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I am 21M The others are right. Read the sidebar on both TRP and MRP. Different, but adjacent. You are way too young to even be thinking about a relationship/LTR. You need a lot of experience spinning plates a dating women. Get a rotation going with a few over the course of a year or two. See what you learn. The rule of thumb is not to get into a relationship with a woman unless you have dated her for a year. The fact you are in your twenties, I wouldn't be worry about committing to any women at …
/r/askMRP10/05/26 08:55 PM
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As a fellow member of the IT space, I'm curious on why you are so attached to your job? Your job is not your identity. Your time in the Service was and is not your identity. How far along are you on your journey at MRP? You sound new. Start with reading the sidebar and putting together a map. No one can answer what your mission or purpose is in life, but it sure is hell is not your career.
/r/askMRP20/08/25 05:11 PM
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The other comments are spot on. You are mentally weak. You have, what a lot of guys around here would call, a permanent plate. You aren't ready for a relationship, let alone mentally prepared for one, while she is a single mom approaching the wall. STFU & sidebar from this point onward.
/r/askMRP26/11/24 02:50 AM
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Way too much rambling for me to care about a guy who hasn't even looked at the sidebar; forget about reading anything in it. All I will say is that your wife dives into work and extra curricular activities to escape you. The life you built with her. The life you built around her. The life you live with her. The life you need from her. The life that has everything that surrounds her. Everything that is around you. Ponder that...
/r/askMRP16/10/24 08:29 AM
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Ideally, you want to have multiple different social circles to be involved with.
/r/askMRP06/06/24 02:04 AM
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I'm curious how far along you are on your MAP? A few things stand out that are glaring red flags for me on what you mentioned. We havent discussed divorce yet STFU. Have you not read the sidebar? For fuck sakes, most of you want the best results without doing the work. If you read through any of the divorce prep section on the sidebar, or any other material in the TRP space around the force, you shut your mouth when it comes to separation of a live-in or a divorce. I dont want to leave them with…
/r/askMRP02/04/24 11:34 PM
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That's not reading the sidebar... You are on one book. Post in OYS weekly if you want regular feedback. You still have to do the work though.
/r/askMRP06/01/24 02:11 AM
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I think ltr works best for me and my situation felt like i'm better off with mrp That's not how it works around here... You are trying to sprinkle some magical mrp on your situation. Have you read the sidebar? I think not... It takes years of dating before a relationship can even unfold, let alone marriage. Go and read through the sidebar, post in OYS, put together a map, and get going. Sounds like you haven't learned any of the basics here; get to work.
/r/askMRP06/01/24 02:03 AM
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What are your stats? Lifts? Sidebar material? We know '0' about you.
/r/askMRP06/01/24 12:51 AM
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I have read through all your comments on this post; you aren't getting it.
/r/askMRP04/01/24 02:35 AM
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It's clear what the issue here is... You are looking for a woman to fix your feelz and be your mommy. You mention how she makes you feel save, gives you good feelings, and how she is so special to you. Sure, a case of oneitis and a man that has no direction or substance in his own life. I seriously doubt you read the sidebar, let alone spent anytime lifting. Your unattractive qualities not only pushed her away from you, but she actively didn't want to engage with you when you were around. I agre…
/r/askMRP27/12/23 11:58 PM
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How does that apply here? The relationship/marriage is over. His woman has checked out. Infidelity is upwards of 95% here. He is not interested in fixing him.
/r/askMRP19/12/23 05:38 AM
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Frame is who you are and how you view the world from your POV. Until you understand the basics of 'frame', you will never be able to fully grasp it.
/r/askMRP17/12/23 01:00 AM
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You remind me of some of the simp IT guys I have worked with over the years... How's your MAP going?
/r/askMRP15/12/23 04:52 AM
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As someone who has been working in IT for the last 15 years, please do not keep personal documents on your work laptop. It takes one situation with your boss or the company before the tell you to hand in your shit ASAP while not being able to get that content/info back.
/r/askMRP14/12/23 02:12 AM
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Give me your best response if you were publicly emasculated by your significant other. Walking away... That is the ultimate sign of disrespect = public shaming.
/r/askMRP15/11/23 05:53 PM
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I am 25 years old. I just got out of a one year relationship with the crazy BPD Latina. Another post where a guy doesn't know the difference of dating and being in a relationship. I have a main plate that has been around two years longer than your "relationship". This is MRP, not TRP. You are not a victim. Go read through the sidebar, shut your mouth, make a MAP, and post in OYS if you are serious about improving you - next.
/r/askMRP15/11/23 05:44 PM
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My (34M) girlfriend (31) of 1 year and 4 months of relationship gave me al ultimatum of getting married Realistically, she should have been a plate for the first year. Go read through the sidebar thoroughly to understand the different phases (dating, relationship, engagement, and marriage) to best prepare you in the future. Just over a year is absolutely nothing.
/r/askMRP14/11/23 08:19 PM
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6' 4", South Asian (Pakistani), 262 lb (27% BF) You still have a solid 12 to 18 months of cutting down your BF before you can talk about your SMV improving drastically.
/r/askMRP07/11/23 04:13 AM
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reading through side bar, watched all BPP stuff and reading No More Mr. Nice Guy now. And I’m currently lifting as well. Been doing this for about 3 weeks to a month now. Sounds like you haven't even built up the basis of your MAP, retard.
/r/askMRP01/11/23 09:56 PM
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Wow, so much going on here. The others have talked a lot around the lack of respect your wife has for you, which is true. However, you have a lack of respect for yourself. Why are you arguing with your wife? You mentioned you read NMMNG, right? Read it again and internalize the book, followed by going through the rest of the sidebar. You still worry and care way too much on what your wife thinks/wants/needs/etc. Focus on you.
/r/askMRP30/10/23 09:31 PM
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Going to counselling or therapy for your relationship is frowned upon in this area TRP/MRP. When it comes to yourself, the sidebar is where you have to build yourself to become your own, personal therapist.
/r/askMRP05/10/23 03:47 AM
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Do the laundry, cook, do the dishes, shower the kids, tuck them into bed as early as possible so that by 8pm-9pm there's nothing left to do and your wife has already started to relax and get in a mental state that is appropriate for sexy time. You clearly are new here. The sidebar is your requirement as well as OPs.
/r/askMRP26/09/23 12:22 AM
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No mention of the sidebar either, retard.
/r/askMRP26/09/23 12:21 AM
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She kept talking about wanting an "amicable separation". Why do you care though? Women doing women things - AWALT. You have ignored, downvoted, or haven't responded to any of the comments around you needing to put the work in on yourself. Based on your post and responses, you are here larping for an answer that will fix the best fantasy you already have in your head of your post-wall ex, who was doing what a woman does - all in the sidebar. I doubt you have any women in your dating rotation eith…
/r/askMRP12/09/23 03:06 AM
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Just a final caveat, this IS NOT a post about "help me use the red pill to get back with her". Clearly it is... You came here to tell us that you are a nice guy and that you are still hamstering about your ex. It's pretty clear that you haven't even started to work on your map. Sounds like you haven't even started lifting; nor, worked on any of the sidebar material. You divorced your ex-wife and you have a story for us. Cool. Where is the work being done on your side? You are a 40 year old man t…
/r/askMRP11/09/23 10:41 PM
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This is the essence of red pill insight: If you're the highest value man in her life, she's unlikely to stray. If you're not, she may dream of branch swinging to a better male. Even if she does stray and you are an HVM, you will have the ability to replace her with someone better and younger.
/r/askMRP06/09/23 04:09 AM
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I have come to this post on four separate occasions. You have changed and updated this post four times because people have called you out on your shit. Stop being a lazy cunt and OYS.
/r/askMRP28/08/23 04:33 AM
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F-closing hot, exotic early 20yos within mere days just requires you do some approaches and let things unfold. No perfection required. When a girl wants you to succeed you can get away with a lot of stupid shit. I think a lot of men over the age of 35+ [separated/divorced] tend to overthink way too much when it comes to dating; especially, the guys that have their own life on point. I would argue that dating women becomes easier the older you get. The quality of men between the ages of 30 and 50…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/23 09:10 PM
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Read the first book of the TRM series (on the sidebar) and it explains everything you want to know in detail...
/r/askMRP10/08/23 01:37 AM
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If you talk the way you write, I'm not surprised she left your ass. Sounds like you don't have anything interesting going on in your life and you haven't internalized any of the sidebar material. I'm a 25YO dude, mid May I had a breakup with my now ex gf (24) I dated this girl for only 7 months That's not a relationship, that's a plate... Sounds like you have done zero work. Watching YouTube videos doesn't count as work. Read the books and posts at MRP, you lazy cunt. FYI, I have been dating one…
/r/askMRP07/08/23 10:18 PM
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If you keep the hammer down like you are doing, it will not only benefit you but the relationship in the long term.
/r/askMRP07/08/23 09:34 PM
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This all depends on how attractive you are. You haven't given us any info about you... That's not how it works around here.
/r/askMRP05/08/23 12:01 AM
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Low effort post. Give us more detail on you and what you have been working on & doing.
/r/askMRP31/07/23 08:58 PM
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You tell ten girls to meet you at a bar/park/landmark “because it’s near my place”. Two or three of them will just say “OK” and be there in an hour or at least the next day. Establish you’re not a psycho and invite them to yours for wine. Fuck them. Bang. First day lay. This is actually pretty damn close to what I normally do with new women I go out with; except, I do pick them up from time to time to and build on the "comfort drive to [X] as it's favourite spot (park/viewpoint/coffee, etc.)" as…
/r/askMRP29/07/23 03:58 AM
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This is a retarded post... The others are right, this is basic level entry trp shit. It's easy. Become attractive, try different things, figure out what works for you and doesn't, and set boundaries for what you are willing to put up with.
/r/askMRP28/07/23 07:12 AM
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Where have we gone wrong here? These past 2 weeks she has been arguing with me about going. Good start. I initially told her she has to go and I dont want to waste the $500 on her ticket. Your fault. She got really ugly today and made up some lie involving her parents. She later admits to lying and starts another argument. You have a lot of problems in your trial marriage right now. Care to guess what they are? I told her tonight that I dont want her to accompany me. She wasn't interested from t…
/r/askMRP28/07/23 03:57 AM
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The worst thing would be to dump her, get in another relationship, and end up in exactly the same situation three years from now. That's exactly why I said ask yourself whether or not you would still choose her a year from now. Most of us who have went through our own MAP at one point or another, whether it was six months to over a year later, have changed their minds after fixing themselves.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/07/23 01:27 AM
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Are most of the reasons I chose to marry her still there? Yes or I’d have already moved on. Keep the gas pedal to the floor along with the work you are putting in; afterward, ask yourself this question a year from now. You might be surprised with your answer if you are being honest with yourself. The mental frame work takes months to years to develop before you can really see clearly on what you want, what you are willing to put up with, and what you are willing to walk away from.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/23 11:45 PM
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Learn to keep your mouth shut. It will help you out in the long run.
/r/askMRP26/07/23 09:51 PM
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I (20 M ) Worry about how you’re gonna retire by the time you’re 40 instead. Sounds like you are one of those chase excellence TRP guys...
/r/askMRP26/07/23 09:29 PM
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If interested DM me we can talk it over, Thanks We are not your friends... Stop being a lazy cunt and do the work on your own.
/r/askMRP26/07/23 07:28 PM
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I’m 22, young dumb and full of cum and currently in an LTR with a girl I want to keep into old age 100%, while juggling online businesses and focusing my time solely on that. Doubt it's an "LTR"; you don't even know the difference between dating & relationships. Go to the sidebar as the others mentioned and get to work.
/r/askMRP26/07/23 06:50 PM
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Dude, do you work at CNN? I think he works at CNR.
/r/askMRP26/07/23 04:13 AM
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I went on my wife's phone. Found evidence of disloyalty. Confronted her. I can confidently say I was wrong. Sounds like you have no idea what you are doing and you haven't even touched the sidebar, let alone started lifting heavy. Get to work, fatty.
/r/askMRP26/07/23 03:34 AM
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Yikes...
/r/askMRP13/07/23 11:57 PM
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Good sex is your responsibility.
/r/askMRP13/07/23 01:11 AM
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Oh, we understand... You are an unattractive guy who was dating a woman for 9 months (not a relationship, by the way), who is needy, has no options, and doesn't have frame.
/r/askMRP13/07/23 01:08 AM
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Shut the fuck up, go lift, and hit the sidebar. Why are you even here?
/r/askMRP13/07/23 12:54 AM
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This guy is hitting up random subs looking for "help" on his unattractive behaviours and lack of work - this is too smart for him.
/r/askMRP13/07/23 12:54 AM
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You have no options, clearly...
/r/askMRP13/07/23 12:50 AM
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Other people are going to comment on the main question of your post, but something stood out to me as we are around the same age group. I've hit the point in my marriage where I'm pretty happy with my income, my lifting progress, and my social life. Are you sure about this? I only mention this because I've read and been around a lot of guys who mention that "everything's great!", they have hit their "plateau", and are comfortable. Only to contradict themselves down the line... There is always ro…
/r/askMRP10/07/23 04:30 AM
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So, with this small context, what is the best way to handle wife's genuine anger at my advances? Stop touching your wife. Focus more on you and improve for yourself. It sounds like your mental frame is still wrapped around your wife, validation, and sex. Most guys do not understand how important the mental aspect to your frame is when it comes to SMV; it's not just lifting.
/r/askMRP05/07/23 07:20 PM
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So you dated her for two years before promoting her to a relationship? Good man. Always take your time before promoting plates to an LTR. That's one of the best pieces of advice when it comes to dating.
/r/askMRP04/07/23 07:59 AM
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Time to find a new train Uhhh, absolutely not... Are you new here? The guy is a train wreck, fucking dumpster fire... He needs a solid year or two of serious work on himself. Did you read the post?
/r/askMRP03/07/23 08:02 AM
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So you found this place, recognized the truths discussed here, and yet chose to ignore them and continued to act like a bitch... Yeah, I called BS on this guy the second I read the first part...
/r/askMRP03/07/23 08:00 AM
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What's the question here?
/r/askMRP01/07/23 04:36 AM
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I agree with the others; keep the foot on the gas. That said, even though you don't have kids, you will probably be on the hook for some kind of payment or buyout situation since your STBX was a SAHM... Talk with your lawyer on this one. One of my old colleagues had to payout his ex after moving out of their communal place at the end of the relationship. This depends a lot on your state/province and how good your STBX's lawyer is.
/r/askMRP27/06/23 06:01 AM
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If you are being honest with yourself and the work you are putting in, it can take anywhere from months to years; especially, when it comes to your mental framework.
/r/askMRP25/06/23 08:33 AM
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Do I need to man the fuck up and accept the possibility that she hooked up? Only you can decide and answer this question.
/r/askMRP21/06/23 10:34 PM
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I work 12 hours a day she's a SAHW I'm really trying to build a business and stay focused. These three items don't jive for your situation; therefore, you will need to put them on a priority here. In addition, how many days a week are you lifting heavy? Like, actually lifting heavy? A lot of guys are talking about low t, but at 36 (similar age here), there should be no reason you aren't lifting regularly which will help with your T. Final thought here... You can "chase excellence" all day long, …
/r/askMRP18/06/23 07:15 PM
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Solid post. And that, lads, is why we leave the cage door open… Only to women who are already invested in you, as this doesn't work with new women you are dating that have low interest/ghost/re-schedule on you. This is where most guys get confused by this. I have seen this A LOT in MRP with freshly divorced men out in the dating market.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/23 11:58 PM
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as I said, i've been applying TRP/MRP since about 3-4y, and I like it a lot, I feel I live by my standards and in honesty with myself now/finally. Sounds like you weren't actually applying anything at all... Get to work.
/r/askMRP13/06/23 06:11 AM
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Women respect men worth respecting -> sidebar.
/r/askMRP13/06/23 05:34 AM
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This place is toxic - y’all wrecked it. That's a former mod. This "place" (TRP/MRP/PUA/etc.) was never meant to be a handholding place to sing songs together and act as one; it's about swapping notes.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/23 03:37 AM
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Only an absolute fucking retard leaves the marital/common-law home without consulting a lawyer... Edit: To the cheeky bastard who sent me a DM asking; 'Why not just leave the house if you are common-law with no kids?', should probably review your state laws around common-law to see what happens if you just leave...
/r/askMRP08/06/23 01:53 AM
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Met this woman 1.5 years ago and started dating her very fast. You started dating her very fast? No, you mean you started in a relationship with her very fast - fixed.
/r/askMRP07/06/23 11:42 PM
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A retard that hits up random subs...
/r/askMRP02/06/23 11:54 PM
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This post is retarded... The reason all of us came to this space originally (TRP/MRP) was out of a frustration that was going on in our lives with women, or areas of our life that weren't going particularly well. This place has not and will never be a "team mindset" where we are holding each others hands and wishing for the best. It never has, it never will. The point of this space is "Rule Zero"; men swapping notes. If you want to post, then make a post on something you have been working on or …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/23 07:49 PM
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But I'm trying to understand my flawed mental model and what I need to do to fix it. Are you able to pull other women? Serious question here...
/r/askMRP31/05/23 07:41 PM
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The entire post is written from your wife's view... Start with the sidebar and work on your shit. Forget your wife, the sex, everything else you mentioned. Become attractive first, for you. Your mental models need to be worked on the most.
/r/askMRP31/05/23 07:41 PM
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Based on how you write this cesspool, I doubt this is an LTR... Probably some plate you think is really invested in you. She said she needs some time and will get back to me. I mean, if she is a plate (some girl you are dating), of course she needs time... You became unattractive to her and she is weighing out her new existing options on the sexual market place. What do y’all think of this situation? What would you do? Sidebar, shut your mouth, & lift.
/r/askMRP24/05/23 03:51 AM
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but after discovering MRP, Ive been working through the side bar and what was a good relationship is becoming great. Have you come across the part where if the wife is open to 3-ways (MFF), that she will be soon looking for her "own" 3 way (FMM) yet?
/r/askMRP21/05/23 04:04 AM
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Totally noob here. Trying to read as many RP articles as possible. Appr. 4 times in a long marriage my wifes sexuality and openness to try something extra in bed have gone through the roof. Simple. You aren't attractive enough. Noob, no work done, but asking questions already? Yeah, keep reading. We have all been there. Sidebar, lift, outcome independence - the works. I agree with the other commenters that your wife has options and these are one-off situations. It's not about her, it's about you…
/r/askMRP16/05/23 02:11 AM
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This is all located in the sidebar. Attractive men have options in every aspect of their life, not just with women. Are you an interesting man that other people want to be around? Start there. I'm hoping you are out there living life and not hanging around at home with your wife 24/7. Go read through some of the old 60 DoD posts on 'Social Life' to get a better idea.
/r/askMRP06/05/23 05:48 AM
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Been together just over 3.5 years. Depending on where you live, you might be living in a common law territory which means you are effectively married. I suggest talking with a lawyer before moving out, even if the lease comes up in July. My old neighbour was on the hook (legally) as his former live-in GF/SO went to get a lawyer to serve him with papers because he wanted to exit the lease early and they didn't even have kids. Do some research first before committing to anything - STFU.
/r/askMRP02/05/23 02:22 AM
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One month in is nothing... Keep the hammer down for five more months before evaluating.
/r/askMRP24/04/23 06:13 AM
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Don't be a schlub.
/r/askMRP04/04/23 12:17 AM
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I don't think you are taking any of this (sidebar, lifting, living your own life, OYS, etc.) seriously at all. You just keep posting random questions without doing any actual work. Maybe start doing some work on yourself; rather, than just "sprinkling alfa" on the problem you see without actively diagnosing the real issue - you.
/r/askMRP23/03/23 09:42 PM
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Any tips? How do you deal with stuff when you're at work or away and she's throwing her emotions at you through the phone? Texting is for logistics. Get off the phone...
/r/askMRP22/03/23 01:26 PM
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I'm new to MRP. Same story for the rest of us that came here originally... Sidebar -->
/r/askMRP17/03/23 10:17 PM
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