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Itsgonnabereal/r/RPChristians02/05/18 05:10 AM
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Sure, but I embrace the fact that going past those levels certainly would increase responsiveness and attraction. Whether it's enough in some marriages is a different story (not that we should be making that a priority ... no covert contracts and all). I don't interpret even in an MRP sense that the dread levels are a prescription of what a man has to do; rather, it is one possible and highly potent strategy that can be employed until a man gets the results he's looking for in his life. Perhaps …
/r/RPChristians21/09/18 06:16 PM
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I feel like you're trying to redefine "red pill." Christians didn't make up the term, so why should we commandeer it? That is, if the secular crowd created the term, let them make up their own definition. And if Christians disagree with that definition, maybe we should just come up with our own thing rather than creating confusion by meaning two different things by "red pill" and then arguing over who's right.
/r/RPChristians21/09/18 06:11 PM
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Yes. ... I think.
/r/RPChristians21/09/18 06:08 PM
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Dang, dude. How do you come up with this stuff? I mean, it makes perfect sense, but I just don't know people IRL who think on that level - and I'm a psychologist! I listen to the red man group conversations too. I'd be really curious to get a response from u/Rollo-Tomassi on this in light of the book he's working on, because I'm highly anticipating a critique of Christians as being inherently purple. Especially when you (RC) said this in one of the comments: > So, I'm not applying the red pill i…
/r/RPChristians20/09/18 08:31 PM
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I'm shocked you haven't said "I'm just kidding" yet. Are you being for real? ​ If we are being honest with ourselves, when we flirt isn't something in our lusts being nourished? ​ No. I mean, I guess I could say the same thing about evangelism. "If we are being honest with ourselves, when we share the Gospel isn't something in our pride being nourished?" I guess anyone who evangelizes should stop. ​ The sentiment being expressed is the same thing as saying: "Some TV shows are sinful to watch. So…
/r/RPChristians13/09/18 04:33 AM
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Notice how she's subtly shifting the blame from "the culture" to you? I miscommunicated that. She wasn't blaming me, she was blaming things her parents and the church had told her during the time period we were dating. Women would rather die than associate themselves with sexual frigidity True. Because to them image matters more than anything. I've had to rebuke her for that a number of times - and she has gotten better, but still needs a lot of work. "Frigid" is such a negative work, culturally…
/r/RPChristians02/05/18 08:09 PM
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If it needs to increase her attraction, then you're making it an idol. This has definitely been a problem. Whenever someone thinks they need to exchange something for another thing in marriage, it is basically like a "works" mentality for a Christian. This is an excellent parallel. Thank you for that. In other words, you will love her by your actions regardless, and she should not feel like she has to exchange sex for anything. This has been the MO for quite some time. From my perspective, she g…
/r/RPChristians02/05/18 07:12 PM
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Get past your mental blocks I almost stupidly asked: "How do I do that?" before realizing that's what I've been helping other people do for years. It's so easy to see past one's own problems despite knowing how to deal with everyone else's.
/r/RPChristians02/05/18 06:47 PM
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True.
/r/RPChristians02/05/18 06:26 PM
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This is, indeed, the core of a lot of it.
/r/RPChristians02/05/18 06:26 PM
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Holy ... frack. This feels like straight RP prophecy over me and I don't even know what to say. It's like locks in my head are just melting off - that I'm the one who has been psychologically causing my own problem by refusing to see what she keeps saying has always been there ... ? Fricking hell. What do I do with that now?
/r/RPChristians02/05/18 05:20 PM
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That's pretty much what I've concluded already anyway.
/r/RPChristians02/05/18 05:06 PM
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it places the blame squarely on her. If you had said "...and I know just how to fix that Insightful. You might be right. So she starfishes you often No, she doesn't really star fish. I just don't sense that she's all "there" - like she's just going through the motions. have you tried giving more in the emotional connection department? Yes. That is much of RP and DEVI, which I believe I've mastered quite well, though I'm not perfect. She has started saying this new phrase over the last few weeks …
/r/RPChristians02/05/18 05:06 PM
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listen to her and validate her viewpoint In other words, STFU and don't argue. Yeah, at this point I'm done trying to make myself physically appealing to her - no amount of six-pack abs and 17-inch biceps is going to cure not being her type. So, I do recognize the validity of her attraction issues and that she cannot magically change them. underneath all of that guilt and sense of duty and religious teaching, her spirit is struggling to break free and soar. So you're suggesting to encourage her …
/r/RPChristians02/05/18 04:11 PM
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Yes, and we've discussed that. But she does find other guys attractive. But they're usually dark haired guys with facial hair. I'm blonde and couldn't grow a beard to save my life - I can't even get sideburns, so I pretty much have to be clean-shaven. As I said, in her mind I'm just not her type - but that was a clever direction to be thinking anyway and I appreciate the ingenuity in the thought.
/r/RPChristians02/05/18 03:53 PM
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Yes, we've done 3 studies on SoS over the years. She has started counseling, but never finishes. I'm partly to blame for that in that I am a counselor and often think that I can help her talk through her issues when she probably needs to hear it from someone else. We were both virgins when we married. She had never dated anyone else officially. She has never been sexually abused, except psychologically by her parents and church about sex. By the way ... nice username.
/r/RPChristians02/05/18 03:51 PM
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Throughout history, a significant number of marriages, both Christian and non-Christian, have been arranged marriages. Somehow they made it work, and somehow your wife is trying to make it work as well. This is what I needed to hear. In all my lurking I suspected you would be the one to relay this to me properly. I suppose I was a little too red (if there can be such a thing) in the past, expecting that attraction should be at the foundation of all healthy relationships. How is your life togethe…
/r/RPChristians02/05/18 03:48 PM
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You are sorely mistaken on what the church teaches women. Many of my clients come to me for marriage counseling because of this exact teaching that stifles female sexuality. Both genders get hit hard. As for withholding, I tried that for over 2 years. In her mind those were some of the best years of our marriage. Since being RPed I gave 2 months of monk mode with no effect. No, she doesn't masturbate. That's sin. She won't even touch herself during actual sex because it's sin for a person to tou…
/r/RPChristians02/05/18 01:13 PM
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Thanks. I appreciate the reminder. Prayer has been almost daily, often lengthy, occasionally with extended prayerful meditation as well. This is where 2 Cor. 12 was impressed on me.
/r/RPChristians02/05/18 12:55 PM
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