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ItzDayByDay/r/Divorce_Men03/01/26 11:39 PM
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Did you have hope before you met your ex?
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/26 08:21 PM
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Its ok. You're resilient, and this is just a blip. I was exactly the same. And was even told the same line as you. It pissed me off too. But the thing you have been dreading the most (I assume) has now happened. While it sucks, guess what... its upwards from here. It literally cannot get any worse. You don't have to dread finding out that she is seeing someone else and feeling like shit, because you just have. And now that the worst is out of the way you can heal. Trust me. Day by day the emotio…
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/26 10:46 PM
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6 months. It's natural to feel insecure, I did until the other week... while it messed me over again emotionally, it made me realise that it wasn't about me not being desirable or attractive (to her), it was that we were just not compatible - and not meant to be. It's tough going, but detaching is essential. How long has it been for you?
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/26 10:17 PM
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Its a fucking gut punch, dude. I'm sorry you have to go through this. It's so easy to allow yourself to spiral down negative rabbit holes after seeing her with someone else. My seperated wife is seeing another guy (she says its not serious, yet) and it hurt like a bitch. The insecurity is crippling. The feeling of thinking you've been replaced, or that she has picked him over you/me is fucking brutal. But... what helped me is telling myself; let them. Let her move on. Let her mask her shit by se…
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/26 09:40 PM
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You most definitely are not.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/26 07:20 PM
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How did that work out for her? 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 03:14 PM
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Has she had some sort of mental breakdown or something? Is she acting out of character? Guilt/grief can do some crazy things to people. I'm glad she left though mate, that must've been horrendous to deal with.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 10:24 AM
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Has she checked out? My ex checked out about 2-3 years ago and that was the end of that.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 07:13 AM
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I have two daughters, we go through an insane amount of loo roll 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/26 06:33 PM
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Yeah we did this a lot and were aware of it but just couldn't get over it. I'll be honest though I did find it difficult to see clearly just how bad our marriage was near the end. I mean, I knew it was shit as I ended up feeling like I was by myself. We did almost everything separately, I was often seen with the kids while she would be doing her own thing so much so people started to comment on it. But my dumb ass just assumed we'd figure it out 🤣 we definitely were not a team for the last few y…
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/26 09:11 AM
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🤣 How much did you save on shampoo and conditioner?
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/26 12:11 AM
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So true. Funny how the biggest shop I've done in 6 months cost me £76. Most of mine are £30-40 max, yet I eat like a King and haven't starved to death.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/26 11:52 PM
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Thank you 😊 I don't always succeed at it, but I do try!
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/26 10:32 PM
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Haha, freedom! My food shop has gone from like £130 a week, to £250-£300 a month which is another perk.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/26 10:16 PM
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I took mine off for a month. Put it back on for a month. Then I went to throw it in the bin when we were moving stuff around the house and my daughter told me she wanted to keep it. I have no idea where it is now tbh. I put it on as a reminder that we were (and are) still legally married, but it was too painful to keep wearing it and I felt like an idiot.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/26 05:03 PM
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Oh ok, that's fair enough. No kids with her, I hope? If that's the case. Run and rebuild your life. A new chapter is starting for you. And someone with her (lack of) morals will get fucked around because she'll gravitate towards muppets like the knuckle dragger she's with now. Chin up mate. You deserve better, and will find better. Is there anywhere you can stay until the 12th? Leave them too it and don't do her a single favour.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/26 08:31 AM
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Why give her the house?
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/26 06:51 AM
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Yeah cheers dude. As if this shit isn't hard enough as it is 😅
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/26 09:16 AM
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I just want to be happy and in a relationship and marriage where I can be truly myself and be respected and uplifted, and do the same. Our sex was phenomenal, but that was the only upside. And now she's doing that with someone else anyway lol. As much as my ego is bruised, I know that I can't carry the resentment and jealousy with me any longer. I feel that what we're going through, where you don't hate your spouse (even though i definitely have reasons to hate her) its extra fucking tough and h…
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/26 08:54 AM
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Yeah definitely. The guilt was eating her up that she was getting banged by some dude while using me as her emotional support and she needed me to alleviate it by again using me as emotional support... makes sense. I do believe that the guilt was genuinely eating her up though to the point that she was spiraling into drinking, partying and it climaxed at her not wanting to be here anymore. So for our kids sake and because I always knew our marriage was cooked (I was just committed to our vows an…
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/26 08:37 AM
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Its time to feast 😎
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/26 08:23 AM
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Time is irrelevant. If this is your second relationship in just over a year since divorce and you've had flings, i doubt you had time enough to heal. If you're struggling with trust issues, that's further proof that you needed more time. But that aside, what signs are there to make you think she's cheating?
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/26 08:03 AM
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Its tough. I agree. Wife wanted out 6 months ago, but is only now filing. Here's to a other 7-8 months of being lonely as fuck until I explore again 🙃
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/26 01:06 AM
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Whatever you do don't move out. She can move. I refused to move out, my wife wanted the divorce so i told her she can find a place. I'd suggest you do this too if at all possible? Prioritise the kids, log everything, start journaling and keep it safe.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/26 12:17 AM
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Even if she hasn't asked for forgiveness, holding bitterness and resentment in your heart will only hurt you. BUT... its raw right now. You need time, and you need to be kind to yourself. Try not to let resentment make you do anything that will make things worse though and hinder your healing. Take it one day at a time.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/26 10:59 PM
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Hope you're ok bro. It is brutal, but it will get easier.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/26 10:51 PM
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100%. But the loneliness fucking suuucks. Haven't been alone for 14 years... I'm 33. Not talking to any women until we're actually divorced (probs another 7 months) is brutal.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/26 10:47 PM
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100%. I'm going through this now. 6 months in, she's seeing another guy (not 'serious' yet) and we have two young kids. She's admitted to having a breakdown and going absolutely wild over the last 6 months. She came clean, apologised repeatedly for her putting me through so much shit. But ofc the divorce is still proceeding. There comes a time when there is no possible reconciliation where you will have to decide... do you hold on to the jealousy, anger, resentment... or do you let it go. Let he…
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/26 10:39 PM
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