IvanTheTerrible69 Archive

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2	Married in a rut Random question: Is this sudden, or has this been going on for years? Depending on how you look at it, the main killer of relationships is looking ahead like it’s the end, rather than the beginning of an exciting journey Don’t focus on reliving the past; if you want to set off that spark again, focus on beginning a new adventure with your wife, one that acknowledges everything and, taking all of those lessons, propels forward into an uncertain but fulfilling path Take that trip you (or your wife…	/r/seduction	03/12/25 03:13 AM
3	How do you actually attract the calm, grounded guys instead of the high-energy party types? Here’s one hint: You know that guy who looks for an excuse to talk to you, such as in the store or in a waiting room? They typically have a more chill, less intense lifestyle, and they’re making moves in an everyday setting, as opposed to exposing themselves to the discomfort of dedicated spaces, such as bars or nightclubs	/r/seduction	03/12/25 01:21 AM
1	At what point can you confess your feelings to a girl you've been hooking up with? Wild Strategy Ahead If conventional wisdom is correct, get a lot of women interested you (who want to steal you away because you’re taken) When you’re alone with your girl, confess your feelings; if she reciprocates or makes you feel appreciated, journey’s end (or beginning, actually) If not, let her dump you for being “weak”, and immediately hit up the other women who showed interest Don’t tell them you just got out of a breakup and pretend that you’re still in a relationship Now you just rebou…	/r/seduction	18/11/25 04:45 PM
1	Is masturbation good for female mental health Masturbation is beneficial for both sexes Religion and society love to shame people who pleasure themselves, which is where most of the uncertainty comes from	/r/seduction	13/11/25 09:39 PM
6	Stop asking your wife or girlfriend what to do and stop doing what women tell you to do. Pushovers finish last. While being assertive is an attractive trait, a woman who loses respect for you is going to lose it, regardless of what you do….and that has nothing to do with you The best thing to do is to stay true to yourself and pay attention to how they act during the initial stages; coffee dates are better, since each person will get their own stuff and no one needs to pretend (as much) to get something out of the other person How you initiate and lead into a relationship will determine the dynamic; make …	/r/seduction	02/11/25 03:53 AM
10	How can I get girls without going to bar or pub? Low Test? That sounds like projection to me A true high or modest test guy wouldn’t resort to directing such language to other inexperienced guys looking for guidance; they would help in any way they can, even if a lot of the burden ultimately falls on the inexperienced guys to endure rejection and potential humiliation, a natural consequence of dealing with women in general	/r/seduction	01/11/25 08:11 PM
1	You spend money on a date, thinking sex was supposed to happen, but she refused? That's your mistake, not her problem. Aim for a different goal Don’t make sex to be the obligatory endgame; sex is supposed to happen, not necessarily given to you from her If you don’t get to that point, at look to achieve simple attraction; if she’s interested in you, she will want to see you again and then, hopefully, sex will happen somewhere along the way (maybe; don’t lose hope if not) The problem is that sex is commodified; a lot of guys expect it, like a privilege they must claim, and a lot of women weaponize it, waving it o…	/r/seduction	31/10/25 06:05 AM
3	Which large US cities are the worst for pick up today in 2025? It’s that kind of city where if you see a good looking girl, she’s already taken, everyone makes themselves unapproachable, and whatever is left….doesn’t usually have the personality to make up for it The best parts of the city are stuck-up, while the worst are ghetto	/r/seduction	29/10/25 05:56 AM
1	Which large US cities are the worst for pick up today in 2025? San Antonio	/r/seduction	29/10/25 05:53 AM
1	How to get rid of STDs paranoia? Personally speaking, that’s the LAST concern any guy has, especially with the growing difficulty of even getting a number	/r/seduction	26/10/25 02:06 AM
1	What do you think is the best city in the "world" to date and does weather matter? San Antonio definitely isn’t	/r/seduction	20/10/25 03:04 AM
1	Tips for dealing with rejection? Think of your memory space as a scarce resource With that in mind (no pun intended), would you rather focus more on one rude rejection, or push it aside and make more mental room for all the better women you still have to approach? This is the equivalent of taking your frustrations out on undeserving parties; you’re depriving others of your awesome company because one person made you feel bad If she doesn’t care, there are too many women out there, and a good chunk of them are bound to love to h…	/r/seduction	08/10/25 07:25 PM
3	The #1 Red Flag That Turns a Pretty Girl Into a Nightmare To add onto this, feeling like there’s nothing you can do to excite a woman It’s a major reason promiscuous women are demonized (often unfairly, but this is the underlying factor) When a woman has done everything, been everywhere, and seen everything, she often feels like she’s over it, so being in a relationship is being at the end of the road (ironic, because it’s supposed to be the beginning of a wonderful journey) A promiscuous woman can be happy in a relationship, but she has to understand …	/r/seduction	21/09/25 04:09 PM
55	Had anyone reached a level you can pull one night stand whenever? This is it The real skill is pulling a hottie every night, but you can pull whenever…..if you take home anyone This is one of the reasons guys give each other a hard time often	/r/seduction	21/09/25 03:12 PM
2	Gathered courage and talked to my gym crush. Turned out that she's older than me. Is it over or I should play my shot? She may be older, but it’s up to you to make her feel like she’s in her prime	/r/seduction	18/09/25 07:55 PM
2	A simple technique to talk about anything with girls when your life is ordinary, repetitive and boring Gaming is a good one Not only does it make it easier to find a common topic, but also opens up the possibility to see her later on, or at least communicate with her	/r/seduction	14/09/25 08:23 PM
-1	The problem with today's dating... Everyone tells me to ask for their Insta, but I refuse to; how do I know they’re interested, and not simply farming for followers they have no intention of getting to know?	/r/seduction	14/09/25 05:43 PM
0	Women who dress in revealing/sexy clothing motivations? The rise of incels in society says otherwise	/r/seduction	14/09/25 04:22 PM
1	The problem with today's dating... The point is that you have to make yourself less available, so she thinks SHE needs to act It’s backwards and dumb, but if bring direct and open worked, this sub wouldn’t exist	/r/seduction	14/09/25 04:20 PM
-1	The problem with today's dating... This is gonna sound ridiculous, but all this seemed to go well until you asked for her Instagram A better strategy would be to give her YOUR number, and tell her to text you because you are busy and need to squeeze her into your schedule She might feel like she’s missing out and that you’re a rare opportunity If nothing were to happen, just move on At the end of the day, congratulate yourself for knowing you have the resolve to go for it She’s just another random girl; she didn’t reciprocate, bu…	/r/seduction	14/09/25 03:03 PM
5	How to get over the hesitation to make an approach? Start with a hello; if she reciprocates, proceed to compliment something about her that isn’t inherently sexual, such as her clothes, shoes, tattoos, earrings, bracelets, etc… After a while, focus on having a simple conversation and work on not running out of things to talk about; try not to touch on politics (unless she brings it up) or anything she expresses discomfort over If she suddenly likes, for example, Pokémon, and you’re also into it, start an extensive conversation about that and work…	/r/seduction	14/09/25 04:13 AM
28	Men, how do you want to get seduced by a woman? Preferably, physical touch, whether that be grabbing my hand or putting their hand on my leg	/r/seduction	13/09/25 11:50 PM
5	Dating advice needed If she’s that interested so far, work your way towards holding her hand; it’s small, but it’s meaningful and will make further steps happen more naturally Also, respect any boundaries she may have; if nothing ends up happening between you guys, at least know that you got to know a nice girl who thinks highly of you, and that’s worth keeping in your life, even if it isn’t romantic	/r/seduction	13/09/25 05:48 AM
1	Cold approach will NOT save you That’s part of the problem The other problem is that a lot of men haven’t had nurturing social interactions; they’re often taught that whatever they have to say better be good, so they fixate and essentially become paralyzed by perfectionism If guys have more positive interactions and are taught that it’s ok to fail, as long as you keep trying, while also respecting the preferences of others, they would develop much better social skills overall	/r/seduction	08/09/25 01:31 AM
-2	What's a key way to tell if she's only going on a date for your attention/wallet Coffee date You each pay for your stuff away and you get to weed out anyone who wants to use you	/r/seduction	20/08/25 05:07 PM
1	Would you rather date a woman who’s guarded or one who’s open and friendly? Yeah The way I always see it is that you always need to prioritize yourself above all…..and respecting a woman’s boundaries is part of that Being wanted is worth a hell of a lot more than trying to get sex out women	/r/seduction	20/08/25 12:43 AM
1	Would you rather date a woman who’s guarded or one who’s open and friendly? From personal experience, interest is very prominent, regardless of open or guarded I’ve hit it off with women who were closed off, but showed some reciprocity (they may not necessarily be interested, but they at least show that they enjoy talking to you) Conversely, I have been turned down hard by women who seemed pretty open and flirty Essentially, my take is that we don’t know why they are guarded; we simply have to respect their boundaries and see if they genuinely show some type of interest…	/r/seduction	20/08/25 12:31 AM
1	Would you rather date a woman who’s guarded or one who’s open and friendly? Not exactly, but that’s an interesting point I mean in that if you approach them and they show some sense of interest, whether they simply respond or at least react positively An uncomfortable smile is distinctly piercing	/r/seduction	19/08/25 11:18 PM
2	Would you rather date a woman who’s guarded or one who’s open and friendly? She’ll likely be very direct with her self-guarding, but you’ll know by simply respecting her boundaries If she smiles and/or gravitates towards you amidst the guarding, it means she’s opening up and/or interested If she hides herself away and retreats, she’s not interested	/r/seduction	19/08/25 11:13 PM
13	Would you rather date a woman who’s guarded or one who’s open and friendly? One who shows interest in me, regardless of whether she’s open or guarded	/r/seduction	19/08/25 11:04 PM
1	Do l need to ask a wüman about her body count or l find out on my own?😁 That’s something you shouldn’t worry much about (unless you’re deathly concerned about STDs, but there are more tactful ways to approach that) The thing you should pay attention to is whether she is actually attracted to you; if you find yourself needing to beg or grovel for her love, move on The main concern with high body counts is “pair bonding”, but that’s just a misleading way of saying you don’t want a woman who is so desensitized she only looks at you for what she can get out of you; cont…	/r/seduction	12/08/25 08:42 PM
2	How to flirt with men and approach them? Show interest Don’t want to move fast, have sex, or any physical contact that day? At least ask for his number and agree on a date to possibly have coffee or hang out A lot of women have legitimate concerns when it comes to dating and safety, but if you want to have success with men, showing interest is the most important thing to remember; plus, taking it slow is a way to weed out unworthy guys, especially if you are serious about not giving it away quickly	/r/seduction	04/08/25 06:41 PM
1	Broke & angry, struggling, 26 The only advice I can offer is to focus on what makes you happy; it won’t change the fact that you’re not fulfilled, but at least you’ll be in the same situation with a silver lining That silver lining is the difference between, “my life sucks”, and “my life sucks, but playing basketball makes me happy, at least”	/r/seduction	04/08/25 01:35 PM
1	How do you stay interested in a girl after sex? Take interest in her as a person It also depends; are you only interested in her for sex or are you open to a potential relationship? She’ll pick up on this, depending on your intentions If you do want to get somewhere with her, spend time with her; that will let you know whether you actually like being around her You can’t fake this kind of stuff without making yourself (and her) suffer unnecessarily	/r/seduction	21/07/25 03:47 PM
1	Anyone else been cockblocked by another dude. You gotta beat him at his own game Make it known that his company is welcome (very welcome, especially in the bedroom), something to the effect of “every great show deserves a great audience” sort of thing The caveat is that he’ll either back off by how weird things get….or it’ll bring out even weirder from him	/r/seduction	19/07/25 03:38 AM
2	I keep getting ignored, left on read, ghosted and people don’t reach out to me despite years of active seduction, why? That certainly can be as well I mostly mention my experiences in San Antonio because expanding beyond what I’ve lived has helped me regain hope; it’s like saying that the world sucks, but your perspective has only been shaped by the environment you have lived in	/r/seduction	18/07/25 11:15 PM
2	I keep getting ignored, left on read, ghosted and people don’t reach out to me despite years of active seduction, why? That’s surprisingly accurate For instance, where I live (San Antonio, TX), dating is a dud; the girls ain’t even that hot and they still won’t give you the time of day In Austin, people are generally friendlier, so I’m thinking about shooting my shot over there (I can’t confirm, but I can at least attest that location can have a lot to do with it)	/r/seduction	18/07/25 11:02 PM
3	what are some skills you could learn? Bachata is a game changer However, most clubs play lame-ass trap music and when you do get to a club that plays salsa and bachata, it’s a goddamn sausage fest	/r/seduction	11/07/25 07:37 PM
1	How can I overcome the fear of rejection? I’m going to assume you’re prone to fear of failure? If I can guess, your peers, your family, and your environment have hammered into you that failure is unacceptable and that you have to get everything right all the time; this, of course, shaped your personality as one of a perfectionist and you probably also take failure very hard on yourself Recognizing these patterns of thought and choosing to challenge them is key; it won’t happen overnight, but it is something to work towards I completely …	/r/seduction	11/07/25 06:20 AM
3	How to approach this girl in my office ? Approach her with genuine kindness, but remember that she’s your coworker; you’ll probably have to see her often Consider this: is it better to go for it and risk a hostile work environment? Or would you prefer to be on simply friendly terms, knowing that her smile and her trust in you is worth keeping her as a friend, at most? If it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be, but don’t try to force something that could potentially ruin a good thing	/r/seduction	07/07/25 05:50 AM