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| 76 | Needy people: Understand anxious attachment style! | Inner Game | Ivory1321 | /r/seduction | 18/08/24 03:52 PM |
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| 4 | Do you guys approach looking rough or you try to look your best?Why would you want to look rough and what kind of woman would you want to get like that? Of course you want to look presentable. If already in your very first interaction you don't seem like you put in any effort, what is she gonna think you'll be like down the line. You're an adult, you should be able to take care of yourself and also project that image outwards. | /r/seduction | 28/04/25 02:14 PM |
| 3 | Needy people: Understand anxious attachment style!Thanks so much, I appreciate you taking the time to answer! Regarding the points you listed, I think those are valuable, and similarly to the advice I had given, they focus more on managing your issues or avoiding them triggering in the first place. Which are super useful strategies no doubt. What I'm interested moving forward is how to actually rewire the brain. Having an awareness about it feels nice, but when things get hairy it's still hard for me to just take a step back. It is an interesti… | /r/seduction | 19/08/24 09:47 AM |
| 2 | Needy people: Understand anxious attachment style!Oh definitely, I didn't mean for this to come off as a purely male problem. I was just telling it mainly with my perspective in mind. You are saying you are recovered, so this means you've managed to become securely attached? How did you manage that? | /r/seduction | 19/08/24 09:29 AM |
| 6 | Needy people: Understand anxious attachment style!Intellectually this makes total sense! In practice though, I struggle to see how this is supposed to work. How do you internally fulfill the need to be desired by someone else? | /r/seduction | 18/08/24 04:55 PM |
| 3 | Needy people: Understand anxious attachment style!I Appreciate it. This the first time you are experiencing this or was it something you had your whole life? Any advice you can share that helped you? | /r/seduction | 18/08/24 04:41 PM |
| 1 | What Am I Missing?Hard to say, I think when talking to women (or anyone for that matter) outward presentation is really important. How do you carry yourself, does your fitness show in ways of wide shoulders or big arms, do you wear nice clothes that make you look good, do you groom your face, hair and beard properly, do you smell nice. If you present boring or like you don't take care of yourself that will dampen initial interest. Now you don't have to look extraordinary or anything, but just presenting "good" wi… | /r/seduction | 06/06/24 01:33 PM |
| 1 | Why it it socially acceptable for women to max out their looks to boost their SMV but frowned upon when men try to do it? Or is It Not?It really isn't other than maybe in conservative or macho-attitude bubbles. I guess the correct term would be metrosexual and we're way past where stuff like that is frowned upon. It's 2022. Guys going to the manicure, getting their backside waxed, getting the pores in their faces cleared, making sure their beards are contoured properly (this is a big one that many guys get wrong as far as cheek- and jawline) or buying expensive products for hair and skin. If you do these things to make yourself… | /r/seduction | 23/04/22 06:08 PM |
| 0 | Do women just despise/dislike/hate men who’ve gone through traumatic events in their (younger) lives?Dude, you had one bad experience with one chick who didn't want to deal with someone who went through trauma. So you formulate a believe from that, that ALL women despise men with trauma? And then you fail to connect to another woman for the next 7 YEARS because of that? Stop blaming women for your troubles. And stop hiding behind that believe. EDIT: Kinda missed the whole social circle part of it. Maybe you had a shitty social circle, or maybe you acted out in a weird way. I stand by the rest t… | /r/seduction | 25/03/22 01:03 PM |
| 2 | Girl i date smells like pee while having sexI'm pretty sure there is no definitive answer to what "squirt" is, but that it's assumed that it's mostly pee. This is not a great source but I'm too lazy to go on a deep dive. It lines up with what I've read up on though. So if we assume it is mostly pee, she could just be like really dehydrated? That would cause a strong stench of urine. | /r/seduction | 08/03/22 07:34 PM |
| 4 | Accidentally invited two girls to the same date.Why don't you handle it like an adult and communicate things? I can't imagine either of them being cool with you misleading them. Imagine showing up to a date and some other moron shows up as well lol. One thing I know I'm committed to is not flaking It wouldn't have been flaking if you had just told the first girl that after two days of radio silence you made other plans. | /r/seduction | 14/01/22 12:54 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]If you feel insecure about your chin I suggest you look up tutorials on beard grooming, shaping etc. Your chin stripe isn't doing you any favors, but a fuller beard can help shape your face big time. | /r/seduction | 13/10/21 04:07 PM |
| 1 | Pretty sure he wants sex, I like him but I’m not ready, next steps?I'm a dude you loser, lol. I can smell how scared you are of women from that text alone. Maybe if you actually got to know some girls IRL you would do better. But you probably act like a super creep or you go super simp mode and get rejected. So this online personality is where you act up, congrats my man. Woman have ruined men forever Lol no, that's honestly just you. But I respect how much power you actually ascribe to women. There is millions of successful men out there that don't hate wome… | /r/seduction | 01/08/21 10:58 AM |
| 6 | Pretty sure he wants sex, I like him but I’m not ready, next steps?What kind of a cunt would look at you badly for getting free coffee, she should be sucking your dick for that, unless she has a dick herself and you hurt her man ego, a feminine woman would apreciate that and see you with good eyes for taking initiative, just forget about her shes a man not a woman That really is a gem of a comment. Surely you don't think women owe men xD I didn’t want to go down a sexting rabbit hole this early in the game and I don’t want to have sex with him on the 3rd date H… | /r/seduction | 31/07/21 10:01 PM |
| 5 | Pretty sure he wants sex, I like him but I’m not ready, next steps?Ye, don't let these types get to you. Those are people you would never ask about this stuff IRL, it's just harder to gauge in text form. Dude, you have a therapist, that's great. That definitely sounds like the safest option, to just get your mind right. Are you guys scheduled to meet again next week or are you just assuming that? If you actually want to see the guy again, waiting for him to respond might be a bit passive. I don't know about the limp dick part, seems a bit forward and could be… | /r/seduction | 31/07/21 09:53 PM |
| 1 | Pretty sure he wants sex, I like him but I’m not ready, next steps?You are trying to make OP feel like she is crazy. That is literally gaslighting, google it. I hate that the word is overused, but you are the perfect example of it. Just because you are an insecure shit, doesn't mean you get to come into this space, where people are supposed to help each other and fuck with their minds. Your history speaks volumes and maybe you should work yourself on how to behave like an actual human before you start giving advice. Let alone to women, which you seem to think o… | /r/seduction | 31/07/21 09:40 PM |
| 7 | Pretty sure he wants sex, I like him but I’m not ready, next steps?Don't listen to this fuckwit. He is sexually frustrated and is taking it out on you. Fucker is calling you mentally ill, don't engage that. I'm sure he got rejected many times by text messages similar to yours, so he is triggered af. You don't owe anybody affirmation on their sexual advances. If you are not ready, you are not ready. There was nothing wrong with your message. I will say, open communication is the best way to go about things. So if you want to keep seeing the dude, speak your mind… | /r/seduction | 31/07/21 09:30 PM |
| 2 | How much does genetics have an impact on your success with woman?Could be a million things. Greasy hair, shitty beard, bad skin care, dry lips, shit in your eyes, bad smell. Maybe you don't dress as well as you think, did other people comment on your outfit? Do you ever look at yourself and think that you look really good? If no, you should do work on that, because feeling "pretty" will boost your confidence. If you actually think you look good, than that's already a big step. People know, if you feel comfortable. So then you might just have bad charisma, for… | /r/seduction | 12/07/21 04:33 PM |
| 6 | How much does genetics have an impact on your success with woman?Bullshit, those are just excuses unless you are like physically impaired or something. Ugly dudes can get buff, a good haircut and nice clothes. There are also plenty of women that don't make height a priority. If you yourself see yourself as genetically inferior, because that's easier than working on improving yourself, of course you will scare even those women away. I'm a dude and I have no interest in hanging out with self pitying people. Imagine being a woman and seeing that as a potential p… | /r/seduction | 12/07/21 03:54 PM |
| 4 | I feel bad for losing interestI mean, best case you're gonna see every hot chick without make-up in the morning after you spent the night. Legit, this is something you should be aware of. It's part of life. If she IRL actually looks as hot with make-up as she does in the profile pictures that's awesome. The "no-make" up face shouldn't dissuade you, if that's your only problem with her. If you really thing she's ugly though.. I mean, you can't force attraction. I would just urge you to make that not a priority and normalize "… | /r/seduction | 02/07/21 11:42 AM |
| 27 | Reminder not to rely too much on dating advice from the opposite sex...I can agree with the overall sentiment, but this fucking fish analogy is so early 2000s PUA lingo. It annoys me, that people still are using it. It paints this picture that men are hunting women and women are trying their best to prevent that. This honestly is just not timely. Women want sex and it's healthy for men to know this too. This fisher/fish analogy is way too antagonistic. It's not us vs them. People really should stop to promote this notion. | /r/seduction | 20/06/21 07:39 PM |
| 2 | In response to the "do girls like muscles" postNow, I do workout and love seeing my muscles grow, but this notion of having to be buff is weird. For example there is literal tons of women who are more into androgynous guys (Think K-pop idols). People really shouldn't generalize. There is dudes out there, with every body type (except maybe sickly obese), who fuck. If you think muscles make you more attractive and in turn you act more attractive, great. It probably makes things easier for many guys. But there is plenty of dudes that don't lift… | /r/seduction | 12/06/21 02:32 PM |
| 3 | I feel like nothing I say is actually Interesting. What can I do to be better?This is the kind of fake shit that drove me away from PUA about 10 years ago. Most people can sound interesting and hold a conversation without sounding like a caricature of themselves. | /r/seduction | 02/10/20 06:57 PM |
| 0 | I'm not really bothered about women anymore, is this normal?It is probably nothing, but kind of unusual at that age. People are very different, so it might just be you, but at that age you would expect higher sexual drive. To be absolutely sure you might want talk to your doc about this. Sometimes hormonal imbalances or psychological issues can kill your sex drive, when it would usually be much higher. | /r/seduction | 17/07/20 03:37 PM |
| 2 | Am I too skinny for height?Again, the 6ft don't matter for context here. You just look skinny-fat, which is generally unhealthy and not particularly attractive. It's basically the body type of someone that sits around all day, doesn't do sports and eats unhealthy. It's not too terrible in your case. A little workout would do you good. | /r/seduction | 19/06/20 10:36 PM |
| 3 | Am I too skinny for height?Don't know why you post your height, when you leave out the weight. You might aswell only have posted the pictures. Based on those you look kinda skinny fat? If you have to ask on the internet if your stature is alright it probably would be a good call to workout a little until you are convinced yourself that you look alright. | /r/seduction | 19/06/20 10:24 PM |
| 1 | I don't know how to escalate things with this girl, though I'm pretty sure she already likes me.I mean, you already touch her and she responds well. Just take it from there I guess. A few suggestions: Comment on her fingernails (about polish for example, maybe it matches her lipstick), touch them. Massage (rub) her fingers and work your way up the arm. Caress her arm or her neck (maybe she has a necklace that you can reposition or smthg), play with her hair, maybe scratch (as in massage) her head, put your arm around her, get closer (both with your body and with your face), talk calmer and… | /r/seduction | 07/02/19 11:52 PM |
| 7 | Does abstinence from masturbation play a role in trying to get girls?First of all I would stay away from the whole No-Fap thing. Try it out if you want, but don't make it religious like many do. Second of all, personally I know from myself if before going out I fap, I'm way more laid back about talking to girls. I can still flirt and everything, but I don't feel like I need to chase overly hard etc. I've had good experiences with that. Other people will say fapping totally kills their drive and their ability to radiate sexuality, if that makes sense. I guess, try… | /r/seduction | 28/12/18 02:12 AM |
| 1 | I am a really confident and loud guy, thoughts on being such a person.Ehh, sounds kind of obnoxious. You sure, you aren't overcompensating and fishing for attention or something? That's just me though. In the end you should be comfortable with how you act. I do think this also includes with how you want to be perceived as by others, but many will disagree here and say "alpha is doing whatever you want" and there is truth to that too. | /r/seduction | 04/12/18 11:21 PM |
| 4 | one of the worst dates I've hadEhh, don't beat yourself up over it. If I had to guess from the way you describe the situation you acted quite politely and respectful, which in most cases is perfectly fine. But when she doesn't deserve that treatment, because she act's like a bitch, maybe get more confrontational about it. Call her out on it and don't just indulge her attitude. Don't be a pushover basically. Being challenged might have softened her up, but maybe not. Maybe she's just a bitch. It's good, that you left when yo… | /r/seduction | 25/11/18 05:06 PM |
| 0 | Any tips on how to improve sexual health?Why do people keep saying that? No-Fap is such cult phenomenon. People just use it as an excuse to find focus on something and get an achievement. You can do that by meditating or focus on something productive in life to actually increase your value. This post is about sexual health. Masturbating is good for the prostate and for the general mechanisms in that area. Not masturbating is not healthy! People "losing" their drive because they jack-off, have some other problem. It's gotta be in their … | /r/seduction | 15/11/18 06:40 PM |
| 2 | How to deal with "I have a boyfriend"Ehh, what's the point of a social interaction if you're gonna lie from the very beginning? She says she has a boyfriend, because she is not sexually interested. You saying you have a girlfriend implies you just want to chat, when you clearly want to get laid. Just seems weird to me, but whatever works. | /r/seduction | 09/11/18 03:29 AM |
| 2 | The pain of declineConsider therapy. I don't know what Vibes you give off, but the whole nihilistic streak sounds kind of edgy. Not connecting with ppl when your big thing is "what's the point of everything, you know what I'm saying?" is not surprising. Maybe you find some lost girl that feels about the world the same way you do. But chances are you would make weird discussions and blow her off. But ye, consider therapy or some soul searching. Do Yoga, meditation. The worst thing is having this echo chamber of use… | /r/seduction | 08/11/18 10:01 PM |
| 1 | I wish I wasn’t born with a sexuality. Why did this have to be?Ye, sorry, but self-pity is fucking useless and people on the internet won't build you up. You said it yourself. You are attracted to girls. That's the way it is, no way around it. It won't change. It caused you much depression in your life. So fucking go and work on that specifically. This one thing causes you depression? So work on it. I know it's easier said than done, especially if you had this vortex of negative thoughts for years. But nothing will change if you yourself don't. First of all… | /r/seduction | 31/10/18 05:24 PM |
| 20 | First Ever GirlfriendIs this an american thing or something? My experience is, in adulthood people first have sex and then commit to a relationship after. Legit asking here, not trying to sound condescending or anything. Cultural differences are a thing after all. | /r/seduction | 25/03/18 03:03 PM |
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