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There's a young man at my husband's work that my husband is trying to help, but he said he doesn't know how to put into words what kinds of things to do. Outside of him seeing him flirt with other women (which is absolutely not an option), he's not really sure how to help the guy. I offered to invite him to dinner thinking that maybe just having a normal, platonic interaction with a woman might help, but he thinks that's not a good idea either.
/r/seduction26/06/22 11:28 PM
3

You're very beautiful. I think it has to be some kind of personality issue. What are your interests and hobbies?
/r/seduction26/06/22 04:46 AM
1

This happened to my husband as well.
/r/seduction25/06/22 03:03 PM
10

This is true, I can say a man is conventionally attractive but still have 0 interest.
/r/seduction25/06/22 01:56 PM
1

I think you're absolutely gorgeous!! I don't think your appearance is the problem. What are your hobbies and interests?
/r/seduction25/06/22 12:20 AM
1

Yea!! Flirting is fun to me, but it kind of came naturally for whatever reason! I hope you get some confidence about it and get out there and use it!!
/r/seduction24/06/22 12:24 AM
1

Do you have any female friends you could maybe practice with?
/r/seduction23/06/22 06:05 PM
3

How old are you?
/r/seduction22/06/22 12:41 AM
5

None. I think as people we should always be willing to self reflect and improve. And it isn't even just for the betterment of those around us, but even for ourselves. Your quality of life goes up when you consider others. But I am probably falling in deaf ears here.
/r/seduction22/06/22 12:33 AM
1

I misunderstood the title and was confused the entire time reading that. But good for you man! I thought about suggesting meetup, was kinda like why bother? I'm happy it worked out for you!
/r/seduction21/06/22 10:03 PM
2

I think it's important to be honest about your intentions and desires. Otherwise you could unintentionally lead her into believing something more is going on. Unless you're cool with damaging people for your own self gain. If that's the case by all means, do as you please.
/r/seduction21/06/22 02:31 AM
2

You got it! 😉
/r/seduction21/06/22 01:44 AM
2

Thanks! I appreciate it!! I hope things go well for you in your life as well!!
/r/seduction21/06/22 01:38 AM
5

No I actually totally understand. I'm in the same boat. People think because you're pretty or hot that life is a piece of cake, but you can still actually think you're a worthless pile of garbage. My husband is my biggest supporter and I literally don't know how I'd be getting along in life without him.
/r/seduction21/06/22 01:35 AM
3

So much this!!
/r/seduction21/06/22 01:29 AM
1

I hear you, I almost never sweat except when I lift. Probably, though, because I'm in a near constant state of dehydration.
/r/seduction20/06/22 01:27 AM
1

You're not wrong at all. It has so much to do with confidence. However, I have social anxiety and hide behind my natural charisma. On the inside I'm freaking out, but outwardly I seem like I have game lol. Years ago this was, mind you.
/r/seduction20/06/22 01:09 AM
4

I put an ad on CL looking for friends. He responded, and we emailed back and forth to each other for a while before meeting in person. I had vehicle issues which he offered to fix, but I was uncomfortable with that. We ended up having a picnic in the park and the rest is pretty much history.
/r/seduction19/06/22 03:16 PM
1

I'm saying that why some men seem to have more success is because of natural charisma. People with this is are natural manipulators. Meaning they can seem to be whatever the woman wants him to be for short periods of time.
/r/seduction19/06/22 02:00 PM
1

I truly don't know if it can be taught. My personal belief though is that one either has it or they don't. But I don't claim to be an expert either.
/r/seduction19/06/22 04:12 AM
1

Not intentionally. But yes, charisma
/r/seduction19/06/22 04:10 AM
5

Naturally charismatic people have it easier for sure, but that's because they learned how to read people and react accordingly. Not because every woman is the same.
/r/seduction18/06/22 10:08 PM
3

Oh lol
/r/seduction18/06/22 09:53 PM
6

Yes that's literally what I just said, what they want to hear. Where is the confusion on your end?
/r/seduction18/06/22 09:51 PM
5

That there is a one size fits all solution to understanding all women and once unlocked you can get any woman you want, cause you know, we're all the same and we all want the exact same thing.
/r/seduction18/06/22 09:42 PM
7

Yea they don't want to hear that in this sub though lol
/r/seduction18/06/22 09:28 PM
13

Varies from woman to woman and something to be asked of the specific woman in question.
/r/seduction18/06/22 07:27 PM
3

This is probably accurate tbh
/r/seduction18/06/22 02:55 AM
1

This made me laugh too hard though
/r/seduction17/06/22 02:18 AM
7

I hate to agree...but this. My husband could have given 2 shits whether I wanted him or not when we first got together...it bothered me for a bit when he told me this (after we were married), but it was something that made home stand out. He wasn't needy or clingy. He was ok either way it went. This made.me.feel comfortable and relaxed. I think it'spart of what made things work.
/r/seduction16/06/22 02:04 AM
3

Sounds like you're looking for a deeper connection with someone to me. I (personally) always felt this way when I was hooking up.
/r/seduction15/06/22 10:37 PM
3

Nice!! Best of luck!
/r/seduction12/06/22 10:04 PM
2

Yep, I wouldn't focus on that part too much. You said you could tell she was having a good time despite this, so just roll with it!
/r/seduction12/06/22 09:59 PM
7

I think you're misunderstanding my use of the term. I mean, perhaps you make her nervous because she thinks you're a catch or out of her league or things like that.
/r/seduction12/06/22 09:56 PM
12

It's possible she was intimidated. I can't hold eye contact if I'm nervous around someone.
/r/seduction12/06/22 09:51 PM
1

Maybe you're intimidating? How does it usually go when you approach?
/r/seduction12/06/22 12:00 PM
1

Probably
/r/seduction10/06/22 07:52 PM
0

Write your number down on a piece of paper. Hand it to him, and say "hit me up sometime" right at the end of your shift so you can leave right away. Don't wait for his response unless he stops you.
/r/seduction10/06/22 04:23 PM
1

Just straight up ask him if wants to hook up some time.
/r/seduction10/06/22 04:20 PM
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I agree. He did very well in this situation. Because women are actually...hold on... people....I'm not even a feminist, but damnit does this sun not make me feel think most guys don't realize this.
/r/seduction09/06/22 01:12 AM
2

Learn how to read body language. And be natural. Idk about other women but I've always been able to tell when a man is nervous around me. Be cool and collected. Calm and casual.
/r/seduction09/06/22 12:51 AM
3

My husband grows his hair to shoulder length at my request....for me, yes! It's sexy! Q
/r/seduction09/06/22 12:44 AM
1

My husband made me want to chase him. I don't enjoy that, but he didn't seem to give any shits whether I was into him or not. And that was appealing for whatever reason.
/r/seduction09/06/22 12:26 AM
3

I said I didn't have any and he left. The end.
/r/seduction09/06/22 12:06 AM
1

Lol yea I'm not sure I understand. But it's all good. It seems to me though like you're seeking a certain personality, rather than an age. I'm not trying to tell you what you like or anything, just what it sounds like to me. I hope you find what you're looking for!
/r/seduction08/06/22 12:03 AM
1

Look I'm seriously not judging you, just wondering out of curiosity. I don't necessarily think there is anything wrong with what you want. There can be in some cases. It seems to me though, in yours, that you're just looking for someone who is young at heart honestly. Me and my husband are 15 years apart and are a great match. He is literally my best friend, so an 8 year difference is literally nothing to me! I was just wondering if you developed a relationship with an 18-19 year old and things …
/r/seduction07/06/22 11:49 PM
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Hmm this actually happened to me, but I was young and thought he genuinely needed sugar. I didn't have any.
/r/seduction07/06/22 11:29 PM
1

How old are you? If you don't mind.
/r/seduction07/06/22 07:48 PM
1

So you're chasing an experience then. I'm not sure what you mean about tolerating a 22 year old. Like, women become annoying at this point or unattractive at this point? Just curious.
/r/seduction07/06/22 07:29 PM
5

No, it looks immature. Self control is way more appealing!
/r/seduction07/06/22 12:47 PM
1

Why do you specifically only want to date 18-19 year olds though? At those specific ages you're in totally different life phases.... usually
/r/seduction07/06/22 10:08 AM
1

I was dating a guy before I met my husband and my mom literally told me he was too ugly for me. He was a really nice guy though and a good person. In the end it was the long distance that ended it.
/r/seduction06/06/22 07:28 PM
2

Be interesting. Sex appeal will not keep a man interested for the long term. That's how you get one, not how you keep one. Be willing to connect with someone on a deeper level beyond the physical.
/r/seduction06/06/22 03:16 PM
5

"you know, I can't give you what you want if you can't tell me what it is" with a coy winky face
/r/seduction05/06/22 07:41 PM
6

Maybe ask something like "how do you expect to find it if you don't know what it is you want?" But maybe less salty sounding.
/r/seduction05/06/22 07:29 PM
6

I would move on personally. If they don't know what they're looking for how can they expect to find it. Same type of person will likely expect you to just know what she wants.
/r/seduction05/06/22 07:25 PM
2

For sure! Gotta watch it when you're naturally a smartass. Not only when you drink but even if your emotions (like getting annoyed by the other guy) are growing negative it can make all your normally funny and lighthearted banter seem more rude and aggressive. I experienced this with my family at a reunion one time. I didn't even realize I was being mean, but I was annoyed, and it showed in my tone and inflection.
/r/seduction05/06/22 06:24 PM
1

Same
/r/seduction04/06/22 09:52 PM
1

You shouldn't feel that way about going downhill. I think men are most attractive in their 30s and 40s and even into their 50s. You start looking less like a boy and more like a man.
/r/seduction03/06/22 12:31 PM
4

You do you. I'm not judging. I was just saying to specifically chase barely adult females just for fucking is kind of gross to me. Me and my husband are 15 years apart. The age gap isn't the issue for me. I guess it's the using of younger women thing that's the problem. If there's honesty about intention and she's into it still that's all well and good. But far too often promises are made to get into these younger women's pants. Which is where I made the distinction of innocent vs predatory. And…
/r/seduction02/06/22 10:21 AM
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I'm seeing a lot of comments about predatory behavior being a concern, which is understandable. But my question to the men who are trying to date younger women is what is the intention? Are you dating younger because you want to settle down and start a family? It makes sense to me that you'd look for someone younger. Or are you fetishizing a certain age category and get bored once they come to a certain age. If so, that right there IS actually predatory behavior.
/r/seduction01/06/22 05:52 PM
3

Could also be that if you have to "try" to be nice it's noticable and seems insincere.
/r/seduction30/05/22 10:51 PM
5

Indeed.
/r/seduction30/05/22 03:44 PM
14

I read somewhere that rape is usually about power and dominance vs actual attraction
/r/seduction30/05/22 02:00 PM
5

This is such a good answer!!
/r/seduction28/05/22 02:44 PM
1

Right you are, I missed that
/r/seduction28/05/22 02:17 PM
1

I agree with all of this except the thriving off of competition thing. They may compete but they don't all necessarily like it or want to.
/r/seduction28/05/22 02:10 PM
1

Nice
/r/seduction28/05/22 01:57 PM
1

The swimming pool is inside the house? Cool? Have fun with all that
/r/seduction28/05/22 01:55 PM
2

I also want to point out that most women also have standards. Are the standards always equal to their attractiveness, probably not as you know all too well
/r/seduction28/05/22 01:55 PM
3

Lmfao 🤣 wow bro. Holy shit! That is some next level delusion right there. First not all hot girls give a fuck about money. Second, you said you make good money and are about to buy a house...that doesn't necessarily equal "rich". Well good luck out there man.
/r/seduction28/05/22 01:53 PM
6

Why would a hot girl want to go out with you? You say you're average looking, which ok, may or may not be the reason you're not succeeding. But beyond that all I'm seeing is a narcissist. That's not an attractive quality and can be easy to pick up on. At the very least you're extremely entitled, another unattractive quality. I think maybe you haven't worked on your personality as much as you claim.
/r/seduction28/05/22 01:49 PM
5

So do they, and since you're having this problem, they realize this and curb you.
/r/seduction28/05/22 01:44 PM
6

So you're upset that you're only getting less attractive girls because you're less attractive? I don't see why you'd be complaining about being judged based on your looks when that's obviously how you judge women as well.
/r/seduction28/05/22 01:42 PM
4

Ew.. .but how used do they gotta be
/r/seduction27/05/22 05:18 PM
0

I'm not on dating apps and dunno if it helps but I like bullet points
/r/seduction25/05/22 01:17 AM
1

I was sitting with my husband at a restaurant and got nervous/embarrassed when I had to waive him to us for more water. It happens. But I still asked for the water. This is maybe a bad relation to what you're talking about. Social anxiety does suck though. I'm sorry.
/r/seduction25/05/22 01:07 AM
0

You know, I laughed, but I shouldn't have. I was once young and .. anyway...the question brought up memories ... Of a simpler time. If you want to know more... message me. I don't want to offend too many delicate sensibilities here. I digress.
/r/seduction06/04/22 01:33 AM
5

Definitely avoid women who want you to immediately spend money on them. Honestly with?
/r/seduction05/12/21 06:13 AM
1

Really?? How do you mean though? And who gets to draw that line?
/r/seduction16/08/21 08:47 PM
2

My mother was extremely controlling over how I dressed, all the way up to when I was 17. I wouldn't be able to abide in a relationship where I wasn't free to dress as I please. That being said I do have a couple of outfits that he's asked me to keep for him only and I don't have a problem with that.
/r/seduction16/08/21 08:22 PM
3

Bold of you to assume I have a bed
/r/seduction13/08/21 02:20 AM
1

Depends on the woman. My husband only had some aquaintances when we met, no close friends. He has a couple now that he would call friends (from work). I didn't have any friends at the time either and still don't really. We're both kind of introverted anyway and it works out fine. We are each other's best friend. I've read on here that people seem to think of this as a bad thing, but it's been working for us just fine. To each their own.
/r/seduction11/08/21 02:21 PM
59

Oh! Like anything, I misunderstood. Probably won't live long anyway.
/r/seduction11/08/21 12:54 AM
27

Starbucks? That's a shot in the dark though honestly and I did not read any comments before posting this btw.
/r/seduction11/08/21 12:50 AM
1

Yea that's probably what it is. I don't think I've ever gotten an unsolicited dick pic lmao.
/r/seduction04/08/21 08:19 PM
1

That's odd though. I would think it's a small subset of guys who do do that, rather than the other way around. Curious.
/r/seduction04/08/21 06:17 PM
2

Yes
/r/seduction04/08/21 01:03 PM
46

I liked the post too. But when we say "nice", I think there's some kind of difference in the minds of women and men as to what that looks like. I think when we (or I should say I, so I'm not speaking for others) say "nice", what I'm talking about is respectful. Not pandering, or pedestalizing (is that a word?). I liked your points as well and I would say that women should also seek to be a prize as well. If you're both a prize, it's a win win.
/r/seduction03/08/21 05:55 PM
1

Yea I know, I'm just saying it could be cool to some women if that's something they don't experience all the time is all.
/r/seduction03/08/21 05:44 PM
2

If it's uncommon to ride a bus for her, she might think it's cool. I've only ridden city bus twice and I thought it was awesome. I was also 17 at the time. Hope this is at least somewhat helpful.
/r/seduction03/08/21 02:45 PM
1

Lmao then we actually agree. But alot of what's put out on here is how to manipulate women. Are you saying it isn't so?
/r/seduction02/08/21 01:08 AM
1

I literally said it isn't right to be manipulative...?
/r/seduction01/08/21 04:10 PM
1

Not saying women don't. Just said I've never seen it IRL, which seems to be strikingly different than the world of reddit ngl. I said people who feel the need to shit test have something wrong with them. They should be avoided. They don't know how to use their words to find out the things they want to know, so they use some asinine mind fuckery instead? Nah, I'm good on that.
/r/seduction01/08/21 01:43 PM
1

I'm not being salty. I'm not upset at all, not even with you. I'm just telling you that you're wrong. Shit testing is childish. Do you hear yourself? I've never done it do anyone, and I think people who feel the need to rely on this type of manipulation are mentally unstable.
/r/seduction01/08/21 01:36 PM
2

A woman is far less likely to want to form a LTR with a man they know has played games with their mind in order to bed them. If that's all you're after, it's whatever. But if you're wondering why women won't take you seriously for a relationship, you have your answer. Self sabotage is a real thing.
/r/seduction01/08/21 01:15 PM
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I am here for entertainment, but the advice I offer here is genuinely to help. Sometimes you guys give each other awful advice. It should be pointed out.
/r/seduction01/08/21 01:12 PM
0

I've literally only ever heard of a shit test on here. I've never seen anyone do it. I think people who shit test are mentally unstable and to be avoided.
/r/seduction01/08/21 01:11 PM
1

You are welcome lady
/r/seduction01/08/21 12:52 AM
0

You're very welcome
/r/seduction01/08/21 12:50 AM
1

I can see why you need this sub. I feel like I'll be really good at growing a garden without understanding anything about gardening. I just need to know that dirt and seeds exist.
/r/seduction01/08/21 12:49 AM
-5

They think they are right and you are wrong. Doesn't matter that you're a woman lol. They'll say shit like "don't ask a fish how to catch a fish", like that relates at all to women. They don't want to understand, they want to know how to manipulate and use, and they get frustrated when they can't do it successfully. :When I say they I don't mean all...but seemingly most on this sub, which I am on mostly for entertainment if I'm being honest.
/r/seduction01/08/21 12:37 AM
-6

Disagree lmao omg wtf?? You're asking how to better understand women....by asking men? Repeat that to yourself.
/r/seduction01/08/21 12:34 AM
1

Yea this honestly just speaks to your confidence. Confidence is naturally attractive.
/r/seduction01/08/21 12:33 AM
4

Everyone doesn't play games though. I've always been a person who wears their heart on their sleeve. I don't like lying and I say what I like and what I don't like. What I want, and what I don't want, etc. I'm not at all a fan of bullshit or time wasting. What's the point of that?
/r/seduction01/08/21 12:30 AM
0

This is terrible advice. In fact, if she's still interested after feeling you're disinterested, that's more telling of some instabilities.
/r/seduction01/08/21 12:04 AM
1

Finally some acknowledgment
/r/seduction01/08/21 12:03 AM
2

Hahaha yea there's several bots like that on here. Not sure what triggers them to respond though
/r/seduction31/07/21 11:50 PM
1

Lol!! I never used the dating sites so can't really relate, just wondering why they even match if they don't want that too. Sorry for all the fakes!
/r/seduction31/07/21 11:49 PM
1

That's a good bot
/r/seduction31/07/21 11:41 PM
1

Have you put in your bio that this is what you're seeking?
/r/seduction31/07/21 11:40 PM
1

Idk if this bit is helpful at all but I was 24 when we met and 25 when we married. I'd advise not to necessarily avoid single mothers lol, but definitely don't compare yourself with your ex wife. It's not a competition, though I know it can feel that way.
/r/seduction31/07/21 11:36 PM
1

That's right!! And being 30 does not at all mean you can't still find someone. My husband was 39 when we met and 40 when we got married.
/r/seduction31/07/21 11:26 PM
1

I understand! We just got a car note after swearing we never would just to have something my husband wasn't working on every weekend. Life can be a bitch, but being willing to push through is a really awesome character trait to have my guy!
/r/seduction31/07/21 11:00 PM
1

You're definitely reading it wrong
/r/seduction31/07/21 10:44 PM
1

You're definitely not a bum if your supporting yourself! Lots of us are doing the paycheck to paycheck thing. Anyone who's not out of touch wouldn't hold that against you....I think
/r/seduction31/07/21 10:44 PM
1

Yeeeeea we can laugh about it now, they'll never find the bodies at this point
/r/seduction31/07/21 10:43 PM
6

I have no idea lol. Not knowing their intentions is what shut me down. If I had a dollar for every time I got offered rides from dudes, I'd have at least like 20 bucks. But I never did it, cause murder.
/r/seduction31/07/21 10:32 PM
1

Nah lol sorry! Missed opportunity there!
/r/seduction31/07/21 10:11 PM
1

I declined lol
/r/seduction31/07/21 06:47 PM
5

Very very long ago, in the distant past I was begged to climb out of the drive thru window and go party with this group of dudes, when I worked at McDonald's.
/r/seduction31/07/21 06:32 PM
1

Generally where her body and feet are facing is where her interests lie. Same for most people if not conscious of it. It's also a cool way to tell who the "leader" of a group is. All feet will be pointing towards that person. Look up some body language tips on YouTube, it's pretty interesting.
/r/seduction30/07/21 07:59 PM
5

Well fortunately I doubt I'm the rule. The eye contact thing I think is very common though, but everyone is different upon being approached. Body language is another good indicator of interest. And for me, the more attracted I am, the more nervous. If I'm laid back and could easily have a conversation with you (in person), it's not likely that I'm attracted.
/r/seduction30/07/21 10:38 AM
2

Yea lol
/r/seduction30/07/21 09:18 AM
3

I don't see a problem with this unless you're interrupting her set.
/r/seduction30/07/21 09:16 AM
6

Gaslighting is any attempt to convince someone that what's really going on isn't really what's going on and that it's all in their (the victim's) head. An example would be if a guy is talking up a girl and she says she doesn't want to have casual hookups and the guy says he doesn't either (but that's really all he wants), and they hookup (whether once or a few times). At some point the girl will realize that's all it is to him and either confront him or end it and his response would be similar, …
/r/seduction30/07/21 01:38 AM
7

I think it's only gaslighting if you're being intentionally dishonest about either who you are, and/or what you want. Men and women both do it for sure, but trying to be sexually appealing to someone you like (while remaining honest) isn't gaslighting at all.
/r/seduction30/07/21 01:11 AM
0

Be funny
/r/seduction29/07/21 11:14 PM
4

For sure, and honestly for me I'll be trying to exit the situation as quickly as possible
/r/seduction29/07/21 07:41 PM
9

Yea from a distance, before an approach. I've (this may just be me) always been very awkward when approached, so my nervousness could easily be mistaken for disinterest. But the eye play before any interaction has occurred is where it's at. At least with me.
/r/seduction29/07/21 07:34 PM
12

That's true too! I have a ridiculously expressive face so my thoughts are usually plain to see lol. Like an unsuper power
/r/seduction29/07/21 06:45 PM
60

Prolonged eye contact with a smile.
/r/seduction29/07/21 05:21 PM
4

This sounds really good. I don't think hearing this would leave me thinking I look like a bag of dog barf. Hearing "you're not my type" would probably sting and I think it's unnecessary to be that specific. Just my opinion.
/r/seduction28/07/21 12:28 AM
1

I wouldn't think so
/r/seduction27/07/21 07:08 PM
5

Yep I would actually take those as signs of disinterest and nope out
/r/seduction22/07/21 11:43 AM
2

I married my husband when he was 39 and I was 25. There isn't really a cutoff point to make attractiveness. Be a decent man and take care of your shit (have your shit together) and women will find you attractive no matter what you look like.
/r/seduction21/07/21 12:21 PM
1

Not that it's cringy, just shocking.
/r/seduction21/07/21 10:58 AM
1

Yea that's exactly why. For me anyway.
/r/seduction20/07/21 09:30 PM
10

Same
/r/seduction20/07/21 03:54 PM
10

I just wanted to say, I've been directly approached in a similar manner before and literally run away. Not because I wasn't interested though, but because the situation felt too intense for me. Granted my situations were in places like Walmart or the mall. Not at a bar where you might expect such things.
/r/seduction20/07/21 12:53 PM
1

Holy shit! I feel like you just said all the things I didn't know how to say. Why I got weird vibes off of this. Relationship PTSD is real you guys.
/r/seduction17/07/21 02:13 AM
1

Yea I mean you got me there. I don't actually pay that much attention to the sub tbh. Just whatever title strikes me. Maybe I'm the asshole here lol. I guess I just didn't like the "best logistics for sex" bit, but you had some good advice. I'm just being defensive I guess.
/r/seduction16/07/21 11:46 PM
2

You kinda give me asshole vibes but I hate it....I think those are winning ideas and some solid advice actually.
/r/seduction16/07/21 11:26 PM
2

I read that almost immediately after I asked, but thank you!
/r/seduction16/07/21 09:21 PM
1

He literally used the word showboat, which is bragging. He also mentioned using his social status to get women, not his personality or charm. Also seems like a bit of a brag there. No offense OP.
/r/seduction16/07/21 08:28 PM
1

That's all pretty cool, but at the end of the day what kind of woman are you trying to attract? I mean it seems to be working for you, so I don't see why you'd want to stop using it, but I wouldn't expect anything of substance to come of it.
/r/seduction16/07/21 08:02 PM
2

It can for some women. I've never been attracted to men who bragged about status or money though.
/r/seduction16/07/21 07:59 PM
2

What is a shit test?
/r/seduction16/07/21 06:01 PM
1

Lmao this one
/r/seduction16/07/21 05:33 PM
2

I actually find this to be ultra romantic. Not sarcasm.
/r/seduction16/07/21 05:30 PM
1

I see nothing wrong with smiling.
/r/seduction16/07/21 12:58 AM
1

I think being straightforward is a good thing. Need more info on what's going "wrong".
/r/seduction16/07/21 12:57 AM
1

I actually met my husband on craigslist. I posted an ad looking for friends (cause I'm actually pathetic). I didn't have any pics on the ad, but we did exchange through email. I don't remember what all I said, but I was upfront and honest about what I was hoping for.
/r/seduction16/07/21 12:31 AM
1

Well for me, what you'd call religion was important. Also traditional gender roles within the relationship. Not that I've ever been opposed to working and I have worked off and on throughout our relationship (mostly to help my parents), but my main role is to raise our children and take care of the home. This is something I was looking for (before people assume my husband "conditioned" me). Obviously I don't expect very many to agree with me on what I find important, but those are the kinds of t…
/r/seduction16/07/21 12:04 AM
4

Seems kinda mean. I didn't get the narcissist vibes. What am I missing?
/r/seduction15/07/21 11:44 PM
5

Can I add "values" to your list? When I was looking, that was the most important thing to me. And this is probably more of a niche thing, but I've personally always been more drawn to older men (yea probably the daddy issues thing). My husband is 15 years older than I am. I hate to sound cliché but I found guys close to my age to be too immature and as a woman I was looking for security. I was 24 when we met. I liked all your points though.
/r/seduction15/07/21 11:34 PM
2

I'm not saying you're wrong, but I think it shows alot of confidence to be willing to possibly humiliate yourself in public just to impress someone. Not that the humiliation part is attractive or necessary, but the willingness to go there, to me, speaks volumes about a person's confidence.
/r/seduction15/07/21 07:59 PM
2

Well....I'm not gonna say you're wrong. But I guess I hope that you are.
/r/seduction15/07/21 01:32 PM
2

The entire range of human emotions has nothing to do with numbers. Are we programmed to want to reproduce, maybe. Does that make those who are unable to do so, worthless? Absolutely not. Whether by age or handicap. If what you're trying to claim is that we're all slaves to our bodies' "evolutionary" desire to procreate, then it's absurd that anyone could even have the soundness of mind to use a condom (or any other contraceptive). My point is, if we're capable of thought beyond "must fuck woman,…
/r/seduction14/07/21 05:35 PM
2

The way you said you view women lol like I get how you got to a point of not trying to develop feelings, but to say they're only the sum of their parts was a bit shallow I thought. That would be like me saying a man is only worth the amount of money in his bank account (which I don't believe, even though men can be assholes).
/r/seduction14/07/21 01:00 PM
2

Lol I don't feel like we agreed really but same to ya.
/r/seduction14/07/21 12:12 AM
2

I could tell that you were probably coming from a place of hurt and abused trust. And at first I felt for you for it because I've experienced the other end of the spectrum from men. We've both had similar experiences with the opposite sex (so it seems). Where I steered off was when you placed value on a woman solely based off of beauty and youth. I certainly understand the first hand appeal of those things to men and don't disagree that it's an attraction point. But in a relationship you would e…
/r/seduction13/07/21 09:40 PM
2

I'm seeing what you're reading but finding it totally absurd and honestly you seem to be emotionally immature. Of course there exists superficial women (who only want a man for what things he can get or do for her), there also exist superficial men (who see women as totally disposable objects whose only value is in her youth and beauty). Just because these things exist does not make them the norm (or the majority). Divorce rates don't take into account every person, only married persons. I think…
/r/seduction13/07/21 09:18 PM
2

There is such a thing as devotion. I don't feel personally attacked lol, but I do think you have a very distorted world view. There are men who view women as more than just objects and those men are the high quality men, not necessarily those with big bank accounts. Having options doesn't mean you want to explore those, when in a healthy and committed relationship.
/r/seduction13/07/21 08:02 PM
2

Lmao dude. You are honestly so fucked in the head. Whether or not you have "options", whether you're male or female, if you're committed to one person, it isn't hard to say no to others. Like what in the actual fuck. Women are people too ffs. Women have value other than their sexual organs and ability to reproduce. Not to you, I'm sure, but thank God you don't represent all men.
/r/seduction13/07/21 07:17 PM
2

You're basically saying that a man can leave a woman if something better comes along, but dogging a woman if she does it? Men leave their wives for younger women all the time, it isn't seen as a good trait. But it isn't a predominantly male or female trait, it's a person of shit character trait.
/r/seduction13/07/21 07:05 PM
0

We both choose though. If you're going around asking out girls you aren't really into, that's on you and probably causing more of the type of damage you're now seeing the results of (women being less willing to commit), while making wild assumptions about me at the same time. I went for guys who were (seemed) interested in me. I gave (almost) everyone a chance that wanted one, and I was rarely the breaker of the relationship. I even married "the nice guy", my best friend, only he wasn't really s…
/r/seduction13/07/21 06:48 PM
0

I don't date women so I wouldn't know that experience, but as a woman this doesn't fit at all. My experience with men could render me thinking it's all about game and chase and getting with different women, but never choosing to stay with one girl. But I know that isn't true of all men. Some men like to play the field, others are looking for a deeper connection. It's the same with women. Neither of us are one size fits all mold.
/r/seduction13/07/21 06:38 PM
2

Women definitely can and do develop idealistic feelings, wtf?
/r/seduction13/07/21 06:26 PM
1

And a very entertaining read!
/r/seduction13/07/21 02:26 AM
1

Lol oh
/r/seduction12/07/21 05:02 PM
1

Whaaaaaat? I didn't get the memo?
/r/seduction12/07/21 04:49 PM
6

Lol nice!! Take your wins where you can!! But I'm sure things will change for you! Keep your head up, guy!
/r/seduction12/07/21 04:49 PM
1

Yikes lol yea I could see how that could be interpreted that way. I'm sure it's difficult.
/r/seduction12/07/21 04:48 PM
3

I've assumed a guy was a player when he claimed not to be. I'm sorry it's this way for you guys.
/r/seduction12/07/21 04:04 PM
1

I find it all interesting/entertaining lol, whole point of reddit?
/r/seduction12/07/21 02:24 AM
3

Interesting, thanks for the reply
/r/seduction12/07/21 01:43 AM
1

Interesting
/r/seduction12/07/21 12:07 AM
3

Yea how did all this go down, if you don't mind
/r/seduction12/07/21 12:00 AM
2

Lmao well I'm married so I ain't too worried about it. But uh thanks? I wasn't feeling old enough today.
/r/seduction11/07/21 05:01 PM
2

I sort of agree. But if I were interested in someone, there's literally 0 chance of me making a first move. I'd make heavy eye contact and use body language, but definitely not ever going to approach. Idk if it's a woman thing or a personality thing, but it's just the way it is, with me anyway.
/r/seduction11/07/21 01:57 PM
1

I mostly just read this as "just met, going for the kiss"
/r/seduction11/07/21 10:17 AM
1

Right?!
/r/seduction11/07/21 10:14 AM
1

Yea pretty much
/r/seduction11/07/21 10:14 AM
1

Well there you go. Good job, guy
/r/seduction11/07/21 10:13 AM
3

Fuckin hell! I knew I needed to trim my ends. Fuck it, why not.
/r/seduction11/07/21 03:39 AM
1

Fuck yea!!
/r/seduction11/07/21 03:36 AM
3

Listen even if a woman tries to kiss me, it's a throat punch moment. But also I'm old af so I definitely remember if someone compliments my hair. It doesn't happen often or even by men actually but my hair is my pride lmao...so you maybe chose a bad analogy. If someone complimented my shoes, I'd be more likely to forget that.
/r/seduction11/07/21 03:33 AM
3

Idk though, if a guy just randomly started trying to kiss me I feel like, in my heart of hearts, no matter how attracted I might be, that I would punch him in the throat...be safe out there guys
/r/seduction11/07/21 03:17 AM
2

Yup
/r/seduction11/07/21 03:09 AM
1

Yup, has that thing, whatever it is
/r/seduction11/07/21 03:03 AM
1

Absolutely, yes
/r/seduction11/07/21 03:01 AM
1

I've never dated, so this is interesting. I'm sorry I can't answer your why, though.
/r/seduction11/07/21 02:40 AM
2

I love one liners, but everyone is different. Some women will be receptive, others won't.
/r/seduction11/07/21 02:29 AM
2

This
/r/seduction11/07/21 02:27 AM
2

Aw it'd be cool to be a lady wing man if I were closer. Oh well
/r/seduction11/07/21 02:26 AM
2

As an old lady, I concur
/r/seduction11/07/21 02:20 AM
2

Yea I'm just married, so.
/r/seduction10/07/21 09:45 AM
1

It's really me... lol? But yea I'm hoping to make lady friends, I've never had trouble making guy friends.
/r/seduction10/07/21 02:41 AM
1

I accidentally make eye contact sometimes but break it immediately. It could mean something, it could mean nothing. I think it's a person to person thing. If she is attracted you should be able to tell by the type of eyes she's giving you.
/r/seduction10/07/21 02:04 AM
2

You are young lol but, fuck! 33 is old to you?? Anyways happy hunting my friend.
/r/seduction10/07/21 01:59 AM
1

Wow!! You're so right about this!! I actively avoid eye contact lol. I'ma try this....but with women.
/r/seduction10/07/21 01:58 AM
1

Yea I don't think he lived there long, he ended up going to school in Germany at some point. What do you mean that it suits you?
/r/seduction10/07/21 01:52 AM
2

Oh damn that's cool. My dad was born in the Philippines lol. Both his parents were in the air force.
/r/seduction10/07/21 01:49 AM
1

Oh shit. Where you thinkin on goin?
/r/seduction10/07/21 01:45 AM
1

Why for?
/r/seduction10/07/21 01:44 AM
1

I mean....I like it lol
/r/seduction10/07/21 01:42 AM
2

Southern US
/r/seduction10/07/21 01:41 AM
1

Where do you live?
/r/seduction10/07/21 01:38 AM
1

Lol maybe that's easier for men? I've never personally experienced this. That was a genuine question though. I definitely am not trying to speak for all women.
/r/seduction10/07/21 01:38 AM
2

I hear you. It would be hard for me to respect someone who would cross that boundary so carelessly though. And if sex turned into feelings, which can happen easily, I would think it would be almost impossible to navigate.
/r/seduction10/07/21 01:34 AM
1

My mom has said "there's nothing more attractive to a woman than a happily married man" however, do you want to be with someone who would willingly risk your (even pretend) relationship just to sleep with you? And conversely, if you're lying about being in a relationship then how far could it possibly go?
/r/seduction10/07/21 01:14 AM
2

I feel you on that. I don't want to be approached but I don't mind catching eyes lmao. I'm sure this will get down voted.
/r/seduction09/07/21 10:03 PM
6

This! Probably made her day!
/r/seduction09/07/21 05:51 PM
3

I agree with this. I think it's gross when guys don't respect the boundaries of a relationship. Flirtation aside, if he doesn't respect that I'm in a relationship then he isn't going to respect me (even in a purely sexual relationship), full stop.
/r/seduction01/07/21 09:16 PM
1

Sold
/r/seduction29/06/21 06:22 PM
1

I think I've always been the first to touch. I'm a touchy person, but if I'm not into it I won't be doing that.
/r/seduction29/06/21 06:06 PM
2

Glad you added in "at first" lol. Remaining aloof will just make you seem either uninterested or like an asshole.
/r/seduction29/06/21 05:58 PM
6

r/niceguy Do not proceed
/r/seduction29/06/21 02:11 AM
2

Bruh, chill! I have been asked for my number before, it's not an issue and I've never been creeped out by it. What the hell? Lmao
/r/seduction22/06/21 06:27 PM
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I'm sorry, I'm just not seeing the creepiness here. Asking girls for their numbers is creepy?? What in the actual fuck?
/r/seduction22/06/21 06:22 PM
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Nah it's not creepy man. He's out there tryin. I don't see the problem
/r/seduction22/06/21 06:13 PM
0

Bro, how tho?
/r/seduction22/06/21 06:10 PM
1

Lol yea I'm playin but thanks for saying that and you don't need to worry about your spelling and grammar. I know alot of people take that shit too seriously on social platforms but it ain't like it's your resume, it's ok to be informal.
/r/seduction22/06/21 12:02 PM
1

Aw lol idk why you got downvoted for this I thought it was funny🤷‍♀️
/r/seduction17/06/21 11:57 PM
3

🤣🤣🤣
/r/seduction17/06/21 09:19 PM
2

Oh I am lol you're good
/r/seduction17/06/21 08:20 PM
6

Um no..... thannnkksssss👀 though?
/r/seduction17/06/21 08:18 PM
8

As an older woman, it would be awkward for me to be approached by a younger man. Not that I would be rude or mean, but it would definitely feel strange.
/r/seduction17/06/21 08:15 PM
3

Try to join a group that does activities you're interested in. Whether it be political, sports, nature etc.
/r/seduction17/06/21 02:14 AM
2

Call him out on it. If he denies it, cut him loose. If he admits to it and apologises move forward with him.
/r/seduction16/06/21 06:40 PM
5

I'd say if your intention is to avoid playing games, be up front.
/r/seduction16/06/21 04:05 PM
0

Wooooowww. Wish I knew. This one's throwing me. Sorry🤷‍♀️
/r/seduction16/06/21 03:49 PM
1

I can only speak for myself and my answer is...I do not know. I pretty much completely freeze when I'm nervous and I've been incredibly nervous the first time with everyone I've been with. 🤣🤷‍♀️
/r/seduction16/06/21 10:02 AM
4

Thanks😉
/r/seduction15/06/21 11:07 PM
2

Awwww I'm happy for you!😊 same!
/r/seduction15/06/21 10:50 PM
10

Yea maybe so. I've always been the "heart on the sleeve" type
/r/seduction15/06/21 10:44 PM
6

This. Exactly. I hate the fuckin love bombing.
/r/seduction15/06/21 10:43 PM
1

What is shit testing?
/r/seduction15/06/21 09:02 PM
28

Not a problem man! I really only know from my own experience and I was always "that girl". Clingy and shit. It was interesting to me to see that the same kind of thing happens with men.
/r/seduction15/06/21 08:53 PM
96

Women do this as well. Excellent points!
/r/seduction15/06/21 08:04 PM
1

Yea I suppose
/r/seduction15/06/21 07:20 PM
4

If guys never initiated with me I'd still be a virgin
/r/seduction15/06/21 04:24 PM
2

Awww mean 😧
/r/seduction15/06/21 03:58 PM
1

O gotcha! Yikes
/r/seduction15/06/21 02:58 PM
2

How did you end up in a relationship with someone else if you hadn't lost interest in this girl?
/r/seduction15/06/21 02:47 PM
6

That's not necessarily true, I go to the library often and I'm dumb as fuck
/r/seduction15/06/21 12:40 PM
1

Aww damn that sucks man. I'd work on you before approaching so you're not constantly damaging yourself. See value in yourself first and then if or when you do get rejected you won't take it so deep.
/r/seduction15/06/21 12:34 AM
1

I mean I kinda want a story now
/r/seduction15/06/21 12:30 AM
1

I get it. I do it too. You just have to train yourself to stop little by little. Start by doing things that would normally make you uncomfortable and progress from there.
/r/seduction14/06/21 09:35 PM
1

Yea just try to get out of your head a bit.
/r/seduction14/06/21 08:55 PM
1

I can only imagine lol.
/r/seduction14/06/21 08:16 PM
1

Be trustworthy. Don't play games. Are you trying for a hookup or a relationship?
/r/seduction14/06/21 07:36 PM
2

Hey good lookin out bruh👊🤣
/r/seduction14/06/21 05:20 PM
1

Well now I wonder if I've made real progress...damnit🤣
/r/seduction14/06/21 04:37 PM
4

I'm sure it does. I can see how having an air of nonchalance can be appealing.
/r/seduction14/06/21 04:03 PM
1

For sure!
/r/seduction14/06/21 02:20 PM
6

Hmm🤔I see. It just seems like if you go about giving too little of a shit, that it would actually impede any forward momentum, if that were ever the goal (moving forward). If all you want is hookups I can see how all this applies though.
/r/seduction14/06/21 01:56 PM
4

How well does this translate into a serious relationship? Or is it not meant to?
/r/seduction14/06/21 01:30 PM
1

Awww I feel bad for yall but yea talking it out is key in this situation if this happens to you.
/r/seduction14/06/21 01:02 PM
1

But most women don't know about this until they've experienced it. We don't have dicks. In my mind if you're turned on, it gets hard; if not, it won't. I know better now, but experiencing it first hand without prior knowledge or warning I didn't know what else to think🤷‍♀️maybe he got me there cause I was easy but wasn't into me enough to follow through (to answer your question of how a woman can think that lol)
/r/seduction14/06/21 12:30 PM
1

Yes definitely bring it up before things get started. This happened to me one time when I was younger and I had no idea that men could go limp just from being nervous. I took it as a sign that he wasn't really into me and let it hurt my feelings and I left. If he had told me this could happen I would have been understanding. But like I said I was young and had no clue this was a thing.
/r/seduction14/06/21 12:20 PM
0

I wouldn't get too in your head about it then 👍
/r/seduction14/06/21 11:43 AM
1

Hard to say. As a 33 yr old woman, if I were in the dating game I wouldn't even consider a 23yr old (no offense). I'd say it's a person to person thing. Find out more about her (past/goals etc) and you'll be better able to determine what she wants with you. Also what do you want out of it?
/r/seduction14/06/21 11:22 AM
3

Just ask her
/r/seduction13/06/21 09:24 PM
6

Damn dude....the shit you said in point #3 has worked on me wth🤣🤣🤣fuckin flattery every time
/r/seduction13/06/21 05:02 PM
149

As a woman I totally agree with this. I don't know any women (other than lesbians) who want a pussy as a mate. 🤷‍♀️
/r/seduction13/06/21 04:57 PM
6

Yes to all of this
/r/seduction12/06/21 12:56 PM
2

My husband doesn't have visible muscles at all. Mine are more defined than are his, but he is very strong...which is hot...so 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️
/r/seduction12/06/21 12:29 PM
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