a slut/whore), if you aren’t open and upfront... you’re in for a bad time when your strictly monogamous partner finds out you’ve b…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 05:21 PM
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It’s sad that your childhood turned into a messy situation, but most of us come out better in the long run from bad places and take it in stride. No, I dunno what planet kids are spawned from these days... my siblings and I never... my nephews did. This again boils down to the lack of parenting. I had the pleasure of taking care of children born from/with addiction (heroin and FAS), I’ve had the pleasure of taking care of children who grew up in similar circumstances as I did (in poverty, with n…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 01:33 PM
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Just as there’s more to a vagina than penetration and jack hammering. xD Some people just can’t enjoy foreplay, but expect it in return. I feel bad for their partners. Where did all the enthusiasm go?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 01:18 PM
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Rabbit Boiler ? A lot of people will not express their kinks or desires. They hide aspects of their personality due to fear of judgement (negative). This is why dating (in the form of getting to know each other) and vetting (figuring out compatibility) are so important, not just for women, but for men as well. If you have standards for your partner, they should also apply to yourself. There’s plenty of people who want someone to cook and clean for them, who aren’t willing to do the same. Or peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 01:16 PM
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But that’s not normal, My point exactly, it shouldn’t be made to sound normal either, but again, I hear it all of the time. Maybe people should step up and take care of the life they made, when it needs taking care of. despite what the media and the feminist propaganda wants to say. I don’t care to follow any propaganda, or “fake news” in the media. I care to follow what it is people say from personal life experience and expectations that are not being met (such as having little to no help with …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 01:04 PM
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Reality is finding someone you’re mostly compatible with who’s pros outweighs their cons. Y’all push each other to grow and become better people vs already thinking the other person is “ideal”. ^ Exactly. But here’s the thing in thinking some is “already ideal” (including one’s self), it isn’t something I’ve seen or heard, personally speaking. People have standards, or expectations for their future partner. Such as things I believe to be are the bare minimum. Most people want a future partner wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/21 12:15 PM
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I started dating a girl who wasn’t really sending a lot of your typical signals of being interested (...). This was for months. I thought she was cute so I stayed in touch while still dating other girls to explore my options. We met twice and talked over the phone twice in 5 months of being in touch from a dating app. This doesn’t say “exclusivity”... this absolutely reads off that while “dating” that girl, you were exploring your options with other girls. If she was aware of this, why would she…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 02:19 AM
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I’m just saying, there isn’t literally someone out there for everyone. Of course not. Some people actually have ridiculously high standards, and expect their partner to fart rainbows or bend backward at every beck and call... some people are generally really really creepy and scare other people away with their behaviors or personality, sometimes just by the way the present themselves. However, there are people out there who are normal, and think they cannot find anyone anywhere because they do n…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 02:00 AM
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Some dudes just lie there waiting to be rode... and expect blowjobs without any reciprocation, refuse to dish out any foreplay at all... and can’t even provide hugs to their partners... so...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 01:51 AM
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Yeah, to me that list just sounds like perfectly plain common sense(...). ^ this is the problem though ^ ”perfectly plain common sense”, and yet “wOmaNs sTaNdaRds toOoO hiGh”. Unfortunately a lot of people seem to lack common sense too, and like to spin things into a negative to better suit their needs and “rational”. I’m so happy that you understand it’s simple decency, but unfortunately not a lot of people seem to have the same mentality. My gf is very similar to me in (ALL. THE. RIGHT. THINGS…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 01:47 AM
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Is she required to accept my level of clean the same way I questionably accept her’s? Is your idea of clean food still on the dishes? Is that a questionable standard? Is your idea of clean laundry or garbage on the floor? Is that a questionable standard? Is your idea of clean, sticky or tacky counter tops? Is that a questionable standard? Is your idea of clean, a shower covered in scum and soap? Is that a questionable standard? I can ask many more, but, I think the answer to all of those are “no…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 01:40 AM
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Shit streaks Yeah, I mean if people left relationships because of shit streaks more people would be single I reckon... 🤔 Is that a viable reason to terminate a relationship? Why can’t they just take care of their own shit? Hair on floor Shaving? Pube trimming? Brushing hair? You’d be surprise at the floors my single male friends have in their bathrooms sometimes. Vacuuming To remove dead skin cells (dust), debris off of the floor (food crumbs to prevent pests, such as rodents and bugs), dirt (fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 01:31 AM
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Exactly, and a lot of people aren’t dating compatible partners, hence the divorce rate. But a lot of men here want us to believe the divorce rate isn’t because of compatibility issues, it’s because of hypergamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 01:26 AM
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Bingo. Because legalizing prostitution won’t actually solve the problem at all? Or?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 01:23 AM
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... won’t make the unfuckable more appealing. It will give them more options, with those who looks match to them... which wouldn’t be “more appealing” on a personal level, but, at least they would have many more options to sort through and pick from. Maybe they should work on fixing that “disappointment” for themselves... you know self improvement whether it be physical (like in cases of obesity, EDs or being addicted to the gym), mental (self help, mental help, setting boundaries, having standa…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 01:20 AM
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If they have been home all day and that stuff isn’t done by default... you have a shitty partner. Again, if they have been home alllll day, and these simple, basic things are not done by default... you should be pissed off. I take it you have never taken care of children? They’re messy for one, and unpredictable for two. I’ve watched plenty of children, there are children who draw all over the walls, with crayons, markers and sometimes with their own shit. They throw things everywhere. You can c…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 01:13 AM
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It could be a two part discussion. But, my question still stands, with or without children. Would men be capable of doing all of the things they expect from women that are SAHW/M? A lot of men here think cleaning a house only takes a max of 2hrs. Cleaning a whole house.. if they are so good and fast at it... why not make that their job? They have two extra hours right? Childcare is an all day affair, and that’s every day, unless you want to be a bad parent. Problem is, if the mother’s job is to …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 12:54 AM
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You seem to be forgetting it’s 2021, and people are growing increasingly more lazy. An office job, 40hrs/wk isn’t the same labor as acting as a servant to your husband, children, home, etc. A man is perfectly capable of helping around the house, just as his wife is perfectly capable of having a similar or higher income than her husband. If a woman decided she would be the sole provider and her husband would assume her role, people would talk a lot of smack about how she’s a “bad mother and wife”…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 12:45 AM
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It probably wouldn’t work for long. Men make lousy mothers. Men can make great fathers and partners though, but it seems like a man’s bare minimum and a woman’s bare minimum is so vastly different. I think it’s insane to expect a mother to take care of literally every aspect of her husbands life (other than his job/career) and children’s lives, and the house, the garden, the appointments and whatever else. The man is capable of doing these things and helping with them. He will also teach his kid…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 12:34 AM
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If there is no need for daycare, cleaner or gardener because there is a wife at home to fill those jobs. Yes, absolutely, everything should most definitely fall on the wife for the rest of her life because her partner only has one job... while she has multiples that take up her entire day. Women love to work 24/7/365 without any help at all. Why does the mother need a job if the only thing dad can’t pay for is daycare childcare, a house cleaner and a gardener. Again, women really love working 24…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 12:20 AM
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I totally get you! It took me until 28 to realize what was really going on and that my kindness wasn’t a true means of solving problems because people take that as a means of advantage. It’s good to finally be able to see and break the cycle and do better for yourself, because you deserve it. Building a healthy relationship has proven to be difficult, especially without boundaries, standards and understanding personal worth. But with the realization comes opportunity, and with opportunity comes …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 12:13 AM
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Its a real shame to see and totally preventable. I agree, condoms a plenty, and contraception, coupled with safer sex... there would be less STI transmission, parentless children, children growing up in unstable homes, less unwanted pregnancies, etc. The thing is, guys have been playing Bang Bros forever lol, and now chicks are like “why can’t we if they can?”, and they are punished for doing what as always been okay for the other gender. That’s what blows my mind about it honestly. It isn’t jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 12:07 AM
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my gf is injured the it’s a given But what I’m trying to tell you is, a lot of men and women do not feel this way. I’ve meet more men who would leave things all over the place and go “she’ll just clean it up when it pisses her off enough”, and I do not understand that mentality, at all tbh. If she’s sick, maybe it’s the flu, or a cold, or really bad period cramps, or something else (women tend to have a pretty high pain tolerance, which is why doctors look at us like we’re “crazy” for being in p…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 11:55 PM
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Oh I’m sorry. If a person doesn’t want to contribute to the life they claim they are building with someone, they aren’t building anything but resentment and struggle. If someone doesn’t want to clean up after themselves, take care of themselves or their children. Should they subject someone else to misery and expect indentured servitude just for being around? They can hire their own maid, chef, and practice safe sex (or no sex at all if safe sex isn’t on their menu due to selfishness) if they ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 11:46 PM
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Funny enough when women see our shenanigans they are intrigued instead of offended. Absolutely, because it isn’t our norm. With the decrease in the covid scare (and even before covid) I people watched. It seems that men with their female partners didn’t care to be around, a lot of faces in phones at restaurants and while shopping. I’ve seen women do this too, but it tells me that these people giving their partner puppy eyes from across a table aren’t in truly compatible relationships. it is alwa…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 11:20 PM
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👌
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 10:47 PM
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My point is. It doesn’t matter where you are, you are most likely going to hear from someone that their partner isn’t willing to take care of their kids. I’ve even had male friends (single fathers) tell me how irritating it is that their kid has a “deadbeat mom”, but I have known few single fathers and more single mothers, and more women who have complained that their partner (or ex partner) doesn’t keep care of the kid, like at all. It’s really sad for those kids that one parent can’t be bother…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 10:45 PM
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There may be less men, but, there are women interested in only other women, and I’ve been many happy same sex relationships (women and men). Attraction to women isn’t just physical, it’s also mental and emotional. We want a partner who compliments us, shares the bigger aspirations we have (like having a house on 5 acres of land, or two kids, or pets <— just three examples, and there’s so many more). And in extreme cases, even if there is a match out there, chances are you’ll never meet them(...)…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 10:30 PM
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I think the idea of an “ideal” relationship is Disney bs. Relationships take effort and communication from both sides to work. ^ The “ideal” relationship. ^ Or as you’ve described, “Disney bs”.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 10:19 PM
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I was thinking exactly the same thing. If she wasn’t interested, she wouldn’t have reached out knowing or assuming he was in an exclusive relationship. But it doesn’t sound like he made any real moves to be exclusive with her, so she assumed he wasn’t interested. If a girl acted the way he acted to him, he’d feel the same way “she’s not interested, so there isn’t any point in making a big move”. But it doesn’t sound like he made a big move anyway, and ended up waiting for her to make one (which …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 10:16 PM
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Hate to tell you, but if anyone can treat you like that, they’re not really into you and likely will never be.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 10:10 PM
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That’s why women argue that their standards aren’t “too damn high”. We want partners that compliment us and who we can compliment. Our expectation is decency, kindness and at least* some understanding. The issue is, because we know what we want in a partner, and what we don’t want, and it’s more on the emotional and/or personality side... we are told that our “expectations of a man” and our “standards for a partner” are irrational and convoluted... because we want a partner who treats us like a …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 10:04 PM
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I absolutely agree with you, and yes, I believe women typically do a pretty good job assessing danger or possible harm. The problem is, we tend to be (on average) willing to let things slide, especially when someone tells us things like “you’re the love of my life, I will do better”. It isn’t until our heart shuts down and our brain screams at us that we realize we’ve really screwed up and need to run. Some women are very confident in their ability to assess risk, and so these women are the ones…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 02:47 PM
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Actually, yes really. Everyone is at risk of being scammed or attacked... in certain situations you have no idea that your own family have stolen your bank account, or that your loving partner who hasn’t shown a single sign of abuse, would turn abusive, or become a rapist... Accessing risk can come easier (naturally) to some, but it’s our experiences that help us determine what is risky behavior and what is considerably safe behavior... someone who is sheltered for example, isn’t going to unders…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 02:38 PM
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Thank you for your response, and helping to shed some light on why it is that some women (and even men) are seen as repeating the same behavior. I loved your detailed response, and I am so sorry that you had to experience these things. ❤️ I hope everything is well and loving for you now. You’re awesome!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/21 02:19 PM
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I’m sorry, but how many men have come forward about their rapes? Do you have that statistic readily available too?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 10:26 PM
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😉 😘 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 10:26 PM
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We should really remember each other’s username’s. LOL Edit: but I love how this keeps happening Bebee. 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 10:11 PM
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Absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 10:07 PM
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Ironing takes some getting used to, and not a lot of people who aren’t active in a business attire setting don’t* really iron anymore, people who make a lot of expendable money tend to use dry cleaners to maintain their clothes, but they also tend to have closets to store hanging clothes which prevents wrinkling. The dust cleaning depends. Sure she brought the nicknacks in, but who brought the cat in? If her, sure dusting can be more on her, but that doesn’t mean if her arm is broken it doesn’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 10:04 PM
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So she could get a job and support the family too? Edit: and I also said, “what if he doesn’t make enough...daycare/childcare AND a cleaner OR gardener”.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 09:58 PM
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People literally pay other people to fix all of those problems. I have never expected any of my partners to put themselves in danger when we could just hire someone who specializes in that job/task. I wouldn’t ever ask my partner, who I know cannot fix plumbing to fix the kitchen sink. I would never ask my partner who isn’t a roofer to fix the roof... starting the lawnmower? I mean, sometimes they suck and if my partner is stronger than me, why can’t I ask him for help with start up if my intent…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 09:42 PM
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Really? Because I’m not a gold digger or interested in the idea of “Chad”. And whenever I say I want a man who is financially secure, I’m called a gold digger by RP and BP. Whenever I say “I’m attracted to”, the response I receive is “yeah, all of you (women, I assume) are only interested in Chad”. Just as you spun things that BaconFluffy said, while not understanding that context matters and phrasing matters, and depending upon how something is stated, it comes off a specific way.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 09:39 PM
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Specializing in vacuuming or cleaning dishes? I get that some people are much better than others at certain or specific things. But cleaning I don’t see as one of them. Just has men here said, it isn’t difficult and a lot of them believe they could adequately clean an entire house in as little as two hours.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 09:36 PM
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It was also “normal” for men to have mistresses back then as well. The idea that “more women, more sex = masculinity” is as old as time. Women were married off, and they couldn’t have other men around... a lot of people even today have this hugeee issue with their partner having friendships with the opposite sex (due to trust issues and major insecurities). I’m disappointed as well. Loyalty is pretty awesome, and sexy. We’ve reached a point in society (westerners for example) where having a stab…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 09:29 PM
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I’m not dissing SAHW/M’s. What I’m saying is a lot of men wouldn’t assume the role, and wouldn’t be happy if they had to assume the role. HAD TO. This is why it blows my mind that a lot of the men here claim they will only date/marry a traditional wife in a modern day society where women are working more often and financially supporting themselves even before entering into a relationship. There is this expectation that a man has, where his partner will drop everything to be a traditional wife to…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 09:19 PM
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Not all people “share equally”. Some partners do come home and do their thing, instead of the things that need to be done to keep the house ship shape. “Not allowed to”, as in, not allowed to. I was told “it’s a man’s job, you are not allowed to do x, y and z”. Just like how laundry and dishes and bathroom cleaning was a woman’s job... It could have had something to do with how much dad trusted me with, but given the situation and both of my parents being disabled, it didn’t make sense to me. No…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 09:07 PM
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I’ve been to more liberal cities, you still hear it, and that’s my biggest concern. If you make a child, you should care for it. The child is also the man’s responsibility and there are many men who feel they are not responsible at all. This is why the whole abortion thing is stressful. It took so long for abortion to become legal, with all these guidelines (which are good), but in some places, at some clinics, they have a roundabout way of preventing a woman or girl from having an abortion, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 07:43 PM
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Not a problem. It’s just that people are different, have been raised different, relationships are different and the way people effectively communicate is different. Without discussions and openness, the assumptions made cause discomfort and harbors negative energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 07:22 PM
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Maybe that’s the problem. Maybe we’re being taught gender roles and to conform to these “traits” that are outdated? Sure, I would want my partner to be able to protect me, but I also want to be able to protect them, without them feeling emasculated because a woman made the aggressive/protective move. I would also like my partner to be self assured and confident in their ability to do what they need and want to do, regardless if they are a man or a woman. It’s all about compromise and acceptance.…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 04:25 PM
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It’s exactly that... makes me worried for future generations. Seems like millennials were the last generation to really be taught much of anything... but a lot of that stuff didn’t seem to stick for a few (or bunch) of them...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 04:18 PM
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It shouldn’t be considered an “expectation” for a father, who took part in the creation of, to take care of HIS children. It should be a given, as it is also HIS responsibility. Just as it is HIS responsibility to clean up after himself, upkeep HIS personal hygiene, feed HIMSELF, and so on. Is he not an adult? Sure, men have priorities, but so do women... and a woman’s top priority shouldn’t be picking up all the slack and overburdening herself because her partner isn’t interested in (or because…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 04:16 PM
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Sounds like you’re dealing with women who have OCD and should seek treatment. And sounds like you’re dealing with people who have unrealistic expectations and do not understand that sometimes shit happens, people can be forgetful and it isn’t the end of the world when either of those things happen. I was talking about the people who literally do not use a Clorox wipe after slapping raw chicken or cracking eggs on the counter... because “water is good enough”, only to put the dish towel they used…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 04:10 PM
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Let me ask you this. My statement is. “I would like a man who earns more than I do.” How do you wanna spin that to call me a gold digger? My next statement is. “I would love if a man was assertive and confident in himself.” How are you gonna spin that to claim I only want “Chad”?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 04:04 PM
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I’m not sure what this dudes problem is. It honestly just feels like a bait. If anyone said to him “I just want a husband for a comfort object and a dick”, you know he wouldn’t be okay with it. He’d go “yeah only a BIG DICK and his MONEY for comfort”. It’s like. What on earth is happening to society where people do not understand that context does in fact matter, and specifics also matter, and talking exactly how he’s talking is absolutely wrong? Edit: I should have kept reading his nonsensical …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 04:00 PM
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Men would be okay being “objectified” for their sexuality and appearance (not utility, I’ve met many men who do not appreciate being looked at as worker bees, capable of car repairs (for example), etc) because it isn’t the norm for them. Women do not want to be objectified for anything. We want to actually be viewed as people. Not “some hot young thing, I could bang” or “perfect wife/maid and cook”. We are people, we have more to us than our looks and our utilities, and our orifices. We have int…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 03:57 PM
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I’ve heard some women want ATMs, but personally speaking, I haven’t heard from women, I hear it from men, lol. “She just wants a Chad ATM”, which is why I haven’t taken it seriously. All of the women I know are career minded, the ones who are currently stay at home moms have every intention on returning to the work force once the kids can start school, even though their partners are capable and willing to be sole providers. As a joke, I’ve called my partner ATM, because he’s the one who goes to …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 03:48 PM
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It honestly does sound like a dream, lol. But an amazing one at that! I am a hustler, and boss babe, and I enjoy being that way. I honestly do not think I have it in me to be a stay at home wife or mom. Maybe, if there were kids in the picture, until they were old enough for daycare/pre-k. So like three or four years tops, but mom’s get “mush brain”, and I’m very active mentally and physically. Your dude seems super considerate and kind and that is awesome! The whole “where you want foods?”, “id…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 03:20 PM
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They didn’t, but the reason behind the coffee can stash is because their relationships were abusive, and abuse doesn’t not equal privilege... I enjoy having a job, I enjoy having a career, I enjoy working on my own business. To me, that is privilege because back in the day, I wouldn’t have been able to have any of that. I would have been stuck in a house cleaning and being bored with little human interaction. I feel like that’s why a lot of house wives are really into social media now... at leas…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 03:11 PM
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Would the Bulls have been The Bulls without Michael, Scottie and Dennis? 🤔 I understand the “equality” you mean in terms of tasks. If I dated a plumber, and I had no knowledge of plumbing, it wouldn’t be fair to expect me to repair the pipes or replace the toilet, sink or shower. Just as if I were a psychologist, it wouldn’t be fair to expect my plumber partner to be equal to me when it comes to my career. But making a box of kraft and chicken nuggets for the kids... we’re both capable of doing …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 03:07 PM
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Depending on the traffic in the house, the house will be a mess. My mom has been disabled due to an accident since I was 10 years old, and my dad has been disabled since I was 15. Both of my siblings left and moved state, and it was all left on me to maintain the house and keep them fed and taken care of. Sure, social security checks, military pension and state pension helped financially, but I still had school, and still had to keep care of them and my live in nephew. So it was rough, and it su…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 02:59 PM
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It also definitely sucks, lol. It’s a whole heap of stress that shouldn’t just rest on one persons shoulders. This is why an equal or near equal split is imo, best for both parties. It means each person in said relationship can have time for themselves, each other, and have less overall stress.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 02:50 PM
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I didn’t say “force”.... a lot of men are worried about being open even if they’re curious because “it isn’t manly to fuck other men”... if the judgment went away, men could be far more open and more able to be who they truly are. Legalizing prostitution, I’m all for, as long as it can be done in a safe way. Some men and women are happy to be pros, but the safety issues are a huge concern to me. Background checks, STI checks, condom usage being mandatory, etc. Would make it a much safer career. …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 02:47 PM
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I know the feeling man. My parents are disabled and it’s hard caring for other adults, maintaining a house or multiple houses and having a career. 😔 A vacation would be real nice lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 02:40 PM
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This is exactly why I’m all for even split relationship dynamics. I’ve been the sole provider, it’s stressful. I’ve also been the only one keeping the house in order, while being the sole provider. Without an even split, and a stable income, the house goes to complete disarray which just adds to the stress. Then when you take into consideration the male partner feels that cleaning is a “woman’s job”... well you get what I mean. It’s not a balanced relationship. Even stay at home spouses deserve …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 02:37 PM
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Honestly, it depends on the traffic occurring in the house. If there are children, and the children’s friends. If there are pets, like cats or dogs that roam freely around the house. Friend gatherings when and how often. Like poker night every Friday, and game day on Sunday. Or book club, or those wine parties. Depending on the traffic occurring in the house, you would be cleaning every day, and you should clean every day. Otherwise you’ll have dust problems, sticky counter tops, gross tubs/show…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 02:28 PM
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So you agree that financially, the responsibility should be shared? What about household cleanliness and maintenance?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 02:26 PM
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He doesn’t expect to do any cleaning, I guess that’s why? So unfair to have to clean at all... 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 02:25 PM
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Did you know, that some men leave shit streaks on the toilet seat? Imagine only cleaning that once a week.... Or the hair all over the bathroom floor... or the dishes that pile up in a day. The laundry. Vacuuming dead skin cells and hair. Dusting. It blows my mind that dudes think cleaning is so effortless and easy.... if it were, more of them would clean more often... right?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 02:24 PM
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That’s why I ask the question lol. Men seem to think women should just be okay with it, and that it’s expected because it has always been. Women fighting for their rights pissed a lot of men off when it was happening. Women being allowed to initiate divorce pissed them off too. Women making more money than men in today’s day and age, pisses a lot of men off too. But it’s expected that women are fine with the arrangement... it’s great that equality is becoming more wide spread, but there are stil…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 02:21 PM
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We don’t have kids, with no plan to, so there isn’t a need for him to be a stay at home dad. If he wanted to be a stay at home husband (neither of us are into the idea of marriage) then by all means. I can provide for us, however, he wouldn’t be able to buy new video games every month, or computer parts, or snacks, or eat at restaurants three days a week. I wouldn’t have the money for all of the leisure activities he wants as often as he wants them, without his additional income, and I am runnin…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 01:44 PM
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I met a few men who were more interested in a high earning partner for the money than they were for the person as a whole. Those men actually quit their jobs to stream full time on twitch, which caused a rift in the relationships because A. Income fell for the household, B. Streamer ego, and C. Streams and that community became more important than their partner. Sure, a lot of women in the world are really into money and having a provider, but, a lot of women also aren’t and want to have a caree…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 01:35 PM
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I haven’t met a man who “ups his game” as you’re describing. They usually get comfortable and go back to acting like kids in their parents house. This is why women complain about “having a man child to take care of”. This is why men complain about “she doesn’t take care of herself/became fat, doesn’t cook as often”. Etc. People change when they become comfortable, and when the honeymoon phase is over. They expect their partner to be/remain a certain way, or cut them more slack because of the len…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 01:10 PM
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Sounds to me like... he wants to be able to talk badly about women in front of his partner without her being “butthurt” or upset about it. But I could be wrong... 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 12:58 PM
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I don’t think we will ever know if women rape just as often as men... simply because men feel emasculated, and like a “laughing stock” if they come forward about rape OR abuse. Men are too worried about being judged or called a “homo” in a situation that is unwanted or forced sexual contact. “What do you mean it was rape? You should be happy you got laid! What are you? Gay?!”, and so on. I’m not saying you are wrong, I’m just saying that because of the way men are brought up AND socialized, they…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 12:54 PM
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Same could be said for men. A man who views sex as transactional, or simply wants to “bang every girl that I can”, have one hell of a time viewing women, or anyone for that matter as a person, or anything other than a sexual object. But it’s normalized for men to have high n counts, while they shame each other for being a virgin or having low n counts, and shame women for still being a virgin (or fetishize them), or having low n counts (“Wow, you’re weird. Why couldn’t you get laid more when wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 01:04 PM
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I call it “helping around the house”, because it isn’t “his job”. He is the career man, she is the house wife, that is their dynamic. But he’s adult enough to understand that it can be hard, and helping her out is a nice thing to do. He could come home and shower, play video games, troll around on reddit, idk, but he chooses to help her before he does any of that stuff, even after working an exhausting day at work (manual labor, home repairs, hard wood floors, etc). I don’t have a niece, I only …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 07:14 AM
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Makeup? How about skin care... is it not acceptable for men to have a skin care routine? I know plenty of men who hate the idea of ever eating a salad, because “it’s feminine”. Blows my mind, salads are delicious. What about men who leave their clothing in a basket, and it’s all wrinkled? Mud on their shoes, holes in their shoes. Stained sweat pants!? Jeans where the cuffs are all torn and jacked up because they walk on them all day? Holey shirts. How about dudes who don’t use deodorant? Or have…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 06:38 AM
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What would you consider clean dishes to be? Food still on them? Lack of food on a plate isn’t a high standard. What about when it comes to counter tops? Are sticky counter tops clean? I don’t believe lack of sticky/tacky on a counter is a high standard. What about with vacuuming? Is moving the furniture and vacuuming under them a high standard? Lack of poo streaks in the toilet? Lack of hair all over the bathroom sink? Fresh linens in the bathroom or on the bed? I’m not sure where the high stand…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 06:18 AM
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What if, in a situation where bread winner husband doesn’t make enough to support his non-working wife, four kids under the age of 10, daycare/childcare and a cleaner, or gardener? I’m not sure where all of this money if coming from tbh... but where I live daycare costs a minimum of $1,000/month*. A nanny is $30/hr. A cleaner is $18/hr. A gardener is $25/hr. It just doesn’t seem feasible. And I’m not sure why some men cannot or refuse to take care of their children. They are just as responsible …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 06:13 AM
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You’re right. Whisky would have probably been better than beer... but then some commenters would still tell me I don’t know jack about men, lol. I have cleaned my entire life, and 2hrs has never been enough time to maintain a house... it has taken a minimum of 6 hours per day to keep the house in “guest ready” order. This includes dusting, vacuuming, dishes, laundry, changing sheets and/or couch covers, mopping, cleaning surfaces, windows, picking up dog doo, etc, all of it. I really do not beli…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 06:08 AM
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Okay, let’s say by freak accident, y’all switched bodies, and she had to assume your career and in turn you had to assume her role as a traditional wife. Would you be okay with it? Because I wasn’t asking if men who want a traditional wife would swap places with their traditional wives out of the kindness of their hearts. I was asking if they would be okay with the roles being reversed. Meaning, she is bread winner and you are the “traditional wife”. Men who claim to want a traditional wife, see…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 05:57 AM
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Absolutely I don’t. That’s why I’m in a 9 year relationship with a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 05:52 AM
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If a woman said to you “we can’t fuck your degree. We aren’t attracted to the amount of money you make. We like you as a source of comfort in our lives”. How exactly would you feel? Personally speaking. Would you not be offended? Just as a lot of men are when claiming women “onLy cARe aBoUt mONeY”? Words hurt, and can come off really poorly. BaconFluffy isn’t wrong. Anyone hearing that kind of talk should jump ship. It isn’t appropriate, it isn’t thoughtful, and imo it isn’t okay. It is objectif…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 05:51 AM
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I think your first paragraph describes a rather toxic relationship, and I feel for people in those situations. I just wish they understood their worth, and their partners could understand the immense stress they’re laying on their partners. I don’t understand the leaving a mess thing either, lol. It isn’t hard to clean up. Say... you are a bunch of candy, and you throw them on the floor? Why? It’s easy to just toss them away. A child would throw candy wrappers on the floor, and adult should know…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 05:45 AM
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Maybe you should look at other women? Because some are really into the whole stay at home husband/dad situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 05:41 AM
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From what I’ve read all over this sub, when the topic of “traditional wife” is brought up. The men who want to be sole provider, and have a “traditional wife”, expect the wife to maintain every aspect of the house (cooking, cleaning), childcare, and be DTF whenever they want them to be. This is why women here respond with “we are not slaves or sex dolls”. That is what I mean by “roles reversed”. My partners “flowers”, are video games and ice cream, sometimes the occasional beer. But when I asked…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 05:35 AM
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I feel you on that. Working 80 hour weeks and having to maintain a home... would be near impossible imo. Even splitting chores or tasks per day... would there be any time to go to the beach and bask in the sun? I would also go insane being a traditional partner. I need to work, and I need to breath outside of the house, and I can’t enjoy cleaning every single day, especially not the entire house. Thursday is house cleaning day, and I reward my partner and I with a big home cooked meal. It’s cool…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 05:08 AM
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Why not believe in equality exactly? All people are different, but do we not deserve to be treated fairly? And that’s how it should be. People should be able and ready to do these things for themselves. But it seems like a lot of people do not want to be capable adults. Congrats on the future retirement!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 05:00 AM
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What about the housewives who stashed money in coffee cans? Were they privileged? Cleaning, depending on severity, takes a long time... even with tools that help make it easier (like vacuums, or dishwashers, or washing machines). Back in the day, things were not cleaned as deeply as they can be today, or even as regularly (like in terms of laundry) because there was a lot of work to do. By robots do you mean a roomba?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 04:58 AM
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It could be a roommate type situation, but it’s also built on compromise. A friend of mine and her husband have a joint account for bills and savings, and also have separate accounts for themselves with their own savings too. They work jobs where he is paid more, but she works full time, does her own photography business on the side and volunteers. Every paycheck a percentage (based on income) goes into the “bills and savings” account, and both parties contribute equally to the household tasks, …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 04:55 AM
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I agree with you. We should strive for health. But in a world full of sugar, and laziness... how do we? It wasn’t “offensively”, it was the genuine “nice ass, big boobs, thick thighs, hourglass figure”, but looking at the hashtag, that wasn’t what I saw, which was why it upset me. Plus, regardless of my size or shape, people had their negative opinions. They always have, and they always will, lol. I learned to shrug it off. Thank you for your sympathy. ❤️ Once I was able to realize it was spun i…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 04:46 AM
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What do you propose we do? Personally, I feel like if more men were open to being bisexual, there really wouldn’t be an issue. Right?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 04:37 AM
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Wow... I wish I could give you a beer for all of your hard work. Or a bomb ass meal. Or a cleaner/errand runner for a day.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 04:36 AM
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Do men not build resentment in situations where they are the primary or sole earner? I know women, who were all for being a SAHW/M who have felt resentment for their partner (both in opposite and same sex relationships) because they were the one taking care of majority of the housework and kids. I have been the sole earner a few times, and I was fine with it as long as I didn’t also have to maintain majority of the house. Working and busting ass, just to come home and clean? It’s like, I’m hangr…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 04:34 AM
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Absolutely nothing. Ideally that is how the couple would go about things. However, from what I’ve seen in the last ten years... seems that people are less willing to actually discuss and share, openly and honestly. This is the problem. Communication is severely lacking with a lot of couples, and I believe this is the biggest reason for the divorce rate being so high.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 04:29 AM
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But what if she pays for all of it? What would you do in exchange?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 04:28 AM
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I have yet to meet a woman like this... 😬 But that is probably because I do not associate with extremist feminists.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 04:27 AM
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Some women would find him desirable, just as some men would. Not all people are turned off by a man’s desire to cook and clean. Men are chefs, create and run clothing stores, dry cleaners, all sorts of things. If anyone says “ugh, you’re not manly enough”, you can just walk away. There are plenty of people in this world, and not all of them feel that way. I for sure would be all over the idea of my partner being into cleaning, because I do not like to clean, and I definitely do not like to be th…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 04:13 AM
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Well, that just seems like a toxic situation. When in a toxic situation, the best thing to do is leave, and live. Not stick around and wallow in the misery until the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 04:09 AM
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YASSS! 👏 Freaking THANK YOU. I felt for men, I understood why it was the men’s rights movement started. I get that girls are given more opportunities and boys are stuck in a box. I do not want that for future generations. To think, if everyone could be who and what they wanted, and we were to have true equality... how amazing would it be? I know my hopes are high, and I’ve been sipping on sunshine, but, I just hope that our great-great grandkids can have happier lives. That’s all I want for thos…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 04:04 AM
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That is just how I feel, which is why I have no interest in being a SAHW/M. I’m a workaholic, and definitely not someone who enjoys cleaning, especially every single day. I could cook every day, no problem, but having to be the only party responsible for the “feminine tasks”... I would literally go insane, especially if I was cooped up in the house majority of the time... and that is regardless of the kids ages. I understand that not all women are like me, but I know more women who are like me, …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 03:57 AM
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I suppose. But with the way the dating market is now, how exactly do you find a specialist in the areas you’re lacking without wasting an abundance of time? Most people cannot even discuss what dynamics or hopes they have for their future relationship. This is why divorce rates are so high. Without religion preventing unhappy couples from splitting, unhappy couples split. Being a “Jack of all trades” has its benefits, and it’s better than being skilled in few things. Even with quality skill in s…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 03:52 AM
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Sounds like you appreciate good and proper communication, and that is a true stable for a healthy and happy relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 03:46 AM
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All of your “what if’s” are exactly what run through our minds as well. Majority of SAHW/Ms I know are stressed the f out, especially when their partner does not help as much as they should. And by “as much as they should”, I mean coming home from work, sitting on the couch, while dinner isn’t done, the baby is screaming because they’re hungry, the dog barfed on the floor, the laundry hasn’t been flipped, the dishwasher isn’t working properly, etc. In a healthy relationship, wouldn’t the partner…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 03:31 AM
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I think that is in part, due to how young girls and young boys are brought up. As a child my mom was very “be beautiful, stay skinny, land a husband, have kids, do what he says and do not argue”, and I know that came from her mother, and to her mother from her mother, and so on an so forth. It’s honestly unhealthy. I never have said “man up” to anyone. I have never called anyone “a pussy”, or “crybaby”, or really any emasculating or simply terrible things. As long as children are taught “you are…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 03:24 AM
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DB is a really sad place... I wish those participating in the sub understood that they deserve better and that a happy and healthy relationship isn’t like the relationships they’re dealing with. 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 03:18 AM
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Can you really clean an entire house in three hours? I mean, don’t we all wanna get laid four times a week? 😉 I mean, you do you. If you wanna divorce (run) instead of working on your relationship, and bettering it, and build the happiness you so seek... that’s on you. Glad you’d be compensated for it, but... I’m well aware that the law is skewed in favor of women, and I personally find that to be bs, and in need of serious reform. Edit: cuz I’ve seen this pop up before. Would you be making meal…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 03:16 AM
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I am so very happy for them! They were able to have the relationship dynamic they both wanted, and that sounds like a very healthy relationship to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 03:13 AM
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I am a woman, and I would never expect any man, woman, or otherwise, not even children, to fit into a very specific personality or have specific interests (“the mold”). I would expect them to be themselves, and if they couldn’t bring themselves to be who they want to be, who they desire to be, I would help them gain the confidence to do so. Not everyone wants a very specific type of person. I have dated people of various genders. Some were bad relationships, and I put that on myself for not pick…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 03:10 AM
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I am so very sorry that your childhood was what I feel.. to be the literal worst for a boy growing up. Boys can play with dolls and like to do any other (for some reason) deemed “feminine” activity, just as girls can play with tonka trucks and like to do any other (for some reason) deemed “masculine” activity. I understand what you mean, as I was treated poorly as a kid for being into sci-fi and wrestling, but not barbies or brushing pony hair. Shit, I hatedddd playing house, and any opportunity…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 02:58 AM
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Good luck to you in finding a woman who fulfills that fantasy! o7
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 02:48 AM
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Nobody told me traditional wives had to have careers... it’s actually the opposite. A traditional woman stays home and maintains the house, cooks, cleans, does nearly all of the childcare (especially diaper changes apparently). Sure, and education would be nice, but from what I’ve read all throughout this sub is that the men who want ^ that type of traditional wife ^ also want girls under 25.... or a virgin.... because the “cock carousel” is a “hard no”. Is half a percent really all that bad? I …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 02:46 AM
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It sucks for that guy... I hope he’s doing okay now though and his kids are as well. 😔 I was presenting it as a “tradcon fantasy and a feminist nightmare” because if you read enough through this sub, through threads like that... that is what you see. Men want a woman, who is the SAHW/M like back before women had rights. Back when women stashed money in coffee cans... they want a woman who cooks, cleans, takes care of the kids and house all on her own, while they work, and refuse to contribute. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 02:34 AM
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Appreciation and respect are also my “flowers”. As flowers are expensive and die, I would rather save the flower arrangement money and go eat a steak at this moderately expensive butchery restaurant we have in town. But that’s to each their own I suppose. That is how I feel too. A relationship without respect, honesty, communication and sex, imo isn’t a relationship. It’s some other form of transactional situation, and I personally would want to feel like a partner, and not a maid (especially). …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 01:58 PM
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I’m sure that a lot of people enter in relationships for exactly that. Love, companionship, great sex, and understanding. But for those who enter because they are only looking for money (both men and women do this), those things are not truly on their radar. Some people are content having a partner who pays their bills, but aren’t attracted to them. Just as some people are content paying the bills when their partner isn’t attracted to them. But, was there not some level of attraction to begin wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 01:48 PM
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What if you (generalized) were to lose attraction for her, but she still paid all of the bills? What if she were to lose attraction towards you (generalized), even if you paid all the bills? What type of attraction loss is happening? Is it distance because there isn’t much quality time? Resentment because she doesn’t help around the house? Resentment because you won’t help around the house? Loss of attraction isn’t the biggest issue. Dudes say “just go to the gym” to both men and women, because …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 01:42 PM
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This is my experience as well. Well, not personally speaking, but through family and friends. Any way people spin it, there is a chance of the working partner, harboring resentment for the nonworking partner, and vise versa. This is because with one income... you’d need to have at least $65k coming in (in 2021) annually to sustain a somewhat comfortable life. Then there’s student debt, mortgages, car repairs, emergency things, healthcare even. Adding kids (average household I know has 2-4 kids),…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 01:36 PM
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I would be all for it tbh. But my partner and I aren’t into marriage, we aren’t planning on having kids, and he enjoys being able to work. So there really isn’t a need for him to be a SAHD, but if that were something he wanted to pursue, I could hold us up financially speaking. His income just makes our life that much easier, and losing it would mean cutting back on things he enjoys. Like dinning out, new video games every month, and less leisure activities.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 01:28 PM
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I can agree with you, that household management and duties are basics in terms of being an able person/adult. It’s hard to properly understand text sometimes, lol. It’s funny you use L’Oréal as an example (but I know you mean the beauty line). My friends wife (pretty traditional relationship) is named L’Oréal, and she’s legit the most helpful, loving, caring and considerate person I have met in a long time. Even with their rather traditional relationship, my friend still helps around the house r…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 01:23 PM
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Sounds like they respect their dad, and you did a great job helping them understand that tasks need to be done, and coincidently taught them how to “adult” by leading an example. Shame they couldn’t also bond with their mother, but you most likely did a very good job bringing them up, and for that, you should feel proud. Not just of them, but of yourself as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 01:07 PM
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I’ve only heard “leave it to me, you do not do it correctly anyway” uttered in cases where... the man left food on the dishes, forgot to put soap (or instead put bleach) in the laundry, or a woman missed spots mowing the lawn, or... actually, that’s it lol. Those are the only times I have personally heard that phrasing. But, I grew up in a traditional, conservative republican home, and I personally do not believe there are “female tasks” or “male tasks”. Men are chefs, nurses, fashion designers,…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 01:05 PM
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If they could afford a maid or cook, sure, but majority of people cannot afford either. Which is why it’s important to divide tasks equally if both parties are working similar hours/bringing in similar incomes. Lets say, a man wants a traditional partner, and he meets a woman; they begin to date. She’s working full time, finishing up her degree, looking into getting a better paying job (something that pays above or even well above minimum wage), while he already had finished his degree, had gott…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/21 12:56 PM
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Why exactly wouldn’t it be “optimal”? Task and work distributed equally means both parties have more of an ability to relax and wind down when tasks and work are done. This means they are also able to spend more quality time together, building their relationship and emotional ties, and also means neither party will be too exhausted for a nice, enthusiastic romp in the sheets.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 04:39 PM
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I was literally just thinking this. LOL LayTheBlame is making marriage seem like more of a no than I originally had thought. It’s just sad that they seem to have so little faith in their (possible) partner/wife, and I already feel bad for her... Sex isn’t just the man’s job, it’s both parties “job”. Without enthusiasm you are in for a bad time... doesn’t seem like a dynamic I would want to be a part of, and I don’t think I know many people who would want to be either. Until they (anyone who feel…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 04:34 PM
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This is why communication is so important when it comes to relationships, and why proper vetting gives better results in terms of LTRs. This is also why, I cannot fathom the reasoning behind expecting or wanting a traditional woman. Women are in the work force now, to ask her to quit her job (drop in household income) and be a SAHW/M just seems a bit ludicrous to me, especially if, that isn’t a dynamic she wants to be a part of. That can build a lot of resentment with both parties. I didn’t mean…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 04:29 PM
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I agree with you. They should marry someone else who has similar values and ideals. But I think the problem becomes expectation vs reality. And as we all know, there are many people in unstable relationships, and a lot of those people refuse to venture out and seek happiness and seem to want to live in a dynamic that doesn’t work for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 04:17 PM
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I am so very happy that you would grab that bull* by the horns and enjoy the dynamic if* roles were reversed. But does this mean while in a relationship, before the discussion of a traditional dynamic (as women are workers now, chances are you’d meet a woman who already has an established job/career) you contribute equally to the household? If both parties are content or happy with a traditional relationship, I say have at it, but in modern day, how often is that really occurring? All of my marr…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 04:13 PM
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So you would be okay marrying a career woman, who expected you to have the house cleaned, food ready on the table when she got home, fresh sheets, etc and didn’t help out around the house because of the agreement you two made? And why lie? What purpose does that serve exactly? There isn’t anything wrong with being a SAHP.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 04:02 PM
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I absolutely agree that the court system is unjust, not just in terms of divorce or family court, but men receiving extensive jail time for a particular crime, while if a woman commits the same crime, she is cut slack. That is also not equally, personally I feel it is far from equality, and I do not blame men for not wanting to be a stay at home dad, just as I do not blame women for not wanting to be a stay at home mom. Resentment builds when one party does not contribute equality* and money is …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 03:59 PM
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Basics I feel are maintaining yourself (health, hygiene, ability to feed yourself, doing your own laundry when need be, “regular adulting”), being willing and ready to compromise when a problem surfaces (like the loss of a job due to a pandemic for example), agreement on expenses (like bills, car repairs, vet/doctor bills, anything that requires money really), and obviously the intimate portion of their relationship. My partner’s “flowers” are video games and ice cream.... I didn’t want to speak…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 03:47 PM
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Perfectly summed up. But I’m not sure alpha/beta as much to do with it tbh. If two people are in a stable and loving relationship, that has understanding, I believe they both should be capable of doing similar tasks, or doing some similar tasks. Like a person who vacuums because their partner did all the laundry. Or a person who does the laundry from time to time as a “Surprise! Because you always do the laundry” type scenario. Same as a person who understands that the brunt of a career being on…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 03:35 PM
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Exactly! I’m attracted to men who are taller than me (I’m 5’1”) and are helpful, considerate and not morbidly obese or sickly skinny. I’m also attracted to a man who understands equality, and understands that it takes two to tango and survive comfortably. I bring my partner beer from time to time (he honestly prefers ice cream), give him money for video games that he wants, and I honestly do not ask for much. I ask for what I know I am also capable of doing (cleaning, dishes, changing of sheets,…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 03:26 PM
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Because she will be keeping her full time career, and contributing to the household financially. If she’s making $150/day at 5 days a week, that is $875 gross/week, or assuming she works a 40 hour work week, that would be a little over $21/hour. If she’s making $875 gross per week, (going with 4 weeks per month because this is how I do my finance management) that would be $3,500/month gross income. How much is he making? I would hope similar, or slightly below/above so from a financial standpoin…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 02:35 PM
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I bet they’re having more fun than the person working forty hours a week, who also has to come home from their full time career/job and maintain the household by cooking, cleaning, rearing children, taking care of the pets, etc, without much help from their partner... and then having to provide their body for their partners sexual* gratification when they’re literally exhausted and unenthusiastic about sexy time....
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 02:24 PM
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“You get bills paid”... does our money not go towards expenses? Lol. “, dates planed”... most women I know, myself included, are the ones planning date night soo... “, protection”... I mean, I get that, but what if protection isn’t provided? “, leadership”.... I thought majority of women ran the household, made the appointments, remembered tasks (and often complete them) more often than their male counterparts? I mean, in an average, modern relationship. “, someone to make decisions for you”....…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 01:53 PM
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Dinner (out) can also be for quality time, and giving her a break from cooking and dishes, not just “gift giving”. But if either party wants to eat out all of the time, that’s a lot of money spent... money that say... could be put into an “adventure fund” and used later for idk... a vacation, or something both parties can enjoy together for more quality time spent.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 01:44 PM
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I think, and this is just my opinion. But. If one partner is cooking all the time, that the other partner clean up afterwards. This is equal distribution of tasks, and works even if both partners cook. You cook, they do dishes. They cook, you do dishes. It’s a nice, happy medium.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 01:34 PM
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There, for your pleasure, I edited my original comment. The Tradcon side of town? I’ve travelled to many states all over the US, been to Canada and many cities there too. I guess I should just move across the Atlantic? I’m sure I would hear it there too, tbh.... Culture is constantly changing, my man. Just as people are. We are constantly growing, constantly falling. It isn’t “one person”, it’s generations of people. I grew up in a conservative, Catholic family, full of abuse and nonsense. I am …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 12:55 PM
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Yes, since the body positivity movement, companies like American Eagle for example, have started using more and more realistic models and have stayed away from photoshopping their advertisements to extreme degrees. Even Miranda Kerr’s photos were heavily photoshopped, and she is absolutely gorgeous without tailoring her photos. When “thicccccccc” became a thing, and people started referring to me as “thiccccccc” I would get upset, because looking at #thiccc wasn’t my body type, and it honestly f…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 12:31 PM
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Leaving is easier said than done, and often a woman OR a man in an abusive situation needs outside help to leave the situation. Emotional attachment is big with most women. This is why after an affair situation, most opt to “stay together for the kids”, or why after their partner turns abusive they make excuses like “they weren’t always this way, it’ll get better”. Then there’s the whole “what did I do to cause this situation? How can I mend/fix it? Am I overreacting and being crazy?”. And sure,…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 12:22 PM
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I assume that response means you have not had one or multiple of those men attempt to get attention out of you? How lucky you are. The average man, does not put in nearly enough work (into themselves) as the average woman does, that is just fact. You can bring up “fatties” if you want, but I’m honestly over it. Why are you so invested on blaming poor Africans? Women? Or anyone for that matter? People need to learn to take responsibility for their actions, and learn some decency... and take care …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 12:16 PM
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For one, I do not “hate men”, I greatly dislike shitty men. There’s a difference. Note how I didn’t once say “all men” like you are trying to pretend that I did. Yeah, women suck too. All people suck tbh, that is just our “genetic coding”... to be selfish, and inflated, and users. It happens, but, here’s the thing. The people who act a certain way, and project a certain personality/character, are in fact real as can be. And as I said, I hear this stuff, in PUBLIC from STRANGERS, and my own perso…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 05:12 PM
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They get away with it because of emotional attachment. Not just because of hypergamy. Just food for thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 05:04 PM
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I guess my lack of response for idk how many days, while taking you up on your suggestion (to go outside) must not have helped, because I still believe that your statement is a hilarious double standard in of itself, and that maybeeee you are the one who needs to interact with more people outside. 🤗
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 05:02 PM
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For one, I’m not a feminist. I’m an egalitarian. Which means everyone holds responsibility for their own actions and the repercussion of those actions. You can’t really argue with history, my man. Do I blame (specifically) poor Africans for being poor? No, that’s ludicrous. Africa isn’t a first world country, for one... they didn’t have an industrialization or tech boom like Europe, UK, Canada and the US did... does that mean I’m blaming them for their lack of intelligence? 😂 👌 For the record, I…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 04:55 PM
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“Taller women are so uncompromisingly shallow about that one meaningless physical trait”. Cool beans you’re into taller women, kudos to you. But as I am a short woman, and have been short all my life, I have had many men (or boys more like it) come onto me because (in today’s terminology) “smol is uwuwuuuuu”.... Because of my height, I have known many taller women. Guess who the dudes came after? Me... not my 5’6-6” tall female friends, and get this! My shorter than me friends (5’ and UNDER) rec…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 04:45 PM
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Why is it that men do not hold themselves (personally) accountable for their lack of success in the dating market? To think that “simps” are the reason “women have sUcH iNfLaTed eGoS” is honestly pretty hilarious. Women went from being sold for livestock by their fathers, or being used as slaves, to demanding (and working for) similar (men’s) rights, and finally to understanding they have some significance other than being “sexually arousing to possible mates/husbands” and are allowed to set sta…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 01:36 PM
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Men settle for beauty, even without understanding that beauty fades with age and personality/character matters more, or because they would feel guilt for leaving a woman who has given* him children. Why is it that men leave their spouse (such as with affairs or divorce) for a “younger hotter model”? Women settle for men that they have grown fond of, and it can be for numerous reasons. Personality, looks, money, because they are their children’s father, etc. Why is it that women leave their spous…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 01:27 PM
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Idk one person who is guilting overly fit and buff men into liking/dating/banging “fatties”. The movement wasn’t to “force men into finding fatties sexually appealing”. The movement was to help women and all people who are overweight to some degree understand that they are beautiful and wonderful, regardless of their weight, and that nearly every advertisement in the media was heavily photoshopped and nobody is literal perfection like we see in ads, movies, etc. Body positivity is for the averag…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 01:20 PM
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Rhetorical question here, but something to think about, I reckon. Do majority of men, not feel emasculated when dating a taller woman? I’ve known many a male who have complained about emasculation due to being shorter than the women they are so very attracted to. So why exactly is “women are only into men taller than them”, suchhhh a problem, when short men feel like less of a man when dating a tall woman? And men are typically taller than women on average anyway. Not to mention that, majority o…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 01:04 PM
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Maybe you’re just a pervert who thinks it’s cool to send people inappropriate images because you are the troll? 🤷‍♀️ Find a new hobby dude, and grow up.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/21 03:52 PM
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That isn’t true. The dudes not getting laid are the ones who give off the creep vibe because they end up following chicks around, they give them random gifts for no reason, text/message/call all the time, and are “trying” wayyyy too hard to get the woman interested. Think of them (niceguys™) as the dudes who give off hellish stalker vibes. Only a chick who doesn’t know better (hasn’t dealt with super creepy dudes) is giving those guys the time of day. “Nice guys” get laid because they know the r…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 12:19 PM
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“Nice guys”, are the guys who pretend to be NICE but end up being real assholes, and most definitely NOT nice guys (different from “nice guys”, like actual, genuine people, who are nice because they are nice, and not because they’re lying to get in your pants). Nice guys, are dudes who are decent human beings, who aren’t pathological liars, or playing “a game” or pretending to be NICE until after marriage and a couple kids, and they turn into a giant asshole. Nice guys understand that being nice…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 01:30 AM
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Who has an “ugly” sugar baby? Those girls and guys are sought after because they look good, and people with money want them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 02:41 AM
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How exactly do they take responsibility? You mean to reach an orgasm... or the responsibility of dealing with the consequences after orgasming? Cuz not many men take responsibility for the latter... However, to reach their O, sure. This is why so many women feel unfulfilled in their sexual relationships. You can have a guy who thrusts hard, in a painful way until he ejaculates... or a dude who doesn’t take “no” or “enough” for an answer... and sometimes a dude who actually gets off on getting yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 01:27 PM
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Regardless. You made a blanket statement, and didn’t like the fact that I pointed it out. Sucks to suck, but the double standard really shows, and tbh it’s quite hilarious that dudes can slut shame while being or desiring to be the biggest of sluts. “Sluts shaming sluts”, is real cute. Maybe they’re just jealous that they don’t have thirsty men coming at them. Oh, sorry. “It’s our biology!”
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 07:51 PM
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Yeah, the increased amount of laziness from both parties is absolutely astonishing! But, given the way misogyny and misandry runs rampant and how women expect a certain standard, while men expect free, “no strings attached” sex... I honestly cannot blame them for playing the same game men invented and love to play. Sorry most women who are looking for a long term relationship want a partner, and not some gaslighter, cheater or dude who thinks he can get better at nearly every turn? Sucks for dud…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 07:42 PM
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(A lot of)* Men do refer to watching their children as babysitting. I literally hear it all of the time. I have heard it my entire life, and I used to watch children as a job to pay through college. “Hire the nanny, I don’t feel like babysitting tonight, I have plans with the guys”. Women dumping their children in a trash can, or a police/fire station, or just leaving them at the hospital.... is a rare thing that happens now that we can legally get abortions. Unwanted pregnancies are still an is…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 07:33 PM
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Idk man. You’re the one who said “you can’t fuck everyone and still expect to be respected”. Sounds like a double standard if there was any. 🤗
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 07:19 PM
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Why is it that men are “respected” for racking up their n count then?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/21 06:25 PM
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Maybe you praise them, doesn’t mean most men do. Speaking from my experience, family’s experience, friends experience, and in general, just what I see day to day. Even a “thank you” can be asking too much from majority of people, not just men. Not everyone is into praising, or words of affirmation, or showing off their partner for being “the bees knees”.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 01:49 PM
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A “perfect body” takes work, again, if in your area you experience more obese women than men, that’s cool, but it isn’t what I, and everyone else in our area experiences. Truth of the matter is, there are far more overweight men than women, in this part of NY. There are far more women at the gym on a regular basis than there are men, in this part of NY. There are far few men who prefer a salad, to fast food, in this part of NY. Regardless if the ratios are “the same” or “similar” or “relative in…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 01:46 PM
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I wasn’t saying men are the primary perps in this behavior, but you see it every day. You see fathers refer to caring for their own children as “babysitting” and I have never heard a woman use that terminology when it comes to caring for her own kid. Or even remembering their own kids birthdays.... Women get really up in arms about their anniversaries going unnoticed, they get really upset about their birthday they’ve been talking about for a month goes unnoticed too, often without even a “happy…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 01:33 PM
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Good question. Better question is, why do a lot of men think the brunt of the housework, cooking, and* child (even animal children mind you) rearing is solely a woman’s duty? It’s 2021, and you still see it every day. This is why men who clean and remember anniversaries and birthdays are praised. Why men who actively take care of their kids and don’t refer to it as “babysitting” are praised. It is also why, men who cuddle their girlfriends/wives after sex, and show care and consideration have he…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 01:26 PM
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Thank you friend! I appreciate that. ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 01:23 PM
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I understand this, and maybe the chick OP is talking about does too. But here’s the thing, the bigger they are, the slower they might be, and the harder they fall. If a chick is nimble on her feet, knows how to protect herself, hits hard in the nads, she can protect herself from just about anyone. But this is also why we (women) aren’t interested in walking around by ourselves after dark, or down alleyways or in parking structures or other non public places. The fear is still there, even with tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 01:03 PM
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Blah blah blah. “Less men are overweight/obese than women”. Women are designed to carry fat, without a healthy amount of fat, we cannot carry children safely, not to mention, uhhh. Men are into “thiccccc asses and tits”? Those have fat, just so you know. You cannot target specific area for fat loss, it just doesn’t happen. It requires DIET for one, cardio, and lifting/training certain muscle groups to balance out your body, and for women, it is harder PHYSICALLY because of how our bodies are des…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 12:54 PM
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“Gee, I can’t seem to get the women I want to have sex with. Only uggos and fatties are into me. Women are so deluded in thinking that they deserve better than me.” It’s a two way street dude. Everyone who has an unhealthy mentality... is this way. Regardless of their gender!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 12:34 PM
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Here we go again... Literally everyone does this. It is not a gender thing. Everyone feels and thinks that they are entitled to someone “better” than them, whether it’s look wise, finance wise, material wise, attractiveness wise, and whatever else. Chicks aren’t the only ones who are “shooting out of their league”, dudes do it too. So ask yourself why a dude who doesn’t take care of himself, hasn’t so much as been on a walk further than back to his car from a store in god knows how long. Eats fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 12:25 PM
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Actually, it has everything to do with the “average men” this sub likes to go on about. Average men, do not take care of themselves to the extent most women do. They are overweight, greasy, eat a lot of fast food, hate the gym, love video games and porn, and often forget they even have a partner... expecting them to remember their partners birthday or anniversary or to stick around when they find out they knocked their girlfriend up.... LOL It’s pretty rare to find a dude who’s interested in you…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 12:18 AM
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^ Facts.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 12:14 AM
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It’s not because they don’t, it’s because when you’re met with an unenthusiastic “thanks”, you learn that your partner isn’t about “gift receiving”, and you cannot bring a smile to their face when they aren’t. It’s expected of women to think often about their partners, to be kind, caring, considerate and helpful. We are not praised for doing housework, or taking care of the kids, or even taking care of the dogs. We aren’t praised for making dinner, even if it’s something that you used to enjoy a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/21 12:11 AM
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Seems that good women are just as hard to find as good men I take it? When the average dude throws out misogynistic phrases, calls women “thots”, gaslights and doesn’t take no for an answer.... I mean, why shouldn’t women have higher standards? Maybe all people should have higher standards for themselves before entering the dating scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 11:58 PM
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Is the bar really that high when... those looking for long term (committed) relationships have the expectation that their partner is: honest, respectful, capable of compromise, can keep a job (and has work ethic), is kind and considerate, enjoys sex and wants to have sex but does not cheat, and is also not only physically, but mentally attracted to them? I mean maybe... but, if that isn’t considerably low of a “bar”, tbh... I don’t know what is. Finding someone takes work. It’s like what Cartman…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 11:51 PM
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Women understand that men are built differently than them, have an easier time gaining muscle mass, are more athletic naturally. But this doesn’t mean a woman cannot be confident in her ability to defend herself from a man who is of similar size and/or structure/build than her. A lot of women are taking up self defense courses, hitting the gym, and learning how to properly defend themselves from men and women they view as threats. She doesn’t think “oh he’s weaker than me”, she thinks “oh, he pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 02:51 PM
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I think, could be wrong... the reasons “goth” is aesthetically pleasing to a lot of men is because... Contrast (its eye catching, even if they aren’t into it). It expresses a different type of femininity than “cheer leader/sorority girl”, a femininity that is more “edgy” and “exploratory”. There’s ways to find “goth” girls with a bit of (black, red, sometimes white) lace, fishnet, mini skirts, etc. Basically just things that get their lower heads attention. Those who express themselves with an a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/21 02:38 PM
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I have said to many straight men “your standards are too high if you aren’t finding someone you find you connect with”. Majority of men are looking for a 10/10 for relationship material, while not taking care of themselves (physically or mentally) and claiming that they’d sleep with anyone (“just no fatties”), which isn’t the reality of things. Straight and gay men reject plenty of women, why? Because they aren’t interested? Why not? Honestly who cares “why not”, the fact of the matter is, women…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 02:00 PM
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It’s just honestly, hilarious how they see it sometimes. It’s punishment if they “have to wait”, because building a relationship or rapport with someone isn’t on their mind, sex is. LOL That’s exactly what it is, isn’t it? They are “tolerating our existence” until they get what they want, and later can decide if it was worth it or not. It’s not like that mentality isn’t punishment to us for giving it up before we’re actually ready... They don’t seem to understand how many men actually pressure w…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 12:40 PM
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I think it’s funny that men here think: “If you were into causal sex, you wouldn’t be rejected”, while also saying “standards too high” and “shooting out of your league”.... Women are rejected plenty, and reject plenty. Men are rejected plenty, and reject plenty (BUT are more willing to simply have sex with someone “below their standards”, because “they aren’t relationship material”). I’ve been rejected by both men and women who were not “out of my league”, it all comes down to preference. I hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 12:17 PM
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Why is it okay to suggest to women to “shoot lower” but when people say or attempt to suggest that to men, they’re met with woman hating nonsense about how their “standards” aren’t “ridiculous” like all women’s standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/21 12:02 PM
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That’s a perfect analogy. It’s like fast food. The validation is something I understand, but I cannot feel valued by giving it away to everyone who wants it. It’s just... it really doesn’t make sense to me. I’m fine with people having their fun, enjoying themselves, but even I feel like shit for girls who think banging some dude is going to some how fix all their problems, or boost their self esteem, or bring them happiness when they aren’t the kind of people who, like you said, can detach. It r…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 11:44 PM
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I understand what you mean, and I do think we agree, but I still can’t fathom why anyone would want to be considered nothing more than a sex toy, to be tossed away once the other party gets what they want... The thing is, dudes act like that isn’t what’s happening too... but we’ve all been through it, our friends have too, and #notallmen, but it seems like a vast majority of men are exactly that way. And that really sucks for people like us.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 08:48 PM
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So you’re not saying that women not being in the mood for sex.... isn’t the same as men not wanting to cuddle? Cuddling isn’t invasive, lol. It’s comforting, helps some people sleep, and honestly isn’t as painful as sex is for some women... If someone is in a relationship they need to understand compromise... cuddling every night? I mean, you don’t need to cuddle every night, but you definitely do not owe someone sex every single time they want it either. Especially if your partner isn’t a perso…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 01:40 PM
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I really do not like this idea that “sex comes easy for women”... Just because the thirst is real, and women are approached more often than men (by men) for sex, doesn’t mean “it’s easier”. If anything, it’s easier to be annoyed... and to understand exactly what these people view your worth as, and helps them rule out themselves as possibilities. And that’s exactly my point. Women HAVE to vet to KEEP their worth, and even then, their value diminishes. “Oh, she’s leading me on” or “oh she’s just …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 01:26 PM
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I’ve seen all sorts of people, of all genders flip their top over n count. It might be majority ruled* by men when it comes to the insecurity (which honestly blows my mind, because someone who isn’t experienced, most likely won’t be as willing as some who is, to experiment and try various things) but lots of people have this “fear” that whoever came before them is “obviously better” and that their partner “will just go back to them”. The insecurity is truly unreal, and I’m not sure why people ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 12:48 PM
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The swinging lifestyle seems like a fun concept for some, but as you said, jealousy does play a big part in insecurity. I’m the kind of person who is “destination” based and monogamous, not into casual sex (too much to worry about between STIs, pregnancy, or ending up in bed with someone who isn’t all there mentally and can physically hurt me...) but I do not fault others for having fun and enjoying their lives the way they see fit. I’m a supportive person for my friends, and I like to believe m…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 04:35 PM
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In this situation, I mean “first glance, first meet” as “instantly”, without any option to learn of that person’s personality, life goals, hobbies, etc. The vetting process is used to determine compatibility between parties. You converse, go on dates, share stories and experiences with each other to determine that compatibility. “Instantly” is, more like “someone at a bar, giving flirty eyes, maybe a quick conversation, then off to bed”. My question is. Would you (or anyone) really be secure in …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 03:38 PM
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I am inclined to agree, however, if “it didn’t matter” people wouldn’t be so concerned with n count in the first place. If, a high n count (good dicking before a relationship develops) woman is viewed as “undesirable” because of how many people she’s slept with, how can anyone say “it doesn’t matter”, when it so painfully, and obviously does to quite a lot of people? If “it didn’t matter”, n count wouldn’t be up for discussion, and people (like here for example) wouldn’t be so focused on “pair b…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 03:28 PM
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This just brings me to question... Would you (anyone, not specifically OP) be interested in someone who “gave it up” instantly? Would that be a person you genuinely had feelings for, could see a life with, or wanted to spend time with outside of the sheets? Or would you rather spend time with someone who knows what they want, how they want it and when they want it, and had self respect and decency/morals? Not saying explicitly that people who sleep around and have high n counts do not have a mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 01:33 PM
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I think your feelings aren’t so much insecurity, as they are caution. She felt regret, which is good, shows maybe she can be faithful, but she still did what she did, and even after a year... only she can really stop herself from doing it again. Personally, I wouldn’t have continued things either. As for female friends cheating... out of (I’m not even sure...) my female friends, only a couple have cheated, to my knowledge. One was a serial cheater and would cheat on her partner (the same person,…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 12:20 PM
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I’m happy you guys have a good and stable relationship with mutual understanding. That’s honestly really awesome! And thank you for being sympathetic, some people are just, who they are, and the way they want to be. It’s a good thing to find out and move on. Now if I have/make a straight male friend, I “expect the unexpected, as it is to be expected”, but I do have a few male friends, while they’ve admitted their attraction towards me, know I’m not interested, and respect that fact. So those fri…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 12:22 PM
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If a dude is looking to fuck, and not build a friendship, then he friendzoned himself. Same goes to chicks. Again, friendzone is a place sexually frustrated people put themselves when they do not actually value the person as more than a slab of meat. If you expect sex to come out of a friendship, you’re not in it for the friendship and should rethink what it is you’re doing with your life. Nobody owes their body to ANYONE just because they thought you were an actual person and wanted to be your …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 01:45 PM
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He can say he isn’t attracted to you, and MAYBE he’s a “unicorn” who isn’t. But if I were you, I wouldn’t be surprised when he drops the whole “I broke up with my girlfriend because I realized I have been “in love” with you (aka wants sex) for x long”. It’s happened to me more times than I can even be bothered to count, it has ruined many friendships because the instant you say “I’m not interested” you’ve just been “leading him on” the whole time, because he wanted sex and thought getting in the…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 01:42 PM
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You wouldn’t say.... but you did... and ended it with “ultimately being friendzoned”. Thanks for agreeing with my point. 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 01:37 PM
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Men seem to friend those they’re sexually attracted to, yes. Why would a man attempt to friend someone he isn’t hoping will lead to a sexual experience at some point? Intentionally friending “uggos”.... why? That just doesn’t make sense... This is why women who try to be platonic with straight males, have problems within the relationship dynamic, and why you hear “ugh you put me in the friendzone”. Friendzone is a place sexually frustrated people put themselves because they expected something se…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 02:07 PM
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There’s 5,000,000,001 “Chads”? No wonder the “average” guy has such a hard time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 04:41 AM
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This might have something to do with how prolifers feel the fetus “is a child after conception”, but only care about women wanting to evict them from her womb. They don’t actually care about the child... why should they? They only care about having a woman deal with the consequences of ovulation once every month and getting really unlucky when some free sperm swims up and conceives.... they want women to face the consequences of their actions, for having unsafe sex, while men want to wash their …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 01:26 PM
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If it worries you that much... get a vasectomy, wrap your dongle, practice safe sex, or ya know... sign your parental rights away. Get a lawyer, explain how you DO NOT want that child, and sign your rights away. However, if you or anyone else feels the need to shoot sperm into any one or more female persons, you should be held responsible for your choice to do so. It’s not that hard to understand.... egg plus sperm equals pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 01:17 PM
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I suppose it’s all in how people feel or rationalize? We brush our teeth, not in the hopes of someone finding us attractive, only to realize we have a gross, stinky mouth. We shower, for the same reason? If people think that way, and using “I need to self care to get laid”, something is wrong, imo. Some people do things to prevent attention... like refusing to shower, wearing busted clothes, acting demeaning, aggressive or like a twat. Dying your hair a non natural color, and then getting a funk…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/21 12:43 PM
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So... men expecting sex on the first, second, or third date... has nothing to do with “women’s increased promiscuity”? 🤔 I have dated men, and women, and I have only had sex with three people. Currently in a relationship that is going on 9 years, and my partners N count is more than twice mine. But maybe he’s a “Chad”, who knows. If I use my social circle to gauge, majority of single men in said circle are getting laid far more frequently than women, even the women in relationships who’s partner…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 03:15 PM
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People do what they feel they have to, in order to survive and provide. I did “girlfriend experience” cam work, in college, to pay for college, because minimum wage jobs (and I had two, sometimes three minimum wage jobs at a time) cannot supply enough funding to care for disabled parents who are losing their home, bills, food, pets, siblings, nieces and nephews who’s parents are in a hard position and my own living expenses. Sex work is a “side hustle”, that isn’t always inherently degrading to …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 02:59 PM
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I don’t like calling people sluts... but from what I’ve gathered amongst the PPD group... seems like a slut might be anyone with an n count higher than them by 2 partners? 🤔 Seems to be a lot of incomplete “worded math problems” in this thread today. I don’t see the point in arguing that “male sexlessness has tripled” because imo I believe it boils down to a few factors: lack in appearance upkeep, behavior and personality (including temperament), and also lack of proper communication (queue para…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 01:40 PM
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You can blame the FEMALE* producers of pornography all you want, but until you realize that men have been producing and distributing porn/prostitution basically since the beginning of man, I feel your view point isn’t very valid. You can blame women all you want for producing their own pornography and bringing in funds, but all I see and hear is “they shouldn’t be in control of their own bodies”. I don’t see you bashing on the men who produce porn, including but not limited to, child pornography…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 03:42 PM
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Any guy (or girl) who says anything along those lines, will not be attractive to me, no matter how physically appealing they could have been before the creepy/negative interactions. My sexuality isn’t, “oh look at that hottie over there, I would bang them”, so no. They are not attractive if they are creepy/entitled jerks. Even if Ryan Reynolds said something like that to me (or someone else), I wouldn’t consider him attractive by any means. I would consider him to be ugly, and of low value.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 03:14 PM
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Why are there less men, than women in the porn industry? Because men are stimulated visually, and majority of them (and by majority I mean MOST) do not want to “go gay, for pay”.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 03:03 PM
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Her body, her choice. Her dad doesn’t own her. Using “hates dad” as a reason, imo, is just dumb. Some father’s understand their kids need to explore on their own, and do not shame them for it. When you look at porn, do you think of the girl’s father? Why? Do you not find that weird? Like at all? Do you think about her mom too? What about the men in the porn industry? You think about his parents too? I did MFC (nothing overly sexual) to pay my way through college, I respect my father, he respects…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 02:59 PM
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Or ya know.... if he says something along the lines of “hey girl, hop on my dick sometime”, “wanna come back to my place?” Or “I bet your clothes look better on my floor”... or even something like “You’re the hottest chick I’ve ever seen, I’d love to see what my friends think of you”... and the best, insults like “guess a cows gotta eat too” or “you’re ugly anyway” after being told “no thanks, I’m currently seeing someone”, without so much as a “hello, how are you? Crazy weather we’re having huh…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 03:44 PM
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And yet a lot of dudes think they can use the “you loved them more than me” argument when a chick says “no thanks”. 👌
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/21 04:42 PM
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Even though pregnancy requires sperm... strange world we live in....
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/21 04:40 PM
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I’m happy to hear that. It’s just sad that the guys who are that way, refuse to acknowledge it can’t be both ways. But maybe men should practice abstinence or, better yet, just get a vasectomy? It’s far less harmful than hormonal birth control.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/21 03:28 PM
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Better idea... let’s just have men get vasectomies, and when they decide they would like to have kids, they can have it reversed? Sounds like problem solved to me. They wouldn’t “need” condoms (oh wait, lol STDs/STIs, DUH), wouldn’t have to worry about paternal fraud, wouldn’t have to worry about pregnancy like... ya know at all. Women wouldn’t need to take birth control and the harmful effects it has on our bodies. Women wouldn’t need abortions unless absolutely, medically, necessary. No unplan…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/21 08:18 AM
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It’s just weird that majority of the men here complain about not getting laid enough, and all of a sudden women are suppose to practice abstinence until after menopause? These guys need to make up their mind already.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/21 08:13 AM
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You want women to go back to the coat hanger method? Gtfo of here dude. If an abortion cannot be SAFELY provided by a MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL, how exactly do you expect a woman to perform one on herself? Stop calling people dumb when you have literally no idea; 1) how dangerous an “at home abortion” can be. 2) how abortion being illegal will result in many deaths and serious injuries and infection due to complications and ATTEMPTED at home abortions. 3) abortions are legal for a reason (to prevent …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/21 08:05 AM
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I’d just call them independent wo/men. 🤷‍♀️ Unless they’re pushing an agenda, then they might just be a butthole.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/21 04:47 AM
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I’m glad you did this in reference penis, before they did it to reference vagina. They don’t get that’s how they see women. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 10:17 PM
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There was a post asking about why sex was a need, or something similar, and the idea wasn’t “cuz it’s my biology”, apparently when men say “I need sex”, they really mean “I need love, affection, companionship, understanding and all of that ties into sex, so it’s just easier to say “I need sex”.”... if they were just honest, and could show some kind of human emotion... I think it’s known as “vulnerability”? Maybe we could understand them more. But if a woman says “I need sex”, they don’t think “l…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 09:31 PM
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I think you have a really good idea, and I hope that in the future we can make changes like this. You sound to be in a similar situation to my friends mom. It really isn’t fair, but what exactly can you do? You shouldn’t have to be responsible for the ex, when the ex refuses to be responsible for themselves, and/or kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 09:27 PM
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What the hell is an uncle tomcel?!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 09:22 PM
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I understand it’s purge week, but that doesn’t mean everyone’s reply is sarcasm, or satire. Purge week gives many people the opportunity to show their true colors too. A lot of people seem real quick to assume that people, like the various men (not just one ex) I have described actually exist. It’s always “you’re projecting a shitty ex” and very rarely is it ever “that’s not a quality wo/man”. Change the dynamic for the sub, and maybe actual constructive conversation can happen. Just because it’…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 09:18 PM
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I thought it was funny. Good Place is a pretty funny show.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 09:06 PM
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I’ve never called a male an incel, I still use “sexism/sexist” and “misogyny/misogynistic”. Maybe if more people understood that berating someone, name calling and acting like the world owes them something... wasn’t a way to get their point across, just maybe.... we might have a more fulfilling, understanding and empathic society that functions. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 03:48 PM
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Most men aren’t willing to let me play with their ass, no matter how much I really want to. Makes me wonder if they possibly experienced it with another partner, who they loved much more than me, and so they’re making the choice to say no, and I am to respect that boundary. Or maybe “it’s gay” and “emasculating”... or maybe they just aren’t interested. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 03:34 PM
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Yes! But they also say things like “sex isn’t NEEDED”, while claiming it actually is needed! This sub has taught me one thing really, these men are just simply very confused, and stubborn to the point of not being able to rationalize anything. They call any woman who doesn’t fit their narrative of “all women” a “unicorn”. It’s so dumbfounding.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 03:31 PM
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I’m not the only person who has the pleasure of dealing with people like this. I could say the same for all the women haters in this sub. “You’re projecting”. My point is, what I described isn’t a “quality man”.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 03:28 PM
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We can still be eye candy! But, any one person who is just eye candy, is probably not the relationship material you personally need. And yes, people put way to much into societal expectations, this is why we need to help change it. Society is pretty fucked imo. You look at the seduction subs for example, and it’s a bunch of “play games, be confusing, act like an ass/bitch, make them chase you, test them, neg and berate them”, etc. That’s all toxic behavior lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 03:22 PM
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Read the comment I replied to, friend. “Biology also says abortion is against nature”.... biology didn’t, miscarriages occur as a natural abortion.... Humans are usually pretty smart, especially those in the medical field, which is how and why “unnatural abortions” became a thing. It’s really as easy as taking a couple pills now a days. Not some slicing fetus, vacuuming it out, ruining your cervix and uterus nonsense. You guys gotta get with the times. Edit: and also, a heart attack isn’t “suici…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 03:16 PM
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I’m sorry for your situation, I agree that it is unfair. However, if what you’re saying could be a possibility, with the higher earning one being more responsible for child support.. what is to stop people from finding a way around it? Scenario: both parties make similar wages/salary, and one feels that with this “new law”, they can drop their job (not saying career, because who would do that?) in order to live jobless and continue to be supported? Even with 50/50 custody? Would the party who ke…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 03:12 PM
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Please explain to me, how a man who comes off as understanding, decent, committed, interested, happy, drug free, (any other redeeming quality) is a “bad boy”? Had he been self centered, a racist, a sexist, abusive, drug addicted, controlling, profane, (any other damning quality) right from the get go, I wouldn’t have dated him. Blame me all you want for being under the impression he wasn’t actually a pos, sure, but in reality it boils down to a liar, hiding who and what he is, in the hopes of ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 02:57 PM
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I agree. It sounds highly implausible to me. Chick is 27, engaged to a guy, won’t sleep with said guy, but somehow (because who knows how long those two have been dating/engaged) before him, she managed to find 100 sexual partners. It screams fake to me. But, the part that seems real. Dude wants sex, she says “sorry, not today”, and he loses his shit. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 02:46 PM
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Who has time to find 100 people, and bang them... before age 27? It doesn’t even say how long they’ve been dating/engaged. I mean sure, maybe she was on tinder, and every dude that said “fuck tonight?” as a first message, and actually turned up... but seems almost impossible to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 02:41 PM
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Crap! I just shared it to you. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 02:22 PM
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Pretty sure the people calling them “incel” are predominantly other males. 🤷‍♀️ Could be wrong though, but I only hear that term, and similar coming from male mouths.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 02:19 PM
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I love that you covered the men portion as well. A partnership, is just that, a partnership, and if there’s a party in said partnership that cannot or will not meet standards, or contribute, or participate in the active idea of equality, you’re gonna have a bad time. It’s seems like a lot of people have a difficult time seeing and dealing with red flags, and it’s a shame. We should know what our worth is, and we should want to be with someone who understands that we aren’t just eye candy, or a f…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 11:28 AM
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That’s good to know! I didn’t know Keto helped in that sense. Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 11:25 AM
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I agree that lose-lose games aren’t worth a play, but sometimes people can act, and wait for attachment before showing their true colors, and it can be hard to spot when you’re hopeful for the relationship. Thankfully, I’ve never dated one of those “I can’t wash my ass, it’s gay” types, but ass wiping and showering aren’t you for discussion, lol. Those are things that need to happen, regardless. Narcs are great though, they always have you on your toes.... and codependency is real and true love.…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 11:22 AM
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Oh please. I know many men who work far less hours than I do. But they claim their job is much more difficult and I wouldn’t understand. It’s cool that they can’t understand my job, or when I worked three jobs. Thank god for Covid, because now I’m broke! Better up my hypergamy! You know what happens when you work three jobs and date an asshole who was really good at pretending to be a genuine nice guy for months? They cheat because you’re too exhausted up keeping your own adult life, and because…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 11:07 AM
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You’re sounding too good to be true dude. Can you do me a solid and talk some sense into people who “can’t” do these things? I know it’s a lot to ask, but, you seem highly competent in terms of adulting, and that’s a very rare trait for people now a days. Also, I just call that “the back of the toilet”. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 10:57 AM
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I’m not a sex on the first date kind of girl. Dates are for vetting, and if I were to participate in risky sexcapades, I wouldn’t be interested in wasting my time vetting. I would be more interested in it being carnal and enjoying the interaction for what it’s purpose is, sex. But, if you wanna laugh at some terrible horror movie and share commentary with me or something like that, with a cuddle sess and lightly-aggressive, boundary respecting play wrestling, then maybe. Cancellations do happen,…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 10:54 AM
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Damn, I got a SOLD! Very nice! Thank you! Nagging seems to be required in a lot of situations depending on the relationship. I personally hate having to be that person, but in situations where the trash is piling up, and I hear “in a minute” or hostility (like “shut up, I will later”), I get flustered. My train of thought is, “if you don’t want to do it, you could just say so and I will handle it myself”. But, I’ve had dudes literally jump at the opportunity the minute I said I would handle it, …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 10:37 AM
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Both very good ideas. I thought that was in part what prenups are for? To limit surprise in the event of a divorce? 6 months worth of funds, imo is very generous of you, and I’m not sure how many people would be on board. I understand that divorce proceedings are bias towards men, and personally I believe that to be wrong. I absolutely agree with the child support idea. I’m not sure why time with isn’t brought into consideration. A friend of mine, had to pay his daughter’s mom child support even…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 10:23 AM
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Those types of parents drive me nuts, man. But if time travel was possible for me, I already have plans for my first few trips, and I don’t think whacking an exes mom is a good use of that technology.... 😬 I can ask, but it doesn’t mean it’ll get done! But, I’m willing to give anything a try if it means things will actually get done.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 10:12 AM
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Makes me wonder what the world would be like if everyone had the confidence and drive to try open approach. Or if decency was in high supply. Smelly is most definitely a problem. I could care less how physically attractive someone is, if they smell, it’s going to be an affirmative no. I haven’t heard that diet correlates with the inability to perspire? Reduced smelly/musk/onion sweat, sure, but people still sweat? I personally think some people are immune to their own scent, and some might also …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 10:06 AM
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A date or two? Sure. As long as we’re going dutch with no expectations for the end of the night. But, there needs to be a conversation about where and compromise if I’m currently experiencing a low budget for recreational expenses that week. I’m glad you’re enjoying it. 😊 Sorry for vibing sarcasm, but this is PPD and half the time I can’t tell if the words I read are in good faith or not, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 09:59 AM
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I too prefer cooking, especially as a pair. I find it to be nice for bonding. But when in a relationship, as the primary chef, with little to no help from the partner, I think the least they could do is clean up. But even that seems* to require “nagging”. If he forgot, sure... but how many weeks in a row is he gonna “forget” before it turns into a situation where an argument ensues because he just doesn’t want to and she’s capable of handling it on her own, even thought he agreed it was his task…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 09:47 AM
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Fackkkkkkkkk! I wonder if he has a new maid, or if he finally figured out how to load, set and toss a pod in the washer. I’m really hoping he knows now that wet laundry cannot sit in the dryer more than a couple hours before it starts smelling. I’m sorry you had to go through all of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 09:34 AM
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I feel the exact same way. The entitlement is surreal. It’s like, no really means no, I’m not “confused” because I’m a woman. Except, it isn’t “chubbies” I have a problem with, it’s assholes. They look stupid, they smell, and with how cocky they are... it’s so exhausting.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 09:31 AM
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I’ll let you know, but I would be looking for a casual relationship, not a one night stand, pump and dump scenario. I wouldn’t want for my first, and (possibly) only casual fling to make me feel bad about myself... I’m sure you understand. If I thought you were spineless, this conversation wouldn’t have lasted this long, across multiple comment chains. I enjoy a challenge, and humorous satirical comments, and I also understand that a man’s ego, among other things, need to be stroked and played w…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 09:28 AM
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If she doesn’t know what she would like to eat... is he willing to offer suggestions and compromise? Is she? Does he also clean the drain too? Or the shower/tub? The toilet? The floor around the toilet? That poor car.... if someone isn’t intelligent enough and unable to property refuel a car... I don’t believe they should have a license.... What if he agreed that taking out the trash is his “contribution to daily chores”? But he doesn’t and it’s trash day in the morning? Which endeavors exactly?…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 09:19 AM
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I believe it boils down to laziness and selfishness... I get off on my partner getting off, and I would hope they get off on me getting off, because imo that’s how it should be. But there’s a lot of people in the world who think “I’m getting off whether or not they do, and I don’t care if they don’t”. Seriously, loyalty is the best trait for any and everyone. I would love if more people could have even an ounce of true loyalty in them. But humans are inherently selfish animals. I appreciate your…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 09:08 AM
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If by “bored” you mean “tired of their shit”, I agree. Here’s the thing. Y’all seem to think that we should put up with the bullshit. If a “man” cannot clean up after himself, take regular showers and practice oral hygiene, put his dirty clothing in the hamper (instead of on the floor in front of the basket), replace the roll of TP he just finished, cook himself food when he’s hungry (instead of nagging), wake up to his own alarms and see himself off to work (and be punctual in other areas too),…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 08:49 AM
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JESUS! That sounds serious! Are there any known treatments? Is this a psychological based disorder, or is it from a lack of cleanliness only?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 08:36 AM
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I mean, we can do both. It’s all about equality anyway. Edit: if you know the secret to getting men to do laundry, please let me know. Seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 08:33 AM
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As a male, you really should. Just remember, the idea is to blow her mind, so she gets stuck on that dick. If you’re selfish in bed... 🤷‍♀️ However, as a woman, I really shouldn’t... even though I really would like to. But, I wouldn’t want my n count offending anyone.... I care far too much about how people see me. Plus, loyalty is the best trait a woman can have, and I pride myself on my inability to dishonor or embarrass my man intentionally. Makes me wonder what it would be like to date a “be…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 08:32 AM
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There’s mathematical proof.... and they still can’t believe it? I’m not sure why they can’t see 1) how annoying the behavior is and 2) how pathetic it comes off... if a woman is pushy, even after being rejected... it isn’t appealing. So why can’t we as a society offer the same courtesy? I also do not understand the entitlement either party have.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 08:25 AM
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I’m happy you were able to find a man who has the ability to treat you like a real human being, and I’m sorry that the previous POS was a POS. I want to wish you well with your future!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 08:20 AM
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Which disorders exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 08:18 AM
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Irl... not at all.... 🤔 I’m not so sure you’ve exhausted all your resources tbh. It’s difficult to be labeled a cheater when participating in hook up culture, as any one individual isn’t expecting a commitment, and even then, there are cuckqueans out there. I find this to be a possibility for you, and I am hoping you will be able to find her! I’m just a believer, man.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 08:13 AM
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Is it impossible to settle for one woman who is capable and able to handle your inhuman baby gravy?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:59 AM
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I agree with you there. But it seems that a lot of them feel entitled to the title of whore... and I’m not sure how any of us can change their mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:57 AM
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Thank you for not contributing to the “n count problem” the west is facing. I want to wish you luck in your endeavors and I hope you find the partner that best suits you, and that you best suit too!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:56 AM
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Thanks babe! ❤️ Edit: I’m making a list of tasks that I would like completed before I arise at noon. One more thing, I expect morning sex. I like to refer to it as “pancakes”.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:41 AM
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I know I can’t... His ego outshines my own... and as a woman I need to be the center of attention 110% of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:41 AM
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I imagined “popping the cork” could be a really dramatic, and entertaining way to ejaculate. But I can see how that wouldn’t be sexually fulfilling I suppose. I’m glad you have a full and endless supply. Are they virgins or experienced lovers? Can’t NASA just put their funding into making birth control? That sounds a tad bit easier... but I’m very curious to see that set up. Does it have both green and red LEDs?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:40 AM
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I feel that majority of people would prefer a baggage free SO... but I could be wrong. I’ve met very few people who live for drama. Personally I think it’s insane for anyone, to expect anyone, to remain a virgin until they are absolutely certain (?) they have found their only long term (forever?) partner. Men want sex, women are expected to give them sex for (common) decency? Or because she only feels platonically for him? Or for his fuckboi behavior? Or because the man in question cannot handle…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:35 AM
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In that case... if she ends up pregnant... the man should be responsible for raising the child as a single father. If she isn’t attracted to you, I doubt she’ll love your child. It’s just better for you to raise him to be an upstanding citizen. She’ll just fuck him up mentally.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:24 AM
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Is the answer “her mom”? That’s her mom right? What about her dad? Does he consent?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:21 AM
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Why are you so intimidated by their beauty?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:20 AM
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I appreciate this answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:19 AM
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I understand that, and I can get behind toxic femininity being a problem, just as toxic masculinity is a problem. But my question is now... are you refraining from dating western women, and working (personally) in a way that doesn’t contribute to these problems?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:18 AM
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My nose is already offended...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:16 AM
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I’ve seen the statement “no fatties” many times, seems butterfaces are more desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:15 AM
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😘 You’ve already given me a pet name! I’m swooning!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:14 AM
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Then how exactly are you using this cork? I’m sorry I assumed it was to prevent ejaculate.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:13 AM
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You seem to believe that whenever a woman engages in sex, she is consenting to pregnancy, and I’m sorry to say, that is very rarely the case. In order to get around this, people should ask first and foremost if the risk is worth it, and then practice safe sex (both parties, not just a woman altering her own natural physiology by using birth control). You might not understand my analogy, but without proper precautions, the man in question is consenting to pregnancy when he busts a nut inside a wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:10 AM
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I feel the same way about axe body spray. I wish all men smelled like Old Spice instead. The cooties though, that’s risk vs reward, and sometimes the risk is actually worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:06 AM
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Pretty is subjective. I think the adjective you were looking for is fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:04 AM
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Or worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:03 AM
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I hate being treated special. I just want my man to let me do all of the housework, cooking, animal care, laundry, and work 50hrs a week to support us financially. But his toxic masculinity prevents all of that, and he wonders why I’m so unhappy and refuse to put out.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 07:02 AM
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I’m sorry, but I sound like a velociraptor. This is incredibly sexist.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 06:58 AM
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That’s a brilliant way to prevent pregnancy! You should have it patented! Wait... does it feel weird when it’s in you?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 06:57 AM
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Bend the knee.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 06:56 AM
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I agree that people should be held accountable, however, there are extenuating circumstances, that I believe qualify for abortion. Not just rape, but health concerns as well, and unfortunately, if we limit, or revoke the right to lawful termination, people will also do that illegally and in unsafe ways. I understand caring for children, believe me I do, and I am very much against abortion being used as a form of birth control, but, I believe both parties are responsible. If he isn’t interested i…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 06:53 AM
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Lard? Crisco. It even makes a wonderful lube.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 06:46 AM
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“Not controlling enough” was defined by my lack of jealousy. I understand that men enjoy to rendezvous outside of a relationship. I just asked for honesty and a lack of STDs. I’m glad they aren’t a problem, for me or for you. It’s far below 10mil... that is so hyperbolic lol. They didn’t outright ask for permission, that would have been sexy, but they did expect free services, without the payment of reciprocity. But, I can’t fault them for being honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 06:45 AM
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You got my hopes up for nothing man... sperm is fun and all, but not as fun as meth.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 06:37 AM
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I mean, if he is willing to let me play with his ass, maybe I would be more willing to withstand the pain that lube cannot numb. I’m a big fan of reciprocity.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 06:34 AM
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Damn.... you’re 0.01” too short... but depending on your overall worth, I might be able to overlook your height. Please promise me that you will give me my own debit cards, linked to both your checking and primary savings account, act as my personal chauffeur, text me back within 5 minutes, and answer all of my calls, let me sleep with your best friend and maybe your brother, parade me around like the arm candy I am, coddle me when I’m having an unexpected-unnecessary meltdown over something tri…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 06:32 AM
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Solid oak bby. I can hold a literal ton of gravy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 06:26 AM
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I’m curious to know, if individuality, independence, strength, self awareness and lack of compassion/empathy (based on their own personal life) are the issues you have with western women? I agree, the west has a hugeeee problem with lack of empathy, but that’s not gender specific unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 06:25 AM
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Wait... does this mean... Women should ask a man, before engaging in sexual intercourse if he consents to the possibly of an unplanned pregnancy? I understand drugging someone is illegal, but it doesn’t stop people from drugging people, and women who are victims of any form of rape, should be able to reserve the right of termination. Unless, those women are held responsible for the crime inflicted on them, in terms of having to raise said child... or would you rather more children enter into fos…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 06:22 AM
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I was hoping for a comment like this. I absolutely agree with you. 🍻
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 06:18 AM
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But... more money means less problems? And plus, who doesn’t want to be “stupid rich”? Also! they don’t seem to enjoy our independence much... and they seem to feel secure in believing we need them to work harder than us.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 06:17 AM
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Men are hot, in many ways, but my personal opinion isn’t in favor of what I deem as “toxic masculinity”, the same with women who express “toxic femininity”. They can both have a nice ass, but if they act or smell like ass.... 😬 And thank you for humoring me! Happy New Year to you too! Here’s to a better tomorrow! 🍻
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 06:15 AM
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WAIT! He’s DONATING SPEED?! Sign me the fuck up man!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 06:11 AM
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Believe it or not, I’ve been told by many exes that I’m “not controlling enough”. I’m not sure how that’s an issue. But in all honesty, I’m loving this back and forth*, and I’m glad you can see my feeble attempt at satire, and that I’m doing so in good faith and fun. Thank you for participating. Wait, are my many exes a problem? I have a low n count, majority of them weren’t worthy of my absolute and primal devotion. Edit: and hating autocorrect every comment lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 06:09 AM
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Omg. If you are 6’3” or taller, I swear, you could be my true soul mate! You understand me so well! If I demanded you to retrieve the crock pots from the highest cabinet, would you oblige me, or force me to climb them? As a 5’ woman, it’s just really tedious for me. But, I swear, I’m actually a good cook.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 06:02 AM
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God! I hate when men act like that too! My body, my choice! Sorry that I don’t like dick in my ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 05:58 AM
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Which laws are we talking about? I’m all for equality when it comes to same crime corporal punishment.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 05:56 AM
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You must be too 20% then! Don’t tell anyone else here though... I’ve seen how these threads derail when people are jealous of other’s sex lives. 🤫 Thankfully, (though not for the man you have described) I’m in a committed, long term relationship with the nicest ATM I was able to manipulate into settling for me before I let myself go and hit 400lbs. He treats me like the queen I know I am!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 05:55 AM
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Maybe if you were just thankful that they wanted to bang one* out, you could learn how to love them for their money. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 05:49 AM
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Men lie too though, and usually under the ruse of “I didn’t want to upset you”, which (at least from my personal testimony) results in a very negative space. I don’t appreciate the dishonesty either, but, a liar is a liar regardless of their gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 05:49 AM
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But... women cannot naturally impregnate each other without first obtaining sperm and launching the little guys in, during* ovulation. Are women also responsible for unintentionally ingesting bennies, HGB, etc?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 05:42 AM
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You’re very welcome! And as for mom... I mean, people are into what they’re into. As long as it’s among consenting adults, I have no beef.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 05:38 AM
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I tried to ask my GBBF and he literally laughed at me. He swears all men are gay regardless of their actions, but they’re not man enough to admit it. And... I can’t wear high heels... I can’t have my current ATM feeling emasculated because of his height... he’s only 6’1”. 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 05:34 AM
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I completely understand what you mean! I don’t understand what’s so manly about being hypersensitive about a penis... or why my n count matters to strangers... or why they intentionally put us in uncomfortable situations and lose it when I say “sorry, I’m in a committed long term relationship”. It honestly just blows my mind! And they admit they require sex... but foreplay isn’t even in their vocabulary! And cuddling? Sorry! I’m just so impossible! I can’t even stand it!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 05:28 AM
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I feel like, this might be the first time I’m finding myself agreeing with a red pilled man on this sub. I appreciate your responses.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 05:25 AM
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Who’s putting them on a pedestal exactly? I wish had less reasons to demonize men... but purge week brings out the best in a lot of them I’ve noticed. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 05:23 AM
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I feel bad for female lions... they do majority of the work, and even help control territory... the hunting... child rearing... and they’re sex lives are awful. But at least the males have the ability to build* their own harems if they’re capable enough. He’s “Chadding” it up!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 05:18 AM
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Oh! You thought I meant actual donor, like from a sperm bank. Hahahaha, no no no. I meant the “Chad” participating in the scenario, cuz apparently he’s the only one getting laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 05:14 AM
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But dude, he put it there. He could have tried harder not to conceive. I believe he needs to face the consequences of his lack of appropriate actions. It’s only fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 05:12 AM
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I think you have it backwards... At least for this sub anyway. Dudes here are really concerned with dicks that aren’t theirs.... and seem to honestly hate women... but love sex... so if sex with women isn’t an option for them due to how badly they express their distaste for women... they must be having sex with other men, because it’s biological need. They definitely aren’t “carefree and light-hearted”.... that seems to me, to be a very small minority here.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 05:10 AM
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I don’t think that’s right. Football isn’t gay.... I don’t think I can trust your judgement. I’m sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 05:06 AM
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OHHHH! That explains it! So, if it’s with another man... it’s only gay if their balls touch right? At least that was what I was told... I’m just trying to check my facts.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 05:03 AM
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Do you know what a miscarriage is? It’s a naturally occurring “abortion”....
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 05:02 AM
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I think you have feminists confused with “toxic individuals”.... I’ve noticed, especially in this sub, that most people who devalue men, seem to be confused fellow men. They can’t even seem to find value in themselves. It’s honestly really sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 05:01 AM
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That’s exactly how I feel too. There’s too many stupid, sexist, selfish douchebags out there. People suck pretty bad in today’s society.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 04:51 AM
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They could just support local business... instead of racking up the n counts they hate so much.... and “ruining all women” for everyone else. Oh wait, I’m mistaken... women are ruining themselves because men are responsible?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 04:46 AM
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Is the sperm donor also responsible for taking care of the child?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 04:42 AM
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Absolutely everything. We’re* fucking amazing. Edit: autocorrect is not tho. 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 04:41 AM
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Can you maybe answer this for me? Is a man gay, if he loves having anal sex with a woman, over PIV? Also, why exactly are all men gay?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 04:40 AM
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Seeing a prostitute without any form of contraception seems like a really bad idea guy. If you remove your genitals, you won’t have a need to use them. It’s really quite simple. Remove women’s reproductive organs too, and they won’t need birth control either. It really solves the “problem” of tax payers “paying for everyone’s safe sex and abortions”.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 04:25 AM
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Aren’t they already? Edit: 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 04:23 AM
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Does anyone remember what it was like before contraceptives? If sex really isn’t needed... for anything (guess we are just going to make test tube babies from now on?)... why stop at ending the production of contraceptives then? Why not just remove reproductive organs? Those aren’t exactly needed either, right? Right?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/20 02:31 PM
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You can “know” the person, on a friendly level, or a coworker level, or maybe through other channels sure... but you can also sext with people you do not know IRL... people you have met through some forum for example, or from OLD, or really any way. Edit: and that doesn’t mean your partner also knows them, or is aware of you sexting. I have a couple friends who are in openish relationship, and they’re fine with their partner occasionally sexting someone else. So in their case, it isn’t cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/20 11:22 PM
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A lot of women watch porn too. For majority of women, the issue isn’t “he’s watching porn”, the issue is “he watches/uses porn over me”, because porn addiction is a rather big problem in today’s society. It’s everywhere... “sex sells”. When your partner becomes fixated on porn, specific actors, specific fetishes/kinks, or has the need to masturbate 3-x times a day, where is the sex for you? There’s been multiple studies regarding porn use and brain function (reduced grey matter), not to mention …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/20 04:02 PM
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I’m not sure why it seems so hard to understand? Sure, some women “like (obvious) assholes”. Maybe this has to do with their upbringing? Maybe they came from a place where they weren’t treated kindly by their family, or were taken advantage of, or were victims of gaslighting and abuse... thus warping their own sense of worth and thought, so now they believe “this is what I deserve, and he’s the best I can get. Maybe he won’t treat me this way somewhere down the line”. Or maybe they actually enjo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/20 04:14 PM
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Here’s my question... who developed these sites used for the distribution of pornography and made it possible for “women to sell themselves” as easily as it is now? Who’s idea was it to put up a paywall/subscriptions/whatever? You can blame “simps” and “betas” all you want, but I’m pretty sure those who developed these sites were pretty aware of who their demographic was, and how to best exploit the “lonely-sex-crazed man”. Porn is addictive for quite a few reasons, and everyone needs to make mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/20 04:18 AM
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I never said anyone was. The situation is based on someone telling you, or playing off as if you were exclusive, or going towards to the road of exclusivity and then “disappearing” the minute they were able to obtain the one thing they wanted, sex. It’s about the deception, the lies, and the manipulation. If you aren’t interested in anything more than casual sex, you should be upfront about that, instead of leading someone on and wasting their time, and causing emotional trauma, anxiety and trus…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/20 03:39 AM
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I absolutely agree with you! Many of my female friends have experienced being pump and dumped, and they were always the women waiting to have sex. They were also called various names for “breaking the three date rule”, or also known as “not putting out on the third date”. It mostly just boils down to people feeling that they are entitled to someone else’s body.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/20 10:01 PM
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1) You’re out somewhere, meet a someone (maybe you guys share a mutual friend or two, maybe you met them through OLD) and feel like you’ve hit it off. You exchange words and feel like “this could be fun”, leave with them, have a romp or two and then exchange numbers and set up a second meeting... but then they fall off the face of the earth... You’ll probably run into them somewhere and ask “what happened?”, only to then realize they just wanted sex from you THAT night, and nothing else, and all…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/20 05:54 PM
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When it comes to “women being interested in more physical men”, meaning taller, stronger/athletic/tougher, or other similar characteristics, I believe it has more to do with protection/safety than simply “makes me wet because he looks good”. Women deal with a lot of instances that can instill fear (like a stranger approaching in a car park, or some dude at the Christmas party who refuses to take no for an answer for example), so having someone who looks intimidating to others (you wouldn’t come …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/20 08:31 PM
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Whether we have a “biological” ability to procreate, you still deal with the psychological effect of being told you are to have children because “that’s what people do”. So again, if the drive was really as “extreme” as people want to claim it is or can be, there wouldn’t be people who do not (at all) want to have children. If it were simply a biological drive, people would “want” to have kids. They wouldn’t use birth control, get abortions, or even abstain from sex... they’d just be “making kid…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/20 07:24 PM
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Women having a desire to have children? It’s psychological, not biological. As an infertile woman, who was brought up believing my job as a womb barer is to procreate for a man, to help him advance/continue his genetic code... who has been consistently shamed for not “yet having children”... this is why I feel inferior. When you’re brought up believing it is your JOB and biology tells you “you can’t”, but people (especially family) feel the need to tell you “YOU HAVE TO”, it hurts on a psycholog…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 02:21 PM
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Loads of young girls are taught from a young age that our purpose is to “find a husband and give him children so his genes can live on”, (yes, I grew up catholic, but I’ve heard it from all sorts of backgrounds), so the idea is, as someone with a womb, our job/purpose in life is incubating A man’s genes. The way the birthing process works, is honestly great... hormones are all over the place, memory issues, pain... but the joy of knowing we have a little person, who’s half us, and half the man w…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 02:05 PM
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I agree with you OP, and I don’t quite understand why anyone would state (anything along the lines of) “screwing around and knocking up as many women as I can is biological”. Statements such as that, or even simply put, “biology tells me to spread my seed”, just heavily implies that men are incapable of doing anything different because “some biological drive” has them “all acting the same due to (unknown force?) biology/genetics”, and I thought you guys didn’t want to be lump summed in together …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/20 01:45 PM
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They tell women that they are to blame for their treatment from men, because we’re toxic, have high standards, want committed relationships, desire a means to actually survive, “sluts/whores/bitches/cunts”, etc... while also chiming in with “not all men”... as they spew “all women”. As if women are to blame for every single thing that goes wrong in their lives... why? Because they do not want to hold themselves accountable. The real truth, that I’ve gathered from this sub and quite a few others …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 02:45 PM
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Sorry your past is riddled with unpleasantries. But here’s the thing. If you want to bring personal experience into it, I have a lot of (as do a lot of other women and men) unpleasantries dealing with (and dating) men and women as well. You know what I took from it? Some people are shitty. You know what my therapist told me? She said “you need to figure out why it is that you attract or are drawn to these types of people, and understand how to weed them out faster before you’re hurt again”. Here…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/20 02:59 PM
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Pretty sure ThrowAwayAccount0602 is male... I don’t think women would “call out” high earning men as having “baby dicks”, or state that the things that keep them alive are “weed, pussy, video games”? But I could be wrong. But it sounds like pure jealousy and resentment to me. But, if a comment made by a male, about absolute negativity and absurdity is why you (or anyone else) view women as “a chase to try and fuck and that’s it”, it’s no wonder this sub is full of men who seem to blatantly hate …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/20 02:27 PM
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I’m fed up with trying to explain to the men here why “Chad” is bullshit. Stop going after girls who obviously are into him, get him out of your mind, he isn’t even a person. He is literally a figment of your imagination. If you want to be a master manipulator and pro gaslighter and an all around piece of shit like “Chad” always is, and get laid constantly, then work out, make money, and go for the women who literally only value those characteristics. You’re sealing your own fate by being hung u…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/20 02:50 PM
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Or... she’s trying her hardest, and being fed false information about “how chill it is that you want to wait. I respect your decision (your body your choice) and can wait with you”, only to be told “you’re a tease, you’re wasting my time, you just want to use me for my wallet”, etc. Because the thing is, people do not actually respect your decision to NOT want to have sex. They believe they are entitled to your body.. and that “women should be thankful anyone wants to fuck them” because it’s soo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/20 02:50 PM
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Idk about all women, but the only time I have ever said “you would make someone happy some day”, (and never once “I would love to date someone like you”) was because they were creepers who didn’t take no for an answer, and I desperately needed them off my back. They were boys, not men, and the friendship didn’t continue the way it had previously been because at that point, they do not believe “no means no”. They keep trying, even when their advances were turned down multiple times. Regardless of…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/20 03:04 PM
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I understand entirely what you are saying, but the people who ask “who would want to rape you”, think rape is about attraction, and not about power and control. And I wish more people could, or would be willing to understand that, and understand that regardless of gender, anyone can be a victim of sexual assault.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 06:03 PM
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I agree with you, and personality does really matter. You can be the hottest person (physically) on the planet, but if your personality is unattractive and/or toxic, you’re going to have a hard time finding meaningful and stable relationships. But for some people, “racking up that n-count” is all that matters, and to me, it’s a shame.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 05:53 PM
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“Chad” while being “physically attractive” is almost always a master manipulator/great at gaslighting and gets what he wants because he has experience in doing so. This is why “Chad” has no need for a stable relationship, he doesn’t want one. And that is why “Chad” is actually considered to be unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 05:44 PM
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You should differentiate between the questions you’re asking. Asking anyone “what physical characteristics make someone super hot to you” and asking someone “what makes someone really attractive to you” are not the same question for women. Women are emotional, we enjoy connection and being treated like a respected peer. While telling us “damn you’re hot” can be flattering, it isn’t going to be flattering from someone we are not interested in, this is what happens when some stranger approaches us…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 05:38 PM
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Types are things for some people, not all people. Not a single person, male or female that I have dated had looked remotely similar to one another. They have all been various heights, various weights, hair and eye color, facial shape, frame. They have all been massively different. The only common thing they all had shared was being good with their words, knowing who they are and what they wanted, they didn’t play games, they were mature and they all were able to express themselves in almost all …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 05:21 PM
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They just want to be a part of their own echo chamber that reduces women to nothing because like I said, they look at all of us like were “gold digging bitches who only want the top (whatever percentage it is today)”. 20%? 15%? 10%? Of men who meet the criteria for the first example, which literally has nothing to do with personality or who a person is, and is only about physical appearance and the ability for a woman to “slut around”, because that’s what “all women do”. Because in this sub, you…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 05:02 PM
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What men in this sub want to hear: “he has to be really tall, like 6’1” to 6’4”, and have 10% body fat, with a six pack and really strong arms and shoulders. I want to be picked up and carried away. His face needs to be chiseled and his jawline must be masculine, if he has a beard and a full head of hair, my panties get wet INSTANTLY. Instantly he is the most attractive and fuckable mate, and if he has money, and I can use him as an ATM, well damn. That’s the whole package. I would also say he n…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/20 02:29 AM
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Uhhh.... yes you do. You see men complaining constantly all over this sub, in nearly every thread... even in threads that aren’t about sex... lol...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/20 01:26 PM
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Ugh... women like men who are confident in themselves, and have self awareness and know what they want and have the drive to obtain it. As much as people say “girls play games”... that’s just it, a mature woman isn’t interested in any games. She is interested in someone who is capable of being a strong individual (mentally and socially). Men and women who have been single a while (and I see it all over this sub...) talk down, act like they are owed, throw around self depreciation and pity for th…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 07:39 PM
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Unpopular opinion for this thread... but I guess because every post here seems to be about the difference in genders... and arguments about how one is more wrong than the other..? People cheat because they can, because they want to, and because they do not care for their partner. Anyone can argue against that... but when a cheater is cheated on... they sing the same tune, and it sounds something like this “nobody deserves to be cheated on, sure I cheated before but it was x amount of years ago a…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 03:33 PM
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The notion isn’t that “all men are having frequent casual sex”, the notion that everyone can gather from this sub (especially) and many other subs, and IRL discussion... is that men WANT to have frequent casual sex.... which I believe is why OP asks the question “I would have thought they would be appreciative of those women who sleep around a lot, because it shows they are more open minded”. I take this to mean, that these men, who slut shame, and also WANT frequent casual sex, should be “happy…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 01:48 PM
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Why? Women “regardless if they’re ugly/fat receive all sorts of sexual attention from men”, this has been spewed across this sub time and time again. Women when grocery shopping, aren’t looking to have some guy approach them and bother them, only to politely reject them and receive backlash. It blows my mind that men think this behavior is okay, and that they apparently want this type of attention. This isn’t positive attention, it is actually very negative attention, and it’s demeaning.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/20 01:41 PM
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I know how difficult it is for any one person. The problem is, the difference in percentage. Men are on average more muscular and thus heavier. If a man and a woman, both with 35% body fat, followed the same diet and exercise regime, the man would get to 20% much faster and easier. Again, that is genetics. Women need fat to carry children, men on average have a faster metabolic rate. Any one person trying to get below that 20% is going to have difficulty. Personally? Yes. It seems majority of me…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/20 04:36 PM
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Same applies to all people. But on the flip side... Imagine you’re a woman, and you’re bombarded with unsolicited attention that further implants the idea that you’re only good for a quick lay because those men aren’t interested in you as a person. At least you’re “pretty enough”. Is that the kind of attention men want?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/20 04:07 PM
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I’m just going on the consistency of the comments I continuously see in this sub. It seems like they’re far more confused about attraction and can’t seem to figure out the basics.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/20 03:56 PM
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It’s normal for any person to want to date someone who has the same “activity” level as them. However, being a woman, and having only 20-25% body fat is actually pretty difficult to achieve depending her genetics. Men expect women to be around the 15-25% (edit: a LEAN 15-25%, not BULK) body fat marker, in order to be considered “attractive”, and that doesn’t exactly play into shape either. Women on the other hand (at first glance, sure) would be more interested in 20-35% for men. Men simply beli…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/20 03:48 PM
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...women with money can afford plastic surgery... “ugly poor men” cannot? Tbh, I’m not sure other than that. Maybe that’s why women in higher earning jobs are considerably “more attractive” than men in the same fields? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/20 03:06 PM
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I have noticed this as well. With their rating system of 0-10, here is what I noticed. 0-4: “obviously disfigured”, short, fat, poor. 5/6: “average”, maybe the dude is bald, but he’s “skinny”, with average income... so he “can’t” be more than a 6. 7/8: “real average”, not bald, not skinny, FIT “enough”, but not FAT, has a decent amount of money. 9/10: CHAD... (over 6’0”, FIT AF like The Rock, full head of hair, wealth, and the ability to bang any chick he lays eyes on.) Edit: I am starting to th…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/20 02:57 PM
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And I’ll take that as an affirmative “no” from you Anthony. Thank you for your input.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/20 02:50 PM
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So... regardless of her height... you wouldn’t date a girl who is bald? How about her weight then? Let’s say there’s set of triplets in this scenario. All of them have a full head of hair, but they are also 6’1”. One is “normally thin and shapely”, one loves the gym and is “decently built” (much as men believe they have to be to attract a mate) and one is obese. Edit; let’s say in the face department, they’re average. Which one would you date? And why?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/20 02:47 PM
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I agree with you. But men believe if they’re “ugly” they will fail... I’m so curious to know what they actually define as an “ugly man”... they make it well known what’s ugly when it comes to women... but honestly they seem to think the “average/slightly below average guy” is ugly as sin? Honestly it doesn’t make much sense at all... women are consistently told from childhood that their looks are ALL that matter, while men are told “if you have status and wealth you’ll have advantage”. Because “…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/20 02:08 PM
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Would you date a woman who is 4’8” and balding?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/20 01:33 PM
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To be honest, being invisible would be a much better scenario than dealing with the types of entitled people that all women end up dealing with, regardless if they are “ugly” or not. There isn’t a single person on this planet who needs to have casual sex with anyone that they do not wish to have sex with, nor do they need to in order to enter a relationship, and it would be great if men could even try to understand that. It is unfortunate that I see the world painted by my many experiences, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 10:05 PM
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Oh, I’m sorry I’m further “invalidating” your experience because I am acknowledging that I never once said that “ugly guys aren’t insulted”... everyone gets insulted, because some people are just really shitty. My point was, instead of hearing “sorry I have a girlfriend” or “sorry I’m not interested”, women are laughed at, and then insulted, and treated like they should be “thankful” that someone “showed interest”. When a woman says “sorry I have a boyfriend” or “sorry I’m not interested”, we st…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 05:23 PM
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“Ugly women” are “much more appreciated” than “ugly men” because men are looking to get laid, and women are typically looking for a lasting relationship, with a peer, a partner, someone that genuinely likes them as a person. Women give themselves encouragement. How many men have said “no uggos” and “no fatties” and “no tall girls”, and “boobs not big enough”, and “ass too flat”, how many men have called a women “butterface”? Women need to build each other up, and offer body positivity because we…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 02:17 AM
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I’m sure approaching women and stating “I’m just looking to bang, maybe I’ll get to know you later” really does work. That’s exactly the problem. We are aware that when a man approaches us, and acts a certain way, he’s looking to get laid. Some of us are in a relationship, or aren’t hetero, or have a different sexuality such as asexuality or demisexuality. While men think “oh, ugly women should be appreciative that we’re even coming on to them in the first place”, they are also disregarding us a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/20 01:55 AM
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I have asked all of my male friends, “what runs through your head when you see a girl out in public”, to which they all responded with “is she hot enough to fuck”. We turn down people who approach us that we are not interested in for many reasons. It is not our fault that we’re “suppose to be interested” to stroke some stranger’s ego, or because a his set of insecurities tells him “I do not look like CHAD, that’s why she “has a boyfriend”.”... people get rejected, not everyone is interested... a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 06:45 PM
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https://www.insider.com/women-more-expensive-products-2018-8 Read for yourself then. Most of women’s products cost more than men’s, on average, 11% more. Which is why every woman I know uses men’s products instead. Especially considering men’s razors are better.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 06:33 PM
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I’m confused as to why “ugly men have it worse than ugly women”. If you guys wanna be the person that’s only good for “a good time”, that’s your prerogative, but it isn’t mine, and I’m sure majority of women would agree. Tbh, I feel that being “an ugly woman” and being used for sex is far worse than being told “sorry I have a boyfriend” or being told “no thanks”. But if that’s the kind of rejection men are so upset about... then what? Just as OP said? Pity dates? Pity lays? Apologies because we …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 04:18 PM
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Only makes sense that “girls cost more”, considering the cost of sanitary items and bras.... and the “pink tax”.... Edit: and the “men’s haircut cost half as much as Womens” regardless of hair length and age...
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/20 01:46 AM
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I personally feel that people should date within their own age range. Like max of three years either way (older or younger) because of differences in life experiences, availability (like if they’re in high school for example, and you’re attending university), the influence of authority (or conditioning/grooming), general friend circles, maturity, life values/goals, shared experience, etc. I might be wrong, but I think it’s a little strange if say.... 26 year old is interested in a 16 year old...…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/20 01:48 PM
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Then idk. I have a handful of male friends who feel the same, and while I do not inherently find them “unattractive”, I find their behavior/temperament unattractive. This is because they are very “woe is me, I can’t get laid” and instead of lowering their standards, they’re getting tripped up on needing a girl who has.... the perfect body, a perfect face and is essential arm candy. They aren’t looking at girls for their personality, or their qualities, or pros. Instead they say “she isn’t hot en…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/20 12:40 PM
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Who says it’s okay? The people who do, and think it’s okay to guilt or manipulate others into doing things they do not want to do. Did you want a list? Or? I’m not being “extreme” at all. Past experiences, not just mine, but my friends as well, and this extends not just to women, but to men. Anyone can be forced or guilted into things because they do love their partner and want them to be happy. I have done a lot of things with my most recent ex, in a relationship that has lasted 8 years, and ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/20 12:23 PM
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Personally, I think that if you feel “there’s no hope”... chances are you haven’t tried everything, or it’s possible you’re coming off as a “nice guy” or a douchenozzle. Maybe your “standards” are too high. If you’re confident in who you are, if you love your interests/hobbies, lower you “standards” a little, you shower regularly and don’t act like a dick, ladies will like you. There’s people out there who require a “8-10”, while being a “4-6” themselves, and they get rather irritated because “n…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/20 01:29 PM
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I always wondered why it’s “okay” for a man to tell a woman “you used to do anal/rim/aggressive sex with your ex, and it’s bullshit you won’t with me”, all while he refuses to do foreplay or oral because “it’s hurts my fingers/mouth”. Maybe she doesn’t want to do those things because she isn’t into them, and was guilted or forced to do them, and now that she’s in a relationship she feels she has some “control” in, she doesn’t feel obligated to do the things that hurt her or made her incredibly u…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/20 12:52 PM
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The only time I’ve seen situations, like you’re inquiring about happened because while in the relationship my female friends (and myself included—EA) treated other males better than the current partner because of the partner. When you’re in a LTR and you get past the “honeymoon phase” and become comfortable, people often stop trying. Boyfriends/Girlfriends going from being great, attentive and passionate to preferring video games (or other interests), porn, even other people, and because of the …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/20 08:54 PM
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If you put emphasis like you’re projecting on physical perfection. Trust me, the other traits your kids are going to have is gonna cause them to need serious* therapy. I say this because my mother was exactly the same way towards me and my sisters, and instead of being normal, we’re all pretty fucked in the body department not to mention stunted and sickly. I have had bad knees since I was 15 because of being forced to participate in sports from a very young age and being forced to exceed my own…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/20 06:07 AM
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Weird. I’m a woman and I would choose a partner who knows how to adult over someone who was brainwashed/abused into believing physical attractiveness is all they really need to bring to the table. I would prefer a modest man, who can help support his family emotionally and financially with a sexy dad bod, over a bloke with a highly inflated and intimidating body that requires massive amounts of upkeep and body dysmorphia. Teach the kids self respect and modesty, and what their worth truly is. Do…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/20 05:57 AM
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